What I learned with this placement ... be patience, dont take things personally, enjoy the process and serve/produce without any expecation. Dont be too hard on yourself, love yourself the way you are. You ll be surprised!
I am in my hermit phase at the moment, stuck sorting through what I've done wrong and how I could have done better. It is complete destruction of myself and who I am, I no longer feel like a human. I really do need to just live in the moment and actually show up to life. Because sitting in my bed for months doing nothing feels like I am lost at sea struggling to hold on to a piece of driftwood, trying my hardest not to sink. But sinking is apart of the process and I am so afraid to just let go. Your writing example really struck a chord as well. In school I would edit essays as I wrote them instead of just getting my ideas out onto the paper, it felt exhausting and I always procrastinated writing them because deep down I guess I knew what I was doing was unhealthy. And getting good grades on those essays never felt gratifying, it just felt like I was writing what I knew would be the best thing to say and not what I actually needed to convey. Too afraid of critique for my own good, thank you for this video. I need to understand I will make mistakes and that is what life is all about.
Also in the hermit phase. But I don’t know what to do next but I know in my heart I don’t wanna be a hermit anymore. I wanna live. I also wanna get out of this environment I’m in which gave me the perfection tendencies in the first place.
THIS WAS REALLY GOOD I HAVE THIS PLACEMENT AND EVERY TIME I WRITE I GO BACK AND CHANGE STUFF 100 TIMES INSTEAD OF JUST SAYING WHAT I MEAN, AND HOW I LIKE TO SAY IT.
am i the only person with this placement that is the biggest procrastinator, i am still a perfectionnist but since perfection was too hard to achieve i just stopped trying to do anything
Interesting, the example of writing, so you're saying go with the flow and let that flow build momentum. I've experienced this playing a musical instrument where I no longer need to think about what note to play next, something else takes over and it all just flows. This is a divine feeling. Being lost in whatever that moment is. You've got my chart, what you say rings true. Thanks
What an amazing and accurate video, for me I have Scorpio in the 6th and it’s was a struggle for, but once I recognize that the more I tried its the same result, I let go and learned so much in the process. Yes you are already enough.
This is highly accurate! Thank you. I'm a writer and artist and my best work is when I just write everything and let it flow and then correct later. I've learned to ease up. Thanks for the reinforcement, we are intensely afraid of judgement if we make a mistake, but I've learned it makes people more connected to us if we do. Not all people will not think less of you if you do. It's endearing and you end up getting more help and support this way. It's okay not to get it right the first time. I suspect a lot of writer's block comes from fear and not an inability to write... because as soon as you put pen to paper and release it to the world you will get feedback good and bad. It's tough sometimes.
I was the younger sibling where I was the perfect child who got good grades and was ahead in school. My guilt stems from being an immigrant and having my parents tell me repeatedly how much they sacrificed just so my brother and I could live the American dream (whatever that means). Before you even said freeze, I had the word paralysis in my head the whole time. It does feel like an overwhelming paralysis. When you talked about the purity of service and creation, I have felt that. It occurs for me when I write or paint. My best work has always been when I let it flow out of me. It feels like the universe flows within me, if that makes sense. There is this otherworldly quality that comes over and then I get into the zone and I can study or work or create for hours on end. (which can be unhealthy if I disregard my health). While I know that my work is good enough and valid enough, sometimes the prospect of making mistakes stops me from trying and I self-sabotage before it even begins.
Wow this is how i felt and you expressed it perfectly, special with the background of your family, and being immigrants and reaching the American dream is by excelling in school or else you will have failed yourself and your family for all they have sacrificed, but it only taught me that even when I could've been enough I wasn't, and it's worst when they compare you to your siblings so everyone is so envious and competitive, and lacked emotions
I don’t think the perfectionism is caused by anyone, especially not my parents. I’ve never seen anyone as encouraging and forgiving as my mom. It just kind of popped out of nowhere. And I noticed that I wasn’t like this as a kid, not the slightest. I was almost “suddenly” transformed into this mindset when I entered adulthood.
Tan Astrology actually yes! The change happened when I went aboard studying to get my master’s degree. Definitely experienced tremendous cultural shock and environmental stress at the beginning. Wow you are marvelous 🤗I’m so happy I found your channel!
This is my placement! Thank you so much for this video. I'm literally exposed but I'm not even mad about it. This was all so accurate. I do things in a particular way as my idea of being perfect or getting far in life. When I was young child I was always in a position where teachers would literally come up behind me and stare at me to see how im working and i would get so stressed out in my work i start to sweat right and then they would u know take the pen and write something for me invading my bubble and i would have thoughts as in oh my god i made my pen so sweaty this situation is intense etc and i actually started crying one time because of this. and it would cause me to have so much tension and anxiety. I would feel the need to do everything in my idea of "perfect" not only this. I got taken away from my parents at a young age and I lived with my aunty and uncle. They would make me do things over and over again until its done right in their eyes and my cousin would just kind of put all the work on me and laugh.. this caused me extra anxiety and worry and perfectionism not only that my dad is quite a perfectionist himself sometimes
Absolutely loved this. With a 1/3 profile, I could resonate so much with the trial and error process. It’s healing for me to hear that it’s a natural pure way. Thank you 🙏
amazing video, really felt it when u said to “just go with the flow” bcs that’s something i always try to tell myself but it gets really hard when all you know is “be the best” im learning that mistakes are normal and sometimes there’s nothing you can do about it except learn from them. thanks for helping me realize that
I love you so much! 🥰 Thank you for seeing the core aspects of how I go about developing and making improvements in regards to my routine and just that perspective outlook. Thank for being the vessel to express how I’ve always felt but haven’t had that other person to relate to that on an external level. You have my deepest gratitude 🙏💫👽💓🌺⛱
Very hard on myself. Make one mistake and I’m so close to offing myself. I can’t even move pass mistakes. And knowing more mistakes to be made in the future- I don’t know why try. Mistakes on top of mistakes- I’m a critic. I have OCD. And I do want to be pure. Purity is a thing for me. I’ve since become passive and going with the flow. Just hoping through time- I’ll find me. And forgive myself for a mistake.
