I agree. I am from Colorado, and I went down to Borger for a ranch camp and was outside all day, every day, and the last day when we packed up, my Dad made me go start the ac and the thermometer on the truck said 109. Imagine the words that went through my brain when an extra extra hot day is about 95 where I live
Ya know... At first I rolled my eyes at a lot of this list, and got ready to fight in the comments... and then I realized Cody is happily married, and I am recently divorced so...
My dad was not in most of my childhood. As a man I can see so many blind spots in my life and character. Now I'm am trying to help my son not have these. holes.
Serious respect. I am very grateful that there are such people as Cody, Owen, Vox Day, E Michael Jones, and every one that I forgot. God bless you and your loved ones
One of a man's greatest strengths is knowing his weaknesses. The ones to worry about are the ones who can't see them, or refuse to acknowledge them. Yours is by far the most inspirational post I've seen in a while. Your son is luckier than he knows.
I don't have any sons, I have 2 daughter's and they get to see how a woman should be treated. Can I add two please Kody. The first is more for the younger gentlemen. Introduce yourselves to the young ladies parents, bring flowers for her mother and in particular speak to her father and tell him that you have the up most respect for his daughter and ask him what time he expects you to have his daughter home and abide by any conditions he has for you to take his daughter on a date. The second is that if you intend for your girlfriend to become your betrothed ask her father for her hand in marriage. It isn't because you think she is his possession, it's simply because it has been his job as her father to provide and protect her. By asking for her hand you are asking to take over his roll as provider and protector.
I definitely believe in being a gentleman, but I’m a complimentarian, meaning that men and women should compliment each other. For example, I’m actually really bad at folding clothes, while most women don’t know how to work on cars. If each of us works at what we’re good at, we’ll compliment each other. That’s not sexist, it’s common sense.
I carried my ladies purse around the hospital for six days, wow she had major surgery, , I fell asleep in a chair clutching my ladies purse, I was not embarrassed... I was proud ... Protecting my ladies belongings and things that are close to her ...and I saw other ladies looking at me smiling that I would do that for my lady.. Then I got thinking, I have a knife on my hip, I have a wallet that's getting too thick, so I thought maybe I might get myself a purse..pushing 60 now body is tired,... It was not a restaurant
I'm with you, to a point, on the purse; However, I'll make exception under any condition where I am serving her (or the kids) needs. An example, out at the park, zoo or other public place when the toddler takes a spill and needs a quick moment of comfort from Mama, you bet I'll make sure that our belongings aren't left unattended on the ground. A dozen more scenarios come to mind but I hope this effectively conveyed the idea.
agreed. I think there should be a little more distinction: never "carry' her purse. If you have to hold it for a moment to secure it while she attends to something...fine. but there is NO reason to walk anywhere while holding it unless it is some kind of emergency.
@@almadeckard8360 That is true but not quite my point. It was just an example. To yours, I have a principle that I strive to maintain: when my children ask for something the answer is 'no' only if I have a good reason to not say 'yes.' That reason might be that I have something more immediate to attend or maybe I don't think it to be good for them (they hear 'no' a lot) But if they asked for Mama and I didn't have a good reason (maybe she's finally getting a nap) to say 'no' then the answer is 'yes'
I have the greatest respect for my husband and he for me for reasons much deeper and solid than gender roles. He doesn’t need me to conform to “rules” to prop up his masculinity. I’m well aware that he can and will be my protection and provider and I for him. Woe be anyone to stand against us as a team which doesn’t make him less masculine or me less feminine. As for a purse, mine is a concealed carry .
As a man, this is the most sensible comment on here. My wife and I dont follow some (or most) of these rules, but we are best friends and I'd argue we have a better relationship than a lot of couples that do all of these rules to a T. This is some old school religious stuff. Times have changed.
Number 12. Be considerate enough to plan accordingly so that you aren't late arriving to an airport so that you don't miss a flight to a gathering your wife deems as extremely important that you attend.
Good thing I found a good woman from the northwoods of Wisconsin. Any woman who helps haul firewood is a keeper!lol! She just despises this feminazi movement for sure. She's strong and very capable but was raised in the country and has kept that legendary Midwestern work ethic as well.
Have had my Midwest girl for 3 years now. Hope to make her my wife soon. She's got Midwest traditional values and is a great women. Glad I do almost all of these, just have to work on a few more.
As my name suggests I'm a midwesterner, it's getting very difficult to find young women around here who still have traditional beliefs.. it's pretty sad... I worry I'll never find a good one
I agree with your list. As an older woman, married 25 years with six children and three grandchildren, I believe we should teach the younger women how to raise their children, take care of their homes, take care of their husbands and themselves. Mothers and wives often forget or feel guilty about taking some time for themselves.
Interesting video, but I have to say any man that is a man follows his own rules. I wouldn't hesitate to hold my wife's purse. Its a nice thing to do so she can free her hands. A real man don't feel less of a man just cause he holds a purse. Car door is held open on date nights, the rest of the time she is a grown women and she is more then capable to open the door herself. A relationship is about working together. Generally speaking a large part of our society is socially engineered and brainwashed into doing and acting a certain way and think that there are specific rules that they need to follow. Being respectful and courteous in your own chosen way is what might work best for you.
Agreed. Quite a few of these things I do. Some I just dont get. I hold her purse sometimes, we walk next to each other on the stairs. I open her car door and other doors, sometimes I order for her sometimes she just goes for it.
I always order for my wife, when we sit down i use that time to discuss what she wants to eat. If she's not made up her mind when the waiter comes back to the table i send them away. When she's made up her mind i place both of our orders
WorldBuider I’m with you. I think that one was wrong. If my wife needs me to hold her purse for a minute or two. No big deal. Also, I let her order. It doesn’t matter to her or me. Besides I don’t want to get it wrong.
@@twentyrothmans7308 the only time I have to hold her purse is if she is having to do something with both hands and only for a moment. She's a pack mule and I tease her that I don't want to wreck her workout. The shoe matching thing is more with my mom who has to use a Walker these days. So, yes, I'll gladly do that for the 20 steps to and from the car. Sometimes being a man is knowing when to break these rules.
Good Idea, Kim. I hope you will pursue the idea of a similar list from Mrs W. We love seeing her anyway. Meanwhile, as a recently remarried widower, This is my second chance. I did most of this list before. Now I'm doing even better. (My Daisy was from a culture in which it WAS a custom for the man to help carry the purse. But my new wife is from Washington State. LOL, we will see how this surprise goes. (-; )
The first time a girl offered to go half on the bill, I almost cried with joy! date after date after dead end date woman expect you to foot the bill even if they don't deserve it... it's nice and refreshing to meet a woman who doesn't take advantage. And personally I think men always paying is a tradition that needs to die, especially when women work and definitely if they make more than men do. PS. Women 100% will NOT respect you just because you buy them things. I learned that the hard way so you don't have to.
