You made the best choice. I was forced to tie my tubes by my ex-husband. A part of me died that he took my fertility from me. Once I found the strength to leave, he assured me no one would want me because I couldn’t have kids. God said otherwise! I’m remarried and had my tubes reversed! I’m due in June with our miracle girl! I feel in my spirit that God isn’t done with your family!
I remember a pastor one time saying "If you don't have peace about something, don't do it." I'm glad you decided to wait. You both are such amazing people and any future child would be so blessed to have you as his/her parents. Hubby and I never had children of our own (I'm in a wheelchair). We're both in our 50s now. I wish in my younger years I had found an awesome surrogate like you to have children. That ache in my heart will probably never go away entirely, but hubby and I have a good life and I'm very thankful for that. God is good. ❤
I was scheduled to have mine done after our second kid.. my husband and I were both on board… we were happy with two. I was minutes away from having it done and my husband and I both looked at each other and we knew we couldn’t. 2 years later we had our youngest (twin boys) and knew we had made the right decision to wait.
OMG!!! I love hearing this! We had three boys and we were on the fence about another before we had our fourth boy! Someone told me in my journey..." You will never regret having another one, but you may regret not having another one." I hope the Lord leads you to be blessed with another miracle! You guys seem like amazing parents and that baby would be so lucky!❤
Good for you two! I think as young people (women especially) it is SO hard to face the “being done” stage. It just doesn’t seem as if it could ever be fully done. I’m happy you made the choice to not get them removed or tied!
Oh please feel free to have another baby!! I’m a mom of 4 kids, only planned for two. But I after my 2nd, I knew I wasn’t done and then, again after my 3rd. I haven’t got a tubal ligation yet, but my husband and I are completely done having babies. I just don’t feel like I’m fully ready to get that procedure done yet. Anyways, having a tie breaker baby is fun! I’m sure your two kiddos would be absolutely thrilled and amazing big sis and big bro! Plus if you decided to have another baby, I’d be glued to the screen watching your pregnancy vlogs! 😂 I’m glad you both made a decision together and listened to your hearts!💕
I feel so strong that there is another child for you two in the near future 🙏 sorry I just feel it so strong 💪 love you two so much keep your opinion open you beautiful souls!
I love that PRAYER is such a KEY to your planning on everything in your life. It truly is so VERY important. God is supposed to be the center of every part of our lives!!! What are a great example you guys are!
More babies!!! I have 5 kids and definitely want more! The bond that all of my children have is amazing to watch grow as they grow! Definitely pray about it! You guys are amazing parents!
I think you’re making the right choice to hold off, especially if you’re having second thoughts. After my 26 weeker twins were born (babies 3&4) I had to have my tubes removed and i still feel regret 3 years later. Praying for you both.
I totally know how this feels. Had 4babies lost babies. Then got really sick. Then during summer my hormones failed i couldn't stop bleeding so I had the option regular surgery risk still bleeding problems & more meds or extensive surgery but never can get pregnant again. I had to choose full surgery due to my physical health. It saddens me all the time but now i will be a grandmother of identical twins next summer. God has his hands in everything.
You made a wonderful choice. I got my done after my second child while i was in an abusive relationship. I didn't think it through and It was the worst choice i chould of ever made. Children are such a blessing.
You don’t understand how much this helped me… I’ve been back and forth about my tubed tied or removed and we haven’t been able to sit right with it ourselves we are 23 and 24 and young and we have sworeeee we didn’t want anymore but it feels like a punch in the gut to be done honestly.
I had 3 children within 4 years. 2 Boys and 1 Girl. I thought I was finished once I had my little girl, but 7 years later I had such a desire to have another child. We had our 4th and she made our family complete. In my opinion, you shouldn’t do anything until you fully know you are done. Life has many seasons and things change. Personally, once I started watching you guys, I felt in my heart that Sam’s heart desire was to have more children. Children are a gift from God.
I had a scheduled C-section with our third. All approved and set to just do the tubal during that C-section. I was ready I was set. We felt at peace. I got pre-eclampsia suddenly and was hospitalized and told the baby was coming in the morning. I got cold feet and felt this wasn’t my plan, I don’t feel ready and I feel with how this birth is going and I feel I will regret it and maybe might cause some baby blues. I told them I didn’t want it multiple times and said I changed my mind and wasn’t ready. They were so supportive. 3 years later we decided to have a 4th baby. It was the best decision of our lives. She’s amazing and completed our family. We could have decided to do the tubal later. We felt good about our decision and allowing ourselves the time to make the best choice for us. I did the tubal during my 4th csection and I am completely at peace now ❤
Aww! I’ve had 4 C-sections. I got mine removed during my fourth and it was the right decision for us. ❤❤ After 3 high risk pregnancies I was more than thankful to be done having bio babies. 😊
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us, makes me not feel alone when me and my husband have tried to get pregnant with our 4th baby but no success yet, we have sold a lot of our baby equipment that we saved from our 3rd and 2nd child and thought that we might be done having kids but we both love babies and the toddler stage that we now are leaving the decision up to God, since not getting pregnant for many months now, my husband has joked that maybe its me, and I have joked that no its him and thats why we have not gotten pregnant. It’s hard to come to terms with the idea of closing a huge chapter in a women’s life, getting pregnant, giving birth and becoming a mom, and for the husband, watching their wife become pregnant, give birth and becoming a father, it gives this spiritual feeling of how God intended it to be, well for me it was like the veil to heaven was open and God now handed me this gift of life to look after and take care of. Leaving the door open for possible children in the future is my choice and I absolutely could not say I’m done having kids nor would I ever want that choice suddenly taken away from me because of a feeling or situation that makes me have to make that drastic decision to permanently stop having kids. It gives me a sense of peace knowing that the option is still there, My husband is the youngest of 10 siblings so I can understand why his parents had so many kids, kids are a huge blessing and gift from God, I’m the middle child of 4 siblings so I have always enjoyed kids and babies, I am also a daycare teacher and I absolutely enjoy my career, but after 10years working in the field I have quit my job 2 years ago when I went on maternity leave with my 3rd child and decided to homeschool my 8yr old and 5yr old. I absolutely enjoy homeschooling and God willing I would love to have more kids, I love being a mom and being pregnant, the enjoyment form this chapter of my life feels so magical and truly a marvellous gift from God that I don’t know how I will feel when I end up not having any more kids. But thanks again for sharing your thoughts, it’s nice to see both perspectives on this topic as both my husband and I want to have more kids.
