Ethnic bigotry is a strong factor in Nigeria. I can tell you that for sure. I am also Yoruba married to an Igbo lady. We struggled with acceptance from my elder sister, my parents are late. On the side of my wife , we struggled with acceptance from her elder sister, my wife's mother is late. My sister in law blames any problem in the marriage on the fact that my wife rejected marrying an Ogbo man. But troubles don't know ethnicity. I have resorted to prayers. I don't involve my family in my marital issues. Whether you are married to your tribe or not , if you want your marriage to endure as much as possible avoid involving your family members in your marital issues.
Good bless you sir. One of my friends from Anambra state married a Yoruba lady. His family fought him vehemently over his decision, on his wife's part, her family fought her more severely. Even at a point the guy business problem and even went to jail, but the lady never gave up. I remember always encouraging her, telling her to ignore inlaws abuse, etc. The guy came out, bounced back and today they're doing wonderfully well. He treats her like a queen. Tribal sentiment is a very big problem in Nigeria.
The only solutions to all these problems is prayers my brother do that can God open their eyes to see that you are married to your soulmate. Avoid Inlaw’s in your marriage is very important too
Next time, consider marrying within your tribe. In a nation where tribalism is rampant and intertribal marriages, especially between Yoruba, Igbo, and Hausa/Fulani, are often discouraged, you've placed yourself and your family in a challenging position. Such unions are rare, comprising only 0.03% of the population, and may face difficulties, especially if Nigeria fractures along ethnolinguistic lines in the future. It's your choice but be prepared for the potential consequences.
I don't tow your line, sir. There is nothing wrong with marrying outside one's tribe. Every marriage has its peculiar challenge, whether intra or inter tribal . Aside from the issue of acceptance from elder sisters on both sides, my marriage is heaven of on earth. We are doing great. My father inlaw is alive and very hospitable.
In Zimbabwe we don't refund the bride's price. You make someone's daughter have 3 children for you and after divorce there is no such a thing as refund. You don't mess my daughter or my sister and expect to get a refund of the bride's price.
I am not from Nigeria I don’t know any of the people you talk about but I love watching your videos because of the way you tell your stories. It is so professional and educational. Good job keep up the good work
Purple looks beautiful on you Neze, God has been kind to me, blessed me with a white mother in law who never gives me any problems, may God grant her peace and rest her soul, may God eases the problems for women with troublesome in-laws.
A lot of men forget the value of the woman who stood by them on the journey to stardom because they suddenly realise they have become big enough to buy any woman with a price tag.
Build a man at your own risk. Make sure you have helped yourself first. Fill your tank first. Men settle for women they can afford and will go for the woman or women they truly desire when they have the financial means.
This isn't 100 percent correct, we only know what happens in our life, nobody really knows much about what happens in other people's heart. Good or bad behavior knows no gender.
@@miss4b4c I am certain everyone has sweet memories/ pictures be it for whatever reasons. The point is being mother in-laws are sweeter when there are boundaries. But when your sweet mother starts living with you permanently, that is when you will understand that khaki no be leather. Even wicked mother in-laws will show you kindness and their sweet side when there are boundaries. But without boundaries, the wife will experience 'shege promax'.😅
My mother will never live with me, but even if she does, she knows better to come and antagonize my home. In those situation, it is the men not taking care of business 'causing such trouble.
Because of his career, they are both travellers. Therefore, the mother-in-law is the greatest option rather than a nanny to watch the kids while the couple is abroad.
I usually don't watch all these story blogs, gist and stuff. But this is the second time I'm watching your video and all I just want to say is you do greatly well with your story telling type. You style makes the gist sweeter. Your voice is so relaxing, your laughters and gestures just makes it all interesting. Welldone
My take:when there is no fear of God in a man's life, success can get into his head and he can become foolish in his dealings. Proverbs 1:32 For the turning away of the simple shall slay them, and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them. The marriage can still be restored if both of them come to the CROSS.At the cross,Jesus determines every action. Genuine forgiveness and repentance can heal any broken relationship.
God can help them solve there issues. Patience, understanding and empathy for one and another with the blood of Jesus for repentance and genuine apology to one another can solve all these in Jesus name.
@@kayholn7522 oyin! if she actually cheated, she is not the first woman to cheat. He can forgive just like millions of women (and even men) do everyday. Besides, if she stepped out, she likely stepped out due to frustration from his cheating.
It’s wrong for mother in law to permanently stay with her child , except she has medical issues that needs attention. The couple needs their privacy always
Hmm! I have always say this that success without a good character is a disaster waiting to happen. It has been rightly said that one cannot truly know the character of people until they have access to money. Hmmm!
Kayode wasn't prepared for fame and affluence. These got to his head and he started behaving like a real parvenue. Must often, those who go that way end up crashing. That will surely be his fate.😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Nezeville , You know what I like about you? You do not take your viewers for granted. You are always camera ready. Well prepared and the clarity of your messages makes it very interesting. No night dress or sleep cap in sight. Long may you continue.
