While I agree, I also think we have to acknowledge that in these homebirth horror stories, a consistent detail is the exhaustion from the husband or spouse. This guy was probably up with his wife the whole time, probably exhausted and afraid, and really not fully in his right mind to do anything. He was depending on a trained professional to know her business enough not to make stupid, basic mistakes.
They should have been in a freaking hospital the whole time... It's their own fault. And normally if someone hires a midwife, they do research and pick a good and QUALIFIED midwife... I want to know where they found her. They probably just googled "midwives in my area" and chose the cheapest one...
@@rosesweetcharlotteTHIS IS WHAT HOSPITALS AND DOCTORS ARE FOR... 🤦♀️ And no one was exhausted 9 months earlier when they hired this midwife. They didn't even bother to do any research on her. It's their own damn fault...
@@BeccaHetrick Part of the problem here is, you have whole industries set up to exploit the obvious flaws in the American Healthcare system. And once this lady was on those homebirth sites, she was repeatedly told that everything would be fine. It's taking advantage of someone who is already scared and tired
He probably did or was going to and the midwife prevented him from doing that by saying this is a normal part of the process blah blah blah. Home births can go sideways real fast like within seconds.
@@amyahlquist3436 she was not there. He was going along with his wife. The pregnant body. Her body her way. She was working as a nurse so had to be close to a hospital. Maybe they said it would take too long when he called. Did he call? She should never have been doing this at home. She was a nurse and knew better. But I guess maternity care is different than needing your gall bladder out or having a seizure. The patient knows more than the doctor. And men can’t say anything cause birthing is a woman control empowerment thing. It’s natural for the baby to come out. Why is it some badge of honor for a baby to leave from the vagina? No one will be talking about this by age 5. For a few years when new moms get together it will be a topic but it’s not a character flaw to have a C-section. It’s not cause a mom didn’t advocate. It has nothing to do with how good a mother she will be how the baby leaves. Was it childcare doing it at home? Was it money not calling the ambulance? It seemed to be about her intended career change. I would be more safe with a midwife in or out of a birthing center if they said they delivered in a hospital their own baby or babies. It means they are not cultish about it.
People make choices. They chose to go the route of having a midwife as opposed to a hospital birth. This was their choice. The husband chose to ignore the red flags and just rely on the mid-wife and her judgement. Always go with your gut and be an advocate for yourself and your loved ones. While I'm sure this mid-wife is at fault, I don't think that she alone shoulders the blame. Take risk, accept the consequences.
Even in the hospital, a midwife can screw up due to their vanity, placing a mother and child at risk. Like what nearly happened to my son and I at Flagstaff Medical Center in December. 1996. I wish I had sued. They refused to pay attention to my son's failing vitals, refused for a doctor to intervene, and my son nearly died due to droopy cord. Just because you chose to go the route of midwife, that doesn't mean you'll have a loving, trauma-free birth. I hope the woman looses her nursing license and is forced to start all over again. The father requested additional help, and she refused. She deserves to lose everything. Best of luck to dad, and my condolences.
But in a hospital there are actual medical professionals like nurses and doctors who are actually qualified and legally allowed to do these things... Seriously, did they just Google cheap midwives in my area and just choose the cheapest one without looking to see if she has ANY qualifications?? I hate it when people go on the news to complain about something that's their own fault. Like the people who lose all their money to scammers. You gave your money away. And this guy just gave his wife and baby away....
Things can go wrong in mere seconds a hospital is better prepared for those scenario’s if it’s something the midwife can’t fix they have perinatologists and high risk ob/gyns available. I bet the midwife in this case said exactly what you said to the husband and that’s what got her and her baby killed. I’m sorry you had that experience with your kids but at least you didnt lose the child completely. I would rather have a traumatic birth and my baby be alive vs getting what I wanted putting my baby at risk and my baby dying. Because nothing is more traumatic then having your baby die I know this because I lost may baby at 22 weeks I was in the midwife’s office 2 days prior cramping and spotting they told me to drink more water and didn’t educate me on what preterm labour symptoms were an infection caused my water to break and back then they let 22 weekers die. This trauma messed me up for life.
Certified nurse midwives work in hospitals this was not the same type of midwife. Obstetricians also cause maternal and infant mortality all the time. The major different is nurse midwives and obstetricians can be held accountable licensed midwives can’t. They aren’t required to carry any type of insurance. Women just went to be heard and that isn’t happening in or out of the hospital
I agree, I feel like they prey on the anxiety of women and make it seem like birth will be less traumatic if "they are around" but at the end of the day you should have all the resources around (doctor, surgeon etc) because midwives are not able to give a c-section if you need it
Honestly, you're a bit 'weird' for interpreting his statement so incorrectly. The midwife asked 'what they could have done differently' and he responded to the midwife. Not his wife. Although I do believe home-births are generally a bad idea especially if you don't have a real midwife or Dr. with you.