I loved your analysis of Pluto in the 6th house. I agree with your take on things. Now that I'm 69 years old, I've learned much doing self work and the 'tendencies' can become strengths! I still have some 'perfectionism' but I am much easier on myself. At my age it is a great feeling to not care what other people 'think' and live happy!
Almost every aspects in my birth chart lead me to become a chill and flowing kind of person. The combination of Pluto in Saggitarius in the 6th house, North Node in Cancer in 1st house, Pisces Midheaven in 10th house, Pisces Vertex in the 9th house and the most important to me is Saturn in 12th house rolling by Taurus so that everything makes sense now haha. Anyway, thank you for the video. ❤
Awesome video Tan! I so appreciate your work. Yes we are already enough.🤩 I have this Pluto placement and have listened to this twice already. Just found you a couple of months ago and am learning so much. You are so easy to listen to!
wow, the example of the grades where you had all straight As, but 1 B, is exactly the childhood trauma that triggered my fear of failure, perfectionisme etc.. I had a very intelligent brother and one time I came home with these grades and my dad could only talk about the B..
Similar here! Have pluto in 6th house at anaretic degree. I was from a poor background living in a township but my mom worked hard to send me to a priviledged white school. I attained good grades to gain acceptance and differentiate myself in a good way. One prize giving, I was second in our grade of 300+ pupils. My mom told me she was disappointed that I had allowed the other boy to beat me! It crushed me. I have never been able to regain my former levels of self-confidence in my abilities. I finished with 6A's and 2 B's at school - was never happy with that result. I even now downplay the advanced degree I attained at university when people compliment me about being brainy, always mentioning that I struggled through it. Fear of failure, self-criticism, perfectionism are all the things I am working on now in my late thirties.
The same happened to me, use to be a straight A student, came home with my first C, my mom flipped out so bad on me. I mean she yelled at me for hours, my dad felt bad for me but did not stop her. That broke my young spirit, I actually got worse grades because of that
Just show up. Dont taint the purity. Breathe through the criticisms -don’t run away from them and try to numb. Allow your body to naturally do what it does. Your body already knows what it needs to do for u. You are enough. You came into this world already ENOUGH.
This video was one of those "killing me softly" moments 🙈 I grew up the last of 4 children, so I felt a strong need to be perfect in order to stand out somehow, and to be more mature. With Sun, Mercury and Vesta in Pisces in the 10th house, I have always loved to read, write, draw, and just CREATE...but you can bet that this rampant perfectionism made short work of stamping that out in the end 😔 what you said about editing while writing, rather than writing first and then editing later...yeah, that's how it gets me, with everything🤦🏼♀️ I never give my inner light a chance to shine creatively the way it wants to, a part of me always immediately jumps in to criticises it, and says, Do over! And I try, and sometimes I satisfy it - but it feels more like a hard-won victory in the end, certainly not something I could replicate whenever I wanted to. And so, in my own eyes, I'm not that creative or talented, which is so depressing, it makes me not want to try at all...and I didn't for many years now, but that's all about to change! 😊
So accurate 💓. I’m a writer and it’s never perfect enough because I got my standards to what I was “taught”. Write the damn book Nyoka🙏🏾 Thank you so much. Happy I found you
I'm an artist, very 'obsessed' with my work, I mean I put a lot of effort into it and only after my Saturn return did these issues with perfectionism and guilt get better, I felt so much guilt and I didn't know where it came from, I also have habits super specific foods... the video made a lot of sense, I like this placement, I feel that it gives me greater strength by joining other placements on my map, I have very clear objectives, and I really think that the best I can do for myself and for the world is to be myself and come to do what I came to do, I seek my independence a lot, so much so that sometimes I feel alone.
I found this vide really useful. I had to stop several times in reflection, which is a god thing. I often over work to the point of exhaustion and feel like a failure yet I have had some feedback that my work can be outstanding. I do feel the need to be perfect but I am starting to be kinder to myself and finding new levels of discipline as i allow myself to rest and take better care of myself. This is helping my quality of work and nerves in the long run. Thank you for your insights, practical advice and your warm, somewhat playful delivery is refreshing.
This is very helpful. I thought your warning at the front that viewers may feel exposed or vulnerable was silly, but you're not wrong! This is really nailing some of my most problem areas. Great content
I don’t know what made me search this, but glad I came upon it. I have Pluto in Libra in my sixth house, and this is incredibly accurate. I just got rejected for grad school (my 7th time trying), and I’ve been in a downward spiral since. I feel like I’m back at square one again, so it’s been difficult.
The deeper level part where it’s simply saying we’re trying to be perfect. My Scorpio Sun & Sagittarius Pluto is in my 6th house & yes… I have others nearby me who enjoy my work ethic but do try to imitate it & honestly, they simply can’t pursue it as, within humility, as I do.* No one holds another person’s work ethic. They can honestly try to pursue a bit more but altogether, it’s simply imitation. ♥️ It’s a delicate & very strengthened position to have, for sure.
Oh wow 9:20 ... is on point! I have been called skinny before, and i have been told i HAVE to finish my meals! So i ended up forcing myself to eat even when i did not feel like eating anymore. I grew up poor too, so the idea of letting things go to waste is haunting me lots. All the neglect i let myself go through in terms of health is coming up now. Writing is also on point. I keep correcting whatever mistakes i make in typing or penwriting... O.O Emotions are a major core essence of this issue too. I keep containing my emotiions believing them to be messy and dangerous. Sounds a lot like my Life Pat 3 issues and challenges O.O
This video was really, really helpful. Thank you ❤️ for the authenticity and your point of view, your channel helped me out immensely with finding my own purpose & freedom
Exercise and diet yup, that’s me. I also have mars in Taurus the 12th house of addictions and self undoing 😄 Very regimented with my exercise and food routine. Luckily not nearly as much as when I was younger though.
