Are Some Things Unacceptable ?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 พ.ย. 2024
- It would seem that some things in life are unacceptable. However when we really look at the mechanism of acceptance and non-acceptance we see a surprising thing. That is that acceptability is not intrinsic to experience as it might appear. How can we more clearly investigate our tendency to react? Is it possible to live in equanimity where reactivity is a thing of the past? How can we go about that?
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I don’t tend to have too many conversations around bad things anymore as I can see both sides equally valid and not a lot of people understand that. It’s definitely a taboo subject when you can completely understand the views of the so called ‘bad’ side. I guess that’s why this can be a lonely path sometimes as I don’t find many that I can relate to. I kinda hang out here a lot for the like minded people
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@@markfuller well said
I believe that's referred to as the "alt-middle" 😊
@@markfuller that’s exactly it. I can see that side too. 😂😂
@@markfuller it most definitely comes from a place of compassion and more importantly a place of love. It also runs down into the being and knowing of the truth that we are all one and the same, so there is no right or wrong. It’s a longing to understand both sides instead of the usual I have all the answers, everyone and everything is the teacher and if I can understand another persons point of view then I can learn and improve my being.
Humans will always find a way to turn good things bad (think TNT, internet, factory farming) I think the most important thing is to not see things as good or bad but more what can I learn here from seeing both sides with the same amount of love.
Speaking as someone raised in a Jewish family in the shadow of the Holocaust, I have always asserted the absolute primacy of realizing that wanting something NOT to have happened is a kind of madness. People who say that genocide shouldn't happen are like camels with their heads in the sand. Genocide, cancer, the unexpected death of loved ones happen. It couldn't be simpler. The Holocaust is the perfect test for the action of denial. So just as is said in this video, it's really interesting to explore why we are addicted to deny the existence of the actual. What motivates that?
Good job explaining a difficult concept. Nope, no-thing can be resisted unless you want to carry around unnecessary baggage. All opinions are to be avoided with forgiveness. Opinions are how your ego holds your attention. Resistance breeds resistance. The only way out is break the chain is to stop resisting what is. The ego is tricky and well practiced, it has used the idea of opinion creation to hold your attention for your whole life. When you learn to drop all opinions as fake creations, what is left is a profound peace. A sense of being in a meditation all the time.
Well said
Exactly!
5:54 Hah!😂 “It feels like you’re getting away w something “. YES. OMG to have the inner super power of equanimity despite negativity that many people spew 😐 This is one of your best videos ❤
We don’t need opinions, feelings, or thoughts about most things. It’s perfectly ok to suspend judgement in most situations. We don’t always NEED to formulate and then reinforce a viewpoint.
Agreed
Background...the ocean is in a drop of water!... I use to have the shoulda. Woulda. Coulda loop after anything gone wrong very distressing... Still amazed that now all I say to myself is "ok" calm neutral feeling then move on...so grateful for this...
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Well spoken and really neat background ☺️💙
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So clear.
No BS and no pandering to BS.
I’ve heard this many times and probably preached it even more.
Yet still I fight, still this defiance of life as it is…
Thank you for saying it again.
Cheers Angelo! 👍What a well-timed, mind blowing video. Makes perfect sense. Only this presence here-now, as it is...sensations... Nothing to react to.... Gotcha! Thanks for the tips. 🙏
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Thanks for another great video. They're all wonderful, but I really liked this one. Equanimity really is the superior topic.
(Also, quick shout out to your thumbnail game ❤️🔥. It's real good)
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Agree, and this background is awesome too. Silver tic tac UFOs hovering over the ocean. 😎
Thank you Angelo, I’ve been very reactive to my detriment and needed to hear this. I’m adding this to my toolkit!
Wonderful!
And once we realize we can't change the present we spend our lives trying to change the future in order to modify the present..
Acceptance of what is.. thank you, this was a powerful reminder for me for every thing you pointed to. Very helpful video for my journey rt now ❤️
Glad it was helpful!
I would always get caught up in stressful situations or so I thought, I find now I don't rush around now, and the sense of urgency has completely gone...
