Are nt criticisms usually a constructive idea in the beginning? Its the EGO that jumps in and bothers people.accepting any criticism needs evaluation .women should know more about it i think.
Not everyone commes out of this loop It takes resilience And a sincere poursuit of the thruth Im glad you did as I too Refreshing comes to mind God bless you
The other night my college best friend and I were playing video games together and we were discussing friends we met at college while we were gaming. He mentioned a mutual friend of ours that we both enjoyed the company of back then, and I said that while I did like him as a friend, I don’t think that he liked me back - that I could sense he was being “fake” towards me to maintain his “friendly-to-everyone/liked-by-all” personality. My best friend asked me to clarify what I meant, and I said that I think he didn’t like me because he thought I was pretentious. My best friend, while still focused on the game, said “well.. but you *are* pretentious”. That was about 3 weeks ago now, and I don’t remember how the discussion ended (we probably just went back to focusing on our game), but that one off-hand comment still stabs at my brain every other day. I find myself checking myself every time I leave an interaction with another person. On top of questions that I already ask myself like “did I make a good first impression?” and “did I say something stupid?”, I find myself questioning “did I come off as pretentious” as well. On top of that, my brain is now constantly remembering past memories of times that I now realize I may have came off as pretentious. I’m glad that some people appreciate the INFJ type and even wish they could be that way.. but the negatives suck and feel bad just as much as the positives are great and feel good. I can definitely say that I am way too sensitive - but it’s now something I hope to work on. Thank you for this video, I think that it’ll be a great help in my process to better myself.
No dude, you are not "too sensitive". You are only if you are not accepting it. And "being pretentious" can mean tons of things - using big words, liking art, being passionate about stuff most people aren't (like art, or literature, or philosophy). I would only use word "pretentious" to describe someone who is FAKING (for themselves and others) his sophistication, to gain approval. I don't think that this is what you are doing and you're friend's mind is not broad enough to see your "pretentiousness" as something other than that.
enso thanks for your reply. He meant well- we’re not best friends for nothing. He only says things like that knowing that a) I can handle it and b) I would much rather hear that from the friends that know me best and therefore I can be sure it’s really something I need to work on, rather than just a mean comment from someone who doesn’t know me at all. It’s just frustrating that my mind constantly does this overthinking/blowing-out-of-proportion/constant-reminder-of-how-much-I-suck thing, but I’m honestly used to it at this point. I try my best to take criticism, even if just off-hand, and better myself. To Wenzes’ credit, I’m learning that I shouldn’t be afraid to take a stand for myself. While it’s good to absorb criticism and grow, everyone has their limit, and I shouldn’t be shy to say hey- that’s enough for now, maybe there’s a more constructive way to do this - even if I have to tell that exact thing to my *own* self. Thanks again for your uplifting comment, I do appreciate it. I’m still very new to the MBTI community, but I’m finding that there tends to be a lot more positivity and helping each other rather than tearing each other down. Enjoy the rest of your day ✌🏽
So I’ve learnt from talking to friends that my shyness and reserve can come across as pretentious until I know people and thaw also as the previous answer really like art, history, books etc so I’ve also heard that my education culture can make me appear daunting but again once they know me no problem as they’ve said they’ve realised it was in their head not mine.
I had an authourity which was over me this person wanted me to grow i could tell but he always give me constructive critisim in a harsh way and i felt bullied i felt more depress than motivated so one day the person realize that i dont ask him for advices anymore and i was distance so i told him i did not like the way he speaks to me for it dont motivate me and thats not the way i learn but he did not care so everytime he raises his voice i just block him out of my head, yes i miss out on learning new things from him but i protected myself
We want that person who criticizes us to be in our shoes before saying something bad about us ! If the criticism is done intentionally or without proper understanding, we get upset n move away!!
