0:05: There needs to be additional context to this story. Yes, it is weird they come in this late to do whatever catching up they need to do. If this is a one time thing, it shouldn't be a big deal, but if this persists, then there is a problem that OP and her BF need to hash out. 2:21: Seems like OP doesn't trust his GF to be around an ex who cheated on her. Considering the ex's reputation, I can't blame OP for being a little suspicious of this get together. OP and his GF need to talk things over so things don't blow up. 5:11: OP's BF's actions showed he was at least willing to cheat on her, even if he doesn't actually go through with it. OP needs to kick this clown to the curb. 6:23: OP's husband was living a lie and was deceiving her the whole time. OP should confront him about this and maybe get in touch with his two kids to boot.
As much as its seen as jealousy... Drinking with an ex is always a risky thing especially if you are with someone now. And if you get pissed that your partner isnt comfortable with it then you arent worth it.
@@kain7219what I don’t understand is, why go out and drink? Why not take the bf with her to talk with the ex? I wouldn’t be comfortable if drinking is involved mainly because so many things happens
@@megsyc.8062 alchohol is one of the poisons in the world ao ofc a lot lf things happen. So many lapse in judgement but its a normal thing that causes death and ruins people. And if someone wants to drink with their ex or insists 100% that you are the bad guy for not wanting them to talk to their ex its not worth it. Like yeah sometimes its fine to be friends with your ex but thats the rare case.
Why would there be a reason to contact the adult children? I'm assuming, from the time lines mentioned, that OP wasn't on the scene while husband was still married; in fact, didn't know the whole situation. Embroiling herself now seems unnecessary, particularly if she's considering (it seems) a more permanent separation due to feeling betrayed by his "sins of omission" (leaving out important details). It's not up to her to apologize for his behaviour either.
@@Kayenne54I assume she’s thinking more along the you have a sibling route, and allowing them to know where their dad is in case they want to find answers from him, not apologising for him being a pos
It might sound weird to a lot of people but my ex is my best friend. I’ve known him for 18yrs and he always has my back and vice versa. We were together for 5yrs but amicably split up(I realised I like women more and he wanted more from someone that I couldn’t give) we have two amazing girls together but we both agree that we were always just meant to be great friends but we mistook that for love, love. I’ve met his current girlfriend and she is amazing, my girls love her and her kids love me(call me auntie). It might sound wild to some but it works for us. ✌️❤️
I love that for you. That’s cute, I think it’s perfectly fine to be friends with your ex if you guys end on a good note. No cheating, backstabbing or anything. I also think it’s super important to communicate that to your partner. The wife did OP wrong but not communicating, especially if the ex and the wife ended in a bad term
My ex was my best friend too. Unfortunately, we grew apart. But we dated for about 2 or 3 weeks in high school. We kissed. We both felt disgusted. I said, "I think I'm a lesbian," and he said, "That felt like I kissed my sister." Then we started laughing, and later that night, we broke up via snapchat. Or, more like clarified that we were no longer together. We stayed friends for a few years after that, and the story of how we "used to date" got told A LOT.
@@megsyc.8062 Yeah, there was no cheating or anything bad, our chapter just came to the end and we both understood that. The girls are free to go their Dads whenever they want and vice versa. It’s just a really great environment for growing kids, knowing both your parents love you/each other(platonically) and are really good friends. Growing up, I have a super abusive/toxic home environment and I never wanted that for my kids. ✌️❤️
Last story, they've been married 3 years, let's say they dated for a year before that. So when the relationship started the husband was the absent parent of a teenager. OP is 34, husband is 54... It's one thing to like younger women (who knows, maybe he ditched the previous wife bc of her age) it's another thing to abandon kids.
Last story I'd reach out but not expect anything, they have a sibling. I'm also more for amicable divorces but in this case I hope she takes him to the cleaners.
They might not even have the faintest clue if their Dad is even alive anymore! They probably will want nothing to do with him but might be happy to meet their half sibling and support her in destroying his life!
