A Different Gender Every Day? | The Gender Fluid Issue
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.ค. 2024
- This video takes a look at some of the issues that stem from identifying as gender fluid, genderqueer, non-binary, or whatever it is the kids are calling it these days. It explores the relationship between masculinity, femininity, and gender, gender as a binary, and the use of gender-neutral pronouns like ze and hir.
Disclaimer: This video pokes fun at SJWs and tumblr-ites, but isn't in reference to anyone who actually experiences gender dysphoria.
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Dear genderfluid people,
Your changes are all in your head.
Yours sincerely,
Me
At best, it makes you look like some hipster kid. At worst, it makes you look delusional and a bit stupid. Just look at the cringe videos full of confused kids.
Your chromosomes do not change. There is no such feeling called 'boy' or 'girl'. Gender is not a personality template.
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If you never heard of the idea of 'genderfluid', would still think you're flipflopping between male and female? Wouldn't you be using the words like 'passive' and 'energetic' instead? You're not changing genders, you're changing to different moods, whims and states of mind.
And if you don't like this, you'll have to excuse me for favouring logic over emotion, because feelings are easily swayed.
+amindoutloud There's nothing wrong with you behaving the way you want to behave. Sometimes I want to listen to black metal, sometimes I want to listen to post-rock. We all have preferences and that's just being human. It's a problem when people demand they have special classifications, pronouns, and recognition for the specific way in which you're different.
There's already a unique signifier for the unique individual you are, it's called your name. You can also legally change your name. I am perfectly happy with you telling me your name and referring to you as that, but if you're demanding I ask you on a regular basis how I need to refer to you, I'm simply going to stop communicating with you because at that point you're just crying out for attention.
@Centipede I agree. It would be like if suddenly pedophiles would try to make society to accept pedophilia as normal, accepted and totally correct, and encourage people who has attraction for younger beings to just go for it. sick
+luardo gamero Actually that is happening right now. No shit.
I never got the gender neutral pronouns. What would happen to languages like Spanish where, well pretty much everything in the language is based on masculinity or femininity? Did people expect countries and ethnicities to change their entire language system for them?
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Sorry we are having an adult conversation, you are more than welcome to come back once you learn not to insult people's opinions by calling names
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Looks like someone needs a timeout
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I see we already won this argument after you used emojis of all things. So childish. But either way, I wish you happiness and blessed life
decembrist
Just don't acknowledge this guy anymore. He ain't worth it
some probably do.
I have a bracelet on my arm that says "Erase my history web browser." in case I die
Mine says 'the bodies are in the basement'
Ok jokes aside that's actually really smart.
@@Zeburakeki why? you would be dead at the time... is your fam gonna look at your web browser history?
Mine says "bury me with my japanese style comic books(mangas)"
@@danielgriff2659 yes
Gender fluidity confuses the shit out of me and I am a gay man.
I feel like people confuse gender with personality traits
Kyra Bell thats whats happened and its insanity
Enlightened Perry true true. *puts on a swastika* this seems a bit more apealing these days
Alberts Choise no, dont keep trading extremes. use common sense and assist in pushing humanity forward in a way that has physical results. Emotional support is cool but its not something we need to take back to the drawing board every decade or so. things are becoming so stupid, yet as individuals we know we're capable of more. in the technological age our biggest weaknesses is taking actions and accountability.
Kyra Bell fuck you
AidenIsMyName 77 someone is TRIGGERED LOLOLOLOL
Tbh, I don't really care if someone wants to call themself gender neutral or whatever, if they're a decent person and not a raging "sjw" I'll respect their decision. However, I don't understand why we need all these gender neutral pronouns like ze/hir, etc. Surely "they" is gender neutral enough?
A lot of people see "they" as being grammatically incorrect or awkward. Most of the time they is used in conversation it's to refer to a group of people, such as "They are eating together." For some people it just sounds weird when referring to one person and not a group. The English language, and many other languages likely, lack a gender neutral pronoun that isn't also used to describe something else that's completely different.
But then people forget that in English we DO use "they" for a single person! Especially when that person's gender is unknown. If you want to communicate that someone stole a cookie, but you don't know who that person is, most people would say "someone stole the cookie!" "Who?" "I don't know, *they* just took it!"
How about 'it'?
Nope. Yeah, I don't really get it either, and I'm nonbinary. you don't need all these neo pronouns when people already argue when I correct someone with "they". it's just really unnecessary and purposely confusing.
John D. they don't want you to say "it" because it's incredibly dehumanizing. nobody uses it as a pronoun to reference someone they see as a human being.
"gender bracelet real or nah"
And this how 2 google y'all
Loll
LMAO
your genitals tell your gender
Top, no, your genitals tell your sex.
@@legalfictionnaturalfact3969
"Top, no, your genitals tell your sex." ...which tells your gender.
Wow this was the calmest, lest aggressive way I’ve heard someone talk about gender politics
Yeah they tried to be polite about something they have no experience with... wait why are we letting them judge again?
@@ceasaursworkshop2009
_______________She has no experience with gender? It's not up to you who gets to pass judgment on someone, including you ...and me.
@@shmeet Answer me this. Do they get discriminated because they are different? do they get "That's not a real gender" every time they come out? Do they have to figure out how to deal with trans phobia everyday? I don't think so, do they really judge what my gender is?
@@ceasaursworkshop2009
_______________ Who's "they"? Do you mean the person in the video? That's a "her/she" and her gender is female. She's of the female gender because her body makes eggs and has a birth canal through which a baby can be born. She has no Y sex chromosome. These are characteristics of the female gender in any given species of mammals, like us. Humans ARE mammals. And mammals, i promise you, are animals.
Does she get discriminated because she's different? - Everyone gets discriminated against at some point in life, many on a daily basis.
Does she get "That's not a real gender" every time she comes out? - If she was claiming to be something other than what she is physically, she might. But i don't think it would affect her much. She'd probably just ignore them.
Does she have to figure out how to deal with trans phobia everyday? - No. But if she did i doubt very much her solution would involve asking other ppl to refer to her with a different pronoun.
Does she really judge what my gender is? - No. But you seem to think she does. "wait why are we letting _her_ judge again?"
@@shmeet did your mother pick your gender for you of being a cis wow how creative lmao. Oh wow I didn't know that since I was born with a female body I could give birth to children and that's what makes me female oh my goodness the all these guys that are trans that can give birth if they want children are originally females wow doesn't change the fact that they identify as male now just like it doesn't change the fact that there's a whole Community dedicated trans non-binary pansexuals bisexuals asexuals pansexuals and plenty more. And you telling me that the gender side of that doesn't exist except for cis male and cis females whoa lmao pretty sure you didn't create the lgbtq plus community either Lmao. I'm gender fluid. Born female. What do you have to say about that? And my PRONOUNS are he/him they/them currently. So just because my body scientifically says I'm female means that that's what I want to be referred as? Let people be themselves honestly know why people keep on wanting to deny people of what makes them so happy. Just live your live while they live theres, it's not that hard. If your neighbor was gay and you didn't support that would constantly tell them that? Maybe not but like they haven't heard it before. If you believe it's a sin, go ahead. They are just living their life the was they want. Also like the person u responded 2 was using they them for her, that honestly just shows how easy it is to call people by their preferred pronouns even though thos weren't theirs :) so like 💁♀️
Remember when girls were just tomboys?
that wasn't the tomboys who evolved into this, these are the weak ugly shitfucks who want to make excuses to not try working on themselves and make it everyone elses fault.
Why is it that the word "tomboy" contains no part of it that is feminine?
I had three true "tomboys" in my life growing up. One of them would play pokemon with us and did more social things with us boys grew out of it once she hit puberty, she stopped those social interactions and became feminine. The other two, played sports with us and were both pretty good at them, never really "grew out of it" and it was kind of obvious in like 7th they were gay.
+Above AverageJoe Ugh. Just ugh. I'm not one to jump on the gender-fluid bandwagon, but seriously? Some girls liked sports and they were gay? You must be trolling.
aerialpunk I was specifically targeting "tomboys" and explaining two different variations. Wasn't even generalizing women.
I'm sorry is no one gonna talk about how when she said people with feminem traits a pic of one derection came up im dead
Homosexual liberals like One Direction tend to have female traits is what she was going for I guess. They are very feminine boys in One Direction.
Stop talking like prissy daddy's girl and use some punctuation
As a gender fluid person here is my take on the “requirements” of being trans. I have dysphoria when I am not the way I was born. Also I don’t choose to wake up felling masc and go “hmmm what if I be a man today just to be ridiculed and oppressed at work?” No. I am a man during that time. With dysphoria. I would wear a binder. Put my hair in a way it looked short, and went by he him and they them pronouns. I always go by they them because it always somewhat fitting. Like if being a girl was hot weather and being a boy was cold weather, the temperature would change for me. But I would rather wear a tee shirt and light sweater than always be in a tank top or have to change all the time.
do you have any statistics or studies about dysphoria being fluid? Makes no sense to me, sounds like you have social dysphoria instead of gender dysphoria, considering it changes to certain situations?
I can't say who you are, but i think a lot of nonbinary people are just confused and have really bad social dysphoria so they relate with people who cant decide their pronouns and their expression changes on the daily.
Floofyhoof thank you for trying to understand but even during this quarantine I experience gender dismorfia it doesn’t change based on my situation, it just changes. Kinda like a mood I can’t control
I have a question if that's alright. Could you possibly just be feeling fluctuating levels of dysphoria? Like Trans women are born with female brain structures or matters (Although obviously science isn't near in explaining it.) But these areas changing drastically on a possibly daily scale is a bit? I'm not sure what my point it. Maybe it's just hormones and social reactions varying the amount of level you experience the stress? Meaning your brain gender is male but you feel the stress of not looking or not being perceived that way fluctuates. Or is there occasions where you definitely want to feel a woman? I wish you a safe journey :) Thanks for reading
Neda Laj thank you for asking! I don’t really know. It’s confusing some days I fully identify as a girl and other days I identify non-binary and others I’m a boy. I’m born a girl, and I remember times as a kid when I was exited to go through puberty and everything that came with it. But now I have days were I try to hide it as much as possible. And I feel uncomfortable as a girl. I last in each gender about a week or so, and it blends between. I wish I had just one gender, or an answer, but I honestly don’t know. I might figure out someday, but for know gender fluid fits me best. Once I heard it, I felt safer. So that’s how I identify.
@@eleo8266 Hope you manage to figure everything out x In my personal experience, as a kid I wasn't too worried about puberty but once I started it- it was horrible. I felt really uncomfortable with my chest and periods and often hid under large clothing. Also when asked what gender I could be- I couldn't help but feel like I didn't want to be any gender. I even remember wanted to cut off my breast. I found the term agender and felt really connected but as I aged I grew more body confident and with hindsight, it was probably a mix of not wanting to change, confidence issues and depression. what you said kind of reminded me of it- but maybe I've interpreted it differently. Keep exploring your feelings and different possibilities, I wish you well.
