🚨🚨FOR EVERYONE🚨🚨 The ending… the kid asked if Mrs. Rogers wanted to know why they went by / chose Sarah. Mrs Rogers said that she will only ask if they want to share, cause it’s none of her business just like how her business is none of Sarah’s business. Sarah looked shocked, smiled, and walked out. We do not know why the kid chose the name Sarah or wanted to go by Sarah.
As a lesbian, I am terrified of having kids in the future in the public school systems due to bullying for kids with same sex parents. Like I want kids so bad but then I think “but do I want to put a kid through that?” And it’s honestly really sad that it’s something I have to worry about for a child that does not yet exist.
@@strawberrypoptart1886 as a Christian, I am terrified of sending my kids to public school and having them indoctrinated by woke ideologies. Which is why I will be homeschooling them.
@@abbyxlewisgirl bye bffr public school arent even that accepting of lgbtq kids. if u teach ur child like that theyre going to be everything that goes against their religion. love thy neighbor remember?
@@k3nzEETV I can love and respect you, while disagreeing with your lifestyle, and believing that this lifestyle is unholy. Our calling as Christians is to be holy and blameless in the sight of God. We are meant to seek holiness and not get as close to sin as we can. Additionally, we must surround ourselves with believers and not with those who would lead us into temptation.
@@abbyxlewis everytime i argue with a christian its the same exact thing “i can love and respect u while bahbahbah….” i never said yall couldn’t. being in lgbtq isnt even a sin stop being afraid to go near us. Being disrespectful is a sin and from what I read were very close from being disrespectful
Man there are so many LGBTQ influencers now. I am a black bisexual woman it is hard. So hard to come out especially in the south. I am so blessed that my partner loves me the way he does. And that my family supports me the way that they do. I can relate to the story about having a holder cousin coming out before me. She came out as Lesbian a long time ago but it was terrifying to me because of not my mom but how my grandmother would say things like I’m so glad my children aren’t like that. Talking about not just my mom and her brother but my brother and I too. Now she no longer thinks this way but hearing that as a teen when I finally realized I was bi hurt me. Still does to be honest. But seeing so many lgbtq plus content creators really makes me soul happy. That kids no longer have to be afraid like I was.
Yesss I live in the Deep South and the people here are so rude and un- accepting of others. When I got a bf my mom said “oh you’re finally out of the lesbian phase” like what 😭
Please pardon my lack of knowledge. I noticed that you said "a holder cousin". Does this have a meaning or is it a typo? Once again, apologies for my lack of prior information.
I knew my daughter wasn't straight before she ever came out. We live in a small TX town. First, she said Bi. Then Lesbian. Now, idk and idgaf HOW she identifies. She will ALWAYS be my baby. Pronouns and sexuality don't change that for me. She has had friends disowned, has a friend who's family doesn't accept them for being Trans. Guess what, I proudly call him MY SON! You don't have a parent that supports and loves you, I'LL BE YOUR MOMMA! This podcast episode is AMAZING!
I live in a small Texas town too! My town doesn’t welcome people who are in the lgbt community very often so it is very sad to see. Personally, I (Male) always use an “I feel” statement because I don’t like labeling/deciding immediately (example: I feel like I’m gay, I feel like I am Bisexual) because who knows. It could be a phase, or just something that you are still deciding. Like your daughter’s situation, bi, then lesbian. For me it was bi, then gay, then straight, then gay, then aromantic and bisexual (current day) I don’t like opening up to things like this, but I told my family and even though they’re Christian they didn’t get (too) bent out of shape. My mom said she will love me no matter what or who I am because I am always her baby. (I’m an older-ish teenager) Life is weird, I don’t like how lgbt and everything else is being pushed so far and forced onto others (and people being so aggressive for no reason about it) and I don’t agree with a lot of stuff going on with this stupid world right now but myself is myself and I wouldn’t force it onto others. TLDR: I agree.
Can you be my mom- my mom keeps calling me Steve because she wants to piss me off. I haven't come out to her, she calls me a 'shim' and it's really tiring. I haven't come out to her, and I don't plan to.
parents like you give me hope. im 16 and live in the deep south, and it makes me so incredibly sad to think that most of my family will not want to talk to me ever again after i come out. its a hard thing to grapple with, especially as a teenager. thank you so much for supporting your daughter and her friends. i dont think words can express how much it really means!
My sister has a lesbian best friend and she has homophobic parents. She hasn’t come out yet. My dad, being the nice person he is, said “If she gets disowned, tell her she has a place to go.” IN HIS WORDS! THATS HIS WORDS! and he was referring to our house. It was a heartwarming moment. edit: sorry guys i didn’t mean to offend anybody. i’ll just shut up.
I have a friend who came out to his big sister and her response was "So can I finally introduce you to my friend now?" They've been married for a few years now
"As long as you're ... - Happy - Healthy - Consensual - Doing your best - Not hurting anybody else ... it's none of my effing business!" This is SO right!
To add to that opening of them being role models for the LGBTQ community, my girlfriend (hetero/cis) looks up to y’all too, as just an example for how partners should treat each other. Y’all appear to have such a beautiful, healthy relationship that it should really be an example to anyone, straight couples included
@larry01920, do you have any advice on how to come out to my family? I’m aroace, and I was just wondering if you have any ideas on how I could come out?
When i came out as bisexual to my family i did change. It wasn't huge changes, but mostly smaller ones like i was more outgoing, i let my hair grow out, wore different clothes, but i did that kind of stuff because i felt more comfortable with myself and my family
I "Like" all of the videos I come across of these two because the love they have for each other is so obvious and contagious. Even the videos that are somewhat shocking always make me laugh or smile. 🙂
I feel like another cute idea could also be "free auntie hugs" because like I have supportive aunts and aunt figures in my life that mean so much to me, and I feel like doing that at pride would also make a lot of people's days as well, but the big sister hugs is also an amazing and cute idea.
As a Young bisexual thats in school when I found out I told one one my friends that was also bisexual and I was so scared of people My friend who was Cristian I thought Christians did not like The LGBTQIA’s+ and when I told my mom and dad then my friends I felt so relieved to hear she thought it was ok! Not all of my family knows but I hope to tell them soon..
As a Christian, I have multiple lgbtqa+ friends and I have one Christian friend that has 2 lesbian and also Christian aunts and we support everyone :) except for weird and rude ppl
i love this so much as a demi girl bisexual i am so happy to have such an inclusive school and i am so grateful that i don’t have to hide who i am in school
@@WhenIgethomeImgoingtobed bye what…demi girls are basically half non binary have girl so we dont truly feel like a woman but we feel like a woman at the same time💀 calm down
My mom was an ally and amazing. Her queer and trans friends were regulars at our dinner table. During the 80’s and 90’s we cared for our loved ones with HIV and AIDS. We did education, we did hospice care. I didn’t come out to mom. It was not needed. I’m pan and considered myself bi in my youth. Mom just wanted me to be in healthy relationships. When I was in high school we were the safe house for all of my friends. I am grateful every day for the start I got in my life with my mom.
I had a coworker change their name and stared transitioning. I stopped them and ask which pronouns they wanted to go by. He said he never thought about it but he/him is fine. Only time I've ever brought it up. He is him and that's all that matters.
I long for a time when people don’t have to come out. My son has already heard me say ‘one day when you have a girlfriend or boyfriend/ wife or husband…’ so he knows his parents are a safe space if that time ever comes 🥰
My mom says this all the time… ik im lesbian and non binary; it’s just hard to accept and be able to tell her even if ik she’s accepting. Your doing great just don’t push It
That kindergarten story got me and made me tear up. I think this is one of the best episodes you have done so far. Don't get me wrong all your episodes are amazing but this one will help a lot of people
The question I have, why does it matter to ANYONE else, who a person loves/likes? The simple answer is it shouldn't matter at all. You love/like who you love/like. That's the bottom line. If you're a female and you love/like another female, that's your business. If you're a male and you love/like another male, that's your business. Like Kendra said, "AS LONG AS YOU'RE HAPPY, HEALTHY, CONSENSUAL, DOING YOUR BEST, IT'S NONE OF MY EFFING BUSINESS." That is so very true. It's no one else's business but your own. I found you through watching Hailee and Kendra's videos and I think it's awesome that you interviewed them and got to know a little bit about them and their story. Now their story is out even more, and people can see just how much in love they are with each other. Because watching their videos you can really see that they love each other, and they found each other. You care about what you care about. I think if you want to go to a Pride gathering, then go and don't listen what other people say. "Haters are going to hate" no atter what.