Lord have mercy on this young couple, show them your loving kindness, i understand the frustrations of this young woman, a number of us have done that, sold things to help, things they did not buy, made sacrifices it is well, i have learnt something, when God uses you as a channel to build someone, never take the glory or credit for it, leave it to God, pray for your peace n things will work out for your good. If u help let it be out of goodwill, dont do it thinking they see ur sacrifices n will support u through, no, they don't, just do it for the sake of kindness, God himself will reward you his own way❤
Their story is sad ..when they are supposed to be reaping the fruits of their labor, see drama everywhere. May they be restored . I don't believe it is wrong due to the nature of the job of the parents, Daddy and mummy are always away, only a family member can truly take care of the kids. If the MIL respects boundaries,it should not be a problem.
It's very painful to see a couple invest in each other, resulting in growth and later go separate ways. I really feel the pain of Ezinne. I pray God helps them both.
I don't see what this man has invested in Ezinne, rather she has invested so much in him. May God bless her with a better man that would wipe all these years away and May Karma visit Kayode
Neze Nwa, why do you smile contagiously whenever you are making a video. I guess your husband must be opposite tingling you there. I like it sha. It makes me smile along side with you. I can't wait to be a good content creator like you. Men always forget where they took off from. You can never know the true character of a man untill he touches money. Anaghi eji ogiri atu oke ahia. One of the worst marriage is the couple with wide different academic background. I feel for the beautiful kids.
Full respect to her getting her FIFA license. I think all African women married to footballers should follow suit and ensure they fully understand their husbands trade. Ezinne is a beautiful woman 😍 I weep internally at marriages which disintegrate.
Why should African women married to footballers be the ones to abandon their careers to be football agents? Are we the epitome of abandon everything and follow a man? Pls leave us alone. These men are GROWN. Go and learn how to read a contract. Handle your business yourself like a man.
Most men in Nigeria helped to grow by their wives unfortunately end up in a wicked way like this story. Thank God Kayode refuted allegation early enough.
Tribe is a non issue where focus is concerned. The man has no vision and cannot see beyond his nose despite everything his wife has done for him. Really sorry for the lady.
Tribalism is eveeywhere ooh. Here in Cameroon things are getting worst by the day due to the crisis. My prayer is for christain to understand the gift of God in thier respective lives and not to used tribalism and destroyed the beautiful life God has given them.
This is really so sad It is said that a woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing While a man's loyalty is tested when he has so much ... I really wish they could resolve this
As soon as I saw their names I knew tribe will definitely play a role…. MIL issues are very dependent on the couple, they must realise their relationship comes first at all times. I pray they resolve this soon.
There is nothing wrong in a mother-in-law living with her son's/daughter's family, especially when she(mother-in-law) is assisting the family. I want to believe that Ezinne's mother was taking care of her grandsons when her daughter and son-in-law were busy with soccer assignments as football agent and footballer respectively. I think immaturity of heart caused the man to disrespect his marriage, as well as welcome third party involvement. As soon as he got the breakthrough in Europe, he started feeling and acting like he did not need his wife any more. He forgot where he was coming from, and how Ezinne met him. He definitely forgot that they came this far as a result of plans they had, and executed together...
Hmmm them saw her as omo Ibo, but when their son brought oyinbo even an old oyinbo dem go accept... GOD Have Mercy Upon our People... a mother in- law can go for omugwo but not to moved in to live with the couple...
Never marry down because if you help build a man up and he has no character, he will disgrace you especially if he becomes rich. His true character will indeed come out in full force. Kayode did not realise he should have cherished his wife and his blessings would continue. He who finds a good wife finds a good thing, but if you mistreat her (the blessing God has given you) then you will surely regret it and be cursed for life. A man who fails at marriage has failed in life.🤷🏽♀️
" Never Marry down '😂 you women are delusional,because more men marry down,when it comes to relationship..Do you know how many financial stable men,marry women from very poor families? 😂 but women with little money, always think they are " Marrying down " because they have more money than the man..Keep thinking like that,and by you are 60 years old,your eyes will open..So what do you call " A woman who fails in marriage "???
Except God did not give anyone a woman as a wife,man did.Your true wife is the mind of man(male and female)The good thing you find is your mind not a woman.The mind and body is what God joined together and becomes one flesh not a woman.lt is practically impossible for two people to become one flesh.We become one flesh with our mind by using our mind,intuition,the inner voice etc...
Barr Neze, you're probably right. The educational gap and exposure between the duo is just too wide. Secondly, money, and the ephemeral fame attached to these celebrity footballers is another problem. Unfortunately, no consideration was given by the couple to the wellbeing and mental wellness of the children who are caught up in this mess. That for me is the real tragedy. I hope the children heal from all the trauma.
Thanks so much neze for your awesome presentation. First. I would like to say that a mother inlaw permanently living with a couple when they are not sick is very wrong. Secondly, their educational backgrounds been so different could be a problem. But what im really seeing here is the money. Some men tend to misbehave when they touch money.
