Then there will be another dummy who will be eager to take the 'new supply' s' place. Males thrive off of womens desperation, ignorance (of male nature) and low self esteem.
Listen, after 4mos, if U don't realize that I'm the best thing smoking, I don't trust your judgement and wouldn't trust U to lead me anyway 😂🤷🏽♀️🗣️It's Me!! I'm Her Fool!!!
I'm personally tired of women being delulu, takings Ls then crying and posting it online. Its darn near 2025 and yall still haven't learned. He is not the one, you're not changing him, he's not going to change for you, he's not your knight in shining armor, you're just going to be like every other girl that accepts mediocrity.
#end situationships....they only benefit the man. If you want a relationship, approach it like a job search. Qualifications must be met, if not move on. Situationships = confusion.
People shame Shera but her advice helps women rise above crap like this. You know he’s going to try something despicable, so center yourself and play him first if you’re going to deal with an XY. Because it’s guaranteed he will squeeze you for everything you’re worth. It would be reciprocal.
This woman learned a lesson. This man didn’t “play in her face”. He TOLD her that he “wasn’t ready for a relationship right now”. That was the polite way of telling her that he didn’t want a relationship with HER. If you’re dating with intent (getting a long-term relationship/husband) - the minute that man says something like that, you’re not his dream girl, so don’t waste your time and move along to the next guy. If you continue to entertain him, he’ll still stick around with you until his dream girl comes along, and if he never finds his dream girl, he’ll “settle” for you as the consolation prize. If a relationship was a game show, what would you rather be - the $100,000 grand prize, or the case of canned soup?
“Case of canned soup” LOL I'm glad that I've always been like this. When I can tell someone doesn't like me I never stick around hoping to change their mind, even if they finally decide to commit to me it's because they feel they couldn't do better.
I’m sorry but being in a situationship for 3 years and still expecting more is just bad judgment. If you have feelings for someone and you fall or are in a situationship, do not expect more after 6 months. It’s very clear then that the relationship is never going to anything more. Hell, don’t even wait that long if he gives you the “I’m not ready” speech. You either accept the situationship as it is, or leave. You have a better chance winning the lotto than changing your situationship’s mind. Create boundaries and stick to them.😮
@@crownofeunoia1907Exactly, she should've at least uswd those 3 years to exolore her options like hes clearly been doing too. Women need to stop putting all their eggs in one basket when it comes to males and learn to remain emotionally detatched or at least emotionally prepared to leave and move on from these males the moment they no longer serve you. It's easier said than done of course, but we have to learn to become ruthlessly and unapologetically selfish when it comes to these males.
Yall. I needed this. Been in the talking stage with a man for 2.5 years. Opened my soul, heart and everything else to him. I know I’m a birdbrain smh 2025 is gonna be the year of self respect for me and gonna try to cut him off
So many of us have been where you are. So no judgement from me. It’s never too late to decide you want better for yourself. It may hurt a bit now but future you will be so grateful for the courage you had to walk away and see what is waiting for you. Wishing you all the best 💜
I agree with @sarabee6967....punishing yourself is not the answer. But I don't like the word "try". Set yourself a date in your head, make your plan, and move on quietly. Don't even talk to him about it until you are settled someplace and safe.DO NOT negotiate with this man. The damage has been done, and he will not marry you. This was how I broke up with my ex. After 18 months, there was no ring. One night, he went to the store...and I threw my stuff in my truck and rolled TF OUT! By the time he got back, most of my 💩 was out of there. He was hurt, but he was okay. The next week, he was sleeping with my friends. The next year, I was engaged to my new man after 6 months...we are still married 16 years later. Girl, please get out. This one ain't for you. Wasting a woman's time carries no consequences...that's why they will do it over and over again if you let them. Best wishes to you. You deserve real love, babes! We are rooting for you.💖
He’s not committed to her either, he’s triangulating in an attempt to make her jealous. Also, the “for you” was always silent but what is diabolical is her being on the internet like she’s GIVING the advice😂. GIRL STOP.
Unfortunately, this is a situation in which young women have to figure out themselves. And while they're figuring it out, men will continue to win. Most don't learn until they have been through it themselves. I'm sorry she experienced this. I'm sure she was warned about him by close friends and family. I hope next time she heeds the warning signs.
People who are together for decades are in a common law relationship. They done raised kids together and brought property. They not "talking". This is not the same thing
Nope. More than a year is too long with no direction and actionable plan happening which does not include making babies. Date many. When you are not married then you are single period.
I don’t understand why she feels like he “played in her face” He told her he did not want a relationship with her in so many word and with his actions.
