I want a Nintendo 3DS. They just wont let me even if i pay the whole sum. Niether they let me buy nor buy for me. Not cos Its a dumb idea but they dont care enough to consider it. . .
Zaibatsu_47 i want a ps4 and I have more than enough for games online etc. but they dont care and they say it's too much money.But then you have my older brother over here buying a hoodies that he is probably not going to wear for fricken $60
From personal experience, the middle child does get the least attention out of all the siblings. We exist in the family, but nothing much is expected of us because the first always has the highest expectations and the youngest always gets all the attention and care. However, I would have to disagree on what the woman in the video said about the middle child not being competitive. Many middle children I know actually become more competitive throughout their lifetime because of the lack of attention from their families. They want to become better than their siblings so they always fight for the attention by trying to be the best and the most successful. I would honestly call the middle child syndrome a type of mental illness because the need for attention from your parents and the rest of your family can really get to your head and cause you to become very bitter towards yourself as well as your family. But that is just from my own experience. Everyone is different.
True for I have experienced the same. (I'm still going through it.) I try my best in school and activities so my parents will actually recognize me. And to be honest, being forced to work harder than my siblings make me jealous and fighting for the attention I need makes me bitter.
Being child #2, I once overheard my parents discussing the 3 of us and our futures. To paraphrase what they said it went something like this: #1 is going to be a Doctor, #3 is going to be a Lawyer, and #2 is going to be a Garbage Man. How's that for motivation to study hard and do well in school?
@@donaldduke2233 I'm so sorry hearing that... And yes, I am a middle child I can relate to that. My parents does not expect greatness to me. All my dreams are killed by them coz it's either "too expensive" or they don't believe in me. But when I had a child, I want to be the best of myself. That's the only time I want to become the best...
Elder kid pass chores to middle child so he can play and go out, middle child has to help younger sibling on chores and everything.. Always the medium to making elder one and younger one to understand each other. Middle child no social life since childhood. The Neglected one. The one who's always at home. Most productive but never noticed. *sigh* Still proud. Haha
The older child gets the credit and responsibility. The younger child gets the fun and free time. And like myself here, The middle child gets the leftovers.
So true, I could tell you a whole Shakespeare poem out of memory and would my parents give a fuck? no. But if my younger brother/sister learned to tie their shoes at age 8, OMG its the most amazing thing ever!!
hahaha lol'ed more that I should .. Shit is true! Middles experience very little parental investment. I think that idea makes us understanding and mentally mature. Still benefited us in the long run. *awesome*
Middle child in between two other girls, less than a year and a half apart. I tried to tell my mom how I felt, but she tells me I'm having too much self pity and that there's not a problem. Well? Let's ignore my bipolarity disorder, my depression, and my constant, wonton, suicidal thoughts mother. You'll end up regretting it someday.
I've middle child syndrome. I've told my parents that they are biased against me. But I gt scolded by them for being immature instead. And MCS happens to me almost everyday. I cry myself to sleep, wonder why I'm still alive and why am I born to this world. It really sucks being the middle child. You'll never know how it feels unless you are one yourself.
One day I'm going to be rich and famous and write a bestselling book about Middle Children. I want to break that stigma that middle children are delinquents when the truth is that they're victim blaming us. I want that book to reach my parents.
I am a typical middle child who gets the least attention even though I’ve good abilities and achievements. Guys, we are not defined by our family, we are defined by ourself. If someone doesn’t pay attention to you, just neglect them, you are the leader of your own life
Middle children do become leaders they are usually left out so how could they become a follower that docter doesnt know wht shes talking a bout i will always call it middle CHILD syndrome
My brother was born July 15, 1989, my older sister was born February 17, 1994, I was born November 12, 1997, and my younger sister was born May 26, 1999, so my older sister and I were the middle two up until 2008 when my brother left for college. I definitely never got as much attention as my older or younger siblings and I am also a lot shyer than they are. Really, a lot of what was mentioned here is true for me. Its hard to explain what its like to be a middle child - you just have to be one!
with your fear and sorrow, smile and maybe tomorrow you'll find that life is still worthwhile if you just light up your face with gladness, hide every trace of sadness. Although a tear may be ever so near, thats the time you most keep on trying, smilem whats the use of crying, you'll find that life is still worthwhile if you just SMILE!!! by Michael Jackson :).
Oh really..? I don't think this really occurs for me. I'm a middle child but I'm much more competitive than my elder sister and I like to take on leadership roles. Idk
My sister: look what Jessica posted on Facebook mom it's outrages! Mom: let me see! I lean in to look at the post Sister: sorry your too young to read this Me: that's okay, I wasn't trying to start a conversation anyways. I'll just go.. Mom and sister laugh while I leave the room Another story Mom: your sister just won first place in a STATE competition! mom: and your brother won third in his cub scouts derby race!! Me: and I just got done using the toilet.. Yay me.. Another.. Dad comes home from work covered in plaster Dad: I'm gonna take a shower. Me: ok, I clean the house as much as I can before my dad comes out. My siblings still sits on their devices. Dad comes out. Dad: who did all this? Was it you? Younger brother: mhm sure, Dad: wow, good job! Me: *sigh* I'm not even gonna do anything. As long as my parents are happy...
