If someone showed me proof my husband was cheating, they’re not the ones who hurt me so I wouldn’t blame them. I’d be grateful because I don’t want to be an oblivious fool
I think her first conversation should be with a lawyer not her husband. Right now she has the element of surprise and can get her options with a lawyer BEFORE she speaks with her husband so he can’t do anything more shady going forward. I also think that the friends husband deserves to know the truth…doesn’t he have the right to know and make a decision for his life with all the facts?
It’s not a matter of revenge. The other husband deserves to know. One of the worst things about being cheated on is being the last to know. Talking to her own husband first gives him a chance to give gf the heads up.
The one thing she didn't say...that she was devastated and cried her eyes out...is it just her ego that is hurt ? is she willing to work on her marriage ? or is she at the stage of 'take no prisoners' ? Going to the other spouse is just not the first thing she should be thinking about. I gotta confess, though, the very human part of me is screaming "blow that ish up" ! But it is so low-vibrational...
I would talk to my husband first then I would go to the other husband with proof (the messages). I also would hope someone else would do that for me. I would feel embarrassed to be the last to find out initially and I would gain a little bit of pride by being confronted with the evidence from the start. It would save just a bit of my humility.
As angry as something like this would make me, you really have to consider the potential consequences. If she does tell the other spouse, she has to handle it with a certain level of tact and concern, not revenge. News like this sometimes sends people over the edge and they could seriously hurt someone or themselves. I disagree that telling the other spouse would make her guilty of ruining their marriage. The cheating parties already did so. Not telling the other spouse just allows that person to be left in the dark, and if he's a friend only adds insult to injury. How much does she love her husband? Is she going to try to work things out? These are things she has to consider when making her decision. "The two become one flesh." It really is a different ballgame when you're in a marriage.
@clarissathompson0103 oh of course. I see adultery as grounds for divorce, but some people try to reconcile. If that is her choice then that is something she needs to take into consideration when deciding to tell the other party.
I realized talking to your husband is the more normal way to go about it. But I would assume he would just to gaslight l the heck of you and denying and cause chaos and give the other woman a heads up. I would seriously just go ahead and tell rhe other husband.
Absolutely not. The husband deserves to know, and by not telling him, it makes you a guilty third party. He will definitely want to know why you did not tell him.
I disagree with ya'll ! 1. Tell her husband and get a plan ready for them! 2. Hire a private investigator to get solid proof. 3. Contact a divorce attorney for both! 4. Get tested 5. Set up Meeting with all parties involved including attorney! 6. Seek counseling for both husband and wife was cheating on! 7. Move in with family in meanwhile!
Wow I would NOT want you guys as friends 😂 JK, but your husband is cheating on you with a friend and you DON'T want to tell her husband? Not telling him doesn't spare his feelings, it potentially makes them WORSE in the long run. If the caller's husband cuts all ties with this woman, you think this friend isn't going to keep cheating with someone else? Don't do him dirty like that, TELL HIM!
Okay that's just gross but my biggest pet peeve is when women refer to themselves and others as females you're not livestock you are a woman you are God's most beautiful creations and a gift to any man ladies please don't refer to yourself as females you're so much more
Personally I think telling the mistresses husband depends on the situation. I would like to be told, but I also know of a situation where the mistress told the wife (mistress didn’t know he was married when they got together and broke it off the moment she found out.) the only reason I have a problem her telling the wife is because the wife was pregnant at the time and stress can be dangerous for both mom and baby. That’s why I think you should take into account the other persons situation and what your knowledge could do to them. If you know them well enough to be able to share that then yes tell, but approach with caution.
@@pooh4025 true. It’s a tough situation and wish them both the best. What really matters in the end is why you tell the spouse. Is it for revenge or because you genuinely care about this person and want to give them a heads up.
I agree with others that if she does it tactfully, she can do it right. She had a right to protect the other husband for STDs and all sorts of other things. Imagine how stupid you would feel if a person in your circle knew your wife were cheating with her husband and didn't tell you. I would be humiliated.
I used to tell friends if I knew my friends partners were cheating. But over time after talking to friends and hearing that some would really rather not know as long as he comes back to her or him. I had to rethink. Me, if feel betrayed by my friend of they didn't tell me. But I now stick to what my friend has said that they would want. I do tell the cheater that I think it sucks if it feels safe to do so.
If someone showed me proof my husband was cheating, they’re not the ones who hurt me so I wouldn’t blame them. I’d be grateful because I don’t want to be an oblivious fool
The first conversation needs to be with her lawyer
Agreed
Facts. What the...? Like is everyone delulu in this Bert show. Work in the shadows Lady. Get your dough...bake that cake and eat it too!
I think her first conversation should be with a lawyer not her husband. Right now she has the element of surprise and can get her options with a lawyer BEFORE she speaks with her husband so he can’t do anything more shady going forward. I also think that the friends husband deserves to know the truth…doesn’t he have the right to know and make a decision for his life with all the facts?
