No woman will tolerate a guy who doesn’t care for his hygiene. He should have never put his hands on her. I understand the language barrier but there is also a level of compassion and restraint that this guy obviously doesn’t have at the age of “35”. I’m voting him off the island.
So thankful for Brother Zhan and his wife. They are truly showing her that they have love for her and truly want the best. That they consider her family no matter what the out come is. She will forever have a home and place with them. I don't think anyone expected him to be like this once married. I believe the whole family thought he would mature and change and be a good husband and man. I hope he changes in every way. This young lady deserves so much more and she is trying as well. She is trying to adapt to a new life, but it takes two.
Thank you to Big Cousin & his wife for taking Anita to their house, mediating, and letting her know that she can live there if she chooses not to stay with Jin Tao. From what I've seen in the videos, this is work & and abuse, not love or a happy marriage. This is the third time they've had a fight over his hygiene. He is not going to change. Jin Tao lacks effective communication skills and he's disrespectful.He walked away the other day when Big Cousin was talking to him. It's time to let go. The fights are getting worse. Him & his family made promises to Anita's mom & they aren't following through. What does his parents have to say. Where's the matchmaker? He should also take responsibility. This is so sad. No one should be abused.
When you talked to her about going back to Zambia, she immediately raised her head and replied: "Ok" with her own mouth and she had a calming smile so let her go home!!
@HopefulSpaceCapsule-ob4eu I don't think you understand that Anita wants to return to Zambia. And that she is forced to return to her husband. She clearly said to Zhan: “I haven’t forgiven him, you asked me to forgive” so she makes it clear that she is being forced. He even replied: “No no”. It's a coded call for help that Anita made because she doesn't know how to escape, the Chinese manage everything. What's funny?! The misfortune of others does you good if I understand correctly...
@@harlee2191 It's who doesn't hear. Yes, that's the biggest part 🤫because she said to Zhan: "you asked me to forgive" Zhan was shocked he replied: "no no" but she sent a strong message that we obliges and that it is not her own will therefore that she is in danger. She wants to go home so the Chinese have to let her go back to Zambia otherwise they will pay if Anita dies...People will scream and it will make noise!
You now made good agreements. Glad the family take care of that young girl. I live in the Netherlands but I was so worried fro her as I know family with boy like Jintao and it is very difficult to be with him as his mood swings from calm to agitated . Thanks for giving Angie options
If he will not change out of respect for his parents honor or his wife or the hard work his cousin has put in then what can you do? His parents can’t seem to control him or come to Angie’s defense. They just stood there watching like they’re neighbors on the other side of the fence watching the gossip. What is this? No job, no bath, no washing of clothes, No brushing of teeth? What type of new husband doesn’t want to impress his wife? Big Cousin should marry Angela to his son instead. SMH
The best decision is to leave, you are young Angina rather than live in a toxic marriage. Since the very first day I came across your vedios I knew that something is not right about him. Please we your African Sisters need you.
How can a grow up man wake up without taking his bath not brushing his teeth and want to kiss Angela 10:12 even shower that's ridiculous not changing his clothes we Africa didn't like dirty even if it's one clothes that he has he must be clean Angela really try he can't try that rubbish with Nigeria🇳🇬 lady likee serious he didn't cherish what he ask what a shame so annoying
A Nigerian wouldn’t even glance at them and that’s why they’ll never seek brides from that area. It’s really sad that they’re plucking these girls so young from socio-economic impacted areas in Africa but I don’t see them doing same in similar Asian countries. Do you know why? Because even those Asian girls won’t tolerate this.
You cannot change a person, especially a man who is very much set in his ways. If he does change, it will only be transient. That change will not be sustainable and could potentially lead to DV. Girl, don’t force it. If he isn’t for you, he isn’t for you. You’re very young and have a whole life ahead of you. Don’t make life decisions based on promises and “what could be” without total certainty and assurance. If she behaved half as badly as he has been, she would have been shamed and sent back home but she’s being pressured to be patient with him all the while he’s unwilling to listen to reason and gets angry when spoken to. He’s insufferable. This is a brewing disaster.
Finally someone who really understands the situation. However I would add, this situation is not about Anita, it’s about recovering all the money spent for Anita and Jintao’s expenses. All Matchmaking Team is promoting is doing videos, even if it means taking a risk on Anita’s life. One of the parties probably signed a contract and now Anita is stuck being the one to fulfill the commitment.
I don't know what to say. This is LOVE. Hats off to Brother Zhan and his wife who is there to support her whether she wants to stay in China or return to her country. I think she will be better off with out him because she knows how to take care of herself. Also, she will not have his stress to deal with. Again, COUSIN ZHAN SUPPORT IS GREAT.
Please let Anita enrol for a crash course in Chinese. This will help her to understand and communicate effectively with people around her. At times, the translations are not good.