😢i hurt for her and him asking her is she crying like dude she's a human and woman she deserves to have feelings😢 , smh i tried to play the "cool girl" for a week straight got on my knees prayed and told the guy yu know what i deserve better bye it hurted but chile i have no time to waste not 3yrs, 3months,3weeks,
I learned from a grown a$$ woman. Poor woman got pregnant by a man she was having s3x with for the SECOND time. It was a situationship! The man met another woman and MARRIED that woman. That man courted his current wife and treated her like a princess. The baby momma called the wife and asked her: “What do you have that I don’t have?” I was shook! She was HURT! The baby momma is STILL hurt. It has been 17 years!
Sorry to hear about that womans experience, but selfish Males are very good at playing Prince Charming and giving the Illusion of true love and commitment to women. Just because he married the other woman and "treated her like a princess", doesn't mean he will magically become the loving, loyal and emotionally stable Knight for her. He already demonstrated his true character by the s!ck behaviour he showed towards the baby mother. Most of these males are of poor characters so it will only be a matter of time before their true, t0xic nature spills into the new relationship, so people need to stop with the "if he finds someone better/his dream girl comes along" as if to imply that the women are just not good enough. However, I must admit that a woman who denonsteates desperation, low self esteem and naive behaviour can be very off putting.
I was in a situation where I was the women he committed to after (2) months. I ended up begging him to go back to the woman before me lmao. Said all that to say She need to let it go and see it as a blessing.
Watching this video reminds of my own friend. She also goes after men who aren’t serious and just waste time with them without knowing where they are going. I think she also has the mentality that she can change their mind in time. We have arguments about it but I gave up trying to get her to see what’s happening. I think with situations like this, you need to learn a hard lesson otherwise you are bound to do it again
My takeaway from her call with the guy is that she STILL wants to *talk to* him, as indicated by the bootie shake she did while pretending to laugh at the absurdity of what he was saying. She was STILL attempting to entice him. It's actually sad. Ladies, we have to do better ~ that's all...
Y’all talking about if he wanted to he would instead of she’s getting the same man. Yes she needs to heal and grow her self esteem to not make this mistake again but ultimately she is not missing out on a manipulative person who is willing to use women by how he ranks them and dehumanize the ones he feels aren’t worthy. Even if the women he picked is the preference she’ll soon meet the same character as he doesn’t go inward he’s filling voids and a lot of them are like this, no women will be enough and on the games go eventually with each women trying and trying harder thinking it’s them.
My fiancé committed to me in 3 weeks of dating, proposed after a year and 4 months and we get married next year. Super duper in love and he doesn't joke with me either. Does everything for me.👌🏾 Stop allowing men to drain your life clocks away!!
I’m confused if it was a “ situation-ship” why does she think he was ever commit. Does she not know what situation-ship is? He also told you he didn’t want to be in a relationship. It wasn’t a relationship. This is on her. She chose to accept this.
See she wasn’t listening because she was laughing. Pay attention to what people say to you y’all. He said “what? No!” And in his head he’s like why would I feel shitty, you knew what this was and I’ve kept telling you I wasn’t ready for a relationship. But with YOU! If he moved to that woman it was always never going to be you sis. This is what happens when you are purposely patient and thinking if you continue to show him consistency his mind will change. You can only change You! I don’t feel bad for her because it was always there. Been there never doing that again for these men. The right one will show up and show out without games, no confusion, no excuses
Oh and another thing..she gives me the type to play side chick to a man that played in her face..for that many years??..trust me she's gonna be goofy enough to do it..she still has this man's number too lol.. he knows she ain't goin know were, bcuz he hit the jackpot in the goofy department.
I allowed my situationship to last a year even though he told me he didn't want a relationship. When he found out i am in relationship is when he wanted me.
See men will “talk” your ear off. I refuse to give men attention if they’re not taking me out on a date by the end of the week and following suit with that same intention…scratch that, following it up with even MORE intention. I definitely agree that she played herself, nowadays you can look at a man and tell when they’re a waste of time. She decided she want to waste 3 years of HER time. Sweetie coulda even tried dating other men while seeing him but she didn’t. Her own enemy.
“He doesn’t have to refer to me as his ex, and I don’t have to refer to him as my ex” Girl 😂 play mind games with yourself. “Talking” for three years as in hanging out (aka going on dates), kissing, being intimate, checking in regularly. Even if he didn’t wanna call it what it was, y’all were dating. I’m sorry. Call it an open relationship if you want but it’s a relationship at that point.
The African Sis at 4:53 is me and I am her. "What do you mean three years, three while human years??"😂😂😂 The dude after her with the locks also. Cant feel sorry for her.
