As the oldest of 4 sons raised by a single mom, I never had many clothes. Now I collect clothing. I tend to be very plain and practical. I do not have an issue donating clothes, I am just having an issue with finding the right fit and color. There can be some underlying behaviors when it come to keeping clothes.
My daughters baby clothes and my hockey jersey I never wear...take pictures it helps to let go, a USB stick takes up a lot less room than a tote of clothes
Clothes I used to wear or buy when I started to work. I bought them with my first incomes and it felt great! I was also thinner then 😂 I'll try to do Project 33!!
This is the one area where I have never struggled, if it fits and is comfortable, I wear it and I don't have special occasion clothes, I look the same no matter where I go. Yep, I am the one that shows up at a wedding in the same dress she wore to work the other day.😁
I have a thing for coats. I inherited this from my grandmother who also had a thing for coats...lol!! I still have less than 10 though....so I don't consider it a "problem" yet. I recycle all of my clothes to the thrift store I buy them from. My overall clothes situation is MINIMAL compared to most women...that is for sure!! I have a VERY SMALL CLOSET, so I can't even be a CLOTHES HORSE if I WANTED TO! LOL!
Here's a tip. My son died in 2017 and I'd been holding on to his clothes. Recently, I washed them, put them in a box and decided to ask the first homeless person I saw, who locked the same size, if he wanted them. He had 1 leg and was in a wheelchair. I asked where could drop them off. He was part of a program through a local healthcare facility that used a hotel to house a lot of people with mental illness. I took the clothes there and immediately became surrounded by people who also needed clothes. But, wash the clothes and put them in a box and in the car so they're ready to go to someone when you see they're in need.
I'm so proud of my teen daughter. She decluttered her room and we will be donating 3 bags of clothes. She has cleared empty shelves now and said that her room feels calmer. She read a whole book that day in one sitting!
I still have the shorts I was wearing the day I met my (ex and only) husband in 1984. I look at them in awe because they are so tiny, and they also trigger a happy memory of a very special day. Marriage didn't work out, but I have three great children from it. I'm not sure I can ever get rid of them.
If she still uses and loves the clothes she has, but they stress her out (maybe her closet is too full or whatever), then she can always put seasonal clothes out of sight when not in use. I put mine in a vacuum bag under the bed, during the off-season. Just to give my closet a bit of breathing room, and to keep the seasonal items from getting dusty in the closet. So if she still finds joy in having that spring coat, maybe having it available seasonally but not in her face everyday is a happy medium. But if she would find just as much joy in wearing her 'Fall' coat in the spring, then the spring coat should be donated.
I live in Kentucky. My “winter” and all my seasonal clothing stays out. We have 30 degree evenings and 80 degree days. Lol. But I used to live up north and I did use those vacuum bags to store off season clothes 😊
Best purchases ever the vacuum seal big storage bags and collapsible storage bins that slide right under the beds. We also purchased 2 huge shelving units for our basement that fit the big storage bins. Switch out your seasonal wardrobes then free up more room in your closets and won’t feel like you need to throw stuff out.
To Jessica…… I hear something different in what you are saying. “Mountain of Laundry”. How often do you do laundry a week? Are you saving it for once a week? If you have access to a washer and dryer in your home…. Maybe consider washing all your scrubs on Sunday and all your sweats on say Wednesday to break it up so it isn’t a Mountain and the flow is more easily manageable. It sounds like all of your clothes are needed and worthy of keeping. Just overwhelming in the process of washing them. I understand full loads. Dishes, clothes, etc…. But I also understand peace in routines to keep chaos under control.
It can get tough with clothes when you get pregnant. I was losing weight, gave away my maternity stuff and then I got pregnant again. Friends and family have been giving me baby things and maternity clothes, but now I am storing the clothes I want to wear after I’m done with pregnancy. And it feels cluttered, but I know it’s a season and once the opportunity of pregnancy is over, then I feel I can finally declutter and be done!
I donated my wedding gown to a lady who created 3 or 4 burial outfits for stillborn children and it means the world to me knowing I was able to bless families in their time of deepest heartache.
I recently lost weight so needed new clothes. I am still hanging on to the larger stuff just because I might need them… I sometimes lament about items I got rid of. So far I am mostly shopping second hand. Weight loss can sometimes be difficult to sustain.
In this situation I keep items that are special but get rid of anything easily replaceable. I try not to buy new things not too tight fitting invade a bit more weight creeps on. Hope this helps. Don't cling on to lots of larger clothes as it's easy to just let yourself grow back 😂
I can relate, but now over three years since I lost those pounds and went from a L/XL to a S/M - I’ve finally let go of virtually everything. That massive flannel nightie remains a comfy item - and since I live alone, I cling to it with joy, I’m happy!
I've lost weight 3 times. First 2 from working out. 3rd from going vegan. This time I'll never gain it back. I no longer think of animals and their secretions as food. Easiest weight I ever loss. Feel like I didn't even try. But after the first time I got rid if clothes and regretted it.
I feel good wearing all of my jackets & coats… clothing is an art of expression to me. I hate having the same look. I have a lot of clothes because I love variety but I think am going to get rid of the repetition.
I have a large cedar chest full of vintage Harris Tweed coats (complete with leather gloves and scarves to match). I collected them twenty years ago. Don’t even know if they will fit me anymore. Haven’t even opened that chest in two or three years. It’s a treasure someone will find after I die I’m thinking. I need professional help.🫤
@@tlc8925 right now I’m dealing with the winter to summer change. It was 38 degrees F last week….today it’s 83. Need to sort and edit my linens and store my woolies. I am not a minimalist.
