His "personal rant" provided a launching of into the second part and I think he wanted to show how bullies are projecting their own fears and insecurities more than pointing out yours.
If there's anyone who's being bullied reading this right now, here's the thought that got me through some horrible years. If someone is low enough to be putting you down, then there is no value in their opinion in the first place and you shouldn't give their words any credit just like you wouldn't be listening to an idiot. This is especially true in your teens when most of your life circumstances aren't dependent on you. And in case you are bothered by your appearance, here's something I learnt much later. There are almost 200 countries on this planet, all with different preferences with regards to looks. And it's quite possible that you can experience what it feels like to be very attractive just by hopping on a plane. And also growing up to be a decent intelligent adult adds a few points as well.
Reminds me of my favorite bike vs. car story: my partner was riding her bike in a lane of traffic, because she was going to make a left-hand turn on a 3-lane road. A motorist behind her was really upset about the 5-6 seconds this delayed his own turn, so after the turn (as he passed her) he rolled down his window and yelled "Hey - you're not a fucking car!" To which my partner responded "You're not a fucking car either!"
“There are three things all wise men fear: the sea in storm, a night with no moon, and the anger of a gentle man.” This fits right into the third category.
I'm so happy you made this video. I was walking down the street one day and this guy drove by me, put down his window, and yelled at me, calling me a slut. And for so long I was wondering what I did wrong. So thank you, for making this video.
Oddly enough, I've gotten both drive-by insults and complements for my fashion sense. My fashion sense has four rules. "I care more for the whims of nature than the whims of man" "There is no such thing as bad weather, just bad clothing" "If my body is complaining about my clothing I should wear something else" "If I'm not going to care what people think in the previous rules, I might as well just wear what I want because F*** it" I've been complemented for wearing a red cloak in summer (great for keeping the sun off, and looks awesome), and I've been insulted for wearing a warm coat on a cold spring day. Oddly enough, the insult did not hurt my feelings. It confused me, and made me disgusted that I went to the same college as the instigator. After watching this video, I also realize she was in a heated car... just sayin.
yes, there is! the 50 pence piece has a constant width and hence can be used as a wheel (if u really wanted to). But I don't think this counter example is the reason he used the seemingly clarifying adjective "circular", rather it was for emphasis, with perhaps a dash of comedy. Well I found it (kinda) funny. :p
Reuleaux triangle. It's the shape that makes the Wankel engin (spelling?) on Mazda RX8 work. You can, technically, make wheels out of Reuleaux triangles.
There are aurally concept bikes with square wheels. They're kind of terrible, but would work like a normal wheel on a ridged surface. Unfortunately, we don't have ridged roads...
I love it when nerds get into a stir. They have the best things to say about the world and they have the best way of saying them. I also just love the way Hank speaks. His rhetoric and his emphasis really get a point across.
Maybe you were riding your bike passed a naked lady spread eagle and he was just giving you a heads up on the situation. This whole thing could just be a misunderstanding.
I didn't know you could be so sassy...also when you were speaking about the bullying I was sitting here like, "thank God there is at least on person who gets it and doesn't just just say stay strong." And may I just add that you and John are so freaking interesting. You two could literally talk about anything and it would be interesting...or maybe I just need to leave my house more...
I wish I could like this a few hundred times. I shared this to my humble Facebook wall just for the sake of letting this voice be heard. This should be re-posted on TH-cam again. Soon.
Hank, it's currently 2016, 5 years after you created this video, and I would like to say that this is THE BEST and most inspiring explanation for bullying I have ever heard. Thank you. I needed this.
I get things like this shouted at me at least daily by random strangers. My town is filled with people like this driver, such a lovely place to grow up! It started for me actually, when I was around 13. At the time it really annoyed me, but looking back I can't help but pity the fact the actual adults shouted horrible insults at, by definition, a child
This video almost made me cry towards the end. Thank you, Hank, this is legitimately the best bullying advice I've ever received. (I'm very apologetic about my terrible grammar)
It's really nice to see that someone got that, finally. If people are acting like jerks towards you and you took a harsh look at yourself, considered your recent actions, asked maybe someone close to you and relatively objective if you did anything that might be considered as offensive (which mostly won't be the case), then it's just those jerks being jerks and it's simply not your job to change youself to suit them better. Firstly, because that won't work since it's not about what you did, anyway, and, secondly, because jerks should be changing - not nice people. And if people are like "If everybody is treating you badly, then it must be your own fault." you can still be completely justified in the assumption that - well - everybody around me must be a jerk in that matter, then. As a nice person you often repeatedly get the advice to be more tough and get used to those things and adjust or even assimilate. But it is NOT your job to do that. It doesn't make sense and is exactly what leads to situations in which suddenly everbody is a jerk. So again, if someone is an ass then THEY need to deal with it (not that they will, but still they should), they should be the one sitting on a psychiatrist's couch and try to better themselves, not you, who is sad and depressed about being treated like shit. This is a normal reaction, not a failure.
Over the years I keep coming back to this video for the ending. I've been bullied and still struggle with low self esteem to this day. It's very affirming to see someone you admire say that you survived something instead of feeling weak because you let bullying affect you. I don't feel strong, but this video reminds me that I should. So thank you Hank for reminding me of that.
