The Empty Feeling Is A Goldmine - Kyle Cease

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  • A lot of magical revelations arise in this incredible episode of “Hot Seat” where we discover why empaths lose themselves when others are around.
    In the process of listening deeper, we see again that we haven’t allowed ourselves to be heard in order to not cause drama with others.
    This is a fun one on one that opens so many new doors for so many new possibilities.
    Transcend guilt, awaken your soul, and see so much in you. Become a better friend, partner, or parent as you learn how to hear what everyone including yourself is feeling simultaneously.
    It would be impossible to not grow after watching this.
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ความคิดเห็น • 275

  • @NichtNochEinGluecksguru
    @NichtNochEinGluecksguru ปีที่แล้ว +178

    Edit:
    Omg, your comments are incredible! We all are really one, we struggle the same way, we feel the same way… appreciate all of you! Thank you so so so much!! Much love to all of you!!!💕💕💕
    Thank you so so much Kyle for your open heart and hearing me and my inner child at the hot seat! It has opened a new world for me! Sending so much love and appreciation ❤

    • @lisaduhrssen7741
      @lisaduhrssen7741 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Give yourself a break,you are amazing and you are enough♥️

    • @Mailika
      @Mailika ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Wow i feel you are speaking from my heart. Thank you both for this video much help from it❤

    • @WiebkeDirks_Training_Beratung
      @WiebkeDirks_Training_Beratung ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you from a German sister for sharing those healing moments ❤🙏

    • @tanyacarlyle1422
      @tanyacarlyle1422 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you Bahar for your vulnerability 🙏 beautiful work 🙏 💪 💕

    • @arianabiren6850
      @arianabiren6850 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Bahar thank you so much for so honest opening your heart feeling and sharing with for healing altogether ❤❤❤

  • @sandrabrown6932
    @sandrabrown6932 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    Wow…72 years old and I was so moved .Bahar you have opened and seen my little child…I love you!🇨🇦

    • @Olovoll
      @Olovoll ปีที่แล้ว

      ❤❤❤ 🥹

  • @dianahartley9866
    @dianahartley9866 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    This so me. I am thrilled that I am not the only one. Attachment is exhausting, not love. Love is different. Never heard this before. Wow

  • @lisaduhrssen7741
    @lisaduhrssen7741 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I grew up thinking I was a dissapointment to my parents,and I never wanted my daughter to be dissapointed!Allow the feelings if sadness ti be ok

  • @enough1494
    @enough1494 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I just called my sister to congratulate her on the announcement of her very special and long vaca to Japan. As always within a few minutes the conversation switched to her rage about being the legal guardian to her very handicapped adult son, my favorite nephew.
    I am the only one who talks to him every week, conversations are extremely challenging, for us both…but will never miss them.
    Anyway, for the first time I cut her off. I had to tell her I am hanging up now….3 TIMES….then I did. Of course I already have 5 long text. Not reading them!
    I am LEARNING….THANKS TO YOU Kyle!
    Blessings and much love and gratitude!

  • @Flowergirl222
    @Flowergirl222 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Both of my parents are narcissists and I had this pattern my whole life. I made connection with my inner child and learned how to love her. Sometimes a mild version of that pattern still surfaces but its nothing like it was. You will get there beautiful soul. Keep seeking love 🤍

    • @ozi1578
      @ozi1578 ปีที่แล้ว

      How did you connect to your inner child? I’ve recently started inner child work but can’t seem to get through a wall

    • @Flowergirl222
      @Flowergirl222 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ozi1578 It didnt happen all at once. It took time, love, and patience. That wall is only in your mind. You have to make it back into your heart and connect with infinite love again, then little by little you will clear that old stuff and replace it. Don’t beat yourself up for hitting that wall. Have patience whenever you can and when you do, celebrate it, because thats big. Im really sorry you didnt get the love you deserve as a child. You are worthy of it 🤍

  • @yogawithoutagenda
    @yogawithoutagenda ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is why normal talk therapy doesn't work so well. I was saying the same stuff as Bahar and the therapist sits pretty much silently for the hour, I pay and around we go next week. It isn't enough to say it, you need the metaphors, the explanations!! Thanks Kyle and Bahar❤❤