Are you serious! Now she’s having beaten wife syndrome,he busted her lips! She needs to leave ! They are bullying her! He will never change! They are trying to brainwash her He can never change, no bathing, no cleaning his teeth! Give me a break!
It's disrespectful to ones partner to be unclean.😖 Jintao seems like he is putting up roadblocks, so he's uninterested in making this union work.🤷 Wasting everyone's time, unless they're all faking it. 🤔
Look at her lip, unbelievable that Mr Matchmaker (CaroleMcDonnell aka in comments) knew how is cousin was, and paired him with this young girl 20 yrs old, right out of her teenage years. He cared more about his cousin tban the young girls life and well being. Moved her 1000's of miles away from her family. Wow really. His reputation is speaking for itself. I hope Matchmaker can fix this and keep this child safe.
This man isn't going to change either you accept his stinky self and bad attitude or call it quits he will resent her for going to him for advice that's what abusers do
Ce vrai Jintao ne change pas des vêtements ce vraiment dommage, un vieux célibataire de 36 ans qui a trouvé une jeune femme de 20 ans et le maltraite juste après le mariage ce triste, avant je pensé que Jintao est seulement timide mais au faite il est autiste pas du tout sociable, mais un coup dur pour Anita pcq la vérité de cet handicap à été caché à Anita
He might do some masking for a while but he will resent having to pretend and go back to his normal self. He's not going to change a lot. He might just think that it's roo hard to get up and do good hygiene and that being married isn't worth the hassle. He might choose divorce. I doubt he'll actually listen but he might learn to pretend that he's listening.
Exactly, if it is too hard for him to be hygienic then he may divorce and return to single man life with no responsibility and can cook his cup noodles.
Im starting to think something is wrong with anita slow also. She cant change an autism person.He has no remorse or cant feel normal feelings. Hes high on spectrum, never had help.I dont think his family understand that. Anita just need to go home. She's not a doctor.
Do not speak about things you kno w nothing about. Autistic people do have remorse. Please define normal feelings? Her husband has not been diagnosed as being on th e spectrum.
I think Anita is feeling ashamed of going back to Zambia because she thinks people will be laughing back home that's why she is trying to force love where there's no love.
@@CarolineAtieno-wk9xfBingo! The fear of tongue’s wagging & perhaps shame being brought to her family because she couldn’t “stick it out”. She doesn’t need to feel bad though. How could she have predicted Jintao would be an unclean autistic man child.
If she is getting help in China until she can learn the language and be on her own, she doesn’t have to go back to Zambia. God is more than able to send people to help her. Meanwhile all of us should uplift her in prayer 🙏 and wish her well
There is absolutely no love, they haven't bonded, they don't know each other, Jintao has mental health issues, Anita thinks she is a celebrity. Reciepie for disaster
Dieu merci que tu a des gens pour te soutenir lâ bas. Merci beaucoup pour avoir soutenir notre fille.merci cousin . Atina ces metenan que tu es devenue une femme et tu a grandi donc que ces toi seul qui peut décide pour toi seul. Et personne ne doit te dit quoi faire. Paseque ces toi seul qui vit avec ton mari. Mais la vie n ai pas toujours facile même après si tu ne sera plus avec lui. Il faut déjà mettre ça dans ta tête la vie na jamais été facile nul part aux monde. Courage à toi Dieu te protège et te donne longue vie ma fille nous t aimons ❤❤❤❤🙏🏿🙏🏿
C'est pour les vidéos personnelles c'est personne rien à faire avec elle...l'argent c'est sont motivations principal..vendre et publier produits...elle besoin de sortir partir de sa maison avec un malade ( lui la frapper et âpres mangé tranquillement à-côtés de elle...sa fait 😢😢😢
I will give Matchmaker credit for allowing Anita to stay if she wants, as long as he is willing to help her! She's only 20 yrs old, and he put her with his selfish, spoiled, undisciplined cousin on purpose! He told his cousin before they left Africa that he needed to change, now that he will be getting married. BEFORE the marriage or engagement!
She should leave this man now, it's not tolerable, physical aggression, there's no love like that, when he was asked if he hit her, he said she hurt herself, he's not normal, such a young girl
Anita he won't change, stick to your mother in law, help with house work, keep clean, lean language and cooking, forget about Jintao, you are now a refuge in that house hold
as this is not the format they will see, i want to say to ajina, go home get in touch with mr lee if you want to marry a chinese man, but get out of this situation, you deserve better your only 20, you dont need this type of hassle
If jintao has autism and he never listened or followed instructions when he was small and young girl take Ur time before going back to him Why during this cold season they become offensive Aggressive mentally challenged Violent so keep safe and stay away from him he won't shower or brush but he will keep smoking his rule his game
100% Matchmakers fault 100%. He can't just except the good; he must accept the bad from him putting them together because he knew before Anita how his cousin was/is.
