Thank you Suki. Amazingly helpful video. I am in the process of healing from a traumatic childhood and thanks to your video I have realised that I have accepted trauma as part of my identity. Shifting perspective to : experiencing traumatic situations is something that I can feel a small shift occured, which I can sense will have a massive ripple effect on all the healing that I continue with :) thank you xxx I am very grateful for this 💓
Beautiful distinction between experiencing trauma and being traumatised. Love how by wording things differently, it can help change our perspective of how we view ourselves and the experience of trauma. When I think of trauma, it comes to mind the art of Kintsugi. The beautiful Japanese art of repairing an object, vase or ceramics with golden or silver lacker, and seeing the object with even more beauty after. The embellished mending becomes part of the life of the object rather than just pieces put together. It goes much deeper than that. This philosophy, helped me to transform the way I thought of trauma. Much love and light ✨ 💕
terrific and insightful, this is the discussion we all need, perhaps at no time have we become so consciously unconscious, have we opened the gates to trauma. Its always hopeful to shift the frame, and let in lots of space around whatever is constantly arising as you noted. your modality is more than intriguing. thanks..
Thanks, that was very insightful! As someone who experiences chronic anxiety from childhood abuse I totally get the nuance of what you are saying. I have been in and out of therapy for over three decades and after awhile, it feels like this condition is a life time sentence. The shift from I am "damaged goods" to actually my past trauma is sculpting me into a more integrated and freer person energizes a sense of empowerment for change.
I encourage you to look into therapists who do Somatic experience, Brain spotting or EMDR. Only a small number of therapists study this in comparison to the total number. You can read more about these methods.
Thankyou this is very helpful to hear, I have been finding ways of healing from trauma I experienced as a child and throughout my teens and early adulthood. Yoga helped me see my body as less of an object and instead of living material always changing, still learning, with room for new pathways. This sits comfortably with reframing my mindset. It does give me hope, and it is becoming less rooted in my identity. X
I couldn’t agree with you more. That’s why I always tell my daughter that it’s important to address and work on the issues but you should never let it define you. My mother had arthritis and when ever people used to ask her about it she always say was doing fine, because she had more important and better things in her life to focus on then arthritis. One can work on their trauma without letting it consumed or define you.
I've experienced trauma vs I am trauma.....I love that! I l am going to reflect that, thank you! I really like to be able feel like myself again. God bless
Thinks video is awesome!!! I love the freeing idea that growth and change is possible for anyone who's experienced trauma. Thank you for making this video and working to free people from perceived learned helplessness!
This is so spot on. Language and identity are so important for psychological change. Thanks for this distinction. I experienced trauma. Traumatized is not an identity.
i hear what you are saying about not being trapped into what caused your trauma, but everyone says do the work, get dirty, don't you have to know what caused your trauma and talk about it to get out of a fixed state? my thinking is you haven't processed it yet? you are just relieving it? don't you need to talk it out to move on? i'm always trying to figure out what the work is. i am more than willing to do the work, like everyone says, but it's so frustrating when you don't know what the work is. i've been reading on this topic for years and i am not quite sure what to actually do to heal. thank you for the video!
Your questions really resonate with me. I studied social work and psychology in school, saw a great counselor off and on for a decade, have read tons of books, learned to meditate (which took forever), been on personal growth retreats... you get the picture. Super willing to do the “work,” and also feeling like I’m still missing something. Watching Sukie’s videos and doing the exercises helped me realize something my counselor tried to help me see at least a decade ago. Talking was part of the process, and it helped a lot, but the part I couldn’t find wasn’t in my mind, it was/is in my body. No amount of “figuring it out” was helping, but tilting my head one way and moving my eyes the other way is releasing something I still don’t understand the way my brain thinks of understanding (with words). It feels crazy that something so simple can solve something I’ve worked so hard for so long to solve, but I can absolutely feel the difference. Hope that helps in some small way. 💕 Side note: I recommend doing it at the end of the day the first few times to see how your body responds. I’ve fallen asleep in the middle of the day twice and slept 17 hours yesterday/last night.
We learn as we go through life. And lessons appear. I reckon trauma is a stagnating pattern (after the traumatising is over) of an experience designed to make our lives better or in some way the greater transpersonal world a better place by integrating it, by turning perceived s**t into gold, true alchemy. When we do that i feel we no longer identify with the trauma and learn the lessons from it, put those lessons into practice in our lives then release it by changing our narrative to a balanced and relaxed one allowing us to have an open and relaxed mindset which will make our social world, the world in general and our inner world much more enjoyable and safe. Hope this helps 🙏
So true! My husband and sister died over 3 years ago only 2 weeks apart. And I’m getting better over the trauma of this. Your statements are so true… thank you. I will continue to follow you as your the only one that made sense to me.