I feel like this makes so much sense for my personally cause my human design profile is 3/5 so I feel like the need to come from a space of purity really speaks to the number 3 line of my body graph. Like I’m currently learning it’s okay to experiment & experience through trial & error. Maybe because Pluto is retrograde right now, I feel like I’m starting all over, but this time I have a better navigation system I’m putting together for myself. Thank you for post this series, I used to be so scared of Pluto. And now I understand it so much better! Sending you Light & love ✨💖
Thank you - this is such a lovely and encouraging interpretation. It made so much sense to me!! I love the 'go with the flow' advice and your message of acceptance. I'm still trying to work out how venus in exact conjunction to pluto in the 6th alters this. So hard putting all the puzzle pieces of astrology together but this helps so much ☺ 🖤
OMG! This is so true about me!! This perfectionist attitude ruined my life, I still have so much anger towards my parents about comparing me to my super smart brother! still hurting from feeling that failure.
I've Pluto cazimi in Virgo in 6th house.I want to be a Globetrotter Master Teacher combining spirituality with modern medicine and establishing a financial empire globally to do charity work worldwide!
Pluto in Leo in 6th house, spot on: excessive health perfectionism - a whole food plant based diet, and I'm still not happy with it. Thank goodness I've discovered the benefits of meditation and Yoga...cheers...
@@A-Ls1 - A plant based diet is full of variety and taste sensations, so, any notions that Vegan or plant based is boring rabbit food is just plan wrong. Every ethnic food you can think of can be veganised eg. Thai, Chinese, Korean, Japanese, French , Italian and Australian. Mexican is one of my favourites, dishes like burritos with a mix of black beans and brown rice with some stewed vegies, lettuce, and guacamole- wrapped in a corn floured wrap.... fantastic....An easy meal is. Cutting up vegies, like potatoes, sweet potatoes, & pumpkin; putting them in air fryer - once baked to perfection, add some salt and herbs, totally transcendent. Last but not least, soak a cup full of rolled oats over night in coconut water; in the morning pour into a bowl, drown in blue berries, strawberries and any fruit in season, trickle some maple syrup over the top - you’ll be flying, through the rest of your day...cheers fromSydney Australia. PS: Take 1 mg of vitamin B12 once per week.....
Pausing 7 mins in. YES! I feel like all my work has to be done in this very particular energy or I feel its not authentic & it could just be making a freaking necklace or something or packaging some sold item, it has to be done in a certain energetic space & I CAN do it outside of that but it feels forced & it makes me feel chaotic. Also, yes, I find it very annoying to be pulled out of my zone when I am in it...But to be fair, I am in it a lot too so I can feel this way all the time tbh, I feel it can be a little too selfish when you have loved ones around you though so I try to temper that out a little & try and stop being so rigid when it comes to this invisible energetic frequency no one else can see but I feel deeply when I am inside of it.
Pluto in the 6th: I have ADHD, so I'm overly obsessed with EVERYTHING because I feel ashamed of my "problem". Or I was, I went to therapy and I found about "masking".
I believe I have pluto in the 6th house. together with venus and rahu. As a Massage Therapist, I enjoy my work when I go with the flow. you are right. accept the criticism, recognise that I am part of the whole. sometimes the criticism comes in through the partner you are with, and your job becomes that one thing you recognise you are good at.
I'm only 3.5 mins in and I had to comment yes to being made to feel shame for not getting everything right in a quiz being told the way I naturally wrote stories which was to just start and see where it took me was wrong, so I stopped writing, yes to being compared to my friends constantly so I stopped bringing them home and now I clean in schools where I get to use my OCD like/perfectionist tendencies to benefit others. So far this sounds like my history. Let me continue, will add more if feel called to. Nearly 11 mins in: yes I am a cold turkey person, when I no longer wanted to drink alcohol I just stopped. It wasn't hard it was like I just decided and tuned of an off switch and yes at work I am friendly until I start working then don't interrupt me as I am in my flow and once I leave work I don't socialise with my work colleagues. People have very high expectations of me and when my work is critiqued I take it o board as I like to improve my performance and systems. As a child if I was negatively assessed I wouldn't brush it off and like you said say to myself "oh well, I'm proud of what I've done" instead I would feel shame (not guilt) I didn't feel like I had done something wrong, I felt like there was something wrong with me and everyone could see it, I felt exposed. Especially if they critiqued me in front of others. Now I don't feel shame, I feel guilt (still can't brush them off) as I didn't meet their expectation but I take the criticism as a positive Instead of personally as I know it isn't about me it's about the person critiquing and their expectations and I now have more info on what they are looking for so I can decide if I can, and want to try meeting said expectation or not but either way I find it helpful instead of soul destroying like I used to as a child. Reached the end: I understand the getting stuck at a lower standard because not being willing to make the mistakes or be critiqued. I now love being critiqued as I said above as it gives me more information. I was offered a supervisory role in my cleaning job and I trialled it and I hated it. Yes I have natural leadership qualities that if uninvited can come across as bossy or interfering, I'm aware so step back and allow others to make their mistakes and learn the hard way unless it interferes with my ability to do my job. Anyway I digress I tried being in management and I realised I preferred cleaning to managing cleaners as I found that role quite boring but that means I am stuck at the level I am because I am unwilling to go through the uncomfortableness of being the one everyone comes to when they need stuff and no longer clean unless helping or covering someone. I just want to clean in peace but it has reached a place of stagnation even though it is part of my routine, I am ready for a new challenge but I don't know doing what, maybe just a new cleaning job in a new environment🤷🏾 I am definitely in my hermit mode, have been for the past two years now and I am very comfortable with being alone. I am more task oriented/process oriented than career minded so I don't have an ambition to be a ceo of a big company I just want that whatever I do, I do it well or can learn to do so and enjoy it but I'm not being pulled in any other direction so I am staying where I am. People around me see I am capable and competent in my job so they come to me instead of te supervisor which irritates me as it stops my flow and I declined the job so that I would be left alone lol. I didn't edit anything here so this is my pure writing 😀 thanks for the confirmations and insights. I just added the hermit part so I did edit a little
I have Pluto in the sixth house and my father was very restrictive with food and very health oriented. He was and adult man who was athletic and as a child, he would only feed me at the same times he would feed himself, and in the same amounts of food that he would eat, so I spent most of my day is really hungry, and then when I was given food, I wasn’t able to eat it all
Wow! You hit this straight on, right on time did your video come! Thank you! Pluto in Scorpio 6th House here, right near my DC. But I must hear the 7th. As a whole house, it’s in my 7th!