Anita said she love her husband, she only wants him to change. Anita doesn't understand life she is young and naive.The matchmaker brother Hang has disappear.
No, no, this guy has some serious issues, you can not let this girl stay with him,this guy is a time bomb waiting to explode anytime. It's such unfortunate,but the match maker is to blame. You have to be truthful upfront. Very sad story.
His family is not acknowledging the fact that he has serious issues. They think it can all be talked away or if he listens to Anita he will miraculously change. The reality is, it doesn’t work like that.
Poor Anjina she asks for simple things but I have the impression that he will not succeed, he can not, I hope that she will return home and find her beautiful smile again. Because we see on her face only sadness and fatigue. She must be allowed to return to her country. She will find someone who will treat her better
Going back home will make will affect Anita psychologically, her reputation won't be the same since her story is everywhere on social media.. and with the X issue life will be hard for her... Anita ha to wake up .. find a school there in china get enrolled.. by the time she finishes school she will be fine .. and find a better man for herself.. she really needs to go back to school. Sh is too young for marriage thing
He can change but not as quick as she thinks.You should be patient to some of the things in marriege, Dont force him like a child that you should brush your teeth,take it slowly by slowly after some time he will catch up with your culture,and also catch up with his culture.even some of our boyfreinds were like him, but they eventually changed. its her responsibility to wash his cloth and let him change to clean cloth.Secondary its winter he cant take shower everyday like its summer. Marriege is very difficult bigger problems are still coming ,if she is not patient, she will not manage not only in china but also in africa.Chinese men are caring, love and responsible, if he loves and you love him,but when they get hungry she should calm down to keep peace. Lastly what i want her know cleaning cloth and brushing teeth isnt an issue that can lead her to devorce. unless the husband has a brain problem,with that she can quit 1:57 .
What load of nonsense is this? It is apparent to all that the man has mental health issues, so your advice to wash his clothes and wait for change is ridiculous. The man is aggressive, causing injuries to his wife. Just watching his everyday actions is a testament to some bahavoural shortcoming. It would be interesting to see you in the situation and your actions
This is an inappropriate suggestion. Do you know if she can care for children? There’s also a huge language barrier. If you were joking…. It’s poor humour.
@@yatr6440: There are many decent Chinese men who would love to marry a young beautiful, intelligent girl like Anita than marrying a crazy man like JinTao. Hope she doesn’t get pregnant for this crazy man. The matchmaker and his cousin all knew Jintao had a mental problem but they covered it up by saying he is a shy person. All they wanted was to please JinToa’s parents with a wife from Africa who will produce a grandchild for them. Those guys did this young girl wrong. 💖🇺🇸👍🏿
Anita likes her husband to have good hygiene which is part of maintaining good health but why is the husband using physical, psychological and emotional abuse to his wife. He must stop this kind of abuse to his wife it does not exist this days. He should show love, care and compassion to his wife instead .I think the husband needs to go for relationships counselling or to interact with marriage couples to guide and support him .
Let her go home that man will not change he needs to see a doctor and he needs deliverance he has some power of darkness leave now before its to late my beautiful daughter ur to young also in a foreign land but God bless Mr Han for showing love
May be he don't want to took his shower because they don't have gas shower need to buy one for him and look if he take shower if the problem is because he don't want to took his shower need to look why and she can't stop her wedding because this one day he will understand that look how Angelina who take care of him è con la perseveranza che si trovano i risultati e Angelina può anche essere più tranquilla nel spiegare le cose non con la brutalità che capirà ma con la temperanza, l'amore, la dolcezza
Anita should have given a timeframe to see changes and requested if there was no change that she wants to leave, but she does not mention anything about leaving showing that deep down she loves him and wants to stay in China. So I am puzzled right now as to what Anita really wants. I heard in China divorce does not come easy
she just said ,if he does not change she will leave him😊I don't understand why he doesn't brush his teeth n take a shower at his age..no one wants a smelly man😅😅
She doesn't clearly understand what he is saying, the second he says it. She's understanding bits and pieces. Even the translator doesn't get it right exactly. So she's young and maybe feels she has to go with the flow. She is confused as this is her life and she doesn't understand all of her options. Even what the country will allow, how can she? Big cousin is doing is best to convey.
He doesn’t know he can go to jail for hitting her , he need to take care of himself get a job, enroll her in some schools, too much togetherness cause problems, let her be a normal wife instead of being told what to do . Since she wants him to change they need to go to a counselor.
I thought that Chinese people are kind I respect them because of their kindness but this is a woman abuse.pleasr try to talk to your cousin to love his wife.agrica is far for his wife to be treated like that.gul we love you and please take care of yourself ❤❤❤❤
Zhan, you can keep your home and your family. She doesn't want to play nanny for your twins and even less housekeeper. She has her family in Zambia so let her go if you are so sincere and have good intentions. Which I doubt a little because going out and you want to take it home?!🙃To make better use of it?! Free Anita!