I feel like too many people act comfortable with partners who are friends with exes. Too many stories end up with said partners end up cheating with their exes. And I cant help ,but think " Well, what did you expect?" I know people try to justify it ,but I feel like there are too many instances of cheating when there are people who are " friends" with their exes. Also, I find it weird to be friends with your ex cause then your current partner will constantly be wondering if you are comparing them to the ex. Even if they dont want to think that way, that doubt is going to be there. You'd be surprised how many people feel this way in therapy.
My dad abandonned my mother, me and my 2 baby siblings when i was 4 and my sibling were 1 and a few months old. It was years ago, he is a stranger to us, my siblings dont even know his name or what his face looks like. If he ever remarried, i wouldnt want the new wife to contact us. I remember his face and the sound of his voice but i dont want anything to do with him. And even more, i dont want him wrecking my siblings's feelings. We have all moved on. Its been almost 20 years and he is just a stranger who could do more harm than good. I'd be sorry for the wife but hes not our problem anymore, hasnt been for a long time
My first husband ( we were ver y young when marrying and it did not last thatlong, but we stayed on friendly terms) visited me some weeks ago. We looked at pictures I still have, as he lost all of his when his storage room was flooded due to waterleakage. We were laughing about ourselves and had a really nice and funny afternoon. We felt close like the time before we were a couple just aged 30 years. And then he suddenly said, you know, I really hated Husband 2 because I could see, that he was not good to you and I was really missing you as a friend. ( (2 was abussive, but I needed 11 years to get it) I am so glad that you have 3 now, he is a greate guy and I really like him a lot. So no, it is not bad to meet an Ex, generally. It always depends on the people itself, their honesty and loyality
Story1. If they are drinking, she will want to stay the night, I'm guessing. Go down there say it's late and offer to call a cab. THN talk to BF. Story two. Tell her the same but say it's YOUR ex. See if she gets the picture then.
Wow. Just a quick thought or two. Boyfriends? Uh, yeah. She's your girlfriend, not your wife. You hold on too closely and she will leave. AND if they want to catch up, etc. then dimes to donuts shebus gonna brag on your ass and show just how well she is doing. She didn't just survive that mess you made, she's thriving!
How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? I hope just great!! In the very first story, If this happened to me then I would be completely h*rt and heart broken because their definitely cheating. In the second story, why in the world would she want to communicate with someone who has cheated on her? She is completely gullible. I love you!! Have a great day!! Stay safe!!
I mean, when it comes to the one where the girl wanted to go hang out with her ex, I think it's wrong for anyone to encourage her current partner acting like a control freak because that will just make him think that he can completely control everything she does. People telling their partners who they can and cannot hang out with is a form of abuse and that should be discouraged, not encouraged, no matter what. If it's not, the partner will think they can abuse their partner in more ways than that and of course that's a bad thing that nobody should want to happen in any relationship. If he's that much of a control freak, he doesn't need to be dating anyone anyways. People like that don't deserve relationships, they need to be single. Your partner is a grown adult and can make their own decisions for themselves. They don't need or want you to baby them, clearly. If the girl is comfortable being friends with someone who cheated on her, that's her business and I don't think it's fair to judge her for it. Just because they didn't work as partners doesn't mean the other guy is an all around bad person, he may just be a bad partner which is probably why they work better as friends. Someone not being a good partner doesn't necessarily speak to whether or not they would also be a bad friend. It's possible they would but the person would have to find that out for themselves. Sometimes people have to learn a hard lesson and sometimes people's impressions of others are incorrect. This scenario could be either of those but it's completely up to the girl to figure that out on her own since she's clearly capable of making her own choice and I'm glad she doesn't let her clearly controlling partner make choices for her. People need the room to make their own choices and mistakes.
You're right in the fact that she can make her own as an adult and its also true that he can be uncomfortable with that decision. He did not keep her from meeting him and just stated his boundary of it being uncomfortable for him. The honest solution would be for them to have communication about what happens after the meeting and whether it's once off or will continue.