Being a middle child can be hard... You really don't get the attention... My grades are the highest I stay a great athlete and have even surpassed my older brother in lots of things... I still always feel like the outcast and sometimes find myself really hurt by it.. I find that I'd rather go to my girlfriend for comfort cuz I feel that she's there and she showers me with that attention I feel like I've been missing all these years.. I feel like I've been in the shadow of my siblings for so long
I know my parents love me, but they just suck at showing it...i have two brothers i'm the middle, i just see my parents love go towards my other brothers than me, it actually hurts my feelings, and i feel like i have no heart at all...
and academically more advanced than both my brothers. but my parents dont treat me equally. just a 1/2 hour ago i was left by myself to clean the kitchen after already cleaning it the past week (no lie) while everyone else was on their computer playing games on facebook, then decide to get me pissed off and its just not fair being the middle child. you really arent treated equally. oh and also my parents focus on what i do wrong and not right (im not a bad person)
Im the middle child in a Hispanic household i get blamed for everything, the only type of attention i get from my parents are when i do something wrong they never seem to be satisfied with whatever i do even do i try so hard to impress them my mother is always comparing me to my older sister and saying “why cant you be like her “ so i kinda rlly envy my older sister and my younger sister gets away with everything she tells me so much things but when I decide to stand up for myself i get in trouble im just 13 and i feel lonely and left out of things my mom and dad say i was the one who got spoiled more but yet they failed to ever give me affection they dont know how much things they have done and how they make me feel yet they have the audacity to ask me “why dont you talk or hang out with us “ i stay in my room bc i dont want to geet criticized every second
I'm the middle child myself and all I can say is I'm a observer and I observed my brothers and sisters and their mistakes and I learned not to be a suckered in problems 💯
middle children are prolly the best leaders in the family and are definitely not shy, how can we be followers if most of the time we hate the oldest and dont wanna be like them, also we usually end up being the most hardworking because we have to work twice as hard to get noticed, we create our own identities, in fact 52 percent of US presidents are middle children, and so was martin luther king
omg! your story tears me up, but I'll give you an advice, Im a middle child and I was feeling the same as you a couple years ago, so what I did was to get out of my house completely, like leave the house, so I went to canada as student to learn stuffs, so I met a lot of people and changed my home stay to live with students only without owner
When we moved to our new house, my mom gave my elder brother the garage which was practically transformed into a apartment, my small sibling and I were left, i took the bigger room with the cool stuff but my mom kicked me out and gave it to my younger sibling😔i got the smallest room in our house 😒
Yup... im the middle child. Always deemed as wild , misinderstood, always be ridiculed so that my younger brother can be validated. N yessss i turned out to be more succesful than my eldest who has every help she can get and oso the younger being supported. They cant survived on their own despite they have their own families...
My father is a middle child my grandparents were really really partially towards him to an extent i don't even want to talk about it in a public comment section
In my family and there are 5 children i have 2 younger sisters 1 older brother and 1 older sister so im the middle, its sonetimes really sucks....................
Am the second kid in the house and my bigger sister is being begged to try a scholarship and i here have the chance to get one i asked 4 the money but no am not worth it ....if ur the middle child the chance ur parents will buy u things is loooooow
so it makes you be responsible, cause you've to cook for yourself, clean and buy groceries for yourself, so I tried to make friends at home and school, but I couldn't make some friends at home cause everyone were in their own world but school was easier cause your going to the same with them, its hard to find friends cause not
I know this is old, but I had to say this person does not come across as someone who actually does scientific research but more like a person who has thoughts and opinions based on her own experiences. I mean sheesh I felt like I was watching my monthly horoscope (by someone who isn't even an astrologer), or something. "Today will be a bad day to be a middle child. Tomorrow might not. Idk. Everyone's special and different. " Bro, look at the comment section, there's your base for research.
I'm the youngest of three girls but I'm 8 years younger than me and the middle child. Although my oldest sister is trying to get pregnant and my other sister is getting married so I'm getting basically getting rad over. When I was younger I got a lot of attention, but now nothing I do is as important as my sisters actions. I kinda wish I could fade more into the background because then I wouldn't get promised things then get disappointed when they don't happen. This year I'm turning 14 and my mom threw big birthday parties for my sisters when they were 13, 14, and 16. We are going to the mountains 2 days after my birthday, but not because of my birthday but because my sister is getting married that Sunday. And I hate to sound like a brat but my oldest sister is always striving for more attention and now I have to deal with a narc and a bridezilla🙄. But all in all I don't care I'm used to being overlooked now, two years ago they completely forgot my birthday but that weekend went out for my sisters birthday (which wasn't for 2 weeks). But yeah I mean I love my sisters but they are kinda annoying.
Like many people here I am a middle child of 5 so I have lots on compentiton and yeah trying to match my older siblings and younger siblings. And like other people it's not a syndrome it's the parents neglecting there middle child
Im the middle child of my family im shy i want attention but i dont care what people say about being the middle older or younger child it doesnt matter what they say what matters is u r who u r and nobody could say or pick who u are its all about what u do and dont with ure life
its not even wrong. No matter what my older brother, or younger sister did for matter; my parents would praise them to the skies, BUT if i did the same thing... ...well, good luck getting the slightest bit of attention.
I am the middle child in my family, and let me tell you it is draining. First, you are expected to match it surpass your older siblings accomplishments, and even if you do, you barely get any recognition for it. This causes me a lot of pressure in daily life, and even causes me anxiety daily. Second your always overshadowed by your older sibling and your younger sibling, each of them get most of the attention and you fade into the background. This can be extremely frustrating because you are just trying your best, but you seem to be invisible to your parents. So some of us act out for the attention, some of us accept and learn how to use fading into the background as an advantage. Third, you are also expected to take care of your younger sibling, even if you have plans of your own, you have to give up part of your time, even though your parents don't try and make time for you. Being a middle child can be a very hard thing, you get no attention, your parents basically don't care what you do, this might sound fun, but interactions with your parents is crucial to a healthy childhood and a healthy relationship with them. Being a middle child also caused me slightly resent some of my family, and caused to be jaded as a grew up. I had to teach myself a lot, and do a lot of things on my own because no one else was going to or no one else cared enough to. I developed my own sense of right and wrong, I matured a lot quicker emotionally and mentally, I became much more self-sufficient, and I did everything I needed to on my own. My parents sort of tried to help by sending me to therapy, but every time my therapists tried to help nothing worked.( I have had 3 different therapists) My parents still kind of neglected me, so at home I became very at closed off. I discovered youtube and used it as a coping method, it worked pretty well, TH-cam actually kind of saved a few times. At school and other places, it was different, without family I became a new person, I was happy and out going. When I was at home I put up a facade of cheerfulness, but being the middle kid also helped me develop a tough skin and I also became a very strong person because of it. Being the middle kid is super tough, but you can turn out to be a pretty good person if you expose yourself to the right things. Now I am an ambitious, upbeat, go getter who won't be told what to do by anyone. I turned ok, so I hope anyone who patiently read all of this learned how being a middle child can effect someone, but also how you can turn that into life lessons and how it can develop skills, like being more independent, being more empathetic to others, and being a more open minded and understanding person.
