No bro. If you have Emotions your doomed. You need to be Ai, a Robot. Thats the new real Alpha! Its not enough in 2024 to only not to be controlled by Emotions. Be a Tiger! A stoic Tiger on Hunt. Always have your Focus on the Prey.
Emotional and reactionary is definitely not the same thing. You can be aware of your "wild" emotions and yet stay composed. Emotions are a gift, but there is a gray line of how much you control them, and how much you let them flow. It's up to anyone to decide. Mostly these "radical" discussions are not giving you the entire scope. There is absolutely more to life other than being a "firm, composed man".
"Let people suffer and die. They don't need to be convinced of everything that you believe. You're not gonna change people like this, so there's no need to get emotional." This is a brutal truth that reactionary people will misinterpret as cruel pride, but this simply means, "Live and let live." Only by inspiring through example can we truly make a change, so just focus on what you can do at this moment to be the most virtuous man that you can be.
Sometimes it's important to stand up for what you believe in. Don't be reactionary to everything but there are exceptions to 'just stand back and observe'. I gotta say, though Eli, that shirt is pretty dope.
I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. How a man should relate to emotions. I’ve come to the conclusion that the way to peace and fulfillment in life is through detachment. Detachment from external outcomes, detachment from thoughts, and detachment from emotions. If I can honestly say “it’s okay if *insert thing* happens, and it’s okay if it doesn’t happen”, I’ve won. And if an emotion comes up and I can simply sit with it without allowing it to control me, I’ve won.
I'm dealing with a lot of anger and bottled up resentment that I can't let go of. It makes me unstable, clouds judgement and makes me not-in-control. Lost and dragged along in the waves rather than holding my rudder firm. A weakling like Elisha says, but at least I am aware of it and can kinda deal with it.
@@ElishaLong Thats the million dollar question; you know your video already kinda explained it. Because I am too busy being indignant, upset over slights, upset at the world, upset at my family for not having the right values, and never having encouraged me when I needed it. I moved out of the house so I don't see them often anymore, but the more I don't see them the more I get a different perspective on them. I suddenly see the things they did wrong and ways they kept me small, and I've grown to dislike them. Either way I follow loads of your lifestyle advice, became more outgoing and independent & less of a manchild.
I think that stems from the school system, always being told what to do next and having to do things the way your teacher tells you. As someone who's still in school, I have great difficulty thinking for myself but I will learn the way.
I agree emotions can make a man weak but it can also drive a man to do great things. It is the righteous anger within that makes us want to be better or change a situation. Wisdom and knowledge alone are insufficient, it is spirit (thumos) that gets that ball rolling. Emotions drive the world, they are part of what makes us human, what you do with them is the difference between weaknesses or greatness.
there needs to be strength within vulnerability. Not letting your emotions control you, but being aware of your emotions and being able to be vulnerable while at the same time keeping composure and being able to observe how you feel. Without judgment.
This is a great circle back to the very first video I saw from you Elijah, years ago. I have that video downloaded and go back to it when I stray off the path. Thank you for all you do brother
Recently I was really noticing I was going to a dark path in my life, things not going the usual way and falling apart, I heard your video and I realized I am becoming more reactionary than normal, thx for this video, it helped me out, now I am going to see what I can do to return to the good path
Stopped taking my aswaganda probably not spelled right but I noticed I was just going numb to everything these past 3 months since February have been some of the best I replaced social media for stocks read over 7 books started my own book club talking to a high value girl and I’m almost done with my first ever own book that I wrote about my journeys backpacking Europe! I love popping in watching some of your videos time to time you have been here for me at my lowest about 2 years ago I just turned 20 2 months ago I’m appreciating all my time and using it to the best of my abilities now keep up the good work brotha!
There are times when I had to let go emotions because it was too much but I wasn't like getting angry on people. I got diagnosed with autism after school which is kinda late and I think when you're trapped in a system that doesn't adapt even a bit to your real needs, you obviously have insane weaknesses.
8:24 real af. Experiencing that myself. It’s easy in theory but when the rubber meets the road… see what you’re really made of. Thanks for the video and thoughts.
What happens is that someone who is note sure about himself will take everything as an atack, will react to things in this way, because he searchs for his own value in the eyes of other people, and when someone don't agree or give aproval to this tipe of person, they feel bad and react. Sorry for the english, i'm learning.
