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Ek video shdi k baad ladkiyo k dress sense k liye bi bnaye......
What's the solution of this issue? You haven't given the solution if a husband anger is uncontrollable what we could do
Yar ...sach main nayra ko kya karna chahiye??? I also Wants a proper solution.
Life Tak where is the Solution
Jab ham relationship me aate hai to hame ek dusare ko pahale samjhana chahiye ye first job hai...
Ek dusare ki kamjori or achhae bhi samjhni chahiye....
Issue's har jagah hoti hai usse solve karna chahiye.....
Or khaas kar ke ledies ko samjhna chahiye Men's hamesha unki tarah emotional nahi hote....
Men's like logical conversation not emotional....
Haan manta hu in relationship emotional hona chahiye lekin har waqt nahi....
Life sirf emotions ya sirf logic pe nahi chalti.....
Hame dono me balance bana ke rakhana hota hai.....
Julia Roberts said: "Women, you are not rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix him, change him, parent him. You want a partner, not a project."
Can't agree more,indian society treats women as someone who will "fix" their sons which is problematic on so many levels
My friend said men and woman are better separate and living healthy good life....the root cause of all this is marriage.
Wives should take care of their husband because this power of convincing has only been given to women...nd in this case...its the fault of the husband..bt she must cater his problem nd search for the correct time nd situation to put her side of that therapist point....nd here she suddenly enters nd starts nagging again..a guy who has such anger issues obviously will get morr angry
Good doctor Sahiba. Than why u want a husband, when u can't understand him. Means aapki soch rake koi to harek ka divorce ho jaye. And second thing, the same issue can happened with a wife too. On a flip side whats ur view. Means may a husband have to let her.
@@vs-kg3mm I have clearly said it. No need for marriage. Please live seperate and be happy. Where is the need of marriage.
People who want to come out of a problem can be supported and made to understand. But people who are not willing to sit and talk or understand things can't be helped at all and it's always better to quit from the situation.
Anger issues always a big deal in a relationship. But both should sit and talk and try to sort it out. Because running away from the issues will lead you no where.
@@aaniyaBisht isnt it obvious ki do logon mein se ek ka anger level doosre se zyada hoga ...aap chodkr nhi jaan chahte toh aap unhe poora mauka deke dekhiye ...achche se behaviour rkhiye, jis cheez se unhe issues hain matt kriye and sbse bdi cheez respect him and talk to him nicely . Support him for everything. Saamne wala zaroor reciprocate krega hi..aur aap negativity sbse pehle hataye apne andr se ..full mauka dijiye apne partner ko and also stop getting influenced by these types of videos (i can make this out from your comment) kyuki yeh log vid bnakr chle jayenge , brain wash aapka hoga aur loss aap aur aapke partner face kroge ....chodne ka option hi kyu rkhna hai ...shi kro , ghr bnao , todo matt ..it is the woman who is powerful mentally in a relation and she is the one who moulds the relation!!
@@aaniyaBisht honestly , agr baat mrne maarne ki hai toh ismein nobody else can help u other thn u ... jhagde ka solution aaram se baat krke bhi nikalta hai , kyu jhagda krna ..lekin if u are into an abusive relationship toh its better u take a stand for yourself. I will pray for u
Bilkul theek jawab.situation chor k bhag jane s solution nahi nikalta.sath beth k cool mood m discussion s sb solve hojata h.aur patience har rishte mai zruri hai from both sides.
Anger issues wale logo ko deal karne wale ko pata hota ki ye log kaise behave karte hai
Baki sab ko sirf baatein hi karni aati hai
In anger brain stops think logically what is in his brain it will comes out.
He is not ready to listen anything.
She knows what he is thinking about her.
She has to decide to stay with him or not.
If she wants stay with him she has to consult professional to know how to stay with him
Now there is no kids after kids she has to walk out with kids
From 15th day of my marriage my husband also used to lose temper and started beating me like animals😢😢😢.. And continue to raise hand till today. Aporrox ten yrs of my marriage. But my parents dont want me to break this marriage because we are not financially strong and even i cannot leave my child..
You should take some steps because it is wrong. Ye sahna bhi ek gunaah hai.. may you live happily. God bless you. And give you strength to take good decision in your life.
Be strong and independent..
Jo insan jesa krta hai wo b whi deserve krta hai 2 ulta maro usse jb tak darti rhogi aise hi sehti rhogi sehna bnd kro or ussi k gr rh kr uska jina hram kro ,aap k parents shhi khte hai usse nhi chodna mai b yhi khti hoo choda usse hai nhi tit for tat nd yes one more thing be independent..
