Advice to My Younger Self 💌 | COLLAB
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- What advice would you give to your younger self? I've teamed up with an EPIC group of girlbosses to bring you this video!
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For this video, I decided to pick one of the toughest years of my life: senior year of high school at 17, and share the things I wish I knew at that point in time. Hope you enjoy these throwback photos and the advice I shared. Man, if only 17 year old Aileen would know what she'd be doing about ten years later... she would be MIND. BLOWN. 😹 Love you all so much. THANK YOU for being a part of this magical journey. Read the full letter on the blog: www.lavendaire....
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Aileen Xu
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I’m Aileen, a lifestyle blogger sharing knowledge and inspiration on creating your dream life.
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My advice to my younger self is "Don't hesitate too much, because the good things go away easily!"😊
I would definitely tell myself to stop overthinking, to not cause my own problems (mainly by alienating myself), to not take everything so personally and that life is just what you make out of it. also that happiness is an attitude and its not just gonna show up at the door, specially if I keep shutting the door on its face.
that's great advice, I should remember that more often
Thank you Mara - very happy it was useful
Sonia DoubleG wise words!
This is so me...thanks for sharing :)
Moratwe Masima no worries lovely, im glad i could help!
I would tell myself: don't self harm. DON'T DO IT. You will regret it for life. Scars are going to remain visibly on your arm. And people will look at you, you will be embarrassed and you will hate yourself a lot more. Stay strong and keep fighting.
(Unfortunately it's too late)
Rosa Buonamassa agree! But now you can forgive yourself for doing it instead of placing more negative emotions toward it. Stay strong babe 💪🏼💕
Lavendaire Thank you so much Aileen. You are so inspiring.💕
AILEEN is the synonym of INSPIRATION💛
Rajesh makwana ✨✨
I really needed this. I've been having a very tough day, even worse than normal, and this really helps. Thank you so much Aileen.
Quinty Van Vlimmeren Hope are feeling better. Hug from India :)
Are you Dutch?
Shivangi Lahoty Thanks! I am feeling a bit better now!
Happiness Yes I am :')
Quinty Van Vlimmeren ik ook ❤
This was so beautiful Aileen! There are so many paths to success, this is such great advice! You are such a beautiful women, thanks again for this amazing collab x
Erin Henry thank you!! 💕💕
I'm only 13 but here's a note to my older self-
Dear Older me, I hope you stoped caring about what other people think of you. I know it's a bit hard getting trying to get people to listen, because they find you too soft or sensitive, to take command. but I know you will do wonders in this world. I hope you know that your goals are what you've been hoping for (hopefully). Another thing, please take risks and don't hesitate as much as you do now. I know this isn't big or anything, but I want you to know that you deserve every ounce of happiness. Oh yeah, surround yourself with positive people! They will greatly effect your life. People change people. ✨😊
I would tell myself to put the straightner down, stop trying to look like everyone else and learn love my naturally curly hair much sooner! Try new things despite what your friends think and cherish every moment 😊 there's a few others I'll keep for myself but thank you for this collab video amazing advice ❤️
yes girl! love it xx
Aileen! I am so happy you are encouraging your girls to learn about themselves and accept themselves! I am so happy to be a part of this collab with you. XO!
😊💕
I would tell my younger self; feel the fear and do it anyway, get out of my comfort zone; to completely trust my intuition; and traveling the world is the best experience ever!
love it :)
Thank you. I can relate to all your advices... I tried so hard to make my parents happy for what they want me to be. Now, I found my voice through TH-cam. I might have to do a video like this! Thank you again for this! 😍
man i love your voice! it's so soothing!
j wildflower 😊💕
i am not sure I could write a letter like that but I know something... a while back, i had an experience... in a deep meditation... i saw myself in the past, crying sitting on the floor at college.. i do remember that moment, i know what i was going through... and someone, i dont know who, talked to me (the projected me) and said something.. to what I answered... "No... let her... she has no idea how worth it it is what she is going through... she will see it at the end... let her be... is so worth it..." and I came back to myself... in the future... in awe... because i looked back and I was right... all those struggles and tears were so worth it... Ever since, I can get frustrated but deep in... I trust the Divine Order... I know every single experince is so worth it.
