Yeah I i noticed that the more you feel hopeless, devastated, the more releif they feel When you show them you are satisfied, happy even though you are actually putting up with them , they will literally blame you for that positive state
The Narc knows exactly what they are doing. They focus on the kill. They are exactly an inner species predator no matter how that narc is dressed up to appear different. Premeditated thought process. Does a wild mountain lion know what it is doing when it hunts
I grew up in a narcissistic family cult. The narcissists in my family know exactly that they are lying, threatening, manipulating, stealing and abusing others mentally, physically and financially. But I don’t know if they realize the damage they cause. Or they just simply don’t care that they cause a lot of damage, pain and loss.
I have had a difficult time, I miss the good times. I know it was an illusion. I am a smart, loving, spiritual person, also a professional. This is all text book in my situation. I wish everyone here the best. I am learning how to love myself again. It’s been a year. And I am relieved and have to dig deep within and realize so much. Thank you for sharing. I have been delving into as much as a can. I also have been to a domestic violence counselor, who is amazing, but it got bad and I was in denial. 7 years with him and it’s a cycle for sure. He even treats his friends and family as well as mine very poorly, verbal insults and more. I am glad I am out but the rejection hurts. I was prime meat for him, I was 2 years out of the end of my 18 year marriage.. who left me for another woman. Or women I should say. So I believe it’s a pattern of mine bc I tend to be the caretaker, my ex husband never treated me the way the “narcissist” did. Thank you again for this video. It’s all true
Narcissism is a personality disorder...not a choice, not a demonic possession. It is formed in early childhood due to a lack of healthy bonding with the primary caregiver. This changes and distorts the nueral pathways in the brain. It's NOT treatable or curable. I understand where you're coming from, but it is a matter of science, and there is currently nothing that can be done to repair the damage to the nueral pathways. Deliverance, unfortunately, won't make a bit of difference.
I went back to my ex narc after not seeing him for 13 years. He convinced me he was different. I spent one weekend with him and he was absolutely unhinged. Drugs, booze every hour of the day. Accusing me of being a lair, the problem all along and not worthy of him. Then he’d switch into telling me how much he loved me and wanted me. It gave me the closure I had needed all these years after thinking I had lost a huge love of my life. It was so gross to witness his state of affairs. He was actually worse than I thought anyone could be.
Very gutsy going back , I grey rocked my ex narc and to me, he is dead. 26 yrs of psychological abuse was enough and now 6 yrs out I feel like a bird released from its cage. Freedom and peace is bliss
Same with me. Tried it again with my daughter’s father and I’m so glad that I did because this confirmed what I never knew.. I didn’t know he was a narcissist… now that I know. I’m doing no contact (he still can reach his daughter… she has her own phone. He can see her any time just text her and tell mom to drop you off if he would like)…. I’m staying away from him and his family. For almost 10 years this is what I’ve been going through with these crazy people…. Narcissism!
Living to screw people over what they don't realise they take that same negative energy with them when they die then have to try and sort themselves out again when reborn. I think they have many life cycles before they realise they have to get their shit together. Most of them don't and can't work. I wouldn't employ the scattered one I know.
Yes, mine lost a loving wife and 3 lovely children and a granddaughter. They are their own worst enemy aswell as their victims. Mine doesn't even care or realise, I don't think. I hope mine, rots in hell.
@@LaurieB-hk6tl are u kidding me no accountability they seem like their happy and always have alot of 3ex and they have alot of options explain to me how being a narcissist is a bad thing ? No disrespect fyi I’m generally curious
Mine would have stretched the truth about cheating - because he didn't physically cheat. BUT he was looking for something better, flirting with women, trying to find someone shiny and new. That is cheating - like the commandment 'thou shalt not covet' your neighbour's wife. Emotional cheating.
Nope, my narcissistic father never cheated. He treated us (his family) like shit and enjoyed seeing us suffering, but he never cheated. He was too stupid to find another woman. My mother was even more stupid than him for having ended up with a "man" like that.
There are narcissists who do not cheat. Watch Dr Ramani's video on the self-righteous narcissist. She discusses this exact topic and explains it. I know for a fact that my narcissist husband has never cheated. He's done horrible mean cruel things to me but I know for a fact he's never cheated
No one knows these type of people exist and they are so unworldly that there is no medication or treatment for a narcissist. They are able to deceive everyone even children of God. But this is a teaching lesson for us. Because adversity brings about humiliation. Believe me after God breaks you away from the narcissist you will pray and thank God for everything that he has blessed you with. The knowledge is the key. Thank you Paula
Remember this a narcissist does not know what real love really is! Their own selfish agenda is to hurt you and use you! A narcissist or other narcissists think of you only as a Object or a thing to use for their own needs and wants blaming you for their own selfish behavior and actions towards you which is wrong and hurtful!
It is ashamed we didn't know they existed because we were taught for generations by the church not to see evil but good in people even when their deeds are evil. We never understood why these evil deeds existed. The pastors never wanted you to see evil because they was practicing evil. We would never suspect the man of God to be a narcissist.
True. God shows at every step who they are. Keep praying. Our lord used the narcissist to get me to him, I found Jesus through the narc and he created a story that he was the chosen one for my salvation and that I need to now financially support him for his ministry which is proselytising on Internet.
Guys, when you reach the pinnacle of indifference you wouldn't care where your narc is, what he does and how he'll end up. With each day he'll become smaller and smaller. It took me more than 2 years and a lot of education thanks to channels like this one. Thank you Paula. Good luck to all, and let's transform all the negative energy into positive.
Agree 100%! I've been out of the "situationship" with the narc for almost 5 yrs. It's been a long road, but I'm at the point now that I no longer care where he is, who he's with (this week), or what he's doing! 13 yrs of my life wasted on him but many lessons learned too!
You couldn't have said it better! I experienced a malignant narcissist many years ago and find it still has a damaging effect on me. Through education and hard work I believe I have developed an immunity towards these people. It's so important that we realize it's not our problem but theirs but never give them access to our inner self. I've heard it said that with some hard work, we can become much bigger while they become much smaller. Wise words indeed. Good luck and much happiness.
Exactly, I'd feel sorry for mine, if I didn't hate him as much as I do! He has no love in his life, he lost it all! Its weird because they want admiration, but in doing their control thing, they end up with no control and certainly no admiration! So they always 'hang themselves '!
My mother’s biggest fear was ending up in a crappy old folks home but she engineered it. Spent money badly, treated her kids and grands badly, and isn’t welcome at her favorite restaurant. Absolutely did this to herself. You reap what you sow.
My mom was brutal to us kids. She had a few favorites. A few of my brothers ended up in prison. Some killed small animals, I learned later. They are hard men, most of them. I was SO mad at my mom for years. Hurt. But, she couldn’t Love me. Acceptance. She got ALS IN 2008, and I was told I could go see her, which we did. It was a very loving day. I forgave her. We ALL live out our mentality. Now that she’s gone, I got into therapy again and worked to be the kind of person I/ME wants to be! It has faded, the hurt. I know what you mean, it all plays out. ❤️
My mom two years before she passed went to the only mexican restaurant in her town with friends. She'd gone there for 30 years, the owners son came over and she said why don't you just go back to mexico? He said, ==== I've known you for 20 years since I was a kid and I was born here. She was a handful to the very end.
CAN YOU IMAGINE??? My narc had all of my three children around him for Father's Day. He's sick with cancer -so the children have been with him to help out - so I had no children with me for Mother's Day but I understood that it's a difficult time for them. What did he do - the ungrateful sod??? He left them for the day to meet up with a woman. They put aside all plans to be with him for the day and he went out for the shiny object. Narcissists are never satisfied even when they have it all right in front of them.
I completely understand!! My ex husband left me & took my only child- daughter- who we were always very close at age 10!! I was/ am very strong Christian but knew nithing about narc personality- just always a living kind honest girl & nurse!! He lied to attorneys, judges etc... about me & I only got limited visits!! I got no holidays!!- Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc...
@@barbaradecker4358 My narc won't be on earth much longer - I will get the kids, unless he tries to control me from the grave!! My kids are pretty much wise to him, only putting up with him at this point.
@@catherinewindsor1654 So is one of my sons - he did something wrong, a minor thing really (ripped the door handle off my car during a temper tantrum) but could not take responsibility for it. Ranted at everyone, including me. Looked like a complete idiot. Still can't apologize or deal with it. I don't respond but it's hard to watch.
@wendynash2587 Watch! No way. If police don't take him , kick em out! Still wants to have temper tantrum get 5 yr restraining order. Can get renewed. Paralegal can assist. WAKE UP! HES DANGEROUS.
Yep, he lost his job, had to sell his home, married a wealthy old supply his friends hate, so they cut ties with him because of her...and he has health problems. Karma gets them for sure! Sometimes it takes awhile but its gets them.
@@annmaddock4569My ex covert narc (I left him after 10 years of toxic relationship) for about 10 years ago - he died alone in is home last year in miltiple illness of his alcohol addition, only 55 years old. So. Karma never miss an adress ...
I respectfully disagree about Karma. My mothers, ex wife, grandmother were all high level Narcopaths. My trauma went on for about 40 years. Nothing bad happened to any of them over the years. I wish they had, nut no
Normal people and especially those with a healthy spiritual life are very resilient. When they go through difficult times they learn and grow as people. Everything that Narcs learn is superficial and shallow. As they get older the immaturity and delusional mindset becomes more and more obvious. It's the creepy older man or woman at a bar trying to seduce someone much younger. They are in complete denial that the things they value the most are fleeting. Looks, money and influence will fade. The love that you have shown to family, friends and pets is a legacy that holds true value. I feel sorry for them, I can leave the abusive relationship and God will help me heal, they are trapped in a Hell of their own making. 🙏
I (being an empath) fell right into the trap of marrying a narcissistic woman. It was 26 years of chaos, drama, and insanity. We were financially well off at the beginning, but her crazy schemes led to financial ruin. She had multiple extramarital affairs during our marriage, followed by multiple live-in boyfriends after our divorce (7 years ago). My life is so much happier and peaceful now that I have gotten away from the situation. Paula, every word you spoke is exactly what I have experienced as a decent man married to a narcissist. Thank you. - Mike (from South Dakota in the United States).
Thank you for your story Mike! Also for letting people be aware this is not a gender specified attack. I can relate , because my story is similar but with the male persuasion.
I’m an empath and married a narcissist 8 years ago. Took me a while to figure out making excuses for him. Now awaiting divorce after he lied, cheated and stole from me. Jog on with your side chicks. I am walking to freedom filled with happiness, love and laughter. 😊
Oh, I'm so happy for you , that you get away from this relationship. I know exactly your feelings. I was 5 long years with narcissistic person. But I'm so happy now ..... 🎉 3 years is over myself own happy life . Stay saved and I send you greetings and blessings to your way from Florida. Greetings to all readers, please stay saved.