Wow. I discovered your channel about a week ago during a low, and I can already feel applying your wisdom has had a real impact on my perspective. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR TAKING ABOUT THIS VERY IMPORTANT SUBJECT OF TRAUMA! I have been re-watching this video several times a day! It has shifted my perspective significantly and finally I am hopeful that by virtue of neuroplasticity and the body’s natural process of healing, I can evolve into what I WANT TO BECOME rather than remain stuck in the story of my broken vase! Helpful beyond words! I’m extremely grateful for your work 🙏
You are a beautiful soul. Yes we need to change the narrative. We are not our traumas. We are immortal timeless beings living on earth to learn. We all need to stop dragging around our traumas, projecting them onto others and letting them rule our lives 🙌🙏✊❤️
This is so hopeful. The problem for many of us lay with the lack of tools to deal with the trauma(s) we experienced. In addition we encountered many insensitive people who denied that our individual experiences were traumatic. We also struggled with therapists “formulas” which involved us taking control of our thoughts when in reality many times we encountered triggers that took us from zero to 60 thereby allowing us no time to initiate their formulas. Finally a sensitive, ongoing means of starting the journey toward resolution of past or ongoing trauma.
Oh that is so me! Zero to 100 in a matter of seconds, without even having a chance to decide my reaction to a trigger. I can have “freak out” moments over the littlest thing. It sux so bad! I don’t want to be stuck in this vicious cycle anymore. It’s been affecting my health for years, especially gut health, which has then lead to other health problems. I just never knew how important the brain/gut connection really was, and what was the ROOT cause of my health conditions. Now I know! I couldn’t be any happier that I found this channel! ❤️
Hi:)) i would love to interview you for my podcast ‘Zoom O’clock with Tessy Antony de Nassau’ about the topic of trauma. Extremely relevant and i am sure my audience would appreciate it
I have experienced PTSD on two different occasions. One as a soldier and once witnessing two deaths as a civilian. I have experienced trauma but I cannot get rid of what it did to my body. I have tried meditation, this type of thinking, yoga, exercise, etc. This PTSD has left me with Fibromyalgia and a pile of other disorders and I really feel completely broken. There are no doctors here in Canada who can help me and I feel completely lost.
Hopefully she can answer- but praying & reading the Bible can help too 🙏🏻 In the Bible read the Gospels & you’ll see that you came from God & all he has for you- healing & deliverance. We’ve know many break that PTSD- by having faith in Gods Word 🙌 Blessings to you.
Extremely interesting and encouraging for all those who have experienced trauma in their lives. I can tell you have a genuine and sincere desire to help people ,thankyou for your great work.
Your videos have really helped me! I love that you show us exactly what we need to do in so many of your videos and show the movements. I always see so many people talk about trauma and releasing trauma and the vagus nerve etc but I don’t often see the logistical physical way that people recommend healing them, and many of your videos do that so thank you 🫶
Those waves behind you nerve me after you explained the danger : ) btw yes, we are a constant changing energetic formation, a devine expression in/as vibrant consciousness.
Lol, I know, right?! Fortunately, I survived. They were crazy big though and at one point a wave came up past me on the beach -- fortunately it was small and didn't hit me directly but after that, I was outta there!
Yes, once one is identified with the trauma, it is indeed very difficult to rewrite the brain. It’s a tightrope one has to walk, yes while one can’t dissociate from what happened it’s also important to avoid over identification…. Both can be equally unhelpful in the healing process as both are polarities- over identified or dissociated. And I understand that dissociation is a coping mechanism, so I am not judging anyone here, merely expressing my perspective.
Sukie, I've been caught in this trauma identity trap unwittingly, just the way you described it! Thanks for helping bring this awareness to me. It's going to help keep me from getting stuck often in periods of anxiety. Bring on the ongoing evolution of my life! Healing and transforming, not stuck. Much appreciated.
Love the emphasis on not allowing what happened to us (or our ancestors) to become our identity. Hard to heal and move on if you believe it’s who you are.
This is an interesting distinction that makes sense. However, I have no idea how to do this on the level that would make an actual shift in my perception. It’s not enough to recognize it on an intellectual level, my subconscious and heart have to buy into this fully. What’s the process beyond the words? ThanK you.
Really interesting, the self identifying becomes almost like a mantra. 'I'm f!!ed', 'my mother abandonded me' or 'it's them,not me'. Can you explain a bit more about 'Neuro-processes are open to reshaping'? It'd be amazing to see an actual close up of what happens in the mind during all of these changes.
It’s great the way you have showed a different way to think about - to many labels are thrown around and you stuck in them! We have choice to hold on to trauma or make peace with it
sometimes you are knocked off course by a pirate ship that deliberately kept knocking into you for years, trying to send u into the bermuda triangle haha. But even if you are in the bermuda triangle, you wouldn't be the first to make it out
I so agree about how we speak tells our story. I had no words that seem to be heard as a child of developmental issues. I learned how to tell people what they wanted to hear and therefore denied my authenticity to develop. I have worked on changing my inner dialogue over my lifetime because my body kept breaking down due to stress of untrue inner belief and not knowing how to articulate appropriately. I have had polyps removed from my throat, complete hysterectomy due to child abuse and not being nurtured or believed at the time ( 3) yrs old. Many other problems physically because of inner language. I have used mantras, pinup words of affirmation. You are so correct about neuroplasticity . I have actually bridged the gap between my mid brain responses to my executor frontal cortex. I was stuck in response mode and had to train my brain to be in the NOW . It’s taken many trail and error to even get introspection but I am hopeful for future generations because of the understanding of the whole as opposed to my treatment of ECT and bad medications that truly made things worse for my particular issues. We are understanding so much more about our ecosystem (self) and all that comes with the development of the brain from pre- birth to historical trauma. I see this as hopeful for our humanity. Thank you
Yes, exactly! Very well expressed. This describes my approach, not to be defined by traumatic experience. Have not heard this view before. Thanks for confirming so clearly!
