I lost my Paul on March 18th, 2022. No words. Just loss and pain and change. My world stopped!!!! Exactly!!! Blessings He was 88 yrs old! We were married 68 years. I would do it all again! Thank you.
, Lost my husband 3 years ago after 64 wonderful years. I remain in our home we shared . I look forward to our time together again. I loved being married and miss him everyday. Time helps us move forward alone . I changed my thinking to gratitude instead of Grieving. How blessed I was to have shared 64 years with this wonderful man. Fortunate to remain in our home, drive my car, excellent health no medication, and financially independent My dear husband had Alzheimer’s. I took care of him in our,home he loved where he passed away. I have photos of him during our happy times throughout the house which brings me comfort My dear husband was 86;when the good lord took his hand, GodmBless
Enjoyed listening! I am a 71 year old widow. I can relate to your story. I am in a TH-cam group called One Happy Widow. It has been a Godsend. There is also a private FB group connected to it. We have widowers in the group also. Learning to be happy again is the goal but we also recognize that you never " get over " losing your loved one. You just hopefully learn to deal with a new way of life. Sounds as if you are doing a great job. Sail on!
Carlos, this video was terrific. After I viewed this, I said to myself, "Carlos will probably remarry because he is so likeable and women will be fighting over him."
I’m 5 months into the loss of my wife and I share many of your experiences and emotions. I’m not able to enjoy her music, and everything in our home is a reminder of her absence. I trust as time goes by I will heal, but nothing has prepared me for such intense grief and sense of loss. Godspeed in your journey of recovery.
I suggest trying to shift your perspective of missing her by the things in your house to the perspective of how each one gave you and her joy. Be thankful that you have the things around your house to remind you of her, and think about the good things that happen about that item.
Been 9 years for me and our family….you’ve put your experience in a very good video! I’m so grateful to find a man’s perspective. Thank you and God bless you and your family…..❤❤🙏🙏🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Thank you for sharing your story. I became a widow 17 mos ago. It's a very hard road. My husband was just 43 and died in 6 seconds. We didn't even know he had a heart condition he was born with. It all happened so fast. My life was turned upside down in seconds. I still feel like it's a blur and struggling greatly. You give me hope! Thank you! God bless!
So sorry for your loss. The first year is the hardest. It’s been four years for me and I still miss my wife. I live with all the memories we had together and not with what could have been. I look to the future and not the past.
Allie, I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband! My husband died suddenly of a heart attack at the age of 46. He didn’t have a known heart condition. You hold on to God! He will certainly get you through💕🙏🏽
@@ceemcwill3503 I am so sorry to hear about your vast loss. It never gets easier. I am disabled due to a form of leukemia that you can live your whole life with. It causes spontaneous anaphylactic shock. I have been on a ventilator 7 times not breathing on my own and have been given zero chance to live. My husband was my caregiver and my supporter and life saver. I have 15 seconds to get epi pen in or there is no blood going to my heart or brain. We didn't know until his autopsy that he had the congenital heart disease. My life is so difficult and I spend most days in bed due to the damage my disease has caused me. I was older and we always knew I would go first. That wasn't the case at all. Life is hard and life on earth will never be easy. Take care of you 💕
I lost my spouse this year May 17th after 40 years. I don't want to act quickly selling my house and moving to Puerto Rico with remaining family. You're advice to wait a year is excellent. I can feel the love you have for your wife in your tone. So heart felt. Thanks for this video. I feel God sent it to me. It just popped up on TH-cam.🕊🙏🕊
10 years ago tomorrow, I buried my wife. Truly my soul mate. Tonight 10 years ago, I kissed her goodby for the last time, just before they closed her casket lid. So tonight,. I'm feeling kind of blue and on a lark, I just looked on TH-cam to see if others have had difficulties, setting over such a loss. I ran across your post and I identified with everything you said because I went through all the things that you described. I still have bridges to cross, even after 10 years but it is my intent to do that, but still on my time line and not that of anyone else. God Bless you sir. By the way, I'm 82.
I’m sorry it’s taking me so long to respond. It has only been four years since I lost my beloved wife in those four years I’ve learned to move forward with the good memories that we had, and not to try to think of what might have been as she was still alive. No one can say how long do you grieve for a loved one each of us do it at our own pace.
I just lost my beloved husband two months ago and am trying to regain my footing. I thank God that he loaned him to me for 33 years before he went home, and I knew God’s will and plan are perfect. It is just so lonely, I miss him and I think it’s just too much quiet in the house. I will play music like you did and maybe that will help the silence. God bless you and thank you for your story, it was authentic and precious.
God bless you. I can understand how you feel. I lost my husband 33 years ago. He died on my 40th birthday. My world crashed down around me. He was my best friend and the love of my life. Carlos, you will survive this. You will never get over it. Losing my husband changed my life....all the plans we made, all the dreams we dreamed, all the joy and closeness we had are gone! In an instant! God got me through the grief. I'm so thankful for that.
What gets me through life is thinking about all the memories as she and I made. I don’t focus on what gets could have been. This works for me and might not for everyone.
@@lifewithcarlos-vida80s You’re right I find myself doing the same things and also it makes me want to be the best person to everyone that I can be because I know it would make her proud.
Very nice that your grandkids are filming this for you and love you so much. You seem like an amazing person and its obvious that you loved your Wife and treated her like a queen. Im in the same boat my friend. Lost my Wife after 33 years of marriage to cancer. We were high school sweethearts and were friends since age 14. The hardest thing for me is picking up my 20 month old Granddaughter without crying and wishing my Wife was here to love on her but Im so glad she was able to be there at her birth and spend time with her. It makes me love on her extra special. We have 12 grandkids and two on the way. Im so thankful that my Wife had some very deep conversations with me during her 16 months after she was diagnosed and had her first major surgery. She said some things to me that really help to comfort me right now 30 days after she passed. We spent her last 8 weeks in the hospital together day and night after her second major Surgery. I wasn’t taking my eyes off of her. She was in the medical field for many years and many of the nurses were students of hers. So many of them were in tears when she started declining. She encouraged student nurses to give her their first stick, always teaching even while being the patient. The day before we brought her home her ocologist showed up in tears to say goodbye, two of her surgeons broke down crying , multiple nurses and techs showed up in tears to give her one last hug and many of them made comments that theyve never seen a couple so in love and dedicated to one another. That was my wife…she always made an impact on people wherever she went and everyone that knew her had a personal story on how she encouraged them to better themselves. Her life story in itself is one of great triumph to overcome a terrible childhood in which from a very young age had to be the parent in the household in a very dis functional home and took every opportunity to go to the library to read books and learn as much as she possibly could. She continued her education all while working two jobs, fostering kids and running a household. What an amazing woman.
Carlos I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear wife. I have been through the same storm, it happened in 1994 and I had to raise 12,10, and 9 years kids alone. You look strong and blessed to have grown up kids and grandkids who are always around you. Surely, Mary was a loving wife, and you deeply miss her.
Carlos, it was so nice meeting you at the hospital this week. You brought me so much joy as we talked for over an hour. I’m so impressed to see you your TH-cam videos and I know you are helping others. Thank you for visiting with me. I look forward to watching more videos.
Yes, it is a comfort to know your loved one is free from pain. She is blessed to have had you as a husband. When my husband died I had to learn how to use a hammer, how to stop a faucet leak.....my, I was so awkward. Yeah the nights were tough. Every year changes..you do get stronger. Lovely family you have!
I've been watching other widow vlogs because I recently lost my hubby. Yours showed up on my newsfeed so I was curious about what widowers go through. It's all really the same. I had to laugh about the fitted sheets. One of the many hard parts for me are the finances because hubby was the one who loved working on them. Finances and all the legal paperwork, so overwhelming, still is. I'm surprised no one has mentioned that. Anyway, looks like you have great support through the kids and grandkids. My grandkids could probably start helping me once I get back into my routine. The picture of your wife is beautiful and I love the way you greet her in the morning. I never thought of that but I think I will start saying good morning to my hubby. I'm a believer too and that's where I draw comfort is that he's no longer suffering and is in the arms of Jesus.
My wife did all the finances and bill paying on line; she was so organized that I am not having any problem keeping up with the paperwork; I just don't like doing it! The fitted sheets; I don't change them; I wash them and put them right back on the bed! When they wear out I will replace them; problem solved! My cat buddy is a life saver; he has been keeping me company since she passed and he knows she is gone.