We had a tubilgation after 3 kids. We didnt pray about . Deeply regretted it. Repented! ask God to forgive us for taking matters into our own hands . had it reversed blessed with 6 more kids . Never regretted... Absolute Peace .
Have the baby!! Feel like it’s meant to be!🩷🩵 I’ve been following your journey since the first suro baby! And I always felt like you would eventually have your own ! Can’t wait to see your journey ❤❤️🙏 God bless let God lead you!! And it will happen if it’s meant to be ❤
Just adding a voice of someone that did find out I was unexpectedly pregnant, and I DID dread it, and heard the voice of doubt shouting louder than the voice of the Spirit (I’m too old, too tired, stretches too thin, we were “done!” Etc.) and then the voice of the Holy Spirit shouted at me in the most profoundly loving way, “this is a child of MY love for you.” And something in my heart broke open - surrender, trust, joy, HOPE. And seeing our baby now with his teen siblings who can snuggle with him while they sort through their teenage feelings about life in general, or watching my equally-terrified (initially) hubby melt in delight as he cares for his son… God knew so much better than we did. In summary: don’t fix a temporary problem with a permanent solution. Whether it’s no more babies, planned baby(ies), or a baby that is the fruit of God’s perfect love for you, letting HIM lead as you discern this area is the road less traveled but the one that leads to life! (Pun sort of intended) 😂
I'm sooo sooo glad you didn't do it.. you don't deserve the long term side effects and you guys would be great parents to more kiddo's.. We felt exactly the same after our 2nd was born and felt so content and full after baby nr 3 and the my husband had his vasectomy and there has been no regrets..
❤ this! After we had our second baby, a boy, who was only more difficult as a newborn due to tongue tie causing nursing problems, my husband thought we were done (I didn’t want to be 😂) and told me that he was considering a vasectomy. As he thought more about it though and began to pray and consider making the appointment, he said that it didn’t feel right. We now have 2 more children. 😅 one of them is due in March and one in Heaven and have completely changed our mind. We want whatever family God has for us and we don’t want to stand in the way of that. He is faithful. Praying for y’all and whatever comes next! 🙏
Good for you. It's clearly on your hearts that there's a chance of you another child of your own or for someone else again Dan is so amazing He didn't really push his opinion until you doubted it but there's always later to do the surgery Mine was done at 34. It was my fourth child I had a stillbirth and seven miscarriages between number three and four. All of them had been breach all of them were born early. The doctor flat out told me if I didn't stop I was going to die so I went ahead with it there has still been times that I was sad about it but in my case it was a necessity to you know stay alive. Take your time think about it and I didn't realize it was so permanent now My daughter's 13 so that's when I had the procedure and mine are just tied off or burnt I think.
I totally know what you mean about living being pregnant! I wish I could be a surrogate because I love it so much! But my infertility took most of my childbearing years...and now I'm too old...so I'll just keep having my own as long as we can afford it (fertility treatments)....lol
So you're saying there's a chance! 😂 Ultimately, it's God's plan. But watching and listening to you talk about the option to have another baby and the joy on your face, really says it all. And to see you getting excited about Ember and how she would be with a baby. It's precious ❤
I'm so proud of you for making this decision, it's hard for sure Wen I was pregnant with my last I had thot I'm going to get my tubes tied while they had me open anyway, but wen I was 6 months along I totally changed my mind, I cud absolutely not do that , after he was born I was so so glad we decided not to , even tho we have no idea if we'll have another one, God is in control ❤bless you guys !
Definitely hold off if you have questions. I wanted a hysterectomy for so long. I was done after 2 kids and a divorce. And then my cervical cancer came back the second time and I didn't have a choice. It Definitely changed how I felt and still do feel. Not that I need to re start in my 40s when my kids are now grown and moved out, but I am remarried and sometimes have severe depression over not being able to produce a child if we wanted to.
a friend just had her tubes removed and said its very painful (this was during a c-section). Would you consider having Dan undergo the procedure instead as its less invasive?
I am so happy you didn’t go thru with it. My ex husband in the end forced me to go thru with a surgery I didn’t want. I knew we had three little ones but even my doctor tried to talk me out of it saying he knew my marriage wasn’t great what if found someone else who treated me right that wanted kids. Do what’s in your heart. I wish I had ❤
First baby, no problem. Secondary infertility that I was thankfully able to overcome after 8 years, then boom, pregnant again with twins with same exact due date as my daughter from a year ago.... Ended up with a c-section and was approached with tubal ligation during surgery, I ABSOLUTELY knew I was done, completely at ease. When it's time, you'll know! 💚
So smart to always pray on it. I believe that too. Love your content and your love for God. He’s the only one who knows the plans he has for us. Trust in him! Also you make pregnancy look easy and fun and you absolutely glow while being pregnant. I say keep having them for you guys or other people. Such a special gift you have done for others.
I am SOOOO happy you are praying on this. We jumped when my hard pregnancy and really hard baby was 3 months old to have my husband get a vasectomy. It is our only regret we've had in our marriage. We both wish we had not made the decision scared or panicked. If we hadn't we'd probably have a lot more kids now. Especially because our financial situation changed and we could have afforded them.