I am the middle child ihere i things i have learned TH-cam is like my own world where i can be my self I dont have friends bc they were all fake so i kinda dont try to make friends anynore btw they stoped being my friends when they found out who my siblings were like ny siblings are better then me And my parents dont believe me about alot of sfuff i am used to being well invisible I havr other problems with my family but thtas all im sharing
the middle child syndrome is something parents invented to put all the blame on the 'rebellious' child and not on themselves, when in reality it is more their fault then the kids, for not paying them as much attention as they would a older or younger sibling
Imagine having your dog die a few months ago and still, ur family will 💩 on you because the spoiled baby is failing her classes and I’m being a bit too loud.... ps. I live in the garage a hundred feet back with cement walls btw. (Just in case ur wondering if maybe I was being the 🍆) I know the patriarchy is a problem but if this girls club is the alternative, well let’s just say no wonder so many dudes are just deciding marry other dudes. If only u ladies knew how hard you screw yourselves by taking pple like me out of the dating pool. That’s if you have a “weird” brother or “strange” sister too I’m sure. 😢 And the worse part we’re usually the ones with the biggest conscience... coincidence? Or did they beat the hard truth into me and label me aggressive for being angry... pretty sure anyone would be in my little shoes!
Th opposite happened to me i got the bigger room while my older sister the smaller and my brother because hes the smallest and really young is still with my parents
I kind of disagree with the leadership thing. I believe many middle children are leaders. Just because you're older, doesn't make you a leader. Over 50% of presidents of the USA were middle children. It kind of just doesn't add up. as a middle child, I'm CERTAINLY no follower, I promise that and am even inspired to be a leader one day (CEO or involved in business/am going to business school/majoring) We generally all our lives have taught ourselves to grow up quicker because mentally, our parents didn't or just somehow didn't know how or care enough to be compassionate and take their time with us. We lead ourselves, and so we lead others very well.
Yes, in fact even if they're not spoiled, I've noticed from my brother (who is the oldest) and my niece (first born) that they listen to authority more and seem to be more calm with listening and less defiant or "going your own way" attitudes because the only models they had were adults, which to be fair is a very good quality for being likeable when you're older, you can certainly use a trait like that for good, but I feel like when a middle child comes they see a different picture and tend to rebel more. The youngest can sometimes do that too, but they tend to be more calm and go with the flow. At least this is a pattern I noticed in my own family.@@MissX33
Growing up as a middle child is tough - you're stuck in an awkward limbo-zone, being both an older and a younger sibling. That expectation that you have to match or exceed your elder sibling's accomplishments, as well as guide and look after your younger is challenging... more so because there is minimal to no recognition of your efforts. Anything you do has already been done by the oldest, and taking care of the youngest is simply expected. Although my sisters and I have always had great relationships, growing up was a really bitter, jading experience. In retrospect though, I would take the middle ten times out of ten! That hard period essentially forces you to become self-sufficient, self-actualized, and mature. As an adult, you can actually engage with your parents as equals, and enjoy a level of mutual respect that your siblings can't understand. Pretty awesome.
I have done exactly that too, i matured very fast, my problem is that when i was 15 i got along with 20 year old's at 20 i got along with people in mid to late 20's. I was always isolated due to my maturity and one difference with my parenting they were strict as fuck and paranoid scared for our safety so i never developed socially outside of home very well. I'm 28 and finally starting to develop proper social skills. Fuck my parents, disowned bitch of mother soon to disown the rest.
Im a middle child. Im the only girl too. I feel neglected and like no one pays attention. I feel like the oldest and youngest get the most attention. Its like Im invisible or something. it sucks. .-.
Same I get some attention but nothings that fair for me one Time. My. Older brother was on the couch then left and then I went on the couch he came back and said hey I was sitting there move so I had to move . Then I was sitting on the couch then I got up to get something next thing you know my younger brother took my spot and I said I was sitting there can you move please then my parents said you snooze you loose so there’s the story of unfairness sorry I love the couch
A similar experience for me my parents still don't even know and when I tried to tell them they just said it was all in my head and i was making it up😑
It's true I'm super shy if I need to speak or read in class my face gets red and I just can't talk but I always want to read because I want everyone to look at me think I'm great and stuff but Im happy that my bffs and me were together for like 3 years and we always fight but somehow we always make up lol idk bro I'm 12
Being the middle child was a curse. Too bad my parents were not aware of the problems of middle children. This video makes light of the plight. The neglect and lack of nurturing does irreparable damage to the psyche. It can and often does lead to mental health problems. I'm speaking from experience. Growing up not feeling loved or appreciated leads to a sad life.
15 male here. I am the middle child age 15 by little brother is 11 and my older sister is 18. I am treated differently. My mom takes care of us all because my dad went to live with his sister. It's not too far away and my mom and dad aren't divorced but because he's gone my mom keeps saying I'm "the oldest and the man of the house". I am independent (as long as it doesn't involve public activity) and very creative. I used to do many chores for the family in an attempt to please my mother but she would always just say "good you should do chores". Over time, I stopped talking to the family as much. I don't express my feelings much because it ends up with my mom yelling at me and me crying going into my room to be alone. I sometimes have suicidal thoughts but never attempt suicide. My sister is a straight A student, I am an average B student and according to my mom I don't "apply myself enough to get better grades." I'm good in quite a few of the subjects I take excluding English, math
Sorry I mean including English, math, art, and science. My mom always ignores those grades and focuses only on that one C I got in health or in world history. Never my good grades. She has been saying that in order for me to get my permit I need to get a summer job so I can "contribute" to the price, which I can understand, but my 18 year old sister doesn't have one? "It's cause her grades are better and she gets a discount" she always says. I don't know what to say and how to say it. "You have that teenage witchy attitude and I'm not putting up with it" she constantly says. My brother and sister sometimes give her attitude and she says "do you see what you did? YOUR attitude is being copied by your brother and sister!" I dont go out with the family much anymore and would rather talk about my feelings to my friends than my parents. I feel like my mom is trying to turn everybody against me.