I lost my hubby of 50 years in 2021. We were both 18, when we married in 1971. He was a diabetic and a few other issues, but never expected he would ever die. It’s been a hard two years now, still I miss him everyday! Never thought I would ever be alone! It’s just so hard! His birthday was Jan. 25th too.
@@debbiescott6836I was with my Husband nearly 52 yes he passed 2022 miss him always. Think best thing is to keep talking to loved ones who have passed I do anytime day/night love thinking they are around us. I take great comfort knowing no one can hurt them again & that they are in God's good loving care. Thinking of you 🤗 ❤
I just found your channel, and boy I’m so very happy I did! You see, my mother passed on this year and after 64 yrs of marriage I just could not leave my father’s side, no way, so I decided to move in with him temporarily, I knew that is what I was supposed to do at the time, and we’re still under the same roof, lol It’s been such a blessing for both of us, a win win. My father is 84 and still pretty healthy, loves to golf with his buddies! We are going through this first year with all of “ the first’s without mom “ together, many many tears, just like your Mary, my mother is in the same place having a splendid time with Jesus ❤ Thank you Carlos for being brave and open to sharing your beautiful story, your life with all of us.!! I’m going to share this with my Father Joe, as I know he will be deeply touched as well! In His hands, Kelley 🌸
Hi Kelly, Thank you watching my channel. You are doing what God put in your heart by moving in with your father. Your time together is precious and I’m sure he very grateful. I hope you have a life of your own as well.
Sorry for your loss and good for you, sharing your journey. I’ve been widowed from my second husband almost 9 years now. I hope when I turn 80 I’m going strong like you.
Thank you for your video. Life is always changing and learning. We come into life alone and leave alone. Alone is not always bad, it gives one a chance to become better aquainted with yourself. I hope your journey gets easier....
Hello! This video has just come up im my feed. Thank you for ur candidness in sharing the loss of your beloved wife of 54 years. You were born the same year as my beloved mother, 1941. She was born in Colombia and is a strong believer. In your latest video, you seem to be dealing with some health challenges. I have not yet watched it, but read the video's title. You will be in my prayers, Carlos. Our loves are in the hands of our heavenly Father. Our days are appointed by Him. Whether we live or die it is gain. ❤ 🙏
What a darling personality carlos is ..had a giggle about the folded fitted sheets . I fold mine in half turn sides in and the roll. I can relate to everything , having lost my man in 1988.
Thank you Carlos - great testimony of the love of your wife and life partner - I can relate in so many ways the journey of life alone after my husband passed - for me too the first year of experiencing celebrations was difficult - now some years later life has gotten easier - although I miss his presence’s every day-I believe his spirit is alive and present amongst the family 💞🙏💞
I just love listening to you. I lost my husband 5 months ago, and it has been so so hard. You are an inspiration. I know that he is in Heaven, and that warms my heart.
Carlos, thank you so much for your insight, my wife died Dec9, 2022 of Bladder Cancer at 59 yr old, we had no children and her family walked away from me when we closed my wife's eyes for the last time. My wife and I were together for 20 yrs She took excellent care of me, 2 months after passing I put my dog down from Cancer so I'm the last on standing. I am experiencing the same issues as you are. Her 60th birthday is. July 5th, not sure how to handle it. Thank you so much on what to expect.
Thank you for sharing your heart with us. Beautiful tribute to your wife. Glad you see you still have your humor. May God's peace continue to be with you.
Thanks for your wisdom. My wife of 25 years died last February from Covid. The last 6 months have been tough and working to get back to a new normal without her.😭
Is not possible getting back to “normal”. That “normal “doesn’t exist, at least for me. I’m now making my new normal or new way of life. Things change so drastically when you loose your wife. Go forward with all the memories you and her made!!
I CAN FEEL THE PAIN IN YOUR VOICE ..YOU ARE SUCH A THOUGHTFUL MAN..MY HUSBAND PASSED ON FEB..25TH. FROM A STROKE ..YOU ARE RIGHT IT IS GODS WILL NOT OURS.I ALSO BURIED OUR 3 SONS BUT THEN TOO IT WAS GODS WILL NOT OURS ..THIS IS THE WAY TO HAVE PEACE..
Carlos, I laughted and shed some tears listening to this while i was cooking. So many similaraties. My wife passed nov 2020 at 51 from cancer, Great to see you have loving family surrounding you. stay safe best wishes from use here in ☘🙏
When I started the channel my goal was if I can reach one person and make a difference in their life than I have done my job. I am humbled to see that the video my first year as a widower has almost 8000 views, and the number of comments that I have read really gets to my heart. I find a purpose on doing the TH-cam channel after my wife passed. Thank you for your comment. God bless you.
Hi Carlos, we are doing good thanks for asking, its 2 years tomorrow 11th Nov my god where has the time gone hey, i have to say my children (6) have helped me focus on he positives, main one being them, their mother would be so proud of them, school graduation, confirmations. Birthdays 13th. 18th all big occassions gone without her presence seems so strange she is not here to share them, but im convinced she is in spirit, and is helping us through this, Erin was such a spititual woman, a social care worker always giving of the most valuable thing we have...time...if we can spread the goodness as she did we will be the better for her influence in our lives. I hope and pray you are doing good, and still have your loving family by your side. It's All that truely matters. Some times it takes a tragedy to realise this. Such a shame... best of luck to you and your family..👍💪❤
I do understand what you're going through. My husband will be dead five years this October. And it's still hard. My first year well it was just I didn't want to see anybody I didn't want to talk to anybody the only thing I could do was get out of bed to feed the dogs and let them out and then get back into bed. I didn't think life would go on but it did. And it will for you too. Yes I do the same thing in the morning I say my prayers and everything. And then get on with my day. God bless have a wonderful life.❤❤❤❤
Thank you for taking the time to write to me. It’s been four years that I lost. My wife and I have moved on by focusing on the memories we made together and not on what could have been. I am so thankful that I had her for 54 years.
I enjoyed your video Carlos. I lost my wife this past August. I was also struggling with fitted sheets as well as large blankets. Our wives were cleaning angels; mine too would take my slippers and shirts and put them away. I hope you're well and appreciate your story.
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday...
Hello Ella, It is so hard to loose your spouse, but I’m sure loosing a child is worse. His one year anniversary of his passing and I’m wondering how you are doing. Please let me know. God bless you. Carlos
What a precious video. I enjoyed the poem about being “80.” :) Thank you for sharing about your sweet Mary and how you managed after she passed. Thank you for your kindness to sit and share all of those thoughts. I know you were a help to many people going thru the same situations.
I am Sooo for your Loss! I can Relate, lost my Precious Husband 6/20/ 2020, at the Hospice House! He was the Love of my Life! I miss him So very Much! I will be 71 July 7/ 2023. Oops, I was behind a Year lol He had Cancer! I took care of him, sooo proud that I could do that for him! He was 80 when He Passed Away ! God’s Blessings on You Carlos! Not a Day goes by That I don’t Thank about him! It’s A Lonely Life, but with God’s help I will make it! I know my Sweet Husband is in Heaven & no longer Suffering ! That gives my Heart Comfort!
Thank you for your video. My husband passed 5 months ago. It's been during the Christmas holidays that I realized he wouldn't be walking thru that door ever again. My challenges have been more with learning to use a riding lawnmower or fixing the snowblower but I feel quite accomplished when I figured out. And, yes, meals are different...I might try your happy hour. My biggest supporter is gone, that's the hard part.
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday...
Thank you for your video. It’s been 10 months since my husband passed. I can identify with so many of the things you said. It’s a daily struggle but I’m focused on moving forward with a smile because I know my husband would want that for me. All the best to you. I’m 72😊.
Thanks to get better. But there are times when sadness overcomes us and we just have to deal with it and keep on going forward. Just make sure you have a lot of support from family and friends.
It’s been one year since I lost my husband. It’s been a rough year and I know I would never had made it this far if I didn’t have God Blessings to you from Texas
May the Lord continually give you and your family comfort, strength, and peace knowing that those that believe in Christ will be raised first in a glorified body in the Rapture. It is such a glorious thought, that one day ,we as the children of God will be in Heaven with the Lord forever! Enjoy your words of wisdom.
Love your videos. They’re educational and know you already helped many people. You should be a motivational speaker. Keep up the good work. I’ve subscribed.