It’s not a matter of revenge. The other husband deserves to know. One of the worst things about being cheated on is being the last to know. Talking to her own husband first gives him a chance to give gf the heads up.
Liars forfeit, Their consequences are not your issue.
Wow you guys are way too nice. I would show the husband and then send the text messages to like the parents and everybody to make them look bad.
The one thing she didn't say...that she was devastated and cried her eyes out...is it just her ego that is hurt ? is she willing to work on her marriage ? or is she at the stage of 'take no prisoners' ? Going to the other spouse is just not the first thing she should be thinking about. I gotta confess, though, the very human part of me is screaming "blow that ish up" ! But it is so low-vibrational...
I would talk to my husband first then I would go to the other husband with proof (the messages). I also would hope someone else would do that for me. I would feel embarrassed to be the last to find out initially and I would gain a little bit of pride by being confronted with the evidence from the start. It would save just a bit of my humility.
As angry as something like this would make me, you really have to consider the potential consequences.
If she does tell the other spouse, she has to handle it with a certain level of tact and concern, not revenge. News like this sometimes sends people over the edge and they could seriously hurt someone or themselves.
I disagree that telling the other spouse would make her guilty of ruining their marriage. The cheating parties already did so. Not telling the other spouse just allows that person to be left in the dark, and if he's a friend only adds insult to injury.
How much does she love her husband? Is she going to try to work things out? These are things she has to consider when making her decision. "The two become one flesh." It really is a different ballgame when you're in a marriage.
Yeah, I understand marriage vows but infidelity is unacceptable.
@clarissathompson0103 oh of course. I see adultery as grounds for divorce, but some people try to reconcile.
If that is her choice then that is something she needs to take into consideration when deciding to tell the other party.
Both the wife and the other husband need to catch them together at the same time
I realized talking to your husband is the more normal way to go about it. But I would assume he would just to gaslight l the heck of you and denying and cause chaos and give the other woman a heads up.
I would seriously just go ahead and tell rhe other husband.
Absolutely not. The husband deserves to know, and by not telling him, it makes you a guilty third party. He will definitely want to know why you did not tell him.
I disagree with ya'll !
1. Tell her husband and get a plan ready for them!
2. Hire a private investigator to get solid proof.
3. Contact a divorce attorney for both!
4. Get tested
5. Set up Meeting with all parties involved including attorney!
6. Seek counseling for both husband and wife was cheating on!
7. Move in with family in meanwhile!
She has solid proof
I would do a three way call, her, the husband and the divorce lawyer haha
Send them to her husband from your husbands email address. Let him deal with it all.
Wow I would NOT want you guys as friends 😂 JK, but your husband is cheating on you with a friend and you DON'T want to tell her husband? Not telling him doesn't spare his feelings, it potentially makes them WORSE in the long run. If the caller's husband cuts all ties with this woman, you think this friend isn't going to keep cheating with someone else? Don't do him dirty like that, TELL HIM!
Okay that's just gross but my biggest pet peeve is when women refer to themselves and others as females you're not livestock you are a woman you are God's most beautiful creations and a gift to any man ladies please don't refer to yourself as females you're so much more
Yes send them to the other husband
Personally I think telling the mistresses husband depends on the situation. I would like to be told, but I also know of a situation where the mistress told the wife (mistress didn’t know he was married when they got together and broke it off the moment she found out.) the only reason I have a problem her telling the wife is because the wife was pregnant at the time and stress can be dangerous for both mom and baby. That’s why I think you should take into account the other persons situation and what your knowledge could do to them. If you know them well enough to be able to share that then yes tell, but approach with caution.
She's a mutual friend so you may know a lot
@@pooh4025 true. It’s a tough situation and wish them both the best. What really matters in the end is why you tell the spouse. Is it for revenge or because you genuinely care about this person and want to give them a heads up.
@@kurie8143 she would definitely be doing it for revenge.
I agree with others that if she does it tactfully, she can do it right. She had a right to protect the other husband for STDs and all sorts of other things. Imagine how stupid you would feel if a person in your circle knew your wife were cheating with her husband and didn't tell you. I would be humiliated.
Only expose it if she's leaving.
Let the other husband know!!
Go out to dinner with the other husband and show him what you got
I used to tell friends if I knew my friends partners were cheating.
But over time after talking to friends and hearing that some would really rather not know as long as he comes back to her or him. I had to rethink.
Me, if feel betrayed by my friend of they didn't tell me. But I now stick to what my friend has said that they would want.
I do tell the cheater that I think it sucks if it feels safe to do so.
Uh, no, if my husband is cheating and someone knows, you should tell me. HE ruined our marriage, not the person telling me.
Don’t go to the friends hubby!
Go to the husband for sure!
Is the friend married also
Omg