I was hoping to find this in the description, didn't see it, then saw your post. Thanks man. I'm hoping for the same to happen when I wake up tomorrow hoping to find someone already made my breakfast.
Well done video! I'd like the people here were more interested in this theme! So maybe You can help! Thanx for putting this video in. Regards from Germany.
INTJ here. Sounds like both of you struggle with INTJs and INFJs. I have to admit, explaining Introverted Intuition (Ni) is difficult. For me, Ni is an imaginary process where I first think & visualize many possible outcomes a situation could evolve to, then picking that 1 "best" option to take action on. The benefit of this Ni process is that I can see further out into the future than most people BUT the downside is overthinking and moving super slowly. An analogy would be like comparing a shotgun (Se) to sniper (Ni). The shotgun doesn't require much setup time and can quickly hit many targets at once and but only if they're presently nearby. Whereas the sniper can hit targets far off in the distance but it takes a long time to setup the sniper, establish a sniper's nest, carefully take aim, then fire 1 round at a time. Se likes to "Ready, Fire, Fire, Fire, Aim." Ni likes to "Ready, Aim, Aim, Aim, Fire." This is why INTJs and INFJs constantly look off into the distance or some empty corner before talking again.
Cliff Garibay agreed, I think a lot of people struggle with Ni types or even Ti types. It’s a hard introverted function to fully access if you don’t use it regularly
@@MikaHD : The gun analogy wouldn't work to explain Ne. Sorry. Ne is way more chaotic & random than Se. Try to imagine a powerful shape-shifting gun that can hit targets near and far but constantly gets jammed due to procrastination or shiny-object syndrome. Se is about "living fully in the present moment" whereas Ne is about "exploring all infinite possibilities".
INTJ here. We feel, we feel deeply. Actually, we feel more deep than others know. We just don’t share it with just anyone. We are the type that when we fully trust someone, we show them our vulnerable and emotional side. We give them our full trust. We are just selective in who we let our guards down with. We view people as broken calculators.
I don’t know what that INTJ meant. But I am an INTJ, and am often baffled by people that lead their lives without a purpose driving their direction. I don’t think of them as broken. I value all different perspectives as I value the beauty of the human spirit in everyone.
Y'all open up to me easily. But I still get friendzoned. .... ☹️ -ENFP girl, forever turned on by INTJ and confused by why INTJ keeps coming back for more. ) Actually of I'm being honest, I'm friendzoned and then friends with benefit-zoned, and then somehow best friendzoned. I am amazed at the INTJs ability to have sex with me, open up to me, consider me their best friend, and then compartmentalize all of that. But like I can't fall for other types. There's something so hot about the INTJ indifference and asexual vibes. That being said, they don't want to date anyone.
I'm INFJ and with INTJs we have a particular connection, the very unique introverted intuition connection that is so precious to us. It frustrates me when I discuss with them cause I can clearly see they're more enthusiastic than they are with most people because of their body language. I can clearly feel there are deep feelings inside but they won't share it with me. I just want them to know that INFJs will be the last person to judge them. Sharing their feelings with me would help me to deeply connect on my side cause I can talk about interesting ideas on the universe so long before I get tired without emotional discussion on it as well but just facts.
I have to add “I want to just squish them” was the cutest thing I’ve ever heard- it was your face, it was real and sweet, let’s hope you have an infp baby.
When I saw that two ESTP's were discussing the 16 types. I laughed out loud and said to myself "This is will be short one". I'm an ESTP and I just wanted to be with you two and enjoy the party.
You said it. I work with a member of your tribe, and playfully and testing my buttons, and having the last word...But in spite of that, I just adore them....
My oldest daughter is an INTJ. I have this photo of her, taken when she was in 5th grade, maybe 6th, of her playing in this large sprinkler area. We were at an amusement park in Arlington, Texas during summer vacation. It was just this large cement or concrete area with a bunch of circular fountains or sprinklers that kids were standing on to cool off and have fun. I imagine it looked kinda like a twister mat from above. Oh, are those called splash pads or parks or something? Anyway. It's the only pic I've ever captured of her completely relaxed, and unselfconscious, truly enthralled by the physical experience and sensation. At that moment, she was completely present, and not stuck in her head. Her expression, the unadulterated joy on her face, a real smile ~ one of the most beautiful things I've ever seen. And it's the only time it's ever been captured in a photo. I loved seeing her let go and just experience the Se. I was eventually able to determine it was the water that enthralled her, and went out of my way to take the kids to the beach as often as I could. My favorite was only about a half hour drive. And we went camping at the beach too. Which I love, but is a lot of work with kids, and their father preferred what I think people call glamping now? Which is also a lot of work. I'm not a fan of work in my downtime. But it was worth it to see her relax, and breathe, and just be. Human being as opposed to human doing. She is now a grown woman, and stores her camping gear in her vehicle at all times. Always ready for an impromptu trip into nature.
ENFP HERE! :D and yes, we do live on a different planet. The thing about us is that we are highly misunderstood. You have to understand that the brain of an ENFP is *CONSTANTLY* going. We're often described as scatterbrained (which we are), childish and overly-excited, but it's because we thrive on high levels of creativity. We literally have entire worlds imagined in our heads, and even if they don't exist in reality, they are very real to us. This is why we have such a hard time concentrating on mundane things of everyday life. I mean, it's kind of hard to concentrate on daily "responsibilities" (i.e. paying bills) when you have an entire world existing in your brain and you're just itching to tell somebody about it. I'm an author who has two published science fiction/fantasy novels (currently working on a third). I'm also a musician, artist and graphic designer. When your brain is always coming up with new ideas, possibilities and scenarios, it's hard to stay on a planet as normal as planet Earth :) hope this helps clear some things up! Let me know if you have any other questions about being an ENFP :)
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My sister is ESTP and I'm an INFJ... yeah, things have always been confusing between the two of us. And it doesn't matter if you try to simplify an INFJ's problems, because we'll just interpret that as you not fully understanding the problem. Good times :)
I'm INTJ and my best friend is ESTP. We bond really well because we both always speak our minds without bullshit. We misunderstand each-other ALL the time but the thing is, we know we misunderstand each-other. Sometimes we fight and its REALLY nasty and the day after it's just forgotten (after some apologies). It's a real good learning experience. She have almost forced me to become good at communicating with people and she ground me when Im overanalysing things, which I do all the time. It's almost like meditating speaking with her. And on her end I can make her see things from tons of other directions that she never would have thought of. We both value freedom and independence very high and I think that is where we are most alike.
@@katibird166 We met through another friend, at first I really dismissed her and thought of her as a bit annoying(she have told me she believed I hated her in the beginning) but after inviting me to get out almost every weekend we became closer and closer. Now we speak everyday. I think this is a good example of Extrovert vs Introvert compatibility. :)
Yes we INFPs have way high moral compass that i struggle with everyone not being upto the expectations i put them in my mind. Behind our cuteness, there is lot of sadness. We worry for problems not belonging to us. We forget to take care of us sometimes and be hard on ourselves.
What you said about INFPs is very flattering... like you could not really flatter me more. That's the aesthetic I live for (unless I'm feeling sad or flippant and disinterested), but we are more than just magical and adorable squishes and we also like to be taken seriously sometimes. Please don't feel like we're judging you... we are perceivers after all! Even if I did see something negative you said or did, I wouldn't let that stop me from seeing the best in you too! It's not like INFPs are perfect moralistic beings. If anything, we just have strong personal opinions which makes us picky, stubborn, and sometimes pretentious. But shhhhh, don't tell anyone... we're ~magical! 😻🌺💖🌸
That comment you made about INTJs and ENTJs wanting to make themselves useful to the people they like is so true!! True friendships for us are focussed on helping each other achieve goals. I want to help people flourish and feel powerful!
Hey, what are you talking about - INTJ married to ESTP for 20 years. We get along really well and both appreciate each other's bluntness, humor, and logical reasoning. He makes me socialise and I make him think before he acts (if he hasn't already raced out the door). Also independence - we're both not gushy and we're both really happy to go off and do our own thing then spend time together later. Downside for me is that he refuses to hear about my theories, ideas and future plans but I find his conversation about the technical components of his bike etc entirely boring - so even stevens. He will argue with me about which one of us will survive a zombie apocalypse - fun times.
Yep, you'll totally find yourself in an apparent blackout when you're around an INTJ, we don't show emotion at all, and if it happens that we feel something we're totally overwhelmed by it and we enter into a blackout phase to process that emotion with logic, which obviously can't work. It doesn't mean we don't feel, but we hold those feelings from going out. You can get a cool conversation with us but imagine yourself speaking with a poker face. I admit it will be hard and often people think we just don't like them while its not true. I can make jokes and say funny things with a straight poker face, people may be laughing and I'll be like cold inexpressive
INFJ here. First of all, I LOVE ESTPs. I love the way you all make everyone stronger. Ni is easy. It’s one’s own personal future, “what I want”, the drive to complete a goal. It’s a fantastic function but it’s frustrating to other people because we get our heads in the clouds.
INFJ here. I love ESTPs. The attraction/attachment is mutual. I wish I had more ESTPs in my life. I'm really loving this channel. Keep up the good work.
Thanks for sharing!!! You both look so present in reality, its so awesome to watch.... As an Infp I would love to try that even if just for a day!!!!! Having an SE blindspot make life so challenging. I so admire your SE use!!!! Thanks for sharing your perspectives
As an infp I love yall! Yall are like the cool kids that were sweet to me. Like the chiks who make you feel welcome at a party. Or let's you come sit with them. I get that like deep connection is hard to form. But remember we are not judgemental for real. We just have to stick to our convictions. And maybe we seem like we are trying to remind you what moral code you need to fallow. But that's because we are scared yalls charm will break our convictions. But if yall could figure out a great way to communicate you could be great friends.
No pressure. You’re doing a great job with your videos, keep it up!!! I’ve tested as an ISFP and my daughters always tell me I laugh a lot, and I do love to paint. I’m going to list off some ISFPish ways about me to help you compare it to what you know. I don’t know if you’re familiar with the Enneagram, but for most of my life I have been a 4w3 (individualist with achiever wing) but recently my highest Enneagram scores were 5 (need for knowledge) and 2 (need to help). I started homeschooling my girls 3 years ago, so it kind of makes sense. But on MBTI tests, still ISFP. For a moment or two, I will happily be a soft shoulder to cry on, but not for too long. I love to be supportive in practical ways. I will try to give you any insight I have and am happy to research whatever you need to find a solution, that’s how I help. Most of my life, people have told me I come off aloof. I have worked on this and learned much from my ESFJ sister. I have unintentionally hurt her more times than I can count, and it’s always because she thinks I don’t care about her. It’s not true at all, but apparently I’ve just been horrible at showing my love and appreciation for her. Thankfully, as of lately she says I’m getting better at showing my love and appreciation. Like most ESFJ’s she’s very sentimental and I am not sentimental. I live very much in the present and peer mostly into the future when necessary. She loves to talk about the past, I don’t voluntarily talk about the past, it’s just not my thing. She has always referred to me as being “cold” because of all of these things, however most of my friends and acquaintances seem to like me and these same things are not an issue with them. I love to hike, camp, sew, paint, self analyze, analyze everyone!, listen to audio books, and help people see the big picture. I am goal oriented and love to work on projects by myself. I am a hardcore introvert, but in social situations no one would ever guess that! One more thing- “I’m bored” is not something you’ll ever hear me say! I’ve always got projects to work on. Thanks for listening 👂 😀
Love Lu oh noooo!!!! I hate when that happens, so very irritating. Hmmm... let’s see, what else can I add? Well, I think you’re familiar with C.S Joseph’s videos, right? He says the ISFP blind spot is NE. Most of my life I have been extremely gullible, that’s a fact, lol! I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt, unless they give me reason to distrust them. However, when it comes to my girls I don’t trust hardly anyone. And I am extremely cautious when I hike alone to only hike when other people are around. My mom is ISFJ and drilled these things into me in my youth. At 44 now, I’m really not that gullible anymore. I have struggled to be organized my whole life. I enjoy a clean home, but man... when I am excited about working on a project, the house goes to pot! I have a problem with being the slow and steady type, I tend to work in energy spikes in whatever direction it takes me. Unfortunately, I don’t happen to my day, my day happens to me on most days, lol. Setting a good example in cleanliness for my girls is important to me because I know it will affect their future, so work hard to fight against my tendencies, but it’s not easy! I am married to an ENTP and we are going on 22 years. We very much live an artist life. He makes a living as a bronze sculptor and we move around more than most. Most women would not put up with the instability of our life, but I have always been extremely adaptable and I think that’s why it works for me, I’m not bitter about it. We have helped balance each other out over the years. He still makes ridiculous jokes when I am on the edge of a breakdown, but after I let him know how irritating that is, he’ll give me a hug, lol 😂. And occasionally I will join him for a sci-Fi movie, which is huge for me because I’d honestly rather go to the dentist than watch sci-Fi! I guess the only other thing I can think of is that I am very into natural medicine. I research natural treatments for anything that has come up (other than major stuff, like breaking a leg or something). For about 8 years we lived in a very remote part of AZ, and I became the crunchiest mama you ever did see! I had chickens and ducks, I milled wheat berries into sifted wheat, made fresh bread daily, fermented everything you can think of, and had a good sized garden. I dreamed of milking adorable little Nigerian hosts... until I found out my family hated the taste of goats milk. 🐐 I definitely value self sufficiency. Nothing new to you I’m sure, growing up Amish and all! Hope this extra info helps! There’s a shortage of ISFP info out there. I seem to be a rare breed of ISFP in some ways, especially my interest in personality stuff. I’m kind of obsessed!