Wow Carlos, your story reminds me so much of mine. My wife lost her battle with leukemia after 2 years. She passed at 71; I’m 66. I was knew that she transferred being cared by me and the VA to being cared for by God. And yeah, sheets 🤣. Thanks for the story.
Thank you for sharing this Carlos. Not sure how your video ended up in my feed. But glad it did. I buried my wife is 27 years December 18th, 2021. She had battled cancer for 20 years, o different times. I am left with 5 kids. But thank God fie a close and large immediate family, and a caring and close nit church family. Hearing your love for your wife is encouraging and a good reminder of what a good marriage and relationship looks like. I grieve the loss of my bride. But know she is free of suffering and in the presence of her Lord and King - Jesus Christ. Thank him for your venerability. May this be helpful to many more as it was to me :). .
I LIKE THE NOTE YOU READ IN THE BEGINNING .I AM COMING EIGHTY NOW. SO I CAN BE FORGETFUL NOW..I ALSO HAD A HARD TIME LIVING ALONE BUT NOW IM USED TO IT..I ENJOY MY FREEDOM..//
I am watching your video of your first year as a widow. First, I live in Upper Marlboro not far from Suitland..that’s really neat and second, I never lived alone either. Went from my father’s house to husband and here we are close to 70 and it’s so scary realizing one of may not be here in a few tears. I just don’t know what I would do by myself. Thanks for sharing.
Thankyou for sharing your story. I am in my 7th month and I do not like it. It is not as bad now when my wife Lina passed away in December. Life goes on and at first I just did not get it. It is better now and you video helped. THANKS AGAIN !!! - John
John, I appreciate your comments since I know exactly what you’re going through right now. It does get better. There are some days that I don’t think about my wife and that’s OK but for sure I talk to her every morning and every night.
So Sorry for your loss. It will take sometime before you start a new normal life. It all depends on your mental attitude and the will to continue living remembering all the things you did together.
My first time living alone also. Married right out of high school for 63 yrs until he passed with heart trouble three yrs ago. I’ve been thru a very hard time but am now finally feeling better.
I’m glad you like folding clothes 😅 I do it out of necessity. Glad to know that you are doing better. My wife was the love of my life, I know I’ll never love that way again. My time is spent with traveling, family, and friends.
Hi Carlos. I enjoyed your video very much. I lost my husband a little over 1 1/2 years ago, and am still finding it hard without him. Doing better, but still have my moments. It was interesting hearing about it from a mans point of view. I think she was very lucky to have you. Sounds like you had a good marriage. God bless.
Hello Jay, Life is precious and we need to enjoy it while we are on this earth. I’m traveling and socializing more it keeps me busy and avoid being sad.
Recently discovered your channel. Been watching & want to praise you for pushing forward in life. You seem a joy to hang out with. Certainly you are inspirational and a motivator. God bless you for using you as a vessel to teach us. Keep up the good work.
I'm really getting a kick listening to your granddaughter. She sounds so much like my granddaughter, so very caring and funny. My heart goes out to you during this difficult time in your life. One thing for sure, Mary was very blessed to have you and you very blessed to have had her. I am from a small town so sometimes I fly to New York to visit my daughter and her family. It's wonderful that you have family around you. I enjoy listening to you, keep up the great work.
Dear Carlos, I am so happy I found your channel. I lost my husband suddenly on Nov 28, 2020. He was killed instantly by a blood clot to his heart during a mountain bike ride. He was just 53. I am 44 and coming up to the anniversary of his passing. Please keep making videos. I am far away in North Wales (I am a Canadian though originally from Vancouver, BC.) Thank you for your honesty, candidness, and humanity. Sending all my love. Mirka Garland
So sorry for your loss. Must’ve been quite a shock. My wife lasted three weeks so I was able to talk to her about many things. Still the loss is great. I stayed in my house for almost three years and now I have moved to another town and for the first time in my life I bought a house as a single man. I move forward with my memories of my wife and all the things that we did together. I keep busy all day just so I don’t get depressed. I know she would want me to enjoy life.
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday...
I've lost my wife only last October 6, 2021 due to covid 19. First time that we celebrated Christmas and New Year without her. She was only 49 yrs old and we just married for more than 20 yrs. There's a lot of things that I want to do for her but it's not possible now. If only she has reached the same age as of your wife, I know it will be still painful but we could accomplished more and probably less regrets. She will not be able to see her children graduate from colleges and go to work. She will no be able witness their marriage and see her grandchildren. Three months have passed and still very hard for me to accept the reality that she's not here anymore.
Rejoice in the love that you shared and the fact that many will not get to experience the depth of connection you did. As with all things in life, ending is a part of it Wishes to you for your continued healing and acceptance 🤗💖
My husband passed 2 days after your wife, also covid. We were married 49 years. I have yet to move his shaving items from the place he had them. If he were to show up nothing would be amiss. I know that will have to be dealt with but I'm not ready. Its a very hard time. Some days I don't cry...progress!
Lost my husband after 40 years, 4 months ans 22 days of marriage also due to vovid 30 Dec 21. Know him since 14 years. I do not know how to move forward.
@@hestervanstaden6205 going forward is a must in the healing process. Like a toddler you start crawling then you stand up and take small steps, and then you can move forward. Think about all the good memories you had with your husband and that will carry you forward. It’s not easy and you may fall, but you get up and you keep going. He will want this for you, I don’t think he would want you to be depressed all the time.
It's good to hear a fellow widowers experience, I feel so lost with out the love of my life of 23 years. I too have never lived alone without my husband or mom who also passed of cancer.for me it's awful
Hi Carlos It’s lovely to hear and share your alone time as I’m twenty years alone and eighty six now and you can have a loving and helpful family but as I always say “You have to walk the walk to feel that loneliness especially at night locking up and switching off the lights and walking up the stairs but when I get to the top and kiss the icon on the landing I thank God for my freedom to do all I again on my own and Bless that day “ Thank you Carlos for sharing your day Many more Blessing Mary ❤
Carlos, what Blessing to come across your video. I understand your grief. You have been a strong person. Cancer took the love of my life. God be with you. I am also a 1941 model.
Great video Carlos! Lost my wife unexpectedly Dec 28th, 2019. Every word you said is 100% exactly how every day went, and still is. God Bless and have a great day!!
@@carlosvargas7929 Hanging in there. Just real hard to move on with the legal issues we have been pursuing because of it all. But I know she's in a way better place with Jesus. That's really the only thing that helps is knowing where she is now :)
While watching you tell your story, knowing it has to be painful, I am amazed at how you lit up when talking about your wife going to Heaven. Yes, that is our goal, to make it to see our Savior. Knowing that our loved ones are saved and are in Heaven makes the waiting a bit easier. We can see them again!!!
When I get to heaven and see my wife again, she and I are going to have a conversation about how she went first because that was not the plan I was supposed to go first .😁
Thank you Carlos for your story. I see that I am not too far off in my actions and my thoughts. My wife my queen of 26 yrs passed away 3 months ago from a heart attack. No previous health issues. Just had a physical the month before. 51 yrs old. We have no children, but my queen LOVED our 2 cats and they are here with me now. I have no idea on what to do now. I definately see and feel GOD working but ye this is TOUGH. I am praying for you and your family and EVERYONE else who has watched or is watching your video. thank you for inviting us into your home sir. In Jesus name amen!!!
Thanks for reaching out. Just do what you used to do before she passed, now you do for two. That includes going to places where both of you went. THAT is tough, but you will relive memories from the past. Laugh and cry !!
O! How I can relate to this Carlos, experienced the same emotions and trails, I’m into my second year of been a Widower, as of the picture I have one hanging in her favorite spot in the house. She got to hold her new grandchild the day before she passed on. Nothing but happy memories for me.
Ola Carlos! Que tal? You sound like a really nice person. Someone who really cared and loved your wife. I lost my husband almost six years ago. Miss him so much. Lost him very suddenly, just like that. Wishing you all the best.
@@carlosvargas7929 you're very welcome. My wife of almost 7 years this month passed away from cervical cancer on 4/6/22. My baby fought with everything that she had, and I was right there fighting along side of her. Mr Vargas, seeing how the cancer took over my wife's body. To where she couldn't tend to herself, lift up her arm, altered her breathing, her legs were so swollen from her retaining fluids. To eventually seeing my wife for the very last time.