  • @Naqikaph
    @Naqikaph ปีที่แล้ว +25

    This was so incredible I first thought it was staged. And then the following came up in my soul:
    I wasn’t allowed to cry
    Even though I just watched my middle brother die
    I was shooed out of the room
    Like a dog with a broom
    Get her out of here
    I don’t want her feelings and tears near
    So for 2 years I held them in
    And the nightmares began
    Didn’t know that I was an empath
    Until I watched this video and did the math
    I just thought I was an introvert
    But I noticed I held on to others Hurt
    And when they left I was drained
    Wouldn’t answer my phone everybody complained
    Didn’t answer my phone
    Felt all alone
    I knew the conversations would be 1 sided
    Because in me they confided
    And knew I would tried to fix whatever was wrong
    And then they are gone
    When I was with them I would barely look at my phone
    But have yet to be returned the favor
    I thought this was just normal behavior
    That maybe I was more evolved
    But while listening to you both a light bulb came on and tension in my left hip started to dissolve
    I began to see
    I can include them and me
    I’m allowed to feel ignored in my body
    It’s nobody fault
    It’s just how my inner child was taught
    With my parents I was brought up not to offend them
    Dad’s been dead 17 yrs now I still blame and defend him
    A Blk child is seen and not heard
    Little girl sit down be quiet don’t say a word
    All my problems I thought they were hers and his
    Learning to love what is
    Now I’ll sit daily in the silence to listen to hear
    And I’ll will welcome every tear
    Thank you Bahar & Kyle
    This kyleleggo? has introduced me to my inner child
    She said hello it’s been awhile

    • @vaniaelise
      @vaniaelise ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I just wanted to let you know that your poem is beautiful and it touched me. I hope that you are sharing your talent with the world. ❤❤❤

    • @tracyfarrag1252
      @tracyfarrag1252 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Beautiful poem! It touched me deeply. ❤

    • @LightLoveConnection
      @LightLoveConnection ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You are a very talented writer. Wow. Thank you for sharing your gifts with us.

    • @AoibheannDoyle-SoulTherapist
      @AoibheannDoyle-SoulTherapist ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow 🩵

    • @BeTheNow
      @BeTheNow ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow. Just wow. You are gifted. Truly. Sooo beautifully written. Thank you for sharing this!💘❤️‍🔥

  • @funcereal
    @funcereal ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I struggle with this completely! It's so hard to remain in my own sense self around others, and all of it is exhausting.

  • @weegizmi1
    @weegizmi1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Beautiful, profound, overwhelming. Thank you Kyle & Bahar. I'm no longer afraid to feel the pain or the fear. I know they will lead me to salvation. After 40 years of trying, I finally know what to do. Grateful beyond words. Thank you xxx

  • @allwellandgood8547
    @allwellandgood8547 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Wow this was incredible! I just felt like 4 decades of confusion have clicked in to place for me watching this, I have never been able to make sense of it but you helped me so much sharing this. I feel a freedom and permission to just be. I wish I had felt this when my children were young. I'm so grateful for you and happy for you and your daughter. Thank you🙏❤

  • @Joyous1Now
    @Joyous1Now ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was truly beautiful! I was opened to my inner child in a whole new way. So much to unfold from this!
    I remember when I heard Bahar about a year ago, the things going on in my life...they all now seem like a movie I watched about someone else. I am so healthy and happy now! Having allowed my precious inner child to be fully present, loved and heard has been the magic elixir for this past glorious year! I am so appreciative of Kyle, Bahar and my beautiful inner child for being a part of my fabulous transformation! Only bigger, better, and more of the Divine ahead! I'm so excited about my flexibility and joy in moving forward! ❤❤❤❤

  • @trueidentitytime2shine862
    @trueidentitytime2shine862 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you guys!
    I had 2 narcissistic parents.
    I never had a voice.
    They walked in ego and were easily offended.
    I am going through this session with you honey!
    U r so brave!
    Thx Kyle!
    Love u both!

    • @sharonmontoliu6573
      @sharonmontoliu6573 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      when i read your comment i began to cry so much as i felt so bad for all you went thru. my dad was a 100 % narcissist and a monster who loved to torture so i feel for you so very much and i feel a love for you too. keep working with Kyle i am also he is a gift to us all. thank you for your comment really touched me.