I find that even if by the end of dinner she doesn’t “deserve” to be paid for I will still pay for her gladly. The reason is that she still took the time out her day to give to you, and she still deserves the respect of a woman even if she treated you poorly or the date went poorly. If it’s bad just don’t go out again🤷♂️
I agree with most of these things. There are a few where exceptions can be made. Opening the door for her is the best option, if you are in a hurry or your hands are full some exceptions can be made. Holding the purse, yeah I don't like to hold it, but if my wife needs me to hold it and it helps her I'll do it. If it's a "hold my purse cause I'm tired of holding it" no it's your junk you hold it. Ordering for the lady seems chauvinistic, but the reason is solid, you are serving her by ordering for her. If you are married your finances should be together anyway so the guy can pull out his wallet and pay the bill. When my wife and I were dating there were a few times where she wanted to pay the bill. I realized she wanted to feel like she was contributing, she didn't want to be the financial burden. I let her pay a few times when she insisted. The guy should follow these rules all the time, but there are a few situations where an exception can be made.
Andy Leland That'd be something like: - You're expected to be a clumsy, dependable subhuman being that's overwhelmed by small tasks such as reading a menu, so your man will do everything for you. On the other hand he's expected to pay every bill so you can be a leech no problem.
@@edaker4684 It could be to make sure that John Pierce doesn't think he means to decide what she eats. She tells you what she wants, and you place the order.
As a woman I ADORE when my husband addresses the wait staff and says, "and the lady would like..." And orders what ever it is I have told him I want. LOVE LOVE LOVE
Of course, it's impossible to decipher every individual's intentions, but I've always assumed the server goes to the woman first for the same reason we hold the door for them to walk through first. As a sign of respect, value and care towards the weaker vessel.
That is correct. As waitstaff, we are of the mindset of "Ladies first." It is a sign of respect and acknowledgment of being women, different than men. This also assures that the children's meals are noted, as well, and often the mom will ask if the children's meals can be brought out FIRST. Never has a man who orders ensured that the children are fed first. Women naturally sacrifice their own time and meals for their offspring, going without in order to care for family. Guess #12 could be: Men, make sure you order the children's meals and ask that they are served first so than dad and mom can have a wee bit of quiet early on. And bring crayons and colouring book, too.
I do some of these some of the time. It’s nice to have a reminder to step my game up and let me wife know that I appreciate her. I don’t know about ordering her food. To each their own. Also, I’ve been the jackal holding her purse, pride falls faster than the force of gravity.
Only thing I'm confused of is not letting the girl order her food. I totally get paying the bill but what's the big deal with her ordering her own meal. Is she not allowed to talk to the waiter/waitress?
Lol! Fast Times, baby! "Now, the lady will have the linguini and white clam sauce, and a Coke with no ice. And five, now this is the most important, Rat. When it comes down to making out, whenever possible, put on side one of Led Zeppelin IV."
My husband used to do these kinds of things until he became so disabled he could not. He often brought me flowers for no reason - and they were always my favorite (I told him once what I liked and he never forgot).
Of course, the best thing you would do if you were raised right would be not to judge others based on your skewed and fragile view of what you think masculinity is or force on others what you think their role as a man or woman should be in a relationship.
These videos always make my day, and the effort and time spent for you to speak to us we are grateful for, we massively appreciate it, so thank you Cody for sticking with it and becoming an image of the kind of God and Family focused lifestyle most of us are trying to work towards
Love all of this. We're very old fashioned. The statement, however, of never holding a purse, might have some leeway. My wife and I, (married longer than you, and have twice the number of kids as you), have a great relationship. While my wife was in surgery last month, I happily held her purse and prayed. I agree with this post, in almost all ways, but, we, as men, can certainly hold her purse once or twice when they need us to stand up in honor of them.
Open the car door, Well in Texas I think most of us have Ladies that would rather us just get in an turn on the AC in the summer months. ( all 7 of them)
Well you can go out ahead as I do and start the truck up before to heat or cool it. It's very hot and does get cool in Oklahoma. Just takes a extra minute.
One of my first years here in feminist Sweden, I remember I had just arrived to the parking lot of a supermarket, I noticed a lady carrying what looked like 10 grocery bags, and struggling putting the bags down to open the trunk of her car. I hustled over and asked if she needs a hand, and she yelled back at me "Do I look like a f'ing handicapped to you???" - Sorry, just trying to help... But, great list, Cody... My dad, who passed away way too early, always praised those exact same rules, and lived by them, faithfully till his last day. I do too today.
"I'm a man and I put stuff in my pockets" yeah tell that to nutnfancy and his fanny pack , lol Glad to see I was raised right and I do all of these God bless Nick
I agree with some of these things ! I’ve been married 8 years. My wife orders food because I eat what ever dish she doesn’t! Also I hold my wife’s purse because if someone try’s to steal it they have to go through me. That’s the protector in me and I don’t feel less manly for doing it. Secondly when she’s shopping she cannot hold the purse when’s she’s trying clothes on. I agree on all other topics.
When I was dating my wife (25 years ago, when we were in high school) I lived by this list. At that time, remote/electric vehicle locks were still a new concept, and my vehicle was not equipped. I would unlock/open/close her door, and I was walking around, she’d reach across to unlock mine. I always thought that was nice. I realize now, I’ve become a little lax, and have much room for improvement. Thank you for the reminders.
At 45 yrs young I love ur list ..I preach the same things to my sons and they never cease to amaze me when we ate in public ,not necessarily with their girlfriends( one is 16 the other 6) but their is nothing more satisfying as a father to see your kids doing "old fashioned" MANNERS..Thank you for all your content..Shalom
On more thing, in reality, all this is to say we as men consider the lady to be precious and deserving of our best. As if on a pedistool. If someone has to get hurt let it be him on general, if one has to suffer, let it be him, not her. Dont take offence at us for wanting the best for women.
the "bring a coat/sweater" is a big one, in my private high school by the end of novemeber we had 2-3 days with a great sun and a bit warmer temperatures, one morning i came with a big wool sweater that i've been using in the woods and a carhartt jacket as i knew the temperatures were going down in the afternoon, and indeed they dropped, by 12°c. i gave my jacket to one of my friend who was wearing a summer dress and my sweater to a classmate, and for what i've been told, it went in half a day on more than 10 girls who were all very thankful few days before prom! (ps: they loved the smell of men cologne and wood on it) that's the kind of story that make a man's reputation particularly in a small french town...