You are amazing!!!🌟...my Pluto is in Libra & I also watched your personal video about Saturn in Cancer (I am too) I felt you so much!♥️ I definitely want you to analyze my chart!🤗
Tan, I just came across your channel now & this was the first video I've watched. WOW, it was almost like you were looking straight into my soul! I resonated with almost all of it. I'm extremely self-critical etc. The thing is, I don't know how this plays out in my chart with Mercury, Mars & my South Node also all in the 6th house as well..? Is that called a quincux & how can I find out how it effects me with several planets in the same houses? Because it seems to be a thing in my birthchart. 😟
Pluto in 6th house Scorpio with lilith Also libra moon 6th house. With regards to working I totally relate to the obsessive tendencies. The high expectations of others in workplaces made me feel really worn out. Exhausting. I think freelance work is best for me.
Mines in 6th house in Libra in a stellium sun moon mercury venus pluto 🤪 and its intercepted. I feel like it definitely triggers me as a subconscious belief that everyone is always lacking. When in fact im constantly over fucking doing it and if im "normal" it feels guilty lol. Im so glad i figured it out!
Wow, do I feel exposed! Such great insight that's so good to hear. I related to the diet thing. I always tell ppl that the main reason I became vegetarian was because I just didn't want to feel guilty about eating animals anymore. I also came up with this idea where I wanted to live with the least amount of cognitive dissonance that I could manage in my daily life. How 6th house. Haha. Did I want to be perfect? Maybe you could say so. I almost went vegan but I never got there. I've relaxed a lot. I'm still vegetarian though and pretty happy with it. Still feel guilty about eating some animal products ofc. 😅
@tan astrology it was beautiful moments I spent hearing about pluto in 6th house..I couldn't stop hearing from you like I want to hear from u..thankyou would really luv to hear from u more ...stay blessed Though would ask can you explain more in depth on transformation in depth science... As my I ask the difference between pluto in 6th house and Scorpio in 1 St house..
I’m not too sure, your description matches my Pluto in VI in some aspects, but to be honest, not really. Eg: at work, I dnt mingle bc that’s not my type of crowd, I’m always late, the latest the better, lol, the work gets done, but I won’t bend backwards for it. It could be due to my moon and Saturn being in Scorpio in the 6th house, I guess, I’m not sure! One thing it’s true, I like to look the best I could, but that’s my Venus in Taurus in 1st house. I dnt diet all that much, unless my lifestyle is considered a diet, I dnt eat in the morning, I’d rarely eat in the morning, it’d give me stomach pain. When under stress I shut down the eating, I dont know, this Pluto doesn’t entirely match my Pluto
What I learned with this placement ... be patience, dont take things personally, enjoy the process and serve/produce without any expecation. Dont be too hard on yourself, love yourself the way you are. You ll be surprised!
I am in my hermit phase at the moment, stuck sorting through what I've done wrong and how I could have done better. It is complete destruction of myself and who I am, I no longer feel like a human. I really do need to just live in the moment and actually show up to life. Because sitting in my bed for months doing nothing feels like I am lost at sea struggling to hold on to a piece of driftwood, trying my hardest not to sink. But sinking is apart of the process and I am so afraid to just let go. Your writing example really struck a chord as well. In school I would edit essays as I wrote them instead of just getting my ideas out onto the paper, it felt exhausting and I always procrastinated writing them because deep down I guess I knew what I was doing was unhealthy. And getting good grades on those essays never felt gratifying, it just felt like I was writing what I knew would be the best thing to say and not what I actually needed to convey. Too afraid of critique for my own good, thank you for this video. I need to understand I will make mistakes and that is what life is all about.
I have been going through the same
Would love to know how y’all are doing on this comment thread. Im coming back to life after yeaaaars of a hermit phase.
I've been going through it for years aswell
Also in the hermit phase. But I don’t know what to do next but I know in my heart I don’t wanna be a hermit anymore. I wanna live. I also wanna get out of this environment I’m in which gave me the perfection tendencies in the first place.
THIS WAS REALLY GOOD I HAVE THIS PLACEMENT AND EVERY TIME I WRITE I GO BACK AND CHANGE STUFF 100 TIMES INSTEAD OF JUST SAYING WHAT I MEAN, AND HOW I LIKE TO SAY IT.
I do this ALL the time
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We are used to being subjected to opinions that make us uncomfortable. Perfection ah yes, So true.😅
this made me cry because it's so true.
...Same
am i the only person with this placement that is the biggest procrastinator, i am still a perfectionnist but since perfection was too hard to achieve i just stopped trying to do anything
I relate to this heavily
Yes!! It’s disappointing
Interesting, the example of writing, so you're saying go with the flow and let that flow build momentum. I've experienced this playing a musical instrument where I no longer need to think about what note to play next, something else takes over and it all just flows. This is a divine feeling. Being lost in whatever that moment is. You've got my chart, what you say rings true. Thanks
Yes yes yes!! Spot on. Once you are creating/ working purely you're in direct contact with the divine-12th house opposite axis.
