Nrog neb khub niam txiv tshiab no zoo siab. Neb ob tug txij nkawm yav tas dhau los tsim nyog qhov ntxeev siab rau neb neb thiaj sib tau. Love each other and have a wonderful life cherishing each other. I love it when women look pretty and love themselves first.❤
Ofc self care is important but I think in this story the husband need to understand that life is not going to always be like when he’s single anymore .. women have children, they’re body will not be the same anymore , they cook , they clean , they are extremely busy and exhausted.. maybe help your wife a bit so she have time to care for herself too ! All you do is think of yourself and your needs but don’t see the struggle your wife’s in!
It's a good lesson for you, lady, that even if you're married, we need to continue keeping yourself beautiful. It's call loving yourself. I feel bad that it takes your marriage to end before you realized this. The one good thing is you didn't take the cheater back. Great lesson learned.
I agreed! This lady makes it seems like it’s all the husbands fault. It’s pretty much 50/50. Just because you have kids or a family don’t stop pampering yourself . Don’t do it for someone just because. We lady gotta do it for us sometimes.
I’ve been married 22 years and I never let myself go. I always advise my friends to always look like his girlfriend and not his wife when you go out. Men are hypocrites, they say they like you the way you are but their eyes always check out the prettiest girl in the room.
Never let the spark ✨️ go out. Never stop dating each other no matter what age you are. Always remind each other how beautiful and handsome you both still are. A lot of women nowadays always make all kinds of excuses, but self-love and care are the most important things as women don't wait until it's too late. 20 years and still going strong always find time for yourself and him❤🙏
Good for you, sister. I'm so proud of you. You did everything right. You and your ex best friend did everything right and are loving and rightfully did all the right things. God bless. You're living a loving and happy life.
Yog kuv yeej agree tias peb ib feem pojniam hmoob yeej coj li koj hais! Peb yuav tau hloov yuav tsum los huas yus lub cev tu yus tus kheej tseev menyuam coob make time xwb yeej ua tau kawg! Txhob tos neej puas tag mam thim xav mam ua zoo nkauj mog ces lig dhau hloov tsis tau os nawb..
Thank you for the constant reminder that I do not need a friend in my life for the very reason like the back stabber in this story. I'm so sorry for the pain your husband and bff caused you. I feel your pain.
There are many snakes around. We've all been betrayed by these female serpents, but I would still like to believe that good women still exist to be my friends in need. Women should love and support each other, not fight for men like dogs for bones. I value my loyal friends, even though I've had dark traitors like the 🐕 in this story.
Your ex needed a reason to cheat and... so he picked the easiest/shallow reason for it. You should not blame yourself for his actions. Good for you for choosing self-love over societal pressure. If anything, thank your ex for making you realize that sooner rather than later.
We have to remember that your husband liked you the way you were when he married you and so you shouldn’t change. Yes, we aged and have children and our body changed but maintained your looks as closed to when he met you. After 25 years of marriage, I exercised to maintain my figure and groom myself as I’m still single. Don’t let yourself go. Go out on dates and keep the sweet words coming as that’s why he was attractive to you to begin with.
Sister. Nriav ib tug zoo li ko rau kuv thiab os. Lub neej no es kuv muaj txhua yam los tsuas raug cov niag yawg nrauj no dag xwb. Thov Vaj Tswv xa Ib tug zoo txiv los rau kuv thiab nawb
Self love and look beautiful everyday for yourself. Never forget about your own self worth. Plus don't neglect your body and soul, they need to be healthy to be most efficient.
Stop blaming yourself sister. If a man only want you when you are beautiful than he is not worth your love. We are human nobody is going to look young and beautiful forever! Of course you need to take care of yourself and look good too, but when your man expect you to look like miss universe every day that’s crazy!
Its sad that when a guy is brutally honest with a woman and tells her she needs to take care of herself she refuses to do so. But in the end, after hes already left her, she takes care of herself 🙄 Same the other way. Some guys are bums until their wife leavss and then they become the best husband ever to someone else.
Yog kawg. Twb back in the market lawm ces yuav tsum tu cev thiaj muaj tus tuaj yuav. Tamsi thaum tu tau ces hos khav theeb zog lawm hos tig los nyhoo tus ua zoo li nws thaum ub. She's been there before so she should judge all women.