I am so pained on behalf of Barr Dora Ezinne and i hope she heals from all these negative press and the trauma that this has brought with it. She is a smart lady and will keep winning in life... Barr Neze, i love your depth of insight.. You are my favorite TH-cam Lady❤
To me it is not the ideal thing for a mother-in-law to live with the married couples,but some mother -in laws know their place in their child marriage,they know their boundaries and stay there, these can be accommodated.
When the kids are small,its better that the mother- in- law comes in to take care of the children especially if the lady is working rather than employ a nanny or house girl who will come and bewitch the children. The woman will be comfortable with her mother/ or her husband's mum looking after those children.
Thanks Bar Neze for letting us know the truth. The footballer looked for strong accusations against his wife when he got fed up with her and he really got them.
Thanks, Neze for another interesting episode. You look magnificent in Purple. I am so sad this Marriage did not survive. Marriage can be challenging even if your spouse is from the next village. The rules of engagement are different. The only common ingredient is love and trust. Managing Fame and Fortune is tough. Not everyone is equipped to handle this.
And I keep telling ladies/women to build themselves as they support their man. Its really sad to build all your life on anyone A woman has Fifa licence as a football agent and a MAN says she shouldn't have any other client but himself alone, why oh why should she remain limited
In the original design of God for marriage, God’s intention was for a woman to be a help to her man and that can be in a variety of ways. But the wickedness in the heart of many men has changed that natural order. It’s sad to see that this narrative of ‘Don’t build a man’ is now thriving, but I can’t say I blame women for beginning to take that stand.
I hope he has assets abroad and if he does, She is entitled to half of those assets. This is the reason young girls in Nigeria don’t want to suffer with a man anymore. Am glad the children are his.
This is serious, what a lovely family? What a scam? Why allowed the devil to go this far in this marriage? I feel for the beautiful children, oh Jesus..
I love the way you deal with issues,you usually bring clarity to issues,I love you,I love your fiction and everything about you,you are blessed in Jesus name.💕😁🙏👍
Tribalism is one enemy to their marriage, secondly the financial influence and lastly family influence. I am Igbo married to Yoruba, they don't like me because of my tribe, when my husband started making money, they went as far as arranging a wife for him and I was not aware but the marriage failed. Up till now, they're still fighting diabolical, but God has been seeing me through. So I know what I'm saying. That lady is humble to have married him for who he is, and go to that length
Tribalism or poor relationship between in laws? Though we readily put such differences down to ethnicity, a closer look will reveal that it is more of a poor relationship between individuals. I am sure these fellows struggle to get along even with family members. I have seen son in laws and daughter in laws suffer at the hands of their father and mother in law despite all being from the same ethnic group. The key thing is to avoid cantekarous individuals. They do not respect siblings, relatives and ethnic group or race.
Well done, Madam, for telling the story so effectively. 👏👏👏🙄 You did a very great job. You maintained NEUTRALITY throughout your entire speech, which is why many homes are thriving today. 😳 I too was very curious why the situation became so bad that it couldn’t be resolved or rectified. Every opinion expressed by Dora against her husband seemed non-negotiable, while any opinion that might reflect poorly on Dora, such as her mother living with her, was up for debate. That’s quite clever. Thank you for guiding the answers you want from people. Thank you for painting the Husband as a Devil while the Wife as an ANGEL. For an event you never witnessed, your narrative made it clear where the blame lies. Once again, well-done!👏👏
Sad all around. Yet thanks for bringing some clarity with your legal training. How you do it successfully while remaining melodramatic is bitter-sweet.
I am a Yoruba man. If you want a failed marriage allow your mother to live in your home permanently. Holiday is fine. You need God to be the centre of your marriage.
Why are Yoruba men so weak to set boundaries between their mother and their wives? Please don't corrupt other real men that can manage their homes well, oga I'm a Yoruba man.
You are wrong Mr man every body has different character. Only someone with bad character cannot live with people peacefully. My mum live with my younger sister in the U S and everyone loves her presence up to the extent that they don't want my mum leaving them a second to visit other kids in Nigeria.
Barack Obama's mother in law lived with him until her death , it is the family especially the man that benefits.....she helps in raising the kids, so, there is nothing wrong in that at all.
This woman built this guys career,never build a man ladies its not ur duty,build yourself,men are not babies let them find their way,man no be by mouth
So if you marry a man who is let's say, uneducated you should not help build him. Do you know that marriage is two lives with a common destiny? What would you gain by depriving or not helping your partner to grow when two of you share your lives together? Ideally it should advantage both of you but yes people, men sometimes, become selfish. But that shouldn't stop a partner from helping each other become their best selves. That is why in the USA they share everything into half so one partner doesn't feel cheated in the event of a divorce. Pls stop telling women not to help men. There are tons of women who have taken advantage of their spouse and left them after heavy investment. Marriage is like a karaoke machine. What you get is what you get. But don't go into it all selfishly and think only about yourself.