I just turned all my hangers around. Once I wear it & still like it I will put it back in the closet with the hanger the proper way. 3 months is my goal. The clothing whose hangers remain facing forward are going to find a new home. The amount of clothing I am blessed with is overwhelming to me. Wish me displine!
That’s a great way to actually see what you wear. I did it but in a yearly trial. For instance. I have a dress I wear to funerals. I don’t go to funnels every 2-3 weeks. Maybe 1-2 a year. And that goes with fancier shoes and hand bags. I keep 2-3 of those and they only get used 2-3 times a year but I’m not going to get rid of them to save 2 inches of hanging space in my closet. 🤷🏼♀️
Ugh same! Got thyroid cancer - gained some weight, then lost some - having a health condition like this can make it difficult, especially if you don't know how your condition/disease may progress and in turn affect your weight or metabolism
I used to do what you do...get rid of something immediately if I put it on and I hated it. But then i realized that women's hormones change the body so frequently, that I needed to be a bit more patient because it's a little tricker dressing the body during different times of the month. Just a thought to add to this conversation about a minimalist wardrobe!
You can get clips or cinch it tools to make clothes more form fitting, has helped me to keep clothes I need instead of letting go and buying more clothes.
Im 32 and just now understand. It made me gross when my mom kept some of my baby clothes with dust and the smell yuck. I have twins and I get rid of their old stuff immediately I hate hoarding it did make me sad but pictures do help and the thought of another baby can use these clothes
I like rotating clothes, so I usually keep more than I should. I did stop buying purses though, because I have some expensive ones and I see no need to buy anymore.
For New England weather, it might make sense to put a winter coat and ski gear away in the spring, but the weather is pretty much set on random from March to October - we need layers all those months. The caller said she has a mountain of laundry to do every week. I suspect she's washing clothes after every single time she wears them. Unless her scrubs get actually dirty at work, she could probably wear them twice between washings, so that would reduce how much laundry to do and how many sets of scrubs she has to have in her drawer/closet. To reduce visual stress and avoid buying new ones, she could keep the extras in a suitcase or otherwise stored out of sight until the ones in rotation get worn out. Also, during mud season, pants can be protected by wearing leg gaiters.
I love this. I been outsider most of my life. I do wear what I want. I do art so I tend to think out of the box. T-shirt and jeans or sweats and sneakers is my thing. I do get occasional nice shirt for certain occasions. I like that u found inspiration anywhere.Key when doing my art.Thanks from Hatboro Pa.
I am not a clothes hoarder (dont like shopping unless i need a specific item) but recently finished decluttering my closet that still had items from highschool (nothing wrong with that in general but it was time). I decided instead of the 90day/6mo rule i keep clothes for 2 seasons. We have very hot summers and moderately cold (multiple snow/ice days) winters, so i will keep seasonal items for either 2 winters or 2 summers. The reason is that sometimes i still like & want an item but dont have occation to wear it, if that happens 2yrs in a row the item has to go. The rest of my "3 season"/ "all year" clothes get weeded out about every 6mos. The problem is i then need to go replace items lol
Loved myself with shopping trips. Not in any relationship with a significant other. Size has been up and down. Trendy style and patterns draw my attention in and I dont have a completed outfit w/o my multiple clothing articles
“It’s always okay to let go of someone who is trying to coerce you because coercion is not consent. But also, convincing, persuading, manipulating - those things aren’t consent either - that’s unloving.”
Listening to the "red dress" question brought back a memory from high school: a classmate asked me to prom, and I didn't really want to go with him but said I'd think about it...and THEN he started telling me how I should wear my hair, that "this" way looked better than when I wore it "that" way. That's when I gave him a firm NO.
Since working from home and realising I have sensory issues with fabric, I essentially wear a uniform: 100% cotton tshirt, cashmere/merino jumper, good quality fleecy jogging bottoms. GOODBYE uncomfortable button-down shirts and skirts and dresses. I live in Scotland so also have a few options in serious-level coats and boots if I really have to leave the house in winter!
For me I always get caught with the sunk cost fallacy concept. I remember how much something cost me to buy, and this stops me donating it on to someone who might use it.
I just moved into a caravan, thank goodness it's outside my parents house because I'm storing a shelf of my winter sweaters, coats etc that I would not be able to fit in here if not. But i like all my black sweaters.. haha also i don't have money to replace things so I won't buy anymore for a couple years because I have plenty to last 😬
If a man i am dating buys me a dress. I will wear it!! To make him smile and improve the relationship between us. I would also show him what I like. It only takes one compliment for a women to realize she looks good in it. I donated to a homeless shelter to give clothes to people who need them.
I learned early on to never buy clothes for my partners. Unless they love hoodies....the it's all about the right size. You will almost always be wrong about size and style.
The smaller sized ones are my hardest clothes to get rid of. I always hope someday, I will be thin again. Not going to happen but I feel like I am really giving up hope if I get rid of them. It's a struggle. I am so minimalist with other things but the thin clothes are rough.
I do need to keep different sizes. I sorted my xs, kept my favourites in a place i dont see every day and had the other clothes on eye level. I needed to buy two trousers that would fit me. The cupboard is not a storage place! Immediately i felt better about my options en myself.
One of the reasons I opted to divorce was due to his unrelenting hoard. He wasn’t willing to compromise and literally every room was over run with THINGS. I literally lost my sanity.