As a recently out ( to a few people) bisexual man, this video was so comforting! I have always loved Hailee and Kendra’s videos! Thanks for using your platform for this!
i’m a trans man and when i got my first “boy” haircut i got two death threats. when i switched schools i decided to not tell people im trans (i pass well enough for cis). it’s really disappointing tbh :(
@@UmmHi3174if you HAVE to make an excuse, without coming out, just say it’s more convenient to manage. Your previous hair was getting too long, or you just wanna start over. Before I came out, people knew I was a “tomboy”, so didn’t question it when it got cut short a lot before I fully socially transitioned. Remember your safety comes first
@@waffles3629I wonder how people even come up with death threats. Like, what is going through their minds? Why would you not want someone to support you being you?
My coming out as bi is a total non-story. I thought I was straight until college, when I realized that the word "straight" didn't fit right but couldn't find a word that did. I knew I wasn't gay, and queer sounded strange. So for a long time I just identified (to myself) as "not exactly straight" and let everyone else assume what they wanted. I settled on bi by the end of college but didn't want to make it a whole thing cuz I wasn't really dating at that point anyways. So I didn't feel closeted but also hadn't come out. That lasted about a year till one day my sister just straight up asked me if I was date my (also female) best friend. Which I was not, although I did have a crush on her. That lead to me saying "No...I'm not opposed to it, but no. I am bi though." And she was like "Just wondering!" I think I went straight to wherever my parents were and was like "Hey...did you guys also think we were dating?" and the answer was that they had wondered but didn't want to pry. So I told them the same thing. I am now proudly out, married to a man, and my dad flies the Bi flag for me every June. ❤
As a new poly pan sexual, this episode really hit home. The fear of coming out to some family is just hard. I love the comment about coming out is only as dramatic as you make it seem. Thank you for this podcast!
I’m 34. I came out as Bi at 33 after I was married to my husband. He is super supportive, loving, and non judgmental. But I can attest to the fact that having a super religious, southern family makes it very hard to come out at all. I’m so lucky to have him but it hurts that it took so long to know who I was. Thank you for the representation. It’s so needed
I was just recently by my partner’s side for when their Papa passed away. I went to the funeral, the internment, and several days of Shiva. I intend to do that for any other funerals in their life, as well as any happy moments and mediocre moments. I love them
43:41 to 43:50 Theres a saying that I have that came from a thought, which is crazily true. "The only person who cant fit into the normal standard is the person who created it." The more I started to belive that the more I've noticed i havent been as much worried about how ppl see me.
When I came out to my father as bisexual and polyamourus, my dad seemed to take it very well in front of me. Told me that no matter what, he would always love me. My father is very stoic and very private. He doesnt show his emotions very openly and will hold things in for a long time. A few days later I heard from my step mom that dad actually had a very difficult time with it when he talked with her about it. But my step mom reminded him that I am still the same child he raised. That I am a good woman, I have a good job and that it doesn't change the person I have become. That really settled him. I love my dad so very much
Three of my favorite Content Creators... All in one video. As an educator and Speech & Debate coach, and father of two trans children; thank all of you for your support of queer students in one fashion or another.
I’m trans non binary and Pansexual. I’ve been in college for a year now and I’ve had a couple of my professors pull me aside after I was accidentally misgendered by another student or I let them know I use my preferred name and what my pronouns are (they tend to ask to make sure) and they ask me how they should deal with those situations of misgendering and how to address them. It made me feel so incredibly happy and visible and valid and gladly gave them some advice. If I can tell it was a slip up and just an accident, I’ll just casually correct “hey I use he/they” and a lot of times they apologize and I say it’s all good, if I hadn’t said it before, how are you supposed to know? Or that slip ups happen and if you just make sure to try then you’re all good. If it is discriminatory, then that should of course be taken more seriously.
Even so, saying you are trans AND non-binary makes no sense. Trans implies you have a gender and non-binary implies you don’t. I don’t care what consenting adults choose to do in their own bedrooms. I don’t care what kind of clothes you want to wear or whatever. All the labels people are placing on themselves just seem redundant or unnecessary or sometimes ridiculous. You are under no obligation to act within “traditional” gender roles but you cannot expect everyone to agree with you on it. I’m not trying to be rude but the world doesn’t revolve around any one person and most of the time we default to what our eyes and ears tell us about a person. It’s not necessarily someone trying to be rude or hurtful. I just try not to refer to anyone by any pronouns if I can help it. That way, even though I may disagree with your lifestyle, I’m not being rude or disrespectful.
@@kirbyourenthusiasm just read my previous comment. I don’t really care what you think is right or wrong. Some enby people can be trans and some aren’t.
@@originalsbyizzy2kids always know what they are. It might take some time to genuinely figure the right word out, but that doesn’t change who someone is. You probably knew you were straight without knowing the word for it for years.
So I’m gonna share my coming out story when I came out to my mom, we were watching a show together and a part came on where a couple (boy and girl) were making out and just a few scenes before a different couple (girl and girl) were making out and I said ew at the first couple just because of how aggressive it seemed. Well my mom saw that and said “you’re 15 and you’re still saying ew?” *long pause* (bc I didn’t say anything) then she said “is it more appealing to kiss girls?” Out of no where and I just kinda nodded my head and started crying. I told her I was bi and she told me she didn’t care and loves and supports me❤️ I love my momma
I am a 17 year old middle eastern lesbian in foster care and I entered the system at 13. I grew up in a very cultural and religious household that was highly abusive and I was S/A’d by my dad at 4 years old. One of the things that’s been said to me constantly is that I’m gay because I was S/A’d and that makes me so mad. Seeing people who have gone through similar situations and/or trauma but have turned up happy on the flip side really makes my heart swell. I love your videos and supportiveness and that extends to the lovely ladies who joined you for this episode. Thanks for being a decent human being, we need more of those in this world ❤ love from michigan❤❤❤
As an asexual who is still in school I’m kinda scared to try to tell anyone in my school that I’m demigendered along with asexual because some kids will be super supportive whereas others rip pride flag stickers off of lockers… I appreciate that this channel talks about these things openly and supportively, I just subscribed, thank you! 😊 ❤
Honestly, my brother is the first person I came out to, too. Telling people can be terrifying. Even though I knew all my family would accept me, it’s still terrifying. I can’t even imagine how hard it would be to come out not knowing how your parents and family would react
@@AnnabethOwl Yeah, it is. Come out when you feel ready, or not at all, if you choose. It’s your life, and you can decide who you tell. It can be terrifying to come out, even to accepting people. Just know you’re not alone 😁
Sadly, whenever I tried to see if my parents would be okay with my coming out as Trans and Bi, my mom I found would be super supportive of me. My dad however, makes little snide comments about how ‘SHE was born a woman and SHE will always be a woman’. He knew that I was struggling with knowing what my gender was and I had never been happy with how feminine my name was. I changed it so many times to me more masculine and male sounding. He also is SUPER homophobic and says, ‘I can’t wait until you have a HUSBAND and I can have a grandchild. You would be such a great MOTHER’. I put emphasis on those word so you can see the toxicity of my father. His whole side of the family says stuff like that. I hope more people know that they are not alone, and I know now, that I will be an AMAZING father with my partner. Stay safe and stay hopeful❤
There's a reddit story I saw where a guy comes out to his best friend and the friend said (to the effect of) "Great, now that you got that off your chest, can you stop sucking at COD?" I want to be on that level with my friends and possible future kids, where it's like telling someone your favorite color is blue or dratini is my favorite pokemon. Like, that's cool man, it doesn't change anything between us.
If you want some LGBTQ+ friendly, children’s books, I recommend books by Rick Riordan. His most famous series is the Percy Jackson and the Olympians, but my favorite is the Magnus Chase series.
As a middle school teacher, I get kids who go by different gender names or dress transgendered. I have found that if I ask them their story they open up to me and find they can talk to me about anything. I like being their sounding board. I love this discussion, because I realize I'm doing the right thing, not pushing an agenda, but just being there.
Im gay and Non-binary and this video got me crying and laughing i love how each one of them were the best. I have always been scared ro come out im only put to my friends. I always think if i tell my mom that im gay and non-binary she wiill kick me out. My mom and dad got divorced so i told my dad im gay and non-binary. He supports but idk about my mom.
not trying to be rude but how are you gay and non binary? does that mean you are only attracted to other non binary people? sorry if this is dumb question
I feel like if my sibling came out to me I would have just said "Ight, so you going to send me pics of it or what? Like cheers bro, don't really care." I recall my younger brother took forever to have a girlfriend and I would half joking tell him "Bro I'll love you regardless, just be honest with me and yourself." Good laughs and he's married to a wonderful woman now.
I am a Christian who lives in TX and i am a lesbian and it is really hard to figure out who was supportive and who was going to think that i was weird, so this really relates to so many situations that i have been in.
