As an infp, I feel like specific ideas have literally changed the course of my life. As soon as I begin to feel settled, another idea springs up and unsettles me.
I relate! I go into an obsessive mode about a particular thing (right now MBTI, for example) and can't really do much else. :-| Then just as soon as I think I can stop obsessing and get something done, another idea/theory/framework/issue pops up and I have to research the hell out of that one. It's not so much the 'mania' that Erik speaks of for ISFP though, this can go on for years or as long as the obsession lasts, and seems part of my FiNe exploration of myself and the world. Then they all sort of integrate within me in some way, as part of my Fi's structure.
The smart phone and the internet are great for activating ne and learning. But it provides too much of a dopamine dump and causes procrastination and anxiety i think.
I always get infp as my type, and i always think i am an infp: i relate more to the overall description of infp, but i have isfp's weaknesses. However, recently i am so depressed,and i show both symptoms of isfp and infp. I shut myself from others and i make lists and schedules and start doing workout and exercises.. which is completely strange because i think there is distinct differences between isfp and infp. What do you think about this case? Do you think being surrounded by sensing types changes someone from intuitive to sensing??
Emma MacArthur-Warner Sorry, but can u give me an example? I just can't remember anything from my life and am having struggles with identifying whether I am INFP or ISFP :(
I mean, I am so stupid that I even can't remember how I behave when under stress. I am definitely not good at sports, painting or cooking like ISFPs. I read somewhere (but not sure if it is true) that ISFPs help their friends by giving their belongings( money and so on) and INFPs are more likely to give emotional support and explain that life is not easy to live, etc. But I also don't remember whether I provided emotional support to someone, I feel like I don't help people who are hurt. I am so confused. Can you please share with your experiences?
Gulnaz Sarenova sorry for taking so long to respond. I think all the ideas about how IXFPs help other people can be helpful to an extent when you want to know your type, but are not necessarily the best way to distinguish. Honestly, I don't spend a lot of time helping other people either and I think the most telling distinctions are the kind of information you tend to be looking for, how you think about your interests, and how you express ideas. INFPs and ISFPs can actually have a lot of similar interests (both often like art) or not, depending on the person, but what you want to look for is whether you prefer more abstract or concrete ways of thinking. INFPs are more interested in symbolism, hypothetical situations, or thinking extensively about philosophical questions like why people have morality, whether it is possible to improve society, etc. ISFPs on the other hand are more interested in practical skills and being able to make something useful using known methods. They are more action-oriented than INFPs. ISFPs and INFPs both tend to have strong feelings about right and wrong, but I think ISFPs question their own beliefs less. For example, my ISFP friend is very faithful about her religion, whereas I have always liked the idea of being religious but have never been able to fully believe because I'm always asking questions like "how do we know?" Another difference is how they talk. If I and my ISFP friend are saying the same thing, it takes me about three times as long to say it!😂 Intuitives are famous for getting into a lot of complexity that sensors sometimes see as unnecessary. Also, my friend has a much more charismatic style and tends to create a lot of energy in her speaking; she knows which words or phrase to emphasize and naturally entertains people. Whereas I might say something funny but people will have moved on by the time I finish explaining that actually this joke only applies when such-and-such is the case and you shouldn't assume blabla because I said it... but this can reverse when there are specific details to remember because she will actually pay attention to things like names or places that my mind will filter out, often to my inconvenience 🙃 Anyway, there are lots of online resources to look at as well if you're unsure! Good luck (:
9 times out 10 ISFPs are always aware of their appearance an INFP very seldom aware of that. Messy hair, sloppy appearance are they often if so most likely INFP. If very very seldom ISFP.
Funny you mention chairs. My ENFP friend tends to bump into them and say, "Excuse me, I'm sorry," and I (INFP) notice the chair in advance but still think as I dodge, "Whoa, dude (chair is the dude), close one." I'm sure other people think we're wacky. And I can't believe you thinking getting up in the morning at 4 am to sew is weird ;-)
I think by watching your video I have confirmed that I am an ISFP not an INFP... I have been going through an identity crisis for two weeks trying to figure out what type I am. This behaviour matches with how you said ISFPs react to stress. We obsess about the detail of a particular topic until we either give up or we satisfy the desire we were looking for and then move on to something else. I think the fact that ISFPs/INFPs often get confused is actually the fault of confused ISFP's, who yearn for individuality and question themselves more than others. Based on my experience, my guess is that for people who are not sure if they are an ISFP or an INFP, and if you are deep-diving MBTI and won't be satisfied until you find out, then you are probably an ISFP.
I’m also struggling a lot on figuring wether I’m and infp or isfp. You stating that obsessively searching for the truth is an isfp thing but I’ve heard that that’s an infp thing. I definitely do this and I become obsessed with things. Could you explain why that’s an isfp thing and not an infp thing?
@@raysacassanelli500 yeah I'm back to say that maybe I'm not an isfp I deeply feel like an infp and what helped figure that out is by asking my friends if I'm the type to live in the moment or do I fantasize about the future. What threw me off is taking those test because it has me second guessing myself but if you're true to yourself then you might figure out which one fits you more. Just ask yourself in public are you aware of your surroundings or do get lost in your thoughts. Hope this helped
@@violetdodio9544 I fantasize about the future, and get lost in my thoughts... could you tell me what that would make me please? I would appreciate it soon much!
I'm not sure what I am between the two, but my gut instinct tells me I'm an INFP - but then again, that's something an ISFP would do. You see the dilemma?
Exactly, I think most people who cannot commit to either ISFP/INFP sounds like classic individualistic ISFP behaviour, I have concluded the same thing for myself.
Hi Erik, hi everyone. I am into MBTI for some months, and one week ago I discovered your great videos. (I studied Psychology in the nineties but I had no contact with Jung, Myer-Briggs or Keirsey). I am totally interested in MTBI and Socioniks and I started to "polish" the automatic generated subtitles (English language) in THIS video. [ ISFP vs INFP Personality Type ]. I am Spaniard and I speak french and German. I have been in contact with English language for 30 years (im 40 y/o) and I must say, it is really difficult sometimes to follow the automatic generated subtitles. I invested 2 hours correcting the words iNFp and iSFp and many other words. But they are not visible yet, because they need to be revised by the community. I invite others to do the same. We shouldn't forget that there are millions of people out there, who are not experts in roman (Latin) letters or, like me, in English language. I intentionally kept "i" and "p" in lowercase (small letters), because they are much easier to identify, when reading the subtitles fast. Remember than Turkish, for example, they have two different kinds of "i" and for many Arabic, Persian, Chinese .... etc writers, the letter "l" can be an "L" in lowercase or it can even be a "1". I also put TWO spaces before and after iSNp and iNFp to facilitate the reading. Please, don't remove these spaces. I allow myself to ask you to hear yourself, Erik, with the automatic subtitles on. You will see crazy words being generated: "ice" "eyes" ( i ) , or "peace", "pits" ( p ). I would ask the community to help to clean up the subtitles. In youtube is easy to contribute. Me, as an iNFp I feel motivated to help other people in other cultures, to listen to this. But the different accents and phonetic sounds in English (the most cacophonic language I've ever heard in my life) makes this very difficult. I appreciate and honor your work totally. Thank you for this videos.
Thank you Erik!! :D That was truly amazing, the points you made about having a dialogue with objects and the mind, and how INFPs are looking to validate their own realisations are scary!! It's like you read my soul!! Really appreciate the video :) and also your channel is awesome! :D
11:33 lmao that is so meee! im literally in that phase right now, avoiding my studies and everything to do more research about personality types and somehow become this super human that understands everybody! it's annoying because i know im gonna move to something else after some time and funnn because i get to do research and learn new things which is sth that getsss me super excited and optimistic idk whyyy!! i was a bit confused abt whether im isfp or infp bcz sometimes im more intuitive but now i understand that it's not my best version.
Thank you so very much for this video! For months I had settled into thinking that I was an INFP but after obsessively researching and also watching your video (apparently an ISFP trait, heehee) I am now leaning more toward believing that I'm an ISFP! Have to do more obsessive researching though of course. 👌😊
I do spend a lot of time checking how i'm feeling throughout the day, it's automatic. I usually daydream, there's always a strong image, or sound going on in my mind, maybe a memory, if I stay quiet for a moment. As long as i am alone and free, the monologue takes over, it's more visual with a very subtle message behind it, one that is not always very clear to me. Example: Let's say I'm feeling a bit bad in my chest, I can see the image of a dove flying in the sky in my mind, and feel a certain freedom out of it, feel the breeze and the tranquil sensation the blue sky transmits. But just after looking at it more conscientiously, i realize I feel the need to take a walk outside and to give myself more freedom, more space. I then realize this is a response to the bad feelings in my chest. I'm fantasizing about what I particularly don't have at that moment: freedom, peace etc. There's always some sort of message. When i'm understress I tend to overeat, overthink and to hide what I feel. Abusing sensuality for compensation. If I am out on the streets, I am always talking to myself, reflecting on something. It's like i'm looking inside of myself with more attention than what is happening around me. I can take quick looks at things, make quick observations about outside, but the film is always playing in my mind.