That being said, I am slowly just dissociating from this reality altogether and my apathy for existence is at an all time high lol. So I guess I'm already taking the advice, but it's more out of depressed reluctance. Whatever happens to this species, happens, I'm done caring.
@@ElishaLong You sound like you're trying to get men back on the plantation lol. Stop it, we're not going back. You can have fun there with your female masters, I'm good, I'm already near Canadian through the underground railroad lol.
This is so true brother. Whatever you said is very similar to the concept on Non- attachment in Hinduism. Swami Vivekananda also said " Be “unattached”; let things work; let brain centers work; work incessantly, but let not a ripple conquer the mind. Work as if you were a stranger in this land, a sojourner; work incessantly, but do not bind yourselves; bondage is terrible."
You said "Emotional men are weaklings" based on the motivation which is fueled by your emotions. And there is nothing wront with that. I am saying that emotions is a part of how we work. Ofc one is able to regulate themselves and act on their emotions differently based on their abilities and beliefs. But dismissing emotions as a part of being is simply not good for us. This way we just close the door to self awareness. And without self awareness and acceptance we can't grow. Treat your emotions as a way to self discovery and learn where emotions come from, see if there are beliefs which are not serving your wellbeing. And also remeber that we are partly animals, it is necessary to self regulate and process emotions. You can look it up, but shortly it means being able to tolerate your emotions, sit with them, ride them as if they were a wave and you are the surfer. Also learn self soothing, being compassionate towards yourself. There is more to it. Educate yourselves on these topics guys. You got it ✊️
Emotions are one of the greatest things in life. You don't want an apathetic, robotic life. It's about learning to be with the emotions but not letting your life be ran by them. Being afraid of the power of emotions is weak. True stregth is to be able to handle any emotion storm that comes your way. Not to be detached and hide away, but to be a strong tree that can handle any storm.
Way I see it, letting your emotions batter you down constantly is a sign of weakness. Being able to control your emotions is a sign of maturity. Also I don’t think he’s talking about suppressing your emotions in the vid, he’s talking about not letting them lead you to poor life choices and unnecessary problems
@@Blakoss I agree with that. But it's not healthy to say emotions are "bad" or somehow a problem in and of themselves. They're a natural part of the human experience and we just need to learn to not be thrown around by them. Some of the traditional "masculinity" advice will tell you to see the existence of emotions as a weakness, when in reality people are afraid of being seen as weak because they are afraid of their emotions. Let's not be avoidant or afraid of our emotions and lets face them and learn to deal with them. I think that's the path of true strength. Inner strength. Not to fight with the emotions and try to beat them down, but to let them come and let them feed your spirit.
No offense, but I got to label this one (unintentionally, so don't take it personally, I can tell you're based I just partly disagree with you on this) under: *Accidental Controlled Opposition* It comes off less like: _"Stop being emotional, men."_ And more: _"Stop calling out the man behind the curtain. Yes they are doing horrible things that have a downstream DIRECT effect on your and everyone else's life, but ignore them."_ While I agree with at you shouldn't be too concern with things you have no power over, you shouldn't stop calling it out. At the very least, point it out for others to notice. You don't have Alex Jones on them, but there's nothing wrong with stopping a few people and going; _"You see that too, right? I'm not crazy, correct?"_
"Reactionary" refers to conservative or traditionalist political views and can't really be used the way you use it here. Respectfully, I can't really agree that emotional men are weak. Emotions underpin the human experience in all its forms..its how we handle our emotions that matters. But you touch on a subject that is important and its the impotence of spending emotions endlessly lashing out on others online or using likes and clicks on social media for it. It's a mirage of influence and big youtube people does profit on exploiting that emotionality, so in that sense you raise an important point. To be the devils advocate here though: While a stoic mindset has its value for personal happiness and mental balance; Would you "observe" a war crime, or would you try to stop it? Having a set of values and protecting them with action is a product of emotion, and it is a reaction.. No one got a medal of honor by observing, no one was pardoned in a trial for crimes against humanity for observing, in fact they are complicit by their inaction either to others or at the end of the day to themselves. I would suggest "let people suffer and die while I observe" is not a masculine response. It implies that this external event that is taking place contradicts your personal interests (Self-preservation) and is therefore to be disregarded. Men who disregard their personal safety and interests in pursuit of rescuing others are called heroes for a reason and are the opposite of that. A more nuanced take we may agree on would be to pick your battles.
