HI J I'M SOOO VERY VERY SORRY THAT YOU WERE STALKED ON YOUR SHIP I REALLY THOUGHT THAT YOU REALLY DID HANDLE THIS SITUATION ONE THAT YOU WERE VERY BRAVE TO STAND UP TO BELLA AND TWO YOU WERE EXTREAMELY PROFESSIONAL ABOUT THE WHOLE ENTIRE SITUATION GOOD JOB WELL DONE J I LIVED IN FLEMINGTON NEW JERSEY AT THIS RESIDENTIAL FACILITY AND THIS GUY CHRIS ALWAYS BULLIED ME CHRIS WOULD ALWAYS MAKE FUN OF ME ALL THE TIME MY FEELINGS WERE ALWAYS BEING HURT I WOULD GO TO MY ROOM AND I WOULD ALWAYS 😢 😭 CRY MY MY EYES OUT HE WOULD ALWAYS TELL ME TO GO TO MCDONALDS AND TO FEED MY FAT BIG ASS CHRIS WOULD DO THIS TO ME EACH AND EVERY DAY WHERE THE STAFF NEVER EVER BELIEVED ME WHEN I WOULD ALWAY TOLD THEM I COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE I JUST WANTED CHRIS AND JOHN TO STOP BULLYING ME SOOO I COULDN'T TAKE THEIR BULLYING ANYMORE AND IT WOULDN'T STOP AND I REALLY DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO MAKE THEM TO STOP BULLYING ME I WAS NOT EDUCATED ON HOW TO STOP PEOPLE FROM ALWAYS BULLYING ME SOOO ONE DAY I CALLED MY BROTHER AND I HAD TOLD HIM THAT I JUST WABT OUT AND NEVER TO RETURN THERE AGAIN AND NOW I'M A MUCH MUCH HAPPIER PERSON NOW BECAUSE WHEN I LEFT THERE ALL IF THE BULLYING HAD FINALLY ✋️ STOPPED ONCE AND FOR ALL AM I WRONG FOR LEAVING THE THE FACILITY? THANK YOU J FOR LISTENING TO ME DO YOU HAVE ANY GOOD ADVICE FOR ME WHEN I START WORKING ON A CRUISE SHIP? THANK YOU BE BLESSED YOU HAVE SUCH A BEAUTIFUL MOTHER J ALWAYS CHERRISH HER SHE'S SUCH A BEAUTIFUL AND A VERY WONDERFUL PERSON I WOULD REALLY LOVE TO MEET YOU AND YOUR MOTHER YOU BOTH ARE VERY VERY TERRIFIC AND WONDERFUL PEOPLE SAY BLESSED LOVE YOUR VIDEOS THEY ARE EXTREAMELY INFORMATIVE THANK YOU FOR ALL OF YOUR HARD WORK FOR MAKING ALL OF THEESE VIDEOS TAKE CARE LOVE LAURA
Came across this one again. It's still hilarious. I know from personal experience that being stalked is not fun, but the way you present it makes this story not so heavy.
On my first cruise I was stalked by a bar waiter. Actually showed up outside my cabin when I was leaving for dinner one night. Scared the beejebers out of me. I told my room steward that I didn't want to get him in trouble, but what do I do? The room steward spoke to him, my restaurant waiter talked to him....after that, I found out I wasn't the first/only girl traveling alone he stalked. So, RCCL fired him when we returned to NYC. One of the steel drum musicians heard me telling my mother (who came to pick me up) when I got back to NYC port & said, "Miss, don't feel bad for him. He did it to himself. You're a nice lady and you weren't the first. I talked to him over & over. Some people just don't listen. You can't teach them anything if they don't listen."
unityyy ENT & Rocky Solei, I guess you never heard of foreigners wanting 1 thing....an American wife! You bigoted, hateful, cowards hiding behind a computer being RUDE! BITE ME!!!
Wow, that's crazy! I had a stalker at my gym a few years ago. It's scary. People don't understand that when someone is showing up in your location and in your face a lot, it can creep you out big time! He finally confronted me one day and I explained to him that he was WAYYYY too young for me. And I didn't mention that he sounded CRAZY too. Do you think it stopped? nooooo... Stalkers be crae crae! I had to get the gym involved.
@@JSHIPLIFE Exactly. You were polite but non-encouraging. You put her off without being rude. When she finally tried to move to the "next level," you were firm and consistent. You never gave her encouragement and you gave her fair warning before going to HR. We women really wish that guys would take the news as well as she did.
Thank you for sharing this interesting and unique story J. Definitely a part of cruise life rarely discussed. You handled professionally and gentlemanly. Admire and enjoy your vlogs!