I just feel your pain and getting pain myself
Why a woman have to do this all ?? She has to marry for raising a bad raised child ? It's their parent's responsibility not a wife . Wife will judt make a happy family with him. I just can't this rule of leaving a house of a girl after marriage and again stays with a boy's parents ? Then why they cannot stays with a girls parent's
@@nishawadhwa2372 kahna asan h, man are physically more powerful to palatkar marne ka option nahi hota
I just seen my self in the video....I am suffer with this excessive anger....But I am trying to come out from it...Thanks to life tak for opening my eyes
Very Good...☺️ keep ur anger side and priorities your relationship....😊😊
@@Anuandmaasi 😊😊 i will try my level best
@D C Prasad anger is good until one point but after crossing that point it will be a disease and make other suffer with our behaviour
Pehle biwi ko ek hug karke kiss karo. Anger aayega hi nahi
@D C Prasad I'm not saying anger is bad.. you can get angry for good reasons.. but getting angry for simple things .. abusing PPL in front of others.. it's a issue.. you're not only put yourself down.. but also insult the other person... In such cases.. you need to take professional help
I had same issues. I took professional help at 1st. Now I am learning slowly how to control.
Kudos to you for acknowledging the problem. Well begun is half done.
As per my experience these type of people never understand, never change. She should move in time. She has the right to live happily.
I faced the same issue.. Left him once and his anger increased.. Then I started excusing him for more than 10 times.. Excusing means after facing those anger also I take some time and talk to him normally as if nothing happened.. I know it is difficult.. But now I am very very very happy.. Because he came to know that I understood and excused him.. He was very guilty now and from 4 years nothing like that happened.. Sometimes time gives us answer..
Meri bhi same story he but ek bhi baar chod ke nahi gayi thi. But now I'm very happy... Now wo esa ek bhi kaam nahi he jo muje puche bina karte he..😊
Good to know that. Fingers crossed.
Bt my story is different I neither got angry nor left d home behaved as if nothing happened for my kids bt still m facing same issues
@Mr.A K problem is ..v all meditate bt he doesn't so hv to live remaining life like that only ..bt really thanx for suggestions 🙏🏻
@@kanchanjain5726 you badly need to talk to your husband or with someone else who will better understand you in all the ways....... bearing the things is not a solution.......if you are educated then you can take bold steps, like Became an independent women by leaving home along with kids or you really need to talk to your husbun.
My real life story😔... Everytime when I try to leave the house... Sometimes my mother in law stop me and sometime my own parents.. And everytime the same old reasons... Log kya kahenge... Bacho ka to socho.... Thoda adjust kar lo... But no one thinks about wife... Mothers will say... Bina gusse ka mard kaisa? ... No one ask him to correct himself. This whole society is same.
Yes even saturation point is also there for Nyra. How much she can tolerate? After all, she is also a human being. Don't forget it.
@BROCK LESNAR i dont have son, i am having 2 daughters
@BROCK LESNAR sure brother.... Thanks.
Same i m too facing.... Earlier in laws were supporting to help but right knw they understood that their son can't be normal so now they are giving their best to wrong me and proving it that i m mad
She should think about her life now.. her growth.. her mental peace... ❤️
He reminds me of when I used to get angry without any reason but yes your parents and partner play a major role in this and guide you of not doing it.
Asking for professional help is not a bad thing because something’s can’t be controlled even if we try a lot.
I was in the same situation a month ago.. 3 years of relationship and tolerated same shit just because I immensely loved him, tried to adjust, supported him in all ways, tried not to bring such topics but nothing worked. It took time for me to understand where this will lead to & I chose my mental peace. Utimately by God's grace I m out of it 🙏
Can totally connect to this...
Me too...than I left him
Good for you girl. Some are still there..
Same happened with me and after 5 years of relationship now I'm out of it having got nothing from it just a lot of mental and emotional trauma and a lot of public drama
She should leave and let herself be in peace
You did the right thing avoid domestic violence. this kind of behaviour lead to domestic violence
This is the realistic and unromanticized version of Kabir Singh. This is how tough it can be to stay with a short tempered person
Wise girl knows how to cater moods of a short tempered one.
A girl is judging a men
Wtf is going on
True
Sis short temper boy also cool early and love more than other.
@@madhusmitanayak7567sooo truee
The best yutube channel award of 2019 goes to life tak congratulations
Seriously?
I agree
She should leave the house
Agree
I disagree
I think there is a very thin line between tolerance and adjustment. Here due to anger issues not dealt properly can lead to abuse ( verbal and physical). This can impact the mental health of other person. This is a sensitive issue.
True
I’m struggling in the same way. But I changed myself by doing other activities like Gym, swimming & Drawing. Thanks for the video for showing my resemblance
Typically the person with issues always makes it problem of the other person.The narcissist always knows the other person has nowhere to go.All these people who think he can come around with love and understanding ,never understand a toxic relationship until they get into one.They look as if there is a way to handle them,but there is none
Very good .....
Yup totally agreed.
I empathize with you.
1. Talk to a family member. Maybe his mother can convince him to go to a therapist.
2. If he doesn't agree to go to a therapist the traditional way, arrange for a therapist who just pretends to bump into him randomly and befriends him. That way he's actually talking to a therapist without even knowing.
3. If that doesn't work, leave him for good. It's not your responsibility to fix someone else. You can only talk to them and motivate them, rest is up to them. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. You don't have to suffer everything, listen to his taunts and bear his anger. You're allowed to have your own life too. Your identity is much more than "someone's wife". Leave him for good.