I’m in the process of a total downsize as I prepare to sell my house. Widowed for only a year and a half, I’m deep in the process of going from losing to leaving the life I led for over 30 years. Because we knew he was going to die, I ‘d already packed up and separated out the clothes and items that would leave when he did…even though he was bedridden for a long time, I couldn’t bring myself to donate his suits (which he wore when he’d been healthy) or dress shirts, but in the week after he died, my children were totally able to take those pre-packed items away - so I didn’t need to go through his stuff. The problem now is finding his written notes, the traces of his life which are functionally meaningless, but reflect the very fact of who he was. Those parts hurt and so I mourn, toss, and save a bit too. Because I’m writing these rules of the heart. The one thing I’ve really come to appreciate is the concept of Swedish Death Cleaning. It is a gift we can give to our heirs, because picking up that hairbrush with a few hairs clinging will break the heart all over again.
You are really going through a lot. Dealing with grief and preparing for a move. That's a lot. I hope you have people helping you. Take it easy on yourself. ❤
1st time here ... love this ... especially the discussion around the red dress and preferences and ultimately what are we willing to do or not do for peace ... loved the discussion
A friend of mine was dating a guy who was always pushing her to wear skinny jeans which wasn’t her thing and did not suit her body at all. She married him anyway and he was quite abusive. She finally got away from him after 15 years. Trying to control how you dress is a red flag.
I have less than half a closet of blouses and don't go over that and I have shorts in black to match blouses. I do remember wearing the same dress in junior high that's how my parents had me wear. But I was made fun of, not which was hard. Now I wear black due to being over weight.
Quintessential example of "golden handcuffs" rule is owning your own house/place 🏡 5:34 Yes, owning your own place is useful, yes it feel safe, comfy, cozy and nice, but man it limits your freedom and life choices in so many ways!
"You don't "love" me unless you compromise your values and preferences" sounds like narcissism and gaslighting in a relationship that isn't compatible.
Sounds like she needs to organize. Like other comments stated, rotate your seasonal clothes. A winter coat is too hot in spring! You need them both… you can use suitcases, hallway closets… you can have a handyman add a higher shelf in your closet for the clothes you use the least
If I was given a red dress, I would wear it with a long- sleeved slouchy black or navy blue sweater. A little red is fine. I don't wear any pastels, yellow, or pink. I wear jeans until they fall apart. Tina, Al's wife
There is a new trend, a so called “quiet luxury” trend among young people - they wear expensive clothes without shiny brand names on it. It is great idea. And I wish they just left aside #hashtags #quietluxury too and dont brag about it but enjoy the quality and be quiet.
Hummmm.......what About what clothing fibers are made from and how that impacts us? Everything is energy and moving, therefore it all impacts us! Organic Cotton is best or wool, but, costs lots, hard to find and needs more care, which is energy too!
I think life's too short to wear black and / or white only. My basic wardrobe, however, does consist of mainly black and white, but I did a colour analysis several years ago and I tuned the blacks and whites up with green and red. I stopped buying colours that don't fit my skintype (in my case grey, light blue, lilacs, pink, beige). Saved a lot of money and time when packing for vacation. Fabrics are also important. I hate wearing artificial fibers like polyester and fake leather. I wouldn't consider my wardrobe very minimalistic, but nowadays I like what I have and would buy the pieces again. No shopping fails anymore when you know what looks good on you and not on others (other ppl can be an inspiration though). Finally, I do not want to contribute to make the landfills even higher.
I have 2 little nightstands, they hold all my clothes, my rule is if it don't fit it's gone. My 2 jackets are in a different spot. I only wear comfortable shirts, thats my other rule lol
My husband bought me a fancy shirt that I struggle to wear. (It’s the material) But he was so proud of himself when he got it for me, that I still have it. He’s the kind of guy who will not remember something unless it’s important to him, and he asks me to wear it on dates. And I do.
@@muchadoaboutkovu Thats what love is about-sacrificing, giving and taking ;) I think about all the things my husband does for me every day to let me know Im loved, and so the least I can do is wear an item he loves to see me in, regardless of how I feel about it. 27 years together and still making sacrifices for each other :)
@@amiblack8294 Wearing something you would rather not, does not show love. Having the support to be happy with my choices and the adoration that comes from it is love. There is no sacrifice. Common respect is giving. And when both people do that it will be 100 happy years.
I agree with most of this but I do not agree with eat a bunch of carbs instead of meat... Unless you want to spend a lot of money on medication and doctor's visits for having poor metabolic health.
No way ..I need at least 4 outfits a day and I can go 3 years without wearing the same garment as per rotation...I've minimilised clothing and example donated over 600 jackets...but I need and use my remaining 60sometjing jackets..on that note I only own 4 pairs of jeans...3 for working on. D farm with but then have over 2k dresses...around 200skirts, 500 t-shirt, 700 tank tops, about 150 blouses which I intend to get more...and about 200pairs shoes and boots ( yes I donated over 400 pairs)...I'm a very esthetic person and love textures...example I will use over 6 different glasses in a day...depending on my mood..what I'm drinking..the colour of the drink...I am reducing on my storage items...but as for clothes I will increase on items that belong to my style as my budget permits 😂
@veradukic7999 well il be buzzing around the house and TH-cam chooses one video after another and u guys tend to pop up at least once a day. Tbh I can only listen for about 5min b4 I switch to d next video...way too extreme!
Wedding gowns made into burial gowns for children? Uhm, no. Having buried two of my own babies, I would have been horrified at the thought. I donated my own wedding dress to the drama department of a local high school and was thrilled to see it on stage in the spring play. To imagine parts of it moldering away underground on a dead child? That would have deeply sickened me. Leave bereaved parents alone! They are extremely stressed already and certainly do not need the extra burden of having to express gratitude to you! I cannot imagine a worse idea.😢
Wear whatever you like..but keep in mind- other people have to see you. After my brother died I stayed at my sis-in-laws & I was wearing a lot of grey & it was depressing her. So I started wearing lighter, brighter colors to help cheer her up a bit. I actually started feeling better also. Sometimes we can try to get outside of ourselves.