🤔😮If you don't want to go back home. Big cousin has offered you a life there. I think he will honor his word! Just think Anita, and don't say things to appease them. Say how you really feel. It's your life. Your husband reflects poorly on Chinese men for women contemplating marrying a rural guy. Beware women!!!
iit's best stay in china,after five years she will get green passort,she can get a new living there,and leave that spoiled brat ,hope she live with cousin until his change .
She said that she had not forgiven him and that you Zhan forced him so we must stop the manipulation. She's not in love, we force her to stay and forgive
This is the most I’ve ever texted on these videos, but ignore these negative comments Anita. You do what best for you and up to how much you can handle. It is all in him now. He will decide the outcome. Hang in there.
When people have a disability of mental, emotional or social development since childhood, it is difficult to just change like that. They needed professional counseling support then that could go through adulthood or up to his current age. He wants to be a good normal human, but he doesn’t know how to do it properly. Either you love him as he is, work together with clinician counselors to improve the relationship or leave him alone than scolding and putting him down.
It's not possible for an adult to change except God intervenes.
No woman will tolerate a guy who doesn’t care for his hygiene. He should have never put his hands on her. I understand the language barrier but there is also a level of compassion and restraint that this guy obviously doesn’t have at the age of “35”. I’m voting him off the island.
So thankful for Brother Zhan and his wife. They are truly showing her that they have love for her and truly want the best. That they consider her family no matter what the out come is. She will forever have a home and place with them. I don't think anyone expected him to be like this once married. I believe the whole family thought he would mature and change and be a good husband and man. I hope he changes in every way. This young lady deserves so much more and she is trying as well. She is trying to adapt to a new life, but it takes two.
Thank you to Big Cousin & his wife for taking Anita to their house, mediating, and letting her know that she can live there if she chooses not to stay with Jin Tao. From what I've seen in the videos, this is work & and abuse, not love or a happy marriage. This is the third time they've had a fight over his hygiene. He is not going to change. Jin Tao lacks effective communication skills and he's disrespectful.He walked away the other day when Big Cousin was talking to him. It's time to let go. The fights are getting worse. Him & his family made promises to Anita's mom & they aren't following through. What does his parents have to say. Where's the matchmaker? He should also take responsibility. This is so sad. No one should be abused.
You know this is someone life and relationship we are just looking in. If it was our lives we want try hard too.
@@deeford9332 you are 💯 right. Physical abuse is a No Go
you were calling her a gold digger not too long ago
All I know is that Jintao is not going to change. They have not even had time to develop love for each other. They are just going to keep fighting!😢
Ils sont trop différents la fille avait donné les signes d'alerte depuis l Afrique
When you talked to her about going back to Zambia, she immediately raised her head and replied: "Ok" with her own mouth and she had a calming smile so let her go home!!
From this she wants it to work, this guy just stinky, that I can understand😂. She makes sense, yes I’d leave too. Oh my gad, this guy!
@HopefulSpaceCapsule-ob4eu I don't think you understand that Anita wants to return to Zambia. And that she is forced to return to her husband. She clearly said to Zhan: “I haven’t forgiven him, you asked me to forgive” so she makes it clear that she is being forced. He even replied: “No no”. It's a coded call for help that Anita made because she doesn't know how to escape, the Chinese manage everything. What's funny?! The misfortune of others does you good if I understand correctly...
@@kiminitodoke1992 Exactly. She seems trap. A member of her family needs to come and pick her back to Zambia. But they have enough money for that ?
@kiminitodoke1992 at Part does she say that? She stated 3 times, I need him to be clean. 😮
@@harlee2191 It's who doesn't hear. Yes, that's the biggest part 🤫because she said to Zhan: "you asked me to forgive" Zhan was shocked he replied: "no no" but she sent a strong message that we obliges and that it is not her own will therefore that she is in danger. She wants to go home so the Chinese have to let her go back to Zambia otherwise they will pay if Anita dies...People will scream and it will make noise!
His changes won't be permanent. She needs to go back home and start again. She's young, beautiful and intelligent, she deserves better
You now made good agreements. Glad the family take care of that young girl. I live in the Netherlands but I was so worried fro her as I know family with boy like Jintao and it is very difficult to be with him as his mood swings from calm to agitated . Thanks for giving Angie options
If he will not change out of respect for his parents honor or his wife or the hard work his cousin has put in then what can you do? His parents can’t seem
to control him or come to Angie’s defense. They just stood there watching like they’re neighbors on the other side of the fence watching the gossip. What is this? No job, no bath, no washing of clothes, No brushing of teeth? What type of new husband doesn’t want to impress his wife? Big Cousin should marry Angela to his son instead. SMH
He needs to keep his hands to himself and not touch her.
