And by supporting dads being present, engaged and involved, in the end it makes better social and psychologically adjusted adult citizens in our world to contend with... It makes a better society from the ground up... We wonder what's wrong with kids these days who turn up to be monsters.. that's it in a nutshell..
@@CaptainScarfish We're experiencing more violence from the last few generations who have grown up due to fathers not being involved all the way up to outright spousal and child abuse. That's a large part in why we're witnessing an upward trend in crime. That's what I meant by "these days"...
@@TraceDominguez You betcha! Lots of meditation now.. :) I'm happy that you and your partner are taking time off.. It's not only important for you dads, but also him. And I can tell he's used to your smell as he looked up at you.. ;)
Unreal, dude congratulations again on becoming a dad, and good job for your wife/ fiance. I hope it went smoothly. This has been a great mini series too btw👍🏽 now go be a dad, and happy New year not that it's not going to be 🙂 little Rafi D will be proud looking back on this series. If that could be his nickname it'd be awesome😛 I honestly don't know if you recognise my name at this point but I almost feel like an acquaintance at this stage, been watching your videos since DNews days and man it's mad to see lives develope. Anyway Good luck with everything and we'll see you whenever you're free, Happy parenting.
Good on you Trace/Family to wrap up a great year. Enjoy these special days/weeks/months ahead cause they fly by quick. Don't beat yourself up on the unknowns of being a dad and just grow/enjoy each phase as you little dude grows up. My almost 8 year old is constantly teaching and challenging us so just enjoy the ride. Cheers!!
Also, the Canadian stereotype you described is correct. Parental leave is supported and legally protected. I love my kids and enjoy the time I have with them.
I'm glad you took parental leave, my friend! You're doing great, and this is a very cool video series. Congrats on both! See you on Twitter until you get back! :)
Oh my goodness, Rafael is ADORABLE!! 🥰 Congratulations! Great series, too. You said you were very into music but don’t talk about it much - as a musician myself, I’d love to see you do a series on it, when you’re back. 🎼
Great Series Trace! Best intro ever, had me cracking up. The Yondu reference was on point and I think I now have Present, Engaged and Involved forever ingrained in my head. Hope you have a great time off with your beautiful baby. Much love to You and your Family. See you when you return. 🧡
Regarding Attachment Theory, This has been a big part of our lives since we adopted our children and for a fair amount of time before our first child moved in. Here in the UK at least great emphasis is placed on attachment as part of the adoption process. As prospective adopters we had to complete a fair amount of paperwork as well as an attachment style interview (google ASI-AF) various meetings, home visits, background checks etc. Literally months of work, from making an enquiry to being approved to adopt was something like a year of work for the first child, thankfully we could re use some of that work for the second child!! The support form the local authorities has been fantastic, we have a course coming up titled Therapeutic Parenting in which the first four sessions are dedicated to attachment, two on therapeutic discipline, one on past experiences and one on looking after yourself as a parent (that means more time on the motorbike, right?) Some of the stuff we have learnt should be made available for all parents to learn from, its been a massive help for us but it feels like 'traditional' parents are losing out on some very valuable information.
Love your videos and love your topics. I'm here in the states. I have 3 kids. I was given paid paternity for all three. And also was able to extend my leave without pay. I think it's a little harsh to say Americans dont have paternity leave. I feel we have more control over these things than we think. If you're a good employee. An asset to that company we have more leverage than we think.
It’s harsh, but not untrue. By putting leave solely in the hands of business we aren’t saying: “we care about this” we’re giving it to the crucible of for-profit capitalism
@@chelseashurmantine8153 I am an optimus I feel like I have full control over my life and happiness. But I'm also empathetic to someone else's circumstances.
I love how at least half of what we think of as modern research psychology (I'm a research psychologist) basically just reduces to problems we wouldn't have but for capitalism.
Love your videos, and thanks for the info, even though I might not need it right now then I feel like the more I can learn and understand before I get there in my life the better a chance I will have at doing it the way I want to, not having to think of the stereotypes and learn to understand how to inform others will be a great thing to know. (not that I should inform them, I’ll send them your videos as you are a lot better at explaining than me 😅)
Do you know how many men get treated like idiots when it comes to caring for their kids, even by their own wives. Lots of dads out there want to be there for their kids. But the moment they slip up once they dragged through the mud. "He's just a man" "I have 3 kids, and I'm merried to one of them". Do you understand how degradating all that is. To get completely shit on for try to be a good dad
I had a section on this that I ultimately pulled, but I do care a lot about it. The “dumb husband” trope and the stereotype of men being unable to child-rear is also bad. If someone says this to me personally, I ask : “what do you mean by that?” And “can you show me what I should do?” The first makes people repeat themselves and hopefully realize they’re stereotyping, and the second makes them aware that we’re all learning !
The … parent that didn’t birth the child? Maybe it’s a biological male, maybe it’s one of the people in a two-woman relationship, or maybe it’s all the parents who have a baby thanks to a birth by surrogate!