I’m always pressured on being a man and i’m the middle child and that i’m childish for owning beanie boos. The moment I can, I’m leaving and taking my beanie boos with me so my dad can complain and cry about something else.
I’m a middle child can confirm I get treated differently. For Christmas my older sibling got to fly to New York City with her friends + a new phone Younger sibling got a pc, phone, $100 worth of video games and an iPad Me (the middle child) got mouse traps (idk why) a body pillow (I also don’t know why) and a single Kit Kat So yeah again, I can confirm
My sister (younger):slaps me Me(middle):slaps her back My parents :yell at me and slap me My bro(older) :slaps me Me (medium):cries and yells My parents: shut up
i felt this, though i haven’t gotten slapped by my brother or my younger sister, i have gotten threatened to be slapped by my sister once and that was only because i was messing with my dog :)
I’m the middle child I’m the second girl n my mom has 3 girls n one boy so I’m the not oldest but not youngest n iam creative I do slack a lil but I’m self /people observant but I’ve notice I’ve broken that shell n ive blossomed to something beautiful n it’s really like a good thing cause you don’t hold this label of well I’m the oldest so I have to set an example or I’m the youngest so I have to carry the way or be as great as the others I’m kinda like just here 😂😭 idk !
What?!! This is not real none of them have an first hand experience this is so not real I am a middle child what do they known😬they do not know what it is like
Dumb fake videos: YOU WINT GET CAUGHT BECAUSE YOUR MAMA DONT PAY ATTENTION me: does something good* Mom: yeah yeah * didnt even listens * Me: steals a a cookie* mom from a 1000 mile radius: O YOU STOLE A COOKIE * hits with belt *
My younger brother is Almost always Angry I'm the middle child and I do have some of these traits I seek attention even thought I didn't realize it for a lot of my life I follow people I'm not a leader and my older sister well I don't know she is always doing school or on her phone so...
no labeling ! hmmmmm they should have told that tp my parents my dad always refered to me as the smart quit one my mom as the weak censitive one parrents talk crap to theyre children
im very much a typical middle child i feel so much like the least favorite too like i lowkey feel like my family hates me almost
Same
Yeah same
Matty Green saaaammmmeeee
Same
Same
Middle Children are the realest cos we dont get what we want so we think logically about how to accuire it. Also this is why i dont want 3 kids
me too
Zaibatsu_47 i cant really acquire anything no matter what it is because my parents don't care
I want a Nintendo 3DS. They just wont let me even if i pay the whole sum. Niether they let me buy nor buy for me. Not cos Its a dumb idea but they dont care enough to consider it. . .
Zaibatsu_47 i want a ps4 and I have more than enough for games online etc. but they dont care and they say it's too much money.But then you have my older brother over here buying a hoodies that he is probably not going to wear for fricken $60
You want 4?
I agree, it's not a syndrome, but neglect by the parents instead.
Joe Simon ..
Very true..its negligence
Tbh tru
I agree. My family was very negligent towards me, even are to this day.
True
neglect by the parents and the society
From personal experience, the middle child does get the least attention out of all the siblings. We exist in the family, but nothing much is expected of us because the first always has the highest expectations and the youngest always gets all the attention and care.
However, I would have to disagree on what the woman in the video said about the middle child not being competitive. Many middle children I know actually become more competitive throughout their lifetime because of the lack of attention from their families. They want to become better than their siblings so they always fight for the attention by trying to be the best and the most successful.
I would honestly call the middle child syndrome a type of mental illness because the need for attention from your parents and the rest of your family can really get to your head and cause you to become very bitter towards yourself as well as your family.
But that is just from my own experience. Everyone is different.
preach it
True for I have experienced the same. (I'm still going through it.) I try my best in school and activities so my parents will actually recognize me. And to be honest, being forced to work harder than my siblings make me jealous and fighting for the attention I need makes me bitter.
I totally agree!!
Being child #2, I once overheard my parents discussing the 3 of us and our futures. To paraphrase what they said it went something like this: #1 is going to be a Doctor, #3 is going to be a Lawyer, and #2 is going to be a Garbage Man. How's that for motivation to study hard and do well in school?
@@donaldduke2233 I'm so sorry hearing that... And yes, I am a middle child I can relate to that. My parents does not expect greatness to me. All my dreams are killed by them coz it's either "too expensive" or they don't believe in me. But when I had a child, I want to be the best of myself. That's the only time I want to become the best...
Elder kid pass chores to middle child so he can play and go out, middle child has to help younger sibling on chores and everything..
Always the medium to making elder one and younger one to understand each other.
Middle child no social life since childhood.
The Neglected one. The one who's always at home.
Most productive but never noticed.
*sigh*
Still proud. Haha
The older child gets the credit and responsibility.
The younger child gets the fun and free time.
And like myself here,
The middle child gets the leftovers.
true story BiancaWeirdo
Being a middle child myself I totally agree
So true, I could tell you a whole Shakespeare poem out of memory and would my parents give a fuck? no. But if my younger brother/sister learned to tie their shoes at age 8, OMG its the most amazing thing ever!!
hahaha lol'ed more that I should .. Shit is true!
Middles experience very little parental investment. I think that idea makes us understanding and mentally mature. Still benefited us in the long run. *awesome*
Middle child in between two other girls, less than a year and a half apart. I tried to tell my mom how I felt, but she tells me I'm having too much self pity and that there's not a problem.