She needs to do the same stop hitting him Jolene not he may not see it that way due his disability.
The best decision is to leave, you are young Angina rather than live in a toxic marriage. Since the very first day I came across your vedios I knew that something is not right about him. Please we your African Sisters need you.
How can a grow up man wake up without taking his bath not brushing his teeth and want to kiss Angela 10:12 even shower that's ridiculous not changing his clothes we Africa didn't like dirty even if it's one clothes that he has he must be clean Angela really try he can't try that rubbish with Nigeria🇳🇬 lady likee serious he didn't cherish what he ask what a shame so annoying
A Nigerian wouldn’t even glance at them and that’s why they’ll never seek brides from that area. It’s really sad that they’re plucking these girls so young from socio-economic impacted areas in Africa but I don’t see them doing same in similar Asian countries. Do you know why? Because even those Asian girls won’t tolerate this.
You cannot change a person, especially a man who is very much set in his ways. If he does change, it will only be transient. That change will not be sustainable and could potentially lead to DV. Girl, don’t force it. If he isn’t for you, he isn’t for you. You’re very young and have a whole life ahead of you. Don’t make life decisions based on promises and “what could be” without total certainty and assurance. If she behaved half as badly as he has been, she would have been shamed and sent back home but she’s being pressured to be patient with him all the while he’s unwilling to listen to reason and gets angry when spoken to. He’s insufferable. This is a brewing disaster.
Finally someone who really understands the situation. However I would add, this situation is not about Anita, it’s about recovering all the money spent for Anita and Jintao’s expenses. All Matchmaking Team is promoting is doing videos, even if it means taking a risk on Anita’s life. One of the parties probably signed a contract and now Anita is stuck being the one to fulfill the commitment.
It is.hard to be.around a person who do not.take care.of himself
Please send that girl home. This was bad from the start. STOP wasting your time go home so you can be happy.
That's no person to be with,Let Anita go back to Zambia.
She has had enough of that Jintao guy.
I don't know what to say. This is LOVE. Hats off to Brother Zhan and his wife who is there to support her whether she wants to stay in China or return to her country. I think she will be better off with out him because she knows how to take care of herself. Also, she will not have his stress to deal with. Again, COUSIN ZHAN SUPPORT IS GREAT.
Please let Anita enrol for a crash course in Chinese. This will help her to understand and communicate effectively with people around her. At times, the translations are not good.
Cousin and his wife are such wonderful people. Please send her home, it’s a safety issue now.
Are you serious! Now she’s having beaten wife syndrome,he busted her lips! She needs to leave ! They are bullying her! He will never change! They are trying to brainwash her He can never change, no bathing, no cleaning his teeth! Give me a break!
@@cashew515Thank you. I agree with you.
Cashew😂😂
I am so sorry for Anita 😢
This is so sad
That’s why he can’t fined wife
He is a mental health patient don't force love
It's disrespectful to ones partner to be unclean.😖
Jintao seems like he is putting up roadblocks, so he's uninterested in making this union work.🤷
Wasting everyone's time, unless they're all faking it. 🤔
Look at her lip, unbelievable that Mr Matchmaker (CaroleMcDonnell aka in comments) knew how is cousin was, and paired him with this young girl 20 yrs old, right out of her teenage years. He cared more about his cousin tban the young girls life and well being. Moved her 1000's of miles away from her family. Wow really. His reputation is speaking for itself. I hope Matchmaker can fix this and keep this child safe.
The cousin was not the matchmaker - he just accompanied his cousin to Zambia.
This man isn't going to change either you accept his stinky self and bad attitude or call it quits he will resent her for going to him for advice that's what abusers do
It always good to go for marriage counseling, and not to rush because he has a different colors of the skin.
When someone hits you and calls you a dog, no counsel is necessary. Stop this nonsense!
@@torahgirl710💯
@@torahgirl710she hit too Antia don’t get pass she is a abuser woman do DV aswell.
Wow what hardest situation she is I hope he gets change his behavior 😔 but thank you man for your kindness treating her 🙏
Ce vrai Jintao ne change pas des vêtements ce vraiment dommage, un vieux célibataire de 36 ans qui a trouvé une jeune femme de 20 ans et le maltraite juste après le mariage ce triste, avant je pensé que Jintao est seulement timide mais au faite il est autiste pas du tout sociable, mais un coup dur pour Anita pcq la vérité de cet handicap à été caché à Anita
He might do some masking for a while but he will resent having to pretend and go back to his normal self. He's not going to change a lot. He might just think that it's roo hard to get up and do good hygiene and that being married isn't worth the hassle. He might choose divorce. I doubt he'll actually listen but he might learn to pretend that he's listening.