Ironically pob niam Hmoob is very shy or maybe just my wife. Even after 23 years of marriage, she is shy and is not comfortable to exercise with me. I'm very active or try to be active with health and exercise as a lifestyle. My wife will sing at friends and family events and karaoke with our group of friends, but she is shy to karaoke with me alone. I used to love to go to the movies and tried to get her to come out on date nights, but she always said NO. We're not compatible in many ways, but she is a kind hearted person who is always willing to help both my family and her's. My wife is a hard working individual both inside our home and at work, especially taking care of our children and our home. No one is perfect, we can't be good at everything! Moral of the story is self love bc in the end only you can make yourself happy. If you're already not happy, even your spouse cannot make you happy.
This is why, after you're married, your only BFF are only your husband,, don't need no friends in your life, never trust no one..even sister..never trust...
Zaj no ces yog kiag li maiv puv hais lawm lau 😂😂❤... I'm like her though my husband is not good looking but he dare always look the other way and even have the audacity to ask my divorce cousin as sec. Wife 😢. I need to step up the game but its so hard and so much effort. I say if he loves u no matter if u pretty normal or ugly looking he will always ❤ u....
Great story! Yes just because you have a spouse doesn't mean you're dead. You still have to keep up and take care of yourself so your spouse feels great standing next to you. You are doing it for yourself not anyone else. Remember don't let yourself go otherwise you'll really be gone!
My husband is the opposite. He always whines why dress up and put on your face when everyone is married where we are going. I told him I’m not dressing up for them. I am dressing up for me. He complains but I know he loves it. I look scrubby just staying home though. 😆
Some people keep thinking that all men are like her husband, there are some men who are contempt with their wife even if she's not all made up. Nowadays women dont look down on those who dress up but look down on those who dont.
@@leelaiyah789 the lazy feeling is hard to knock off. I get it. I fight it all the time but that doesn’t mean I completely let myself go. I’ve gained weight from having kids but I still put the effort of putting my face on from time to time. Makes me feel better about myself and that’s all it matters. It’s for me and not for others. Plus, it does take time so hubby and kids will just have to wait until mama is done.
For most women, once they're married, they forget to take care of themselves. Because we're so busy taking care of our children, husband, family, and relatives. Catering and everything that we don't have the time to take care or do for ourselves. We forget to love ourselves. We let ourselves go. It's ok to love yourself and put yourself first. Do not lose yourself over a man. Do not put all your trust and love into a man who doesn't value you and can fall out of love with you once he's spent all your youth and used up all your kindness and love.
It's not about the beauty of someone that your spouse leaves. Even if you're the most beautiful woman out there, and your husband is a cheater, you will get cheated on no matter what. But yes, self care is important but it was not the reason why your husband cheated. If he wanted to make you pretty, he would have but he didn't. If he wanted you to wear something nice, he would had bought it for you. Do not blame yourself for his misery and karma.
A woman is beautiful because her man loves her. This means he helps her with kids, chores, and tell mom and pop to not expect their dil to work like a slave. Obviously, your man didn't do that.
Ua yam twg los raug thuam tas li os. Hmoob tsis sawm zoo li. Yus tus kheej thiaj paub tias yog qhov zoo los phem xwb. Txhob khe txog lwm tus txoj kev xav.
Some men are just selfish and have wondering eyes. You can’t take the blame for others lust and excuses to cheat. Some of the most beautiful women in the world gets cheated on. Your story only good part is that you married that back stabbing friend’s husband. Perfect ending.
Poj ruam txawm yog ruam li koj es lawv thiaj Tham koj niag txiv Los mas. Koj sim saib seb koj tus best friend twb ua zoo zoo nkauj es thiaj li Tham koj tus txiv ne. Qhov ntawv yog qhov cov niam tsev ntxub ntag ua zoo nkauj ces ua Los Tham luag tej txiv xwb Los mas.
Tsis yog kev ruam tsis yog kev hlub os peb cov poj niam tos muaj txiv es cia li tsis zoo nkauj lawm los vim peb tau txiv phem txiv tub nkeeg txiv pluag..Tsis pab yus tsis muaj nyiaj rau yus ua zoo nkauj tsis pab yus tu me tub me nyuam hos cov niag niam pog txiv yawg hmoob los lawv pay yus 5000k rau lawv niag tub xwb ces lawv xav kom yus ua txhua yam cuag nkaus lawv yuav yus los ua slave xwb yus ua zoo npaum cas los never enough for cov niam pog txiv yawg vum loj vum khawb..Yuav kom peb zoo nkauj tau ces muab hmoob lawv dab tso plig es peb mus yuav lwm haiv neeg peb thiaj zoo nkauj taus os.