My husband is a cyclist. He was hit by a car which is actually impressive but when I got the call, very very scary. I drove very fast to the scene and I screamed at the driver's mom. I say it's impressive because my husband is 6'2" and has very wide shoulders. He was wearing white, orange, and red and HOW DO YOU NOT SEE THAT! He was stopped at a red light. The light goes green, the traffic goes and the car that hit him was turning left. He also rides in charity marathons and I do the driving for cycling teams. I have a lot of respect for cyclists. I'm not as avid as he is mostly because when he's training hard in the summer, I'm the team driver. As for bullies, I'm a political writer, it doesn't end. That one has no easy answer and no one answer. I can say just don't give into them but that takes a great amount of self esteem and will power. Find someone like me who will side with you and help against the bullies. Trust me, bullies don't like people like me. We stand up to them and don't back down. I don't mind being the voice of the bullied until they learn they develop their own voice. I've done it before, I'll do it again.
louis pplague Lol Words can change things. Are you educated? Why did you use words if they don't change anything? The only effective ways I know of to combat bullying or Machiavellian manipulation is to OUT THAT PERSON. CALL THEM OUT. Without that you suffer in silence, learn helplessness, and become a perpetual victim.
I was bullied. I fought back. I lost. I never regretted it. I always find my way to regretting the times I did nothing, however. I'm not saying that violence is the answer; I guarantee that inaction is not the answer.
As for bullying - People should remove themselves from situations in which they are bullied, period. No one should remain where they are merely surviving. And if they are not capable of removing themselves (if they are children, for example), the adult responsible for their welfare should not hesitate to remove them. I didn't even wait for my daughter to be actually bullied at her school (though her teacher's behavior toward her came kinda close). All I needed to know was that she was unhappy and that it was unlikely to improve. From the moment I saw that, it was less than a week until she was out. For good.
Your definition of bullying is *not* the one I'm using. I am using the word the way most people mean it - degrading and hurtful language and actions that leave a person feeling disrespected as a human being and powerless in the relationship. that's what I mean by bullying and that's how my daughter's teacher was behaving. How do you expect a child to "just be a strong backbone" in the face of a teacher like that? How was she supposed to "fight"? This old lady teacher certainly had no interest in changing and she had all the power in that relationship. I'm sorry, but a good parent does not stand for such treatment of their children and does not leave their children to fend for themselves when they can't. And anyway, by taking my child out of her bad situation I actually *was* teaching her to be strong and to know that certain things are simply not acceptable and that we cannot allow others to mistreat us. Since this teacher couldn't be honest about her behavior (many other kids saw and heard the things she denied doing), there was no way to work with her. She was mean and dishonest. I feel that showing our daughter that mean and dishonest people don't deserve either our respect or our time is the best lesson possible. That's why withdrew both our respect and our time (as well as our money) from that school. Furthermore, my daughter is in a much happier place where she's learning a lot. Your advice is really terrible, actually. I can only assume you're not a parent.
Kristopher Holmberg Oh, wow. I am very sorry. I felt unjustly criticized and sort of lashed out. I should have sensed there was something more behind your words. I don't know exactly how you came to such a lonely place but I wish things were better for you. I really do.
People yell out of their windows at bikers in Portland, Oregon which is supposed to be one of the top bike friendly places in the US. Jerks can be found everywhere.
This rant is very personal for me. Until the age of 14 I was a massive nerd who was consistently bullied. Then a combination of a massive growth spurt and working out for sports turned me from 5'9" 150 to 6'0" 200 in 6 months and immediately ended the bullying. But the scars from the bullying are still here 25 years later. When I reported the bullying to my school counselor she recommended that I "jack slap him upside the head". To this day I hate confrontation and avoid it whenever I can even though I look like stone cold Steve Austin. In a sci-show video comments a person called Hank a "twitchy little weirdo" and I got viscerally angry with that person. Then my only thought was "I wonder if it was the same douchebag who called him a P#$$Y?". Then I laughed and it was all better.
This is one of my favorite videos ever by Hank. I saw it a while ago when I was being bullied (indirectly, but it still hurt) and it gave me a lot of hope. So, whenever I'm.feeling down, I watch this video and it makes me feel great. I have infinite thanks for you for making this video. :) thank you soooo much
The following comment is about dealing with bullying. The issue resonates with me. I will try to avoid ranting. I was bullied, but I was lucky enough to be physically bigger than my bullies. I also had a mental trick that saw me through a decade of dealing with bullying, a trick that literally made it all worth while for me. It's this idea: they can bully you, but only you can allow yourself to be a victim. Keep all of your abilities and value and awesomeness in mind, the bullies are utterly incapable of taking that away from you. Once you can hold onto that truth, then they've lost and you've won and there's nothing they can do about it. at all. ever.