"gender is a binary"
intersex people: uh...
_______________"Intersex" refers to a known list of physical *conditions* or birth defects/anomalies. These conditions affect mostly males, with a very small minority of those affected being female. There are males with an intersex condition and there are females with an intersex condition. These ppl are not new genders and it's quite rude and insensitive to suggest they are. Some examples from the internet:
"Klinefelter Syndrome is a chromosomal condition in *boys and men"*
"5-alpha Reductase Deficiency is a condition that affects *male* sexual development before birth and during puberty."
"Turner Syndrome is a chromosomal condition that affects development in *females."*
"Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome is a condition that affects sexual development before birth and during puberty. People with this condition are genetically *male"*
"XXYY genotype *male:* one in 18,000-40,000 *male* births (0.0025%-0.0055%)"
"Hypospadias one in 200-10,000 *male* births (0.01%-0.5%), prevalence estimates vary considerably"
@@shmeet I didn't say it was a new gender.
@@strawberryflavouredcloroxb1565
__________________Well you seem to believe that just because one has an intersex condition that they're not part of the binary system. No?
I dress kinda androgynous but sometimes don't and that doesn't change my gender
Same, I identify as female but don’t like feminine clothes
Min Ichigo Yoongi
________________Why not just say "I'm a female but i don't like feminine clothes."?
shmeet what’s the difference
__________One suggests, or at least leaves room for it, that biological sex is a choice, the other does not.
love always kate same. I'm literally the most butch bitch but I'm p r e t t y sure I'm not a guy. I wish I was... But I'm not. 🙃
I remember a couple years ago. I was friend with this person on tumblr. They were genderfluid. But they allowed anyone to call them 'anything'. As long as they were friends with you. So I asked if it was okay for me to refer to them as a girl. They said sure. So I use to say "she " and "her". They also used to change there description all the time on there tumblr and they asked people to check it everyday before talking to them. Because they'd changed it from "He/him" one day to "she/her" to "They/them." but if you got special permission you could use a one you were more comfortable with. As long as you are there friend.
Long story short was we ended up getting into a fight. And I refereed to them as a 'girl'. and they told me I misgrendered them, they than made a couple of posts to say I was a this horribel person and I should be hated on. I was so confused because I used the term they told me I could use and I explained that, and I explained it to people. and it turned out I wasn't 'allowed' to use 'she/her' if we were fighting and I had to refer to there tumblr to see what they were comfortable with that day. so I decided alright, I'll do that. They kept publishing my asks. And I said "I'm sorry I misgendered you, I'll call you he" and they then went around and was like "well thanks to you, I don't feel like a him/he. So I changed it again to They/them. So once again you are misgendering me. Which means you are abusive." and I ended up getting really frustrated and used they/them and they then said "Thats not my pronouns either" within the same day they changed from she/her to him/her to they/them back to she/her. And when I gave up them and just used 'they/them' it turned to 'oh now your just misgendering me because you want to. and you are picking whats most comfortable for you. My comfort is more important."
I ended up not being friends with them in the end, even though our arugement could have been settled because it felt like at that point I never would have done it 'right'. I felt like I was caught in the trap of 'you are miss gender me even if you don't mean to. and for me it was horrible to sit there and have there 'followers/friends' harass me over not using there at the moment pronouns and I was so confused because I was told at the start that the one I asked if they were okay with being referred to was 'okay' to use.
I also find it interesting when I talk to people who are genderqueer/nonbinary and how they tell me they are because they don't like 'girl stuff' or they dont' like 'boy stuff'. or they like 'both'. Like I've been told someone they are nonbinary because as a kid they played with cars and trucks and also dolls. And now adays there fav movies are action flicks along with romance. So that makes them 'nonbinary'. Because they break the women 'stereo type".... But to me it always confused me because I view those as aspects to a personality not a gender. What sex you are or gender isn't related to 'yeah must be a boy cause they like horror'.
I mean I use to play with bugs, mud pies and cars as well. I liked sports I also really liked dolls and dress up. I still like most of that stuff. (Although I don't play with bugs anymore or mud pies lol) but I like getting dirty with mud with gardening or doing hikes that get me sweaty while also enjoying dress up or Disney movies. I also collect dolls and for me that doesn't really say 'my gender is female'. It just always says "this is what I like / this is what I spend my free time doing" So yeah I've always found that strange.
I also realize this video is old so you might not see this or reply. But I felt like I should probably say something.
_____Just be glad you don't live in Canada. Your "friend" on tumblr could have filed charges against you for "misgendering" them and if you refused to pay the fine, you could face prison time! Sounds crazy, right?
I live in canada.
Its awkward as all heck. I don't see it as a hate crime.
_______Was this other person also a Canadian? Did you ever meet face to face. You may not see it as a hate crime but the OHRC now has the ability, and probably in their opinion, the duty to interpret C16 violations as such. They can make someone pay fines for 'misgendering' someone, intentionally or accidentally. If the person refuses to pay the fine and/or says to the OHRC: "I'm not going to comply with any orders that force me to use words that are not of my choosing and free will!" the person will likely face incarceration until such time they decide to do what the OHRC ordered them to do in the first place. The OHRC is a kangaroo court.
I’m sorry you had a bad experience, I knew a person like that too. Everyone is different and I guess they ‘snapped’ or something. I’m genderfluid and personally I don’t care if you misgender me, sometimes it doesn’t bother me, other times I just politely ask the person to fix it for the day. I also usually tell them to call me they/them if they don’t know. All people are different and I’m really sorry you had a bad experience with someone like that, I don’t want the world to hate use (genderfluid, non-bianary etc.) because some people are like that.
VampireRaine
"...other times I just politely ask the person to fix it for the day. I also usually tell them to call me they/them if they don’t know." - Was the person wrong, though? I mean when they 'misgendered' you. Did their misgendering match your physical sex? Let me put it another way. When you go in to see a medical doctor it's vital that they know what your true, physical gender is, for obvious reasons, right?
Well, was the person(s) who 'misgendered' you actually correct? I mean 'correct' in the sense that they called you the same pronoun that you would use when visiting a doctor.
"...politely ask the person to fix it for the day." - You might be asking is polite _tone_ , maybe, but that's definitely not a polite thing to ask. It suggests that the person did something wrong in treating you exactly the same way they treat everyone else. There's nothing for them to "fix". And the fact that you actually think this statement> "I also usually TELL THEM to call me..." is acceptable in freedom loving society is mind boggling. Where do you live? Australia?
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I personally feel the same way. I was born a female and still identify as female, but I also cosplay and when I do usually I crossdress. I crossdress in real life too and just really enjoy being a guy but not really enough to actually go about being transgender and transitioning. That's why I usually just dress pretty androgynous and when people ask I usually just say I'm a crossdresser.
"...and just really enjoy being a guy..." - By "being" you mean "acting/dressing like" right?
@@shmeet I mean I guess? Semantics arnt really that important. I do also enjoy going by male pronouns and a male name too.
____________I asked because unfortunately there are quite few young ppl who would have taken your comment quite literally. Judith Butler is crazy.
@@shmeet nah I get your reasoning. I hate that transgenderism is a trend and that's also a bit of a reason I'd rather just be a crossdresser/androgynous in general. Give the actual 100% trans people what they need rather than me who's pretty on the fence ya know.
Yeah
Also, doesn't "rejecting the gender binary" just reinforce toxic gender stereotypes??? There isn't a right or wrong way to be male or female
That's so true, it's basically some backwards regression into sexism! Some people always fall exactly in the middle or some grey area, but these are very few in every category. Even most intersex people are actually intersex men and women. Only a few inter conditions make you 100% androgynous and intersex organisations actually point out that intersex does NOT equal a third or many additional sexes. It's a bit of an overlap of male and female, and that's it.
Raoni only two genders and nouthing more
Interesting that you've associated the word toxic to gender stereotypes, which implies that to dress and/or act masculine or feminine in alignment with gender is harmful or bad... yet in the same sentence you end with "there isn't a right or wrong way to be male or female".
Sophia McIntyre-Grey exactly!
yes! thank you! someone else gets it.
I am gender fluid myself and I don't get why most gender fluid people get so offended when people misgender them or people poke fun at them. I understand that my gender identity may be false and may not be real but it is just what fits me.
A lot of these gender identities that Tumblr comes up with are absolutely crazy lol.
Definitely agreed.
At least YOU understand its false.
Shxttered Ray I know for sure that genderfluid is a bit exaggerating gender but even if it's false or not,if that person is cool with that,for me it's just fine(also I must admit that I'm also genderfluid,and I'm happy to being myself,not for seeking attention,not even to be the special human.Also for me it's ok if they misgender me, It's quite funny :D,also please not hate comments)
What is gender fluid???
Why don't you just identify yourself as whatever your sex is like everyone else does? Sure you might not be masculine or feminine, but why change social norms that don't need to be changed? Myself I am a man, some days I'm very masculine while other days I'm more feminine but I don't call myself gender fluid, I say I'm a man but today I am more feminine.
As a gender fluid person, it's not just feeling masculine or feminine, it's about being a male/female/non binary that moment, and on my "masculine" days, I experience severe dysphoria
"it's about being a male/female/non binary" - That's not a grouping of similar things. Male/female are physical objects, they're biological, verifiable body-types. "non-binary" is not an object. It's not a body-type. It only exists in your mind, in your thoughts and feelings. Not out here in the objective reality we all share. To list these three things as a single group is deceitful at best.
@@shmeet Even biologically, there's not just men and women, there are intersex poeple too, which sometimes don't even match XX or XY chromosomes. Non-binary identities such as two-spirits has existed and being recognise in differents countries and cultures around the globe for dozens of centuries, yet in modern world people can't accept that?
Gender fluid is not a real thing, it doesn’t exist
Exactly
@@shmeetwhat are talking about is sex. What the person is talking about is gender.
As a transman, I can agree with what she's saying about the who agender situation. I don't understand why there are so many dislikes. I like how she is still using facts and the two gender spectrum, (which I believe is valid) but keeping in mind that sex and gender do get paired with each other, yet they can be split into identity. I appreciate how she keeps the trans community in mind and refers them as the gender they are, male or female, no hyphenated or added words to explain their gender. But I am a man who transition into a male and wishes to only be said as such. Traits of each gender or sex is not a threat but rather an aspect.
Why I disagree is that sex and gender are separate things. Someone can be transitioning and still biologically be a woman but identify as a man. That's their gender identity until they biologically transition.
I believe gender identity should be repsected
@@nicoleashlee1740 Same as me. As a trans boy, I do struggle sometimes. But thankfully not as bad as others. STORY TIME!