Thanks Sukie! I appreciate the clarification. As someone who has “dis-covered” trauma held in my body (thank you plant medicine!), it’s been an interesting (weird/ challenging/ beautiful) journey figuring out how to work with these symptoms while not attaching myself to some label or narrative of being “traumatized”.
I choose not to dwell on childhood trauma, and choose to focus on the here and now and the positive things in my life. However I am 42 and recently realized that my constant intense anxiety is directly related to the violent trauma I experienced daily from age 5-14. And that although I consciously did not think it was an issue for me any more, I am learning that I have subconscious fears, and automatic physical reactions to things and situations that are no longer dangerous. I have forgiven the person who was violent against me and he got sober and we have a great relationship. I have raised 3 sons, and did not continue the cycle of violence or alcoholism that I experienced, and both my parents experienced. How do I retrain my body that I am safe, when I already consciously view trauma the way you described and have for years?
You learn as you go through life. And lessons appear. I reckon trauma is a stagnation (after the traumatising is over) of an experience designed to make your life better or in some way the world a better place by integrating it, by basically turning perceived s**t into gold, true alchemy. The problem really is that, as they say, it is a learned helplessness from either repeated abuse or an overwhelming event which rocks your nervous system. This causes a pattern of automatic repeating processes in the body which is what we call trauma. When you fully acknowledge the 'what did i learn from it' consciously and in full awareness, you can more easily integrate it and put those lessons into practice in your life then by default release which will change your narrative to a balanced, integrated and relaxed one allowing you to have an open and relaxed mindset which will make your social world, the world in general and your inner world much more enjoyable and safe. You will no longer identify with the trauma. Hope this helps 🙏
This really helped me to view my trauma as traumatic experiences that I can integrate into who I am (learn and grow from) instead of a broken person. Thank you for this. What are your thoughts on sleep meditations for healing mind and body while you sleep? I had a retraumatization yesterday and was experiencing emotional pain that honestly felt intolerable. I thought it would be a long, slow process (weeks? Months?) to feel alive and normal again. But somehow I woke up feeling exponentially better. It was such a surprise, I've never bounced back so quickly. The sleep meditation was the only variable. Thoughts?
As I wish to recover from my trauma x 2, not least to avoid passing them on to anyone else, thank you Sukie for articulating yourself on both of these important to me subjects 😊
One more thing, if one experiences trauma as a toddler and essentially never grows up, doesn't develop properly, has no friends etc, then what happens if he/starts to release this trauma in his/her mid 30s? Does he/she start to just develop naturally?
You learn as you go through life anyway. Whether you've experienced trauma or not. When you no longer identify with the trauma and learn the lessons from it, put those lessons into practice in your life then release it by chabging the narrative you will have a more open and relaxed mindset which will make your social world much more enjoyable and safe. Hope this helps
Person first language. I am a person FIRST who has experienced trauma. I teach this a lot in my profession can list many examples but for instance for diagnoses of Schizophrenia. I am a person with a diagnoses of Schizophrenia. Not I am a Schizophrenic. Person centered care and person first language.
Thank you for this video! I know this is an older one, but I just found you and subscribed to your channel. ❤ I find it very interesting that trauma is passed down generationally. I can definitely see that, as my family has had a lot of trauma in one way or another. I dealt with 9 years of childhood trauma. I will mention your channel to my son and daughter as they deal with anxiety and I think they could really find your information very helpful. Thank you so much!
I believe that language when it innaccurately repsents what it's being employed to describe, renders the perception that springs from it faulty. Trauma causes the same sort of flawed thinking. The elegance of your term "living processes" to describe being, avoids the clumsy use of language that makes commonplace the mistakes of linking self identity to fixed, dead, labels.
This made me think of us like a living blood vessel with our spirit flowing through and trauma creates a clog. Some life spirit can get through but its greatly reduced and sporadic. We are not broken, we need the clog to get chipped away to let the flow free.
Not sure if you read comments from old videos- I hope you do cause I just now found you in YT- have already saved your videos on anxiety ect. Just would like to know question on this one please ❤
Also, you are 100% right about the usefullness of over repeating stories, it is counter-productive. Yet it's encouraged and pushed in the counselling world. I'd be pushing for these embodiment practices, there is actual physical evidence that it works!