The best solutions
I think your point no. 3 is rude. Husband and wife relation is bonding of soul and being one soul so you cannot say someone else like he/she is a stranger. Husband should support wife and wife should support husband no matter what. Situation like this really tests your love toward your spouse's.
@@ajlein9242 yes, obviously they should support each other. but what can you do when your partner doesn't want to accept your help? she has been supporting him since so long.. trying to get him to therapy.. but what can she do if he is so stubborn and doesn't want to accept her help? how can you support/help someone like that?
@@harshranjan6012 yes it is true. Most of the mother in laws are taking side of her son only. Me and my many friends tried this first point but everyone fails in it
Lol 😂 why are we even debating what should be done and what not ... Let's just try to Love our partners to the moon and back 💕 without compromising our self respect
If a woman is in this position, when she's probably scared and trying to keep herself together so that she's not severely injured or killed, I do not blame her for walking away. To add, desi women are raised with the idea that our end goal in life is to get married and have children; and that without that, none of our other accomplishments or the rest of our identity will matter as much. Even if he doesn't kill her with his hands, the stress will take a toll on both, particularly her. What kind of life is that if you've died on the inside?
Marriage is strong relationship. We should be a understand each others.
I read multiple comment of girl should support him in bad times or with his issues and she can be best therapist. But I think she deserve a better mental health too. If she is suggesting a doctor then probably she is broken to a point that she cant help him anymore and helping him gonna break her more. She still wants to be by his side and looking for external help as she wanna live healthy mental life as well. Both of them deserve a good emotional life.
Exactly... Mental health should give more priority in India.. People unknowingly going and suffering others and it also self harming very nice concept 👏👏👏👌👌👌
I would like to say it for both the sides.
1. If your spouse is sick you shouldn't give up on them. Just like if he got diabetes or flu. Finding ways to help in non traditional way may work as well. Recruiting another person ; a close friend or a trusted family member; may play a crucial part in convincing him for treatment.
2 . It seems like she has been trying for years. His uncomfortable anger will soon turn into violence even fatal. A child born in such a marriage will have traumatic upbringing and scarred for life. She has not changed her method but expects different results. She left home 30 times, expected the man to change his mind. She cant get a different result by doing the same thing over and over again.
So decide for yourself better to live and let live or fight for the one you love.
I would like to add though his anger was nowhere close to "rage" . I have seen first hand what rage looks like. When the submissive person prepares to be dead in the next few minutes because the person in rage is unpredictable beast. And all this before any physical abuse starts.
This is what happens with me in my relationship almost every month..
Felt like this is my story.
Ya it's story of millions of people's.....har ghr yhi kahani hai...
But u r mature enough to handle these issues.....jb love ni rehta to baki sb rehta hai
When things around any person is not going According to them they r angry it's not only men's problem it's even a women's problem it happens due to stress and tension u need not go to a therapist to control your anger u just have to meditate fr an hour to find inner peace v r none to judge them many r just talking about the man y is it only the man?? It can be the woman too!!! Tbh even I had this kind of anger issues which spoilt my relationship with everyone my family friends and all I just sat nd tried to find out nd got my answer I don't have inner peace so I started meditating nd slowly slowly I overcame my anger! It's not a disease or something
Absolutely...I agree with you...I am going through the same issue but am controlling it by meditating, having some water or some times I go out and have some fresh air then I sit with my partner and solve the problems..
Its a tough nut to crack when a person himself/herself doesn't know or accept that s/he has some issue which needs to be sorted out.
I think nayra should go to a doctor and talk about aditya's anger. And start helping aditya according to doctor. I think it can help both of them.
Lol ! 😂
Hmm easy to say
My Mind fcked
No comment!
Just reading others 😊
Let's know what other people think ☺
Best comment
Same here ..haha
After reading I will write mine...😅😅
Ya yr 😀
@@user-kv9wx7ps1e same
she shud have recorded his voice on tape and played it back 2 him wen he is normal may b if he heard how angry he sounds it would av made him think he duz need help .
He would've heard it all.. Discussed and then got angry all over again... Its a vicious cycle.. He needs help as much as he needs her to be there for him!
Or maybe he could be raised better
Its not in raise issue dear kriti...its in how you controlling..she is leaving him everytime and that doesn't workout everytime na..she should think about it and should be discuss with him...what you will do if you are in her place, you prefer to leave him or you will take him for the discussion...3 saal ka relationship me 30 bar chodgyi thi, instead of leaving him everytime why don't she prefer to talk with him...problem is not only with him its with herself also ladies.
@@soumyatiwari7815 i like the last line
Good idea.
Incomplete video leaves a question everytime. Everyone needs answers I hope.
What's the use of watching
You are correct 😊😊
Cool . . that's an alternative to practising tolerance
I agree to that 100%....it shouldn't end with a question...
She is very understanding and therefore she deserves way much better life. He is just a fool who can’t even get himself in control.
First of all the mistake happened when she is coming back to his house... Once you are out you need to put a condition that unless he starts his sessions with the therapist, you'll not come back.... Even her parents should stand with her in this... He is just throwing lines like DUNIYA uske bharose chalti he..