Koj qhov idea rau neb sib yuav yog kawg nkaus rau tiam 21 no vim ua ntej ib nkawm hluas nkauj hluas nraug twg yuav sib sau ua lub neej nyob mus ib sim taus, nkawv yuav tsum tau nyob ua ke at least 3 lub xyoos tso. Qhov no yog ntsuas txoj kev ua neej haum thiab tsis sib haum nyob ua ke. Yog sib haum lawm ces nkawv lub neej yuav tsum haus xwb.
I agree. This is America, you become who you want to be, pretty or ugly, good shape or chubby, healthy or sickly. No body can force you to be who you don’t want to be. No niam pog can make a nyab nowadays to do what she doesn’t like to be.
Hmong men/women NEED to stop complaing and make pathetic excuses about their wives/husband being ugly if they dont even help each other. You both NEED to help take care of each other with healthy food, physical activities, stress and cooking and any other things.
cas nej muaj phooj ywg los ho ua rau nej lwj2 siab zoo li kv no tsis muaj 1 tug phooj ywg li kv nim nyuaj2 siab los twb tsis pom mus hais qhia leej twg nim xav2 kom muaj 1 tug zoo phooj ywg los xyov leej twg thiaj yuav kam ua yus phooj ywg ne
Its not that we don't know how to love ourselves its because there are stages in our life that comes before beauty. Beauty does not mean that you love yourself, dont be fool! Even if you are all made up doesn't you are better and he won't leave you. A cheater will always find an excuse. Yog zoo nkauj noj tau ces koj tus txiv yeej yuav niag pog ntawv lawm, cas txawj ua zoo nkauj npaum ntawv hos mus tsis txog twg ma. You seemed to think that women who are tiktok looking is the way we should be txhob muab hlob li koj os maum nkais
You care too much about what people think and your way of thinking is so old school. Bottom line, Regardless if you’re a man of woman you shouldn’t let yourself go just because you get married. It’s too bad it took your husband to leave you to learn this lesson.
You are only at fault for not putting yourself first. You loved him too much that you didn’t take care of yourself. Lady, you should have married a different man instead of your friend’s ex. She will always come around because of their kids. Be careful because she might crawl back and be your niam yau. 😂
It's not being beautiful for someone. The first forth most beautiful should be YOU first....... Just be the best version of you, and the rest is history. For those haters, they will always be haters cause they're narcissistic manic who hate others who outshine them or do not have "the personality you possess," so all they can do is being hateful towards your 💯 😊❤!!!!
Your story is sad but it’s sadder when you take fault for husband’s cheating because you let yourself go. You are condoning his evil behavior. Once we married we become a wife, daughter in law, mother, etc. The husband should look at themselves, done gain weight, belly and let themselves go but we don’t complain and cheat on them. If a husband cheat it’s because he’s a txiv dev. He will never change unless he’s six feet under.
Come on....your ex hubby using beauty for excuses to cheat. If he truly love u....he would help u to make it time for to take care yourself. You do everything like a maid for him.....he treating u like a maid...not a wife. Hmong women need to stop being a maid to hmong men. Kev zoo nkauj yuav tsum yog koj tus hlub koj thiab koj pob. Neb pojniam tsuas pom ua txiv qhev nkaus nkaus xwb. Peb pojniam hmoob yuav tau tseg lub maim tiam txiv tsias li huab tais.
The moral of this story is don’t have best friend bc they’ll end up riding your man. Respect yourself and don’t ever let yourself go or love anyone else before you.
When you act like a slave, no one respects you. Should've made your husband earn his keep. Instead, you became his slave and forgot about yourself. Of course he's going to have an excuse for being a 🐕. If it was bc you're not pretty, he'd go for any pretty woman, but he went for your friend. He's just a 🐕. It's not you. Also, being good to yourself means not having 5 kids, 10 kids, etc. How can anyone not lose their shape or put on make-up with that many kids to raise? No one can do it unless the husband also contributes 50%. Your ex seems like a loser who was just another baby for you to diaper but he still has the audacity to complain that you dont know how to put on makeup and clothes. Many Hmong men do this to their wives. Don't take their shenanigans. Force them to be true partners, including diapering, cooking, cleanjng, etc. Then, they wont have extra time to fool around or look at other women. That was your mistake. You served him too well. But i would never go for my friend's ex; unless it's bc she died and i also do love him. In your circumstance, no way! Hope you don't live to regret this move. Otherwise, you just opened the door for your snakey friend to bite you again--she'll come back to entice him, I guarantee it. And, he may just take the bait bc he's always had the hots for her. Good luck.