My husband is a narcissist. From the beginning of our marriage he literally referred to me as his retirement plan to my friends and relatives. So humiliating and embarrassing. He said he was just kidding. Actually not. We are going through a divorce after 28 years of marriage. I left him. He absolutely did everything you described. All of it. And he’s fighting for my retirement plan. He is very sick and alone and totally dependent on his brother who is not in great health either. I still have compassion for him as I would anyone in his pathetic and pitiful situation, but I am strong in my faith that God is removing him from my life. You are spot on about the magical thinking and sense of entitlement. He has pretty much ruined me financially but I am at peace. I have a fulfilling career and supportive family, thanks be to God. I also have my daughters who are amazing . I am breaking the generational curse of my family. God bless you Paula for your videos. So reassuring and helpful in my recovery from narcissistic abuse. ❤❤❤
At least you have some time now, without this nasty piece of work! I got away after 20 years. That was 17 years ago now. He left me nearly destitute, after claiming he had no wages, gave up his job and relied on his new rich girlfriend! But I'd rather be homeless, than with that pos. Good luck to you. Leaving my nasty, narc was the best thing I ever did.
I also liked a fellow. Later years. Same thing so so mean At first no. I got caught up how wonderful he was. When he was love bombing. I became addicted to his nice ways. His karma will come around also. It’s how I started to learn about narcissist. After I moved away. I sucked in every once in awhile. Hard to get out of it. That’s the awful part. They can’t Love.
I grew up in an abusive home. As a result, I became highly attuned to people around me. I can usually get a feel for people very quickly. When I have encountered Narcs it's like a blank feeling, as if I'm interacting with a cardboard cutout. I used to mistake that for strength. With others, I could tell almost instantly if they were lying to me, however I could never tell if a Narc was lying to me so i was inclined to believe them. Now when I get the cardboard cutout impression, I take it very seriously and distance myself immediately.
@einstein63 Thanks, it's hard to describe because I would never say someone has no soul. I don't really think that's the case. I think that perhaps the darkness they surround themselves with is almost like a cloaking shield. When someone tries to ping them, the darkness swallows it up. Although I really don't know. I hope they have a soul and can be saved.
That was exactly what my divorce attorney said, she said, "I can usually get a good read on people " and she couldn't with my soon X husband. Ya, thats the Very thing you just described
@ladyvirgo9514 I honestly very rarely come across people like that. It sounds like it was the same for your divorce attorney. I'm sorry that you were treated very poorly by your ex-husband. Unless someone has been targeted, manipulated, and abused by a Narc, they have no idea how painful it can be.
Yes, my husband ran at me and pushed me into the floor. Once I was down he kicked me. When he was done kicking me he grabbed my foot and started kicking my knee backwards. I have a broken tibial plateu. I wish I would have left sooner.
Ty Paula. 2 years out and strong. Diacarded 4 times. I own that because I kept letting him back in. At the end I knew he was going to leave again. But this time I told him my home was not a bed and breakfast. Get out! The damage that man caused is horrible. I keep my chin up and give myself extreme grace and self love.
I am 6 months out, and will never go back . They have Demonic spirits. They use humans. And have no conscious. They scan your personality and like the terminator will assess your weakness .
How does it end for the narcissist? My x husband blew up our marriage, his mistress ran away when he got bone cancer,none ,not even his own children would take care of him,nor his " friends ". Sad. He would have died alone if I hadn't helped him in the end. He did it ALL to himself. I don't think anyone should die alone. It's all between God & him now.
That is why these mistresses are called purses. And the wife or ex-wife are called nurses. Why? These mistresses are only in it until the well runs dry. When the narc is very ill and close to death, now they want to try and get humble and wonder what went wrong with the marriage. Make that make sense. 🤔
I see it as they are SOoo lacking in ANY self introspection; everything/ everyone around them is to serve THEM OR THEIR purpose. Total 100% USERS IN LIFE.
This speaks so well of you! Mine has had 2 pulmonary embolisms in 5 years. He has a source......I honestly would nit be sure I would be there for him at this point after all ge put me through.....even tho he will be facing Our Heavenly Father one day. He disgusts me.
I really wish that he didn’t have that final kindness from you. Though that just me projecting. He didn’t deserve you! You are a good person. I hope you now have peace and happiness in your life w/o him . 🙏
I don’t want any harm to come to him at all. Even though I finished up an emotional wreck I always thought that I could change him or what ever was wrong with him.
The thing is sometimes it's not always the narcissist who ends up alone. They leave you broke and broken. usually at the worst time for you. They also make sure you will never trust anyone again as long as you live.
No no no ! Don’t believe that lie !!! Ask God to send you healthy people . He will ! There’s a special place for us in Gods eyes after enduring such abuse .
I'll tell you how blinded and desperate I was when I met this person......when he told me he had set his mom's yard on fire with firecrackers, burnt his grandpa's shed down, two dui's, was molested by his brother, and HE was sent to live with his grandparents????? THAT RIGHT THERE.......hello, RED FLAGS????????🤦♀️ But what did I do??? Felt SORRY FOR HIM AND HE KNEW IT!! Three weeks on he "thinks he loves me?" Dear Jesus where was my head??? I'll tell you.....up my A$$!! Ha!! 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Please give yourself grace. You didn't know what you didn't know. Hindsight is 20/20. Yes you see it all now because what happened then and self reflection. You are stronger, wiser, have more discernment now having been through that. There's a lot of people that are either still in it and don't know or are in denial. Unlike them you now see the light
It wasn’t up your “a$$,” it was in your heart. I think we all heard fantastical stories of their victimhood and it registered sympathy instead of alarm. My children’s father (ex husband) sounds like a Conduct Disorder (pre-NPD diagnosis for teens) based on the stories of violence he told me about in middle and high school. I would never have dated him if I had met him back then, but he made me feel seen and heard. Now I know I have to start those things within myself. What a ride.
I was bpd and full blown narc and I was delivered by the grace of God. Literal demons came out of me and then strongholds have been being broke down over the course of years. God can change anyone. I have recently had dealing including a friendship of with someone who turned out to be narcissist and I’m just now understanding through this exactly what I put people through. It’s truly humbling.
Congratulations! G-d must want you here for a good reason. You escaped living death. I pray you will be blessed with understanding your mission and all the love that comes with that.
I have wondered about demons and their existance too. I believe in my religion they refer to them as "evil inclinations." "Do good and turn from evil." King David
Praise our God and Father for his love, our Lord Jesus Christ for making your rebirth into a new creation of God possible by his death and resurrection, and the Holy Spirit for his powerful work creating a new heart in you and pouring the love of God into that new heart (Romans5:5)!! May our God be praised for ever and ever and ever!! And it WILL be so!!!
You are exactly right. At 73, he's burned all his bridges, nobody wants him, his reputation has caught up with him. His alcoholism, dementia, and physical problems are catching up with him. I don't have any sympathy. He's getting paid back for his years of abusing people and animals. Nobody needs to seek revenge. It's happening right before our eyes. This narcissist has been so cruel that I honestly question if he's human. I see someone who is demon possessed. I've never been involved with him. He just trapped me so he could abuse me. I've taken all of him I'm willing to take and he knows I'm done. He should leave the planet before it's time but on one hand I think he's too arrogant and on the other hand I think he's too weak. I can't wait to get away. Thank you Paula!❤❤❤
@@Dale-ei4sm Yes pretty much. One thing animals don't do and that's talk baby talk. Drives me insane. Someone so cruel has no business acting like they're 4. Otherwise, I completely agree. He's devoid of anything civilized. Should not be allowed to participate in society.
@@Dale-ei4sm I replied to you and apparently YT didn't like it. Yes. I agree completely. I've never met someone so cruel and completely devoid of feelings. He will hurt my little dogs and laugh about it because it makes me furious. He doesn't have any access to them anymore. He just isn't human.
"The need for absolute control interferes with forward-planning of a narcissist." When Narcissists get old, they cannot stand losing control of their lives. But even in the Bible it says "Very truly I tell you, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go. (John 21:18)" The elderly narcissist FIGHTS this so hard. It's impossible to take care of them. My narcissistic mother cannot accept that she is developing dementia, and refuses to de-hoard and sell her four-bedroom house. She wants ME to take care of it. I do not have the funds to take care of MY FAMILY and her stupid house at the same time. And yet, she will not give anyone a POA to help her with her house. She cannot even pay her bills online. Yet she won't let anyone see her bills. She's seriously devolving into psychosis. It's amazing. And because she's lost the mask and ability to hide her deceptions, I've learned how she was financially manipulating me all my life. Every time my dad got sued, she would use me to hide money (ineffectually) and screw up my finances with bizarre investments that always failed. I finally divorced myself from her financially last year (2023) at 51 years old. It took me THAT long to figure her out. They keep fooling people and fooling people, until they get too old to hold the mask anymore. And by that time, I've got my own family to protect from her shenanigans, I'm not falling for it anymore. I can't even afford to fall for her manipulation anymore. She is on her own. And it's a sad end, because it was of her own making. A lifetime of bad choices have pushed away her only child. She doesn't even remember ANY of her grandchildren's birthdays anymore. Just the days her social security check arrives. It's creepy. Pathological narcissists are soulless. I know it's from her abuse and neglect in her infancy -- by her maternal grandmother who I think ended up committing suicide. The demon entered her then. And it stayed in her, despite ALL the chances people gave her to turn around. She CHOSE the demon of selfishness. And that demon's false promises of wealth and power. We all die in the end. And it's as the Bible says.... it's easier for a camel to go through an eye of a needle than for this "rich" woman to go to heaven. She will not change. And as she gets older, she only digs her heels in harder. She chose objects over people. Money is her God. And so money is all she will have left. Look at Jeffrey Epstein. Even money couldn't protect him in the end. The Devil will come for his due. Pray hard that these people stay away from you.
I’m so sorry you had a mother like that , I have a sister who’s a narc she just left her beautiful family including children to pursue her music career and every part of her abandoning them is blamed on her husband it’s his fault always .., I pray for her daily , I believe it’s a jezebel spirit in her demonically destroying her own life 🙏🙏🙏God bless u
Take this or leave it: Do yourself a favor when she does pass and don't bring ANY belonging of hers into to your home, no matter how sentimental, valuable, useful...You catch my drift. Even when they cross over, if they're really stubborn and nasty, they can still be operating from say, the Astral plane...the lower Astral plane, (not the higher levels of heaven, which is what we're striving for.) Any belonging of theirs, (especially if they are attached and protective of their belongings, which most are,) they can use a belonging down to a hair clip, a book or a picture, as a portal to infiltrate your home. Yep, like a haunting. This is a real thing. A second very unusual comment I will make is that if you are bedside while a narcissist is ill, unconscious, or in the process of dying...And you are open energetically through sympathy and compassion, then the narc's "bad energy," let's call it...(But what I really mean is their demons, which take up residence and come and go from the narc's body and consciousness.) These bad energies will be looking for a new host since the physical vehicle of the narcissist is going to be gone...It may sound cold but you may not want to offer yourself up to giving that crap a home. You would take them on. (This happened to me when my mother died, I'm not telling tales.) I hope that that makes some sense to you. Read "People of the Lie" by M. Scott Peck for more information.
