●Ladies, when in a new relationship, you should continue to be mysterious in a way that makes a man want to get to know you more and more! ●Keep personal things, past situations/relationships between you and God only, so the man won't be able to use anything against you.
I was talking to a guy recently and he said I’m really quiet and I don’t say too much 😂 I’m thinking oh no I talk but I can’t tell you everything about me and we just started talking!
A boyfriend is not your husband. Give him no ammunition to use against you. If you made that mistake, leave him alone. The world is full of idiots. Don’t be one of them.
Tony you are a natural father to a lot of fatherless women out here. I really could cry because I’m so grateful to be able to take in all this knowledge. The Bible says “my people perish for a lack of knowledge.” I really see that I am where I am in life simply because I didn’t know better. The phrase “if you know better you do better” but if you don’t know better you can’t do better. If a woman didn’t have a mother or father in her life, women that did have an advantage over her. I told myself instead of continuing to cry about not having either, to go on a journey and get all the knowledge I can. Knowledge is information and wisdom is application. Once the knowledge is gained I then have to apply it. This is true deliverance right here. Thank you so much for being a father to the fatherless. I am forever grateful for your ministry.
Maybe I’m cut from a different cloth, but I don’t tell a new man anything. For all he knows I’m squeaky clean. Even in a relationship I still don’t trust that 100% because it WILL be used against you when stuff gets real. I always felt like women talk too much even to other women, that’s why so many have experienced their best friend sleeping with their man! A man is not your friend so don’t ever get too comfortable.
You’re spot on about Derrick Jack. I went to college with him and no one on campus wanted him and he was swole and on the football team back then. I was confused when he came out acting like he had all this experience with women when he clearly didn’t get it in college.
25:22 is on point. my father doesn't remember his parents even telling him that they loved him (EVER). out of 6 kids, he's the only boy and always felt downed, blamed, etc. he said at 7 or 8 years old, he vowed that when he had kids, he would love them; he was gonna love them the way he felt he wasn't. he's lived up to that for sure.
It’s so crazy to hear how many adults were not loved as children. I’ve heard this story countless times. 😢 But your dad is an anomaly! Love that he broke that generational curse by loving and showing love to his children
Tony keeping it real. I have found the relationship tips a therapist gave me doesn’t work. It’s not that they are useless it’s that the tips are meant to be healthy meaning it’s done with good intentions, good faith, respect, and does not hurt anyone, I find most people I meet in dating but honest in general have unresolved issues from the past and don’t know how to be a kind, responsible accountable person. As I started doing my own personal growth, healing, and overcoming my own past and learning good ways to be with people. I find that changes who I want and who wants me. So although the therapist is helpful, Tony’s advice sheds light on the reality of what I will likely be dealing with into until I find a real grown man who can do healthy things like communicating, has self control and emotional mature and honest and giving grace for each other. Not perfect but healed or healing enough to meet me halfway.
Thank you so much! From a woman who grew up without a dad present, your content is literally life-changing. May God continue to bless you and yours a million fold 🙏🏾
As a woman who grew up without any guidance, an absent dad and no presence of God(an atheist mother)...I learned EVERYTHING the hard way. I thank God for his grace, mercy, covering, healing, salvation, knowledge, wisdom and unconditional love. God never left my side even when I had no knowledge of him. All praises and glory to God. I thank God for people such as Tony who are willing to be obedient and follow the instructions of the LORD.💌🤍🥹🙌🏾🙏🏾
@@LaBrayeMichelleMcKinley God is so good. He has always been there for me the same way he is always there for you. May you thrive and continue to be edified by his grace and love in your heart. Tony is the brother I never had and God is my counselor and in the absence of a good father and mother due to death, God is my parents, my husband and my brother and my sister and my greatest friend. I surrender all to Him and I live according to His instructions.
Tony I SCREAMED 😂😂when you told the lady to get you a job, because everyone can eat. Thank you for always sharing a word. GOD bless you and your family.