Lol, oh man... bummer! 😭 Right now I'm an hour into the Chase video. It is so incredibly entertaining!!!! I'm still deciding if I'm sold on the ENFJ idea, lol. I'll leave a comment and let you know when he's it's done. P.S. - Since I left this original message, I'm almost convinced I'm either an INFP or ISFP with "jumper NI". DaveSuperPowers takes about jumping. I almost wonder if you are jumping as well, as in Se, Fe, Ti, Ni? I think it's seriously possible, although I don’t think Chase agrees with Dave's theory, so it would probably be a pointless argument with him. And it seems that Dave is not open to shadow functions etc, so there’s that! When I put both theories together, it makes a lot more sense. @Love Lu
Hello, enfp here and it goes the same way for us about you. I mean I'm talking personally here but I feel like I can get THE BEST laughs with you, gossip and talk but on the deep moral ground I struggle so much with you! And in my way a lot of times I feel like you're too rational to even be it because you don't consider feelings. Also, I feel like you maybe lack a bit of insight but this video started to change my opinion so thanks :)
I loved this video! It's so refreshing to get the ESTPs perspective and I found it very accurate. I'm an INFJ from a big family (I know at least 1 person personally of all the 16 types) and yeah, this video had me laughing for every type. I almost wrote a comment every minute but didn't want to take up your whole page. lol Excellent video! As for me. ESTPs are like lionesses. You can literally feel the strength coming off the screen and I admire that. Se hero and Fi trickster is a blessing. No weakness.
Kati Bird You’ve probably met more than you realize. We’re the cold, quiet, nerdy girls in high school that only raise their hands in class to argue with the teachers when they give misinformation. Then we grow up to be warm, cat loving couch dwellers that become obsessively knowledgeable in their areas of interest. You know the type.
This is the most fascinating thing to see in the universe. I really appreciate your perspectives (it's not something I would have imagined I'd appreciate, coming from the Way Too Serious side). You two seem to be very on point about *seeing* people. Even the confusion is 'on point'. There are people that sort of 'ought' to be confusing, and hearing from you two is clearing the cobwebs of my brain a bit much (the overthinking). I had never known what (some, I guess) ESTPs are really like, but it's even further fascinating to see how they see the other types. It's like my blind spot; I had no idea who they were. It's hilarious that the 'free' way you think about life... I have known some people view the world this way and I *want* to get into that space but it's so hard. I need to learn from this so badly (my family certainly would think so, although they'd never want me to be reckless).
I’m an ISFP and you definitely hit the nail on the head about us loving to laugh! I laugh at everything and some would tell me “why are you laughing?” And I’ll just said “idk....I just love to laugh.” Hahah. I think it’s a thing with us! Lmao.
I like this video, I feel like I'm hanging out with friends celebrating people I like. Though I don't know that I'm close to any ESTPs in real life! Big fan. Big fan! 😊
@@JonasAnandaKristiansson Someone typed me as an ENFJ and that gave me a lot to think about. But I think I'm back to INFJ after discussing with a few people. I just wasn't that Fe-graceful growing up. A lot of people have misunderstood Fe vs. Fi...it's the difference between empathy and sympathy. Fi is empathy and Fe is sympathy. I don't vicariously feel the emotions of others just because they feel them. But I do care and want to be helpful to my friends. Hey, good to see you Jonas!!!
Truthfully, I find ESTP hilarious. I hopefully can help you gain perspective on INTJs. We have very strong emotions at times, but many of us struggle with said emotions. Since we are intuitive, we tend to think many steps ahead of others. Simetimes I wish I could think in the presense sense a bit better like you guys. Se is very much my blind spot. I guess bottom line, we are much more human than meets the eye. I hope that helps, and I really love your perspective.
Your videos are very refreshing to me. I love hearing your perspective! I’m an ESFJ with an ESTP husband. You make me laugh when you talk about ESFJs 😂
Awesome video Kati and Lu! I truely enjoy listening to both of you, so much! The lettering at the beginning of the video made me think: 'wow looks good, good pick, Nathan.' confession: I even enjoyed the minor heart attack when the enfj was mentioned hahahaha lmao. XP A heart attack from excitement tho lol. ty for that! XD ♡ Makes me look forward to all the fun that is to come. yay! note to self: 'text esfj friend more often. ♡'
Honestly I loved this video, I’m amazed that two ESTPs somehow cared enough to get involved in this sort of thing, although your usage of “interesting” is evidence of that Ti. I really appreciated the video, I’ll have to check your other stuff. I’m an INFJ and to answer your question, as I’ve been best friends with an ESTP and even dated that ESTP, the issue, it’s only ever one, I have with them is they keep getting hurt and it’s almost as if they purposely do it. When you said, “It’s like I have the answers to all their problems” quite literally something reverberated through me, and.... maybe, just maybe, if that one thing that hurt you... hurt you a month ago.... and a year ago..... if that job, or person, has consistently upset you regardless of Se circumstances, then maybe stop living day by day with that “who knows” attitude and recognize the pattern so I can do my INFJ thing and help you realize how YOU’RE THE MOST AMAZING PERSON IN THE WORLD.
Love Lu Dang it. Looking back over my words I really wasn’t clear at all, but you’re right I never even mentioned my actual point...... I really thought I had gotten better about that, I mean I’m at work, but still haha But yes, that was what I was inferring. However, I will say that while my 8 years with that ESTP has given me a great deal of understanding of the type, ultimately no - I do not have the answers for an ESTP. I mean, I would be happy to make snide remarks about them all day long with my understandings, I would message her right now with them all if she wasn’t at yet another concert for a band that she believed to be universally the best - I knew I had one in me - but after reading through Jung my answer is no. It is concerning to me that the two ESTPs I know would squander their money away in the moment only to regret it later(at times not out loud, they’ll of course acknowledge it if one addresses it, but when I would drop by and they’re eating one Chinese takeout for all 3 meals there would always be a sort of melancholic vibe to them), caused by that “high of the moment” as they described it to me, stay at jobs that don’t appreciate their work ethic and continually strings them along with vague promises- really all things that Ni might address, but my answer is still no. The uhh prophet of sorts for the ESTP would be the ISFJ. As Jung describes it, the 5th function would be the enemy since it’s the opposite of the dominant and everything serves the dominant, it’s not the “inferior” function; Ni could only ever help Se by providing more insight into their sensation towards the object, enhancing it, as I imagine Typology has offered you. An ESTP’s resistance to structure is Si, which the ISFJ would help cool off(since ultimately it’s that structure that gives Se any meaning) and then the ESTP would be more comfortable performing Ni themselves- the one who is best fit for another is the one who brings out the best in that other. Whenever I’m around ENTPs they get a lot calmer, and I’m the one who picks up the pace and wants to go and do things; it’s not a complete switch, but I think you get my point. While we may not see eye to eye on this, I will say that I appreciate the reaction in the video when it came to ISFJs because I was like, “Yeaaaah there it is.”
True we are getting hurt. That's because our relationships work like a yoyo: I want really bad to be close, hold hands, do cool stuff together, but when the relationship is getting more and more serious I don't want it anymore. Because that's when I start feeling the burden of a real relationship that comes with bunch of rules and social expectations that feel like way to much that I can deal with. That's why, without thinking I naturally pick someone who is scared of relationships as well, so that keeps me safe. (I mean don't confuse being committed with a full devotion of traditional marriage , because I am committed and loyal and I personally won't waste my time on a male whore loser, I'm just scared that I have to suddenly quit my life and sacrifice it to serve the family). So getting back to our topic, if ESTP is choosing people who are somewhat loyal but also somewhat scared of relationships than it's hard for it to actually create a relationship and majority of them fail. I actually had to go over my comfort zone and allow my INTJ to fall in love with me and then not to run for my life scared. I just still straggle a bit because we all have options out there but he is super handsome, smart, reliable and fun so my brain says he is a good choice, and I will stick with it.
I like your channel:) I know you recently took the harsh comments on one of your videos very hard (based on my limited knowledge of you). I hope you’re okay. The best thing you can do for yourself is to give yourself compassion and kindness. The internet isn’t going to give anyone that, but we certainly can lend ourselves that love. Anyways I like your channel:) keep posting!
ENFPs "when you're on the different realm, how do you know what is really real?" -- reality check -- we have no idea hahahahah We slippery -- but with the intention to help at all times. We want to help people and always want to just show people what they are capable of and what they could do. So.... i'll admit, I can be. But I promise its with good intention!!!!
Michelle Wilson when I heard them say, “How do you know what is really real?” I shrugged and said, “Is that really what matters?” Haha and I try to be reliable but it never works, I have a time management problem and I’m late for literally everything... still working on it... but that isn’t what matters, either!! It’s all about knowing the world is wide and trying to take joy in learning all about the diversity in it, for me anyway.
ISFJ here: I completely agree with what you guys said. I'm always told I'm predictable and the stereotype is we are boring. The thing with the rules, at least for me and other enneagram 6s, is rules are security for us. If I have rules and know exactly what needs to be done or how to act in a certain situation, I don't feel so awkward and feel like I can really be myself and be part of what's going on. It's true I find ESTPs, like yourselves, very fun to be around because when I hang out with people who don't necessarily care about the rules, I feel more free to just be, have fun, and live life without feeling like I have to act a certain way. Hope that makes sense and gives a little more insight into ISFJ. We're not as boring as we sound. :)
AND what Kati said about the passion is entirely true. If something is just somewhat important to us, we might not say anything. But if something is really, really, REALLY important to us, you will hear about it. :)
That's supposed to be your golden pair. I never understood how ISFJs apparently hate chaos (no rules), but then as an INTP I find ESTPs chaotic even for me.