Well.. if only his ass comes home and takes care of the kids, so you can have down time for yourself as well. But he's ass. All he wanted was to stay in the streets. That's how he ended up with your bff whose also like him.
Stop taking the blame for his cheating ways..his excuse of you not being beautiful is just another lame excuse..it's called double standards..stop making excuses..it's a choice to cheat and a choice to say honey let me take some of the burden so you will have time to be beautiful also..
Nrog neb khub niam txiv tshiab no zoo siab. Neb ob tug txij nkawm yav tas dhau los tsim nyog qhov ntxeev siab rau neb neb thiaj sib tau. Love each other and have a wonderful life cherishing each other.
I love it when women look pretty and love themselves first.❤
Love yourself enough to take care of yourself for yourself, no one else! ❤
It’s not about being beautiful for the partner or not. If he choose to cheat. He will do it even if you are beautiful.
It’s not about staying pretty so men don’t dump, it’s about loving yourself so even if getting dumped won’t hit you so hard.
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@@ThePrincessWorriorAgreed!
Ofc self care is important but I think in this story the husband need to understand that life is not going to always be like when he’s single anymore .. women have children, they’re body will not be the same anymore , they cook , they clean , they are extremely busy and exhausted.. maybe help your wife a bit so she have time to care for herself too ! All you do is think of yourself and your needs but don’t see the struggle your wife’s in!
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Exactly! In addition, if he wants her to b glamorous, he needs to fork out that $ & time for her to go to salon, gym, shopping, makeup, etc.
It's a good lesson for you, lady, that even if you're married, we need to continue keeping yourself beautiful. It's call loving yourself. I feel bad that it takes your marriage to end before you realized this. The one good thing is you didn't take the cheater back. Great lesson learned.
I agreed!
This lady makes it seems like it’s all the husbands fault.
It’s pretty much 50/50. Just because you have kids or a family don’t stop pampering yourself . Don’t do it for someone just because. We lady gotta do it for us sometimes.
Zoo heev li o vibncaus
I’ve been married 22 years and I never let myself go. I always advise my friends to always look like his girlfriend and not his wife when you go out. Men are hypocrites, they say they like you the way you are but their eyes always check out the prettiest girl in the room.
True! I’m the same way. It doesn’t take long to dulled up.
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Agreement
I always told the hubby: there are only 2 things that can make a man turns his head around: pretty women and cars😂
I agree
Me viv ncaus aw koj ua yog lawm mog, vim qub neeg qub siab, koj ua yog lawm nrauj tseem koj tseem hluas thiaj tsis feel sorry rau yav laus mog ❤
Never let the spark ✨️ go out. Never stop dating each other no matter what age you are. Always remind each other how beautiful and handsome you both still are. A lot of women nowadays always make all kinds of excuses, but self-love and care are the most important things as women don't wait until it's too late. 20 years and still going strong always find time for yourself and him❤🙏
Zoo hv o555 raug siab tiag2
Neb ma ua yog tshaj plaw lis os nrog neb zoo2 siab kawg li os ua li neb ma thiaj li pauj tau nkawv ov
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Love this story
Good for you, sister. I'm so proud of you. You did everything right. You and your ex best friend did everything right and are loving and rightfully did all the right things. God bless. You're living a loving and happy life.
Kuv nrog neb zoo siab tias neb pauj tau kev chim siab lawm thov kom.neb sib sib hlub nawb mog thov qhuas neb
Ua neeg zoo ces tau qhov zoo. You must always love yourself first. And yes! Men are visual people. Most men like a beautiful woman
Yog kuv yeej agree tias peb ib feem pojniam hmoob yeej coj li koj hais! Peb yuav tau hloov yuav tsum los huas yus lub cev tu yus tus kheej tseev menyuam coob make time xwb yeej ua tau kawg! Txhob tos neej puas tag mam thim xav mam ua zoo nkauj mog ces lig dhau hloov tsis tau os nawb..
Thank you for the constant reminder that I do not need a friend in my life for the very reason like the back stabber in this story. I'm so sorry for the pain your husband and bff caused you. I feel your pain.