Hi mate Im 43 Isfp and the mrs enfj . Theres never a dull moment . You are so infomative and entertaining . I could listen to you for hours . Any way i am an artist of sorts at the moment the dumbell is my paint brush and i am the canvas. Very in tune with my body I also am very good at plagiarism . Thank again a bit on interaction between enfj and isfp would b realy cool . Cheers . You should b proud of your self .
Never thought I was an ISFP as an INFP, but I can definately see where the two can overlap and be very similar a lot more than I thought actually. ( which makes sense being both are IFP's and perhaps can overlap the closer the types are to each other it seems). Thanks for the very informative video!
I have asd and add and I'm obsessed with precision. I think that infp is the best fit for me but I'm never 100% sure. It takes me a very long time because I can act differently in certain situations and I can have difficulty understanding myself. I'm in the process with a professional to understand myself better and might bring up this topic. I love self tests but I also get really upset because I dont completely understand myself enough to be precise enough. Even though this makes me mad I also enjoy gaining the knowledge to clarify the gaps. It's addictive lol.
I would defintely say I'm INFP when being myself and being comfortable. Though, being in a family and friends nearly almost being sensors, I've been raised to behave much more like a sensor. My ISFP-ish behaviour is much more of my official behavoiur, since that's more or less who people expect and want me to be. So in core, I'd say I'm INFP and have always been I guess, but expectations from family, socity and friends have brought me a deep bond to the INFP way of being and living. I think might be rather common, since socity doesn't really value the INFP preferences and way of thinking. I believe many INFP find themselves acting as INSP as they have been raised to do.
this is interesting, i also feel similarly. I've been watching videos where people take objects and say all the associations that come to mind, and when put on the spot like that I feel like i'd give very sensor-type, based-in-the-real-world Se associations, which makes me think isfp. but when i'm free and alone my associations are more whimsical and random, more Ne and Si associations, which makes me think infp
Thank you for this information. I'm an INFP. When I tell a story people always ask me about the details for example: "What kind of car does he have?" They're lucky if I still know the answer. People are lucky if I still remember the color of their car and I think that ISP's are much better at team sports than INFP's.
Excellent useful explanations Erik! I have been struggling for years tying to determine which I am to the point now that I would just go with IXFP. I love being in the moment when drawing and painting where I am very drawn to interpreting life and beauty in the moment and ascetically when drawing and painting but also love reading and imagining. Still not convinced though so will listen more times.
Based on my thoughts, I think ISFP's are more likely to obsess over detail where as an INFP is more likely to move on to a different topic quickly, I think your struggle similar to mine indicates that you are an ISFP, as you want to be a unique individual which is a strong desire for ISFP's, but maybe an ISFP description doesn't satisfy that individual desire because the description of an ISFP is a bit to boring!
Sorry but now I feel like I am both. I draw off instinct rather than life lesson. I jump from idea to idea and I look back. I can get hyper focused and I can make false connections. I care about theories more than life lessons. I innovate. I rarely feel connected to everyone. I guess that's how MBTI works. No one is normally 100% anything.
Ok, thank you. This has confirmed for me that I am indeed INFP. I re-took the test today and it said I might be ISFP and had me questioning. But the idea of wanting to rewrite my story in my imagination rings the most true.
I’m an ISFP , can I suggest that a simple (could be my simple mind though) way to differentiate between ISFP and INFP is which type really likes to drive a car? I would suggest the ISFP for several reasons which I won’t outline for the sake of brevity. What do you reckon?
I have been tested INFP every test i took last 3 years span but many isfp traits fits me more than INFP traits? am i really infp or isfp? i just want to know truth.
To me the difference is intensity. Infp is intense over abstract things. An isfp is more chill. And if not chill it will be over something direct. Directly happening at the time, directly affecting them at that time. Infp can be quiet but intense all the time. Scratch that surface, we will hide it but the intensity is always there. Omg Eric "sees our lives as a dialog" and "everything around us is alive". Yes wow 👍. I thought no one would ever know those things about me 😃 Im infp but I'm good at visual learning. But i have to focus more than an isfp probably. I then have to do it a few time. But im not bad at all at it. Im good actually :-). It works for me
I disagree. INFP appears more chill, ISFP is more intense, even socionics makes this difference. ISFP can even look INTJ-ish, and the INFP can look INTP-ish.
@@xero6396 Well.. MBTI is very weird to be honest, compared to Socionics.. all the types with Se as secondary are passive-agressive, not sweet. But anyway, MBTI will place any soft spoken type as an Fi for no reason other than thats how they imagine Fi to be.
I hesitate a lot between the two! I don’t look like « Se »stereotypes (so good in sports lol and seing everything in the physical environment) but I don’t see myself either as Ne aux and feel pretty concrete. I am not feeling out of touch with reality. I think I relate more to the ISFP obsessions for something to escape reality. The ambivalence I like theory but I hate theory because it makes me see just this theory every where.
Ok this is getting ridiculous, someone help me figure out if I'm Infp or Isfp. I seem to be like an Isfp, chill, laidback, flows well with present, observant. But then I apparently have ne. So I overthink everything but its not in a ni way, I am not straightforward like an isfp, but when people talk to me about complex things, my brain explodes and I don't know what to say, I can't talk about theories or anything, it just hurts my head, I want one simple answer to problems but I don't mind multiple possibilities, and I tend to change the subjective a lot and jump ideas a lot, I also start things and not finish them like a typical ne user but I don't think I'm infp because I'm not deep enough, I'm also too loud to be an infp. At parties, I am really shy but then suddenly I can become really impulsive and outgoing. With friends, I run around doing parkour and yelling and being super energetic like an exfp. So how the hell can I be Infp if I'm not that deep. I don't relate to any Infp and every Infp fictional character is way too quiet and girly which isn't me at all, yes I'm quiet and anxious and paranoid and worry constantly about everything but I also don't like being so silent that I ignore everyone else and just play with a cat, that isn't me. I also am prone to drawing a lot and I notice a lot like a se user so I think I might be Isfp but everyone says I have ne..what the fk..also I don't think I have si because my memory is bad and I don't exactly relate present to past or maybe I do I DONT KNOWWW HELP ME PLEASE
I'm confused whether I'm and ISFP or INFP. I enjoy learning the value and nature of art & I also like having deep conversations about philosophy. Finding a solution to a problem (can be both realistic and idealistic) is what I'm good at but I need to be more selfless.
This an interesting perspective, although I think diving into specific nuances can be confusing for some people. I feel like the difference is pretty clear; ISFPs will gravitate more towards concrete thinking, the material world and more basic philosophy. INFPs are very abstract thinkers, bouncing from topic to topic when conversing and generally interested in more off the wall, obscure things. When sitting with your friends if you find yourself discussing the complexities of life, existential questions, finding metaphors in films/movies/life events and talking about how past situations informed your sense of identity you are definitely an INFP. If those sorts of thinking don’t come as naturally, ISFP is probably your type. I can spot the difference between a sensor and intuitive within minutes of meeting them. INFPs are also more self conscious in general.
My Brother is an ISFP, he is a way more good at mechanic things and was granted a great memory. However , he was more willing to be manipulated and ia rll impulsive at times and affraid of future. Inc contrast with me, an INFP, my memory aint really good, but when I like things I will try to remember them and work really hard despite of not being blessed. I can predict future and people intentions better than my brother. Our mother is an ISTJ and its funny because our qualities together resembles hers.
Every time I take the personality test I get either INFP or ISFP. When you talk about ISFP in this video I relate more to them. However, under stress it seems like I’m somewhat of both? I am very sensitive to ideas like ISFP but I also tend to put ideas into routine until routine starts to drain me. In one of your other videos where you talk about INFP-A vs INFP-T, I seem to be like INFP-T when anxiety gets to me. But I also sense I’m very creative and artistic and adventurous and always getting inspired by connections i form w other people like an ISFP. This confuses me a lot LOL! Not sure who one I am???