I think i changed my eighth grade social studies teachers mind about homosexuality because i would hang out with him and i went from seeing him glare at two girls holding hands in the hallways to telling them to be back before the bell rings to start class. I dont know how i changed his thoughts or if it was even me, but his mind changed, and im glad they did
All I’m gonna say is I grew up in a very small town in NC named Sylva. Horrible place to grow up and my teenage years were probs the worst of my life bc my hometown was extremely homophobic and racist and it was just an awful place to grow up for a young gay kid. However I am 100% glad I’m out of that part of my life and anyone who is in high school and is going thru it just know that high school might feel like forever but it’s literally only 3-4 years of ur life and you’ll probs never see anyone from high school again. You’ll get thru it.
I had similar experiances as the girl on the left. I came out as bi romantic first, then went back in the closet and made myself believe I was straight because of the reactions of my peers and parents. then when I was 15 i realized that i was in fact queer still. didn't have a label, then I was bi, then i was struggleing with gender for a few weeks because i thought i couldn't be masculine if i identified as female and i barley understood the trans community back then i wasn't even allowed to research about it. then i was omni\greysexual, then omni\ bi ace, then omni bi celibate, now i am omni bi greysexual. i hated myself for so long and it just now started getting better. im 18 and have been out and stayed out for 3 years. I came out around march 2021. My parents were supportive even though they believe it is a sin. I have loads of religous trauma and i am trying to learn that i can be gay and a Christ follower at the same time. when they let my aunt get me a bi pride flag nobody saw, but i cried. I promise to all parents, any way that you show your children that they're valid and that you support them even if you dont understand, they will love.
I have had someone tell me, I'm not part of the community because I'm asexual, but also physically attracted to both men and women, just not sexually attracted to both men and women. They started a whole fight about it and got people to lash out at me. 🙃
I would also do the parental/supportive hugs at like a pride event and also worry about the same. Not a creator or anything, but maybe just go and do it without filming? That being said, you and your content are rad! My kids are still little-ish at 12 and 8, but i can only hope they have teachers like you! Keep up the awesome
12:47 i think this story is so sweet ngl I've always had a nuclear family (me, mom, dad and brother) and we've almost always been chill with each other, but we live far away from the rest of my family (grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins), which sometimes made me sad a lot of my close friends belong to the same family and sometimes i like to think that they took us in, i can consider some of them as i would a cousin or an auntie and i ask a lot to my friends if they like having their relatives living close my best friend lives with her grandparents and aunts and she doesn't enjoy it as much as i think i would, but we're best friends nonetheless
I was in my mid 20s before i ever met a gay person. When my youngest child came out as lesbian, i didnt care. As long as she loved and was loved. Thats all i cared about.
My mom told me I was faking it and it's not real but I'm still gender fluid and pan I wish I had the support I needed from my mom when I was in high school lucky I had 2 teachers that helped me
The way I came out was my mum new at the time and I was at my dads house. We were painting door stops and I painted the lesbian flag on mine😂. And my step mum said nothing but my dad just smiled....he just smiled 😂.
I'm so glad that a short for this video came up in my For Yous today. Every month is Pride Month, Ladies; June just has better sales. And for the bigots and haters: don't forget that when you add raindrops to white light, you find a rainbow. As with five o'clock: it's always raining somewhere. Just you remember that, now. Doing my best to be an ally. 🏳⚧🐻🏳🌈
I just want to give a little trigger warning before I share this story ⚠️ trigger warning ⚠️ At my middle school (this was a few years ago), this girl was like such a huge bully. Eventually, she started fighting people and threatening them. I am a cis straight man, but a lot of my friends were part of the lgbtq community. This girl. 👏🏻 This girl 👏🏻 started threatening EVERY SINGLE PERSON in our school who was lgbtq, and even people who associated with lgbtq people. This girl threatened to kill MY DOG because my friend (now my girlfriend and she's bisexual, but we werent dating and she wasnt out yet) had gay parents. My dog was threatened because his owner (me) associated with someone who has gay parents. What has this world come to. This girl still goes to my high school. She is so terrible and honestly I try to relate to these lgbtq struggles as much as I can, but it's really difficult. All I can do is try to stand up to people and be as supporting as I possibly can be
It has always been this way. I wonder why people don't want to support it. Have they actually managed to answer that question? I'm glad to read that you're trying to learn about the culture, but I highly doubt you will truly feel what they feel.
Fabulous video! So glad to H&K on here, and I LOVE the look they give each other at 43:24 It's like they have SUCH good communication that they're checking with each other -- "you want to say this?" AWESOME VID!!
As a Christian I do believe that it is a sin but I do have a gay “cousin” I will love him and and everyone that is lgbtq I just don’t believe in it but god gave us free will ❤❤
For a long time, I (16F) am pansexual and gender fluid, and I've never really felt the need to hide it. My community is very safe and accepting. Although, I've felt uncomfortable using or going by my first name because I always felt detached from it, and I knew I wanted to change it, but I didn't know what to change it to. And I hesitated for a long time telling my mom (not because I was scared she wouldn't be supportive) because I'm named Miriam, after my great-aunt Mimi (my mom's favotite aunt who died a long time ago) and I was scared I would be dishonoring her memory. I eventually switched to my middle name, Sam (after my uncle Sam, who also died a long time ago) and have been identifying as Sam for almost 3 years now. My teachers, friends, neighbors, both close and extended family, and even my synagogue, have all respected my decision, and I've had nothing but support from everyone, no questions asked. But whenever I contact my grandma, she still always calls me Miriam. I knew she didn't mean to be disrespectful, but after not hearing that name for almost 3 years, I was caught off guard. My mom and I politely reminded her that I go by Sam now, and she asked if it was okay if she kept calling me Miriam because it honored her sister (Aunt Mimi) and she missed her so much. I said it was okay and explained to her that I was having a hard time with my name, change, and identity because of that exact reason. I love my grandma, and I told her that she could keep calling me Miriam, but she would have to try to call me Sam.
It's been scientifically proven time and time again that humans only need one healthy care giver to grow up happy and healthy! The gender of that caregiver isn't a factor ❤❤❤
I remember Kendra when I first moved to St. Louis and first started living my openly gay life. We met one night at a bar with my roomate and she has the greatest personality and energy. I remember when she met Hailee and they were inseparable. I did lose touch with them but I do wish them the best and I hope one day when my dream and passion come true I can see them again.
100% on the phone thing. Even with my friends, we trust each other to use it without having to look over them. If i see someone texting I don't even try to read their messages. One thing that I would try to do is guess people's passwords and nobody I've been friends with has ever been worried I was gonna snoop in things I shouldn't. Even had people say things like "if you knew me you'd guess the password", which I would get first try then.
The part where she said find community- it’s so *so* completely true. It was so important to me when I had a friend group and I was able to say, hey, I think I’m non-binary- and the response was just “that’s cool.” It was so chill, so lackluster, nothing I was thinking it would be. And then that same friend that said that came out to me as Pansexual, and we know we can freely talk to each other and share our opinions and know we aren’t alone.
ahhhhh!!! Hallie and Kendra are two ofy favorite people on this platform; eta so I grew up in the south, south Carolina, in the 80s and 90s and it wasn't a good place if you weren't the stereotypical good ole boy and woman that just wanted to get married and have kids. and there weren't a lot of really any role models for being LGBTQ back then I don't think I met my first person in the group til college and it was much later before I was friends with anyone in the culture (I was just obvious to that point and again.. the south) and it was really difficult for me to figure out and accept whi i was, a queer transwoman. I knew at 6 I was supposed to be a girl and it took me 30 years to feel safe enough to come out. my family wasn't supportive. not because they were worried, although that may have been a part, but because it didn't fit the picture they wanted. they still don't support it's been a hard journey at times but... I wouldn't change a thing about myself. you two give me hope that the future will be better and stronger. that maybe one day people won't have to endure the hate and backlash that we have just to exist.