Whoa! This describes me almost perfectly. I live from a place of wanting to learn and grow, assuming I make mistakes and can learn from others. However, with every "I'm sorry I will fix that." "You know more than I, how could I do that better?" It puts proverbial blood in the water for the sharks to eat me alive! Too many times I'm rolled over with others mashing their opinions at me, when I show any resistance to it, they tell me that I'm too sensitive and need to accept them as "direct" for who they are, and I'm throne who should cchange. So tired.
We are relentless self critics, and due to the unbelievable empathy thing, we have looked at all sides, possibly quite a bit more thoroughly than other types. We probably don’t need it unless we ask for it. I think the sensitivity is misunderstood. I think we are ridiculously thorough in specific areas, and we, obviously, are aware of the thought we’ve put into everything, but others are not, so they interpret our “offended” response as being too sensitive, until, hopefully they get to know us.
Am I afraid I might lose out on constructive criticism if I only listen to positive communication? No. All the time when someone has approached me aggressively or unprofessionally, they are just insecure and possess no professional development at all. Proper message conveyance is born from confidence and professionalism. I'm actually not so "thin skinned" that I won't accept constructive criticism. What I have come across more often than not, is where the 'workplace bullies" or just plain insecure people that notice I may be a few steps ahead of them, convey their unsolicited opinions and such, and then label their message as "constructive criticism" in order to "save face". What it always turns out to be is those folks are just pressing their character off on me and trying to bring me down to their level so they aren't the only ones being less productive. These are the people that use "company time" to poison the atmosphere. I always get them in a "check mate" situation at that point, then press on with what I was doing before they showed up.
SUPER approach to "sensitivity!" As a teacher, whether I work with elementary students, teenagers or adult English learners, I make one rule for sure. Nobody is allowed to make fun of or act impatiently with others' mistakes. Also, I set the same rule for myself. I remembered moving from Michigan to South Texas (a long time and distance ago ago 🙂) and having to turn my "schoolbook Spanish" into genuine conversation. It was a challenge, but worth it - people from Mexico appreciate those who want to learn Spanish. However, there were sarcastic, impatient and mean ones, too. You mentioned that these types may have something useful to say, but you questioned if it was worth it to put up with the emotional pain they often give. You are right on target to want "constructive criticism" from those who are loving, kind, and where you want to be in life. Excellent video! It's the most realistic approach to sensitivity that I've heard.
I agree 100%. We have to learn to set boundaries for ourselves as INFJs. We also need to stop thinking for other people. Oh will this thing I'm about to say hurt them or not? Other people have a responsibility to set their own boundaries. As long as you are respectful to them. That's all that matters. Great job as always Wenzes 👍
Hi Wenzes, another video with great advice! Everything you say is so recognizable. To me it is a lifelong process to set my boundaries. For a long time people did'nt take me seriously. Now i know that i have to take myself seriously in order to make others do that as well and i have to stick up for what i believe in, but it is still not easy for me because when i stick up for myself i am always afraid to hurt the feelings of others. Seeing you as a powerful infj is encouriging. I used to be very conflict avoiding and keeping my opinion for myself in order not to get rejected. Step by step i am trying to change that. I even dare to comment on TH-cam video's which i did'nt dare before🙂. Now i am allowing myself to be proud of myself sometimes, proud of the things i do, but also respecting others and their way of doing things. Charlie Chaplin sayd in a Poem about self love "we no longer need to fear confrontations. Even stars collide and out of their crashing new worlds are born."
Haha! That is the story of my life! I am opinionated, but at the same time think about and listen to constructive criticism from the other person, realizing that they were right. I can handle criticism as a growing experience but other than that people can get on my nerves.