What an amazing and accurate video, for me I have Scorpio in the 6th and it’s was a struggle for, but once I recognize that the more I tried its the same result, I let go and learned so much in the process. Yes you are already enough.
This is highly accurate! Thank you. I'm a writer and artist and my best work is when I just write everything and let it flow and then correct later. I've learned to ease up. Thanks for the reinforcement, we are intensely afraid of judgement if we make a mistake, but I've learned it makes people more connected to us if we do. Not all people will not think less of you if you do. It's endearing and you end up getting more help and support this way. It's okay not to get it right the first time. I suspect a lot of writer's block comes from fear and not an inability to write... because as soon as you put pen to paper and release it to the world you will get feedback good and bad. It's tough sometimes.
I was the younger sibling where I was the perfect child who got good grades and was ahead in school. My guilt stems from being an immigrant and having my parents tell me repeatedly how much they sacrificed just so my brother and I could live the American dream (whatever that means). Before you even said freeze, I had the word paralysis in my head the whole time. It does feel like an overwhelming paralysis.
When you talked about the purity of service and creation, I have felt that. It occurs for me when I write or paint. My best work has always been when I let it flow out of me. It feels like the universe flows within me, if that makes sense. There is this otherworldly quality that comes over and then I get into the zone and I can study or work or create for hours on end. (which can be unhealthy if I disregard my health). While I know that my work is good enough and valid enough, sometimes the prospect of making mistakes stops me from trying and I self-sabotage before it even begins.
Wow this is how i felt and you expressed it perfectly, special with the background of your family, and being immigrants and reaching the American dream is by excelling in school or else you will have failed yourself and your family for all they have sacrificed, but it only taught me that even when I could've been enough I wasn't, and it's worst when they compare you to your siblings so everyone is so envious and competitive, and lacked emotions
Highly recommend her Pluto intro video. My god so many answers in one video ❤
I don’t think the perfectionism is caused by anyone, especially not my parents. I’ve never seen anyone as encouraging and forgiving as my mom. It just kind of popped out of nowhere. And I noticed that I wasn’t like this as a kid, not the slightest. I was almost “suddenly” transformed into this mindset when I entered adulthood.
Pluto is the subconscious motivation. It doesn't just appear. Could be environmental factors. I'm sure you can figure it out.
Tan Astrology actually yes! The change happened when I went aboard studying to get my master’s degree. Definitely experienced tremendous cultural shock and environmental stress at the beginning. Wow you are marvelous 🤗I’m so happy I found your channel!
do you have hard pluto aspects ?
@@crimsonmatter yes, tight conjunction with moon in the sixth house in Scorpio. Im like, a workaholic.
This is my placement! Thank you so much for this video. I'm literally exposed but I'm not even mad about it. This was all so accurate. I do things in a particular way as my idea of being perfect or getting far in life. When I was young child I was always in a position where teachers would literally come up behind me and stare at me to see how im working and i would get so stressed out in my work i start to sweat right and then they would u know take the pen and write something for me invading my bubble and i would have thoughts as in oh my god i made my pen so sweaty this situation is intense etc and i actually started crying one time because of this. and it would cause me to have so much tension and anxiety. I would feel the need to do everything in my idea of "perfect" not only this. I got taken away from my parents at a young age and I lived with my aunty and uncle. They would make me do things over and over again until its done right in their eyes and my cousin would just kind of put all the work on me and laugh.. this caused me extra anxiety and worry and perfectionism not only that my dad is quite a perfectionist himself sometimes
Girl you're so bright, I can't even focus on what you're saying, just amazed at your delivery and how sure you are of what you're talking about
Absolutely loved this. With a 1/3 profile, I could resonate so much with the trial and error process. It’s healing for me to hear that it’s a natural pure way. Thank you 🙏
amazing video, really felt it when u said to “just go with the flow” bcs that’s something i always try to tell myself but it gets really hard when all you know is “be the best” im learning that mistakes are normal and sometimes there’s nothing you can do about it except learn from them. thanks for helping me realize that
Thanks!
I love you so much! 🥰 Thank you for seeing the core aspects of how I go about developing and making improvements in regards to my routine and just that perspective outlook. Thank for being the vessel to express how I’ve always felt but haven’t had that other person to relate to that on an external level. You have my deepest gratitude 🙏💫👽💓🌺⛱
Very hard on myself. Make one mistake and I’m so close to offing myself. I can’t even move pass mistakes. And knowing more mistakes to be made in the future- I don’t know why try. Mistakes on top of mistakes- I’m a critic. I have OCD. And I do want to be pure. Purity is a thing for me. I’ve since become passive and going with the flow. Just hoping through time- I’ll find me. And forgive myself for a mistake.
I loved your analysis of Pluto in the 6th house. I agree with your take on things. Now that I'm 69 years old, I've learned much doing self work and the 'tendencies' can become strengths! I still have some 'perfectionism' but I am much easier on myself. At my age it is a great feeling to not care what other people 'think' and live happy!
Almost every aspects in my birth chart lead me to become a chill and flowing kind of person. The combination of Pluto in Saggitarius in the 6th house, North Node in Cancer in 1st house, Pisces Midheaven in 10th house, Pisces Vertex in the 9th house and the most important to me is Saturn in 12th house rolling by Taurus so that everything makes sense now haha. Anyway, thank you for the video. ❤
Awesome video Tan! I so appreciate your work. Yes we are already enough.🤩 I have this Pluto placement and have listened to this twice already. Just found you a couple of months ago and am learning so much. You are so easy to listen to!
Wow hermit mode and being hard on myself has been the last couple years of my life especially as a mom who is single has been really tuff 😕
wow, the example of the grades where you had all straight As, but 1 B, is exactly the childhood trauma that triggered my fear of failure, perfectionisme etc.. I had a very intelligent brother and one time I came home with these grades and my dad could only talk about the B..
Similar here!
Have pluto in 6th house at anaretic degree.