I really like what your saying My whole life changed, when I changed the way I thought about myself the abuse I went through for 4 years. I won't lie it was very intense and it could have ruined my life. But it actually, because of how I learned to change my perspective and how I thought about myself, it turned out to empower me and lead to my Spiritual Awakening. I'm grateful for all I went through. That bring said, I realize that I do still have Trauma in my body and have been diagnosed with CPTSD. I don't identify with that label that not who I am, it's just something in aware of that will effect me sometimes I get TRIGGERED, and I'm Healing from all that. I'm learning allot from you Suki so Thankyou so much for making these videos and being of service to us all. Your really appreciated! Mahalo 🙏💖✨🧘
Good reminder...we do get stuck saying "Im traumatized" because it was the 1st step to healing. We recognize trauma happened to us. Then you get so focused on healing from it, it becomes part of your mindset "I'm trying to heal because I've been traumatized". Also, sometimes you use it to defend yourself from others judgment of your struggles & coping mechanisms that you tell them "I struggle because I've been traumatized", especially when it started from birth & your nervous system has been wired to see danger all the time. It really does become your identity! Parts work & the "Self" helps me to separate myself from it. Thank you for your work. 💜
Thank you, I needed to hear this. I have never realized that I actually have a very strong identification with my traumatizing childhood story, until watching this video. Of course this identification doesn't dissolve immediately, but now I can start working on it. Thank you!
Suki Baxter you are a Godsend. I just found you & have been suffering from terrible stomach issues. This makes so much sense. I viewed a few of your other videos with the exercises with putting your hand on your head & looking in opposite direction. Wow. What a difference.
it is very touchy subject that can be resolved through the body, because when inner child was hurt he needs specific type of care and assurance that it won't be repeated. If this job is not done than relationship between my adult and child parts will be broken forever. It require chemistry on the level of alchemy btw those counterparts. And there is no pace for lie. There is body work needs to be done and nothing less. But the problem is that adult can be scared as much as a child even he is not in denial. He might just himself become freezed. And then what?
Thank you for your videos. There are so many people out there who are not qualified to be speaking about mental health spreading miss information and your videos are very much based on actual science and the physiology of your body.
How very articulate, profound and philosophical! You’ve just described what I’ve unknowingly been doing with my life, and that is certainly the reason I have a very hard time letting things go.
Living in South Africa, I could barely focus on what you were saying, kept waiting for someone to snatch your phone! The second time you made a lot of sense. 😋
That was really interesting. When I verbalized (just now) to myself: I experienced trauma…I felt a shift & a release. Thank you 🙏😍 I also did your vagus nerve massage. That was amazing! Keep doing what you’re doing - it’s truly helpful 💜
When you say: "Words are extremely powerful. They are vocalized expression of an embodied experience. They arrive from a lived experience that is attempting to express in a way that can be comprehended by other humans. " my eyes goes bigger and bigger - wow! small change in words I'm using to describe my experience and sooo much difference in a way i feel about myself! thank you
Thank you for this easy explanation of how to continue evolving after experiencing trauma. I feel inspired with renewed hope to move past the trauma that I have experienced and look forward to a fulfilling journey.
I like this way of thinking about my trauma as an experience.I see myself as a work in progress so this is can help me deal with it in a more positive way than I have in the past. Thank you!
Thank you for the good advice. One question; When you compare a human to a boat that is knocked off course by a wave, wouldn't it be better to let the waves lead your way, help you experience things you wouldn't have experienced without the wave? Instead of thinking that we have a specific goal then let the journey be the goal? That way every experience is shaping you and helping you and not obstructing you... Thanks again for doing this!
THANK YOU!!!!!!! i needed to be reminded that everything changes and nothing is permanent!
Thank you Suki. Amazingly helpful video. I am in the process of healing from a traumatic childhood and thanks to your video I have realised that I have accepted trauma as part of my identity. Shifting perspective to : experiencing traumatic situations is something that I can feel a small shift occured, which I can sense will have a massive ripple effect on all the healing that I continue with :) thank you xxx I am very grateful for this 💓
Beautiful distinction between experiencing trauma and being traumatised. Love how by wording things differently, it can help change our perspective of how we view ourselves and the experience of trauma. When I think of trauma, it comes to mind the art of Kintsugi. The beautiful Japanese art of repairing an object, vase or ceramics with golden or silver lacker, and seeing the object with even more beauty after. The embellished mending becomes part of the life of the object rather than just pieces put together. It goes much deeper than that. This philosophy, helped me to transform the way I thought of trauma. Much love and light ✨ 💕
terrific and insightful, this is the discussion we all need, perhaps at no time have we become so consciously unconscious, have we opened the gates to trauma. Its always hopeful to shift the frame, and let in lots of space around whatever is constantly arising as you noted. your modality is more than intriguing. thanks..
How does all this apply to someone who has Dissociative Identity Disorder?
Great distinction to make, that trauma can impact our bodies and our lives, yet we are not the trauma. In our wholeness we are so much more.
Thanks, that was very insightful! As someone who experiences chronic anxiety from childhood abuse I totally get the nuance of what you are saying. I have been in and out of therapy for over three decades and after awhile, it feels like this condition is a life time sentence. The shift from I am "damaged goods" to actually my past trauma is sculpting me into a more integrated and freer person energizes a sense of empowerment for change.