Guys! We did the same thing. My husband was scheduled for a vasectomy and the closer it got the more uneasy we felt! We have 4 kids. Doesn’t mean we’ll have more, just praying for peace as well. Thank you for your transparency!
Unfortunately when we had our last baby hubby and I were down right certain that we were done...so we decided to go forward with the getting my tubes removed...but after we had our baby we REGRETTED getting it done cause we were like "we want more babies" so having that option taking from us even though we were so sure was heartbreaking!!! So im happy that yall took the time to sit back and talk about it...cause the regret is overwhelming..I will say that I had a hard pregnancy with our last at least medically the pregnancy it's self wasn't hard it was all the medical issues I had with it!!! So I really don't think my body would handle another pregnancy so in that aspect I'm thankful for our choice but I'm very sad that I no long have the ability to try for another baby if we wanted to!!! Good luck guys...God obviously has different plans for yall!!! ❤❤
I’m 1 of 6. My brother wanted lots of kids. His wife wanted a good amount. 5 is there stopping point. It’s been weird and emotional as an aunt knowing that. Like all these things say- you’ll know. Youllll know!
I am so glad you are an open book!😂 You two are funny. That feeling is because you want another one, I went through the same exact thing. I think you would be happy with one more. I wish I would have pushed harder to get pregnant again, because when I hit 38-40 I was so upset i didn’t try more with IVF.
I just got my tubes removed after I had my 1 year old. And I’d say don’t do it. I regret it. I do have 5 kids and I know I’m done but mentally knowing I can’t have more for some reason messes me up. It’s so weird but as a woman it’s mentally fucking me up. I do feel like I was pressured by a doctor. I’m grateful for my babies I do have. Good luck on your guys journey.
You made the right decision!!! My husband had a vasectomy when I was 37 and I regretted it so much since the day he got it. We both felt awful after he did and have always regretted it!! You’re so young I wouldn’t even think of doing that right now. I’ve been so depressed since we took the ability to have kids away 😢
@ insurance doesn’t cover it though and my husband was nervous about going through another procedure whereas he was told a reversal doesn’t always work there is a low chance of getting pregnant after it with the kind he had the doctor said
I always appreciate how open and real you guys are. Also, I hope that you guys have another little one of your own.. you guys are such genuine, good hearted people. I've always been told that once you're done, you know, no questions asked.. after my 3rd I wanted to get my tubes out but because of how I was (only 28), my doctor strongly advised against it because of the chance of regret. I'm now glad I didn't get it done because I feel like there's another baby for me one day in the future
I respect this decision! It’s a huge decision bc one baby isn’t just y’all’s baby one day that will be a whole family of people. Just imagine if your grandma wasn’t born, there is a whole lineage after raising your kids to adulthood and so much more life comes after just one baby! For Gods bigger plan on earth!
You are 100% right. When you know you know. I was sterilised at 28 after the birth of my twins, babies 3 and 4. I knew and so did he we were done and sorted and I’ve felt at peace with that decision, never had a regret at all
My husband and I just recently had this discussion as he was also scheduled for a vasectomy. After he was told it would be harder to reverse it he told me he would be lying if he didn’t tell me he would be willing to have a 4th baby down the road and maybe we can get a girl or another boy haha but I did find out I do have adenomyosis 😢
After having my children I was scared into getting my tubes tied by my last ob. So I did it but I regretted it every day! Don't do it unless you do feel peace and that it is what you both want.
I think this was a great choice for the both of you. I had a partial hysterectomy at age 24 after our 2nd child. Today our boy is 19 and our girl 18. I have asked myself many times throughout the years if things would’ve been different, would we have had more kids. But that wasn’t god’s plans and that’s ok. Now, we aren’t too many years away from grand-babies.🥰 Best of luck to whatever you two decide for your family in the future!
We had three children in 3.5 years… we were done… my husband had a vasectomy. We didn’t really pray about it, it was just the thing to do. Life got hard… and we put a bandaid on it to make sure it didn’t get more challenging. Well, after a few years my husband asked if we ever really prayed about it…. I said no…. He went and got a reversal (shout out to Dr Wilson who does this as a ministry). We had two more babies since, and it was the best decision ever. There isn’t any harm in waiting, and praying. I always try to warn people before making a permanent decision…. I’m glad you guys are waiting and seeking the Lord. What a wise decision and couple…. This doesn’t mean you are going to have a baby… but it also means you are going to the Lord first. And that is the MOST important❤.
Don’t overthink your decision at all. I have 4 kids. I wouldn’t change it. The fact that you care this much about your family, your two kids that you have, makes you excellent candidates for welcoming another baby. It is a lot. But you also get a lot back- a lot of love, a lot of joy, a lot of happiness, a lot of laughter… my husband and I decided to round out our family because 3 felt off balance. We just wanted one more kid. I can’t imagine my life without her and she was everything we needed. I think the question to ask is just like your canceling your appointment. If we want another kid and don’t have it, what would that mean? I encourage both of you to have no regrets. Any further additions to your family will be a blessing. You seem so wonderful, any baby would be blessed to have you for their family. You have something amazing, if there’s more to give.. go for it! I wish you all the best! ❤
I planned to have my uterus removed but to keep my tubes to prevent early menopause when I had my son in 2017 but I had the same thoughts about what if one day I want a 3rd or 4th baby I really wanted to be done after 2 because it’s hard being pregnant for me. But here we are 7 year later and due to have a little girl in 10 days. She wasn’t planned but in my heart I feel like she was meant to be part of our family. Those feelings of doubt I had were because we defintely weren’t done and our little miracle is on her way.