  • @lotushealing3799
    @lotushealing3799 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I can AGREE with her 1000% as a mom of 2 boys, not always wanting to play but having to play as a mom I suppress a lot of feelings, I feel the same feelings she feel, angry, & I want to run as well !!! And my son starts to act out! Thank youuu BOTH FOR THIS 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @betzyberumen6910
    @betzyberumen6910 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This was so powerful for me I just had a daughter she's 6 months but now I know how I can let go of attachments and honor my inner child and my daughter too and my spouces inner child. My parents were very controlling my mom's a narcissist so I completely understand. This was so powerful for me thank you 😭😭😭💚

  • @KasiaWeszczak
    @KasiaWeszczak ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I grew up in communist Poland until I was 18 years old. I am so familiar with repressed emotions, control, manipulation, be strong, don’t cry, be a good girl - freaking show pony! … and the list goes on. I am feeling freedom to Swap out ( Dr. Kim D’Eramo’s process) the anger that is there. My little one inside has felt her whole life like she couldn’t be herself with people … not really knowing what her TRUE self is really like. Not feeling safe. I loved this call! Thank you both ❤

  • @sandradee6029
    @sandradee6029 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you for having the courage to speak out for yourself, your inner child and for everyone in this community to learn from. This is EXACTLY what I'm processing right now. Not, with a child to take care of, but how to be seen in the world. I have crashed since I've realised I've been taking care of everyone else's emotions. Thank you so much for sharing your story while retaining compassion for your parents. I can feel how much you've shifted. I too have shifted and I'm sure many others too. Wishing you every happiness in all your emotions to come! ❤

  • @ahnaahna7278
    @ahnaahna7278 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Actually….I went to Anglican Church today…..and I knew/remembered all the old hymns……but…..I cannot subserviently worship the risen Christ. I am beyond that viewpoint of the Christ. I fully embrace the Christ Consciousness and the noble Archangels as my collaborating groups on my behalf….and in my future service. I am not better than at all…..but I am in a different viewpoint/mindset about my Creator/God/the Christ. No shame anymore….from organized religion….but plenty self-responsibility recognition of my lesser actions. Christ is not outside of us to be invited in…..he/she is eager to be fully activated within us…..like a sweet non-invasive occupation within….to be…..allowed. This is a very different view…..but a freeing one.

  • @TheWebRaven
    @TheWebRaven 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for showing us how to be open, vulnerable, communicate, and make peace with our inner child. You are beautiful and you are an excellent mother!!!

  • @NewEarthLife1111
    @NewEarthLife1111 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I wish I heard this message 24 years ago. This was/is exactly me. I raised my daughter pleasing her all along the journey. At the time I felt I did a really great job as a mom. But as she got older when I started showing any difficult feelings or emotions with what I was experiencing she completely shut me out. I felt I would always let her show her feelings to me throughout her childhood. It’s like I wasn’t supposed to have any feelings. I was the youngest in my family too and was always yelled at if I had any feelings or emotions I was shamed. So I pretended I didn’t have any to keep the peace. They used “the silent treatment” as a way to let me know I was wrong and it sometimes would go on for days. They would ignore anything I would say. My siblings too. I was never seen unless I pleased people. Last May my 24 year old daughter told me I was the worst mother ever and will not speak to me anymore. Again, the silent treatment is being used as a weapon against me because I expressed some of my feelings to her. It’s so good you’re learning this when your daughter is young. I never even knew I had an inner child to take care of until this last year. Thank you for this message.

  • @roxiebeall9024
    @roxiebeall9024 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Bahar ! That was amazing to witness! Thank you for the honor of sharing your growth with us. I know I personally came away from this with new insights about my childhood, as well as my role as a mother. You are an amazing person and your daughter chose wisely when she picked you as a mom! Thanks for sharing this Kyle! One of the best yet!

  • @KathyGaalaas
    @KathyGaalaas ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Shes so beautiful and this hot seat was so powerful. Congrats to both of you!