At the start of 6th grade, I wanted to explore my sexuality and gender identity, just being curious! I looked into what transgender means. Then compared it to how I often feel. Then my brain finally clicked. I held it in for a few months. But my sister suspected I was hiding something, and forced me to come out. The next day I explained (while crying because I was scared she would hate me) I hate being called a she. I hate being called my birth name. She forced me to come out to my mom that same day. They both didn't care and tried to 'fix me' in a way. Tried to make me wear girl clothes and makeup. I hated every second. Any time my sister had to choose a side, me, or someone trying to make me wear girl clothes, she didn't ever choose me. She calls me a girl and my birth name. Yesterday I went shopping with her and my older cousin. I saw this very cheap and cool camo jacket. My sister blurted out "Brooke, those are boy clothes!" I was shattered. She told me once she thought she was transgender also. (She's not) So why can't she treat me like I want to be? Why do I have to suffer because of a way I was born? Why can't they accept me? I don't see a way out anymore. She makes it very clear she doesn't accept me. She makes it very clear she loves me less than others. She makes it clear that she will never accept me. Idk what to do. If I could get some advice that'd be amazing. Idk what to do. Plz help.
As another transman, I agree with this message.
Yes, just don't go ballistic if someone say to you sir instead of "mam"..like a famous gender fluid mountain panda that goes bezerk in a gaming store.
Yall cant change ur gender, ur crazy that you are trying to.
Alright guys. I've gotten a lot of comments about intersex people, so here are my thoughts:
If we can't say "there are 2 genders" because of intersex people, then technically we shouldn't be able to say "humans have 2 arms" either, because polymelia means that some babies are born with 3 arms.
There are 2 genders. Humans have 2 arms. These are facts.
Also, I haven't actually heard of anyone claiming to be genderfluid because they were medically-diagnosed as intersex. Genderfluid and intersex are, in my opinion, two separate issues, and even if someone is intersex, it still wouldn't lend itself to changing back and forth between genders so frequently that gender-identifying bracelets are needed.
incoming triggered. lol!
Honey I'm going over to Bearing, Undoomed, Suit Yourself and some of the bigger boys and try to tell them about you. You deserve some subscribers. You seem to have something most millennials lost "brains". Might have to go to Sugartits to catch Bearings attention. That's his woman if you didn't know.
Most actually intersex people do end up identifying as male or female anyway, for example, XXY intersex usually ends up being male. Then there are "pseudohermaphrodites" who are really males and females with enlarged or internalised genitals. A male born with a uterus, when he grows up, is still a man.
I think some people are right in that tumblr tends to conflate androgynous (just meaning a not very girly girl or not very masculine boy) with actually not having a gender. Like, I get it -- there is an actual biological basis for being a tomboy, but that doesn't mean you are not a girl/woman.
For pronouns, I use singular "they" but only when referring to a person in the abstract sense, not to anyone in particular. As in, "If you go to the doctor tomorrow, they will give you a pill." In this case, "the doctor" is a single person, but I do not know if "the doctor" is male or female. Other than that, fuck it. Unless you're transitioning or something, you get the same he or she from me.
Well yeah, Intersex is a birth defect. We don't create new genders for birth defects. Can downs syndrome be a gender now too? Also seeing as we ALL start out as female, if there is any deviation from that, you're actually genetically male. To be female is to experience no change at all. Should this change however get stuck at say 2% or to the point where it's only just noticeable then sure, pick your sex and roll with it, but that choice comes only from two sexes. Good video, keep it up.
First world problems... when you don't have real problems you create them, and this is the newest fad
This is the most accurate example of First World Problems
RaisingHeartSetUp the most annoying first world problem
*hard times make strong people*
*strong people make good times*
*good times make weak people*
*weak people make hard times*
Whelp, a war is on the way. Or just the collapse of humanity, I'm not sure what's better anymore
Simple Cat The collapse of modern society would be better. Then it can be rebuilt by the strong who survive.
A small group of people who think they are special and expect the world to bow down to them. 76+ genders? People using pronouns and others being punished for not using them?
The world would be more accepting if we weren't being bullied and threatened.
I feel like- I just don't give a shit that much? One day my boobs make me wanna cry and another day I just vibe with em and be happy with them?? Like I just think I don't have another label so I use that???
this is pretty much exactly how i feel
@@lemonasdf same
4:27 I notice you use a picture of Jamie. Jamie has multiple times talked about how NB people matter (NBs include gender fluids). He has taken down multiple videos when people use his image to send hate.
This is the best non hateful way I’ve seen someone explain this.
Are you conflating anger at a Governments willingness to imprison free citizens for not "trusting and respecting" everyone who randomly demands it, for genuinely hating someone who is different?
@@christopherfisher5155
_________________I think you misunderstood his comment.
Same thing j thought, great video
NOT TRUE!
EYELESS JACK CREEPYPASTA I don’t think you’ve seen the rest of the internet explain it then...
Feeling isn't a gender.
Thank you👏👏
Nurfing Bunny psychology is gender behaviour
Hey quick question, is gender an instrument?
@goku son no wtf. Beying gay does not change your gender at all neither your personallity it just means you like the same gender that you have. Beying trangender on the other hand means you havr a disorder and you confuse personal traits with your gender and decide you are on the wrong body and need to change it even if you are 100% healty
Fesno I’ll pass
3:25 who are you to say what makes someone "actually" transgender? being trans is based solely on identity. just because an individual chooses not to transition in the way YOU think they should, does not mean they arent actually trans.
"being trans is based solely on identity." - 'who are you to say what makes someone "actually" transgender?'
Jess Express you are right! Only ones self can determine if they are trans or not
Being transgender means you had physical surgery to switch to another biological sex, that’s what makes you transgender. If it’s based solely on identity then I am transgender from a male to a non binary, but it doesn’t work like that. This may sound confusing but just read it a couple of times, it’s all there
________I think more ppl would think "transsexual" when they hear "surgery" but, yeah, it's still the same thing. If a sex change operation is not the same thing as a gender change operation then someone needs to explain why there's no legal difference between Sex bias vs Gender bias or Sex discrimination vs Gender discrimination. Or in medical terms like Sex Selection vs Gender Selection procedures and how the two words are used as synonyms throughout the entire professions, past and present.
Cat Thwomper
Transgender means not identifying as the gender you were assigned at birth. So if you’re non-binary, you’re also trans.
You forgot to acknowledge that there are non-XX/XY chromosome configurations.
_____________Yes, like XXXXX, XXXY, XXXXY and several others. Around 30 if memory serves. These are medical conditions. Birth defects. Ppl with intersex conditions are not new genders. They males and females, mostly males though, who have a birth defect that affects their sex chromosomes. All of these conditions are known by modern medicine and have names that end with words like 'disorder" or "syndrome" or some long-worded medical terminology. These ppl still fit in the gender binary. Birth defects do not make a person something other than a male or a female. It makes them either a male with an intersex condition, or a female with an intersex condition. Mostly males are affected.
Stop you can't use logic people hate that.
Matthew Clark Especially SJW's
Nowadays, logic = hate.
But there is no hate in this video, just common logic and obv things. She didnt say 'gender fluid' people are abominations (cause they are not obviously). that would be hate speech. She just stated the commonly logical thing that if you have a penis you are a man and if you have a vagina you are a woman. :)
+Bastet You're preaching to the choir. Nobody HERE really thinks this is hate, we're being sarcastic. We're implying that SJWs would consider this hate speech.
Matthew Clark hahaha true
I’m a huge tomboy (although I can be feminine sometimes) I still feel female. I’ve always found non-binary very sketchy.
Madison Ezman congrats your a human
NEO NEO Thanks? 😂
Madison Ezman someone tried to tell me I'm non binary because of this, she suggested a few more titles too. I know it may have caused a rift but I firmly stated "I'm just a girl". Who I hang out with and what I like isn't enough to change that and I don't have any dysphoria either.
Aeolian People are too focused on labels nowadays...it’s sad
Madison Ezman that's leftism for you , we know what you need and if you try to say no then you are an enemy. Unless you're a man or white or Asian. Then you are automatically Hitler's reincarnation
"There are only two genders"
Intersexual people: "Am I a joke to you?"
____________"People who have an intersex condition" not "intersexual people"
"Intersex" refers to a known list of physical conditions or birth defects/anomalies. These conditions affect mostly males, with a very small minority of those affected being female. There are males with an intersex condition and there are females with an intersex condition. These ppl are not new genders and it's quite rude and insensitive to suggest they are.
@@shmeet sorry didn't know that
@@shmeet thats not how intersex works...
@@deiofdoom7017
_______________You better be really, really sure about that...are you? Are you absolutely, positively certain?
@@shmeet some of what you said is kind of right, but intersex people are don't have an "intersex condition" they are intersex, even if their sex "looks" more female or male, that still means they're intersex.
I thought the bracelet thing was cute
same
@@976K it’s dumb
No. It seems needlessly complicated and dumb.
No offense.
@@cartooncottage2024 your comment seems to me needless and dumb
you: (says something rude)
no offense.
@@name-vw6ll why?
Remember when people used to just say " Tom boy"?
I hope those days come back again... But I swear if it comes back as an individual gender, I'll just shave my head.
Ex-fucking-actly. Unfortunately, teens would rather prefer to be special snowflakes instead.
I consider myself as a tom boy, some of the LGBT community would consider me as a "transpangender non-binary" or some shit haha
I was a tomboy as a child. But mainly because I mainly played with my older brother when I was young, so I preferred Japanese action figures and legos over barbie dolls. How did I turn out? Um a straight female who loves ogling at hot asian men *what did I even just type
wtf is tomboys for dudes to act girly lmao
when us genderfluid people describe our "masculine" and "feminine" days as, well, masculine and feminine, what we mean is (at least what i mean), not just the characteristics of being masculine and feminine, but feeling it also as well. some days i won't feel like a boy, some days i won't feel like a girl, some days i'll feel like both, some days i'll even feel like neither. the genderfluid identity isn't exactly "fixed", it moves around from time to time. gender expression and how we dress doesn't exactly define our gender(s), it's what makes us comfortable when we feel like a boy, girl, etc. i could dress "masculine" one day and just as easily feel like and identify as a girl. it's gender expression. what i'm trying to say is, people often confuse gender expression with gender fluid, so i thought i'd try to clear that up (:
How can you feel like a girl or a boy or neither? If genders dont have fixed expressions, then that is impossible. You cant feel like you have either the XX or XY chromosome. Gender and Sex arn't something you can feel or expressed.