The problem with yoruba demons,once they have little money no one can talk to them,all they want to do is party like there is no tomorrow.Good thing she got him to invest some,a lot dont even think in that direction.. Hope they can go their separate ways amicably,there are children involved so they are truly not ever going to go their separate ways in the true sense of it but.....Your hair is beautiful queen Neze.Sending you love.❤💕
As a footballer mother I understand what the wife is talking about football agents, the ignorance of some African players in Europe and girls falling at the feet of footballers. 👌🏾👌🏾
A mother inlaw from the woman's side is never the the problem (in most cases) Is mother inlaw from the man's side that is always a big problem. A woman's mother will always want the marriage to work because this mummies have the believe that if anything goes wrong their daughter will be at the loosing side (especially the Igbo culture), a woman's mother will always advise her to be taking rubbish from her husband just for the marriage to work but in the man's side, their mothers knows that if eventually anything goes wrong their son is in the better side, he is a man after all so most times self they instigate the divorce. So I don't think the mother inlaw living with them caused any harm to the marriage
Oh Lawd!! It’s a very sad situation for those young children involved. It’s never a good thing especially when the divorce is out in public. Poor children. They will grow up to see this on social media. I wish them well.
Please if they really love themselves, for the sake of the children they should settle amicably. But Kayode should mind the way he is behaving with his wife. He is not right to turn his back on her, this woman l mean Dora has suffered with him to this level aba !!! There is God ooo
Ethnic bigotry is a strong factor in Nigeria. I can tell you that for sure. I am also Yoruba married to an Igbo lady. We struggled with acceptance from my elder sister, my parents are late. On the side of my wife , we struggled with acceptance from her elder sister, my wife's mother is late. My sister in law blames any problem in the marriage on the fact that my wife rejected marrying an Ogbo man. But troubles don't know ethnicity. I have resorted to prayers. I don't involve my family in my marital issues. Whether you are married to your tribe or not , if you want your marriage to endure as much as possible avoid involving your family members in your marital issues.
Good bless you sir.
One of my friends from Anambra state married a Yoruba lady. His family fought him vehemently over his decision, on his wife's part, her family fought her more severely.
Even at a point the guy business problem and even went to jail, but the lady never gave up. I remember always encouraging her, telling her to ignore inlaws abuse, etc.
The guy came out, bounced back and today they're doing wonderfully well. He treats her like a queen.
Tribal sentiment is a very big problem in Nigeria.
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The only solutions to all these problems is prayers my brother do that can God open their eyes to see that you are married to your soulmate. Avoid Inlaw’s in your marriage is very important too
Next time, consider marrying within your tribe. In a nation where tribalism is rampant and intertribal marriages, especially between Yoruba, Igbo, and Hausa/Fulani, are often discouraged, you've placed yourself and your family in a challenging position. Such unions are rare, comprising only 0.03% of the population, and may face difficulties, especially if Nigeria fractures along ethnolinguistic lines in the future. It's your choice but be prepared for the potential consequences.
I don't tow your line, sir. There is nothing wrong with marrying outside one's tribe. Every marriage has its peculiar challenge, whether intra or inter tribal . Aside from the issue of acceptance from elder sisters on both sides, my marriage is heaven of on earth. We are doing great. My father inlaw is alive and very hospitable.
In Zimbabwe we don't refund the bride's price. You make someone's daughter have 3 children for you and after divorce there is no such a thing as refund. You don't mess my daughter or my sister and expect to get a refund of the bride's price.
U know!
Thank you! Makes no sense refunding bride price, after 3 children.
Refunding bride price is a traditional way of divorce. It symbolises breaking ties so both can freely get into another relationship.
Wow
My dear, the bride price is just between 1k to 10k
I am not from Nigeria I don’t know any of the people you talk about but I love watching your videos because of the way you tell your stories. It is so professional and educational. Good job keep up the good work
Yeah!
She is also a lawyer . I think that's where the professionalism comes from!
Purple looks beautiful on you Neze, God has been kind to me, blessed me with a white mother in law who never gives me any problems, may God grant her peace and rest her soul, may God eases the problems for women with troublesome in-laws.
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Amen
Thank God for you ooo...please your husband get younger brother or cousin 🙏 😂😂😂
A lot of men forget the value of the woman who stood by them on the journey to stardom because they suddenly realise they have become big enough to buy any woman with a price tag.
Build a man at your own risk. Make sure you have helped yourself first. Fill your tank first. Men settle for women they can afford and will go for the woman or women they truly desire when they have the financial means.
This isn't 100 percent correct, we only know what happens in our life, nobody really knows much about what happens in other people's heart. Good or bad behavior knows no gender.
@davidlesinwa1383
Yen yen yen. That person is correct, you're just in detail. When men get money, the woman that stood by them is in trouble.
CORRECTLY SAID @@FoAl-h2b
@@FoAl-h2bin most cases,very few remain humans.
100% truth!
When you have 3 small children, the woman’s mother living with them can be priceless.
Unlike the sons mother.
@@joanoloyede1062 except if the son is Neze’s husband. Have you seen videos of Neze and her MIL?
@@miss4b4c
I am certain everyone has sweet memories/ pictures be it for whatever reasons.
The point is being mother in-laws are sweeter when there are boundaries. But when your sweet mother starts living with you permanently, that is when you will understand that khaki no be leather.