I'm confused abt myself because for as long as i know I'm an infp but then I slowly realize that the description doesn't really vibe with me (?) (also my intuition and sensing is only different by 2%) And i was watching this vid until almost the end with a firm *oh! Maybe I'm an infp after all.* But then the saying of how isfp jumps into this "mania" sort of thing screamed *me*. Like I'm obsessing over this when I should've done something else (running from responsibility). I'm not athletic btw. Can do a little dancing but that's abt it. I love to draw and design it's been a long hobby of mine. But i also love writing. At first i thought that maybe I'm a borderline infp/ isfp but i still want to know the real truth. But then again i also have this firm belief that people couldn't 100% fit in one of this mbti boxes. So yeah sigh
I feel like for almost that entire video you were mixing up the two personality types. I felt your observations were incredible accurate, but just reversed. I think the biggest thing I noticed that was off was when you were comparing the way both types react to stress and anxiety. My boyfriend is an Isfp, while I'm Infp. I abhor plans and deadlines, and me under stress is no different. Actually, when I'm under stress I become irrational about them. I will become enraged when people push plans onto me. I will openly resent the responsibilities placed on me. I retreat into myself and lash at anyone that tries to pull me out. I also obsess irrationally, unable to break away from my ideas. I am the one that will become fixated on an Idea and suddenly decide with complete conviction that it's the truth. My boyfriend, on the other hand, lives for making plans. He considers the way I live my life chaotic..And when he is stressed it only gets worse. He will become incredibly angry when plans change or something falls through. This difference between us is the biggest roadblock in our relationship by far. I was so amazed when watching this at how right you were and yet how the roles were completely reversed. Did you accidentally mislabel the two? Or is it widely known that this is how these two types actually react to stress? If so, then I may have to seriously rethink my typing...
Crystal Brown I am an INFP under stress atm and I thought they sounded reversed too. I am drowning in my own stress and irrational and angry, and I try to find anything to validate my lack of being able to do things. I also go off on tangents and get obsessed about things that aren't related to the stressors (Not necessarily new hobbies, just new interests). I also find any way to push work to later and blow up at anyone reminding me of things.
Crystal Brown im an infp too and but I definitely resort to my inferior Te function when I am stressed as a means of gaining control. I think he was right on
When INFPs are stressed, we move into our shadow function, which is (the unhealthy version of) the ENFJ. Under extreme stress, we move into our superego: the ISTP. The unhealthy ENFJ will convince itself that our nemesis is not deserving of anything / deserves everything (bad) it gets. The superego ISTP will move to rid this person from our lives.
I have taken a few tests now even yours :) on yours i get INFP, on humammetrics I get ISFP but it is only a 1 % between the s/n in this video I think I am more ISFP.
I have doubt in mind that i am infp. Like... no i am not. I think i am an isfp. BUT AFTER I WATCH THIS i told myself..... "gurlll, just accept it." LOL I kinda do weird things like painting, but i never do that. And restless until one day full without sleeping. And it's so random, i just try to make my body tired, when my mind is already tired but always think about something,
The making your body tired is an ISFP thing, it doesn`t happen all the time, but as they grow older they notice how the physicall tiredness is a positive thing for them. INFPs avoid that at all costs, too much physical activity can make them sick, literally sick. (the trick here is to know if you are healthy or unhealhty right now... an unhealthy ISFP may be going through a phase of non-activity, but that lack of activity is making them sick, whereas to the INFP that would be a healhty thing).
that's... the reason i think i was isfp at first. But, i realized just then, I avoid tired-activities altogether... and, someday in my stress, i will do whatever it costs to make my physic and mind tired.. But, i hate to say that i hate those activities. Nonsense to me. I just love hang around in my place doing nothing. It's sad. I wish i am isfp... More creative, more productive.
@@takenby_cj INFP are not meant to be productive, socionics calls them Dostoyevsky, and the social purpose is, just as for ISFPs, to be the conscience of the other sociotypes- Strenghtening your personal values by imagining how the world could be, keeping your ground when life tries to throw you off, that inner strenght that comes across as weaknes in the physical world is a gift you must share with others, by trying to be just a healthy you. All the healthy INFPs I know do this, just by example, their apparent "passive" demeanor is a reminder to everybody else that there is much more than the present reality... Look into Model G and Victor Gulenko, he is the best at explaining this. also, check this, remember that in socionics you are an EII- INFj - Dostoyevsky-- vimeo.com/album/3344504
So if ideas can have such a negative influence on isfps, is it possible that infps can negatively influence isfps, just because infps like sharing ideas?
Not exactly, it's negative in the sense that ideas are a stressor or that they are unsettling to the ISFP. If the ISFP can ground the idea or make it realistic or based on external events, that's fine. But when the idea gets them off course...
That's so interesting. I'm pretty sure my ex was an ISFP. I introduced him to astrology the first week we met and he went on to get a certificate as an astrologer. I really never expected that! I am the one who's been into it for a longer time and more intensively but he actually got certified professionally. And now he doesn't do it at all - he just got into a 'mania' about it. He also had a cooking mania. He had a phase of dressing as a certain person from history everyday. He had a mania about particular bands that I had shared with him. He had a mania about a certain teacher of his. I always loved how he would get into a 'mania' about all *my* INFP interests. LOL Because then we could share it and be geeks together. But watching this video I realize sometimes those things might have taken him off course. Nowadays we are still friends but very different people with different interests, though can still connect beautifully through Fi. He has a much stronger use of Se now and it's very noticeable. I never did the same sort of thing as him, meaning, if my partner is into something, I won't get automatically obsessed with that thing. But I do have my own 'manias' such as watching MBTI videos EVERY SINGLE DAY for HOURS for the past 6-7 months. I will sort of investigate and research an issue obsessively and exhaustively (possibly for years) until I get a new idea to obsess about it. All those things feel like part of my FiNe self-exploration process. I also push everyone around me (Te) to also engage with whatever my obsession is. When the obsession passes it becomes part of "who I am" (sort of sinks into my Fi-Si?) but is no longer actively my obsession. I also will research and obsess with my interest of the moment when under stress though, to escape reality and avoid responsibility. But that may just be the INFP tendency to procrastinate in general...then at the very last minute I will pull the Te moves. I need to work on that aspect of myself... >_< Great video as always, Erik.
When you say infp under stress would start doing something weird, true. At 2am i would be sewing money notes on my jacket i dont know why. Maybe i was posessed by the devil 😂
The problem is that when I tested, I was split between an ISFP and an INFP. I answered the questions for Intuitive positive, but when I looked at the cup I gave physical descriptions of the cup. However, as I learn about the INFP, I am finding that I have a lot in common with that type.
Do INFP 9w1s act similar to ISFPs? I noticed that I'm more grounded and practical than many INFPs I see. I see a lot of myself in both types. My introverted intuition is also more developed than my extraverted intuition. I love delving into theories and ideas more than practical lessons, but I also love helping and motivating people with their everyday struggles.
I see INFP 9s as one of the conscientious, proactive types. This results in a strong feeling and perceiving function.. It becomes a lot more visible than your introverted intuition... doesn't mean you appear like an introverted sensor, just that it becomes the first impression you make on a person. INFPs are a lot more private than ISFPs, even as 9s
My type changes with every test I take. Idk, each description of the types sound so intense or cut and dry. Like if you do this you can't be that, or if you say this you're not that. I've been researching for a year and I'm more confused. INFP is the first one I got. Then INFJ, INTJ, ESFP, ESTP, ENTP, ENFP, and now ISFP. I'm not even sure if I'm an introvert or extrovert anymore lol. I asked my best friend since childhood if she thought I was introverted or extroverted and she said "idk you definitely don't make yourself the center of attention, but you're not shy at all and can strike up a conversation with anyone." I agreed, and said I prefer to be alone and quiet, but I'm also a really good people person. Crowds don't make me nervous or drained, actually the opposite when I'm at a concert or sporting event I get really hyped, but I do prefer to be with people one on one instead of groups and I like my me time. And I hate to be interrupted when I'm focusing on something and people want to talk, or doing customer service is annoying, I hope I never have to do it again but again I'm good at it. I was always the first to volunteer to present projects or do stuff for the class in school because idk I just liked to go first. I'm a hard worker, but I'm also lazy af sometimes. Sometimes a neat freak sometimes a slob lol. I'm an award winning manager of 6 years, but it's not my preferred position I just kinda don't want to step down and then have someone else tell me what to do. I'm not athletic, but I'm a little competitive when I play sports and I hate watching sports on tv only in person or actually being in the game even though I suck. I can't dance, but I love music and lyrics. I paint, draw and write for fun. I have my own etsy shop. I'm into meditation even though it's really hard for me to just let thoughts go instead of speed solving the problems that come to mind before I can let them go, I still love the feeling of trying to relax and burning scented candles and love doing yoga. I love spiritual things but I've never felt that I have a spirit guide, guardian angel or loved one that's passed that's with me, I am teaching myself to read tarot and read auras, i studied astrology for many years, i love the idea of witch craft as well lol but don't do any spells. I listen to ghost stories and cryptid sighting stories to fall asleep because they stop me from dreaming, my dreams are vivid and weird they're more like nightmares but seem so real I used to feel like I never got any sleep. I love scary movies more than comedies, and I pretty much can't stand corny chick flicks except