I agree with most and feel like alot of common courtesies are lost i society today, but the way you say it's just respect seems more like you may have control issues and you do it more for yourself and your own image. Making you lady come back through a door way when your in a rush doesn't seem respectful.
I think she is probably gonna roll her eyes, but still be glad overall that you stand for something. That's usually what happens when I pull this kind of stuff on my wife :P
This is such a good video. Not because of the content necessarily because some of it is solid and some of it is debatable. But! It’s so contentious in places that even Cody’s audience will debate this in the comments. You’re a smart man sir. It’s also thought provoking. Thanks for the video.
I must have been raised right. While I am not always perfect (or even consistent) at these, they were ingrained in me by parents and grandparents. Great wisdom
Cody's advice: 1. Open the car door for a woman 2. Walk between a woman and potential hazards 3. Walk on the lower side of a woman on stairs 4. Compliment women, because God created them to please men 5. Place a woman's food orders for her (though she can decide what she wants) 6. Never let a woman pay 7. Never hold a woman's purse 8. Always open doors for women 9. Always have a jacket in case your woman is cold 10. Surprise your woman once in a while with a planned date for which you clean up a bit Those aren't all bad, but I certainly don't agree with all of them, particularly not some of the justifications.
His knowledge and experience is invaluable. wish i could thank him for sharing it with us. I originally discovered the channel because i only wanted to learn how to re-haft my axe properly and discovered a stream of wisdom. thanks Wranglestar.
This is a great video. I'm blessed with a husband who makes sure to do most of these things. With 2 toddlers in tow, however, I'd rather him get one of them out of the van than worry about me getting out. I'd love to see a video by Mrs. W about things women should do. We also have a responsibility to respect our husbands and act accordingly.
I have had the honor of meeting you and Mrs W. In person and I can attest to the fact that your dynamics work very well. There's definitely a sense of teamwork. And I honestly believe that Women are a gift and should be treated as one. Not saying they cant fend for themselves. Just saying we should make sure we're doing our part to treat them with respect. Thank you for reminding the finer points. God Bless and have a great day!
Hello Cody! My name is Rick. I came upon one of your amazon tool review videos and something in your way of carrying yourself through the video, your honesty and sense of humour, made me want to watch more videos; I've been binge watching them for the past 24 days. It's fair to say I appreciate your content in it's full scope, your personality, the subjects you bring to the table, your traditional/conservative way of approaching life and most of all, your willingness to work as hard as you can to be as independent as possible, but still having in mind the duty of kindness towards others, apart from your immediate family. I was brought up in a semi conservative family in which morals and values were deemed as of the utmost importance, to live life in harmony with others, and even though my parents avoided making it the centre piece of our family dynamics, christianity was always there (the reason for this, is because my mother didn't want to impose her beliefs upon me and my sister). Me and my sister ended up deciding to become christians, and embrace God and Jesus Christ in our lives. For the most part, the most important parental figure during my childhood all the way to my teenage years was my mother; she always worked full time and always took care of us at home, getting us our food, clothing and needs met. When both of us were little we had nannies up until we were old enough to go to school, but because my sister is 9 years and a half older then me, she would also look after me. We never had any housekeepers, my mother would do everything around the house and my sister would help; during that period of time, my father was travelling around the country installing software in banks, so I had little contact with him. Long story short, I was made into a Man by two Women! I always had the opportunity to have some insight on how a woman likes being treated in general, and I was taught to use my observation/analytical skills to get to know the people around me and be particular about the way I address and treat each individual. Needless to say, I try my best to follow most of the items on your list, on a daily basis, however, there are a few I don't agree I should follow all the time and this is justified in part by the conclusions you arrived on your video titled: "I Was Disrespected today (What Happened)". 8:17 - I don't think the man should always pay the bill. In some instances, the bill should be either payed by the woman or split in half, or there should be some sort of agreement on what should happen. I have been in two serious relationships, where I lived along side a partner. In one of them, both me and my partner were working, and I was paying the bill whenever we went out for diner or ordered food in. When the relationship ended, I had £300 in my bank account and an apartment with a £750 rent to pay, apart from all the other bills. She went on to rent an apartment on her own, and even though she had more money on her bank account than me, she still asked for a loan.. I am currently in a relationship in which my partner wasn't working for a while, so I was/am more than happy to pay the bill on every occasion. What I notice is that after a while, your partner will develop a behaviour of entitlement and expect it to be your job to always pay the bill. I don't agree with that. In these two relationships I've mentioned the house bills were tendentially split in half, whenever both were earning an income, working full time. So why not split/pay for a bill on an outing as well? I used to think it would damage my reputation as a man, not getting all the bills sorted, but I don't anymore. It feels nice being treated to a meal every now and then, and as a man, I think I deserve it too! In my mind, if both are earning a similar amount of money, both should make an effort to treat the other in turn, so that neither gets to the end of the month without money on their bank account. As it is, and being that I'm at the moment the solo provider for my household (my wife is not having a consistent income at present) I pay all the bills. 9:20 - Partially agree with this one. I have had girlfriends or just girl friends who thought it was funny to abuse my kindness and made me hold their purse for hours. Not anymore. I'll briefly hold my wife's purse so she can do something she needs to use two hands for, but that purse is going back to her hands the minute she is free. It's not because I'm a man and I don't carry purses. It's because she willingly decided to carry that purse, so she should carry her own burdens, just as I do mine. Having said that, if we go shopping and she gets tired or her back hurts because of the weight of her backpack or carrier bag, I'll take those from her and carry them all the way home. I am stronger and have more stamina, so I will help her if she is struggling. 10:55 - This one brings a bad taste to my mouth. I was taught to be a gentleman. Opening the door for a lady is a must-do-at-all-times for me. What I have noticed over the years is that most women take offense when you do it, as if you are insulting their ability to be independent or they think you have secondary intentions and you are trying to force yourself upon them, by being kind. When it comes to my wife, I have no issues. She appreciates the gesture and me as a gentleman. For other woman, I'll do it once. If they start looking funny at me, that's the end of it. I'm not as strict as you and I won't feel the need to do things all over again, if my wife went ahead and got the door open for me though. 11:39 - Partially agree with this one. I am the situationally aware member of the relationship. I tend to always check the weather before we go outside. My wife is usually too distracted, even when I tell her to take a jacket because it's looking like it will rain or get windy towards the end of the day/later. She almost always fails to bring her jacket and because we don't own a car were we can leave one for her, most of the times she ends up taking mine. I don't mind, for the most part, but I too get cold, specially because I have bad peripheral circulation, and when exposed to cold wind my skin temperature drops rapidly. So it's not really fair that I get cold because she din't think to listen to me or forgot to look after herself. If we owned a car, I would probably do as you say and keep a jacket or a blanket there, so she could use it if needed. I just felt like sharing my opinion. In no way am I against you or your views, I just don't necessarily agree with the previous points, at all times. You have been an inspiration in my path to become a self sufficient and reliable man, and I applaud your guts and none apologetic, but respectful attitude towards your viewers. Thank you for everything that you do! God bless you and your family, Cody!