Aww Hank... You're an amazing soul!! Don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise... I've been binge- watching vlogbrothers for the past 3 days and boy you are an inspiration to all the nerds out there... You've achieved so much by influencing so many young people!!!! I love you soooooo muchhh! People who bullied you back then probably haven't achieved even half of what you've done now...You're awesome!!!!! Keep doing whatcha doin #DFTBA
***** that's a better explanation than your first comment The original comment wasn't debating the existence of 60, but 60 in TH-cam Your first comment didn't consider TH-cam at 2011 Doesn't matter if it's old
I never saw this vlog until it was linked on the Nerdfighter facebook page - because someone needed this advice, and what Hank said in this video, surmised everything I wanted to say to this person. This is another very big reason why Nerdfighters love Hank and John - they help, and keep it very real in doing so. :)
The worse part about bullying isn't really the bullying itself, it's the fact no one else seems to see that it's bullying. They think it's just us blowing things out of proportion, or that we're not trying hard enough to get along with the bullies. They keep saying, "Sticks and stones may break [your] bones, but words can never hurt [you]." Even more, they think it's US, the BULLIED, who should change in order not to get bullied. Here's a reality check for those who think like this: IT'S TOTAL BULLCRAP! Bullies are the ones blowing stuff so out of proportion that they think they're better than anyone else! They're the ones who don't try to get along with people because they feel those people are beneath them! Words do hurt; that's why "the pen is mightier than the sword"! Bullies are the ones who need to change, because they have nothing other than the idea that they're better in some way, and that to be 'someone' they must prove that they are better by making sure no one else is. Bullying is bullying is bullying. End of story.
Yah, I remember my semester as a dorm resident. I got called a pussy while riding past the building one day one my crappy bike. I imagined finding him, and putting a homemade firecracker under his pillow....I need a little help.
Too bad I've never had the stupidity to actually carry out the ideas I've come up with to get even without throwing a single punch or word. One idea was to next time I saw the person, pull out an air horn and blast it straight at their cab when they're on the phone. Second one is to start carrying a CO2 fire extinguisher around and smother them next time I saw them. Too bad neither of those are practical, but I'd bet a week's salary that I'd feel better afterwards.
I love what you said about bullying, because when I had a hard time in school a few years ago, your words felt so right about what I felt back then. Now after changing school and having new amasing friends I know that people that put you down will not always be there. It ends at some point. I did hate myself in that time in that school but I got through it and now I'm here today and happier than ever, loving your videos!
I would have to say that you shouldn't just survive in the face of bullying (which in and of itself is a weird concept to me, especially since I've been on both sides of it) but you should thrive. In my experience, I was bullied and ostracized because I was smarter than everybody (too lazy to write everything out), but I was stereotypically weak and skinny, and a little awkward (ADHD meds inhibited social behavior). I wasn't satisfied with where I was, and on a whim I went out for cross country. It was the best decision I ever made. I grew just about every facet. Now I'm friends with almost everybody, I'm in amazing shape, and I was recently nominated to attend the Air Force Academy. I guess that point I am making is that when you allow yourself to be victimized, you become and remain a victim. When you decide to make yourself even better, then your life does get better. So go, be awesome.
I'm so sorry that you were bullied, Hank. You are such a beautiful person, and I'm annoyed that some jackass ever made you doubt yourself. You're awesome! Forget about the hater riding around in his truck of overcompensation. He's trying a little too hard to prove his manliness, if ya' ask me ;)
How I dealt with bullying in High School: I beat the shit out of them. Usually my teachers knew I'd only do that if someone were to bully me, so I'm usually excused.
Super story, Thank you for the reality check. Bullying is hard and inexplicable, but we do survive it. On the whole creeps shouting things at bicyclists thing: Recently someone shouted at me that I was too fat to ride a bike. But I was riding a bike(?). So I was left with the charming understanding that some people do not have very competent mental processes. It was enjoyable to reflect upon this as I pedalled along.
I just love how amazing you guys are and how you find these words that are so perfectly fitting into situation we all experience as humans and make it feel so much better.
a person on a bike of any kind is much braver and probably more masculine than a guy in a truck shouting profanities at said person on a bike. Its basically like being the guy on a battlefield stuck with only a bb gun or maybe even a pistol of some sort while the guy in the tank drives by you shouting at you how you are a pussy for being on foot. in the above example, yes the guy is stupid for taking a bb gun to a war, but maybe it was the bb gun his now dead platoon sergeant and best friend had bought for his kid back home or something
Is there something wrong with me? *asks the man who hosts one of the biggest events of the year, that is basically vidcon is to videos, as E3 is to games* to put it in another way, no there is not.
Pussy is a pretty horrible word anyway. It's slang for a vagina and used to suggest weakness or vulnerability. It just implies that weak or vulnerable people are women, that women are all weak and vulnerable, and that it's an insult to be considered a woman. Hank, I feel like you meant well with this video but adopting the use of the word pussy in your rant the same way it was used against you completely overshadows the fact that you clearly understand that it's a horribly gendered, awful word. I just feel like you could have gotten out everything that you wanted to say without defensively refuting the assertion made (that you are a pussy), which implies that being considered a woman is something offensive in the first place.
***** in Slovakia it is like that as well. I just found it funny because in our family we call those motorbikers that go really fast and ride dangerously "organ donors".