INFJ here! I love you guys too. I feel like just watching you is so good for me, haha! I genuinely enjoy it and also do feel like I learn a lot. I do think we can overcomplicate things. There are times I think....well....my Ni could be totally right, but I have absolutely no way to prove this thing I think....so why am I wasting my time? LOL
Yikes....type in 3 words INFJ 1.ruminating (mentally) 2. caring 3.suspicious (of others lol) WOW that all seems really negative. Here are 3 more 1. Imaginative 2. understanding 3. teachable
@@pdubb4, Thanks! I have been watching TH-cam for years now to learn about myself/find people who "get it" LOL. I found Boom Shihka wasn't my cup of tea, but I think she is for many, and I support that. I am always learning, and I love it. Feel free to add a list of people you recommend (if you'd like) because I may not have heard of one of them and it could be helpful, and also help others
@@pdubb4 Yes, Boom says many things, that always have been so normal to me. She really surprises me, and she is not nice, to get likes or anything. Because she doesn't need it. But I like this witty way here pretty much. It does not make it seemso heavy stuff. And some people I watched, carried INFJ like a shield in front of them. So stay tuned, Ladies.
I am INTJ. I dated ESTP. He totally didnt understand my way of thinking and making decisions. He was fast like : „yeah lets do it”, its great idea!” High fived and thumbed up at whatever i did during the day which was overwhelming a bit to me, and to him i didnt have enthusiasm at all, i wasnt jumping happy after whatever i did during the day or general after accomplishments. Me being calm he red as sad or cold :) i also think ESTP are very snoopy (annoying). Anyway we had great talks which i find useful and interesting.
I'm an ESTP, and I love this video! You made me laugh a lot. I agree with many things you said about the 16 personalities. I only know another ESTP so seeing other ESTPs talking about the MBTI is fascinating. Thank you for putting this video together.
@@katibird166 The other ESTP is a guy. We are not friends, he is a colleague's husband. My colleague was actually very surprised about how alike we, her husband and I, are. We respond to similar situations in such a "reactive" way, especially at work with the authority due to stupid rules. My colleague (ISFJ) was telling me how they were in a bank and her husband (ESTP) was wearing a cap. She was very concerned as, according to her, you should not wear a cap in a bank. She asked him to take it off. He was upset and replied something like... that's stupid, why am I supposed to take it off? I'm not going to steal the bank. They can come to me and do an inspection if they want but my cap stays on LOL... I might have taken it off to avoid the conflict (not worth it). If I were stressed out enough, I would reply similarly. Btw, I hate going to the bank... hate waiting and the long queue.
You guys are both so different to me but the one on the right is more quiet in my opinion like laid back and the one on the left is more talkative and moves around a lot but your both observant so how do u guys find which mbti fits you best? cus I’m still confused on mines
I'm an INTJ and thought it was humorous that you said we are friendly. That's not something that's generally attached to our stereotype. I've tended to get along with ESTPs fairly well. I do agree that it's difficult to fully click with each other. I've seen a few ESTPs and INTJs say this as well. And I think that Billie's an ISFP too. I figured she was somewhere on the Se/Ni Te/Fi axis, but couldn't discern between INTJ and ISFP until I noticed how much she moved while talking (Perceiving-type thing). When you both were saying that you both feel a magnetism with INFJs, I find a similar click with ESFPs. Not sure why there's such a magnetic pull to our MBTI opposites.
One to thing to consider about using family members as a baseline for MBTI type - family members have long standing histories with each other other - including triggers. Those triggers may not be present in dealing with non family members of a particular type. So, you may be getting a tainted paintbrush if you rely too heavily on typing within family to create your opinions. That said Lu, I'm glad you've looked farther and been connecting with INFJs out there. I think that's healthy for you and will give you a more rounded opinion. Cheers. (INFJ)
My son is an INTJ and so is my brother and neither are as cold as people might think. They're actually really kind-hearted. INTPs are low in empathy and working for 1 was a nightmare. I'm INFJ btw. He definitely favored the ISTP and ENTP, if that's what she was. My ex-hubby is ISTP and he is self-involved. INTJs are misunderstood.
@shinees dadI concur. This has been my experience for sure. When I heard my former INTP supervisor in our supervisory staff meetings I was disgusted by his lack of empathy and appearing 2faced. My INTJ son is definitely as you described.
A bit of context on ENFP's. We do live in a different world. As one myself, everything you share with me is filtered through my opinions and experiences. Its not so much comparing the 2 (your experience vs my experience) as it is positioning what i think about what you shared with me based on what i've experienced, as it is the only "Fact" that i know.
How Lovely was your ENTP description, an analysis was as beautiful as both of you! Now that I feel understood (ENTP) 😇I shall leave! Ta Ta and Tooodles!
Girl on the left, I am fascinated by you, truly You not only have a great personality, and you are smart and confident and funny, you also are cute when you smile and you are really beautiful on the outside. I already love ESTPs in general, but I really admire you personally
My husband is ISTJ and YES he is RIGID! I'm INTP so his rigid adherence to a routine and schedule is maddening.....but is also helpful in pulling my head out of the clouds so I can tend to what needs to be done.
When i was in my teens, i was still puppied by all my seniors and teachers like omg she's such a child and i used to feel so embarrassed cos i was not as young as they make me out to be or presume. Now hearing it from all types of youtubers even ENTPs said INFPs are way too cute, now i get it. I also get it how all my past bfs liked me and at the sametime thought iam dumb.
@@lovewho Is Michelle Beadle an ESTP? th-cam.com/video/dgQiIj2lwf4/w-d-xo.html That's her in spirited mood she's not usually QUITE that fierce. Random question I know.
@@lovewho th-cam.com/video/7NGzZlhc9mk/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/QhEWk-Nr5sY/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/2I_A1hC7-ak/w-d-xo.html Decent clips here I'd say. I know you said another clip and instead I sent 3. Sorry!
ESTP: "just let it go and your life will be so much easier" Me (INFJ): "BUT YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT MY INTUITION IS TELLING ME." That said, I've also gotten some advice that has influenced my personal growth incredibly from someone whom I believe is an ESTP. I'd say half the time what ESTPs tell me applies to me and half the time I need to disregard it because my Ni tells me otherwise. I definitely feel a draw to the ESTP, though. I think it's so grounding to spend time with someone who's my complete opposite.
I don't think I have met any other ISTJs, but I don't think I'm as boring as the 2 people you described, but you're right I LOVE ESTPs my favourite type by far, they bring excitement into my life. I like to try to not be boring by doing fun things like play guitar in a band, and allow Se users like yourself to take me along on fun experiences, I crave those experiences. Also I think why ISTJs understand you so much is because we need direct communicators as we can't read between the lines, and because we suck with empathy, people with a fairly low awareness of their own feelings. But man, hearing how the type I'm supposed to match with the most thinks I'm boring, that hurts hah. Also you girls are gorgeous! :)
I said I’m not sure if I know any, but I’m about 65% sure that my 5 yr relationship was ISTJ (possibly ESTJ). It was a really easy relationship. Ended because I became squirrely, mostly due to a complete lack of emotional connection. We did have fun, and we were with friends all the time, but he was super... ummm, slow, to participate in any new activities, which is what makes me feel the most alive. Anyway, moral of the story is... when you meet the ESTP love of your life, say yes to new things as much as you can, and focus on finding emotional common ground, we just avoided it like the plague and that’s what killed us in the end. But still think he’s great, would have his back if he ever needed me to.
@@lovewho Well, I don't live on the edge very often no, but that's why I need an ESTP. I want them to push me out of my comfort zone and give me those experiences so that I can live a more exciting life. :)
@@lovewho Also I think knowledge of the types has made me far less rigid and understanding/accepting of other people, and I appreciate people for who they are now and wouldn't want to change anyone. :)
5:36 HAHAHAHA OMG i LAUGHED OUT LOUD 😂 being an ESTP, I TOTALLY agree with u 😂😂 we are the best type and everyone should try it, i don’t know why people are the other types 😂
2:30 "They (ISTJ) like me." 2:35 "I make sense to them somehow" This is what's called your 'golden pair'. The ISTJ and ESTP because your cognitive stack matches up perfectly. ISTJ ESTP Si Se Te Ti Fi Fe Ne Ni You both have sensing first, thinking second, feeling third and intuition fourth. On top of that they are the inverse version of each allowing for two different personalities to be able to interface with ease. No loss in translation so to speak. Types with this 1 to 1 combo can read each other like a book and have great compatibility. *Hint - it is the person who is your shadow self. ie. INFJ - ENFP or ISTP - ESTJ etc. The second best is an introverted or extroverted (depending on what you start with) version of that type. ie. ESTP - ISTJ or ESTJ
You really keep reminding me of Angelina Jolie everytime I watch your videos! It's about the energy, engagement, facial "expressions". Really cool, had to bring it up about now LOL
My type (INFP) in 3 words: quietly fierce badasses I'm fascinated you like my type a lot despite the "conflictor" intertype relation. I wonder if you see positives in each others' blindspots.
I think if ESTP's and INFJ's took the time to understand each other's motivations, weaknesses, and fears, they could be one of the most overlooked, underrated, and best compatible pairings there could be. This statement comes from both real-life experiences, and studying of the CF's. The adventurousness of an ESTP is strongly present in an INFJ. It sometimes takes an ESTP, or ENFP to bring it out. Conversely, the INFJ can serve as a good grounding element for an ESTP. As a team with a common goal, the sky is the limit. I saw one compatibility chart that didn't recommend any Sensors as a good type for an INFJ in romantic relationship, but I would say ISFJ's and ESTP's could be a great match for an INFJ. I have read that an ENFP is a mirrored type for INFJ because they have same functions, in the same order except one set is the introverted type, and the other the extraverted. It seems more to me that the ESTP and INFJ are the mirrored types. Literally, if you put a mirror to the right of NI FE TI SE, the reflection is SE TI FE NI. I don't know where the 5th through 8th functions stack up, but for the first four, ESTP/INFJ are literally "The mirrored pair." Perhaps this is that "magnetism" that your friend mentioned she had with INFJ's in action. I have also experienced it, but that was back before I knew about any of this.
I’m an INTJ and I only know of very few ESTPs in my life and it’s hard to get along with them. I think I like the ESTP but it is hard to find common ground with them.
Yeah, INTP here. INTJs are a absolute nightmare in my opinion. Brutally cruel, ignorantly arrogant, heartless, selfish as fuck and tireless in their evil scheemes. Thank God that is a rare type, otherwise hell would be a playground compared to life on earth...
As an ENFP I loved the ENFP part of this! Honestly, it took some time get along with ESTPs because of my own immaturity, and because if ESTPs are the kings/queens of direct communication, the ENTP/ENFP are the kings/queens of indirect communication. So first of all I used to judge the heck out of people that didn't follow a particular moral standard and it would definitely have a "slippery" feel because I wouldnt be up front about it. I honestly hated the THOUGHT of being directly confrontational with anyone...which is interesting given that your estp friend had said that she was surprised when she learned that people don't say what they mean. I think it took a long while to figure out the opposite for me, that there wasnt a hidden message behind all communication LOL. I still feel like it makes us good readers of people since many people for many reasons will hide motives for their behavior, will lie, will try to pull one over on you, etc. So I feel like Im good at catching negative intentions and steering myself away from those people. However, when someone was so up front with their beliefs it just made me go berzerk and run away. Now I am a recovered (mature) ENFP and this personality stuff is helping me tweak my conversations based on people's preferred communication (E.g., whether i stick to my natural indirectness or switch to direct). I mean there are still times when I feel like if I disagree with an ESTP will they literally pummel me into the ground?? But the fear has subsided very significantly and I do have a good friend that's an ESTP now. I do admire your guyses fearlessness and your ability to read people as well. I think sometimes that's underestimated in the ESTP. If I want to hide something I have to be on my A game or I KNOW they will catch me or sense something is off.
