it's so hard when you have this perfect idea of how you and another person could be happy together but they just don't share that idea and you have to carry on about your life because you cant change that person's heart and there's nothing you can do to make everything perfect
It’s almost 2 years since she left...and I still love her. She’s out there living life with someone new...and better. And I’m here. Just surviving man. Update: Its been almost 5 years. I am over her, she contacted me a few month ago. She hadn’t changed much but I have. Sometimes love is better lost, since she left I’ve become a better version of myself. I was able to love again. Though it didn’t work out. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. Trust the process. Take care of yourself. Life is good.
It's a month from what would have been four years from the first time we met. She's been gone for more than three years. But we aren't just surviving, we are growing, we are learning, and we will be happy
I thought the same thing. Fast forward three more years, I’m listening to this song while doing homework. I can hear my wife in the other room singing our newborn son to sleep. It gets better.
Time heals all, took me 3 years to get over an ex. It’ll soon be a distant memory that you’ll never fully forget but it’ll no longer hold any power over your happiness. Stay strong my guy. 👑
Its been two months and 3 days since he broke up with me and I still catch myself crying at random times in the day and night. Everywhere I go whether its my home, the drive to work, starbucks, my job, I think of him and his smile and the memories and how much love we had. Its the worst feeling being in love with somebody that wants nothing to do with you anymore.
it's been two months since the love of my life left me. the feelings are starting to go away because I forget what its like to have her in my arms, to kiss her, make love to her. I know if I saw her again all them feelings would come rushing back.
Sending some love to everyone on here who's feeling pain, sadness or at a loss. Life is a gift. I hope you all find strength and the ability to open your eyes and see what we have here and all the beautiful reasons to live. People come and go and we end up feeling all kinds of emotions but so long as somewhere someone loves you or you love yourself then things aren't all bad. Love and peace. x
I'm in a 4-year relationship and I feel like it's about to end. I still love him, but i can't force him to keep loving me when he has already exhausted all the love he could give. I wish, sometimes, especially at this point, while listening to this, I wish I could go back to what I was and where I was 4 years ago. I wish I hadn't met him. I wish I met someone better. But I am a mere human ; powerless. I can't change things and I can't make him love me forever.
Same here. I’m after breaking up after not so long one year and a half. It was hard and still it’s hard to cope with this. We broke up three days ago and I still can’t believe how things escalated and how things went. We were constantly arguing and he hated this relationship but I tried so hard. He said he couldn’t love me anymore as before and day by day everything faded away. I would try to get him back and things wouldn’t work I wouldn’t get him back same way as it was. We said we should give each other a break and we didn’t talk for a month. We met after a long while and he said he couldn’t commit to a relationship anymore. And he said he wants to be friend with me and we’re talking still. I want to get over this. It’s hard to cope with.
Just a reminder that things do get better. I remember lists to this song years ago, crying my heart out over a breakup with someone I loved so much, gave everything to. And he left without even really breaking up with me. I felt so alone and confused. When he returned things were not the same. He used me, and I remember feeling so disgusted with love and broken. This song helped me feel those feelings. Fast forward to now, I’m almost 6 years married to a wonderful man & have the most beautiful little girl in the world. Life isn’t perfect but I’m so thankful to have found love again. I couldn’t make the first guy love me, as much as a wanted him to. But that’s okay, I found something so much better and so much more satisfying.
Bon Iver - I Can't Make You Love Me Turn down the lights, Turn down the bed, Turn down these voices, Inside my head Lay down with me, Tell me no lies, Just hold me close, Don't patronize me [x2] Cause I can't make you love me If you don't, You can't make your heart feel Something it won't, Here in the dark, These final hours I will lay down my heart And I feel the power But you don't, No you don't Cause I can't make you love me, If you don't [x2] No, you won't I'll close my eyes, No, I won't see The love you don't feel, When you're holding me Morning will come, And I'll do what's right Just give me till then To give up this fight And I will give up this fight... Cause I can't make you love me if you don't I can't make your heart feel, Something it won't, Here in the dark These final hours I will lay down my heart And I feel the power But you don't, No you don't I can't make you love me if you don't If you don't, No you, no you won't I found love darlin' [x5] Love in the nick of time I found love darlin' yeah, Love in the nick of time
You want to be strong and never give up that fight to win back her heart, but then you realize you can't control how she feels. You remember how incredibly happy you both were when you were in each other's arms, but something, somehow changed her mind. Friends would tell me how the chemistry me and my ex had was just incredible to witness, that they've never seen anything like it, but then it's over in a flash. You just wish you had a second chance to fix whatever went wrong, that surely that relationship was worth saving, but she might not think the same, it is torturous.
It’s been over a year since I first heard this song. I still listen to it regularly, almost everyday. It has helped me with my insomnia and restlessness I experience at times. It’s such a relaxing song and music video despite being a heartbreak song lol. Just really grateful it exists. It’s truly therapeutic.
I remember exactly one month ago... i was alone under a thousand stars, but comforted by your consoling voice. We used to call each other everyday. Must have been the happiest moments ive lived. But fast forward to today and damn.. i feel like ive lost you for a year already. Alongside the feeling of longing for anything that has to do with you, comes the pain that is seemingly perpetual. Now as i look at the stars at night i cant help but feel this familiarity when i associate you with them... and this novelty which comes from realizing that we'll never make memories like those again.
I met the love of my life, we shared thoughts that would make me daydream, we talked about science, philosophy, music, and the relation between all, even when I was asleep I felt a warmth like an orange sun. The life poured out my chest with brightness, her freckles were stars. But now, after she started to shift away, a cloud passed by the sky, a storm shredded my tears, erasing the constellations and I had no other way than to take cover, and travel far from the rainy lands. Every time we come back, it's still raining.... I am not a religious man, but I pray to God to make the water, the agony, go away and let us be together.
"I never told you that I love you". This was the exact lines he said to me. It's breaking. Really breaking and I have no choice but to still see him everyday because we are living in the same house and I can't leave because of lockdown and my house is miles away from where I am now💔
We are here because we felt love and we have given love ....we had the courage to give our hearts ...that trust will return "Failure is not the opposite of success it's a part of it"
I remember feeling so lonely aching to have the right person for me. Now I can say that I'm glad I waited for him. He's my BEST FRIEND. God sent him to me. He came to ME. Don't rush, or be unhappy until it gets here, let it come. In its own mysterious way.
my worst fear was people being together for years and suddenly one loses feelings after all the memories... and it happened to me. My worst fear happened and I feel like a piece of me will always be missing but I have to just get used to the idea of never having that again. I know I'll never want anyone else or trust anyone else now. Love is beautiful but also hurtful...
Maybe in the after life you can give away the love I gave you. All these years I was clueless and numb thinking it was just for fun but as soon as you are gone it all came back to me that I miss you
was in a 3 and a half year relationship and was always the one who was more in love then the other .. you can't force emotions out of someone . and when he finally showed me what I was looking for, it was too late
I met her at the tail end of my senior year. We've quickly become best friends and I love her to bits but I really don't think she wants to reciprocate romantic love. I've spent my entire relationship with her trying to measure up to her perfect ex boyfriend who cheated on her with his roommate in michigan. She always loved him. And it hurts really bad to see all that love pointed at someone who utterly devastated her so bad. Someone who isn't me
i love everyone in the comments. i just feel bad bc everyone's here bc of their own heartbreaks and im over here bc i was watching an edit of one of my favorite kdrama's third lead. good luck to you all 사랑해
have you ever found that perfect person.A person you have really good chemistry and connection.someone who feels totally different.i did,But she don't feel the same way....Anymore
Note to self: don't ever fall in love again. K? Note to others: I hope you're all doing well, with whatever path you choose or direction you wanna go. Lots of luck and warm regards~~
Damn, it's been two years since I commented here. For anyone else perusing this thread, I just want you to know that there is someone out there who will love you the way you deserve to be loved, and you will find them. It might not be tomorrow, it might not even be this year or the year after that, but they are out there. I promise you that this isn't some pseudo-inspirational jargon. Keep holding on.
maybe it’s a good thing we can’t make them love us. we deserve someone who’s really interested in our happiness, that really want us. what’s the point of being with someone who doesn’t recognize you? although it hurts like hell, we will be loved by someone we don’t need to feel like an unworthy and unwanted person
but where is the guarantee that we will love them back in the right way... i mean i know what i am talking about and i feel myself so selfish bc i just kinda replace missing attention from another person (?) sorry for this
@@cat_tharsis hi!! so, when i say that we deserve to be loved, it implies that the other person also deserves it. the fact is that we should only be with someone if this someone also wants u! its reciprocity in this case
Love should be a two way street. Its impossible to love someone long term without the same love back. Eventually, you will hurt. Even if you try to brave it. You WILL hurt. Unrequited love is a bitch for sure
When I listen to this song, I think about my brother. For 20 years, he tried to stay with us, battling depression every step of the way. 3 years ago, it finally took him. For the first year, I was so clouded by anger and confusion, I couldn't understand why he would leave us, especially without even saying goodbye. It wasn't until i heard this song that I truly understood how he felt. Depression has a sick way of hiding itself. He believed that hiding his pain was keeping us happy, always smiling and laughing to keep us from worrying about him, as his true emotions slowly drained his spirit. The lyrics in this song resonate with me and help me understand how he felt. No matter how hard we tried, we could never help him love himself the way we loved him. Now all I have to do is let him go, and enjoy my life like he always wanted me to. Every now and them I see him when I dream, and the only words i can ever find are, "I missed you." He never says anything, just smiles at me and hugs me, giving me reassurance that he's still with me, and is finally happy. I can't wait for the day I get to see him again, but for now, I stay looking forward and focus on living the life I wanted him to live. Miss you brother, there will never be another.