As a minimalist with a mostly black-based wardrobe, I wear colors in accessories and various tops. I carried my entire black-based wardrobe in a backpack on an Alaska cruise that had two "formal" nights. I wore an all black outfit with a colorful gauzy open tunic over skinny jeans and a tank top. With bolder makeup and jewelry, it was a festive, formal look. Worn the next day with no makeup and a plaid flannel shirt, I hiked to see the glacier. I wore the same black ankle boots for both activities. When I got home, I wore the same outfit to work with my dark plum colored tailored jacket and an interesting printed scarf in many colors. I went to happy hour after work and left the jacket in my car while using the colorful scarf as a headband. The simple black tank top has subtle metallic threads that make it look dressy in low lighting and sporty in the sunshine. Everything is packable, washable, and easily dryable. I wouldn't want to depress anyone, but I still want to be me and take the unnecessary clutter out of my life. There can be balance.
@@GeckoHiker So many people wear all black these days, they look like they're going to/have been to a funeral. All black clothing is very depressing to look at 🤨
@@GeckoHiker It can be... ie a nice black evening dress or dinner suit for a man for formal occasions. But any other time is just plain wrong in my view.
@@c.marmion8430 I'm wearing black ponte pants, black ankle boots, a grey pin-striped top with metallic accents, and a black knit tunic length sweater right now. It sets off my shiny black pixie cut and understated purple eyeliner. The tiny amethyst earrings really pop, too. I went from work to happy hour to an evening hike without changing anything. The adolescents I work with call me Goth-Granny. 😉
I love clothes, I collect them it’s my form of self expression. You will pry my clothing from my cold dead hands. When they have holes I still wear them. It’s not necessarily a bad thing. I will be one of those wildly dressed old ladies. And no man should be telling any woman what to do with their clothing. It’s like telling a lion how to eat with a fork. Aspirational dressing needs to be addressed though, either rise up to the confidence level of the clothing you purchased because you only live once and bought it because you want to project the image that garment conveys or accept you are really a simple person and stop buying them. I am turning 50 and I realize at 40 I got lazy and comfortable when I found my second wind in perimenopause and rediscovered my self expression I know my 50s are going to be a really fun decade of looking fabulous and NOT giving AF about what image I project-fancy pants or not. I live once and I’m going to look fly.
If these clothes are absolutely useful and you love them, you can do seasonal capsule. Eg. During summer, select the useful clothes that you will happily wear, and then put away the rest. Reflect and repeat the process just before Autumn.
What clothes do you have trouble letting go of?
As the oldest of 4 sons raised by a single mom, I never had many clothes. Now I collect clothing. I tend to be very plain and practical. I do not have an issue donating clothes, I am just having an issue with finding the right fit and color. There can be some underlying behaviors when it come to keeping clothes.
My daughters baby clothes and my hockey jersey I never wear...take pictures it helps to let go, a USB stick takes up a lot less room than a tote of clothes
Clothes I used to wear or buy when I started to work. I bought them with my first incomes and it felt great! I was also thinner then 😂
I'll try to do Project 33!!
This is the one area where I have never struggled, if it fits and is comfortable, I wear it and I don't have special occasion clothes, I look the same no matter where I go. Yep, I am the one that shows up at a wedding in the same dress she wore to work the other day.😁
I have a thing for coats. I inherited this from my grandmother who also had a thing for coats...lol!! I still have less than 10 though....so I don't consider it a "problem" yet. I recycle all of my clothes to the thrift store I buy them from. My overall clothes situation is MINIMAL compared to most women...that is for sure!! I have a VERY SMALL CLOSET, so I can't even be a CLOTHES HORSE if I WANTED TO! LOL!
Here's a tip.
My son died in 2017 and I'd been holding on to his clothes. Recently, I washed them, put them in a box and decided to ask the first homeless person I saw, who locked the same size, if he wanted them. He had 1 leg and was in a wheelchair. I asked where could drop them off. He was part of a program through a local healthcare facility that used a hotel to house a lot of people with mental illness. I took the clothes there and immediately became surrounded by people who also needed clothes.
But, wash the clothes and put them in a box and in the car so they're ready to go to someone when you see they're in need.
I'm so proud of my teen daughter. She decluttered her room and we will be donating 3 bags of clothes.
She has cleared empty shelves now and said that her room feels calmer. She read a whole book that day in one sitting!
Maybe....... Maybe I will declutter one room in my house...........
Damn that’s incredible !
Why don't you sell the clothes and make some money
TK has been the absolute best addition!!!!
Yes, he has a lovely voice!
He has amazing insight.
I thoroughly enjoy his input.
@@archereaster611😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Most definitely. He is a great addition to the podcast.
TK has amazing wisdom, and a beautiful voice.
I still have the shorts I was wearing the day I met my (ex and only) husband in 1984. I look at them in awe because they are so tiny, and they also trigger a happy memory of a very special day. Marriage didn't work out, but I have three great children from it. I'm not sure I can ever get rid of them.
Most relevant show ever for someone who has a full wardrobe in multiple sizes for multiple seasons....
Since losing weight , I now fit into all of my clothes , it is so awesome to be able to wear Everything!