My ex inherited £800k. He has sod all left. Cars, failed businesses, flashy hotels. It was endless. He never made anything work because he just expected it to work…just because. He a loser in life and can’t self reflect that this keeps happening. When he fails it is everyone else’s fault
When they discard you, Discard them too and no way back in for them. Focus on yourself and your children and the narc doesn't exist and even their children grow to hating them and seeing right through them and cutting them off from their lives. Infact the narc is their own worse enemies. They're miserable and sad for the rest of their lives
My ex-beloved-narc is just driven by hatred and bitterness, perversion and greed, everything is about competition, rivalry and revenge. He needs to destroy others and he seems to enjoy it. It's like he has to channel all his darkness and destructive energy to a scape goat, because otherwise, it eats him up. For me his presence and even just attention feels like a disturbing electro magnetic field that makes you feel bad instantly
They blow up all friendships and relationships, it’s actually sad, pathetic, I’m at the stage where I actually feel pity for them. Ty Paula everything you say is truth.
You are extraordinary. I have been listening to your podcasts over the last 7 months of the shittiest time in my life after the end of a 24 year marriage to a narc. I listen through the night to your wisdom to help calm me and make sense of the crazy my ex wife has created in our lives and I am deeply grateful for what you do. Each episode has so much accuracy, insight and depth of understanding that it’s like you can see inside my world. I am not overstating it when I say you are a life saver. Your honesty and authenticity are a shining beacon and you have let the light get in. Thank you.
Thank you for this video! I remember telling him that his disfigured face is perfect reflection of who he is on the inside. Its true. Nobody wants to stay with a monster. He will never find another woman like me.
I never heard tell of Narcs till I met my first one. I guess I never ran in their circle of friends. I guess I will never understand how they wake up each morning knowing they will play some game to hurt another human .
@@wendylou8963 13 years 🤣 don’t be naive NEXT TIME learn how to read and study people that’s why narcissist hate Empaths we STUDY ANYONE LIKE WERE GETTING A PHD OUT OF THEM u should learn would’ve saved u a decade 😆🤷♂️
Coverts tend to get physically ill over time. My covert/Malignant mother had multiple surgeries for illnesses. She was sick my whole life. At the end, she had no money, had no control over her body functions, was losing her hearing & sight. She was stuck on the second story of our house because she couldn't get up & down the stairs. She went about two months of not being able to eat solid food, then she went about three weeks of not being to eat anything. In her last two weeks she barely drink water. She died a horrible & painful death...alone! No one cared that my mother died. Glad you made this video. People need to know Narcissists don't always get away with their bad behaviors...it just takes time.
That is a sad story! It sounds like another narcissist has fallen victim to their own success. Thank you for sharing, and all the best with the healing. Stay strong!
I have survived several narcissists starting with my parents. AFTER 70 odd years of this abuse, I studied NPD. Knowledge is power and wisdom is freedom. Never, ever going back! My response to the last one is the most powerful of all and it is SILENCE . AMEN.
This is so insightful, the continual hunger, the magical thinking, the obsession to get their needs met, their inability to assess reality or accept reality as it is. Thank you.
FACT! “There is nothing behind the mask!” What is there… is the dead soul of that vessel a complete waste of human skin bound by chains trapped in a cage just a ghost of a shadow in a shell. The moment a person see’s those black eyes split face and smirk…that is not an illusion. That is the Devil with Caligula’s grin peering back at you. Good luck, on your next choice or word and action. It is a spiritual battle of the soul; armor up! Thank you 🙏 Paula
@@JH-td4mn if that experience does not wake you up…then you are dead too! That mask hides a many things but in the right conditions with the right light…it exposes everything. God has many names, but the Devil has many more. Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️
@@marylynch2510 yes! They slither in under disguise manipulating, deceptive, playing with your emotions. They do not want you, they want what you have and what you are, and what you’re capable of…learn to walk and balance upon the edge of the shadows in the grey. Protect and shield your light. The Cluster B Clowns are drawn to the light like a parasitic moth. Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️
My mother put a stranger who was a con artist living under a false identity above her own family. Disowned me and my sisters along with her grandkids. All for some stranger. Got herself involved in some strange illegal alien business and now has to leave everything (over 500k) to this con artist who isnt going to help her with anything. She's basically all alone now and losing her memory. Sad part is all she had to do over the years is reach out and apologize which of course shed never do. They all end up alone. My best friend for many years was also a narcissist who became a severe alcoholic and is now pushing everyone away. Saying the worst things to me and her kids. They end up alone in the end. Thats how they end up. They only get worse with age cause the mask becomes harder for them to hold up.
Thank you Paula. They are so destructive, that they ultimately destroy themselves. Knowing how they operate, helps avoid being trapped into their toxic web. Yes, being black and white in their thinking is a big clue. Always needing to be right and knowing everything. I believe that they are not human, they don't have a heart. We need to be aware, and go by your intuition what feels right. Love and blessings from Australia. Big hug to Remy. xxx🥰😇🥰
Paula, In my opinion, both people need to be in love before the partnership will work. When a NARC feels they are the perfect person, that partnership is in trouble from the start.. It can never work out. When a person is always looking for someone better, I do not think they know the true meaning of love. If your spouse hears the word cancer, and you start looking for someone better, you are not worth much as a human. They gave you a gift when they said goodbye.
I definitely know a narcissistic person. They wanted to control me, tell me what to do, they were addicted to alcohol, their three kids have nothing to do with them, and they are still trying to control and manipulate someone else now. I can see this person ending up totally alone.
They end up like they are every minute of every day in their miserable lives,nothing changes.They’re without any sense of remorse,empathy or a single thread of human decency.
I believe that this type of spiritual vampires and predators were prepared for these times in which we live now - times called the final times, where evil takes on various extreme forms. Those who believe in the victory of good must also know that the fight between good and evil has always been a fight to the death, which is why these fights are so painful and require tactics. TRUTH AND GOODNESS is the Lord Jesus who stands up for us when our hands are already weak...🙏. Thank you Paula for helping us to understand what narcissistic behavior is all about 💕
My Narc brother just passed away.. and nobody was there for him.. His daughter's can't stand him. He caused me so much pain when I was a child.. There was no funeral because nobody would come.. sad situation.
I don't feel sad. In the end, I will be indifferent if not for a passing thought of relief that they can never hurt anyone again, especially my son. The most exciting thing is justice they will now receive by God.
Paula you are correct in stating, " He messed with the wrong woman". Now he has a criminal charge. Addictions ruin people one way or another. I'm on my own now.. away from all the toxic people holding me back. Dad died 2 months ago, so one permenantly removed. Now I'll spend the rest of my days writing, sharing the truth, traveling, and meeting my fellow empaths to lift each other up! I met 2 empaths here at the beach today! There's still hope for us good people! Thank you Paula for bringing light to this subject! 🙏
God my father ,I need your hand for total deliverance from a narcissist to enjoy my life and family in Jesus mighty name.Amen God fix it ,God solve it for there is no impossibility in you .Amen
I’m grateful for the narcissism- now that I’m on the other side of it (and still going through it probably for the rest of my life) I’m stronger, more confident and trust myself more than ever before because of them. While I don’t wish it upon others I cherish myself in the lessons. ❤
I don't see the man(child😉) anymore, blocked him and don't call him an ex- boyfriend. It was an learning experience, nothing more know. I became so much stronger🙏❤
Thank you for mentioning that some narcs will remove themselves from this planet. I left my narc after 30 yrs of marriage and he threatened to leave the planet 4x and I thought it was all threats to get me to come back until the 5th time he actually went through with it. It's a very difficult situation that's hard to discuss due to social media blocks- so thanks again for at least mentioning it.
I studied my narcs life and Paula is right,nothing will ever end well with the narc,it shaming sometimes when i think about it even though my narc did all dirt on me with her family but i see no good end for them and my narc
Life is exciting, peaceful and expansive without the demon. If the narc decides to self check-out which he threatened to do so when we're together, it's none of my concern and I'm not heartless. The amount of harm they'll inflict on others would be much worse. The only regret I have is teaching the narc communication, social and even life skills when we're together. I wanted this poor hurt soul to be able to fend for himself but not knowing he'll use all of these skills to deceive future victims. Him checking out would be the best thing for society. May light flow into all of your truthful and honest lives.
Thanks Paula, nearly a year out of my entanglement with the narcissist , the more times passes, the more what a fractured broken person i see them to have been.
❤ justice for Mica Miller❤ Let's remember, not everyone who deletes themselves are narcissistic. They could be coersivly controlled by a narcissist and see no other way out.
84 yo. No savings. No will. No life insurance. Goes out and purchases brand new 40G car without telling anyone, but fully expecting to live to fulfill 6 years payment terms. You can’t make this stuff up. A lifetime of delusions.
My ex is definitely a narcissist. He is now homeless with his mistress. He risked our family and lost us. He has never apologized nor has he taken accountability for his actions. He’s homeless and needs a place to live. After giving him 3-4 chances to have a place. He asked me today. I can’t subject my family to him anymore. He’s always been a gambler and had addiction problems. I’m over it
You have perfectly describe the mental torture I endured for years. This maniac of an ex husband I was with wouldn’t let me go down to the Mail room because he was intensely jealous. He wouldn’t let me walk across the street to the grocery store. He wouldn’t let me work out. He told my family I was “ just unable to control !!! “ without providing context which is how he swooned them into believing and validating his behaviour. I went crazy thinking I was being unreasonable. Later when I asked to divorce he said he was trying to protect me and said anything could happen to me in the Mail room. He cried saying he saw his friends get raped and felt helpless that he couldn’t do anything .. literally what ? I couldn’t believe my ears especially knowing all of his control tactics were no where CLOSE to being enforced for protection. I was in awe when he used that as an excuse because in those moments he was calling me a whore a slut everything even though I wore sweats to the gym. My family believed him. I still can’t believe how mental this man is and how crazy he has made me. The physical and mental abuse has changed me forever. But I won’t let this ruin my life forever.
Career narcs are the most dangerous they leave a trail of broken people and family's They lie right untill they depart this mortal coil lets hope karma gets them first
im so unbothered. we had a family birthday dinner saturday and my covert narc mom was there. i sat at the other end of the table, left early, didnt speak and had a great time!
My ex narc did not leave a loving relationship. On the contrary. For 20 yrs I went grey rock, realizing that he wasnt going to change. The last decade of the relationship I denied him sex and safety, threatening to leave him out of sheer despair. When he finally left with new supply, I felt guilty for pushing him away, but now I see how it couldn't have ended any differently. While Im grieving the lost years, a quarter of a century in a shared fantasy at best, a fake relationship at worst, Im healing faster than id have, had I provided him a loving relationship till the end. It has cost me, nonetheless.
Oh my God, very clear explanation. My ex. always had a get rich quick idea. He is never wrong. Lies when it's not necessary, needs constant praise. His health is failing. His family has seperated from him.He costantly makes promises, to others he cant keep. He went on vacation instead of paying his proprty taxes. You are spot on. Will place this on repeat to remind me why I stay gone.
It's so illogical. They spend their whole life trying to control the false narrative about themselves through manipulation when the answer is there all along. We have the option as to the choices we choose to make, but no matter how choose ultimately God is in control.
And they get very nasty when they loose control over you. Because they don’t know what you will tell others about them. They will start controlling everyone around you, to save their reputation and their world built up on lies. They will tell everyone that you are a liar and crazy. So should you tell someone something about the narcissist, that they won’t believe you. This happened to me. I lost all family, friends and my reputation.