Thanks for your videos Angello
Much love from Ireland ❣ 🇮🇪
Awesome, glad to hear it
grace can stop it . I can only see it but the stopping is from grace . I had this happen on some part of my ego and then I burned and a part of it stopped . But to your truth we have no control. This is the depth of surrender and acceptance
Can u talk about grieving ,about loss of somebody ? Even if loss is positively justified the way its normal its natural there is better place we all go .. etc .. is still painful and creates suffering deep in the heart
Maybe in future video
Byron Katie's Loving What Is opened my eyes to this. I am so grateful.
She’s great resource
Beautiful! Simple and so resonant. The stealth assertion of a false self is the slippery part of the process. Very lovely. Thank you. Love. - BB
You are so welcome
Thank you
Angelo - this fundamental resistance to what already is has consistently contracted in my throat for years. I was just watching it in tonights practice and trying to work out why the contraction is always in one place.
To be clear - the minds not trying to make a narrative about why it contracts here because it doesnt matter - but does everyone have certain points that are their specific contraction point? Is it just how bodies are wired?
Should I work in any particular way regarding where mind perceives it is (because it appears to be in a specific location)? I haven't reached the there's no space or location insight yet.
Very logical habit right!? 😂 "No to what already is - I simply cant allow you to already be exactly you inarguably already are!"
We're flipping nuts! It makes no sense - yet there it is!
In the relative realm, we need to do our best to create a better and truly moral world.
Of course
Background awesome. Quite profound itself. Thumbnail😜sends home your message which was one I needed to hear. Thank you as always.
You’re welcome :)
The clarity of this view on equanimity, wow.
It’s a very simple and satisfying way to live but it’s almost almost always overlooked as a possibility. We really believe that reactivity is built into being human. But it’s not. It’s a learned trait.
@@SimplyAlwaysAwake Of this video in particular I loved the realization that what we see has already happened, it is already in the past, nothing can be done to change the past. This is a powerful thougth I want to use it despite it is still a thought ;)
what a valuable priceless video about equanimity. It helps a lot to understand how suffering is created by useless thoughts about and resistance to what actually IS.
Thank you Angelo 🙏
By the way, the backgrounds of the videos are always amazing.
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So it's not about removing suffering itself but the layers on top that are reactionary and delusional that awakening will remove?
After awakening we are far more able to address this layer of reactivity that feels like us but it actually isn’t :)
I once had a phase where I could accept things as they were because i recognised the chaos that rejection caused. But now I dont know how to do it. The state of detachment just isn't there. I'm always in a state of acceleration and seeking. It may have something to do with the love for life.
Thank you 🙏🏾 again
No problem 😊
Great video❣️
Do you have your book available in audio??
Not yet :)
Please do I'm extremely lazy
I think this is your best video up to this point. I did not get a fear response. It even made my morning better. But... (i know) could you give me an example of such a cost? Would that lie in line with my outside world paying the price for me not wanting something to be a certain way?
Is that why I feel like nothing bad ever happens to me, but always to others? Is that why it's so hard for me to be empathic?
Hard to know the specifics of your situation but I think it’s important to be sensitive to those issues, even if just intellectually, “how am I affecting others?” Or “how did my words or actions affect so and so?” In a specific situation.
@@SimplyAlwaysAwake Lets say I did not want war. What kind of price would I pay for that. And lets say I wanted to be social and happy, what kind of price would that have? Just as a comparison of outside vs inside changes...
Hilarious thumbnail: some of my work colleagues need to see that thumbnail to remind them of how things work.😆
Yes, people have the tendency to go to 'worst case scenarios' if someone suggests that the line between what's good and what's bad might not even be part of actual reality, but that these are ideas that come from human minds, and seem apparent in other organisms. It seems absolutely absurd that that could be the case, so no surprise that people being exposed to the possibility might give a 'worst case scenario' response. Their entire worldview is being questioned.
Yes, and their sense of agency which doesn't depart without a fight 😆... moistly internal
Angelo, I’m really interested in working with you in a 1 on 1 or small group setting. Is this something that you facilitate?
Unfortunately I’m chronically overbooked but I do online retreats on occasion . Mailing list is landing page at books.SimplyAlwaysAwake.com
I was the 420th view and the 69th like, and the ouroboros-will folded back upon itself when this message clicked : )
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Dear Angelo
People in my country are going through a huge crisis and suffering with no basic needs due to corruption of its leaders. They react out of their suffering in order to get justice
Are you suggesting people should respond and not react, and how should we do this?