I was from a poor background living in a township but my mom worked hard to send me to a priviledged white school. I attained good grades to gain acceptance and differentiate myself in a good way. One prize giving, I was second in our grade of 300+ pupils. My mom told me she was disappointed that I had allowed the other boy to beat me! It crushed me. I have never been able to regain my former levels of self-confidence in my abilities.
I finished with 6A's and 2 B's at school - was never happy with that result.
I even now downplay the advanced degree I attained at university when people compliment me about being brainy, always mentioning that I struggled through it.
Fear of failure, self-criticism, perfectionism are all the things I am working on now in my late thirties.
Same exact thing with me. Used to hurt me a lot, now I just say fuck that, I know I’m smart no matter what grade i get
The same happened to me, use to be a straight A student, came home with my first C, my mom flipped out so bad on me. I mean she yelled at me for hours, my dad felt bad for me but did not stop her. That broke my young spirit, I actually got worse grades because of that
lovely intepretation❣❣❣
Just show up. Dont taint the purity. Breathe through the criticisms -don’t run away from them and try to numb. Allow your body to naturally do what it does. Your body already knows what it needs to do for u. You are enough. You came into this world already ENOUGH.
Just show up every day**
This video was one of those "killing me softly" moments 🙈 I grew up the last of 4 children, so I felt a strong need to be perfect in order to stand out somehow, and to be more mature. With Sun, Mercury and Vesta in Pisces in the 10th house, I have always loved to read, write, draw, and just CREATE...but you can bet that this rampant perfectionism made short work of stamping that out in the end 😔 what you said about editing while writing, rather than writing first and then editing later...yeah, that's how it gets me, with everything🤦🏼♀️ I never give my inner light a chance to shine creatively the way it wants to, a part of me always immediately jumps in to criticises it, and says, Do over! And I try, and sometimes I satisfy it - but it feels more like a hard-won victory in the end, certainly not something I could replicate whenever I wanted to. And so, in my own eyes, I'm not that creative or talented, which is so depressing, it makes me not want to try at all...and I didn't for many years now, but that's all about to change! 😊
So accurate 💓. I’m a writer and it’s never perfect enough because I got my standards to what I was “taught”. Write the damn book Nyoka🙏🏾
Thank you so much. Happy I found you
I'm an artist, very 'obsessed' with my work, I mean I put a lot of effort into it and only after my Saturn return did these issues with perfectionism and guilt get better, I felt so much guilt and I didn't know where it came from, I also have habits super specific foods... the video made a lot of sense, I like this placement, I feel that it gives me greater strength by joining other placements on my map, I have very clear objectives, and I really think that the best I can do for myself and for the world is to be myself and come to do what I came to do, I seek my independence a lot, so much so that sometimes I feel alone.
I found this vide really useful. I had to stop several times in reflection, which is a god thing. I often over work to the point of exhaustion and feel like a failure yet I have had some feedback that my work can be outstanding. I do feel the need to be perfect but I am starting to be kinder to myself and finding new levels of discipline as i allow myself to rest and take better care of myself. This is helping my quality of work and nerves in the long run. Thank you for your insights, practical advice and your warm, somewhat playful delivery is refreshing.
thank you, this is the perfect read and describes my issues to a tee. I'm telling myself I'm good enough from now on because I am.
This is very helpful. I thought your warning at the front that viewers may feel exposed or vulnerable was silly, but you're not wrong! This is really nailing some of my most problem areas. Great content
Nailed it! Tough to accept, but the healing begins. Thank you!
This video was right on the money!!!!!
Wow. This is some of the best work I've ever seen. I'm stunned.
Dead on, and much appreciated!
I don’t know what made me search this, but glad I came upon it.
I have Pluto in Libra in my sixth house, and this is incredibly accurate. I just got rejected for grad school (my 7th time trying), and I’ve been in a downward spiral since. I feel like I’m back at square one again, so it’s been difficult.
💯 agree 🙏 thanks Tan
Very very accurate thanks so much for doing these videos
The deeper level part where it’s simply saying we’re trying to be perfect. My Scorpio Sun & Sagittarius Pluto is in my 6th house & yes… I have others nearby me who enjoy my work ethic but do try to imitate it & honestly, they simply can’t pursue it as, within humility, as I do.* No one holds another person’s work ethic. They can honestly try to pursue a bit more but altogether, it’s simply imitation. ♥️ It’s a delicate & very strengthened position to have, for sure.
OMG ! Thank you💞 this really helps me
Oh wow 9:20 ... is on point! I have been called skinny before, and i have been told i HAVE to finish my meals! So i ended up forcing myself to eat even when i did not feel like eating anymore. I grew up poor too, so the idea of letting things go to waste is haunting me lots. All the neglect i let myself go through in terms of health is coming up now.
Writing is also on point. I keep correcting whatever mistakes i make in typing or penwriting... O.O Emotions are a major core essence of this issue too. I keep containing my emotiions believing them to be messy and dangerous. Sounds a lot like my Life Pat 3 issues and challenges O.O
This video was really, really helpful. Thank you ❤️ for the authenticity and your point of view, your channel helped me out immensely with finding my own purpose & freedom
Exercise and diet yup, that’s me. I also have mars in Taurus the 12th house of addictions and self undoing 😄 Very regimented with my exercise and food routine. Luckily not nearly as much as when I was younger though.
Same
Well, your amazing, I have Pluto in my 6th house and I can relate to a lot of things you said. Thank you!
Thankyouuu so much, this helped me a lot at the right time. 🌸❤️
so relatable
I feel like this makes so much sense for my personally cause my human design profile is 3/5 so I feel like the need to come from a space of purity really speaks to the number 3 line of my body graph. Like I’m currently learning it’s okay to experiment & experience through trial & error. Maybe because Pluto is retrograde right now, I feel like I’m starting all over, but this time I have a better navigation system I’m putting together for myself.
Thank you for post this series, I used to be so scared of Pluto. And now I understand it so much better!