It was on the 5th the day before she passed away, when I seen my wife for the very last time. Seeing my wife just laying there completely incoherent as I kissed her cheek, lips, hugged her leg, ran my fingers through her hair, and kissed and held her hand. Was the worst feeling that I've ever felt in my entire life. I felt completely helpless. I cry for my wife every single day. I'm not one for cliches etc because for me it's not gonna get easier with time. I have faith and believe in my Lord and savior Jesus Christ!! But Mr Vargas this hurts too much. I am spiraling out of control quickly. I thank you for allowing me to share my personal story with you. I NEED YOU I LOVE YOU I MISS YOU BABY I MISS YOU SO MUCH BABE. FOREVER AND A DAY BABY ME& YOU BABE I MISS YOU I LOVE YOU I NEED YOU ALWAYS BABE!! -TEAM JIMENEZ-
Being the youngest child I lost my Dad when I was a sophmore in High School. I really didn't think my Dad would die at just 65 but he did of heart problems. Both my parents are passed and I know they are together...and happy.
I lost my wife 3 weeks ago after a 15 year battle with cancer. I'm 75 and my bride was my best friend we spent every moment of every day together. I'm so lost I know she is with Jesus and her favorite dog. I'm just not sure I want to go on without her
Hello John, Sorry for your loss. I know exactly what you are going through. If the situation was the other way around and you had died, and your wife was living, wouldn’t you want for her to enjoy live the rest of her days? By the same token I am sure that your wife would like for you to enjoy the rest of your life. I know it’s hard because I’ve gone through it but the most important thing is to focus on the positive not the negative. focus on all the memories that you and her had together. I hope that you have a support group made up of either family or friends. They are invaluable during your grief. Carlos
🤗 ❤💐 so sorry for your loss that was such a difficult time for you. Keep strong we know our loved ones are safe in God's good loving care & that nothing can ever hurt them again ❤
That is so hard for you to video how you lost your Love. I really appreciate your courage to do that. I lost my wife of 55 years also due to recurring Cancer and find it hard to go on. But know life goes on, stay healthy and get back out in the World, you will be happier👍Love u Guy❤️
Hi Karen, i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday...
It is almost a year since my 66 year old husband has passed away from cancer. He too was so healthy prior to this horrible deadly cancer. We were married for 47 years and blessed with 3 children and now 5 grandchildren. You’ve given me hope for the 2nd year of being alone. Bless you.
Hi Bonnie, I just saw your comment. As you know the first year is the hardest to endure. It does gets better with time, but you have to get involved in outside activities such as walking, going out with friends, or volunteering at a non profit organization such as a food bank or thrift store. I guarantee you will be amazed at the changes you will go through when you are exposed to others. It’s a privilege to give of yourself to others.
Carlos, sounds like you had a lovely wife and life. You have great memories. Yes, our souls go on to another place. Your wife will always be with you in spirit. Blessings galore.
What a healthy attitude of life without his wife. Because he and his wife were Christians the transition was as it should be. Sad and of course not easy but he drew strength from the Heavenly Father God. What an inspiration to others that will have to face one or other leaving. He had lots of family and friends too that is very helpful. I hope the rest of your life continues to be peaceful and full with your memories and draw strength from Jesus.
Carlos, everything you say is so true. For me I am learning yard work on this 30 acres. My husband has been gone for 10 months, I am lost, I miss him so much. He was perfectly healthy then the brain cancer, wow. An incurable disease. You have a wonderful outlook on life and like you said God, he is always there and good. I just made a video something like this, a reflection of my grief journey so far. But I am beginning to enjoy a few things there is a light in all the darkness. God be with you. Hugs, Cindy in Oklahoma
Oh sorry Dear, I'm sorry to hear about your lost i understand how you feel, because am in the same road as you are, i hope you don't mind us being friends?
I know exactly how you it been 18 yrs ago of the passing of my husband and it still feel like yesterday I always wanted to talk to somebody who is feeling same like me who knows how it felt to loose the love of their life thank you sir for sharing your story with us may her soul rest in peace
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday...
@@richardbradshaw7830 you so right I always wonder how people who love each other , never cheat and don’t fight with each other those are the ones lost their love in death and there others who want a divorce life is unfair
I feel that men and women losing their other half are really sad,my dad and mom divorced for along time before my dad died,but for myself I still have my husband, but I also feel alone, and people can't understand what I mean, but I do and I felt that for years, so I like to help others if I can,or even when we lose our loved ones it's a lose that you don't ever over come, God bless each and everyone that has to go through this kind of thing,God bless all the people in the world and bless them today and tomorrow and forever
I lost my Paul on March 18th, 2022. No words. Just loss and pain and change. My world stopped!!!! Exactly!!! Blessings He was 88 yrs old! We were married 68 years. I would do it all again! Thank you.
Thank you for your comments
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Lost my husband 3 years ago after 64 wonderful years. I remain in our home we shared .
I look forward to our time together again. I loved being married and miss him everyday.
Time helps us move forward alone . I changed my thinking to gratitude instead of Grieving.
How blessed I was to have shared 64 years with this wonderful man. Fortunate to remain in
our home, drive my car, excellent health no medication, and financially independent
My dear husband had Alzheimer’s. I took care of him in our,home he loved where he passed away.
I have photos of him during our happy times throughout the house which brings me comfort
My dear husband was 86;when the good lord took his hand,
GodmBless
What a wonderful story you have. How are you doing these days?
Enjoyed listening! I am a 71 year old widow. I can relate to your story. I am in a TH-cam group called One Happy Widow. It has been a Godsend. There is also a private FB group connected to it. We have widowers in the group also. Learning to be happy again is the goal but we also recognize that you never " get over " losing your loved one. You just hopefully learn to deal with a new way of life. Sounds as if you are doing a great job. Sail on!
Thank you for your update. It looks like you are doing quite well also.
Carlos, this video was terrific. After I viewed this, I said to myself, "Carlos will probably remarry because he is so likeable and women will be fighting over him."
You made me laughed!! Thanks for your comment. 😁
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Hello Anna!!
What a lovely man and a beautiful video. Watching from New Zealand
Your wife saw your grand daughter before you. She sent her spirit on her way to all of you
I’m 5 months into the loss of my wife and I share many of your experiences and emotions. I’m not able to enjoy her music, and everything in our home is a reminder of her absence. I trust as time goes by I will heal, but nothing has prepared me for such intense grief and sense of loss. Godspeed in your journey of recovery.
I suggest trying to shift your perspective of missing her by the things in your house to the perspective of how each one gave you and her joy. Be thankful that you have the things around your house to remind you of her, and think about the good things that happen about that item.
See Abel Keough Widower Wednesday. Yes to move on start a new life you need another home...
Sorry for your loss
@@christineplaton3048I'm sure his kids love visiting the home they were raised in..
You are a dear, sweet man!
Your beloved Mary chose well in marrying you!
Been 9 years for me and our family….you’ve put your experience in a very good video! I’m so grateful to find a man’s perspective. Thank you and God bless you and your family…..❤❤🙏🙏🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Thank you for sharing your story. I became a widow 17 mos ago. It's a very hard road. My husband was just 43 and died in 6 seconds. We didn't even know he had a heart condition he was born with. It all happened so fast. My life was turned upside down in seconds. I still feel like it's a blur and struggling greatly. You give me hope! Thank you! God bless!
So sorry for your loss. The first year is the hardest. It’s been four years for me and I still miss my wife. I live with all the memories we had together and not with what could have been. I look to the future and not the past.
Allie, I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband! My husband died suddenly of a heart attack at the age of 46. He didn’t have a known heart condition. You hold on to God! He will certainly get you through💕🙏🏽
I’ve been a widow since January 27th 2015
@@ceemcwill3503 I am so sorry to hear about your vast loss. It never gets easier. I am disabled due to a form of leukemia that you can live your whole life with. It causes spontaneous anaphylactic shock. I have been on a ventilator 7 times not breathing on my own and have been given zero chance to live. My husband was my caregiver and my supporter and life saver. I have 15 seconds to get epi pen in or there is no blood going to my heart or brain. We didn't know until his autopsy that he had the congenital heart disease. My life is so difficult and I spend most days in bed due to the damage my disease has caused me. I was older and we always knew I would go first. That wasn't the case at all. Life is hard and life on earth will never be easy. Take care of you 💕
You are the most amazing 80 year old I’ve ever seen. You look great!