After doing the deed one time, my (soon to be ex husband) and I looked at each other and said, why do I feel like we just comceived another kid?!?! 2 weeks later a pregnancy test confirms we in fact conceived! Said child will be 6 in March! The way you're telling this story in the beginning, 100% brings me back to my feelings the day my youngest was conceived.
I so understand the feeling of loving being pregnant I love seeing my husband as a father and I love being a mama and being pregnant is just icing on the cake
I had my 4th baby 4 months ago. 2 months ago i was supposed to get a tubal. But my surgery got canceled that day. I havent rescheduled. I feel like you.
I am glad you didn’t go ahead with the decision. Yesterday I just went through my 4th miscarriage and we are super upset about it. If you could have babies have them because so many of us would give up everything to be able to do so. Since August 2022 we had 4 miscarriages and 1 chemical pregnancy. This time around we were so happy because we had passed the 6 week mark where it always happened, as we were 9 weeks, but Wednesday we went for a sonogram and baby was measuring right but no heartbeat was found/detected.
I don't ususally comment and I just had to with this video. You did the right thing, if you are not 100% sure don't do it. I know someone who did and it was awful. Then they wanted more when there life was more stable and had to do IVF. It took first time and second time was fatal! They lost their twins. Children are a blessing of God and if you can stay home with them and afford them it is awesome for the couple and your children. I have noticed in your videos how you did a great thing for people and I always noticed you had an inner yearning to have more children for yourself. It is better to keep your options open. I am so glad you decided to hold off. It is best to pray about it and God will give you peace if it is his will. Will keep you guys in my prayers. You are a beautiful family!!!
We thought we were done with our 2 boys, we moved to a different state and His plan was bigger than ours and we got pregnant with baby boy #3! Our boys are 17, 14, and 2. After my traumatic delivery of number 3 we knew that was our sign we're done. So hubby got done and our family is complete.
I had two boys and my girl and I was on cloud 9, i said ok I'm finished i don't want anymore. I had actually scheduled my tubal to be done during my c section, and she had come a month early and they didn't do my tubal they told me to reschedule and come back in. I had decided to just get a IUD and would do it at a later time. 5 years later i got this overwhelming want for a 4th baby. I couldnt understand but we thought and prayed about it and had our 4th, he has been an amazing addition to our family and i have felt complete since we had him. I did remove my tubes during his c section. If your heart desired another baby you will never regret it they will be the piece of the puzzle you never knew you were missing!
You will never regret having amother baby, and if someone regrets it, it is usually because the mom/family needs help, support, medical care of some sort. We should be doing all we can as a society to make having children a smoother choice. If it God leads you to something, he will equip you.❤
I felt the same way , after having 2 girls and 1 boy I thought we we're done so I scheduled my appointment to get "fixed" but ended up not going because it hit me all at once ... If I do this I'll never have kids again and that choice is gone for me .... I couldn't do it. My son will be 6 in April and getting pregnant again has been sooooo hard. After 3 c sections idk if I can even get pregnant again 😢
I'm not saying whether you should have another baby/C-section, because I obviously don't know you...but, maybe it will be encouraging to you to know that it IS possible to have babies after 3 sections (I have 7 kids, all via C-section, and my ob has even said that having another one is not out of the realm of possibility). ❤
I had my tubes tied after having my 4 kids and it was the biggest mistake of my life after it was done I totally regretted it and now have to go thru IVF for another child
First of all yall are so inspirational to me even though we are in completely different walks of life but still so similar ❤️ Is there a possibility yall got pregnant last night? Or the night before the appointment? 🤭🤭🤭
You made the best choice. I was forced to tie my tubes by my ex-husband. A part of me died that he took my fertility from me. Once I found the strength to leave, he assured me no one would want me because I couldn’t have kids.
God said otherwise! I’m remarried and had my tubes reversed! I’m due in June with our miracle girl!
I feel in my spirit that God isn’t done with your family!
Praise God! Congratulations on your baby girl❤❤
@ Thank you! He’s so so good! 😊 🤍
This is awesome to read! I’m so glad you got to reverse and have a miracle baby! ❤
This is so beautiful to read. And you are right! God is not done with this family!!!!!! He wants more miracles from this angels ❤❤❤
I went thru this as well. As he went in to have more and I couldn’t . Part of you just isn’t the same.
I remember a pastor one time saying "If you don't have peace about something, don't do it."
I'm glad you decided to wait. You both are such amazing people and any future child would be so blessed to have you as his/her parents.
Hubby and I never had children of our own (I'm in a wheelchair). We're both in our 50s now. I wish in my younger years I had found an awesome surrogate like you to have children. That ache in my heart will probably never go away entirely, but hubby and I have a good life and I'm very thankful for that. God is good. ❤
I always get emotional after the deed if I have something on my mind!! That connection together breaks down so many mental barriers ❤
I agree!!!
I think you are making the right decision. I actually thought you were going to say you guys were pregnant. My heart says you are not done.❤️
I thought so too
Same
OMG! After two surrogacies it would be incredible to see you have another of your own. 🥰
Yessssss!!!
💯🎯🧸 a million percent YES!!!!
If you’re discussing it, your heart absolutely wants another! GO HAVE A BABY 💙🩷 Amazing family!
I love how you guys are so open and share your thought process with us, definitely helps me see things in a different perspective, Thank you.
That’s our hope 🤍
I knew you guys weren’t done , you can totally tell and I love that for you ❤❤
I was scheduled to have mine done after our second kid.. my husband and I were both on board… we were happy with two. I was minutes away from having it done and my husband and I both looked at each other and we knew we couldn’t. 2 years later we had our youngest (twin boys) and knew we had made the right decision to wait.