OMG the cat, "make a move!", "we are grown ass men!", "father not there to calm you down": lots of gems in this one. Sincerely, DAL -your woman audience.
Damn, I have always been thinking about this mindset you share here, and I thought I was the fool for it cause others were usually thinking emotionally as you said so, thank you for this video. Also great to see you preparing for summer in this amazing shirt Elisha, imma get something like that as well!
One thing I realised is that the world is very subjective. People think that the world is something unique. But the reality is that the world depends on the perspective you have. Then, people are living multiple worlds, everybody has their own. Then, a thing that is important in somebody else's world, is not relevant in yours. When I understood that, I started to live my life by my own terms.
Ay Elijah ya good? Seems like the lower thumos guys are saying too much regurgitating too much garbage that it may be taking a toll on you. Anyways high thumos brother, keep up the movement
I have been called quiet or boring just because I don't show too much emotion at work, especially from women. Is there a solution for this, or should I just continue as I am?
This is what I need to hear, im 17 and I'm putting in effort to control my emotions. I'm figuring out how to think analytical and logical before I jump to emotion, every time I DON'T jump to emotion my outcome is always better. For example I don't get emotional in dangerous or confrontational situations anymore, think this came with boxing. Wish I could learn some level of stoicism faster, I still over think
Stoicism isn't about being an emotionless and heartless man. It's about net letting your actions altered because of, or influenced by, emotions. It's about accepting the what is outside of one's own control. So, if you feel strong emotions, it's best not to dismiss it but to accept it for what it really is, and to be able to live with it until having dealth with. Therefore, the statement "emotional men are weak" is wrong from a stoic perspective.
_Wolf evolves over thousands of years learning to protect, hunt and track, provide companionship and put its life on the line for their human masters whilst being able to respond to every signal we give it, and thus basically becoming an extension of ourselves._ *Elisha* : Too beta and reactionary and thus can not be respected. Be the cat. _Cat coughs up hairballs and kills random birds for fun sometimes._ *Dog* : Am I a joke to you?
U can be stoic, but sometimes inaction or simply ignoring is just like kicking a can down the road. Eventually, stuff that doesn't affect us directly (Tate in prison for example) will also happen to us because we failed to see the writing on the wall
This is kind of nice. I don't think I take enough initiative in my life. It's because I generally have low energy levels and easily get distracted. Apart from that, I get stuck in my own head and have difficulty staying present. But, because of this, I noticed that letting my emotions carry me away is a waste of time. Complaining about things that take maybe a couple minutes to do and that's it, is just not worth the time/energy spent.
This is so cringe. Imagine using the term "beta" unironically. If you aren't in touch with your emotions, you'll never have a real connection in your life. This obsession with being a "real man" comes from a place of massive insecurity.
Nah, you're wrong. Weak men hide their emotions, weak men bottle up what's inside. It takes a real man to put what he feels out there and not give a f*ck what anyone thinks about it.
@@makingtoast You think it's manly to be a fake repressed empty vase? How weak do you have to be to hold everything back so you're not looked down on. That's some real pansy shit
Damn, you're so grumpy lately, mate! Also, pretty funny that you're saying being emotional is bad, but you're literally on FIYAH for the most part of this video, you're PASSIONate.
Either you uploaded this because you wanted people to “react” and therefore it would prove your point: “haha look at you emotional weaklings” or you uploaded this so we can have a conversation that can add to the subject of this video. I have a feeling that it might be the former, because there is little work done on this video that would help deliver your (in my opinion, valid) message. It seems that you had a sudden revelation and you wanted to vent it out through a instant, single take of a video. But honestly, this sucks. I don’t think you planned this out carefully enough to deliver a cohesive message. I assume some of the audience would receive your words inaccurately due to the lack of detail and nuance in your points. Some may misinterpret “take the initiative” as refusing help from others whatsoever. I hope “Don’t be emotional” won’t be taken as “don’t have emotions,” because having them is inevitable and forgiving yourself for having those emotions is also helpful in carefully dealing with emotions. You have a great message, so I don’t want it to cause more harm than good. *In short*: Sure, you’re not one of those “reactionary” wimps, but I sure hope that you’re not a validation-seeking troll. Great message tho 👍.
I felt the same way toward covid. Never understood the guys on either side of the argument. Being sheep for getting it or being some sort of conspiracy theorist flatearth NWO person. I just looked at the facts, made my mind up and didnt really took a side on an argument where i felt both sides were off.