Clueless. I'm empathetic but sometimes I just have to turn it off or I'll get consumed and put my life on hold for people trying to make them feel better. I've learned people need to want to help themselves to feel better or its a lost cause. But I really do love giving advice, I have over a thousand best answers on yahoo answers. I've been depressed for long periods of time in life, but it was situational, I'm not depressed over all, I like to be happy and optimistic unless I'm in a bad mood then I can't find the silver lining. I'm ok at math but not a genius or numbers person. If something bores me like mechanical stuff or someone is telling a boring story I mentally check out and can't even control it, yet I can stare at a tree or something more "boring" and be totally focused. I'm married to an ENTP, he is actually my living guardian angel lol my favorite person in the world. He's way louder and and more talkative than me, he loves making friends and conversation with random people. I don't really seek that out now that I'm older but did when I was a kid. I'm not unfriendly now though. My husband also is the only guy I've been with that I felt I can be 100% myself around and he still loves me and is not overwhelmed when I let me out cuz I'm truly intense and emotional but I tame myself in public and that's another reason I always enjoyed being alone so I can just be me without anyone judging or asking me questions about why I think this or why I do that (he does ask, but I'm ok with it since he's my other half, plus he put in the work! It took me a long time to actually be able to communicate the answers without just blowing up out of frustration) He has really helped me learn to communicate my personal feelings, I rarely shared them with anyone so I wasn't used to it and he was really patient. I used to just dump guys rather than bother to try to work out issues, just didn't seem worth the effort but he's so sweet and always has my back and he soothes my soul. He has a huge heart and is also very emotional but he doesn't let himself indulge in the whole array of emotions like I do. Meaning if something makes him feel sad he won't listen to it or watch, like negative feelings are icky to him lol. I on the other hand enjoy music and movies that make me cry as much as I enjoy anything else it's all good. He's really funny and animated and we always make eachother laugh and he also has a curiosity about the world that I find endearing because I don't have many questions about things lol I feel like I know a lot naturally idk how to explain it. He's hyper compared to me but also ok with sitting around much more than I am, he likes to talk about doing things and I like to actually do them so I think of stuff for us to do on the weekends then that gets him going and excited and we make a great team, I also remind him to eat lol. I love animals and they love me. I like the outdoors and nature. I hate the idea of going to space it's so big it scares me but I love the stars and photos of the galaxy. And I also hated when everyone started texting instead of phone calls or dropping by. Like just talk and get it over with instead of dragging out conversations sentence by sentence waiting for a reply or waking up to messages ugh. Also I'm really sentimental and affectionate, but not a cryer in public, behind closed doors I'm a sobber lol. I do have a bad temper but I'm generally sweet. I like buying stuff randomly for my friends and family and actually anyone if I see something they'd like. I hate sharing though lol. And I hate planning big events, I let my sister plan my wedding lol I just picked the venue, decor, and dresses. I hated having to do the seating and invitations and all that stuff. i just wanted a courthouse ceremony and keg party lol but my husband and our parents were like nah and I'm glad because I am actually kinda bougie I just get overwhelmed with planning, I got to wear a big poofy princess dress and My husband looked super handsome (as always) and everyone had a great time. My friends say I give good advice and always know what to say to make them feel better, but I rarely go to them or anyone with my problems. I love giving compliments to people just because I think they should know what's great about them. I like to be good usually but I like to be bad too sometimes Lol. I like to go fast but also take it slow and do one thing at a time, haste makes waste as they say, but I'm good at multitasking too! I feel like parts of each type fit me, but does anyone know what my type really is?
I think INFP can also obsess over things under stress but more if they're connected to them in some way. For example I know that with this description I'm an INFP but I've been obsessing over my type for a long time and I think that it's not because it's just some topic but because it's deeply related to me and will make me understand who I am (and control myself more). Like I just want to know how to fix myself (Fi-Si loop? + Te grip since I wanted to be more rational and find more "logical" examples why I'm this type over the other)
I find this really interesting, but frankly, all the letters confuse me . I feel like I have to pay extreme attention to be able to hear the difference. It all sound similar. It would be so much easier if the types were labeled type A- B-C etc or type Green- Purple -Yellow etc... Is it just me, or anyone else feel the same way? Is this typically INFP or ISFP? 😁
Is it possible to be both isfp and infp? I do like moving my body like isfp but I still like abstract concept and philosophy like an infp. Though I guess I lean more towards isfp as I always write my stories linking with realism and finding ways for philosophy to be applicational.
1.) Can you explain why "keeping the passion alive" is the biggest issue for an isfp-infp relationship? 2.) Are you really talking about friendships AND romantic relationships here?
I think ISFP/INFP friendships are amazing! I have 2 girl friends I think are ISFPs and I adore them both, both encourage and inspire me a lot (we are all artists). I can learn something from the way they approach life. They are grounded and know themselves well. I had an ISFP ex (I am INFP) and it was my longest and best relationship to this day. We were both quite young though, and he wasn't using his Se to its fullest. So we were kind of a pile of cuddly Fi. hehe He would take my Ne ideas and investigate them deeply with Ni, then we would talk about ideas and creative projects endlessly. Eventually we became like brother and sister and things changed. We're still friends, so it worked out in its own way. I still love him very much and always will. So, I don't know about a longterm romantic relationship or marriage as I think there's some conflict between Se and Ne (I feel I probably held him back from fully exploring his Se out in the world), but friendships I do highly recommend. :) ISFP girl friends get me out of my room/mind and kick my ass to go see/do something interesting. :P
I'm so confused about my type :( Think I may have been repressing my Se since late childhood cause of peer-pressures - judging cause I didn't like team sports, people assuming I'm a "girly-girl" before learning I like reading too. I think I just wanted people to think I was one of those like, smarter girls because they had a place. I'm struggling especially because my creative side doesn't look for the "story" like I know some INFPs do, my art and poetry are more like impressions rather than narratives /plots and I can't help it, I can't make up plots - the muscle just like doesn't exist - and I think with Ne you can easier?? I also refused to do team sports when I was a kid so I thought I was unsporty and not with very good spatial awareness. But thinking back my favourite things to do were roller skating, swimming, playing tennis, dancing, singing, cooking, colouring. I excelled mostly at colouring because it was affordable. I was never a story teller. I made characters for fun but even then they lacked story next to what my friend's made. Now realising with my art - the main thing I do in my spare time, I've been pushing myself too hard to tell a story for years, like I see others do, without just playing around with media which ends up expressing my Fi way better anyway! I can't seem to make creative things with Ne anyhow, and I'm starting to think I may be using a little, terrible, Ni to give myself some sense of direction with my art rather than the Ne I thought I had. But am I typing like an Ne user?? Yeah. Could do with some help clearly.
I used to think that i am an INFP but ISFP fits me more. How i know for sure i am ISFP? I barely finished this video because it’s too much theory. I still wanted to know so i Stayed but this video drained me due to too much theory I can’t dance for shit though but i definitely have artistic talent:singing and painting and drawing and designing. Still when i sing i need to move to The song otherwise i am bored Still think i fall in The middle.
An ISFP in my family is exactly like that: they just want someone else to give them the answer and don't want to delve into the theory. They have great memories for odd and quirky things that interest them though, like scenes from movies and details that I would miss. They love clowning around and receiving positive attention and are a type 6.
That's not an isfp trait .Its a sign of add or something.Isfp with their introverted intuitives can be very much in to philosophy,personal growth and other abstract things. Isfp is considered to be most intuitive sensor
As an infp, I feel like specific ideas have literally changed the course of my life. As soon as I begin to feel settled, another idea springs up and unsettles me.
I relate! I go into an obsessive mode about a particular thing (right now MBTI, for example) and can't really do much else. :-| Then just as soon as I think I can stop obsessing and get something done, another idea/theory/framework/issue pops up and I have to research the hell out of that one. It's not so much the 'mania' that Erik speaks of for ISFP though, this can go on for years or as long as the obsession lasts, and seems part of my FiNe exploration of myself and the world. Then they all sort of integrate within me in some way, as part of my Fi's structure.
adhd
The smart phone and the internet are great for activating ne and learning. But it provides too much of a dopamine dump and causes procrastination and anxiety i think.
Yess, well said!! I literally can't do anything, I leave my work till the last minute and than stress and anxiety come in....
I can't stand it.
Not if you learn how to use it correctly
@Nemya Blue yeah
eeeeeek same. combined w my ADHD its very hard ahah
Amazing how just one letter can make such a difference.
At 7.11 I accidentally say ISFP when I mean INFP, sorry for the confusion!
Erik Thor thanks for saying this - that helped!
I always get infp as my type, and i always think i am an infp: i relate more to the overall description of infp, but i have isfp's weaknesses. However, recently i am so depressed,and i show both symptoms of isfp and infp. I shut myself from others and i make lists and schedules and start doing workout and exercises.. which is completely strange because i think there is distinct differences between isfp and infp. What do you think about this case? Do you think being surrounded by sensing types changes someone from intuitive to sensing??
The part about having too many platforms to jump onto and not being able to choose is a constant struggle for me as an INFP.