INTJ here...yes I think we do hurt people with some pretty good damage, with purpose. We only strike when we know it hurts lol I have to admit it is not a good trait and we can be very mean. We do everything with purpose. Yet we can be your most loyal friends or partner for life. If we decided to sting you, you probably deserves it or you hurt us without knowing. If we did it by accident, we would definitely apologize and actually feel bad. Stick to the truth is what we honor :)
@M Rod Interesting...why are you INTP guys love screwing with us INTJ females? lol I think there is undeniable connection or attraction between these two types, our cognitive functions are completely opposite, complementary I would say. I got messed with by an INTP guy last year so oh yes, I know :) You guys are good mind fucker. It's all in the head space, talk about intellectually stimulating relationship. These two types are almost like cousins...it's fun.
@M Rod Oh, we already know INTP guys expect the women you like to approach you...Unfortunately...INTJ females does not chase in relationship and also expect a man we like to approach us like a man would lol Be the man and claim us is actually what we want, it is a test it is also a standard...I guess. To get an INTP or INTJ in your life means you fight to be in their life, that space is earn, not really given easily. Of course we will return our loyalty to our man. I hold no grudge, that experience make me grow as a person, so I am actually thankful to learn something. I've learned self-love. I think that experience also helps that INTP to grow a little, he does see his immaturity and hope that helps mature him up, he mentioned he is trying to do better which I think he is telling the truth. It is a win-win so that's what I'm going to concentrate on. Honestly...I think you should contact the INTJ lady you mentioned, friends or something more...you never know. Sometimes, action is needed and this type of connection does not come easily in both our types...I think is worth a go :) is not my place to give any suggestion...but I just think it can be beautiful or better.
@M Rod American Boy...You are the definition of effortless lol In some way it makes sense INTP is lethal I would say to INTJ...because you guys are so effortless, we have to in turn put in so much effort...imbalanced. I've learned I should stay away from INTPs due to that reason :) what you love could kill you and it will.
M Rod thanks :) I appreciate your genuine advice for sure. I am just improving myself right now. I over analyze and that INTP overthink, too tired and need a break lol I honestly don’t know how to tame anyone. Let him run ha! When he’s tired of too much freedom, maybe then he will realize what he really wanted. I trust your advice because you are the second INTP man told me that same thing. I’m just not ready for another round of heaviness entanglement, I miss myself 😂 You have a gentle soul, good luck 🍀
I'm an infp but I'm just a little more introverted than extroverted it kinda sucks because I crave to be understood but it's hard to take down my walls and just be in the moment with someone
It seems like our answers are complicated. That's because we INFJ are thinking end game at the beginning. They have already (in their mind) worked through the entire cycle of the solution.
nah, I have an INTP uncle and in-law. They can get extremely silly with Fe inferior. Jokes that don't even make sense at times they just laugh to, like are you mad? INTJs are definitly the warmest machines. Also, they move quickly like a machine. They can process things very fast. Give them a computer and if they have a task or interest. Watch out, you might not know which is the user and which is the computer lol
Well, even though i was simply correcting her in how the saying actually goes: INTJ's may be great with programming but INTP's even greater. As an intp who dated an intj, they are cold and arrogant (still charming don't get me wrong), it's like they naturally have a sense of emotions but choose not to use it, they're also not afraid of hurting people if they have a logical cause. whereas on the other hand every intp that i know (and i know MANY) seem to not very well understand emotions but we damn sure try our best and have it in us to always do the morally right and kind thing.
@@FIXON99 I didn't know that was an actual phrase but yeah I still think intps are warmer. And yeah, intps are made for programming. Most natural engineers of all types. Ti hero Ne parent, problem solving with what could be. Intjs are more statistical, walstreet banker types im my opinio. They can find trends really well and analyze things. A peculiar thing about intjs, correct me if I'm wrong, but they love to travel. The two I've met have both been to like 12 countries by their 20s and one told me they were afraid of not seeing it all.
INTJ male here and my view on ESTP females is that they are simply too compressed. What I mean by that is in my opinion ESTP females bottle up too many ideas and concepts into one small jar whereas INTJ gives themselves a bigger jar - ESTP feels like everything needs to be formulated and executed now! INTJ gives themselves more room to develop and plan before execution. You can clearly see where they would clash as romantic partners ESTP: “were getting old…so when are we ever going to make a baby?” INTJ: “We will, I’m still sorting out a few things. We’re only 30 years old” INTJs are a big jar to fill, that is why we come across as slow…and steady when we are still young but ounce we begin to gain momentum in the form of wisdom and age: we become ever so extremely precise and extremely confident - this is thanks to the fact that we give ourselves enough time to learn and to evolve. The main problem I’ve identified between ESTP and INTJ interaction is that ESTP thinks that INTJ is too afraid to step out of their zone and INTJ thinks ESTP is too negligent in their ways. In the long term though (I’m not being biased) let’s be honest INTJ has a better long term strategy. INTJ is very resourceful and very careful and I think ESTP wants to give herself over to an energy like that the problem is that in the long term she will have done so much that it’s enough to piss off the INTJ who will trade her in for someone he deems more pure. My advice to ESTP females seeking an INTJ partner = slow down, be genuine and be moral, think deeply about all angles. My advice to an INTJ male seeking a relationship with an ESTP female = you’re going to have to keep your eye on her and help her on her journey by nurturing her talent. (INTJ will hate having to monitor a grown human being). Thanks for reading!
I'm an INTJ Female and my sister is an ESTP. I remember when we were younger (like I was 9-ish and she was 12-si) and we would fight ALL the TIME. Like it would get nasty. But then when I hit like 14-ish and she was 17-ish, we became the best of friends. I love her. She's inclusive and invites my antisocial ass out all the time (which I am SUPER grateful for), she's fun and positive and always looking for something to do, she has a great memory for things, and I can be my blunt and "mean" self with her since we both have T's. After spending 28 years with her, I finally "get" where she's coming from, but for the longest time I would be like "Omg, is she stupid or something?" (LOL) when in reality she would just throw herself into things without thinking (which would confuse me), rather than sitting and thinking it out before doing it (like I do). All in all, I do love her, but if she weren't my sister and we had to make an effort to hang out and talk, I prob wouldn't be best friends with her, just cause we approach things so differently. We'd both have to go outside of our natural comfort zone. But she IS my sister and I LOVE her, and I'm glad she's in my life :))
@Artur V 🤷🏽♀️ sounds like a personal issue. Instead of insulting people for the way they are, you could agree to disagree with them and be on your merry way. Not all INTJs are alike, we’re humans and everyone has grown up with a different background that makes their approach to life unique. Maybe the INTJs you knew/know had unpleasant experiences happen to them to make them act the way that they do. Who knows? You never know until you meddle.
You both are gorgeous! When you mentioned ej/djarendee (love his contribution to TH-cam btw, he helped me realize I was an ISTP instead of INTP) it reminded me of how he didn’t get along with INTJs either. You mentioned it was the tertiary Fe/Fi clash, I’m kind of interested in hearing more about that, because I struggle to get along with them as well. For me they are a flame that burns bright and goes out fast, I get along with them right away, but after we start to get to know each other better things change. In terms of socionics I get along with my own (beta) quadra types the best. Then it’s alpha quadra, then gamma, and deltas I hardly get along with long term at all. I’ve always wondered why I get along with the alpha quadra better than the gamma, they both have half my valued functions and not the other half. I wondered if it was just because I was Ti dominant it was more important for me that other people use Ti/Fe, but you guys are perceiving dominant, so I’d like to hear your (and any other perceiving dominant) thoughts on this.
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I was hoping to find this in the description, didn't see it, then saw your post. Thanks man. I'm hoping for the same to happen when I wake up tomorrow hoping to find someone already made my breakfast.
Well done video! I'd like the people here were more interested in this theme! So maybe You can help! Thanx for putting this video in. Regards from Germany.
Severian why didn’t I look in the comments for this!?
Thank you.😊
*Them, talking about ENFPs* “I feel like I don’t know what the f they’re doing-“
*Me, being an ENFP* “Neither do I.”
7:18 Its the other way around actually
INTP: Warmest Robot
INTJ: Coldest Human
INTJ here. Sounds like both of you struggle with INTJs and INFJs. I have to admit, explaining Introverted Intuition (Ni) is difficult.
For me, Ni is an imaginary process where I first think & visualize many possible outcomes a situation could evolve to, then picking that 1 "best" option to take action on. The benefit of this Ni process is that I can see further out into the future than most people BUT the downside is overthinking and moving super slowly.
An analogy would be like comparing a shotgun (Se) to sniper (Ni). The shotgun doesn't require much setup time and can quickly hit many targets at once and but only if they're presently nearby. Whereas the sniper can hit targets far off in the distance but it takes a long time to setup the sniper, establish a sniper's nest, carefully take aim, then fire 1 round at a time.
Se likes to "Ready, Fire, Fire, Fire, Aim."
Ni likes to "Ready, Aim, Aim, Aim, Fire."
This is why INTJs and INFJs constantly look off into the distance or some empty corner before talking again.
Cliff Garibay agreed, I think a lot of people struggle with Ni types or even Ti types. It’s a hard introverted function to fully access if you don’t use it regularly
Yeah thats true and its also bad because if ur predictions arent correct you'll be i. Trouble because uve invested a lot of time
Also what would Ne be like? Because the way you described se was similar
@@MikaHD : The gun analogy wouldn't work to explain Ne. Sorry. Ne is way more chaotic & random than Se. Try to imagine a powerful shape-shifting gun that can hit targets near and far but constantly gets jammed due to procrastination or shiny-object syndrome. Se is about "living fully in the present moment" whereas Ne is about "exploring all infinite possibilities".
@@CliffGaribay in Ne so. Thats kinda sad but what about si
INTJ here. We feel, we feel deeply. Actually, we feel more deep than others know. We just don’t share it with just anyone. We are the type that when we fully trust someone, we show them our vulnerable and emotional side. We give them our full trust. We are just selective in who we let our guards down with. We view people as broken calculators.
INFP here--I was with you up until "broken calculators." Would you mind elaborating? I'd like to understand.
@@thegnome73 infp here, also was with you up until the last part.
I don’t know what that INTJ meant. But I am an INTJ, and am often baffled by people that lead their lives without a purpose driving their direction. I don’t think of them as broken. I value all different perspectives as I value the beauty of the human spirit in everyone.
Y'all open up to me easily. But I still get friendzoned. .... ☹️ -ENFP girl, forever turned on by INTJ and confused by why INTJ keeps coming back for more. ) Actually of I'm being honest, I'm friendzoned and then friends with benefit-zoned, and then somehow best friendzoned. I am amazed at the INTJs ability to have sex with me, open up to me, consider me their best friend, and then compartmentalize all of that. But like I can't fall for other types. There's something so hot about the INTJ indifference and asexual vibes. That being said, they don't want to date anyone.
I'm INFJ and with INTJs we have a particular connection, the very unique introverted intuition connection that is so precious to us. It frustrates me when I discuss with them cause I can clearly see they're more enthusiastic than they are with most people because of their body language. I can clearly feel there are deep feelings inside but they won't share it with me. I just want them to know that INFJs will be the last person to judge them. Sharing their feelings with me would help me to deeply connect on my side cause I can talk about interesting ideas on the universe so long before I get tired without emotional discussion on it as well but just facts.
I have to add “I want to just squish them” was the cutest thing I’ve ever heard- it was your face, it was real and sweet, let’s hope you have an infp baby.
We feel so contented over some lines :)
When I saw that two ESTP's were discussing the 16 types. I laughed out loud and said to myself "This is will be short one". I'm an ESTP and I just wanted to be with you two and enjoy the party.
ENTP here, pushing buttons is what I do. We just kinda wanna see what happens if we give the response we are not supposed to!
You said it. I work with a member of your tribe, and playfully and testing my buttons, and having the last word...But in spite of that, I just adore them....
Me 2, INTP here. However I Just end up pissing everybody off. ENTPs appear to have the skill to do It without being hated...