I think you should be firm in your attitude as suggested..if not they just hear the message to go to the therapist..it does not register
Giving Threats and ultimatums like
" If you don't do ______ I'll leave and you have to approach me to come back!... Is Nothing but stroking one's own ego. This trick won't work even for once, but will further trigger the man and rightfully so. Why should the man listen to an egotistical prick putting forth shallow threats and conditions
She should show love and patience and be a support to him as his better half. Running away from his anger is not the solution
I am living with my husband , he still have the anger issues still but its came down with the time. He respect me and our relation and never crossed his limit even in anger. I never told to anyone about his behaviour just tried to be nice with him even in his anger.
Ya rupali ..it happens but .......talking about it and resolve these issues....it's better
You never told anyone but styping in a TH-cam comments that is tell every viewer in the world but know your hasband will know too 😂 then he will be angery
#moin 🤣🤣🤣🤣
jab anger zyada hota hai to aggressive person dusre person ko dheere dheere "take for granted" lene lagta hai, politness aur patience ka fayeda uthane lagta hai.to aisa bilkul bhi nahi ki baith ke aram se baat kar ke sort out ho jayega...hum normal anger ki baat nahi kar rahe hain....wo anger jo brain se control kho de....it's dangerous, ye sirf dheere dheere badhta hai.....
Wow this was intense.. you guys deserve more subscribers! Keep up the good job!
Both of them should talk in calm situation not in any time and any moment
Hi TEAM LIFE TAK. I convey my heartiest congratulations to the episodes story writers. You have given eveyone of us a rich content. I want this episode to continue and watch the solution both takes. Well done. Really appreciable. Keep it up. Eagerly waiting to watch more such realistic videos. Thank you
Yes please!! Me too want to see
LEAVE AND RUN AS FAR AS SHE CAN AND NEVER COME BACK!! Because she still have hope if she leaves and doesn’t come back but if she lives here her dreams, hopes and will to live will die slowly!!
She should hug him.
It is best medicine for anger managaement in any relationship.
Also, It will help to reduce further anger.
Personally the lady who is facing this problem ...she must stay calm and whenever her husband shout at her she should smile instead of arguing and still after this , the situation is becoming worst then they should get apart from each other because if they will become parents in between ...their children will stay mentally disturbed because of this environment at home
You can't live with such life partner....sooner or later it ends so sooner the better
I understand with nayra .make yourself as busy as possible.make your own name n earn respect.bcoz anger is problem from inside.he is so sure that u can't leave him.but he needs to understand with ur value. .be positive.
She have her own identity...her identity is not only someone's wife...
Exactly...
Exactly
Right
❤️
Yes beacuse she is having aadhar card and aadhar no...is she having something more
From comments section its evident that each individual's reaction is different . In this story , in 3 years , situation is at boiling point , the man has already given zero value to his wife . What she should do , depends on her capacity to decide . No one else can suggest . She is young . If capable of earning , having parents' support system , has enough self respect , she should leave , since they dont hv children . Otherwise , any weakness makes anybody a doormat or sweet tongued actor or both as mad barking dogs , not setting a good example . In such cases , who should interfere, is a big responsibility . Asking to seperate is easy , but suggesting anything to lead better life is no joke.
This may not be only " indian mentality " but may be global . Reasons may be much deeper than visible .
I was waiting to see what the lady would do. I don't want to judge but sometimes it's better to leave as early as possible because at the end you will definitely go for therapy instead of your husband.
No comments about the topic of the video. I would just like to say .......
A big round of applause for team life tak 👏👏👏👏👏
She will stay there.i am also like this guy.but my wife never leve me alone.Actually i can't live without her and she also.That is unconditional love.
If you are like this guy than dude you also need help. Accept it and make things easy for your wife
What if your wife will b exxecive angry n argumentive .... Waha pe unconditional love dikhega....Kitna hota hai
Anger is within every person instead of finding faults with each other solve it with love ...No one is perfect in this world
Wow! This is the best video i ever watched.
Acting is perfect
With this kind of temperament, he will not only have peace with wife, but also will not have any good relationships with friends or colleagues. Anger management needs to be addressed ... no harm in counselling etc. Stress needs to be dealt with immediately else one may lose their mind.
Having a conversation is a solution of almost 50% issues b/t couples .... But seeking help of psychiatrist can also help a lot as a 2nd option ...
She should consult a psychotherapist
She should support him, be there for him and try to understand why he is behaving that way. After analyzing the fact, she should stand by him and support him emotionally and physically, so that he can come out of his anger.
If a lady really want to maintain and want a improvement in relationship so this i feel to do her.
If she stay that day in the house and try to understand the point of view of his husband. As he didn't want a professional help may be because of ego or self respect or may be its irritating that sound. So the lady will learn some therapy from professional and help his husband. As husband also want help from her not from the professionalist.
And if husband really want to maintain and improvement in relation.
So he can Do
Try to understand her point of view control his anger for the movement and ask her if u will not leave the house whenever in critical situations so I am promising you I also will agree your opinion and for maintain our relationship and I will do as you want but not now after some period of time. When I feel our trust level increased.