  • @nivet9712
    @nivet9712 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This made me see a pattern that needed to be released within me. Thank you Kyle and Bahar ♥

  • @theeffectiveprogressive
    @theeffectiveprogressive ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m listening while working… she said “you are allowed to feel sad in my body” and I just started crying. Beautiful

  • @jankuchel7
    @jankuchel7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Oh Bahar and the energy shifted and I was blown away. Watching the replay we can go back and see the moments where your light clicked on more and more and more.
    Your confidence will remain ❤

  • @confidence763
    @confidence763 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Bahar thank you being brave on this call, u helped me see what I had been going through as a child and how it has effected me and my two daughters and why they are so angry with each other… 37yrs and 34 yrs old… I’m 66 😢 I always tell them to sorted out what happened individuals in the family as a unit and it will give so, much clarity. I think they still rebel because of the work they have to go through so proud of you, girl your daughter so blessed…my youngest is working on the shadow side now. 😊❤❤❤ much love

  • @Robert-di3kv
    @Robert-di3kv ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow I didn’t realize this is something I suffer from. And you are correct they are acting like children.

  • @jansimpson4364
    @jansimpson4364 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Bahar, you just described my family. I was the youngest by a lot - my family was chaos when I arrived. It was when you said that you felt you couldn’t do anything that would increase their problems, their sadness - exactly what I felt. And what a thing for a little child to feel, what a burden to feel their entire happiness is on your shoulders! Thank you, Kyle, for pointing out that empathy and narcissists are opposites - all me/no you vs all you/no me. The good news to me is that even just starting down the path of more me for an empath starts to change that dynamic and stop the attraction of and to narcissists…

  • @jeantuite-actress--imdb
    @jeantuite-actress--imdb ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i just realized that i do this sometimes to not get too close to friends or in trying to find someone new to date or of im in a room with someone i like i might avoid meeting them if i like them alot but on surface level i can be the type to never meet a stranger and be very conversational as long as the conversation doesnt get too deep.

  • @Teresatoole21
    @Teresatoole21 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    When you asked her what her inner child was feeling and she answered I found myself in tears while driving because I didn’t know my inner child felt anything and she feels just like this! 😢Why is this not a normal thing for us to know to do?! 😢😢❤ Thank you for sharing sweet lady! You are a beautiful soul! ❤

  • @reconnectwithtrue
    @reconnectwithtrue ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you SO much for sharing this with us. So powerful. 🙏 new realizations… wow!

  • @the.kai.eros.experience
    @the.kai.eros.experience ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, Bahar.
    My childhood and parents feel so similar.
    They love me and would do anything for me… AND I was controlled and repressed and never felt safe.

  • @alexandrasky4952
    @alexandrasky4952 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    This was wonderful! I appreciate Bahar for being so brave and open and sharing all that she's feeling. It really resonated and helped me sort through some things of my own!

  • @anitavangerrevink5335
    @anitavangerrevink5335 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great topic; Thank you for sharing! I was very controlled, lied to and manipulated as a child. I so relate to the fear of disappointing my parents and having to prove my love in order to be good and enough etc. Leaving that paradigm, was a challenge. Telling ourselves "They did the best they could" is often just a trigger to keep us away from the hurt feelings. I felt so much confusion. Later I saw that that came from their words being not the same as their behaviour; they didn't walk their talk. Heart and head were not aligned. Children do mirror our feelings and it is so wonderful to recognise this gift they gave us! What a great present you gave your daughter by being courages and willing to be aware and change💞

  • @KekeLight8
    @KekeLight8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is how we heal the world I believe

  • @the.kai.eros.experience
    @the.kai.eros.experience ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Omg.
    “Either I’m pleasing or I am empty.”
    Wow do I relate.
    Just starting to listen but I feel you so much.
    Thank you for sharing your heart.

  • @lovingliberation
    @lovingliberation ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I remember the phrase 'shut up or I'm going to give you something to cry about'

    • @dianawhite8692
      @dianawhite8692 ปีที่แล้ว

      I remember my mother saying that too! I hated when she said that. It was usually as we were leaving my grandmother, who was the only love I knew at the age of three, and I was crying b/c I didn’t want to go back home with my narcissistic mother.

  • @brookesidwell395
    @brookesidwell395 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Kyle.. you are such a gift to this world! I love your essence. Thank you for being you!