They are never happy so they are always looking for the next thing to make them happy, but it never happens for long, the happiness they may feel is fleeting.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
So sorry you are going through this, unfortunately the obsession after is very common due to a "trauma bond" common to the situation. See NarCon video on breaking this spell so to speak: really helpful..
I feel for your.im 3 months out of the same thing.Its gonna take time to heal,the first day is always the hardest. You're not alone,even if it feels like it. Stay strong,be strong.
The real tragedy is when the narcissist doesn’t leave. They can hang on for decades, wearing down the person who continues to put up with them until they are a shell of their former self. I’ve seen this.
@@wendylou8963 How can one forgive another for being sick, and acting out of that sickness? All one can do is pray they seek and receive heallth, but they don't, because they refuse to believe they are sick, az illness is abhorant to them, IRL. That's why so many abuse sick and elderly, or try to paint/smear "us" as sick. Pure projection and denial, unfortunately. But yeah, you have to forgive yourself, so you don't think you're just the sad sack sap they try to make you be. Don't get fooled/hoodwinked again! Live, learn, and be grateful for this deep knowledge o' ass't. species in the human zoo. ;);) TC
Thankyou. Also the new age think.. That i chose this lesson. This lesson almost took me out after 60 plus years of generations of abuse and betrayal by family. I have learned to say "Hell no!" And did. Deception is evil. I did not choose to experience deception. When I found I had married a cold hearted con.. I ran around 10 months. I'm free again.
Someone told me that I need to apologize to the narcissist and things will improve when I do. Apologize for what I wondered but realize the person handing out the advice has never really encountered a narcissist.
@@martyrose Yes, no one understands how cruel a narcissist is unless they've encountered one. A narcissist will use any means necessary to get their supply, and then when a victim refuses to be used anymore, they will somehow make it look like the victim is at fault. It's crazy-making. I hope you have good friends around you to support you during this time in which the narcissist and their flying monkeys (who may not even understand the darkness that you were dealing with!) are trying to hoover you back into the abuse. STAY FREE! Stay away. Stay with good people who understand what happened to you and can help protect you.
Paula, you communicate the nuance of perception and reality so beautifully. I find that sometimes your videos resonate so strongly with realizations I already made, and the benefit of that is the emotional and psychological reinforcement the video makes. Thank you for being so thoughtful and intelligent - your work is exceptional.
It’s very common for the narcissist to meet a worst narcissist or even a psychopath- AND the narcissist at that point lost narcissistic supply for good - this ruins that narcissist
Does this really happen cause I feel like even the ones with money and a career get more and more coming to them but yet still not happy but the ones who struggle all there life never really had much . We suffer more Correct me if iam wrong!
FINALLY! After 3 years a video that doesn’t just say ‘you need to forget and move on’. Like that’s new cleverly thought out information that we’d never thought of or tried to do!
This was really good. So many others say the nar is invincible. Glad to hear the truth. I’ve seen it. Eventually the narcissist’s reign will wear out. Thanks. Your delivery is clear, direct, and understanding.
Thank you Paula. I loved all the info this video was filled with. I left my narc husband almost 2 years ago because I caught him cheating. Now, I realize he probably always cheated. He stole lots of money over the years from me and his dad. He said there wasn’t anything wrong with taking our money. He lies! He is addicted to porn! He drinks and smokes weed now! He is angry all the time! How long can they go before they collapse or become sick? When I do see him, he looks worse every time. The path of destruction he created was huge! He had to leave the state to be excepted by people that have no idea who he really is. He continues to live a lie. He spends money on so much crap, he is constantly trying to buy happiness. He truly believes that whatever he buys next will give him so much happiness. It’s one high after the next. I am so grateful I saved myself!
@@Miss5852-lotta is all this the same for you? They are so evil! It scares me now to know just how evil yet he had me in such a state that I thought he was normal.
@@sharonshepherd3728 oh yes, my perception was so disturbed as well.. Like hypnotized. Most beautiful, wonderful person on the planet with a hidden heart of pure gold 🫣🥴
I think the hard part of losing someone you love in this type of situation is that it takes a while ( 4+ years for me so far ) to see how it all plays out. They may be “ happy” with the new supply for a long time. Mine left me for a very controlling female narcissist…. She decides everything. I bought him out of our home…. He lives under her roof…. And has to behave and toe her line so she doesn’t kick him out. He is getting his karma. Many of our mutual friends who see them together tell me they can’t stand his new gf…. She is aloof and disinterested in anything that isn’t someone or something she wants to do or be around. He’s her prisoner…. She is his warden. God is seeing to it that he gets his just desserts.
I've never heard the term "somatic narcissist", but wow does that make sense. The pycho in my life was so desperate that he was using a photo as a profile pic that was over a decade old. (A motorcycle accident on top of normal aging, and he's going downhill fast.) He has no car, no license, no money, and everything he owns (which isn't much) has been donated, inherited, stolen, or exploited from someone. I saw a recent photo of him...emaciated, bad teeth--I was stunned. He was a decent-looking guy, but not anymore. In the two and a half years since I left him in the corner he painted himself into, he's never attempted to hoover me, but two days ago, I got a short text asking if I wanted to be friends. I just chuckled to myself...our split was so incredibly acrimonious that if he's trying to get me back in his life, he has to be beyond desperate. Good.
Do you know if Murdaugh also cheated on his wife with other women? I heard he was just an extremely addicted drug addict who used financial schemes to get extra money for his out of control, self destructive drug addiction to pain killers.
I had a horrible boss named Elizabeth Murdaugh. She bullied and took advantage of people. Everyone had to be bullied into submission and became her flying monkeys. People had to buy her gifts or risk her wrath. She wasn't a boss, she was a tyrant. It was a very oppressive work environment. Peace, among other things was destroyed at that place. When I look at that name (Murdaugh), it sounds a lot like murder. Wonder if those two are related?
I am so glad I told her that she had broken me - she had - for a little bit. Then I got help, education, therapy and now I understand the real truth. She was so convincing when I was with her, heck she was a yogi!! Glad I figured it out and glad I was able to get away mostly scot free with some anxiety thinking it was me.
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My narc would shush me when I would laugh too loud - he hated when I expressed joy!!! I fled 2 months ago and freely laugh out loud now
I hear ya!!
Yeah I i noticed that the more you feel hopeless, devastated, the more releif they feel
When you show them you are satisfied, happy even though you are actually putting up with them , they will literally blame you for that positive state
What's done in the dark will ALWAYS be brought into the Light 💝
Amen
Luk12:1-7
Still waiting ….
Hallelujah 🙏🏻
A very Biblical perspective. 🎉
Narcissist Psychopaths have Criminal Behavior!
The maddening thing is they cannot even see what they are, but they are ALWAYS the victim once they’re held accountable.
They will do anything not to accountable
The Narc knows exactly what they are doing. They focus on the kill.
They are exactly an inner species predator no matter how that narc is dressed up to appear different. Premeditated thought process. Does a wild mountain lion know what it is doing when it hunts
I grew up in a narcissistic family cult. The narcissists in my family know exactly that they are lying, threatening, manipulating, stealing and abusing others mentally, physically and financially. But I don’t know if they realize the damage they cause. Or they just simply don’t care that they cause a lot of damage, pain and loss.
Precisely!
Repulsive
Forget about what the narcissist made it out with, just praise God that you made it out with your life and your sanity!
Right
Your god has nothing to do with this.
Yes BE SO Thankful To God THAT YOU DID!!
@@marytaylor9504 Stop telling people they are so weak they need fantasy. Praise them for their strength and fortitude.
I have had a difficult time, I miss the good times. I know it was an illusion. I am a smart, loving, spiritual person, also a professional. This is all text book in my situation. I wish everyone here the best. I am learning how to love myself again. It’s been a year. And I am relieved and have to dig deep within and realize so much. Thank you for sharing. I have been delving into as much as a can. I also have been to a domestic violence counselor, who is amazing, but it got bad and I was in denial. 7 years with him and it’s a cycle for sure. He even treats his friends and family as well as mine very poorly, verbal insults and more. I am glad I am out but the rejection hurts. I was prime meat for him, I was 2 years out of the end of my 18 year marriage.. who left me for another woman. Or women I should say. So I believe it’s a pattern of mine bc I tend to be the caretaker, my ex husband never treated me the way the “narcissist” did. Thank you again for this video. It’s all true
Satan is the biggest narcissist ever! Narcissism is a demon, deliverance is needed.
do you know of any who have been delivered?
Deliverance is willingness to change and admitting. It's rare with a narcissist.
Their demons don't want it. Narcissists claim they are fine
Narcissism is a personality disorder...not a choice, not a demonic possession. It is formed in early childhood due to a lack of healthy bonding with the primary caregiver. This changes and distorts the nueral pathways in the brain. It's NOT treatable or curable.
I understand where you're coming from, but it is a matter of science, and there is currently nothing that can be done to repair the damage to the nueral pathways. Deliverance, unfortunately, won't make a bit of difference.
True enough.
I went back to my ex narc after not seeing him for 13 years. He convinced me he was different. I spent one weekend with him and he was absolutely unhinged. Drugs, booze every hour of the day. Accusing me of being a lair, the problem all along and not worthy of him. Then he’d switch into telling me how much he loved me and wanted me. It gave me the closure I had needed all these years after thinking I had lost a huge love of my life. It was so gross to witness his state of affairs. He was actually worse than I thought anyone could be.
I am glad you received your closure and can move on with your life for good.
wow thank you for sharing, pray for his soul
Very gutsy going back , I grey rocked my ex narc and to me, he is dead. 26 yrs of psychological abuse was enough and now 6 yrs out I feel like a bird released from its cage. Freedom and peace is bliss
Same with me. Tried it again with my daughter’s father and I’m so glad that I did because this confirmed what I never knew.. I didn’t know he was a narcissist… now that I know. I’m doing no contact (he still can reach his daughter… she has her own phone. He can see her any time just text her and tell mom to drop you off if he would like)…. I’m staying away from him and his family. For almost 10 years this is what I’ve been going through with these crazy people…. Narcissism!
Lived in. Never knew what one was. Unbelievable that there are people out there like that! What a blessing that lesson was 🎉
I wouldn't want to spend one day in the shoes of a narcissist. What a sad and miserable life it must be. Thank you, Paula ❤
Absolutely Thank God for our Blessings,[ sometimes in disguise]
Correct
Living to screw people over what they don't realise they take that same negative energy with them when they die then have to try and sort themselves out again when reborn. I think they have many life cycles before they realise they have to get their shit together. Most of them don't and can't work. I wouldn't employ the scattered one I know.
Yes, mine lost a loving wife and 3 lovely children and a granddaughter. They are their own worst enemy aswell as their victims. Mine doesn't even care or realise, I don't think. I hope mine, rots in hell.
@@LaurieB-hk6tl are u kidding me no accountability they seem like their happy and always have alot of 3ex and they have alot of options explain to me how being a narcissist is a bad thing ? No disrespect fyi I’m generally curious
There is no narcissist that does not cheat guys, she's 100% right
Faithful as their options
Mine would have stretched the truth about cheating - because he didn't physically cheat. BUT he was looking for something better, flirting with women, trying to find someone shiny and new. That is cheating - like the commandment 'thou shalt not covet' your neighbour's wife. Emotional cheating.