Note: I feel this is a major point where people are lacking behind where they are not see the thing from other poin of view and not finding a new way to track the solution.
If you guys like my thoughts like me or if not agree correct me
He is right gussa 😡 kisko nhi aata muje bhi aata h gussa karne wale bure nhi hote ye इनका weakness hota h or hum me goodness bhi to h
usne Pani bhi Nahi pine Diya.. pi leta to gussa shant ho jata.. wo bar bar wahi bat bol Rahi hai js par wo pin hota h
She should take a break and if his mom comes to convince her again, she should ask her to convince him to meet a therapist and then if he realises his problem and regret for his previous behaviour, then she should just check if he is able to change. If he makes some progress and if she is convinced that he understood his real issue and wants to control his anger, then she could try to be back with him and help him in his fight. Until then, she won't be able to help him. He needs help only from a therapist.
@Mr.A K violence doesn't mean physical violence. Emotional violence is worse than physical violence. And it might affect her mental sanity.
@Mr.A K I just said my opinion. You have no right to question my opinion. If you want, you write your opinion about the video as well. Also I don't have to answer any of your question, and I stand on my opinion.
@Mr.A K TH-cam is not yours. And I didn't ask your opinion. The channel owner might have asked your opinion.
@Mr.A K I really don't understand I never asked for your opinion. Just blabber as much as you want. I don't care. You seems like having some temper issues. Dangerous.i give up🙏
Gusse m insaan wahi bolta h jo wo sochta h .. this guy is actually like this only
90% of couples are suffering from this issue
Where do you get these stats from?? 90%?? That's mere speculation..
The solution lies in the question itself. If she wants to do something means there is something worth salvaging. Whilst men are not project to undertake its the commitment worth fighting for. Segregating anger from his personality might be a worth while task. Letting this one trait not affect his other positives is another task to undertake. One these 2 are achieved, the solution and path will make themselves clear.
It is easier said than done. Nyra should realise that her constant mention of taking Adi to a therapist is causing him to get angry. He is also getting angry because she keeps leaving his house and running away from the problem. At this stage there does not seem to be any physical violence, and that should remain that way. At the same time, Adi should realise that Nyra can't handle his verbal comments, and yet she keeps returning only for him, and for no other reason. Adi should also try to understand that Nyra wants him to take professional help, and there is no harm is seeing someone for counselling, it a could be an elder family member who understands and is unbiased. In short both should see the others point of view, and give their love another chance. The bottom line is that they have love for each other and that can become their strength in making a thriving relationship. The best thing for both is to count to ten, and to not argue when the matter is heated. Even if one of them keeps silence, the other will eventually stop, and the matter will de-escalate.
there is no love connection between both of them ......lets sepret and live in peace.
I think she shouldn't leave him alone. I can relate to him. But I'm better now. I can control myself now.
Same thing happened in every girls lives and it's a bitter truth that not digestiveal. Kbhi kbhi har ladki Ko ye saare taunts sunne hi padte hain fir chahe woh mazak mein bola gya ho ya gusse mein 🙏
I think she should settle everything with love and not try to escape from the situation... only with love n care this could be sorted...
Nyra never mentioned Aadi has ever been so angry in last 3yrs to physical agression towards her, she is consistently talking about only bad things he says in anger unbearable & making her leave own house..
I dont think she loves Adi as she claims because love is tolerant & accepting others flaws. She could just keep quiet when he gets angry for some time & then discuss matter later in friendly manner without blaming tone...
That's what I feel she should do
Verbal abuse is still abuse.
Why must her love only be tolerant? Why must her love only be accepting of his flaws?
Wives aren’t your personal therapists.
As a woman, you should see that.
@@aashnamunif4140 😂😂😂 u Don't understand anything
@@aashnamunif4140 to bhad me jaa na.
I think too,that running away 30times in 3 yrs reveals marked immaturity on the wife's part.
The causes of his anger are never explored,no solutions discussed,no make up good times either.
Remember the adage ,it takes 2 to keep a marriage going,runnig away is never an answer.
He is right,he wants to move away from a bad situation,may be move on.
Sudhir Chopde he just used a metaphor
@@roy8939 😂😂😂
Leaving house and husband is not the solution. They both sit and discuss in cool atmosphere. If she leaves house it only aggravate situation. Why differences or disputes occur between husband and wife are always highlighted. If father, mother, brother or sister behaves with angry do we leave house. Accept husband or wife are also like your family members. If any problem is there try to help them to overcome. Please don't leave them
Doctor is actually a right thing.. Her self respect is v important in the relationship... Love is not true if u cant respect the other person.
True,in a relationship,respect is more important than love,which evolves with time,which I don't think will happen,she should walk out because he doesn't respect her,she being a wife doesn't mean she's supposed to fix him,he needs help and he's not accepting it because of his fragile ego.
...i think ...both should hugg each other...n say all their frustration to each other...
In anger.. we have only solution that we frst burst out anger...every person aftr some time, calm down n thinks about what actually he did in anger n blame other 90% n 10% to himself/ herself...bcoz all prsn dnt have that capacity to blame self.