Why should he feel shitty? Did he mislead her? Here’s the golden rule….if a man wants you he will make that BLATANTLY KNOWN. There will be NO CONFUSION AND NO GREY AREAS. She played in her own face. It is time for women to take ownership of our own lives. No man has you shackled to him. If you choose to participate with men in vague situations then that’s on you. Do not attempt to demonize a man for something you fully participated in. Now she talking about his karma. Girl bye! It’s ok to be hurt but take this as a learning experience and do better moving forward. It’s a hard lesson but better now than later.
I have never understood this concept of “talking”. And then people behaving like they’re in an exclusive relationship because they’re “talking” to someone. Exclusivity is just that: exclusive. Stop taking yourself off the market for someone who hasn’t even taken you off the shelf, much less asked you to be their partner exclusively. “Talking” is not dating someone. So to trap yourself for three years and allow yourself to be disrespected like this is unconscionable to me.
What the hell did she expect !? I am sick of ppl like this just go talk to your therapist! She keep saying he told her isn’t ready ! He literally told you so you played your self not him! What else she wants to hear? Also work on yourself clearly you think you don’t deserve someone who will respect you!
You played yourself goodnight. She got too attached to someone that didn't take her serious. She shouldn't have given him the chance or time. Get to know a person before you guve them access to yourself(and/or body).
Why not? It is a good thing that we have the Internet where People are Talking so other people can learn from other experiences and also realize when their mind says something it may not be wrong.
@@pda7819I guess I mean because there are already plenty of these videos. A simple search b4 posting could've solved that b4 or after she posted this. Even her tone when posting doesn't seem like she got the lesson here. . .
I mean, you accepted it. You were the placeholder until he found what he actually wanted. Smh! Played in your face? He literally showed you what he thought about you and you chose to ignore it.. Smh!
This is and was me. Thats why I am dating other people. People can tell you that you are a placeholder until the crows come home, but until you see it and feel then and only then you will be done. These type situations are one of those lessons that you gotta learn on your own and only you will grow the strength to walk away. Just know life gets better when you finally want better for yourself.
GIRLFRIEND IS NOT A TITLE!!!!!The fact that she sees being a girlfriend as a flex is the problem for me. Yes he wasted her time but she seems unaware about the part she played. She allowed him to play in her face for 3 years!!!!! Ladies get smart!
Girl, women start the convo early, like after 4 of 5th date... what are your future plans... Ask the questions and take notes, so that you can leave within 3 months.....
Maybe I'm in the minority here but I actually prefer situationships at this point. We spend time together, have some carnality and I send u on ur way. Having a muhfuh all up in my face 24/7 with his wants and needs... eating up all my groceries...running my water bill up, yeaaaaa ima put the flag on the plate on that one
The thing is many women go looking for situationships and refuse to admit the truth. All the women i have dealt with were FWB, but they all end up pushing and begging for commitment while claiming not to like you fully. Lust + Loneliness = codependent situationships
Why are you here telling us this? No one is talking about what you prefer. We are talking about the girl in the clip who wants something serious with a guy, and is upset he found someone else.
Pausing at 3:13 to state my opinions: 1. SHE played herself bc why would you go THAT long without a commitment? 2. She was the placeholder until the man found what he wanted 3. I’m so certain that the man will marry his new woman within a year, it always happens like that.
Welll… some self accountability is needed here. He doesn’t owe her anything and vice versa. Be clear about what you want and if a person isn’t aligning with that, move on.
Was this a skit, satire or...???? Edit: Regardless if this is a skit or not, to really say, "its her fault. She allowed him to ____", tell me you're a gaslighter and victim-blamer without telling me! HE'S the one that caused her hurt! NOT the other way around!
Yes I had a guy who talked to me for 9 months. I saw him once. He wanted to see me again and ask me to meet him on the side of the road. I just stopped responding to his calls and messages. Like if he was interested he would had made a real move already.
This was me, let me tell you it's not worth it. Everyone is not meant to be with everyone. Don't be bitter. Just wait for God to send the right person in your life. Don't let someone string you along. I personally dont think he will receive any "karma." That's not how that works.he just wasn't for you!
You will avoid such situations when you decentre men and don’t see marriage as an achievement while, like someone in the comments said “holding on to nothing “ in the hopes that one day he’ll change and …wife you lol Ain’t none like being single beloved’s 🙃
I agree with everyone I learned my lesson myself but took 6 months because I’m not waiting too long . When a man says not right now just means not with you
I've never been in a situationship, & I'm 50. I would never put myself in that position. I have too much self-esteem. A lot of these women are just stupid.