I was getting reactionary when you started hating on dogs 😂😂 Thanks for another superb video Elisha, your recommendation of Sam keen has helped me to understand who I am and where should be. THUMOS
I like some of this, some of this I strongly disagree with. I like debate, and emotion can be very useful. Anger has gotten me far in life. It is a natural reaction to unfairness. One thing that we both seem to align with is being your own man with your own philosophy and being a leader. I got a message the other day from my business professor thanking me for my leadership just for doing well and participating. I have been put in leadership positions many times in my life and my long term goal right now is to become a Tech Lead. It might be a good idea to private that "Emotional Men are Weak" video since it seems to overshadow things you're doing sometimes due to its popularity and controversial nature.
@@Lionmotivation45 Nah. It’s because dogs love you unconditionally. Now if they could cook you dinner and bring you a beer maybe the slave part would be true as well.
Elisha, when was the last time you took a psychedelic? It seems that you're very left brain dominant. Its ok to have emotions and enjoy music. Not everything has to be so serious and logical. Balance those brain hemispheres homie. A spiritual being combines both the masculine & feminine. Don't limit yourself.
Hey Elisha, I notice you have The First Binding in the background. What did you think of the book? Its had a lot of criticism for being a copy of the Name of the Wind but I found it an enjoyable read.
@@ElishaLong I loved TNOTW and its a book I re-read regularly. I found The First Binding to be a bit of a pale reflection of TNOTW as it follows the story but is missing what made the TNOTW truly great. Still worth a read tho and I'm looking forward to seeing where RR Virdi takes the series. I'm guessing he will have finished his trilogy before Rothfuss does lol
I think this doesn't just apply to men but to humans in general. If you let your emotions run your life, life will not be good. Also if you let yourself be run by thoughts, same thing. But suppressing or repressing emotions is just foolish. It's all about learning to handle your emotions.
Alright boys need some advice. Talking to this girl, turns out she rejected my close friend 2 years ago. He stays over my place sometimes. Should I still go out with her?
Maybe you should talk to your friend first. He might know her qualities better than you do. Who knows you might be dodging a bullet by not dating her. Or she might be your soulmate.
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Theres a difference between having emotions and being controlled by emotions.
Absolutely
No bro. If you have Emotions your doomed. You need to be Ai, a Robot. Thats the new real Alpha! Its not enough in 2024 to only not to be controlled by Emotions. Be a Tiger! A stoic Tiger on Hunt. Always have your Focus on the Prey.
I needed to hear this today. Thank you brother.
Me too
There's no wrong with having emotions, letting emotions control you is the problem
Spending too much time on social media definitely make me more emotional
Emotional and reactionary is definitely not the same thing. You can be aware of your "wild" emotions and yet stay composed. Emotions are a gift, but there is a gray line of how much you control them, and how much you let them flow. It's up to anyone to decide. Mostly these "radical" discussions are not giving you the entire scope. There is absolutely more to life other than being a "firm, composed man".
"Let people suffer and die. They don't need to be convinced of everything that you believe. You're not gonna change people like this, so there's no need to get emotional." This is a brutal truth that reactionary people will misinterpret as cruel pride, but this simply means, "Live and let live." Only by inspiring through example can we truly make a change, so just focus on what you can do at this moment to be the most virtuous man that you can be.
Sometimes it's important to stand up for what you believe in. Don't be reactionary to everything but there are exceptions to 'just stand back and observe'.
I gotta say, though Eli, that shirt is pretty dope.
Yeah, I took that part as "thinking a little bit before jumping into whatever is going on" and not necessarily being passive
I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. How a man should relate to emotions. I’ve come to the conclusion that the way to peace and fulfillment in life is through detachment. Detachment from external outcomes, detachment from thoughts, and detachment from emotions. If I can honestly say “it’s okay if *insert thing* happens, and it’s okay if it doesn’t happen”, I’ve won. And if an emotion comes up and I can simply sit with it without allowing it to control me, I’ve won.
bro literally found cheat code to life.
@@psilo8702 Idk about that
Really like this concept here man
That's a great concept bro, also in Bhagwat Gita, Lord Krishna said " Focus on good efforts and not on the rewards! "
I don't think you need to detach to achieve that. You can do the opposite, fully feel your emotions and get a handle on them.
“This is a cat” 😂
eating sardines while watching this.