***** Evidence or gtfo
That's not your gender, though. That's just your personality and choices in your daily life. Clothes don't make us masculine or feminine. I sometimes wear my boyfriend's sweatpants or shoes. Does that mean I"m a man for the day? No, it just means I'm wearing his pants or shoes. Why would you want to restrict yourself so much that you want your sense of style to be labeled a gender? Why do you want gender stereotypes to be so rigid that you can't just be a woman who likes to dress like a man, you have to become a man in order to dress like one?
I'm sick and weak today, I guess I'm Female.
I ate a Large Breakfast, I feel full, I feel I can Attack my day head on, I'm a Male today.
sex is biological, while gender is psychosocial (often in roles, like castes)
so i would say its less of an identity than it is a forced societal hierarchy, therefore no one gets to choose and everyone is assigned
identity wise, whatever. but gender is simply psychosocial
I read two nonfiction books I would recommend:
Born Both, an Intersex Life and
The Pride Guide
Remember to seek out many different sources so you can fully understand anything you have questions on.
_______________Just a tip for better civil discourse: Being proud of yourself for taking good steps in life, making good decisions, accomplishing goals etc. is all fine and well, but self-pride merely for the sake of existence (aka, "just being who you are") is not a healthy strategy. It makes a person look and sound as though they think they're better than other ppl. Which in turn leads to division and the bullying of those who disagree ("those" meaning "the one's who try to treat everyone equally in kindness and in a respectful manner").
shmeet I’m... confused by your argument.
Are you saying that people be themselves because it’s egotistical and puts everyone else down? That’s... not how it works.
Being yourself is more shouting making decisions that stay true to yourself, and not what other people want you to pick. A person can be true to themselves by expressing aspects of them, like with: fashion, hairstyles, mannerism, way of speaking, etc.
What your saying, from what I gathered, is that people who are “being themselves” bully others for not being treated like a special snowflake. That is not how it works. Like, at all.
Everyone should treat everyone with respect. Period. Which, includes using their proper name, pronouns, and comfort zones. And that’s what all people generally want. Respect.
Those who ask for it, are usually people like you who don’t give any. And judging from all the other comments you’ve posted here, I’d say my statement is true. If you aren’t respecting someone, either expect not receive any respect (and then claim it to be bullying) OR expect someone to ask for some. It would be oh so easy to do it. Respect is the bottom line of mutuality between individuals and you somehow dig underneath it.
@@totallynot2579
__________________Ppl don't meet, generally speaking, in a mutual display of respect, they meet in a general display of alert neutrality. That's the appropriate way to begin an interaction with someone. Respect is something you generally earn as a consequence of positive repeated interactions over long periods of time.
Not that it matters but i feel the need to defend myself a bit from your accusations (which are actually your misinterpretations of my comment). I happen to be very polite and well mannered. I don't even cuss in public. I treat everyone as i myself would like to be treated. Plenty of friends, i get along with everyone. I act in a very respectful manner. But that's not "respect," it's just acting in a respectful manner. Respect is earned, not given automatically on demand by anyone. Just because YOU say that "respect" includes "using their proper name, pronouns, and comfort zones.", and that this is what all people generally want, doesn't mean you're correct.
I really don't think much about respect at all. Never have. Do my friends respect me? IDK, you'd have to ask them. Doesn't seem like a question that needs considering. You can be friends with ppl you don't respect. Respect is not some kind of prerequisite to basic humanity. It just isn't. And asking other ppl to utter words they, for whatever reason, don't believe represents the truth is an incredibly DISrespectful thing to do! Are you able to comprehend what i'm saying? Can you actually see things from the other point of view?
What i refer to you as is none of your business. Your "comfort zones" are not my problem or concern. I am not responsible for your happiness or emotional well-being, that's YOUR responsibility. One that you should treasure and guard jealously. Never give it away. It's not the job of society to make you feel comfortable. You will receive the same treatment from me(society too) that everyone else receives. No more, no less. Everyone is referred to by the pronouns that match their body-type. That's an equal application of categorization if ever there was one. If you want en exemption from this system you're going to have to offer the world a better doctor's note than the one you have currently. The one that says "I don't like it because it makes me feel bad."
A real reason for an exemption would be something like serious medical conditions, dementia, being born with no limbs, quadriplegic, car accident victim, severely mentally challenged, actual trans-sexuality where normal daily life is nearly impossible without surgical intervention...etc. Obviously these ppl could use a helping hand and anyone should be happy to help. Even if it means going along with the ramblings of an elderly dementia ridden person. But we don't do that for the young and healthy who are just confused about 'thoughts and feelings.' Grow up. Get used to pain. That's what life ultimately is...pain. Hopefully you will find some happiness in between the pain, we all do to some degree. Enjoy it.
@@totallynot2579
"self-pride merely for the sake of existence (aka, "just being who you are")" - Think of the classic villains in the old Batman shows. The Joker, Penguin, Riddler...etc. What do they all have in common?
I’m trans ftm and I liked that you explained transgender isn’t a third gender. It’s true, I am a man that just happens to be trans. I love that, I just didn’t know how to put it in words.
I can get behind being a transgender that feels like they're the wrong gender, but this gender fluid thing is way too much. It is like Rm was talking about very transtrender. A person that is using the trans community to amuse themselves. Just like Milo basically is. Calling yourself a gender confusionist is basically taking the piss out of Transgenders worldwide.
Eduardo Castro exactly.
Darth Atheist
I personally know someone who is genderfluid. Unlike what the creator of the video states, it's not just about feeling "masculine/feminine".
Because they are biologically female, they experience gender dysphoria when they feel like a guy. Periods are hell for them because their mind is telling them that they're a boy and their body is…well, functioning how any biological female would.
They fluctuate between feeling like a girl and feeling like a boy. (Which I don't completely understand because I don't really "feel" like anything lol, but I won't judge).
Darth Atheist
Besides, they had to do A LOT of research to find a label that would fit them. (Actually, I discovered the term "genderfluid" before they did.)
They were so incredibly overjoyed to finally understand what they were going through.
They're definitely not trans, but I wouldn't treat them any differently if they were. (And yes, I'd say being genderfluid and being transgender can be pretty similar).
Samantha Sarco we live in an age where people make up brackets that they personal fit into because it makes them feel special. Some of these brackets only serve that one function, making you special. I can not get behind that in anyway.
I get that you can be in doubt about your sexuality, but gender? And then proceed to say you can switch in between genders and make up a third gender seem a little too far out there.
People that have Schizophrenia can change personality (gender based on personality) but they're not gender fluid because gender fluid is a new term that was made up.
Question is how much of this is only psychological and how much is biological...
Darth Atheist They aren't schizophrenic, and they don't want to be special. They hate attracting attention to themselves; they have social anxiety.
I know that some people definitely do try and fake their gender in order to "fit in" and get attention (just like people who will agree with every single one of your opinions in order to be praised and to try to feel relevant)…however, they are probably the most genuine person I have ever met :^)
And yes, gender is psychological, as is sexuality. Allegedly, chemical imbalances can influence your gender…which is honestly what is probably going on with people who are trans/fluid/whatever. I would guess that fluctuations of estrogen and testosterone would determine their gender.
Add in social influence, aka things in our daily life that are associated with either gender, and bam, it gets that much more confusing.
I won't claim to be an expert or even half understand what causes different genders or sexualities, but I will say this: if it's not broken, why fix it? (Which is basically a response to people who claim psychotherapy will magically align their gender to their biological body…which almost seems similar to "Pray your gay away!" or whatever)
Actually, there is a sex that is neither male nor female and is called intersex. It's an actual medical thing that exists in people.
if it's a medical thing i don't think it means they chose to be it. she's talking about people who chose to go one way or the other.
Being intersexed is a condition, not a third sex. It would be like claiming that a sterile man or woman should be a fourth and fifth sex/gender.
thats all arbitrary. what makes it a condition vs a people? are blind people a people or a condition?
blind people are people with a condition, blindness. it's quite simply really.
It's a condition, but it should probably also be considered a third sex.
Our sex is defined by our chromosomes and reproductive parts. If those traits can vary in their alignment without impacting our health, then should we really define sex simply by two narrow categories?
Let's say you're born with a mixed bag of chromosomes and you end up having two different sets of reproductive organs. If those organs are functional and you can't self-identify as male or female via your physical or mental traits... then which of the two sex options will you choose on a job application? How will you get into professional sports if you're required to verify your sex? If you're an intersex child, your parents can remove one of your sets of reproductive organs without your consent, so which ones do you hope they choose to remove?
A third sex label is necessary and needs to be normalized until we understand the condition further. Otherwise we risk discriminating against those who don't medically fit into our two defined sexes.
newsflash there are more than two x and y chromosome combinations
___________You're right. There's XXY, XXXXY and a small handful of others. What's your point?
@@shmeet She stated that there were two biological sexes because sex is determined by either xx or xy chromosomes. By that very definition, there are more than two sexes.
@@harley3211
_________________Sex is determined by the sex chromosomes, correct. The Y chromosome is the determining factor. If there's a Y or Y's then it's a male. No Y or Y's = female.
XXY = male
XXX = female
XXXXY = male
XX = female
XY = male
See? If there's a Y in there at all, or multiple Y's, it's a male. No Y's it's a female. Having extra copies of sex chromosomes does not make you a new gender. Unfortunately these extra copies/combinations all have names that end with words like "syndrome" or "disorder" or "condition" because that's what they are. They're birth defects.
"49, XXXXY syndrome is a rare sex chromosome aneuploidy occurring in 1:80 000-1:100 000 male births."
"Tetrasomy X (also called XXXX syndrome, quadruple X, or 48,XXXX) is an extremely rare chromosomal disorder caused by the presence of four X chromosomes instead of two X chromosomes. This condition occurs only in females, as there are no Y chromosomes present."
"Klinefelter syndrome (KS) also known as 47,XXY or XXY, is the set of symptoms that result from two or more X chromosomes in males."
Hope that helps.
I'm a simple person, if I see a person who looks like a female I'm saying she.
But what if it's actually a boy with long hair and cute face? 😂😂😂
That would be hilarious xdxDxd
@@AL-ks7yg Yaah as long as you remember to say no homo xD
AL
I have a buddy called heavy metal Jesus who been confused for a girl from behind.
Isthat_tescosbleach
I usually settle for an awkward mumble that could either be man or mam.
@Isthat_tescosbleach How the F can't you tell? It's so obvious with like 99,9 % of people.
When it comes to pronouns I leave it in the hands of the person addressing me. As a trans woman who doesn't always look passable I accept people are just going to call me as they see me. Those who are close to me factor in my wishes but random person on the street does not nor should I expect them to. There seems to be a muddling of vocabulary and definitions. If you look at me and see a "he" well then I got more work to do. If you see me and see "she" well then I'm just all giddy cuz I'm like that. I don't get offended by people making their own call on this. If I get a bunch of replies to this where people are going out of their way to call me "he" well no still not going to get offended. Just my thoughts.