I encourage you to look into therapists who do Somatic experience, Brain spotting or EMDR. Only a small number of therapists study this in comparison to the total number. You can read more about these methods.
Same mindset helps so much
Check out body somatic experiencing and inner child work it's amazing.
@@nausheeniffathenayathullah9731 what is brain spotting
Excellent takeaway. Thx for your point of view.
Thankyou this is very helpful to hear, I have been finding ways of healing from trauma I experienced as a child and throughout my teens and early adulthood. Yoga helped me see my body as less of an object and instead of living material always changing, still learning, with room for new pathways. This sits comfortably with reframing my mindset. It does give me hope, and it is becoming less rooted in my identity. X
That's beautiful, Emilee. It sounds like yoga has been quite a healing force in your life.
I couldn’t agree with you more. That’s why I always tell my daughter that it’s important to address and work on the issues but you should never let it define you. My mother had arthritis and when ever people used to ask her about it she always say was doing fine, because she had more important and better things in her life to focus on then arthritis. One can work on their trauma without letting it consumed or define you.
I've experienced trauma vs I am trauma.....I love that! I l am going to reflect that, thank you! I really like to be able feel like myself again. God bless
Thinks video is awesome!!! I love the freeing idea that growth and change is possible for anyone who's experienced trauma. Thank you for making this video and working to free people from perceived learned helplessness!
This is so spot on. Language and identity are so important for psychological change. Thanks for this distinction. I experienced trauma. Traumatized is not an identity.
You are correct the body is constantly rebuilding ,as are the nervous system response. Change the input you change the outcomes.
i hear what you are saying about not being trapped into what caused your trauma, but everyone says do the work, get dirty, don't you have to know what caused your trauma and talk about it to get out of a fixed state? my thinking is you haven't processed it yet? you are just relieving it? don't you need to talk it out to move on? i'm always trying to figure out what the work is. i am more than willing to do the work, like everyone says, but it's so frustrating when you don't know what the work is. i've been reading on this topic for years and i am not quite sure what to actually do to heal. thank you for the video!
Your questions really resonate with me. I studied social work and psychology in school, saw a great counselor off and on for a decade, have read tons of books, learned to meditate (which took forever), been on personal growth retreats... you get the picture. Super willing to do the “work,” and also feeling like I’m still missing something. Watching Sukie’s videos and doing the exercises helped me realize something my counselor tried to help me see at least a decade ago. Talking was part of the process, and it helped a lot, but the part I couldn’t find wasn’t in my mind, it was/is in my body. No amount of “figuring it out” was helping, but tilting my head one way and moving my eyes the other way is releasing something I still don’t understand the way my brain thinks of understanding (with words). It feels crazy that something so simple can solve something I’ve worked so hard for so long to solve, but I can absolutely feel the difference. Hope that helps in some small way. 💕 Side note: I recommend doing it at the end of the day the first few times to see how your body responds. I’ve fallen asleep in the middle of the day twice and slept 17 hours yesterday/last night.
@@Zenplify thanks!
We learn as we go through life. And lessons appear. I reckon trauma is a stagnating pattern (after the traumatising is over) of an experience designed to make our lives better or in some way the greater transpersonal world a better place by integrating it, by turning perceived s**t into gold, true alchemy. When we do that i feel we no longer identify with the trauma and learn the lessons from it, put those lessons into practice in our lives then release it by changing our narrative to a balanced and relaxed one allowing us to have an open and relaxed mindset which will make our social world, the world in general and our inner world much more enjoyable and safe. Hope this helps 🙏
So true! My husband and sister died over 3 years ago only 2 weeks apart.
And I’m getting better over the trauma of this. Your statements are so true… thank you. I will continue to follow you as your the only one that made sense to me.
Wow. I discovered your channel about a week ago during a low, and I can already feel applying your wisdom has had a real impact on my perspective. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
this was wonderful. we are always changing and evolving. i feel better just listening to this. please keep making videos, thank you :)
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR TAKING ABOUT THIS VERY IMPORTANT SUBJECT OF TRAUMA! I have been re-watching this video several times a day! It has shifted my perspective significantly and finally I am hopeful that by virtue of neuroplasticity and the body’s natural process of healing, I can evolve into what I WANT TO BECOME rather than remain stuck in the story of my broken vase!
Helpful beyond words! I’m extremely grateful for your work 🙏
You are a beautiful soul. Yes we need to change the narrative. We are not our traumas. We are immortal timeless beings living on earth to learn.
We all need to stop dragging around our traumas, projecting them onto others and letting them rule our lives 🙌🙏✊❤️
This is so hopeful. The problem for many of us lay with the lack of tools to deal with the trauma(s) we experienced. In addition we encountered many insensitive people who denied that our individual experiences were traumatic. We also struggled with therapists “formulas” which involved us taking control of our thoughts when in reality many times we encountered triggers that took us from zero to 60 thereby allowing us no time to initiate their formulas. Finally a sensitive, ongoing means of starting the journey toward resolution of past or ongoing trauma.