Thank you, Hank. This is actually surprisingly more comforting than having people say, "It gets better", and "find a way to deal with it," because what you said is absolutely true: you just need to survive it. I don't think you can really deal with stuff like this, but knowing that other people have felt or feel the same way really helps. Sometimes the best thing is not for someone to say, "it gets better", but just for somebody to remind you once in a while you're awesome and to understand.
Hank, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are an inspiration for me. I watch this video whenever I get sad like today. Thank you for being so awesome.
Last September 25, 2016, I was rear-ended on my bike riding home from church (I am a choir-boy). My bike was totaled and I incurred a head injury (thank God I was wearing the firkin foam hat), a broken left clavicle, a strained crotch and an injured right hand.
Hank, your advice about bullying is the best I've ever heard. I wish every bullied kid in America could hear it and take it to heart. You are so young to be so wise.
Thank you for posting this. It is helping my family and my daughter during a difficult time. Thank you for being real. I have watched you since 2015 and am glad to have seen this.
I love this so much, I'm literally crying. This is going to be my motivation to get through the rest of high school. No matter how physically and mentally TORTURED I am, I'm going to survive this.
Fantastic. This is what they should be saying in schools, they need to get to the point and blame who needs to be blamed. Years of "encouragement" from public school is nothing compared to this 4 minute video, I am not even kidding. I've had my good bit of bullying, and I'm not even done with school yet, but just.... Amen Hank Green. (Yes, this video was from years ago, but people still need it.)
I had a coworkers little girl ask me the same thing about bullying, and you managed to articulate exactly what I wanted to say but didn't quite know how to say it. As always, your video was amazing :)
That was the most AWSOME THING I have ever seen. That man is forever immortalized as a coward. Hank you are a genius. (if that was your intention, if not it's still awsome)
I really needed the advice on bullying. somehow it makes it a lot easier to get through when you realize that most of your idols had to go through it too.
'I. Pity. You.'
... Is it just me or did hank become slightly scary.
+Hillary Rose turns me on tbh
+anthony guzman allthehomo
+anthony guzman embracethehomo
No. Hank is a true savage now.
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I love how this turned from a flustered, personal rant into legitimate, deep, and inspiring advice for everyone
His "personal rant" provided a launching of into the second part and I think he wanted to show how bullies are projecting their own fears and insecurities more than pointing out yours.
If there's anyone who's being bullied reading this right now, here's the thought that got me through some horrible years. If someone is low enough to be putting you down, then there is no value in their opinion in the first place and you shouldn't give their words any credit just like you wouldn't be listening to an idiot. This is especially true in your teens when most of your life circumstances aren't dependent on you.
And in case you are bothered by your appearance, here's something I learnt much later. There are almost 200 countries on this planet, all with different preferences with regards to looks. And it's quite possible that you can experience what it feels like to be very attractive just by hopping on a plane. And also growing up to be a decent intelligent adult adds a few points as well.
dead on.
Reminds me of my favorite bike vs. car story: my partner was riding her bike in a lane of traffic, because she was going to make a left-hand turn on a 3-lane road. A motorist behind her was really upset about the 5-6 seconds this delayed his own turn, so after the turn (as he passed her) he rolled down his window and yelled "Hey - you're not a fucking car!"
To which my partner responded "You're not a fucking car either!"
THUMBS UP THIS MAN!
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Actually, thumbs up this woman. :D But I get what you mean.
Reminder: don't ever get Hank angry...
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We have an army
We have a Hank
“There are three things all wise men fear: the sea in storm, a night with no moon, and the anger of a gentle man.”
This fits right into the third category.
I'm so happy you made this video. I was walking down the street one day and this guy drove by me, put down his window, and yelled at me, calling me a slut. And for so long I was wondering what I did wrong. So thank you, for making this video.
I know! I don't get why people think they're above others for the stupidest things.
Thank you :)
Oddly enough, I've gotten both drive-by insults and complements for my fashion sense. My fashion sense has four rules.
"I care more for the whims of nature than the whims of man"
"There is no such thing as bad weather, just bad clothing"
"If my body is complaining about my clothing I should wear something else"
"If I'm not going to care what people think in the previous rules, I might as well just wear what I want because F*** it"
I've been complemented for wearing a red cloak in summer (great for keeping the sun off, and looks awesome), and I've been insulted for wearing a warm coat on a cold spring day. Oddly enough, the insult did not hurt my feelings. It confused me, and made me disgusted that I went to the same college as the instigator. After watching this video, I also realize she was in a heated car... just sayin.
That did not happen
@@galdoug8918 It probably did, people do this a lot (especially men).
"I am very not the pussy" - Hank Green 2011
+NoNameFitz I wana thumb up your comment but it has 69 thumbs up and i dont wana change that xD
+PermaFrost Too bad.
+PermaFrost literally me every time
"Balanced on two circular wheels".
Is there a such thing as a non-circular wheel?
yes, there is! the 50 pence piece has a constant width and hence can be used as a wheel (if u really wanted to). But I don't think this counter example is the reason he used the seemingly clarifying adjective "circular", rather it was for emphasis, with perhaps a dash of comedy. Well I found it (kinda) funny. :p
Reuleaux triangle. It's the shape that makes the Wankel engin (spelling?) on Mazda RX8 work. You can, technically, make wheels out of Reuleaux triangles.