Same brother
You just reminded me. I need to start eating my dines again
I'm dealing with a lot of anger and bottled up resentment that I can't let go of. It makes me unstable, clouds judgement and makes me not-in-control. Lost and dragged along in the waves rather than holding my rudder firm. A weakling like Elisha says, but at least I am aware of it and can kinda deal with it.
Where does the anger come from?
@@ElishaLong how to become less emotional? How to become a strong man?
@@Champion8-00 Join VC, and learn to socialize
@@EliasKagan what is a VC?
@@ElishaLong Thats the million dollar question; you know your video already kinda explained it. Because I am too busy being indignant, upset over slights, upset at the world, upset at my family for not having the right values, and never having encouraged me when I needed it.
I moved out of the house so I don't see them often anymore, but the more I don't see them the more I get a different perspective on them. I suddenly see the things they did wrong and ways they kept me small, and I've grown to dislike them.
Either way I follow loads of your lifestyle advice, became more outgoing and independent & less of a manchild.
I think that stems from the school system, always being told what to do next and having to do things the way your teacher tells you. As someone who's still in school, I have great difficulty thinking for myself but I will learn the way.
I agree emotions can make a man weak but it can also drive a man to do great things. It is the righteous anger within that makes us want to be better or change a situation. Wisdom and knowledge alone are insufficient, it is spirit (thumos) that gets that ball rolling.
Emotions drive the world, they are part of what makes us human, what you do with them is the difference between weaknesses or greatness.
well said .....
Those vids are gold !!
there needs to be strength within vulnerability. Not letting your emotions control you, but being aware of your emotions and being able to be vulnerable while at the same time keeping composure and being able to observe how you feel. Without judgment.
Hearing my internal dialogue being checked is quite the morning.
Great message, great shirt, great shit. Love your delivery, as always. Thanks, brother.
This is a great circle back to the very first video I saw from you Elijah, years ago. I have that video downloaded and go back to it when I stray off the path. Thank you for all you do brother
Wich video, brother?
@@BogdanF14 “Emotional Men Are Weak”
Doing a martial art, sparring and competing in combat definitely helps to make you less reactionary in my experience
Great talk. Thank you Elisha. Also really shows how important fathers are for men.
Elisha speaking facts. Thanks for this.
Recently I was really noticing I was going to a dark path in my life, things not going the usual way and falling apart, I heard your video and I realized I am becoming more reactionary than normal, thx for this video, it helped me out, now I am going to see what I can do to return to the good path
Emotions are the truth homie. It's the compass to our shadow. Used properly, they grant us insight into our divine nature.
Huge value provided, thanks bro
Stopped taking my aswaganda probably not spelled right but I noticed I was just going numb to everything these past 3 months since February have been some of the best I replaced social media for stocks read over 7 books started my own book club talking to a high value girl and I’m almost done with my first ever own book that I wrote about my journeys backpacking Europe! I love popping in watching some of your videos time to time you have been here for me at my lowest about 2 years ago I just turned 20 2 months ago I’m appreciating all my time and using it to the best of my abilities now keep up the good work brotha!
well done
Never trust a man with a cat...
They key is to not let your emotions control you
Needed this video
There are times when I had to let go emotions because it was too much but I wasn't like getting angry on people. I got diagnosed with autism after school which is kinda late and I think when you're trapped in a system that doesn't adapt even a bit to your real needs, you obviously have insane weaknesses.
8:24 real af. Experiencing that myself. It’s easy in theory but when the rubber meets the road… see what you’re really made of. Thanks for the video and thoughts.
Dead ass, I think people who don't like cats are insecure, they need to control their pets, and don't want them to be individuals.
What happens is that someone who is note sure about himself will take everything as an atack, will react to things in this way, because he searchs for his own value in the eyes of other people, and when someone don't agree or give aproval to this tipe of person, they feel bad and react. Sorry for the english, i'm learning.
That being said, I am slowly just dissociating from this reality altogether and my apathy for existence is at an all time high lol. So I guess I'm already taking the advice, but it's more out of depressed reluctance. Whatever happens to this species, happens, I'm done caring.
No we are talking. You have the Thumos. You're just not sure where to direct it.
@@ElishaLong You sound like you're trying to get men back on the plantation lol. Stop it, we're not going back. You can have fun there with your female masters, I'm good, I'm already near Canadian through the underground railroad lol.
