try telling them that their impeding your development? But, only tell them, if you know how their "impeding your development" so, you can tell them what to stop doing.
@@TinhNguyenDota2 having knowledge, and being able to express that knowledge, are 2 different skill sets. Jordan seems to think he can speak, personally. About how he would react to problems he will never experience, personally.
I was carrying my friends skin of evil . All her problems dumped on me . I’ve stopped now you have to try life each day the best you can . Be Grateful for my blessings x
I distanced myself and Ive never felt so great. Whatever time I have left is for me to enjoy. I was fighting for many years, now I'm at peace. I can't fix everyone.
requires the sacrifice what's love best.. Maybe I just listening to you through YT but your one of those person I esteemed, sometimes I'm grateful that there's someone can explain what's in my head and at the same time giving a possitive solutions that atleast can lighten the weights.
God finally gave me the freedom to let go of my toxic relationship with my mom who was physically and mentally abusive in trying to destroy my childhood…she continued to play games with me as an adult so I had to detach to become the person God always intended me to be…we can’t change the abusive other person and will continue to be damaged until we give ourselves permission to let go…choosing to follow Christ has saved my life..❤
Out of the 4 children my mother had, I, the only daughter, was her target. Physical, emotional, it was a constant torture. The day she was caught by husband 3 I thought it may end, sadly it did not. My brothers started to see. No one help[ed me. I left home the day after I graduated high school. I was in and out, always hoping she would love and approve of me, she physically slapped me across the fact 2 months before she died and it was only then I knew it was finally over.
I had someone sacrifice the person (me) who helped with development and loved.... for someone who loved... For someone who used and demeaned. It was/is a narcissistic relationship.
Sacrifice is biblical and encouraged. Guess what's not biblical? The theory of evolution. Humans and everything else are created by the Lord Jesus Christ. The fact that such a smart person like Jordan is even mentioning this, is off-putting to a degree.
If people are impeding your development you sacrifice your relationship with them. GOLD💯. I did this , sometimes I feel guilty when I think of the good times (my heart ) but my brain quickly reminds of the costly bad moments and I congratulate myself for the courage to do so
I rarely burn bridges, but when I do, it is because the TOXIC NATURE of the person I'm leaving is not in dispute; I've had people in my life for decades, and failed to cut them out, and the thing IS--- they NEVER learn. Many never get any better, they just get WORSE.
Exactly John and it only holds you back! I realized this myself and almost drove myself crazy, but then I had tried something.. letting go. and the release was unreal and then I went back and there was pain again. Its like no matter how much we know the solution if were not willing to go we will suffer tremendously because of others and the TOXICITY they hold within. The difference is they are not seeking the truth so in turn they ARE suffering and don't know it and they will only continue to release suffering on anyone they encounter its a sad cycle that can only be broken through sacrifice. JP hit the nail on this!
Sometimes parents bring children to this world and don't understand the meaning or responsibility or even the basic meaning of respect with life. Some just bring children to this world in order for them to learn the price of life but not the meaning. A part of parents are mental in disorder. Life it's wonderful but ....society it's self an disorder momentum and it's in our hands the way we create it or handle it.
The difficult thing is when you feel that you're on the verge of sacrificing a loved person for security of things kind of like a roof over your head. That is a hard-hearted choice
@@delphinenyirahabimanam.d.8510 Every individual need to find the right way for him to do it. If he decide to go with this idea. it’s depend if your believe your family deserve a chance to fight on the relationship. Unfortunately it was not my case, and I decided to move far away as I can from them. And even block them. I wish you good luck 🍀 and I hope you can resolve the situation with them instead of choosing this option.
I been listening to JP for a year or two and this is one of the most important and concise dissertations that I have heard. Well done JP, you are almost single-handedly saving the world. You are loved.
Sometimes you have to let go or you will sink with the ship also,you still love them they are still in your heart and when if it's not detrimental to your health miracles do happen ♡
Sacrificing is like showing god you are capable for the next level in which we all want to get to but were lost and too afraid to let go of control and our meaning of things and the people we think we need to hold onto. Human nature and our conditioned behavior can really keep us trapped..
People said they are a crossroad in life and it's hard to make a decision. I never understood how and why it was so difficult to decide until I'm at a crossroad in life.
Like belief in superstitious mythological nonsense? I'm all for it but presume this hurdle being imagined far too high for quite a few "adults", given the comments below.
I came to recognize that one of my best friends was actually gaslighting me to become like him. He feels that he is the only successful person he knows. He is living in a country he does not like, he married a girl he did not choose. He brought a house which someone else chose. I never wanted such life. I wanted a life of my own. But he kept insisting me to choose what he chose. That really made me realise that he was the real naysayer in my life always. Recently i let him go. I feel happy now.