There are aurally concept bikes with square wheels. They're kind of terrible, but would work like a normal wheel on a ridged surface. Unfortunately, we don't have ridged roads...
It's rhetoric.
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I love it when nerds get into a stir. They have the best things to say about the world and they have the best way of saying them.
I also just love the way Hank speaks. His rhetoric and his emphasis really get a point across.
Maybe you were riding your bike passed a naked lady spread eagle and he was just giving you a heads up on the situation. This whole thing could just be a misunderstanding.
Well said
It's rather unlikely....
Elsa Robison You must be fun at parties
Elsa Robison I was just trying to be an optimist.
PhrygianBlack I was the 100 like I feel special haha
When he said "I pity you", it reminded me of that scene from Sherlock season 2 episode 3 with Kitty Riley.
FinniKey YESSSS THAT'S THE FIRST THING I THOUGHT TOO "You. Repel. Me"
FinniKey Now I just have to rewatch Sherlock because I miss it so much
I didn't know you could be so sassy...also when you were speaking about the bullying I was sitting here like, "thank God there is at least on person who gets it and doesn't just just say stay strong." And may I just add that you and John are so freaking interesting. You two could literally talk about anything and it would be interesting...or maybe I just need to leave my house more...
I wish I could like this a few hundred times. I shared this to my humble Facebook wall just for the sake of letting this voice be heard. This should be re-posted on TH-cam again. Soon.
"You think you are brave. What you are is safe."
brilliant line. the whole video is a metaphor
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I literally love you, this is an official statement, you are my favorite person in the universe as of now.
Hank destroyed that guy all the way to 2015 :D
+Jake Long It's 2016 now and that guy is still in ruins
+zigzagarisen I'm just replying to this so It's on my google+ and i can come back to it in 2017 :P
hmmm
Reading this in 2016 be like😂
all the way to 2016
Hank, it's currently 2016, 5 years after you created this video, and I would like to say that this is THE BEST and most inspiring explanation for bullying I have ever heard. Thank you. I needed this.
I get things like this shouted at me at least daily by random strangers. My town is filled with people like this driver, such a lovely place to grow up! It started for me actually, when I was around 13. At the time it really annoyed me, but looking back I can't help but pity the fact the actual adults shouted horrible insults at, by definition, a child
This video almost made me cry towards the end. Thank you, Hank, this is legitimately the best bullying advice I've ever received. (I'm very apologetic about my terrible grammar)
Perfect grammar:)
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I agree completely Leah Mae. I am just out of high shook now but I remember being in the trenches and I wish I could have heard it then
It's really nice to see that someone got that, finally. If people are acting like jerks towards you and you took a harsh look at yourself, considered your recent actions, asked maybe someone close to you and relatively objective if you did anything that might be considered as offensive (which mostly won't be the case), then it's just those jerks being jerks and it's simply not your job to change youself to suit them better. Firstly, because that won't work since it's not about what you did, anyway, and, secondly, because jerks should be changing - not nice people. And if people are like "If everybody is treating you badly, then it must be your own fault." you can still be completely justified in the assumption that - well - everybody around me must be a jerk in that matter, then. As a nice person you often repeatedly get the advice to be more tough and get used to those things and adjust or even assimilate. But it is NOT your job to do that. It doesn't make sense and is exactly what leads to situations in which suddenly everbody is a jerk. So again, if someone is an ass then THEY need to deal with it (not that they will, but still they should), they should be the one sitting on a psychiatrist's couch and try to better themselves, not you, who is sad and depressed about being treated like shit. This is a normal reaction, not a failure.
Over the years I keep coming back to this video for the ending. I've been bullied and still struggle with low self esteem to this day. It's very affirming to see someone you admire say that you survived something instead of feeling weak because you let bullying affect you. I don't feel strong, but this video reminds me that I should. So thank you Hank for reminding me of that.
My husband is a cyclist. He was hit by a car which is actually impressive but when I got the call, very very scary. I drove very fast to the scene and I screamed at the driver's mom.
I say it's impressive because my husband is 6'2" and has very wide shoulders. He was wearing white, orange, and red and HOW DO YOU NOT SEE THAT! He was stopped at a red light. The light goes green, the traffic goes and the car that hit him was turning left.
He also rides in charity marathons and I do the driving for cycling teams. I have a lot of respect for cyclists. I'm not as avid as he is mostly because when he's training hard in the summer, I'm the team driver.
As for bullies, I'm a political writer, it doesn't end. That one has no easy answer and no one answer. I can say just don't give into them but that takes a great amount of self esteem and will power. Find someone like me who will side with you and help against the bullies. Trust me, bullies don't like people like me. We stand up to them and don't back down. I don't mind being the voice of the bullied until they learn they develop their own voice. I've done it before, I'll do it again.
louis pplague Lol Words can change things. Are you educated? Why did you use words if they don't change anything? The only effective ways I know of to combat bullying or Machiavellian manipulation is to OUT THAT PERSON. CALL THEM OUT. Without that you suffer in silence, learn helplessness, and become a perpetual victim.