Im glad my situation only lasted 1 month and not 3 years. Absolute not! We will not be talking that long because shit like this does happen. It sucks but meh just learn and move on.
Unfortunately, my delulu a** were similar situation. We were in a situationship for 5+ years. I worked HARD trying to change him. This man told other potential partners I was his girlfriend to keep them away. Then he "broke up" with me for his co-worker. Plot twist! she wasn't interested in him! He wanted us to be a thing again, but I moved on to my current intentional partner. I don't do potential anymore.
Situationship=SINGLE💯..if you and that person did not sit down and had a grown conversation about were yall see yalls situation going, then dont fckn ASSume yall are together...(delusional~having a false belief that is resistant to change, even when presented with evidence that it is not true.) You played your mf self beloved...Plz wake tf up.
This is a game recognize game situation and she simply didn’t peep the game that was being played. He was obviously a player but, it seems she thought she was the exception and that’s where she messed up. Now just because he didn’t decide to commit to her doesn’t mean he cares about the other woman either he’s clearly still playing games.
She played herself. He said he wasn't ready, she just wasn't listening (or thought she could change his mind). 🤦🏾♀️ She allowed him to waste her time. My husband proposed at 6 months. Men know!
This whole “talking” stage is foolish rubbish. If man is interested it shouldn’t take no more than 3 months max to make it to the relationship phase. Even six months just to be giving your time and energy to someone who is not officially your boyfriend or girlfriend is too long.
God, this is embarrassing but I disagree that he was trying to twist the knife. He wasn’t cruel; he was being honest like HE HAD BEEN FOR THREE YEARS. He sounded like he saw her as the homie and was trying to get her on the same page.
Why are you in a situation-sh*t in the first place 😂 let’s start there 🤦🏽♀️😩🥱 if he didn’t make you his girlfriend 🤷🏽♀️ should’ve moved on before all this talking mess
So was the requirement to make a response to her video to wear a bonnet? Sis needed to keep this to herself and sign up for betterhelp! Why must black women come online and humiliate themselves? Its probsbly the same reason why they continue to only date men that statistically do not value marriage employment or health
Sis said -Talking for 3 years! Were you trying to get a degree? Please I can't breathe 🤣🤣😂
He’s going to be back . Do not take him back
Yup after breaking up with the new girl he knows who he can play with n go back to she not even ugly
They always come back
And she's going to take him back. I don't know why she's embarrassing herself online.
The thing is, he’s probably going to end up being just as awful to the woman he “committed” to.
Nah, he’s probably going to marry her…hell he had three years of no-strings sex and female attention to get laser-focused on what he really wanted 😔
@@meforever4330 if he's a narcissist I guarantee you this he's never going to change unless he gets mental health
or not idk . We will just have to see
Yup, he will. This woman dodged a nuclear missile.
Then there will be another dummy who will be eager to take the 'new supply' s' place. Males thrive off of womens desperation, ignorance (of male nature) and low self esteem.
Ladies, that placeholder position should never be an option for you!
Once a man tell you he's not ready, it you're job to exit stage left. Why women keep holding on to nothing is crazy🙆🙆🤦♂️
Preachhhhhh girl 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Holding onto nothing is a whole word fr
She chose to be delulu for 3 yrs. The "cool girl" helped him save money because she definitely a 50/50 girl.
Listen, after 4mos, if U don't realize that I'm the best thing smoking, I don't trust your judgement and wouldn't trust U to lead me anyway 😂🤷🏽♀️🗣️It's Me!! I'm Her Fool!!!
3 YEARS?! 😂😂 Howwww can you wait that long for commitment 😭
I'm personally tired of women being delulu, takings Ls then crying and posting it online. Its darn near 2025 and yall still haven't learned. He is not the one, you're not changing him, he's not going to change for you, he's not your knight in shining armor, you're just going to be like every other girl that accepts mediocrity.
#end situationships....they only benefit the man. If you want a relationship, approach it like a job search. Qualifications must be met, if not move on. Situationships = confusion.
Yup situationships are dumb and meant for single ppl who only want to hook up.
People shame Shera but her advice helps women rise above crap like this. You know he’s going to try something despicable, so center yourself and play him first if you’re going to deal with an XY. Because it’s guaranteed he will squeeze you for everything you’re worth. It would be reciprocal.
You could almost hear the excitement in his voice when he asked if she was crying 😬
EXACTLY which tells me he wanted to humble & humiliate her. Also, it tells me he knew she was better than him! It really did something for his ego.