Emma MacArthur-Warner Sorry, but can u give me an example? I just can't remember anything from my life and am having struggles with identifying whether I am INFP or ISFP :(
I mean, I am so stupid that I even can't remember how I behave when under stress. I am definitely not good at sports, painting or cooking like ISFPs. I read somewhere (but not sure if it is true) that ISFPs help their friends by giving their belongings( money and so on) and INFPs are more likely to give emotional support and explain that life is not easy to live, etc. But I also don't remember whether I provided emotional support to someone, I feel like I don't help people who are hurt. I am so confused. Can you please share with your experiences?
Gulnaz Sarenova sorry for taking so long to respond. I think all the ideas about how IXFPs help other people can be helpful to an extent when you want to know your type, but are not necessarily the best way to distinguish. Honestly, I don't spend a lot of time helping other people either and I think the most telling distinctions are the kind of information you tend to be looking for, how you think about your interests, and how you express ideas.
INFPs and ISFPs can actually have a lot of similar interests (both often like art) or not, depending on the person, but what you want to look for is whether you prefer more abstract or concrete ways of thinking. INFPs are more interested in symbolism, hypothetical situations, or thinking extensively about philosophical questions like why people have morality, whether it is possible to improve society, etc. ISFPs on the other hand are more interested in practical skills and being able to make something useful using known methods. They are more action-oriented than INFPs. ISFPs and INFPs both tend to have strong feelings about right and wrong, but I think ISFPs question their own beliefs less. For example, my ISFP friend is very faithful about her religion, whereas I have always liked the idea of being religious but have never been able to fully believe because I'm always asking questions like "how do we know?"
Another difference is how they talk. If I and my ISFP friend are saying the same thing, it takes me about three times as long to say it!😂 Intuitives are famous for getting into a lot of complexity that sensors sometimes see as unnecessary. Also, my friend has a much more charismatic style and tends to create a lot of energy in her speaking; she knows which words or phrase to emphasize and naturally entertains people. Whereas I might say something funny but people will have moved on by the time I finish explaining that actually this joke only applies when such-and-such is the case and you shouldn't assume blabla because I said it... but this can reverse when there are specific details to remember because she will actually pay attention to things like names or places that my mind will filter out, often to my inconvenience 🙃
Anyway, there are lots of online resources to look at as well if you're unsure! Good luck (:
Emma MacArthur-Warner thank you sooo much😙😙😙
Gulnaz Sarenova no problem! It's fun writing about this since I'm kinda obsessed 😀
9 times out 10 ISFPs are always aware of their appearance an INFP very seldom aware of that.
Messy hair, sloppy appearance are they often if so most likely INFP. If very very seldom ISFP.
as a possible INFP I am aware of everything going on around me but I don't give a hell about my appearance
Funny you mention chairs. My ENFP friend tends to bump into them and say, "Excuse me, I'm sorry," and I (INFP) notice the chair in advance but still think as I dodge, "Whoa, dude (chair is the dude), close one." I'm sure other people think we're wacky.
And I can't believe you thinking getting up in the morning at 4 am to sew is weird ;-)
I think by watching your video I have confirmed that I am an ISFP not an INFP...
I have been going through an identity crisis for two weeks trying to figure out what type I am. This behaviour matches with how you said ISFPs react to stress. We obsess about the detail of a particular topic until we either give up or we satisfy the desire we were looking for and then move on to something else. I think the fact that ISFPs/INFPs often get confused is actually the fault of confused ISFP's, who yearn for individuality and question themselves more than others.
Based on my experience, my guess is that for people who are not sure if they are an ISFP or an INFP, and if you are deep-diving MBTI and won't be satisfied until you find out, then you are probably an ISFP.
@@meghnaelizabeth8293 wow I've been looking for a clear answer and you gave it to me. Thanks buddy I now know im an isfp
I’m also struggling a lot on figuring wether I’m and infp or isfp. You stating that obsessively searching for the truth is an isfp thing but I’ve heard that that’s an infp thing. I definitely do this and I become obsessed with things. Could you explain why that’s an isfp thing and not an infp thing?
@@raysacassanelli500 yeah I'm back to say that maybe I'm not an isfp I deeply feel like an infp and what helped figure that out is by asking my friends if I'm the type to live in the moment or do I fantasize about the future. What threw me off is taking those test because it has me second guessing myself but if you're true to yourself then you might figure out which one fits you more. Just ask yourself in public are you aware of your surroundings or do get lost in your thoughts. Hope this helped
@@violetdodio9544 I fantasize about the future, and get lost in my thoughts... could you tell me what that would make me please? I would appreciate it soon much!
@@violetdodio9544 I'm also in love with writing. I'm not sure if that would help narrow it down or not
I'm not sure what I am between the two, but my gut instinct tells me I'm an INFP - but then again, that's something an ISFP would do. You see the dilemma?
Exactly, I think most people who cannot commit to either ISFP/INFP sounds like classic individualistic ISFP behaviour, I have concluded the same thing for myself.
Same
Hi Erik, hi everyone.
I am into MBTI for some months, and one week ago I discovered your great videos. (I studied Psychology in the nineties but I had no contact with Jung, Myer-Briggs or Keirsey).
I am totally interested in MTBI and Socioniks and I started to "polish" the automatic generated subtitles (English language) in THIS video. [ ISFP vs INFP Personality Type ].
I am Spaniard and I speak french and German. I have been in contact with English language for 30 years (im 40 y/o) and I must say, it is really difficult sometimes to follow the automatic generated subtitles. I invested 2 hours correcting the words iNFp and iSFp and many other words. But they are not visible yet, because they need to be revised by the community.
I invite others to do the same. We shouldn't forget that there are millions of people out there, who are not experts in roman (Latin) letters or, like me, in English language.
I intentionally kept "i" and "p" in lowercase (small letters), because they are much easier to identify, when reading the subtitles fast. Remember than Turkish, for example, they have two different kinds of "i" and for many Arabic, Persian, Chinese .... etc writers, the letter "l" can be an "L" in lowercase or it can even be a "1". I also put TWO spaces before and after iSNp and iNFp to facilitate the reading. Please, don't remove these spaces.
I allow myself to ask you to hear yourself, Erik, with the automatic subtitles on. You will see crazy words being generated: "ice" "eyes" ( i ) , or "peace", "pits" ( p ). I would ask the community to help to clean up the subtitles. In youtube is easy to contribute.
Me, as an iNFp I feel motivated to help other people in other cultures, to listen to this. But the different accents and phonetic sounds in English (the most cacophonic language I've ever heard in my life) makes this very difficult. I appreciate and honor your work totally. Thank you for this videos.
True regarding ISFP under stress. Tunnel vision. Everyone else disappears. I block them out.
Thank you Erik!! :D That was truly amazing, the points you made about having a dialogue with objects and the mind, and how INFPs are looking to validate their own realisations are scary!! It's like you read my soul!! Really appreciate the video :) and also your channel is awesome! :D
Thanks!
11:33 lmao that is so meee! im literally in that phase right now, avoiding my studies and everything to do more research about personality types and somehow become this super human that understands everybody! it's annoying because i know im gonna move to something else after some time and funnn because i get to do research and learn new things which is sth that getsss me super excited and optimistic idk whyyy!! i was a bit confused abt whether im isfp or infp bcz sometimes im more intuitive but now i understand that it's not my best version.
this video really helps, thanks, the Vibe part about ISFP is so true
Thank you so very much for this video! For months I had settled into thinking that I was an INFP but after obsessively researching and also watching your video (apparently an ISFP trait, heehee) I am now leaning more toward believing that I'm an ISFP! Have to do more obsessive researching though of course. 👌😊
I do spend a lot of time checking how i'm feeling throughout the day, it's automatic. I usually daydream, there's always a strong image, or sound going on in my mind, maybe a memory, if I stay quiet for a moment. As long as i am alone and free, the monologue takes over, it's more visual with a very subtle message behind it, one that is not always very clear to me. Example: Let's say I'm feeling a bit bad in my chest, I can see the image of a dove flying in the sky in my mind, and feel a certain freedom out of it, feel the breeze and the tranquil sensation the blue sky transmits. But just after looking at it more conscientiously, i realize I feel the need to take a walk outside and to give myself more freedom, more space. I then realize this is a response to the bad feelings in my chest. I'm fantasizing about what I particularly don't have at that moment: freedom, peace etc. There's always some sort of message. When i'm understress I tend to overeat, overthink and to hide what I feel. Abusing sensuality for compensation. If I am out on the streets, I am always talking to myself, reflecting on something. It's like i'm looking inside of myself with more attention than what is happening around me. I can take quick looks at things, make quick observations about outside, but the film is always playing in my mind.
Hi mate Im 43 Isfp and the mrs enfj . Theres never a dull moment . You are so infomative and entertaining . I could listen to you for hours . Any way i am an artist of sorts at the moment the dumbell is my paint brush and i am the canvas. Very in tune with my body I also am very good at plagiarism . Thank again a bit on interaction between enfj and isfp would b realy cool . Cheers . You should b proud of your self .