Yesss TG you teaching ! So true ! My previous relationship I over shared and it was def a lesson learned. I was in the world at the time and was being lead by my flesh! He def used things I shared with him to his advantage for sure ! Thank you Lord for growth, wisdom and courage to leave !!
Yes! We have to use discernment. I remember “swole buddy” was a fraud. My mom used to send me his clips and I always ignored them. He used to say good things that sounded Biblical but NEVER mentioned God from his first popular videos which was a RED flag. Second red flag was him always wearing those tight shirts. You only dress like that when you are looking for a woman to look at you. That just didn’t align with him portraying himself as a man out to HELP women. Thanks Tony!
Control your emotions. Keep your business to yourself. Don't overcharge. It will be used against you later. Stop explaining yourself to Satan. Let your cut off game be on point. Love yourself no matter who you with. Pray
Hi Tony, Yes I agree with how men interact with their kids. I genuinely don’t believe they’re able to connect with their children even if they want to because they might not be wired to do so.. men take good care of their kids if they like the mother. If they don’t, all hell breaks loose.
TG please not saying yawl forgive me. It’s great to see a man putting his priorities FIRST. If a viewer can’t handle the realness they’re on the wrong channel. Love seeing you face light up for your children and your wife more men need to show it!
Alot of the time if you stay someone that is emotionally wounded then it is going to be destructive If the person heals then they usually outgrow the relationship
Bro Tony you're right I've been program to mentally think that a Man of God wouldn't do this or that to you. It's sad to have been program this way .the women in the church this is what's been taught
@tony gaskins, thank you for this level of insight. In addition to that, I do want to say that in my experience some woman idolize men because the world does. I’ve witnessed moms be harder on and towards their daughters than they are towards their sons. Also, for the religious folks, and to which you agreed that woman haven’t had a very safe nor honest depiction since the beginning of time, which includes the Bible. So therefore some woman no matter who they are have felt like I have to praise the man in order to be considered submissive or feminine even if it is at my own expense.
Wish more of our fathers were giving us the game so dating would be easier for us to avoid such simple things. It seems like NO MEN care about our well being including our fathers.
@kangelondexter1156 Yes, Lawd. 1. Throwbacks after 15yrs married. 2. Failure to launch 3. Life long bachelor's 4. Looking for a nurse 5. Looking for a purse What did I forget?
I turned down a guy who was a corn addict. He was a nerdy, square type, black guy, good person, and great career. It is such a turn-off, I couldn't look past it.
Teach me how to love…. One of my favorite songs and yes I think you can heal through love and you have to learn what makes another person feel loved 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️
Come on now preach Tony! Psychological abuse is very crippling! Because you can’t touch or see it , most people don’t understand the level of damage it can cause! It doesn’t matter if a million people try to help you it won’t work! The door will literally be open and the coast is clear and the victim won’t escape because the defeat is already in the mind or belief system 😢. Only way out is to find yourself in Jesus. I’m a living witness, he delivered me from people and situations I didn’t even realize I needed deliverance from🙏! God Is the greatest ❤️❤️❤️❗️!
My mom taught me very well Never tell a man only everything Will wash your face later on.. They are not going to tell you all they personal business.. Forget them..tell jesus not silly man .. life coach tell your business..They're human. Aswell. I know my sister in law is a family counselor.. she come home and tell My brother.. her clients their personal issues of life.. she off the devil.. I just shake my head.. she off the devil ..😊
Yu are so right on the most honest man the most church godly man can scam yuo can steal from yuo yes it happened to me my ex stole lots of money he never pay back manipulating me into we are married this why I don’t trust a man with my money women talk a lot we don’t know the man and we are telling our lives and it’s been use against us men can be very dangerous
I saw Tony in my dreams last night selling me Elderberry Gummies in Jamaica out of a white van. He sold me three bottles, even though I asked for two. I think WEALTHOFHEALTH was on the van too.
A man sure don’t tell you everything I just experienced this with my guy been knowing him 4 years and just found out he have a grown son he didn’t tell me about.
Ohhhh heck nooo get rid of him! That’s not cool by courting and it get serious within a few months you should know about all their children.. men like that is DANGEROUS he be the type to give you an incurable STD.. y’all ladies better stay woke..
