I definitely did the same sort of consume information thing when I was figuring out I'm asexual. When I come out to people I usually get incredibly nervous beforehand, and then once I tell them I feel relieved for a second before it switches to nervous about their reaction. Once I'm done, I'm glad I told them, but I've never really felt the "now I just want to tell more people" reaction.
Coming out was the most terrifying thing that has ever happened to me (because I came out 'on accident' several times, not going to go into it) and the most terrifying I've ever done (when I did it the first time). I'm at a point now where I can just mention it in casual conversation (e.g. mention my boyfriend, (I'm a guy)). It's not really a big deal anymore. BUT, that's something that has taken me 10+ years from me realizing I was gay to now where I can feel comfortable talking about it openly like it's a normal thing. I'm not so good with talking about ace things, but it's not something that comes up very often... I want the ace part of my identity to be more visible, and so I've worn an ace ring (not on my middle finger, because it's too much balance/symmetry, I wear mine on my pinky), but I freak out that it is going to get stuck on my finger so I haven't worn it for very long. ^.^; Also when you first got your hair dyed I wasn't sure how I felt about it, but I think the blonde is growing on me. It feels like you. :-) Hope you're still digging it.
I feel this cycle... I have a similar one... I am a biosex female, asexual, heteromantic, gender non-conforming... and possibly polyamorous under the right circumstances? I don't know. Identity is something I feel like it a continual and ever changing learning process.
Hey Abbie! I just found your channel and love it! I don't think Ace people get the respect we deserve. So to combat that I want to create an ace/demi collab channel were we talk about our experiences, hopefully we could help validate it. But I really just want to help confused children like myself. I think you articulate the problems beautifully and would love to have you join us. It wouldn't be a big commitment, maybe like a 5 min video on a topic every week or every other. Let me know if you're interested!
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I definitely did the same sort of consume information thing when I was figuring out I'm asexual. When I come out to people I usually get incredibly nervous beforehand, and then once I tell them I feel relieved for a second before it switches to nervous about their reaction. Once I'm done, I'm glad I told them, but I've never really felt the "now I just want to tell more people" reaction.
Coming out was the most terrifying thing that has ever happened to me (because I came out 'on accident' several times, not going to go into it) and the most terrifying I've ever done (when I did it the first time). I'm at a point now where I can just mention it in casual conversation (e.g. mention my boyfriend, (I'm a guy)). It's not really a big deal anymore. BUT, that's something that has taken me 10+ years from me realizing I was gay to now where I can feel comfortable talking about it openly like it's a normal thing. I'm not so good with talking about ace things, but it's not something that comes up very often... I want the ace part of my identity to be more visible, and so I've worn an ace ring (not on my middle finger, because it's too much balance/symmetry, I wear mine on my pinky), but I freak out that it is going to get stuck on my finger so I haven't worn it for very long. ^.^;
Also when you first got your hair dyed I wasn't sure how I felt about it, but I think the blonde is growing on me. It feels like you. :-) Hope you're still digging it.
I literarily have been doing this completely
Yea, this is spot on.
Being asexual and panromantic is freaking confusing. That's all I've got to say.
+Rebecca N I agree 100%
I feel this cycle... I have a similar one... I am a biosex female, asexual, heteromantic, gender non-conforming... and possibly polyamorous under the right circumstances? I don't know. Identity is something I feel like it a continual and ever changing learning process.
It really is.
As a nb person i feel like this a lot
Hey Abbie! I just found your channel and love it! I don't think Ace people get the respect we deserve. So to combat that I want to create an ace/demi collab channel were we talk about our experiences, hopefully we could help validate it. But I really just want to help confused children like myself. I think you articulate the problems beautifully and would love to have you join us. It wouldn't be a big commitment, maybe like a 5 min video on a topic every week or every other. Let me know if you're interested!
+Taye Nic I would love to, but I just don't have the time needed available. Thank you for considering me though!
Yes your struggles were mine
Cool video.
internalised phobia
I just have to say: oh my god this is so me!
(so ... mission successfull I guess :D)