Thanks for sharing this with the world, Spencer. We are all in the middle of this journey with no real compass to guide us, and words like yours are so important for so many people who feel lonely, confused and misunderstood.
Spencer Lyons thanks for sharing your testimony. All of you touched my heart!! The reality of the situation is that even if we had a compass, would we follow it guidance. I believe more often than not, we enjoy the uncomfortableness of uncertainty buried deep inside our natural desire for adventure. Spencer, I truly am sorry for your brother loss, but I can reassure for sure, he’s in a much better place, in much better hands that anyone here could have offered him, else it wouldn’t have been part of the lesson plan, take good care you guys, it was a pleasure exchanging words in harmony as complete strangers,
So much respect for you my friend. That really moved me, take care and carry on. You're a very good man. God bless your brother. You'll see him again one day.
What I love about TH-cam comments is that people can use this section to vent there feelings and there are strangers willing to read them and give them advice and so on. That goes to show the world has good people. To everyone reading this stay blessed God made someone for everyone because he doesn't want to see us lonely.
Everyone on here is so different: race, religion, sex, dreams, desires, fears, orientation, careers, age, beliefs....but if you read these comments, you see a collective suffering. And if only for 5 minutes, everyone here feels each other and forgets what and who they are to share the pain. That's what music is... Bringing people together if only for the song to forget what separates us and remember what connects us all
vary true Scott now if only every in the world would get that throw they're head. the future would be so much brighter then it is now n I would not have worry about what type of future my kids will have deal with. life is short n to perishes n earth is are birth place I for one still cant see why we cant get along. we band together in times of needed why cant we just get it throw are heads that we can do so much more n make this world so much better place. maybe one day
Rumi is a funny one because the translation took out his devoted Islamic faith. If you add in the overt religiosity (imo) it ruins the human message. I don't think Rumi would be as popular in the west if it'd been included. The guy who translated him (Bark) and popularised his work was a poet, I think he is the one with the gift to speak to our heart. I read some Rumi with the God bits not excluded and it's very different.
It's crazy how much you're willing to get yourself hurt just so the other person can be happy. You fake a smile and act as if everything's ok but it's not alright you feel miserable while they're having fun with someone else. No matter how much you try with someone else your mind only ends up thinking about them.
I tried to distract myself from her. Tried to get my mind away and be with someone else for a while, just so I could forget. So I could stop feeling for her, and try to feel for someone else. It didn't work. Everything I did with this other girl constantly reminded me of her. I always wanted to do what I was doing with her with the one I love instead. The feeling was awful. I know exactly what you mean.
I totally agree. it hurts and you can't tell anyone how you feel coz at the end of the day, they don't really care. I wish I could tell people how I really feel. the hurt of them with someone else is one of the most painful feelings you can experience.
It took me about two months to realized that no matter how long you've been with someone or all the things you've been through with this person it doesn't matter because a person's feelings can change and even if you think that after all you guys had together you'll never lose this person but in truth you can lose them in the blink of an eye
+CumberdaleProduction imagine... if you could have had a great time with a person that doesn't in fact love you... how good it gets when you find someone who loves you back...think about it
Billie Joan I know, lots of people fallen for the wrong person and when they find the right person it'll be amazing but it's just.. hard to forget everything we've experienced with this "wrong" person.
it sucks being so close to someone and loving them a certain way, but they love you in only a friendship kind of way and you just accept it how it is because of how much you love them.
I first listened to this song years ago going through my first heart ache. I’m now engaged to the love of my life and the person who this song reminds me of is a distant memory. Things get better x
I fell in love with a girl 5 years ago and she didn’t want anything to do with me at the time, and I’d lay in my bed crying to this song thinking about her… Here we are in a 3 year long dating relationship and I’m proposing next month. You’re right, it does get better.
to everyone that is heartbroken, don't worry it gets better. I grew up thinking love was the best feeling ever, but it can just as easily be the worst. I was so strongly in love with a girl who didn't love me back for three years, I could never get her off my mind and I just wished at the time that I would say something but I knew she didn't feel the same. I was lead on for years, I then met the woman of my dreams out of nowhere and couldn't be happier with her. The girl I spent years waiting for will always have a special place in my heart but time is the best healer. Loving someone can be hard, I hope everyone hangs on in there because I spent many nights feeling worthless and rejected and here I am today. Hang on guys
to everyone who's experiencing the hell of a heart break.. take time to be sad , to reminisce and to let go, you are strong and you will get through it, it will make you into a better stronger and wiser you i promise
My girlfriend fell out of love and left me so many times Only to come back again wasting me away, making me hurt so much. And when she finally left my life it was bittersweet, I was so glad to be free But I had just lost the love of my life for eight months And some parts of her are still in my brain, no matter how much I pry at them to get out. I'm afraid I'll never love anyone else the way I was in love with her, with all of her. I can't make her love me But a piece of me will always love her in someway no matter how much I don't want to. Thank you for listening.
it was july the 10th. we went on a 2 day camping trip in class. I had always been in love with you - I wan't kind of *into you* like people expect teenagers to be. You were my first real love. We playded hide or seek or something and you told me to follow you because you planned to hide in the forest. We hid behind that really big oaktree, I couldn't stop laughing but you didn't want them to hear and find us so you took my hand and we went deeper into the forest. We just sat there and I told you I was afraid you took me into your arms and told me I didn't had to. We heard them calling our names but we didn't care. I was freezing so I asked you when we'd go back to the tent. You told me after you did - and then you kissed me - It was pure perfection . some people say your first kiss is gross. some say they didn't know what to do. but mine was perfect. I felt your lips. And I stopped thinking . I don't remember anything but that perfect feeling. And I was so unbelievable happy. I just didn't want it to end ever again. Never. I don't really remember what happend next. The next thing I know is us laying in your tent and your arm around me. we were talking almost till the sunrise. I wish I could go back in time and enjoy these days more. We never were a couple we kept being friends and it seemed like you forgot it. I guess you never felt the same. I guess for you it was just an experience. But to me it meant so much. Now we're in different schools. We don't text that much anymore . that's sad. To be in love is a perfect feeling but it's also the saddest thing I ever experienced incase you're not loved back. I miss you J. I really miss you. but maybe we were really just kids in love and now your grown up. I guess I'll never stop doodeling s+j everywhere but maybe that's what your first love - your first heartbreak feels like. ♡
The video is just another slap on the back of my head. When I think of him I see the sea and early mornings and coffee and cigs and randomly smiling. We fucked up each other so bad and the people around us. I'll never love him the way he did and does and that's scary, I thought I'll love him forever. I seem to have no feelings for anyone. what happened to me I want the old me back
Ofelia T there are people who come around that change your whole world. Not only how you view love or whatever but who you actually are as a person. You never forget them and after an event like that happens to you, you can't possibly be the same person after. You get so wrecked that it takes so long to pick up the pieces that when you do finally get them together, you forget how they fit together to begin with. You make a new puzzle out of the same pieces. You become a new you, for better or worse. Good luck my friend, it will get better. I promise.
Inside a hug you can do anything. Smile and cry. Resuscitate or die. Or you can stop the time and stay there forever, like that was the last one. Anyone related?
It really hurts knowing the only person you will always have feelings for has no interest in you. It hurts seeing them flirt with others and giving them the attention that you wish they would give to you. And what hurts more is pretending like it's not killing you inside every time they walk past you and you have no way of talking to them or getting closer. Regardless the many attempts i've made at getting over this guy and moving on, I always find myself thinking about him through the smallest things. I can't fight this feeling, but at the same time I don't want to. Though I know for sure it would never work out, I keep setting myself up for a trap that I get caught in. It feels like a never ending maze. It just won't stop.
+Lulu truth Everything stops, everyting slow down, everything turn down... Just remember that one feelings are coming and others are going, and this is the sence of life: we need to have bad times to distinguish good times. Each love is like a small life, so keep searching for your life :)
I feel you on that too. except I had him, twice. it just won't work between us though, for multiple reasons. He has a lot of growing up to do. The love is there, but it can't seem to stay. :(
I'm sorry, Liz. I loved you with all my heart, and we were together for 3 years, but you just picked up and left and I can't live with myself right now because I have no idea what I did wrong. I miss you so much every day, and I just wanted to let you know I still love you, and that I miss you, and for whatever I did wrong I'm sorry. Please, don't leave me like this.