@@kgfairgo5559go listen to his story. He says multiple times that he wanted to transfer or call emergency services but his wife asked him not to. He was respecting her wishes, not knowing the extent of what was going on and what it would lead to. I'm sure if he knew his wife or son were in imminent danger, he would have called 911 regardless. But he trusted that the "medical professional" knew what she was doing. He's not the one at fault here, the "midwife" is.
One of my best friends was pregnant the same time I was she was about five years older than me and gained over 100 pounds during her pregnancy. Later she found out she had gestational diabetes that was undiagnosed by her midwife. she only ever got one picture of her baby when she was pregnant. She chose to have a midwife. This was her first child first pregnancy. She was 45. She labored at home for 14 hours before her midwife put her in her car and dropped her off at the county hospital because she claimed she couldn’t go inside, I still think she should’ve sued the woman. My friend and her son almost died!!
Wow, I've never had kids and even I know that pregnancies over 40 are considered high risk. Someone should have told her she should be treated by an OB. Now that she had gestational diabetes she's at risk for developing diabetes sometime down the road, I hope she knows that as well.
We all like to point fingers but I’m a big fan of personal accountability. It sounds like your friend was likely overeating and that has health consequences. 100 lbs is an obscene amount of weight to gain during a pregnancy.
@@kgfairgo5559 did you see the color of her hand oh my God thank you I'm so glad somebody agrees that Common Sense should have taken place here oh my Lord
I think it’s because women have had terrible experiences in the hospital too. I personally had a terrible experience with an OBGYN but my midwife with my second kid was amazing. They were both done in a hospital though. Doing it at home is too risky
You haven’t had a seriously ill loved one in an American hospital, huh? If you have, you would likely be aware of the staggering amount of negligence, incompetence and corruption going on there. I seem to recall an infant being decapitated by a Dr during a hospital birth not that long ago... My point is that we have the most expensive healthcare in the world with some of the worst outcomes. That’s why we had some of the highest Covid deaths in the world. We need serious reform of our sickcare system.
I gave birth to both of my babies in a hospital. The first birth I had an OBGYN, and the second birth was with a midwife/ nurse practitioner. My experience in the hospital with my midwife was sooooo much better, more positive, and WAY less invasive (had complications in my first birth due to my OBGYN being so invasive). But honestly, the thought of a home birth scares me.
You’re aware that the US has the highest infant mortality rate of any developed nation? Most of that occurs from hospital births. Most people go to hospitals to have their babies here. You can still die.
Sounds pretty selfish to tell your grieving, dying wife that you told her so! Especially when you didn’t call an ambulance when you saw the nightmare unfolding right in front of your eyes! I’d also bet that your poor wife would’ve listened if you’d been adamant about not having the home birth! We have midwives at one of our local hospitals, and that’s where they deliver. A LOT can go wrong, real fast, in any delivery. Time is not on your side when you are outside of a hospital! Prayers for her family. 🙏🏻
Giving birth ,to this day is still a huge risk for complications for the mother and baby. Never let a mid level provider deliver your baby. Always have your baby in a hospital with a ob/gyn .
Definitely disagree, my hospital birth was absolutely horrible. My birth center birth with my midwife was simply amazing. This is definitely an anomaly and I’m sorry it happened.
midwives often work in conjunction w a hospital to make these transitions smoother. this is terrible. 😞 i dont know what happened that both were lost. yes please follow up w this case so that we can support pregnant women w the choices they desire and the choices they really need. RIP sweet mama and baby.
Revoke her licence, ensure that she cannot travel to another state to practice again. Make this a national revocation and no other Mum or child will suffer and/or die due to her incompetence.
This is why we don’t have our babies at home, ladies. I’ve been shaking my head over that one, my entire life. Talk about a situation where zero risks should be taken? How ridiculous.
There is a lady that I know who did not call 911. She listened to the midwife. Her baby died the next day due to an illness called group B strep. Please just call an ambulance if you or your baby doesn’t look right.
Hospital births are pretty terrible too, that's why people are doing this. Especially now because of hospitals doing things like calling CPS because a baby failed a drug test for meds the doctors gave them during labor
@@larsonfamilyhouse because lots of women are willing to take their chances if it prevents something being done to them without consent in the hospital
No it really does happen at hospitals in america day in and day out. The city i grew up in is surrounded by amish community, and thwre is a doctor who is responsible for several baby deaths & hes never lost his license because amish do not sue. My friend LuEllas son presented as transverse breach during her labor, and the doctor didnt want to come in to do a c section. His cord prolapsed, and he died. So he had to come in anyway emergency style and the baby died on the way to the OR. LuElla and others have said that she is not the only one who has a story like that. His name is Dr Egli i believe. Might be Dr Engle.
