EXCLUSIVE: "He's killing me now, this child" - Mother opens up about Thabo Bester’s deeds
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- After the announcement of the escape of Thabo Bester from the Mangaung Correctional Centre, Eyewitness News reporters Orrin Singh and Katlego Jiyane went out and located his mother for an exclusive interview. Bester's mother, Maria Mabaso, on Wednesday revealed that she had been in a state of depression following the news that her son is one of South Africa’s most wanted. Mabaso said that the last time she saw her son, who is her eldest of four children, was when he was convicted of fraud in Wynberg in 2004.
#thabobester
Trauma & childhood neglect could be the reason but it can never be an excuse!
These things cut deep you fool!
It's easy for you to judge because you were not a product of rape and were never rejected by your mother.
@@selebogosegatlaka4190 Precisely!
@@selebogosegatlaka4190 wait are we defending rape now?
My thing is let's nt bring it up cz there are many ppl who have been through alot growing up bt turned up ok.
Clearly this is a brilliant man and he knows wrong from right, so why is it even up for discussion?
This mother needs protection and these interviews need to stop 😢
exactly. they exploiting these people to keep they ratings up.
I believe so too. She needs to be protected. She could be killed 😢
I agree.
Very true
Exactly
I feel for this poor women. Life has been hard for her.
Even if u face trauma u don't have to rape and kill people
Ja
Protect this woman please, you can't just put her out there without protecting her. She has spoken and told you what she knows, now please also return the favor by protecting her. 🙏🙏
Amen. This woman needs to go into witness protection.
@@chaddychampu6551 Can we eve trust South Africas so called wittness protection ?😢
The lady speaks well English at least we can all understand what she is saying
Yes
What language do you speak 😮
Always pray for your children, Pray for your children. Prayer will fight battles for them even when you are no longer there❤
Very true
Amen on that 😢
If they allowed her to speak her language she could have explained everything clearly from start to finish. This is so sad I feel for his sister as well ai Thabo le Nandipha maar
I agree
Amen!!!
Akere she was being interviewed by an Indian it was convenient for HIM for her to use English
True. She would've given more details and more clarity, cause there's no doubt she was willing to tell it all.
Truce serious
They need to put her in witness protection!
@Bands M dunno 🤷🏿♀️ I’m in 🇺🇸
How they never sent a Setswana speaking journalist so this woman can express herself🤦♀️
They want fame..they don’t care about this lady
Eish ......that's how it should be. Interview her in a language she's comfortable in
Y’all tripping.She sounds perfect
Journalism 101... make the interviewee comfortable. Let them speak in a language they are comfortable in. If you don't understand the language, either get a translator or an interviewer who speaks their language. This way, the interviewee will answer your questions without confusion.
Also, a little compassion would have gone a long way. It was straight shoot, question and answer....
I think it came across as cold and direct because of the language. Yes, they should have either sent someone who speaks her language or get a translator.
Very important
But she was answering questions correctly we heard everything and understood her, unless if you wanted to speak like Queen Elizabeth
@@cryptonews4879 she was having some difficulty fully expressing herself
This woman's whole life story is extremely heartbreaking.
I'm not surprised Bester turned out the way he did, I'm not condoning his actions but society failed both him and his mother. Like so many others in South Africa.
True . How many of the guys in prison are a product of rape and they turned out to be rapists ?😢
I agree with you 100%...Heartbreaking indeed!!! By the way this is the sad reality facing many poor Black families...no answers in family, no answers in church and no answers in communities!!! Lord have mercy! Heal our Nation!!!
@@elizm I hear you...but people are different. Even 5 children from same parents turn out differently...thats how life is. Yes people make choices so they still need to take responsibility but we are acknowledging the pain and anger that our Black men carry.
True hey. And what's sad, our people hardly believe in therapy. As he could do therapy from a young age when it was noticed he's being "naughty" as they put it
I agree with you 💯. Sadly our country is not ready for this reality, yes broken upbringing does not justify his actions, but we cannot ignore that it is a breeding ground for individuals to end up otherwise.