That's such a reasonable approach, thanks for sharing it! :)
You're OK with me
I absolutely love this comment! I have never seen a more reasonable comment in my life concerning pronouns!
Machia Well thank you. I try. :)
BigBangCat I actually support actual gender dysphorics like you, not fake ass tumblr transgenders
Here is what I heard just last day:
Genders are like Twin Towers. There used to be two, but now they are just a touchy subject.
TheKille22 I never thought of it like that. Welp, the more ya know.
TheKille22 10/10 😂😂😂
Stolen! You thought we wouldn't notice, but we did...
TheKille22 dick
I mean he’s not wrong
Psst. I’m gender fluid and when I’m a man I feel dysphoric. Some days I dress masculinely but it doesn’t mean that that day I’m a man. Often when I’m a man you won’t see me cuz my dysphoria makes me really sad so I don’t want to see anyone. It’s a normal thing to want to be feminine one day and masculine the next however that isn’t genderfluidity. Genderfluidity is being a man one day and being a woman or in the middle on another day
People can be who they are. It doesn’t effect you.
___________________Gender is not a "who" it's a "what." It's what you are, physically, biologically, not "who" you are in your mind. Since your body makes either sperm or eggs it naturally follows that you are male or female. Only the female gender makes eggs and only the male gender makes sperm. Gender is not a 100% "social construct," not even close. It's biologically based. As for it not affecting anyone, tell that to Canadians who are now living under Bill C 16.
shmeet you do know that there are people born with both or neither genitalia, right? Look up intersex. It’s pretty interesting.
@@shmeet is always the guy with a skeleton profile picture
@@annixlin
______________Intersex Conditions, if YOU bothered to look it up, are exactly that...conditions. Birth defects/anomalies that affect both males and females, but the vast majority of those affected are males. There are males who were born with an intersex condition and there are females who were born with an intersex condition. Some of these conditions are serious and some hardly noticeable. Sometimes extra copies of an X or a Y is present but this doesn't mean that person is a new gender. Here's the rule:
So long as there's a Y in the mix that person is technically, biologically, scientifically, genetically, objectively male. No Y's = female.
This happens to less than half of 1 percent of the global population according the UN. See for yourself, don't take my word for it. Do your homework.
Intersex Conditions usually have names that end with "syndrome" "disorder" "deficiency" or some medical terminology you would need to hear twice to say it correctly. They're not mere "variations" of cellular growth, it's not common.. It means something went wrong. They're medical conditions, some can be fatal if left alone. You want some proof that these are conditions that affect males and females? Just look up Intersex Conditions.
*"5-alpha reductase deficiency* is a condition that affects *male* sexual development before birth and during puberty. People with this condition are *genetically male,* with one X and one Y chromosome in each cell, and they have *male gonads* (testes)."
*"Androgen insensitivity syndrome (AIS)* is a rare condition that affects the development of a child's genitals and reproductive organs. A child born with AIS is *genetically male,* but the external appearance of their genitals may be female or somewhere between male and female."
*"Congenital adrenal hyperplasia* affects a child's normal growth and development. Although it can be life-threatening, most people with it can lead normal lives with proper treatment. *Symptoms in infants may include ambiguous genitalia in girls and an enlarged penis in boys."*
"XXYY syndrome is a sex chromosome anomaly in which *males* have an extra X and Y chromosome."
"Tetrasomy X (also called XXXX syndrome, quadruple X, or 48,XXXX) is an extremely rare chromosomal disorder caused by the presence of four X chromosomes instead of two X chromosomes.[1]
*This condition occurs only in females, as there are no Y chromosomes present."*
I'll stop here, but please do at least a minimum of research before commenting on serious issues such as these. The quotations above are copied and pasted without any alterations in the text. This is so anyone can copy/paste them right back into google to see the sources. It'll be the first result listed.
@Renee Erdmann
________________I'll tell you what nobody likes. No one likes or respects someone who thinks it's socially acceptable to tell other ppl what words they're allowed to use. You do not get to choose how i address you. I will make that decision for myself. It will be based on what I deem to be true and appropriate in that moment. It's a thought process that takes place in my head, not yours. It's off limits to you. (unless you happen to live in Canada, unfortunately)
I like how you differentiated between "who I am" and "what I am", I hadn't thought of it much before.
__________________It's been 5 years. Do you still think about it?
Dude..... I have been saying this for years. Just because a guy likes makeup doesnt make them a girl or a girl playing football doesn't make her a guy THANK YOU
What you need to realize is that there is such a thing as masculine girls and feminine boys but some people do not feel comfortable identifying as "boy" or "girl" due to the feeling of gender dysphoria.
_______________Not feeling "...comfortable identifying as..." has absolutely no ties to objective reality. If i was an obese person can i say "I don't feel comfortable having ppl talk about me as being a fat person. That's not how i want to be identified. I want everyone to identify me as someone who looks like a male clothing model.....and if you don't do it you're a Nazi and an oppressor and racist scumbag that doesn't deserve to live! My feelings are more important than reality!"
How is it "just plain stupid"?
AdeltaE Official doesn't matter. They cannot be "neither" as there is no neither, no matter what they think in their heads. Or should we treat every crazy person like their delusions are real?
For me, what affects my "feeling masculine/feminine/nb" is based on how comfortable I feel if people refer to me as "she" or "he", or even "they". Some days I can't even stand the fact of someone calling me a girl because of my dysphoria, it's not a matter of 'today I feel like wearing boyish clothes', its more like 'I feel uncomfortable being referred as a female today', so I use other pronouns, like "he" or "they". It's how people see me, it's called social dysphoria, I also have body dysphoria, some days I like having boobs, a vagina, etc(feeling like a female) and some days I hate every part of it(really hating, not just 'wishing I had a dick rn😣😣😣'), meaning that day I don't feel like a female. If that's not fluid then idk what to tell you. It changes, the pronouns I feel comfortable using, the way I see my body, the way I think of myself, it changes. I wear more masculine/feminine clothes because I want to feel less dysphoric according to the gender I am that day, I understand that dressing like a boy doesn't change my gender. My gender changes, and that's why I dress differently than other days.
_____________Your gender does not change. What's happening inside your head does not exist outside of your skull. For your gender to change you would need to rewrite your genetic code, your DNA. We can't do that today, the technology does not exist. You may feel a certain way about your body, but those feelings are not what the "he/she..." labels are describing. Pronouns are not feelings. They refer to the type of body you have, not your inner, subjective self that exists only in your head, inside your skull.
What would you say to the following proposition?
You are a biological female. Because of that immutable fact, your gender is also female.
Does that work? Why/Why not?
@@shmeet What about trans people? What about intersex people?
@@akilo3769
_____________What about them. They're all male or female just like everyone else. A birth defect does not a new gender make.
@@akilo3769
_______________What about ppl with intersex conditions? These are physical, medical conditions, typically associated with a problem that can be traced back to the sex chromosomes and/or the corresponding hormone functionality. They are not psychological issues, they're physical ones.
I love being Cis cause I don't have to deal with this bullshit and bullying
The English language is malleable, and I'm fine with someone preferring a gender neutral pronoun. But stupid shit like "Ze" or "They" are cringeworthy. Perhaps let's come up with a better way to refer to people in a neutral way that doesn't sound stupid as shit, otherwise I think the rest of the video is spot-on
Agreed. Very much agreed. As well as people wanting "They" to refer to a singular entity.
+Shannon Isoldi Please define "preferred pronouns."
+Shannon Isoldi Ok; now, when you say "pronouns", do this refer to a defined set of pronouns for use, or can this list not be defined because you/me/society should not place a limit on what pronoun a person can use that makes them feel happy?
To be fair, this is my journalism background talking and not as someone advocating for special pronouns (I personally hate the idea of special pronouns for making things more complicated), but "they" has already been used as a neutral and singular pronoun long before this SJW crap.
For instance, someone asks you if someone is still at the office.
You can respond with, "They left already."
Grammatically correct and still functions as a neutral pronoun in this context. I don't know why people suddenly forgot that "they" has been used like this for a long time when it's applicable.
Because it's fussy and just enables special snowflakes to create more confrontations. Most people with special pronouns don't advertise what their special pronoun is. If I go up to someone, I will have no clue if they want to be called zim if they do not let me know ahead of time. Most would not wear it on their shirt or something. Heck, there are many special snowflakes who don't even transition well. They suddenly demand people read their minds and magically know what to refer to them as out of the blue.
In other words, it's stupid to pander to such a small minority in such a convoluted way. I am all for showing respect to others, but from my perspective - the confrontational, special snowflakes who would be the ones writing long-winded essays on Tumblr because someone "violently" misgendered them at the store or whatever are the ones who don't show respect to the general population themselves.
Respect has to be earned.
I'm just waiting for someone to be triggered by this common sense and reason now.
As much as I respect her for being calm and kind with a respectful tone, I feel this has led people to believe that means her points are instantly validated.
What did she say in this video that is incorrect ?
digglyda I don't say "incorrect" I just believe otherwise in relation to her points.
+Peridot Gem Examples?
Peridot Gem
___The points she presents are not ones of subjectivity. They are objective in nature. This means they are expressed in terms of being correct or incorrect. Validity doesn't even enter into the picture. She's either right or wrong. Correct or incorrect.
I don’t feel comfortable wearing dresses but i love my hair
I don’t wanna be girly but I’m proud to be a girl
I like wearing my boy cousin clothes but at the same time make hairstyles
I love playing sports and being boyish sometimes
I’m not a tomboy
I’m not a girly girl
I’m not trans
But.... iam me 💗
The idea that clothes or hobby preferences somehow determine a gender is nonsense, a cognitively lazy behavior that would be far better to try and dismantle than the overall concept of gender itself. Wearing pants instead of a dress doesn't make you not a woman anymore; playing sports doesn't make you "boyish, nor does cutting your hair short or even shaving it completely. The fact that people like to make lazy assumptions based on shallow signifiers like this, that's what we need to change. Instead of an end to all semblance of discrimination, let's have an end to people classifying everyone they see in the quickest, least-effort way possible, so that they can decide how to treat strangers based on a profile.
You're prolly just 14 and can't decide shit yet
im proud of you :)
Thankyou!
Someone who understands!
@@kasmanhadiyanto4036 wut?
Well now I’m even more confused :T
Same I feel this
_______________Did you take a Gender Studies or Sociology course?
shmeet
Did you?
@@totallynot2579
_______________No. I'm one of the lucky one's who managed to dodge the indoctrination.
@@shmeet wait then why did you bring it up if you think of it like that?
I dress/act feminine, I also dress/act masculine and sometimes I'm somewhere in between; but that does not change my identification as a cis female. This whole "trend" is just too much.
Then please don't use cis. It's a confirmation of a confirmation.
a shellbug's life cis? I forgot about that awful term.