Thank you for this one. Big issues for us INFJs. I wonder if I'm the only one but I think that if I tell people how I want them to talk to me, I think they would just smile/laugh at me and think I'm overreacting. At one point you talk about saying to someone that how they are speaking to you doesn't make you feel good. I think that if I said that people would just laugh and say that it's not about me feeling good. It's about that I listen for 'the message' - what they have to say, and then just stop being so sensitive. I don't think I would win their respect this way. One reason for this is also that saying this to people, I might get a little tense/nervous and they would immediately see/hear this and then they would just find it funny and laugh - and I would get nowhere near getting their respect; rather, I'd lose it. Do you have any advice for how to present this to people? And maybe also how to take/act if they just laugh? And they might do more than 'just' laugh; they might keep on doing what they've always done - overstep my/other INFJs' boundaries.
Let them laugh and lose respect for them because of it...you have to be the one who distances yourself and rather shows them over and over again that you find their behavior weak and unacceptable...don‘t fee like you have to go back into your shell and let them do what they want...it‘s practice but you got this...you walk into the room and expect respect and whoever doesn’t give it to you, you won‘t respect back
This is the story of my life as of right now. I finally had the infj doorslam with my mother and I was completely amazed at the amount of wrath that etched off my being. I'm in school right now for I.T. but I've decided that I need to go back to bartending and move out asap. I really don't have anywhere to go right now and I'm driving myself crazy being anxious about how the next month is gonna go. I'd hate to call my mom ignorant to her face because it leads down a rabbit hole of trouble and if I let my guard down and actually be myself its just another rabbit hole. It's affecting my work life tremendously and I'm sick of it. In the end her pain always seems to outweigh logic and problem solving
When my online guy told me he was planning a flight from Houston to Russia which didn't include stopping to see me, I was livid! First it felt he undervalued me. I called him out on it. I have to express my feelings. I could have door slammed him. Or ghost him but I chose to tell him. Waiting for response.
I don't accept and I just ignore and reject criticism. I accept and take feedback, correction, accountability, and tips. Criticism is useless to me. It is fine if you value it. I don't and I never will. I only value feedback, accountability, and tips that will give me broader perspectives to get better. Criticism focuses on the past and expects perfection while Feedback and Accountability focuses on the future and explains improvement without perfection pursuing. Just my thoughts.
My sister gave me advice to take care of my weight which I am but I got offended. I am INFJ-A. My sister is an ENFJ. How can I apologize to her? She said it kindly I took it badly.😢
When I was 16 in 2011 when I get inside the transport fans community in my country, which was mostly orientated in one online forum at that time, I was a complete beginner and this didnt stay hidden for too long. There were a people there who always criticized the new members for bad transport vehicles photos but they didnt want to do anything more. I telling you your photos are garbage, watch what the others do and things like that which was not an offer for me. I percive things differently so for me it's not that easy to just watch what other people do and do the same. I am an INFJ and just can't stand doing things like the others, I want to find my own way, my own path, when I deside to devote myself in something I take it very personal and I don't want to be a voiceless letter in the mainstream ocean. This way of criticizing is not constructive for me but it's also a bad idea to say to that kind of people well help me if you can, they don't wont to envolve themselfs in such actions. To do critics like those looks like a matter of ego boosting for me and I'll never do that no matter my knowledge and the years of experience. To explain yourself to people like this is equally to allow yourself to be bullied.
Even though your advice did make some sense and was easy to understand, i still don't believe in constructive criticism because criticism does only highlight your flaws and doesn't give you tips and tricks to improve strengths. Accountability and Feedback are different from criticism in my opinion because they are actual correction and instruction to help me find a better game plan to improve myself without being scared to fail. I understand that Kobe used negativity as fuel at the same time, not every human being uses negativity as fuel and it is ok. I don't listen to and I ignore criticism and negativity. I listen to and value feedback, accountability, instruction, advice, tips, and rules because they teach me to get out of my comfort zone. Criticism doesn't do that to me. If you disagree and deny what I just said, that is totally fine. You have your opinion on criticism and I have mine. I think constructive criticism does not exist while constructive feedback or constructive accountability exists for me. Accountability and Feedback are different from Criticism in my opinion. Not trying to get back at you. Just giving my thoughts. Criticism is only constructive to the person providing it but at the same time, it may be useless, invalid, wrong, controlling, and bad towards the person who is receiving it. Just my thoughts
This black lives matter has caused such a division with my Millennial son's that it's ridiculous! I am trying to communicate to them that all my life I have treated individuals equally to the best of my ability. And that I have to remain calm during this storm that is going on in the media and that I cannot engage in this at this time. So one son has ghosted me. He just will not understand that his mother who's 30 years older than him needs time to disengage from all of this. I cannot engage in this sort of rhetoric at this time in my life. When I was younger I was all about it. I was an advocate for everyone. But at this time, I am holding my own. And what he doesn't realize is that I've even dated black men. And that is a whole nother chapter of this whole delusion that he has going on. So I find it daunting from my standpoint as a senior citizen to be engaged in this movement when I need to be calm for myself and my own demeanor.