Nope, my narcissistic father never cheated. He treated us (his family) like shit and enjoyed seeing us suffering, but he never cheated. He was too stupid to find another woman. My mother was even more stupid than him for having ended up with a "man" like that.
There are narcissists who do not cheat. Watch Dr Ramani's video on the self-righteous narcissist. She discusses this exact topic and explains it. I know for a fact that my narcissist husband has never cheated. He's done horrible mean cruel things to me but I know for a fact he's never cheated
@gloriadonahue7241 Can't stand "Dr." R
No one knows these type of people exist and they are so unworldly that there is no medication or treatment for a narcissist. They are able to deceive everyone even children of God. But this is a teaching lesson for us. Because adversity brings about humiliation. Believe me after God breaks you away from the narcissist you will pray and thank God for everything that he has blessed you with. The knowledge is the key. Thank you Paula
Your last statement..
God is like air.
Oh my what a keeper
Remember this a narcissist does not know what real love really is! Their own selfish agenda is to hurt you and use you! A narcissist or other narcissists think of you only as a Object or a thing to use for their own needs and wants blaming you for their own selfish behavior and actions towards you which is wrong and hurtful!
It is ashamed we didn't know they existed because we were taught for generations by the church not to see evil but good in people even when their deeds are evil. We never understood why these evil deeds existed. The pastors never wanted you to see evil because they was practicing evil. We would never suspect the man of God to be a narcissist.
True. God shows at every step who they are. Keep praying. Our lord used the narcissist to get me to him, I found Jesus through the narc and he created a story that he was the chosen one for my salvation and that I need to now financially support him for his ministry which is proselytising on Internet.
If we spend a little time with the devil we will search for heaven all the more.
They are the Victim or the Hero in Every Story they tell . Every.
Wow, a true gem of a saying 🙂 thank you for sharing
E-v-e-r-y story 😂not funny but funny
Omgoodness ..how true😢
Usually the victim of their last girlfriend also...yawn
@@nicky8210or boyfriend.
Guys, when you reach the pinnacle of indifference you wouldn't care where your narc is, what he does and how he'll end up. With each day he'll become smaller and smaller. It took me more than 2 years and a lot of education thanks to channels like this one. Thank you Paula. Good luck to all, and let's transform all the negative energy into positive.
It took me 3 years to educate myself and finally escape his prison he created.
Amen! Congratulations!
Agree 100%! I've been out of the "situationship" with the narc for almost 5 yrs. It's been a long road, but I'm at the point now that I no longer care where he is, who he's with (this week), or what he's doing! 13 yrs of my life wasted on him but many lessons learned too!
You couldn't have said it better! I experienced a malignant narcissist many years ago and find it still has a damaging effect on me. Through education and hard work I believe I have developed an immunity towards these people. It's so important that we realize it's not our problem but theirs but never give them access to our inner self. I've heard it said that with some hard work, we can become much bigger while they become much smaller. Wise words indeed. Good luck and much happiness.
It took me 30+ years to get out of the narcissist and his family
They lack the ability to love, which is what makes life joyful and satisfying.
Exactly, I'd feel sorry for mine, if I didn't hate him as much as I do! He has no love in his life, he lost it all! Its weird because they want admiration, but in doing their control thing, they end up with no control and certainly no admiration! So they always 'hang themselves '!
That's right. They can't love others and they can't even love themselves. It's a really sad existence.
I look at photos of my X husband ,
He looks empty in his soul , has visited his daughter in AUS once in 3 yrs..
Living the life .
Lights are on no one is at home.
They were once human before being bitten by a vampire caregiver.
My mother’s biggest fear was ending up in a crappy old folks home but she engineered it. Spent money badly, treated her kids and grands badly, and isn’t welcome at her favorite restaurant.
Absolutely did this to herself.
You reap what you sow.
My mom was brutal to us kids. She had a few favorites. A few of my brothers ended up in prison. Some killed small animals, I learned later. They are hard men, most of them. I was SO mad at my mom for years. Hurt. But, she couldn’t Love me. Acceptance. She got ALS IN 2008, and I was told I could go see her, which we did. It was a very loving day. I forgave her. We ALL live out our mentality. Now that she’s gone, I got into therapy again and worked to be the kind of person I/ME wants to be! It has faded, the hurt. I know what you mean, it all plays out. ❤️
Share the restaurant story!
My mom two years before she passed went to the only mexican restaurant in her town with friends. She'd gone there for 30 years, the owners son came over and she said why don't you just go back to mexico? He said, ==== I've known you for 20 years since I was a kid and I was born here. She was a handful to the very end.
@@jeffvw1994wow
CAN YOU IMAGINE??? My narc had all of my three children around him for Father's Day. He's sick with cancer -so the children have been with him to help out - so I had no children with me for Mother's Day but I understood that it's a difficult time for them. What did he do - the ungrateful sod??? He left them for the day to meet up with a woman. They put aside all plans to be with him for the day and he went out for the shiny object. Narcissists are never satisfied even when they have it all right in front of them.
I completely understand!! My ex husband left me & took my only child- daughter- who we were always very close at age 10!! I was/ am very strong Christian but knew nithing about narc personality- just always a living kind honest girl & nurse!! He lied to attorneys, judges etc... about me & I only got limited visits!! I got no holidays!!- Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc...
@@barbaradecker4358 My narc won't be on earth much longer - I will get the kids, unless he tries to control me from the grave!! My kids are pretty much wise to him, only putting up with him at this point.
I would expect no less. The less time they spend with him all the better. My son has become a narcissist. Extremely abusive.
@@catherinewindsor1654 So is one of my sons - he did something wrong, a minor thing really (ripped the door handle off my car during a temper tantrum) but could not take responsibility for it. Ranted at everyone, including me. Looked like a complete idiot. Still can't apologize or deal with it. I don't respond but it's hard to watch.
@wendynash2587 Watch! No way. If police don't take him , kick em out! Still wants to have temper tantrum get 5 yr restraining order. Can get renewed. Paralegal can assist. WAKE UP! HES DANGEROUS.
Karma is very real, it comes in ways most unexpected.
Yep, he lost his job, had to sell his home, married a wealthy old supply his friends hate, so they cut ties with him because of her...and he has health problems. Karma gets them for sure! Sometimes it takes awhile but its gets them.
@@annmaddock4569My ex covert narc (I left him after 10 years of toxic relationship) for about 10 years ago - he died alone in is home last year in miltiple illness of his alcohol addition, only 55 years old.
So. Karma never miss an adress ...
@@annmaddock4569 yes and yes 🙌
I respectfully disagree about Karma. My mothers, ex wife, grandmother were all high level Narcopaths. My trauma went on for about 40 years. Nothing bad happened to any of them over the years. I wish they had, nut no
Hibbertsh.oh I hope so...almost 10yrs..never ill,never has accidents nothing,
I believe in karma....its just taking so long for the creature I know...
Normal people and especially those with a healthy spiritual life are very resilient. When they go through difficult times they learn and grow as people. Everything that Narcs learn is superficial and shallow. As they get older the immaturity and delusional mindset becomes more and more obvious. It's the creepy older man or woman at a bar trying to seduce someone much younger. They are in complete denial that the things they value the most are fleeting. Looks, money and influence will fade. The love that you have shown to family, friends and pets is a legacy that holds true value. I feel sorry for them, I can leave the abusive relationship and God will help me heal, they are trapped in a Hell of their own making. 🙏
Excellent comment. I completely agree.
@@transitionsnc Thank you
Perfectly said!!!
Nice comment
@@barbaradecker4358 Thanks
They will throw you away in an instant
I (being an empath) fell right into the trap of marrying a narcissistic woman. It was 26 years of chaos, drama, and insanity. We were financially well off at the beginning, but her crazy schemes led to financial ruin. She had multiple extramarital affairs during our marriage, followed by multiple live-in boyfriends after our divorce (7 years ago). My life is so much happier and peaceful now that I have gotten away from the situation. Paula, every word you spoke is exactly what I have experienced as a decent man married to a narcissist. Thank you. - Mike (from South Dakota in the United States).
Thank you for your story Mike!
Also for letting people be aware this is not a gender specified attack.
I can relate , because my story is similar but with the male persuasion.
I’m an empath and married a narcissist 8 years ago. Took me a while to figure out making excuses for him. Now awaiting divorce after he lied, cheated and stole from me. Jog on with your side chicks. I am walking to freedom filled with happiness, love and laughter. 😊
Same story here Mike. 23 years worth. I feel your pain man!
Keep living your best life, Mike!
Oh, I'm so happy for you , that you get away from this relationship.
I know exactly your feelings. I was 5 long years with narcissistic person. But I'm so happy now ..... 🎉 3 years is over myself own happy life . Stay saved and I send you greetings and blessings to your way from Florida.
Greetings to all readers, please stay saved.
My husband is a narcissist. From the beginning of our marriage he literally referred to me as his retirement plan to my friends and relatives. So humiliating and embarrassing. He said he was just kidding. Actually not. We are going through a divorce after 28 years of marriage. I left him. He absolutely did everything you described. All of it. And he’s fighting for my retirement plan. He is very sick and alone and totally dependent on his brother who is not in great health either. I still have compassion for him as I would anyone in his pathetic and pitiful situation, but I am strong in my faith that God is removing him from my life. You are spot on about the magical thinking and sense of entitlement. He has pretty much ruined me financially but I am at peace. I have a fulfilling career and supportive family, thanks be to God. I also have my daughters who are amazing . I am breaking the generational curse of my family. God bless you Paula for your videos. So reassuring and helpful in my recovery from narcissistic abuse. ❤❤❤
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Sounds like you did break the curse.. now it's all on him and what he needs to do ..
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At least you have some time now, without this nasty piece of work! I got away after 20 years. That was 17 years ago now. He left me nearly destitute, after claiming he had no wages, gave up his job and relied on his new rich girlfriend! But I'd rather be homeless, than with that pos. Good luck to you. Leaving my nasty, narc was the best thing I ever did.
@@rowannestripe2964you're one strong individual ❤
Their lives are truly pitiable.
Not always,everything in his life goes well…he is extremely heathy at 78,no blood pressure or cholesterol or anything..people love him,etc,etc
@@rosinastrippoli7768Mentally ill though does matter. Healthy physically but mindset is unhealthy ❤
He is mentally ill ,your so right@@ClaraBrown-o2o
Oh yes.....God says Vengeance is Mine, I will repay. God is not a man that He should lie and His word cannot return to Him void❤❤
Thank you, Heather, I need to be reminded of this constantly.
@@bobtaylor170 me too😌
I also liked a fellow. Later years. Same thing so so mean At first no. I got caught up how wonderful he was. When he was love bombing.
I became addicted to his nice ways. His karma will come
around also. It’s how I started to learn about narcissist. After I moved away. I sucked in every once in awhile. Hard to get out of it. That’s the awful part.
They can’t Love.
AMEN 🙏, I am patiently waiting...
AMEN 🙏🙌
I grew up in an abusive home. As a result, I became highly attuned to people around me. I can usually get a feel for people very quickly. When I have encountered Narcs it's like a blank feeling, as if I'm interacting with a cardboard cutout. I used to mistake that for strength. With others, I could tell almost instantly if they were lying to me, however I could never tell if a Narc was lying to me so i was inclined to believe them. Now when I get the cardboard cutout impression, I take it very seriously and distance myself immediately.