Gawd that would be AWESOME
If she still uses and loves the clothes she has, but they stress her out (maybe her closet is too full or whatever), then she can always put seasonal clothes out of sight when not in use. I put mine in a vacuum bag under the bed, during the off-season. Just to give my closet a bit of breathing room, and to keep the seasonal items from getting dusty in the closet.
So if she still finds joy in having that spring coat, maybe having it available seasonally but not in her face everyday is a happy medium. But if she would find just as much joy in wearing her 'Fall' coat in the spring, then the spring coat should be donated.
Agree, I do this.
I live in Kentucky. My “winter” and all my seasonal clothing stays out. We have 30 degree evenings and 80 degree days. Lol. But I used to live up north and I did use those vacuum bags to store off season clothes 😊
Best purchases ever the vacuum seal big storage bags and collapsible storage bins that slide right under the beds. We also purchased 2 huge shelving units for our basement that fit the big storage bins. Switch out your seasonal wardrobes then free up more room in your closets and won’t feel like you need to throw stuff out.
Yes, I find that my eyes get tired of seeing my patterned clothes sometimes, so I store them away so I can appreciate them more the next season
To Jessica……
I hear something different in what you are saying. “Mountain of Laundry”.
How often do you do laundry a week? Are you saving it for once a week?
If you have access to a washer and dryer in your home…. Maybe consider washing all your scrubs on Sunday and all your sweats on say Wednesday to break it up so it isn’t a Mountain and the flow is more easily manageable. It sounds like all of your clothes are needed and worthy of keeping. Just overwhelming in the process of washing them.
I understand full loads. Dishes, clothes, etc….
But I also understand peace in routines to keep chaos under control.
It can get tough with clothes when you get pregnant. I was losing weight, gave away my maternity stuff and then I got pregnant again. Friends and family have been giving me baby things and maternity clothes, but now I am storing the clothes I want to wear after I’m done with pregnancy. And it feels cluttered, but I know it’s a season and once the opportunity of pregnancy is over, then I feel I can finally declutter and be done!
I love that you refer to pregnancy as an opportunity.
I donated my wedding gown to a lady who created 3 or 4 burial outfits for stillborn children and it means the world to me knowing I was able to bless families in their time of deepest heartache.
Do you have a link? I'd like to do the same but I'm from the UK
I recently lost weight so needed new clothes. I am still hanging on to the larger stuff just because I might need them… I sometimes lament about items I got rid of.
So far I am mostly shopping second hand. Weight loss can sometimes be difficult to sustain.
In this situation I keep items that are special but get rid of anything easily replaceable. I try not to buy new things not too tight fitting invade a bit more weight creeps on. Hope this helps. Don't cling on to lots of larger clothes as it's easy to just let yourself grow back 😂
I had a box labeled
Fat Chance Skinny Clothes.
Now I have boxes of make a quilt, refashion, or save for somebody someday!
couldn't you just resize them?
I can relate, but now over three years since I lost those pounds and went from a L/XL to a S/M - I’ve finally let go of virtually everything. That massive flannel nightie remains a comfy item - and since I live alone, I cling to it with joy, I’m happy!
I've lost weight 3 times. First 2 from working out. 3rd from going vegan. This time I'll never gain it back. I no longer think of animals and their secretions as food. Easiest weight I ever loss. Feel like I didn't even try.
But after the first time I got rid if clothes and regretted it.
TK’s thoughts at minute 16:30 is everything 🙏🏻
I feel good wearing all of my jackets & coats… clothing is an art of expression to me. I hate having the same look. I have a lot of clothes because I love variety but I think am going to get rid of the repetition.
I have a large cedar chest full of vintage Harris Tweed coats (complete with leather gloves and scarves to match). I collected them twenty years ago. Don’t even know if they will fit me anymore. Haven’t even opened that chest in two or three years. It’s a treasure someone will find after I die I’m thinking. I need professional help.🫤
@@marylhere 😳 sounds wonderful yet stressful. consider opening it... & maybe you'll be inspired from there.
@@tlc8925 right now I’m dealing with the winter to summer change. It was 38 degrees F last week….today it’s 83. Need to sort and edit my linens and store my woolies. I am not a minimalist.
Same
“Style isn’t as much about how much you own, as much as it’s about how much you own it.” (*mic drop*) I love this! Thanks T.K.!!
Well said😊
Love the caring direct but kind approach of the new presenter. Bless
I just turned all my hangers around. Once I wear it & still like it I will put it back in the closet with the hanger the proper way. 3 months is my goal. The clothing whose hangers remain facing forward are going to find a new home. The amount of clothing I am blessed with is overwhelming to me. Wish me displine!
That’s a great way to actually see what you wear. I did it but in a yearly trial. For instance. I have a dress I wear to funerals. I don’t go to funnels every 2-3 weeks. Maybe 1-2 a year. And that goes with fancier shoes and hand bags. I keep 2-3 of those and they only get used 2-3 times a year but I’m not going to get rid of them to save 2 inches of hanging space in my closet. 🤷🏼♀️
I hate gaining and losing weight over the years, I cnt afford to get rid of my different sized clothes that I might fit again in a few months..
Ugh same! Got thyroid cancer - gained some weight, then lost some - having a health condition like this can make it difficult, especially if you don't know how your condition/disease may progress and in turn affect your weight or metabolism
I used to do what you do...get rid of something immediately if I put it on and I hated it. But then i realized that women's hormones change the body so frequently, that I needed to be a bit more patient because it's a little tricker dressing the body during different times of the month. Just a thought to add to this conversation about a minimalist wardrobe!
Yesss!!! Let that friend (or spouse…) GO! 👏
I’ll never let someone tell me what to wear again. 🥰
You can get clips or cinch it tools to make clothes more form fitting, has helped me to keep clothes I need instead of letting go and buying more clothes.