+Matthew Gonzalez I guess you have to do something for it as well. It will take some time to get over someone you loved once. First you have to find peace with yourself, stop blmaing yourself. You didnt fuck up, it was HER decision to leave and that was not because you werent enough. This might not help you but some people arent meant to stay together, people come in your life to make a difference but not everyone is meant to stay... Loving someone is a blessing and a curse, its just over sometimes before you can even realise it completely. But it will be okay, we will all be okay, we will all find someone who will stay no matter what we do and we will stay with them no matter what they do. You dont have to firget her and what you had, thats impossible. But you have to use it to continue in life and learn from whatever mistakes you might have made.
The second verse kills me. The whole "give me till then to give up this fight" the concept of knowing what's coming but just having that one last chance to savour it. It breaks my heart because sometimes we don't realize that we are experiencing that. We don't know it's the last time we will get to hold someone. Because sometimes it comes out of nowhere. Always appreciate every second you get with someone you love because you never know if they're going to leave the next morning and anything can happen.
My ex left me 3 years ago, and i have been single since. Because honestly, i am scared to fall in love with someone again to only find out in the end, that they never really loved me back. She admitted, that the whole time she did not truly love me, which broke my understanding of love. I feel in a way, that i am a fool, for i have tried to get her back, but....you cant make somebody love you, this song helps me understand that. I feel for all the broken hearted, and all of the lonely lovers. Someday maybe, we'll be happy again. It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone. Sometimes, the past catches up to you wether you want it to or not.
max calver Oh Max...I'm sure you will find someone that will help you to heal all your wounds. Love is the only thing that can heal everything. You will know when that person arrives. You will feel it. And when it happens, just let her in. Even if you're scared. I know it won't be easy, but you need to try. Do not stop trying. Just believe.
Saddest story behind the lyrics.. I really feel for the guy who inspired this song. "The idea for the song came to Reid while reading an article about a man arrested for getting drunk and shooting at his girlfriend's car. The judge asked him if he had learned anything, to which he replied, "I learned, Your Honor, that you can't make a woman love you if she don't."
You guys in the comments, you are amazing! Absolutely amazing. You are confessing your loves in a way the person should see this can't see. You are all afraid to not to be loved but you don't give up on loving. You are beautiful and inspiring human beings and You think you are a coward but in the inside, you are all have courage for holding the world on your shoulders. You have only this life. Just one lifetime. Use it. It can go wrong or it can upset you but don't forget, there is always hope. You should just go for it. I love you all and all of your feelings. 💚 You hold the universe inside you 🌌
to: him from: me You were my first love. You showed me the beauty of the world and convinced me to stay. It was a beautiful relationship that we had. We shared so many happy moments. We laughed together. We cried together. We never fought. We always talked things through. But now you've grown complacent. While my love grew stronger everyday for you, you stayed the same. The efforts you used to make soon became less and less. You told me that you couldn't see a future with me. That you were unsure of your own future and that you didnt want to drag me down. Yet you acted as if we were a wonderful couple with no problems when we were physically together. And then when we weren't together, you were back to treating me as if I was an acquaintance. I'm tired of you playing with my heart. I'm tired of you not fighting for us. I'm tired of you not giving anymore efforts. I have to let you go, no matter how fucking painful it is. I always sacrificed myself for you. Now it's my turn to do something for myself. I gave you all of my love, but now it's my turn love myself again. I wish you all of the best, my dear. I hope you conquer your depression. I hope you reach your dreams and goals and make your family proud. Thank you for everything you've done up to this point. I hope that one day we will be genuinely happy for each other, even if we're in separate paths. So for now... this is goodbye. Goodbye to my first love.
@@iisaniis726 You too, dear. Whatever decision you make, I truly hope it brings you happiness. It will be extremely painful in the beginning, but it is the first step to healing. I wish you all the best love 🤍
@Matthew O'Neill I'm doing much better now, thank you for asking (: Never thought I'd get through the heartbreak, but here I am thriving and moving forward. Life goes on~
I wish I didn't have feelings. It is so painful having gotten so deeply in love with someone while you watch them lose feelings for you while still telling you that they love you.
Blake Kirkwood "if there is pain, nurse it. and if there’s a flame, don’t snuff it out. don’t be brutal with it. we rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty. But to make yourself feel nothing so as to feel anything" will not be the right things my dear. you’re beautiful, and you’re loved. You matter. live ✨
Ik it’s sucks I’m moving through the same thing rn , I just wanna say I LOVE YOU ❤️ sending you much love and peace to your sweet soul you will pass this storm we all will find someone who truly appreciate us and cares about our hearts and happiness hug your feelings and love your self ❤️ pls smile even if you didn’t feel like smiling ❤️
Be happy you have feelings because while they may sometimes hurt, it hurts way worse when you realize you are unable to feel anymore to some degree (All different degrees of this). Deploying to multiple Countries and seeing the nature of humans and then doing what I was sent there to do has made me numb to most things. I can care but I don’t know I can ever love the way a person deserves to be loved and it has destroyed many relationships. Keep your emotions and never let anything take them from you.
Currently going through the hardest breakup I’ve ever had. Crying my eyes out at 6am just wishing that I was enough and that he loved me the same way I loved him but he never did, and even after him telling me that, I stayed and let him hurt me. I always come back to this song, whether I’m happy, whether I’m sad for about 4 years now. This song means so much to me, it makes me feel less alone. Reading all the comments give me some sense of peace knowing I’m not the only one going through this right now. I will be okay, one day. So will all of you. ❤️
One day you'll love so much, that you won't even remember when you didn't love. You might not forget what you're going through now, but it will definitely make you stronger. Every stage of our life, every human entering or leaving our hearts, every moment or emotion, is either blessing or a lesson. We need all of it. Take a deep breath and smile, this might be that 5 second break your heart needs right now. Smile :)
My husband just told me he doesn’t love me anymore. I loved this song when I was 17 during my first big heartbreak and it’s even better (in the saddest way) at 22.
You are still so you and you will find love again. And believe it or not you have enough time to find it more than once. Hope you are okay 3 years now.
its really cool seeing the comments and people being supportive and all for each other and are all going through the same kind of situations relative to this song, the internet does have some good people
I feel like the one thing worse than a heartbreak is having that same person try to remain friends with you. Essentially having to watch their life go on from afar while you realize you no longer play as significant of a part as you could have. I never got to tell him I love him, but he knows. I'm just not the one.
It's crazy how everyone here is feeling the same pain, just on different levels. We all are going through such different and yet the same thing. But we're all sobbing here alone. I knew I was messy once it was 2am and instead of doing my homework I'm sobbing to this song. Hell man... I know you can't control your feelings Jake, I know you don't feel the same. And it just fucking sucks. Oh my god it fucking sucks. We always had that connection but I guess the feeling wasn't ever mutual. Despite how obvious you made it seems at times. I know you never wished to break my heart but it breaks a little every day. I know I'll be okay. I know I won't always be crying every night. But right now this is my life. Wishing on a boy who can't control his feelings. Just like I can't.... Fuck this sucks so fucking bad my soul aches.
The second time around when we got back together my guard was up. I gave you another chance when I shouldn't have, but my love for you outweighed that feeling of turning away from you. This time I let you get closer than ever. I told you I love you. You said it back, but I could tell there was an emptiness when you said it. Should have called it right then and there, but my love for you outweighed that feeling of walking away. Let my guard down. Now Im here, again just like the first time. Listening to this fucking song. I still love you princess, damn it... I'd do it all again. Goodbye Irena.
MrA1Shooter I know how you feel completely. My ex told me he loved me as a way to get me to dtay when I was leaving him after discovering he had been cheating on me, messaging his ex and other women behind my back. Here I am, 12 months later exactly, still suffering and under his control. He was given 11 chances from December until April, then in June. He kept going back to his old ways but lying to me about doing anything, and now all he does is abuse me and blame me for not telling him I loved him sooner. As if that would have changed anything. I say goodbye every few days to him, we love to hate eachother. I hate to admit that he could do it all again and I would still stick around. I love him, but it is sad love. There is nothing pleasant about feeling this way, and I hate when he tells me he loves me because what he did to me.. was not what people do if they love someone. I'm stuck, I'm grieving over something that was never really mine and every day he bullies me for not going back to him due to his past choices. It is hard, but it has to get better some day. It has to.
Tonight I have to go talk to the girl I'm completely in love with, and accept that this is the reality because she can't let people in.. greatest person I could have ever been paired with and she doesn't know how to fix herself to the point that she may have to uproot and change her life.. tonight I get to watch Christmas morning come and know that I lost what could have been the best part of my life.. I hate it so much, all I wanted was Christmas with her and it turns out I lose her for Christmas, and there may be nothing I can do to save it...
Steph Phair stay strong.... love is beautiful but very challenging.... life is your so you know better what choices you have.... keep your head up and never let anyone to hurt you..... there is light at end of tunnel. May God bless you
I left you because I'm tired. Tired of doing my best for you, however I can't change the fact that you can't love me back, now I just told you that I'll leave and go. I'm strong but I'm very tired, I want to lay down and rest from these turbulent feelings. I gave you all my time and efforts and in the process, I forgot myself. I've felt everything and you didn't feel a thing. I've realized that I need to stop from this unhealthiness and feel alive again, so I need to accept that I can't make you love me. I will forget about you someday but please don't forget me who was once your friend and lover. :') (: I'll do my best to smile and be happy.
feelings felt by many, but some of us don't know how to say it... especially in such a powerful way... everything will be okay in the end... so if thing's aren't okay, just remember that it isn't the end...