But in truth, the new girl is only the new victim lol 😂
This woman learned a lesson. This man didn’t “play in her face”. He TOLD her that he “wasn’t ready for a relationship right now”. That was the polite way of telling her that he didn’t want a relationship with HER.
If you’re dating with intent (getting a long-term relationship/husband) - the minute that man says something like that, you’re not his dream girl, so don’t waste your time and move along to the next guy. If you continue to entertain him, he’ll still stick around with you until his dream girl comes along, and if he never finds his dream girl, he’ll “settle” for you as the consolation prize.
If a relationship was a game show, what would you rather be - the $100,000 grand prize, or the case of canned soup?
“Case of canned soup” LOL
I'm glad that I've always been like this. When I can tell someone doesn't like me I never stick around hoping to change their mind, even if they finally decide to commit to me it's because they feel they couldn't do better.
I’m sorry but being in a situationship for 3 years and still expecting more is just bad judgment. If you have feelings for someone and you fall or are in a situationship, do not expect more after 6 months. It’s very clear then that the relationship is never going to anything more. Hell, don’t even wait that long if he gives you the “I’m not ready” speech. You either accept the situationship as it is, or leave. You have a better chance winning the lotto than changing your situationship’s mind. Create boundaries and stick to them.😮
Exactly. He told her what it was from the beginning she just chose not to listen.
@@crownofeunoia1907Exactly, she should've at least uswd those 3 years to exolore her options like hes clearly been doing too.
Women need to stop putting all their eggs in one basket when it comes to males and learn to remain emotionally detatched or at least emotionally prepared to leave and move on from these males the moment they no longer serve you.
It's easier said than done of course, but we have to learn to become ruthlessly and unapologetically selfish when it comes to these males.
2:05 its the laughing to keep from crying for me. Ladies we gotta love ourselves…
Yall. I needed this. Been in the talking stage with a man for 2.5 years. Opened my soul, heart and everything else to him. I know I’m a birdbrain smh 2025 is gonna be the year of self respect for me and gonna try to cut him off
Make it 2024. We still have 1 month left. Do it this year. Congratulations on your self-respect journey 🎉
And no negative self talk..
You’ll build up a subconscious that you’re not worth more than what you’re getting..
You are going to try to rationalize and talk yourself out of the decision but just know you are doing the right thing. You got this girl 🤍
So many of us have been where you are. So no judgement from me. It’s never too late to decide you want better for yourself. It may hurt a bit now but future you will be so grateful for the courage you had to walk away and see what is waiting for you. Wishing you all the best 💜
I agree with @sarabee6967....punishing yourself is not the answer. But I don't like the word "try". Set yourself a date in your head, make your plan, and move on quietly. Don't even talk to him about it until you are settled someplace and safe.DO NOT negotiate with this man. The damage has been done, and he will not marry you. This was how I broke up with my ex. After 18 months, there was no ring. One night, he went to the store...and I threw my stuff in my truck and rolled TF OUT! By the time he got back, most of my 💩 was out of there. He was hurt, but he was okay. The next week, he was sleeping with my friends. The next year, I was engaged to my new man after 6 months...we are still married 16 years later. Girl, please get out. This one ain't for you. Wasting a woman's time carries no consequences...that's why they will do it over and over again if you let them. Best wishes to you. You deserve real love, babes! We are rooting for you.💖
She's stronger than me to still be talking to him,why are they even in contact,bruh he'd be blocked second year. Sis is legit traumatized now.
He’s not committed to her either, he’s triangulating in an attempt to make her jealous.
Also, the “for you” was always silent but what is diabolical is her being on the internet like she’s GIVING the advice😂. GIRL STOP.
Bingoooooo
We are too old not to know the positions that we hold in people’s lives. If it seems off or one sided, that’s because it is.
He used her cause she allowed him 2
Unfortunately, this is a situation in which young women have to figure out themselves. And while they're figuring it out, men will continue to win. Most don't learn until they have been through it themselves. I'm sorry she experienced this. I'm sure she was warned about him by close friends and family. I hope next time she heeds the warning signs.
At least she got out relatively early. I know some stay for decades.
People who are together for decades are in a common law relationship. They done raised kids together and brought property. They not "talking". This is not the same thing
Nope. More than a year is too long with no direction and actionable plan happening which does not include making babies. Date many. When you are not married then you are single period.
@@filmadcamp1512 Yes it is.
I don’t understand why she feels like he “played in her face” He told her he did not want a relationship with her in so many word and with his actions.