"He is my child, and I will not throw him away."
That's love right there.
EWN should be ashamed for insisting on doing the interview in English while the lady is struggling to express herself
they shuldnt have done the interview to begin with, this is exploitative
It’s going to hurt him and potential push him further. God forbid he does something to his mom to silence her 💔
@@theonlinesource silence her when she doesnt know thabo herself, hamva uthi she only sees him om tv, last time she saw him was probably when he was arrested for the first time and they went to sign him out, probably was still underage
Her English is understandable. Not bad at all really. There is another interview where it is said she is speaking Zulu. Not sure as her name is apparently Sotho.
@@thetopg921 angithi she said someone called her and told her she messed things up by doing that dna test
The amount of bad things that Thabo did, makes me to highly wonder what sort of trauma he may have faced as a child. She left him at the age of 1 and never saw him again until he was being arrested. This boy did alot of mess and I do not condone it, but this boy has gone through alot of trauma. Imagine now him growing up being told that he is a child from rape, he ends up in the streets at an early age::: there is alot he faced as a child in the streets. Generational curses are the worst thing one could be born in, his father raped her and and only one could imagine what he was capable of and now the child. SHU as blacks there's so much to learn of mental health and generational curse.
Maybe he was told he was conceived from rape and that made him bitter. But he should rather be bitter towards men , not women. Maybe his bitterness towards women was probed by the fact that her mother abandoned him and the granny because of the sour relationship between her and her daughter made her to always remind him that he is a product of rape. Or maybe rape is hereditary, that cannot be an excuse .
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I got scared for his childhood .eish at 1 year there was so much happening .hey this world so
@@faithndandani plenty of other kids went through the same thing but ain't murderers and rapists
Thabo said he was raped as a Child
So they couldn't get a SeTswana or IsiZulu speaker for this interview...?
You cannot criticize her because she cannot speak English well because English is not her mother tongue but you understand what she's saying.
Her English is not bad at all for second language. Understandable.
Not bad at all, we can hear clearly what she's saying.
Iyonanto endaba nayo i English kahle mlungu omyama
The lady is speaking English, like wtf, leave her alone!!
she is stressed 😢
Just listening to the mom I am sure the whole country understands how Thabo became Thabo- I understand her story and it is heartbreaking- The child lived the trauma as well and all he knows is causing pain since that is all he has known his entire life- What a tragic story
So sad
Eish, it's so sad that probably more than 50% of us that will read your comment will also say we Understand this story.
Let's heal South Africa.
Sad but true
@@KM-nb2is q
I feel that is not an excuse
It sounds like after Thabo's grandmother's passing, Thabo 'raised' himself... a painful childhood he had. 💔
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There’s an article where he actually did mention that he was raised by his gran and when the gran died - he was raped by the gran’s partner
A street child upbringing May we pray for his soul
For me ,it sounds like ,even, his grandmother was still alive , he was also on the street ,doing nyaope . The culprits taught him how to sell drugs . And it shows that he was best in selling .
In the interview the mother of Thabo says ,she visited her mother to go check for her and Thabo.
Upon arrival, she couldn't find Thabo.
That shows that the grandmother also failed Thabo.
And the fact that he was raped in prison as juvenile 😢😢 now I feel for him
Early childhood development is so important.
Eish, I feel for this woman. Life of trauma, long suffering. Oh, Maria, it's too much! . Pain of being a mother.😢
Why do they interviewed her in a foreign language? This sucks. She could have explained herself better using her home language.
Amen!!!
We also want to understand.
I understood the English interview better than the Sotho one done by sabc
Bro she sounds just finee
It’s ok in English. We also want to understand. Her English is clear enough.
Why not interview her in her native language kodwa? Ngiyabuza nje?
..but she is clear, we understand all she is saying
😊
She held it UP
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Thabo behavior has got nothing to do with this woman. Dr. Nandipha was raised well by her parents and she was collaborating with Thabo 😢. That is generational curses, it has got nothing to do with her.
Omg...you are so right.....these are generational curses...you are right!!!