I'd miss her, but she was never truly there Just a vacuous bed-ridden dream A whisper in a cold afternoon, a speck in the rain Nothing. Nothing at all. Yet she visits me every single night
+Lacy Flora now y'all being to talk. soon you two learn you have a lot in common. long distance love happens. While both of you are cat fishing each other xP
I've never thought that I would actually fall so deeply in love with anybody. I believed in love but I've never found it this good, this special, this enormous, fascinating, full of greatness feeling. I never knew it would hit me this hard. But I did fell in love. And I did wanted to give my all, and I did. And I loved, and I lust. And I suffered every pain and loss. It changed me a lot. Because it broke me, I guess...the most beautiful heartbreak. And I didn't mind it, because I was offering my soul and you were taking my soul and it felt good. And I went throught the most loving painful heart and soulbreak. I loved you so much......I can't even describe it. I have no words to tell you what you meant. I wrote about you, I dreamt about you, I loved every second of even only thinking about you and I adored not being able to sleep because of crying, because I couldn't have you. But I did have you. Inside my heart, and I don't mind keeping you there even though I now have someone in my life, who, trust me, is trying his best to somehow make me love him as much as I loved you. He would never make me love him not even as much as I loved you when your hands touched mine. I'm no longer in love with you, honey, but I will always keep the memory of your love. That was the only thing that made me feel alive. I will always love you, every single part of you. It would take me a lifetime to finally be able to completely fall out of love, to finally be able to say that I would never go back to you. ...and even a lifetime is not promised.
For once, this comment exactly captures the actual falling in love. Not just a crush, relationship or something. Actually falling in love. I guess we only understand it's power when it happens to us. I would have never fully understood the depth of it just a day before I actually fell in love. And it stays. For better or for worse, it stays. I wouldn't wish this heartbreak on anyone.
GamingGalaxy I know I’m a year too late for this comment, but stay strong. And don’t do it for anyone but yourself. YOU, are the only person that knows YOU, best. Love hurts. Sometimes in a good way, and sometimes in a bad way. When your life throws a, “heartbreak screwball” in your direction, most of the time it hits you right in the chest at a solid 100mph. And it’s at times like these, that parole are the most vulnerable. Of course ever situation is different, so, no one will ever know how you feel/felt. They’ll tell you, “it’ll get better, just hang in there, you’ll find someone else”. But you know, it’s not that easy. That you can’t think that. Because that love you had, for said person, was more than likely, irreplaceable. You can’t get them off your mind. Your chest aches with a pain, that you’d rather die than feel, and, with that, comes the worst feeling ever. Loss. I only know this, because a girl I’ve loved since day one, dropped my heart from space, and let it crash to the earth, and didn’t even feel bad. And that’s what I felt. But, the bright side to this message, is that it does get better. It never feels like it will, and shit, I still feel this pain. But, the sun always has to set before it rises. And I don’t know if your sun has risen yet. But if it hasn’t, then just know it will. There’s always someone you can talk to. Don’t let them feed you bullshit. And don’t talk to the ones that shove advice down your throat left and right. Find a person that listens, with true intentions on helping you. They should sit and listen to you. Hear your problems, and genuinely try to help. That person will be your best friend at times like these. All you need is an ear to listen. And unfortunately, no one does that anymore. There’s very few that still do. Idk. I hope this helps. Even though I’m late. Stay strong. ~Your friendly neighborhood tattooed guy~
it's so hard when you have this perfect idea of how you and another person could be happy together but they just don't share that idea and you have to carry on about your life because you cant change that person's heart and there's nothing you can do to make everything perfect
wow
Molly Norris fuck, now im crying
Molly Norris so true!
So so true..living that now
That's true. I've always had a problem with that. I need to learn how to accept it and continue on with my life.
It’s almost 2 years since she left...and I still love her.
She’s out there living life with someone new...and better. And I’m here. Just surviving man.
Update: Its been almost 5 years. I am over her, she contacted me a few month ago. She hadn’t changed much but I have. Sometimes love is better lost, since she left I’ve become a better version of myself. I was able to love again. Though it didn’t work out. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. Trust the process. Take care of yourself. Life is good.
It's a month from what would have been four years from the first time we met. She's been gone for more than three years. But we aren't just surviving, we are growing, we are learning, and we will be happy
I thought the same thing. Fast forward three more years, I’m listening to this song while doing homework. I can hear my wife in the other room singing our newborn son to sleep. It gets better.
Time heals all, took me 3 years to get over an ex. It’ll soon be a distant memory that you’ll never fully forget but it’ll no longer hold any power over your happiness. Stay strong my guy. 👑
Its been two months and 3 days since he broke up with me and I still catch myself crying at random times in the day and night. Everywhere I go whether its my home, the drive to work, starbucks, my job, I think of him and his smile and the memories and how much love we had. Its the worst feeling being in love with somebody that wants nothing to do with you anymore.
I've been through that but I've learnt not to beat myself up about it
it's been two months since the love of my life left me. the feelings are starting to go away because I forget what its like to have her in my arms, to kiss her, make love to her. I know if I saw her again all them feelings would come rushing back.
its just as hard falling out of love with someone very painful to slowly loss the feelings u once had
+Alexandra Labrada Had that for 9 months. I feel you.
Sending some love to everyone on here who's feeling pain, sadness or at a loss.
Life is a gift. I hope you all find strength and the ability to open your eyes and see what we have here and all the beautiful reasons to live. People come and go and we end up feeling all kinds of emotions but so long as somewhere someone loves you or you love yourself then things aren't all bad. Love and peace. x
thank you
I'm in a 4-year relationship and I feel like it's about to end. I still love him, but i can't force him to keep loving me when he has already exhausted all the love he could give. I wish, sometimes, especially at this point, while listening to this, I wish I could go back to what I was and where I was 4 years ago. I wish I hadn't met him. I wish I met someone better.
But I am a mere human ; powerless. I can't change things and I can't make him love me forever.
He will love you forever.love never dies
Jamie Sullivan what happened in the end?
Same here. I’m after breaking up after not so long one year and a half. It was hard and still it’s hard to cope with this. We broke up three days ago and I still can’t believe how things escalated and how things went. We were constantly arguing and he hated this relationship but I tried so hard. He said he couldn’t love me anymore as before and day by day everything faded away. I would try to get him back and things wouldn’t work I wouldn’t get him back same way as it was. We said we should give each other a break and we didn’t talk for a month. We met after a long while and he said he couldn’t commit to a relationship anymore. And he said he wants to be friend with me and we’re talking still. I want to get over this. It’s hard to cope with.
@@cristinalarosa9389 i hope youre doing better ❤ talking still must make things harder
I loved you, but to you, I was just a girl. I thought it was real, but in the end, it was all a joke to you. I love you still, but you love her...
Same :(
+Roxanne boo 😔✌
relatable :(
I'm so sorry
same here ...
Just a reminder that things do get better. I remember lists to this song years ago, crying my heart out over a breakup with someone I loved so much, gave everything to. And he left without even really breaking up with me. I felt so alone and confused. When he returned things were not the same. He used me, and I remember feeling so disgusted with love and broken. This song helped me feel those feelings.
Fast forward to now, I’m almost 6 years married to a wonderful man & have the most beautiful little girl in the world. Life isn’t perfect but I’m so thankful to have found love again.
I couldn’t make the first guy love me, as much as a wanted him to. But that’s okay, I found something so much better and so much more satisfying.
Bon Iver - I Can't Make You Love Me
Turn down the lights,
Turn down the bed,
Turn down these voices,
Inside my head
Lay down with me,
Tell me no lies,
Just hold me close,
Don't patronize me [x2]
Cause I can't make you love me
If you don't,
You can't make your heart feel
Something it won't,
Here in the dark,
These final hours
I will lay down my heart
And I feel the power
But you don't,
No you don't
Cause I can't make you love me,
If you don't [x2]
No, you won't
I'll close my eyes,
No, I won't see
The love you don't feel,
When you're holding me
Morning will come,
And I'll do what's right
Just give me till then
To give up this fight
And I will give up this fight...
Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
I can't make your heart feel,
Something it won't,
Here in the dark
These final hours
I will lay down my heart
And I feel the power
But you don't,
No you don't
I can't make you love me if you don't
If you don't,
No you, no you won't
I found love darlin' [x5]
Love in the nick of time
I found love darlin' yeah,
Love in the nick of time
Um you know this is a lyric video....
xDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD
You want to be strong and never give up that fight to win back her heart, but then you realize you can't control how she feels. You remember how incredibly happy you both were when you were in each other's arms, but something, somehow changed her mind. Friends would tell me how the chemistry me and my ex had was just incredible to witness, that they've never seen anything like it, but then it's over in a flash. You just wish you had a second chance to fix whatever went wrong, that surely that relationship was worth saving, but she might not think the same, it is torturous.