Exactly, if it is too hard for him to be hygienic then he may divorce and return to single man life with no responsibility and can cook his cup noodles.
If you say so, Matchmaker. Really?
Thank you cousin💯🙏🏽
Such a beautiful girl!! My goodness!!! So sorry
This is some bullshit. They all fake
He won't change let her Go back please
Im starting to think something is wrong with anita slow also. She cant change an autism person.He has no remorse or cant feel normal feelings. Hes high on spectrum, never had help.I dont think his family understand that. Anita just need to go home. She's not a doctor.
Do not speak about things you kno w nothing about. Autistic people do have remorse. Please define normal feelings? Her husband has not been diagnosed as being on th e spectrum.
I think Anita is feeling ashamed of going back to Zambia because she thinks people will be laughing back home that's why she is trying to force love where there's no love.
@@CarolineAtieno-wk9xfBingo! The fear of tongue’s wagging & perhaps shame being brought to her family because she couldn’t “stick it out”. She doesn’t need to feel bad though. How could she have predicted Jintao would be an unclean autistic man child.
If she is getting help in China until she can learn the language and be on her own, she doesn’t have to go back to Zambia. God is more than able to send people to help her. Meanwhile all of us should uplift her in prayer 🙏 and wish her well
@MaryJohn-Lewis you are right God has a plan for everything let us hope for the best for her anyway
How can you love someone who beat you and someone who doesn’t take a bath hmmmm 😊
He does not have the mental capacity to change unless he's medicated. I feel sorry for Anita because she is in a bad situation.
Bingo 💯
Her husband isn’t able to change
If you all can get counseling, that would be good. However, he has to want it and apply the counseling. But don't compromise your clean principles.
How do she love him, she doesn't know him.
Ce n'est pas vrai ! Ils lui ont dicté mot à mot ces propos
@rebeccansafou2151 put it in English
There is absolutely no love, they haven't bonded, they don't know each other, Jintao has mental health issues, Anita thinks she is a celebrity. Reciepie for disaster
She said "that's not true! They dictated these words to him word to word"
@@rebeccansafou2151 how do you know that it's not true
Dieu merci que tu a des gens pour te soutenir lâ bas. Merci beaucoup pour avoir soutenir notre fille.merci cousin . Atina ces metenan que tu es devenue une femme et tu a grandi donc que ces toi seul qui peut décide pour toi seul. Et personne ne doit te dit quoi faire. Paseque ces toi seul qui vit avec ton mari. Mais la vie n ai pas toujours facile même après si tu ne sera plus avec lui. Il faut déjà mettre ça dans ta tête la vie na jamais été facile nul part aux monde. Courage à toi Dieu te protège et te donne longue vie ma fille nous t aimons ❤❤❤❤🙏🏿🙏🏿
Ils ne sont pas fiables.
C'est pour les vidéos personnelles c'est personne rien à faire avec elle...l'argent c'est sont motivations principal..vendre et publier produits...elle besoin de sortir partir de sa maison avec un malade ( lui la frapper et âpres mangé tranquillement à-côtés de elle...sa fait 😢😢😢
@divinelqui es fiable. Sauf Dieu elle va renoncer si ces le ça 🤷umiere8564
Ils forment un couple incompatible elle n a rien à voir avec cet homme cette jeune fille aura un chinois mieux que son mari là
This is too much no love between them only business anjina find something else to do or go back to Zambia please 😢
I will give Matchmaker credit for allowing Anita to stay if she wants, as long as he is willing to help her! She's only 20 yrs old, and he put her with his selfish, spoiled, undisciplined cousin on purpose! He told his cousin before they left Africa that he needed to change, now that he will be getting married. BEFORE the marriage or engagement!
She should leave this man now, it's not tolerable, physical aggression, there's no love like that, when he was asked if he hit her, he said she hurt herself, he's not normal, such a young girl
Anita he won't change, stick to your mother in law, help with house work, keep clean, lean language and cooking, forget about Jintao, you are now a refuge in that house hold
as this is not the format they will see, i want to say to ajina, go home get in touch with mr lee if you want to marry a chinese man, but get out of this situation, you deserve better your only 20, you dont need this type of hassle
If jintao has autism and he never listened or followed instructions when he was small and young girl take Ur time before going back to him
Why during this cold season they become offensive
Aggressive mentally challenged
Violent so keep safe and stay away from him he won't shower or brush but he will keep smoking his rule his game
100% Matchmakers fault 100%. He can't just except the good; he must accept the bad from him putting them together because he knew before Anita how his cousin was/is.
Happy New year everyone Blessed 2025
This kind of behavior take time but good hygiene is important.
This man is 35 year, he should take this opportunity or he will never have woman
Not possible he clearly doesn’t know how to behave in a relationship has no prior experience.