I think she was embarassed about Thabos looks since he was half black half Indian that's why she abondoned him, he was born in the 80s, those were the times when people were grouped in colour in SA and biracial people who lived among the natives or whites were bullied.
I agree, also probably didn’t tiptoe around the fact that he was a product of rape. It was probably used against him throughout his childhood
There is nothing to be ashamed of. Biracial kids are very cute, I wouldn’t care what people say or think. What matters is that your kid is your kid and you cannot care what others think.
@@Thee740 read my comment very very slow this time. In the 80s it was a taboo to have biracial children, even Trevor Noah said this in his books, they were bullied. I don't know old u are but any South African born in the 80s knows this
@@hlengiwemasondo2858 You are right it was taboo to have a biracial kid. In my community there is a guy who is half black half white and his mother used to shave all his hair and put hats on him so people won’t notice. Unfortunately this guy had blue eyes like his father probably and it was clear he has white genes. I know that but still I
Don’t understand why the mother be ashamed though. I would literally get very nasty to anyone saying things why my child cos he is biracial, period. I would defend my child and refuse to shave their head etc. people like Thabo ‘s mom are weak and succumb to social pressures….
She was raped by an Indian?
As wrong as he has done, he doesn’t deserve to hear his mother say she should’ve given him away. He probably grew up hearing this 💔 Heartbreaking. I hope he doesn’t do something worse after seeing this 💔 I don’t believe she wishes she gave him away, I think her being uneducated and not able to communicate her feelings effectively is the reason she says it as blatantly as this. Please protect this woman 🙏🏼
Oh my word! You are full of wisdom, aren't you ❤. I've read your other comment also 🙏🏾.
My mom is educated and weeeeeee that woman doesn’t know how to communicate her feelings.It’s not about education.Some times I wish I could swap her for another mother 😢😢😢
Her statement about her regrets not giving Thabo to a couple that made moves to adopt him is completely rational and understandable.
Maybe the trajectory of his life would have been different. She was limited in many ways but kept on with the other chilfdren. I pity her so much.
Maybe if you were faced with such situation as a parent, you would definitely wish and say such unawarely.
I'm not saying she's roght for what she has said but if my child would put me is such life somewhere somehow I would wish such could have happened.
He deserves it
Background , background, background always plays a huge role in a person's life. Hearing mama talks about her son like this, it breaks my heart. Thabo is a broken human being since he was born and these crimes that he is doing proves that, even prison is not going to fix him. He needs a long term therapy in fact the whole family needs that. by the look of things i don't see Thabo going back to his family ,its been a long time since he hasn't visited them. looking at the house you could tell that even the money he was making thru crime , he wasn't supporting his family. Its all balls down to backgrounds, parents, upbringing, values, morals etc. Only God who changes people that my only wish for Thabo.
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Now the great question is who is guilty??? If a strong psychologist can get involved, for sure the state mind of Thabo will be A psychologically and chronically unstable patient! Looking deep,it's a court case again most of family! Mother victim of Rap,son committing raps.....!!!which pychological transfer Thabo received from the mother when he was still an unborn baby??She hate how she got the child,she rejected that pregnancy from day one she realised she was pregnant!The grand mother tried to rescue the child but the damage was already done!the transformation was already finalised!The child inside is suffering from all that rejection then without knowing the father, he decided psychically to punish the society who left him without love,any one became his potential victim, the women must pay then he decided to punish all the mother material by rapping them and the woman Dr is so deep a manipulated victim, the man inside Bester is Best,creative..,able to anticipate,to create business and to generate money even in impossible conditions, his inside man can manipulate,can use and reject! This guy made millions from jails then most of us free outside....! This guy convinced a dr to be in love with him???Not even sure ? Bester is Best at what he can be!Maybe he found a mother in the Dr, the mother he never had all his life! Ignoring the psycho side of this case,this court will fail to save an jailed Soul! Amazing Thabo! Let the court save Thabo from himself!thanks!
Honestly I suspect he is being used by politicians, anything is possible.