Well? Let's ignore my bipolarity disorder, my depression, and my constant, wonton, suicidal thoughts mother. You'll end up regretting it someday.
you should get help
@@Anon-f7f hmmm
u there buddy...?
SAME
I wrote my dad a letter telling him how i feel about me always being left out and my depression and he threatened me and told me never to try it again
Tbh i find it sad how everyone (including me) relates
I've middle child syndrome. I've told my parents that they are biased against me. But I gt scolded by them for being immature instead. And MCS happens to me almost everyday. I cry myself to sleep, wonder why I'm still alive and why am I born to this world. It really sucks being the middle child. You'll never know how it feels unless you are one yourself.
I am the middle child and this applies to me perfectly
middle child is a loner 🤧😭 I am sad and hurt
One day I'm going to be rich and famous and write a bestselling book about Middle Children. I want to break that stigma that middle children are delinquents when the truth is that they're victim blaming us. I want that book to reach my parents.
I am a typical middle child who gets the least attention even though I’ve good abilities and achievements. Guys, we are not defined by our family, we are defined by ourself. If someone doesn’t pay attention to you, just neglect them, you are the leader of your own life
Middle children do become leaders they are usually left out so how could they become a follower that docter doesnt know wht shes talking a bout i will always call it middle CHILD syndrome
No kidding. We have to be the leader. We're forced to take care for both our older and younger sibling.
prech it both of you keep going u nice☺️☺️☺️
Exactly what I was thinking. I’m not a follower at all, actually very nonconformist and am the black sheep because of it.
My brother was born July 15, 1989, my older sister was born February 17, 1994, I was born November 12, 1997, and my younger sister was born May 26, 1999, so my older sister and I were the middle two up until 2008 when my brother left for college. I definitely never got as much attention as my older or younger siblings and I am also a lot shyer than they are. Really, a lot of what was mentioned here is true for me. Its hard to explain what its like to be a middle child - you just have to be one!
im a middle child im mostly invisible my mom has space for my bro but not me
with your fear and sorrow, smile and maybe tomorrow you'll find that life is still worthwhile if you just light up your face with gladness, hide every trace of sadness. Although a tear may be ever so near, thats the time you most keep on trying, smilem whats the use of crying, you'll find that life is still worthwhile if you just SMILE!!! by Michael Jackson :).
Oh really..? I don't think this really occurs for me. I'm a middle child but I'm much more competitive than my elder sister and I like to take on leadership roles. Idk
Most people on talk shows are fucking morons.
yeah same. Im a middle child too and almost everything that women said isn't completely true.
Lucky...
Same
her: "ya ya if there creative or whatever"
me: "seriously"
Heather Mousseau ikr lmao
My sister: look what Jessica posted on Facebook mom it's outrages!
Mom: let me see!
I lean in to look at the post
Sister: sorry your too young to read this
Me: that's okay, I wasn't trying to start a conversation anyways. I'll just go..
Mom and sister laugh while I leave the room
Another story
Mom: your sister just won first place in a STATE competition!
mom: and your brother won third in his cub scouts derby race!!
Me: and I just got done using the toilet.. Yay me..
Another..
Dad comes home from work covered in plaster
Dad: I'm gonna take a shower.
Me: ok,
I clean the house as much as I can before my dad comes out.
My siblings still sits on their devices.
Dad comes out.
Dad: who did all this? Was it you?
Younger brother: mhm sure,
Dad: wow, good job!
Me: *sigh* I'm not even gonna do anything. As long as my parents are happy...
@@angelaromano6772 that last one sends
Being a middle child can be hard... You really don't get the attention... My grades are the highest I stay a great athlete and have even surpassed my older brother in lots of things... I still always feel like the outcast and sometimes find myself really hurt by it.. I find that I'd rather go to my girlfriend for comfort cuz I feel that she's there and she showers me with that attention I feel like I've been missing all these years.. I feel like I've been in the shadow of my siblings for so long
I know my parents love me, but they just suck at showing it...i have two brothers i'm the middle, i just see my parents love go towards my other brothers than me, it actually hurts my feelings, and i feel like i have no heart at all...
Got news for this lady you can be a middle child and not be child born second.
and academically more advanced than both my brothers. but my parents dont treat me equally. just a 1/2 hour ago i was left by myself to clean the kitchen after already cleaning it the past week (no lie) while everyone else was on their computer playing games on facebook, then decide to get me pissed off and its just not fair being the middle child. you really arent treated equally. oh and also my parents focus on what i do wrong and not right (im not a bad person)
Im the middle child in a Hispanic household i get blamed for everything, the only type of attention i get from my parents are when i do something wrong they never seem to be satisfied with whatever i do even do i try so hard to impress them my mother is always comparing me to my older sister and saying “why cant you be like her “ so i kinda rlly envy my older sister and my younger sister gets away with everything she tells me so much things but when I decide to stand up for myself i get in trouble im just 13 and i feel lonely and left out of things my mom and dad say i was the one who got spoiled more but yet they failed to ever give me affection they dont know how much things they have done and how they make me feel yet they have the audacity to ask me “why dont you talk or hang out with us “ i stay in my room bc i dont want to geet criticized every second
I'm the middle child myself and all I can say is I'm a observer and I observed my brothers and sisters and their mistakes and I learned not to be a suckered in problems 💯
middle children are prolly the best leaders in the family and are definitely not shy, how can we be followers if most of the time we hate the oldest and dont wanna be like them, also we usually end up being the most hardworking because we have to work twice as hard to get noticed, we create our own identities, in fact 52 percent of US presidents are middle children, and so was martin luther king
omg! your story tears me up, but I'll give you an advice, Im a middle child and I was feeling the same as you a couple years ago, so what I did was to get out of my house completely, like leave the house, so I went to canada as student to learn stuffs, so I met a lot of people and changed my home stay to live with students only without owner
Now how do I call myself.. ? a middle child of my mother and the first born of my father. Haha I have mixed characteristics of eldest and middle....