It’s been over a year since I first heard this song. I still listen to it regularly, almost everyday. It has helped me with my insomnia and restlessness I experience at times. It’s such a relaxing song and music video despite being a heartbreak song lol. Just really grateful it exists. It’s truly therapeutic.
Everything about this cover is beautiful
Cover? This is the original.
Kasey Smith No. Bonnie Raitt sing the original. But I think Bon Iver sing it much better!
Cry everytime..... This song is only beautiful, when Bon Iver is singin!
Just unreal, so many feels
İşte yakaladın! İyi ki varsın! Yeni yıl sana sürprizlerle gelsin Zeynep
Yiaaa çok teşekkürlerrr.
This screams "serene" in the most serene way possible.
you know youre totally fucked if you listen to this song and agree with every single word.
I remember exactly one month ago... i was alone under a thousand stars, but comforted by your consoling voice. We used to call each other everyday. Must have been the happiest moments ive lived. But fast forward to today and damn.. i feel like ive lost you for a year already. Alongside the feeling of longing for anything that has to do with you, comes the pain that is seemingly perpetual. Now as i look at the stars at night i cant help but feel this familiarity when i associate you with them... and this novelty which comes from realizing that we'll never make memories like those again.
I met the love of my life, we shared thoughts that would make me daydream, we talked about science, philosophy, music, and the relation between all, even when I was asleep I felt a warmth like an orange sun. The life poured out my chest with brightness, her freckles were stars. But now, after she started to shift away, a cloud passed by the sky, a storm shredded my tears, erasing the constellations and I had no other way than to take cover, and travel far from the rainy lands. Every time we come back, it's still raining.... I am not a religious man, but I pray to God to make the water, the agony, go away and let us be together.
ARQ GDS you are amazing
Can we exchange emails?
How is it possible that someone becomes a part of you forever but never again will be a part of your life.
"I never told you that I love you". This was the exact lines he said to me. It's breaking. Really breaking and I have no choice but to still see him everyday because we are living in the same house and I can't leave because of lockdown and my house is miles away from where I am now💔
Alam kong busy ka sa pangarap mo alam kong walang chance. Ingatan mo palagi sarili mo haha kung ayawan ka man nila andito lang ako. :(
We are here because we felt love and we have given love ....we had the courage to give our hearts ...that trust will return "Failure is not the opposite of success it's a part of it"
Lay down with me tell me no lies.
I remember feeling so lonely aching to have the right person for me. Now I can say that I'm glad I waited for him. He's my BEST FRIEND. God sent him to me. He came to ME. Don't rush, or be unhappy until it gets here, let it come. In its own mysterious way.
the song's so damn good that the comment section's full of people expressing their feelings
Bon iver helping every one...
Thx justin.
:)
(and yes i know its not the official youtube channel)
She broke my heart 11 years ago and I'm still reeling from it :(
Im glad i feel the pain atleast i know it was real....You were real
my worst fear was people being together for years and suddenly one loses feelings after all the memories... and it happened to me. My worst fear happened and I feel like a piece of me will always be missing but I have to just get used to the idea of never having that again. I know I'll never want anyone else or trust anyone else now. Love is beautiful but also hurtful...
Maybe in the after life you can give away the love I gave you. All these years I was clueless and numb thinking it was just for fun but as soon as you are gone it all came back to me that I miss you
Nothing brings us together like heartache.
i am here cuz of after
was in a 3 and a half year relationship and was always the one who was more in love then the other .. you can't force emotions out of someone . and when he finally showed me what I was looking for, it was too late
Atleast i still enjoy the view and the music
I met her at the tail end of my senior year. We've quickly become best friends and I love her to bits but I really don't think she wants to reciprocate romantic love. I've spent my entire relationship with her trying to measure up to her perfect ex boyfriend who cheated on her with his roommate in michigan. She always loved him. And it hurts really bad to see all that love pointed at someone who utterly devastated her so bad. Someone who isn't me
i love everyone in the comments. i just feel bad bc everyone's here bc of their own heartbreaks and im over here bc i was watching an edit of one of my favorite kdrama's third lead. good luck to you all 사랑해
To my favorite what i--
I prayed to God for you... fervently prayed to have you. I want you so much it hurts.
Pray to God to heal your precious heart ! One day at a time, you got this. ♡ The Lord is with you. Don't forget to love yourself.
Magnificent
have you ever found that perfect person.A person you have really good chemistry and connection.someone who feels totally different.i did,But she don't feel the same way....Anymore
Note to self: don't ever fall in love again. K?
Note to others: I hope you're all doing well, with whatever path you choose or direction you wanna go. Lots of luck and warm regards~~
I heard dylan geick sing this song and it was dope and this version is good too
Where's this place?
Hoek van Holland
I wrote out my heart, but the autoplay function played the next song before I could hit the Blue COMMENT button. FML
i just wanna love myself, just even like myself
You will
Suffering this heartbreak is better than being with the wrong person. Stay strong everyone.
you're right, thanks :)
You are so fucking right, thanks buddy.
Both of those things beat loneliness.
so true!
That comment just opened my eyes. Thanks man
I didn't sign the permission slip for this feels trip.
yeah niether did I
+Yung Barce This comment is legendary!
your comment brought a smile to my face lol
AMAZING 😆😆😆
Yung Barce lmao
I sometimes come here just to read the comments. I wanna hug all of you.
🤗
😘
could use it
For real mahn😣
Damn, it's been two years since I commented here. For anyone else perusing this thread, I just want you to know that there is someone out there who will love you the way you deserve to be loved, and you will find them. It might not be tomorrow, it might not even be this year or the year after that, but they are out there. I promise you that this isn't some pseudo-inspirational jargon. Keep holding on.
maybe it’s a good thing we can’t make them love us. we deserve someone who’s really interested in our happiness, that really want us. what’s the point of being with someone who doesn’t recognize you? although it hurts like hell, we will be loved by someone we don’t need to feel like an unworthy and unwanted person
but where is the guarantee that we will love them back in the right way... i mean i know what i am talking about and i feel myself so selfish bc i just kinda replace missing attention from another person (?) sorry for this
@@cat_tharsis hi!! so, when i say that we deserve to be loved, it implies that the other person also deserves it. the fact is that we should only be with someone if this someone also wants u! its reciprocity in this case
Love should be a two way street. Its impossible to love someone long term without the same love back. Eventually, you will hurt. Even if you try to brave it. You WILL hurt. Unrequited love is a bitch for sure
Smithy 222008 for sure!!
Thats real
When I listen to this song, I think about my brother. For 20 years, he tried to stay with us, battling depression every step of the way. 3 years ago, it finally took him. For the first year, I was so clouded by anger and confusion, I couldn't understand why he would leave us, especially without even saying goodbye. It wasn't until i heard this song that I truly understood how he felt. Depression has a sick way of hiding itself. He believed that hiding his pain was keeping us happy, always smiling and laughing to keep us from worrying about him, as his true emotions slowly drained his spirit. The lyrics in this song resonate with me and help me understand how he felt. No matter how hard we tried, we could never help him love himself the way we loved him. Now all I have to do is let him go, and enjoy my life like he always wanted me to. Every now and them I see him when I dream, and the only words i can ever find are, "I missed you." He never says anything, just smiles at me and hugs me, giving me reassurance that he's still with me, and is finally happy. I can't wait for the day I get to see him again, but for now, I stay looking forward and focus on living the life I wanted him to live. Miss you brother, there will never be another.
❤
I lost my brother too...this pain will never go away 💔
Thanks for sharing this with the world, Spencer. We are all in the middle of this journey with no real compass to guide us, and words like yours are so important for so many people who feel lonely, confused and misunderstood.
Spencer Lyons thanks for sharing your testimony. All of you touched my heart!! The reality of the situation is that even if we had a compass, would we follow it guidance. I believe more often than not, we enjoy the uncomfortableness of uncertainty buried deep inside our natural desire for adventure. Spencer, I truly am sorry for your brother loss, but I can reassure for sure, he’s in a much better place, in much better hands that anyone here could have offered him, else it wouldn’t have been part of the lesson plan, take good care you guys, it was a pleasure exchanging words in harmony as complete strangers,
So much respect for you my friend. That really moved me, take care and carry on. You're a very good man. God bless your brother. You'll see him again one day.
The hardest part of being strong is that no one asks if you're okay.. you just hold it in inside, all alone :/
yeah...
+Ck Cangmah true
Are you okay?
Thats why i started lifting so i can carry all these feels
that's true :/
What I love about TH-cam comments is that people can use this section to vent there feelings and there are strangers willing to read them and give them advice and so on. That goes to show the world has good people. To everyone reading this stay blessed God made someone for everyone because he doesn't want to see us lonely.
thank you for this
yes!!!! ❤💞💕 sml
Chelly Quamie thank you!that is really sweet of you
Fuck you
Everyone on here is so different: race, religion, sex, dreams, desires, fears, orientation, careers, age, beliefs....but if you read these comments, you see a collective suffering. And if only for 5 minutes, everyone here feels each other and forgets what and who they are to share the pain. That's what music is... Bringing people together if only for the song to forget what separates us and remember what connects us all
vary true Scott now if only every in the world would get that throw they're head. the future would be so much brighter then it is now n I would not have worry about what type of future my kids will have deal with. life is short n to perishes n earth is are birth place I for one still cant see why we cant get along. we band together in times of needed why cant we just get it throw are heads that we can do so much more n make this world so much better place. maybe one day
this is perfect
you should write a book. do us all a favor. This is awesome.