I don't agree with you these alot of people who are born broken but grew themselves to being a good person every has a choice in life he chose to be a rapist and a murderer killing innocent people 😡my ex was born from a woman who was raped and toached but his a very loving caring man this busted doesn't even deserve jail but death penalty with his rubbish of a woman Nandipha 😡
@ mbali zobe you'll agree when read about the history of Mighty King Shaka
This is such a sad story 😭, now the mother is living in fear.
Thabo Bester, the gift that keeps on giving
Fear of what she should have raised him all this would not have happened
Wow! The trauma that people carry. And we say, "Oh, many people have been traumatized, but they don't go around killing." True, but people are not built the same. We don't carry the same capacity to to handle problems, otherwise we should be saying depressed people shouldn't be depressed and shouldn't get mental breakdowns because they are not the only ones having a hard time in life. We need to really be responsible as people, especially towards children, because you never know what a kind word can do to help a child growing in difficult circumstances. We must stop the adoption of these nasty western tendencies and remember that it takes a village. If you can give your neighbor food, do it. If you can afford to buy extra December clothes, do it for that neighbors child who doesn't have and stop wanting to live a life of outshining people. Because tomorrow the child grows to abuse our daughters, rob people and takes brown envelopes in exchange for this whole country then we wanna cry. But we neglected to help the child when they were young cause we were minding our own business.
It's very sad learning that that handsome young man who's throwing his life away is a result of rape. His family probably didn't have the right tools and support to deal with that trauma. You can imagine what it's then like for the child as well.
If children with privilege struggle with deadbeat fathers or absent fathers, how much more one who always must learn that they are a rape case and grow up maybe being reminded at home. Now, a child from rape grew to repeat the sins of his father. Tragic!
Maybe cases like these should be a reminder that we need to be kinder to people in our communities and not judge them. Let our words "give grace to those that hear them." We could save a life through just a word of affirmation, correction, or encouragement said to a child or mother/father going through a hard time or making bad choices earlier on in life.
This comment by no means attempts to absolved Thabo. He must face the consequences of his actions. But we should weep when we see so many lives wasted as a result of injustice upon injustice and consequent bad choices.
@Lesedi Yes, let us show kindness as a way of life. Agree 1000 %
Prison is designed for rehabilitation... That's where the problem begins and lies
Well said!!
Easy to say when they did not kill anyone closer to you
It's really a sad story 😔😔
and why does she have to speak english?Needed a native language interviewer for this!
She spoke well.
@@trinm.9326We heard her story nevertheless
This woman is just through so much, I cannot imagine the amount of stress, depression and trauma that she's going through.
Like when was the last time she genuinely relaxed and had a good laugh? is what I'm asking myself after hearing her story, only God knows.
Lord have mercy on her
This is heartbreaking. Thabo born from rape, he becomes a rapist. Oh Lord! Sometimes when people do certain things, we ask: "What's happened to you?" Thabo's story is a sad one. We are not making excuses for him but the way he was born should count for something. This woman is also going through the most.
The scary part is the mom says she was raped , he allegedly says he was raped by the person that came to circumsise him, he says he was raped in prison by a gang, he also allegedly says he was raped by family members then himself Tabo goes to become a rapist. This is such a sad story. Just shows the world is such a horrible place.
She is going through a lot ,and needs help
My heart goes out for his mom. I feel so sorry for her to go through this .
I think this poor woman needs to be protected by our government because her life is at risk now and she will be utilised as a state witness. She really need to be protected at this point. Our government must do something ASAP.
Forget it, she'll never be protected cause apparently politicians are involved I his so called escape. Plus I read somewhere that Thabo took the fall for 2 politicians' sons. Makes me think politicians are hoping something terrible happens to both thus woman and Thabo. # smh
I don't think she is a threat in the case. It would be pointless to kill her for the perpetrators in Thabo's escape. She has no information that implicates them. Her involvement will only make sense if there is interest in his upbringing leading to the crimes for a lighter sentence. Protecting her would be a waste of state resources.