And its not just Amish either. Another friend of mine called in at 8 months pregnant with her daughter because she hadnt felt her move and she was concerned. The hospital told her to wait until the EVENING to come in. They didn't tell her to come in to ease her mind or anything like that, no. Told her to wait the entire freaking day. When she went in she tild them she didnt want to see the ultrasound because she knew her daughter was dead. She was correct. There are MANY stories out there. Filing lawsuits and getting lawyers is VERY expensive, especially the kind of lawyer you would need to go against a doctor. They have money. A lot of people cannot afford something like that so the best they can do is file complaints to hospitals, who are going to be loyal to their employees unless a multitude of people complain.
My mom was a midwife in my home country in the Philippines before building birth centers in our community. Pregnant women back then prefers home birth since most of the towns people are poor and can't afford to go to hospital to give birth. Only when the baby's are in breech position which is risky she will asked the family to send the mother's to the hospital. In her entire career no mother and babies died of complications during birth. So sad hearing about losing both mother and baby. May they rest in peace.
He sure was smiling a lot after losing your wife and your kid. Why didn't he call for an ambulance if he supposedly seen red flags ?????????? I know I would have.
The midwife was probably telling him everything was gonna be okay, and she knew what she was doing. When in a panic, you constantly doubt your own feelings. He did want to bring his wife to a hospital, thinking something was wrong. The midwife talked him out of it. I wonder what his wife said. Maybe she thought everything would be okay, so went along with the midwife. I think everyone should trust their gut. Being that it would have been his 3rd child, you'd figure he would have trusted his. I'm sure he beats himself up.
@@priscillavelazquezsyup, read my comment above when you get a chance. When you see the smirk on this guys face you know he is a person without empathy or love in his heart.
This midwife was suppose to be a trained professional. They are required to contact emergency services and transport and first signs . She consistently reassured the family everything was fine. This isn’t her first victim . This happens all over the United States because of the maternal health crisis. America has some of the highest maternal mortality rates in the world and that’s inside the hospital. That’s why many families choose homebirth but what they don’t know is the drastic lack of oversight and educational requirements for different midwife certificates. No matter where you decide to birth you should be kept safe. That’s what you pay a professional to do. As this story unfolds the amount of negligence involved by this midwife is absolutely unacceptable and she isn’t the only one with a record like this still practicing
One horrible person and a situation…doesn’t mean laws need to change. The laws weren’t followed. Midwife needs to go to jail. The husband should have called 911. HE Failed if he saw the problems. People have midwives to save money, shame.
If it was safe to have kids at home, far more women would do it. He should have called 911 the instant he saw red flags. It sounds like the midwife was also incompetent so since she’s no longer allowed to practice legally, but he’s shoving the blame entirely on her. They both made monumentally bad decisions, but he’s going to be paid substantial rewards for his.
We’re not living in the 1800s ffs! Go to a hospital! Why put yourself and your baby at risk? Sometimes it takes a whole team to help you give birth, not just one midwife.
If they had gone to a hospital and had actual doctors working on them.... Common sense goes a long way.... And if you're going to use a midwife, maybe you should look them up and make sure that they're actually legally allowed to BE a midwife....
America has the highest maternal deaths for a first world country and most of them happen in the HOSPITAL. Dont get me wrong, i delivered all my kids in the hospital. But lets get the facts straight here, because there is a REASON moms have been increasing their choices to deliver outside of hospitals.
That’s sad. I guess it must have been all the wrong things adding up in order for both mom and baby to die. Maternal death is extremely high in the United States. Say no to old fashioned, outdated practices and yes to modern medicine. He didn’t disclose the cause of death either. I’m sure an autopsy was done on both.
@@ashleylala4293 yes having to perform miracles with midwives are not in attendance to their home births and they are rushed to hospital too late to do anything. Comments like this is what causes these situations.
She wanted to be a midwife. Her first two were csections and she needed blood at least once. But she wanted the experience cause for some reason in her circles it’s a badge of honor to control your birth. I find it odd a doctor can remove a gallbladder without patient controlling the process but not a baby.
Back in 1982 my sister had a midwife for her home birth, my nephew was breach, the midwife call an ambulance and transferred my sister to the hospital. Everything was fine after that, but now in 2024? How careless for a person who claims she will help kills instead! So so so sad❣️
saying a kid, was a baby. Alot of people doing this to save money because hospital and doctor fees are so expensive especially when you choose not to have insurance! Just saying!