OK jordan mentions that we were chimps at one point , but he also believes in what the Bible says but we all know that The Bible contradicts the meaning of the word evolution
I find it's helpful to take things to their extreme to see if it's reasonable or sustainable. So for this, let's abandon everyone in our family. Everyone is on their own. I'm not interested in making you happy and you aren't interested in making me happy. Where does that lead us?
Ok, good advice . Now extend that line of thinking to the entire individual personality that we call our identity. Almost everyone is fixated on who and what they think they are as years of experience and knowledge while overlooking what these experience appear inside of as still and peaceful alertness or consciousness that is awake to itself . Shift your identification on to that lively unmanifest awareness and the relative parts of our personalities become a secondary feature that cannot over shadowed by subject peace.
What if the thing you feel you need to sacrifice is yourself? I'm staring into the barrel and I don't know what to do. Everything I've done I've done for others, even going to so far as to cut myself off from parts of my humanity and all I have left is the rage. It's always there. Screaming inside my head. Please help me. I'm so scared. I've devoted my life to others. But I can't live for myself.
Have the better outcomes, are to see through, go through if you must, and let go of it. It's having the better memories to appreciate later. You don't lose it, you gain it yet, you have to let it kindive mull in to you and let it revolve. To grow.
Leaving avoiding hundreds of arguments etc is worth your sanity,some people it's there way or the highway there is no compromise or negotiation your not losing your getting your life back
This how i feel now, my life partner is holding me back ... but it is hard to break and start over, in another country with a better job... but i start thinking this is what i need
First, Jordan, look up the definition of the word "sacrifice"?? "Giving up something of lesser value, to gain something of greater value" So, yeah, you lose. But you decide what you gain, by being willing to lose? The gain is so much greater than the loss. So, where's the "gain" part of this lecture??
@@bridgettemitchell1983 My point, Bridgette (which I obviously didn't make clear) is that you have to decide that it is you "giving up/sacrificing" benefits that don't mean that much to you. In exchange for benefits that mean so much more to you? If the decision is yours, then, there should be no regrets. If your allowing things to be taken away from you? Nothing will compensate "you or me" for that loss. Why (should) "I" need Jordan Peterson to explain/justify "my" priorities to "me"?
Not nuts at all! You obviously do not identify with the teaching because you are not impeded by someone you love. I have been, to the point of abuse, and know that exchanging contact with my family for freedom, blessed freedom, is the most painful, the most necessary, the most exhilarating course of action in the world.
“If someone is impeding your development you sacrifice your relationship with them”
- Jordan Peterson
try telling them that their impeding your development? But, only tell them, if you know how their "impeding your development" so, you can tell them what to stop doing.
I wish I knew this earlier.
@@lucianene7741 I still don' know what Peterson has said, that doesn't qualify as "general knowledge"
@@Guerilla30892001 it's simple when it didn't happen to you.
@@TinhNguyenDota2 having knowledge, and being able to express that knowledge, are 2 different skill sets. Jordan seems to think he can speak, personally. About how he would react to problems he will never experience, personally.
I was carrying my friends skin of evil . All her problems dumped on me . I’ve stopped now you have to try life each day the best you can . Be Grateful for my blessings x
I distanced myself and Ive never felt so great. Whatever time I have left is for me to enjoy. I was fighting for many years, now I'm at peace. I can't fix everyone.
Right on. I'm going through that now. 😪
You are right ! And it not selfish its self protection from the others
Finally someone who feels the same
This message is profound, I think we just found the key to life. JP is brilliant.
Please repeat these words... 😭
Have a good life friends.
Dream wonderful whole dreams.
requires the sacrifice what's love best..
Maybe I just listening to you through YT but your one of those person I esteemed, sometimes I'm grateful that there's someone can explain what's in my head and at the same time giving a possitive solutions that atleast can lighten the weights.
God finally gave me the freedom to let go of my toxic relationship with my mom who was physically and mentally abusive in trying to destroy my childhood…she continued to play games with me as an adult so I had to detach to become the person God always intended me to be…we can’t change the abusive other person and will continue to be damaged until we give ourselves permission to let go…choosing to follow Christ has saved my life..❤
Out of the 4 children my mother had, I, the only daughter, was her target. Physical, emotional, it was a constant torture. The day she was caught by husband 3 I thought it may end, sadly it did not. My brothers started to see. No one help[ed me. I left home the day after I graduated high school. I was in and out, always hoping she would love and approve of me, she physically slapped me across the fact 2 months before she died and it was only then I knew it was finally over.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING US SIR ✊️
how I didn't I know before it's too late....