When we moved to our new house, my mom gave my elder brother the garage which was practically transformed into a apartment, my small sibling and I were left, i took the bigger room with the cool stuff but my mom kicked me out and gave it to my younger sibling😔i got the smallest room in our house 😒
I LOVE BEING THE MIDDLE CHILD, EVEN THO IT HURTS ☺️🎭ಥ‿ಥ
I hate being a middle child.
Yup... im the middle child. Always deemed as wild , misinderstood, always be ridiculed so that my younger brother can be validated. N yessss i turned out to be more succesful than my eldest who has every help she can get and oso the younger being supported. They cant survived on their own despite they have their own families...
My father is a middle child my grandparents were really really partially towards him to an extent i don't even want to talk about it in a public comment section
In my family and there are 5 children i have 2 younger sisters 1 older brother and 1 older sister so im the middle, its sonetimes really sucks....................
Am the second kid in the house and my bigger sister is being begged to try a scholarship and i here have the chance to get one i asked 4 the money but no am not worth it ....if ur the middle child the chance ur parents will buy u things is loooooow
so it makes you be responsible, cause you've to cook for yourself, clean and buy groceries for yourself, so I tried to make friends at home and school, but I couldn't make some friends at home cause everyone were in their own world but school was easier cause your going to the same with them, its hard to find friends cause not
I know this is old, but I had to say this person does not come across as someone who actually does scientific research but more like a person who has thoughts and opinions based on her own experiences. I mean sheesh I felt like I was watching my monthly horoscope (by someone who isn't even an astrologer), or something.
"Today will be a bad day to be a middle child.
Tomorrow might not. Idk. Everyone's special and different. "
Bro, look at the comment section, there's your base for research.
I'm the youngest of three girls but I'm 8 years younger than me and the middle child. Although my oldest sister is trying to get pregnant and my other sister is getting married so I'm getting basically getting rad over. When I was younger I got a lot of attention, but now nothing I do is as important as my sisters actions. I kinda wish I could fade more into the background because then I wouldn't get promised things then get disappointed when they don't happen. This year I'm turning 14 and my mom threw big birthday parties for my sisters when they were 13, 14, and 16. We are going to the mountains 2 days after my birthday, but not because of my birthday but because my sister is getting married that Sunday. And I hate to sound like a brat but my oldest sister is always striving for more attention and now I have to deal with a narc and a bridezilla🙄. But all in all I don't care I'm used to being overlooked now, two years ago they completely forgot my birthday but that weekend went out for my sisters birthday (which wasn't for 2 weeks). But yeah I mean I love my sisters but they are kinda annoying.
Middle children where you at?!
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This interview would have been informative had the interviewer not interrupted so much. This interview was a waste of time.
Both of my brothers hate me... and my mom kinda loves her nephew's more than me😂💀😓
I hate being the middle child
I am the middle child. Will never have more than two kids cuz I ain't gonna make them feel that way.
Like many people here I am a middle child of 5 so I have lots on compentiton and yeah trying to match my older siblings and younger siblings. And like other people it's not a syndrome it's the parents neglecting there middle child
i am a middle one ..
Middle children have the strongest mindset
Do I still count as a middle child I’m 3 years younger than my brother but 11 years older than my sister
For those that looked this up 😞
It is a very real thing I'm a middle child
Im the middle child of my family im shy i want attention but i dont care what people say about being the middle older or younger child it doesnt matter what they say what matters is u r who u r and nobody could say or pick who u are its all about what u do and dont with ure life
Its like she's giving a horoscope
We get ignored a lot especially bye our parents
I’m a middle child and I get no attention. I’m known as the annoying, useless one
“Oh, I had your older brother/sister when he/she was your age!”
Hate that-
diabetes got me all the attention i fucking need, mate.
This lady is all wrong..Im a middle child and i dont fit in with her views at all
im a middle child & my opinions dont matter at all. cause who cares?
I’m the middle child
WOWWW
And im proud of that
This is the first video I disliked🙅
Same! I have middle child syndrome that is not what middle child syndrome is!
Im the midlle child and my parents favor my to bro.
101!
Here we are♎♎♎😎
No one has the right to say if it's real or not except for the middle children
noona septiceye right because coming from a middle child. Yes it does in fact exist
yep definitely
Seriously !!!!
been very depressed and no one cared :)
zzaayden honestly same, i just wanna off myself at this point
middle child gets blame for everything gets less attention
brandon baerga ikr
RandomFan Go I am a middle child too! It's all so true!
its not even wrong. No matter what my older brother, or younger sister did for matter; my parents would praise them to the skies, BUT if i did the same thing... ...well, good luck getting the slightest bit of attention.
I got attention. I got blamed for everything my younger sibling did. Whey you get your ass busted for something you didn't do, that's attention.
SO TURE
I am the middle child in my family, and let me tell you it is draining.
First, you are expected to match it surpass your older siblings accomplishments, and even if you do, you barely get any recognition for it. This causes me a lot of pressure in daily life, and even causes me anxiety daily. Second your always overshadowed by your older sibling and your younger sibling, each of them get most of the attention and you fade into the background. This can be extremely frustrating because you are just trying your best, but you seem to be invisible to your parents. So some of us act out for the attention, some of us accept and learn how to use fading into the background as an advantage. Third, you are also expected to take care of your younger sibling, even if you have plans of your own, you have to give up part of your time, even though your parents don't try and make time for you.
Being a middle child can be a very hard thing, you get no attention, your parents basically don't care what you do, this might sound fun, but interactions with your parents is crucial to a healthy childhood and a healthy relationship with them. Being a middle child also caused me slightly resent some of my family, and caused to be jaded as a grew up. I had to teach myself a lot, and do a lot of things on my own because no one else was going to or no one else cared enough to. I developed my own sense of right and wrong, I matured a lot quicker emotionally and mentally, I became much more self-sufficient, and I did everything I needed to on my own.