You saying you're the "class clown" made me smile -- you've always reminded me of an older version of a student I once had. Sense of humor, charisma, twinkle in the eye, definitely a little mischievous, always ready for a good time. He was ten, haha, but I promise this is a compliment. I loved teaching that kiddo.
Stalkers are quite frightening, I think you were lucky. I had a stalker that was much worse than this and I genuinely feared for my life. You're giving great advice so I wanted to say thank you for that. Also Im very glad you had an easy ending to what coud have been an ugly problem.
All hail J, all hail J. I had a stalker once. Every time I looked in my bathroom mirror when I woke up, there he was dressed just like me but a heck of a lot older looking. Thank goodness I'm handsome as all he'll and for some reason I don't look in the mirror any longer ... he might still be lurking there. Hi from Bob and Jill in Connecticut
"CASE CLOSED" JAJAJA I can totally relate (I've lived in environments where I was in the cultural minority, including here in Mexico, presently). I also was stalked by a crew member on the ship when I worked for NCL's Hawaiian cruise ship the POA. It was a nightmare. She was fired because she was a hot, unprofessional mess which aligns with her stalker personality. I'm a fan of your vids! ty kindly
Yeah things like that happens, I've heard about it when i worked on princess/carnival, I was in Entertainment /musician/lounge in band....I heard dancers engage with officers or musicians or ? I sorta minded my own business just enjoyed life and never had issues.
HEY J....I WATCH YOU ALL THE TIME...I THINK YOU DID THE RIGHT THING TALKING TO THAT YOUNG LADY FIRST BEFORE TRYING SOMETHING ELSE...I'M GLAD EVERYTHING TURNED OUT OK....
All-l-l R-i-i-g-h-t, Jay‼️ You know that's the kind of behind-the-curtain story we love 💕 to hear about! "One out of three Americans. . ." Wow. You handled that exactly right, IMO. Can't go wrong just defaulting to the Truth. TFS.
I had a stalker once when I was a passenger on a ship (NCL-14 day cruise). It seemed like every where I went, he was there. Ends up he was friends with someone who gave him my info (cabin number, phone number, etc.). I told him straight up how I felt and he did back off. My friends kept telling me to report him but I felt bad, especially if he were to lose his job. I feel like most people will back off if you're honest up front, but unfortunately there's always that rare occasion. I feel like you just have to see how it progresses and act accordingly.
It's surprising how nervy cruise employees who do this are but apparently the companies are not doing enough about it, which explains some stories in the news years ago.
Wow. I cruised a long time ago once, and was stalked by a bar waiter. I dealt with it quietly until he was waiting at my room one evening, lecturing me about “flirting” with one of the musicians. I exploded on him right there in the hallway. I yelled “This is my vacation! You are not my boyfriend! Leave me alone!” Never saw him again. I had no sea this was a common thing.
I had a stalker too! Room service guy kept sending flowers and notes 🤦🏻♀️ Very creepy. Lots of unwanted advances on ships but stalking hits even worse.
Nice video. I had a similar situation on a cruise ship. I had a girl following me around throughout the cruise. She never spoke to me but she was always staring at me and tried to sit next to me in the theater once. I just ignored her.
The half second before the text popped up on the screen that said that wasn't an actual picture of your stalker and I'm over here thinking oh my gosh she's actually showing her!!!!!!!
I am on the spectrum, and I do it sometimes... I guess I was on both ends of the stick. I understand the fear, but most people who are socially awkward just don't know how to read others and their feelings or control them and do dumb things like this. I am so sorry for your experiences and thank you for sharing them ... There is a sliver that does worse things than that, and that is most scary. At least she took it well...
You were lucky she left you alone when you talk to her. I have tried that with guys obsessed, and it often makes things worse not better. Maybe it’s a power thing or a male female thing, but confronting your stalker directly for a woman anyway is usually a very dangerous situation
I am on board as a solo traveler and so do run into similar situations that you're referring to and I totally agree that the best response was just to talk to her directly. We had a guy in our solo group who we learned was looking for a lady with liquid assets, financial that is. He asked me about my relationship status and I've pretended it was just a general conversation and so eliminated all problems from there going forward without embarrassing him or putting him on the spot. One of the other ladies kind of flirted with him and led him on a bit and then complained that he seemed to be wanting more from her, but I think she shouldn't have done the flirting in the first place and I think that sort of thing got her in trouble in that respect. I. just think direct and honest is the best approach, but in a way that causes as little hurt or embarrassment as possible.
The whole solo traveler thing! I've been a mostly solo traveler for almost 25 years now. I used to think when I got "old", I wouldn't get uncomfortable attention, but that still happened to me two years ago. It was weird. I just think a few people think that because you travel solo that you are looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend. For myself, I'm happy to make friends with people who share my interests, but I do not want a friend for physical activities. It gets awkward when you really can't avoid running into people who make you feel uncomfortable. This is one reason, I prefer bigger ships. -- Jay handled his situation very well.