Even wicked mother in-laws will show you kindness and their sweet side when there are boundaries. But without boundaries, the wife will experience 'shege promax'.😅
What about the man's mother?
My mother will never live with me, but even if she does, she knows better to come and antagonize my home. In those situation, it is the men not taking care of business 'causing such trouble.
Because of his career, they are both travellers. Therefore, the mother-in-law is the greatest option rather than a nanny to watch the kids while the couple is abroad.
I usually don't watch all these story blogs, gist and stuff. But this is the second time I'm watching your video and all I just want to say is you do greatly well with your story telling type. You style makes the gist sweeter. Your voice is so relaxing, your laughters and gestures just makes it all interesting. Welldone
My take:when there is no fear of God in a man's life, success can get into his head and he can become foolish in his dealings. Proverbs 1:32 For the turning away of the simple shall slay them, and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them. The marriage can still be restored if both of them come to the CROSS.At the cross,Jesus determines every action. Genuine forgiveness and repentance can heal any broken relationship.
you just ended up typing rubbish. Go and offer this type of woman to your son to marry nah
God can help them solve there issues. Patience, understanding and empathy for one and another with the blood of Jesus for repentance and genuine apology to one another can solve all these in Jesus name.
She cheated on him with a PASTOR.
This marriage can be restored, if they allow it.
@@kayholn7522 oyin! if she actually cheated, she is not the first woman to cheat. He can forgive just like millions of women (and even men) do everyday. Besides, if she stepped out, she likely stepped out due to frustration from his cheating.
It’s wrong for mother in law to permanently stay with her child , except she has medical issues that needs attention. The couple needs their privacy always
U say my mind completely. Well done
Mother inlaw is not the problem. The husband is just a bad man.
If this is a true story, Kayode will pay for this. He is a user.
Nothing wrong with one accommodating their parents in need❤❤❤
Never build a man, be supportive but never build him, he will hate you for it
Hmm! I have always say this that success without a good character is a disaster waiting to happen. It has been rightly said that one cannot truly know the character of people until they have access to money. Hmmm!
Kayode wasn't prepared for fame and affluence. These got to his head and he started behaving like a real parvenue.
Must often, those who go that way end up crashing. That will surely be his fate.😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I agree with you my dear. I agree.
Nezeville , You know what I like about you? You do not take your viewers for granted. You are always camera ready. Well prepared and the clarity of your messages makes it very interesting. No night dress or sleep cap in sight. Long may you continue.
Sometimes all that glitters is not gold. Wealth can sometimes turn an happy marriage into sour marriage.
Lord have mercy on this young couple, show them your loving kindness, i understand the frustrations of this young woman, a number of us have done that, sold things to help, things they did not buy, made sacrifices it is well, i have learnt something, when God uses you as a channel to build someone, never take the glory or credit for it, leave it to God, pray for your peace n things will work out for your good. If u help let it be out of goodwill, dont do it thinking they see ur sacrifices n will support u through, no, they don't, just do it for the sake of kindness, God himself will reward you his own way❤
That is it @audrey
Their story is sad ..when they are supposed to be reaping the fruits of their labor, see drama everywhere. May they be restored . I don't believe it is wrong due to the nature of the job of the parents, Daddy and mummy are always away, only a family member can truly take care of the kids. If the MIL respects boundaries,it should not be a problem.
It's very painful to see a couple invest in each other, resulting in growth and later go separate ways. I really feel the pain of Ezinne. I pray God helps them both.
My thoughts exactly
I don't see what this man has invested in Ezinne, rather she has invested so much in him. May God bless her with a better man that would wipe all these years away and May Karma visit Kayode
Wat did she invest....was hse the one paying his rent or was she the agent that found a team for him?
Neze Nwa, why do you smile contagiously whenever you are making a video. I guess your husband must be opposite tingling you there. I like it sha. It makes me smile along side with you. I can't wait to be a good content creator like you.
Men always forget where they took off from. You can never know the true character of a man untill he touches money.
Anaghi eji ogiri atu oke ahia.
One of the worst marriage is the couple with wide different academic background.
I feel for the beautiful kids.
A lot of marriages have failed due to mother inlaws who do not understand any boundaries.
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And inlaws too
All in-laws my foot!
Full respect to her getting her FIFA license. I think all African women married to footballers should follow suit and ensure they fully understand their husbands trade. Ezinne is a beautiful woman 😍 I weep internally at marriages which disintegrate.
Why should African women married to footballers be the ones to abandon their careers to be football agents? Are we the epitome of abandon everything and follow a man? Pls leave us alone. These men are GROWN. Go and learn how to read a contract. Handle your business yourself like a man.
Dis is kind of u darling.
Exactly!!! I am happy she evolved and saw an opportunity to build a career!!! Not only helping him but helping herself in the process !!!
Most men in Nigeria helped to grow by their wives unfortunately end up in a wicked way like this story. Thank God Kayode refuted allegation early enough.