How did I miss this video until right now though!? Hank you're wonderful.
"You think you are brave. What you are, is safe"
I don't know, Hank. I'm kinda scared for that guy at this point 😅
One of my favorite videos and best advice ever!
Thank you Hank and DFTBA.
This is the most important vlog borthers video, mainly for anyone who has to deal with arseholes, bullying and life with muggles.
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Damn, what's even more unsettling is how cute Hank looks when he's trying to be mean.
Aside from the HUGELY IMPORTANTNESS of this video, I think this is Optimal Hank Hair
holy shit I've never seen Hank get angry like this and it's pretty awesome.
I love Hank's delivery of the line "...I am wearing a frickin' FOAM HAT!". So hilarious.
I was bullied.
I fought back.
I lost.
I never regretted it.
I always find my way to regretting the times I did nothing, however.
I'm not saying that violence is the answer; I guarantee that inaction is not the answer.
I love you Hank. Don't listen to that guy, because it's literally my dream to meet a guy like you :|
Im not exactly sure why I love this so much. But I really really do.
the first part of this video is important for everyone to see. the ending should be mandatory
i just wish that schools would get that not the person who gets bullied is the problem. But its easier to think that... and thats sad...
Ha ha ha ha!
I bet that guy wasn't even 1/100th as hot as Hank.
As for bullying -
People should remove themselves from situations in which they are bullied, period. No one should remain where they are merely surviving.
And if they are not capable of removing themselves (if they are children, for example), the adult responsible for their welfare should not hesitate to remove them. I didn't even wait for my daughter to be actually bullied at her school (though her teacher's behavior toward her came kinda close). All I needed to know was that she was unhappy and that it was unlikely to improve. From the moment I saw that, it was less than a week until she was out. For good.
Your definition of bullying is *not* the one I'm using. I am using the word the way most people mean it - degrading and hurtful language and actions that leave a person feeling disrespected as a human being and powerless in the relationship. that's what I mean by bullying and that's how my daughter's teacher was behaving.
How do you expect a child to "just be a strong backbone" in the face of a teacher like that? How was she supposed to "fight"? This old lady teacher certainly had no interest in changing and she had all the power in that relationship.
I'm sorry, but a good parent does not stand for such treatment of their children and does not leave their children to fend for themselves when they can't.
And anyway, by taking my child out of her bad situation I actually *was* teaching her to be strong and to know that certain things are simply not acceptable and that we cannot allow others to mistreat us. Since this teacher couldn't be honest about her behavior (many other kids saw and heard the things she denied doing), there was no way to work with her. She was mean and dishonest.
I feel that showing our daughter that mean and dishonest people don't deserve either our respect or our time is the best lesson possible. That's why withdrew both our respect and our time (as well as our money) from that school.
Furthermore, my daughter is in a much happier place where she's learning a lot. Your advice is really terrible, actually. I can only assume you're not a parent.
Kristopher Holmberg Oh, wow. I am very sorry.
I felt unjustly criticized and sort of lashed out. I should have sensed there was something more behind your words.
I don't know exactly how you came to such a lonely place but I wish things were better for you. I really do.
+Kristopher Holmberg I feel the way you do. Not all the time. But at least some of the time. So.
lol
This makes me want to ride a bike.
Joanie Tian me too!...wait I cant ride a bike or even have a bike....dang what am i suppose to do with the foam hat now...
Go surfing,
You can always determine if you are in a small town if people yell shit out of their car windows.
People yell out of their windows at bikers in Portland, Oregon which is supposed to be one of the top bike friendly places in the US. Jerks can be found everywhere.
He has 3000 lbs of steel? Well we have 3000 gigaflops of computing power in our heads.
the scary "I pity you" I saw angry Hank and angry John have the same face.
This rant is very personal for me. Until the age of 14 I was a massive nerd who was consistently bullied. Then a combination of a massive growth spurt and working out for sports turned me from 5'9" 150 to 6'0" 200 in 6 months and immediately ended the bullying. But the scars from the bullying are still here 25 years later. When I reported the bullying to my school counselor she recommended that I "jack slap him upside the head". To this day I hate confrontation and avoid it whenever I can even though I look like stone cold Steve Austin. In a sci-show video comments a person called Hank a "twitchy little weirdo" and I got viscerally angry with that person. Then my only thought was "I wonder if it was the same douchebag who called him a P#$$Y?". Then I laughed and it was all better.
I like when you swear
Never knew 60 fps existed on TH-cam in 2011. Interesting.
This is one of my favorite videos ever by Hank. I saw it a while ago when I was being bullied (indirectly, but it still hurt) and it gave me a lot of hope. So, whenever I'm.feeling down, I watch this video and it makes me feel great. I have infinite thanks for you for making this video. :) thank you soooo much
That was some of the best anti-bullying advice ever.