Same!!!
Love the 'cardboard cutout' analogy.
@einstein63 Thanks, it's hard to describe because I would never say someone has no soul. I don't really think that's the case. I think that perhaps the darkness they surround themselves with is almost like a cloaking shield. When someone tries to ping them, the darkness swallows it up. Although I really don't know. I hope they have a soul and can be saved.
That was exactly what my divorce attorney said, she said, "I can usually get a good read on people " and she couldn't with my soon X husband. Ya, thats the Very thing you just described
@ladyvirgo9514 I honestly very rarely come across people like that. It sounds like it was the same for your divorce attorney. I'm sorry that you were treated very poorly by your ex-husband. Unless someone has been targeted, manipulated, and abused by a Narc, they have no idea how painful it can be.
A narcissist, as you are laying on the ground, bleeding will step on you. And, go their way.
...and feel completely justified in doing so.
@Jen.K Nay, THEY are the victim: why you're lying there...
Yes, my husband ran at me and pushed me into the floor. Once I was down he kicked me. When he was done kicking me he grabbed my foot and started kicking my knee backwards. I have a broken tibial plateu. I wish I would have left sooner.
@@Angela-u1l I'm sorry...
Gospel: Acts 2:38 Acts 22:16 Mark 16:16
Revelation 1:5 Hebrews 9:17*
1 Corinthians 11 (veil)
@@memoryrinehart thank you
My heart goes to those who have been injured by a vampire. I pray 🙏 for recovery. A frightening thought of how it ends for the soulless. 😵💫⚡
Heartless. Everyone has a soul. This is what meets God(Spirit to spirit), at their death.
I like your living room interior. It's beautiful and looks comfortable. Great colors and textures.
Thank you so much!
Yup a sweet and cozy room. I think she is Britsh, so cool.
she's Irish
Ty Paula. 2 years out and strong. Diacarded 4 times. I own that because I kept letting him back in. At the end I knew he was going to leave again. But this time I told him my home was not a bed and breakfast. Get out! The damage that man caused is horrible. I keep my chin up and give myself extreme grace and self love.
I am 6 months out, and will never go back . They have Demonic spirits. They use humans. And have no conscious. They scan your personality and like the terminator will assess your weakness .
How does it end for the narcissist? My x husband blew up our marriage, his mistress ran away when he got bone cancer,none ,not even his own children would take care of him,nor his " friends ". Sad. He would have died alone if I hadn't helped him in the end. He did it ALL to himself. I don't think anyone should die alone. It's all between God & him now.
That is why these mistresses are called purses. And the wife or ex-wife are called nurses. Why? These mistresses are only in it until the well runs dry. When the narc is very ill and close to death, now they want to try and get humble and wonder what went wrong with the marriage. Make that make sense. 🤔
I see it as they are SOoo lacking in ANY self introspection; everything/ everyone around them is to serve THEM OR THEIR purpose. Total 100% USERS IN LIFE.
This speaks so well of you! Mine has had 2 pulmonary embolisms in 5 years. He has a source......I honestly would nit be sure I would be there for him at this point after all ge put me through.....even tho he will be facing Our Heavenly Father one day. He disgusts me.
I really wish that he didn’t have that final kindness from you. Though that just me projecting. He didn’t deserve you! You are a good person. I hope you now have peace and happiness in your life w/o him . 🙏
I always tell myself. I wont be there but I dont know how true ill hold to that
To me not wanting harm to come to them is enough. That is enough forgiveness.
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I hope some harm comes to mine.
Give him a wake-up call, you know?
I don’t want any harm to come to him at all. Even though I finished up an emotional wreck I always thought that I could change him or what ever was wrong with him.
The thing is sometimes it's not always the narcissist who ends up alone. They leave you broke and broken. usually at the worst time for you. They also make sure you will never trust anyone again as long as you live.
That’s a belief you can change 🌹
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I really wish I could believe that. I struggle daily with trust issues though I'm healed in many other ways @@gabrielagaytan6575
No no no ! Don’t believe that lie !!! Ask God to send you healthy people . He will ! There’s a special place for us in Gods eyes after enduring such abuse .
@@kristenrenken4931 Why would you call it a lie? A person can be wrong it doesn't make them a liar..?
I'll tell you how blinded and desperate I was when I met this person......when he told me he had set his mom's yard on fire with firecrackers, burnt his grandpa's shed down, two dui's, was molested by his brother, and HE was sent to live with his grandparents????? THAT RIGHT THERE.......hello, RED FLAGS????????🤦♀️
But what did I do??? Felt SORRY FOR HIM AND HE KNEW IT!! Three weeks on he "thinks he loves me?" Dear Jesus where was my head??? I'll tell you.....up my A$$!! Ha!! 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Please give yourself grace. You didn't know what you didn't know. Hindsight is 20/20. Yes you see it all now because what happened then and self reflection. You are stronger, wiser, have more discernment now having been through that. There's a lot of people that are either still in it and don't know or are in denial. Unlike them you now see the light
Sounds more psychopathic to me… fire setters are always a major red flag in the world of mental health 😳
Mine would cuss me out in ways I have never been spoken to in my 70yrs.
And in the next breath say "I love you"...
Laughable.
Pathetic
repulsive.
We live and we learn. I just didn’t know that such characters existed.
It wasn’t up your “a$$,” it was in your heart. I think we all heard fantastical stories of their victimhood and it registered sympathy instead of alarm. My children’s father (ex husband) sounds like a Conduct Disorder (pre-NPD diagnosis for teens) based on the stories of violence he told me about in middle and high school. I would never have dated him if I had met him back then, but he made me feel seen and heard.
Now I know I have to start those things within myself.
What a ride.
The misery they project onto their partners is utterly horrendous, hey thanks for another good informative video 😊
I was bpd and full blown narc and I was delivered by the grace of God. Literal demons came out of me and then strongholds have been being broke down over the course of years. God can change anyone. I have recently had dealing including a friendship of with someone who turned out to be narcissist and I’m just now understanding through this exactly what I put people through. It’s truly humbling.
The splitting is psychological and spiritual. Extreme prayer and repentance are needed, and Jesus Christ.
Congratulations! G-d must want you here for a good reason. You escaped living death. I pray you will be blessed with understanding your mission and all the love that comes with that.
I have wondered about demons and their existance too. I believe in my religion they refer to them as "evil inclinations." "Do good and turn from evil." King David
Praise our God and Father for his love, our Lord Jesus Christ for making your rebirth into a new creation of God possible by his death and resurrection, and the Holy Spirit for his powerful work creating a new heart in you and pouring the love of God into that new heart (Romans5:5)!! May our God be praised for ever and ever and ever!!
And it WILL be so!!!
Don't believe this individual. They don't change
You are exactly right. At 73, he's burned all his bridges, nobody wants him, his reputation has caught up with him. His alcoholism, dementia, and physical problems are catching up with him. I don't have any sympathy. He's getting paid back for his years of abusing people and animals. Nobody needs to seek revenge. It's happening right before our eyes. This narcissist has been so cruel that I honestly question if he's human. I see someone who is demon possessed. I've never been involved with him. He just trapped me so he could abuse me. I've taken all of him I'm willing to take and he knows I'm done. He should leave the planet before it's time but on one hand I think he's too arrogant and on the other hand I think he's too weak. I can't wait to get away. Thank you Paula!❤❤❤
They are not human he actually acts like a animal
@@Dale-ei4sm Yes pretty much. One thing animals don't do and that's talk baby talk. Drives me insane. Someone so cruel has no business acting like they're 4.
Otherwise, I completely agree. He's devoid of anything civilized. Should not be allowed to participate in society.
@@Dale-ei4sm I replied to you and apparently YT didn't like it. Yes. I agree completely. I've never met someone so cruel and completely devoid of feelings. He will hurt my little dogs and laugh about it because it makes me furious. He doesn't have any access to them anymore. He just isn't human.
This is just entree, listen to the latest video on Touching the Afterlife for what’s waiting for him.. 😱 for eternity
@@martyrosehappens to me all the time it’s infuriating 😤
"The need for absolute control interferes with forward-planning of a narcissist." When Narcissists get old, they cannot stand losing control of their lives. But even in the Bible it says "Very truly I tell you, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go. (John 21:18)" The elderly narcissist FIGHTS this so hard. It's impossible to take care of them. My narcissistic mother cannot accept that she is developing dementia, and refuses to de-hoard and sell her four-bedroom house. She wants ME to take care of it. I do not have the funds to take care of MY FAMILY and her stupid house at the same time. And yet, she will not give anyone a POA to help her with her house. She cannot even pay her bills online. Yet she won't let anyone see her bills. She's seriously devolving into psychosis. It's amazing. And because she's lost the mask and ability to hide her deceptions, I've learned how she was financially manipulating me all my life. Every time my dad got sued, she would use me to hide money (ineffectually) and screw up my finances with bizarre investments that always failed. I finally divorced myself from her financially last year (2023) at 51 years old. It took me THAT long to figure her out. They keep fooling people and fooling people, until they get too old to hold the mask anymore. And by that time, I've got my own family to protect from her shenanigans, I'm not falling for it anymore. I can't even afford to fall for her manipulation anymore. She is on her own. And it's a sad end, because it was of her own making. A lifetime of bad choices have pushed away her only child. She doesn't even remember ANY of her grandchildren's birthdays anymore. Just the days her social security check arrives. It's creepy. Pathological narcissists are soulless. I know it's from her abuse and neglect in her infancy -- by her maternal grandmother who I think ended up committing suicide. The demon entered her then. And it stayed in her, despite ALL the chances people gave her to turn around. She CHOSE the demon of selfishness. And that demon's false promises of wealth and power. We all die in the end. And it's as the Bible says.... it's easier for a camel to go through an eye of a needle than for this "rich" woman to go to heaven. She will not change. And as she gets older, she only digs her heels in harder. She chose objects over people. Money is her God. And so money is all she will have left. Look at Jeffrey Epstein. Even money couldn't protect him in the end. The Devil will come for his due. Pray hard that these people stay away from you.
Thank you for sharing
I’m so sorry you had a mother like that , I have a sister who’s a narc she just left her beautiful family including children to pursue her music career and every part of her abandoning them is blamed on her husband it’s his fault always .., I pray for her daily , I believe it’s a jezebel spirit in her demonically destroying her own life 🙏🙏🙏God bless u
Take this or leave it: Do yourself a favor when she does pass and don't bring ANY belonging of hers into to your home, no matter how sentimental, valuable, useful...You catch my drift. Even when they cross over, if they're really stubborn and nasty, they can still be operating from say, the Astral plane...the lower Astral plane, (not the higher levels of heaven, which is what we're striving for.) Any belonging of theirs, (especially if they are attached and protective of their belongings, which most are,) they can use a belonging down to a hair clip, a book or a picture, as a portal to infiltrate your home. Yep, like a haunting. This is a real thing. A second very unusual comment I will make is that if you are bedside while a narcissist is ill, unconscious, or in the process of dying...And you are open energetically through sympathy and compassion, then the narc's "bad energy," let's call it...(But what I really mean is their demons, which take up residence and come and go from the narc's body and consciousness.) These bad energies will be looking for a new host since the physical vehicle of the narcissist is going to be gone...It may sound cold but you may not want to offer yourself up to giving that crap a home. You would take them on. (This happened to me when my mother died, I'm not telling tales.) I hope that that makes some sense to you. Read "People of the Lie" by M. Scott Peck for more information.