Isabell Wyll I appreciate that. Ironically enough I published a book a few years ago about a girl I loved and lost.. :)
agree
"You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens."
- Rumi
Needed that.
Damn thats deep. Thats true
wow.
Nice one..
Rumi is a funny one because the translation took out his devoted Islamic faith. If you add in the overt religiosity (imo) it ruins the human message. I don't think Rumi would be as popular in the west if it'd been included.
The guy who translated him (Bark) and popularised his work was a poet, I think he is the one with the gift to speak to our heart.
I read some Rumi with the God bits not excluded and it's very different.
It's crazy how much you're willing to get yourself hurt just so the other person can be happy. You fake a smile and act as if everything's ok but it's not alright you feel miserable while they're having fun with someone else. No matter how much you try with someone else your mind only ends up thinking about them.
I tried to distract myself from her. Tried to get my mind away and be with someone else for a while, just so I could forget. So I could stop feeling for her, and try to feel for someone else. It didn't work. Everything I did with this other girl constantly reminded me of her. I always wanted to do what I was doing with her with the one I love instead. The feeling was awful. I know exactly what you mean.
shit happend 💯
but...being loved by someone and not being able to love him/her back....is just as painful
+Daisy Jane is it?
I totally agree. it hurts and you can't tell anyone how you feel coz at the end of the day, they don't really care. I wish I could tell people how I really feel. the hurt of them with someone else is one of the most painful feelings you can experience.
It took me about two months to realized that no matter how long you've been with someone or all the things you've been through with this person it doesn't matter because a person's feelings can change and even if you think that after all you guys had together you'll never lose this person but in truth you can lose them in the blink of an eye
Oh...if it only took 2 months for me. I miss things that only took 2 months to figure out...
its took 2 seconds for me to cry over this
Ano Tortladze Me too
+CumberdaleProduction imagine... if you could have had a great time with a person that doesn't in fact love you... how good it gets when you find someone who loves you back...think about it
Billie Joan I know, lots of people fallen for the wrong person and when they find the right person it'll be amazing but it's just.. hard to forget everything we've experienced with this "wrong" person.
Jessu fuck. i can't deal with this
ohh hey there, kudos to you for having such a nice taste in music ;)
MrRepzion what the hell 😂
This was 10 months ago. How are you now
J e S s U
Well ,funny running into you here.
it sucks being so close to someone and loving them a certain way, but they love you in only a friendship kind of way and you just accept it how it is because of how much you love them.
oh lord. same ):
realest comment here
it really sucks!
the pain of love..
+Miranduhh 17
I feel you. :(
I first listened to this song years ago going through my first heart ache.
I’m now engaged to the love of my life and the person who this song reminds me of is a distant memory. Things get better x
💜
I fell in love with a girl 5 years ago and she didn’t want anything to do with me at the time, and I’d lay in my bed crying to this song thinking about her… Here we are in a 3 year long dating relationship and I’m proposing next month. You’re right, it does get better.
Love in the knick of time
So far away as you made this comment : [
to everyone that is heartbroken, don't worry it gets better. I grew up thinking love was the best feeling ever, but it can just as easily be the worst. I was so strongly in love with a girl who didn't love me back for three years, I could never get her off my mind and I just wished at the time that I would say something but I knew she didn't feel the same. I was lead on for years, I then met the woman of my dreams out of nowhere and couldn't be happier with her. The girl I spent years waiting for will always have a special place in my heart but time is the best healer. Loving someone can be hard, I hope everyone hangs on in there because I spent many nights feeling worthless and rejected and here I am today. Hang on guys
jay 😌😌😌
Hey, Jay. you will find the one, who loves you back. dont worry, your time will come :)))
Didn't ask for your life story you muppet.
LOL! What a tosser he is - Sad act with nothing better to do xD
glad you found someone man everyone deserves to love
a broken heart will never be the same again
Sebo Gejus KellerGmbH yeah fuck that bitch
and it’s unfair to those who try so desperately to fix it. im sick of falling for people who refuse to fall for me just as deeply. sigh
Aurora oh I feel you!
Alexi Karppi It’s never the same
Sebo Gejus KellerGmbH yes if you're a weakling.
Why am I here every time in the middle of the night
My queen I’m so shook to see you here
You're not alone
girl i knew i liked you for a reason
to everyone who's experiencing the hell of a heart break.. take time to be sad , to reminisce and to let go, you are strong and you will get through it, it will make you into a better stronger and wiser you i promise
My girlfriend fell out of love and left me so many times Only to come back again wasting me away, making me hurt so much. And when she finally left my life it was bittersweet, I was so glad to be free
But I had just lost the love of my life for eight months
And some parts of her are still in my brain, no matter how much I pry at them to get out.
I'm afraid I'll never love anyone else the way I was in love with her, with all of her.
I can't make her love me
But a piece of me will always love her in someway
no matter how much I don't want to.
Thank you for listening.
❤
❤️
I feel you bro💔
Time always heals your pain remember that
❤ Please come back to say u r ok
it was july the 10th.
we went on a 2 day camping trip in class.
I had always been in love with you - I wan't kind of *into you* like people expect teenagers to be.
You were my first real love.
We playded hide or seek or something and you told me to follow you because you planned to hide in the forest.
We hid behind that really big oaktree, I couldn't stop laughing but you didn't want them to hear and find us so you took my hand and we went deeper into the forest.
We just sat there and I told you I was afraid you took me into your arms and told me I didn't had to.
We heard them calling our names but we didn't care.
I was freezing so I asked you when we'd go back to the tent.
You told me after you did -
and then you kissed me -
It was pure perfection .
some people say your first kiss is gross.
some say they didn't know what to do.
but mine was perfect.
I felt your lips. And I stopped thinking .
I don't remember anything but that perfect feeling. And I was so unbelievable happy. I just didn't want it to end ever again. Never.
I don't really remember what happend next. The next thing I know is us laying in your tent and your arm around me. we were talking almost till the sunrise.
I wish I could go back in time and enjoy these days more.
We never were a couple we kept being friends and it seemed like you forgot it. I guess you never felt the same. I guess for you it was just an experience. But to me it meant so much.
Now we're in different schools.
We don't text that much anymore .
that's sad.
To be in love is a perfect feeling but it's also the saddest thing I ever experienced incase you're not loved back.
I miss you J.
I really miss you.
but maybe we were really just kids in love and now your grown up.
I guess I'll never stop doodeling s+j everywhere
but maybe that's what your first love - your first heartbreak feels like.
♡
Crying
+Alii En me too :'(
girl! publish that shit!
I cri :'(
Yeah.. it's a very sad story :( i followed you, Eoghan!
"May your heart remain breakable, but never by the same hand twice"
I remember this line from taylor swift
and then there is me who fell back on it again
@@graceadan4496 Yes it is!
From her "I Knew You Were Trouble" music video.
what a great quote ❤❤
The video is just another slap on the back of my head. When I think of him I see the sea and early mornings and coffee and cigs and randomly smiling. We fucked up each other so bad and the people around us. I'll never love him the way he did and does and that's scary, I thought I'll love him forever. I seem to have no feelings for anyone. what happened to me I want the old me back
Ofelia T there are people who come around that change your whole world. Not only how you view love or whatever but who you actually are as a person. You never forget them and after an event like that happens to you, you can't possibly be the same person after. You get so wrecked that it takes so long to pick up the pieces that when you do finally get them together, you forget how they fit together to begin with. You make a new puzzle out of the same pieces. You become a new you, for better or worse. Good luck my friend, it will get better. I promise.
Ofelia T Yeah, the scariest thing ever. 💍
Never related to someone so much...
Ofelia T you're still you..
Inside a hug you can do anything. Smile and cry. Resuscitate or die. Or you can stop the time and stay there forever, like that was the last one. Anyone related?
Yes. Yes it is
That was poetry
Daisy Pollini when i read this,suddenly,i miss my daughters.and i start to cry like a baby.
sweet words.may your life as sweet as your words. :)
Daisy Pollini I love you
"Never trust a hug - it's just a way to hide your face..."
Who's cutting onions in the room damn
in the chat*
It really hurts knowing the only person you will always have feelings for has no interest in you. It hurts seeing them flirt with others and giving them the attention that you wish they would give to you. And what hurts more is pretending like it's not killing you inside every time they walk past you and you have no way of talking to them or getting closer. Regardless the many attempts i've made at getting over this guy and moving on, I always find myself thinking about him through the smallest things. I can't fight this feeling, but at the same time I don't want to. Though I know for sure it would never work out, I keep setting myself up for a trap that I get caught in. It feels like a never ending maze. It just won't stop.
i feel you😢😢😢
+Lulu truth Everything stops, everyting slow down, everything turn down... Just remember that one feelings are coming and others are going, and this is the sence of life: we need to have bad times to distinguish good times. Each love is like a small life, so keep searching for your life :)
I feel you on that too. except I had him, twice. it just won't work between us though, for multiple reasons. He has a lot of growing up to do. The love is there, but it can't seem to stay. :(
You speak to me. I feel what you are saying. This is one of the toughest things life has to offer. Keep it up, one of them are going to work
I hope so... one day.