Im 32 and just now understand. It made me gross when my mom kept some of my baby clothes with dust and the smell yuck. I have twins and I get rid of their old stuff immediately I hate hoarding it did make me sad but pictures do help and the thought of another baby can use these clothes
I like rotating clothes, so I usually keep more than I should. I did stop buying purses though, because I have some expensive ones and I see no need to buy anymore.
Golden handcuffs. Thank you TK for putting in words something I have often felt, especially when it comes to work!
For New England weather, it might make sense to put a winter coat and ski gear away in the spring, but the weather is pretty much set on random from March to October - we need layers all those months. The caller said she has a mountain of laundry to do every week. I suspect she's washing clothes after every single time she wears them. Unless her scrubs get actually dirty at work, she could probably wear them twice between washings, so that would reduce how much laundry to do and how many sets of scrubs she has to have in her drawer/closet. To reduce visual stress and avoid buying new ones, she could keep the extras in a suitcase or otherwise stored out of sight until the ones in rotation get worn out. Also, during mud season, pants can be protected by wearing leg gaiters.
I just put my snow shovel away….in Rochester NY.
I love this. I been outsider most of my life. I do wear what I want. I do art so I tend to think out of the box. T-shirt and jeans or sweats and sneakers is my thing. I do get occasional nice shirt for certain occasions. I like that u found inspiration anywhere.Key when doing my art.Thanks from Hatboro Pa.
I am not a clothes hoarder (dont like shopping unless i need a specific item) but recently finished decluttering my closet that still had items from highschool (nothing wrong with that in general but it was time).
I decided instead of the 90day/6mo rule i keep clothes for 2 seasons. We have very hot summers and moderately cold (multiple snow/ice days) winters, so i will keep seasonal items for either 2 winters or 2 summers. The reason is that sometimes i still like & want an item but dont have occation to wear it, if that happens 2yrs in a row the item has to go. The rest of my "3 season"/ "all year" clothes get weeded out about every 6mos. The problem is i then need to go replace items lol
You guys saved my life and changed it forever . THANK YOU!❤
Loved myself with shopping trips. Not in any relationship with a significant other. Size has been up and down. Trendy style and patterns draw my attention in and I dont have a completed outfit w/o my multiple clothing articles
“It’s always okay to let go of someone who is trying to coerce you because coercion is not consent. But also, convincing, persuading, manipulating - those things aren’t consent either - that’s unloving.”
Listening to the "red dress" question brought back a memory from high school: a classmate asked me to prom, and I didn't really want to go with him but said I'd think about it...and THEN he started telling me how I should wear my hair, that "this" way looked better than when I wore it "that" way. That's when I gave him a firm NO.
My husband learned very early in our relationship not to comment on my clothes or hair. We have been married for 31 years. 😂
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Since working from home and realising I have sensory issues with fabric, I essentially wear a uniform: 100% cotton tshirt, cashmere/merino jumper, good quality fleecy jogging bottoms. GOODBYE uncomfortable button-down shirts and skirts and dresses. I live in Scotland so also have a few options in serious-level coats and boots if I really have to leave the house in winter!
You guys are Still killin it!! Love ur podcasts. Thanks ❤
So inspiring. I’m going to start a project 33 with my pairs of shoes.
Thanks & keep on the good work 💚
For me I always get caught with the sunk cost fallacy concept. I remember how much something cost me to buy, and this stops me donating it on to someone who might use it.
Where I live I have 4 seasons. I can't just hvea few things.
I have 15 jackets and love everyone of them
I love that - shopping in my closet - thanks, Nancy
I just moved into a caravan, thank goodness it's outside my parents house because I'm storing a shelf of my winter sweaters, coats etc that I would not be able to fit in here if not. But i like all my black sweaters.. haha also i don't have money to replace things so I won't buy anymore for a couple years because I have plenty to last 😬
If a man i am dating buys me a dress. I will wear it!! To make him smile and improve the relationship between us. I would also show him what I like. It only takes one compliment for a women to realize she looks good in it. I donated to a homeless shelter to give clothes to people who need them.
Hi TK!!!! I only watch when you are on…. You are so smart!!!
If you like the dress , wear it. If you don't... don't! ❤❤❤❤
First time listening to you guys! It was great and It will be great to meet the woman laughing in the background. She’s hilarious 🤣
I learned early on to never buy clothes for my partners. Unless they love hoodies....the it's all about the right size. You will almost always be wrong about size and style.
“Oh my stars” -Malabama, about Becks looking like the Hamburglar, so funny!
The smaller sized ones are my hardest clothes to get rid of. I always hope someday, I will be thin again. Not going to happen but I feel like I am really giving up hope if I get rid of them. It's a struggle. I am so minimalist with other things but the thin clothes are rough.
I let go of my small clothes as they reminded me of what I am not. Self defeating ghosts of the past.
I would keep a few smaller shirts and try to make a goal to see if I could achieve it by a certain time, if not I would part ways with the items.
I do need to keep different sizes. I sorted my xs, kept my favourites in a place i dont see every day and had the other clothes on eye level. I needed to buy two trousers that would fit me. The cupboard is not a storage place! Immediately i felt better about my options en myself.
Just because people don't point out that you always wear the same clothes doesn't mean that they don't notice and/or that it looks good.
One of the reasons I opted to divorce was due to his unrelenting hoard. He wasn’t willing to compromise and literally every room was over run with THINGS. I literally lost my sanity.
