Don't Beat Yourself Up About "Losing Her"

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  • @ShaunZachary
    @ShaunZachary  ปีที่แล้ว +10

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  • @Simon-my8pv
    @Simon-my8pv ปีที่แล้ว +117

    You didn’t lose her. You won yourself back.

    • @AndI0td763
      @AndI0td763 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That’s how I look at it now. When I was with my ex I felt like I couldn’t truly be myself. I wasn’t appreciated or respected. As men we place respect on such a high level, we not only want it we need it. And when our women do us wrong it’s hard to let that go. But the relationships that go this way should be easy to move on from, you lose the baggage that was holding you back and you gain back your freedom and honor and overall true self.

    • @yohannestesfaye2797
      @yohannestesfaye2797 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's so true

  • @davidnichols1568
    @davidnichols1568 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    If you know you treated her well and she leaves. Let her go. It's her problem.

  • @davidrivas6412
    @davidrivas6412 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    Nothing made this girl special. She offered no value or benefit in my life. All she did was drain me from my masculine energy and purpose so you're absolutely right. Keep up the good work and knowledge.

  • @davidsalinas676
    @davidsalinas676 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    How could you lose someone that in her mind didn't even truly belong to you in the first place. She was for streets.

  • @TChalla-yg8bl
    @TChalla-yg8bl ปีที่แล้ว +17

    we didnt lose her, we lost ourselves in the moment.remember, in the moment!

  • @Jaytheprofessor
    @Jaytheprofessor ปีที่แล้ว +51

    Bro I could never fall in love with a woman again. Once I’ve learned female nature it’s a wrap !

    • @DavidKing-pq6br
      @DavidKing-pq6br ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same here

    • @carlosvergara2114
      @carlosvergara2114 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      FAX all games not genuine. Just watching you to keep tabs and ride your wave to success!!

    • @aymenbensaid2554
      @aymenbensaid2554 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Andrew Tate : Good !

  • @lechehabi
    @lechehabi ปีที่แล้ว +114

    I lost her just an hour ago.. This was just in time

    • @massacremaker634
      @massacremaker634 ปีที่แล้ว +78

      No, she lost you

    • @daviti4611
      @daviti4611 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Same for me today

    • @mrredMavicair
      @mrredMavicair ปีที่แล้ว

      I lost mine last month after 8 years " , the bitch cheated " with a ugly bastard "😲 I feel ashamed lol . Now she's crying and wants back" karma has come for her " I was upset at first to be honest but today I'm fitter and feel like I have peace ✌️ . Good luck to you fellas I'm sending you lots of good energy " you're always the prize. You just didn't see it .

    • @mrredMavicair
      @mrredMavicair ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Sending much love " self made ninja , you'll be okay 👍 we've all been there .

    • @Davidchendavid
      @Davidchendavid ปีที่แล้ว +12

      You just got an opportunity to upgrade yourself! Congrats on your new found freedom :)

  • @Specsy
    @Specsy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    she lost me

  • @Fontestmartins
    @Fontestmartins ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Brother your videos are helping me getting out of a deep depression about losing people

  • @briangilbert137
    @briangilbert137 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    If she left you she did you a favor! Shaun says it like it is. Move on to better opportunities. Believe in yourself!

  • @killiantitan3711
    @killiantitan3711 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    There's nothing another human can do that you can't do for yourself. And look at it like this. Maybe she possibly saved you from herself, a worst fate.

  • @S8BASTIAN
    @S8BASTIAN ปีที่แล้ว +37

    She lost me last week. Already made plans with another girl for this week. Thanks for the advice Shaun. #AbundanceMindset 🔒

  • @FollowingJesus17
    @FollowingJesus17 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    get well soon.
    My friend used to say to me when I used to complain about a guy disappearing or distancing and I used to be worried that the person wasn't going to come back. She used to say "if he comes back good for him, if he doesn't come back good for me"
    And I think that's how we need to see ourselves with high self-esteem .

  • @Jaytheprofessor
    @Jaytheprofessor ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Men need to focus on what they can control and not on what they can’t control. So many men have this beta mindset where they focus on women first and purpose second. Great video bro !