My parents sort of tried to help by sending me to therapy, but every time my therapists tried to help nothing worked.( I have had 3 different therapists) My parents still kind of neglected me, so at home I became very at closed off. I discovered youtube and used it as a coping method, it worked pretty well, TH-cam actually kind of saved a few times. At school and other places, it was different, without family I became a new person, I was happy and out going. When I was at home I put up a facade of cheerfulness, but being the middle kid also helped me develop a tough skin and I also became a very strong person because of it.
Being the middle kid is super tough, but you can turn out to be a pretty good person if you expose yourself to the right things. Now I am an ambitious, upbeat, go getter who won't be told what to do by anyone. I turned ok, so I hope anyone who patiently read all of this learned how being a middle child can effect someone, but also how you can turn that into life lessons and how it can develop skills, like being more independent, being more empathetic to others, and being a more open minded and understanding person.
I have an addiction TH-cam
Sounds like you and I have a lot of similar experiences😂
Same
I am the middle child ihere i things i have learned
TH-cam is like my own world where i can be my self
I dont have friends bc they were all fake so i kinda dont try to make friends anynore btw they stoped being my friends when they found out who my siblings were like ny siblings are better then me
And my parents dont believe me about alot of sfuff i am used to being well invisible
I havr other problems with my family but thtas all im sharing
Relatable.
You basically describe what my life, oh wow.
the middle child syndrome is something parents invented to put all the blame on the 'rebellious' child and not on themselves, when in reality it is more their fault then the kids, for not paying them as much attention as they would a older or younger sibling
These are all so true it breaks my heart
Rachel Amanda honestly tho
Yeah.. 😔
Imagine having your dog die a few months ago and still, ur family will 💩 on you because the spoiled baby is failing her classes and I’m being a bit too loud.... ps. I live in the garage a hundred feet back with cement walls btw. (Just in case ur wondering if maybe I was being the 🍆)
I know the patriarchy is a problem but if this girls club is the alternative, well let’s just say no wonder so many dudes are just deciding marry other dudes. If only u ladies knew how hard you screw yourselves by taking pple like me out of the dating pool. That’s if you have a “weird” brother or “strange” sister too I’m sure. 😢 And the worse part we’re usually the ones with the biggest conscience... coincidence? Or did they beat the hard truth into me and label me aggressive for being angry... pretty sure anyone would be in my little shoes!
Quick get the stake and torches its a phycic witch
I feel so bad for my brother 😔
Middle Child Syndrome doesn't exist. It's really just the parents
Agreed
yeah..
Yep
I was just kicked out of my bed so my brother could sleep there, it's called uncaring.
Awww im sorry (i can relate your not alone)
Life is pretty bad for us 😔👊
same! when our house got renovated, my mom kicked me out from the new room and gave it to my older bro, she gave me the uglier room with ugly stuff
@@optimusprime5130 I'm so sorry dude!
Th opposite happened to me i got the bigger room while my older sister the smaller and my brother because hes the smallest and really young is still with my parents
I kind of disagree with the leadership thing.
I believe many middle children are leaders. Just because you're older, doesn't make you a leader. Over 50% of presidents of the USA were middle children. It kind of just doesn't add up. as a middle child, I'm CERTAINLY no follower, I promise that and am even inspired to be a leader one day (CEO or involved in business/am going to business school/majoring)
We generally all our lives have taught ourselves to grow up quicker because mentally, our parents didn't or just somehow didn't know how or care enough to be compassionate and take their time with us. We lead ourselves, and so we lead others very well.
I know this comment is well over a couple years old but I wanted to tell you you hit the nail exactly on the head!!🙏🏻
Yeah, definitely I don’t classify myself as a follower and I’m a middle child.
Yes, in fact even if they're not spoiled, I've noticed from my brother (who is the oldest) and my niece (first born) that they listen to authority more and seem to be more calm with listening and less defiant or "going your own way" attitudes because the only models they had were adults, which to be fair is a very good quality for being likeable when you're older, you can certainly use a trait like that for good, but I feel like when a middle child comes they see a different picture and tend to rebel more. The youngest can sometimes do that too, but they tend to be more calm and go with the flow. At least this is a pattern I noticed in my own family.@@MissX33
me=
Creative
Social Butterfly
Outgoing
Never recognized
Gifted
Opposite of shy
Enjoys Competition
Me= Middle Child
i'm a middle child
Im a middle child too
That really how muddle child is, they creative, outgoing... (well a lot of them are) , but they got less attention
Growing up as a middle child is tough - you're stuck in an awkward limbo-zone, being both an older and a younger sibling. That expectation that you have to match or exceed your elder sibling's accomplishments, as well as guide and look after your younger is challenging... more so because there is minimal to no recognition of your efforts. Anything you do has already been done by the oldest, and taking care of the youngest is simply expected.
Although my sisters and I have always had great relationships, growing up was a really bitter, jading experience. In retrospect though, I would take the middle ten times out of ten! That hard period essentially forces you to become self-sufficient, self-actualized, and mature. As an adult, you can actually engage with your parents as equals, and enjoy a level of mutual respect that your siblings can't understand.
Pretty awesome.
I have done exactly that too, i matured very fast, my problem is that when i was 15 i got along with 20 year old's at 20 i got along with people in mid to late 20's. I was always isolated due to my maturity and one difference with my parenting they were strict as fuck and paranoid scared for our safety so i never developed socially outside of home very well. I'm 28 and finally starting to develop proper social skills. Fuck my parents, disowned bitch of mother soon to disown the rest.
Im a middle child.
Im the only girl too.
I feel neglected and like no one pays attention.
I feel like the oldest and youngest get the most attention.
Its like Im invisible or something. it sucks. .-.
I know how you feel! I always feel like that.