Oh that is so me! Zero to 100 in a matter of seconds, without even having a chance to decide my reaction to a trigger. I can have “freak out” moments over the littlest thing. It sux so bad! I don’t want to be stuck in this vicious cycle anymore. It’s been affecting my health for years, especially gut health, which has then lead to other health problems. I just never knew how important the brain/gut connection really was, and what was the ROOT cause of my health conditions. Now I know! I couldn’t be any happier that I found this channel! ❤️
Hi:)) i would love to interview you for my podcast ‘Zoom O’clock with Tessy Antony de Nassau’ about the topic of trauma. Extremely relevant and i am sure my audience would appreciate it
Geez~ you show up in my back yard after I move? 🤣🤣🤣
Maybe you could go home via Arizona way....
I have experienced PTSD on two different occasions. One as a soldier and once witnessing two deaths as a civilian. I have experienced trauma but I cannot get rid of what it did to my body. I have tried meditation, this type of thinking, yoga, exercise, etc. This PTSD has left me with Fibromyalgia and a pile of other disorders and I really feel completely broken. There are no doctors here in Canada who can help me and I feel completely lost.
Hopefully she can answer- but praying & reading the Bible can help too 🙏🏻 In the Bible read the Gospels & you’ll see that you came from God & all he has for you- healing & deliverance. We’ve know many break that PTSD- by having faith in Gods Word 🙌 Blessings to you.
Look up Dr. Gabor Mate he’s in Vancouver. Check him out. He’s done wonders for me. I CPTSD
Extremely interesting and encouraging for all those who have experienced trauma in their lives. I can tell you have a genuine and sincere desire to help people ,thankyou for your great work.
Your videos have really helped me! I love that you show us exactly what we need to do in so many of your videos and show the movements. I always see so many people talk about trauma and releasing trauma and the vagus nerve etc but I don’t often see the logistical physical way that people recommend healing them, and many of your videos do that so thank you 🫶
Those waves behind you nerve me after you explained the danger : )
btw yes, we are a constant changing energetic formation, a devine expression in/as vibrant consciousness.
Lol, I know, right?! Fortunately, I survived. They were crazy big though and at one point a wave came up past me on the beach -- fortunately it was small and didn't hit me directly but after that, I was outta there!
Yes, once one is identified with the trauma, it is indeed very difficult to rewrite the brain. It’s a tightrope one has to walk, yes while one can’t dissociate from what happened it’s also important to avoid over identification…. Both can be equally unhelpful in the healing process as both are polarities- over identified or dissociated. And I understand that dissociation is a coping mechanism, so I am not judging anyone here, merely expressing my perspective.
Sukie, I've been caught in this trauma identity trap unwittingly, just the way you described it! Thanks for helping bring this awareness to me. It's going to help keep me from getting stuck often in periods of anxiety. Bring on the ongoing evolution of my life! Healing and transforming, not stuck. Much appreciated.
Love the emphasis on not allowing what happened to us (or our ancestors) to become our identity. Hard to heal and move on if you believe it’s who you are.
This is an interesting distinction that makes sense. However, I have no idea how to do this on the level that would make an actual shift in my perception. It’s not enough to recognize it on an intellectual level, my subconscious and heart have to buy into this fully. What’s the process beyond the words? ThanK you.
Subconscious works with repetition. Also, a good vegan wfpb no sos goes a long way too. Beans!
the process could be: trust
gentle but frequent reminders to yourself when you’re struggling :)
Really interesting, the self identifying becomes almost like a mantra. 'I'm f!!ed', 'my mother abandonded me' or 'it's them,not me'.
Can you explain a bit more about 'Neuro-processes are open to reshaping'?
It'd be amazing to see an actual close up of what happens in the mind during all of these changes.
It’s great the way you have showed a different way to think about - to many labels are thrown around and you stuck in them! We have choice to hold on to trauma or make peace with it
sometimes you are knocked off course by a pirate ship that deliberately kept knocking into you for years, trying to send u into the bermuda triangle haha. But even if you are in the bermuda triangle, you wouldn't be the first to make it out
She’s brillant
I so agree about how we speak tells our story. I had no words that seem to be heard as a child of developmental issues. I learned how to tell people what they wanted to hear and therefore denied my authenticity to develop. I have worked on changing my inner dialogue over my lifetime because my body kept breaking down due to stress of untrue inner belief and not knowing how to articulate appropriately. I have had polyps removed from my throat, complete hysterectomy due to child abuse and not being nurtured or believed at the time ( 3) yrs old. Many other problems physically because of inner language.
I have used mantras, pinup words of affirmation. You are so correct about neuroplasticity . I have actually bridged the gap between my mid brain responses to my executor frontal cortex. I was stuck in response mode and had to train my brain to be in the NOW . It’s taken many trail and error to even get introspection but I am hopeful for future generations because of the understanding of the whole as opposed to my treatment of ECT and bad medications that truly made things worse for my particular issues.
We are understanding so much more about our ecosystem (self) and all that comes with the development of the brain from pre- birth to historical trauma.
I see this as hopeful for our humanity.