  • @wmhhealth2018
    @wmhhealth2018 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I've walked away from 2 girlfriends once the disrespect started. No contact for life. The first one tried to come back after 14 months and I shut her down without a word spoken.

  • @Tom-cp6yj
    @Tom-cp6yj ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I needed to hear this!! The "one who got away" it happened over 4 years ago! At 41, I ain't got time for that..

  • @theintern9722
    @theintern9722 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    i fucking like your message. Just got dumped and replaced and i needed this

  • @SamuelDorfman
    @SamuelDorfman ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Thank you brother I needed this one. 6 year relationship ended and I’m 29. I make 110K/yr. I helped her and went above and beyond for her. With kindness compassion, never cheated, never abused her. I hope she enjoys the streets. My bed is gunna be full with other ones that worship me. I’m a god!

  • @jerryc5743
    @jerryc5743 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    11:13 - it had taken me a while to reach that place mentally. Admittedly there are days I still struggle. One of the ways I continue is that I helps is just asking myself, “what do I do, outside of career, that makes my own life be enough to make me happy regardless of who would want to share it?” I have taken up piano, sailing, do my workouts, nutrition and much more. In the end, I find myself kicking myself for putting so much value in having a woman in times past.

  • @Djunturica
    @Djunturica 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    "Enjoy the ride while it's your turn". Wise words right there.

  • @enyamnyame6185
    @enyamnyame6185 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was not her’s , it was just her turn ❤

  • @hatepic15
    @hatepic15 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I begged the other day and first heart break at 25 just learned just found your channel

    • @ShaunZachary
      @ShaunZachary  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Stay up bro ⬆️

    • @Specsy
      @Specsy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same shii bro

  • @mjsocks5929
    @mjsocks5929 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Already feeling better.

  • @3oxisprimus848
    @3oxisprimus848 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    5 months later, your fire burns brighter... MAXIMUM RESPECT BROTHER

  • @ntsikelelonkambule2299
    @ntsikelelonkambule2299 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I gotta admit Shaun, i once beat myself up over losing a girl....now i'm just focusing on being the best version of myself that i can be

  • @justareader____
    @justareader____ ปีที่แล้ว +8

    FAX. I was working hard for us, saving up to get married, and she dipped for no reason. And she had a guy friend. Over time I realized she was a narcissist anyway, so I was actually liberated from her.

    • @rasheemthebestfirstone3274
      @rasheemthebestfirstone3274 ปีที่แล้ว

      What did she do with her guy friend

    • @justareader____
      @justareader____ ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 nothing terrible as far as I know, but she pretended not to have time for our relationship (due to work) but in retrospect, she made time for him, and everything that wasn’t me.

  • @Boutdatfitness
    @Boutdatfitness ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Purpose over her. What's more important Accomplishing a goal

  • @scottmac3539
    @scottmac3539 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Abundance mentality all the way. Be comfortable and content in solitude. Don't be a slave to the neuro-chemical cocktail of "love". It can impair your reasoning and judgment

  • @aayushh.4647
    @aayushh.4647 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    i am the victim here and this video changed my mindset
    please dont stop posting videos.. thank you for opening my eyes.. she always lied to be about her friend and i caught her. today she left me because i was mad for it

  • @liveslowlivesimple
    @liveslowlivesimple ปีที่แล้ว +4

    1:40 subscribed lmao

  • @simoncephas4474
    @simoncephas4474 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'll call this Perspective golden, damn Shaun u amazing u saving us men from this wave of instability women are putting up with now

  • @mrredMavicair
    @mrredMavicair ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Much love to all my brothers " we've all been fucked " but we will be okay and come back " ✌️👍

  • @kamilglaz4029
    @kamilglaz4029 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Thanks for all knowledge Shaun. I am 50 and this year is bringing me good breakthrough. You ar doing great work, keep going, respect. Stay peace.

    • @ShaunZachary
      @ShaunZachary  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Appreciate it bro 🙏🏼

    • @slayer5097
      @slayer5097 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      damn lots of older guys in here...that goes to show, this shit universal

  • @LeeEverett1
    @LeeEverett1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Really needed to hear this one. I did everything right for this girl I dated for 6 months. Was always in my masculine frame, led the relationship, was her shoulder to cry on, took her on weekend trips etc and she ended up ghosting me after I called her out for disrespectful behavior. She couldn't handle a guy calling her on her BS so she blocked me and didn't even formally end things.
    It stings like hell ngl but it's 100% her loss as I did nothing wrong.

