another amazing video :') its so true, ive been on the self improvement journey for some time now and... somehow kept feeling worse and worse the more i was doing. i was trying to "fix" myself instead of being there for myself. whatever i tried improving was not out of place of love, but out of shame and self hatred. great video ❤
I'm looking up productivity tips because I'm tired... Thinking about medication... Looking for another job, buying things, setting goals... Tossing and turning, asking everyone for advice. But this video really gives me the answer. Thank you! I will save this video to watch over and over again. ❤
Hey, what if this needs to be addressed in a therapeutic setting first before I feel safe enough to do those things? It feels beyond what I am capable of being there for right now.
Hello, thank you for your question, and I want to carefully word this message to relay my intention of empathy and care. It's normal to feel overwhelmed, since we are working with a lifetime's worth of suppressed emotions. It can be very helpful to reach out to someone who is more experienced, who can assist you. This can be a therapist (experienced with IFS - internal family systems, a very helpful framework for healing inner child wounds) or a self love/spiritual coach/mentor that can help navigate your path within to purify your trauma and wounds. I would exercise caution if someone claims that they can heal and fix all of your problems for you, or they slap on a band-aid fix to keep you at bay until the next crisis happens. The guidance we get is only an example to show us what we can also do and try to embody that energy, and we are the only person capable of truly healing ourselves and unconditionally loving ourselves. No healer has the power to heal someone else - they show us an example of what is possible, and it is up to us if we want to decide to heal ourselves to match that vibration. This is why it's important to find guidance that resonates with you deeply and bring you clarity, expansion and love, to get to the core root of your wounds to help build the resilience and love you have within. Ultimately, all of this is a change in our perspective in how we see ourselves and our wounds, not specific things we must do to "fix" ourselves. It can also feel very daunting and scary to feel our emotions, and you feel like something worse might happen or that you'll end up in a worse place by feeling your emotions. However, nothing bad can happen from you feeling your emotions. Sure, it might be extremely uncomfortable and unsettling, but when you feel your emotions, you actually release it from your body and end up feeling lighter, because you have released your energetic burdens. There is a difference between feeling our emotions and acting on them, and acting on our emotions does not purify them from our body - it causes it to get stuck for even longer and disconnects us from what we are feeling. Acting on our depression results in us rotting in bed and distracting ourselves from our emotions. Feeling our depression is when we sit with ourselves to cry it out, and acknowledge the pain and loneliness you have been feeling with a loving gaze to ourselves. If you feel that you cannot trust yourself to make decisions that are safe for you, it is valid to reach out for help. If you feel that you can't do it, that's also a valid feeling. It is okay to ask for help, but I would use discernment as to which therapeutic setting you choose (if they just give you a medication and tell you to come back in 3 months, it's probably not the most helpful), and if you truly connect with the person giving guidance as well. Feelings are just feelings - they are beliefs that we attach to, and they are not the truth. Our negative feelings will especially make us believe that we are powerless and that we are incapable of changing, that we are stuck that way forever. But that is not the objective truth. That feeling of despair and powerlessness is signaling to you a deep rooted pain stemming from feeling powerless, incapable and incompetence, stemming from our childhood. However, when we get stuck in feeling hopeless and resisting to that feeling and our circumstances externally, we lose sight of where this pain originated from, which is our inner wounds. I have also deeply believed that I was doomed to feel this way forever, precisely because I was acting on these beliefs and resisting these feelings. What changed everything was when I decided to see these beliefs from a different perspective and actively feel, release, and transmute my pain to love. It is also important to remember that there is no part of you that needs "fixing." These are just parts of us that have been so deeply wounded, and because it is so painful to feel these emotions, we have learned to continually suppress and judge these parts of ourselves as bad to avoid feeling the pain of abandonment. What this part of us needs is love and acceptance as it is, not more judgment and more attempts of fixing. There is no rush on this journey and it's okay to take it one small step at a time. What truly matters is that we set the intention to show up for ourselves, to build our self trust, and to love and care for ourselves a little more each day in whatever way we are capable of. It's okay to take breaks too, and not do anything. The healing journey is not a process that happens overnight, and I spent many years getting lost and stumbling my way through, but it truly is the most worthwhile choice to make to reconnect with yourself. Wishing you the best on your journey and sending you love!