Thank you for talking about this. My wife is a non smoker, I would go down to the outdoor smoking area. I made the big mess up of showing crew member photos. Man she started was rubbing up against me, just love dove me. She was from a different culture. I got real concern when she really started rubbing on me. I like that you did not want anything happening to her. I would see her out there smoking and I did not engage, just had my Lucky strike and would go back to the cabin. Saying WOW what happened on cruise ships stays on cruise ships.😊
Same, I had a stalker on my first contract. I had just collected my items from the officers laundry and I was on my way to my cabin and this guy followed me and he does not live in my FZ. My FZ consisted of mainly officers and a few casino staff. I got to my cabin door which has a camera pointed infront of it because of the WTD. I told him I will open the WTD and have security come if he doesn't leave me alone. He never crossed my path after that and I told my Chief about the incident.
@@jeepsanddragons hiya! Sorry for the late reply, busy work schedule, but FZ means Fire Zone and WTD means Water Tight Doors for each compartment of the ship lol
On my first cruise working for NCL I had two Philippinas who worked as buffet stewards who followed me around . I kind of liked one who eventually became a full time waiter. There were few American s so that was what they were curious about. 10 years one of my waiters on princess cruiselines told me all about what was going on with her . She was well known.
That's what worries me about cruises.. I have had these irl and have a few right now I am dealing with cops about and I fear being kidnapped and put into trafficking. That's the one reason reason won't work on a cruise ship..plus the ships sweep when that happens under the rug! I don't trust them!
@@karyndewit193 The ship was a one of. Normally cruise lines build say 4 to 6 ships from a design. Not this one, even NCL staff didn't like it. The president Kevin Sheehan, got fired over its design. The beds are super small. The head of the bed is separated from the toilet area by a curtain only. You can hear a male urinating and flushing when you are trying to sleep. The sink is at the foot of your bed. If you are tall, your feet will be in the sink. The shower is visible if someone comes to your door. There is nothing between the shower door and the entrance way. If you step out of the shower and room service is there, guess what! The ship is very choppy, no flow, very claustrophobic!
I'm having a stalking neighbor, considering moving away because of the guy. Finally found my dream flat 3 years ago after long time looking for something I really wanted. Moved in, imagined I'll be living here happily ever after. BUT. It came with a stalking neighbor, stalking me from day one but it took some time until I realized it. Now it feels like the guy is stalking all over my entire nerve system. I'm just drained. Since last week I'm starting it all over again, the process of looking for 'my dream flat' somewhere else.
OMG this is so true! I didn’t think I would have a problem because I was older than a lot of the crew, ha! This one guy kept coming by my station just to hang out, I was a Port Shopper, so like you Jay, had the run of the ship. It got so bad that the girl he was still seeing at the time comes crying to me pleading for me to tell him to leave me alone, 😂. He was cute but I did tell him I was involved with someone. He still came around but not as much as before. 🤷🏽♀️
I have to ask this; how close is working on a cruise like the old TV series The Love Boat? I have to admit that's a funny analogy; working a cruise ship is like being in high school, college, the military and jail. I believe it.
I think that I need to see a cruise ship counselor, because I'm cruise ship crazy. Every time, the cruise ships doc in port, I find myself standing on the docs, drooling over the cruise ships, eyeing them and dreaming about what it would be like to be a statue and be attached to the bow of the ship....Imagine docking in exotic ports, sailing the ocean blue and seeing the stars in the night sky, what a great life this would be...Haaahh, haahh, haaahh!!!!
I think you did an excellent job of handling this. On one of our cruises, as a passenger, my mom and I had a stalker. It was really creepy. We first encountered him during breakfast in the main dining room. Then he wound up being on two of our excursions. Not sure how that happened, because we never mentioned anything about our excursions until AFTER we went. After the last excursion he was on with us, he started following us back to the ship trying to strike up a conversation. I try to be a very nice person, but by this time I was very uncomfortable, and gave him the cold shoulder. There were two lines to get back on the ship. As we were in line he was behind us, so we switched lines, and he followed. Luckily, when we got onboard, Mom and I were able to get away from him. We started to take the elevator (which I NEVER do), and when he got on, we quickly got off and the doors closed with him on it. I used the excuse of the elevator being way to crowded. We quickly raced to our room and stayed there for awhile. From then on, we would always see him, but had to play the dash game. It was very uncomfortable.
I understand all about positional hierarchy when it comes to employees, but I did not realize that some staff were not able to visit the buffet, or visit the ports (if they aren't on duty) and things of that nature. How long did you work in the cruise industry?