  • @kamilynbonham5245
    @kamilynbonham5245 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Bahar you are so intuitive and self aware and im giggling alot because Our childhoods are Almost exactly the same , as far as energy goes its crazy, and I combat lifers shinanagins with humor. That being said, I was listening and found myself in awe how intuitive you were , but then giggled because you are super intuitive but that intuition is not intuittting your amazing intuition😂 I laugh hard because us humans are so silly and complicated. I'm only 25 min into the video and I am gonna listen to jt at least 5 times more.

  • @barbaramarshall7165
    @barbaramarshall7165 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is so powerful. My life will never be the same.. This is the golden key that has unlocked the prison gates in my mind. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Even at age 75, I can still have a new beginning

  • @lorimayo3586
    @lorimayo3586 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hot seats are amazing. Love this group

  • @nannyfunwitheva4875
    @nannyfunwitheva4875 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was so amazing. I am 61 yrs old and finally understand for the first time in my life. You did amazing Behar. You are a beautiful soul ❤

  • @hajarharrar4720
    @hajarharrar4720 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Sending her so muuuuuuch loved. I cried many times watching this video, beautiful releases. My heart is exploding with love to all fellow human beings doing their best in this journey. I love you

  • @woodspriteful
    @woodspriteful ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As a single mother and single provider, I understand this mother completely. It's difficult being a mother in an individualistic society no matter what. I approached motherhood wanting to be conscious and attached, but I've felt those runaway feelings. A concept that has helped me is "mutually-arising." It reminds me that "either-or" is not my chosen path. Mutually arising as a mother-daughter was an attempt to heal the lack of bond between myself and my mother, not because she was a narcissist but because she was emotionally exhausted, physically and emotionally unavailable, and hadn't done her healing.
    It's really important for kids to see their mothers enjoying themselves, such as dancing or creating without necessarily directly interacting with them. Libraries, community dances, and parks have been helpful because the kids can be engaged while you do your thing, alongside but not directly involved. Mothers need that time. My daughter knows when the dance is my dance and when I can dance with her. Balance.
    I've also benefitted from my parents taking my daughter for 3 months twice in her first 8 years. It shows you that the you you think you are without your child doesn't really exist anymore. A mother can never undo being a mother, can never return to not being a mother. We're on call forever. A separation can really help reestablish the healthy bond.
    The relationship changes as they get older too. It's not as emotionally demanding.

  • @makiko329
    @makiko329 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for healing everyone’s inner child by healing your inner child, I appreciate you so much!🥹🙏🏻❤️🌎

  • @staceyrodrigues2477
    @staceyrodrigues2477 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Bahar, I have pure respect for you. Kyle you ARE AWESOME. Thank you both.

  • @sabine824
    @sabine824 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    ♥♥This is the best video I ever seen, now I can understand what's going on with my inner child. I have so much anger, sadness inside for not be seen that needed to be seen and acknowledge. I'm so grateful for Bahar for her openness, vulnerability, it will help so many people. So much gratitude and love♥♥

  • @starmc91
    @starmc91 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    How can you see past these patterns wow ?!!! Fantastic !! I can definitely relate to this WoW !! Thanks for sharing this message.

  • @whatsitallabout2901
    @whatsitallabout2901 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just getting this... when you offer to the feeling 'you are allowed to be in my body' ie the feeling of being controlled is allowed to be in my body, there is support for the part of you that feels controlled - and that support is love ❤

  • @lindaolsen9167
    @lindaolsen9167 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you so much! Im so moved and greatful for you to hold this safe space for yourself and for me as I'm listening to this even 8month after you recorded this. I healed through your healing as I resonate with so much of what you went through in the call. I cried so many times in the call as i felt my own inner child needed attention and I could give her that 🙏❤ Thank you Kyle for holding this safe loving healing space for so many people 🙏❤

    • @EmergingForward
      @EmergingForward 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      awwww that is so great. I too relate greatly to this call and heal much from Kyle...

  • @teresaobrien8598
    @teresaobrien8598 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i have got so much from this.

  • @FreeDom-dh5mf
    @FreeDom-dh5mf ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Have worked on this issue a lot. But, this got into some crevices that needed to be seen, yet. So true for me. Thank you, Behar and Kyle and your children and parents.