Sending you Light & love ✨💖
Thank you - this is such a lovely and encouraging interpretation. It made so much sense to me!! I love the 'go with the flow' advice and your message of acceptance. I'm still trying to work out how venus in exact conjunction to pluto in the 6th alters this. So hard putting all the puzzle pieces of astrology together but this helps so much ☺ 🖤
Pluto Saturn conjunct in 6th Libra.
Ouch! So accurate, I’ll be aware to be humble, breath, and learn from mistakes and criticize. Thank you very much🙏
OMG! This is so true about me!! This perfectionist attitude ruined my life, I still have so much anger towards my parents about comparing me to my super smart brother! still hurting from feeling that failure.
I've Pluto cazimi in Virgo in 6th house.I want to be a Globetrotter Master Teacher combining spirituality with modern medicine and establishing a financial empire globally to do charity work worldwide!
Wow...spot on 🦂🔥🔥🔥🔥
Pluto in Leo in 6th house, spot on: excessive health perfectionism - a whole food plant based diet, and I'm still not happy with it. Thank goodness I've discovered the benefits of meditation and Yoga...cheers...
What do you eat on a normal day with a plant based diet? And do you cook your food? I have Pluto Scorpio 6th.
@@A-Ls1 - A plant based diet is full of variety and taste sensations, so, any notions that Vegan or plant based is boring rabbit food is just plan wrong. Every ethnic food you can think of can be veganised eg. Thai, Chinese, Korean, Japanese, French , Italian and Australian. Mexican is one of my favourites, dishes like burritos with a mix of black beans and brown rice with some stewed vegies, lettuce, and guacamole- wrapped in a corn floured wrap.... fantastic....An easy meal is. Cutting up vegies, like potatoes, sweet potatoes, & pumpkin; putting them in air fryer - once baked to perfection, add some salt and herbs, totally transcendent. Last but not least, soak a cup full of rolled oats over night in coconut water; in the morning pour into a bowl, drown in blue berries, strawberries and any fruit in season, trickle some maple syrup over the top - you’ll be flying, through the rest of your day...cheers fromSydney Australia. PS: Take 1 mg of vitamin B12 once per week.....
So wonderful! I feel seen. :) Thank you, Tan.
And I started crying at the "you feel like you need to be perfect" line how about y'all 🤣
Pausing 7 mins in. YES! I feel like all my work has to be done in this very particular energy or I feel its not authentic & it could just be making a freaking necklace or something or packaging some sold item, it has to be done in a certain energetic space & I CAN do it outside of that but it feels forced & it makes me feel chaotic. Also, yes, I find it very annoying to be pulled out of my zone when I am in it...But to be fair, I am in it a lot too so I can feel this way all the time tbh, I feel it can be a little too selfish when you have loved ones around you though so I try to temper that out a little & try and stop being so rigid when it comes to this invisible energetic frequency no one else can see but I feel deeply when I am inside of it.
So clear and deep thank you
You nailed it
Pluto in the 6th: I have ADHD, so I'm overly obsessed with EVERYTHING because I feel ashamed of my "problem". Or I was, I went to therapy and I found about "masking".
Very accurate. Thank you for your insights.
I believe I have pluto in the 6th house. together with venus and rahu. As a Massage Therapist, I enjoy my work when I go with the flow.
you are right.
accept the criticism, recognise that I am part of the whole.
sometimes the criticism comes in through the partner you are with, and your job becomes that one thing you recognise you are good at.
I'm only 3.5 mins in and I had to comment yes to being made to feel shame for not getting everything right in a quiz being told the way I naturally wrote stories which was to just start and see where it took me was wrong, so I stopped writing, yes to being compared to my friends constantly so I stopped bringing them home and now I clean in schools where I get to use my OCD like/perfectionist tendencies to benefit others. So far this sounds like my history. Let me continue, will add more if feel called to.
Nearly 11 mins in: yes I am a cold turkey person, when I no longer wanted to drink alcohol I just stopped. It wasn't hard it was like I just decided and tuned of an off switch and yes at work I am friendly until I start working then don't interrupt me as I am in my flow and once I leave work I don't socialise with my work colleagues. People have very high expectations of me and when my work is critiqued I take it o board as I like to improve my performance and systems. As a child if I was negatively assessed I wouldn't brush it off and like you said say to myself "oh well, I'm proud of what I've done" instead I would feel shame (not guilt) I didn't feel like I had done something wrong, I felt like there was something wrong with me and everyone could see it, I felt exposed. Especially if they critiqued me in front of others. Now I don't feel shame, I feel guilt (still can't brush them off) as I didn't meet their expectation but I take the criticism as a positive Instead of personally as I know it isn't about me it's about the person critiquing and their expectations and I now have more info on what they are looking for so I can decide if I can, and want to try meeting said expectation or not but either way I find it helpful instead of soul destroying like I used to as a child.
Reached the end: I understand the getting stuck at a lower standard because not being willing to make the mistakes or be critiqued. I now love being critiqued as I said above as it gives me more information. I was offered a supervisory role in my cleaning job and I trialled it and I hated it. Yes I have natural leadership qualities that if uninvited can come across as bossy or interfering, I'm aware so step back and allow others to make their mistakes and learn the hard way unless it interferes with my ability to do my job. Anyway I digress I tried being in management and I realised I preferred cleaning to managing cleaners as I found that role quite boring but that means I am stuck at the level I am because I am unwilling to go through the uncomfortableness of being the one everyone comes to when they need stuff and no longer clean unless helping or covering someone. I just want to clean in peace but it has reached a place of stagnation even though it is part of my routine, I am ready for a new challenge but I don't know doing what, maybe just a new cleaning job in a new environment🤷🏾 I am definitely in my hermit mode, have been for the past two years now and I am very comfortable with being alone.