If you cannot afford to pay for your child's birth , uuuuhmmm maybe you shouldn't have kids lol like if you plan a pregnancy but you don't have enough money for the birth ?!?! What a horrific nightmare 😢😢😢
Yeah we have the most expensive healthcare in the world with some of the worst outcomes. The things going on in American hospitals are downright criminal. My bff was a nurse and I’ve heard some horror stories. Several of my loved ones have died due to hospital malice/negligence. We have a crisis of incompetence and corruption in this country. I will never step foot in a hospital.
In 1983 I had my first baby by a midwife in an office building with a birthing suite. I had my next 3 children by midwives, however, they had contracted with the hospital so that's where I had the next 3. I preferred the first birth but I had issues with my 2,3 & 4th births so maybe I would've died if I hadn't been in the hospital.
you have the option to have the same "natural birth" at the hospital. If things go downhill and you need emergency services, you won't be wasting precious time by having to wait for an ambulance to come to your house 🙃
Imagine losing your child, being on your deathbed and then being told, “I told you so” from the man who is supposed to honor and cherish you. Wow, what a way to go. Very sad. Rest in peace with your baby young Mom.
I understand you. Sorry I was mistaken. In my opinion, the midwife should face charges. As far as I can understand two people died in her care that was preventable.
Imagine watching this video and not comprehending that the husband was talking about the midwife, not his wife, then making a moronic comment. Rewatch the video.
Why is he going on the news complaining about his own stupidity? Seriously, did they Google "cheap midwives near me" and just pick the cheapest one without doing even 10 seconds of research to see if she had ANY qualifications? DON'T GO ON THE NEWS AND COMPLAIN ABOUT SOMETHING THAT'S YOUR OWN FAULT...
If he saw red flags.......he should have called emergency services REGARDLESS!! 😳🥺
While I agree, I also think we have to acknowledge that in these homebirth horror stories, a consistent detail is the exhaustion from the husband or spouse. This guy was probably up with his wife the whole time, probably exhausted and afraid, and really not fully in his right mind to do anything. He was depending on a trained professional to know her business enough not to make stupid, basic mistakes.
What other homebirth horror stories? Yet I do know of doctor horror stories that don't make the news.@@rosesweetcharlotte
They should have been in a freaking hospital the whole time... It's their own fault. And normally if someone hires a midwife, they do research and pick a good and QUALIFIED midwife... I want to know where they found her. They probably just googled "midwives in my area" and chose the cheapest one...
@@rosesweetcharlotteTHIS IS WHAT HOSPITALS AND DOCTORS ARE FOR... 🤦♀️
And no one was exhausted 9 months earlier when they hired this midwife. They didn't even bother to do any research on her. It's their own damn fault...
@@BeccaHetrick Part of the problem here is, you have whole industries set up to exploit the obvious flaws in the American Healthcare system. And once this lady was on those homebirth sites, she was repeatedly told that everything would be fine. It's taking advantage of someone who is already scared and tired
If the husband saw red flags why didn't he call an ambulance??
Because he was exhausted and terrified and had the midwife and his own wife telling him that she just needed more time.
@@rosesweetcharlottebut he SAID he saw red flags so if he was alert enough for that he was alert enough to call 911.
He probably did or was going to and the midwife prevented him from doing that by saying this is a normal part of the process blah blah blah. Home births can go sideways real fast like within seconds.
@@amyahlquist3436 she was not there. He was going along with his wife. The pregnant body. Her body her way. She was working as a nurse so had to be close to a hospital. Maybe they said it would take too long when he called. Did he call? She should never have been doing this at home. She was a nurse and knew better. But I guess maternity care is different than needing your gall bladder out or having a seizure. The patient knows more than the doctor. And men can’t say anything cause birthing is a woman control empowerment thing. It’s natural for the baby to come out. Why is it some badge of honor for a baby to leave from the vagina? No one will be talking about this by age 5. For a few years when new moms get together it will be a topic but it’s not a character flaw to have a C-section. It’s not cause a mom didn’t advocate. It has nothing to do with how good a mother she will be how the baby leaves. Was it childcare doing it at home? Was it money not calling the ambulance? It seemed to be about her intended career change. I would be more safe with a midwife in or out of a birthing center if they said they delivered in a hospital their own baby or babies. It means they are not cultish about it.
People make choices. They chose to go the route of having a midwife as opposed to a hospital birth. This was their choice. The husband chose to ignore the red flags and just rely on the mid-wife and her judgement. Always go with your gut and be an advocate for yourself and your loved ones. While I'm sure this mid-wife is at fault, I don't think that she alone shoulders the blame. Take risk, accept the consequences.