This is so true brother. Whatever you said is very similar to the concept on Non- attachment in Hinduism. Swami Vivekananda also said " Be “unattached”; let things work; let brain centers work; work incessantly, but let not a ripple conquer the mind. Work as if you were a stranger in this land, a sojourner; work incessantly, but do not bind yourselves; bondage is terrible."
In filth it shall be found
Amazing video man, pretty apparent that you are in tune with yourself
You said "Emotional men are weaklings" based on the motivation which is fueled by your emotions. And there is nothing wront with that. I am saying that emotions is a part of how we work. Ofc one is able to regulate themselves and act on their emotions differently based on their abilities and beliefs. But dismissing emotions as a part of being is simply not good for us. This way we just close the door to self awareness. And without self awareness and acceptance we can't grow. Treat your emotions as a way to self discovery and learn where emotions come from, see if there are beliefs which are not serving your wellbeing. And also remeber that we are partly animals, it is necessary to self regulate and process emotions. You can look it up, but shortly it means being able to tolerate your emotions, sit with them, ride them as if they were a wave and you are the surfer. Also learn self soothing, being compassionate towards yourself. There is more to it. Educate yourselves on these topics guys. You got it ✊️
The best lack all conviction, while the worst
Are full of passionate intensity.
Thanks for speaking the truth
Good video, keep it up brother👑
A worthwhile lesson, great take.
I ask God to help me get full restoration as a man. I can relate a lot to this.
Emotions are one of the greatest things in life. You don't want an apathetic, robotic life. It's about learning to be with the emotions but not letting your life be ran by them. Being afraid of the power of emotions is weak. True stregth is to be able to handle any emotion storm that comes your way. Not to be detached and hide away, but to be a strong tree that can handle any storm.
Way I see it, letting your emotions batter you down constantly is a sign of weakness. Being able to control your emotions is a sign of maturity. Also I don’t think he’s talking about suppressing your emotions in the vid, he’s talking about not letting them lead you to poor life choices and unnecessary problems
@@Blakoss I agree with that. But it's not healthy to say emotions are "bad" or somehow a problem in and of themselves. They're a natural part of the human experience and we just need to learn to not be thrown around by them. Some of the traditional "masculinity" advice will tell you to see the existence of emotions as a weakness, when in reality people are afraid of being seen as weak because they are afraid of their emotions. Let's not be avoidant or afraid of our emotions and lets face them and learn to deal with them. I think that's the path of true strength. Inner strength. Not to fight with the emotions and try to beat them down, but to let them come and let them feed your spirit.
Be like water. Adapt. Know when to react. Being a rock solid stoic is a good, but a flawed concept.
"we aren't worried about our life, we are living our life"
"We're not worried about our life we're living our life" gunna have to remember that.
Thank you
If you can learn to be with and handle your emotions as a masculine person, you will be able to handle a strong feminine polarity
Thanks for this video❤
No offense, but I got to label this one (unintentionally, so don't take it personally, I can tell you're based I just partly disagree with you on this) under: *Accidental Controlled Opposition*
It comes off less like: _"Stop being emotional, men."_ And more: _"Stop calling out the man behind the curtain. Yes they are doing horrible things that have a downstream DIRECT effect on your and everyone else's life, but ignore them."_ While I agree with at you shouldn't be too concern with things you have no power over, you shouldn't stop calling it out. At the very least, point it out for others to notice. You don't have Alex Jones on them, but there's nothing wrong with stopping a few people and going; _"You see that too, right? I'm not crazy, correct?"_
Reacting less, responding more (if you choose). This difference has helped me a lot.
As a very angry, cynical, resentful, and reactionary male, I don't really know what else to do besides take this advice.
Youre really underrated
"Reactionary" refers to conservative or traditionalist political views and can't really be used the way you use it here.
Respectfully, I can't really agree that emotional men are weak. Emotions underpin the human experience in all its forms..its how we handle our emotions that matters. But you touch on a subject that is important and its the impotence of spending emotions endlessly lashing out on others online or using likes and clicks on social media for it. It's a mirage of influence and big youtube people does profit on exploiting that emotionality, so in that sense you raise an important point.
To be the devils advocate here though: While a stoic mindset has its value for personal happiness and mental balance; Would you "observe" a war crime, or would you try to stop it? Having a set of values and protecting them with action is a product of emotion, and it is a reaction.. No one got a medal of honor by observing, no one was pardoned in a trial for crimes against humanity for observing, in fact they are complicit by their inaction either to others or at the end of the day to themselves.