The following comment is about dealing with bullying. The issue resonates with me. I will try to avoid ranting. I was bullied, but I was lucky enough to be physically bigger than my bullies. I also had a mental trick that saw me through a decade of dealing with bullying, a trick that literally made it all worth while for me. It's this idea: they can bully you, but only you can allow yourself to be a victim. Keep all of your abilities and value and awesomeness in mind, the bullies are utterly incapable of taking that away from you. Once you can hold onto that truth, then they've lost and you've won and there's nothing they can do about it. at all. ever.
wow the truck was only 3000 lbs. wow, that is a light truck.
Aww Hank... You're an amazing soul!! Don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise... I've been binge- watching vlogbrothers for the past 3 days and boy you are an inspiration to all the nerds out there... You've achieved so much by influencing so many young people!!!! I love you soooooo muchhh! People who bullied you back then probably haven't achieved even half of what you've done now...You're awesome!!!!! Keep doing whatcha doin #DFTBA
how is this 60fps. it was uploaded in 2011...
+Gindisi lol rekt
+TheCheeseWeel You could always upload video that was rendered/saved in 60fps, but it wouldn't be played at 60fps until recently.
+Gindisi TH-cam didn't have 60 until recently
***** But it's FUN
***** that's a better explanation than your first comment
The original comment wasn't debating the existence of 60, but 60 in TH-cam
Your first comment didn't consider TH-cam at 2011
Doesn't matter if it's old
1:01 To be fair Hank, if it was a truck it almost certainly weighed more than 3000 pounds. A Ford F150 (most common truck) is over 5000.
I. Pity. You.
Oh man, why did that sound wonderful.
I never saw this vlog until it was linked on the Nerdfighter facebook page - because someone needed this advice, and what Hank said in this video, surmised everything I wanted to say to this person. This is another very big reason why Nerdfighters love Hank and John - they help, and keep it very real in doing so. :)
I think the same thing about street harassment, its really just cowardice. :/
The worse part about bullying isn't really the bullying itself, it's the fact no one else seems to see that it's bullying. They think it's just us blowing things out of proportion, or that we're not trying hard enough to get along with the bullies. They keep saying, "Sticks and stones may break [your] bones, but words can never hurt [you]."
Even more, they think it's US, the BULLIED, who should change in order not to get bullied.
Here's a reality check for those who think like this: IT'S TOTAL BULLCRAP!
Bullies are the ones blowing stuff so out of proportion that they think they're better than anyone else! They're the ones who don't try to get along with people because they feel those people are beneath them! Words do hurt; that's why "the pen is mightier than the sword"!
Bullies are the ones who need to change, because they have nothing other than the idea that they're better in some way, and that to be 'someone' they must prove that they are better by making sure no one else is.
Bullying is bullying is bullying. End of story.
Yah, I remember my semester as a dorm resident. I got called a pussy while riding past the building one day one my crappy bike. I imagined finding him, and putting a homemade firecracker under his pillow....I need a little help.
Too bad I've never had the stupidity to actually carry out the ideas I've come up with to get even without throwing a single punch or word. One idea was to next time I saw the person, pull out an air horn and blast it straight at their cab when they're on the phone. Second one is to start carrying a CO2 fire extinguisher around and smother them next time I saw them. Too bad neither of those are practical, but I'd bet a week's salary that I'd feel better afterwards.
I love what you said about bullying, because when I had a hard time in school a few years ago, your words felt so right about what I felt back then.
Now after changing school and having new amasing friends I know that people that put you down will not always be there. It ends at some point. I did hate myself in that time in that school but I got through it and now I'm here today and happier than ever, loving your videos!
Hank green was Orange pilled before it was cool
I would have to say that you shouldn't just survive in the face of bullying (which in and of itself is a weird concept to me, especially since I've been on both sides of it) but you should thrive. In my experience, I was bullied and ostracized because I was smarter than everybody (too lazy to write everything out), but I was stereotypically weak and skinny, and a little awkward (ADHD meds inhibited social behavior). I wasn't satisfied with where I was, and on a whim I went out for cross country. It was the best decision I ever made. I grew just about every facet. Now I'm friends with almost everybody, I'm in amazing shape, and I was recently nominated to attend the Air Force Academy. I guess that point I am making is that when you allow yourself to be victimized, you become and remain a victim. When you decide to make yourself even better, then your life does get better. So go, be awesome.
Yeah, I hate how people hate on bike riders. Enjoy paying for fuel and registration you dam car drivers
That’s why we’re all mad at you 😂 it’s jealousy!!!
I'm so sorry that you were bullied, Hank. You are such a beautiful person, and I'm annoyed that some jackass ever made you doubt yourself. You're awesome! Forget about the hater riding around in his truck of overcompensation. He's trying a little too hard to prove his manliness, if ya' ask me ;)
Man you guys are so cool. Wish we could be friends.
How I dealt with bullying in High School: I beat the shit out of them.
Usually my teachers knew I'd only do that if someone were to bully me, so I'm usually excused.
I love Hank & John.
You are too AWESOME for words!! ILYSM Hank!!