She must find anotherman
She cant stay in your home, you have a wife, mught cause problems in the near future. Anita is not Domesticated
Anita said she love her husband, she only wants him to change. Anita doesn't understand life she is young and naive.The matchmaker brother Hang has disappear.
Ask her what she thinks about finance in future
No, no, this guy has some serious issues, you can not let this girl stay with him,this guy is a time bomb waiting to explode anytime. It's such unfortunate,but the match maker is to blame. You have to be truthful upfront. Very sad story.
His family is not acknowledging the fact that he has serious issues. They think it can all be talked away or if he listens to Anita he will miraculously change. The reality is, it doesn’t work like that.
Exactly 💯 They knew he has serious issues. They just don't want to acknowledge how bad it is. Anita cannot fix him!!
Poor Anjina she asks for simple things but I have the impression that he will not succeed, he can not, I hope that she will return home and find her beautiful smile again. Because we see on her face only sadness and fatigue. She must be allowed to return to her country. She will find someone who will treat her better
They need to take him to the doctor for a iq test .something his wrong with him .
I was wondering why he's always on same jacket
Going back home will make will affect Anita psychologically, her reputation won't be the same since her story is everywhere on social media.. and with the X issue life will be hard for her... Anita ha to wake up .. find a school there in china get enrolled.. by the time she finishes school she will be fine .. and find a better man for herself.. she really needs to go back to school. Sh is too young for marriage thing
Anita, hope you know that people only change clothes and not behavior, however, it's up to you to make a decision over the situation at hand.
U still young , empower yourself
He can‘t change! Don‘t be fool and don‘t fool your subscribes please! This is beyond sad 😭😭😭😭
Laisser le temps nous dira peut-être aussi que il peut changer 🤷
He can change but not as quick as she thinks.You should be patient to some of the things in marriege, Dont force him like a child that you should brush your teeth,take it slowly by slowly after some time he will catch up with your culture,and also catch up with his culture.even some of our boyfreinds were like him, but they eventually changed. its her responsibility to wash his cloth and let him change to clean cloth.Secondary its winter he cant take shower everyday like its summer. Marriege is very difficult bigger problems are still coming ,if she is not patient, she will not manage not only in china but also in africa.Chinese men are caring, love and responsible, if he loves and you love him,but when they get hungry she should calm down to keep peace. Lastly what i want her know cleaning cloth and brushing teeth isnt an issue that can lead her to devorce. unless the husband has a brain problem,with that she can quit 1:57 .
@@bettynac2852I think you are new to this channel, the guy has a mental problem so Anita can't do anything to change him
@@bettynac2852 in rural parts there is a lot of domestic violence. Jin is agressive mentally unstable. Its not Anita her problem
What load of nonsense is this? It is apparent to all that the man has mental health issues, so your advice to wash his clothes and wait for change is ridiculous. The man is aggressive, causing injuries to his wife. Just watching his everyday actions is a testament to some bahavoural shortcoming. It would be interesting to see you in the situation and your actions
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This is an inappropriate suggestion. Do you know if she can care for children? There’s also a huge language barrier. If you were joking…. It’s poor humour.
How would you suggest she earn her keep & remain safe whilst living away from husband?@caroljean161
What do you suggest she do if she wants to stay in China? She is unsafe around husband and needs to earn her keep while living at Uncle's.
@@yatr6440: There are many decent Chinese men who would love to marry a young beautiful, intelligent girl like Anita than marrying a crazy man like JinTao. Hope she doesn’t get pregnant for this crazy man.
The matchmaker and his cousin all knew Jintao had a mental problem but they covered it up by saying he is a shy person. All they wanted was to please JinToa’s parents with a wife from Africa who will produce a grandchild for them. Those guys did this young girl wrong. 💖🇺🇸👍🏿
And who is the man to beloved there in the first place?is she normal what is so good about that marriage?
Let Anita go back home and divorce or annul the marriage. RUN
NON MAIS SÉRIEUX 😮🤔 ...ON SE CROIRAIS DANS UNE SÉRIE NOVELAS Ç QUOI CE CIRQUE 🤣🤣🤔
😂😂😂😂😂 vraiment
We need to go to the hospital with Jintao, thus the situation is an emergency now, this is not normal
Anita likes her husband to have good hygiene which is part of maintaining good health but why is the husband using physical, psychological and emotional abuse to his wife. He must stop this kind of abuse to his wife it does not exist this days. He should show love, care and compassion to his wife instead .I think the husband needs to go for relationships counselling or to interact with marriage couples to guide and support him .
She needs to tell us more what she thinks bc she makes common sense.
Let her go home that man will not change he needs to see a doctor and he needs deliverance he has some power of darkness leave now before its to late my beautiful daughter ur to young also in a foreign land but God bless Mr Han for showing love
SI CE JIN TAO VEUT TOURNER LES SÉRIES IL N'A QU'À TROUVER DES ACTEURS DIGNES DE CE NOM😅😅
3:10 Yes, im starting to question this family now ?