Anyone else mad deppresed looking through the comments like me
Hey hope you’re okey :( 💛?
@@sherlocklittlefriend4140 unfortunately not thanks though
@@TobyHerbert do you want to talk ? to a stranger who you will never see and probably in the other end of earth ?
It’s so crazy when you realize it doesn’t even matter if they love you back, you feel the same anyway
I'm sorry, Liz. I loved you with all my heart, and we were together for 3 years, but you just picked up and left and I can't live with myself right now because I have no idea what I did wrong. I miss you so much every day, and I just wanted to let you know I still love you, and that I miss you, and for whatever I did wrong I'm sorry. Please, don't leave me like this.
Stay strong, everything will be okay❤️
Julie Enriquez thank you..
you will be okay. I think we will all be okay someday..
Claudia Rönnau I sure hope so.
+Matthew Gonzalez I guess you have to do something for it as well. It will take some time to get over someone you loved once. First you have to find peace with yourself, stop blmaing yourself. You didnt fuck up, it was HER decision to leave and that was not because you werent enough. This might not help you but some people arent meant to stay together, people come in your life to make a difference but not everyone is meant to stay...
Loving someone is a blessing and a curse, its just over sometimes before you can even realise it completely. But it will be okay, we will all be okay, we will all find someone who will stay no matter what we do and we will stay with them no matter what they do. You dont have to firget her and what you had, thats impossible. But you have to use it to continue in life and learn from whatever mistakes you might have made.
The second verse kills me. The whole "give me till then to give up this fight" the concept of knowing what's coming but just having that one last chance to savour it. It breaks my heart because sometimes we don't realize that we are experiencing that. We don't know it's the last time we will get to hold someone. Because sometimes it comes out of nowhere. Always appreciate every second you get with someone you love because you never know if they're going to leave the next morning and anything can happen.
Yeah that’s what I went through, got absolutely blindsided, wish I could go back to that last night and never let her go
My ex left me 3 years ago, and i have been single since. Because honestly, i am scared to fall in love with someone again to only find out in the end, that they never really loved me back. She admitted, that the whole time she did not truly love me, which broke my understanding of love. I feel in a way, that i am a fool, for i have tried to get her back, but....you cant make somebody love you, this song helps me understand that. I feel for all the broken hearted, and all of the lonely lovers. Someday maybe, we'll be happy again. It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone. Sometimes, the past catches up to you wether you want it to or not.
Same... And it sucks. :(
max calver Oh Max...I'm sure you will find someone that will help you to heal all your wounds. Love is the only thing that can heal everything. You will know when that person arrives. You will feel it. And when it happens, just let her in. Even if you're scared. I know it won't be easy, but you need to try. Do not stop trying. Just believe.
Truth
We accept the love we think we deserve.
the perks of being a wallflower
Yes, the most beautiful book/movie ever :)
have you read 'the fault in our stars'? It's breathtaking
lini- Bikini you're a carrot fan aren't you?
Carrot? :D
Yes, it's a awesome vegetable :D
lini- Bikini THE FAULT IN OUR STARS IS BEAUTIFUL AND AUGUSTUS WATERS IS SO PERF!!!
Saddest story behind the lyrics.. I really feel for the guy who inspired this song.
"The idea for the song came to Reid while reading an article about a man arrested for getting drunk and shooting at his girlfriend's car. The judge asked him if he had learned anything, to which he replied, "I learned, Your Honor, that you can't make a woman love you if she don't."
You guys in the comments, you are amazing! Absolutely amazing. You are confessing your loves in a way the person should see this can't see. You are all afraid to not to be loved but you don't give up on loving. You are beautiful and inspiring human beings and You think you are a coward but in the inside, you are all have courage for holding the world on your shoulders. You have only this life. Just one lifetime. Use it. It can go wrong or it can upset you but don't forget, there is always hope. You should just go for it. I love you all and all of your feelings. 💚 You hold the universe inside you 🌌
Thank you.
Ayça Asude Şahin you are so inspiring you truly are 😄
Thank you. I needed this
to: him
from: me
You were my first love. You showed me the beauty of the world and convinced me to stay. It was a beautiful relationship that we had. We shared so many happy moments. We laughed together. We cried together. We never fought. We always talked things through. But now you've grown complacent. While my love grew stronger everyday for you, you stayed the same. The efforts you used to make soon became less and less. You told me that you couldn't see a future with me. That you were unsure of your own future and that you didnt want to drag me down. Yet you acted as if we were a wonderful couple with no problems when we were physically together. And then when we weren't together, you were back to treating me as if I was an acquaintance. I'm tired of you playing with my heart. I'm tired of you not fighting for us. I'm tired of you not giving anymore efforts. I have to let you go, no matter how fucking painful it is. I always sacrificed myself for you. Now it's my turn to do something for myself. I gave you all of my love, but now it's my turn love myself again. I wish you all of the best, my dear. I hope you conquer your depression. I hope you reach your dreams and goals and make your family proud. Thank you for everything you've done up to this point. I hope that one day we will be genuinely happy for each other, even if we're in separate paths.
So for now... this is goodbye.
Goodbye to my first love.
Coming from someone who’s been thinking of doing the same thing, I felt this so deeply. It’ll all be okay soon 🤍 I promise
@@iisaniis726 You too, dear. Whatever decision you make, I truly hope it brings you happiness. It will be extremely painful in the beginning, but it is the first step to healing. I wish you all the best love 🤍
@Matthew O'Neill I'm doing much better now, thank you for asking (: Never thought I'd get through the heartbreak, but here I am thriving and moving forward. Life goes on~
Can I ask how old you are? I’m 32 and facing something similar. It’s hard after so many years.
I'm so sorry to hear that @@oneperson2person ): How are you dear? I'm in my mid 20s.
I miss you.
who are you. . . ?
Who are you?
I'm not certain.
+savanah rose my name jeff
go away jeff
I wish I didn't have feelings. It is so painful having gotten so deeply in love with someone while you watch them lose feelings for you while still telling you that they love you.
Blake Kirkwood "if there is pain, nurse it. and if there’s a flame, don’t snuff it out. don’t be brutal with it. we rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty. But to make yourself feel nothing so as to feel anything" will not be the right things my dear. you’re beautiful, and you’re loved. You matter. live ✨
Believe me, when a right person comes, you will be grateful to have feelings because you will love her like nobody else, keep your head up my friend.
Ik it’s sucks I’m moving through the same thing rn , I just wanna say I LOVE YOU ❤️ sending you much love and peace to your sweet soul you will pass this storm we all will find someone who truly appreciate us and cares about our hearts and happiness hug your feelings and love your self ❤️ pls smile even if you didn’t feel like smiling ❤️
I feel this.
Be happy you have feelings because while they may sometimes hurt, it hurts way worse when you realize you are unable to feel anymore to some degree (All different degrees of this). Deploying to multiple Countries and seeing the nature of humans and then doing what I was sent there to do has made me numb to most things. I can care but I don’t know I can ever love the way a person deserves to be loved and it has destroyed many relationships. Keep your emotions and never let anything take them from you.
I've spent 4 years trying to forget someone I gave everything to. Some days I don't think of her, but today I did. Today I did.
What a boy today?
@@narakaren2571 not today, at least not until I read my comment again lol
I know how you feel
Today...i did too
I cant believe i reached the point in my life were im so heart broken im sitting here crying writing this for a TH-cam comment 🙁
Erika Baeza keep going you're beautiful and important :)
well said
I hope it gets better for you.
hope u feel better now
Erika Maldonado Don't cry. It is all healed and gone by now for you today isn't it? God fixes everything with time.
Currently going through the hardest breakup I’ve ever had. Crying my eyes out at 6am just wishing that I was enough and that he loved me the same way I loved him but he never did, and even after him telling me that, I stayed and let him hurt me. I always come back to this song, whether I’m happy, whether I’m sad for about 4 years now. This song means so much to me, it makes me feel less alone. Reading all the comments give me some sense of peace knowing I’m not the only one going through this right now. I will be okay, one day. So will all of you. ❤️
One day you'll love so much, that you won't even remember when you didn't love. You might not forget what you're going through now, but it will definitely make you stronger. Every stage of our life, every human entering or leaving our hearts, every moment or emotion, is either blessing or a lesson. We need all of it. Take a deep breath and smile, this might be that 5 second break your heart needs right now. Smile :)
So sad 😥
@@sniegaremeikaite Thank you!
I hope you are better now!
I hope you’re doing much better now.
My husband just told me he doesn’t love me anymore. I loved this song when I was 17 during my first big heartbreak and it’s even better (in the saddest way) at 22.
I'm so sorry to hear. I hope you are okay ♥️
Stay strong
sending love
Sending love as well...
You are still so you and you will find love again. And believe it or not you have enough time to find it more than once. Hope you are okay 3 years now.
Stuck in the friendzone. I don't have to say more
s
+Alii En Same for me...
same...