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There are many snakes around. We've all been betrayed by these female serpents, but I would still like to believe that good women still exist to be my friends in need. Women should love and support each other, not fight for men like dogs for bones. I value my loyal friends, even though I've had dark traitors like the 🐕 in this story.
koj nyiam dab tsis koj sau nyiaj mu yuav dab tsi ho kuv nyiam khaw nyiaj dab tsi kuv tsi muaj💪
Wow.....nrog neb zoo siab os....pauj tau kiag neb txoj kev es nkawv ua khib neb los yom
Nrauj txiv tag mam nco ua zoo nkauj lis kawg li so
By the way who care about what others said but care about who you & I meant to be❤️❤️!
Your ex needed a reason to cheat and... so he picked the easiest/shallow reason for it. You should not blame yourself for his actions. Good for you for choosing self-love over societal pressure. If anything, thank your ex for making you realize that sooner rather than later.
Agreed. When guys cheat, they’ll use any excuse to justify their cheating.
She's helping excuse him, telling us to be instagram model to keep our man. Forget your kids, houses and work just be a hot niam dev.
What a comeback...bravo.
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We have to remember that your husband liked you the way you were when he married you and so you shouldn’t change. Yes, we aged and have children and our body changed but maintained your looks as closed to when he met you. After 25 years of marriage, I exercised to maintain my figure and groom myself as I’m still single. Don’t let yourself go. Go out on dates and keep the sweet words coming as that’s why he was attractive to you to begin with.
Sister. Nriav ib tug zoo li ko rau kuv thiab os. Lub neej no es kuv muaj txhua yam los tsuas raug cov niag yawg nrauj no dag xwb. Thov Vaj Tswv xa Ib tug zoo txiv los rau kuv thiab nawb
Thov kom kj tsib tu zoo nawb yog yu zoo lm ce ntuj yeej yv tso tu zoo rau yu xwb ❤❤❤
Women need to love themselves more than their spouse.
Txoj kev zoo nkauj zoo nraug wouldn't last forever. A loving heart would last a life time.
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Self love and look beautiful everyday for yourself. Never forget about your own self worth. Plus don't neglect your body and soul, they need to be healthy to be most efficient.
Stop blaming yourself sister. If a man only want you when you are beautiful than he is not worth your love. We are human nobody is going to look young and beautiful forever! Of course you need to take care of yourself and look good too, but when your man expect you to look like miss universe every day that’s crazy!
Its sad that when a guy is brutally honest with a woman and tells her she needs to take care of herself she refuses to do so. But in the end, after hes already left her, she takes care of herself 🙄
Same the other way. Some guys are bums until their wife leavss and then they become the best husband ever to someone else.
Txiv neej thaum lawv muaj dua tu tshiab lawv yeej pom koj tsi zoo nkauj lawm
Los ua poj nrauj mam ua zoo nkauj vim yuav los dib txhua tus txiv neej xwb, yog cov ib txwm ua zoo nkauj ces yuav txawv thiab
Yog kawg. Twb back in the market lawm ces yuav tsum tu cev thiaj muaj tus tuaj yuav. Tamsi thaum tu tau ces hos khav theeb zog lawm hos tig los nyhoo tus ua zoo li nws thaum ub. She's been there before so she should judge all women.
Ironically pob niam Hmoob is very shy or maybe just my wife. Even after 23 years of marriage, she is shy and is not comfortable to exercise with me. I'm very active or try to be active with health and exercise as a lifestyle. My wife will sing at friends and family events and karaoke with our group of friends, but she is shy to karaoke with me alone. I used to love to go to the movies and tried to get her to come out on date nights, but she always said NO. We're not compatible in many ways, but she is a kind hearted person who is always willing to help both my family and her's. My wife is a hard working individual both inside our home and at work, especially taking care of our children and our home. No one is perfect, we can't be good at everything! Moral of the story is self love bc in the end only you can make yourself happy. If you're already not happy, even your spouse cannot make you happy.
Txoj kev zoo nkauj zoo nraug tsis nyob mus in ntxhi. Txoj kev zoo nkauj yog lub siab zoo. Tus hlub koj tiag lawm nws yeej tsis hloov siab vim txoj kev tsis tu cev. Koj tus txiv yeej tsis hlub koj tiag, nws yuav koj raws txoj kev zoo nkaug thaum pib ces kawg hloov siab thaum koj tsis tu cev lawm
This is why, after you're married, your only BFF are only your husband,, don't need no friends in your life, never trust no one..even sister..never trust...
Ua neeg nyob, yus yuav tau zoo siab rau qhov yus muaj. Zoo siab rau yam uas yus tau. Ua ntej koj pheej xav tias koj yog tus neeg zoo xwb, koj tus txij tus nkawm yog tus neeg tsis zoo. Tab sis koj yuav tau nco ntsoov tias txhua yam nyob ntawm koj es koj tsis take care nws es nws yeej yuav tsis zoo.