I’m in the process of a total downsize as I prepare to sell my house. Widowed for only a year and a half, I’m deep in the process of going from losing to leaving the life I led for over 30 years. Because we knew he was going to die, I ‘d already packed up and separated out the clothes and items that would leave when he did…even though he was bedridden for a long time, I couldn’t bring myself to donate his suits (which he wore when he’d been healthy) or dress shirts, but in the week after he died, my children were totally able to take those pre-packed items away - so I didn’t need to go through his stuff. The problem now is finding his written notes, the traces of his life which are functionally meaningless, but reflect the very fact of who he was. Those parts hurt and so I mourn, toss, and save a bit too. Because I’m writing these rules of the heart.
The one thing I’ve really come to appreciate is the concept of Swedish Death Cleaning. It is a gift we can give to our heirs, because picking up that hairbrush with a few hairs clinging will break the heart all over again.
You are really going through a lot. Dealing with grief and preparing for a move. That's a lot. I hope you have people helping you. Take it easy on yourself. ❤
Can't believe TK got cut off before his Maxim! He should never be abbreviated, except in his name. LOL
I need this today😮
1st time here ... love this ... especially the discussion around the red dress and preferences and ultimately what are we willing to do or not do for peace ... loved the discussion
Funny - maximal edition from the minimalist ! Kind of catchy.
A friend of mine was dating a guy who was always pushing her to wear skinny jeans which wasn’t her thing and did not suit her body at all. She married him anyway and he was quite abusive. She finally got away from him after 15 years. Trying to control how you dress is a red flag.
I often give things one last chance…any discomfort or flaw…out
I've been getting rid of furniture etc.,, it feels great! Like removing my bra at bedtime lol.
I have less than half a closet of blouses and don't go over that and I have shorts in black to match blouses. I do remember wearing the same dress in junior high that's how my parents had me wear. But I was made fun of, not which was hard. Now I wear black due to being over weight.
Ep 390 please ❤
Quintessential example of "golden handcuffs" rule is owning your own house/place 🏡 5:34
Yes, owning your own place is useful, yes it feel safe, comfy, cozy and nice, but man it limits your freedom and life choices in so many ways!
"You don't "love" me unless you compromise your values and preferences" sounds like narcissism and gaslighting in a relationship that isn't compatible.
Getting a nice pic of yourself in the red dress for him might be enough?
Sounds like she needs to organize. Like other comments stated, rotate your seasonal clothes. A winter coat is too hot in spring! You need them both… you can use suitcases, hallway closets… you can have a handyman add a higher shelf in your closet for the clothes you use the least
TK is my preacher
Yes, I checked what DTMFA means...and I agree!
If I was given a red dress, I would wear it with a long- sleeved slouchy black or navy blue sweater. A little red is fine. I don't wear any pastels, yellow, or pink.
I wear jeans until they fall apart. Tina, Al's wife
There is a new trend, a so called “quiet luxury” trend among young people - they wear expensive clothes without shiny brand names on it. It is great idea. And I wish they just left aside #hashtags #quietluxury too and dont brag about it but enjoy the quality and be quiet.
Do laundry more often.
Loved this one, thanks 😊
I love cloths but I wear them all
I don’t think aspirational clothing is just about body fit. ….for example, it could be about about a different style or quality.
Guilty of this. I tend to upgrade my "I need a new coat" to I need THAT new super fancy, high quality but ultimately out of my budget coat. Disastrous
Hummmm.......what About what clothing fibers are made from and how that impacts us? Everything is energy and moving, therefore it all impacts us!
Organic Cotton is best or wool, but, costs lots, hard to find and needs more care, which is energy too!
I think life's too short to wear black and / or white only. My basic wardrobe, however, does consist of mainly black and white, but I did a colour analysis several years ago and I tuned the blacks and whites up with green and red. I stopped buying colours that don't fit my skintype (in my case grey, light blue, lilacs, pink, beige). Saved a lot of money and time when packing for vacation.
Fabrics are also important. I hate wearing artificial fibers like polyester and fake leather. I wouldn't consider my wardrobe very minimalistic, but nowadays I like what I have and would buy the pieces again. No shopping fails anymore when you know what looks good on you and not on others (other ppl can be an inspiration though).
Finally, I do not want to contribute to make the landfills even higher.
True, it’s the style you own.
Just have one black leather jacket. Enough to take you through centuries
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Why not with "Rule Book" to "Tool Book"?
She should give him a shirt that he would hate and see how he likes being asked to wear it. 🙄
I love your podcast but the woman who is laughing so loudly is a bit annoying.
Hey, it is OK to have what serves a purpose. End of story. Let's not exaggerate.
Why is there annoying laughter in the background? Cannot watch this with that cackling.
I have 2 little nightstands, they hold all my clothes, my rule is if it don't fit it's gone. My 2 jackets are in a different spot. I only wear comfortable shirts, thats my other rule lol
Why not just wear the dress in the bedroom, know what I mean?
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If your not going to wear it this week, tomorrow or to your next party night out put it out to charity. Less is more.
Absolutely should she not have to wear the dress to appease her boyfriend, even for five minutes.
My husband bought me a fancy shirt that I struggle to wear. (It’s the material) But he was so proud of himself when he got it for me, that I still have it. He’s the kind of guy who will not remember something unless it’s important to him, and he asks me to wear it on dates. And I do.
@@muchadoaboutkovu Thats what love is about-sacrificing, giving and taking ;) I think about all the things my husband does for me every day to let me know Im loved, and so the least I can do is wear an item he loves to see me in, regardless of how I feel about it. 27 years together and still making sacrifices for each other :)
@@amiblack8294 Wearing something you would rather not, does not show love. Having the support to be happy with my choices and the adoration that comes from it is love. There is no sacrifice. Common respect is giving. And when both people do that it will be 100 happy years.