I would suggest "let people suffer and die while I observe" is not a masculine response. It implies that this external event that is taking place contradicts your personal interests (Self-preservation) and is therefore to be disregarded. Men who disregard their personal safety and interests in pursuit of rescuing others are called heroes for a reason and are the opposite of that. A more nuanced take we may agree on would be to pick your battles.
OMG the cat, "make a move!", "we are grown ass men!", "father not there to calm you down": lots of gems in this one. Sincerely, DAL -your woman audience.
Damn, I have always been thinking about this mindset you share here, and I thought I was the fool for it cause others were usually thinking emotionally as you said so, thank you for this video. Also great to see you preparing for summer in this amazing shirt Elisha, imma get something like that as well!
Emotions in themselves are not very useful, but directed emotions can be very powerful to a cause. Anger -> use it to be more productive.
One thing I realised is that the world is very subjective. People think that the world is something unique. But the reality is that the world depends on the perspective you have. Then, people are living multiple worlds, everybody has their own. Then, a thing that is important in somebody else's world, is not relevant in yours. When I understood that, I started to live my life by my own terms.
Ay Elijah ya good? Seems like the lower thumos guys are saying too much regurgitating too much garbage that it may be taking a toll on you. Anyways high thumos brother, keep up the movement
It's weak to be afraid of your own emotions.
As soon as he said you don't always have to take advice lol. I followed that advice and stopped watching the video lol
Well done
I have been called quiet or boring just because I don't show too much emotion at work, especially from women. Is there a solution for this, or should I just continue as I am?
Look into improving your charisma.
You can obviously show a little emotion, the point is to not let it dictate your life
So just observe don’t react
I like this top, pls wear more of these tops island vibe 🔥
This is what I need to hear, im 17 and I'm putting in effort to control my emotions. I'm figuring out how to think analytical and logical before I jump to emotion, every time I DON'T jump to emotion my outcome is always better. For example I don't get emotional in dangerous or confrontational situations anymore, think this came with boxing. Wish I could learn some level of stoicism faster, I still over think
@@iPostiPodiEatiYuri No, avoiding conflict is weak. Seeking conflict is even worse. If there's a problem it's no problem
Even now i do make mistakes asking advice to my parents but my dad scolds me, it was only later i realised my dad was teaching me how to be a man.
absolutley
This is basically what being a stoic really means.
Stoicism isn't about being an emotionless and heartless man. It's about net letting your actions altered because of, or influenced by, emotions. It's about accepting the what is outside of one's own control. So, if you feel strong emotions, it's best not to dismiss it but to accept it for what it really is, and to be able to live with it until having dealth with.
Therefore, the statement "emotional men are weak" is wrong from a stoic perspective.
so thats why i like cats, we have a lot in common
Cool shirt
_Wolf evolves over thousands of years learning to protect, hunt and track, provide companionship and put its life on the line for their human masters whilst being able to respond to every signal we give it, and thus basically becoming an extension of ourselves._
*Elisha* : Too beta and reactionary and thus can not be respected. Be the cat.
_Cat coughs up hairballs and kills random birds for fun sometimes._
*Dog* : Am I a joke to you?
Gracias!
U can be stoic, but sometimes inaction or simply ignoring is just like kicking a can down the road.
Eventually, stuff that doesn't affect us directly (Tate in prison for example) will also happen to us because we failed to see the writing on the wall
The correct term is reactive not reactionary, that means having traditional social/political views.
A man got to have a code- Omar Little
The title of this video hurt my feelings. I'm going to go and write poetry about it now.
This is kind of nice. I don't think I take enough initiative in my life. It's because I generally have low energy levels and easily get distracted. Apart from that, I get stuck in my own head and have difficulty staying present. But, because of this, I noticed that letting my emotions carry me away is a waste of time. Complaining about things that take maybe a couple minutes to do and that's it, is just not worth the time/energy spent.
I did some testing saying things that i disagree with something and suddenly theres a war in the comment section.
This is so cringe. Imagine using the term "beta" unironically. If you aren't in touch with your emotions, you'll never have a real connection in your life. This obsession with being a "real man" comes from a place of massive insecurity.
Bro looks like Rolly Romero the boxer!!!
a bee wont waste its time arguing with a fly why honey tastes better than shit.
Nah, you're wrong. Weak men hide their emotions, weak men bottle up what's inside. It takes a real man to put what he feels out there and not give a f*ck what anyone thinks about it.
