I would have disowned this family and taken them to court for theft of money. This could be prison sentences for the parents. Fourth wedding? Melissa is not a Hollywood actress that can afford these weddings. And yet they still ask the other daughter for help in these expenses.
Why would her parents have access to her savings? She a grown women she doesn't need their signature on her bank account!! She should sue all three of them!😡😡😡😡😡
How do these parents keep getting access to their grown children's funds? Also why do they think stealing from one daughter to fund another's daughter wedding, who has already been married and divorced three times is a good idea? They always try to justify the other person need's it more. How the h do you think you have the right to decide that. They better get busy paying every dime back or they will be going to jail. If they want to be stupid and pay for the wedding of a daughter who doesn't appear to have the foggiest idea of what it takes to have a successful marriage that's their business. They however have no right to involve someone else's. Another thing they already told Amanda they had took the money to pay for Melissa's wedding. Why does she act like later, she is now just finding out?
OMG! 4th wedding, there is the red flag! Did the parents have access to OP's account, and why did the bank not alert her of the huge withdrawal. The parents and sister are entitled snobs. She only found out all her savings were gone when she went to the bank. The bank is liable, and she should have taken her parents and the bank to court.
Take that action for your funds to be returned and place the lien on any funds apoan their death so those funds have to be paid out of your sister share or demand a second mortgage on their home . Protect yourself
Ok if the bank allowed a withdrawal without permission from the account holder then the bank might be liable. But seriously the standard formula used in these stories needs to be tweaked.
Two key questions immediately come to mind: 1) How did dear old mom and dad get access to their adult daughter`s account? Had she trusted them and given them a password just for emergencies? A 4th wedding for another sibling doesn`t translate as an emergency for most people. 2) Why are the parents paying for an expensive, lavish 4th wedding for their adult daughter? Traditionally, the parents paid the majority of the costs for their very young, virginal girl children as a last gesture before that child joins her new husband`s family. Since WWII women have been out of the house, having careers, not just jobs. Both women and men are earning their own money. The average age of first time brides, and grooms, has steadily risen. Hasn`t OP`s mom and dad got the message? The marrying couple, who want the big splashy ceremony and reception, are responsible for the majority of the high end extravaganza that their own higher incomes and egos seem to demand. The fact that this is a fourth go-round, on her parents (sister`s ) dime is selfish, tasteless and just plain wrong. One possible course of action: OP has stated that her parents actions have hurt her and destroyed any confidence she had in her family. She pointed out that she feels betrayed and overlooked while she worked hard and played by the rules. This didn`t seem to have any effect on OP`s family. They just went on wedding planning for the favoured kid. OP had no real alternative but to have a lawyer send an official written request for repayment within 10 business days or the police would be notified of the embezzlement. People might argue that legal action would destroy the family. Think about it, the family is already in tatters. Make no mistake, they did commit theft. That is something that would be hard for anyone to forgive. The family could arrange a second mortgage, a line of credit or dip into a retirement fund. If they had really wanted to host a 4th wedding party, these were all things that could have been done before stealing from their second daughter.
A fourth marriage there shouldn't have been any money spent on the 4th marriage she needs to disown this family get her money safely and another account now.
How do parents have access to adult children’s bank accounts? This is the third situation I listened to where parents moved inheritance money or personal savings to a favored child…
This is so stupid all she had to do is file for fraud and her parents and sister would have returned her money and she still had to save up and pay for the down-payment herself I don't believe this story at all
This story is idiotic. The bank would not have released that amount of money and why would you not have charged the parents with fraud. She let them off too easy.
She should have pressed charges and gone no contact with her despicable family. They will never pay her back. I would never speak to them again and would have gone legal to make them pay me back. But they would not be family. Her lesson was stupid. Jail was the answer
12:39 What do you mean you never saw it that way? You three are fully functional adults who are capable of taking sensible decisions. What do you have Tofu for brains that you didn’t see it that way?
First of all, if I knew that my parents were so blatantly biased to my sibling to spend money on any and everything that they wanted, there is no way that I would have allowed them any form of authorization to access to my bank account(s). Secondly, I would have given them 1 week to return my money, otherwise, I would be calling the police for grand theft and taking them to court for repayment and covering all legal fees.