😢i hurt for her and him asking her is she crying like dude she's a human and woman she deserves to have feelings😢 , smh i tried to play the "cool girl" for a week straight got on my knees prayed and told the guy yu know what i deserve better bye it hurted but chile i have no time to waste not 3yrs, 3months,3weeks,
Amen! Had to pray and sever so many situationsships. I’ve been abstinent for a year now
I learned from a grown a$$ woman. Poor woman got pregnant by a man she was having s3x with for the SECOND time. It was a situationship! The man met another woman and MARRIED that woman. That man courted his current wife and treated her like a princess. The baby momma called the wife and asked her: “What do you have that I don’t have?” I was shook! She was HURT! The baby momma is STILL hurt. It has been 17 years!
This should be pinned. It’s becoming common knowledge that men will do this on purpose to break her spirit. 😢
Sorry to hear about that womans experience, but selfish Males are very good at playing Prince Charming and giving the Illusion of true love and commitment to women.
Just because he married the other woman and "treated her like a princess", doesn't mean he will magically become the loving, loyal and emotionally stable Knight for her.
He already demonstrated his true character by the s!ck behaviour he showed towards the baby mother.
Most of these males are of poor characters so it will only be a matter of time before their true, t0xic nature spills into the new relationship, so people need to stop with the "if he finds someone better/his dream girl comes along" as if to imply that the women are just not good enough.
However, I must admit that a woman who denonsteates desperation, low self esteem and naive behaviour can be very off putting.
I think it’s important for women to understand that you don’t have to be someone’s sounding board or therapist.
I was in a situation where I was the women he committed to after (2) months. I ended up begging him to go back to the woman before me lmao. Said all that to say She need to let it go and see it as a blessing.
Chile that gg/bf “relationship” is not to be coveted either. And yes, a lot of times they are the monster and not the prize.
She doesn’t realize yet rejection is protection.
Watching this video reminds of my own friend. She also goes after men who aren’t serious and just waste time with them without knowing where they are going. I think she also has the mentality that she can change their mind in time. We have arguments about it but I gave up trying to get her to see what’s happening. I think with situations like this, you need to learn a hard lesson otherwise you are bound to do it again
Women with low self esteem think every man is their lego project.
I eventually got into a relationship and married my situationship. I 100% do not recommend 😂
Ewe. I will never be a placeholder. Leave me alone.
My takeaway from her call with the guy is that she STILL wants to *talk to* him, as indicated by the bootie shake she did while pretending to laugh at the absurdity of what he was saying. She was STILL attempting to entice him. It's actually sad. Ladies, we have to do better ~ that's all...
Looking like that??? In a bonnet and pajamas?
Y’all talking about if he wanted to he would instead of she’s getting the same man. Yes she needs to heal and grow her self esteem to not make this mistake again but ultimately she is not missing out on a manipulative person who is willing to use women by how he ranks them and dehumanize the ones he feels aren’t worthy. Even if the women he picked is the preference she’ll soon meet the same character as he doesn’t go inward he’s filling voids and a lot of them are like this, no women will be enough and on the games go eventually with each women trying and trying harder thinking it’s them.
My fiancé committed to me in 3 weeks of dating, proposed after a year and 4 months and we get married next year. Super duper in love and he doesn't joke with me either. Does everything for me.👌🏾
Stop allowing men to drain your life clocks away!!
I’m confused if it was a “ situation-ship” why does she think he was ever commit. Does she not know what situation-ship is? He also told you he didn’t want to be in a relationship. It wasn’t a relationship. This is on her. She chose to accept this.
If you break it down, it's because situationships are often dually manipulative.
See she wasn’t listening because she was laughing. Pay attention to what people say to you y’all. He said “what? No!” And in his head he’s like why would I feel shitty, you knew what this was and I’ve kept telling you I wasn’t ready for a relationship. But with YOU! If he moved to that woman it was always never going to be you sis. This is what happens when you are purposely patient and thinking if you continue to show him consistency his mind will change. You can only change You! I don’t feel bad for her because it was always there. Been there never doing that again for these men. The right one will show up and show out without games, no confusion, no excuses
3 years she was a placeholder.
Damn and I felt like such a dummy for cutting it off after a month of confusion
Intuition is very important.
You are not a dummy. Mixed signals mean someone is not interested. Someone who is really interested would make their intentions known.
Oh and another thing..she gives me the type to play side chick to a man that played in her face..for that many years??..trust me she's gonna be goofy enough to do it..she still has this man's number too lol.. he knows she ain't goin know were, bcuz he hit the jackpot in the goofy department.
I allowed my situationship to last a year even though he told me he didn't want a relationship. When he found out i am in relationship is when he wanted me.