Yep! And just 3 year but I had a very chill contract which allowed me to see and do more than the average worker. I also had about a decade of international touring experience
I think you handled the situation well. I wouldn't have been as understanding. But you're probably a better person than I am. Your girlfriend: Well done!
I almost went to work for A major Cruise company out of Miami in the late 1970s. They didn’t offer a contract I was to work in hospitality. I didn’t do it mainly because I got weirded out. A lot of people in the industry were also in the drug smuggling industry & at that time Miami was becoming a very dangerous place…so I went to work in Japan instead. That’s my cruise story. Your story is pretty much the way it is in any corporate environment. You seemed to have handled it properly. The one thing to understand is the cultural differences with the people you work with & there are many.
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I’m gonna have to try that Oreo cheesecake….you always mention that. I gotta try it!
Hey J- when do you think there will be sailing out of NYC ?
@@tonyl7405 You should!
HI J I'M SOOO VERY VERY SORRY THAT YOU WERE STALKED ON YOUR SHIP I REALLY THOUGHT THAT YOU REALLY DID HANDLE THIS SITUATION ONE THAT YOU WERE VERY BRAVE TO STAND UP TO BELLA AND TWO YOU WERE EXTREAMELY PROFESSIONAL ABOUT THE WHOLE ENTIRE SITUATION GOOD JOB WELL DONE J I LIVED IN FLEMINGTON NEW JERSEY AT THIS RESIDENTIAL FACILITY AND THIS GUY CHRIS ALWAYS BULLIED ME CHRIS WOULD ALWAYS MAKE FUN OF ME ALL THE TIME MY FEELINGS WERE ALWAYS BEING HURT I WOULD GO TO MY ROOM AND I WOULD ALWAYS 😢 😭 CRY MY MY EYES OUT HE WOULD ALWAYS TELL ME TO GO TO MCDONALDS AND TO FEED MY FAT BIG ASS CHRIS WOULD DO THIS TO ME EACH AND EVERY DAY WHERE THE STAFF NEVER EVER BELIEVED ME WHEN I WOULD ALWAY TOLD THEM I COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE I JUST WANTED CHRIS AND JOHN TO STOP BULLYING ME SOOO I COULDN'T TAKE THEIR BULLYING ANYMORE AND IT WOULDN'T STOP AND I REALLY DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO MAKE THEM TO STOP BULLYING ME I WAS NOT EDUCATED ON HOW TO STOP PEOPLE FROM ALWAYS BULLYING ME SOOO ONE DAY I CALLED MY BROTHER AND I HAD TOLD HIM THAT I JUST WABT OUT AND NEVER TO RETURN THERE AGAIN AND NOW I'M A MUCH MUCH HAPPIER PERSON NOW BECAUSE WHEN I LEFT THERE ALL IF THE BULLYING HAD FINALLY ✋️ STOPPED ONCE AND FOR ALL AM I WRONG FOR LEAVING THE THE FACILITY? THANK YOU J FOR LISTENING TO ME DO YOU HAVE ANY GOOD ADVICE FOR ME WHEN I START WORKING ON A CRUISE SHIP? THANK YOU BE BLESSED YOU HAVE SUCH A BEAUTIFUL MOTHER J ALWAYS CHERRISH HER SHE'S SUCH A BEAUTIFUL AND A VERY WONDERFUL PERSON I WOULD REALLY LOVE TO MEET YOU AND YOUR MOTHER YOU BOTH ARE VERY VERY TERRIFIC AND WONDERFUL PEOPLE SAY BLESSED LOVE YOUR VIDEOS THEY ARE EXTREAMELY INFORMATIVE THANK YOU FOR ALL OF YOUR HARD WORK FOR MAKING ALL OF THEESE VIDEOS TAKE CARE LOVE LAURA
Came across this one again. It's still hilarious. I know from personal experience that being stalked is not fun, but the way you present it makes this story not so heavy.
On my first cruise I was stalked by a bar waiter. Actually showed up outside my cabin when I was leaving for dinner one night. Scared the beejebers out of me. I told my room steward that I didn't want to get him in trouble, but what do I do? The room steward spoke to him, my restaurant waiter talked to him....after that, I found out I wasn't the first/only girl traveling alone he stalked. So, RCCL fired him when we returned to NYC. One of the steel drum musicians heard me telling my mother (who came to pick me up) when I got back to NYC port & said, "Miss, don't feel bad for him. He did it to himself. You're a nice lady and you weren't the first. I talked to him over & over. Some people just don't listen. You can't teach them anything if they don't listen."