Tshaj plaws muab txhua yam piv rau koj lub tsheb brand new, yog tias koj tsis maintenance nws, koj tsis hloov oil ces lub engine yeej kawg tawg puas mus. Yog li tus neeg ces nws yeej yuav puas yooj yim Tshaj koj lub tsheb.
Zaj no ces yog kiag li maiv puv hais lawm lau 😂😂❤... I'm like her though my husband is not good looking but he dare always look the other way and even have the audacity to ask my divorce cousin as sec. Wife 😢. I need to step up the game but its so hard and so much effort. I say if he loves u no matter if u pretty normal or ugly looking he will always ❤ u....
Great story! Yes just because you have a spouse doesn't mean you're dead. You still have to keep up and take care of yourself so your spouse feels great standing next to you. You are doing it for yourself not anyone else. Remember don't let yourself go otherwise you'll really be gone!
Tiam no txiv neej nyiam li maiv puv hais lawm xwb na.
My husband is the opposite. He always whines why dress up and put on your face when everyone is married where we are going. I told him I’m not dressing up for them. I am dressing up for me. He complains but I know he loves it. I look scrubby just staying home though. 😆
It’s a lie… he just want you to look ugly so no guy look and want you but he will do it
Some people keep thinking that all men are like her husband, there are some men who are contempt with their wife even if she's not all made up. Nowadays women dont look down on those who dress up but look down on those who dont.
@@leelaiyah789 the lazy feeling is hard to knock off. I get it. I fight it all the time but that doesn’t mean I completely let myself go. I’ve gained weight from having kids but I still put the effort of putting my face on from time to time. Makes me feel better about myself and that’s all it matters. It’s for me and not for others. Plus, it does take time so hubby and kids will just have to wait until mama is done.
For most women, once they're married, they forget to take care of themselves. Because we're so busy taking care of our children, husband, family, and relatives. Catering and everything that we don't have the time to take care or do for ourselves. We forget to love ourselves. We let ourselves go.
It's ok to love yourself and put yourself first. Do not lose yourself over a man. Do not put all your trust and love into a man who doesn't value you and can fall out of love with you once he's spent all your youth and used up all your kindness and love.
Grass is not greener on the other side . You just have water your grass .
It's not about the beauty of someone that your spouse leaves. Even if you're the most beautiful woman out there, and your husband is a cheater, you will get cheated on no matter what. But yes, self care is important but it was not the reason why your husband cheated. If he wanted to make you pretty, he would have but he didn't. If he wanted you to wear something nice, he would had bought it for you. Do not blame yourself for his misery and karma.
Tus txiv neeg twg hlub nws tus poj niam ces nws tus poj niam yuav rog yuag phem nkauj muaj mob li cas los nws yeej hlub. Yog ib tug txiv neej twg nws tsuas hlub nws tus poj niam thawm hluas zoo nkauj thiab tseem taus taus xwb ces nws txoj kev hlub tsuas yog ib vuag dua xwb. Nws hlub thawm zoo xwb thawm tsis zoo lawm ces nws hloov siab no ma nws hos xav li cas yog tias nws tus poj niam hlub thiab xav yuav nws thawm nws zoo xwb thiab na. Thawm nws laus tsis zoo nraug ua tsis tau txiv neej lawm no nws tus poj niam hos hloov siab mus tham lwm tus txiv neej no nws puas yuav taus thiab. Peb ua neeg nyob yus yuav tsum xav ntawm yus tso yus mam ua rau luag.
A woman is beautiful because her man loves her. This means he helps her with kids, chores, and tell mom and pop to not expect their dil to work like a slave. Obviously, your man didn't do that.
Never lose yourself.
Koj nem hais li uas peb cov poj noam thiaj li txawj laus xwb naj…..cov noag txiv neej ntawd lawv twb laus lawm thiab ne!!!! Peb mas peb laus los peb tsis sib tshuaj tawv ntsuj peb yeej tseem pw tau nrog lawv ov!!! Lawv li mas siv tshuaj tawv ntsuj kom plawv tuag kiag tas li xwb
You’ve both been cheated on and hurt. It’s good you made a decision to pull together and made a strong family.
Ua yam twg los raug thuam tas li os. Hmoob tsis sawm zoo li. Yus tus kheej thiaj paub tias yog qhov zoo los phem xwb. Txhob khe txog lwm tus txoj kev xav.