My girlfriend had ordered a unsweet tea and realized she wanted the tea with the flavor bubbles in it and she was so bashful to order it so I had ordered it for her she was so happy and appreciative for it.. also I thought about the holding a purse thing if she needs me to I'm gonna say no I can see the importance to such a simple thing always hold the door and let the lady through first for a stranger or your women 100%
Thank you for these tips I didn’t grow up with a dad ( I’m 19) and when I started watching this I thought to myself he can’t possibly say anything I don’t know already but these are things I often wouldn’t think of.
7:55 quick point on waiters and waitresses going to the woman first. I was a waiter for 3 years and there is a policy in some restaurants to take orders in a clockwise rotation from left to right from the position of the server. This is for ease of taking large orders. It becomes habit at tables of any size after a few days on the job. Men tend to position themselves in accordance to the orientation of the door so they face it. At first I thought this was a paranoia thing, but over time have come to see it as similar to your rule about walking on the sidewalk. Consequently, this may put the man on the far end of that clockwise rotation. Consider this when a server starts at your wife/girlfriend. There is usually no implicit bias
Lol. I’m getting most of these - BUT! - my Ma is 93 - you darn well better believe that I’ll hold her purse from time to time. I’m man enough to assist my Ma in anyway she needs. There is always an exception to every rule except this one. And then there’s the Be Shaved. I’m no member of ZZ Top, but I ain’t shaving for no dang thing. I earned these long grays. But generally, I’m in agreement.
J S Rocker - Lol. With a wink I included the comment, because generally speaking - it was about manners and appearances. And since my spouse has passed away and I’m an empty-nester, Ma is the significant other. Basically, I was poking a bit of fun at Cody, not looking for a statement of the obvious. But thank you for all your insight. ;-)
Great advice. I do just about all of this on a regular basis (at least try to) and notice that it does work! When I slack off, things change slowly. That's dangerous territory in a relationship! It was not taught by my parents or school when I was growing up but rather you saw other men doing it and learned that this is how it is done. It is such a good feeling to implement these steps and reap the rewards of a loving wife. For those who appose it, it's understandable why you do. You simply have not experienced the value it offers.
@@JeremiahAlphonsus No, the problem is with this way of thinking. There's a reason that we as a society are slowly progressing away from it. Figure it out, bud.
@@weapongod30 Wrong again. We're not progressing; we're degenerating. Ditch your conformity. Start by deprogramming yourself of today's chronological snobbery. The true Dark Ages are upon us. Wake up.
Great advice sir. My father taught me some of this, and I taught myself the rest. For us Fathers of daughters, remember to also treat your daughter this way. Not only for respect and to show your love for her, but to show her and give her standards as a young woman. If she is with a sleezball she will know it fast by how he behaves because Daddy didnt so it that way and he respected her. Glad I got a Midwestern wife and we are raising a Midwestern daughter.
I don’t normally comment on TH-cam videos, but have mercy this has got to be one of the most offensive, bizarre, misogynistic things I have ever seen. This dude is stuck in the 18th Century. How about we treat women like fellow human beings instead of objects to please men? Everything that came out of this guy’s mouth was horrible.
I am terrible at doing all these things. It’s funny how good of behavior you are on when you are dating, doing all the things we should do for women, and then now I’ve been married for 5 years and I’m lazy as can be at doing these “extra” things for my wife.
Some of these are common courtesy, and some just outdated nonsense. Opening and closing the car door? She's a woman, not an infant. Ordering for her? It's her effing choice what she wants to eat. Again she's not an infant. Your woman will respect your order. Grow up dude you're about half a century behind the times. I like your work-related content. Don't pull this nonsense and make me not want to watch you
I was so happy to see the piece of paper! Way to write it down and not just do it on the phone. I totally agree with so many of these. However... I had someone tell me a while ago that in Texas it's more respectful to run ahead and crank the vehicle so the AC is running when she gets in. 😀
Great video Cody! There are just a few things I didn't see on your list: 1) Go to the gas station and fill up your wife's car so she doesn't have to do that. Run her car through the carwash if it needs it. Top off any fluids. My wife should never have to wonder if she has enough washer fluid in her car. 2) If we're buying anything in the store, before we buy it or after we purchased it, I carry it. This frees up my wife's hands if she wants to look at other things to purchase. If we are going to other stores, or going back to the car, it makes it easier for her since I'm carrying all the packages to the car. My wife has come to expect this, and I enjoy doing it for her. 3) Figure out what your wife is worrying about or something she is planning to do that day, and fix the problem or get the task done for her and surprise her. Example: you have guests coming over for dinner, before she comes home, you vacuum, get things ready for company. Do you have a big load of laundry that hasn't been done yet ? Your wife is thinking about it in the back of her mind ! Get it washed and folded before she gets home and you will be her hero ! 4) If your wife is going to use your car for the day, you're switching cars for the day and she is driving your car, make sure you do the following: - Make sure your car has plenty of gas - Clean up your car. Throw away any trash in it. My wife's car is much cleaner than my car, so when we have to switch out cars I always clean mine out before she drives it. It's just a matter of respect. If she needs to use my car, I make sure it's clean. I throw away trash in the car, etc.
Another excellent video and just great for the young men of today to learn a little that will be of special help in their courtship and throughout their married life. I remember also that my grandmother taught me to always walk 'beside' a lady and not in front of her as it was disrespectful to have her following you. As someone who has been married for 57 years there are perhaps a couple of additions to consider. They are in surprising her, take a bunch of flowers at various times. Not particularly birthdays, but even mid week of a working day as you come home from work. Also try and have clean shoes and well cleaned hands and nails. Its not too difficult to make the effort when out with your lady. If the young men remember this video, you will have helped them learn the way of the 'gentleman' and the ladies will absolutely love it. Well done Cody.
This is FANTASTIC information! These are ALL the things that I have been constantly commented on or complemented/praised for... and there shouldn't even be a need!!
1:50 “lady’s do like to carry a lot of stuff around” You’ve seen all of the kit/pack list and edc videos that were all obsessed with right? Ha we’re just as guilty of carrying a ton of stuff too We just tend to carry cooler stuff!
Very true. But a man like him wouldn't agree with that though. Because he keeps a buttload of things in his car. HIS car, that's his purse you see. Where he puts his woman too.