What motivates INFJs to be sensitive? Like why care so much whether or not you are liked or whether you are beautiful unicorns or pieces of shit. Just think in terms of actions and consequences. There is no right and wrong. For example, yea the article you wrote might be viewed as shit by a person, so what? What is your goal? If you want that person to like it, then ask that person how to make it better. If not then ignore that person. No need to be crying over an opinion.
Are you afraid you might lose out on constructive criticism if you only listen to positive communication?
@Line, of course you can be in the loop for a very long time, doesn’t mean you can‘t get out. Watch my videos on this topic
@Braxton 😊👍 you got this
Are nt criticisms usually a constructive idea in the beginning?
Its the EGO that jumps in and bothers people.accepting any criticism needs evaluation .women should know more about it i think.
Not everyone commes out of this loop
It takes resilience
And a sincere poursuit of the thruth
Im glad you did as I too
Refreshing comes to mind
God bless you
The other night my college best friend and I were playing video games together and we were discussing friends we met at college while we were gaming. He mentioned a mutual friend of ours that we both enjoyed the company of back then, and I said that while I did like him as a friend, I don’t think that he liked me back - that I could sense he was being “fake” towards me to maintain his “friendly-to-everyone/liked-by-all” personality. My best friend asked me to clarify what I meant, and I said that I think he didn’t like me because he thought I was pretentious. My best friend, while still focused on the game, said “well.. but you *are* pretentious”.
That was about 3 weeks ago now, and I don’t remember how the discussion ended (we probably just went back to focusing on our game), but that one off-hand comment still stabs at my brain every other day. I find myself checking myself every time I leave an interaction with another person. On top of questions that I already ask myself like “did I make a good first impression?” and “did I say something stupid?”, I find myself questioning “did I come off as pretentious” as well. On top of that, my brain is now constantly remembering past memories of times that I now realize I may have came off as pretentious.
I’m glad that some people appreciate the INFJ type and even wish they could be that way.. but the negatives suck and feel bad just as much as the positives are great and feel good.
I can definitely say that I am way too sensitive - but it’s now something I hope to work on. Thank you for this video, I think that it’ll be a great help in my process to better myself.
No dude, you are not "too sensitive". You are only if you are not accepting it. And "being pretentious" can mean tons of things - using big words, liking art, being passionate about stuff most people aren't (like art, or literature, or philosophy). I would only use word "pretentious" to describe someone who is FAKING (for themselves and others) his sophistication, to gain approval. I don't think that this is what you are doing and you're friend's mind is not broad enough to see your "pretentiousness" as something other than that.
enso thanks for your reply. He meant well- we’re not best friends for nothing. He only says things like that knowing that a) I can handle it and b) I would much rather hear that from the friends that know me best and therefore I can be sure it’s really something I need to work on, rather than just a mean comment from someone who doesn’t know me at all. It’s just frustrating that my mind constantly does this overthinking/blowing-out-of-proportion/constant-reminder-of-how-much-I-suck thing, but I’m honestly used to it at this point. I try my best to take criticism, even if just off-hand, and better myself. To Wenzes’ credit, I’m learning that I shouldn’t be afraid to take a stand for myself. While it’s good to absorb criticism and grow, everyone has their limit, and I shouldn’t be shy to say hey- that’s enough for now, maybe there’s a more constructive way to do this - even if I have to tell that exact thing to my *own* self.