Marry within your class!!! Age, education, finances, religion, etc
Exactly
Still doesn't guarantee long lasting marriage
Believe it or not this is the truth. If not possible it’s still fine but the later is better.
Believe it or not this is the truth. If not possible it’s still fine but the later is better.
It's called risk mitigation. @maryusar9430
Ezinne is so pretty. No wonder her sons are so handsome. I wish her marriage would live again.
Tribe is a non issue where focus is concerned. The man has no vision and cannot see beyond his nose despite everything his wife has done for him. Really sorry for the lady.
Why did she cheat?
Who did she cheat with?@@Iyke47
Tribalism is eveeywhere ooh. Here in Cameroon things are getting worst by the day due to the crisis. My prayer is for christain to understand the gift of God in thier respective lives and not to used tribalism and destroyed the beautiful life God has given them.
I am so happy to hear the DNA thing was just rumors. As always Neze you nailed this again 🙏🏾✌️🏽❤️
This is really so sad
It is said that a woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing
While a man's loyalty is tested when he has so much ...
I really wish they could resolve this
As soon as I saw their names I knew tribe will definitely play a role….
MIL issues are very dependent on the couple, they must realise their relationship comes first at all times.
I pray they resolve this soon.
Unless the Lord builds the house they labour in vain that build it.Not anyone is a help meet for another.
There is nothing wrong in a mother-in-law living with her son's/daughter's family, especially when she(mother-in-law) is assisting the family. I want to believe that Ezinne's mother was taking care of her grandsons when her daughter and son-in-law were busy with soccer assignments as football agent and footballer respectively. I think immaturity of heart caused the man to disrespect his marriage, as well as welcome third party involvement. As soon as he got the breakthrough in Europe, he started feeling and acting like he did not need his wife any more. He forgot where he was coming from, and how Ezinne met him. He definitely forgot that they came this far as a result of plans they had, and executed together...
Trust ibo women,they help their husbands excel
Hmmm them saw her as omo Ibo, but when their son brought oyinbo even an old oyinbo dem go accept... GOD Have Mercy Upon our People... a mother in- law can go for omugwo but not to moved in to live with the couple...
Never marry down because if you help build a man up and he has no character, he will disgrace you especially if he becomes rich. His true character will indeed come out in full force. Kayode did not realise he should have cherished his wife and his blessings would continue. He who finds a good wife finds a good thing, but if you mistreat her (the blessing God has given you) then you will surely regret it and be cursed for life. A man who fails at marriage has failed in life.🤷🏽♀️
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" Never Marry down '😂 you women are delusional,because more men marry down,when it comes to relationship..Do you know how many financial stable men,marry women from very poor families? 😂 but women with little money, always think they are " Marrying down " because they have more money than the man..Keep thinking like that,and by you are 60 years old,your eyes will open..So what do you call " A woman who fails in marriage "???
Except God did not give anyone a woman as a wife,man did.Your true wife is the mind of man(male and female)The good thing you find is your mind not a woman.The mind and body is what God joined together and becomes one flesh not a woman.lt is practically impossible for two people to become one flesh.We become one flesh with our mind by using our mind,intuition,the inner voice etc...
Tell Chioma to wait for Davido 😂
She is a blessing only if she is a virgin. just know that.
I just can't love you less, Neze. Wealth and social status played a fast one on this marriage, simple!
How did i get here within 15secs of the video being uploaded?
Let's go Neze
Yes, but Neze, everything was going fine until the wealth came in. Indeed power and money corrupts.
More like reveals true character?
Like they say " you live another person's character when you don't have wealth yet"
This Ezinne is a real gem 💎💎, so nah she brought this man into the real football ⚽ changing life, he is enjoying.
You dey play ▶️ with a lawyer.
@@peculiar_1937 Me ke, play with lawyer; wetin I chop bellefull? Neze, no mind am o.
I still watch that movie to date. I so love that movie. Kenneth Okonkwo's character warmed my heart. Serious love nwa tin tin 😂
Barr. Neze, I love your presentation greatly.
Fluent and out spoken.
Keep it up.
Barr Neze, you're probably right. The educational gap and exposure between the duo is just too wide. Secondly, money, and the ephemeral fame attached to these celebrity footballers is another problem. Unfortunately, no consideration was given by the couple to the wellbeing and mental wellness of the children who are caught up in this mess. That for me is the real tragedy. I hope the children heal from all the trauma.
Remain blessed dear. It's always about the parents 😢
Thanks so much neze for your awesome presentation. First. I would like to say that a mother inlaw permanently living with a couple when they are not sick is very wrong. Secondly, their educational backgrounds been so different could be a problem. But what im really seeing here is the money. Some men tend to misbehave when they touch money.
As a safe Kenyan I rem seeing the news on blogs that he wasn't the father and to find out it was false🙆🙆🤦🤦🤦what is wrong with people 😱😱
I am so pained on behalf of Barr Dora Ezinne and i hope she heals from all these negative press and the trauma that this has brought with it. She is a smart lady and will keep winning in life...