    • @KW-gs2gp
      @KW-gs2gp 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      She spared you a horrible divorce down the road.

    • @LeeEverett1
      @LeeEverett1 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@KW-gs2gp The irony is that she's already been divorced, her marriage lasted 9 months before she filed. Should have seen the red flag but she convinced me she was abused and that her ex was the problem.

  • @moomanchu608
    @moomanchu608 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This showed up right when i started to relapse

  • @nasirmohammed-y1z
    @nasirmohammed-y1z 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just happened to me today... Now i got it... Thanks bro

  • @rubenrios7463
    @rubenrios7463 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Another masterpiece. God bless you brother!

  • @S100-x4x
    @S100-x4x ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This what I needed to hear.

  • @mohimbrood5787
    @mohimbrood5787 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    23 weeks ago she lost me. I truly liked this woman but it was her choice to ghost me completely. I guess she just took advantage of me. Anyways fuck this shit im done conplaining back on the grind. Thankyou bro

  • @hollaatyomom
    @hollaatyomom ปีที่แล้ว +2

    For me what made her special was the attention and effort she gave to me in the beginning of our relationship. She made me feel special and wanted. Of course after the honeymoon phase ended it started going to shit and she eventually broke up with me.

    • @LeeEverett1
      @LeeEverett1 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's called love bombing, many narcissistic women do this at the beginning of a relationship. They make you feel special, like you're a king, tell you things like "I've never been so happy with someone before", the sex is usually amazing etc but it's all a facade and typically drops around the 4th month.

  • @blipblipblip4892
    @blipblipblip4892 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I do…
    I got stuck to my comfort zone and destroy my mentality by being on phone all day
    Gain weight
    Loose my confidence
    3 years unemployment
    Also don’t have anything to put to my resume because after i graduate college i straight being who i am now.
    Im a messed and she did the right choice of letting me go.

  • @sogtv9799
    @sogtv9799 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Real game on this channel

  • @ryukiniko
    @ryukiniko ปีที่แล้ว

    I,ll tell you how she special she is special for the streets

  • @invisibleevidence1970
    @invisibleevidence1970 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I LOST MY SELF AND VALUE IN THE PROCESS OF TRYING TO GET HER BACK , TO THE POINT THAT SHE BLOCKED ME .
    IT TOOK ME A WHILE TO REALIZE THAT I HAVE VALUE AND THAT SHE IS NOT ALL THAT I THOUGHT SHE IS DIFFERENT AND MY SOULMATE , I LEARNED A LOT.

  • @tonybryant8091
    @tonybryant8091 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video man. Totally on point. I did exactly this for 3 weeks. Her loss I’m telling you. She isn’t worth your head space guys. They’re fickle creatures and don’t deserve your time.

  • @fightingGibs
    @fightingGibs ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Last year was horrible for me I was Blaming myself to death and drinking too much But This year I’ve Stopped drinking Started being a bit healthier And you’re right, it took me this long to figure out And a Woman that doesn’t appreciate The nice things you do for Her Is no good for nothing Took me a while to figure that out But when I figured out, I got left for a junkie, I was thinking to myself what kind of moron was I going out with? Thanks for this video helps me a lot And you’re right, I never lost her. She lost me big-time.

  • @jeromestanford1992
    @jeromestanford1992 ปีที่แล้ว

    4:54 A general rule of life or a cliche “Never Say Never”. One never knows does one.

  • @12BY6
    @12BY6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Shaun you are on point.when you challenge with what made her special...i came up empty... she didn't dp anything to improve me but ride with me and lay on her back..i am her trick.. my goal is to move the fuck on

  • @arstl6122
    @arstl6122 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    630 mark I needed to hear this everything you said was so raw n real 💯

  • @tonyarmstrong7141
    @tonyarmstrong7141 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    In most cases she is not yours it's just your turn.

