Thanks for your video! I've had a similar journey as an asexual lesbian :) I felt like my asexuality meant I would never be able to find someone and I blamed my asexuality for that wishing I was different. But now that I'm older I realised that it's just a point of compatibility like any other. So even if the reason it doesn't work out is because I'm asexual, then we just weren't compatible in the first place same as any other reason.
Greetings from the US! Your earlier, more raw, videos about your asexuality and your experience REALLY helped me come to terms with my own sexuality. It made me feel validated in a way that I thought was not possible. So thank you for that! I'm glad that you, and myself, have learned self love along the way. You still are a big influence/impact to me feeling more free/confident in who I am. Best wishes!
You know, you were grieving the loss of a life that you had been conditioned to want and believe in all your life. You were in a different place in life at the time. No need to be ashamed for how you were feeling and grieving. :) And now you've grown more since then.
Came here after having watched "struggles with being an asexual" for being curious about your development, and I am so glad that you have grown into accepting your asexuality in-depth and have turned so confident about it! :) How would you prefer asexuality to be defined in the future, if not a lack of sexuality (I must say that I have never understood the word 'lack' in the sentence as something negative or less than, but it might be because English is my second language, but I get what you mean. You don't say: "I am in lack of a relationship", you simply say "I am single". There is a word for a condition that can feel as beautiful, and some people enjoy being single forever and never feel the need to participate in relationships. Different concept, but I simply want to say with this that maybe we need a more positive term for the so-called "lack".) ^^
Yeah, we're not "lacking" anything. We're not broken. I usually say something to the effect of "Don't generally experience sexual attraction" instead of "lack". Although I also clarify- that even that has a lot of caveats.
Interesting points, as always! Interesting to hear about wars that we never hear about. Regarding the word lack - maybe absence would be a better term? What other words don't imply a goal of restoring what isn't there? Nonexistence (kind of clunky)?
I think I’ve always just said it as ‘little to no sexual attraction’ when describing asexuality instead of using ‘lack’ but again it’s not the cleanest description.
You’re great Alex! Thank you for your videos :) I’m asexual too. Please don’t be embarrassed about your past video. I believe that every asexual person has been through/ goes through these feelings at times
That's really wild that the ace community is so chill and a vibe. P.s. I think the no or lack of interest refers to those asexuals who have a low libido and rarely experience sexual desire. It's to simply include those on the spectrum, but i do understand your point. People are always trying to "fix" people they see as broken and that don't fit with their narrative as "normal".
@@trevortidwell9047 lol yes!!! I break it down to my self as a body and mind thing. For instance what the body is chemically telling us to do vs what our minds want, and what we are willing to pursue.
Think you are right the English language used for Asexuality is used in a negative way, bit like those who are childfree by choice are seen by the media as 'child-less'. Or those who have a lost a leg, as seen as 'dis-abled' .These terms should be challenged
Thanks for your video! I've had a similar journey as an asexual lesbian :) I felt like my asexuality meant I would never be able to find someone and I blamed my asexuality for that wishing I was different. But now that I'm older I realised that it's just a point of compatibility like any other. So even if the reason it doesn't work out is because I'm asexual, then we just weren't compatible in the first place same as any other reason.
Thanks for sharing this journey. It sounds very similar indeed 😊 I’m glad to also hear you no longer attach blame to your asexuality
The Ace community honestly is wonderful
I love the level of acceptingness of all us aces- aces, aros, demis, grays, and all the others in our umbrella
Greetings from the US!
Your earlier, more raw, videos about your asexuality and your experience REALLY helped me come to terms with my own sexuality. It made me feel validated in a way that I thought was not possible. So thank you for that! I'm glad that you, and myself, have learned self love along the way. You still are a big influence/impact to me feeling more free/confident in who I am. Best wishes!
You know, you were grieving the loss of a life that you had been conditioned to want and believe in all your life. You were in a different place in life at the time. No need to be ashamed for how you were feeling and grieving. :) And now you've grown more since then.
Great content as always!😁
It's awesome to see how we evolve to the better throughout the years!❤️
Thanks for being here from the start Chrysa 😊
Came here after having watched "struggles with being an asexual" for being curious about your development, and I am so glad that you have grown into accepting your asexuality in-depth and have turned so confident about it! :) How would you prefer asexuality to be defined in the future, if not a lack of sexuality (I must say that I have never understood the word 'lack' in the sentence as something negative or less than, but it might be because English is my second language, but I get what you mean. You don't say: "I am in lack of a relationship", you simply say "I am single". There is a word for a condition that can feel as beautiful, and some people enjoy being single forever and never feel the need to participate in relationships. Different concept, but I simply want to say with this that maybe we need a more positive term for the so-called "lack".) ^^
Yeah, we're not "lacking" anything. We're not broken. I usually say something to the effect of "Don't generally experience sexual attraction" instead of "lack". Although I also clarify- that even that has a lot of caveats.
Interesting points, as always! Interesting to hear about wars that we never hear about. Regarding the word lack - maybe absence would be a better term? What other words don't imply a goal of restoring what isn't there? Nonexistence (kind of clunky)?
I think I’ve always just said it as ‘little to no sexual attraction’ when describing asexuality instead of using ‘lack’ but again it’s not the cleanest description.
@@CookeeMonsterr I like that too, little to no sexual attraction. Simple and clear enough!
You’re great Alex! Thank you for your videos :) I’m asexual too. Please don’t be embarrassed about your past video. I believe that every asexual person has been through/ goes through these feelings at times
That's really wild that the ace community is so chill and a vibe. P.s. I think the no or lack of interest refers to those asexuals who have a low libido and rarely experience sexual desire. It's to simply include those on the spectrum, but i do understand your point. People are always trying to "fix" people they see as broken and that don't fit with their narrative as "normal".
It can be confusing to be ace and have a high libido but also be sex-averse, let me tell you!
@@trevortidwell9047 lol yes!!! I break it down to my self as a body and mind thing. For instance what the body is chemically telling us to do vs what our minds want, and what we are willing to pursue.
I agree the word 'lack' is not the right word. It is a bit like people who are childfree by choice are seen as lumped together as 'child-less'.]
nice video ! it was interesting to hear your perspective!
Glad you enjoyed it!
I am trying to get more into Ace communities, I am totally friendless at the moment LOL 🤣
Think you are right the English language used for Asexuality is used in a negative way, bit like those who are childfree by choice are seen by the media as 'child-less'. Or those who have a lost a leg, as seen as 'dis-abled' .These terms should be challenged