I’m a 14 year old lesbian. Or at least I think so. I’ve never liked a guy and I haven’t had a guy friend for a while cause everyone bullies me for being a “pick me” when I have a guy friend. But if I see a cute girl walk by me in the hallway my knees get kinda shaky and there’s this one girl in my class that’s openly bisexual and (I’m not into her we’re like sisters) she’s always introducing me to her friends or offering to be my wingman at school dances but I don’t know if I want to date anyone at my school since most people here are very homophobic. Not so much towards girls as boys and I’m a girl so I guess that’s good for me but still. Idk what to do. I’ve never had a girlfriend. 😢
My advice (given what I know from this comment) is, you are young, so give yourself time. Not having a girlfriend at this age doesn’t mean you aren’t a lesbian. You don’t need to know your sexuality right now. If you do know, that’s great, and if you don’t, that’s fine too. The important thing is to not freak out about it. So if finding a label for yourself is important to you, then go ahead and find one. But remember, a sexuality is not an aesthetic, you are more than the label and the label can change. Labels are just there to give people a sense of community and to make them feel less alone. They aren’t boxes you need to fit into. And if the search for a label makes you feel worse cause you feel like you don’t fit in anywhere, remember the labels aren’t little identification sticker, they are there too make you feel less alone. If they have the opposite effect, you don’t need to use them. There are also a lot of broader terms like “queer” or “sapphic”. The important part is to not freak out about it and not tie it to your sense of worth. You are more than the label, you don’t need to know and your don’t need to label yourself. The best thing you can do is learn to be comfortable with yourself and who you are. There is also no such thing as “queerbating” or “not actually being queer”, if you like girls in a not platonic way, you can say you are queer. There is no “not truly being gay”. And not wanting to date someone when you are so young and in a pretty hostile environment is totally understandable. You don’t need to date anyone if you don’t want to. It’s not weird. It doesn’t make you strange. It’s your decision, your life, your business. No one else’s. Also remember, your safety is your number one priority. It’s sad you can’t come out without risking your safety. But that’s the world we live in. So be safe. Btw I’m also 14 so take my advice with a grain of salt. If you wanna know my “story” I would be glad to share it, if that could help you in some way.
Ayo, I’m 14 too! Just because you’re not dating yet doesn’t mean you’re not a lesbian. It’s totally fine to not come out or date or whatever. The most important thing is to be true to yourself and stay safe. You might feel alone or not supported, but we all accept you and we support you. Best of luck❤
My mom has had lots of men be horrible to her, and for a long time it’s just been me and her. So around 2022 my mom started joking “you should became a lesbian. Then you wouldn’t have to put up with men’s shit”. A few months later I realized I was bisexual, and when I came out to her her only reaction was “oh okay. Where do you wanna go for lunch?” 😂. I love her so much. I later asked her why she didn’t have a big reaction, and she said it’s because I phrased it as “I think I’m bisexual” so she was trying not to be overly happy about it and make me feel like I needed to stay with that label. Which yeah, I told her right when I started really being confused about my sexuality so that makes total sense. I love my mom so much, and I will always appreciate how insanely supportive she is. 💕
Im gay and 5th grade (before I came out) was a nightmare. For some stupid reason, I told my friends about my orientation before my super accepting family. One day, birthday party of some kid with some conservative ass parents. The parents spoke poorly about the community though they didn’t know about me, they were just dumb. That friend never looked at me the same
This goes out to all you ladies - Rebecca, Hailee, and Kendra (and Kris from Kallmekris too). You are all so very talented, creative, joyful, and wonderful. I'm always happier for having seen what you've put up. Rebecca, your heard in classroom skits are so well acted and produced - always love to see 'em. Hailee, I've always said my humor is a cross between Benny Hill and Denis Leary - the double entendres and pickup lines you come out with are so good... and Kendra, you are so expressive, and I love the way you occasionally throw in subtle hints of 'not so innocent' - comedy genius the both of you the way you play off each other! and Kris - such a good heart, I miss all the skits and characters. Thank you for sharing this bit into your lives! Love to you all and wishing you all the best!
Just found out I’m pregnant and it’s honestly shifted me more to the left. I cannot imagine not loving my baby just because they’re gay or trans or nonbinary, or any other part of this group. There’s nothing wrong or defective about being different.
The funniest thing is that as a lesbian, I also say that Ryan Reynolds is the exception. I'm convinced that Ryan Reynolds has the ability to be attractive to literally anyone (not everyone, but anyone) regardless of sexual orientation.
I love my parents so much but 3 years ago-When my mom and bonus dad were still dating- my brother (5)asked me a question about if my mom has a boyfriend or a girlfriend and I started to say she could have either but she has a boyfriend, and my Bonus dad cut me off and said,” Boys only have girlfriends, and girls have boyfriends.” And I just stayed silent. I’ve known I like girls and boys for at least 1 year, but I’m afraid to tell anyone cause my dad hasn’t really let me know his opinions on these things, and my mom supports it, but I feel like she would immediately tell my grandma or bonus dad. One of my bffs is pan, and her dad is extremely homosexual, homophobic, racist, etc, and this just makes me even more scared. I also have an uncle who is gay and has a boyfriend with 12 huskies and he’s very happy but my grandfather is also homophobic, and all of this combined just adds to my fear. I’m just asking for some advice on what to do in general. Sorry for the rant but I have no one to really talk to until I get up the courage to talk to my friends.
As an LGBTQ+ teen with a really unsupportive family…I’m so lucky to have some incredible friends who support me, but the thing about kids just being lucky enough to have loving parents…I literally cried
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The ending… the kid asked if Mrs. Rogers wanted to know why they went by / chose Sarah. Mrs Rogers said that she will only ask if they want to share, cause it’s none of her business just like how her business is none of Sarah’s business. Sarah looked shocked, smiled, and walked out. We do not know why the kid chose the name Sarah or wanted to go by Sarah.
thank you i didnt wanna watch this damn podcast. w tho i js dont jave the attention span😊
@@fwurbzSame lol I always have to do something else while I watch longer videos
Appreciate you
@@fwurbz its a podcast you couldve listened to it as well
tyyy also here is the time stamp for anyone 20:19
That story of the little girl in kindergarten who had two moms made me absolutely sob. Whew that hit hard. Thank you for this episode.
As a lesbian, I am terrified of having kids in the future in the public school systems due to bullying for kids with same sex parents. Like I want kids so bad but then I think “but do I want to put a kid through that?” And it’s honestly really sad that it’s something I have to worry about for a child that does not yet exist.
@@strawberrypoptart1886 as a Christian, I am terrified of sending my kids to public school and having them indoctrinated by woke ideologies. Which is why I will be homeschooling them.
@@abbyxlewisgirl bye bffr public school arent even that accepting of lgbtq kids. if u teach ur child like that theyre going to be everything that goes against their religion. love thy neighbor remember?
@@k3nzEETV I can love and respect you, while disagreeing with your lifestyle, and believing that this lifestyle is unholy. Our calling as Christians is to be holy and blameless in the sight of God. We are meant to seek holiness and not get as close to sin as we can. Additionally, we must surround ourselves with believers and not with those who would lead us into temptation.
@@abbyxlewis everytime i argue with a christian its the same exact thing “i can love and respect u while bahbahbah….” i never said yall couldn’t. being in lgbtq isnt even a sin stop being afraid to go near us. Being disrespectful is a sin and from what I read were very close from being disrespectful
Man there are so many LGBTQ influencers now. I am a black bisexual woman it is hard. So hard to come out especially in the south. I am so blessed that my partner loves me the way he does. And that my family supports me the way that they do. I can relate to the story about having a holder cousin coming out before me. She came out as Lesbian a long time ago but it was terrifying to me because of not my mom but how my grandmother would say things like I’m so glad my children aren’t like that. Talking about not just my mom and her brother but my brother and I too. Now she no longer thinks this way but hearing that as a teen when I finally realized I was bi hurt me. Still does to be honest. But seeing so many lgbtq plus content creators really makes me soul happy. That kids no longer have to be afraid like I was.
I’m so glad you found someone who absolutely loves you 😊 I wish you all of the luck and prosperity in your life
Yesss I live in the Deep South and the people here are so rude and un- accepting of others. When I got a bf my mom said “oh you’re finally out of the lesbian phase” like what 😭
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Please pardon my lack of knowledge. I noticed that you said "a holder cousin". Does this have a meaning or is it a typo?
Once again, apologies for my lack of prior information.
@@CybernerdShua I think she meant an older cousin but idk
I knew my daughter wasn't straight before she ever came out. We live in a small TX town. First, she said Bi. Then Lesbian. Now, idk and idgaf HOW she identifies. She will ALWAYS be my baby. Pronouns and sexuality don't change that for me. She has had friends disowned, has a friend who's family doesn't accept them for being Trans. Guess what, I proudly call him MY SON! You don't have a parent that supports and loves you, I'LL BE YOUR MOMMA! This podcast episode is AMAZING!
I live in a small Texas town too!
My town doesn’t welcome people who are in the lgbt community very often so it is very sad to see.
Personally, I (Male) always use an “I feel” statement because I don’t like labeling/deciding immediately (example: I feel like I’m gay, I feel like I am Bisexual) because who knows. It could be a phase, or just something that you are still deciding. Like your daughter’s situation, bi, then lesbian. For me it was bi, then gay, then straight, then gay, then aromantic and bisexual (current day)
I don’t like opening up to things like this, but I told my family and even though they’re Christian they didn’t get (too) bent out of shape.