another amazing video :') its so true, ive been on the self improvement journey for some time now and... somehow kept feeling worse and worse the more i was doing. i was trying to "fix" myself instead of being there for myself. whatever i tried improving was not out of place of love, but out of shame and self hatred. great video ❤
Thank you so much for being here and for your kind words! Wishing you all the best on your journey 🤗💞💕
I'm looking up productivity tips because I'm tired... Thinking about medication... Looking for another job, buying things, setting goals... Tossing and turning, asking everyone for advice. But this video really gives me the answer. Thank you! I will save this video to watch over and over again. ❤
Thank you so much for being here, sending you so much love! You got this 💖💖
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Thank you for your kind words and for being here 💖💖💖
Hey, what if this needs to be addressed in a therapeutic setting first before I feel safe enough to do those things? It feels beyond what I am capable of being there for right now.
Hello, thank you for your question, and I want to carefully word this message to relay my intention of empathy and care.
It's normal to feel overwhelmed, since we are working with a lifetime's worth of suppressed emotions. It can be very helpful to reach out to someone who is more experienced, who can assist you. This can be a therapist (experienced with IFS - internal family systems, a very helpful framework for healing inner child wounds) or a self love/spiritual coach/mentor that can help navigate your path within to purify your trauma and wounds. I would exercise caution if someone claims that they can heal and fix all of your problems for you, or they slap on a band-aid fix to keep you at bay until the next crisis happens.
The guidance we get is only an example to show us what we can also do and try to embody that energy, and we are the only person capable of truly healing ourselves and unconditionally loving ourselves. No healer has the power to heal someone else - they show us an example of what is possible, and it is up to us if we want to decide to heal ourselves to match that vibration. This is why it's important to find guidance that resonates with you deeply and bring you clarity, expansion and love, to get to the core root of your wounds to help build the resilience and love you have within. Ultimately, all of this is a change in our perspective in how we see ourselves and our wounds, not specific things we must do to "fix" ourselves.
It can also feel very daunting and scary to feel our emotions, and you feel like something worse might happen or that you'll end up in a worse place by feeling your emotions. However, nothing bad can happen from you feeling your emotions. Sure, it might be extremely uncomfortable and unsettling, but when you feel your emotions, you actually release it from your body and end up feeling lighter, because you have released your energetic burdens.
There is a difference between feeling our emotions and acting on them, and acting on our emotions does not purify them from our body - it causes it to get stuck for even longer and disconnects us from what we are feeling. Acting on our depression results in us rotting in bed and distracting ourselves from our emotions. Feeling our depression is when we sit with ourselves to cry it out, and acknowledge the pain and loneliness you have been feeling with a loving gaze to ourselves. If you feel that you cannot trust yourself to make decisions that are safe for you, it is valid to reach out for help. If you feel that you can't do it, that's also a valid feeling. It is okay to ask for help, but I would use discernment as to which therapeutic setting you choose (if they just give you a medication and tell you to come back in 3 months, it's probably not the most helpful), and if you truly connect with the person giving guidance as well.
Feelings are just feelings - they are beliefs that we attach to, and they are not the truth. Our negative feelings will especially make us believe that we are powerless and that we are incapable of changing, that we are stuck that way forever. But that is not the objective truth. That feeling of despair and powerlessness is signaling to you a deep rooted pain stemming from feeling powerless, incapable and incompetence, stemming from our childhood. However, when we get stuck in feeling hopeless and resisting to that feeling and our circumstances externally, we lose sight of where this pain originated from, which is our inner wounds. I have also deeply believed that I was doomed to feel this way forever, precisely because I was acting on these beliefs and resisting these feelings. What changed everything was when I decided to see these beliefs from a different perspective and actively feel, release, and transmute my pain to love.
It is also important to remember that there is no part of you that needs "fixing." These are just parts of us that have been so deeply wounded, and because it is so painful to feel these emotions, we have learned to continually suppress and judge these parts of ourselves as bad to avoid feeling the pain of abandonment. What this part of us needs is love and acceptance as it is, not more judgment and more attempts of fixing.
There is no rush on this journey and it's okay to take it one small step at a time. What truly matters is that we set the intention to show up for ourselves, to build our self trust, and to love and care for ourselves a little more each day in whatever way we are capable of. It's okay to take breaks too, and not do anything. The healing journey is not a process that happens overnight, and I spent many years getting lost and stumbling my way through, but it truly is the most worthwhile choice to make to reconnect with yourself. Wishing you the best on your journey and sending you love!
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