Girl I hope you not in that relationship anymore.. he could be hiding an incurable STD.. where y’all get these sneaky men from y’all dating over 1 year That’s crazy business
This came right on time for me!! I'm about to go on vacation with him, and I know he's going to want to talk at length b/c he's already tried that and I did not say much...I kept it light. I am ready for all of it!❤ Thank you for this, Tony!
Moral of the story if you watch your mouth, you ain’t gotta watch your back. A person can only use what they know.
Well said
🔥🔥
TY, 1 Peter 5:7
Men & women will be dishonest!? Proverbs 27:20. Vet
@@erica679 true
●Ladies, when in a new relationship, you should continue to be mysterious in a way that makes a man want to get to know you more and more!
●Keep personal things, past situations/relationships between you and God only, so the man won't be able to use anything against you.
I was talking to a guy recently and he said I’m really quiet and I don’t say too much 😂 I’m thinking oh no I talk but I can’t tell you everything about me and we just started talking!
@@katythebeauty330 🙋🏽♀️👏🏽🙌🏽You betta preeeeach!
A boyfriend is not your husband.
Give him no ammunition to use against you. If you made that mistake, leave him alone. The world is full of idiots. Don’t be one of them.
Tony you are a natural father to a lot of fatherless women out here. I really could cry because I’m so grateful to be able to take in all this knowledge. The Bible says “my people perish for a lack of knowledge.” I really see that I am where I am in life simply because I didn’t know better. The phrase “if you know better you do better” but if you don’t know better you can’t do better. If a woman didn’t have a mother or father in her life, women that did have an advantage over her. I told myself instead of continuing to cry about not having either, to go on a journey and get all the knowledge I can. Knowledge is information and wisdom is application. Once the knowledge is gained I then have to apply it. This is true deliverance right here. Thank you so much for being a father to the fatherless. I am forever grateful for your ministry.
That is the truth. ..fatherless. Some pastors have really missed this part.
"Your past only has power if you give it power"
Don’t tell men what you expect, want in a man, desire. Just observe and move accordingly 😊
👌🏾
🎯
@@PinkytipsByAstride is there harm to ask for patience and understanding?
Maybe I’m cut from a different cloth, but I don’t tell a new man anything. For all he knows I’m squeaky clean. Even in a relationship I still don’t trust that 100% because it WILL be used against you when stuff gets real. I always felt like women talk too much even to other women, that’s why so many have experienced their best friend sleeping with their man! A man is not your friend so don’t ever get too comfortable.
@@tarahbruno3793 this is a common thing for women to experience?
Married 44 years; didn’t talk about other relationships. Noooooooo!!!
You’re spot on about Derrick Jack. I went to college with him and no one on campus wanted him and he was swole and on the football team back then. I was confused when he came out acting like he had all this experience with women when he clearly didn’t get it in college.
Interesting
Uhhoooo this is tea
😂😂😂😂😂
Maybe he got the experience after college.
He had the experience of being dogged out maybe 🤷♀️
25:22 is on point. my father doesn't remember his parents even telling him that they loved him (EVER). out of 6 kids, he's the only boy and always felt downed, blamed, etc. he said at 7 or 8 years old, he vowed that when he had kids, he would love them; he was gonna love them the way he felt he wasn't. he's lived up to that for sure.
😢❤
It’s so crazy to hear how many adults were not loved as children. I’ve heard this story countless times. 😢 But your dad is an anomaly! Love that he broke that generational curse by loving and showing love to his children
Whats easier than all this gymnastics is to stay single , yall be safe though
Listen:(
When you expose yourself, you are open for attack...
Tony is right. I learned from experiences. It’s best to just watch and observe. Be polite and respectful but watch and observe.
56:13 One of the most valuable things I’ve learned from Tony is how to read men.
Yes! Invaluable!
Yes yes yes!!!
Me too💯❗️
See how he ain’t blinking at us…🤣😂🤣… I absolutely respect and love this man…. Your humor is awesome….