But story was made up by him (Bester) as he was lying to the person who had caught him on a scam . He didn't take a fall for anyone . Remember he was raping people and he murdered a woman ... Not an organised crime where things blew up .
She can not be a state witness, since she was never part of the son's life since age 1. She has not witnessed anything. Thabo's girlfriend will turn state witness to save her own behind, when she snaps back to reality
The Government has failed us to a point where we do not know who to trust anymore because they have been letting us down so badly. In this situation, we, as South African citizens, are suffering to the greatest extent than anyone else in the world.
They should have asked her to speak Sesotho!
Exactly!
Amen!!!
Eya
Probably very good on Afrikaans too
Yah she could have expressed herself better. She is a good story teller.
No one is born a narcissist. Narcissism is a coping mechanism for deeply seated, usually childhood, trauma. Beneath the surface, a narcissist is a child that suffers a lack of love.
Agree .....
Not always others are just born like that
My ex-husband was a narcissistic and his mother and father did not love him. He was physically abusive and manipulative. He is dead and I still hate him
I still don't think ppl are born narcissist I think how we behave as parents in front of our kids it's how they will treat society and their loved ones pretty sad but true, I know someone who has good and bad behavior at the same time it is frustrating im telling u, usually they need to deal with their childhood traumas
She even forget about Thabo
In a case like that of Thabo's mother is sad because Thabo was conceived by rape and I can sense the pain in her voice and Thabo manje is causing people pain, Thabo should have never knew how he was conceived that can kill a child emotionally. It's a sad cycle of violence and pain. Mothers please hug your sons love on them comfort them and let them know they are loved. Let's love our boys
This breaks my heart, the pain we cause our parents is too much Maan😩. Uxolo sisi Maria. May God give u strength, please don't blame yourself for Thabos actions, it is not your fault mah🙏
Parents sometimes feel unnecessary guilt but most times you can teach them the best values but they make their own choices and pick their own friends. 😢
She wasn't the best mother
He neglected the boy, she must be blamed for Thabos behavior, you failed him mama.
You wanted her to be the best mother to a child she never wanted? She was raped, for f*cks sake!!!!!
Maybe she did neglect her but the grandmother took good care of the young Thabo.
If it was neglect I wouldn’t blame her @ all. The boy represented her humiliation -that traumatic *ape experience. She had 2 bear the shame of single motherhood 4rm a nameless male. Nine months of public scrutiny. Those days teenage pregnancy was frowned upon. She never got therapy 2 deal with her trauma.
She needed 2 4get & this boy was a constant reminder of her violation & shattered dreams. If she had a boyfriend -that rejection. No wonder she doesn’t have in4 abt his upbringing- her efforts 2 move on with life.
Despite the not being there physically- inimba- that cord-that connection never died away hence she had 2 go find his corpse & bury him- possibly an attempt 2 bury the decade long shame as well & maybe reclaim her innocence taken forcefully.
Struggles women encounter r rarely expressed.
They should’ve interviewed the lady in her mother tongue and add subtitles and as well as send a journalist that speaks the same language as her… shem this is heartbreaking
This is so painful 😢 I hope Thabo will change one day
This mother's story is disheartening and sad. She has gone through a lot. EWN should also be ashamed for not presenting her with dignity in this interview. They didn't even try, the caramen continued filming rather than help her button up, the top. What logic is it that they hide her face but then disclose her full names knowing well they may be putting her life in danger?
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Can someone in Mzanzi be Mama Thereza to take this poor woman to one of institutions for care really she's hurting.. 😭😭
This poor woman is telling as it is and l believe her story. This is so sad because she knows nothing of what Thabo Bester is doing right now. But now she has to bear this.
This is a very sad as much as Thabo is a victim of circumstances so is his mom. May the Almighty protect his mom
This woman is not owning up to her mistakes in raising the child. Such parents need help coz they focus only on their own pain. My mother was like this until she sadly met her death😭. Yes our fathers have put our mothers through unexplainable pain but nothing takes away the fact that as children we expect some level of love and protection from our mothers no matter how broken they may be. And where a mother has failed, acknowledging her part helps in the healing of the child. Thabo has raised himself, he needed to survive and proove that he CAN BE SOMEBODY despite all the rejection. I see myself in his life, only I didn't turn to crime but my social skills were strongly malnourished.