All there actions were so unnecessary. They only needed to do one thing FILE CHARGES AGAINST ALL THREE OF THEM FOR THEFT. That’s it case closed. All these fake this escalating charges etc not necessary just call the police put their asses (excuse the expression) in JAIL!
"we plan to pay you back" yeah um NO. And I thought my good for nothing toxic "parents" (and I use the term loosely) were s"um bags for taking advantage of me this girls are just as self-centered as my crappy parents. Also the wedding is Melissa's responsibility not the sisters if those vultures are short on money they should've used there house as collateral. Last time I checked "d" stood for "daughter" not "doormat"
If the account was opened during childhood, the parents have to be on the account. Then she would have to take them off when she's an adult. Maybe she forgot to take them off her account
Why do adults give their parents direct access to their bank account? I would understand if it was an inheritance but even then, an adult should not give away easy access to their account and not expect being taken advantage of.
Time for court!
I would have sued them ALL
I would have call the police for grand theft. Plus a big goodbye to the family, which she never had to begin with.
They should be forced to pay the money back, it was still theft.
Just sue them.
I would have said talk to my lawyer and place a lien on their home
THEFT. I'd call the cops and then sue them as well. Oh, and tell the fiance they stole the money for his wedding
I would have disowned this family and taken them to court for theft of money. This could be prison sentences for the parents. Fourth wedding? Melissa is not a Hollywood actress that can afford these weddings. And yet they still ask the other daughter for help in these expenses.
Same here
Blows my mind that there was no legal consequences. I would have been happy to send them to jail.
Obviously, sue them the amount or double the amount savings they selfishly drained and then cut ties with them once they paid back the money
In the US, the actual amount plus damages. The damages could be equal to the amount taken.
@leondillon8723 it depends on the country alimony law, no matter where
Take her parents house if need be.
How do these people always have access to their money? Are they that ignorant!!!!!
Favoritism is nothing but trouble for the family
What a terrible parents!
Why would her parents have access to her savings? She a grown women she doesn't need their signature on her bank account!! She should sue all three of them!😡😡😡😡😡
Judge Judy would make them suffer & PAY
How do these parents keep getting access to their grown children's funds? Also why do they think stealing from one daughter to fund another's daughter wedding, who has already been married and divorced three times is a good idea? They always try to justify the other person need's it more. How the h do you think you have the right to decide that. They better get busy paying every dime back or they will be going to jail. If they want to be stupid and pay for the wedding of a daughter who doesn't appear to have the foggiest idea of what it takes to have a successful marriage that's their business. They however have no right to involve someone else's.
Another thing they already told Amanda they had took the money to pay for Melissa's wedding. Why does she act like later, she is now just finding out?
OMG! 4th wedding, there is the red flag! Did the parents have access to OP's account, and why did the bank not alert her of the huge withdrawal. The parents and sister are entitled snobs. She only found out all her savings were gone when she went to the bank. The bank is liable, and she should have taken her parents and the bank to court.
How do parents get access to adult children’s bank accounts? This doesn’t make sense!
How did the parents access their adult daughter’s bank account?
“How do we make this right?” Make it right by returning her money.
Melissa will never know or be loved. She will be alone for the rest of her life. She deserves this.
Take that action for your funds to be returned and place the lien on any funds apoan their death so those funds have to be paid out of your sister share or demand a second mortgage on their home .
Protect yourself
Ok if the bank allowed a withdrawal without permission from the account holder then the bank might be liable. But seriously the standard formula used in these stories needs to be tweaked.
So how did they have access to the account in the first place?
Melissa is no Elizabeth Taylor.
Not true. No one has access to anyones account. And take them to court sue for your money cut ties
I would have let all media know what Amanda's parents and Melissa did to her. Sue them for her savings plus pain and suffering.