  • @ruthbiafora5443
    @ruthbiafora5443 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    One of the BEST sessions ever. You are so authentic❤

  • @soulineegoetsch5786
    @soulineegoetsch5786 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I learned that I have done a similar thing with my son. It was very enlightening to me , thank you so much for your authenticity.

  • @nishasankaran
    @nishasankaran ปีที่แล้ว

    ‘Attachment is exhausting, not love, love is energizing.’ Wtf. What a crucial differentiation. Amazing ❤🙏🏾

  • @glrs.8889
    @glrs.8889 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wooow. Amazing call. Thank you both for All the teachings from this...Blessings 👋🏾✨️

  • @kamilynbonham5245
    @kamilynbonham5245 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I haven't been able to put into words these feelings I've been feeling. ...these words nailed it. I appreciate Bahar for this. Thank you for your authenticity and vulnerability. So many powerful statements. It's not love its attachemnt. This js gonna change so many lives. I am so excited for when I save enough money to buy the pass!!!❤❤❤

  • @clairekirkwood8939
    @clairekirkwood8939 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow! Amazing! Helped me sit with myself and be okay with not being okay, but to sit with and honour those feelings. Good luck on your journey of growth x

  • @teastaegemann805
    @teastaegemann805 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    For me a parent crying (as a mother) is a sign of weakness. So I try I not to cry in front of my kids because I don’t want to be weak and then they grow up thinking and believing that women are weak and victims.
    I know I am not doing them a favour 😢but I also don’t want them to be weak! Messed up childhood trauma patterns …

  • @saracarolineoakley
    @saracarolineoakley ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you 🙏 This resonates with me so much. I’ve been resistant to my daughter and feeling controlled by her in a way and just wanting to escape.

  • @carinalindberg7377
    @carinalindberg7377 ปีที่แล้ว

    This opened up a whole new awareness for me. I've done inner child work before, deeply so, but something just clicked differently listening to this. My son is an adult, and I'm healing as a mom as well as a daughter, sister, granddaughter, partner, friend - as me. I feel me. Thank you, Kyle, and thank you, Bahar. 🥰🙏💞

  • @LeilaJane
    @LeilaJane ปีที่แล้ว

    Feeling that anger feeling I find can be a tool to push you toward more self loving action, that anger is what you need to feel first before moving in your authentic direction. It’s true that those feelings don’t last forever if you finally allow yourself to feel them and accept the reality of what you went through.

  • @loveleeconcepts
    @loveleeconcepts ปีที่แล้ว

    The bravest love of a mother knows no bounds! ❤I see you and love you ❤

  • @deborahhelming7785
    @deborahhelming7785 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are me! OMG! I have German parents in USA and Phew! Still having issues with my victim Mom full of whoa and anger and all I want is to be happy!

    • @deborahhelming7785
      @deborahhelming7785 ปีที่แล้ว

      I came from joy, but born into a family of sorrow and suffering…, a major bummer😢
      To feel seen and loved by others is a gift from God!❤ I Love 💕 you all!!

  • @prinsessaization
    @prinsessaization ปีที่แล้ว +3

    çok teşekkürler Bahar! 🙏❤️
    Many aha moments listening to you both letting the universe talk through you. Thank you for chearing and being so open. Kyle.. I Love you. ❤️

  • @jamiekay7481
    @jamiekay7481 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love you so much Behar! I cried when you cried! I healed when you healed! I smiled when you smiled!💝💝💝

  • @jomuldoon7003
    @jomuldoon7003 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The timing of this for me couldn't be any more perfect!! I thought I was the only person that felt this & was ashamed2 share. Thank u for ur bravery & helping me learn more about myself!! It also helps me understand why my mum would barely play with me or want 2....its being passed down 😢❤ thank u

  • @van.ymusic
    @van.ymusic ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Kyle and your Team, for bringing this Video up. It was beautiful to see, thank you! One thing i was "blown away" was the point, that your daughter and the daughter from Bahar are communicating there feelings through there "playing". So good to know, for my future Childrens ❤❤❤ And it was very cool to see someone from Germany because i'm also from Germany! 🤗🤗