Even so she did try her best?
How come you never turned out to be like me
It always revolves around an absent father, so sad!
People must be to quick to judge this poor woman my brother and I raised ourselves we lived with our grandmother who was abusive towards us and we had to live by our selves when I was 8 years and my brother 11 because our mother had to work and provide for us we had to grow quickly and learn responsibility we didn't have any childhood at all but by the grace of God we turned out to be the best kids our mother can be proud of. Guys I went through the most have endured rape and abuse never went too counseling at all have a 14 year old whom I love and will do anything to protect. Sometimes black mother's have to sacrifice for the wellbeing of their children. But yet not condoning Thabo's action and he must account and use the time to become a better person.
This is true i also grew up without my parents and it was not easy for me but i learnd to be responsibility person
I agree with you
This story kills 😢😢me becouse the story of Thabo I can relate my mom was not raped but when she was pregnant with me my father dumped my mom there for my mom left me with my grandma at age of seven months there for my grandmother raised me like her own all painfully stuff happens to me while I'm with my mother I was raped several times I think I was 3or 4or 5 if I'm not mistaken nje I still remember people used to rape me those days others they die omnye was family member where my mom is married to but I think when I was 11yrs he hanged himself another one they step him in the grove then he died nje eversince I started dating I'm attracting all these Nasisist and abusive people people with anger one time my mother once told me she wanted to abort me that time I never do anything wrong to her when growing up she told me I will be nothing but washing clothes for my sister's then they will pay me with beers we grow through a lots 😢😢😢we are brocken 😪💔💔💔💔😢😢😢😥😥
Am proud of you.❤🥰
Eish this interviews must be stopped the family must get a restraining order against all media houses because clearly this woman is being victimized by the vultures they must go for This criminal Thabo Bester and leave her alone she has suffered a lot in her life🙏🇿🇦🙏🇿🇦🙏🇿🇦
This mama is in grave danger bcs she is the only person to have certified Thabo Bester alive after he was declared dead by the State.The State officials involved will silence her bcs she is the only person keeping Thabo Bester alive .If I were her I would avoid even going to a Government clinic or hospital .
It's Nandipha who facilitated everything
My heart is so soar from hearing all of this and one lesson I have learned is to not judge a book by its cover 😢
God give strength to his mom ❤God protect 🙏
Oh man this lady’s story is so heartbreaking 💔
I'm so devastated Kay😢
i dont think she even dealt with the trauma of being raped like yooh
We must pray for her.....this is traumatic
I wish to see Oscar Pistorious being interviewed in Sesotho or Zulu
I think her English is tops..❤
She speak well thou
This story is so sad and heartbreaking😔💔😭. Listening to the morher and reading the comments, left me in tears😭😭😭😭
Basically Thabo and the mother are stangers. No excuse for Thabo's actions, but I feel pity for him and the mother. They both went through a lot with no support. As Thabo has Indian features and looks, I think the mother was ashamed and that resulted in her not loving her son. The stigma of raising a child that doesn't look like others in the family or society, is real.
Thabo clearly lacked love, guidance and father figure, his mother bringing that Thabo was also a rape child it broke my heart and says a lot of him. Shame poor woman and her family need a counseling and support. May God heal them.❤
As parents we must love our children.... i know at times life can be hard.... but we must try by all means to be there and pray for our children by all means....
I cried while watching this video😢 dear Lord have mercy on us 🥺
Lack of parenting can ruin a child!
Exactly
What about the rape?
@@mutwa_0Rape too, they both can ruin a child.
Thats true.
@@ndulamochaza4102 yes but what about the mother? Also if Thabo was assisted when he first got arrested in 2007 and developed properly by the community, relevant government institutions we would be talking different.
She could have been allowed to speak in Sesotho, her language...
This woman has a lot on her plate... She is indeed traumatized...