My mom said she will love me no matter what or who I am because I am always her baby. (I’m an older-ish teenager)
Life is weird, I don’t like how lgbt and everything else is being pushed so far and forced onto others (and people being so aggressive for no reason about it) and I don’t agree with a lot of stuff going on with this stupid world right now but myself is myself and I wouldn’t force it onto others.
TLDR: I agree.
You are the people we need out in the world. I appreciate that you are so supportive to your daughter and her friends!
Can you be my mom- my mom keeps calling me Steve because she wants to piss me off. I haven't come out to her, she calls me a 'shim' and it's really tiring. I haven't come out to her, and I don't plan to.
parents like you give me hope. im 16 and live in the deep south, and it makes me so incredibly sad to think that most of my family will not want to talk to me ever again after i come out. its a hard thing to grapple with, especially as a teenager. thank you so much for supporting your daughter and her friends. i dont think words can express how much it really means!
@@karlzburgthe54th11 I got you, kiddo. Welcome to our family.
"Children are made out of love, and I love you guys so much" always makes me cry. Everyone deserves love like this in their lives
My sister has a lesbian best friend and she has homophobic parents. She hasn’t come out yet. My dad, being the nice person he is, said “If she gets disowned, tell her she has a place to go.” IN HIS WORDS! THATS HIS WORDS! and he was referring to our house. It was a heartwarming moment.
edit: sorry guys i didn’t mean to offend anybody. i’ll just shut up.
@sadoak_ u good?
Is that a direct quote though?
@@dragsbae well it was a long time ago but yes
I'll take "shit that never happened for 500"
@@samuraiskill7062 it did happen
“Hey, you know, I’m blonde, I have blue eyes, and I like women.”
You’ve exactly described me as a person.
Me too! Glad we can relate
Same girl, same
Me
hey I’m has dark hair and really brown eyes and I really really like women
Same
11:30 is where the sweet kindergarten story starts😭❤️
THANK YOU
My heart wasn't prepared for that today 😭❤🏳🌈
Just me over here BAWLING at the story of the two girls 😭 children are so innocent omg.
I have a friend who came out to his big sister and her response was "So can I finally introduce you to my friend now?" They've been married for a few years now
That’s so sweet!🥹
He got married to his sister? Is that even legal?
@@reubenmanzo2054 are you trying to be funny?
@@reubenmanzo2054 are you trying to be funny?
@@reubenmanzo2054 i dont think thats what they meant...? though to be honest, the wording is hella confusing
"As long as you're ...
- Happy
- Healthy
- Consensual
- Doing your best
- Not hurting anybody else
... it's none of my effing business!"
This is SO right!
You missed not bringing it into my kids' classroom.
Also, kids are not capable of consent so that's violates #3.
To add to that opening of them being role models for the LGBTQ community, my girlfriend (hetero/cis) looks up to y’all too, as just an example for how partners should treat each other. Y’all appear to have such a beautiful, healthy relationship that it should really be an example to anyone, straight couples included
As an adult Ace; I wish there were people like this when I was growing up.
As a younger ace, I can say today’s representation is really helping. 💜
@larry01920, do you have any advice on how to come out to my family? I’m aroace, and I was just wondering if you have any ideas on how I could come out?
For those who saw the short about the Email from a mom and Sarah. 19:45 is when that story starts. ❤
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your the best thanks!
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As a gay individual, your support really makes my heart leap Rebecca! I can’t wait to see more episodes! 🫶
When i came out as bisexual to my family i did change. It wasn't huge changes, but mostly smaller ones like i was more outgoing, i let my hair grow out, wore different clothes, but i did that kind of stuff because i felt more comfortable with myself and my family
I "Like" all of the videos I come across of these two because the love they have for each other is so obvious and contagious. Even the videos that are somewhat shocking always make me laugh or smile. 🙂
I feel like another cute idea could also be "free auntie hugs" because like I have supportive aunts and aunt figures in my life that mean so much to me, and I feel like doing that at pride would also make a lot of people's days as well, but the big sister hugs is also an amazing and cute idea.
As a Young bisexual thats in school when I found out I told one one my friends that was also bisexual and I was so scared of people My friend who was Cristian I thought Christians did not like The LGBTQIA’s+ and when I told my mom and dad then my friends I felt so relieved to hear she thought it was ok! Not all of my family knows but I hope to tell them soon..
As a Christian, I have multiple lgbtqa+ friends and I have one Christian friend that has 2 lesbian and also Christian aunts and we support everyone :) except for weird and rude ppl
True! I hope More people become aware about the Truth of LGBTQIA+ community!
When I came out as a lesbian to my brother he said: “that’s great! I am a lesbian too! Now we have more in common”
i love this so much as a demi girl bisexual i am so happy to have such an inclusive school and i am so grateful that i don’t have to hide who i am in school
I’m happy for you
@Noah-bu8nwfr
@Noah-bu8nw a demi girl is a girl who goes by she/they and she/them
real girls shouldn’t have to put demi in front of girl…the world is shameful now
@@WhenIgethomeImgoingtobed bye what…demi girls are basically half non binary have girl so we dont truly feel like a woman but we feel like a woman at the same time💀 calm down
My mom was an ally and amazing.
Her queer and trans friends were regulars at our dinner table.
During the 80’s and 90’s we cared for our loved ones with HIV and AIDS.
We did education, we did hospice care. I didn’t come out to mom. It was not needed. I’m pan and considered myself bi in my youth. Mom just wanted me to be in healthy relationships.
When I was in high school we were the safe house for all of my friends.
I am grateful every day for the start I got in my life with my mom.
I had a coworker change their name and stared transitioning. I stopped them and ask which pronouns they wanted to go by. He said he never thought about it but he/him is fine. Only time I've ever brought it up. He is him and that's all that matters.
I long for a time when people don’t have to come out.
My son has already heard me say ‘one day when you have a girlfriend or boyfriend/ wife or husband…’ so he knows his parents are a safe space if that time ever comes 🥰
My mom says this all the time… ik im lesbian and non binary; it’s just hard to accept and be able to tell her even if ik she’s accepting. Your doing great just don’t push It
I LOVE HAILEY AND KENDRA ♥️♥️ I’m so glad you guys know each other
Yes! Same here
I’m just glad that they used to post nudes online on Tumblr so now we can see Kendra naked
I’ve never meet them before now but as a teen figuring out I’m lesbian… I will definitely check out all of their videos now😅
That kindergarten story got me and made me tear up. I think this is one of the best episodes you have done so far. Don't get me wrong all your episodes are amazing but this one will help a lot of people
The question I have, why does it matter to ANYONE else, who a person loves/likes? The simple answer is it shouldn't matter at all. You love/like who you love/like. That's the bottom line. If you're a female and you love/like another female, that's your business. If you're a male and you love/like another male, that's your business. Like Kendra said, "AS LONG AS YOU'RE HAPPY, HEALTHY, CONSENSUAL, DOING YOUR BEST, IT'S NONE OF MY EFFING BUSINESS." That is so very true. It's no one else's business but your own.
I found you through watching Hailee and Kendra's videos and I think it's awesome that you interviewed them and got to know a little bit about them and their story. Now their story is out even more, and people can see just how much in love they are with each other. Because watching their videos you can really see that they love each other, and they found each other.
You care about what you care about. I think if you want to go to a Pride gathering, then go and don't listen what other people say. "Haters are going to hate" no atter what.
As a recently out ( to a few people) bisexual man, this video was so comforting! I have always loved Hailee and Kendra’s videos! Thanks for using your platform for this!
For “woman all lesbians love” I submit Gal Gadot for consideration. My wife and I both swoon every time she is brought up or appears on screen. 😍🤣
THATS WHO I WAS THINKING OF!! she's iconic 🤩😍
Im not a lesbian and I loveee Gal Gadot she's gorgeous
Yes! I’m bi and she makes me swoon. ❤️
i’m a trans man and when i got my first “boy” haircut i got two death threats. when i switched schools i decided to not tell people im trans (i pass well enough for cis). it’s really disappointing tbh :(
😅i still haven't came out I'm a trans man and I'm scared I want to get my hair cut I'm kinda worried
@@UmmHi3174if you HAVE to make an excuse, without coming out, just say it’s more convenient to manage. Your previous hair was getting too long, or you just wanna start over.
Before I came out, people knew I was a “tomboy”, so didn’t question it when it got cut short a lot before I fully socially transitioned.
Remember your safety comes first
So many snowflakes here wtf
@@stonedscenekid giving someone death threats over a haircut is very snowflake
@@waffles3629I wonder how people even come up with death threats. Like, what is going through their minds? Why would you not want someone to support you being you?