Even in the hospital, a midwife can screw up due to their vanity, placing a mother and child at risk. Like what nearly happened to my son and I at Flagstaff Medical Center in December. 1996. I wish I had sued. They refused to pay attention to my son's failing vitals, refused for a doctor to intervene, and my son nearly died due to droopy cord.
Just because you chose to go the route of midwife, that doesn't mean you'll have a loving, trauma-free birth. I hope the woman looses her nursing license and is forced to start all over again. The father requested additional help, and she refused. She deserves to lose everything. Best of luck to dad, and my condolences.
But in a hospital there are actual medical professionals like nurses and doctors who are actually qualified and legally allowed to do these things... Seriously, did they just Google cheap midwives in my area and just choose the cheapest one without looking to see if she has ANY qualifications?? I hate it when people go on the news to complain about something that's their own fault. Like the people who lose all their money to scammers. You gave your money away. And this guy just gave his wife and baby away....
Things can go wrong in mere seconds a hospital is better prepared for those scenario’s if it’s something the midwife can’t fix they have perinatologists and high risk ob/gyns available. I bet the midwife in this case said exactly what you said to the husband and that’s what got her and her baby killed. I’m sorry you had that experience with your kids but at least you didnt lose the child completely. I would rather have a traumatic birth and my baby be alive vs getting what I wanted putting my baby at risk and my baby dying. Because nothing is more traumatic then having your baby die I know this because I lost may baby at 22 weeks I was in the midwife’s office 2 days prior cramping and spotting they told me to drink more water and didn’t educate me on what preterm labour symptoms were an infection caused my water to break and back then they let 22 weekers die. This trauma messed me up for life.
Certified nurse midwives work in hospitals this was not the same type of midwife. Obstetricians also cause maternal and infant mortality all the time. The major different is nurse midwives and obstetricians can be held accountable licensed midwives can’t. They aren’t required to carry any type of insurance. Women just went to be heard and that isn’t happening in or out of the hospital
I agree, I feel like they prey on the anxiety of women and make it seem like birth will be less traumatic if "they are around" but at the end of the day you should have all the resources around (doctor, surgeon etc) because midwives are not able to give a c-section if you need it
Guy is weird for saying “I told you so” to her while she’s dying and their baby was already dead. He’s a walking red flag himself.
The 'I told you so' was directed to the midwife genius.
He was talking to the midwife. He even addressed her by name, how could it have been more clear?
Honestly, you're a bit 'weird' for interpreting his statement so incorrectly. The midwife asked 'what they could have done differently' and he responded to the midwife. Not his wife. Although I do believe home-births are generally a bad idea especially if you don't have a real midwife or Dr. with you.
Even if directed at midwife. Could be not have called an ambulance himself rather than watching his wife die? Red flag
@@kgfairgo5559go listen to his story. He says multiple times that he wanted to transfer or call emergency services but his wife asked him not to. He was respecting her wishes, not knowing the extent of what was going on and what it would lead to. I'm sure if he knew his wife or son were in imminent danger, he would have called 911 regardless. But he trusted that the "medical professional" knew what she was doing. He's not the one at fault here, the "midwife" is.
One of my best friends was pregnant the same time I was she was about five years older than me and gained over 100 pounds during her pregnancy. Later she found out she had gestational diabetes that was undiagnosed by her midwife. she only ever got one picture of her baby when she was pregnant. She chose to have a midwife. This was her first child first pregnancy. She was 45. She labored at home for 14 hours before her midwife put her in her car and dropped her off at the county hospital because she claimed she couldn’t go inside, I still think she should’ve sued the woman. My friend and her son almost died!!
She couldn't go inside as she was unlicensed. Yes, she should have sued and reported her to authorities.
Wow, I've never had kids and even I know that pregnancies over 40 are considered high risk. Someone should have told her she should be treated by an OB. Now that she had gestational diabetes she's at risk for developing diabetes sometime down the road, I hope she knows that as well.
@@carolinematusevich889I'm sorry, but she absolutely could have gone inside.
This is what hospitals and actual doctors are for...
We all like to point fingers but I’m a big fan of personal accountability. It sounds like your friend was likely overeating and that has health consequences. 100 lbs is an obscene amount of weight to gain during a pregnancy.
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Why didn’t he call 911
He’s not a doctor or medical professional
@@Literallyarealhumanno but he said he saw red flags I would have called 911
@@Literallyarealhumanwell common sense would dictate that you call 911!!!!!!!!!! Omg. What is wrong with you
He had no common sense either??