I lost my spouse this year May 17th after 40 years. I don't want to act quickly selling my house and moving to Puerto Rico with remaining family. You're advice to wait a year is excellent. I can feel the love you have for your wife in your tone. So heart felt. Thanks for this video. I feel God sent it to me. It just popped up on TH-cam.🕊🙏🕊
It important to give yourself enough time to grive
10 years ago tomorrow, I buried my wife. Truly my soul mate. Tonight 10 years ago, I kissed her goodby for the last time, just before they closed her casket lid. So tonight,. I'm feeling kind of blue and on a lark, I just looked on TH-cam to see if others have had difficulties, setting over such a loss. I ran across your post and I identified with everything you said because I went through all the things that you described. I still have bridges to cross, even after 10 years but it is my intent to do that, but still on my time line and not that of anyone else. God Bless you sir. By the way, I'm 82.
I’m sorry it’s taking me so long to respond. It has only been four years since I lost my beloved wife in those four years I’ve learned to move forward with the good memories that we had, and not to try to think of what might have been as she was still alive. No one can say how long do you grieve for a loved one each of us do it at our own pace.
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Carlos, I love your heart and your faith! The way you sat up when talking about The Father our Lord. Im seeking that now. 😊 God Bless 🙌🏽
I just lost my beloved husband two months ago and am trying to regain my footing. I thank God that he loaned him to me for 33 years before he went home, and I knew God’s will and plan are perfect. It is just so lonely, I miss him and I think it’s just too much quiet in the house. I will play music like you did and maybe that will help the silence. God bless you and thank you for your story, it was authentic and precious.
Sending Love ❤️...Suzanne..I’m so sorry for your loss 🥺..I too lost my wife 5 years ago, but I think it’s about time I find love and happiness again..
God bless you. I can understand how you feel. I lost my husband 33 years ago. He died on my 40th birthday. My world crashed down around me. He was my best friend and the love of my life. Carlos, you will survive this. You will never get over it. Losing my husband changed my life....all the plans we made, all the dreams we dreamed, all the joy and closeness we had are gone! In an instant!
God got me through the grief. I'm so thankful for that.
What gets me through life is thinking about all the memories as she and I made. I don’t focus on what gets could have been. This works for me and might not for everyone.
@@lifewithcarlos-vida80s
You’re right I find myself doing the same things and also it makes me want to be the best person to everyone that I can be because I know it would make her proud.
Praise the Lord! You look amazing for 80! Thank you Lord! God bless you! 🙏🏽
Carlos you are such a BEAUTIFUL GENUINE GENTLEMAN. ! I loved your video SO SO much. Your wife was a very lucky lady. Bless your sweet heart 🙏💕
Thanks
Very nice that your grandkids are filming this for you and love you so much.
You seem like an amazing person and its obvious that you loved your Wife and treated her like a queen.
Im in the same boat my friend.
Lost my Wife after 33 years of marriage to cancer.
We were high school sweethearts and were friends since age 14.
The hardest thing for me is picking up my 20 month old Granddaughter without crying and wishing my Wife was here to love on her but Im so glad she was able to be there at her birth and spend time with her.
It makes me love on her extra special.
We have 12 grandkids and two on the way.
Im so thankful that my Wife had some very deep conversations with me during her 16 months after she was diagnosed and had her first major surgery.
She said some things to me that really help to comfort me right now 30 days after she passed.
We spent her last 8 weeks in the hospital together day and night after her second major
Surgery.
I wasn’t taking my eyes off of her.
She was in the medical field for many years and many of the nurses were students of hers.
So many of them were in tears when she started declining.
She encouraged student nurses to give her their first stick, always teaching even while being the patient.
The day before we brought her home her ocologist showed up in tears to say goodbye, two of her surgeons broke down crying , multiple nurses and techs showed up in tears to give her one last hug and many of them made comments that theyve never seen a couple so in love and dedicated to one another.
That was my wife…she always made an impact on people wherever she went and everyone that knew her had a personal story on how she encouraged them to better themselves.
Her life story in itself is one of great triumph to overcome a terrible childhood in which from a very young age had to be the parent in the household in a very dis functional home and took every opportunity to go to the library to read books and learn as much as she possibly could.
She continued her education all while working two jobs, fostering kids and running a household.
What an amazing woman.
Carlos I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear wife. I have been through the same storm, it happened in 1994 and I had to raise 12,10, and 9 years kids alone. You look strong and blessed to have grown up kids and grandkids who are always around you. Surely, Mary was a loving wife, and you deeply miss her.
Carlos, it was so nice meeting you at the hospital this week. You brought me so much joy as we talked for over an hour. I’m so impressed to see you your TH-cam videos and I know you are helping others. Thank you for visiting with me. I look forward to watching more videos.
Thank you, Amanda for watching my videos and responding to me. I hope you’re doing much better these days.
Yes, it is a comfort to know your loved one is free from pain. She is blessed to have had you as a husband. When my husband died I had to learn how to use a hammer, how to stop a faucet leak.....my, I was so awkward. Yeah the nights were tough. Every year changes..you do get stronger. Lovely family you have!
Bless your heart!!! Thank you for sharing your experience with losing your wife. You are helping others by doing so.
I've been watching other widow vlogs because I recently lost my hubby. Yours showed up on my newsfeed so I was curious about what widowers go through. It's all really the same. I had to laugh about the fitted sheets. One of the many hard parts for me are the finances because hubby was the one who loved working on them. Finances and all the legal paperwork, so overwhelming, still is. I'm surprised no one has mentioned that. Anyway, looks like you have great support through the kids and grandkids. My grandkids could probably start helping me once I get back into my routine. The picture of your wife is beautiful and I love the way you greet her in the morning. I never thought of that but I think I will start saying good morning to my hubby. I'm a believer too and that's where I draw comfort is that he's no longer suffering and is in the arms of Jesus.
My wife did all the finances and bill paying on line; she was so organized that I am not having any problem keeping up with the paperwork; I just don't like doing it! The fitted sheets; I don't change them; I wash them and put them right back on the bed! When they wear out I will replace them; problem solved! My cat buddy is a life saver; he has been keeping me company since she passed and he knows she is gone.
I am sorry. I know how you feel.
@@joenovak9366 Joe,
You made me laugh. You resolve the Fitted sheet problem in a very original way. Congratulations!!
I lost my hubby of 50 years in 2021. We were both 18, when we married in 1971. He was a diabetic and a few other issues, but never expected he would ever die. It’s been a hard two years now, still I miss him everyday! Never thought I would ever be alone! It’s just so hard! His birthday was Jan. 25th too.
@@debbiescott6836I was with my Husband nearly 52 yes he passed 2022 miss him always. Think best thing is to keep talking to loved ones who have passed I do
anytime day/night love thinking they are around us. I take great comfort knowing no one can hurt them again & that they are in God's good loving care. Thinking of you 🤗 ❤
I just found your channel, and boy
I’m so very happy I did!
You see, my mother passed on this year and after 64 yrs of marriage I just could not leave my father’s side, no way, so I decided to move in with him temporarily,
I knew that is what I was supposed to do at the time, and we’re still under the same roof, lol
It’s been such a blessing for both of us, a win win. My father is 84
and still pretty healthy, loves to golf with his buddies! We are going through this first year with all of “ the first’s without mom “
together, many many tears, just like your Mary, my mother is in the same place having a splendid time with Jesus ❤ Thank you Carlos for being brave and open to sharing your beautiful story, your
life with all of us.!! I’m going to share this with my Father Joe,
as I know he will be deeply touched as well!
In His hands, Kelley 🌸
Hi Kelly,
Thank you watching my channel. You are doing what God put in your heart by moving in with your father. Your time together is precious and I’m sure he very grateful. I hope you have a life of your own as well.
Sorry for your loss and good for you, sharing your journey. I’ve been widowed from my second husband almost 9 years now. I hope when I turn 80 I’m going strong like you.
That letter you read about turning 80 is priceless! 😆❤
Thank you for your video. Life is always changing and learning. We come into life alone and leave alone. Alone is not always bad, it gives one a chance to become better aquainted with yourself. I hope your journey gets easier....
My son says that I am not alone, that I am with myself and that I am a pretty good person. Food for thought.