Never thought I was an ISFP as an INFP, but I can definately see where the two can overlap and be very similar a lot more than I thought actually. ( which makes sense being both are IFP's and perhaps can overlap the closer the types are to each other it seems). Thanks for the very informative video!
I have asd and add and I'm obsessed with precision. I think that infp is the best fit for me but I'm never 100% sure. It takes me a very long time because I can act differently in certain situations and I can have difficulty understanding myself. I'm in the process with a professional to understand myself better and might bring up this topic. I love self tests but I also get really upset because I dont completely understand myself enough to be precise enough. Even though this makes me mad I also enjoy gaining the knowledge to clarify the gaps. It's addictive lol.
I can feel somtimes as ISFP and a lot of INFP, so easly to sens a beheiver. It depends on energy level . :)
+Josephine Milo Yeah so make sure you tap into the right energy :)
Erik Thor Yea, I love to much ISFP and INFP with all parts, will try to be right :), thank you on advice
you are opposite of me , i'm an INFP , i can feel sometimes as ISFP.
I would defintely say I'm INFP when being myself and being comfortable. Though, being in a family and friends nearly almost being sensors, I've been raised to behave much more like a sensor. My ISFP-ish behaviour is much more of my official behavoiur, since that's more or less who people expect and want me to be. So in core, I'd say I'm INFP and have always been I guess, but expectations from family, socity and friends have brought me a deep bond to the INFP way of being and living. I think might be rather common, since socity doesn't really value the INFP preferences and way of thinking. I believe many INFP find themselves acting as INSP as they have been raised to do.
this is interesting, i also feel similarly. I've been watching videos where people take objects and say all the associations that come to mind, and when put on the spot like that I feel like i'd give very sensor-type, based-in-the-real-world Se associations, which makes me think isfp. but when i'm free and alone my associations are more whimsical and random, more Ne and Si associations, which makes me think infp
Thank you for this information. I'm an INFP. When I tell a story people always ask me about the details for example: "What kind of car does he have?" They're lucky if I still know the answer. People are lucky if I still remember the color of their car and I think that ISP's are much better at team sports than INFP's.
Excellent useful explanations Erik! I have been struggling for years tying to determine which I am to the point now that I would just go with IXFP. I love being in the moment when drawing and painting where I am very drawn to interpreting life and beauty in the moment and ascetically when drawing and painting but also love reading and imagining. Still not convinced though so will listen more times.
Based on my thoughts, I think ISFP's are more likely to obsess over detail where as an INFP is more likely to move on to a different topic quickly, I think your struggle similar to mine indicates that you are an ISFP, as you want to be a unique individual which is a strong desire for ISFP's, but maybe an ISFP description doesn't satisfy that individual desire because the description of an ISFP is a bit to boring!
Sorry but now I feel like I am both. I draw off instinct rather than life lesson. I jump from idea to idea and I look back. I can get hyper focused and I can make false connections. I care about theories more than life lessons. I innovate. I rarely feel connected to everyone.
I guess that's how MBTI works. No one is normally 100% anything.
heyy, infp here! thank you for that vid, it's amazing
Ok, thank you. This has confirmed for me that I am indeed INFP. I re-took the test today and it said I might be ISFP and had me questioning. But the idea of wanting to rewrite my story in my imagination rings the most true.
I’m an ISFP , can I suggest that a simple (could be my simple mind though) way to differentiate between ISFP and INFP is which type really likes to drive a car? I would suggest the ISFP for several reasons which I won’t outline for the sake of brevity. What do you reckon?
I have been tested INFP every test i took last 3 years span but many isfp traits fits me more than INFP traits? am i really infp or isfp? i just want to know truth.
To me the difference is intensity. Infp is intense over abstract things. An isfp is more chill. And if not chill it will be over something direct. Directly happening at the time, directly affecting them at that time. Infp can be quiet but intense all the time. Scratch that surface, we will hide it but the intensity is always there.
Omg Eric "sees our lives as a dialog" and "everything around us is alive". Yes wow 👍. I thought no one would ever know those things about me 😃
Im infp but I'm good at visual learning. But i have to focus more than an isfp probably. I then have to do it a few time. But im not bad at all at it. Im good actually :-). It works for me
infps see your lives as a dialogue; isfps see our lives a monologue
I disagree. INFP appears more chill, ISFP is more intense, even socionics makes this difference. ISFP can even look INTJ-ish, and the INFP can look INTP-ish.
@@SabeloNada00 Hmm, interesting because I know an ISFP and an INFP.
@@xero6396 Well.. MBTI is very weird to be honest, compared to Socionics.. all the types with Se as secondary are passive-agressive, not sweet. But anyway, MBTI will place any soft spoken type as an Fi for no reason other than thats how they imagine Fi to be.
I hesitate a lot between the two! I don’t look like « Se »stereotypes (so good in sports lol and seing everything in the physical environment) but I don’t see myself either as Ne aux and feel pretty concrete. I am not feeling out of touch with reality. I think I relate more to the ISFP obsessions for something to escape reality. The ambivalence I like theory but I hate theory because it makes me see just this theory every where.
I feel like you know me better than I know me
Ok this is getting ridiculous, someone help me figure out if I'm Infp or Isfp. I seem to be like an Isfp, chill, laidback, flows well with present, observant. But then I apparently have ne. So I overthink everything but its not in a ni way, I am not straightforward like an isfp, but when people talk to me about complex things, my brain explodes and I don't know what to say, I can't talk about theories or anything, it just hurts my head, I want one simple answer to problems but I don't mind multiple possibilities, and I tend to change the subjective a lot and jump ideas a lot, I also start things and not finish them like a typical ne user but I don't think I'm infp because I'm not deep enough, I'm also too loud to be an infp. At parties, I am really shy but then suddenly I can become really impulsive and outgoing. With friends, I run around doing parkour and yelling and being super energetic like an exfp. So how the hell can I be Infp if I'm not that deep.
I don't relate to any Infp and every Infp fictional character is way too quiet and girly which isn't me at all, yes I'm quiet and anxious and paranoid and worry constantly about everything but I also don't like being so silent that I ignore everyone else and just play with a cat, that isn't me. I also am prone to drawing a lot and I notice a lot like a se user so I think I might be Isfp but everyone says I have ne..what the fk..also I don't think I have si because my memory is bad and I don't exactly relate present to past or maybe I do I DONT KNOWWW HELP ME PLEASE
I'm confused whether I'm and ISFP or INFP. I enjoy learning the value and nature of art & I also like having deep conversations about philosophy. Finding a solution to a problem (can be both realistic and idealistic) is what I'm good at but I need to be more selfless.
This an interesting perspective, although I think diving into specific nuances can be confusing for some people. I feel like the difference is pretty clear; ISFPs will gravitate more towards concrete thinking, the material world and more basic philosophy. INFPs are very abstract thinkers, bouncing from topic to topic when conversing and generally interested in more off the wall, obscure things. When sitting with your friends if you find yourself discussing the complexities of life, existential questions, finding metaphors in films/movies/life events and talking about how past situations informed your sense of identity you are definitely an INFP. If those sorts of thinking don’t come as naturally, ISFP is probably your type. I can spot the difference between a sensor and intuitive within minutes of meeting them. INFPs are also more self conscious in general.
My Brother is an ISFP, he is a way more good at mechanic things and was granted a great memory. However , he was more willing to be manipulated and ia rll impulsive at times and affraid of future.
Inc contrast with me, an INFP, my memory aint really good, but when I like things I will try to remember them and work really hard despite of not being blessed. I can predict future and people intentions better than my brother.
Our mother is an ISTJ and its funny because our qualities together resembles hers.
Every time I take the personality test I get either INFP or ISFP. When you talk about ISFP in this video I relate more to them. However, under stress it seems like I’m somewhat of both? I am very sensitive to ideas like ISFP but I also tend to put ideas into routine until routine starts to drain me.
In one of your other videos where you talk about INFP-A vs INFP-T, I seem to be like INFP-T when anxiety gets to me. But I also sense I’m very creative and artistic and adventurous and always getting inspired by connections i form w other people like an ISFP.
This confuses me a lot LOL! Not sure who one I am???
You're a gem, this is really helpful!
ISFP 🌈🌸🦄
I'm confused abt myself because for as long as i know I'm an infp but then I slowly realize that the description doesn't really vibe with me (?) (also my intuition and sensing is only different by 2%) And i was watching this vid until almost the end with a firm *oh! Maybe I'm an infp after all.* But then the saying of how isfp jumps into this "mania" sort of thing screamed *me*. Like I'm obsessing over this when I should've done something else (running from responsibility). I'm not athletic btw. Can do a little dancing but that's abt it. I love to draw and design it's been a long hobby of mine. But i also love writing. At first i thought that maybe I'm a borderline infp/ isfp but i still want to know the real truth. But then again i also have this firm belief that people couldn't 100% fit in one of this mbti boxes. So yeah sigh
Thanks so much, Erik. After many obsessive months of trying to figure this out, I finally know that I am an ISFP and not an INFP. Whew!