Same
Same I get some attention but nothings that fair for me one Time. My. Older brother was on the couch then left and then I went on the couch he came back and said hey I was sitting there move so I had to move . Then I was sitting on the couch then I got up to get something next thing you know my younger brother took my spot and I said I was sitting there can you move please then my parents said you snooze you loose so there’s the story of unfairness sorry I love the couch
same here
BubblesTheNarwhal same sis
Just say it Dr !! We get less attention and love and always neglected and underestimated
True
Yep, story of my life.
bruh im the middle child and i’m my sibling’s favorite but my mom blames EVERYTHINGGG ON ME and i literally get like no attention
Coming from a middle child, this is a very real thing, as I have been depressed and no one noticed or cared
A similar experience for me my parents still don't even know and when I tried to tell them they just said it was all in my head and i was making it up😑
Same
Same here
Same
It's true I'm super shy if I need to speak or read in class my face gets red and I just can't talk but I always want to read because I want everyone to look at me think I'm great and stuff but Im happy that my bffs and me were together for like 3 years and we always fight but somehow we always make up lol idk bro I'm 12
At least you have friends...
don't worry, you'll be more self-sufficient in the long run than your siblings.
How do i get this in my moms recomended
Send it to her
Same!
Being the middle child was a curse. Too bad my parents were not aware of the problems of middle children. This video makes light of the plight. The neglect and lack of nurturing does irreparable damage to the psyche. It can and often does lead to mental health problems. I'm speaking from experience. Growing up not feeling loved or appreciated leads to a sad life.
15 male here. I am the middle child age 15 by little brother is 11 and my older sister is 18. I am treated differently. My mom takes care of us all because my dad went to live with his sister. It's not too far away and my mom and dad aren't divorced but because he's gone my mom keeps saying I'm "the oldest and the man of the house". I am independent (as long as it doesn't involve public activity) and very creative. I used to do many chores for the family in an attempt to please my mother but she would always just say "good you should do chores". Over time, I stopped talking to the family as much. I don't express my feelings much because it ends up with my mom yelling at me and me crying going into my room to be alone. I sometimes have suicidal thoughts but never attempt suicide. My sister is a straight A student, I am an average B student and according to my mom I don't "apply myself enough to get better grades." I'm good in quite a few of the subjects I take excluding English, math
Sorry I mean including English, math, art, and science. My mom always ignores those grades and focuses only on that one C I got in health or in world history. Never my good grades. She has been saying that in order for me to get my permit I need to get a summer job so I can "contribute" to the price, which I can understand, but my 18 year old sister doesn't have one? "It's cause her grades are better and she gets a discount" she always says. I don't know what to say and how to say it. "You have that teenage witchy attitude and I'm not putting up with it" she constantly says. My brother and sister sometimes give her attitude and she says "do you see what you did? YOUR attitude is being copied by your brother and sister!" I dont go out with the family much anymore and would rather talk about my feelings to my friends than my parents. I feel like my mom is trying to turn everybody against me.
Echo tech I'm the middle child too
don't worry... we've only got a few years till we get to go to college and leave our torture chambers otherwise known as "home"
Same.... But I don't have suicidal thoughts that much tho some times I do but I never try to attempt to....
I’m always pressured on being a man and i’m the middle child and that i’m childish for owning beanie boos. The moment I can, I’m leaving and taking my beanie boos with me so my dad can complain and cry about something else.
middle child syndrome is real because i am a middle child and all my sibilings get most of the attention.
I'm a middle child. I fucking hate it. I wish my parents just give me to other parents!
OMG!! This is all true!!!!! Im so shy, creative etc!!! Damn! But i feel left out too :'(
You think your life is bad
My mom and siblings don't remember my name
I’m a middle child can confirm I get treated differently.
For Christmas my older sibling got to fly to New York City with her friends + a new phone
Younger sibling got a pc, phone, $100 worth of video games and an iPad
Me (the middle child) got mouse traps (idk why) a body pillow (I also don’t know why) and a single Kit Kat
So yeah again, I can confirm
My sister (younger):slaps me
Me(middle):slaps her back
My parents :yell at me and slap me
My bro(older) :slaps me
Me (medium):cries and yells
My parents: shut up
i felt this, though i haven’t gotten slapped by my brother or my younger sister, i have gotten threatened to be slapped by my sister once and that was only because i was messing with my dog :)
@@theamazingkatelyn6984 lmao sorry this happens
@@ash.j3429 lmao it's okay
I'm a middle child for my cousins same feeling not as much attention
I’m the middle child I’m the second girl n my mom has 3 girls n one boy so I’m the not oldest but not youngest n iam creative I do slack a lil but I’m self /people observant but I’ve notice I’ve broken that shell n ive blossomed to something beautiful n it’s really like a good thing cause you don’t hold this label of well I’m the oldest so I have to set an example or I’m the youngest so I have to carry the way or be as great as the others I’m kinda like just here 😂😭 idk !
I'm a middle child I always get blamed for everything my sisters do and when I get good grades my parents don't even care they just send me to my room
i wish i have this syndrome so the doctor can tell my mom how being a middle child really feels.😔
What?!! This is not real none of them have an first hand experience this is so not real I am a middle child what do they known😬they do not know what it is like
Actually it's pretty accurate to me. It's different for every middle child okay?!
All the dislikes on this video are from the younger and older children 👶
Being the middle child is so irritating like dang why you always blaming me I'm not even in the convo
Only middles should be allowed to comment on this.
Dumb fake videos: YOU WINT GET CAUGHT BECAUSE YOUR MAMA DONT PAY ATTENTION
me: does something good*
Mom: yeah yeah * didnt even listens *
Me: steals a a cookie*
mom from a 1000 mile radius: O YOU STOLE A COOKIE * hits with belt *
My younger brother is Almost always Angry I'm the middle child and I do have some of these traits I seek attention even thought I didn't realize it for a lot of my life I follow people I'm not a leader and my older sister well I don't know she is always doing school or on her phone so...
no labeling !
hmmmmm they should have told that tp my parents
my dad always refered to me as the smart quit one
my mom as the weak censitive one
parrents talk crap to theyre children
“Every individual is different” oh, so then you’re asserting there’s no correlation then