Barr Neze, i love your depth of insight.. You are my favorite TH-cam Lady❤
To me it is not the ideal thing for a mother-in-law to live with the married couples,but some mother -in laws know their place in their child marriage,they know their boundaries and stay there, these can be accommodated.
Nothing wrong with it. All about communication and understanding
Thank you Neze. Only wish we had more TH-camrs with such depth of analysis, attention to detail, and presentation finesse.
Aunt neze😊. Your storytelling skills is so good that i watch while munching my food😂.
I love the hair so beautiful it’s brings out your true natural beauty
Neze please don't forget to use your platform to the glory of God. No amount of money can buy you eternal life.
Amen
Neze you are one brilliant orator I will never cease to admire. You look exceptionally beautiful today. Big hugs and love from Cameroon.
When the kids are small,its better that the mother- in- law comes in to take care of the children especially if the lady is working rather than employ a nanny or house girl who will come and bewitch the children. The woman will be comfortable with her mother/ or her husband's mum looking after those children.
Neze you look beautiful! purple is your color🤍
Divorce is dirtier when properties are involved
Thanks Bar Neze for letting us know the truth. The footballer looked for strong accusations against his wife when he got fed up with her and he really got them.
Thanks, Neze for another interesting episode. You look magnificent in Purple. I am so sad this Marriage did not survive. Marriage can be challenging even if your spouse is from the next village. The rules of engagement are different. The only common ingredient is love and trust. Managing Fame and Fortune is tough. Not everyone is equipped to handle this.
The way you tell stories is extremely charming and lively, I can listen to you all day if I am not careful 😂❤
Thanks Barr. Na money scatter this union.
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Neze your hair style looks pretty on you. The purple shirt looks great on you.
I really pitied the children 😭😭😭. Couple fights and settled . With all they’ve been through 😢.
My prayer is that God will change their mind and settle their lovely home I Jesus name Amen 🙏🙏
And I keep telling ladies/women to build themselves as they support their man. Its really sad to build all your life on anyone
A woman has Fifa licence as a football agent and a MAN says she shouldn't have any other client but himself alone, why oh why should she remain limited
Not just a "woman" but one with a Juris doctorate degree 😉.
Selfishness at its best.
In the original design of God for marriage, God’s intention was for a woman to be a help to her man and that can be in a variety of ways. But the wickedness in the heart of many men has changed that natural order. It’s sad to see that this narrative of ‘Don’t build a man’ is now thriving, but I can’t say I blame women for beginning to take that stand.
I hope he has assets abroad and if he does, She is entitled to half of those assets. This is the reason young girls in Nigeria don’t want to suffer with a man anymore. Am glad the children are his.
They say money is the root of all evil,it really blinds people alot but i guess some men never know what they have until they loose it.
Money answereth all things but THE LOVE OF MONEY is the root of all evil.
LOVE of money...this quote is found in the Bible. Tnx
The love of it
I give a like even before hearing you talk. You are a delight to watch and listen to. Brilliant and beautiful ❤
Neze PEPEREPE , you are the best.
This is serious, what a lovely family? What a scam? Why allowed the devil to go this far in this marriage? I feel for the beautiful children, oh Jesus..
Thank you Neze, everybody has been dragging this story without bringing truth
This is so sad. He started making more money and got out of hand
Neze greeting from Guyana 🇬🇾 ❤️, you rocking my favorite color purple 💜.
Thank you dear for this narration ❤
I love the way you deal with issues,you usually bring clarity to issues,I love you,I love your fiction and everything about you,you are blessed in Jesus name.💕😁🙏👍
No matter what my mother inlaw may do to me...I will always forgive her and love her...if she wants to live with me , she is highly welcomed...
Pretender!!
Tribalism is one enemy to their marriage, secondly the financial influence and lastly family influence. I am Igbo married to Yoruba, they don't like me because of my tribe, when my husband started making money, they went as far as arranging a wife for him and I was not aware but the marriage failed. Up till now, they're still fighting diabolical, but God has been seeing me through. So I know what I'm saying. That lady is humble to have married him for who he is, and go to that length
Tribalism or poor relationship between in laws? Though we readily put such differences down to ethnicity, a closer look will reveal that it is more of a poor relationship between individuals. I am sure these fellows struggle to get along even with family members. I have seen son in laws and daughter in laws suffer at the hands of their father and mother in law despite all being from the same ethnic group.
The key thing is to avoid cantekarous individuals. They do not respect siblings, relatives and ethnic group or race.
Well done, Madam, for telling the story so effectively. 👏👏👏🙄
You did a very great job.
You maintained NEUTRALITY throughout your entire speech, which is why many homes are thriving today. 😳
I too was very curious why the situation became so bad that it couldn’t be resolved or rectified.
Every opinion expressed by Dora against her husband seemed non-negotiable, while any opinion that might reflect poorly on Dora, such as her mother living with her, was up for debate. That’s quite clever.
Thank you for guiding the answers you want from people.
Thank you for painting the Husband as a Devil while the Wife as an ANGEL.
For an event you never witnessed, your narrative made it clear where the blame lies.