Erik, which type would you say is more likely to be bored in general, and more specifically bored by their thoughts? (and why? )
I'm an INFP and my sister is an ISFP and this is so true!
I feel like for almost that entire video you were mixing up the two personality types. I felt your observations were incredible accurate, but just reversed. I think the biggest thing I noticed that was off was when you were comparing the way both types react to stress and anxiety. My boyfriend is an Isfp, while I'm Infp. I abhor plans and deadlines, and me under stress is no different. Actually, when I'm under stress I become irrational about them. I will become enraged when people push plans onto me. I will openly resent the responsibilities placed on me. I retreat into myself and lash at anyone that tries to pull me out. I also obsess irrationally, unable to break away from my ideas. I am the one that will become fixated on an Idea and suddenly decide with complete conviction that it's the truth. My boyfriend, on the other hand, lives for making plans. He considers the way I live my life chaotic..And when he is stressed it only gets worse. He will become incredibly angry when plans change or something falls through. This difference between us is the biggest roadblock in our relationship by far. I was so amazed when watching this at how right you were and yet how the roles were completely reversed. Did you accidentally mislabel the two? Or is it widely known that this is how these two types actually react to stress? If so, then I may have to seriously rethink my typing...
Crystal Brown I am an INFP under stress atm and I thought they sounded reversed too. I am drowning in my own stress and irrational and angry, and I try to find anything to validate my lack of being able to do things. I also go off on tangents and get obsessed about things that aren't related to the stressors (Not necessarily new hobbies, just new interests). I also find any way to push work to later and blow up at anyone reminding me of things.
Crystal Brown im an infp too and but I definitely resort to my inferior Te function when I am stressed as a means of gaining control. I think he was right on
@@DJ5780 Both have inferior Te. No difference between the types there.
When INFPs are stressed, we move into our shadow function, which is (the unhealthy version of) the ENFJ. Under extreme stress, we move into our superego: the ISTP. The unhealthy ENFJ will convince itself that our nemesis is not deserving of anything / deserves everything (bad) it gets. The superego ISTP will move to rid this person from our lives.
This is probably the best infp isfp comparison video I have ever watched
Sorry man, but then you didnt watch a good one before. For me he doesnt seem to have an idea how these 2 types really work.
I have taken a few tests now even yours :) on yours i get INFP, on humammetrics I get ISFP but it is only a 1 % between the s/n in this video I think I am more ISFP.
I have doubt in mind that i am infp. Like... no i am not. I think i am an isfp. BUT AFTER I WATCH THIS i told myself..... "gurlll, just accept it." LOL I kinda do weird things like painting, but i never do that. And restless until one day full without sleeping. And it's so random, i just try to make my body tired, when my mind is already tired but always think about something,
The making your body tired is an ISFP thing, it doesn`t happen all the time, but as they grow older they notice how the physicall tiredness is a positive thing for them. INFPs avoid that at all costs, too much physical activity can make them sick, literally sick. (the trick here is to know if you are healthy or unhealhty right now... an unhealthy ISFP may be going through a phase of non-activity, but that lack of activity is making them sick, whereas to the INFP that would be a healhty thing).
that's... the reason i think i was isfp at first. But, i realized just then, I avoid tired-activities altogether... and, someday in my stress, i will do whatever it costs to make my physic and mind tired.. But, i hate to say that i hate those activities. Nonsense to me. I just love hang around in my place doing nothing.
It's sad. I wish i am isfp... More creative, more productive.
@@takenby_cj INFP are not meant to be productive, socionics calls them Dostoyevsky, and the social purpose is, just as for ISFPs, to be the conscience of the other sociotypes- Strenghtening your personal values by imagining how the world could be, keeping your ground when life tries to throw you off, that inner strenght that comes across as weaknes in the physical world is a gift you must share with others, by trying to be just a healthy you. All the healthy INFPs I know do this, just by example, their apparent "passive" demeanor is a reminder to everybody else that there is much more than the present reality... Look into Model G and Victor Gulenko, he is the best at explaining this. also, check this, remember that in socionics you are an EII- INFj - Dostoyevsky-- vimeo.com/album/3344504
So if ideas can have such a negative influence on isfps, is it possible that infps can negatively influence isfps, just because infps like sharing ideas?
Not exactly, it's negative in the sense that ideas are a stressor or that they are unsettling to the ISFP. If the ISFP can ground the idea or make it realistic or based on external events, that's fine. But when the idea gets them off course...
That's so interesting. I'm pretty sure my ex was an ISFP. I introduced him to astrology the first week we met and he went on to get a certificate as an astrologer. I really never expected that! I am the one who's been into it for a longer time and more intensively but he actually got certified professionally. And now he doesn't do it at all - he just got into a 'mania' about it. He also had a cooking mania. He had a phase of dressing as a certain person from history everyday. He had a mania about particular bands that I had shared with him. He had a mania about a certain teacher of his. I always loved how he would get into a 'mania' about all *my* INFP interests. LOL Because then we could share it and be geeks together. But watching this video I realize sometimes those things might have taken him off course. Nowadays we are still friends but very different people with different interests, though can still connect beautifully through Fi. He has a much stronger use of Se now and it's very noticeable.
I never did the same sort of thing as him, meaning, if my partner is into something, I won't get automatically obsessed with that thing. But I do have my own 'manias' such as watching MBTI videos EVERY SINGLE DAY for HOURS for the past 6-7 months. I will sort of investigate and research an issue obsessively and exhaustively (possibly for years) until I get a new idea to obsess about it. All those things feel like part of my FiNe self-exploration process. I also push everyone around me (Te) to also engage with whatever my obsession is. When the obsession passes it becomes part of "who I am" (sort of sinks into my Fi-Si?) but is no longer actively my obsession. I also will research and obsess with my interest of the moment when under stress though, to escape reality and avoid responsibility. But that may just be the INFP tendency to procrastinate in general...then at the very last minute I will pull the Te moves. I need to work on that aspect of myself... >_<
Great video as always, Erik.
When you say infp under stress would start doing something weird, true. At 2am i would be sewing money notes on my jacket i dont know why. Maybe i was posessed by the devil 😂
Thank you, this was very helpful. Now I know for sure that I'm an ISFP.
The problem is that when I tested, I was split between an ISFP and an INFP. I answered the questions for Intuitive positive, but when I looked at the cup I gave physical descriptions of the cup.
However, as I learn about the INFP, I am finding that I have a lot in common with that type.
could you do a INFP or INTP video next please.
Man, here are so many misconceptions about these 2 types that its hard to keep track of everything.
Do INFP 9w1s act similar to ISFPs? I noticed that I'm more grounded and practical than many INFPs I see. I see a lot of myself in both types. My introverted intuition is also more developed than my extraverted intuition. I love delving into theories and ideas more than practical lessons, but I also love helping and motivating people with their everyday struggles.
I see INFP 9s as one of the conscientious, proactive types. This results in a strong feeling and perceiving function.. It becomes a lot more visible than your introverted intuition... doesn't mean you appear like an introverted sensor, just that it becomes the first impression you make on a person. INFPs are a lot more private than ISFPs, even as 9s
Erik Thor Thanks! It's interesting to see how the enneagram affects our types. I am barely a 9, with a 2 being close behind and then the 4.