This is Hank Green at his pettyest.
slow clap
NERDS UNITE!!! STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!!! lol
Super story, Thank you for the reality check. Bullying is hard and inexplicable, but we do survive it. On the whole creeps shouting things at bicyclists thing: Recently someone shouted at me that I was too fat to ride a bike. But I was riding a bike(?). So I was left with the charming understanding that some people do not have very competent mental processes. It was enjoyable to reflect upon this as I pedalled along.
I hate drivers too
Ha. Circular wheel.
OOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHH HOT DAMN HANK WAS MAD!
I just love how amazing you guys are and how you find these words that are so perfectly fitting into situation we all experience as humans and make it feel so much better.
The moral of the story is that you shouldn't insult random people because next thing you know, the story of your idiocy is all over the internet.
damn i wish i watch this video 5 years ago
a person on a bike of any kind is much braver and probably more masculine than a guy in a truck shouting profanities at said person on a bike. Its basically like being the guy on a battlefield stuck with only a bb gun or maybe even a pistol of some sort while the guy in the tank drives by you shouting at you how you are a pussy for being on foot. in the above example, yes the guy is stupid for taking a bb gun to a war, but maybe it was the bb gun his now dead platoon sergeant and best friend had bought for his kid back home or something
It's been 9 years and I still think of this video on a regular basis. No idea why it's this one.
Is there something wrong with me? *asks the man who hosts one of the biggest events of the year, that is basically vidcon is to videos, as E3 is to games* to put it in another way, no there is not.
Pussy is a pretty horrible word anyway. It's slang for a vagina and used to suggest weakness or vulnerability. It just implies that weak or vulnerable people are women, that women are all weak and vulnerable, and that it's an insult to be considered a woman. Hank, I feel like you meant well with this video but adopting the use of the word pussy in your rant the same way it was used against you completely overshadows the fact that you clearly understand that it's a horribly gendered, awful word. I just feel like you could have gotten out everything that you wanted to say without defensively refuting the assertion made (that you are a pussy), which implies that being considered a woman is something offensive in the first place.
pussy is short for pusillanimous.Google it.
Chuck Maier
Whoa.
Babies are pushed out of a vagina
He mentioned and vocalized disagreement with the word's gender implications. But, said he'd use the word for the sake of the argument.
I promise never to call a vagina a pussy. I wouldn't want to connect vaginas to a word that can mean a cowardly person.
So should I start calling bikers organ donors?
***** in Slovakia it is like that as well. I just found it funny because in our family we call those motorbikers that go really fast and ride dangerously "organ donors".
Whoa.
That was the most cataclysmic destruction of a fool I have ever seen.
Hank Green: Lord of Awesome.
Hank is a fucking BOSS.
Thank you, Hank. This is actually surprisingly more comforting than having people say, "It gets better", and "find a way to deal with it," because what you said is absolutely true: you just need to survive it. I don't think you can really deal with stuff like this, but knowing that other people have felt or feel the same way really helps. Sometimes the best thing is not for someone to say, "it gets better", but just for somebody to remind you once in a while you're awesome and to understand.
Hank, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are an inspiration for me. I watch this video whenever I get sad like today. Thank you for being so awesome.
God man, that last half made me feel so much better about myself, thank you, thank you so much :)
Last September 25, 2016, I was rear-ended on my bike riding home from church (I am a choir-boy). My bike was totaled and I incurred a head injury (thank God I was wearing the firkin foam hat), a broken left clavicle, a strained crotch and an injured right hand.
Hank, your advice about bullying is the best I've ever heard. I wish every bullied kid in America could hear it and take it to heart. You are so young to be so wise.
Thanks for making me realize that my main way of commuting is relying upon the trust that people won't run me over
Can I superlike this video? I didn’t know how bad I needed it until now.
We held on hope of better days coming, and when we did we were right
Thank you for posting this. It is helping my family and my daughter during a difficult time. Thank you for being real. I have watched you since 2015 and am glad to have seen this.
Thanks, that quote about "your need to exert your dominance over me" is now my personal mantra :D
that ending was perfect. i have no words. you speak the truth. thanks for sharing
I love this so much, I'm literally crying. This is going to be my motivation to get through the rest of high school. No matter how physically and mentally TORTURED I am, I'm going to survive this.
Fantastic. This is what they should be saying in schools, they need to get to the point and blame who needs to be blamed. Years of "encouragement" from public school is nothing compared to this 4 minute video, I am not even kidding. I've had my good bit of bullying, and I'm not even done with school yet, but just.... Amen Hank Green. (Yes, this video was from years ago, but people still need it.)
I had a coworkers little girl ask me the same thing about bullying, and you managed to articulate exactly what I wanted to say but didn't quite know how to say it. As always, your video was amazing :)
That was the most AWSOME THING I have ever seen. That man is forever immortalized as a coward. Hank you are a genius. (if that was your intention, if not it's still awsome)
Hank, you're the best. This is inspiring. I needed to hear this. Thank you.
I'm so using this video for my developmental psych discussion about bullying. First thing that came to mind when I saw the assignment.
This video is why we all love you so much Hank. You are fantastic, and an inspiration to Nerdfighters everywhere.
I really needed the advice on bullying. somehow it makes it a lot easier to get through when you realize that most of your idols had to go through it too.