  • @heboh144
    @heboh144 ปีที่แล้ว

    So much gratitude and love to both Bahar and Kyle for this amazing message. I'm recognising a lot of what you are feeling towards your daughter and other people in your life. I grew up with both my parents being narcissists though. It was all about them, and they used emotional blackmail (still do) to control me as an empath. Feeling I wanted to be a better parent to my own kids (I have 5), I still treated them as your parents treated you, Bahar. That was a real eye-opener for me. Painful, but blessed. I now know how to break that cycle thanks to you and Kyle.
    I was so stuck and couldn't figure out what the problem was. I have so much love for them, but they make me so angry, frustrated, and so very tired. But I do tell them I'm doing my very best. And I am so excited that I now know why I feel that way. ❤

  • @Virvepaulina
    @Virvepaulina ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh, I cried so much and I feel dizzy. I'm at a crucial point in my own journey rn, a lot of stuff I've held on to for half my life and finally letting it go, and there is space for many things to come up that were covered. Anger for one. I need to let my child guide me and see me as well, through me seeing me and allowing... thank you.. ❤

  • @Olovoll
    @Olovoll ปีที่แล้ว

    My heart broke into a million pieces for her, and then felt great peace and joy for Bahar at the end. Just two beautiful souls healing….this is a good world and worth living in!

  • @amberscottcmt7400
    @amberscottcmt7400 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I faced something similar to her in my journey single parenting twins. By the time they were 4, these two little humans I adored and so willingly surrendered to my role as mother, had over time, become a sort of eclipse of self. It wasn't an issue of pleasing them, just the reality of being outnumbered by littles without any parenting partners, that setup my inner conflict.
    I described it as a war within, between the mother in me and the individual... Eventually when I got certified in NLP we did a parts process where I was able to take these two aspects of myself and integrate them, so they no longer were at odds.
    It's HUGE when a split off part of you returns to the whole. Everything changes.

  • @GlobalDeeW
    @GlobalDeeW 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Kyle Cease is a genius and a blessing. Thank you both for your bravery.🙏🏽

  • @peterpaulharnisch
    @peterpaulharnisch ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I don't even know where to begin to share how beautiful this sharing was. Bahar was so brave to express the way she did, touching some very uncomfortable places. I so loved feeling her loving tenderness and emotional wisdom. And Kyle, what a lovely man you are, doing what you do. You have such a gift of gentle enquiry as you lead people into themselves. I love you brother. So much came up for me as I watched, listened and felt. It was as though what was shared spoke directly to my heart and in some cases parralleled aspects of my pained childhood experience. As you asked questions, Kyle, I answered them myself and journaled copious notes. This was really a personal heart journey and I thank you both for this wonderful gift. I feel a bit freer and my little boy is jumping at being seen. Big love, Peter

  • @Winter-ru5mj
    @Winter-ru5mj ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Bagar & Kyle- thank you both for sharing this experience. This has been my inner child experience and I am forever changed from this healing and everyone I love will be touched by this higher version of me. Hugs

  • @earthmagic22
    @earthmagic22 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wonderfull - thank you for showing this to the YT audience, Kyle.
    ❤️💫🙏🏼💫❤️

  • @karamb2109
    @karamb2109 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was exactly what I needed today. Thank you both

  • @OllieSmiless
    @OllieSmiless ปีที่แล้ว

    I can relate to people pleasing, losing myself, fear of conflict, fear of people getting angry at me, feeling guilty if they do, having no space for myself, being an empty space, not allowing myself to take up space, not being significant in my own life, my life is not worth living if not living it for someone else (for me, it's not a child, but it's a romantic partner). Working through this right now.

  • @alexandradouros488
    @alexandradouros488 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My word for this year is 'surrender'. I had no idea why or what to do with it. This was such a beautiful insight. Thank you Kyle and Bahar 💗🙏

  • @RoseMatter44
    @RoseMatter44 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So beautiful thank you. Just what I needed to help me to heal and to let go of my own rebellious anger. You are a beautiful soul❤

  • @ilanitlazmi3054
    @ilanitlazmi3054 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It was amazing to listen to this conversation. You are both amazing, and brave
    Thank you so much I am healed as well
    God bless you❤❤❤

  • @arikayaeli
    @arikayaeli ปีที่แล้ว

    I only listen yo you when I've got stuff coming up... and as soon as I hear your voice, I feel my whole being relax... thank you... and then typing this has allowed the tears to start to flow... thanks even more!!!