Thank you
I love the way you frame us humans as process vs object
Yes, exactly! Very well expressed. This describes my approach, not to be defined by traumatic experience. Have not heard this view before. Thanks for confirming so clearly!
Thanks Sukie! I appreciate the clarification. As someone who has “dis-covered” trauma held in my body (thank you plant medicine!), it’s been an interesting (weird/ challenging/ beautiful) journey figuring out how to work with these symptoms while not attaching myself to some label or narrative of being “traumatized”.
what plant medicine was it and what did it do for you exactly if I may ask?
@@lisabignell1234 Think about it carefully. What plant medicine is popular these days?
Thank you. Very much better perspective.
I choose not to dwell on childhood trauma, and choose to focus on the here and now and the positive things in my life.
However I am 42 and recently realized that my constant intense anxiety is directly related to the violent trauma I experienced daily from age 5-14.
And that although I consciously did not think it was an issue for me any more, I am learning that I have subconscious fears, and automatic physical reactions to things and situations that are no longer dangerous.
I have forgiven the person who was violent against me and he got sober and we have a great relationship. I have raised 3 sons, and did not continue the cycle of violence or alcoholism that I experienced, and both my parents experienced.
How do I retrain my body that I am safe, when I already consciously view trauma the way you described and have for years?
You learn as you go through life. And lessons appear. I reckon trauma is a stagnation (after the traumatising is over) of an experience designed to make your life better or in some way the world a better place by integrating it, by basically turning perceived s**t into gold, true alchemy. The problem really is that, as they say, it is a learned helplessness from either repeated abuse or an overwhelming event which rocks your nervous system. This causes a pattern of automatic repeating processes in the body which is what we call trauma. When you fully acknowledge the 'what did i learn from it' consciously and in full awareness, you can more easily integrate it and put those lessons into practice in your life then by default release which will change your narrative to a balanced, integrated and relaxed one allowing you to have an open and relaxed mindset which will make your social world, the world in general and your inner world much more enjoyable and safe. You will no longer identify with the trauma. Hope this helps 🙏
Excellent videos, thank you.
Eveything you say makes perfect sense. I've already begun the shift. thank you!
This really helped me to view my trauma as traumatic experiences that I can integrate into who I am (learn and grow from) instead of a broken person. Thank you for this.
What are your thoughts on sleep meditations for healing mind and body while you sleep? I had a retraumatization yesterday and was experiencing emotional pain that honestly felt intolerable. I thought it would be a long, slow process (weeks? Months?) to feel alive and normal again. But somehow I woke up feeling exponentially better. It was such a surprise, I've never bounced back so quickly. The sleep meditation was the only variable. Thoughts?
As I wish to recover from my trauma x 2, not least to avoid passing them on to anyone else, thank you Sukie for articulating yourself on both of these important to me subjects 😊
Working on this with my therapist it's so so powerful and empowering !!
One more thing, if one experiences trauma as a toddler and essentially never grows up, doesn't develop properly, has no friends etc, then what happens if he/starts to release this trauma in his/her mid 30s?
Does he/she start to just develop naturally?
You learn as you go through life anyway. Whether you've experienced trauma or not. When you no longer identify with the trauma and learn the lessons from it, put those lessons into practice in your life then release it by chabging the narrative you will have a more open and relaxed mindset which will make your social world much more enjoyable and safe. Hope this helps
Person first language. I am a person FIRST who has experienced trauma. I teach this a lot in my profession can list many examples but for instance for diagnoses of Schizophrenia. I am a person with a diagnoses of Schizophrenia. Not I am a Schizophrenic. Person centered care and person first language.
Thank you for this video! I know this is an older one, but I just found you and subscribed to your channel. ❤ I find it very interesting that trauma is passed down generationally. I can definitely see that, as my family has had a lot of trauma in one way or another. I dealt with 9 years of childhood trauma. I will mention your channel to my son and daughter as they deal with anxiety and I think they could really find your information very helpful. Thank you so much!
I believe that language when it innaccurately repsents what it's being employed to describe, renders the perception that springs from it faulty. Trauma causes the same sort of flawed thinking. The elegance of your term "living processes" to describe being, avoids the clumsy use of language that makes commonplace the mistakes of linking self identity to fixed, dead, labels.
Great comment!
This made me think of us like a living blood vessel with our spirit flowing through and trauma creates a clog. Some life spirit can get through but its greatly reduced and sporadic. We are not broken, we need the clog to get chipped away to let the flow free.
Not sure if you read comments from old videos- I hope you do cause I just now found you in YT- have already saved your videos on anxiety ect. Just would like to know question on this one please ❤
Thank you. This was very helpful.
Thank you
Thanks for your insight and encouragement Sukie. It is a process and process is progress for me. 💜
Wow, very powerful. Thank you so much for this video!
Awesome teaching! This is vital if we are to heal :)
This is SO helpful, Sukkie! Thank you!! ❤
❤️. Helping so much.
Thank you so much for this and your healing videos here!
You are so funny. You have much wisdom about the body and mind. Thank you. 😇
thank you !