I cried as i listened to her story... May God heal her scars
Now I understand why Thabo Bester behaved in a manner he is behaving. I think he was hurt when he was still young. You know, things that happen to children when they are still young, are overwhelming. They persevere until they become INDEPENDENT. Soon as they are able to take care of themselves, THEY BEGIN TO SHOW THAT ANGER AND BITTERNESS they went through while they were still kids.😭😭😭IT BREAKS MY HEART , IT KILLS ME FROM WITHIN. Imagine Dr Nandipha's children. They are going through a lot right now because they fled from home with Nandipha. They are experiencing a lot of negative things. WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN TO THEM THEREAFTER WHEN THEY GROW UP ?. Painful 😭😭😭
Thabo said he was raped as a Child by his granny's friend and also a person who promised to take care of him also raped him.
Was it not reported that they are now in their biological fathers care since she chose to be on the run?
This a great assumption on this mother. Parent have an obligation to teach and take care of children. They don't determine the outcome they are many factors that contribute to bad bahaviour.
She has a sister and she was doing just fine
@@earnestmunyoro8277 People dont understand. As children, we grow together under one roof, we may experience similar things, poverty for example. But that poverty wouldnt affect us the same as children. We view and interpret the environment differently. For example: Children from a divorced parents, dont interpret that DIVORCE the same. It doesnt even IMPACT on them the same. Some accept the situation as it presents itself to them, and some dont accept it. THAT IS WHY WE REACT DIFFENTLY IN RESPONSE TO DIFFERENT SITUATION. Thabo might have had similar experience with her sister or siblings, but from the Mother's explanation, we came to the conclusion that he could have assimilated certain things that happened to them, differently. It happens in sooo many families. I can give you SOURCES , and so many Authors state that.
Nkosi yam' why is this joy bringing so much hearache to his own mother like this honesty....Unkulunkulu akusize mama😢
Childhood Trauma is real in this world
How terrifying this is...I thought such stories only occur in the US. This needs to be documented as a movie.
Wait.. why would you think it happens in the US only
He's inspiring me to still the state money 🎉🎉🎉🎉
This explains a lot of things. She went through a lot from a young age, akho mazwi angamxolisa at this point she just needs to be protected 😪
Dear EWN, you couldn't send someone who speaks sotho or zulu to interview this woman? An elderly black woman in South Africa, come on man
It's disgraceful. They don't care one bit about this lady, they just want the story. It's so disgusting; journalism is the pits in this country.
Poor lady....I feel so sorry for her.....
When you believe you have nothing to lose, you live your life FEARLESSLY...
Thabos upbringing robbed him of ALL his innocence, all his cares. He's living because he's alive, and he's milking every breath of his life. I almost envy his resolve....Its Nandipha who's glitzy life is screwed. Her daughters will never live down their mothers notorious skeletons.Her medical career may never see the light of day. Kuningi nje
Just asking , where did he meet Thabo besters , Did he go to school ?
Just curious, not that maybe you know .
@@lashanikakabalo9238 allegedly, apparantly...they met through his 'modelling agency' back in 2006. She came onboard to do promos for him whilst she was studying.
@Maria Podesta I hear you . Why is the mother of Thabo talking as if Thabo was living in the street?
Anyway ,just s conversations
@@Maria_Podesta 😭😭😭, heish ,it's very paining .
Kuningi nje !
The love this woman has for her son is painful. So many unpacked layers
Vanac with subtitles would have been brilliant, a lot of this story was lost in this English situation 😅
This Thabo's story is more deeper if you try to think about how can any child be left by the biological mother at the age of 1yr. And grow to be a man without seeing your own mother? The amount of challenges as a child to teenager without your parents, as a boy you can be anything just to saviove all those stages. And now here we're shocked by what Thabo is today, how can you dump your child with your mother more than 10Yrs without seeing your child..I'm sorry to sound like judgmental towards his mother. By she is the main cause of who Thabo he is today and I don't feel sorry for her.
She was his greatest enemy.