This made me emotional. I could partly recognize myself from this and i feel like i was guided to watch this video at this exact moment. I got so many answers to my questions.
As a small TH-camr I would love to do this video. it's so important to look back at what we were and where we are it's so inspiring 😍
Oh my gosh, so good. Advice to my younger self: You are not alone + it gets better!
This was really cool! My advice to my young self would be; don't try to be like everyone else, some dreams are 'just around the riverbend' and you can't let other people stop you.
I'm a libra, too, and most of the advice you gave, I probably would give to my younger self, too.
I really agree with the parts on knowing oneself more, trying knew things, and getting to know more people. I think I'd want to tell myself that academics isn't everything, and not a guaranteed path to success. And to take my nose out of the books and into the real world more. I'd tell myself that the world isn't as judgmental as I thought it was. And to give real interest in others as to how much they can open our eyes to things we wouldn't be able to see on our own.
Still feeling like a long way to success right now, but respecting my journey, and taking things one step at a time.
great advice!
OMGoodness Aileen. You do it every time! Your videos always help me reflect. Thank you so much for sharing!
Dear self :
it's gonna get tougher. A lot, but you are gonna get through it.
And you will cry a lot and suffer but also you will embrace yourself much more.
Thankfully you won't be alone, you might get surprised of those who care about you.
you are gonna experience A LOT in little time (love , death, children) and this is going to stress you but also you will gain :
wisdom🌌❇
old soul in a young body.
Hope you all take time to appreciate how you improve by now
💕💕
I love this idea!! I would tell my younger self to not take things so seriously. That all the little tragedies will not seem so bad in a day, a week or a month from now. That the secret to contentment is to have a positive outlook and to not let others drag me down.
i like that!
your vids are soooo comforting!!! love it and i really need this
This is so touching ohmg and I'm so so so glad you guys did this. Totally think everyone needs to watch this series. We're so hard on ourself in a way we would never be with anyone else but why is that? This series really made me feel so much better. Favorited this series so I could look at it every now in then. Such a beautiful idea. Thank you so much. You guys are like the older sisters I"ve never had
Amazing! This wisdom can truly apply to all aspects of one's life. Sending much love to past, present, and future Aileen!
thank you love!
This is so inspiring,
It is as if you know my whole situation and the trouble I have do deal with...your timing was perfect. thank you
This made my day, thank you so much for such a cute and uplifting video
This was so nice Aileen, thank you for sharing! I like the pictures of you and your friends in high school! Such a great idea, I think that I will make a video like this, you really inspired me! :) Keep up the good work!
Nora Csiszar :) thanks!
I just came here from MuchelleB's channel and I had no idea you went through the same things I went through in my junior year. I am about to turn 18 and will begin senior year of highschool and my ib exams are in November. With some other things factoring in, such as communication problems with my family as to what I want to do with my life, and with the academic challenges of ib making me feel like a failure when I was one of the most successful students the year before, I went through an awful period where depression and anxiety crippled me. I felt it was a weakness to ask for help and that I was a burden to everyone because I had lost all of my extroverted-ness, leadership skills and work ethic. In terms of relationships as well it was disappointment after disappointment for me and I came very close to suicide. All that motivated me, if I can even use that word, was my dreams. And the need to live a better, intentional life where I am self aware, happy and high achieving. This was supposed to be a casual video to watch for me as I folded my laundry, but this has me in tears. I felt like no one really went through a life crisis with ib and you have shown me otherwise. Even if you don't see this, I am incredibly relaxed after typing it out and would like to add that this terrible period of sadness and pain has caused me to understand how precious life is. How it only matters if you are happy and the only thing that matters is how you look at yourself. I am grateful that everything that happened to me has happened because I am a better person. I am much happier since I have learnt to be honest with myself and not be too hard on myself. Although at times I still get waves of sadness and inability to motivate myself, I no longer feel like a victim of circumstances. Thank you for this video.
Thank u so much for this video . Bc i was so much regret with my family right now . I dont know what is that . But its really hard to feel . Endless crying , overthinking . Thank u for your support as a teenager
I love your videos :) Thank you for all that you do!