I would add 1 more to your list that applies to dating a young lady living with her parents. When you go to the door be prepared to meet the parents. I taught my son to stand up straight and if the father answers the door proffer a firm handshake and look him in the eye. If he has instructions ie: time to be home etc. A respectful 'yes sir. My son stepped it up and always brought a small bouquet of flowers for the mother.
when I dated, or had a date. When I showed up, sometimes I was allowed to go in for a few min. But the point is, even tho i'm on time, when I met the parents, trying to break the ice if its the first time I said: "srry that i'm so early to my date" Maybe I can take/do a quick drink first with the mother. *in a playful way*
Just showed this to my fiancee, and she cringed more than I did lol. I would say she's more "traditional" than a lot of people these days, in regards to manners and respect, but she would have me walking back out that door ALONE if I tried half of this.
@@tracematson385 how to drag us back into the dark ages. But I suppose I'm just a "triggered liberal" which is the typical response from people that think like wranglerstar.
My wife loves it when I order for her. She makes sure I do it when we go somewhere “nice”. I need to make sure I keep it up and follow your others more stringently.
Been married for over 40 years Wife has never washed, waxed or in any other way detailed a car, including fueling a car in that time. But being around me she knows the importance of preiodic maintenanceand servicing . So twice a week she does a walk around to check for low tire pressures and to make sure all lights are operable.
I love your homesteading content but damn this should be titled "10 things to do if you wished times didnt change since 1950 or have a fragile ego." I think some of these are good but some of them are for a small potion of people who live very religious lives who choose to live in a different time.
As a viewer i find i have to filter out a lot of codys advice, he has a very old mindset in regards to gender roles not only in a relationship but in the world in general.
Mi esposa is from El Salvador but has lived in Canada longer than her homeland. She is such a great mother to our four boys and companion to me and let me tell you; she’d give a lot of guys a run for their money when it comes to physical labour.
I'm going to try to do these things more. I don't always open the door for her or walk on the "more dangerous" side of her but I will be making a better effort to do so. Thanks great video
it's like half of the things he says make total sense and have nothing wrong with them in the other half are something of far-right guy would say to his Aryan wife while they melt people darker than they
Dear Wranglerstar, First of all, I love you and your family. I loved it so much when you were doing the Bible Studies and also love the Manly Manners...But when you published this on August 20th, I had to write to you and express my heart. All the things you mentioned are just icing on the cake. What women really want is to be talked to in a loving, kind fashion. To be treated like they are #1 in their husbands life. They wanted to be treated with respect, honor grace, kindness and most of all to feel loved and valued. I love my dear husband so much. He is a hard worker and a good provider. But frankly he can talk to me so irritably, gruffness, roll his eyes, talk down to me like I am a second class citizen and not a loved and honored wife. He can be gumpy, and sometimes act as if he doesn't want to talk to me. It is so hurtful. Forget about opening the doors...she show basic Christian kindness. He can be very kind, so I know he is able to do so. I want to be spoken to and treated in a loving, honoring respectful, kind way, even as Christ loves us. All the Manly Manners that you shared Aug 20th were very nice, but like I said, it is just icing on the cake. I will be happy to walk next to the street, or even buy dinners at times...but being talked disrespectfully is the cake...please tell guys just to be Christlike or Kind to their wives...All of God's richest blessings on you and your dear family. I love you all. Christian Love
Thank God for you, Cody. I'm no saint, but I do pride myself in consistently doing about half the things on your list. It's amazing how little you see these small courtesies. Appreciate the tips to step up my game and make the lady feel like the special woman she is! Also, firm believer in the "no purses" rule. Ha!
Excellent video, all simple old school gentlemanly manners! One note, putting the woman on the inside of the sidewalk and man on the street side is not necessarily to save her from a runaway vehicle but rather to put her further away from splashing water, mud, etc from the gutters. It also hearkens back to the emptying of chamber pots out of the upper floor windows, it removes her from the "splash zone".
I wonder if this young guy should have his girlfriend watch this first? I could see him following this list only to find that his efforts are entirely misconstrued due to the societal conditioning she has been put under. Here you provide many times a genuine explanation for “why” he should behave a certain way. Maybe she needs to have the same edjumacation! How many times have I heard the lyrics from the Animals “I’m just a man whose intentions are good, Oh, Lord, please don’t let me be misunderstood!” after doing something that could trigger a wrong response? Good stuff Cody!
If my wife comes out with a new pair of shoes on I firstly need to establish if she brought them in the sales and then acknowledge that I’m sure she didn’t need another pair. After that’s complete we agree that they look very nice and were defiantly needed! Love your vids and being serious I really like your list and thoughts.
I wouldn't want to do my parents wrong by saying they raised me half right, because the other half was my choice to be a dingus early in life. But spiritually I would say I got the other 40% and the remaining 10% for me is really shoring up and building masculinity. My favorite audiobook choice: Raising Men by Eric Davis, a former Navy Seal. I kind of wish my Dad bonded with me on that masculine level like a Navy Seal to teach me to be tough, and muscle through the hard times. He went through Basic, was an officer in the Army, etc. But I learned the roughness on my own. But I will help my boys understand it's easier growing up to not be a stranger to difficulty and to make the best of it. But I'm thankful for your channel. I feel like it fills the gap I didn't quite gave growing up in an extremely religious household. It helps me escape into projects, but everything including religion still fits in the puzzle of life.
hi cody, my x was in a wheelchair and it was very inconvenient for her bag. i would be responsible for her bag. if she had not been in a wheel chair i totally agree that she needed to be responsible for her own stuff. any place we went i had control of her belongings. she was in a rehab joint and one of the people that worked there stole her wallet out of her purse. the rehab joint accused my friend of leaving her purse in the hospital or in a fast food joint. she did no such thing the purse was in my control. i was very mindful of the location of her purse at all times. the rehab joint made me feel like i had lost purse. which i did mo such thing. i very much agree about its her purse you brought it you secure it. dont ask me to secure it for you. as far as opening doors, i agree with that too. when i would be planning for a date and cleaning the car i would take special attention to the passenger side of the car. clean the door frame to make sure no dirt would get on my dates clothing. i have old cars and trucks. they take more effort to make them clean.
I was raised pretty much with this list. But in the old days, the stated reason for walking on the street side was because a driver might splash a puddle as you two pass by. So the man gets it first. Of course, nowadays, if this happens, the woman, though protected, will probably yell obscenities at the now departing car, extendend a tattooed arm and flip him the bird. Oh yes, modern romance...