Thanks again for your uplifting comment, I do appreciate it. I’m still very new to the MBTI community, but I’m finding that there tends to be a lot more positivity and helping each other rather than tearing each other down.
Enjoy the rest of your day ✌🏽
So I’ve learnt from talking to friends that my shyness and reserve can come across as pretentious until I know people and thaw also as the previous answer really like art, history, books etc so I’ve also heard that my education culture can make me appear daunting but again once they know me no problem as they’ve said they’ve realised it was in their head not mine.
I had an authourity which was over me this person wanted me to grow i could tell but he always give me constructive critisim in a harsh way and i felt bullied i felt more depress than motivated so one day the person realize that i dont ask him for advices anymore and i was distance so i told him i did not like the way he speaks to me for it dont motivate me and thats not the way i learn but he did not care so everytime he raises his voice i just block him out of my head, yes i miss out on learning new things from him but i protected myself
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We want that person who criticizes us to be in our shoes before saying something bad about us ! If the criticism is done intentionally or without proper understanding, we get upset n move away!!
We are not perfect. Labeling criticism as a way to make us a more perfect being has helped me develop myself.
Whoa!
This describes me almost perfectly. I live from a place of wanting to learn and grow, assuming I make mistakes and can learn from others. However, with every "I'm sorry I will fix that." "You know more than I, how could I do that better?" It puts proverbial blood in the water for the sharks to eat me alive! Too many times I'm rolled over with others mashing their opinions at me, when I show any resistance to it, they tell me that I'm too sensitive and need to accept them as "direct" for who they are, and I'm throne who should cchange. So tired.
We are relentless self critics, and due to the unbelievable empathy thing, we have looked at all sides, possibly quite a bit more thoroughly than other types. We probably don’t need it unless we ask for it. I think the sensitivity is misunderstood. I think we are ridiculously thorough in specific areas, and we, obviously, are aware of the thought we’ve put into everything, but others are not, so they interpret our “offended” response as being too sensitive, until, hopefully they get to know us.
Am I afraid I might lose out on constructive criticism if I only listen to positive communication? No. All the time when someone has approached me aggressively or unprofessionally, they are just insecure and possess no professional development at all. Proper message conveyance is born from confidence and professionalism. I'm actually not so "thin skinned" that I won't accept constructive criticism. What I have come across more often than not, is where the 'workplace bullies" or just plain insecure people that notice I may be a few steps ahead of them, convey their unsolicited opinions and such, and then label their message as "constructive criticism" in order to "save face". What it always turns out to be is those folks are just pressing their character off on me and trying to bring me down to their level so they aren't the only ones being less productive. These are the people that use "company time" to poison the atmosphere. I always get them in a "check mate" situation at that point, then press on with what I was doing before they showed up.
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SUPER approach to "sensitivity!"
As a teacher, whether I work with elementary students, teenagers or adult English learners, I make one rule for sure. Nobody is allowed to make fun of or act impatiently with others' mistakes. Also, I set the same rule for myself.
I remembered moving from Michigan to South Texas (a long time and distance ago ago 🙂) and having to turn my "schoolbook Spanish" into genuine conversation. It was a challenge, but worth it - people from Mexico appreciate those who want to learn Spanish.
However, there were sarcastic, impatient and mean ones, too. You mentioned that these types may have something useful to say, but you questioned if it was worth it to put up with the emotional pain they often give. You are right on target to want "constructive criticism" from those who are loving, kind, and where you want to be in life.
Excellent video! It's the most realistic approach to sensitivity that I've heard.
I agree 100%. We have to learn to set boundaries for ourselves as INFJs. We also need to stop thinking for other people. Oh will this thing I'm about to say hurt them or not? Other people have a responsibility to set their own boundaries. As long as you are respectful to them. That's all that matters.