This is beautiful. I love that you both always consider the others feeling. ❤
OMG!!! I love hearing this! We had three boys and we were on the fence about another before we had our fourth boy! Someone told me in my journey..." You will never regret having another one, but you may regret not having another one." I hope the Lord leads you to be blessed with another miracle! You guys seem like amazing parents and that baby would be so lucky!❤
Good for you two! I think as young people (women especially) it is SO hard to face the “being done” stage. It just doesn’t seem as if it could ever be fully done. I’m happy you made the choice to not get them removed or tied!
I also want to add thank you for saying if you are not comfortable even wait and make sure that you are doing the right thing best advice ever
Oh please feel free to have another baby!! I’m a mom of 4 kids, only planned for two. But I after my 2nd, I knew I wasn’t done and then, again after my 3rd. I haven’t got a tubal ligation yet, but my husband and I are completely done having babies. I just don’t feel like I’m fully ready to get that procedure done yet. Anyways, having a tie breaker baby is fun! I’m sure your two kiddos would be absolutely thrilled and amazing big sis and big bro! Plus if you decided to have another baby, I’d be glued to the screen watching your pregnancy vlogs! 😂 I’m glad you both made a decision together and listened to your hearts!💕
Seeing yall with another child of y’all’s own would be so incredible 😍❤️💙
Yay!! I hope another baby comes!!!🩷🩷🩷
Give Yahuah your womb. This is so awesome to hear, I recently gave Yah my womb also. It was a blessing trust him ❤
So proud of you guys for listening to the promptings God is sending to you guys!!! Thank you so much for sharing! You are so inspiring.
I feel so strong that there is another child for you two in the near future 🙏 sorry I just feel it so strong 💪 love you two so much keep your opinion open you beautiful souls!
I love that PRAYER is such a KEY to your planning on everything in your life. It truly is so VERY important. God is supposed to be the center of every part of our lives!!! What are a great example you guys are!
More babies!!! I have 5 kids and definitely want more! The bond that all of my children have is amazing to watch grow as they grow! Definitely pray about it! You guys are amazing parents!
I think you’re making the right choice to hold off, especially if you’re having second thoughts. After my 26 weeker twins were born (babies 3&4) I had to have my tubes removed and i still feel regret 3 years later. Praying for you both.
I was hoping you guys have one more your little ones would be so happy ❤
I totally know how this feels. Had 4babies lost babies. Then got really sick. Then during summer my hormones failed i couldn't stop bleeding so I had the option regular surgery risk still bleeding problems & more meds or extensive surgery but never can get pregnant again. I had to choose full surgery due to my physical health. It saddens me all the time but now i will be a grandmother of identical twins next summer. God has his hands in everything.
You made a wonderful choice. I got my done after my second child while i was in an abusive relationship. I didn't think it through and It was the worst choice i chould of ever made. Children are such a blessing.
Thank you so much for sharing and yes decision-making should have a God's center focus.
I love your coupleship it is an amazing grace
You don’t understand how much this helped me… I’ve been back and forth about my tubed tied or removed and we haven’t been able to sit right with it ourselves we are 23 and 24 and young and we have sworeeee we didn’t want anymore but it feels like a punch in the gut to be done honestly.
I’m glad you chose to wait! PRAY! Then PRAY some more! ❤️
I had 3 children within 4 years. 2 Boys and 1 Girl. I thought I was finished once I had my little girl, but 7 years later I had such a desire to have another child. We had our 4th and she made our family complete. In my opinion, you shouldn’t do anything until you fully know you are done. Life has many seasons and things change. Personally, once I started watching you guys, I felt in my heart that Sam’s heart desire was to have more children. Children are a gift from God.
I had a scheduled C-section with our third. All approved and set to just do the tubal during that C-section. I was ready I was set. We felt at peace. I got pre-eclampsia suddenly and was hospitalized and told the baby was coming in the morning. I got cold feet and felt this wasn’t my plan, I don’t feel ready and I feel with how this birth is going and I feel I will regret it and maybe might cause some baby blues. I told them I didn’t want it multiple times and said I changed my mind and wasn’t ready. They were so supportive. 3 years later we decided to have a 4th baby. It was the best decision of our lives. She’s amazing and completed our family. We could have decided to do the tubal later. We felt good about our decision and allowing ourselves the time to make the best choice for us. I did the tubal during my 4th csection and I am completely at peace now ❤
Aww! I’ve had 4 C-sections. I got mine removed during my fourth and it was the right decision for us. ❤❤ After 3 high risk pregnancies I was more than thankful to be done having bio babies. 😊
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us, makes me not feel alone when me and my husband have tried to get pregnant with our 4th baby but no success yet, we have sold a lot of our baby equipment that we saved from our 3rd and 2nd child and thought that we might be done having kids but we both love babies and the toddler stage that we now are leaving the decision up to God, since not getting pregnant for many months now, my husband has joked that maybe its me, and I have joked that no its him and thats why we have not gotten pregnant. It’s hard to come to terms with the idea of closing a huge chapter in a women’s life, getting pregnant, giving birth and becoming a mom, and for the husband, watching their wife become pregnant, give birth and becoming a father, it gives this spiritual feeling of how God intended it to be, well for me it was like the veil to heaven was open and God now handed me this gift of life to look after and take care of. Leaving the door open for possible children in the future is my choice and I absolutely could not say I’m done having kids nor would I ever want that choice suddenly taken away from me because of a feeling or situation that makes me have to make that drastic decision to permanently stop having kids. It gives me a sense of peace knowing that the option is still there, My husband is the youngest of 10 siblings so I can understand why his parents had so many kids, kids are a huge blessing and gift from God, I’m the middle child of 4 siblings so I have always enjoyed kids and babies, I am also a daycare teacher and I absolutely enjoy my career, but after 10years working in the field I have quit my job 2 years ago when I went on maternity leave with my 3rd child and decided to homeschool my 8yr old and 5yr old. I absolutely enjoy homeschooling and God willing I would love to have more kids, I love being a mom and being pregnant, the enjoyment form this chapter of my life feels so magical and truly a marvellous gift from God that I don’t know how I will feel when I end up not having any more kids. But thanks again for sharing your thoughts, it’s nice to see both perspectives on this topic as both my husband and I want to have more kids.