Get me with an entp and everybody is going to think I am a horrible person
I love it
ISTPs are warm and chili at the same time and they are more caring than you realize.
Aww that's so cute what you said about INFPs 😚
INTJ here... I had fun once. It was awful.
Cliff Garibay bahahhahahahahahahaha
Cliff Garibay 😆
this was the most accurate intj comment so far, the others were just too much
That's so funny
My oldest daughter is an INTJ. I have this photo of her, taken when she was in 5th grade, maybe 6th, of her playing in this large sprinkler area. We were at an amusement park in Arlington, Texas during summer vacation. It was just this large cement or concrete area with a bunch of circular fountains or sprinklers that kids were standing on to cool off and have fun. I imagine it looked kinda like a twister mat from above. Oh, are those called splash pads or parks or something?
Anyway. It's the only pic I've ever captured of her completely relaxed, and unselfconscious, truly enthralled by the physical experience and sensation. At that moment, she was completely present, and not stuck in her head. Her expression, the unadulterated joy on her face, a real smile ~ one of the most beautiful things I've ever seen. And it's the only time it's ever been captured in a photo. I loved seeing her let go and just experience the Se. I was eventually able to determine it was the water that enthralled her, and went out of my way to take the kids to the beach as often as I could. My favorite was only about a half hour drive. And we went camping at the beach too. Which I love, but is a lot of work with kids, and their father preferred what I think people call glamping now? Which is also a lot of work. I'm not a fan of work in my downtime. But it was worth it to see her relax, and breathe, and just be. Human being as opposed to human doing.
She is now a grown woman, and stores her camping gear in her vehicle at all times. Always ready for an impromptu trip into nature.
ENFP HERE! :D and yes, we do live on a different planet. The thing about us is that we are highly misunderstood. You have to understand that the brain of an ENFP is *CONSTANTLY* going. We're often described as scatterbrained (which we are), childish and overly-excited, but it's because we thrive on high levels of creativity. We literally have entire worlds imagined in our heads, and even if they don't exist in reality, they are very real to us. This is why we have such a hard time concentrating on mundane things of everyday life. I mean, it's kind of hard to concentrate on daily "responsibilities" (i.e. paying bills) when you have an entire world existing in your brain and you're just itching to tell somebody about it.
I'm an author who has two published science fiction/fantasy novels (currently working on a third). I'm also a musician, artist and graphic designer. When your brain is always coming up with new ideas, possibilities and scenarios, it's hard to stay on a planet as normal as planet Earth :) hope this helps clear some things up! Let me know if you have any other questions about being an ENFP :)
OfficialDr3am5tep yo what’re the names of your novels?
JokAndJuvee A. Inner Sanctum by Abraham M Luckey. The first book is called reality and the second book is called rise. They are both available on Amazon
@@AlwaysDr3amingCool! I'll have to check them out!
JokAndJuvee A. Please do! Feel free to check them out and let me know if u like them 😀
@@juva338 Here is the link to them on Amazon - www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-text&rh=p_27%3AAbraham+M.+Luckey&s=relevancerank&text=Abraham+M.+Luckey&ref=dp_byline_sr_ebooks_1
My sister is ESTP and I'm an INFJ... yeah, things have always been confusing between the two of us. And it doesn't matter if you try to simplify an INFJ's problems, because we'll just interpret that as you not fully understanding the problem. Good times :)
I'm INTJ and my best friend is ESTP. We bond really well because we both always speak our minds without bullshit. We misunderstand each-other ALL the time but the thing is, we know we misunderstand each-other. Sometimes we fight and its REALLY nasty and the day after it's just forgotten (after some apologies). It's a real good learning experience. She have almost forced me to become good at communicating with people and she ground me when Im overanalysing things, which I do all the time. It's almost like meditating speaking with her. And on her end I can make her see things from tons of other directions that she never would have thought of. We both value freedom and independence very high and I think that is where we are most alike.
Vinlid wow! So cool to see the really positive sides of that relationship. How did you guys become friends?
@@katibird166 We met through another friend, at first I really dismissed her and thought of her as a bit annoying(she have told me she believed I hated her in the beginning) but after inviting me to get out almost every weekend we became closer and closer. Now we speak everyday. I think this is a good example of Extrovert vs Introvert compatibility. :)
Yes we INFPs have way high moral compass that i struggle with everyone not being upto the expectations i put them in my mind. Behind our cuteness, there is lot of sadness. We worry for problems not belonging to us. We forget to take care of us sometimes and be hard on ourselves.
INTPs ARE strange, they go from moderately eccentric to bat shit crazy. But I adore them!
What you said about INFPs is very flattering... like you could not really flatter me more. That's the aesthetic I live for (unless I'm feeling sad or flippant and disinterested), but we are more than just magical and adorable squishes and we also like to be taken seriously sometimes. Please don't feel like we're judging you... we are perceivers after all! Even if I did see something negative you said or did, I wouldn't let that stop me from seeing the best in you too! It's not like INFPs are perfect moralistic beings. If anything, we just have strong personal opinions which makes us picky, stubborn, and sometimes pretentious. But shhhhh, don't tell anyone... we're ~magical! 😻🌺💖🌸
That comment you made about INTJs and ENTJs wanting to make themselves useful to the people they like is so true!! True friendships for us are focussed on helping each other achieve goals. I want to help people flourish and feel powerful!
Hey, what are you talking about - INTJ married to ESTP for 20 years. We get along really well and both appreciate each other's bluntness, humor, and logical reasoning. He makes me socialise and I make him think before he acts (if he hasn't already raced out the door). Also independence - we're both not gushy and we're both really happy to go off and do our own thing then spend time together later. Downside for me is that he refuses to hear about my theories, ideas and future plans but I find his conversation about the technical components of his bike etc entirely boring - so even stevens. He will argue with me about which one of us will survive a zombie apocalypse - fun times.
I am SO flattered by your assessment of the ENFP! Thank you.
Jo Brill
Enfps are absolutely amazing:)
Jo Brill as am I!!
@@sophiaredwood5825 yeah? That's cool.
When did you discover these girls?
Yep, you'll totally find yourself in an apparent blackout when you're around an INTJ, we don't show emotion at all, and if it happens that we feel something we're totally overwhelmed by it and we enter into a blackout phase to process that emotion with logic, which obviously can't work. It doesn't mean we don't feel, but we hold those feelings from going out. You can get a cool conversation with us but imagine yourself speaking with a poker face. I admit it will be hard and often people think we just don't like them while its not true.
I can make jokes and say funny things with a straight poker face, people may be laughing and I'll be like cold inexpressive
INFJ here. First of all, I LOVE ESTPs. I love the way you all make everyone stronger.
Ni is easy. It’s one’s own personal future, “what I want”, the drive to complete a goal. It’s a fantastic function but it’s frustrating to other people because we get our heads in the clouds.
INFJ here. I love ESTPs. The attraction/attachment is mutual. I wish I had more ESTPs in my life.
I'm really loving this channel. Keep up the good work.
xoxo
Haha I agree I’m an infj and estp’s are good for opening up and are really fun (:
Thanks for sharing!!! You both look so present in reality, its so awesome to watch.... As an Infp I would love to try that even if just for a day!!!!! Having an SE blindspot make life so challenging. I so admire your SE use!!!! Thanks for sharing your perspectives
As an infp I love yall! Yall are like the cool kids that were sweet to me. Like the chiks who make you feel welcome at a party. Or let's you come sit with them. I get that like deep connection is hard to form. But remember we are not judgemental for real. We just have to stick to our convictions. And maybe we seem like we are trying to remind you what moral code you need to fallow. But that's because we are scared yalls charm will break our convictions. But if yall could figure out a great way to communicate you could be great friends.
ESTP here. Loved the video!
Showed it to my ESFJ brother and we laught so hard about that part.
THX 4 that
Fun video! You guys work well together.
P.S.- Still looking forward to full ISFP video. 🌈🌷
No pressure. You’re doing a great job with your videos, keep it up!!!
I’ve tested as an ISFP and my daughters always tell me I laugh a lot, and I do love to paint. I’m going to list off some ISFPish ways about me to help you compare it to what you know.
I don’t know if you’re familiar with the Enneagram, but for most of my life I have been a 4w3 (individualist with achiever wing) but recently my highest Enneagram scores were 5 (need for knowledge) and 2 (need to help). I started homeschooling my girls 3 years ago, so it kind of makes sense. But on MBTI tests, still ISFP.
For a moment or two, I will happily be a soft shoulder to cry on, but not for too long. I love to be supportive in practical ways. I will try to give you any insight I have and am happy to research whatever you need to find a solution, that’s how I help.
Most of my life, people have told me I come off aloof. I have worked on this and learned much from my ESFJ sister. I have unintentionally hurt her more times than I can count, and it’s always because she thinks I don’t care about her. It’s not true at all, but apparently I’ve just been horrible at showing my love and appreciation for her. Thankfully, as of lately she says I’m getting better at showing my love and appreciation. Like most ESFJ’s she’s very sentimental and I am not sentimental. I live very much in the present and peer mostly into the future when necessary. She loves to talk about the past, I don’t voluntarily talk about the past, it’s just not my thing. She has always referred to me as being “cold” because of all of these things, however most of my friends and acquaintances seem to like me and these same things are not an issue with them.
I love to hike, camp, sew, paint, self analyze, analyze everyone!, listen to audio books, and help people see the big picture. I am goal oriented and love to work on projects by myself. I am a hardcore introvert, but in social situations no one would ever guess that! One more thing- “I’m bored” is not something you’ll ever hear me say! I’ve always got projects to work on.
Thanks for listening 👂 😀
Love Lu oh noooo!!!! I hate when that happens, so very irritating.
Hmmm... let’s see, what else can I add?
Well, I think you’re familiar with C.S Joseph’s videos, right? He says the ISFP blind spot is NE. Most of my life I have been extremely gullible, that’s a fact, lol! I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt, unless they give me reason to distrust them. However, when it comes to my girls I don’t trust hardly anyone. And I am extremely cautious when I hike alone to only hike when other people are around. My mom is ISFJ and drilled these things into me in my youth. At 44 now, I’m really not that gullible anymore.
I have struggled to be organized my whole life. I enjoy a clean home, but man... when I am excited about working on a project, the house goes to pot! I have a problem with being the slow and steady type, I tend to work in energy spikes in whatever direction it takes me. Unfortunately, I don’t happen to my day, my day happens to me on most days, lol. Setting a good example in cleanliness for my girls is important to me because I know it will affect their future, so work hard to fight against my tendencies, but it’s not easy!
I am married to an ENTP and we are going on 22 years. We very much live an artist life. He makes a living as a bronze sculptor and we move around more than most. Most women would not put up with the instability of our life, but I have always been extremely adaptable and I think that’s why it works for me, I’m not bitter about it. We have helped balance each other out over the years. He still makes ridiculous jokes when I am on the edge of a breakdown, but after I let him know how irritating that is, he’ll give me a hug, lol 😂. And occasionally I will join him for a sci-Fi movie, which is huge for me because I’d honestly rather go to the dentist than watch sci-Fi!
I guess the only other thing I can think of is that I am very into natural medicine. I research natural treatments for anything that has come up (other than major stuff, like breaking a leg or something). For about 8 years we lived in a very remote part of AZ, and I became the crunchiest mama you ever did see! I had chickens and ducks, I milled wheat berries into sifted wheat, made fresh bread daily, fermented everything you can think of, and had a good sized garden. I dreamed of milking adorable little Nigerian hosts... until I found out my family hated the taste of goats milk. 🐐 I definitely value self sufficiency. Nothing new to you I’m sure, growing up Amish and all!
Hope this extra info helps! There’s a shortage of ISFP info out there. I seem to be a rare breed of ISFP in some ways, especially my interest in personality stuff. I’m kind of obsessed!