Much of what must be sacrificed is on the inside. We’re in a spiritual war.
Makes sense, it's all i have to say.
I had someone sacrifice the person (me) who helped with development and loved.... for someone who loved... For someone who used and demeaned. It was/is a narcissistic relationship.
Sacrifice....disentagling the lies
Simply and greatly put!
Music sucks just wanted to hear Peterson
4:32
Annoying background music
Hi ...l need help.....ho can l speak 2 ....or email.....
Sacrifice is biblical and encouraged. Guess what's not biblical? The theory of evolution. Humans and everything else are created by the Lord Jesus Christ.
The fact that such a smart person like Jordan is even mentioning this, is off-putting to a degree.
"People become successful the
minute they decide to."
- Harvey Mackay
If people are impeding your development you sacrifice your relationship with them. GOLD💯.
I did this , sometimes I feel guilty when I think of the good times (my heart ) but my brain quickly reminds of the costly bad moments and I congratulate myself for the courage to do so
Dear Brave, I feel you brother or sister.
That's a brave and wise decision. All the best in all your endeavours! Best of success!
Dear Brave you are wise and strong for this and your future self is thanking you. Keep moving forward
I rarely burn bridges, but when I do, it is because the TOXIC NATURE of the person I'm leaving is not in dispute; I've had people in my life for decades, and failed to cut them out, and the thing IS--- they NEVER learn. Many never get any better, they just get WORSE.
Exactly John and it only holds you back! I realized this myself and almost drove myself crazy, but then I had tried something.. letting go. and the release was unreal and then I went back and there was pain again. Its like no matter how much we know the solution if were not willing to go we will suffer tremendously because of others and the TOXICITY they hold within. The difference is they are not seeking the truth so in turn they ARE suffering and don't know it and they will only continue to release suffering on anyone they encounter its a sad cycle that can only be broken through sacrifice. JP hit the nail on this!
God I love this message. I need to sacrifice a lot for me to be at peace.
You can do it! I’ve also realized this! Im working on the future authoring program this Christmas. Look into it 😎
Same here brother, I gave away everything I thought I needed and now I can hear the wind. 🌟
@@iketerrible6661 e
I thank God I'm at peace
This is the best advice I’ve ever heard
Sometimes parents bring children to this world and don't understand the meaning or responsibility or even the basic meaning of respect with life. Some just bring children to this world in order for them to learn the price of life but not the meaning. A part of parents are mental in disorder. Life it's wonderful but ....society it's self an disorder momentum and it's in our hands the way we create it or handle it.
The difficult thing is when you feel that you're on the verge of sacrificing a loved person for security of things kind of like a roof over your head. That is a hard-hearted choice
Even god have to sacrifice their loved belongings
Little revamping
because of their such sacrifices they are God.
I have been down trodden..by my family ..
As a person that disconnected him self from his family I totally agree..
I love this guy just got his book 📕 12 rules for life..
I recommend it
How did you proceed? I need to do it as well, they are making me insane
@@delphinenyirahabimanam.d.8510
Every individual need to find the right way for him to do it. If he decide to go with this idea.
it’s depend if your believe your family deserve a chance to fight on the relationship.
Unfortunately it was not my case, and I decided to move far away as I can from them. And even block them.
I wish you good luck 🍀 and I hope you can resolve the situation with them instead of choosing this option.
I been listening to JP for a year or two and this is one of the most important and concise dissertations that I have heard. Well done JP, you are almost single-handedly saving the world. You are loved.
Sometimes you have to let go or you will sink with the ship also,you still love them they are still in your heart and when if it's not detrimental to your health miracles do happen ♡
I love the way this man talks
Same … he’s my internet Dad
If someone says they love you they have no right to make your life a continual nightmare that's not love,maybe they have issues?
I agree to be great ,you got to sacrifice something
You had me at "I agree to be great"
@@orooyogomunde5366 great view 🌟
Sacrificing is like showing god you are capable for the next level in which we all want to get to but were lost and too afraid to let go of control and our meaning of things and the people we think we need to hold onto. Human nature and our conditioned behavior can really keep us trapped..
@@bridgettemitchell1983 absolutely ✊🏽🌿
People said they are a crossroad in life and it's hard to make a decision. I never understood how and why it was so difficult to decide until I'm at a crossroad in life.
Like belief in superstitious mythological nonsense? I'm all for it but presume this hurdle being imagined far too high for quite a few "adults", given the comments below.