  • @stevenpickard1358
    @stevenpickard1358 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You didn't give me the but Shaun voice in the video. "But Shaun I love her she cooks the best lasagna shaun"😂😂Great video I'm on that shit already but thanks for the guys who still need to hear this message

  • @henrywade7757
    @henrywade7757 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love your content man! Good shit

  • @delwarhussain3301
    @delwarhussain3301 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You've said it brother, I've needed that advice.

  • @jacknorton3771
    @jacknorton3771 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great video again. This is exactly what happened to me and what I am going through. I walked away for a reason 7 months ago. In a few weeks I will be in a new place and moving forward. It was her loss.

  • @williammartinez3883
    @williammartinez3883 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    At month 4 I start to be free. It feel really good.

  • @ryukiniko
    @ryukiniko ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I lost so many why the Fuck should I care bout her

  • @cedricraphiel3339
    @cedricraphiel3339 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Most definitely we the prize especially if we great in many ways it's her lost let her go ..some better always will come great video 💪🏿

  • @rajdeepsingh7928
    @rajdeepsingh7928 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are strong guy , keep it mate.

  • @rickychan1047
    @rickychan1047 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    *Give this brother some love & respect, remember to LIKE & SUBSCRIBE! ✊🏻✊🏻✊🏻

    • @ShaunZachary
      @ShaunZachary  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @jaybradley100
    @jaybradley100 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Str8 no chaser

  • @NabilxAiden
    @NabilxAiden ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She lost a real one, mad bout my time wasted

  • @louay8273
    @louay8273 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    youtube dose not show me your videos anymore idk why anyways I was trying to find you for more then 30 mn I m happy to see your videos again and I hope for you the best .keep it up king ♥

  • @dcjc67
    @dcjc67 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your videos have opened my eyes to different perspectives thank you !

  • @Keith-if6zv
    @Keith-if6zv ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow, This was a hard video. One of your best Shaun… pay attention to this video.

  • @oscarsaucedo1310
    @oscarsaucedo1310 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I never beat myself up when my exgirlfriend wanted to lose me my current exgirlfriend deanna mae bair was treating me bad so I ended the relationship right away

  • @baseballdude21345
    @baseballdude21345 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love this video. My girl is starting to be very critical of me and is questioning our relationship. I think the writing is on the wall and things may end soon. I keep beating myself that it is my fault that she is losing interest, but the right mentality to have is that she will lose out on a great guy if she ends up walking away. I am a great guy and have a lot of things going for me, and I can’t control how she feels about me, as feelings are so fickle. This video has just made me feel at peace with whatever may happen next.

  • @GretsyH
    @GretsyH ปีที่แล้ว

    true 😪 I got a long list what makes them so special .

  • @mooneyrj76
    @mooneyrj76 ปีที่แล้ว

    Shaun is my new best friend. Modern women play a game that gets you to invest in them and then chase a bad investment. Fuxx that....I am learning to treat myself with respect.

  • @sangbejeanmarc3510
    @sangbejeanmarc3510 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Nothing mase her special. I wanted to save her telling to go to school focus on work achieving things getting the connections … she cheated on me and i am half broke thrying to plan things with her. She cheated on my while at work just after she told me how much she love me. Lool my fault .. her loss.

  • @TYE2020
    @TYE2020 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If your not ready to date you got plenty of time to get to know yourself more

  • @jelsandim2260
    @jelsandim2260 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    shaun i have seen A LOT OF THESE TYPE OF CHANNEL BUT HANDS DOWN YOU ARE THE BEST

    • @ShaunZachary
      @ShaunZachary  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for the kind words bro 🙏🏼

    • @AhplaNam
      @AhplaNam ปีที่แล้ว

      Agree

  • @Wolf-Law77
    @Wolf-Law77 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    One of the best videos bro. Totally one of the best. I’m 45 years old and I’m not a beginner. However, your advice on how to see the subject was spot on.
    Thank you.

  • @JustpokerB
    @JustpokerB ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank u bro

  • @tylersto9073
    @tylersto9073 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What makes her so special is that she retired her parents

  • @burrito_chesterton
    @burrito_chesterton 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What if you just dismissed a girl you really like, when she asked you to stay,? Can we still, in that condition, say You Did Nothing Wrong?
    Have you, sir, experienced similar blunder in your life?