My ex inherited £800k. He has sod all left. Cars, failed businesses, flashy hotels. It was endless. He never made anything work because he just expected it to work…just because. He a loser in life and can’t self reflect that this keeps happening. When he fails it is everyone else’s fault
When they discard you, Discard them too and no way back in for them. Focus on yourself and your children and the narc doesn't exist and even their children grow to hating them and seeing right through them and cutting them off from their lives. Infact the narc is their own worse enemies. They're miserable and sad for the rest of their lives
My ex-beloved-narc is just driven by hatred and bitterness, perversion and greed, everything is about competition, rivalry and revenge. He needs to destroy others and he seems to enjoy it. It's like he has to channel all his darkness and destructive energy to a scape goat, because otherwise, it eats him up. For me his presence and even just attention feels like a disturbing electro magnetic field that makes you feel bad instantly
Madness ... exactly. It seems like a syphilis infection of the brain where all empathy disappears.
U could be in to something with that idea!
@@w8what575I suggested that to the pcp. Does seem like that.
Exactly
This woman is very knowledgeable and is a superb communicator. What a find
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They blow up all friendships and relationships, it’s actually sad, pathetic, I’m at the stage where I actually feel pity for them. Ty Paula everything you say is truth.
You should know what I went thru
You are extraordinary. I have been listening to your podcasts over the last 7 months of the shittiest time in my life after the end of a 24 year marriage to a narc. I listen through the night to your wisdom to help calm me and make sense of the crazy my ex wife has created in our lives and I am deeply grateful for what you do. Each episode has so much accuracy, insight and depth of understanding that it’s like you can see inside my world. I am not overstating it when I say you are a life saver. Your honesty and authenticity are a shining beacon and you have let the light get in. Thank you.
The light back in is everything sending you strength Rachel thanks for your message 🌹
So am I Paula. You’re a treasure and I would still be lost and traumatized out of my mind without you.
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Thank you for this video! I remember telling him that his disfigured face is perfect reflection of who he is on the inside. Its true. Nobody wants to stay with a monster. He will never find another woman like me.
He sleeps with his mouth open wide he done told so many lies and he looks just like the scream mask he will look ugly in his casket I'm so serious
Oh yah they became a 3 old child in a decrepit, ugly, gross body. They faces show the Hugly , disgusting inner
Amen 😂
They, as a group, are so predictable….yet, so many are hoodwinked by them. 🤷🏼♀️. It’s baffling.
Yeah they do the same thing it’s easy to spot them
I am a well educated woman who was under the control for 13 years. They are very good at what they do but will be alone in the end and unhappy.
I never heard tell of Narcs till I met my first one. I guess I never ran in their circle of friends. I guess I will never understand how they wake up each morning knowing they will play some game to hurt another human .
@@wendylou8963 13 years 🤣 don’t be naive NEXT TIME learn how to read and study people that’s why narcissist hate Empaths we STUDY ANYONE LIKE WERE GETTING A PHD OUT OF THEM u should learn would’ve saved u a decade 😆🤷♂️
@chellotrevino7323 quite unsupportive of you. This community is kinder so maybe move along to find one more suited to you
None of the Narcissists I have known, ex, family members…. none like to work. None could keep a job.
Hah! I witnessed this dealing with a narc, they cannot keep a job !
Coverts tend to get physically ill over time.
My covert/Malignant mother had multiple surgeries for illnesses. She was sick my whole life. At the end, she had no money, had no control over her body functions, was losing her hearing & sight. She was stuck on the second story of our house because she couldn't get up & down the stairs. She went about two months of not being able to eat solid food, then she went about three weeks of not being to eat anything. In her last two weeks she barely drink water. She died a horrible & painful death...alone! No one cared that my mother died.
Glad you made this video. People need to know Narcissists don't always get away with their bad behaviors...it just takes time.
That is a sad story!
It sounds like another narcissist has fallen victim to their own success.
Thank you for sharing, and all the best with the healing.
Stay strong!
I have survived several narcissists starting with my parents. AFTER 70 odd years of this abuse, I studied NPD. Knowledge is power and wisdom is freedom. Never, ever going back! My response to the last one is the most powerful of all and it is SILENCE . AMEN.
Absolutely brilliant explanation about how narcisists behave and go about their lives. Very informative. Thankyou.
You are so welcome
This is so insightful, the continual hunger, the magical thinking, the obsession to get their needs met, their inability to assess reality or accept reality as it is. Thank you.
FACT!
“There is nothing behind the mask!”
What is there… is the dead soul of that vessel a complete waste of human skin bound by chains trapped in a cage just a ghost of a shadow in a shell.
The moment a person see’s those black eyes split face and smirk…that is not an illusion. That is the Devil with Caligula’s grin peering back at you.
Good luck, on your next choice or word and action. It is a spiritual battle of the soul; armor up!
Thank you 🙏 Paula
Spot on! TY&TC
Your spot on about the black eyes,frightened the life out of me,this I seen on the day he knew the game was up,I seen pure evil
That unfortunately, is a very accurate description of what is under the mask. I still can't wrap my head around it. It's chilling beyond words.
@@JH-td4mn if that experience does not wake you up…then you are dead too! That mask hides a many things but in the right conditions with the right light…it exposes everything.
God has many names, but the Devil has many more. Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️
@@marylynch2510 yes! They slither in under disguise manipulating, deceptive, playing with your emotions. They do not want you, they want what you have and what you are, and what you’re capable of…learn to walk and balance upon the edge of the shadows in the grey. Protect and shield your light. The Cluster B Clowns are drawn to the light like a parasitic moth.
Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️
My mother put a stranger who was a con artist living under a false identity above her own family. Disowned me and my sisters along with her grandkids. All for some stranger. Got herself involved in some strange illegal alien business and now has to leave everything (over 500k) to this con artist who isnt going to help her with anything. She's basically all alone now and losing her memory. Sad part is all she had to do over the years is reach out and apologize which of course shed never do. They all end up alone. My best friend for many years was also a narcissist who became a severe alcoholic and is now pushing everyone away. Saying the worst things to me and her kids. They end up alone in the end. Thats how they end up. They only get worse with age cause the mask becomes harder for them to hold up.
Thank you Paula. They are so destructive, that they ultimately destroy themselves. Knowing how they operate, helps avoid being trapped into their toxic web. Yes, being black and white in their thinking is a big clue. Always needing to be right and knowing everything. I believe that they are not human, they don't have a heart. We need to be aware, and go by your intuition what feels right. Love and blessings from Australia. Big hug to Remy. xxx🥰😇🥰
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Paula, In my opinion, both people need to be in love before the partnership will work. When a NARC feels they are the perfect person, that partnership is in trouble from the start.. It can never work out. When a person is always looking for someone better, I do not think they know the true meaning of love. If your spouse hears the word cancer, and you start looking for someone better, you are not worth much as a human. They gave you a gift when they said goodbye.
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I don’t think so this is different
I feel that in order to love someone you have to love yourself. They don't love themselves. They hate themselves and everyone else.
I definitely know a narcissistic person. They wanted to control me, tell me what to do, they were addicted to alcohol, their three kids have nothing to do with them, and they are still trying to control and manipulate someone else now. I can see this person ending up totally alone.
Oh my, these people live among us. I’ve heard the percentage is 10/1. Blessings to you and your family. 🌱🩵
Many have substance addictions as well as other addictions
They end up like they are every minute of every day in their miserable lives,nothing changes.They’re without any sense of remorse,empathy or a single thread of human decency.
I believe that this type of spiritual vampires and predators were prepared for these times in which we live now - times called the final times,
where evil takes on various extreme forms.
Those who believe in the victory of good must also know that the fight between good and evil has always been a fight to the death, which is why these fights are so painful and require tactics.
TRUTH AND GOODNESS is the Lord Jesus who stands up for us when our hands are already weak...🙏.
Thank you Paula for helping us to understand what narcissistic behavior is all about 💕
Amen
My Narc brother just passed away.. and nobody was there for him.. His daughter's can't stand him. He caused me so much pain when I was a child.. There was no funeral because nobody would come.. sad situation.
Yes, my ex narc's daughter only uses him for expensive presents and early airport pickups😂😂
They reap what they've sowed!!!
So sad.
I don't feel sad. In the end, I will be indifferent if not for a passing thought of relief that they can never hurt anyone again, especially my son. The most exciting thing is justice they will now receive by God.
Rarely,from my experience ☹️
Paula you are correct in stating, " He messed with the wrong woman". Now he has a criminal charge. Addictions ruin people one way or another. I'm on my own now.. away from all the toxic people holding me back. Dad died 2 months ago, so one permenantly removed. Now I'll spend the rest of my days writing, sharing the truth, traveling, and meeting my fellow empaths to lift each other up! I met 2 empaths here at the beach today! There's still hope for us good people! Thank you Paula for bringing light to this subject! 🙏
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God my father ,I need your hand for total deliverance from a narcissist to enjoy my life and family in Jesus mighty name.Amen
God fix it ,God solve it for there is no impossibility in you .Amen
Pls teach the young to know about these evil people. Don't waste your life. I did...50 yrs ... 6 yrs free finally!
Yes but, isn’t it wonderful.
Good for you! Thank God!
I’m grateful for the narcissism- now that I’m on the other side of it (and still going through it probably for the rest of my life) I’m stronger, more confident and trust myself more than ever before because of them. While I don’t wish it upon others I cherish myself in the lessons. ❤
You go girl ,it’s not easy but be true to yourself
I recognize almost everything. It took me great strength to get over my feelings.
Often they end up like my creepy father, no friends, miserable, delusional and in shame.
This video was heartbreaking because it’s very true.
Excessive risk taking. That resonates so much with me. She left me totally ruined and with cancer.
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I don't see the man(child😉) anymore, blocked him and don't call him an ex- boyfriend. It was an learning experience, nothing more know. I became so much stronger🙏❤
I don’t call mine an x either …
Thank you for mentioning that some narcs will remove themselves from this planet. I left my narc after 30 yrs of marriage and he threatened to leave the planet 4x and I thought it was all threats to get me to come back until the 5th time he actually went through with it. It's a very difficult situation that's hard to discuss due to social media blocks- so thanks again for at least mentioning it.
I studied my narcs life and Paula is right,nothing will ever end well with the narc,it shaming sometimes when i think about it even though my narc did all dirt on me with her family but i see no good end for them and my narc
Life is exciting, peaceful and expansive without the demon.
If the narc decides to self check-out which he threatened to do so when we're together, it's none of my concern and I'm not heartless. The amount of harm they'll inflict on others would be much worse.
The only regret I have is teaching the narc communication, social and even life skills when we're together. I wanted this poor hurt soul to be able to fend for himself but not knowing he'll use all of these skills to deceive future victims. Him checking out would be the best thing for society.