Once again, well-done!👏👏
Sad all around. Yet thanks for bringing some clarity with your legal training. How you do it successfully while remaining melodramatic is bitter-sweet.
Money 💰💵 is what changed everything.
Tribalism was the root of it all. Tribalism.
@@nkwojoseph2456 tribalism wasn't a problem before big money 💰💵 came now was it ?
All was going well before the "arrival" of wealth. Wealth should be spice in a marriage, not the cause of breakup. It's important to build character.
I only come here for pure truth !!!
Neze I love your blouse. It's very beautiful.
I like before watching because I trust Nezeville story telling ❤
Such a legal letter to the blogs should claim damages than accusing a spouse...
i wonder oo. imagine
So sad because these beautiful children suffer when a home is torn apart
I am a Yoruba man. If you want a failed marriage allow your mother to live in your home permanently. Holiday is fine. You need God to be the centre of your marriage.
My parents are living with me my marriage has not crashed. It depends on the boundaries you have set.
Who is taking care of the children?The mother, of course. That's why she was living with them .
Thank you very much.love from Uganda 🇺🇬
Why are Yoruba men so weak to set boundaries between their mother and their wives? Please don't corrupt other real men that can manage their homes well, oga I'm a Yoruba man.
You are wrong Mr man every body has different character. Only someone with bad character cannot live with people peacefully. My mum live with my younger sister in the U S and everyone loves her presence up to the extent that they don't want my mum leaving them a second to visit other kids in Nigeria.
Thank you for being increasingly honest true and full of intergrity.
A good name is always better than silver and gold.
Very juicy, I feel sorry for these beautiful innocent boys . All the best in their legal proceedings 🙏🏿
I love your narration ,Nezeville
Barack Obama's mother in law lived with him until her death , it is the family especially the man that benefits.....she helps in raising the kids, so, there is nothing wrong in that at all.
That's in America not in our clime
Barack Obama mother in law respected the boundaries around her.
The woman's mother most of the time is not a problem while living in the house
This woman built this guys career,never build a man ladies its not ur duty,build yourself,men are not babies let them find their way,man no be by mouth
And I hop u will advise men to also stop building women and start marrying the rich ones too
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So if you marry a man who is let's say, uneducated you should not help build him. Do you know that marriage is two lives with a common destiny? What would you gain by depriving or not helping your partner to grow when two of you share your lives together? Ideally it should advantage both of you but yes people, men sometimes, become selfish. But that shouldn't stop a partner from helping each other become their best selves.
That is why in the USA they share everything into half so one partner doesn't feel cheated in the event of a divorce.
Pls stop telling women not to help men. There are tons of women who have taken advantage of their spouse and left them after heavy investment. Marriage is like a karaoke machine. What you get is what you get. But don't go into it all selfishly and think only about yourself.
She gave this man beautiful kids❤❤❤
They are not his kids
Ma'am this ur laughter at the beginning of this video is so infectious,it got me laughing too.
The problem with yoruba demons,once they have little money no one can talk to them,all they want to do is party like there is no tomorrow.Good thing she got him to invest some,a lot dont even think in that direction.. Hope they can go their separate ways amicably,there are children involved so they are truly not ever going to go their separate ways in the true sense of it but.....Your hair is beautiful queen Neze.Sending you love.❤💕
As a footballer mother I understand what the wife is talking about football agents, the ignorance of some African players in Europe and girls falling at the feet of footballers. 👌🏾👌🏾
Your beautiful t-shirt and wristwatch 👌
Thanks goodness i watched this video, i was among those that critized her not knowing she is innocent
A mother inlaw from the woman's side is never the the problem (in most cases)
Is mother inlaw from the man's side that is always a big problem. A woman's mother will always want the marriage to work because this mummies have the believe that if anything goes wrong their daughter will be at the loosing side (especially the Igbo culture), a woman's mother will always advise her to be taking rubbish from her husband just for the marriage to work but in the man's side, their mothers knows that if eventually anything goes wrong their son is in the better side, he is a man after all so most times self they instigate the divorce.
So I don't think the mother inlaw living with them caused any harm to the marriage
This is not a factual statement. Out there are many mother-in-laws from wives who ferment trouble in marriages.
@@oluwakemitoluwanimi7203 yeah, nothing is hundred percent correct in life. Am talking about majority, in majority of such cases
Na lie. The mother of my wife wrecked my marriage
This is not correct at all. Any mother inlaw, either from the man or woman's side should not stay with the couple permanently
Oh Lawd!! It’s a very sad situation for those young children involved. It’s never a good thing especially when the divorce is out in public. Poor children. They will grow up to see this on social media. I wish them well.
Purple is definitely your colour. You look great.
U look beautiful nezze ❤ purple looks good on u I call this beautifulness
Please if they really love themselves, for the sake of the children they should settle amicably. But Kayode should mind the way he is behaving with his wife. He is not right to turn his back on her, this woman l mean Dora has suffered with him to this level aba !!! There is God ooo
Don't ever allow your mother-in-law to leave with you. Also, once the husband found money, that was it sister 😊
Dis na hot matter
Eish wanders shall never end ❤