Então tá. Continue dando chances para o JT. Anita e JT tem familiares pra se preocupar com eles.
I agree with her but listening is not the respect.
May be he don't want to took his shower because they don't have gas shower need to buy one for him and look if he take shower if the problem is because he don't want to took his shower need to look why and she can't stop her wedding because this one day he will understand that look how Angelina who take care of him è con la perseveranza che si trovano i risultati e Angelina può anche essere più tranquilla nel spiegare le cose non con la brutalità che capirà ma con la temperanza, l'amore, la dolcezza
Thank God for this couple really poor girl
Anita should have given a timeframe to see changes and requested if there was no change that she wants to leave, but she does not mention anything about leaving showing that deep down she loves him and wants to stay in China. So I am puzzled right now as to what Anita really wants. I heard in China divorce does not come easy
she just said ,if he does not change she will leave him😊I don't understand why he doesn't brush his teeth n take a shower at his age..no one wants a smelly man😅😅
She doesn't clearly understand what he is saying, the second he says it. She's understanding bits and pieces. Even the translator doesn't get it right exactly. So she's young and maybe feels she has to go with the flow. She is confused as this is her life and she doesn't understand all of her options. Even what the country will allow, how can she? Big cousin is doing is best to convey.
He doesn’t know he can go to jail for hitting her , he need to take care of himself get a job, enroll her in some schools, too much togetherness cause problems, let her be a normal wife instead of being told what to do . Since she wants him to change they need to go to a counselor.
I thought that Chinese people are kind I respect them because of their kindness but this is a woman abuse.pleasr try to talk to your cousin to love his wife.agrica is far for his wife to be treated like that.gul we love you and please take care of yourself ❤❤❤❤
Il faut prendre un jeune comme toi tu ne devais pas te marier ce n est pas évident vous n allez pas ensemble
Zhan, you can keep your home and your family. She doesn't want to play nanny for your twins and even less housekeeper. She has her family in Zambia so let her go if you are so sincere and have good intentions. Which I doubt a little because going out and you want to take it home?!🙃To make better use of it?! Free Anita!
She needs him to be clean. If he can't care for himself, then what? He can't care for anything. It's seriously not much to ask. These are habits.
Je suis vraiment desole pour angy 😢😢😢il faut que sa famille en afrique soit au Courant pour la vie de leur fille 😢😢.cet homme est malade😢
Stay! Learn the language, find a better man!
Very shameful story seriously
I feel sad for this young girl , I'm wondering why she got married to a loser and followed him to China where she has no family or friends
This relationship start with a lot snags,I'm not surprised they are still, try to fix things.
Wait! He doh bathe😮😮😮
he does not bathe, brush his teeth, & has had the same clothes on for quite some time. He's a walking garbage can.
🤔😮If you don't want to go back home. Big cousin has offered you a life there. I think he will honor his word! Just think Anita, and don't say things to appease them. Say how you really feel. It's your life. Your husband reflects poorly on Chinese men for women contemplating marrying a rural guy. Beware women!!!
iit's best stay in china,after five years she will get green passort,she can get a new living there,and leave that spoiled brat ,hope she live with cousin until his change .
She needs to go home this man will not change
She said that she had not forgiven him and that you Zhan forced him so we must stop the manipulation. She's not in love, we force her to stay and forgive
Donc si j’ai bien compris si elle veux rentrer elle rentrera en zambie sinon ils veulent bien l’accueillir chez eux afin qu’elle reste en chine
Avec Dieu tout est possible que le Seigneur Jésus-Christ guéris le mari de Anita.
Return to zambia.
Gal u can't change nobody... Alright let's see where your future goes
Les problèmes se règlent entre mari et femme uniquement
I can't change it's too late, go home darling, go to your country or .....🤷🏽😢💯🙏🏽❤️😘take care, Anita
This is the most I’ve ever texted on these videos, but ignore these negative comments Anita. You do what best for you and up to how much you can handle. It is all in him now. He will decide the outcome. Hang in there.
So ,you think it was okay for the man to hit her? Something wrong with you too! Pathetic!
When people have a disability of mental, emotional or social development since childhood, it is difficult to just change like that. They needed professional counseling support then that could go through adulthood or up to his current age. He wants to be a good normal human, but he doesn’t know how to do it properly. Either you love him as he is, work together with clinician counselors to improve the relationship or leave him alone than scolding and putting him down.
男生的習性是骨子里很難改變這就是本性，安妮無法改變夫妻關係，因為倆人要同心經營感情，男子不够成熟，感覺女子選擇回先一讚比亞。
Ok OK então que seja a última vez para ela não chorar ok o mundo está vindo certo não de mais oportunidade que seja última Anita não e boneca
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