A real man that wears lipstick 😆
@@makingtoast You think it's manly to be a fake repressed empty vase? How weak do you have to be to hold everything back so you're not looked down on. That's some real pansy shit
1:33 just tossed him like he is a ball
Damn, you're so grumpy lately, mate!
Also, pretty funny that you're saying being emotional is bad, but you're literally on FIYAH for the most part of this video, you're PASSIONate.
Either you uploaded this because you wanted people to “react” and therefore it would prove your point: “haha look at you emotional weaklings” or you uploaded this so we can have a conversation that can add to the subject of this video.
I have a feeling that it might be the former, because there is little work done on this video that would help deliver your (in my opinion, valid) message. It seems that you had a sudden revelation and you wanted to vent it out through a instant, single take of a video. But honestly, this sucks. I don’t think you planned this out carefully enough to deliver a cohesive message. I assume some of the audience would receive your words inaccurately due to the lack of detail and nuance in your points.
Some may misinterpret “take the initiative” as refusing help from others whatsoever. I hope “Don’t be emotional” won’t be taken as “don’t have emotions,” because having them is inevitable and forgiving yourself for having those emotions is also helpful in carefully dealing with emotions.
You have a great message, so I don’t want it to cause more harm than good.
*In short*: Sure, you’re not one of those “reactionary” wimps, but I sure hope that you’re not a validation-seeking troll. Great message tho 👍.
I felt the same way toward covid. Never understood the guys on either side of the argument. Being sheep for getting it or being some sort of conspiracy theorist flatearth NWO person. I just looked at the facts, made my mind up and didnt really took a side on an argument where i felt both sides were off.
yep im emotional. It sucks :(
Same dude
Go to a boxing gym and get in touch with your man side.
I was getting reactionary when you started hating on dogs 😂😂 Thanks for another superb video Elisha, your recommendation of Sam keen has helped me to understand who I am and where should be. THUMOS
“Just kidding” we know
Brillant
I like some of this, some of this I strongly disagree with. I like debate, and emotion can be very useful. Anger has gotten me far in life. It is a natural reaction to unfairness.
One thing that we both seem to align with is being your own man with your own philosophy and being a leader. I got a message the other day from my business professor thanking me for my leadership just for doing well and participating. I have been put in leadership positions many times in my life and my long term goal right now is to become a Tech Lead.
It might be a good idea to private that "Emotional Men are Weak" video since it seems to overshadow things you're doing sometimes due to its popularity and controversial nature.
Nice shirt man
People like dogs because they are your slave, that was hilarious.
@@Lionmotivation45 Nah. It’s because dogs love you unconditionally. Now if they could cook you dinner and bring you a beer maybe the slave part would be true as well.
@@Lionmotivation45 I disagree with pretty much everything you said here.
@@Lionmotivation45 You sound like you could use a hug
Interesting vid 🔥
Elisha, when was the last time you took a psychedelic? It seems that you're very left brain dominant. Its ok to have emotions and enjoy music. Not everything has to be so serious and logical. Balance those brain hemispheres homie. A spiritual being combines both the masculine & feminine. Don't limit yourself.
Hey Elisha, I notice you have The First Binding in the background. What did you think of the book? Its had a lot of criticism for being a copy of the Name of the Wind but I found it an enjoyable read.
It was enjoyable in some parts but was missing something. Did you read TNOTW?
@@ElishaLong I loved TNOTW and its a book I re-read regularly. I found The First Binding to be a bit of a pale reflection of TNOTW as it follows the story but is missing what made the TNOTW truly great. Still worth a read tho and I'm looking forward to seeing where RR Virdi takes the series. I'm guessing he will have finished his trilogy before Rothfuss does lol
how to remove emotions?
I think this doesn't just apply to men but to humans in general. If you let your emotions run your life, life will not be good. Also if you let yourself be run by thoughts, same thing. But suppressing or repressing emotions is just foolish. It's all about learning to handle your emotions.
Alright boys need some advice. Talking to this girl, turns out she rejected my close friend 2 years ago. He stays over my place sometimes. Should I still go out with her?
So he didnt date her or anything? I say youre all good. If he has a problem with it, well he is either a bad friend or a little bitch.
Maybe you should talk to your friend first. He might know her qualities better than you do. Who knows you might be dodging a bullet by not dating her. Or she might be your soulmate.