It's really need for me and my friends. Thank you so much, Aileen ^^
Thank you Lavendaire. This video is so true! I really love all your inspiring video 💗
This honestly made me cry so hard. You're such an inspiration Aileen.
Thank you for reminding me of how far I've gone myself. My depression is healing, I'm a year and a half post my anorexia recovery, my anxiety has disappeared to 0, I'm one year clean, my doctor and I have decided to slowly decrease my meds until I'm off of them, my little cat is having babies! And... I haven't killed myself. Thank you for reminding me, I'm so proud of myself. I've finally reached happiness and joy. Thank you, Aileen. 💕
💕💕 I'm so glad you are healing. Sending you so much love!
A woman who really inspires me.. thank you lavendaire 😺💕
This video makes my day great.I learnt quite a few things in this video here.I love how you are always smiling,positive and inspirational,as always!
WH DBB 💕💕
You really helped me. That´s exactly what is happening to me right now, and your advises were like a balm.
Thank you for brightening up my day ✨❤️️
OMG I CANT BELIEVE IT!!!!! ALL MY FAV TH-camRS COLLABING AAAAH
Great video & awesome advice for your younger self and other younger generation, Aileen. ❤️❤️ how you always strive to inspire others. Will watch the others TH-camrs on your colab list. Xx
I felt like you were saying that to me and i cried it really touch me. Aileen you real inspired me thanks
You are so willing to try and be vulnerable ! I love it !
Your videos are always so aesthetically pleasing ! And I love the message. :) Beautiful.
I loved this!!! Beautiful!! I feel inspired to do this for my younger self as well. Thanks Aileen!!!
This is very good advice for young people, and for everyone. I really like the atmosphere in this channel! :)
Cecilia Elise Wallin • Clear-eyed Entrepreneur thank you! I hope it can help ✨
Yes, when I found this channel I started to understand what a really good channel looks like! I very much look forward to following this channel!
OMG Thank you so much for making this video!! It feels like you're giving advice to the younger generation (in a way XD) I love your channel, I just find it to be really inspiring and your concept of being an artist of life is beautiful and I think that the rest of the world deserves to hear it. Lots of love from Malaysia!! 💜💜
Amanda Liaw thank you so much!! 💕💕
Loved it. Gonna do it on my journal.
I just started crying :')
Yey! Your videos always inspired me 😍😍 Thank you so much 😘✨
wait a second.. this sounds like a video to MY seventeen year old self (indecisive libra and all!). tbh, it made me tear up a bit. i'm so glad that i found lavendaire. i love your presentation and energy- you genuinely sound like a close friend that really just wants to help me achieve my goals and be a better person. you are very inspiring and motivating without coming off pushy or judgmental, which must be difficult. thank you so much for what you've done, what you're doing and what i'm sure you will accomplish in the future. you, my friend, are changing lives!
janette h awww so glad you can relate dear! Thank you for the kind words and support. It means a lot!
I felt like you was talking to me, thank you, because I'm 17 now
I can totally relate to having all that pressure during high school and beyond, especially to "fit the mold" and prepare my self for a "suitable" profession. The difference for me is that it took me until graduate school (!) to realize the mental and emotional unsustainability of the path I'd been carving out for myself...now I feel like I have to start all over...
I was feeling soo down and now saw your video and it made me feel soo good and positive. Thank you for your videos and Love you soomuch! Keep motivating and inspiring us. :*
VISH 💕💕
This made my ball my eyes out, I love you
Your voice is the most wonderful, peaceful sound ♥
Love this! Lavendaire's videos make my day, they are so beautiful and inspiring :) Have a beautiful day everyone xx
Love this collab, especially You & Muchelle B.
!!!! Watching this affected me so much more than I thought it would! I really feel like I need to write my younger self a letter now, this was beautiful. Thank you so much xx
this made my day, thank you!
IT made me cry! its been a tough year for me. And those are words I really need to hear! Thank you so much. I love your videos. I discovered it at the right time.
ugh I needed this
I am very happy with this collab. Video's from my favourite people:)
It was filled with so much LOVE .
your hair is getting longer!! love it!!