We had a tubilgation after 3 kids. We didnt pray about . Deeply regretted it. Repented! ask God to forgive us for taking matters into our own hands . had it reversed blessed with 6 more kids . Never regretted... Absolute Peace .
I have heard the saying you will never regret having another child. That stuck with me
Have the baby!! Feel like it’s meant to be!🩷🩵 I’ve been following your journey since the first suro baby! And I always felt like you would eventually have your own ! Can’t wait to see your journey ❤❤️🙏 God bless let God lead you!! And it will happen if it’s meant to be ❤
I need friends like y'all don't have any where i live its been very lonely. Love y'all ❤
Just adding a voice of someone that did find out I was unexpectedly pregnant, and I DID dread it, and heard the voice of doubt shouting louder than the voice of the Spirit (I’m too old, too tired, stretches too thin, we were “done!” Etc.) and then the voice of the Holy Spirit shouted at me in the most profoundly loving way, “this is a child of MY love for you.” And something in my heart broke open - surrender, trust, joy, HOPE.
And seeing our baby now with his teen siblings who can snuggle with him while they sort through their teenage feelings about life in general, or watching my equally-terrified (initially) hubby melt in delight as he cares for his son…
God knew so much better than we did.
In summary: don’t fix a temporary problem with a permanent solution. Whether it’s no more babies, planned baby(ies), or a baby that is the fruit of God’s perfect love for you, letting HIM lead as you discern this area is the road less traveled but the one that leads to life! (Pun sort of intended) 😂
Yall are so cute. Yall are great at supporting each other. You have to go with your gut on your decisions.
I'm sooo sooo glad you didn't do it.. you don't deserve the long term side effects and you guys would be great parents to more kiddo's..
We felt exactly the same after our 2nd was born and felt so content and full after baby nr 3 and the my husband had his vasectomy and there has been no regrets..
❤ this! After we had our second baby, a boy, who was only more difficult as a newborn due to tongue tie causing nursing problems, my husband thought we were done (I didn’t want to be 😂) and told me that he was considering a vasectomy. As he thought more about it though and began to pray and consider making the appointment, he said that it didn’t feel right. We now have 2 more children. 😅 one of them is due in March and one in Heaven and have completely changed our mind. We want whatever family God has for us and we don’t want to stand in the way of that. He is faithful. Praying for y’all and whatever comes next! 🙏
Omg seems like Dan and Sam are gonna eventually have another baby😂😂😂😂just my thoughts 🎉❤😂 i think you guys should 100%!
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I am with you sis!😂🥰🥰
Good for you. It's clearly on your hearts that there's a chance of you another child of your own or for someone else again Dan is so amazing He didn't really push his opinion until you doubted it but there's always later to do the surgery Mine was done at 34. It was my fourth child I had a stillbirth and seven miscarriages between number three and four. All of them had been breach all of them were born early. The doctor flat out told me if I didn't stop I was going to die so I went ahead with it there has still been times that I was sad about it but in my case it was a necessity to you know stay alive. Take your time think about it and I didn't realize it was so permanent now My daughter's 13 so that's when I had the procedure and mine are just tied off or burnt I think.
Heyyy! So happy to hear you had a great time in Florida. That’s where I live. Can’t wait to see this❤
I can relate, I cancelled my tubal that morning and I had two more babies at 28 and 35, never regretted my decision ❤️
I totally know what you mean about living being pregnant! I wish I could be a surrogate because I love it so much! But my infertility took most of my childbearing years...and now I'm too old...so I'll just keep having my own as long as we can afford it (fertility treatments)....lol
I really hope you guys do have another. ❤
Just because you are discussing the option of having another baby, you aren’t done having babies ❤if you were done having babies, you’d know 100%
Exactly 🙏🏼
This!!! We thought we felt done and here we are with another 3 yr old and pregnant again - our 7th baby - but in my heart I do feel full with babies ❤
@@brooklin_bernek *3-yr-old. Age needs to be hyphenated when it's used as a noun or an adjective before a noun.
So you're saying there's a chance! 😂 Ultimately, it's God's plan. But watching and listening to you talk about the option to have another baby and the joy on your face, really says it all. And to see you getting excited about Ember and how she would be with a baby. It's precious ❤
@@Tania_78Seriously? Don't you have anything better to do than police grammar and punctuation? Get a life and leave people alone!
I'm so proud of you for making this decision, it's hard for sure
Wen I was pregnant with my last I had thot I'm going to get my tubes tied while they had me open anyway, but wen I was 6 months along I totally changed my mind, I cud absolutely not do that , after he was born I was so so glad we decided not to , even tho we have no idea if we'll have another one, God is in control ❤bless you guys !
Omggg a baby from yall!!!!🥹🥹 I love yall and have yall watched since you first surrogate! Yall are great❤
Definitely hold off if you have questions. I wanted a hysterectomy for so long. I was done after 2 kids and a divorce. And then my cervical cancer came back the second time and I didn't have a choice. It Definitely changed how I felt and still do feel. Not that I need to re start in my 40s when my kids are now grown and moved out, but I am remarried and sometimes have severe depression over not being able to produce a child if we wanted to.
a friend just had her tubes removed and said its very painful (this was during a c-section). Would you consider having Dan undergo the procedure instead as its less invasive?
