As a 4, I had a crush with a 9. When he said he was confused about his feelings I screamed at him and I cried and he was super upset yet calm. Same happens when I fight with my sister, she acts extremelly collected while I'm losing my mind. So yes, reactive types expect reactions from others. And we can become upset if we don't get them. That doesn't mean they have to change, obviously. Love you all 🤎
This is so concise and easy to follow!! Thank you!! Sometimes I score 1w2, sometimes I score 2w1, and other times I score 4. I came here to try to understand which one was the "right" one. After listening to this, I'm realizing I'm both. Yes, I would absolutely love a more 6 video!! You are helping me understand myself, which is a massive gift 🙏🏻
I was just coming back to 4 vs 2 yesterday then you posted a video about it! Thank you for the excellent content. Excited to see if you make enfp compared to infj (I believe they are quite similar when they are alone)
Here's some help (be honest): - Have you ever felt deep in yourself (maybe unconsciously) that you just don't deserve happiness? Like happiness is outside you and will never reach you? Then you may be a 4 - Have you ever felt deep in yourself (maybe unconsciously) that others are mean, even traitors, because they don't appreciate your favors or intentions? Then you may be a 2 Now, a VERY GOOD WAY to know for sure if you're a 4 or a 2: Look at your "healthy self". The healthy self of the 4 is 1. Most of the times, our healthy self scares us to death because is the shadows we need to fight that drive us to light. So, when we're scared, we may feel rage, or disgust, or other disagreeable feelings. I ask you: have you ever felt a lot of rage / anger / other uncomfortable feelings towards a person of the type 1? Then you are a 4. Maybe you hate 1's urge to accomplish other's expectations, or how easily they express themselves without overthinking their emotions. Now, type 2s become healthier when they practice some of the healthy traits of enneagram 4. Maybe you need to fight the shadows of codependency and reject, or the believe that others need you to be happy instead of accepting that everyone builds happiness on their own. But fighting shadows scares us to death, and we can start seeing 4s as selfish (a selfishness that 2s could use to balance excessive altruism), reactive and ungrateful. I ask you: have you ever felt a lot of rage / anger / other uncomfortable feelings towards a person of the type 4? Then you may be a 2.
I'd be interested in more in depth one like this, comparing differences with friends like my esfj 2w3 friend and me being 974 so our heart triad difference
As a 4, I had a crush with a 9. When he said he was confused about his feelings I screamed at him and I cried and he was super upset yet calm. Same happens when I fight with my sister, she acts extremelly collected while I'm losing my mind. So yes, reactive types expect reactions from others. And we can become upset if we don't get them. That doesn't mean they have to change, obviously. Love you all 🤎
ENTP type 5w4 here, with some social. This channel is the most informative to me. Thanks
This is so concise and easy to follow!! Thank you!! Sometimes I score 1w2, sometimes I score 2w1, and other times I score 4. I came here to try to understand which one was the "right" one. After listening to this, I'm realizing I'm both. Yes, I would absolutely love a more 6 video!! You are helping me understand myself, which is a massive gift 🙏🏻
I was just coming back to 4 vs 2 yesterday then you posted a video about it! Thank you for the excellent content. Excited to see if you make enfp compared to infj (I believe they are quite similar when they are alone)
Nice vid hehe
Would love to see a 4 vs 9.
Here's some help (be honest):
- Have you ever felt deep in yourself (maybe unconsciously) that you just don't deserve happiness? Like happiness is outside you and will never reach you?
Then you may be a 4
- Have you ever felt deep in yourself (maybe unconsciously) that others are mean, even traitors, because they don't appreciate your favors or intentions?
Then you may be a 2
Now, a VERY GOOD WAY to know for sure if you're a 4 or a 2:
Look at your "healthy self". The healthy self of the 4 is 1. Most of the times, our healthy self scares us to death because is the shadows we need to fight that drive us to light. So, when we're scared, we may feel rage, or disgust, or other disagreeable feelings. I ask you: have you ever felt a lot of rage / anger / other uncomfortable feelings towards a person of the type 1? Then you are a 4. Maybe you hate 1's urge to accomplish other's expectations, or how easily they express themselves without overthinking their emotions.
Now, type 2s become healthier when they practice some of the healthy traits of enneagram 4. Maybe you need to fight the shadows of codependency and reject, or the believe that others need you to be happy instead of accepting that everyone builds happiness on their own. But fighting shadows scares us to death, and we can start seeing 4s as selfish (a selfishness that 2s could use to balance excessive altruism), reactive and ungrateful. I ask you: have you ever felt a lot of rage / anger / other uncomfortable feelings towards a person of the type 4? Then you may be a 2.
I'd be interested in more in depth one like this, comparing differences with friends like my esfj 2w3 friend and me being 974 so our heart triad difference
please can you do 4 vs 9