I agree with most of this but I do not agree with eat a bunch of carbs instead of meat... Unless you want to spend a lot of money on medication and doctor's visits for having poor metabolic health.
Diff video?
No way
..I need at least 4 outfits a day and I can go 3 years without wearing the same garment as per rotation...I've minimilised clothing and example donated over 600 jackets...but I need and use my remaining 60sometjing jackets..on that note I only own 4 pairs of jeans...3 for working on. D farm with but then have over 2k dresses...around 200skirts, 500 t-shirt, 700 tank tops, about 150 blouses which I intend to get more...and about 200pairs shoes and boots ( yes I donated over 400 pairs)...I'm a very esthetic person and love textures...example I will use over 6 different glasses in a day...depending on my mood..what I'm drinking..the colour of the drink...I am reducing on my storage items...but as for clothes I will increase on items that belong to my style as my budget permits 😂
So you watch this podcast for entertainment purposes only? 😂😂😂
@veradukic7999 well il be buzzing around the house and TH-cam chooses one video after another and u guys tend to pop up at least once a day. Tbh I can only listen for about 5min b4 I switch to d next video...way too extreme!
Oh, dear! The public podcast is becoming shorter and shorter... 😔
she could dye it black
She could wear the red dress in home
Wedding gowns made into burial gowns for children? Uhm, no. Having buried two of my own babies, I would have been horrified at the thought. I donated my own wedding dress to the drama department of a local high school and was thrilled to see it on stage in the spring play. To imagine parts of it moldering away underground on a dead child? That would have deeply sickened me. Leave bereaved parents alone! They are extremely stressed already and certainly do not need the extra burden of having to express gratitude to you! I cannot imagine a worse idea.😢
Wait, on the maximal episode, I miss the minimalism. I think the heady philosophical discussions don’t lend themselves to practical applicable advice.
That woman's laughter is getting on my nerves after 10 min
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"we were born perfect" this is nonsense.
Find a new boyfriend.
Wear whatever you like..but keep in mind- other people have to see you. After my brother died I stayed at my sis-in-laws & I was wearing a lot of grey & it was depressing her. So I started wearing lighter, brighter colors to help cheer her up a bit. I actually started feeling better also. Sometimes we can try to get outside of ourselves.
As a minimalist with a mostly black-based wardrobe, I wear colors in accessories and various tops. I carried my entire black-based wardrobe in a backpack on an Alaska cruise that had two "formal" nights.
I wore an all black outfit with a colorful gauzy open tunic over skinny jeans and a tank top. With bolder makeup and jewelry, it was a festive, formal look. Worn the next day with no makeup and a plaid flannel shirt, I hiked to see the glacier. I wore the same black ankle boots for both activities.
When I got home, I wore the same outfit to work with my dark plum colored tailored jacket and an interesting printed scarf in many colors. I went to happy hour after work and left the jacket in my car while using the colorful scarf as a headband. The simple black tank top has subtle metallic threads that make it look dressy in low lighting and sporty in the sunshine. Everything is packable, washable, and easily dryable. I wouldn't want to depress anyone, but I still want to be me and take the unnecessary clutter out of my life. There can be balance.
@@GeckoHiker So many people wear all black these days, they look like they're going to/have been to a funeral.
All black clothing is very depressing to look at 🤨
@@c.marmion8430 I think black clothing is elegant. Of course, splashes of color against a black background are fun.
@@GeckoHiker It can be... ie a nice black evening dress or dinner suit for a man for formal occasions. But any other time is just plain wrong in my view.
@@c.marmion8430 I'm wearing black ponte pants, black ankle boots, a grey pin-striped top with metallic accents, and a black knit tunic length sweater right now. It sets off my shiny black pixie cut and understated purple eyeliner. The tiny amethyst earrings really pop, too. I went from work to happy hour to an evening hike without changing anything. The adolescents I work with call me Goth-Granny. 😉
I love clothes, I collect them it’s my form of self expression. You will pry my clothing from my cold dead hands. When they have holes I still wear them. It’s not necessarily a bad thing. I will be one of those wildly dressed old ladies.
And no man should be telling any woman what to do with their clothing. It’s like telling a lion how to eat with a fork.
Aspirational dressing needs to be addressed though, either rise up to the confidence level of the clothing you purchased because you only live once and bought it because you want to project the image that garment conveys or accept you are really a simple person and stop buying them.
I am turning 50 and I realize at 40 I got lazy and comfortable when I found my second wind in perimenopause and rediscovered my self expression I know my 50s are going to be a really fun decade of looking fabulous and NOT giving AF about what image I project-fancy pants or not. I live once and I’m going to look fly.
I hear you loud and clear. My clothing is my artistic expression. When it comes to clothes I will never be a minimalist.
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Absolutely agree!!
I agree. I have lots of clothes. These guys are just boring. Guys can wear jeans & a t shirt every day & be ok with it. Well not me ! 😅
Red Hat lady coming right up I see! ❤️
My sister helped me go through my clothes once using the “when was the last time you wore this?” method. Found in December I had no sweaters.
Funny!
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That is my fear😂😂😂. Nice sister ! She needs to come to my house! I own way way too much clothing. I need the help.
Maybe went a little overboard.🙂
Hahaha! She sounds like my sis😂
If these clothes are absolutely useful and you love them, you can do seasonal capsule. Eg. During summer, select the useful clothes that you will happily wear, and then put away the rest. Reflect and repeat the process just before Autumn.