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0:05: There needs to be additional context to this story. Yes, it is weird they come in this late to do whatever catching up they need to do. If this is a one time thing, it shouldn't be a big deal, but if this persists, then there is a problem that OP and her BF need to hash out.
2:21: Seems like OP doesn't trust his GF to be around an ex who cheated on her. Considering the ex's reputation, I can't blame OP for being a little suspicious of this get together. OP and his GF need to talk things over so things don't blow up.
5:11: OP's BF's actions showed he was at least willing to cheat on her, even if he doesn't actually go through with it. OP needs to kick this clown to the curb.
6:23: OP's husband was living a lie and was deceiving her the whole time. OP should confront him about this and maybe get in touch with his two kids to boot.
As much as its seen as jealousy... Drinking with an ex is always a risky thing especially if you are with someone now. And if you get pissed that your partner isnt comfortable with it then you arent worth it.
@@kain7219what I don’t understand is, why go out and drink? Why not take the bf with her to talk with the ex? I wouldn’t be comfortable if drinking is involved mainly because so many things happens
@@megsyc.8062 alchohol is one of the poisons in the world ao ofc a lot lf things happen. So many lapse in judgement but its a normal thing that causes death and ruins people. And if someone wants to drink with their ex or insists 100% that you are the bad guy for not wanting them to talk to their ex its not worth it. Like yeah sometimes its fine to be friends with your ex but thats the rare case.
Why would there be a reason to contact the adult children? I'm assuming, from the time lines mentioned, that OP wasn't on the scene while husband was still married; in fact, didn't know the whole situation. Embroiling herself now seems unnecessary, particularly if she's considering (it seems) a more permanent separation due to feeling betrayed by his "sins of omission" (leaving out important details). It's not up to her to apologize for his behaviour either.
@@Kayenne54I assume she’s thinking more along the you have a sibling route, and allowing them to know where their dad is in case they want to find answers from him, not apologising for him being a pos
It might sound weird to a lot of people but my ex is my best friend. I’ve known him for 18yrs and he always has my back and vice versa. We were together for 5yrs but amicably split up(I realised I like women more and he wanted more from someone that I couldn’t give) we have two amazing girls together but we both agree that we were always just meant to be great friends but we mistook that for love, love. I’ve met his current girlfriend and she is amazing, my girls love her and her kids love me(call me auntie). It might sound wild to some but it works for us. ✌️❤️
icl that is adorable, glad your all doing well
I love that for you. That’s cute, I think it’s perfectly fine to be friends with your ex if you guys end on a good note. No cheating, backstabbing or anything. I also think it’s super important to communicate that to your partner. The wife did OP wrong but not communicating, especially if the ex and the wife ended in a bad term
My ex was my best friend too. Unfortunately, we grew apart. But we dated for about 2 or 3 weeks in high school. We kissed. We both felt disgusted. I said, "I think I'm a lesbian," and he said, "That felt like I kissed my sister." Then we started laughing, and later that night, we broke up via snapchat. Or, more like clarified that we were no longer together. We stayed friends for a few years after that, and the story of how we "used to date" got told A LOT.
@@megsyc.8062 Yeah, there was no cheating or anything bad, our chapter just came to the end and we both understood that. The girls are free to go their Dads whenever they want and vice versa. It’s just a really great environment for growing kids, knowing both your parents love you/each other(platonically) and are really good friends.
Growing up, I have a super abusive/toxic home environment and I never wanted that for my kids. ✌️❤️
@@wictori_ Thank you. ✌️❤️
Last story, they've been married 3 years, let's say they dated for a year before that. So when the relationship started the husband was the absent parent of a teenager.
OP is 34, husband is 54... It's one thing to like younger women (who knows, maybe he ditched the previous wife bc of her age) it's another thing to abandon kids.
Last story I'd reach out but not expect anything, they have a sibling.
I'm also more for amicable divorces but in this case I hope she takes him to the cleaners.
They might not even have the faintest clue if their Dad is even alive anymore! They probably will want nothing to do with him but might be happy to meet their half sibling and support her in destroying his life!