  • @niluferozyoruk
    @niluferozyoruk ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is wonderful ❣️ You have such a genius skill and wisdom 🙏🏻✨ And many thanks to Bahar who bravely dove into her process and also for her wisdom & light. Also much gratitude for sharing this with us 🙏🏻💝💐

  • @larabrekken
    @larabrekken ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So beautiful to witness! Thank you! ❤

  • @therealrawrachael
    @therealrawrachael ปีที่แล้ว

    The love you have for your daughter shines thru. She is so lucky to have a Mumma who is striving to work thru her own pain and grow. You are setting a wonderful example for her and doing a wonderful thing for yourself too.

  • @EmergingForward
    @EmergingForward 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I never thought of my mom as narcissistic, but I totally feel that I didn't get validated how I needed and reflected: like when Kyle says she wasn't asked "how do YOU feel? what do YOU want?" yessss, I did not feel as a child that what I thought or felt or wanted mattered at all. I chose to just lose me, and agree w mom. Anyway... thanks for this wonderful episode!

  • @jankuchel7
    @jankuchel7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I need a hot seat but I’m afraid to do one

    • @ozi1578
      @ozi1578 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same lol I have really bad anxiety I want help but it’s so difficult to join a conversation

  • @CharmaineIronside
    @CharmaineIronside ปีที่แล้ว

    incredible shifts!!! I got so much from this. Especially how anger towards our kids is just anger that we are not allowing ourselves to feel

  • @marythompson5717
    @marythompson5717 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Kyle & Bahar for making this call so special and helpful 🙏🦋
    I have learnt it is ok to feel anger, frustration, hurt etc and to allow others the space to feel these emotions too.

  • @NichtNochEinGluecksguru
    @NichtNochEinGluecksguru 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi Kyle, almost one year later i'm watching this and actually truly undesrtand what you were telling me. I feel the truth of your words now. i was in such inner resistance back than. A part and me did understand all what you were telling me, but another part was in reistance. But now i feel this truth in my bones :) Still so thankful for this experience! Sending much love❤️
    Bahar

  • @dittunikajagamandalovgren123
    @dittunikajagamandalovgren123 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you is not enough. You are so brave and continue to shine ❤

  • @juliafisher5844
    @juliafisher5844 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Bahar and Kyle .. tears coming up thank you for the vulnerability and honesty great understanding and expressed in a simple way. I got an understanding that conflicting thoughts can both sit side by side and that's ok . All feelings are allowed and that's ok. We can be in an empty "bored" uncomfortable space and sit with it. ❤

  • @ewahejmo8776
    @ewahejmo8776 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg thank u very much both of you ❤❤❤
    I couldn't stop crying I feel so reliev now
    You are beautiful looking at you gives me so much comfort
    I am 45 years old and u help me today so much
    Thanku you again ❤❤❤❤❤❤ your daughter is so lucky
    U are amazing Mama ❤❤❤❤

  • @LakesTrees
    @LakesTrees ปีที่แล้ว

    I can relate entirely and needed to hear this one. Bahar is a bright light, so much sincerity. Thank you both.

  • @samanthaspencer7404
    @samanthaspencer7404 ปีที่แล้ว

    Bahah thankyou for helping my child to lift her head up and see the possibility to be heard and shine. Beauty and love❤

  • @naomimara222
    @naomimara222 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    God, I loved this Hot Seat so much!! Bahar you are so open & Kyle you are an incredible coach. I am thankful to have found The Absolutely Everything Pass. I have grown so much since joining. 🙏🙏🙏 thank you both!!

  • @jgun8062
    @jgun8062 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you! My inner child has been so angry and sad today. This was so helpful. ❤

  • @Themacintheroni
    @Themacintheroni ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you both beyond words ❤

  • @FoundRetreat
    @FoundRetreat ปีที่แล้ว

    A beautiful unfolding, my soul was changed 🙏🏻💖

  • @MsKingwa
    @MsKingwa ปีที่แล้ว

    That is profound...... That your daughter picks up on the repressed angry emotions and wants to 'play' with the energy, in that way, healing it. Thank you so much for sharing your story Bahar, I have had breakthroughs vicariously, just listening to you. Thank you for hosting these Kyle, you are healing so many of us 🙏