I call cap on this story based off of your profile pic lol
@@unityyyent i agree. No way someome was stalking her
Why show up to say something hateful, stupid and disingenuous?
unityyy ENT & Rocky Solei, I guess you never heard of foreigners wanting 1 thing....an American wife! You bigoted, hateful, cowards hiding behind a computer being RUDE! BITE ME!!!
Thank you God bless 🙏😘🙏🙏 love your channel
It was the “Chocolate” that she liked. This was funny!
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Chocolate is the only way too go . 💪
@@JSHIPLIFE question is, do you like chocolate?
@@kimberlyoliver1049 🤣
Wow, that's crazy! I had a stalker at my gym a few years ago. It's scary. People don't understand that when someone is showing up in your location and in your face a lot, it can creep you out big time! He finally confronted me one day and I explained to him that he was WAYYYY too young for me. And I didn't mention that he sounded CRAZY too. Do you think it stopped? nooooo... Stalkers be crae crae! I had to get the gym involved.
Gyms are the worst. I had male and female weirdos stalking me. People are crazy I gyms.
You handled the "Stalker " situation professionally!
Thank you!
@@JSHIPLIFE Exactly. You were polite but non-encouraging. You put her off without being rude. When she finally tried to move to the "next level," you were firm and consistent. You never gave her encouragement and you gave her fair warning before going to HR. We women really wish that guys would take the news as well as she did.
@@tessat338 Thank you!
@@JSHIPLIFE I agree, you handled the situation textbook correctly!
You being American was the cherry on the cake. It sounds like you handled it appropriately.
Thank you for sharing this interesting and unique story J. Definitely a part of cruise life rarely discussed. You handled professionally and gentlemanly. Admire and enjoy your vlogs!
Thank you so much! If there’s a decent turn out I’ll do more like this!
I think it’s great that you took the high road and talked to her instead of reporting her . And by the way you still look like you’re in your 20s!
Thank you! And yeah I’m 28. Not in my 30’s just yet😅
@@JSHIPLIFE well I enjoy your videos! My family loves cruising!
You saying you're the "class clown" made me smile -- you've always reminded me of an older version of a student I once had. Sense of humor, charisma, twinkle in the eye, definitely a little mischievous, always ready for a good time. He was ten, haha, but I promise this is a compliment. I loved teaching that kiddo.
Stalkers are quite frightening, I think you were lucky. I had a stalker that was much worse than this and I genuinely feared for my life. You're giving great advice so I wanted to say thank you for that. Also Im very glad you had an easy ending to what coud have been an ugly problem.
I agree!
You are very kind to try to avoid getting her fired. Glad it didn't escalate.
Enjoyed hearing your experiences while working on a cruise ship.
Thank you!
All hail J, all hail J. I had a stalker once. Every time I looked in my bathroom mirror when I woke up, there he was dressed just like me but a heck of a lot older looking. Thank goodness I'm handsome as all he'll and for some reason I don't look in the mirror any longer ... he might still be lurking there. Hi from Bob and Jill in Connecticut
😁 Michael Jackson sang about this type of stalker. It's the "man in the mirror."
"CASE CLOSED" JAJAJA I can totally relate (I've lived in environments where I was in the cultural minority, including here in Mexico, presently). I also was stalked by a crew member on the ship when I worked for NCL's Hawaiian cruise ship the POA. It was a nightmare. She was fired because she was a hot, unprofessional mess which aligns with her stalker personality. I'm a fan of your vids! ty kindly
Yeah things like that happens, I've heard about it when i worked on princess/carnival, I was in Entertainment /musician/lounge in band....I heard dancers engage with officers or musicians or ? I sorta minded my own business just enjoyed life and never had issues.
Yep. That’s exactly how it is
Its good that you were cautious and dealt with the issue in a smart way.
Thanks for your video. You’ve given us insides as to what can happen working on a cruise ship. Excellent job. 😀👍
Thanks Tom!🙏🏾⚓️
A good lesson for newbie crew members. Thanks for sharing.😎
Thank you!
I think you handled that sticky situation thoughtfully and respectfully. Hey, the girl's got good taste.
When you’ve got it Justin, you’ve just got it. Boy, you’re very nice looking! 😉
Thank you so much!
HEY J....I WATCH YOU ALL THE TIME...I THINK YOU DID THE RIGHT THING TALKING TO THAT YOUNG LADY FIRST BEFORE TRYING SOMETHING ELSE...I'M GLAD EVERYTHING TURNED OUT OK....
I applaud you for your professionalism and being so nice to the stalker you handled it very well👍
All-l-l R-i-i-g-h-t, Jay‼️
You know that's the kind of behind-the-curtain story we love 💕 to hear about!
"One out of three Americans. . ." Wow.
You handled that exactly right, IMO.