May light flow into all of your truthful and honest lives.
I relate
Thanks Paula, nearly a year out of my entanglement with the narcissist , the more times passes, the more what a fractured broken person i see them to have been.
❤ justice for Mica Miller❤ Let's remember, not everyone who deletes themselves are narcissistic. They could be coersivly controlled by a narcissist and see no other way out.
84 yo. No savings. No will. No life insurance. Goes out and purchases brand new 40G car without telling anyone, but fully expecting to live to fulfill 6 years payment terms. You can’t make this stuff up. A lifetime of delusions.
My ex is definitely a narcissist. He is now homeless with his mistress. He risked our family and lost us. He has never apologized nor has he taken accountability for his actions. He’s homeless and needs a place to live. After giving him 3-4 chances to have a place. He asked me today. I can’t subject my family to him anymore. He’s always been a gambler and had addiction problems. I’m over it
Stay strong and let him dig himself out of his own mess
You have perfectly describe the mental torture I endured for years. This maniac of an ex husband I was with wouldn’t let me go down to the Mail room because he was intensely jealous. He wouldn’t let me walk across the street to the grocery store. He wouldn’t let me work out. He told my family I was “ just unable to control !!! “ without providing context which is how he swooned them into believing and validating his behaviour. I went crazy thinking I was being unreasonable.
Later when I asked to divorce he said he was trying to protect me and said anything could happen to me in the Mail room. He cried saying he saw his friends get raped and felt helpless that he couldn’t do anything .. literally what ?
I couldn’t believe my ears especially knowing all of his control tactics were no where CLOSE to being enforced for protection. I was in awe when he used that as an excuse because in those moments he was calling me a whore a slut everything even though I wore sweats to the gym.
My family believed him.
I still can’t believe how mental this man is and how crazy he has made me. The physical and mental abuse has changed me forever. But I won’t let this ruin my life forever.
Career narcs are the most dangerous they leave a trail of broken people and family's They lie right untill they depart this mortal coil lets hope karma gets them first
A long trail of broken home and family poverty too
so true
Amen to that
The Bible says all Liars will have a place in the lake of fire
im so unbothered. we had a family birthday dinner saturday and my covert narc mom was there. i sat at the other end of the table, left early, didnt speak and had a great time!
My ex narc did not leave a loving relationship. On the contrary. For 20 yrs I went grey rock, realizing that he wasnt going to change. The last decade of the relationship I denied him sex and safety, threatening to leave him out of sheer despair. When he finally left with new supply, I felt guilty for pushing him away, but now I see how it couldn't have ended any differently. While Im grieving the lost years, a quarter of a century in a shared fantasy at best, a fake relationship at worst, Im healing faster than id have, had I provided him a loving relationship till the end. It has cost me, nonetheless.
Tell me about it 😢
Oh my God, very clear explanation. My ex. always had a get rich quick idea. He is never wrong. Lies when it's not necessary, needs constant praise. His health is failing. His family has seperated from him.He costantly makes promises, to others he cant keep. He went on vacation instead of paying his proprty taxes. You are spot on. Will place this on repeat to remind me why I stay gone.
It's so illogical. They spend their whole life trying to control the false narrative about themselves through manipulation when the answer is there all along. We have the option as to the choices we choose to make, but no matter how choose ultimately God is in control.
And they get very nasty when they loose control over you. Because they don’t know what you will tell others about them. They will start controlling everyone around you, to save their reputation and their world built up on lies. They will tell everyone that you are a liar and crazy. So should you tell someone something about the narcissist, that they won’t believe you. This happened to me. I lost all family, friends and my reputation.
They are never happy so they are always looking for the next thing to make them happy, but it never happens for long, the happiness they may feel is fleeting.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
So sorry you are going through this, unfortunately the obsession after is very common due to a "trauma bond" common to the situation. See NarCon video on breaking this spell so to speak: really helpful..
I feel for your.im 3 months out of the same thing.Its gonna take time to heal,the first day is always the hardest. You're not alone,even if it feels like it. Stay strong,be strong.
I feel for you.Im 3 months out of the same thing.The first day is always the hardest.Youre not alone.Be strong and stay strong.
Start the journey to see yourself with another person. If not you are ready for a wasted life.😢
You will be okay
Another excellent video Paula you are so accurate ,
We send our best wishes
You are a great comfort to us
Thank you
The real tragedy is when the narcissist doesn’t leave. They can hang on for decades, wearing down the person who continues to put up with them until they are a shell of their former self. I’ve seen this.
We need to stop thinking about forgiving ...this word is used too much. Accepting what happened is enough.
Forgiving yourself is what the forgiveness part is, never forgiving the narc for the abuse.
@@wendylou8963 How can one forgive another for being sick, and acting out of that sickness? All one can do is pray they seek and receive heallth, but they don't, because they refuse to believe they are sick, az illness is abhorant to them, IRL. That's why so many abuse sick and elderly, or try to paint/smear "us" as sick. Pure projection and denial, unfortunately. But yeah, you have to forgive yourself, so you don't think you're just the sad sack sap they try to make you be. Don't get fooled/hoodwinked again! Live, learn, and be grateful for this deep knowledge o' ass't. species in the human zoo. ;);) TC
Thankyou.
Also the new age think..
That i chose this lesson.
This lesson almost took me out after 60 plus years of generations of abuse and betrayal by family.
I have learned to say "Hell no!"
And did.
Deception is evil.
I did not choose to experience deception.
When I found I had married a cold hearted con..
I ran around 10 months.
I'm free again.
Someone told me that I need to apologize to the narcissist and things will improve when I do. Apologize for what I wondered but realize the person handing out the advice has never really encountered a narcissist.
@@martyrose Yes, no one understands how cruel a narcissist is unless they've encountered one. A narcissist will use any means necessary to get their supply, and then when a victim refuses to be used anymore, they will somehow make it look like the victim is at fault. It's crazy-making. I hope you have good friends around you to support you during this time in which the narcissist and their flying monkeys (who may not even understand the darkness that you were dealing with!) are trying to hoover you back into the abuse. STAY FREE! Stay away. Stay with good people who understand what happened to you and can help protect you.
Paula, you communicate the nuance of perception and reality so beautifully. I find that sometimes your videos resonate so strongly with realizations I already made, and the benefit of that is the emotional and psychological reinforcement the video makes. Thank you for being so thoughtful and intelligent - your work is exceptional.
Thank you Paul I’m very glad 🌹🙏
It’s very common for the narcissist to meet a worst narcissist or even a psychopath- AND the narcissist at that point lost narcissistic supply for good - this ruins that narcissist
Does this really happen cause I feel like even the ones with money and a career get more and more coming to them but yet still not happy but the ones who struggle all there life never really had much . We suffer more Correct me if iam wrong!
Wow now that's a niche corner of the narc market
Well done with this, Paula. We can agree that its about staying recovered. I see them everywhere now. It's awful and really sad.
A wise, really brilliant analysis of the narc long view. I have a 43 year experience with one watching her devolved life by now. Thank you!
FINALLY! After 3 years a video that doesn’t just say ‘you need to forget and move on’. Like that’s new cleverly thought out information that we’d never thought of or tried to do!
Excellent explanation.
Narcissistic members in the family I was raised in .
Almost no contact.
Very happily away from them now .
This was really good. So many others say the nar is invincible. Glad to hear the truth. I’ve seen it. Eventually the narcissist’s reign will wear out. Thanks. Your delivery is clear, direct, and understanding.
Thank you Paula. I loved all the info this video was filled with. I left my narc husband almost 2 years ago because I caught him cheating. Now, I realize he probably always cheated. He stole lots of money over the years from me and his dad. He said there wasn’t anything wrong with taking our money. He lies! He is addicted to porn! He drinks and smokes weed now! He is angry all the time! How long can they go before they collapse or become sick? When I do see him, he looks worse every time. The path of destruction he created was huge! He had to leave the state to be excepted by people that have no idea who he really is. He continues to live a lie. He spends money on so much crap, he is constantly trying to buy happiness. He truly believes that whatever he buys next will give him so much happiness. It’s one high after the next. I am so grateful I saved myself!
"he is angry all the time" 😂👍
.. Sounds familiar to me.
The addictions and porn etc as well..
@@Miss5852-lotta is all this the same for you? They are so evil! It scares me now to know just how evil yet he had me in such a state that I thought he was normal.
@@sharonshepherd3728 oh yes, my perception was so disturbed as well.. Like hypnotized. Most beautiful, wonderful person on the planet with a hidden heart of pure gold 🫣🥴
I think the hard part of losing someone you love in this type of situation is that it takes a while ( 4+ years for me so far ) to see how it all plays out.
They may be “ happy” with the new supply for a long time.
Mine left me for a very controlling female narcissist…. She decides everything.
I bought him out of our home…. He lives under her roof…. And has to behave and toe her line so she doesn’t kick him out.
He is getting his karma.
Many of our mutual friends who see them together tell me they can’t stand his new gf…. She is aloof and disinterested in anything that isn’t someone or something she wants to do or be around.
He’s her prisoner…. She is his warden.
God is seeing to it that he gets his just desserts.
This one really hit me💡
I do wanna say…
They are SO good at making everything look
Well…. Hunky Dori😬😂
Articulated so well, big cuddles for the beautiful soul sleeping in the background ❤️
🐕🥰🙋♀️
I've never heard the term "somatic narcissist", but wow does that make sense.
The pycho in my life was so desperate that he was using a photo as a profile pic that was over a decade old. (A motorcycle accident on top of normal aging, and he's going downhill fast.)
He has no car, no license, no money, and everything he owns (which isn't much) has been donated, inherited, stolen, or exploited from someone.
I saw a recent photo of him...emaciated, bad teeth--I was stunned. He was a decent-looking guy, but not anymore.
In the two and a half years since I left him in the corner he painted himself into, he's never attempted to hoover me, but two days ago, I got a short text asking if I wanted to be friends.
I just chuckled to myself...our split was so incredibly acrimonious that if he's trying to get me back in his life, he has to be beyond desperate.
Good.
God doesn't even control us, hence free will of choice. However, there are consequences......good, bad, and indifferent.
If there really was free will, I would not remain in this Hell Realm. Still here.
WELL DONE PAULA - EVERY THING YOU SAY IS 100%
Alex Murdaugh has become a PRIME example of ALL of what you speak here, Paula.......
Do you know if Murdaugh also cheated on his wife with other women? I heard he was just an extremely addicted drug addict who used financial schemes to get extra money for his out of control, self destructive drug addiction to pain killers.
I had a horrible boss named Elizabeth Murdaugh. She bullied and took advantage of people. Everyone had to be bullied into submission and became her flying monkeys. People had to buy her gifts or risk her wrath. She wasn't a boss, she was a tyrant. It was a very oppressive work environment. Peace, among other things was destroyed at that place. When I look at that name (Murdaugh), it sounds a lot like murder. Wonder if those two are related?
I am so glad I told her that she had broken me - she had - for a little bit. Then I got help, education, therapy and now I understand the real truth. She was so convincing when I was with her, heck she was a yogi!! Glad I figured it out and glad I was able to get away mostly scot free with some anxiety thinking it was me.
Everything you have said resonates with me 💯