Nrauj txiv tag ma zoo nkauj no pob
Vim muaj tus txiv thiaj txawj zoo nkauj tuaj! Yuav tau ua tus txiv tsaug!
An other selfish man story…, peb cov vicncaus tu peb tu-kheej kom zoo, cia kom cov txivneej no khib peb es lawv thiaj li tsis mus ua lub el cheater….
great job sister. never go marry a family that have too many friends because you work too hard
Some men are just selfish and have wondering eyes. You can’t take the blame for others lust and excuses to cheat. Some of the most beautiful women in the world gets cheated on. Your story only good part is that you married that back stabbing friend’s husband. Perfect ending.
Poj ruam txawm yog ruam li koj es lawv thiaj Tham koj niag txiv Los mas. Koj sim saib seb koj tus best friend twb ua zoo zoo nkauj es thiaj li Tham koj tus txiv ne. Qhov ntawv yog qhov cov niam tsev ntxub ntag ua zoo nkauj ces ua Los Tham luag tej txiv xwb Los mas.
Your husband didn’t see you pretty anymore bc he had someone else.
Tsis yog kev ruam tsis yog kev hlub os peb cov poj niam tos muaj txiv es cia li tsis zoo nkauj lawm los vim peb tau txiv phem txiv tub nkeeg txiv pluag..Tsis pab yus tsis muaj nyiaj rau yus ua zoo nkauj tsis pab yus tu me tub me nyuam hos cov niag niam pog txiv yawg hmoob los lawv pay yus 5000k rau lawv niag tub xwb ces lawv xav kom yus ua txhua yam cuag nkaus lawv yuav yus los ua slave xwb yus ua zoo npaum cas los never enough for cov niam pog txiv yawg vum loj vum khawb..Yuav kom peb zoo nkauj tau ces muab hmoob lawv dab tso plig es peb mus yuav lwm haiv neeg peb thiaj zoo nkauj taus os.
Koj qhov idea rau neb sib yuav yog kawg nkaus rau tiam 21 no vim ua ntej ib nkawm hluas nkauj hluas nraug twg yuav sib sau ua lub neej nyob mus ib sim taus, nkawv yuav tsum tau nyob ua ke at least 3 lub xyoos tso. Qhov no yog ntsuas txoj kev ua neej haum thiab tsis sib haum nyob ua ke. Yog sib haum lawm ces nkawv lub neej yuav tsum haus xwb.
Txhob blame niam pog txiv yawg rau koj qhov tsis muaj sij hawm ua zoo nkauj. Lawv yeej tsis khoo koj 24 xuaj moos
LOL. My niam pog always complain about how I always dolled up for everything. She hates it.
I agree. This is America, you become who you want to be, pretty or ugly, good shape or chubby, healthy or sickly. No body can force you to be who you don’t want to be. No niam pog can make a nyab nowadays to do what she doesn’t like to be.
😂😂 she’s right on point about Hmong ladies.🤣
Poj nrauj Toyota Honda Supra lawm ntag laiv zaum no nas.
Great story, great lesson. Thank you, and thanks for reminding us to care for ourselves. It's not to look good for HIM. It's for OURSELVES.
It's not bcuz u weren't "pretty"..ur ex was a dog so he used that as an excuse. Lol
Hmong men/women NEED to stop complaing and make pathetic excuses about their wives/husband being ugly if they dont even help each other. You both NEED to help take care of each other with healthy food, physical activities, stress and cooking and any other things.
cas nej muaj phooj ywg los ho ua rau nej lwj2 siab zoo li kv no tsis muaj 1 tug phooj ywg li kv nim nyuaj2 siab los twb tsis pom mus hais qhia leej twg nim xav2 kom muaj 1 tug zoo phooj ywg los xyov leej twg thiaj yuav kam ua yus phooj ywg ne
Its not that we don't know how to love ourselves its because there are stages in our life that comes before beauty. Beauty does not mean that you love yourself, dont be fool! Even if you are all made up doesn't you are better and he won't leave you. A cheater will always find an excuse. Yog zoo nkauj noj tau ces koj tus txiv yeej yuav niag pog ntawv lawm, cas txawj ua zoo nkauj npaum ntawv hos mus tsis txog twg ma. You seemed to think that women who are tiktok looking is the way we should be txhob muab hlob li koj os maum nkais
You care too much about what people think and your way of thinking is so old school.
Bottom line, Regardless if you’re a man of woman you shouldn’t let yourself go just because you get married.