Why would a person allow someone else access to your accounts? Fool on you for doing it
Two key questions immediately come to mind: 1) How did dear old mom and dad get access to their adult daughter`s account? Had she trusted them and given them a password just for emergencies? A 4th wedding for another sibling doesn`t translate as an emergency for most people. 2) Why are the parents paying for an expensive, lavish 4th wedding for their adult daughter? Traditionally, the parents paid the majority of the costs for their very young, virginal girl children as a last gesture before that child joins her new husband`s family. Since WWII women have been out of the house, having careers, not just jobs. Both women and men are earning their own money. The average age of first time brides, and grooms, has steadily risen. Hasn`t OP`s mom and dad got the message? The marrying couple, who want the big splashy ceremony and reception, are responsible for the majority of the high end extravaganza that their own higher incomes and egos seem to demand. The fact that this is a fourth go-round, on her parents (sister`s ) dime is selfish, tasteless and just plain wrong.
One possible course of action: OP has stated that her parents actions have hurt her and destroyed any confidence she had in her family. She pointed out that she feels betrayed and overlooked while she worked hard and played by the rules. This didn`t seem to have any effect on OP`s family. They just went on wedding planning for the favoured kid. OP had no real alternative but to have a lawyer send an official written request for repayment within 10 business days or the police would be notified of the embezzlement. People might argue that legal action would destroy the family. Think about it, the family is already in tatters. Make no mistake, they did commit theft. That is something that would be hard for anyone to forgive. The family could arrange a second mortgage, a line of credit or dip into a retirement fund. If they had really wanted to host a 4th wedding party, these were all things that could have been done before stealing from their second daughter.
This family is heart less showing favoritetis between there children I will never understand that.
A fourth marriage there shouldn't have been any money spent on the 4th marriage she needs to disown this family get her money safely and another account now.
I'd get a lawyer and a new family.
Why do you allow your parents to have access to your bank account.
How do they keep having access to the kids private money?
Maybe it was a joint bank account
How do parents have access to adult children’s bank accounts? This is the third situation I listened to where parents moved inheritance money or personal savings to a favored child…
This is so stupid all she had to do is file for fraud and her parents and sister would have returned her money and she still had to save up and pay for the down-payment herself I don't believe this story at all
Soooo..did they pay it back ??
This story is idiotic. The bank would not have released that amount of money and why would you not have charged the parents with fraud. She let them off too easy.
Take them to court! They need to pay back every penny!
Evidently the parents must have their names on the account how else would they access?
They Would've Gotten Sued, And Went To Jail For Fraud
Fund her marriage that's Crazy. 1. This is #4, they need to go to City Hall.2. Thier grown pay for they own ceremony.
She should have pressed charges and gone no contact with her despicable family. They will never pay her back. I would never speak to them again and would have gone legal to make them pay me back. But they would not be family. Her lesson was stupid. Jail was the answer
4th wedding???? Parents aren’t obligated to pay for a fourth wedding. I would say to my daughter:, “meet you down at the courthouse, sweetie“
12:39
What do you mean you never saw it that way?
You three are fully functional adults who are capable of taking sensible decisions.
What do you have Tofu for brains that you didn’t see it that way?
First of all, if I knew that my parents were so blatantly biased to my sibling to spend money on any and everything that they wanted, there is no way that I would have allowed them any form of authorization to access to my bank account(s). Secondly, I would have given them 1 week to return my money, otherwise, I would be calling the police for grand theft and taking them to court for repayment and covering all legal fees.
No way this can happen.
All there actions were so unnecessary. They only needed to do one thing FILE CHARGES AGAINST ALL THREE OF THEM FOR THEFT. That’s it case closed. All these fake this escalating charges etc not necessary just call the police put their asses (excuse the expression) in JAIL!
"we plan to pay you back" yeah um NO. And I thought my good for nothing toxic "parents" (and I use the term loosely) were s"um bags for taking advantage of me this girls are just as self-centered as my crappy parents. Also the wedding is Melissa's responsibility not the sisters if those vultures are short on money they should've used there house as collateral. Last time I checked "d" stood for "daughter" not "doormat"
If the account was opened during childhood, the parents have to be on the account. Then she would have to take them off when she's an adult. Maybe she forgot to take them off her account
I would disowned them too
Why do adults give their parents direct access to their bank account? I would understand if it was an inheritance but even then, an adult should not give away easy access to their account and not expect being taken advantage of.
So time it best to move away from family to keep from whooping there azz .woman get your money back period. And leave them alone for a while period.
How do they get ahold of her savings? This is not parents but leeches
How do these parents get into their bank accounts