I feel like too many people act comfortable with partners who are friends with exes. Too many stories end up with said partners end up cheating with their exes. And I cant help ,but think " Well, what did you expect?" I know people try to justify it ,but I feel like there are too many instances of cheating when there are people who are " friends" with their exes. Also, I find it weird to be friends with your ex cause then your current partner will constantly be wondering if you are comparing them to the ex. Even if they dont want to think that way, that doubt is going to be there. You'd be surprised how many people feel this way in therapy.
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My dad abandonned my mother, me and my 2 baby siblings when i was 4 and my sibling were 1 and a few months old. It was years ago, he is a stranger to us, my siblings dont even know his name or what his face looks like. If he ever remarried, i wouldnt want the new wife to contact us. I remember his face and the sound of his voice but i dont want anything to do with him. And even more, i dont want him wrecking my siblings's feelings. We have all moved on. Its been almost 20 years and he is just a stranger who could do more harm than good. I'd be sorry for the wife but hes not our problem anymore, hasnt been for a long time
My first husband ( we were ver y young when marrying and it did not last thatlong, but we stayed on friendly terms) visited me some weeks ago. We looked at pictures I still have, as he lost all of his when his storage room was flooded due to waterleakage. We were laughing about ourselves and had a really nice and funny afternoon. We felt close like the time before we were a couple just aged 30 years. And then he suddenly said, you know, I really hated Husband 2 because I could see, that he was not good to you and I was really missing you as a friend. ( (2 was abussive, but I needed 11 years to get it) I am so glad that you have 3 now, he is a greate guy and I really like him a lot.
So no, it is not bad to meet an Ex, generally. It always depends on the people itself, their honesty and loyality
I’m concerned that in the last one the wife ended herself in response to the guy leaving and that’s why he considered himself a widower
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Story1. If they are drinking, she will want to stay the night, I'm guessing. Go down there say it's late and offer to call a cab. THN talk to BF. Story two. Tell her the same but say it's YOUR ex. See if she gets the picture then.
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Wow. Just a quick thought or two.
Boyfriends? Uh, yeah. She's your girlfriend, not your wife. You hold on too closely and she will leave.
AND if they want to catch up, etc. then dimes to donuts shebus gonna brag on your ass and show just how well she is doing.
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How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? I hope just great!! In the very first story, If this happened to me then I would be completely h*rt and heart broken because their definitely cheating. In the second story, why in the world would she want to communicate with someone who has cheated on her? She is completely gullible. I love you!! Have a great day!! Stay safe!!
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I mean, when it comes to the one where the girl wanted to go hang out with her ex, I think it's wrong for anyone to encourage her current partner acting like a control freak because that will just make him think that he can completely control everything she does. People telling their partners who they can and cannot hang out with is a form of abuse and that should be discouraged, not encouraged, no matter what. If it's not, the partner will think they can abuse their partner in more ways than that and of course that's a bad thing that nobody should want to happen in any relationship. If he's that much of a control freak, he doesn't need to be dating anyone anyways. People like that don't deserve relationships, they need to be single. Your partner is a grown adult and can make their own decisions for themselves. They don't need or want you to baby them, clearly. If the girl is comfortable being friends with someone who cheated on her, that's her business and I don't think it's fair to judge her for it. Just because they didn't work as partners doesn't mean the other guy is an all around bad person, he may just be a bad partner which is probably why they work better as friends. Someone not being a good partner doesn't necessarily speak to whether or not they would also be a bad friend. It's possible they would but the person would have to find that out for themselves. Sometimes people have to learn a hard lesson and sometimes people's impressions of others are incorrect. This scenario could be either of those but it's completely up to the girl to figure that out on her own since she's clearly capable of making her own choice and I'm glad she doesn't let her clearly controlling partner make choices for her. People need the room to make their own choices and mistakes.
You're right in the fact that she can make her own as an adult and its also true that he can be uncomfortable with that decision. He did not keep her from meeting him and just stated his boundary of it being uncomfortable for him. The honest solution would be for them to have communication about what happens after the meeting and whether it's once off or will continue.