XxxshadowbunnyxxX ???? please reread their comment. they said act FEMININE. not FEMALE.
It isn't a fucking trend.
@@trash1106
U r right
If I fly 100 kilometers a day with huge miniguns attached to my lower abdomen, as well as high-load rockets, does that make me an Apache attack helicopter?
Only if you make helicopter noises
+Neither Seven brum brum.
You need to make gun sounds too
You need to say foff foff foff foff
no it makes you a lauren southern wannabe
Well I guess I don’t exist now
Same
*fades off into existence*
*disappears into oblivion*
@Rainedain
same, i watched this video a few monthes ago when i was just starting to question my gender so i felt kinda like "so i'm not genderfluid or something else?"
but just so you know your valid and this person is being wrong and very uneducated, genderfluid people exist and all nonbinary gender's are real!!
this is a youtuber who has some really good videos on being gender fluid: Hayhay Vu
they have a few videos on them being gender fluid, and they were really helpful for me!
@@deiofdoom7017 genderfluid doesn't make sense to me I think non binary makes a lot more sense. Changing gender every now and then is more of a feeling, like "I feel masculine today or feminine" it doesn't make sense as a gender. Non binary sort of makes sense sort of but also seems like the feeling of confusion. Sorry if this sounded rude
@@swaglish1415
_______________Did you intend to sound rude? Then don't apologize. Also it's okay to be rude if that's what you feel is appropriate. And even then you still wouldn't owe anyone an apology.
Hello, I'd like to add my two cents to the topic. I understand that some people mix gender and personality, but that doesn't mean every single nb/genderfluid person is going through a phase.
I wanted a more professional opinion so I asked my therapist about the topic and this is what she told me; a genderfluid person doesn't have control over how their identity shifts, so you can't exactly mark on a calendar what gender you'll choose that day. The person's dysphoria fluctuates dramatically (in a way that is different from binary trans people) which causes the person to experience the "feeling" of different identities. Yes, people sometimes confuse it with personality but that doesn't invalidate the experiences of actual genderfluid people.
I personally believe it's real but it's much rarer than people think it is. On that note, I hope everyone who reads this takes it into consideration and I hope you have a good day!
I'm really glad I found your channel! It's so reassuring to find another female millennial who has conservative views. :)
Thanks! It's nice for me to know there are more of us out there too :)
It's strange that today we consider these to be conservative opinions in the first place! I definitely lean left, but really enjoy your videos and insight.
I tend to lean more left, which is funny too because I study business and a lot of business tends to be much more conservative. Being younger tends to push me to be more left, of course. But I also align a lot with these views, because I don't respect the notion of safe space and "protecting" people from views that don't pat them on the back for being stupid. I became who I became BECAUSE of all the bullshit, bullying, etc that I had to go through, not despite it. I am thankful for having to endure that kind of pain as I grew up because it gave me a better sense of appreciation for what I have now. If I never had to endure any of that I never would have needed to grow as a person and I would probably be an overly entitled asshat who thinks he's God's gift to the world.
Ultimately I think politics is a total fucking shit show though. I think the political left and right we see today are very far shifted away from their origins. In the end I just accept that a lot of the people in positions of power got there by behaving in certain ways which tend not to make them the most altruistic leaders that we kind of need right now given all the problems we face. Additionally I don't think the political process, or the economic reality we have today lend themselves to the kind of long-term planning we need as a species to intelligently manage ourselves and the planet we inhabit.
I agree with her critical thinking and I love her channel, but I'm not conservative. I believe in building a more egalitarian and fair society, and I believe in revaluating what we know about the human race to make room for everyone. I just disagree with how it's being done by some people (SJW and such)
Well said
Even though I don't agree with you about gender only being binary, I want to thank you for turning the anti-sjw side of youtube away from yelling and more into a dialogue, it's very refreshing.
Couldn't agree more :3
now if we can get the sjw side to stop screaming and physically assaulting people
phoboskitty m Already 90% there. The screamy people are the absolute minority of people wanting social justice, they just get more attention for being idiots
+Peridot Gem Problem is, we aren't seeing any consequences for the minority acting up. We need the left to punish the idiots; we're doing most of the work.
Blueberry Bandit that's true, but who's gonna set the boundaries for what make ssomeone this minority? It's different asnwers depending on the person you ask
I’m gender fluid and i know my gender changes. One day I will feel genuine dysphoria and want to be any place but my body. It feels suffocating and I won’t be able to bare being my assigned gender. However other days I will feel at home in my assigned gender and don’t mind coming across as that.
It’s not just as simple as some days I’m masculine and sometimes I’m feminine and sometimes I’m neutral.
One last thing. Please don’t act like this is a choice for us. It’s not a life style choice. It’s not an attention seeking game. It’s who we are and thats not something we can help.
I appreciate you didn’t just flat out say it was completely invalid so but...yeh...
Pick a gender already
This just made me question everything. I have identified as genderfluid for so long, and when I saw this I assumed it’d just be one of those “your gender is what’s in your pants” kind of video. But, it’s not. It brought up good points. What is my gender? Why does what I want to be change sometimes? Am I weird? What am I?
sorry but gender and sex are 2 completely different things. Gender is not binary. hell sex isn't even binary. there are more than 2 sexes, for example intersex. I think you need to do little more research.
Someone's feelings are not research. There's no science to back up the idea that gender is non-binary. Its a made up idea concocted by teenagers on tumblr with no life or distinguishing qualities.
you're obviously very ignorant.
You wouldn't consider albinos to be a new race, so you shouldn't consider intersex people to be a new sex. Science doesn't include anomalies in data collection. And yes there are non binary people, they are know as gender non-conforming. They are not a different gender. Gender, gender identity and gender expression are very different things. I think you need to do a little more research.
I think this is one of things where people think "i was born male, i feel male" therefore if someone else is born with female genitalia but they feel male, they are sick and wrong etc
+randomuploadsism Biologcallly there are only Two genders. Different genitalia. yes some people are born with both. yes they are intersex. however what she was trying to point out was that wanting to constantly change your gender or identity and expecting others to somehow just know and the world to cator to you or people claiming to be "oppressed " by others not using their pronouns. Be what you want to be just know that world doesn't cater to anyone. life is life. you'll die and nobody will remember you in say 20 years. just like all of us will be forgotten. females have the ability to give birth and men have dicks that's life. if you feel like you're more male than female or vice versa you have to remember biologically you were born a certain way and it's okay to want to change that or to do whatever you want with your body or whatever just don't be tumblr about it.
The issue is that you think too much. Being feminine one day and masculine the other day is okay or not 'feeling like a gender' is ok. But then again, how do you 'feel' your gender? Your gender isn't an emotion. Gender identity is a way of expressing yourself. But what is not okay is that people are now starting to think that being GNC makes you have/be a different gender. So ironic to see that the same people complain ab labels on clothes and that kind of stuff, but then they start creating even more labels bc when they wear 'man clohtes' they suddenly have a different gender?? Where did the tomboy girls go to? Or isn't that special enough anymore?
Don't get me wrong, I believe in non-binary, but only if you have dysphoria (having a discomfort with you secondary sex characteristics). Your gender isn't a trend and it's not something to 'explore'. Feeling or wanting to be masculine/feminine doesn't change your gender, it is how you want to express yourself. Wear whatever the fuck you want, cut ur hair, let it grow, do 'boy' things, do 'girl' things, but stop creating those labels and then go complaining about how society puts everyone 'in a box'.
You were born a girl or a boy (or intersex), but how you choose to express yourself is up to you. And you don't need those labels to do that (and for sure not if u are gonna claim that u are trans bc u are GNC, that's just transphobic).
I have a feeling that people are creating those labels to fight against stereotypes, little to they know they are only creating more stereotypes.
Thisname bless you
I've screenshotted this- it's fucking perfect.
I've always been GNC even as a little girl. I wanted so badly to be born a boy. I have had body dysmorphia/dysphoria to the point of eating disorders and severe depression/suicidal thoughts. I am still not trans because I don't feel ENTIRELY male and I don't want to transition. I am still exploring exactly what I want to do about these thoughts/feelings, but I would never call myself trans. I totally agree with this.
The problem is some of the girls are mutilating thier body because of they just feel like a guy but don't want male or female but call them they I'm sorry but I only see boy or girl the trans ppl and others think they are crazy this is why trump wants this stopped and trans ppl have to suffer I can see both sides I know truly trans ppl didn't want this either but ppl are copying them and intersex ppl it's got to stop
you mentioned secondary sex characteristics but i was born a female who basically has dysphoria over my main sex characteristics (or i don’t even know if i can label it as dysphoria) i’ve just been having problems trying to figure out if i am trans or not and i don’t have any helpful resources does anybody have any advice? :)
Oof, I was with you until you started talking about the binary.
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She's right. There's only 2 genders. Get over it.
@@deviny no,
@@waltuhwhite8534 yes
@@deviny hmhm okay default
I'm constantly being misgendered, people always call me ma'am and I'm a man, I find it funny and shrug it off. I did get a free meal at a restaurant because a manager called me ma'am, all I said was I'm a guy and I smiled and the manager apologized and gave me my meal for free. Till this day I laugh about it because I didn't cause drama or anything. I suppose he was worried I would.
way to game the system bro!
I like that you make a bad situation into a good one. Well you should thank trans-nazi’s for that😂. They really have people on the edge if people aren’t willing to internalize their ideology😂 so that makes people EXTRA cautious about slipping up in front of trans folx. But good on u for not opening up hell on the person for a mistake.
Why is this girl not famous!? Her logical is as sound as Ben Shapiro's
Wait... are you Ben Shapiro's daughter????
As sound as Shapiro's?! This is the biggest compliment I have ever gotten. I can die happy now.
+ Roaming Millennial I just hope that wasn't sarcasm!
Jerall 10 I was waiting for her to say facts don't care about your feelings!
there's only two sexes though, in the animal kingdom, theres always only 2, and in some cases its both parts at once. but thats where it gets iffy.
Because of this, you can make an arguement that hermaphroditism exists, but that is NOT normal in us humans, disorders should not be recognized as something normal.
I've considered making videos like this but you're just making that unnecessary. Well informed, thoughtful, respectful, articulate, and easy to follow visually. You'll go far on youtube.
It is not thoughtful at all.
Dude if someone is genderfluid or just uses a pronounce that wasnt like that when they were born then im pretty sure they are doing it bc they feel UNCOMFY when someone doesnt say their current pronounce
can confirm as a genderfluid person.