My coming out as bi is a total non-story. I thought I was straight until college, when I realized that the word "straight" didn't fit right but couldn't find a word that did. I knew I wasn't gay, and queer sounded strange. So for a long time I just identified (to myself) as "not exactly straight" and let everyone else assume what they wanted. I settled on bi by the end of college but didn't want to make it a whole thing cuz I wasn't really dating at that point anyways. So I didn't feel closeted but also hadn't come out. That lasted about a year till one day my sister just straight up asked me if I was date my (also female) best friend. Which I was not, although I did have a crush on her. That lead to me saying "No...I'm not opposed to it, but no. I am bi though." And she was like "Just wondering!" I think I went straight to wherever my parents were and was like "Hey...did you guys also think we were dating?" and the answer was that they had wondered but didn't want to pry. So I told them the same thing. I am now proudly out, married to a man, and my dad flies the Bi flag for me every June. ❤
the way i choked violently when i heard “oh honey, i’m sorry, i just assume everybody in middle school is bi” (10:05)
It’s not a bad assumption honestly.
As a new poly pan sexual, this episode really hit home. The fear of coming out to some family is just hard. I love the comment about coming out is only as dramatic as you make it seem. Thank you for this podcast!
I’m 34. I came out as Bi at 33 after I was married to my husband. He is super supportive, loving, and non judgmental. But I can attest to the fact that having a super religious, southern family makes it very hard to come out at all. I’m so lucky to have him but it hurts that it took so long to know who I was. Thank you for the representation. It’s so needed
I was just recently by my partner’s side for when their Papa passed away. I went to the funeral, the internment, and several days of Shiva. I intend to do that for any other funerals in their life, as well as any happy moments and mediocre moments. I love them
The story of the little girl with two moms immediately made me ball my eyes out 😭😭
43:41 to 43:50 Theres a saying that I have that came from a thought, which is crazily true.
"The only person who cant fit into the normal standard is the person who created it."
The more I started to belive that the more I've noticed i havent been as much worried about how ppl see me.
When I came out to my father as bisexual and polyamourus, my dad seemed to take it very well in front of me. Told me that no matter what, he would always love me. My father is very stoic and very private. He doesnt show his emotions very openly and will hold things in for a long time. A few days later I heard from my step mom that dad actually had a very difficult time with it when he talked with her about it. But my step mom reminded him that I am still the same child he raised. That I am a good woman, I have a good job and that it doesn't change the person I have become. That really settled him. I love my dad so very much
Three of my favorite Content Creators... All in one video. As an educator and Speech & Debate coach, and father of two trans children; thank all of you for your support of queer students in one fashion or another.
I’m trans non binary and Pansexual. I’ve been in college for a year now and I’ve had a couple of my professors pull me aside after I was accidentally misgendered by another student or I let them know I use my preferred name and what my pronouns are (they tend to ask to make sure) and they ask me how they should deal with those situations of misgendering and how to address them. It made me feel so incredibly happy and visible and valid and gladly gave them some advice. If I can tell it was a slip up and just an accident, I’ll just casually correct “hey I use he/they” and a lot of times they apologize and I say it’s all good, if I hadn’t said it before, how are you supposed to know? Or that slip ups happen and if you just make sure to try then you’re all good. If it is discriminatory, then that should of course be taken more seriously.
How can you be trans and non - binary at the same time????????????
@@tuxeventuxeven1930 because I feel more masculine and want to transition but I don’t see myself as strictly male. Which is why I go by he/they.
@@tuxeventuxeven1930non-binary people are under the trans umbrella
Even so, saying you are trans AND non-binary makes no sense. Trans implies you have a gender and non-binary implies you don’t.
I don’t care what consenting adults choose to do in their own bedrooms. I don’t care what kind of clothes you want to wear or whatever. All the labels people are placing on themselves just seem redundant or unnecessary or sometimes ridiculous. You are under no obligation to act within “traditional” gender roles but you cannot expect everyone to agree with you on it. I’m not trying to be rude but the world doesn’t revolve around any one person and most of the time we default to what our eyes and ears tell us about a person. It’s not necessarily someone trying to be rude or hurtful.
I just try not to refer to anyone by any pronouns if I can help it. That way, even though I may disagree with your lifestyle, I’m not being rude or disrespectful.
@@kirbyourenthusiasm just read my previous comment. I don’t really care what you think is right or wrong. Some enby people can be trans and some aren’t.
As a young trans male {f to m} with a kinda non-supportive family, this is amazing to hear that one of my favorite youtubers support this stuff
Same
same bro
@@rorito_dorito hello fellow trans :))
broo how young are you? as a kid I played toys and make mud soup nowadays kids are trans?!
@@originalsbyizzy2kids always know what they are. It might take some time to genuinely figure the right word out, but that doesn’t change who someone is.
You probably knew you were straight without knowing the word for it for years.
So I’m gonna share my coming out story when I came out to my mom, we were watching a show together and a part came on where a couple (boy and girl) were making out and just a few scenes before a different couple (girl and girl) were making out and I said ew at the first couple just because of how aggressive it seemed. Well my mom saw that and said “you’re 15 and you’re still saying ew?” *long pause* (bc I didn’t say anything) then she said “is it more appealing to kiss girls?” Out of no where and I just kinda nodded my head and started crying. I told her I was bi and she told me she didn’t care and loves and supports me❤️ I love my momma
I am a 17 year old middle eastern lesbian in foster care and I entered the system at 13. I grew up in a very cultural and religious household that was highly abusive and I was S/A’d by my dad at 4 years old. One of the things that’s been said to me constantly is that I’m gay because I was S/A’d and that makes me so mad. Seeing people who have gone through similar situations and/or trauma but have turned up happy on the flip side really makes my heart swell. I love your videos and supportiveness and that extends to the lovely ladies who joined you for this episode. Thanks for being a decent human being, we need more of those in this world ❤ love from michigan❤❤❤
L, couldn’t be me.
Huh????
As a teen queer person, seeing the representation on media I watch, TV, movies, youtube, etc, has bwen super helpful.
As an asexual who is still in school I’m kinda scared to try to tell anyone in my school that I’m demigendered along with asexual because some kids will be super supportive whereas others rip pride flag stickers off of lockers… I appreciate that this channel talks about these things openly and supportively, I just subscribed, thank you! 😊 ❤
Honestly, my brother is the first person I came out to, too. Telling people can be terrifying. Even though I knew all my family would accept me, it’s still terrifying. I can’t even imagine how hard it would be to come out not knowing how your parents and family would react
The only people I’ve come out to so far are my uncle girlfriend and my uncle. Ik my parents would be accepting but it’s still hard to tell them…
@@AnnabethOwl Yeah, it is. Come out when you feel ready, or not at all, if you choose. It’s your life, and you can decide who you tell. It can be terrifying to come out, even to accepting people. Just know you’re not alone 😁
Sadly, whenever I tried to see if my parents would be okay with my coming out as Trans and Bi, my mom I found would be super supportive of me. My dad however, makes little snide comments about how ‘SHE was born a woman and SHE will always be a woman’. He knew that I was struggling with knowing what my gender was and I had never been happy with how feminine my name was. I changed it so many times to me more masculine and male sounding. He also is SUPER homophobic and says, ‘I can’t wait until you have a HUSBAND and I can have a grandchild. You would be such a great MOTHER’. I put emphasis on those word so you can see the toxicity of my father. His whole side of the family says stuff like that. I hope more people know that they are not alone, and I know now, that I will be an AMAZING father with my partner. Stay safe and stay hopeful❤
As a CIS white male, I love all three of you as the beautiful people that you all are. I wish for nothing but the best for all of you.
There's a reddit story I saw where a guy comes out to his best friend and the friend said (to the effect of) "Great, now that you got that off your chest, can you stop sucking at COD?" I want to be on that level with my friends and possible future kids, where it's like telling someone your favorite color is blue or dratini is my favorite pokemon. Like, that's cool man, it doesn't change anything between us.
If you want some LGBTQ+ friendly, children’s books, I recommend books by Rick Riordan. His most famous series is the Percy Jackson and the Olympians, but my favorite is the Magnus Chase series.
As a middle school teacher, I get kids who go by different gender names or dress transgendered. I have found that if I ask them their story they open up to me and find they can talk to me about anything. I like being their sounding board. I love this discussion, because I realize I'm doing the right thing, not pushing an agenda, but just being there.
Please please please revise your vocabulary about queer people. "Transgendered" is a harmful way of speaking that hurts queer people every day.