Michael Dougfir I was always told you should walk on the outside so the woman can walk under the awning last she be covered by someone in the building above dumping the chamber pot. But I’ve also heard of man walking on the inside for the same reason
Your videos on men and women make me cry. I become a feminist because I saw women disrespected and I stopped being one because I didn't want to hate half the human race. I had my heart broken so many times and now the last time I turned to God to get me through the terrible hurt and I'm realizing that as God's child I have the right to be treated with love and respect and what I can only call a kind of Godly pride has come upon me. I've asked God to find me a husband if he wants one for me and I know that never again will I allow a disrespectful man into my life. Your video's help me know what I should expect.
The fact Cody knows what Cucking is makes the world seem a little darker.
Jesus....
Lol. Cucked is actually a very old work, some say as old as the 13th Century. Cody is just old-school.
Not to worry too much with this revealing slip at 5:20
Cuck ain’t a new term
The meaning has changed over time. "Cucking" now has far more overtly sexual connotations than it used to have.
My grandad said "If you're shirt doesn't have a pocket it's a blouse"
Haha
A lot of business blouses have pockets though.
haha nice
Mine did too. I always loved that
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In Texas the polite thing to do is start the truck and turn the ac on
In AZ its unlock the door, because the engine's been running with the AC on the whole damn time.
braxton worry Dallas boy here! You are right!
@@richardwebb2348 there are no cold days in Texas
@@richardwebb2348 it's almost 80 degrees here today. The cold left a long long time ago...
I agree. I am from Colorado, and I went down to Borger for a ranch camp and was outside all day, every day, and the last day when we packed up, my Dad made me go start the ac and the thermometer on the truck said 109. Imagine the words that went through my brain when an extra extra hot day is about 95 where I live
Thanks, Cody, it's a good reminder even to us older men from time to time. Iron sharpens iron.
@Andrew Lozano , well learn from this video, kid.
Ya know...
At first I rolled my eyes at a lot of this list, and got ready to fight in the comments...
and then I realized Cody is happily married, and I am recently divorced so...
Treat your daughters this way also, so they know how a man should act
And also if you have sisters
Yes sisters aswell
My dad was not in most of my childhood. As a man I can see so many blind spots in my life and character. Now I'm am trying to help my son not have these. holes.
Serious respect. I am very grateful that there are such people as Cody, Owen, Vox Day, E Michael Jones, and every one that I forgot. God bless you and your loved ones
Same
One of a man's greatest strengths is knowing his weaknesses. The ones to worry about are the ones who can't see them, or refuse to acknowledge them. Yours is by far the most inspirational post I've seen in a while. Your son is luckier than he knows.
Well done Hayden
I don't have any sons, I have 2 daughter's and they get to see how a woman should be treated. Can I add two please Kody.
The first is more for the younger gentlemen. Introduce yourselves to the young ladies parents, bring flowers for her mother and in particular speak to her father and tell him that you have the up most respect for his daughter and ask him what time he expects you to have his daughter home and abide by any conditions he has for you to take his daughter on a date.
The second is that if you intend for your girlfriend to become your betrothed ask her father for her hand in marriage. It isn't because you think she is his possession, it's simply because it has been his job as her father to provide and protect her. By asking for her hand you are asking to take over his roll as provider and protector.
"You don't want any feminist nonsense"
😂😂 you're the best Cody
One of his best quotes!
One of the most true quotes and it's true lol
I definitely believe in being a gentleman, but I’m a complimentarian, meaning that men and women should compliment each other. For example, I’m actually really bad at folding clothes, while most women don’t know how to work on cars. If each of us works at what we’re good at, we’ll compliment each other. That’s not sexist, it’s common sense.
I have to laugh about holding the purse. There are exceptions. I gladly hold a purse when my lady friend is pushing my wheelchair.
touché.
I carried my ladies purse around the hospital for six days, wow she had major surgery, , I fell asleep in a chair clutching my ladies purse, I was not embarrassed... I was proud ... Protecting my ladies belongings and things that are close to her ...and I saw other ladies looking at me smiling that I would do that for my lady.. Then I got thinking, I have a knife on my hip, I have a wallet that's getting too thick, so I thought maybe I might get myself a purse..pushing 60 now body is tired,... It was not a restaurant
I try to cover it up with my coat if my wife is doing something where she cannot hold her purse. Otherwise I never do.
The only people whose purse I’ll hold are my mothers or grandmothers when they need to use the restroom
@@AlmonMalk nice to know that the only women that you respect in your life are family members and that you don't see your partner as family. 🙈
I'm with you, to a point, on the purse; However, I'll make exception under any condition where I am serving her (or the kids) needs. An example, out at the park, zoo or other public place when the toddler takes a spill and needs a quick moment of comfort from Mama, you bet I'll make sure that our belongings aren't left unattended on the ground.
A dozen more scenarios come to mind but I hope this effectively conveyed the idea.
agreed. I think there should be a little more distinction: never "carry' her purse. If you have to hold it for a moment to secure it while she attends to something...fine. but there is NO reason to walk anywhere while holding it unless it is some kind of emergency.
Children can be attended by either parent! Only nursing babies are stuck with their mothers.
Exactly
@@almadeckard8360 That is true but not quite my point. It was just an example.
To yours, I have a principle that I strive to maintain: when my children ask for something the answer is 'no' only if I have a good reason to not say 'yes.' That reason might be that I have something more immediate to attend or maybe I don't think it to be good for them (they hear 'no' a lot)
But if they asked for Mama and I didn't have a good reason (maybe she's finally getting a nap) to say 'no' then the answer is 'yes'
Dont give them an inch they'll take 10 miles
I have the greatest respect for my husband and he for me for reasons much deeper and solid than gender roles. He doesn’t need me to conform to “rules” to prop up his masculinity. I’m well aware that he can and will be my protection and provider and I for him. Woe be anyone to stand against us as a team which doesn’t make him less masculine or me less feminine. As for a purse, mine is a concealed carry .
As a man, this is the most sensible comment on here. My wife and I dont follow some (or most) of these rules, but we are best friends and I'd argue we have a better relationship than a lot of couples that do all of these rules to a T. This is some old school religious stuff. Times have changed.
Number 12. Be considerate enough to plan accordingly so that you aren't late arriving to an airport so that you don't miss a flight to a gathering your wife deems as extremely important that you attend.
#niceburn LOL
Now, let’s try this list again with Mrs. W and her perspective.
We are of the same mind,
...as are my wife and I of 31 years.
Yes, you might be of the same mindset, but her words are just as nice to hear.
YES
@@wranglerstar Put her on then.
Good thing I found a good woman from the northwoods of Wisconsin. Any woman who helps haul firewood is a keeper!lol! She just despises this feminazi movement for sure. She's strong and very capable but was raised in the country and has kept that legendary Midwestern work ethic as well.