3:20 yes. Sometimes. On my NB days... you only strengthened our point
ik this video is...😬
personally, I believe that gender is based on dysphoria. I believe that genders such as non-binary exist, and are a major part of the spectrum. like you said feminine and masculine aren't genders, but if someone feels like they are dysphoric towards certain masculine or feminine quality about themselves I believe that is valid. I think that finding a label that makes you feel comfortable in your body is great,. sex and gender are separate things and there are definitely more than two genders. but they should be based around dysphoria, not personality.
Dysphoria? Do you know what "gender dysphoria" was renamed from? Gender Identity Disorder. They just up and deleted G.I.D. from the manual like...30 seconds ago and stuck "dysphoria" in it's place. But both are listed under Personality Disorders.
shmeet How much time did you spend here replying to all of the people that have a different opinion then you.
Definitely more that two genders huh? Just because you say so? Are you a doctor or work in the
medical field on any level? Sorry...never mind...I forgot about your feelings...boo-hoo
@@krunch3444
_________________Probably more time than i've spent replying to those who i agree with. Why?
shmeet dude. It’s been 4 months. get over it.
there was no attack helicopter bracelet triggered
I shall make you one! #becarefulwhatyouwishfor
Starry Eyed Char the fuck is my quadgender motorcycle bracelet
And no body pillow bracelet
I'm genderfluid and this makes me a little uncomfortable about myself even if she isnt trying to do so ...it just seems like she wants to say that people cant be who they are but I'm not sure...this is kinda scary
______________________She's not talking about "who" ppl are. She's talking about "WHAT" ppl are.
@@shmeet Which is the problem. When we talk about WHAT people are, we categorize them and label them, limit them and dehumanize them. When we talk about who people are, we accept who they are as they says they are.
@@sherpajones
"limit them and dehumanize them." - What the hell are you talking about? No one feels that way. I mean literally no one feels that way. Being male or female, categorized by biological sex, it's not even...there's absolutely nothing there to think about or to feel anything, good or bad, about. To use those words you just used in connection to being categorized and labelled a man or a woman, based on biological sex, is so far out of the realm of reasonableness i don't know what to say. That's just plain weird. If that's really how you see things, then i'm sorry, Rod, but you've got something wrong happening in your mind. Something is very wrong. What you're feeling is not shared with 99.9% of the global population. I'm not saying this to insult you or hurt you in some way, i'm just being as passive as possible and giving you a heads up on something you may need to examine about yourself. Kind of like letting a driver know they have a tail light out.
im gender fluid and yes, i need to feel like a boy the days i want to feel like a boy i have to flatten my chest and use a packer but the days i feel as a female anyways i dont get upset when people miss pro noun me i personally feel as if some people are just extra
___________________There's these little things called comma's and periods?
Huh
ALJustice0 I said that’s hi I like to do things fucker
Great video with a very rational, well thought out and diplomatic approach to these issues. 10/10
Thanks!
She does do good work hu?
I disagree with your opinion, but I highly appreciate the way you went about expressing it. Most people say genderfluidity and other non binary genders are not real. You explained why you thought masculine and feminine are not genders. I like that. Thank you for being so much less rude than other people about it
Robosexual Cockatoo thank you. That is what I meant
Why do you disagree?
Vera Stone there not real.......if you do think so I think you're mother attempted killing you as a baby and ultimately faild
@@wrench3112 ****They're
@@wrench3112 If you're going to be an a**hole, at least use proper grammar.
I think you have the best intentions, but there are some things that you said that are just completely not true such as when you said that there are only two biological sexes. Yes, there are only two binary sexes, but intersex people exist. Trans people are also not changing their gender in it of itself. Their brain has always been that gender. They’re changing how they present and in some cases, their body, but they are not changing their actual gender. I do think your comments are more out of ignorance and not actual hate, but I did feel the need to say something.
Lets look at a few of the most commonly known intersex conditions that ppl typically bring up to use as proof that gender is a "spectrum" and see if they affect men or women. (please do the same searches i do below to verify what i'm telling you.)
How about the XXX sex chromosome? Is that going to be male or female? Let's see what modern medicine says about it. In google i searched for - xxx sex chromosome
1st result listed: "Triple X syndrome, also called trisomy X or 47,XXX, is a genetic disorder that affects about *1 in 1,000 females. Females* normally have two X chromosomes in all cells - one X chromosome from each parent. In triple X syndrome, *a female as three X chromosomes."* - © 1998-2020 Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research (MFMER). All rights reserved. (at bottom of the page)
How about XYY? Same search term except for the yy . googled - xyy sex chromosome
1st result listed: "XYY syndrome is a rare chromosomal disorder that affects *males.* It is caused by the presence of an extra Y chromosome. *Males* normally have one X and one Y chromosome. However, individuals with this syndrome have one X and two Y chromosomes." - Copyright ©2020 NORD - National Organization for Rare Disorders, Inc. All rights reserved. (bottom)
XXXX? What do you think? Male or female? Same parameters as before... xxxx sex chromosome
1st result: "Tetrasomy X (also called XXXX syndrome, quadruple X, or 48,XXXX) is an extremely rare chromosomal disorder caused by the presence of four X chromosomes instead of two X chromosomes. *This condition occurs only in females,* as there are no Y chromosomes present." - That's a Wiki page so here's the 2nd result:
"Tetrasomy X is a chromosome disorder that *only affects females* and is caused by having four copies of the X chromosome instead of two." - Copyright ©2020 NORD - National Organization for Rare Disorders, Inc. All rights reserved. NORD is a registered 501(c)(3) charity organization. (bottom of page)
As long as there's a Y in the mix then technically that person is male.
The comment section on this video is so non chaotic I’m surprised
5:18 ah, yes. My left leg prefers he/him pronouns.
"Hello miss- oh, and mister leg. What would you like for dinner?"
Being genderfluid/changing genders is less something that people do, and more something that happens to people. I think talking to genderfluid people about their experiences would help more than doing research on your own. I don't feel comfortable calling myself anything gender related (neither cis, nor trans, nor nonbinary), but I do get gender dysphoria that doesn't really fit male or female, so I understand where genderfluid people are coming from. It's a complicated issue and talking to people on all sides is really the only way to reach some kind of conclusion.
taking both sides usually ends up with you getting tagteamed, a quick heads up
I’m gender fluid and thank you. Honestly I didn’t want to be this way. I was honestly terrified when I figured out I was gender fluid and even then for about 3 years I was in denial. It didn’t hit me till one day I was literally sitting on the bathroom floor having a breakdown cuz my chest wasn’t flat, my voice wasn’t low enough, and overall I was too feminine. That day all I saw in the mirror was boy, boy, and boy. However a few days later I was back to being a girl with no dysphoria at all sitting there doing my makeup. I never wanted to be this way, it just happened and it’s still continuing to happen. Tbh if I COULD choose, I’d want to just stay a girl and not have to deal with dysphoria on my guy days. I would love to be just one set gender and not have to be confused or get hate on for what I am, but that’s just not going to happen.
Fasai Clear Sky is there a difference between non binary and genderfluid? (My pronouns are he/she/they and I’m trying to find the right term for it.)
Poppy Thank you. There is a lot of misinformation about the non-binary genders and every person experience their gender differently. I realize many people are hypersensitive about their gender so caution and tact are most definitely advised. However, there are people who are more than willing to discuss their gender. Also, while many LGBT+ centers promote leftist ideology, they help those struggling with their gender. Therefore, they often have staff trained to answer gender-related questions and/or pamphlets discussing gender identity.
TupTup18 Thank you for asking. Nonbinary is a umbrella term for anyone who does not identify as completely female or male. For example, there are people who identify as neither gender (gender neutral), a combination of genders (bigender, genderfluid...) or a completely different gender altogether (third gender). I hope this helps.
Omg I'm gender fluid and never thought of this..... I wish i thought of gendered bracelets.....😐😐😐😐😐😐😐
“biologically male or female only”
science: no?
psychology: no?
actual trans people (most of the time): no?
biology: no?
😂😂😂
lelijahh are you deadass saying there's no such thing as biological gender
Cuzz Lightyear yes, i’m saying biological SEX (not gender) is a wider than just male and female. i, as an intersex person would know so. also how tf do y’all take 9+ months to start responding to these comments
Cuzz Lightyear but biological gender however is non existent from a scientific perspective there’s nothing we’ve found to make someone one gender or another. they tried brain scans but those were debunked
I Wonder if Half of the comment section Even watched the video
1990 • Probably not
They don't
1990 • it seems like everyone here has. Have you?
True.
Also, can someone explain to me how exactly one "feels" like a boy or girl. And how that feeling changes your gender.
Mateo Luque I would but I can already predict the reaction.
Ethan Emerson Thank you for the insight, and I agree 100% with your views! :)
I know it's starting to be an old comment but I thought your comment was very interesting and true so I'm hoping you will answer. I think this bracelet thing is ridiculous btw. So : I was wondering, as you refer yourself as a transguy, how can you say that you can't change your biological sex ? (Even if a sex operation it's not 100% perfect, you still can transform yourself no?) I mean, if genders don't really exist and we could all express ourselves without thinking oh this is what a women does and im a man so im a demiboy or whatever ; how do you feel about being a specific sex ?
I think that instead of creating more labels for gender identities, we should just anhiliate them and like you said, there would be no more transgenders because they could express themselves (with the right amount of self love and support) in the "gender way" they want even if it seems in contradiction with their self. I get that.
What I don't understand is how do you know your transexual (and not transgender) ? How do you know that your sex isn't right ? Could we apply the same logic with gender ? I know being transexual and being transgender is totally different, , but I just don't understand how you can feel that you don"t have the right sex, if we consider that genders dont exist, there is no peer pressure... What makes you want to change your genitals in that case ?
Think David Bowie or Prince. Their feminine side would often come out when they were performing, their masculine side would come out when they were at home. They're both men, and had "he" pronouns, but sometimes felt more feminine.
Dysphoria. Some people have it. You feel like you aren't in the correct body. Being called a female when you really feel you are meant to be a male is an example of a time someone would feel this way. Even looking in a mirror is a mountain to someone while for someone else it is a bump in the road.