Transgendered is not an appropriate word pookie ❤
Im gay and Non-binary and this video got me crying and laughing i love how each one of them were the best. I have always been scared ro come out im only put to my friends. I always think if i tell my mom that im gay and non-binary she wiill kick me out. My mom and dad got divorced so i told my dad im gay and non-binary. He supports but idk about my mom.
not trying to be rude but how are you gay and non binary? does that mean you are only attracted to other non binary people? sorry if this is dumb question
@@barzun8 Not a dumb question. Nonbinary doesnt exist
I feel like if my sibling came out to me I would have just said "Ight, so you going to send me pics of it or what? Like cheers bro, don't really care."
I recall my younger brother took forever to have a girlfriend and I would half joking tell him "Bro I'll love you regardless, just be honest with me and yourself."
Good laughs and he's married to a wonderful woman now.
We taught our kids to ask about who their friends live with as who are their "grown-ups" since families look different but what matters is love.
There's a little gay in all of us
~My theater director
I am a Christian who lives in TX and i am a lesbian and it is really hard to figure out who was supportive and who was going to think that i was weird, so this really relates to so many situations that i have been in.
@Imanacrlesbian1234 yeah it's a little strange when people figure it out and go, you don't like me right, because I'm straight
I think i changed my eighth grade social studies teachers mind about homosexuality because i would hang out with him and i went from seeing him glare at two girls holding hands in the hallways to telling them to be back before the bell rings to start class. I dont know how i changed his thoughts or if it was even me, but his mind changed, and im glad they did
My dad always told me when I find a man or women to bring home from a young age. It was always open in our family to love who you want
My parents think it’s not okay to be Gay but I think it's completely normal becaus you can‘t decide who you love and it’s awesome❤
You go! I have friends who like the same gender as them, and I fully support it
All I’m gonna say is I grew up in a very small town in NC named Sylva. Horrible place to grow up and my teenage years were probs the worst of my life bc my hometown was extremely homophobic and racist and it was just an awful place to grow up for a young gay kid. However I am 100% glad I’m out of that part of my life and anyone who is in high school and is going thru it just know that high school might feel like forever but it’s literally only 3-4 years of ur life and you’ll probs never see anyone from high school again. You’ll get thru it.
If any of u came from the short about her getting an email from a mom about how her kids name: 19:47 is the time she talks abt that
And here is another example of Mrs. Rogers being absolutely iconic for 45 minutes
Yeah I love her
I had similar experiances as the girl on the left. I came out as bi romantic first, then went back in the closet and made myself believe I was straight because of the reactions of my peers and parents. then when I was 15 i realized that i was in fact queer still. didn't have a label, then I was bi, then i was struggleing with gender for a few weeks because i thought i couldn't be masculine if i identified as female and i barley understood the trans community back then i wasn't even allowed to research about it. then i was omni\greysexual, then omni\ bi ace, then omni bi celibate, now i am omni bi greysexual. i hated myself for so long and it just now started getting better. im 18 and have been out and stayed out for 3 years. I came out around march 2021. My parents were supportive even though they believe it is a sin. I have loads of religous trauma and i am trying to learn that i can be gay and a Christ follower at the same time. when they let my aunt get me a bi pride flag nobody saw, but i cried. I promise to all parents, any way that you show your children that they're valid and that you support them even if you dont understand, they will love.
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For those who came from the yt short:
It starts at nineteen mins and forty secs
Much appreciate
Thank you sm
FYI, she’s asked people to not time stamp the shorts. It messes with her TH-cam algorithm/analytics
@@RachelDee , I should have fixed it. Thank you for letting me know.
I have had someone tell me, I'm not part of the community because I'm asexual, but also physically attracted to both men and women, just not sexually attracted to both men and women. They started a whole fight about it and got people to lash out at me. 🙃
Being asexual mean you’re not interested in sex yeah?
How is that relevant to sexuality..?
Bisexual of course but asexual no
Don’t hang around lgbtquia2spirit+ people or heterosexuals. Problem solved.
@@AlliLove90asexual people are apart of the LGBT community.
What do you think the ‘A’ stands for in LGBTQIA+? I can tell you it’s NOT ally.
@@binghamguevara6814Lonely, I am so lonely, I have nobody. I'm all on my own.
That's mad confusing
I would also do the parental/supportive hugs at like a pride event and also worry about the same. Not a creator or anything, but maybe just go and do it without filming? That being said, you and your content are rad! My kids are still little-ish at 12 and 8, but i can only hope they have teachers like you! Keep up the awesome
12:47 i think this story is so sweet ngl
I've always had a nuclear family (me, mom, dad and brother) and we've almost always been chill with each other, but we live far away from the rest of my family (grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins), which sometimes made me sad
a lot of my close friends belong to the same family and sometimes i like to think that they took us in, i can consider some of them as i would a cousin or an auntie and i ask a lot to my friends if they like having their relatives living close
my best friend lives with her grandparents and aunts and she doesn't enjoy it as much as i think i would, but we're best friends nonetheless
I was in my mid 20s before i ever met a gay person. When my youngest child came out as lesbian, i didnt care. As long as she loved and was loved. Thats all i cared about.
I love this series! Who else?
Me
I'm a pan cis guy who's also jewish and has an Israeli father. And i just feel so seen and wanted to say thank you
My mom told me I was faking it and it's not real but I'm still gender fluid and pan I wish I had the support I needed from my mom when I was in high school lucky I had 2 teachers that helped me
Anyone coming from the shirt vid wondering about the kindergarten girl here’s the time stamp 19:49
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The way I came out was my mum new at the time and I was at my dads house. We were painting door stops and I painted the lesbian flag on mine😂. And my step mum said nothing but my dad just smiled....he just smiled 😂.
I'm so glad that a short for this video came up in my For Yous today.
Every month is Pride Month, Ladies; June just has better sales. And for the bigots and haters: don't forget that when you add raindrops to white light, you find a rainbow. As with five o'clock: it's always raining somewhere. Just you remember that, now.
Doing my best to be an ally. 🏳⚧🐻🏳🌈
I just want to give a little trigger warning before I share this story
⚠️ trigger warning ⚠️
At my middle school (this was a few years ago), this girl was like such a huge bully. Eventually, she started fighting people and threatening them. I am a cis straight man, but a lot of my friends were part of the lgbtq community. This girl. 👏🏻 This girl 👏🏻 started threatening EVERY SINGLE PERSON in our school who was lgbtq, and even people who associated with lgbtq people. This girl threatened to kill MY DOG because my friend (now my girlfriend and she's bisexual, but we werent dating and she wasnt out yet) had gay parents. My dog was threatened because his owner (me) associated with someone who has gay parents. What has this world come to.
This girl still goes to my high school. She is so terrible and honestly I try to relate to these lgbtq struggles as much as I can, but it's really difficult. All I can do is try to stand up to people and be as supporting as I possibly can be
It has always been this way. I wonder why people don't want to support it. Have they actually managed to answer that question? I'm glad to read that you're trying to learn about the culture, but I highly doubt you will truly feel what they feel.
Fabulous video! So glad to H&K on here, and I LOVE the look they give each other at 43:24 It's like they have SUCH good communication that they're checking with each other -- "you want to say this?" AWESOME VID!!
As a Christian I do believe that it is a sin but I do have a gay “cousin” I will love him and and everyone that is lgbtq I just don’t believe in it but god gave us free will ❤❤
Amen
For a long time, I (16F) am pansexual and gender fluid, and I've never really felt the need to hide it. My community is very safe and accepting. Although, I've felt uncomfortable using or going by my first name because I always felt detached from it, and I knew I wanted to change it, but I didn't know what to change it to. And I hesitated for a long time telling my mom (not because I was scared she wouldn't be supportive) because I'm named Miriam, after my great-aunt Mimi (my mom's favotite aunt who died a long time ago) and I was scared I would be dishonoring her memory. I eventually switched to my middle name, Sam (after my uncle Sam, who also died a long time ago) and have been identifying as Sam for almost 3 years now. My teachers, friends, neighbors, both close and extended family, and even my synagogue, have all respected my decision, and I've had nothing but support from everyone, no questions asked. But whenever I contact my grandma, she still always calls me Miriam. I knew she didn't mean to be disrespectful, but after not hearing that name for almost 3 years, I was caught off guard. My mom and I politely reminded her that I go by Sam now, and she asked if it was okay if she kept calling me Miriam because it honored her sister (Aunt Mimi) and she missed her so much. I said it was okay and explained to her that I was having a hard time with my name, change, and identity because of that exact reason. I love my grandma, and I told her that she could keep calling me Miriam, but she would have to try to call me Sam.