Great job as always Wenzes 👍
Glad you liked it 👍😊 thanks for your feedback
You are welcome ☺
@@Wenzes You are welcome ☺
Hi Wenzes, another video with great advice! Everything you say is so recognizable. To me it is a lifelong process to set my boundaries. For a long time people did'nt take me seriously. Now i know that i have to take myself seriously in order to make others do that as well and i have to stick up for what i believe in, but it is still not easy for me because when i stick up for myself i am always afraid to hurt the feelings of others. Seeing you as a powerful infj is encouriging. I used to be very conflict avoiding and keeping my opinion for myself in order not to get rejected. Step by step i am trying to change that. I even dare to comment on TH-cam video's which i did'nt dare before🙂. Now i am allowing myself to be proud of myself sometimes, proud of the things i do, but also respecting others and their way of doing things. Charlie Chaplin sayd in a Poem about self love "we no longer need to fear confrontations. Even stars collide and out of their crashing new worlds are born."
Haha! That is the story of my
life! I am opinionated, but at the same time think about and listen to constructive criticism from the other person, realizing that they were right. I can handle criticism as a growing experience but other than that people can get on my nerves.
Well...after watching your video I just realised that 90% of my criticism was bullying and not to help me out, shocking isn't it?
Another great video, I wish I had watched this like 10 or 15 years ago!
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Dynamics made simple. You give the lightsaber tools for the INJF Jedi in this community
Thank you for this one. Big issues for us INFJs. I wonder if I'm the only one but I think that if I tell people how I want them to talk to me, I think they would just smile/laugh at me and think I'm overreacting. At one point you talk about saying to someone that how they are speaking to you doesn't make you feel good. I think that if I said that people would just laugh and say that it's not about me feeling good. It's about that I listen for 'the message' - what they have to say, and then just stop being so sensitive. I don't think I would win their respect this way. One reason for this is also that saying this to people, I might get a little tense/nervous and they would immediately see/hear this and then they would just find it funny and laugh - and I would get nowhere near getting their respect; rather, I'd lose it. Do you have any advice for how to present this to people? And maybe also how to take/act if they just laugh? And they might do more than 'just' laugh; they might keep on doing what they've always done - overstep my/other INFJs' boundaries.
Let them laugh and lose respect for them because of it...you have to be the one who distances yourself and rather shows them over and over again that you find their behavior weak and unacceptable...don‘t fee like you have to go back into your shell and let them do what they want...it‘s practice but you got this...you walk into the room and expect respect and whoever doesn’t give it to you, you won‘t respect back
Wenzes thanks - I’ll try 😊😍
This is the story of my life as of right now. I finally had the infj doorslam with my mother and I was completely amazed at the amount of wrath that etched off my being. I'm in school right now for I.T. but I've decided that I need to go back to bartending and move out asap. I really don't have anywhere to go right now and I'm driving myself crazy being anxious about how the next month is gonna go. I'd hate to call my mom ignorant to her face because it leads down a rabbit hole of trouble and if I let my guard down and actually be myself its just another rabbit hole. It's affecting my work life tremendously and I'm sick of it. In the end her pain always seems to outweigh logic and problem solving
It‘s a hard road to take on but you got this 👍
Preyed on being loners and too aloof maybe but sensitive to criticism is a drop in the ocean
Once again great 🙏 Thanks a lot, something that bothered me lately 🤔😍😍👌
When my online guy told me he was planning a flight from Houston to Russia which didn't include stopping to see me, I was livid! First it felt he undervalued me. I called him out on it. I have to express my feelings. I could have door slammed him. Or ghost him but I chose to tell him. Waiting for response.
What happened????
This is a hard decision. Thanks for the insight wenzy.