Tony keeping it real. I have found the relationship tips a therapist gave me doesn’t work. It’s not that they are useless it’s that the tips are meant to be healthy meaning it’s done with good intentions, good faith, respect, and does not hurt anyone, I find most people I meet in dating but honest in general have unresolved issues from the past and don’t know how to be a kind, responsible accountable person. As I started doing my own personal growth, healing, and overcoming my own past and learning good ways to be with people. I find that changes who I want and who wants me. So although the therapist is helpful, Tony’s advice sheds light on the reality of what I will likely be dealing with into until I find a real grown man who can do healthy things like communicating, has self control and emotional mature and honest and giving grace for each other. Not perfect but healed or healing enough to meet me halfway.
Your new mic 🎤 is GREAT!!! 👍 Your voice is loud and clear!! 🎉
Thank you so much! From a woman who grew up without a dad present, your content is literally life-changing. May God continue to bless you and yours a million fold 🙏🏾
“ A grown man can tell the truth.” “And only a weak man what an advantage.” What you say. Very powerful wisdom nuggets. Thank you. 🙏🏾👍🏽🙌🏽
As a woman who grew up without any guidance, an absent dad and no presence of God(an atheist mother)...I learned EVERYTHING the hard way. I thank God for his grace, mercy, covering, healing, salvation, knowledge, wisdom and unconditional love. God never left my side even when I had no knowledge of him. All praises and glory to God. I thank God for people such as Tony who are willing to be obedient and follow the instructions of the LORD.💌🤍🥹🙌🏾🙏🏾
@@LaBrayeMichelleMcKinley God is so good. He has always been there for me the same way he is always there for you. May you thrive and continue to be edified by his grace and love in your heart. Tony is the brother I never had and God is my counselor and in the absence of a good father and mother due to death, God is my parents, my husband and my brother and my sister and my greatest friend. I surrender all to Him and I live according to His instructions.
Tony I SCREAMED 😂😂when you told the lady to get you a job, because everyone can eat. Thank you for always sharing a word. GOD bless you and your family.
The video I didn’t realize I needed! Got my notebook and pen 🖊️. Baby this a whole series class frfr 👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽✨
Yesss TG you teaching ! So true ! My previous relationship I over shared and it was def a lesson learned. I was in the world at the time and was being lead by my flesh! He def used things I shared with him to his advantage for sure ! Thank you Lord for growth, wisdom and courage to leave !!
Tony Gaskins will always be my go to for advice bc of how wholesome he is
Yes! We have to use discernment. I remember “swole buddy” was a fraud.
My mom used to send me his clips and I always ignored them. He used to say good things that sounded Biblical but NEVER mentioned God from his first popular videos which was a RED flag. Second red flag was him always wearing those tight shirts. You only dress like that when you are looking for a woman to look at you. That just didn’t align with him portraying himself as a man out to HELP women.
Thanks Tony!
The red flag for me was that fast talking in his car 🚗 💨 😫🤣
@@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473 lol!!!!
@@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473LOL True
Control your emotions. Keep your business to yourself. Don't overcharge. It will be used against you later. Stop explaining yourself to Satan. Let your cut off game be on point. Love yourself no matter who you with. Pray
Do that. 😊❤
Tony, this lighting is perfect. No dark spots and no glare on “Consistency”👏🏾🙌🏾
Exactly
The day I came across you was the best thing to happen to me. Man, the last couple weeks, I have grown so much.
Where did you see him?
The way Tony says Peurto Rico makes me laugh out loud
“Swoll Buddy”🤣🤣🤣
I was deeeaaaaaddd 💀☠️lmao 😅
@@FlametoFulfillment Me too sis..🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣… he be being funny and don’t even be trying to… I know his wife love that humor…
@@FlametoFulfillment I’m dead 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
1:19:14 I love the truth you just gave, sir Gaskins. Men are sharp on these things. As women, we take it lightly.
Undeniably, the best advice! Tony, this lesson is priceless. I am going to share this valuable information with others. Thank you so much.❤❤❤❤😊
“… and when they pushed up and smushed up like det… you sayin, hey papi.come get it.” I am DEADT! 😩😩😩😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hi, Tony. The quality of the mic is top notch!!!!