So finally hug tghtly n then have a battle ....
80 % to 90% u shuld luv n the issue will be resolved..
Me n my love alwys follow this rule..n it works....
Angr alwys comes wth the 3rd party....so 3rd prty ko sunaao jaake...
I think they need a marriage counselor as we as a therapist
Hugs work when both persons are sane
Right
I think nyra should talk to him and she doesn't have to move on from it. Anger is his problem and this problem is cure with only pure love and if aadi have to do therapy. Both is right on them side.
I agree with you
What is pure love? The words that he said to her that she doesn't have an existence without him etc -is that love? He's telling her she's not worthy and you are talking about pure love????
Both of them are on thin line anger and patience, lady is definitely right in this situation.
This is somewhat my story,😔, and I left that hell, because here this lady had to just struggle with one man,but I had 5 people one telling me ladies are meant for this,one telling you just keep shut,one telling if he commits suicide you will be nothing,and most importantly my husband banging walls with punch, slapping himself, driving rashly to commit suicide,and my father in law a "bureocrate ", he use to say a revolver loaded is kept in my almirah,almirah isn't locked as my home is like dharamshala,and when you see he losses his temper anytime, don't you think he might shoot himself,means all 5 members of family just instigated him they just fueled his anger,all of them do worst to me,and then leave my husband to shout and scream on me,and he behaves as puppet ,it's being 5 years of marriage,m now having a daughter,last year in August my father in law entered forcefully into our bedroom some where at 12.30 a.m. and abused me a lot then my daughter was 6 month old without thinking of how small she was he screamed on top of his voice,just because I was wearing maternity gown,which is not acceptable in Brahaman samaj k achhe parivar,my mother in law who is still alive, she's great at taunting but she couldn't say this,after two days my father in law threatened my husband to disown him and after that my husband started screaming and crying and asked me to leave his house with our daughter,and since one year m with my parents,now even after year his parents have stopped him from coming to my place, once I went to his house to take my belongings,he started crying and screaming,and when I said come to my place talk when you are in your seenses he pushed my father,his father said that he did so because his blood pressure got high suddenly,and this b.p. increases only for me,my parents and my sister,his own brother( 25 years) calls him mad and my husband says his chota Bhai is innocent so he calls him mad,its being 15 months I left that place,he didn't even asked to see our daughter
Be happy 🤗
This is very serious and sad to hear that. You have made right decision to leave that house. Being human being you have rights to get respect
you did exactly right dear sister
Much resemblance to mine...
Issue with father in law.....
But my husband is such a good person.......... I can't leave him.. Also we have a pretty daughter...
What u did is right....... If your husband can't support u..... Then y living in such a hell where u r being harssed... Atlast u will get insane........ Don't loose ur personality
I share my marital experience when I see any thing resembling to it one because when I write a lot of pain gets drained second people over here can learn from my experience,m a doctor,and I was selected on this ground for my husband, house hold work neither my mother said m well equipped with nor I had any problem in doing them,but I was judged always on the basis of my capabilities of house hold work and I was compared to my 55 years old mother in law,means obviously I can't be perfect at few things if compared to her,my husband (I really never had this thing in mind but now I see things from far they are much clearer) he was not as sharp as me in academics,so my father in law who is very proud of being a beaurocrat used to say "don't think your very intelligent you just equivalent to your husband",he never tried to make his son capable,but tried to make me mentally unstable,(it's being 5 years my husband is also a doctor but unemployed,as he can't work in private hospital,private clinic don't do well(this is not the reason, actually he's not confident),he is waiting for government job),his brother who is very dirty minded,he used to spank me and the day I stood against it whole family got against me since then,can you believe 22 year boy , b.tech 2nd year, doesn't know why ladies don't go to kitchen for 4-5 days every month,this is what he asked my mother in law in front of me,it's not bad as m doctor it's normal,but m also a female,I know when a dirty minded person wants to make such talks matter of joke in daily life and for my husband who even at present claims to love me a lot,he said my brother is small,so it was ok if his brother touched me inappropriately and do any sort of dirty talk to me,he used to bring adult audios and ask me to listen when I screamed on him he left ,but he was a real besharm, when I complained my father in law about this he said he's small not mature enough to understand all this,when I complained my parents they took me and just a week later ,my father in law came,my mother just said Bhai Saab ye kya hai mahual hai apke ghr ka,and my father in law started crying, and after lot of drama,he asked me to get back,I went back but after a month again this started,and in all this all my husband did he used to cover all of his family, and if I didn't took it,he started screaming beating himself and slapping me, banging walls,I wanted to leave then,but again he used to cry badly , marriage is adjustment I tried for 5 years to adjust,m badly affected from it,m left with nothing,5 years away from studies affected a lot to me professionally and constant drama of them has affected me mentally and emotionally 😔
I was having such issues once my husband helped me alot knw we are living actually happily ever after 🥰🥰🥰
Nobody can speak for someone else .wtever decision u take .take full responsibility of it thats it
Both of them should sit together and give a chance to their relationship.