Hello! This video has just come up im my feed. Thank you for ur candidness in sharing the loss of your beloved wife of 54 years. You were born the same year as my beloved mother, 1941. She was born in Colombia and is a strong believer.
In your latest video, you seem to be dealing with some health challenges. I have not yet watched it, but read the video's title.
You will be in my prayers, Carlos. Our loves are in the hands of our heavenly Father. Our days are appointed by Him. Whether we live or die it is gain. ❤ 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing.
You are welcome
God bless you, sir. Thank you for making this video.
Thank you for this video. I lost my wife 1 week ago. You helped me. God Bless you
Hugs ❤
What a beautiful tribute to your wife. You’ve been blessed to have such loving memories. May God bless you! 💕🙏🏻💕
What a darling personality carlos is ..had a giggle about the folded fitted sheets .
I fold mine in half turn sides in and the roll.
I can relate to everything , having lost my man in 1988.
Thank you Carlos - great testimony of the love of your wife and life partner - I can relate in so many ways the journey of life alone after my husband passed - for me too the first year of experiencing celebrations was difficult - now some years later life has gotten easier - although I miss his presence’s every day-I believe his spirit is alive and present amongst the family 💞🙏💞
I just love listening to you. I lost my husband 5 months ago, and it has been so so hard. You are an inspiration. I know that he is in Heaven, and that warms my heart.
Thank you for your kind words. It gets better as time goes by. But you never forget.
Carlos, thank you so much for your insight, my wife died Dec9, 2022 of Bladder Cancer at 59 yr old, we had no children and her family walked away from me when we closed my wife's eyes for the last time. My wife and I were together for 20 yrs She took excellent care of me, 2 months after passing I put my dog down from Cancer so I'm the last on standing. I am experiencing the same issues as you are. Her 60th birthday is. July 5th, not sure how to handle it. Thank you so much on what to expect.
This breaks my heart. Been there. This world is not our home. Our loved ones have gone home.
We still have many loved ones on this earth. Enjoy them while you can.
Thank you for sharing your heart with us. Beautiful tribute to your wife. Glad you see you still have your humor. May God's peace continue to be with you.
Thanks for your wisdom. My wife of 25 years died last February from Covid. The last 6 months have been tough and working to get back to a new normal without her.😭
Is not possible getting back to “normal”. That “normal “doesn’t exist, at least for me. I’m now making my new normal or new way of life. Things change so drastically when you loose your wife. Go forward with all the memories you and her made!!
I CAN FEEL THE PAIN IN YOUR VOICE ..YOU ARE SUCH A THOUGHTFUL MAN..MY HUSBAND PASSED ON FEB..25TH. FROM A STROKE ..YOU ARE RIGHT IT IS GODS WILL NOT OURS.I ALSO BURIED OUR 3 SONS BUT THEN TOO IT WAS GODS WILL NOT OURS ..THIS IS THE WAY TO HAVE PEACE..
Carlos, I laughted and shed some tears listening to this while i was cooking. So many similaraties. My wife passed nov 2020 at 51 from cancer, Great to see you have loving family surrounding you. stay safe best wishes from use here in ☘🙏
When I started the channel my goal was if I can reach one person and make a difference in their life than I have done my job. I am humbled to see that the video my first year as a widower has almost 8000 views, and the number of comments that I have read really gets to my heart. I find a purpose on doing the TH-cam channel after my wife passed. Thank you for your comment. God bless you.
Thanks for watching. Just wandering how you are going now
Hi Carlos, we are doing good thanks for asking, its 2 years tomorrow 11th Nov my god where has the time gone hey, i have to say my children (6) have helped me focus on he positives, main one being them, their mother would be so proud of them, school graduation, confirmations. Birthdays 13th. 18th all big occassions gone without her presence seems so strange she is not here to share them, but im convinced she is in spirit, and is helping us through this, Erin was such a spititual woman, a social care worker always giving of the most valuable thing we have...time...if we can spread the goodness as she did we will be the better for her influence in our lives. I hope and pray you are doing good, and still have your loving family by your side. It's All that truely matters. Some times it takes a tragedy to realise this. Such a shame... best of luck to you and your family..👍💪❤
I do understand what you're going through. My husband will be dead five years this October. And it's still hard. My first year well it was just I didn't want to see anybody I didn't want to talk to anybody the only thing I could do was get out of bed to feed the dogs and let them out and then get back into bed. I didn't think life would go on but it did. And it will for you too. Yes I do the same thing in the morning I say my prayers and everything. And then get on with my day. God bless have a wonderful life.❤❤❤❤
Thank you for taking the time to write to me. It’s been four years that I lost. My wife and I have moved on by focusing on the memories we made together and not on what could have been. I am so thankful that I had her for 54 years.
I enjoyed your video Carlos. I lost my wife this past August. I was also struggling with fitted sheets as well as large blankets. Our wives were cleaning angels; mine too would take my slippers and shirts and put them away. I hope you're well and appreciate your story.
I don’t fall sheets anymore. I wash them and put them back on the bed.
I'm on my own grief journey. My husband passed May 1 and my son on Nov 23. I'm 79.
Still working thru things. Very lonely at times. God is good.
I lost my husband I’m May 18 2020 of 23 years it’s still so hard but each day will get a little better but the pain in your heart will still be there
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday...
I feel so sorry for your loss husband and son ....no words can comfort you/i know it/
Hello Ella,
It is so hard to loose your spouse, but I’m sure loosing a child is worse. His one year anniversary of his passing and I’m wondering how you are doing. Please let me know. God bless you. Carlos
Hugs.
What a precious video. I enjoyed the poem about being “80.” :) Thank you for sharing about your sweet Mary and how you managed after she passed. Thank you for your kindness to sit and share all of those thoughts. I know you were a help to many people going thru the same situations.
I am Sooo for your Loss! I can Relate, lost my Precious Husband 6/20/ 2020, at the Hospice House! He was the Love of my Life! I miss him
So very Much! I will be 71 July 7/ 2023. Oops, I was behind a Year lol He had Cancer! I took care of him, sooo proud that I could do that for him! He was 80 when He Passed Away ! God’s Blessings on You Carlos! Not a Day goes by That I don’t Thank about him! It’s A Lonely Life, but with God’s help I will make it! I know my Sweet Husband is in Heaven & no longer Suffering ! That gives my Heart Comfort!
Thank you for your comments from your heart. I hope you’re doing well.
Thank you for your video. My husband passed 5 months ago. It's been during the Christmas holidays that I realized he wouldn't be walking thru that door ever again. My challenges have been more with learning to use a riding lawnmower or fixing the snowblower but I feel quite accomplished when I figured out. And, yes, meals are different...I might try your happy hour. My biggest supporter is gone, that's the hard part.
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday...
Thank you for your video. It’s been 10 months since my husband passed. I can identify with so many of the things you said. It’s a daily struggle but I’m focused on moving forward with a smile because I know my husband would want that for me. All the best to you. I’m 72😊.
Glad to hear that you are doing well. We do move forward, but we take our memories of our spouses with us forever.
Thanks to get better. But there are times when sadness overcomes us and we just have to deal with it and keep on going forward. Just make sure you have a lot of support from family and friends.
It’s been one year since I lost my husband. It’s been a rough year and I know I would never had made it this far if I didn’t have God
Blessings to you from Texas
Carlos God Bless you with comfort. I lost my Marine a few years ago.. Praying for you 💖🙏💔❤️
Carlos I really enjoyed listening to you😊 Thankyou for sharing your story.🦋🌷
May the Lord continually give you and your family comfort, strength, and peace knowing that those that believe in Christ will be raised first in a glorified body in the Rapture. It is such a glorious thought, that one day ,we as the children of God will be in Heaven with the Lord forever! Enjoy your words of wisdom.
Such a sad but beautiful story. Sounds like you have a great support system. Your story brought me to tears. Hugs
Thanks for watching my video. It’s my pleasure to share my memories with others.
Hello Sandie
Love your videos. They’re educational and know you already helped many people. You should be a motivational speaker. Keep up the good work. I’ve subscribed.
Hello Rose
Wow Carlos, your story reminds me so much of mine. My wife lost her battle with leukemia after 2 years. She passed at 71; I’m 66.
I was knew that she transferred being cared by me and the VA to being cared for by God.
And yeah, sheets 🤣. Thanks for the story.