Can't go wrong just defaulting to the Truth.
TFS.
Great Story J, Keep them coming !!!
Thanks! Trust me I will!
Great video you need to post more about your cruise ship experiences!
I will every Sunday now unless I’m on a cruise or traveling
I had a stalker once when I was a passenger on a ship (NCL-14 day cruise). It seemed like every where I went, he was there. Ends up he was friends with someone who gave him my info (cabin number, phone number, etc.). I told him straight up how I felt and he did back off. My friends kept telling me to report him but I felt bad, especially if he were to lose his job. I feel like most people will back off if you're honest up front, but unfortunately there's always that rare occasion. I feel like you just have to see how it progresses and act accordingly.
Agreed
It's surprising how nervy cruise employees who do this are but apparently the companies are not doing enough about it, which explains some stories in the news years ago.
Wow. I cruised a long time ago once, and was stalked by a bar waiter. I dealt with it quietly until he was waiting at my room one evening, lecturing me about “flirting” with one of the musicians. I exploded on him right there in the hallway. I yelled “This is my vacation! You are not my boyfriend! Leave me alone!” Never saw him again.
I had no sea this was a common thing.
You handled that situation very well. Thanks for sharing.
Hello From Super Sunny London 🇬🇧
Well All I Can Say Is 'I Enjoyed This Video'... It Was,A Nice Twist On The Norm & A Nod To Your Early Videos....
Thank you!
I had a stalker too! Room service guy kept sending flowers and notes 🤦🏻♀️ Very creepy. Lots of unwanted advances on ships but stalking hits even worse.
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Loved the story! Looking forward to more.
Thank you! More coming on Sundays!
I had a "stalker" when I first started working for CCL aboard the Holiday. Very "uncomfortable" situation.
Yeah it’s not fun
your story peaked my interest and held my interest - interesting for sure - people are weird for sure.
Thank you! Strange world we live in!
Nice video. I had a similar situation on a cruise ship. I had a girl following me around throughout the cruise. She never spoke to me but she was always staring at me and tried to sit next to me in the theater once. I just ignored her.
Was she pretty?
@@JSHIPLIFE Not really. The friend was pretty. Actually the girl tried to get her mom to talk to me on debarkation day but I ran away really fast.
The half second before the text popped up on the screen that said that wasn't an actual picture of your stalker and I'm over here thinking oh my gosh she's actually showing her!!!!!!!
Haha I that’s exactly why I made sure I did that!
Loved the story and the video. Interesting life on a ship, J 😜
Thank you! I have more coming!:)
Heck yea another shiplife video
MAN!
To have TOO many girls going after you is an amazing problem!
I am glad you handled it well!
I am on the spectrum, and I do it sometimes... I guess I was on both ends of the stick. I understand the fear, but most people who are socially awkward just don't know how to read others and their feelings or control them and do dumb things like this. I am so sorry for your experiences and thank you for sharing them ... There is a sliver that does worse things than that, and that is most scary. At least she took it well...
You handled that issue perfectly.
Thank you!
You were lucky she left you alone when you talk to her. I have tried that with guys obsessed, and it often makes things worse not better. Maybe it’s a power thing or a male female thing, but confronting your stalker directly for a woman anyway is usually a very dangerous situation
You done right by talking to her & not hitting with your magic stick because ain't no telling what would've happen
I've never been on a cruise and don't particularly plan to in the near future. But I like your videos. Thanks.
I am on board as a solo traveler and so do run into similar situations that you're referring to and I totally agree that the best response was just to talk to her directly. We had a guy in our solo group who we learned was looking for a lady with liquid assets, financial that is. He asked me about my relationship status and I've pretended it was just a general conversation and so eliminated all problems from there going forward without embarrassing him or putting him on the spot. One of the other ladies kind of flirted with him and led him on a bit and then complained that he seemed to be wanting more from her, but I think she shouldn't have done the flirting in the first place and I think that sort of thing got her in trouble in that respect. I. just think direct and honest is the best approach, but in a way that causes as little hurt or embarrassment as possible.
The whole solo traveler thing! I've been a mostly solo traveler for almost 25 years now. I used to think when I got "old", I wouldn't get uncomfortable attention, but that still happened to me two years ago. It was weird. I just think a few people think that because you travel solo that you are looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend. For myself, I'm happy to make friends with people who share my interests, but I do not want a friend for physical activities. It gets awkward when you really can't avoid running into people who make you feel uncomfortable. This is one reason, I prefer bigger ships. -- Jay handled his situation very well.
@@2000konnie how do you not get lonely when you’re traveling by yourself.
This is a prime example of how a decent person could, would, and should behave in this type of situation. Honorably and tactfully.......
Thanks J. Enjoy your expert advice.