I'm the same way lol the hottest thing is watching a good dad being a good dad 💯👌
I loved being pregnant also!! I had the best pregnancy anyone could have asked for!! Literally never ever felt better
I am so happy you didn’t go thru with it. My ex husband in the end forced me to go thru with a surgery I didn’t want. I knew we had three little ones but even my doctor tried to talk me out of it saying he knew my marriage wasn’t great what if found someone else who treated me right that wanted kids. Do what’s in your heart. I wish I had ❤
First baby, no problem. Secondary infertility that I was thankfully able to overcome after 8 years, then boom, pregnant again with twins with same exact due date as my daughter from a year ago.... Ended up with a c-section and was approached with tubal ligation during surgery, I ABSOLUTELY knew I was done, completely at ease. When it's time, you'll know! 💚
So smart to always pray on it. I believe that too. Love your content and your love for God. He’s the only one who knows the plans he has for us. Trust in him! Also you make pregnancy look easy and fun and you absolutely glow while being pregnant. I say keep having them for you guys or other people. Such a special gift you have done for others.
I am SOOOO happy you are praying on this. We jumped when my hard pregnancy and really hard baby was 3 months old to have my husband get a vasectomy. It is our only regret we've had in our marriage. We both wish we had not made the decision scared or panicked. If we hadn't we'd probably have a lot more kids now. Especially because our financial situation changed and we could have afforded them.
Guys! We did the same thing. My husband was scheduled for a vasectomy and the closer it got the more uneasy we felt! We have 4 kids. Doesn’t mean we’ll have more, just praying for peace as well. Thank you for your transparency!
I had my son and daughter 14 years apart! Age gaps are okay!
Love your vulnerability and heart🤍
Unfortunately when we had our last baby hubby and I were down right certain that we were done...so we decided to go forward with the getting my tubes removed...but after we had our baby we REGRETTED getting it done cause we were like "we want more babies" so having that option taking from us even though we were so sure was heartbreaking!!! So im happy that yall took the time to sit back and talk about it...cause the regret is overwhelming..I will say that I had a hard pregnancy with our last at least medically the pregnancy it's self wasn't hard it was all the medical issues I had with it!!! So I really don't think my body would handle another pregnancy so in that aspect I'm thankful for our choice but I'm very sad that I no long have the ability to try for another baby if we wanted to!!! Good luck guys...God obviously has different plans for yall!!! ❤❤
“I feel like that’s the important part of the story” lmao 🤣
I love you guys so kind-hearted I love your channel and your kids ❤️
I’m 1 of 6. My brother wanted lots of kids. His wife wanted a good amount. 5 is there stopping point. It’s been weird and emotional as an aunt knowing that. Like all these things say- you’ll know. Youllll know!
I am so glad you are an open book!😂 You two are funny. That feeling is because you want another one, I went through the same exact thing. I think you would be happy with one more. I wish I would have pushed harder to get pregnant again, because when I hit 38-40 I was so upset i didn’t try more with IVF.
I just got my tubes removed after I had my 1 year old. And I’d say don’t do it. I regret it. I do have 5 kids and I know I’m done but mentally knowing I can’t have more for some reason messes me up. It’s so weird but as a woman it’s mentally fucking me up. I do feel like I was pressured by a doctor. I’m grateful for my babies I do have. Good luck on your guys journey.
You made the right decision!!! My husband had a vasectomy when I was 37 and I regretted it so much since the day he got it. We both felt awful after he did and have always regretted it!! You’re so young I wouldn’t even think of doing that right now. I’ve been so depressed since we took the ability to have kids away 😢
Vasectomies' are reversable.
@ insurance doesn’t cover it though and my husband was nervous about going through another procedure whereas he was told a reversal doesn’t always work there is a low chance of getting pregnant after it with the kind he had the doctor said
They can still get sperm from him. Just at the doctors office.
I always appreciate how open and real you guys are. Also, I hope that you guys have another little one of your own.. you guys are such genuine, good hearted people. I've always been told that once you're done, you know, no questions asked.. after my 3rd I wanted to get my tubes out but because of how I was (only 28), my doctor strongly advised against it because of the chance of regret. I'm now glad I didn't get it done because I feel like there's another baby for me one day in the future
I respect this decision! It’s a huge decision bc one baby isn’t just y’all’s baby one day that will be a whole family of people. Just imagine if your grandma wasn’t born, there is a whole lineage after raising your kids to adulthood and so much more life comes after just one baby! For Gods bigger plan on earth!
You are 100% right. When you know you know. I was sterilised at 28 after the birth of my twins, babies 3 and 4. I knew and so did he we were done and sorted and I’ve felt at peace with that decision, never had a regret at all
I can't wait for you guys to have another baby! ❤😊
My husband and I just recently had this discussion as he was also scheduled for a vasectomy. After he was told it would be harder to reverse it he told me he would be lying if he didn’t tell me he would be willing to have a 4th baby down the road and maybe we can get a girl or another boy haha but I did find out I do have adenomyosis 😢
Love this for you guys, ❤️
After having my children I was scared into getting my tubes tied by my last ob. So I did it but I regretted it every day! Don't do it unless you do feel peace and that it is what you both want.
Pleass have another of ur own us r amazing ❤
All the love to you guys as usual and prayers
Love you guys regardless.
I think this was a great choice for the both of you. I had a partial hysterectomy at age 24 after our 2nd child. Today our boy is 19 and our girl 18. I have asked myself many times throughout the years if things would’ve been different, would we have had more kids. But that wasn’t god’s plans and that’s ok. Now, we aren’t too many years away from grand-babies.🥰
Best of luck to whatever you two decide for your family in the future!