Have had my Midwest girl for 3 years now. Hope to make her my wife soon. She's got Midwest traditional values and is a great women. Glad I do almost all of these, just have to work on a few more.
Midwest girl here... high fives all around. ;-)
As my name suggests I'm a midwesterner, it's getting very difficult to find young women around here who still have traditional beliefs.. it's pretty sad... I worry I'll never find a good one
Legend. I found myself a northern Wisconsin girl too! They're the best.
I agree with your list. As an older woman, married 25 years with six children and three grandchildren, I believe we should teach the younger women how to raise their children, take care of their homes, take care of their husbands and themselves. Mothers and wives often forget or feel guilty about taking some time for themselves.
Interesting video, but I have to say any man that is a man follows his own rules. I wouldn't hesitate to hold my wife's purse. Its a nice thing to do so she can free her hands. A real man don't feel less of a man just cause he holds a purse. Car door is held open on date nights, the rest of the time she is a grown women and she is more then capable to open the door herself. A relationship is about working together. Generally speaking a large part of our society is socially engineered and brainwashed into doing and acting a certain way and think that there are specific rules that they need to follow.
Being respectful and courteous in your own chosen way is what might work best for you.
Agreed. Quite a few of these things I do. Some I just dont get. I hold her purse sometimes, we walk next to each other on the stairs. I open her car door and other doors, sometimes I order for her sometimes she just goes for it.
Clearly you’ve been brainwashed as well, bub.
I do almost all of these things. I have no interest in ordering for my wife unless it is going to be a shared meal... Pizza, apps etc...
I agree, plus if you mess it up she won't be a happy camper
I always order for my wife, when we sit down i use that time to discuss what she wants to eat. If she's not made up her mind when the waiter comes back to the table i send them away. When she's made up her mind i place both of our orders
@@easterdm I just realized if I order for her, it seems more polite than when I order and she's not ready.
@@easterdm it does to her. That's kinda the point.
My wife is a waitress so she knows everything to say for good service.
I agree with most of these, except I have no problem holding my wife's purse for a few minutes if needed.
WorldBuider I’m with you. I think that one was wrong. If my wife needs me to hold her purse for a minute or two. No big deal. Also, I let her order. It doesn’t matter to her or me. Besides I don’t want to get it wrong.
A manly man can hold a purse without anyone being confused about it.
I would but it clashes with my shoes.
@@twentyrothmans7308 the only time I have to hold her purse is if she is having to do something with both hands and only for a moment. She's a pack mule and I tease her that I don't want to wreck her workout.
The shoe matching thing is more with my mom who has to use a Walker these days. So, yes, I'll gladly do that for the 20 steps to and from the car.
Sometimes being a man is knowing when to break these rules.
I was always taught by my Texan grandpa that you should let your female companion order first and then you order afterwards as a sign of respect
I bet they have a bounty on you over in Portland. . .lol
🙌🏻Would love to hear a similar list from Mrs. W💖
Good Idea, Kim.
I hope you will pursue the idea of a similar list from Mrs W.
We love seeing her anyway.
Meanwhile, as a recently remarried widower, This is my second chance. I did most of this list before. Now I'm doing even better.
(My Daisy was from a culture in which it WAS a custom for the man to help carry the purse. But my new wife is from Washington State. LOL, we will see how this surprise goes. (-; )
Yes!! That would be a great video!
Great idea. I want to hear mrs w comments on the holding the purse thing lol
yes please!
The first time a girl offered to go half on the bill, I almost cried with joy! date after date after dead end date woman expect you to foot the bill even if they don't deserve it... it's nice and refreshing to meet a woman who doesn't take advantage. And personally I think men always paying is a tradition that needs to die, especially when women work and definitely if they make more than men do.
PS. Women 100% will NOT respect you just because you buy them things. I learned that the hard way so you don't have to.
(Better to do free things on first dates like museums or outdoor festivals or flea markets or gallery openings.)
I find that even if by the end of dinner she doesn’t “deserve” to be paid for I will still pay for her gladly. The reason is that she still took the time out her day to give to you, and she still deserves the respect of a woman even if she treated you poorly or the date went poorly. If it’s bad just don’t go out again🤷♂️
I agree with most of these things. There are a few where exceptions can be made. Opening the door for her is the best option, if you are in a hurry or your hands are full some exceptions can be made. Holding the purse, yeah I don't like to hold it, but if my wife needs me to hold it and it helps her I'll do it. If it's a "hold my purse cause I'm tired of holding it" no it's your junk you hold it. Ordering for the lady seems chauvinistic, but the reason is solid, you are serving her by ordering for her. If you are married your finances should be together anyway so the guy can pull out his wallet and pay the bill. When my wife and I were dating there were a few times where she wanted to pay the bill. I realized she wanted to feel like she was contributing, she didn't want to be the financial burden. I let her pay a few times when she insisted. The guy should follow these rules all the time, but there are a few situations where an exception can be made.
Please have Mrs. W do a list for women “if you have been raised right” teach us what men will appreciate on dates. Thanks so much!
Andy Leland i would love to see that video
Andy Leland That'd be something like:
- You're expected to be a clumsy, dependable subhuman being that's overwhelmed by small tasks such as reading a menu, so your man will do everything for you.
On the other hand he's expected to pay every bill so you can be a leech no problem.
@@Victor-sm6vr so dumb
@@MS-pe2vt agreed
Yes
I disagree on ordering her food for her
I think you missed what he was saying. I gathered that you discuss beforehand what is to be ordered and that the Man does the ordering.
@@jclaydon3454 what's the difference?
@@edaker4684 It could be to make sure that John Pierce doesn't think he means to decide what she eats. She tells you what she wants, and you place the order.
He's trolling, John.
As a woman I ADORE when my husband addresses the wait staff and says, "and the lady would like..." And orders what ever it is I have told him I want. LOVE LOVE LOVE
Of course, it's impossible to decipher every individual's intentions, but I've always assumed the server goes to the woman first for the same reason we hold the door for them to walk through first. As a sign of respect, value and care towards the weaker vessel.
That is correct. As waitstaff, we are of the mindset of "Ladies first." It is a sign of respect and acknowledgment of being women, different than men. This also assures that the children's meals are noted, as well, and often the mom will ask if the children's meals can be brought out FIRST. Never has a man who orders ensured that the children are fed first. Women naturally sacrifice their own time and meals for their offspring, going without in order to care for family.
Guess #12 could be: Men, make sure you order the children's meals and ask that they are served first so than dad and mom can have a wee bit of quiet early on. And bring crayons and colouring book, too.
I do some of these some of the time. It’s nice to have a reminder to step my game up and let me wife know that I appreciate her. I don’t know about ordering her food. To each their own. Also, I’ve been the jackal holding her purse, pride falls faster than the force of gravity.