I am more task oriented/process oriented than career minded so I don't have an ambition to be a ceo of a big company I just want that whatever I do, I do it well or can learn to do so and enjoy it but I'm not being pulled in any other direction so I am staying where I am. People around me see I am capable and competent in my job so they come to me instead of te supervisor which irritates me as it stops my flow and I declined the job so that I would be left alone lol. I didn't edit anything here so this is my pure writing 😀 thanks for the confirmations and insights.
I just added the hermit part so I did edit a little
This is is really true, the perfectionist trap and stripping ourselves. I’m now in hermit mode stuck and confuseddddd
So insightful
🙏🏼Pluto 5th house next pretty pretty please 💜🧡💛 Thank you for this information!! 🤗
WOW 🔥
I love your video you look great by the way
I have Pluto in the sixth house and my father was very restrictive with food and very health oriented. He was and adult man who was athletic and as a child, he would only feed me at the same times he would feed himself, and in the same amounts of food that he would eat, so I spent most of my day is really hungry, and then when I was given food, I wasn’t able to eat it all
This speaks to me. Thank you.
Wow! You hit this straight on, right on time did your video come! Thank you! Pluto in Scorpio 6th House here, right near my DC. But I must hear the 7th. As a whole house, it’s in my 7th!
You are amazing!!!🌟...my Pluto is in Libra & I also watched your personal video about Saturn in Cancer (I am too) I felt you so much!♥️ I definitely want you to analyze my chart!🤗
This reveals so much to me :) thanks ❤
Hi Tan 💗 Great! I Love your Videos. I‘m looking forward to hear your Interpretation of my Pluto placement in the 5th house 😍😍😍🙏🌸
Watching this b/c my solar return chart has this placement. My natal chart has Pluto in the 2H
Hi Tan, can this be the cause of someones OCD?my sister in law has pluto in the 6th and she suffers from OCD...
OCD over what specifically? Health, exercise, diet, and nutrition?
Emmanuelle Samara constantly washing hands from soap residue.
@@henrietadale5079 Haha, I hate soap residue too. I have Pluto in the 6th House.
Emmanuelle Samara that’s interesting...she wears gloves sometimes so she doesn’t have to wash her hands all the time!
Tan, I just came across your channel now & this was the first video I've watched. WOW, it was almost like you were looking straight into my soul! I resonated with almost all of it. I'm extremely self-critical etc. The thing is, I don't know how this plays out in my chart with Mercury, Mars & my South Node also all in the 6th house as well..? Is that called a quincux & how can I find out how it effects me with several planets in the same houses? Because it seems to be a thing in my birthchart. 😟
Pluto in 6th house Scorpio with lilith
Also libra moon 6th house.
With regards to working I totally relate to the obsessive tendencies. The high expectations of others in workplaces made me feel really worn out. Exhausting. I think freelance work is best for me.
Pluto in the 12th PLEASE!!!!😁
Mines in 6th house in Libra in a stellium sun moon mercury venus pluto 🤪 and its intercepted. I feel like it definitely triggers me as a subconscious belief that everyone is always lacking. When in fact im constantly over fucking doing it and if im "normal" it feels guilty lol. Im so glad i figured it out!
THIS IS SO SPOT ON 🙄🙄
I was superrrrrr picky eater and had to sit at the table all night if I didn’t eat my vegetables…now I try and have a better diet lol
I have this🙃
I can’t help it! It’s annoying because I haven’t started anything I wanted too because I’m so picky
Wow, do I feel exposed! Such great insight that's so good to hear. I related to the diet thing. I always tell ppl that the main reason I became vegetarian was because I just didn't want to feel guilty about eating animals anymore. I also came up with this idea where I wanted to live with the least amount of cognitive dissonance that I could manage in my daily life. How 6th house. Haha. Did I want to be perfect? Maybe you could say so. I almost went vegan but I never got there. I've relaxed a lot. I'm still vegetarian though and pretty happy with it. Still feel guilty about eating some animal products ofc. 😅
I have moon, saturn and pluto in the 6 house and this is hard to deal with
I have Moon & Pluto in the 6th House as well! Are you obsessed with health, diet, and nutrition too?!
Very well explained! I have Pluto conjunct Venus...in the 6 house in Leo
What about Pluto Retrograde?🍀
Hey, could this be similar to Mars in the 6th house?
YAY, on to this one now lol Did you do a Lilith series? Mine is here too O_o both in Scorpio O_O
What about pluto on the same house (5th house) and sign (scorpio) as North Node?
We have the same northnode scorpio in 5th house 👐🏼
@@cclachicagrace6073 so your love life is not exicting too?
櫻井翔エミ hahaha you got it right!
@@cclachicagrace6073 😚😚😚
I'm the same as him there ⬇️
@tan astrology it was beautiful moments I spent hearing about pluto in 6th house..I couldn't stop hearing from you like I want to hear from u..thankyou would really luv to hear from u more ...stay blessed
Though would ask can you explain more in depth on transformation in depth science...
As my I ask the difference between pluto in 6th house and Scorpio in 1 St house..
My Pluto is in Scorpio in the 6th house. Maybe I'll be like this later in life?? Doesn't resonate for me.
Idk how to apply this to my life..
I’m not too sure, your description matches my Pluto in VI in some aspects, but to be honest, not really. Eg: at work, I dnt mingle bc that’s not my type of crowd, I’m always late, the latest the better, lol, the work gets done, but I won’t bend backwards for it. It could be due to my moon and Saturn being in Scorpio in the 6th house, I guess, I’m not sure! One thing it’s true, I like to look the best I could, but that’s my Venus in Taurus in 1st house. I dnt diet all that much, unless my lifestyle is considered a diet, I dnt eat in the morning, I’d rarely eat in the morning, it’d give me stomach pain. When under stress I shut down the eating, I dont know, this Pluto doesn’t entirely match my Pluto
My Pluto is in retrograde
What if you have this placement but no sign of perfectionism?
My Pluto conjunct Saturn in the 6th house of Scorpio, how it would affect my life ?
you know the content of a video is nice when the rest of the comments are all long messages