I think sometimes he is right Agr wo Ruk k thoda Uske shant hone pr smjhaye to I believe wo smjhega.. I am just like him.. Anger jitni jldi Aata h baad me uska pachtava bhi Hota h.. Gusse k time pr Ek Uske sath smjhdaar insan Hona chahiye jo smjhaye.. Family Isme Jyda help Krskti h except wife or husband k
She should go to the therapist herself and try to find out if she can do something to convince him or some home therapy because the topic of therapist is becoming a triggering point
She needs to go to therapist only if her self worth is affected by his words. Otherwise she doesn't need therapy
@@thedancelearner7721 I didn’t say she needed therapy...I said she could try to provide therapy at home for guy as the talk of going to the therapist is also creating problems
You have no idea how dangerous and scary it can be.
I am facing the the same issue like aadi. But there is no-one who can understand me. Esa koi h nahi jo samjha sake cheezon ko mujhe. But is case me aadi ko samjhane waala h. At least he should understand these things. Bcoz therapist ki jarurat sirf pagal logon ko nahi hoti hai. And both should sit and talk calmly about it. This is a real issue. And you guys nailed it.
why do all men behave alike in this scenario? what do they expect? what is their thought when they push the situation to extreme and then attach this obligation at the end of every fight? you understand what it means right? the girl has to bow down if she wants to be with him and it's a very complex thing when she wants to refrain from these depressing fights and to never let him go away at the same time! this happens as a conclusion to a lot of similar fights
जिद्द और गुस्से के मीश्रण की हालत हो तो पागलपन की पहली पायदान पर कदम है , समझ लेना ही बेहतर है । ऐसे मे दूसरे पक्ष को ही किसी मानसीक रोग विशेषज्ञ की चिकीत्सा हेतु गुप्त रूप से सहायता लेनी चाहिये । इसमे पडोसी और रिश्तेदारो को भी बता देना ही उचित है ।
I think she should go to that doctor, learn and she teach her husband if he don’t want to go. . She can become an indirect doctor for him.
usne Pani bhi Nahi pine Diya.. pi leta to gussa shant ho jata.. wo bar bar wahi bat bol Rahi hai js par wo pin hota h
Right ,I agree..Often our most near ones have to act like a counselor keeping the love factor intact rather than asking for professional help...Becoz again it's all about understanding the psychology of ur loved one.. Everything else is temporary..
@@shsh3538 true gusse ko badha rahi thi , sahi time ka intajar karna chahiye
I feel most decisions we take are not based on what we think we should do but what our circumstances allow us to do.
If leaving the husband is not an option… which is really the sad reality of a lot of people, there are still ways to make your life happy and eventually your marriage also a happy one.
I love the work that your team does… but I really wish you show other methods of dealing with unhappy marriages than quitting.
Again… I agree quitting such marriages is correct…. But many times it is not possible…….
BUT being happy is always possible!!!
Adi is right . In a love relationship the partner should never leave after a fight bcz communication doves problem and understanding builds at a greater level . Love is damn powerful and it can cure any problem ..
Hi. My marriage done at 2019 at that time my husband have so much anger he also scold me unnecessarily but I never leave the house and after his anger down then he only come to me and pampering me and that time I start teach him to control his angryneas and now 2021 he became a well understanding and calm, lovable person.i want to say that First of all ur love and pampering is important to ur husbands because they have lot of work tension and home responsibility. Pls stop bully him and start love and spend the time with him. Then ur marriage life become a heaven. This is my story.
Very nice content. My husband has severe anger issue and I've been trying to figure out ways to deal with this for almost 20 yrs without ever leaving the house.
1st stage was trying to figure out the source of it and accepting the fact that this is absurd and abnormal and now part of my life.
2nd stage ways trying to give in to all demands and expectations to maintain peace in the house while internally finding ways to deal and cope with this and still trying not to give up and leave.
3rd stage was accepting the fact that this is the only issue he has and I can't do ANYTHING to change that and started feeling remorse for him while still trying to understand him and what happened to him as a child to be this way. I still chose to stay and help him through this. After all, despite this one issue, he was a responsible husband and father and most women don't even get that.
Last stage was evolving my ownself beyond his anger. How? Learning that you can ONLY change the way you perceive things and everyone evolves at their own pace. Then realizing the fact that everything is a big deal only if you make it a big deal. So I stopped feeding into his anger, removed myself from the situation everytime I saw erupting, learned to Block block and block all anger driven conversations. Actually as soon as he opens his mouth to say something, I go blank instantly. Nothing goes through my ears.
Of course, in the beginning he couldn't stand it but then when I stopped responding, he stopped overreacting because I wasn't feeding into that anymore. I continued on my happy way and as I continued to care less about his anger, the calmer he became.
Today, we live happily but definitely there's some insane moments here and there but if you choose to stay with a person, you help them realize that their anger has no value and continue to BE YOURSELF. HAPPINESS IS CONTAGIOUS TOO. If you can help yourself not to lose your own self through this then you can make anything work because you'll find these people everywhere. Where and from whom all will you run from?