3 YEARS TALKING is insane, girl that one has got to be on you bc why would you even entertain this man after
See men will “talk” your ear off. I refuse to give men attention if they’re not taking me out on a date by the end of the week and following suit with that same intention…scratch that, following it up with even MORE intention. I definitely agree that she played herself, nowadays you can look at a man and tell when they’re a waste of time. She decided she want to waste 3 years of HER time. Sweetie coulda even tried dating other men while seeing him but she didn’t. Her own enemy.
“He doesn’t have to refer to me as his ex, and I don’t have to refer to him as my ex” Girl 😂 play mind games with yourself. “Talking” for three years as in hanging out (aka going on dates), kissing, being intimate, checking in regularly. Even if he didn’t wanna call it what it was, y’all were dating. I’m sorry. Call it an open relationship if you want but it’s a relationship at that point.
The African Sis at 4:53 is me and I am her. "What do you mean three years, three while human years??"😂😂😂
The dude after her with the locks also. Cant feel sorry for her.
Why should he feel shitty? Did he mislead her? Here’s the golden rule….if a man wants you he will make that BLATANTLY KNOWN. There will be NO CONFUSION AND NO GREY AREAS. She played in her own face. It is time for women to take ownership of our own lives. No man has you shackled to him. If you choose to participate with men in vague situations then that’s on you. Do not attempt to demonize a man for something you fully participated in. Now she talking about his karma. Girl bye!
It’s ok to be hurt but take this as a learning experience and do better moving forward. It’s a hard lesson but better now than later.
I have never understood this concept of “talking”. And then people behaving like they’re in an exclusive relationship because they’re “talking” to someone. Exclusivity is just that: exclusive. Stop taking yourself off the market for someone who hasn’t even taken you off the shelf, much less asked you to be their partner exclusively. “Talking” is not dating someone. So to trap yourself for three years and allow yourself to be disrespected like this is unconscionable to me.
What the hell did she expect !? I am sick of ppl like this just go talk to your therapist! She keep saying he told her isn’t ready ! He literally told you so you played your self not him! What else she wants to hear? Also work on yourself clearly you think you don’t deserve someone who will respect you!
You played yourself goodnight.
She got too attached to someone that didn't take her serious. She shouldn't have given him the chance or time. Get to know a person before you guve them access to yourself(and/or body).
She played in her own face: she should’ve bowed out gracefully when the man told her he didn’t wanted to commit to her from the first place.
Facts! I just did. I'm good for Boeing out gracefully each and every time.
Idk why the girl made this video AND posted it. . . .smfh
Why not? It is a good thing that we have the Internet where People are Talking so other people can learn from other experiences and also realize when their mind says something it may not be wrong.
@@pda7819I guess I mean because there are already plenty of these videos. A simple search b4 posting could've solved that b4 or after she posted this. Even her tone when posting doesn't seem like she got the lesson here. . .
I mean, you accepted it. You were the placeholder until he found what he actually wanted. Smh! Played in your face? He literally showed you what he thought about you and you chose to ignore it.. Smh!
This! He never lied about what she was to him. If he had she would have said it was more. It is a tale as old as time, you can't change someone.
So true
This is and was me. Thats why I am dating other people. People can tell you that you are a placeholder until the crows come home, but until you see it and feel then and only then you will be done. These type situations are one of those lessons that you gotta learn on your own and only you will grow the strength to walk away. Just know life gets better when you finally want better for yourself.
Try 7 years!!!!!!!!
GIRLFRIEND IS NOT A TITLE!!!!!The fact that she sees being a girlfriend as a flex is the problem for me. Yes he wasted her time but she seems unaware about the part she played. She allowed him to play in her face for 3 years!!!!! Ladies get smart!
Men know the first time they see you if they want you to be their girl or not 🤦🏽♀️
Girl, women start the convo early, like after 4 of 5th date... what are your future plans...
Ask the questions and take notes, so that you can leave within 3 months.....
Maybe I'm in the minority here but I actually prefer situationships at this point. We spend time together, have some carnality and I send u on ur way. Having a muhfuh all up in my face 24/7 with his wants and needs... eating up all my groceries...running my water bill up, yeaaaaa ima put the flag on the plate on that one
lmao don’t expect loyalty from them then
The thing is many women go looking for situationships and refuse to admit the truth.
All the women i have dealt with were FWB, but they all end up pushing and begging for commitment while claiming not to like you fully.
Lust + Loneliness = codependent situationships
Who ever said I did?
Those are just the women that you've dealt with. Many of us have already done the 'one true love' thing and we see how overhyped it is.
Why are you here telling us this? No one is talking about what you prefer. We are talking about the girl in the clip who wants something serious with a guy, and is upset he found someone else.