Ok what you said was good- but how do you release the trauma you experienced at a young age???
Also, you are 100% right about the usefullness of over repeating stories, it is counter-productive. Yet it's encouraged and pushed in the counselling world. I'd be pushing for these embodiment practices, there is actual physical evidence that it works!
Thank you for speaking these words and reshaping this was to self identify.
Thank you.
What is up with the outside videos? They have external noise that is not that great - just a note.
The wave analogy was good. I appreciate that!
I really like what your saying My whole life changed, when I changed the way I thought about myself the abuse I went through for 4 years. I won't lie it was very intense and it could have ruined my life. But it actually, because of how I learned to change my perspective and how I thought about myself, it turned out to empower me and lead to my Spiritual Awakening. I'm grateful for all I went through. That bring said, I realize that I do still have Trauma in my body and have been diagnosed with CPTSD. I don't identify with that label that not who I am, it's just something in aware of that will effect me sometimes I get TRIGGERED, and I'm Healing from all that. I'm learning allot from you Suki so Thankyou so much for making these videos and being of service to us all. Your really appreciated! Mahalo 🙏💖✨🧘
This perspective on the human life excites me so much!
You’re a beautiful human. ..oh and smart
❤️❤️❤️
Another awesome video thank you
Good reminder...we do get stuck saying "Im traumatized" because it was the 1st step to healing. We recognize trauma happened to us. Then you get so focused on healing from it, it becomes part of your mindset "I'm trying to heal because I've been traumatized". Also, sometimes you use it to defend yourself from others judgment of your struggles & coping mechanisms that you tell them "I struggle because I've been traumatized", especially when it started from birth & your nervous system has been wired to see danger all the time. It really does become your identity! Parts work & the "Self" helps me to separate myself from it. Thank you for your work. 💜
What is parts work? Is that a healing method? Thanks
Thank you this is helpful
Stop manipulation and speak truth
Thank you. I will be using this in my work!
Awesome! I'm happy to hear that!
the persistence of memory........ugh.
Thank you this is so helpful!
This my save my like xx ❤️😚😚
Bless you & thank you!
Thank you very much 🙏
Thank you, I needed to hear this. I have never realized that I actually have a very strong identification with my traumatizing childhood story, until watching this video. Of course this identification doesn't dissolve immediately, but now I can start working on it. Thank you!
Suki Baxter you are a Godsend. I just found you & have been suffering from terrible stomach issues. This makes so much sense. I viewed a few of your other videos with the exercises with putting your hand on your head & looking in opposite direction. Wow. What a difference.
This sounds hopeful.
it is very touchy subject that can be resolved through the body, because when inner child was hurt he needs specific type of care and assurance that it won't be repeated. If this job is not done than relationship between my adult and child parts will be broken forever. It require chemistry on the level of alchemy btw those counterparts. And there is no pace for lie. There is body work needs to be done and nothing less. But the problem is that adult can be scared as much as a child even he is not in denial. He might just himself become freezed. And then what?
Thank you for your videos. There are so many people out there who are not qualified to be speaking about mental health spreading miss information and your videos are very much based on actual science and the physiology of your body.
How very articulate, profound and philosophical!
You’ve just described what I’ve unknowingly been doing with my life, and that is certainly the reason I have a very hard time letting things go.
Living in South Africa, I could barely focus on what you were saying, kept waiting for someone to snatch your phone! The second time you made a lot of sense. 😋
That was really interesting. When I verbalized (just now) to myself: I experienced trauma…I felt a shift & a release. Thank you 🙏😍 I also did your vagus nerve massage. That was amazing! Keep doing what you’re doing - it’s truly helpful 💜
Amen. This information seems valuable, and i'm sure i will find it useful in facilitating some healing. :D Thanks Sukie
When you say: "Words are extremely powerful. They are vocalized expression of an embodied experience. They arrive from a lived experience that is attempting to express in a way that can be comprehended by other humans. " my eyes goes bigger and bigger - wow! small change in words I'm using to describe my experience and sooo much difference in a way i feel about myself! thank you
Thank you for this easy explanation of how to continue evolving after experiencing trauma. I feel inspired with renewed hope to move past the trauma that I have experienced and look forward to a fulfilling journey.
I like this way of thinking about my trauma as an experience.I see myself as a work in progress so this is
can help me deal with it in a more positive way than I have in the past. Thank you!
I love this, you know you’ve been traumatized but you do not allow it to become who you are.
I thought I had a beer left in the fridge but there wasn't...it broke me!
You've got some of the best Coho Fishing in the world right at your door step.
Thank you for opening this new pathway in my mind!
Thank you for the encouraging words.
how does one seek support when ppl are still trying to break you?
Maybe try removing them from your life?
@@nausheeniffathenayathullah9731 not till ALL is said
Thank you for the good advice. One question; When you compare a human to a boat that is knocked off course by a wave, wouldn't it be better to let the waves lead your way, help you experience things you wouldn't have experienced without the wave? Instead of thinking that we have a specific goal then let the journey be the goal? That way every experience is shaping you and helping you and not obstructing you...
Thanks again for doing this!