Hope this helped😊
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@@deepakmahadik6190 lol Deepak. Well, that's 20 yrs an a few sentences 😜. And just last week we celebrated our 20th and it was a very memorable celebration. Everyday is a better day in a stronger relationship 👍❣️
Wow. That was amazing. You both must be very happy and in love with eah other.
@@mostlyme910 hi there. Maybe this is what love is. There is no true definition of it so maybe our own journeys define it for us. Recently I realized, how narsisstic my husband is and his anger issues makes a lot more sense now. Every source of information I gain teaches and says to run. As far and fast as one can. It means I have to start over. Do I want to? Absolutely not. Should I? Yes, it's the only sane thing to do.
Is he working one himself? Yes.
Is it making a difference? Maybe 5%.
Am I constantly having this psychological battle? Yes, everyday.
Am I still happy? Most definitely!
How? I set boundaries. I do the daily mental work to keep enforcing the boundaries and keep living my best life. Do I feel like a victim in the relationship? Hell no☺️. There's so much to do in life to to allow mind to wander into feeling like a victim. The world is so beautiful and there's so much to embrace and love and love a fulfilled life.
I don't know what I would call my relationship. I'm not interested in putting labels on it either. All I know that we both do our share equally to have financial freedom and are happy and healthy in our own personal lives. We do a few things together and most things according to our personal interests. 3 months ago, we renewed our vows to add a few good memories to our relationship. It was very sweet and a happy moment for both of us. Life is so unexpected, we can only do OUR best everyday and there's a lot of ways today, to help you cope with it. A lot of great content on TH-cam to begin with. 💜😊
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I will record that and when he has having cool minded I will show him and tells him how is behaving when he is angry. If he understand and change then I am be with him and also starting work on my career
Aadi has ego problem also.. She should not come back to show him the reality
Both acted truthfully especially the man who takes the role of anger 👌👌👌👌👌👌....... Tq for putting english subtitles🙏🙏🙏.... Ur channel is really a thug!!! 😎😎😎..
She can consult a doctor and approach her husband indirectly to make him come out of anger....
They both need therapy, him for his anger and her for her skill of running away from her troubles. And if you do not get help they this needs to end, you can not remain in constant state of war, it either brakes you or changes your for the worse.
In this world no one is perfect. But if there is LOVE in relationship. Then any relation can be successful. The question is that?
How many relations will one can leave?
You are absolutely RIGHT friend👍.
People have their behaviour issues.😊
My life has gone through from this situation.
With my experience, same as this, woman has to sacrifice a lot, but by talking and explaining slowly slowly partner's behaviour will definitely change but AFTER LONG TIME
By the time if u will have ur kids who grows up with listening to ur quarrells their life will not b normal too
So by staying with that person u r spoiling ur kid's life too
Now decision should b purely of urs where u want to sacrifice big time of ur life n whole life of ur children
OR TO LEAVE THAT PERSON, who CAN become better after long time after spoiling life if ur children
THINK 🙏
Always leaving and going from home is not the solution... She has to stay him and make him understand the problem and if possible together can find a solution
Leaving and going will never heel anything in life... Staying and winning always matters..
I dont know why many people are saying she shud not leave the house or try to chng herself rather thn talking abt the issue with her husband,, it is totally an abusive relationship ,,he definitely has some issue and has no control over his anger ...i dont know why ppl thinks it is okay to have anger issues or it is okay to be in a bad realtionship ....to all of them it is not okay
I have observed that all wome's comments r in favour of her, and men comments r favour of him. That's sad 😔. Just realise the situation of both.
It's not about men or women, my partner also have rage episodes, things she says... Oh god , it's very hard to hendal engry partners , even there lovely words feels like fake, it is very scary.
Wow what content you guys are stewing up... Kudos to the team and all who view and agree
Thats so me ..out of control of which I hurt my love and my parents I need to change this but somehow I couldn't do it . I need to fix this problem of mine because I love my partner and my family..I love them alot but the words I have said to them I can't take that words back ...
May be you are making your world in your mind so distrub make your mind to calm and make alone time when you get angry and sit alone and think upto your thoughts stop. Then take a deep breath and say to yourself and what you achieved by stopping your instant reaction. Hope all happiness own you. Bcoz I am dealing opposite.. I don't know how to make conversation what I have in my mind..
don't think what other think "Julia Robert". here I think both love each other which is the MAIN + point, lets putout some points
1. As he mention he got angry when she left him alone during that time he buildup more anger. => she has to understand that situation.
2. she told him u are getting angry on each and every things => He should seat down and think on it, best way take it all true what she is saying and give a try for couple of days.
3. advice to man = no one make correct decisions when they are angry, anger will always destroy your good thoughts.
4. Advice to girl = As she said she love her, just try to do things where there should not be and conflict raise. understand why he got angry there is always some pattern or trigger point which click angry, if she understand they do not have to see Doctor, she can be a Doctor for her love.
I think this issue sort out with proper conversation with each other.... If you really want to solve it.....
She should stay with him ... try to help him first .. bcoz at some point boy is also correct .. if anyone will repeat same things about partner then definitely it hurts a lot .. before taking help from professionals person try to solve any issue together ... for this people need to spend quality of tym ..