Oh cool! I didn't see it under your videos. When will you be uploading it? @@lovewho
Lol, oh man... bummer! 😭 Right now I'm an hour into the Chase video. It is so incredibly entertaining!!!! I'm still deciding if I'm sold on the ENFJ idea, lol. I'll leave a comment and let you know when he's it's done. P.S. - Since I left this original message, I'm almost convinced I'm either an INFP or ISFP with "jumper NI". DaveSuperPowers takes about jumping. I almost wonder if you are jumping as well, as in Se, Fe, Ti, Ni? I think it's seriously possible, although I don’t think Chase agrees with Dave's theory, so it would probably be a pointless argument with him. And it seems that Dave is not open to shadow functions etc, so there’s that! When I put both theories together, it makes a lot more sense. @Love Lu
Oh how fun!!! @@lovewho
Hello, enfp here and it goes the same way for us about you. I mean I'm talking personally here but I feel like I can get THE BEST laughs with you, gossip and talk but on the deep moral ground I struggle so much with you! And in my way a lot of times I feel like you're too rational to even be it because you don't consider feelings. Also, I feel like you maybe lack a bit of insight but this video started to change my opinion so thanks :)
Infp here you 2 are adorable and it's nice to see reaspect and love that you 2 share. I just love when friends connect like u2. ❤
I loved this video! It's so refreshing to get the ESTPs perspective and I found it very accurate. I'm an INFJ from a big family (I know at least 1 person personally of all the 16 types) and yeah, this video had me laughing for every type. I almost wrote a comment every minute but didn't want to take up your whole page. lol Excellent video!
As for me. ESTPs are like lionesses. You can literally feel the strength coming off the screen and I admire that. Se hero and Fi trickster is a blessing. No weakness.
No weakness! Bahahaha. I would love to agree.... but every once in a while it’s obvious that we’re not invincible!
INTP here. Love your input. Y’all are also adorable. :)
Lindsay M have yet to meet a girl intp! I wish!
Intp woman 🙋👌
Kati Bird You’ve probably met more than you realize. We’re the cold, quiet, nerdy girls in high school that only raise their hands in class to argue with the teachers when they give misinformation. Then we grow up to be warm, cat loving couch dwellers that become obsessively knowledgeable in their areas of interest. You know the type.
This is the most fascinating thing to see in the universe. I really appreciate your perspectives (it's not something I would have imagined I'd appreciate, coming from the Way Too Serious side). You two seem to be very on point about *seeing* people. Even the confusion is 'on point'. There are people that sort of 'ought' to be confusing, and hearing from you two is clearing the cobwebs of my brain a bit much (the overthinking).
I had never known what (some, I guess) ESTPs are really like, but it's even further fascinating to see how they see the other types. It's like my blind spot; I had no idea who they were. It's hilarious that the 'free' way you think about life... I have known some people view the world this way and I *want* to get into that space but it's so hard. I need to learn from this so badly (my family certainly would think so, although they'd never want me to be reckless).
I enjoyed this format, you're softer in interviews and it feels more natural to me. INFJ 💕
I’m an ISFP and you definitely hit the nail on the head about us loving to laugh! I laugh at everything and some would tell me “why are you laughing?” And I’ll just said “idk....I just love to laugh.” Hahah. I think it’s a thing with us! Lmao.
Really interesting (& accurate) insights! :D
@@lovewho Strange, yet adorable intp (chick) ;P
I like this video, I feel like I'm hanging out with friends celebrating people I like. Though I don't know that I'm close to any ESTPs in real life!
Big fan. Big fan! 😊
My type in 3 words? I don't know.
Haha big fan! Love that! What’s your type?
@@StephanieDouglassMusic Not sure about your type lately Steph? Gotten more torn :O ? What does it stand between?
@@JonasAnandaKristiansson Someone typed me as an ENFJ and that gave me a lot to think about. But I think I'm back to INFJ after discussing with a few people. I just wasn't that Fe-graceful growing up.
A lot of people have misunderstood Fe vs. Fi...it's the difference between empathy and sympathy. Fi is empathy and Fe is sympathy. I don't vicariously feel the emotions of others just because they feel them. But I do care and want to be helpful to my friends.
Hey, good to see you Jonas!!!
@@katibird166 INFJ I think. I was exploring others for awhile but I think I'm back to there ;)
Why do you guys have the same hair and smiles?! hahaha
Cause they're both ESTPs?
Kati seems to have an Fi smile :) Gotta love the INTJ & INFP Coffee micro expression videos, hahahaha.
Amazing video
Truthfully, I find ESTP hilarious. I hopefully can help you gain perspective on INTJs. We have very strong emotions at times, but many of us struggle with said emotions. Since we are intuitive, we tend to think many steps ahead of others. Simetimes I wish I could think in the presense sense a bit better like you guys. Se is very much my blind spot. I guess bottom line, we are much more human than meets the eye. I hope that helps, and I really love your perspective.
Your videos are very refreshing to me. I love hearing your perspective! I’m an ESFJ with an ESTP husband. You make me laugh when you talk about ESFJs 😂
Love love love this video! -intj lady
Awesome video Kati and Lu! I truely enjoy listening to both of you, so much!
The lettering at the beginning of the video made me think: 'wow looks good, good pick, Nathan.'
confession: I even enjoyed the minor heart attack when the enfj was mentioned hahahaha lmao. XP
A heart attack from excitement tho lol. ty for that! XD ♡
Makes me look forward to all the fun that is to come. yay!
note to self: 'text esfj friend more often. ♡'
Honestly I loved this video, I’m amazed that two ESTPs somehow cared enough to get involved in this sort of thing, although your usage of “interesting” is evidence of that Ti. I really appreciated the video, I’ll have to check your other stuff.
I’m an INFJ and to answer your question, as I’ve been best friends with an ESTP and even dated that ESTP, the issue, it’s only ever one, I have with them is they keep getting hurt and it’s almost as if they purposely do it. When you said, “It’s like I have the answers to all their problems” quite literally something reverberated through me, and.... maybe, just maybe, if that one thing that hurt you... hurt you a month ago.... and a year ago..... if that job, or person, has consistently upset you regardless of Se circumstances, then maybe stop living day by day with that “who knows” attitude and recognize the pattern so I can do my INFJ thing and help you realize how YOU’RE THE MOST AMAZING PERSON IN THE WORLD.
Love Lu Dang it. Looking back over my words I really wasn’t clear at all, but you’re right I never even mentioned my actual point...... I really thought I had gotten better about that, I mean I’m at work, but still haha
But yes, that was what I was inferring. However, I will say that while my 8 years with that ESTP has given me a great deal of understanding of the type, ultimately no - I do not have the answers for an ESTP. I mean, I would be happy to make snide remarks about them all day long with my understandings, I would message her right now with them all if she wasn’t at yet another concert for a band that she believed to be universally the best - I knew I had one in me - but after reading through Jung my answer is no. It is concerning to me that the two ESTPs I know would squander their money away in the moment only to regret it later(at times not out loud, they’ll of course acknowledge it if one addresses it, but when I would drop by and they’re eating one Chinese takeout for all 3 meals there would always be a sort of melancholic vibe to them), caused by that “high of the moment” as they described it to me, stay at jobs that don’t appreciate their work ethic and continually strings them along with vague promises- really all things that Ni might address, but my answer is still no. The uhh prophet of sorts for the ESTP would be the ISFJ. As Jung describes it, the 5th function would be the enemy since it’s the opposite of the dominant and everything serves the dominant, it’s not the “inferior” function; Ni could only ever help Se by providing more insight into their sensation towards the object, enhancing it, as I imagine Typology has offered you. An ESTP’s resistance to structure is Si, which the ISFJ would help cool off(since ultimately it’s that structure that gives Se any meaning) and then the ESTP would be more comfortable performing Ni themselves- the one who is best fit for another is the one who brings out the best in that other. Whenever I’m around ENTPs they get a lot calmer, and I’m the one who picks up the pace and wants to go and do things; it’s not a complete switch, but I think you get my point. While we may not see eye to eye on this, I will say that I appreciate the reaction in the video when it came to ISFJs because I was like, “Yeaaaah there it is.”
True we are getting hurt. That's because our relationships work like a yoyo: I want really bad to be close, hold hands, do cool stuff together, but when the relationship is getting more and more serious I don't want it anymore. Because that's when I start feeling the burden of a real relationship that comes with bunch of rules and social expectations that feel like way to much that I can deal with. That's why, without thinking I naturally pick someone who is scared of relationships as well, so that keeps me safe. (I mean don't confuse being committed with a full devotion of traditional marriage , because I am committed and loyal and I personally won't waste my time on a male whore loser, I'm just scared that I have to suddenly quit my life and sacrifice it to serve the family). So getting back to our topic, if ESTP is choosing people who are somewhat loyal but also somewhat scared of relationships than it's hard for it to actually create a relationship and majority of them fail. I actually had to go over my comfort zone and allow my INTJ to fall in love with me and then not to run for my life scared. I just still straggle a bit because we all have options out there but he is super handsome, smart, reliable and fun so my brain says he is a good choice, and I will stick with it.
I like your channel:) I know you recently took the harsh comments on one of your videos very hard (based on my limited knowledge of you). I hope you’re okay. The best thing you can do for yourself is to give yourself compassion and kindness. The internet isn’t going to give anyone that, but we certainly can lend ourselves that love.
Anyways I like your channel:) keep posting!
The thing that could have been verbalized is that ISFJ's and ESFJ's are the mom friends of the world.
ENFPs
"when you're on the different realm, how do you know what is really real?" -- reality check -- we have no idea hahahahah
We slippery -- but with the intention to help at all times. We want to help people and always want to just show people what they are capable of and what they could do. So.... i'll admit, I can be. But I promise its with good intention!!!!
Michelle Wilson when I heard them say, “How do you know what is really real?” I shrugged and said, “Is that really what matters?”
Haha and I try to be reliable but it never works, I have a time management problem and I’m late for literally everything... still working on it... but that isn’t what matters, either!! It’s all about knowing the world is wide and trying to take joy in learning all about the diversity in it, for me anyway.
ISFJ here: I completely agree with what you guys said. I'm always told I'm predictable and the stereotype is we are boring. The thing with the rules, at least for me and other enneagram 6s, is rules are security for us. If I have rules and know exactly what needs to be done or how to act in a certain situation, I don't feel so awkward and feel like I can really be myself and be part of what's going on. It's true I find ESTPs, like yourselves, very fun to be around because when I hang out with people who don't necessarily care about the rules, I feel more free to just be, have fun, and live life without feeling like I have to act a certain way. Hope that makes sense and gives a little more insight into ISFJ. We're not as boring as we sound. :)
AND what Kati said about the passion is entirely true. If something is just somewhat important to us, we might not say anything. But if something is really, really, REALLY important to us, you will hear about it. :)
sandrapageone I’m glad we bring out the fun in you all!
That's supposed to be your golden pair. I never understood how ISFJs apparently hate chaos (no rules), but then as an INTP I find ESTPs chaotic even for me.
INFJ here! I love you guys too. I feel like just watching you is so good for me, haha! I genuinely enjoy it and also do feel like I learn a lot. I do think we can overcomplicate things. There are times I think....well....my Ni could be totally right, but I have absolutely no way to prove this thing I think....so why am I wasting my time? LOL
Yikes....type in 3 words
INFJ
1.ruminating (mentally)
2. caring
3.suspicious (of others lol)
WOW that all seems really negative.
Here are 3 more
1. Imaginative
2. understanding
3. teachable
Boom Shihka has great videos on Infjs if you're trying to learn more about yourself.
