hey! thanks for clicking on this video :) in it, i talk about how i'm trying to become a better communicator subscribe! / @oliviajoyryan_ current subscriber count: 69
I have never related to something more. Literally everything you said: relying on others to keep convo going, perpetual listener, bad storytelling, etc. I am so jealous of people who are naturally good storytellers.
go easy on yourself! making conversation is a skill that takes time. also, in many (many many) cases, just listening is enough to get started and help build a relationship with someone, which will eventually lead to YOU being more at ease with sharing. people desire to be heard, and simply actively listening, giving someone your whole attention, without trying to worry too much about what you should say or whether you're contributing, is often more than enough :)
first time viewing your videos!! and, man it is difficult to chime into a conversation like what if i talk over them? what if they aren't actually interested in what i am talking about? the thing is, if you don't know how to contribute, it's okay to ask them to talk about themselves even more if you're not comfortable with opening up yourself. you can ask them to expand, what are their thoughts on this? the focus on the 'what' makes them give the space to give you the information you need to be interested/engaged in the conversation. if you feel like you're talking about yourself too much get them to chime in every once in a while (for example, 'how are you doing lately' then talk about how you feel what's going on - maybe ask them if you know the person/place/or even feel the same way you do). i was able to get out of my shell and confidence through two main things: 1) through my job: i had to interact with strangers all the time, and used that as an opportunity to figure out what is more natural to me without overthinking it, you're in a familiar environment a lot so you can get into the habit of the types of people you'll talk to, besides they won't remember you or anything after that day if it happens, and 2) learn to listen but with the intention of understanding what is the key takeaway that is, sometimes you don't even need an opinion, you can agree with them by repeating and validating what they said. communication can be difficult to master, cos people have so many styles, im glad that you're taking the first step to recognise the gaps that you need to improve on and i wish you best of luck on your growth!!!!! making a youtube video is already out of the comfort zone for many!!!
Happens to me in some sorts, because I talk a lot to friends but all about random stuff and I mostly stutter a lot for not even knowing what I was talking about, even now I had trouble writing this because I dunno what I wanted to say. Anyway wanted to say that you got this and to not stop trying.
Haven't watched the full vid yet but i just wanna say that i think that while there are general 'rules' that should be followed about talking - ya know don't interrupt, stay relevant, don't be disrespectful - but I think a lot of the times being able to talk is more about finding the right person to talk to
oh my goodness this is so true! i have found that it's so much easier to talk to certain people more than others even when my communication skills stay the same. that's really helpful :)
I have never related to something more. Literally everything you said: relying on others to keep convo going, perpetual listener, bad storytelling, etc. I am so jealous of people who are naturally good storytellers.
well hopefully we can figure this out together :)
go easy on yourself! making conversation is a skill that takes time. also, in many (many many) cases, just listening is enough to get started and help build a relationship with someone, which will eventually lead to YOU being more at ease with sharing. people desire to be heard, and simply actively listening, giving someone your whole attention, without trying to worry too much about what you should say or whether you're contributing, is often more than enough :)
So great how self aware you are! Keep working on yourself it’s very inspiring:)
thanks a lot! :)
first time viewing your videos!! and, man it is difficult to chime into a conversation like what if i talk over them? what if they aren't actually interested in what i am talking about? the thing is, if you don't know how to contribute, it's okay to ask them to talk about themselves even more if you're not comfortable with opening up yourself. you can ask them to expand, what are their thoughts on this? the focus on the 'what' makes them give the space to give you the information you need to be interested/engaged in the conversation. if you feel like you're talking about yourself too much get them to chime in every once in a while (for example, 'how are you doing lately' then talk about how you feel what's going on - maybe ask them if you know the person/place/or even feel the same way you do). i was able to get out of my shell and confidence through two main things: 1) through my job: i had to interact with strangers all the time, and used that as an opportunity to figure out what is more natural to me without overthinking it, you're in a familiar environment a lot so you can get into the habit of the types of people you'll talk to, besides they won't remember you or anything after that day if it happens, and 2) learn to listen but with the intention of understanding what is the key takeaway that is, sometimes you don't even need an opinion, you can agree with them by repeating and validating what they said. communication can be difficult to master, cos people have so many styles, im glad that you're taking the first step to recognise the gaps that you need to improve on and i wish you best of luck on your growth!!!!! making a youtube video is already out of the comfort zone for many!!!
wow this is really helpful, thanks so much!
Happens to me in some sorts, because I talk a lot to friends but all about random stuff and I mostly stutter a lot for not even knowing what I was talking about, even now I had trouble writing this because I dunno what I wanted to say. Anyway wanted to say that you got this and to not stop trying.
this is so relatable, we got this :)
i relate to this a lot man 😔
we got this don't get too down about it :)
Haven't watched the full vid yet but i just wanna say that i think that while there are general 'rules' that should be followed about talking - ya know don't interrupt, stay relevant, don't be disrespectful - but I think a lot of the times being able to talk is more about finding the right person to talk to
oh my goodness this is so true! i have found that it's so much easier to talk to certain people more than others even when my communication skills stay the same. that's really helpful :)