@@kgfairgo5559 did you see the color of her hand oh my God thank you I'm so glad somebody agrees that Common Sense should have taken place here oh my Lord
RIP to the mother and child🕊️🙏🏽this is a tragedy
Why anyone would choose a midwife over being surrounded by medical professionals in a clean and sanitary hospital is beyond me. Why take the chance??
I think it’s because women have had terrible experiences in the hospital too. I personally had a terrible experience with an OBGYN but my midwife with my second kid was amazing. They were both done in a hospital though. Doing it at home is too risky
“Clean and sanitary” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You haven’t had a seriously ill loved one in an American hospital, huh? If you have, you would likely be aware of the staggering amount of negligence, incompetence and corruption going on there. I seem to recall an infant being decapitated by a Dr during a hospital birth not that long ago...
My point is that we have the most expensive healthcare in the world with some of the worst outcomes. That’s why we had some of the highest Covid deaths in the world. We need serious reform of our sickcare system.
I gave birth to both of my babies in a hospital. The first birth I had an OBGYN, and the second birth was with a midwife/ nurse practitioner. My experience in the hospital with my midwife was sooooo much better, more positive, and WAY less invasive (had complications in my first birth due to my OBGYN being so invasive). But honestly, the thought of a home birth scares me.
You’re aware that the US has the highest infant mortality rate of any developed nation? Most of that occurs from hospital births. Most people go to hospitals to have their babies here. You can still die.
I’m so sorry for the families loss
This is why I would never of had my children outside of a hospital. Seriously they have everything they need if something was to happen.
Sounds pretty selfish to tell your grieving, dying wife that you told her so! Especially when you didn’t call an ambulance when you saw the nightmare unfolding right in front of your eyes!
I’d also bet that your poor wife would’ve listened if you’d been adamant about not having the home birth! We have midwives at one of our local hospitals, and that’s where they deliver. A LOT can go wrong, real fast, in any delivery. Time is not on your side when you are outside of a hospital!
Prayers for her family. 🙏🏻
He said that to Sarah, the midwife.
Giving birth ,to this day is still a huge risk for complications for the mother and baby. Never let a mid level provider deliver your baby. Always have your baby in a hospital with a ob/gyn .
Definitely disagree, my hospital birth was absolutely horrible. My birth center birth with my midwife was simply amazing. This is definitely an anomaly and I’m sorry it happened.
@@tcollins3441That's because you were healthy and your birthing team knew what they were doing.
@carlycrays2831 a good midwife knows when to divert the mother to a hospital. Also, you never see on the news when a doctor causes death/injury.
@@rosesweetcharlotte I agree
@@jolee6531 absolutely
midwives often work in conjunction w a hospital to make these transitions smoother. this is terrible. 😞 i dont know what happened that both were lost. yes please follow up w this case so that we can support pregnant women
w the choices they desire and the choices they really need. RIP sweet mama and baby.
True❤️🙏
This midwife lost 3 babies in 31 that year.
What?? A midwife is nowhere near that same thing as an obstetrician??
No. Way. 🤦♂️
Dang everyone failed the wife and that poor baby.. the husband and the midwife.
Revoke her licence, ensure that she cannot travel to another state to practice again. Make this a national revocation and no other Mum or child will suffer and/or die due to her incompetence.
Negligent homicide.
This is why we don’t have our babies at home, ladies. I’ve been shaking my head over that one, my entire life. Talk about a situation where zero risks should be taken? How ridiculous.
What a horrible husband. I can't imagine after losing my baby and fighting for my life my husband tells me in the hospital "I told you" .
He probably didn’t want more kids or her !
He was talking to the midwife. Listen carefully next time.
He was telling that to the midwife, not his wife
@@august21xp it was his first kid
Do you comprehend English? He was talking about the midwife.
They need to put that evil midwife in prison for life
Omg OMG So much pain 😢😢😢No words 😢😢😢😢
This is why I’ll have my baby with a bunch of doctors next to me.
There is a lady that I know who did not call 911. She listened to the midwife.
Her baby died the next day due to an illness called group B strep. Please just call an ambulance if you or your baby doesn’t look right.
How many times do we have to say don’t have home births? Seriously this could have been avoided.
Hospital births are pretty terrible too, that's why people are doing this. Especially now because of hospitals doing things like calling CPS because a baby failed a drug test for meds the doctors gave them during labor
Why anyone would choose that over being surrounded by medical professionals in a clean and sanitary hospital is beyond me. Why take the chance??
@@larsonfamilyhouse because lots of women are willing to take their chances if it prevents something being done to them without consent in the hospital
🙏🏻🙏🏻Um, this literally happens daily at Hospitals- the Drs & nurses are not investigated
It literally doesn’t though, but you sound like a midwife yourself.