Pausing at 3:13 to state my opinions:
1. SHE played herself bc why would you go THAT long without a commitment?
2. She was the placeholder until the man found what he wanted
3. I’m so certain that the man will marry his new woman within a year, it always happens like that.
Locs on fleek!
I love your channel, it’s like having a girl chat without the drama 😂 ❤
Welll… some self accountability is needed here. He doesn’t owe her anything and vice versa. Be clear about what you want and if a person isn’t aligning with that, move on.
Was this a skit, satire or...????
Edit:
Regardless if this is a skit or not, to really say, "its her fault. She allowed him to ____", tell me you're a gaslighter and victim-blamer without telling me! HE'S the one that caused her hurt! NOT the other way around!
@14:07 I agree 💯.
Yes I had a guy who talked to me for 9 months. I saw him once.
He wanted to see me again and ask me to meet him on the side of the road.
I just stopped responding to his calls and messages.
Like if he was interested he would had made a real move already.
This was me, let me tell you it's not worth it. Everyone is not meant to be with everyone. Don't be bitter. Just wait for God to send the right person in your life. Don't let someone string you along. I personally dont think he will receive any "karma." That's not how that works.he just wasn't for you!
You will avoid such situations when you decentre men and don’t see marriage as an achievement while, like someone in the comments said “holding on to nothing “ in the hopes that one day he’ll change and …wife you lol
Ain’t none like being single beloved’s 🙃
6 months is very long I give any man 3 months maximum and I move on ahead!
Agree! Half a year is way too long.
I agree with everyone I learned my lesson myself but took 6 months because I’m not waiting too long . When a man says not right now just means not with you
What is his karma? She was with it for 3 years it was her wake up call. I just hope she don't become a side chick
I've never been in a situationship, & I'm 50. I would never put myself in that position. I have too much self-esteem. A lot of these women are just stupid.
Im glad my situation only lasted 1 month and not 3 years. Absolute not! We will not be talking that long because shit like this does happen. It sucks but meh just learn and move on.
The sister played herself. Let's be clear, he didn't lie. He wasn't ready for her. Take your L and move, sis
Women STILL being in situationships that are literally worthless and give you nothing but headaches and chest pains in 2024 makes no sense to me.🤦🏾♀️
Unfortunately, my delulu a** were similar situation. We were in a situationship for 5+ years. I worked HARD trying to change him. This man told other potential partners I was his girlfriend to keep them away. Then he "broke up" with me for his co-worker. Plot twist! she wasn't interested in him! He wanted us to be a thing again, but I moved on to my current intentional partner. I don't do potential anymore.
Situationship=SINGLE💯..if you and that person did not sit down and had a grown conversation about were yall see yalls situation going, then dont fckn ASSume yall are together...(delusional~having a false belief that is resistant to change, even when presented with evidence that it is not true.) You played your mf self beloved...Plz wake tf up.
This is a game recognize game situation and she simply didn’t peep the game that was being played. He was obviously a player but, it seems she thought she was the exception and that’s where she messed up. Now just because he didn’t decide to commit to her doesn’t mean he cares about the other woman either he’s clearly still playing games.
She played herself. He said he wasn't ready, she just wasn't listening (or thought she could change his mind). 🤦🏾♀️ She allowed him to waste her time. My husband proposed at 6 months. Men know!
Just because he proposed doesn't mean your not a placeholder
Can we define “talking “ cuz wtf
Yall deeeeping it. She was mad shocked accepting clowning all at once and more lol.
She knew, like we do! So when it happened this was the reaction
You can't get dumped when you're not in a relationship
This whole “talking” stage is foolish rubbish.
If man is interested it shouldn’t take no more than 3 months max to make it to the relationship phase.
Even six months just to be giving your time and energy to someone who is not officially your boyfriend or girlfriend is too long.
This is some horrible advice
She allowed it to go on for 3 years though
I dont see the issue. They were not in a relationship. Does it matter😂
God, this is embarrassing but I disagree that he was trying to twist the knife. He wasn’t cruel; he was being honest like HE HAD BEEN FOR THREE YEARS. He sounded like he saw her as the homie and was trying to get her on the same page.
Why are you in a situation-sh*t in the first place 😂 let’s start there 🤦🏽♀️😩🥱 if he didn’t make you his girlfriend 🤷🏽♀️ should’ve moved on before all this talking mess
So was the requirement to make a response to her video to wear a bonnet? Sis needed to keep this to herself and sign up for betterhelp! Why must black women come online and humiliate themselves? Its probsbly the same reason why they continue to only date men that statistically do not value marriage employment or health
Never do a talking stage longer than 3 months 🥲