Thanks Kristy ❤❤
We had three children in 3.5 years… we were done… my husband had a vasectomy. We didn’t really pray about it, it was just the thing to do. Life got hard… and we put a bandaid on it to make sure it didn’t get more challenging. Well, after a few years my husband asked if we ever really prayed about it…. I said no…. He went and got a reversal (shout out to Dr Wilson who does this as a ministry). We had two more babies since, and it was the best decision ever. There isn’t any harm in waiting, and praying. I always try to warn people before making a permanent decision…. I’m glad you guys are waiting and seeking the Lord. What a wise decision and couple…. This doesn’t mean you are going to have a baby… but it also means you are going to the Lord first. And that is the MOST important❤.
I love this soooo much!!! I say less than a year Sam will be pregnant!! 😂🩷💙
Don’t overthink your decision at all. I have 4 kids. I wouldn’t change it. The fact that you care this much about your family, your two kids that you have, makes you excellent candidates for welcoming another baby. It is a lot. But you also get a lot back- a lot of love, a lot of joy, a lot of happiness, a lot of laughter… my husband and I decided to round out our family because 3 felt off balance. We just wanted one more kid. I can’t imagine my life without her and she was everything we needed. I think the question to ask is just like your canceling your appointment. If we want another kid and don’t have it, what would that mean? I encourage both of you to have no regrets. Any further additions to your family will be a blessing. You seem so wonderful, any baby would be blessed to have you for their family. You have something amazing, if there’s more to give.. go for it! I wish you all the best! ❤
To be honest, Sam wasn't ready to stop, and it showed in the videos, but Dan was hell bent on stopping having kids. He's had a change of heart.
I planned to have my uterus removed but to keep my tubes to prevent early menopause when I had my son in 2017 but I had the same thoughts about what if one day I want a 3rd or 4th baby I really wanted to be done after 2 because it’s hard being pregnant for me. But here we are 7 year later and due to have a little girl in 10 days. She wasn’t planned but in my heart I feel like she was meant to be part of our family. Those feelings of doubt I had were because we defintely weren’t done and our little miracle is on her way.
After doing the deed one time, my (soon to be ex husband) and I looked at each other and said, why do I feel like we just comceived another kid?!?! 2 weeks later a pregnancy test confirms we in fact conceived! Said child will be 6 in March!
The way you're telling this story in the beginning, 100% brings me back to my feelings the day my youngest was conceived.
I so understand the feeling of loving being pregnant I love seeing my husband as a father and I love being a mama and being pregnant is just icing on the cake
I had my 4th baby 4 months ago. 2 months ago i was supposed to get a tubal. But my surgery got canceled that day. I havent rescheduled. I feel like you.
The Lord will lead you where he wants you to go 🩷💙
I think you are ready. ❤❤
I am glad you didn’t go ahead with the decision. Yesterday I just went through my 4th miscarriage and we are super upset about it. If you could have babies have them because so many of us would give up everything to be able to do so. Since August 2022 we had 4 miscarriages and 1 chemical pregnancy. This time around we were so happy because we had passed the 6 week mark where it always happened, as we were 9 weeks, but Wednesday we went for a sonogram and baby was measuring right but no heartbeat was found/detected.
I love this so much!💛
I mean you can still do ivf after tubal
I don't ususally comment and I just had to with this video. You did the right thing, if you are not 100% sure don't do it. I know someone who did and it was awful. Then they wanted more when there life was more stable and had to do IVF. It took first time and second time was fatal! They lost their twins. Children are a blessing of God and if you can stay home with them and afford them it is awesome for the couple and your children. I have noticed in your videos how you did a great thing for people and I always noticed you had an inner yearning to have more children for yourself. It is better to keep your options open. I am so glad you decided to hold off. It is best to pray about it and God will give you peace if it is his will. Will keep you guys in my prayers. You are a beautiful family!!!
You have such a special relationship
We thought we were done with our 2 boys, we moved to a different state and His plan was bigger than ours and we got pregnant with baby boy #3! Our boys are 17, 14, and 2. After my traumatic delivery of number 3 we knew that was our sign we're done. So hubby got done and our family is complete.
I had two boys and my girl and I was on cloud 9, i said ok I'm finished i don't want anymore. I had actually scheduled my tubal to be done during my c section, and she had come a month early and they didn't do my tubal they told me to reschedule and come back in. I had decided to just get a IUD and would do it at a later time. 5 years later i got this overwhelming want for a 4th baby. I couldnt understand but we thought and prayed about it and had our 4th, he has been an amazing addition to our family and i have felt complete since we had him. I did remove my tubes during his c section. If your heart desired another baby you will never regret it they will be the piece of the puzzle you never knew you were missing!
You will never regret having amother baby, and if someone regrets it, it is usually because the mom/family needs help, support, medical care of some sort. We should be doing all we can as a society to make having children a smoother choice. If it God leads you to something, he will equip you.❤
I felt the same way , after having 2 girls and 1 boy I thought we we're done so I scheduled my appointment to get "fixed" but ended up not going because it hit me all at once ... If I do this I'll never have kids again and that choice is gone for me .... I couldn't do it. My son will be 6 in April and getting pregnant again has been sooooo hard. After 3 c sections idk if I can even get pregnant again 😢
I'm not saying whether you should have another baby/C-section, because I obviously don't know you...but, maybe it will be encouraging to you to know that it IS possible to have babies after 3 sections (I have 7 kids, all via C-section, and my ob has even said that having another one is not out of the realm of possibility). ❤
I had my tubes tied after having my 4 kids and it was the biggest mistake of my life after it was done I totally regretted it and now have to go thru IVF for another child
First of all yall are so inspirational to me even though we are in completely different walks of life but still so similar ❤️
Is there a possibility yall got pregnant last night? Or the night before the appointment? 🤭🤭🤭
To keep the choice to be yours and Gods is the best🫂🙏🏼❣️🫶🏼🐞