She was raped remember
I don't understand why? Why? you if can't raise one child, why you go and make another 3? Condoms are free.. now all society pays for this woman stupidity...
You can't afford kids, use condoms!!
She was raped by his Indian father. He was a product of that rape.
But she did say her mother chased her away.
This interview should have been conducted in Sesotho, I feel like there's a whole lot she couldn't express as she would have liked to.
And we all know what TikTok is going to do with this interview 💔😢🙌🏽🙏🏽
True
I feel sorry for this poor woman, what her son did is no excuse. Many of us went through tough times in live but we never turned out like him.
I feel sorry for the mom. She was raped and he was abandoned but people should get this right. It can only explain his behaviour but it is never an excuse. Many people have the same childhood experiences but they never committed crimes.
Exactly....I agree with you. Thabo must be excused for those horrible crimes he committed, he must face the law
Am so sorry
That’s why rape is so bad
It affects the child
I couldn't understand what happened to Thabo after his grandmother died? They should have allowed the mother to speak in her native tongue (and just added sub-titles). Some of the story was 'lost' because of this.
It seems he was on the streets and in and out of juvenile detention facilities.
I wish they did this interview with a translator, so she could express her narrative in her language. So much she skimmed over because of linguistic barriers.
Not really, what she said she said in other interviews in Sotho. She’s quite articulate, not fluent yes
This women loves his son 🥺🥺🥺😭😭😭❤️
Shem, her life story is really sad 💔
There is is alot of dysfunctional from generation to generation.
Honestly the Interview is so bad like can't she express her feeling with her own Language then TV news insert Subtitles 🤔 because you might find out she has a lot to say.... Like I don't understand why she is being Interviewed with English when she can't express herself properly...
To top it off, that guy is not sympathetic, she tells him she got raped, his just like oh ok. Let's go right back to the questions....like ??????😢
I don't blame Thabo or the Mother, I blame the system that created the type of society we became. there's so many Thabo bester's out there because of the system. This is the tip of the iceberg many are going to follow him to prison still because of the system. We have capability of creating the type of society we want Good or Bad. 💔💔
This comment should be pinned🤞🏾❤️
Well done mama you express your self
His Mother is living in Poverty kodwa unemali 😢yhuuu never sana
Remember he is bruised and maybe because of lack of knowledge he blame the Mother for not taking care of him. And yet the it was not easy for her especially accepting a child from rape by a stranger. This is heart breaking.
His mother abondoned him when he was young, why must he care for her?
@@thequeenmapetues516 Ja nhe
Typical south African culture kids don't look after their parents
This is heartbreaking 💔
I like this English
This is collective trauma.
Such a heartbreaking story, am not suprised how he turns out to be this boy has an anger issues as a result of his upbringing. 😢😢
What about Nandipha, did she went through the same? The mother had to go through healing after all she went through and the boy chose his ways. Thabo issues are spiritual and generational curses
A whole broken family.
This is a sad story
MAY ALLAH GIV U HARMONY AND PEACE. SO SAD WALLAH
This woman went through a lot😢😢
And the son carried the burden till he turned to who he is now 😢
@@pamhidzaimuzorewa5241 Yes, you can just see😢😢😢
Could they not at least found an interviewer that speaks the same language as the mother because I feel like we would've understood her better if she was speaking her mother tongue instead of being forced to speak english
Their should be an outcry for what is happening to children in our communities...what is being done to children everywhere is horrible! This is a prove of how our kiddies(not all) turn out if no one cares...causing pain is all he knows😢(not a good enough excuse though)It takes a village to raise a child( no truer words have ever been spoken!
Eih sad story 😢...can feel for this mama...God be with her.
It's so sad i cried my heart is broken
EWN send a reporter who can allow her to speak in Sesotho. This is not on
Maria Thabo s mother I hope and pray that the police will protect her
I feel very sad for this lady😢she must have had a tough life
This is a sad story. I wonder what is happening with Mom Security. Do we have social workers in SA . I know we don't police in our country
Thanks to the Community for supporting Mom 🙏
This women needs serious help ..government must assist