@@pdubb4, Thanks! I have been watching TH-cam for years now to learn about myself/find people who "get it" LOL. I found Boom Shihka wasn't my cup of tea, but I think she is for many, and I support that. I am always learning, and I love it. Feel free to add a list of people you recommend (if you'd like) because I may not have heard of one of them and it could be helpful, and also help others
@@pdubb4 Yes, Boom says many things, that always have been so normal to me. She really surprises me, and she is not nice, to get likes or anything. Because she doesn't need it. But I like this witty way here pretty much. It does not make it seemso heavy stuff. And some people I watched, carried INFJ like a shield in front of them. So stay tuned, Ladies.
I am INTJ. I dated ESTP. He totally didnt understand my way of thinking and making decisions. He was fast like : „yeah lets do it”, its great idea!” High fived and thumbed up at whatever i did during the day which was overwhelming a bit to me, and to him i didnt have enthusiasm at all, i wasnt jumping happy after whatever i did during the day or general after accomplishments. Me being calm he red as sad or cold :) i also think ESTP are very snoopy (annoying). Anyway we had great talks which i find useful and interesting.
Deer Dilevsky very snoopy! Bahaha, idk about the rest of them, but you’re onto me!
Great video ladies! Very truly yours, ENFJ 😁
Oh well look who it is......
My very favorite ENFJ
Sureeee issss, she doesn’t have a profile pic here, but she’s in mine xxoo
“CREATURES”
You two are so damn pretty. Is that an ESTP thing.. 😍
Malinda Eckert we like to think so 😘
I'm an ESTP, and I love this video! You made me laugh a lot. I agree with many things you said about the 16 personalities. I only know another ESTP so seeing other ESTPs talking about the MBTI is fascinating. Thank you for putting this video together.
Is the other ESTP a guy or a girl? You guys friends?
@@katibird166 The other ESTP is a guy. We are not friends, he is a colleague's husband. My colleague was actually very surprised about how alike we, her husband and I, are. We respond to similar situations in such a "reactive" way, especially at work with the authority due to stupid rules. My colleague (ISFJ) was telling me how they were in a bank and her husband (ESTP) was wearing a cap. She was very concerned as, according to her, you should not wear a cap in a bank. She asked him to take it off. He was upset and replied something like... that's stupid, why am I supposed to take it off? I'm not going to steal the bank. They can come to me and do an inspection if they want but my cap stays on LOL... I might have taken it off to avoid the conflict (not worth it). If I were stressed out enough, I would reply similarly. Btw, I hate going to the bank... hate waiting and the long queue.
@@AALEJANDROCC bahahaha, i would definitely not have taken my hat off and probably would have been pretty annoyed at that statement. thats hilarious.
You guys are both so different to me but the one on the right is more quiet in my opinion like laid back and the one on the left is more talkative and moves around a lot but your both observant so how do u guys find which mbti fits you best? cus I’m still confused on mines
I'm an INTJ and thought it was humorous that you said we are friendly. That's not something that's generally attached to our stereotype. I've tended to get along with ESTPs fairly well. I do agree that it's difficult to fully click with each other. I've seen a few ESTPs and INTJs say this as well. And I think that Billie's an ISFP too. I figured she was somewhere on the Se/Ni Te/Fi axis, but couldn't discern between INTJ and ISFP until I noticed how much she moved while talking (Perceiving-type thing). When you both were saying that you both feel a magnetism with INFJs, I find a similar click with ESFPs. Not sure why there's such a magnetic pull to our MBTI opposites.
Intjs are demons from hell...
One to thing to consider about using family members as a baseline for MBTI type - family members have long standing histories with each other other - including triggers. Those triggers may not be present in dealing with non family members of a particular type. So, you may be getting a tainted paintbrush if you rely too heavily on typing within family to create your opinions. That said Lu, I'm glad you've looked farther and been connecting with INFJs out there. I think that's healthy for you and will give you a more rounded opinion. Cheers. (INFJ)
infp It was cute, how you had something nice to say about every type.
🤣😂🤣Fascinating, but frustrating (infj here), right back at you.
Jasmine Marie hehehehe
@7:15 you got the two types backwards. It is the INTJ that is referred to as the coldest humans.
My son is an INTJ and so is my brother and neither are as cold as people might think. They're actually really kind-hearted. INTPs are low in empathy and working for 1 was a nightmare. I'm INFJ btw. He definitely favored the ISTP and ENTP, if that's what she was. My ex-hubby is ISTP and he is self-involved. INTJs are misunderstood.
ENTJ's are colder, inferior Fi leads to it. INTJ's are second to the ENTJ in terms of emotional coldness.
Also dominant Te leads to them being especially vocal/public with this coldness as well.
@shinees dadI concur. This has been my experience for sure. When I heard my former INTP supervisor in our supervisory staff meetings I was disgusted by his lack of empathy and appearing 2faced. My INTJ son is definitely as you described.
yeah even i was thinking if that is the case!
A bit of context on ENFP's. We do live in a different world. As one myself, everything you share with me is filtered through my opinions and experiences. Its not so much comparing the 2 (your experience vs my experience) as it is positioning what i think about what you shared with me based on what i've experienced, as it is the only "Fact" that i know.
How Lovely was your ENTP description, an analysis was as beautiful as both of you! Now that I feel understood (ENTP) 😇I shall leave! Ta Ta and Tooodles!
Meet "ESTP - The INxP Squisher!"
You two are so much fun to watch. :)
Girl on the left, I am fascinated by you, truly
You not only have a great personality, and you are smart and confident and funny, you also are cute when you smile and you are really beautiful on the outside.
I already love ESTPs in general, but I really admire you personally
@@lovewho An INFP by the way 😊
@@lovewho ♡ I wish I could meet you and have a conversation drinking beer
@@lovewho I'm Italian, so dont worry... We are too far apart. But why not too many, girl?
My husband is ISTJ and YES he is RIGID! I'm INTP so his rigid adherence to a routine and schedule is maddening.....but is also helpful in pulling my head out of the clouds so I can tend to what needs to be done.
Make more videos about isfp, i wanna know what ppl think of us lol.
When i was in my teens, i was still puppied by all my seniors and teachers like omg she's such a child and i used to feel so embarrassed cos i was not as young as they make me out to be or presume. Now hearing it from all types of youtubers even ENTPs said INFPs are way too cute, now i get it. I also get it how all my past bfs liked me and at the sametime thought iam dumb.
Boy, I relate to this way too much! Like having friends that love you a lot but think you're reallly dumb
I thought it was the other way around, which makes sense with INTPs leading with Ti: That INTPs are the warmest robots and INTJs the coldest humans.
@@lovewho Is Michelle Beadle an ESTP? th-cam.com/video/dgQiIj2lwf4/w-d-xo.html
That's her in spirited mood she's not usually QUITE that fierce. Random question I know.
@@lovewho th-cam.com/video/7NGzZlhc9mk/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/QhEWk-Nr5sY/w-d-xo.html
th-cam.com/video/2I_A1hC7-ak/w-d-xo.html Decent clips here I'd say. I know you said another clip and instead I sent 3. Sorry!
Love Lu :DD
@@lovewho This type of communicating Fe makes me chuckle every time xd ^_^
ESTP: "just let it go and your life will be so much easier"
Me (INFJ): "BUT YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT MY INTUITION IS TELLING ME."
That said, I've also gotten some advice that has influenced my personal growth incredibly from someone whom I believe is an ESTP. I'd say half the time what ESTPs tell me applies to me and half the time I need to disregard it because my Ni tells me otherwise. I definitely feel a draw to the ESTP, though. I think it's so grounding to spend time with someone who's my complete opposite.
That drunk jump cut was amazing, genuinely had me laughing
I don't think I have met any other ISTJs, but I don't think I'm as boring as the 2 people you described, but you're right I LOVE ESTPs my favourite type by far, they bring excitement into my life. I like to try to not be boring by doing fun things like play guitar in a band, and allow Se users like yourself to take me along on fun experiences, I crave those experiences. Also I think why ISTJs understand you so much is because we need direct communicators as we can't read between the lines, and because we suck with empathy, people with a fairly low awareness of their own feelings. But man, hearing how the type I'm supposed to match with the most thinks I'm boring, that hurts hah. Also you girls are gorgeous! :)
I said I’m not sure if I know any, but I’m about 65% sure that my 5 yr relationship was ISTJ (possibly ESTJ). It was a really easy relationship. Ended because I became squirrely, mostly due to a complete lack of emotional connection. We did have fun, and we were with friends all the time, but he was super... ummm, slow, to participate in any new activities, which is what makes me feel the most alive.
Anyway, moral of the story is... when you meet the ESTP love of your life, say yes to new things as much as you can, and focus on finding emotional common ground, we just avoided it like the plague and that’s what killed us in the end. But still think he’s great, would have his back if he ever needed me to.
@@lovewho Well, I don't live on the edge very often no, but that's why I need an ESTP. I want them to push me out of my comfort zone and give me those experiences so that I can live a more exciting life. :)
@@katibird166 I will definitely. That's exactly what I want from an ESTP. Give me all the new experiences and activities, make my Si hero happy hah :)
@@lovewho Also I think knowledge of the types has made me far less rigid and understanding/accepting of other people, and I appreciate people for who they are now and wouldn't want to change anyone. :)
ENFJ here, I don't think I know any ESTPs in my life but this was so fun to watch and sorta fills that ESTP-hole in my heart
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INFP-t... I'm magical
5:36 HAHAHAHA OMG i LAUGHED OUT LOUD 😂 being an ESTP, I TOTALLY agree with u 😂😂 we are the best type and everyone should try it, i don’t know why people are the other types 😂
Fuck, I love EJ Arendee. I hope that guy is back. Cool to see him mentioned.
My wife is ENFJ, I'm really working on getting rid on some of the ESTP harshness.
2:30 "They (ISTJ) like me."
2:35 "I make sense to them somehow"
This is what's called your 'golden pair'. The ISTJ and ESTP because your cognitive stack matches up perfectly.
ISTJ ESTP
Si Se
Te Ti
Fi Fe
Ne Ni
You both have sensing first, thinking second, feeling third and intuition fourth. On top of that they are the inverse version of each allowing for two different personalities to be able to interface with ease. No loss in translation so to speak.
Types with this 1 to 1 combo can read each other like a book and have great compatibility.
*Hint - it is the person who is your shadow self. ie. INFJ - ENFP or ISTP - ESTJ etc.
The second best is an introverted or extroverted (depending on what you start with) version of that type. ie. ESTP - ISTJ or ESTJ
No, their golden pair is ISFJ.
Yaaay ♡ I'm an ENFJ married to an ESTP, so happy! Love ESTPs
You really keep reminding me of Angelina Jolie everytime I watch your videos!
It's about the energy, engagement, facial "expressions". Really cool, had to bring it up about now LOL
There are some theories that Angelina is an ESTP, which I can totally see watching interviews from her
@@PsychologyandChillwMichi Yes, I'm SURE she is!! :D
Angie has been typed infj though eh? Or am I wrong on that
My type (INFP) in 3 words: quietly fierce badasses
I'm fascinated you like my type a lot despite the "conflictor" intertype relation. I wonder if you see positives in each others' blindspots.
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I wouldn’t say INFPs are quiet. It depends on the situation:)
Eh, no
As an ESTP I agree that ESTPs are the best type to exist
ISTP here. Nothing to add.
So true about esfjs I so want them to have fun. They are quite reliable though and grounding like isfjs.
I think if ESTP's and INFJ's took the time to understand each other's motivations, weaknesses, and fears, they could be one of the most overlooked, underrated, and best compatible pairings there could be. This statement comes from both real-life experiences, and studying of the CF's. The adventurousness of an ESTP is strongly present in an INFJ. It sometimes takes an ESTP, or ENFP to bring it out. Conversely, the INFJ can serve as a good grounding element for an ESTP. As a team with a common goal, the sky is the limit.