I told my friend I loved her..
she said the same thing back to me...
and then it broke my heart when she said "as a friend"...
+Camille Shelly I feel ya:/
+Alii En
:(
its really cool seeing the comments and people being supportive and all for each other and are all going through the same kind of situations relative to this song, the internet does have some good people
Gay
Thats so true
Malice people respect and are supportive cause all of them do know how it hurts
I feel like the one thing worse than a heartbreak is having that same person try to remain friends with you. Essentially having to watch their life go on from afar while you realize you no longer play as significant of a part as you could have. I never got to tell him I love him, but he knows. I'm just not the one.
Yeah, going through that, after 2 years I just had to walk away… I hope she understands one day
It's crazy how everyone here is feeling the same pain, just on different levels. We all are going through such different and yet the same thing. But we're all sobbing here alone.
I knew I was messy once it was 2am and instead of doing my homework I'm sobbing to this song. Hell man... I know you can't control your feelings Jake, I know you don't feel the same. And it just fucking sucks. Oh my god it fucking sucks. We always had that connection but I guess the feeling wasn't ever mutual. Despite how obvious you made it seems at times. I know you never wished to break my heart but it breaks a little every day. I know I'll be okay. I know I won't always be crying every night. But right now this is my life. Wishing on a boy who can't control his feelings. Just like I can't.... Fuck this sucks so fucking bad my soul aches.
We are a family, a hurt family :(
I'd be willing to move heaven and earth for you, achieve the impossible for you... But I could never force you, I can't make you Love me...
the fact the person i think about while listening this could be listening this and thinking of someone else makes me sad
You didn't have to do this to me oh my
@@gilmorelvr950 to us * :((((((
Oof
Im with you there buddy
The second time around when we got back together my guard was up. I gave you another chance when I shouldn't have, but my love for you outweighed that feeling of turning away from you. This time I let you get closer than ever. I told you I love you. You said it back, but I could tell there was an emptiness when you said it. Should have called it right then and there, but my love for you outweighed that feeling of walking away. Let my guard down. Now Im here, again just like the first time. Listening to this fucking song. I still love you princess, damn it... I'd do it all again. Goodbye Irena.
same :(
MrA1Shooter oh my god.. that is the saddest thing i ve ever seen. be strong please. oh god.. :( made me cry . :(
MrA1Shooter I know how you feel completely. My ex told me he loved me as a way to get me to dtay when I was leaving him after discovering he had been cheating on me, messaging his ex and other women behind my back. Here I am, 12 months later exactly, still suffering and under his control. He was given 11 chances from December until April, then in June. He kept going back to his old ways but lying to me about doing anything, and now all he does is abuse me and blame me for not telling him I loved him sooner. As if that would have changed anything. I say goodbye every few days to him, we love to hate eachother. I hate to admit that he could do it all again and I would still stick around. I love him, but it is sad love. There is nothing pleasant about feeling this way, and I hate when he tells me he loves me because what he did to me.. was not what people do if they love someone. I'm stuck, I'm grieving over something that was never really mine and every day he bullies me for not going back to him due to his past choices. It is hard, but it has to get better some day. It has to.
Tonight I have to go talk to the girl I'm completely in love with, and accept that this is the reality because she can't let people in.. greatest person I could have ever been paired with and she doesn't know how to fix herself to the point that she may have to uproot and change her life.. tonight I get to watch Christmas morning come and know that I lost what could have been the best part of my life.. I hate it so much, all I wanted was Christmas with her and it turns out I lose her for Christmas, and there may be nothing I can do to save it...
Steph Phair stay strong.... love is beautiful but very challenging.... life is your so you know better what choices you have.... keep your head up and never let anyone to hurt you..... there is light at end of tunnel. May God bless you
I finally found love again.
Micah Robinson im happy for you
Sanja Mikić thank you.
Micah Robinson ❤❤❤ this gives me hope
Lourdes C I'm so very glad it did.
this made me smile idk why
I left you because I'm tired. Tired of doing my best for you, however I can't change the fact that you can't love me back, now I just told you that I'll leave and go. I'm strong but I'm very tired, I want to lay down and rest from these turbulent feelings. I gave you all my time and efforts and in the process, I forgot myself. I've felt everything and you didn't feel a thing. I've realized that I need to stop from this unhealthiness and feel alive again, so I need to accept that I can't make you love me. I will forget about you someday but please don't forget me who was once your friend and lover. :') (: I'll do my best to smile and be happy.
Gosh that was poetic and sad, yet somehow beautifully said. Is it just me thinking that about this comment? But anyways.. good for you! :)
feelings felt by many, but some of us don't know how to say it... especially in such a powerful way...
everything will be okay in the end... so if thing's aren't okay, just remember that it isn't the end...
Very, very intense. And also very true.
so accurate these words
so true yet so sad
Feel you.
I can't make your heart feel
Something it won't....
That's so sad...
Sad that after all this time, you are still my first thought in the morning....
@JOE TM beautifully written. I'm right there with you!!
"You gave me a forever within the numbered days, and I’m grateful."
I'd miss her, but she was never truly there
Just a vacuous bed-ridden dream
A whisper in a cold afternoon, a speck in the rain
Nothing. Nothing at all.
Yet she visits me every single night
That was profoundly beautiful and real...I feel this.
+Lacy Flora now y'all being to talk. soon you two learn you have a lot in common. long distance love happens. While both of you are cat fishing each other xP
Kiya Bunny How am I catfishing anyone? what
XD I was kidding
Kiya Bunny You hurt me :(
how do i know YOU'RE not catfishing
I've never thought that I would actually fall so deeply in love with anybody. I believed in love but I've never found it this good, this special, this enormous, fascinating, full of greatness feeling. I never knew it would hit me this hard. But I did fell in love. And I did wanted to give my all, and I did. And I loved, and I lust. And I suffered every pain and loss. It changed me a lot. Because it broke me, I guess...the most beautiful heartbreak. And I didn't mind it, because I was offering my soul and you were taking my soul and it felt good. And I went throught the most loving painful heart and soulbreak. I loved you so much......I can't even describe it. I have no words to tell you what you meant. I wrote about you, I dreamt about you, I loved every second of even only thinking about you and I adored not being able to sleep because of crying, because I couldn't have you. But I did have you. Inside my heart, and I don't mind keeping you there even though I now have someone in my life, who, trust me, is trying his best to somehow make me love him as much as I loved you. He would never make me love him not even as much as I loved you when your hands touched mine.
I'm no longer in love with you, honey, but I will always keep the memory of your love. That was the only thing that made me feel alive. I will always love you, every single part of you. It would take me a lifetime to finally be able to completely fall out of love, to finally be able to say that I would never go back to you.
...and even a lifetime is not promised.
Ridiculously relatable.
Thank your for putting into words the thoughts i couldn't. Amazing. It really hit me deep. So beautiful.
For once, this comment exactly captures the actual falling in love. Not just a crush, relationship or something.
Actually falling in love. I guess we only understand it's power when it happens to us.
I would have never fully understood the depth of it just a day before I actually fell in love. And it stays. For better or for worse, it stays.
I wouldn't wish this heartbreak on anyone.
Not me crying for the past 3 hours over someone who has never and will never cry over me lmao :’)
that person not meant to be in your life. keep your head up
Hope you’re better now x
I'm losing it. This feels like hell.
GamingGalaxy I know I’m a year too late for this comment, but stay strong. And don’t do it for anyone but yourself. YOU, are the only person that knows YOU, best. Love hurts. Sometimes in a good way, and sometimes in a bad way. When your life throws a, “heartbreak screwball” in your direction, most of the time it hits you right in the chest at a solid 100mph. And it’s at times like these, that parole are the most vulnerable. Of course ever situation is different, so, no one will ever know how you feel/felt. They’ll tell you, “it’ll get better, just hang in there, you’ll find someone else”. But you know, it’s not that easy. That you can’t think that. Because that love you had, for said person, was more than likely, irreplaceable. You can’t get them off your mind. Your chest aches with a pain, that you’d rather die than feel, and, with that, comes the worst feeling ever. Loss. I only know this, because a girl I’ve loved since day one, dropped my heart from space, and let it crash to the earth, and didn’t even feel bad. And that’s what I felt. But, the bright side to this message, is that it does get better. It never feels like it will, and shit, I still feel this pain. But, the sun always has to set before it rises. And I don’t know if your sun has risen yet. But if it hasn’t, then just know it will. There’s always someone you can talk to. Don’t let them feed you bullshit. And don’t talk to the ones that shove advice down your throat left and right. Find a person that listens, with true intentions on helping you. They should sit and listen to you. Hear your problems, and genuinely try to help. That person will be your best friend at times like these. All you need is an ear to listen. And unfortunately, no one does that anymore. There’s very few that still do. Idk. I hope this helps. Even though I’m late. Stay strong.
~Your friendly neighborhood tattooed guy~
I'm feeling it as well. It feels like hell.
Its okay to focus on breathing.... Because with everything going on you can't lose your self. You're the only thing you truly have..
@@austinconverse3578 thank you for writing this man. I greatly appreciate ppl like you. Nakes me realize that we are all humans, after all.
It is, hell.