I may be only young but I disagree with this video. Although I commend you expressing your feelings to the matter through a video that was calm, collected and with some good points unlike some distasteful memes you will find on the internet about it, gender fluidity has a lot of layers to it. I am questioning when it comes to gender as I can get extreme bursts of dysphoria and yet other times feel the exact opposite and sometimes I just feel like I don't fit the boxes and that's perfectly normal to do so. I don't identify as gender fluid as of now (I don't want to come out to people only to realise it may have been a phase) but I do feel more comfortable when I am in the middle. I have contemplated getting surgery to seen more androgynous or getting a hysterectomy because I don't always feel like I fit in with my female body and it's not just a feeling of masculine characteristics it's a thought of looking in the mirror and thinking I wish I was a guy, or I wish I didn't have these certain female features. But then other times I will look into the mirror and think, I wish I had a better figure, I wish I looked more feminine, I wish my chest was larger, etc. It severely damages my self confidence to go out feeling as if I could sink into my boots due to these thoughts and it's a repetitive thing. I understand how people feel about pronouns in gender fluidity and I understand where they're coming from. One of my very close friends is gender fluid and their pronouns change all the time, and they have two different names to be referred by which makes it very confusing. I suggested the wristbands or bracelets to them and they think it's a good idea and would consider it but they don't own those types of things. I, personally, would prefer that if I were gender fluid to be constantly referred to with they them as it will avoid most confusion but I would not get offended if referred to by anything otherwise. How you perceive me is not something I can change because my control only reaches an extent, and I cannot swap between genders with surgeries as not only am I afraid of surgery (good luck to me) but I physically can't get that many surgeries depending on how I feel and that's why must gender fluid people feel the need to dress according to what gender they feel most inclined to (I'm not sure if that's the best wording). Even so, that's just my two shillings and until I actually make a decision on my gender identity personally this isn't my fight to fight, no matter how much I feel the need to fight it. If you've read this entire thing, thanks for being patient and I'm welcome for any notes or criticism.
I wanna hug you 😭 you seem like you're going through a lot. I hope you figure out who you are. And remember that you don't need a label
@@naturallyalex2 hello! since this comment was posted two years ago, here's a little update on my life! things are much better now, i realised i identify as nonbinary and im feeling much more comfortable with my body. i changed my name and my pronouns (they/them) and i managed to connect with other people like me! my family also knows about it and for the most part they've been supportive even though they've struggled. thank you for replying since i honestly forgot i wrote it, and i hope you're doing well also!
@@rowanstuck9009 I'm so happy for you!!
When I had posted that reply, I was also feeling really awful but, I feel a little better now! Thanks for asking
I don't know what your going through but my friends did and yes you should allowed to choose your gender and for pronouns its something that you want/not want to be called by so you should choose what you would like to be called by even your gender and its not like we are changing our sex I'm not even sure we can but we just change it to what we our comfortable with because its what we prefer and you shouldn't be forced to be called or known by something that isnt you and my friends have decided their gender now one of them is agender and the other non binary and for anyone and everyone else struggling with your gender identity I hope gou figure it out and good luck
I love this, As a new genderfluid person this really hit me in the right places. You made very good and true points and I couldn't have said it better myself
my gender changes trust me I would now I'm gender-fluid so my gender does change and having a bracelets makes it more helpful for people to get the right pronoun so they do not get this gender wrong
_______________1. How would you define "the male gender"? 2. How would you define "the female gender"?
so many 13 year olds that think they are a man because they have short hair on the comments
what does it mean to be a man?
Dina Rubina to have a penis
Løser So what if you're intersex?
Elin Nyman then go by the other traits of a man, the facial structure, testosterone, Adam's apple etc
All these trends, and the idea of gender is fluid is really negativley influencing younger generations, sad to see.
Except gender isn't biological but rather and mostly referred as cultural. Sex is biological
Doesn't the fact that transgender people exist proof that gender is in fact biological and not cultural... I mean if gender is not biological and therefore not psychical... how can a transgender person literally get an operation to change their gender? Also the female brain and male brain are different to one another the brain would not be considered sex characteristic but rather gender characteristic.
+Bryan Byrne they're not changing their gender, they're trying to change their biological sex. You're genitals aren't the only thing that make you male/female it's also the chemically and hormones in your body and brain. Gender is how society sees how a certain sex should act, such as the identity of the sex. Sex is what's actually in and part of your body. We try to corollate the sex with gender, trans do the same so to try to fit with the gender they'd feel, they change they're sex as well.
+manumons100 your*
manumons100 Ok lets say you are right and gender is based on how society sees certain sex... I like films that are feminine I don't not like sports or other male-dominated activities... I get easily emotional and I am not that strong and I have worked in jobs that were dominated by woman which I enjoyed I am shorter than most men...... what gender am I?.
+Bryan Byrne you're confusing gender with general preference. Do you also dress like a chick? Wear makeup? Go around with your girlfriends and talk about guys and refer to yourself as female? And their is such a thing as a feminine guy btw. You're height has nothing to do with sex or even gender, and neither does having a female or male boss.
This video makes me wonder
What if I’m just transgender at certain days?
It’s ya’ gurl ! Vita I hope you figured it out now and this is just me but it seems like you’re genderfluid which is valid and respected
One direction?
Woah, shade thrown.
When they sign up on a website and it has two options on the gender box what do they do?
Joeby they cut themselves
Joeby Go with what gender we are more
Joeby I choose what I was called at birth, because I have no other choice and I will not make a big deal of that
___Mark the box as though it was a medical doctor they are waiting to see.
they don't mark the option and then get mad at the oppressive form for requiring them and answer.
On paper forms I just mark both boxes so people know I didn't miss the option, but don't see it as an 'either-or' thing either. It annoys people.
My pronouns are
You-your majesty
He-my lord
Him -the one
What bothers me is now if you're a woman who's into boyish things people think your non-binary like lol no i'm fr just a girl that likes masculine and feminine things lmao
Oof I agree and disagree , but everyone has a different opinion
I remember watching a video where a 'gender neutral' /girl/ got offended at a waiter because he came and said 'heres your food madam' and she was like 'wtf i cant believe theyd be so ignorant and think that its ok to use any pronoun they want'.
Like no.
when they say "masculine" and "feminine" they mean whether their pronouns are masculine ones or females ones.
__________Well see, the thing is that those pronouns are based on the body. They describe "what" we are, not who or how we act. They're used to indentiFY other ppl physically.
shmeet Yeah, for the they describe what we are, like how people are BIOLOGICALLY born with different brain activity that changes how they identify (He/Him, She/Her, They/Them are the basic ones, most others are just.... y'know, people thinking they/them isn't singular when it is).
Buuuut basically the rest is fucked. Your pronouns aren't based on your body. Biology? Yeah. You're born trans and such. Physically? Yeah, fuck no.
Your genitals don't dictate how your brain works and what is comfortable for you. Do some research.
Jessica Knight Yo! I agree on all your points except one. They/them is not used to identify a singular person, rather, a group. The fact that there is no pronoun to identify a singular person without it being gendered is what I consider to be a flaw of our language. I guarantee you any English teacher, or really anyone who has studied the language for a while will tell you this. Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's why ze/zey pronouns are a thing. I've asked a few professional opinions on this, and they say the best you can do is to switch between saying "her" and "him" constantly without sticking to one. So, saying they is technically incorrect, yet it is understandable since there are no other ways to say what "They" conveys. Sorry for calling you out, But it just bothers me whenever people claim this is correct.
Emphasizes on Physically.
I do agree with you on the fact that however the feelings of "masculinity" and "femininity"may change, they do not express gender. But I, as a gendeffluid person, must say that my gender really does change. I experience dysphorua when I feel like a man (I am biologically a female) and don't experience it when I'm female. I kind of automatically text with the pronouns I identify with at a moment. And the reasons why one might need a bracelet to point others to correct pronouns is the gender changes usually don't occure periodically, but randomly. It' not a decision whether I am a female or a male. It just happens randomly. Sometimes I am one gender for three weeks and then it changes each day. Sometimes it's hard to fathom whether I'm male or female, because, since I am not out to my family, I need to use female pronouns regardless of my gender when talking to some people, and I get xonfused as to whether I am actually a girl at a moment or is it just my mind keeping the "act" going. Especially, since at these times, even if dysphorua occurs, I am not sure if it is geniuene dysphoria or just me trying to force myself to choose a gender. So then I just use whichever pronouns I like and again, any pronoun pins or bracelets could be useful. Because in my native language we have masculine and feminine suffixes, I just usually talk and my friends catch up with my preferred pronouns. But I undertand that in english it's not as easy.
___________________You certainly have a solid grasp on the English grammar. May i ask what your native language is?
I’m really late with this, but I agree. I’m also genderfluid and biologically a female. I sometimes feel no dysphoria, but other days I feel large amounts of it.
what I don’t understand about this whole debate is the hypocrisy. when they go around screaming ‘oh gender roles should be abolished’ yet they inadvertently reinforce gender roles? for example, people have fought for years for equal opportunity for gender expression. for example, a woman who is passionate about cars, or a man who decides to stay at home at look after children. It just confuses me how it seems to be the logic that ‘oh i enjoy football, I must not qualify as a woman, i don’t like long hair so i must not qualify as a woman’
I don’t agree with many things in this video but I respect the logic and straightforward-ness of it, and some of the things said are insightful.
True
what parts do you not believe in
How do you say it’s logic but not agree? Honest question.
She only really stated facts, so you're blind enough not to see truth?
You don't agree with science?
I disagree with some of the things you say, but I appreciate the way that you presented your opinions, and I appreciate that you did so in a way that didn’t make fun of or disrespectful people who identify differently
SilverSkylark you can’t disagree with biology, science and facts...
Ur opinion is invalid, furry.
This person was just stating their opinion, and how they appreciated the way the video wasn't hateful. You guys are proving their point by being hateful about it. I will respect your opinion as long as it doesn't deny or disrespect other people's opinions, why can't you do the same? Leave this person alone and keep your opinions to yourself.
@@jboyj7822 idiot, 🤣 science says that epigenetic, genes that everyone has makes people trans, gay etc
In cis people they are turned of, genes
For example
turning of can happen with the red hair gene (and other genes) so that will make it so they don't have red hair
That's true science, biology and facts
@Dee Brown You can look male, female and in between.
Then you can look masculine, neutral or feminine.
To be male you don't have to be masculine or have male genitals
because gender is different to gender expression which is different to sex.
Being gender fluid is when your gender changes, eg male to female,
but you may not be able change the look of your gender so frequently so *looking feminine or masculine may be the only option that they have*
Getting surgery, hormones, different clothes doesn't make you more or less trans.
Hello I am genderfluid, so some days I feel like a male but then maybe the next day, week and or hour I’ll feel like a girl. And sometimes I feel like I’m non-binary. So my pronouns are she/he/they but today I feel female
Edit: never mind I came out as trans 🕳🧑🦯 (I go by he/they now)
Yea
I noticed the edit, how does the transitional switch from Genderfluid to Binary Trans work? I'm curious.
“Gender is binary” hNnnNNnNn
gender wasnt binary as soon as it was created lmfao
@@rosebud6116 gender is different than sex but yeah XXX isn’t male or female and XXY isn’t male or female, they’re intersex, glad you knew! Because the typical male and female chromosomes are XX and XY, those don’t fit because they have that extra one. Also gender has been acknowledged by scientists to be completely different from sex. It has to do with your brain and how you feel about yourself, for example they took brain scans of trans people and trans women had brains that matched up with the brains of cis women and vice versa, their brain scans didn’t match up with their sec because those are two different things.