I enjoy your support! Thank you!
Thank you for talking about this. My wife is a non smoker, I would go down to the outdoor smoking area. I made the big mess up of showing crew member photos. Man she started was rubbing up against me, just love dove me. She was from a different culture. I got real concern when she really started rubbing on me. I like that you did not want anything happening to her. I would see her out there smoking and I did not engage, just had my Lucky strike and would go back to the cabin. Saying WOW what happened on cruise ships stays on cruise ships.😊
Same, I had a stalker on my first contract. I had just collected my items from the officers laundry and I was on my way to my cabin and this guy followed me and he does not live in my FZ. My FZ consisted of mainly officers and a few casino staff. I got to my cabin door which has a camera pointed infront of it because of the WTD. I told him I will open the WTD and have security come if he doesn't leave me alone.
He never crossed my path after that and I told my Chief about the incident.
fz wtd mean what ?
total landlubber here, help me ?
@@jeepsanddragons hiya! Sorry for the late reply, busy work schedule, but FZ means Fire Zone and WTD means Water Tight Doors for each compartment of the ship lol
On my first cruise working for NCL I had two Philippinas who worked as buffet stewards who followed me around . I kind of liked one who eventually became a full time waiter. There were few American s so that was what they were curious about. 10 years one of my waiters on princess cruiselines told me all about what was going on with her . She was well known.
I get what you’re trying to say her. This girl was well known too
I love these cruise stories. I've gone on many cruises and I have a few of my own. There's s lot of drama on cruises.
Lol that’s a perfect description of what it is like!
No lies can be told here lol
That would be difficult in that small of a community. Sounds like you handled it very well.
You handled it right!
Thank you!
That's what worries me about cruises.. I have had these irl and have a few right now I am dealing with cops about and I fear being kidnapped and put into trafficking. That's the one reason reason won't work on a cruise ship..plus the ships sweep when that happens under the rug! I don't trust them!
American...take me home!! Been there as a passenger. Every breath you take, every move you make, I'll be watching YOU!
Thanks for being mature and handling it instead of tattling to HR.
That was the best way to handle it
"O'Sheehan's"....Strange that NCL didn't remove all remnants of Kevin, considering the circumstances surrounding his removal from the company.
You know your stuff, that's exactly right. The Norwegian Epic was his doing and its weird cabin layouts.
@@burningblue1254 what’s weird about the cabin layout?
@@karyndewit193 The ship was a one of. Normally cruise lines build say 4 to 6 ships from a design. Not this one, even NCL staff didn't like it. The president Kevin Sheehan, got fired over its design. The beds are super small. The head of the bed is separated from the toilet area by a curtain only. You can hear a male urinating and flushing when you are trying to sleep. The sink is at the foot of your bed. If you are tall, your feet will be in the sink. The shower is visible if someone comes to your door. There is nothing between the shower door and the entrance way. If you step out of the shower and room service is there, guess what! The ship is very choppy, no flow, very claustrophobic!
you handled it well, good work
Ha! That's funny; I've always maintained that I've been in the military, universities and jails -- and it's all basically the same drill...
Love your personality that’s why I subscribe well and the cruise life of course lol
Always very entertaining, as usual! Well done!
Thank you!
Sounds like you handled it perfectly.
I did my best!
Interesting topic! Also, now I understand why you miss your oreo cheesecake!
I really do! Need it in my life!
It's called being assertive. Had to do the same thing with my X-drug dealers after I got clean! They were relentless!
I'm having a stalking neighbor, considering moving away because of the guy. Finally found my dream flat 3 years ago after long time looking for something I really wanted. Moved in, imagined I'll be living here happily ever after. BUT. It came with a stalking neighbor, stalking me from day one but it took some time until I realized it. Now it feels like the guy is stalking all over my entire nerve system. I'm just drained. Since last week I'm starting it all over again, the process of looking for 'my dream flat' somewhere else.
So sorry, please stay safe. Yeah, it feels like another lifetime ago but I had stalkers too, they suck.
@@Moonflowers11 Thanks 🙏 the understanding of privacy and integrity is underestimated
You need to become a cruise comedian!!
OMG this is so true! I didn’t think I would have a problem because I was older than a lot of the crew, ha! This one guy kept coming by my station just to hang out, I was a Port Shopper, so like you Jay, had the run of the ship. It got so bad that the girl he was still seeing at the time comes crying to me pleading for me to tell him to leave me alone, 😂. He was cute but I did tell him I was involved with someone. He still came around but not as much as before. 🤷🏽♀️
Lol wow!
@@JSHIPLIFE I know, and I had only been onboard for a few days before he started coming around me. Crazy! 🤣
@@2luvjazz Lol Welcome aboard!