I just need to scream on my mother to leave me alone im now 29 years old and she always holding me back wtf
I’m gonna let a few things die I’m the last one left in that family you gotta finish what U start
Society is holding me back😎 good advice🤔😉
*Someone looking for positivity clicks this video*
First line: "Let's say you're miserable and unhappy"😂
as a christian with a religious family, this is kinda hard...
I came to recognize that one of my best friends was actually gaslighting me to become like him. He feels that he is the only successful person he knows. He is living in a country he does not like, he married a girl he did not choose. He brought a house which someone else chose. I never wanted such life. I wanted a life of my own. But he kept insisting me to choose what he chose. That really made me realise that he was the real naysayer in my life always. Recently i let him go. I feel happy now.
OK jordan mentions that we were chimps at one point , but he also believes in what the Bible says but we all know that The Bible contradicts the meaning of the word evolution
I think he is speaking about how humanity has been bargaining with reality and how we view as a dream.
Great video 👍
Absolutely
I find it's helpful to take things to their extreme to see if it's reasonable or sustainable. So for this, let's abandon everyone in our family. Everyone is on their own. I'm not interested in making you happy and you aren't interested in making me happy. Where does that lead us?
Ok, good advice . Now extend that line of thinking to the entire individual personality that we call our identity.
Almost everyone is fixated on who and what they think they are as years of experience and knowledge while overlooking what these experience appear inside of as still and peaceful alertness or consciousness that is awake to itself . Shift your identification on to that lively unmanifest awareness and the relative parts of our personalities become a secondary feature that cannot over shadowed by subject peace.
I'd love love to hear more of your thoughts on this. You're on to something here.
What if the thing you feel you need to sacrifice is yourself? I'm staring into the barrel and I don't know what to do. Everything I've done I've done for others, even going to so far as to cut myself off from parts of my humanity and all I have left is the rage. It's always there. Screaming inside my head. Please help me. I'm so scared. I've devoted my life to others. But I can't live for myself.
Have the better outcomes, are to see through, go through if you must, and let go of it. It's having the better memories to appreciate later. You don't lose it, you gain it yet, you have to let it kindive mull in to you and let it revolve. To grow.
Leaving avoiding hundreds of arguments etc is worth your sanity,some people it's there way or the highway there is no compromise or negotiation your not losing your getting your life back
How to let it go? Everybody says let it go , but no one says how to let it go
That's just dumping people who are not on your side.
I have this problem, the solution was explained in a very articulate manner.
♥️🌌
And follow Jesus, the Only way to heaven.
Mr Peterson r you and evolutionists or religious
We were not Chimps.
This how i feel now, my life partner is holding me back ... but it is hard to break and start over, in another country with a better job... but i start thinking this is what i need
Let me know u r success... I will feel happy... I am also facing the same with my life partner
Let go or get dragged!!
Damn he’s good
Love him 😘
WOW truth ❤ !
First, Jordan, look up the definition of the word "sacrifice"?? "Giving up something of lesser value, to gain something of greater value" So, yeah, you lose. But you decide what you gain, by being willing to lose? The gain is so much greater than the loss. So, where's the "gain" part of this lecture??
I think you gain your true self. Meaning for life, if you pay deeply enough attention this will unfold itself and make complete sense to you
@@bridgettemitchell1983 My point, Bridgette (which I obviously didn't make clear) is that you have to decide that it is you "giving up/sacrificing" benefits that don't mean that much to you. In exchange for benefits that mean so much more to you? If the decision is yours, then, there should be no regrets. If your allowing things to be taken away from you? Nothing will compensate "you or me" for that loss. Why (should) "I" need Jordan Peterson to explain/justify "my" priorities to "me"?
GREAT STUFF 💯💯💯💯❣️❣️
OMg....kinda sounds nuts.
Maybe it's not his best day.
I've heard him before ..... this is bizzarro from him
Really? This sounds true to me, I’m going through all this now and I feel liberated because of it
I agree sounds odd.
I was expecting that sacrificing addictions or bad habits would’ve been the key not people.
Not nuts at all! You obviously do not identify with the teaching because you are not impeded by someone you love. I have been, to the point of abuse, and know that exchanging contact with my family for freedom, blessed freedom, is the most painful, the most necessary, the most exhilarating course of action in the world.
@@rosemaryallen2128 yes that’s true, I’m currently trying to get limit my interactions with my father. Working together everyday has taken it’s toll
@@jimmysmith736 A double whammy, work as well as the rest! Hope you can resolve the problem without too much destruction.