@@AzKarma2010 👌🏻🤡
No it really does happen at hospitals in america day in and day out. The city i grew up in is surrounded by amish community, and thwre is a doctor who is responsible for several baby deaths & hes never lost his license because amish do not sue. My friend LuEllas son presented as transverse breach during her labor, and the doctor didnt want to come in to do a c section. His cord prolapsed, and he died. So he had to come in anyway emergency style and the baby died on the way to the OR. LuElla and others have said that she is not the only one who has a story like that. His name is Dr Egli i believe. Might be Dr Engle.
And its not just Amish either. Another friend of mine called in at 8 months pregnant with her daughter because she hadnt felt her move and she was concerned. The hospital told her to wait until the EVENING to come in. They didn't tell her to come in to ease her mind or anything like that, no. Told her to wait the entire freaking day.
When she went in she tild them she didnt want to see the ultrasound because she knew her daughter was dead. She was correct.
There are MANY stories out there. Filing lawsuits and getting lawyers is VERY expensive, especially the kind of lawyer you would need to go against a doctor. They have money. A lot of people cannot afford something like that so the best they can do is file complaints to hospitals, who are going to be loyal to their employees unless a multitude of people complain.
Except it doesn’t.
Everyone failed
My mom was a midwife in my home country in the Philippines before building birth centers in our community. Pregnant women back then prefers home birth since most of the towns people are poor and can't afford to go to hospital to give birth. Only when the baby's are in breech position which is risky she will asked the family to send the mother's to the hospital. In her entire career no mother and babies died of complications during birth. So sad hearing about losing both mother and baby. May they rest in peace.
He sure was smiling a lot after losing your wife and your kid. Why didn't he call for an ambulance if he supposedly seen red flags ?????????? I know I would have.
The midwife was probably telling him everything was gonna be okay, and she knew what she was doing. When in a panic, you constantly doubt your own feelings. He did want to bring his wife to a hospital, thinking something was wrong. The midwife talked him out of it.
I wonder what his wife said. Maybe she thought everything would be okay, so went along with the midwife.
I think everyone should trust their gut. Being that it would have been his 3rd child, you'd figure he would have trusted his. I'm sure he beats himself up.
She wants to sue
And saying “I told you” how horrible.
@@priscillavelazquezsyup, read my comment above when you get a chance. When you see the smirk on this guys face you know he is a person without empathy or love in his heart.
@@priscillavelazquezsHe said that to the midwife
If I see my partner turning blue, I don't care what degree they have...I'm calling emergency services. I am so sorry for this man's loss.
Don’t risk it….deliver at a hospital….
This midwife was suppose to be a trained professional. They are required to contact emergency services and transport and first signs . She consistently reassured the family everything was fine. This isn’t her first victim . This happens all over the United States because of the maternal health crisis. America has some of the highest maternal mortality rates in the world and that’s inside the hospital. That’s why many families choose homebirth but what they don’t know is the drastic lack of oversight and educational requirements for different midwife certificates. No matter where you decide to birth you should be kept safe. That’s what you pay a professional to do.
As this story unfolds the amount of negligence involved by this midwife is absolutely unacceptable and she isn’t the only one with a record like this still practicing
That’s why I never ever wanted to go the “midwife” route. Childbirth is risky enough, in a hospital setting. Prayers for the family 😢
Home birth!!! Was the first mistake. Always always have a baby in a hospital. Because there can be so many unexpected problems
One horrible person and a situation…doesn’t mean laws need to change. The laws weren’t followed. Midwife needs to go to jail. The husband should have called 911. HE Failed if he saw the problems. People have midwives to save money, shame.
Oh yeah, no negligence EVER happens in American hospitals... 🤦🏼♀️
Women die in childbirth in hospitals all the time. My cousin did.
Hospitals don’t loose 10% of the babies annually.
This is why you go to the hospital and you have a person with the initials M.D.... after their name????
Takeaway lesson, go to a hospital to have your baby.
If it was safe to have kids at home, far more women would do it. He should have called 911 the instant he saw red flags. It sounds like the midwife was also incompetent so since she’s no longer allowed to practice legally, but he’s shoving the blame entirely on her. They both made monumentally bad decisions, but he’s going to be paid substantial rewards for his.
We’re not living in the 1800s ffs! Go to a hospital! Why put yourself and your baby at risk? Sometimes it takes a whole team to help you give birth, not just one midwife.
Goofy lookin people.
Husband should be charged too! Neglecting to call 911.
Neglecting to render aid. Etc!
But people think midwives are so great. Just goes to show you real doctors are better 🙄
Weird man
If they had gone to a hospital and had actual doctors working on them.... Common sense goes a long way.... And if you're going to use a midwife, maybe you should look them up and make sure that they're actually legally allowed to BE a midwife....