I saw one compatibility chart that didn't recommend any Sensors as a good type for an INFJ in romantic relationship, but I would say ISFJ's and ESTP's could be a great match for an INFJ. I have read that an ENFP is a mirrored type for INFJ because they have same functions, in the same order except one set is the introverted type, and the other the extraverted. It seems more to me that the ESTP and INFJ are the mirrored types. Literally, if you put a mirror to the right of NI FE TI SE, the reflection is SE TI FE NI. I don't know where the 5th through 8th functions stack up, but for the first four, ESTP/INFJ are literally "The mirrored pair." Perhaps this is that "magnetism" that your friend mentioned she had with INFJ's in action. I have also experienced it, but that was back before I knew about any of this.
I’m an INTJ and I only know of very few ESTPs in my life and it’s hard to get along with them. I think I like the ESTP but it is hard to find common ground with them.
Yeah, INTP here. INTJs are a absolute nightmare in my opinion. Brutally cruel, ignorantly arrogant, heartless, selfish as fuck and tireless in their evil scheemes. Thank God that is a rare type, otherwise hell would be a playground compared to life on earth...
Artur V Love ya too hun!! 😘
Artur V JEEZ. LOL. Idk whether to laugh or cry reading that. I love INTPs :(
Artur V your comment put a smile on my face.
Exactly
I'm an isfp, I wonder what u guys think about isfp male.
We INTJ's are kickass and weird.
As an ENFP I loved the ENFP part of this! Honestly, it took some time get along with ESTPs because of my own immaturity, and because if ESTPs are the kings/queens of direct communication, the ENTP/ENFP are the kings/queens of indirect communication. So first of all I used to judge the heck out of people that didn't follow a particular moral standard and it would definitely have a "slippery" feel because I wouldnt be up front about it. I honestly hated the THOUGHT of being directly confrontational with anyone...which is interesting given that your estp friend had said that she was surprised when she learned that people don't say what they mean. I think it took a long while to figure out the opposite for me, that there wasnt a hidden message behind all communication LOL. I still feel like it makes us good readers of people since many people for many reasons will hide motives for their behavior, will lie, will try to pull one over on you, etc. So I feel like Im good at catching negative intentions and steering myself away from those people. However, when someone was so up front with their beliefs it just made me go berzerk and run away. Now I am a recovered (mature) ENFP and this personality stuff is helping me tweak my conversations based on people's preferred communication (E.g., whether i stick to my natural indirectness or switch to direct). I mean there are still times when I feel like if I disagree with an ESTP will they literally pummel me into the ground?? But the fear has subsided very significantly and I do have a good friend that's an ESTP now. I do admire your guyses fearlessness and your ability to read people as well. I think sometimes that's underestimated in the ESTP. If I want to hide something I have to be on my A game or I KNOW they will catch me or sense something is off.
@@lovewho Yeah definitely and probably a big reason why I find people with high ti interesting
I actually learned a lot of my indirectness lessons from ENFPs! Haha
INTJ here...yes I think we do hurt people with some pretty good damage, with purpose. We only strike when we know it hurts lol I have to admit it is not a good trait and we can be very mean. We do everything with purpose. Yet we can be your most loyal friends or partner for life. If we decided to sting you, you probably deserves it or you hurt us without knowing. If we did it by accident, we would definitely apologize and actually feel bad. Stick to the truth is what we honor :)
@M Rod Interesting...why are you INTP guys love screwing with us INTJ females? lol I think there is undeniable connection or attraction between these two types, our cognitive functions are completely opposite, complementary I would say. I got messed with by an INTP guy last year so oh yes, I know :) You guys are good mind fucker. It's all in the head space, talk about intellectually stimulating relationship. These two types are almost like cousins...it's fun.
@M Rod Oh, we already know INTP guys expect the women you like to approach you...Unfortunately...INTJ females does not chase in relationship and also expect a man we like to approach us like a man would lol Be the man and claim us is actually what we want, it is a test it is also a standard...I guess. To get an INTP or INTJ in your life means you fight to be in their life, that space is earn, not really given easily. Of course we will return our loyalty to our man. I hold no grudge, that experience make me grow as a person, so I am actually thankful to learn something. I've learned self-love. I think that experience also helps that INTP to grow a little, he does see his immaturity and hope that helps mature him up, he mentioned he is trying to do better which I think he is telling the truth. It is a win-win so that's what I'm going to concentrate on. Honestly...I think you should contact the INTJ lady you mentioned, friends or something more...you never know. Sometimes, action is needed and this type of connection does not come easily in both our types...I think is worth a go :) is not my place to give any suggestion...but I just think it can be beautiful or better.
@M Rod American Boy...You are the definition of effortless lol In some way it makes sense INTP is lethal I would say to INTJ...because you guys are so effortless, we have to in turn put in so much effort...imbalanced. I've learned I should stay away from INTPs due to that reason :) what you love could kill you and it will.
M Rod thanks :) I appreciate your genuine advice for sure. I am just improving myself right now. I over analyze and that INTP overthink, too tired and need a break lol I honestly don’t know how to tame anyone. Let him run ha! When he’s tired of too much freedom, maybe then he will realize what he really wanted. I trust your advice because you are the second INTP man told me that same thing. I’m just not ready for another round of heaviness entanglement, I miss myself 😂 You have a gentle soul, good luck 🍀
@@geelee2964 INTJs are ultra manipulative assholes... Stay away from them...
I'm an infp but I'm just a little more introverted than extroverted it kinda sucks because I crave to be understood but it's hard to take down my walls and just be in the moment with someone
It seems like our answers are complicated. That's because we INFJ are thinking end game at the beginning. They have already (in their mind) worked through the entire cycle of the solution.
You two are sweetest ESTPs ever.
-INFP 4w5
No it's INTP's warmest machines INTJ's coldest people
nah, I have an INTP uncle and in-law. They can get extremely silly with Fe inferior. Jokes that don't even make sense at times they just laugh to, like are you mad? INTJs are definitly the warmest machines. Also, they move quickly like a machine. They can process things very fast. Give them a computer and if they have a task or interest. Watch out, you might not know which is the user and which is the computer lol
Well, even though i was simply correcting her in how the saying actually goes: INTJ's may be great with programming but INTP's even greater. As an intp who dated an intj, they are cold and arrogant (still charming don't get me wrong), it's like they naturally have a sense of emotions but choose not to use it, they're also not afraid of hurting people if they have a logical cause. whereas on the other hand every intp that i know (and i know MANY) seem to not very well understand emotions but we damn sure try our best and have it in us to always do the morally right and kind thing.
@@FIXON99 I didn't know that was an actual phrase but yeah I still think intps are warmer. And yeah, intps are made for programming. Most natural engineers of all types. Ti hero Ne parent, problem solving with what could be. Intjs are more statistical, walstreet banker types im my opinio. They can find trends really well and analyze things. A peculiar thing about intjs, correct me if I'm wrong, but they love to travel. The two I've met have both been to like 12 countries by their 20s and one told me they were afraid of not seeing it all.
LXF well then? what about your comment does not scream that intjs are very much the human and intps, warm as they may be, the awkward machines :p
LXF dunno about the travelling sorry, it may very well be so but my ex was a twitch streamer, stayed in his room playing games all day
INFP here. Just listening to them talk about ESFPs and cruisin' on mopeds made me feel like, "Bless them!"
As an ISFP, I would like to know more about your mom and sister. Thanks.
@@lovewho Tell them is important for the rest of ISFPs in the world. Give them food as well :V
@@lovewho Liked the video btw. You guys are so fun and look great! Beautiful as well!
Omg you guys are the cutest! ENFJ here, I love you ESTPs 💞❣❤😋 Big Fan! 😉
"Kati do you want to be nicer today?"
"No" 😂😂
K9 Communication 😘
Wow! Looks like the intro of a Brazzer's scène lol
INTJ male here and my view on ESTP females is that they are simply too compressed.
What I mean by that is in my opinion ESTP females bottle up too many ideas and concepts into one small jar
whereas INTJ gives themselves a bigger jar - ESTP feels like everything needs to be formulated and executed now! INTJ gives themselves more room to develop and plan before execution. You can clearly see where they would clash as romantic partners ESTP: “were getting old…so when are we ever going to make a baby?”
INTJ: “We will, I’m still sorting out a few things. We’re only 30 years old”
INTJs are a big jar to fill, that is why we come across as slow…and steady when we are still young but ounce we begin to gain momentum in the form of wisdom and age: we become ever so extremely precise and extremely confident - this is thanks to the fact that we give ourselves enough time to learn and to evolve.
The main problem I’ve identified between ESTP and INTJ interaction is that ESTP thinks that INTJ is too afraid to step out of their zone and INTJ thinks ESTP is too negligent in their ways.
In the long term though
(I’m not being biased) let’s be honest INTJ has a better long term strategy.
INTJ is very resourceful and very careful and I think ESTP wants to give herself over to an energy like that the problem is that in the long term she will have done so much that it’s enough to piss off the INTJ who will trade her in for someone he deems more pure.
My advice to ESTP females seeking an INTJ partner = slow down, be genuine and be moral, think deeply about all angles.
My advice to an INTJ male seeking a relationship with an ESTP female = you’re going to have to keep your eye on her and help her on her journey by nurturing her talent. (INTJ will hate having to monitor a grown human being).
Thanks for reading!
I'm an INTJ Female and my sister is an ESTP. I remember when we were younger (like I was 9-ish and she was 12-si) and we would fight ALL the TIME. Like it would get nasty. But then when I hit like 14-ish and she was 17-ish, we became the best of friends. I love her. She's inclusive and invites my antisocial ass out all the time (which I am SUPER grateful for), she's fun and positive and always looking for something to do, she has a great memory for things, and I can be my blunt and "mean" self with her since we both have T's. After spending 28 years with her, I finally "get" where she's coming from, but for the longest time I would be like "Omg, is she stupid or something?" (LOL) when in reality she would just throw herself into things without thinking (which would confuse me), rather than sitting and thinking it out before doing it (like I do). All in all, I do love her, but if she weren't my sister and we had to make an effort to hang out and talk, I prob wouldn't be best friends with her, just cause we approach things so differently. We'd both have to go outside of our natural comfort zone. But she IS my sister and I LOVE her, and I'm glad she's in my life :))
I trully hate INTJs. Blunt, arrogant and ignorant at the same time. Meddling on everybody's business. I cant stand them...
@Artur V 🤷🏽♀️ sounds like a personal issue. Instead of insulting people for the way they are, you could agree to disagree with them and be on your merry way. Not all INTJs are alike, we’re humans and everyone has grown up with a different background that makes their approach to life unique. Maybe the INTJs you knew/know had unpleasant experiences happen to them to make them act the way that they do. Who knows? You never know until you meddle.
@@arturkvieira seems like you truly hate us :)
@@gilbertozambrano6182 haha, nice shit eating grin
@@Truthinessization whatever floats your boat dude.. I just think it is funny, no offense..
You both are gorgeous!
When you mentioned ej/djarendee (love his contribution to TH-cam btw, he helped me realize I was an ISTP instead of INTP) it reminded me of how he didn’t get along with INTJs either. You mentioned it was the tertiary Fe/Fi clash, I’m kind of interested in hearing more about that, because I struggle to get along with them as well. For me they are a flame that burns bright and goes out fast, I get along with them right away, but after we start to get to know each other better things change. In terms of socionics I get along with my own (beta) quadra types the best. Then it’s alpha quadra, then gamma, and deltas I hardly get along with long term at all. I’ve always wondered why I get along with the alpha quadra better than the gamma, they both have half my valued functions and not the other half. I wondered if it was just because I was Ti dominant it was more important for me that other people use Ti/Fe, but you guys are perceiving dominant, so I’d like to hear your (and any other perceiving dominant) thoughts on this.
If you two become friends, I want in on it. Where do you live Jess?
Kati Bird 😂 I live in Texas
I have my doubts that you’re ISTP since your answer is so wordy.