Hello, Mark. Thank you for listening. I am sorry for your loss, but I am glad you got a kick out of my bedsheet story😁
@Michele Lane Amen, my prayers are with you.
Thank you for sharing this Carlos. Not sure how your video ended up in my feed. But glad it did.
I buried my wife is 27 years December 18th, 2021. She had battled cancer for 20 years, o different times.
I am left with 5 kids. But thank God fie a close and large immediate family, and a caring and close nit church family.
Hearing your love for your wife is encouraging and a good reminder of what a good marriage and relationship looks like.
I grieve the loss of my bride. But know she is free of suffering and in the presence of her Lord and King - Jesus Christ.
Thank him for your venerability. May this be helpful to many more as it was to me :). .
Oh, how I can relate. After 50 1/2 years I was alone. I kept on living in our home. Will be 80 in 3 months.
I LIKE THE NOTE YOU READ IN THE BEGINNING .I AM COMING EIGHTY NOW. SO I CAN BE FORGETFUL NOW..I ALSO HAD A HARD TIME LIVING ALONE BUT NOW IM USED TO IT..I ENJOY MY FREEDOM..//
I am watching your video of your first year as a widow. First, I live in Upper Marlboro not far from Suitland..that’s really neat and second, I never lived alone either. Went from my father’s house to husband and here we are close to 70 and it’s so scary realizing one of may not be here in a few tears. I just don’t know what I would do by myself. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for your comment. I hope both of you have a long life together. My advice is that you have all your legal paperwork in order.
Thankyou for sharing your story. I am in my 7th month and I do not like it. It is not as bad now when my wife Lina passed away in December. Life goes on and at first I just did not get it. It is better now and you video helped. THANKS AGAIN !!! - John
John, I appreciate your comments since I know exactly what you’re going through right now. It does get better. There are some days that I don’t think about my wife and that’s OK but for sure I talk to her every morning and every night.
Yes it was God’s will and you will see Mary again in heaven!
My beloved wife died December 26th. Thank you for this, sir.
So Sorry for your loss. It will take sometime before you start a new normal life. It all depends on your mental attitude and the will to continue living remembering all the things you did together.
My first time living alone also. Married right out of high school for 63 yrs until he passed with heart trouble three yrs ago. I’ve been thru a very hard time but am now finally feeling better.
Hello there
I’m glad you like folding clothes 😅 I do it out of necessity. Glad to know that you are doing better. My wife was the love of my life, I know I’ll never love that way again. My time is spent with traveling, family, and friends.
Sending Love ❤️...Cindy...Are you open to a new relationship? ❤️🌹🌹🌹
Hi Carlos. I enjoyed your video very much. I lost my husband a little over 1 1/2 years ago, and am still finding it hard without him. Doing better, but still have my moments. It was interesting hearing about it from a mans point of view. I think she was very lucky to have you. Sounds like you had a good marriage. God bless.
Hello Jay,
Life is precious and we need to enjoy it while we are on this earth. I’m traveling and socializing more it keeps me busy and avoid being sad.
Recently discovered your channel. Been watching & want to praise you for pushing forward in life. You seem a joy to hang out with. Certainly you are inspirational and a motivator. God bless you for using you as a vessel to teach us. Keep up the good work.
You humble me with your comment. Thank you for watching.
What a good video Carlos, I found myself crying, I have been through this as well. You will be fine. Good luck to you
Thank you
I'm really getting a kick listening to your granddaughter. She sounds so much like my granddaughter, so very caring and funny. My heart goes out to you during this difficult time in your life. One thing for sure, Mary was very blessed to have you and you very blessed to have had her. I am from a small town so sometimes I fly to New York to visit my daughter and her family. It's wonderful that you have family around you. I enjoy listening to you, keep up the great work.
Thank you. She is a jewel.
Dear Carlos, I am so happy I found your channel. I lost my husband suddenly on Nov 28, 2020. He was killed instantly by a blood clot to his heart during a mountain bike ride. He was just 53. I am 44 and coming up to the anniversary of his passing. Please keep making videos. I am far away in North Wales (I am a Canadian though originally from Vancouver, BC.) Thank you for your honesty, candidness, and humanity. Sending all my love. Mirka Garland
So sorry for your loss. Must’ve been quite a shock. My wife lasted three weeks so I was able to talk to her about many things. Still the loss is great. I stayed in my house for almost three years and now I have moved to another town and for the first time in my life I bought a house as a single man. I move forward with my memories of my wife and all the things that we did together. I keep busy all day just so I don’t get depressed. I know she would want me to enjoy life.
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday...
@@richardbradshaw7830 thank you Richard for your comments. Life is much better for me now.
@@carlosvargas7929 You're absolutely welcome. And I'm glad to hear life is much better for you now.
@@carlosvargas7929 ?
I've lost my wife only last October 6, 2021 due to covid 19. First time that we celebrated Christmas and New Year without her. She was only 49 yrs old and we just married for more than 20 yrs. There's a lot of things that I want to do for her but it's not possible now. If only she has reached the same age as of your wife, I know it will be still painful but we could accomplished more and probably less regrets. She will not be able to see her children graduate from colleges and go to work. She will no be able witness their marriage and see her grandchildren. Three months have passed and still very hard for me to accept the reality that she's not here anymore.
Rejoice in the love that you shared and the fact that many will not get to experience the depth of connection you did.
As with all things in life, ending is a part of it
Wishes to you for your continued healing and acceptance 🤗💖
My husband passed 2 days after your wife, also covid. We were married 49 years. I have yet to move his shaving items from the place he had them. If he were to show up nothing would be amiss. I know that will have to be dealt with but I'm not ready. Its a very hard time. Some days I don't cry...progress!
Hi, I am wondering how you feel you are doing 8 months after your wife’s passing.
Lost my husband after 40 years, 4 months ans 22 days of marriage also due to vovid 30 Dec 21.
Know him since 14 years.
I do not know how to move forward.
@@hestervanstaden6205 going forward is a must in the healing process. Like a toddler you start crawling then you stand up and take small steps, and then you can move forward. Think about all the good memories you had with your husband and that will carry you forward. It’s not easy and you may fall, but you get up and you keep going. He will want this for you, I don’t think he would want you to be depressed all the time.
It's good to hear a fellow widowers experience, I feel so lost with out the love of my life of 23 years. I too have never lived alone without my husband or mom who also passed of cancer.for me it's awful
Take heart my precious bro.
Reach out,
When you love that hard the pain never goes away, so sad yet true.
This was a great video Carlos! Yes fitted sheets are still a challenge for me! I make a neat mess folding fitted sheets 😊
Someone suggested that instead of folding the fitted sheets that you just put them back on the bed.
Hi Carlos It’s lovely to hear and share your alone time as I’m twenty years alone and eighty six now and you can have a loving and helpful family but as I always say “You have to walk the walk to feel that loneliness especially at night locking up and switching off the lights and walking up the stairs but when I get to the top and kiss the icon on the landing I thank God for my freedom to do all I again on my own and Bless that day “ Thank you Carlos for sharing your day Many more Blessing Mary ❤
Thank you for your comment. It’s been four years since I lost my wife but things are getting better.
How beautiful Carlos God Bless you🙏🙏
Carlos, what Blessing to come across your video. I understand your grief. You
have been a strong person. Cancer took
the love of my life. God be with you. I am
also a 1941 model.
That was a good year (since we were born then 😅). Thank you for watching my video ❤️
Great video Carlos! Lost my wife unexpectedly Dec 28th, 2019. Every word you said is 100% exactly how every day went, and still is. God Bless and have a great day!!
How are you doing now?
@@carlosvargas7929 Hanging in there. Just real hard to move on with the legal issues we have been pursuing because of it all. But I know she's in a way better place with Jesus. That's really the only thing that helps is knowing where she is now :)
@@erterrill we must move forward being grateful of sharing our live with our wife.
What a wonderful testimony of ❤your love for her. A true love story.
While watching you tell your story, knowing it has to be painful, I am amazed at how you lit up when talking about your wife going to Heaven. Yes, that is our goal, to make it to see our Savior. Knowing that our loved ones are saved and are in Heaven makes the waiting a bit easier. We can see them again!!!