Hospitals are more dangerous
America has the highest maternal deaths for a first world country and most of them happen in the HOSPITAL.
Dont get me wrong, i delivered all my kids in the hospital. But lets get the facts straight here, because there is a REASON moms have been increasing their choices to deliver outside of hospitals.
This midwife still messed up.
That's partially because a lot of midwives send their patients to the hospital when things go wrong.
I think if we used midwives like other countries do its fine. They deliver in hospital with a midwife.
Blah blah blah
That’s sad. I guess it must have been all the wrong things adding up in order for both mom and baby to die. Maternal death is extremely high in the United States. Say no to old fashioned, outdated practices and yes to modern medicine. He didn’t disclose the cause of death either. I’m sure an autopsy was done on both.
Most maternal deaths happen in the hospital in america. That is a fact.
This some yt ppl ish. So sad all around
Some midwives are witches and want power
Governor Hobbs is worse. At least these parents are pro life❤
W H I T E !!!
H U H?
He smiles all the time, seems happy 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
Why is the husband smiling
I'm more curious how it looks like she was in the medical field why she didn't opt for a hospital birth? Why didn't you call 911?
If she was in the medical field she was likely aware of the horrendous things going on in American hospitals...
@@ashleylala4293 yes having to perform miracles with midwives are not in attendance to their home births and they are rushed to hospital too late to do anything. Comments like this is what causes these situations.
She wanted to be a midwife. Her first two were csections and she needed blood at least once. But she wanted the experience cause for some reason in her circles it’s a badge of honor to control your birth. I find it odd a doctor can remove a gallbladder without patient controlling the process but not a baby.
When he said, "I told you so" I seems like he was referring to the midwife not his wife unless i misunderstood...
Back in 1982 my sister had a midwife for her home birth, my nephew was breach, the midwife call an ambulance and transferred my sister to the hospital. Everything was fine after that, but now in 2024? How careless for a person who claims she will help kills instead! So so so sad❣️
saying a kid, was a baby. Alot of people doing this to save money because hospital and doctor fees are so expensive especially when you choose not to have insurance! Just saying!
If you cannot afford to pay for your child's birth , uuuuhmmm maybe you shouldn't have kids lol like if you plan a pregnancy but you don't have enough money for the birth ?!?! What a horrific nightmare 😢😢😢
I don't disagree that hospitals are expensive, but at the same time, this is about life and death.
Yeah we have the most expensive healthcare in the world with some of the worst outcomes. The things going on in American hospitals are downright criminal. My bff was a nurse and I’ve heard some horror stories. Several of my loved ones have died due to hospital malice/negligence. We have a crisis of incompetence and corruption in this country. I will never step foot in a hospital.
I was waiting for something like this to happen some of the midwifery staff looks questionable to say the least!
Keep it safe go to the hospital 🏥
In 1983 I had my first baby by a midwife in an office building with a birthing suite. I had my next 3 children by midwives, however, they had contracted with the hospital so that's where I had the next 3. I preferred the first birth but I had issues with my 2,3 & 4th births so maybe I would've died if I hadn't been in the hospital.
you have the option to have the same "natural birth" at the hospital. If things go downhill and you need emergency services, you won't be wasting precious time by having to wait for an ambulance to come to your house 🙃
Very sad! Prayers to your family and I hope you find justice
Why did he not call an ambulance?!
What happened exactly??
Imagine losing your child, being on your deathbed and then being told, “I told you so” from the man who is supposed to honor and cherish you. Wow, what a way to go. Very sad. Rest in peace with your baby young Mom.
These were his words to Sarah the midwife not his wife, whose name is Jordan. Please listen to the video again.
He said that to the midwife not his wife.
I understand you. Sorry I was mistaken. In my opinion, the midwife should face charges. As far as I can understand two people died in her care that was preventable.
Imagine watching this video and not comprehending that the husband was talking about the midwife, not his wife, then making a moronic comment. Rewatch the video.
@@gribble2979 you can tell this guy is still arrogant. Period. End of story.
That's why you go to hospital.
You don’t think these things happen in hospital they lose mothers and babies too even with all the protocols and policies. 😮
@@ashleybrimmcaresYeah at least they have emergency equipment and surgeons there. Use common sense.
@@ashleybrimmcaresYeah at least they have emergency equipment and surgeons there. Use common sense.
Why is he going on the news complaining about his own stupidity? Seriously, did they Google "cheap midwives near me" and just pick the cheapest one without doing even 10 seconds of research to see if she had ANY qualifications?
DON'T GO ON THE NEWS AND COMPLAIN ABOUT SOMETHING THAT'S YOUR OWN FAULT...