Ahh I love this collab so much!
I absolutely love this video! Every point you made is valuable, especially "Get to know yourself". It's like everything about growth and discovering life/self comes down to the phrase by Nike -- JUST DO IT! I've been 'stuck' because of fear of trying/failing and I know that's not like me. But somehow, where I've been and where I am - the negativity just seems to overpower my willpower. I have a question for another video -- how do you overcome self doubt? How do you combat the negative thoughts that go on in your head? Thanks Aileen. :) xoxo
"I know you like to blame your indecisiveness on being a libra" omg dead
Thank you Aileen for this so so beautiful video ! I love it !
this was really beautiful and so soothing
Thank you so much for this Aileen ❤️ I loved this. You answered all of my uncertainties and problems & I feel I have gained more perspective :) Thank you!!
I was in the IB program too! I know the pain!
lol oh yeaa
You are very pretty and awesome
Aman Tech Tips 😘 ty you too!!
I really needed this my advice would be to go off to school instead of staying local sometimes staying local around your peers can keep you stagnant also don't put too much effort in your friends people change learn to let go of the leaves and hold strong to your roots.😘
i would tell myself : Try to stop overthinking , be patient , stop crying about everything be more strong , love and trust yourself🍃💔
This sure is a nice activity for me to do now! I have lots of angry words to say to my younger self since I have so many regrets on starting out late and not being motivated enough. 🙁 How I wished I was mature at a younger age and know what I wanted to do. Although I hate how much I have to mention the regrets I have in the letter, I felt better since I figured out what I was unhappy with. I love myself now and still hate the past me. But since the past has long gone I won't be bothered by it since it'll never be back. The letter should serve as a reminder that I should not let any regrets to happen again. I shall make my life better now. 💗
this is so inspiring sometimes I need to know thinks like this. I am going to subscribe. I have been going through the colabs.
This helped so much thx💕
made my day 💜
Mine is: Remember you wanted to overcome shyness? You definitely improved on that! But hey, don't just stop there! Please, don't give up easily on yourself, you can do it and you are worth it! Don't be insecure in the littlest things and just enjoy being you because at the end of the day, it's always gonna be about you and that's what matters. Love yourself a little bit more and I know you'll do great. I believe in you. Love, your future self, Eula.
Thank you, Lavendaire and Thank you, Aileen (I love both of these names hehe) for this opportunity. Just being able to type out these words mean so much to me. Forever grateful for you wonderful content! 💕
lovely advice & thank you!
im 13 years old girl ahh. i love this collab very much
Very very thank you for this video!! You're awesome!
Wait next video!!))))
Thankyou so much Aileen 😭
i had no idea you took IB! hah nice video but you reminded me, my IB results come out tomorrow :)))
OMG I'm Libra. Yes I'll try to trust myself. ^_^
:)
I should've watched this clip earlier! Thank you so much Aileen ❤️
Forgot to say something:I love your hair😁
WH DBB thanks!
i will tell myself to give full try before failure is fact. Thinking back, I always let opportunities escape because I thought I was not good enough. Now I always wonder how life would have changed if I gave it my best try at that time.
Mine is you have to learn to think for yourself and one day, you need to realize that you're going to disappoint your parents at some point, so stop being scared of them
i have the same instax as you! it's the mini 9, right? by the way, you just earned a new subscriber! you have great organization skills, and i really like your lifestyle and "life is an art, make it your masterpiece" aura!
Amazing idea!
Great content
Wow that made me feel old lmao
I had graduated from University 2 years before you were 17 yrs old XD
I am a Libra too. All advice do fit me as well.
It made me cry watching this video. Good luck and God bless. I hope to meet you someday.
Shoutout from Philippines.
when I can't sleep I put your videos and I just listen to your voice. and I fall asleep 😪
I love so much, this video
I would tell myself to just not worry and am awesome
Wow! This is amazing, each time I watch your videos I get inspired! I'll do this video too and tweet it to you ❤️
Can you do an advice video for the IB program please?
wow this is really cool. Wondering what I would say to myself or what younger me would say to me...
Thank you :)
Amazing...Smile😍
Love this 🙌🏿