Who do you imagine these studies talked to or observed in their actual interactions? They didn’t happen in a computer or in fantasy - studies involve conversations with and observations of thousands and thousands of parents or kids, often spanning many years. What you’re saying is: “If you ask a handful of anecdotes from parents who I know (and thus feel more real to me), and ignore the thousands of parents these people I don’t know talked too, you’ll find out [my assumptions of the people I know] prefer moms. My simple response: I’m so glad you’re talking to your friends or their kids - that may absolutely be the case for that small group. Broadly speaking, the unbiased evidence says differently
@@TraceDominguez Fair enough. Why nobody ever talks about toxic behaviour of women. I have always been really puzzled about it. SInce I can see it daily but nobody ever talks about it.
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It's almost like fathers should be parents and not just sources of income!
RIGHT?
I was 100% fired last month for taking 10 mins off to put my son in his car seat each morning. Lost health insurance for my whole family smh
Sounds like we need a new plan
Also I’m sorry that happened. This country doesn’t really value employees just “job creators” 🙄
And by supporting dads being present, engaged and involved, in the end it makes better social and psychologically adjusted adult citizens in our world to contend with... It makes a better society from the ground up... We wonder what's wrong with kids these days who turn up to be monsters.. that's it in a nutshell..
Agreed with you right up until you said "these days". Deadbeat dads have existed since dads existed.
@@CaptainScarfish We're experiencing more violence from the last few generations who have grown up due to fathers not being involved all the way up to outright spousal and child abuse. That's a large part in why we're witnessing an upward trend in crime. That's what I meant by "these days"...
It was sooo sweet to see Rafael.. and he yawned at his dad.. ;)
HE IS TOO CUTE I DIE
Except I can’t die. I have responsibilities now
@@TraceDominguez You betcha! Lots of meditation now.. :) I'm happy that you and your partner are taking time off.. It's not only important for you dads, but also him. And I can tell he's used to your smell as he looked up at you.. ;)
Unreal, dude congratulations again on becoming a dad, and good job for your wife/ fiance. I hope it went smoothly. This has been a great mini series too btw👍🏽 now go be a dad, and happy New year not that it's not going to be 🙂 little Rafi D will be proud looking back on this series. If that could be his nickname it'd be awesome😛 I honestly don't know if you recognise my name at this point but I almost feel like an acquaintance at this stage, been watching your videos since DNews days and man it's mad to see lives develope. Anyway Good luck with everything and we'll see you whenever you're free, Happy parenting.
Thanks A-A Ron!
So happy I found this gem in my recommended
Thanks Lynn 💜
Fantastic series Trace, I hope you do more of these as you learn to be a Dad!
thank you! I hope so
chapter 1's title is too accurate i am floored
Loved this series! Enjoy the time off with your family Trace!
Thanks Osiris!
Good on you Trace/Family to wrap up a great year. Enjoy these special days/weeks/months ahead cause they fly by quick. Don't beat yourself up on the unknowns of being a dad and just grow/enjoy each phase as you little dude grows up. My almost 8 year old is constantly teaching and challenging us so just enjoy the ride. Cheers!!
THANK YOU!
So stoked for you, Rafael, and your fam. #HeroDad. You're a model father. Stay awesome!!!
Also, the Canadian stereotype you described is correct. Parental leave is supported and legally protected. I love my kids and enjoy the time I have with them.
That baby is looking at you like you are the greatest thing in the universe...and he is right!
💖💖💖
Thank you Trace this was a really good series: Your baby is adorable and hope your whole family stays blessed.
Thank you 💕
This video is an absolute grand slam! You drove that puck straight down to the goal line and slam dunk that turkey into the end zone! Sportsball!
GO ORGANIZED PLAY
I'm glad you took parental leave, my friend! You're doing great, and this is a very cool video series. Congrats on both! See you on Twitter until you get back! :)
As a dad, I'm highly offended by this. Han Solo: A Star Wars Story was a great film!
Anakin: “That movie with Han Solo was a great film”
Padme: “You mean Empire Strikes Back, right?”
Anakin: *stares*
Padme: “…right?”
Trace how the hell did you manage to make this high quality series with a newborn? Why aren’t you exhausted lol
I AM 😭
12:40 I'm going to have to put people having more kids into the column for cons rather than pros
Why do you say that?
Oh my goodness, Rafael is ADORABLE!! 🥰 Congratulations! Great series, too. You said you were very into music but don’t talk about it much - as a musician myself, I’d love to see you do a series on it, when you’re back. 🎼
Thank you!
Great Series Trace! Best intro ever, had me cracking up. The Yondu reference was on point and I think I now have Present, Engaged and Involved forever ingrained in my head. Hope you have a great time off with your beautiful baby.
Much love to You and your Family.
