Why are we normalizing treating our friends and family like trash? It literally takes all of ten
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ย. 2024
- Why are we normalizing treating our friends and family like trash? It literally takes all of ten seconds to write a text message explaining that you’ll be gone and you are ok. #ghosting #mentalhealth #dobettee
I mean tbf I honestly struggle with connecting with other people all the time. Unfortunately I don’t text my bff as often as I used to. But now in my older years I realize I’ve become detached from everyone. I love them and they’re important to me but I’m stuck in a constant loop of forgetfulness and anxiety. I forget to text my friend back, it’s been a week. I look at the message but feel anxiety about not replying sooner, only delaying it and opting for a distraction . I know I need to reach out to people and connect with them but there’s a part of me that physically can’t bring myself to do it. Maybe it’s bc I’m adhd (and possibly autistic) but that’s always been a struggle for me. It’s part of why I prefer face to face but I’m always working and busy
Tell me you've never heared of depression without using those words.
That girl just wants "friends" that dont care about her, friends of convenience.
Yeah, I'm huge on treating others as I wish to be treated and that ghosting edgelord stuff is a no-go from me.
"just don't be sad" level advice on your part
No watch the video
Friends do not put each other in a situation they worry. its disreseptful NO one deserves to be left hanging no matter an agreement. It hurts STOP IT
Selfish take im ngl. Not everyone copes the same way
lol, yeah, they do. You aren't special.
@@Gringo-Billy sheep mentality
@digitalords I'm sure you'll cope in some special way. lol
i did this recently. maybe get the memo that i dont want to talk, and if you think im dead maybe youre the problem
my friends and family think they want me, but they dont. its better to push them away then to let them get any closer so that when i leave its less painful on them
It will likely be just as painful, if not more because they'll always wonder what may have been if they only reached out one more time or tried harder to get you to open up. Would the outcome have been different?
They'll think, "What did I do to make her resent me? Where did I go wrong? Why did she hate me?" And they'll live with that irreparable regret for the rest of their lives.
If you have people who care about you, reconnect with them. It'll help reset your perspective and, hopefully, begin to get you to climb out of whatever dark spiral you've found yourself in. @@iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoy
No, it's not better. They'll feel at fault. They'll always wonder what they could have done to help you.
They'll think, "Why did she resent me? What did I do to upset her? If only I did x or y or z, maybe things would have turned out different." Some - if not all of those people - will live with that regret for the rest of their lives. It will be irreparable. It will be a wound that will continue to fester and never heal.
Get back into contact with the people who care about you. It will almost certainly help reframe your perspective. Being too insular warps one's mind and limits one's outlook to a frame of reference so narrow, it's often not even compatible with reality.
thank you
@@iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoy Of course. I hope everything works out well for you.
Ive lost quite a few friends for supporting your view. With that said i agree.. "self care" is losing is meaning and has started to look very similar to "selfish"
Dont know how i got here btw... lol
It's a natural progression from never wanting any accountability and always blaming the consequences of your own choices and behavior on others.
That started when it was made socially unacceptable to criticize a woman.
Yeah yeah we get it you can't have sex and it's women's fault
No it has not become socially unacceptable to criticize a woman or hold her accountable for her character.
You sound like some misogynist wishing it was the 1950s-1920s.
Let me guess you’re mad women can barely tolerate comments on their appearance and Trump’s talk is just locker room talk?
#WomenforTrump
Remember before texting and emails and all the social media people weren’t up each others asses and feeling entitled to responses right away 😂
Not really, you would call the home phone and leave a voicemail or page someone. It’s been accessible for a while now
I do agree on the social media part. But if you don’t want to be bothered, then don’t have social media. I deleted my Facebook for that reason
@@jeeh632 still if you leave a voicemail you gotta wait for a reply right
Yes I also don’t use fb but I’ve had people ask why or say I’m weird for not using fb insta twitter snap all that stuff. And many get butt hurt if they don’t hear back as soon as they want
We just don't need friends and family like that, and someone just too Karen to explain it to them.
My sister in law treats me like trash, that's why I don't talk to her.