It's been scientifically proven time and time again that humans only need one healthy care giver to grow up happy and healthy! The gender of that caregiver isn't a factor ❤❤❤
As a nonbinary child it Is very inspirational to see LGBTQ+ representation in the community and not just for clout
This was such an amazing episode! It was so sweet and I cried so much!
I remember Kendra when I first moved to St. Louis and first started living my openly gay life. We met one night at a bar with my roomate and she has the greatest personality and energy. I remember when she met Hailee and they were inseparable. I did lose touch with them but I do wish them the best and I hope one day when my dream and passion come true I can see them again.
I knew I recognized her from somewhere and couldn’t figure it out. 😂 Thank You!
11:20 Kindergarten Story 🥺💕
100% on the phone thing. Even with my friends, we trust each other to use it without having to look over them. If i see someone texting I don't even try to read their messages. One thing that I would try to do is guess people's passwords and nobody I've been friends with has ever been worried I was gonna snoop in things I shouldn't. Even had people say things like "if you knew me you'd guess the password", which I would get first try then.
You gotta have KALLMEKRIS on this podcast! You, hailey and Kendra, and Kris are my favorite TH-camrs!
The part where she said find community- it’s so *so* completely true. It was so important to me when I had a friend group and I was able to say, hey, I think I’m non-binary- and the response was just “that’s cool.” It was so chill, so lackluster, nothing I was thinking it would be. And then that same friend that said that came out to me as Pansexual, and we know we can freely talk to each other and share our opinions and know we aren’t alone.
I don't wanna be *that person* but shouldn't it be "a part"?
😂
Listen I never said I taught English class LOL
ahhhhh!!! Hallie and Kendra are two ofy favorite people on this platform;
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so I grew up in the south, south Carolina, in the 80s and 90s and it wasn't a good place if you weren't the stereotypical good ole boy and woman that just wanted to get married and have kids. and there weren't a lot of really any role models for being LGBTQ back then I don't think I met my first person in the group til college and it was much later before I was friends with anyone in the culture (I was just obvious to that point and again.. the south) and it was really difficult for me to figure out and accept whi i was, a queer transwoman. I knew at 6 I was supposed to be a girl and it took me 30 years to feel safe enough to come out. my family wasn't supportive. not because they were worried, although that may have been a part, but because it didn't fit the picture they wanted. they still don't support
it's been a hard journey at times but... I wouldn't change a thing about myself.
you two give me hope that the future will be better and stronger. that maybe one day people won't have to endure the hate and backlash that we have just to exist.
I’m a 14 year old lesbian. Or at least I think so. I’ve never liked a guy and I haven’t had a guy friend for a while cause everyone bullies me for being a “pick me” when I have a guy friend. But if I see a cute girl walk by me in the hallway my knees get kinda shaky and there’s this one girl in my class that’s openly bisexual and (I’m not into her we’re like sisters) she’s always introducing me to her friends or offering to be my wingman at school dances but I don’t know if I want to date anyone at my school since most people here are very homophobic. Not so much towards girls as boys and I’m a girl so I guess that’s good for me but still. Idk what to do. I’ve never had a girlfriend. 😢
My advice (given what I know from this comment) is, you are young, so give yourself time. Not having a girlfriend at this age doesn’t mean you aren’t a lesbian. You don’t need to know your sexuality right now. If you do know, that’s great, and if you don’t, that’s fine too. The important thing is to not freak out about it. So if finding a label for yourself is important to you, then go ahead and find one. But remember, a sexuality is not an aesthetic, you are more than the label and the label can change. Labels are just there to give people a sense of community and to make them feel less alone. They aren’t boxes you need to fit into. And if the search for a label makes you feel worse cause you feel like you don’t fit in anywhere, remember the labels aren’t little identification sticker, they are there too make you feel less alone. If they have the opposite effect, you don’t need to use them. There are also a lot of broader terms like “queer” or “sapphic”. The important part is to not freak out about it and not tie it to your sense of worth. You are more than the label, you don’t need to know and your don’t need to label yourself. The best thing you can do is learn to be comfortable with yourself and who you are. There is also no such thing as “queerbating” or “not actually being queer”, if you like girls in a not platonic way, you can say you are queer. There is no “not truly being gay”.
And not wanting to date someone when you are so young and in a pretty hostile environment is totally understandable. You don’t need to date anyone if you don’t want to. It’s not weird. It doesn’t make you strange.
It’s your decision, your life, your business. No one else’s.
Also remember, your safety is your number one priority. It’s sad you can’t come out without risking your safety. But that’s the world we live in. So be safe.
Btw I’m also 14 so take my advice with a grain of salt. If you wanna know my “story” I would be glad to share it, if that could help you in some way.
Ayo, I’m 14 too! Just because you’re not dating yet doesn’t mean you’re not a lesbian. It’s totally fine to not come out or date or whatever. The most important thing is to be true to yourself and stay safe. You might feel alone or not supported, but we all accept you and we support you. Best of luck❤
My mom has had lots of men be horrible to her, and for a long time it’s just been me and her. So around 2022 my mom started joking “you should became a lesbian. Then you wouldn’t have to put up with men’s shit”. A few months later I realized I was bisexual, and when I came out to her her only reaction was “oh okay. Where do you wanna go for lunch?” 😂. I love her so much. I later asked her why she didn’t have a big reaction, and she said it’s because I phrased it as “I think I’m bisexual” so she was trying not to be overly happy about it and make me feel like I needed to stay with that label. Which yeah, I told her right when I started really being confused about my sexuality so that makes total sense. I love my mom so much, and I will always appreciate how insanely supportive she is. 💕
Im gay and 5th grade (before I came out) was a nightmare. For some stupid reason, I told my friends about my orientation before my super accepting family. One day, birthday party of some kid with some conservative ass parents. The parents spoke poorly about the community though they didn’t know about me, they were just dumb. That friend never looked at me the same
This goes out to all you ladies - Rebecca, Hailee, and Kendra (and Kris from Kallmekris too). You are all so very talented, creative, joyful, and wonderful. I'm always happier for having seen what you've put up. Rebecca, your heard in classroom skits are so well acted and produced - always love to see 'em. Hailee, I've always said my humor is a cross between Benny Hill and Denis Leary - the double entendres and pickup lines you come out with are so good... and Kendra, you are so expressive, and I love the way you occasionally throw in subtle hints of 'not so innocent' - comedy genius the both of you the way you play off each other! and Kris - such a good heart, I miss all the skits and characters. Thank you for sharing this bit into your lives! Love to you all and wishing you all the best!
Timestamp: about 19:30
You dropped this 🫡👑
Just found out I’m pregnant and it’s honestly shifted me more to the left. I cannot imagine not loving my baby just because they’re gay or trans or nonbinary, or any other part of this group. There’s nothing wrong or defective about being different.
The funniest thing is that as a lesbian, I also say that Ryan Reynolds is the exception. I'm convinced that Ryan Reynolds has the ability to be attractive to literally anyone (not everyone, but anyone) regardless of sexual orientation.
I'm genderfluid and lesbian, and I am also convinced that Ryan Reynolds has the power to be attractive to anyone.
To be attractive to LITERALLY anyone. He's just got that look about him.
I love my parents so much but 3 years ago-When my mom and bonus dad were still dating- my brother (5)asked me a question about if my mom has a boyfriend or a girlfriend and I started to say she could have either but she has a boyfriend, and my Bonus dad cut me off and said,” Boys only have girlfriends, and girls have boyfriends.” And I just stayed silent. I’ve known I like girls and boys for at least 1 year, but I’m afraid to tell anyone cause my dad hasn’t really let me know his opinions on these things, and my mom supports it, but I feel like she would immediately tell my grandma or bonus dad. One of my bffs is pan, and her dad is extremely homosexual, homophobic, racist, etc, and this just makes me even more scared. I also have an uncle who is gay and has a boyfriend with 12 huskies and he’s very happy but my grandfather is also homophobic, and all of this combined just adds to my fear. I’m just asking for some advice on what to do in general. Sorry for the rant but I have no one to really talk to until I get up the courage to talk to my friends.
Am I the only one who went through and wrote down quotes that they said and I will be repeating to myself and others?
Aww!
As an LGBTQ+ teen with a really unsupportive family…I’m so lucky to have some incredible friends who support me, but the thing about kids just being lucky enough to have loving parents…I literally cried
As a nonbinary, pan, poly person this video was so needed, thank you three ❤
I literally just wanted to reply to this comment to say I really love your channel’s name xD
@@Alilunaa awww thank you
Your sexuality doesn’t change who you are and I hope the world will understand that someday
Lots of love 💜💜
@@Musicanna09they’re labels that help us describe ourselves. We know it doesn’t change who we are ❤
What is a nonbinary 💀
I love these two! They are so positive!