See you when you return. 🧡
See you soon! (But not TOO soon)
Regarding Attachment Theory, This has been a big part of our lives since we adopted our children and for a fair amount of time before our first child moved in. Here in the UK at least great emphasis is placed on attachment as part of the adoption process. As prospective adopters we had to complete a fair amount of paperwork as well as an attachment style interview (google ASI-AF) various meetings, home visits, background checks etc. Literally months of work, from making an enquiry to being approved to adopt was something like a year of work for the first child, thankfully we could re use some of that work for the second child!!
The support form the local authorities has been fantastic, we have a course coming up titled Therapeutic Parenting in which the first four sessions are dedicated to attachment, two on therapeutic discipline, one on past experiences and one on looking after yourself as a parent (that means more time on the motorbike, right?) Some of the stuff we have learnt should be made available for all parents to learn from, its been a massive help for us but it feels like 'traditional' parents are losing out on some very valuable information.
Love your videos and love your topics. I'm here in the states. I have 3 kids. I was given paid paternity for all three. And also was able to extend my leave without pay. I think it's a little harsh to say Americans dont have paternity leave. I feel we have more control over these things than we think. If you're a good employee. An asset to that company we have more leverage than we think.
It’s harsh, but not untrue. By putting leave solely in the hands of business we aren’t saying: “we care about this” we’re giving it to the crucible of for-profit capitalism
Oooh I like the positivity
@@chelseashurmantine8153 I am an optimus I feel like I have full control over my life and happiness. But I'm also empathetic to someone else's circumstances.
Well if a business can get along with out you. Then they don't need you. Plain and simple 😌 👌🏻
I love how at least half of what we think of as modern research psychology (I'm a research psychologist) basically just reduces to problems we wouldn't have but for capitalism.
Congratulations and good for you!!
Thanks!!
Love your videos, and thanks for the info, even though I might not need it right now then I feel like the more I can learn and understand before I get there in my life the better a chance I will have at doing it the way I want to, not having to think of the stereotypes and learn to understand how to inform others will be a great thing to know. (not that I should inform them, I’ll send them your videos as you are a lot better at explaining than me 😅)
My husband's job allowed 1 week of parental leave when we had oir son. ONE WEEK!
Ew
That outro made me misty eyed. 🥲
🥰🤗
Rafael looking at you at the end of the video is adorable...
I thought so too
i love the inclusivity in this so much
💛💛💛💛
Do you know how many men get treated like idiots when it comes to caring for their kids, even by their own wives. Lots of dads out there want to be there for their kids. But the moment they slip up once they dragged through the mud. "He's just a man" "I have 3 kids, and I'm merried to one of them". Do you understand how degradating all that is. To get completely shit on for try to be a good dad
I had a section on this that I ultimately pulled, but I do care a lot about it. The “dumb husband” trope and the stereotype of men being unable to child-rear is also bad. If someone says this to me personally, I ask : “what do you mean by that?” And “can you show me what I should do?” The first makes people repeat themselves and hopefully realize they’re stereotyping, and the second makes them aware that we’re all learning !
Parenting for the parenting god!
so many gods in this day and age to appease!
Who is he referring to when he says, "non birthing parent"???
The … parent that didn’t birth the child? Maybe it’s a biological male, maybe it’s one of the people in a two-woman relationship, or maybe it’s all the parents who have a baby thanks to a birth by surrogate!
Great vid. My wife and I had our firstborn on Sep and this is awesome info.
Congratulations!! Glad it was helpful and good luck (you're about two months ahead of us) 💖
If you ask real parents, not from studies, you will find out that kids prefer mom in the first years of life.
Who do you imagine these studies talked to or observed in their actual interactions? They didn’t happen in a computer or in fantasy - studies involve conversations with and observations of thousands and thousands of parents or kids, often spanning many years.
What you’re saying is: “If you ask a handful of anecdotes from parents who I know (and thus feel more real to me), and ignore the thousands of parents these people I don’t know talked too, you’ll find out [my assumptions of the people I know] prefer moms.
My simple response: I’m so glad you’re talking to your friends or their kids - that may absolutely be the case for that small group. Broadly speaking, the unbiased evidence says differently
Trace!!! ❣️❤️💕🥳🎉🎄
So, you're saying that letting humans be humans is actually good for humans to be humans. Who knew?!
WHO WOULDA THUNK
Lol yea no one ever sees the giant Silverback
Haha Canada is less manly! They are the only country in history to host an Olympics and not win a Gold medal.
#breakthebaby
First!
Sandy Ravage?
Remedial parenting class for all the mouth-breather dads out there? SKIP!
hahahaha
And what are toxic stereotypes for women? I couldn't find any in this video :D I think this video is quite sexist :D
The series is called “dad parents” so I tried to stick to the topic :)
@@TraceDominguez Fair enough. Why nobody ever talks about toxic behaviour of women. I have always been really puzzled about it. SInce I can see it daily but nobody ever talks about it.