@@JSHIPLIFE thats what I get for being a luscious carmel older woman! 🤣🤣🤣😜
Great advice, on the water or the land
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Love your stories tho!
Glad it all worked out.
Thank you! Yeah thankfully didn’t get too crazy!
Thanks, J! I really enjoy your videos.
Thank you!
@@JSHIPLIFE you are welcome!
I have to ask this; how close is working on a cruise like the old TV series The Love Boat?
I have to admit that's a funny analogy; working a cruise ship is like being in high school, college, the military and jail. I believe it.
Awesome and entertaining 👏😀
Thanks Janet!😁⚓️
I ❤your videos
Superb & informative
You did the right thing.
Very interesting, thank you , I think you handled this situation beautifully!
Being a huge fan of both your channels, I gotta mention the fact that you have a Canadian $5 dollar bill front and centre on that shelf😅😅
I had a stalker he doesn't stalk me anymore enough said.
I think that I need to see a cruise ship counselor, because I'm cruise ship crazy. Every time, the cruise ships doc in port, I find myself standing on the docs, drooling over the cruise ships, eyeing them and dreaming about what it would be like to be a statue and be attached to the bow of the ship....Imagine docking in exotic ports, sailing the ocean blue and seeing the stars in the night sky, what a great life this would be...Haaahh, haahh, haaahh!!!!
I think you did an excellent job of handling this. On one of our cruises, as a passenger, my mom and I had a stalker. It was really creepy. We first encountered him during breakfast in the main dining room. Then he wound up being on two of our excursions. Not sure how that happened, because we never mentioned anything about our excursions until AFTER we went. After the last excursion he was on with us, he started following us back to the ship trying to strike up a conversation. I try to be a very nice person, but by this time I was very uncomfortable, and gave him the cold shoulder. There were two lines to get back on the ship. As we were in line he was behind us, so we switched lines, and he followed. Luckily, when we got onboard, Mom and I were able to get away from him. We started to take the elevator (which I NEVER do), and when he got on, we quickly got off and the doors closed with him on it. I used the excuse of the elevator being way to crowded. We quickly raced to our room and stayed there for awhile. From then on, we would always see him, but had to play the dash game. It was very uncomfortable.
Wow..
Could you have reported him to security?
@@alk61695 yes, we could have, but I think he finally got the message.
You a true gentleman
LOL, Your funny, this could be a great TV show, LOL, you have a great personality too.
I understand all about positional hierarchy when it comes to employees, but I did not realize that some staff were not able to visit the buffet, or visit the ports (if they aren't on duty) and things of that nature.
How long did you work in the cruise industry?
Yep! And just 3 year but I had a very chill contract which allowed me to see and do more than the average worker. I also had about a decade of international touring experience
@@JSHIPLIFE can I ask your actual job please?
@@redchick4 I’m a Social Media Content Creator and Entertainer for multiple international companies. I don’t believe in having just one job
The one you had as an entertainer
@@JSHIPLIFE good job on your videos ... so I am guessing you were a dancer on the ship? Amazed by the perks you got
Love your handsome chocolate face and ever changing hair...!!
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Haha Thanks😂☺️
You did nothing wrong. You did it exactly right.
I think you handled the situation well. I wouldn't have been as understanding. But you're probably a better person than I am. Your girlfriend: Well done!
Thanks!
Careful : "Hell hath no fury like a woman rejected".
You handled it great!
Great story!
Thanks!
Thanks for sharing ♥️♥️
Thanks for watching!
She needed the chocolate bar ,lol
Interesting and enlightening
Thank you!
My wife and I are poly, but one of our boundaries is not to date a coworker, which does minimize drama.
That’s completely understandable. Good rule to have
definition of a Class Clown: I am done learning now... so is everyone else.... So funny!!!
New subscriber here. Keep up the good info. 🙂
Thanks again for ur amazing info!!! 🚢 👍
Omg i had a stalker too.. most terrifying experience ever! He got fired but then the team hated me for it
I should of gone to the gym.. he needed to work out haha
@@sailorspills3025 haha 😂
She just wanted to "love you long time" 😂
I almost went to work for A major Cruise company out of Miami in the late 1970s. They didn’t offer a contract I was to work in hospitality. I didn’t do it mainly because I got weirded out. A lot of people in the industry were also in the drug smuggling industry & at that time Miami was becoming a very dangerous place…so I went to work in Japan instead. That’s my cruise story. Your story is pretty much the way it is in any corporate environment. You seemed to have handled it properly. The one thing to understand is the cultural differences with the people you work with & there are many.
It was nice how you didn't rat her out and get her fired. Creepy story though...uncomfortable for sure.
I’m glad it ended well
Me too!