My type changes with every test I take. Idk, each description of the types sound so intense or cut and dry. Like if you do this you can't be that, or if you say this you're not that. I've been researching for a year and I'm more confused. INFP is the first one I got. Then INFJ, INTJ, ESFP, ESTP, ENTP, ENFP, and now ISFP. I'm not even sure if I'm an introvert or extrovert anymore lol. I asked my best friend since childhood if she thought I was introverted or extroverted and she said "idk you definitely don't make yourself the center of attention, but you're not shy at all and can strike up a conversation with anyone." I agreed, and said I prefer to be alone and quiet, but I'm also a really good people person. Crowds don't make me nervous or drained, actually the opposite when I'm at a concert or sporting event I get really hyped, but I do prefer to be with people one on one instead of groups and I like my me time. And I hate to be interrupted when I'm focusing on something and people want to talk, or doing customer service is annoying, I hope I never have to do it again but again I'm good at it. I was always the first to volunteer to present projects or do stuff for the class in school because idk I just liked to go first. I'm a hard worker, but I'm also lazy af sometimes. Sometimes a neat freak sometimes a slob lol. I'm an award winning manager of 6 years, but it's not my preferred position I just kinda don't want to step down and then have someone else tell me what to do. I'm not athletic, but I'm a little competitive when I play sports and I hate watching sports on tv only in person or actually being in the game even though I suck. I can't dance, but I love music and lyrics. I paint, draw and write for fun. I have my own etsy shop. I'm into meditation even though it's really hard for me to just let thoughts go instead of speed solving the problems that come to mind before I can let them go, I still love the feeling of trying to relax and burning scented candles and love doing yoga. I love spiritual things but I've never felt that I have a spirit guide, guardian angel or loved one that's passed that's with me, I am teaching myself to read tarot and read auras, i studied astrology for many years, i love the idea of witch craft as well lol but don't do any spells. I listen to ghost stories and cryptid sighting stories to fall asleep because they stop me from dreaming, my dreams are vivid and weird they're more like nightmares but seem so real I used to feel like I never got any sleep. I love scary movies more than comedies, and I pretty much can't stand corny chick flicks except Clueless. I'm empathetic but sometimes I just have to turn it off or I'll get consumed and put my life on hold for people trying to make them feel better. I've learned people need to want to help themselves to feel better or its a lost cause. But I really do love giving advice, I have over a thousand best answers on yahoo answers. I've been depressed for long periods of time in life, but it was situational, I'm not depressed over all, I like to be happy and optimistic unless I'm in a bad mood then I can't find the silver lining. I'm ok at math but not a genius or numbers person. If something bores me like mechanical stuff or someone is telling a boring story I mentally check out and can't even control it, yet I can stare at a tree or something more "boring" and be totally focused. I'm married to an ENTP, he is actually my living guardian angel lol my favorite person in the world. He's way louder and and more talkative than me, he loves making friends and conversation with random people. I don't really seek that out now that I'm older but did when I was a kid. I'm not unfriendly now though. My husband also is the only guy I've been with that I felt I can be 100% myself around and he still loves me and is not overwhelmed when I let me out cuz I'm truly intense and emotional but I tame myself in public and that's another reason I always enjoyed being alone so I can just be me without anyone judging or asking me questions about why I think this or why I do that (he does ask, but I'm ok with it since he's my other half, plus he put in the work! It took me a long time to actually be able to communicate the answers without just blowing up out of frustration) He has really helped me learn to communicate my personal feelings, I rarely shared them with anyone so I wasn't used to it and he was really patient. I used to just dump guys rather than bother to try to work out issues, just didn't seem worth the effort but he's so sweet and always has my back and he soothes my soul. He has a huge heart and is also very emotional but he doesn't let himself indulge in the whole array of emotions like I do. Meaning if something makes him feel sad he won't listen to it or watch, like negative feelings are icky to him lol. I on the other hand enjoy music and movies that make me cry as much as I enjoy anything else it's all good. He's really funny and animated and we always make eachother laugh and he also has a curiosity about the world that I find endearing because I don't have many questions about things lol I feel like I know a lot naturally idk how to explain it. He's hyper compared to me but also ok with sitting around much more than I am, he likes to talk about doing things and I like to actually do them so I think of stuff for us to do on the weekends then that gets him going and excited and we make a great team, I also remind him to eat lol. I love animals and they love me. I like the outdoors and nature. I hate the idea of going to space it's so big it scares me but I love the stars and photos of the galaxy. And I also hated when everyone started texting instead of phone calls or dropping by. Like just talk and get it over with instead of dragging out conversations sentence by sentence waiting for a reply or waking up to messages ugh. Also I'm really sentimental and affectionate, but not a cryer in public, behind closed doors I'm a sobber lol. I do have a bad temper but I'm generally sweet. I like buying stuff randomly for my friends and family and actually anyone if I see something they'd like. I hate sharing though lol. And I hate planning big events, I let my sister plan my wedding lol I just picked the venue, decor, and dresses. I hated having to do the seating and invitations and all that stuff. i just wanted a courthouse ceremony and keg party lol but my husband and our parents were like nah and I'm glad because I am actually kinda bougie I just get overwhelmed with planning, I got to wear a big poofy princess dress and My husband looked super handsome (as always) and everyone had a great time. My friends say I give good advice and always know what to say to make them feel better, but I rarely go to them or anyone with my problems. I love giving compliments to people just because I think they should know what's great about them. I like to be good usually but I like to be bad too sometimes Lol. I like to go fast but also take it slow and do one thing at a time, haste makes waste as they say, but I'm good at multitasking too! I feel like parts of each type fit me, but does anyone know what my type really is?
I think INFP can also obsess over things under stress but more if they're connected to them in some way. For example I know that with this description I'm an INFP but I've been obsessing over my type for a long time and I think that it's not because it's just some topic but because it's deeply related to me and will make me understand who I am (and control myself more). Like I just want to know how to fix myself (Fi-Si loop? + Te grip since I wanted to be more rational and find more "logical" examples why I'm this type over the other)
I find this really interesting, but frankly, all the letters confuse me . I feel like I have to pay extreme attention to be able to hear the difference. It all sound similar. It would be so much easier if the types were labeled type A- B-C etc or type Green- Purple -Yellow etc...
Is it just me, or anyone else feel the same way? Is this typically INFP or ISFP? 😁
Is it possible to be both isfp and infp?
I do like moving my body like isfp but I still like abstract concept and philosophy like an infp.
Though I guess I lean more towards isfp as I always write my stories linking with realism and finding ways for philosophy to be applicational.
its not possible :)
9:02 gesundheit
My friend who is one of these types always seems so stuck on the past. Maybe she's an ISFP.
Very helpful indeed! 👍
My sister is an ISFP and I’m an INFP :) we get along for the most part lol
What do you think about ISFP and INFP friendship and romantic relationships between each other?
nice vid!
Biggest issue would be keeping the passion alive, beyond that, it's a good match. :)
1.) Can you explain why "keeping the passion alive" is the biggest issue for an isfp-infp relationship? 2.) Are you really talking about friendships AND romantic relationships here?
I think ISFP/INFP friendships are amazing! I have 2 girl friends I think are ISFPs and I adore them both, both encourage and inspire me a lot (we are all artists). I can learn something from the way they approach life. They are grounded and know themselves well. I had an ISFP ex (I am INFP) and it was my longest and best relationship to this day. We were both quite young though, and he wasn't using his Se to its fullest. So we were kind of a pile of cuddly Fi. hehe He would take my Ne ideas and investigate them deeply with Ni, then we would talk about ideas and creative projects endlessly. Eventually we became like brother and sister and things changed. We're still friends, so it worked out in its own way. I still love him very much and always will. So, I don't know about a longterm romantic relationship or marriage as I think there's some conflict between Se and Ne (I feel I probably held him back from fully exploring his Se out in the world), but friendships I do highly recommend. :) ISFP girl friends get me out of my room/mind and kick my ass to go see/do something interesting. :P
I wish you could type me...
He does typing sessions, visit his website. :)
I took the test 3 times. It's always been infp. But I scored 53 intuitive and 47 sensing
I am an ISFP for sure
Isn’t Zlatan ISTP?
I'm so confused about my type :( Think I may have been repressing my Se since late childhood cause of peer-pressures - judging cause I didn't like team sports, people assuming I'm a "girly-girl" before learning I like reading too. I think I just wanted people to think I was one of those like, smarter girls because they had a place.
I'm struggling especially because my creative side doesn't look for the "story" like I know some INFPs do, my art and poetry are more like impressions rather than narratives /plots and I can't help it, I can't make up plots - the muscle just like doesn't exist - and I think with Ne you can easier??
I also refused to do team sports when I was a kid so I thought I was unsporty and not with very good spatial awareness. But thinking back my favourite things to do were roller skating, swimming, playing tennis, dancing, singing, cooking, colouring. I excelled mostly at colouring because it was affordable. I was never a story teller. I made characters for fun but even then they lacked story next to what my friend's made.
Now realising with my art - the main thing I do in my spare time, I've been pushing myself too hard to tell a story for years, like I see others do, without just playing around with media which ends up expressing my Fi way better anyway! I can't seem to make creative things with Ne anyhow, and I'm starting to think I may be using a little, terrible, Ni to give myself some sense of direction with my art rather than the Ne I thought I had.
But am I typing like an Ne user?? Yeah. Could do with some help clearly.
I used to think that i am an INFP but ISFP fits me more. How i know for sure i am ISFP? I barely finished this video because it’s too much theory. I still wanted to know so i Stayed but this video drained me due to too much theory
I can’t dance for shit though but i definitely have artistic talent:singing and painting and drawing and designing. Still when i sing i need to move to The song otherwise i am bored
Still think i fall in The middle.
An ISFP in my family is exactly like that: they just want someone else to give them the answer and don't want to delve into the theory. They have great memories for odd and quirky things that interest them though, like scenes from movies and details that I would miss. They love clowning around and receiving positive attention and are a type 6.
Im an isfp and a type 2 actually. 2w3.
That's not an isfp trait .Its a sign of add or something.Isfp with their introverted intuitives can be very much in to philosophy,personal growth and other abstract things. Isfp is considered to be most intuitive sensor
Zlatan Ibrahimovic is an ESTP 8w7.