Thanks Wenzes, this couldn’t come at a better moment than this for me
Glad to read that 😊
I've tried it and it works 100%
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I don't accept and I just ignore and reject criticism. I accept and take feedback, correction, accountability, and tips. Criticism is useless to me. It is fine if you value it. I don't and I never will. I only value feedback, accountability, and tips that will give me broader perspectives to get better. Criticism focuses on the past and expects perfection while Feedback and Accountability focuses on the future and explains improvement without perfection pursuing. Just my thoughts.
Very good insight. Kudos!
Love this wenzes💥 Cheers!
This was very helpful. Thank you
My sister gave me advice to take care of my weight which I am but I got offended. I am INFJ-A. My sister is an ENFJ. How can I apologize to her? She said it kindly I took it badly.😢
Very good video, clear, thankyou
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Super awesome Wenzes!! thanks again for this!
Glad you liked it 👍😊
When I was 16 in 2011 when I get inside the transport fans community in my country, which was mostly orientated in one online forum at that time, I was a complete beginner and this didnt stay hidden for too long. There were a people there who always criticized the new members for bad transport vehicles photos but they didnt want to do anything more. I telling you your photos are garbage, watch what the others do and things like that which was not an offer for me. I percive things differently so for me it's not that easy to just watch what other people do and do the same. I am an INFJ and just can't stand doing things like the others, I want to find my own way, my own path, when I deside to devote myself in something I take it very personal and I don't want to be a voiceless letter in the mainstream ocean. This way of criticizing is not constructive for me but it's also a bad idea to say to that kind of people well help me if you can, they don't wont to envolve themselfs in such actions. To do critics like those looks like a matter of ego boosting for me and I'll never do that no matter my knowledge and the years of experience. To explain yourself to people like this is equally to allow yourself to be bullied.
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Even though your advice did make some sense and was easy to understand, i still don't believe in constructive criticism because criticism does only highlight your flaws and doesn't give you tips and tricks to improve strengths. Accountability and Feedback are different from criticism in my opinion because they are actual correction and instruction to help me find a better game plan to improve myself without being scared to fail. I understand that Kobe used negativity as fuel at the same time, not every human being uses negativity as fuel and it is ok. I don't listen to and I ignore criticism and negativity. I listen to and value feedback, accountability, instruction, advice, tips, and rules because they teach me to get out of my comfort zone. Criticism doesn't do that to me. If you disagree and deny what I just said, that is totally fine. You have your opinion on criticism and I have mine. I think constructive criticism does not exist while constructive feedback or constructive accountability exists for me. Accountability and Feedback are different from Criticism in my opinion. Not trying to get back at you. Just giving my thoughts. Criticism is only constructive to the person providing it but at the same time, it may be useless, invalid, wrong, controlling, and bad towards the person who is receiving it. Just my thoughts
Interesting video! :)
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This black lives matter has caused such a division with my Millennial son's that it's ridiculous! I am trying to communicate to them that all my life I have treated individuals equally to the best of my ability. And that I have to remain calm during this storm that is going on in the media and that I cannot engage in this at this time. So one son has ghosted me. He just will not understand that his mother who's 30 years older than him needs time to disengage from all of this. I cannot engage in this sort of rhetoric at this time in my life. When I was younger I was all about it. I was an advocate for everyone. But at this time, I am holding my own. And what he doesn't realize is that I've even dated black men. And that is a whole nother chapter of this whole delusion that he has going on. So I find it daunting from my standpoint as a senior citizen to be engaged in this movement when I need to be calm for myself and my own demeanor.
Hey get a grip it’s not for one to fix one ok be creative please create something awesome that what we do don’t sell out
What motivates INFJs to be sensitive? Like why care so much whether or not you are liked or whether you are beautiful unicorns or pieces of shit. Just think in terms of actions and consequences. There is no right and wrong.
For example, yea the article you wrote might be viewed as shit by a person, so what? What is your goal? If you want that person to like it, then ask that person how to make it better. If not then ignore that person. No need to be crying over an opinion.