Please explain
Thankyou
First of all I’m very sorry to hear about this situation. While your current external circumstances are unfavorable, your inner circumstance is quite favorable indeed. That you are interested in this subject and oriented toward awakening is fortuitous. You CAN find freedom inwardly. This has been accomplished by people in the worst of circumstances (Victor Frankl -Mans search for meaning). So for you specifically I would work toward awakening - a distinct and undeniable shift in what you rage yourself to be. This is best accomplished through self-inquiry or one pointed approach as described in my book and the playlist awakening approaches. Once that has occurred you can start working toward equanimity as per this video and the playlist. It’s very difficult to understand it conceptually it really is a practice based movement, but you certainly have what is needed to achieve this ❤️
Thanks a lot 🙏🏽
@@niranjiperera774 ❤️ where do you live BTW?
I live in the UK originally from SriLanka where the unrest is❤️
Ok but how about activity/doership (illusory or not)? For instance, if I sit at the desk at work, I would like nothing more than to stop working. The idea of "duty" or whatever future I imagine is a thought. But if I go like this more than, say, an hour, it's going to be a problem. Sorry for a very crude example, but seems to me quite real-life.
Not sure exactly what you are asking. But it’s certainly possible to work for more than an hour without reflecting on what you want to do or not want to do.
@@SimplyAlwaysAwakesorry I probably wasn't clear enough on what I'm saying (trying to wrap my head around some of these ideas) but actually this is a good pointer, thank you :)
I have done deep deep enquiry. I have seen through the illusion of separation, I experience the body as a boundary less field. There are no components in sensation for me just one field of union , boundless , stretching infinitely out through space and time , from this place of no self I performed inquiry, is there anything that is unacceptable? And I had the deep full realisation, The Disney Star Wars Movies , they are completely unacceptable.
What to do if you are confronted to a weird situation, imagine someone gonna kill a baby in front of you, what is the right response when you are awaken ?
What if you can't escape what's happening ie abusive relationship
Find practical means to leave the relationship, safe house if needed... there are resources. You can even call 911, the police will come and they can get you out and to a safe location.
This might be asking a lot. But can you explain heart awakening please?
The way Adyashanti refers?
@@SimplyAlwaysAwake I don't quite have an idea. I experienced kensho early March. The freakout subsided after a few weeks. Dualism has thinned out steadily and I'm learning to acclimatize. But there's has never been that blissful, compassionate, vulnerable nature to it. I did some forgiveness meditation. Found much old pain. Had some nice cries. And feel more open to compassion. My teacher suggested to look into heart practices and gave me some resources, but I love the explanations your books and video have had, so coming from this channel, it would be...more intuitive for me to integrate into what I learned from here. It might be a lot so no pressure :) Your pointing along with all other teachers has been such a gift already. Ultimately for as long as I am alive, I just want to live from a place of love and compassion...primarily for wife and daughter. I'm not interested in experiences or states specifically if they don't result in this. Many thanks
@@pandmantom Tina Rasmussen &/or Stephen Snyder may be of help.
@@VeritableVagabond many thanks 😊
Ok so that’s helpful context. It usually comes more with equanimity and non-dual realization. The playlists describe these approaches. I wouldn’t necessarily make that goal a litmus test for your experience or there can be unnecessary doubt, just work with what is presented moment to moment with a willingness to clarify living truth and all things will unfold naturally :)
i dont see your reflection in that hovering sphere of alchemical mercury
My editing skills are always evolving but haven’t figured that one out yet 😂😂
I would like to join your patron. Would you steer me in the right direction?
should be a join or membership button on my main channel page. Then the options are there :)
Yes, I joined a couple of days ago.
I was checking to see if you had one via your website.
Thanks for your sharing.
You have brought some clarity.
And it’s simple.
Have you ever noticed that space is fake?
Yes it’s a mental overlay
That's gotta be the most subdued synonym for bullshit that I've heard, haha.
lol what is with that thumbnail
It made me laugh
search for "lemongrab unacceptable" and you will understand the truth