  • @eagleswin3942
    @eagleswin3942 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks Shaun you're the best bro!!!!!!

  • @nellth7136
    @nellth7136 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You know it

  • @TheDavesloan81
    @TheDavesloan81 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow, I've just found you and watched this video and the other of not getting your ex back!!! I've been in a bad place over my ex and doing all of the behaviors you mentioned with the messages etc - not anymore, I love myself and dignity more than her and the game playing!!!! Big Love Shaun from the UK 👊
    Thank you brother

  • @Tstorm-il5ih
    @Tstorm-il5ih 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you. Needed this today

  • @angeltorracaofficial
    @angeltorracaofficial ปีที่แล้ว

    True

  • @rasheemthebestfirstone3274
    @rasheemthebestfirstone3274 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great video💪🏽💪🏽

  • @EricHartung2
    @EricHartung2 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Weird being here right now

  • @98.wintzz
    @98.wintzz ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Perfect timing for this video

  • @biohazard6380
    @biohazard6380 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you

  • @mariotaylor9659
    @mariotaylor9659 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Facts fam 💯👏🏽❤️🔥

  • @paulsum2496
    @paulsum2496 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great advice, straight to the point !

  • @bobsee678
    @bobsee678 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Man that last minute was the bell ringer. Tired ass women 👍

  • @kevindodgersguerra2927
    @kevindodgersguerra2927 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hey bro I had this woman that used to be all over me and liked me super hard. We had a hiccup I stopped talking to her for months.... She came back to me telling me how she couldn't stop thinking about me and shit. I felt for it and told her I also missed her and couldn't stop thinking about her too. Now she straight up shows no interest in me anymore while I'm all up on her when I see her. Yeah she may text me and shit but it's all dry and different. But I've had it she is showing she doesn't feel the same anymore and I'm over here getting my hopes up. I'm done bro I'm done I will continue to try to ignore her now she got me where she wanted me.

    • @erict.9017
      @erict.9017 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same happened to me.....we had a 7 month break and she loved bombed me then has been hot and cold and now she dosent know what she wants.....after love bombing me. Her new thing is staying out late and drinking and hanging with her friends like a immature little girl. Partially cause her friend is newly divorced. So yeah..... there is loss

  • @nomadhitch579
    @nomadhitch579 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Good shit as always man! Load up on some echinacea and garlic

  • @juanlaoss1063
    @juanlaoss1063 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you man, appreciate you doing this video I needed it

  • @sagemode1642
    @sagemode1642 ปีที่แล้ว

    real talk

  • @archexeros
    @archexeros ปีที่แล้ว +1

    We broke up about two weeks ago I was in no contact for 11 days and got weak cuz started missing her. So I hit her up called, her and surprise surprise NO ANSWER just *crickets* she hang up on me in less than 5 minutes. Instantly regretted it and Now I’m feeling a lot shittier than I was before

  • @mlite2go
    @mlite2go 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I had a gal that had kids by her ex husband and she had financial troubles. She left me for someone else. Absolutely killed me because i messed up and let myself catch feelings. She'll see how much she messed up later because aint too many dudes like myself just going to sign up for all that excess baggage. Im not going to take her back when she realizes how shitty the dating world is now. Wish her the best lol.

  • @rayologyxm
    @rayologyxm ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent video. On point. Well needed 💯

  • @pulemolise2957
    @pulemolise2957 ปีที่แล้ว

    Brother Shaun with the clutch block to get the victory by a single point. The way we the good guys do not value ourselves is insane, its destructive. We invest so much in the women, all they do is show up and then we are sad about someone whom we have shown love (the person whom there is proof that she stands to be at a loss) but we are all crying over people who do nothing for us but simply show up and most likely if she left she was using you all along....and you are sad over losing her?

  • @alpacino5025
    @alpacino5025 ปีที่แล้ว

    Bless Shaun

  • @MrIowahawks77
    @MrIowahawks77 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You are right. Thank you no needed to hear this. It’s been eating at me for months and for what. It hurts but it gotta move on

  • @giloises
    @giloises ปีที่แล้ว

    Good one.

  • @bootseytwofly9454
    @bootseytwofly9454 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