Never tell a man the last time you had sex.
Yes that’s the first thing they ask Don’t tell them it’s to use it against yuo
They don't tell us that so hell naw
@@Carolina480 why are they asking that? What does it change for them?
This video is jam packed with sooo much information..(if you’re listening)…..my daughter is 19 and I have to share this with her….Thank you Tony!
Hi Tony,
Yes I agree with how men interact with their kids. I genuinely don’t believe they’re able to connect with their children even if they want to because they might not be wired to do so.. men take good care of their kids if they like the mother. If they don’t, all hell breaks loose.
The humor of Tony is so epic 😂😂😂 I’m getting educated and a good laugh. I know you were sent from God 🙏🏾
TG please not saying yawl forgive me. It’s great to see a man putting his priorities FIRST. If a viewer can’t handle the realness they’re on the wrong channel. Love seeing you face light up for your children and your wife more men need to show it!
Alot of the time if you stay someone that is emotionally wounded then it is going to be destructive
If the person heals then they usually outgrow the relationship
Bro Tony you're right I've been program to mentally think that a Man of God wouldn't do this or that to you. It's sad to have been program this way .the women in the church this is what's been taught
keep doing a great job teaching with humor but knowledge....
You are full of wisdom Tony
❤Tony is delivering straight facts & he delivers it like my grandparents😂 straight forward with unintentional comedy🤣 and I love it!!!
I appreciate how real and raw you are Tony! Keep being you and what you came to do!🔥
@tony gaskins, thank you for this level of insight. In addition to that, I do want to say that in my experience some woman idolize men because the world does. I’ve witnessed moms be harder on and towards their daughters than they are towards their sons. Also, for the religious folks, and to which you agreed that woman haven’t had a very safe nor honest depiction since the beginning of time, which includes the Bible. So therefore some woman no matter who they are have felt like I have to praise the man in order to be considered submissive or feminine even if it is at my own expense.
Tony this is so good, you are dropping gems on this!🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯
Wish more of our fathers were giving us the game so dating would be easier for us to avoid such simple things. It seems like NO MEN care about our well being including our fathers.
This is so good, it's about relationships but every nugget of it carries a deeper meaning that we can use to navigate life.
Real 😭🎯
VIDEO TOPIC: Dating in your late 40s and 50s what are the rules, things to avoid and what to expect.
@kangelondexter1156 Yes, Lawd.
1. Throwbacks after 15yrs married.
2. Failure to launch
3. Life long bachelor's
4. Looking for a nurse
5. Looking for a purse
What did I forget?
@@kandid898can you clarify #1 please?
@kandid898 6. Alcohol or drug use. 7. Pornography. 8. No job or inconsistent employment.
I turned down a guy who was a corn addict. He was a nerdy, square type, black guy, good person, and great career. It is such a turn-off, I couldn't look past it.
Great video
DONT TALK DONT SAY YUOR LIFE THEY DONT CARE THEY ARE LISTENING BUT THEY ARE JUDGING YUO BELIEVE ME I BEEN THERE
His head was big - and he looked like a ballon on a string is crazy 😂😂 bc I can def see it 🎈
God is so good!
Lol "Swole buddy" 😂 It's hilarious to me that anyone would mistake you for swole buddy😂
😂😂😂😂
Teach me how to love…. One of my favorite songs and yes I think you can heal through love and you have to learn what makes another person feel loved 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️
Stand on business all day, everyday. The gift of Thank you, Next!
U R so skilled at bringing these concepts to ppl of all levels of comprehension 🙌🏾
Bro Tony you're right I've been program to mentally think that a Man of God wouldn't do this or that to you. It's sad to have been program this way .
This live will be going on rotation for me. Thank you for another wisdom-filled message.
I love listening to you. Ur vernacular is so enjoyable. U speak truth in a humourous way. God bless you.