It’s too bad it took your husband to leave you to learn this lesson.
Not ur fault
It ur husband fault
No matter
You are only at fault for not putting yourself first. You loved him too much that you didn’t take care of yourself. Lady, you should have married a different man instead of your friend’s ex. She will always come around because of their kids. Be careful because she might crawl back and be your niam yau. 😂
It's not being beautiful for someone. The first forth most beautiful should be YOU first....... Just be the best version of you, and the rest is history. For those haters, they will always be haters cause they're narcissistic manic who hate others who outshine them or do not have "the personality you possess," so all they can do is being hateful towards your 💯 😊❤!!!!
Muab qhov nyiaj seem mus yuav khaub nsaws xwb hos
Tus niam tsev aw cas koj tsis ua thaum lub neej tsis tau puas na, lub neej twb puas tag lawm koj mam ho los ua na, nyob twj ywm li qub xwb zoo dua os
Your story is sad but it’s sadder when you take fault for husband’s cheating because you let yourself go. You are condoning his evil behavior. Once we married we become a wife, daughter in law, mother, etc. The husband should look at themselves, done gain weight, belly and let themselves go but we don’t complain and cheat on them. If a husband cheat it’s because he’s a txiv dev. He will never change unless he’s six feet under.
Li ko es peb ua zoo nkauj los kuj muaj tus xyaum hos ho musj ib txhia ces ho cem 😂 yus los mas
I'm very confused???? How do you know to drive straight to your hubby's new house.
this narrator is at FAULT 100% at the beginning that’s why her husband cheated.
Yeah she spoiled her husband too much lol... men like pojniam Liam only. Pahaha
Come on....your ex hubby using beauty for excuses to cheat. If he truly love u....he would help u to make it time for to take care yourself. You do everything like a maid for him.....he treating u like a maid...not a wife. Hmong women need to stop being a maid to hmong men. Kev zoo nkauj yuav tsum yog koj tus hlub koj thiab koj pob. Neb pojniam tsuas pom ua txiv qhev nkaus nkaus xwb. Peb pojniam hmoob yuav tau tseg lub maim tiam txiv tsias li huab tais.
Well, I’m a whale and a slob now. Please, some women are not like that, I don’t even want my husband to breathe my way.
Goddamm..12 kids oh lord lol
That is why she has no time to take care of herself. Thank goodness I only have 2 kids!
She has 6; 5 she birthed and 1 she married in 😂
The didn’t make time for prettiness, she made time to mother everyone else.
Ntuj aw ntuj aw! Zoo nkauj?? Don't make me laugh...
The moral of this story is don’t have best friend bc they’ll end up riding your man. Respect yourself and don’t ever let yourself go or love anyone else before you.
😂yes yes
hmoob eat too much
This is why u shouldnt have a best friend. Kudos to u for letting ur txiv dev liam go. Enjoy ur new life & new found freedom.
You gonna come on live and tell a boring story please don’t your wasting a lot of my time and battery
Um yea
When you act like a slave, no one respects you. Should've made your husband earn his keep. Instead, you became his slave and forgot about yourself. Of course he's going to have an excuse for being a 🐕. If it was bc you're not pretty, he'd go for any pretty woman, but he went for your friend. He's just a 🐕. It's not you. Also, being good to yourself means not having 5 kids, 10 kids, etc. How can anyone not lose their shape or put on make-up with that many kids to raise? No one can do it unless the husband also contributes 50%. Your ex seems like a loser who was just another baby for you to diaper but he still has the audacity to complain that you dont know how to put on makeup and clothes. Many Hmong men do this to their wives. Don't take their shenanigans. Force them to be true partners, including diapering, cooking, cleanjng, etc. Then, they wont have extra time to fool around or look at other women. That was your mistake. You served him too well. But i would never go for my friend's ex; unless it's bc she died and i also do love him. In your circumstance, no way! Hope you don't live to regret this move. Otherwise, you just opened the door for your snakey friend to bite you again--she'll come back to entice him, I guarantee it. And, he may just take the bait bc he's always had the hots for her. Good luck.
Well.. if only his ass comes home and takes care of the kids, so you can have down time for yourself as well. But he's ass. All he wanted was to stay in the streets. That's how he ended up with your bff whose also like him.
Stop taking the blame for his cheating ways..his excuse of you not being beautiful is just another lame excuse..it's called double standards..stop making excuses..it's a choice to cheat and a choice to say honey let me take some of the burden so you will have time to be beautiful also..