When I get to heaven and see my wife again, she and I are going to have a conversation about how she went first because that was not the plan I was supposed to go first .😁
Thank you Carlos for your story. I see that I am not too far off in my actions and my thoughts. My wife my queen of 26 yrs passed away 3 months ago from a heart attack. No previous health issues. Just had a physical the month before. 51 yrs old. We have no children, but my queen LOVED our 2 cats and they are here with me now. I have no idea on what to do now. I definately see and feel GOD working but ye this is TOUGH. I am praying for you and your family and EVERYONE else who has watched or is watching your video. thank you for inviting us into your home sir. In Jesus name amen!!!
Thanks for reaching out. Just do what you used to do before she passed, now you do for two. That includes going to places where both of you went. THAT is tough, but you will relive memories from the past. Laugh and cry !!
Carlos I'm from California and you...my husband was 84 when he passed. This April he would have been 87 years old I am 15 years younger then him..
Hello Linda
How are you doing today?
O! How I can relate to this Carlos, experienced the same emotions and trails, I’m into my second year of been a Widower, as of the picture I have one hanging in her favorite spot in the house. She got to hold her new grandchild the day before she passed on. Nothing but happy memories for me.
Is good to hear that you are in a good place in life. This time of year brings back many memories and blessings.
Ola Carlos! Que tal? You sound like a really nice person. Someone who really cared and loved your wife.
I lost my husband almost six years ago. Miss him so much. Lost him very suddenly, just like that. Wishing you all the best.
Hello Patty
Thank you for sharing your story with us. God bless you, and my condolences and prayers go out to the people who have lost someone. Much luv
Thanks Danny. I appreciate your comment. ❤️
@@carlosvargas7929 you're very welcome. My wife of almost 7 years this month passed away from cervical cancer on 4/6/22. My baby fought with everything that she had, and I was right there fighting along side of her. Mr Vargas, seeing how the cancer took over my wife's body. To where she couldn't tend to herself, lift up her arm, altered her breathing, her legs were so swollen from her retaining fluids. To eventually seeing my wife for the very last time.
It was on the 5th the day before she passed away, when I seen my wife for the very last time. Seeing my wife just laying there completely incoherent as I kissed her cheek, lips, hugged her leg, ran my fingers through her hair, and kissed and held her hand. Was the worst feeling that I've ever felt in my entire life. I felt completely helpless. I cry for my wife every single day. I'm not one for cliches etc because for me it's not gonna get easier with time. I have faith and believe in my Lord and savior Jesus Christ!! But Mr Vargas this hurts too much. I am spiraling out of control quickly. I thank you for allowing me to share my personal story with you. I NEED YOU I LOVE YOU I MISS YOU BABY I MISS YOU SO MUCH BABE. FOREVER AND A DAY BABY ME& YOU BABE I MISS YOU I LOVE YOU I NEED YOU ALWAYS BABE!! -TEAM JIMENEZ-
How are you?
Thank you for sharing your story.🥰🇨🇦😘
Being the youngest child I lost my Dad when I was a sophmore in High School. I really didn't think my Dad would die at just 65 but he did of heart problems.
Both my parents are passed and I know they are together...and happy.
I lost my wife 3 weeks ago after a 15 year battle with cancer. I'm 75 and my bride was my best friend we spent every moment of every day together. I'm so lost I know she is with Jesus and her favorite dog. I'm just not sure I want to go on without her
Hello John,
Sorry for your loss. I know exactly what you are going through. If the situation was the other way around and you had died, and your wife was living, wouldn’t you want for her to enjoy live the rest of her days? By the same token I am sure that your wife would like for you to enjoy the rest of your life. I know it’s hard because I’ve gone through it but the most important thing is to focus on the positive not the negative. focus on all the memories that you and her had together. I hope that you have a support group made up of either family or friends. They are invaluable during your grief.
Carlos
@lifewithcarlos-vida80s thank you
So sorry for your loss, Sir. I lost my 14 year old son.
🤗 ❤💐 so sorry for your loss that was such a difficult time for you. Keep strong we know our loved ones are safe in God's good loving care & that nothing can ever hurt them again ❤
I enjoyed your video very much. Thank you.
Touching.
Thanks
That is so hard for you to video how you lost your Love. I really appreciate your courage to do that.
I lost my wife of 55 years also due to recurring Cancer and find it hard to go on. But know life goes on, stay healthy and get back out in the World, you will be happier👍Love u Guy❤️
Thank you Klaus for your words of encouragement. I keep myself busy by socializing and traveling. How about you?
Bless you. My husband died unexpectedly 6 months ago from a botched operation to repair his fractured femur. It's been a blur.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Strength and hugs.
blessings and good health for this man
Be strong Really lovely video. Mary’s always at your side..Your story is the same as my lovely dad he died 26aug 2021 .Bless them both 🌸🌸
Hi Karen, i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday...
@@richardbradshaw7830 Thanks for your reply Richard your right what you say .We just have to keep strong.
@@karengilbert9016You're absolutely welcome Karen! You know life be so unfair to us at times.
It is almost a year since my 66 year old husband has passed away from cancer. He too was so healthy prior to this horrible deadly cancer. We were married for 47 years and blessed with 3 children and now 5 grandchildren. You’ve given me hope for the 2nd year of being alone. Bless you.
Hi Bonnie,
I just saw your comment. As you know the first year is the hardest to endure. It does gets better with time, but you have to get involved in outside activities such as walking, going out with friends, or volunteering at a non profit organization such as a food bank or thrift store. I guarantee you will be amazed at the changes you will go through when you are exposed to others. It’s a privilege to give of yourself to others.
Hello Bonnie,is best to start making new memories
@@dwaynedonald2939 Thanks. I’m trying to move forward. My children all live near me and they are wonderful to include me in their lives too.
That's great is a good thing to have family close by. I hope you don't mind us being friends?Where are you located?
@@dwaynedonald2939 Minnesota
Amazing. I am a divorced
just 80 year old woman.
I related to so much that you
said despite the differences.
Please, please keep your
videos coming!
I will. Thanks for watching
Carlos, sounds like you had a lovely wife and life. You have great memories. Yes, our souls go on to another place. Your wife will always be with you in spirit. Blessings galore.
Hello Margaret
Thank you ❤
Thank you for sharing your heart and the loss of your beloved Mary.
married 50years to a wonderful man6 months since diagnosis thanks for your story
What a healthy attitude of life without his wife. Because he and his wife were Christians the transition was as it should be. Sad and of course not easy but he drew strength from the Heavenly Father God. What an inspiration to others that will have to face one or other leaving. He had lots of family and friends too that is very helpful. I hope the rest of your life continues to be peaceful and full with your memories and draw strength from Jesus.
Thank you 🙏
I know what you mean. My husband of 50 yrs went to heaven 2 yrs ago.
God bless you.
Carlos, everything you say is so true. For me I am learning yard work on this 30 acres. My husband has been gone for 10 months, I am lost, I miss him so much. He was perfectly healthy then the brain cancer, wow. An incurable disease.
You have a wonderful outlook on life and like you said God, he is always there and good.
I just made a video something like this, a reflection of my grief journey so far. But I am beginning to enjoy a few things there is a light in all the darkness. God be with you.
Hugs,
Cindy in Oklahoma
So good to hear that you are doing better. It’s a long road, but we must remember that our spouse would want us to keep on living and enjoy life.🙏
Oh sorry Dear, I'm sorry to hear about your lost i understand how you feel, because am in the same road as you are, i hope you don't mind us being friends?
I know exactly how you it been 18 yrs ago of the passing of my husband and it still feel like yesterday I always wanted to talk to somebody who is feeling same like me who knows how it felt to loose the love of their life thank you sir for sharing your story with us may her soul rest in peace
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday...
@@richardbradshaw7830 thank you for your kind words God blessings always
@@devicakhan6590 You're absolutely welcome. You know life can be so unfair to us at times.
@@richardbradshaw7830 you so right I always wonder how people who love each other , never cheat and don’t fight with each other those are the ones lost their love in death and there others who want a divorce life is unfair
@@richardbradshaw7830 Thank you sir you are kind I am happy we talk stay safe
I feel that men and women losing their other half are really sad,my dad and mom divorced for along time before my dad died,but for myself I still have my husband, but I also feel alone, and people can't understand what I mean, but I do and I felt that for years, so I like to help others if I can,or even when we lose our loved ones it's a lose that you don't ever over come, God bless each and everyone that has to go through this kind of thing,God bless all the people in the world and bless them today and tomorrow and forever
Hello Lillie
How are you doing today?