Come on now preach Tony! Psychological abuse is very crippling! Because you can’t touch or see it , most people don’t understand the level of damage it can cause! It doesn’t matter if a million people try to help you it won’t work! The door will literally be open and the coast is clear and the victim won’t escape because the defeat is already in the mind or belief system 😢. Only way out is to find yourself in Jesus. I’m a living witness, he delivered me from people and situations I didn’t even realize I needed deliverance from🙏! God Is the greatest ❤️❤️❤️❗️!
Thank you for your videos! God bless you and your family! 🙌🏼
My mom taught me very well
Never tell a man only everything
Will wash your face later on.. They are not going to tell you all they personal business.. Forget them..tell jesus not silly man .. life coach tell your business..They're human. Aswell. I know my sister in law is a family counselor.. she come home and tell My brother.. her clients their personal issues of life.. she off the devil.. I just shake my head.. she off the devil
..😊
Yu are so right on the most honest man the most church godly man can scam yuo can steal from yuo yes it happened to me my ex stole lots of money he never pay back manipulating me into we are married this why I don’t trust a man with my money women talk a lot we don’t know the man and we are telling our lives and it’s been use against us men can be very dangerous
Some of this was a little hard to hear. But all in all good message. Totally agree that real men are gentle. That's the type of man I want.
This is a genuine video!
Loud & clear
This was so good Brother Tony ♥️🔥
24:00 😊 Mrs Gaskins is normal too ..loves for her husband to listen
Not cut from Polyester!! Lol!! It's the transparency for me! I love this! Bless you, Mr. Gaskins!
I am new to this channel and these concepts. Thank you for this channel.
Always on point
😂😂😂😂 this man ain’t nothing but the truth! Funny but dropping facts. Thanks, T. Gaskins👏🏾
You are so on point Tony.
Thanks!
We thank God for your wisdom, knowledge, and understanding!! God bless you!
Go Tony 😊❤
Thanks Tony for telling us the truth keep on Sir
No unnecessary yapping and trauma dumping
Man this is sooo. good 😂
Thank you for your perspective and words (truth) from the source. May God bless you and your love ones.
Hi Tony Gaskins you give great advice like a big brother. Keep it up!
Lol "his head is not big enough for his body" I'm dead😂😂😂
I saw Tony in my dreams last night selling me Elderberry Gummies in Jamaica out of a white van. He sold me three bottles, even though I asked for two. I think WEALTHOFHEALTH was on the van too.
You live in JA? If so, we need to make that happen! Lol
Yes, I currently do. But I will be moving soon.
A man sure don’t tell you everything I just experienced this with my guy been knowing him 4 years and just found out he have a grown son he didn’t tell me about.
Ohhhh heck nooo get rid of him! That’s not cool by courting and it get serious within a few months you should know about all their children.. men like that is DANGEROUS he be the type to give you an incurable STD.. y’all ladies better stay woke..
Girl I hope you not in that relationship anymore.. he could be hiding an incurable STD.. where y’all get these sneaky men from y’all dating over 1 year That’s crazy business
WHAT??? Omg
Aint never too much truth for the woke ! Keep going !!
That’s why I’m staying single. Relationships are way too complicated. It’s a job!!!!
Preach!! And Teaching what thus said the Lord
This came right on time for me!! I'm about to go on vacation with him, and I know he's going to want to talk at length b/c he's already tried that and I did not say much...I kept it light. I am ready for all of it!❤ Thank you for this, Tony!
When Tony started counting and naming 😂😂😂😂
Thank you TG we appreciate ya!!
😂 I'm deadt .. get it MY BRO TONY 🎉
lol I was raised by a one and done momma so I don’t give no one chances…. It’s hurt me but protected me. 😅
Thank you so much for this video ❤
Yep we are selfish
Great Live Session. I watched the playback and was able to get some great notes to put to use for growth and change.
Thank you so much for this! I hope you and your family are doing well!
I would benefit so greatly from some role play videos Brother Tony… ex.. “When/if he say this u say this”
Like it!! Stand on Standards
Balloon on a string 📍🎈😂😂😂
I almost choked 🤣🤣🤣😭
😂😂