Only thing I'm confused of is not letting the girl order her food. I totally get paying the bill but what's the big deal with her ordering her own meal. Is she not allowed to talk to the waiter/waitress?
This is interesting. This is culture thing. In center Europe we dont have this tradition. - For respect girl order first.
I’ve heard this advice before: “The lady will have the linguini with white clam sauce, and a coke with no ice”
Lol! Fast Times, baby! "Now, the lady will have the linguini and white clam sauce, and a Coke with no ice. And five, now this is the most important, Rat. When it comes down to making out, whenever possible, put on side one of Led Zeppelin IV."
My husband used to do these kinds of things until he became so disabled he could not. He often brought me flowers for no reason - and they were always my favorite (I told him once what I liked and he never forgot).
"You dont want any feminist nonsense" lmfao
@@basedbear1605 Based based bear
He's right, it's not worth the trouble
Any woman like that is not worth being with, unless you want to be a living doorstep.
Of course, the best thing you would do if you were raised right would be not to judge others based on your skewed and fragile view of what you think masculinity is or force on others what you think their role as a man or woman should be in a relationship.
These videos always make my day, and the effort and time spent for you to speak to us we are grateful for, we massively appreciate it, so thank you Cody for sticking with it and becoming an image of the kind of God and Family focused lifestyle most of us are trying to work towards
Love all of this. We're very old fashioned. The statement, however, of never holding a purse, might have some leeway. My wife and I, (married longer than you, and have twice the number of kids as you), have a great relationship. While my wife was in surgery last month, I happily held her purse and prayed. I agree with this post, in almost all ways, but, we, as men, can certainly hold her purse once or twice when they need us to stand up in honor of them.
Open the car door, Well in Texas I think most of us have Ladies that would rather us just get in an turn on the AC in the summer months. ( all 7 of them)
Well you can go out ahead as I do and start the truck up before to heat or cool it. It's very hot and does get cool in Oklahoma. Just takes a extra minute.
Cody actually used the word “cucked.” I like him more and more every day. I really learned everything I know about tools and working from him tbh.
I do all these except ording for my lady she hates if I do that lol
One of my first years here in feminist Sweden, I remember I had just arrived to the parking lot of a supermarket, I noticed a lady carrying what looked like 10 grocery bags, and struggling putting the bags down to open the trunk of her car. I hustled over and asked if she needs a hand, and she yelled back at me "Do I look like a f'ing handicapped to you???" - Sorry, just trying to help...
But, great list, Cody... My dad, who passed away way too early, always praised those exact same rules, and lived by them, faithfully till his last day. I do too today.
"I'm a man and I put stuff in my pockets" yeah tell that to nutnfancy and his fanny pack , lol
Glad to see I was raised right and I do all of these
God bless
Nick
I agree with some of these things ! I’ve been married 8 years. My wife orders food because I eat what ever dish she doesn’t! Also I hold my wife’s purse because if someone try’s to steal it they have to go through me. That’s the protector in me and I don’t feel less manly for doing it. Secondly when she’s shopping she cannot hold the purse when’s she’s trying clothes on. I agree on all other topics.
Girl: falls to the floor unconscious
Paramedic: "can you get her purse and belongings"
Me: No such thing
When I was dating my wife (25 years ago, when we were in high school) I lived by this list. At that time, remote/electric vehicle locks were still a new concept, and my vehicle was not equipped. I would unlock/open/close her door, and I was walking around, she’d reach across to unlock mine. I always thought that was nice. I realize now, I’ve become a little lax, and have much room for improvement. Thank you for the reminders.
Mrs. W used to do the same thing when we were dating. I had a Jeep Wranglers with manual locks.
#12 don't fart in the car. Lol If you do don't blame it on her🤣
lmao hahaha. What if she does it first? hahahaha
Is that the catalytic converter?
Blame it on something outside and switch the AC off recirculate to fresh air! ;P
You kidding, I blame everyone else , her first. Jeesh
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At 45 yrs young I love ur list ..I preach the same things to my sons and they never cease to amaze me when we ate in public ,not necessarily with their girlfriends( one is 16 the other 6) but their is nothing more satisfying as a father to see your kids doing "old fashioned" MANNERS..Thank you for all your content..Shalom
On more thing, in reality, all this is to say we as men consider the lady to be precious and deserving of our best. As if on a pedistool.
If someone has to get hurt let it be him on general, if one has to suffer, let it be him, not her. Dont take offence at us for wanting the best for women.
Magnificent
the "bring a coat/sweater" is a big one, in my private high school by the end of novemeber we had 2-3 days with a great sun and a bit warmer temperatures, one morning i came with a big wool sweater that i've been using in the woods and a carhartt jacket as i knew the temperatures were going down in the afternoon, and indeed they dropped, by 12°c. i gave my jacket to one of my friend who was wearing a summer dress and my sweater to a classmate, and for what i've been told, it went in half a day on more than 10 girls who were all very thankful few days before prom! (ps: they loved the smell of men cologne and wood on it) that's the kind of story that make a man's reputation particularly in a small french town...
I agree with most and feel like alot of common courtesies are lost i society today, but the way you say it's just respect seems more like you may have control issues and you do it more for yourself and your own image. Making you lady come back through a door way when your in a rush doesn't seem respectful.
I think she is probably gonna roll her eyes, but still be glad overall that you stand for something. That's usually what happens when I pull this kind of stuff on my wife :P
Peter Bestajovsky must not be a happy wife
This is such a good video. Not because of the content necessarily because some of it is solid and some of it is debatable. But! It’s so contentious in places that even Cody’s audience will debate this in the comments. You’re a smart man sir. It’s also thought provoking. Thanks for the video.
I must have been raised right. While I am not always perfect (or even consistent) at these, they were ingrained in me by parents and grandparents. Great wisdom
I remember being maybe 5 or 6 and my mother taught me to walk on the street side of the sidewalk.
Cody's advice:
1. Open the car door for a woman
2. Walk between a woman and potential hazards
3. Walk on the lower side of a woman on stairs
4. Compliment women, because God created them to please men
5. Place a woman's food orders for her (though she can decide what she wants)
6. Never let a woman pay
7. Never hold a woman's purse
8. Always open doors for women
9. Always have a jacket in case your woman is cold
10. Surprise your woman once in a while with a planned date for which you clean up a bit
Those aren't all bad, but I certainly don't agree with all of them, particularly not some of the justifications.
I wasn’t raised right but I always follow the ladies up the stairs ;)
lol
His knowledge and experience is invaluable. wish i could thank him for sharing it with us. I originally discovered the channel because i only wanted to learn how to re-haft my axe properly and discovered a stream of wisdom. thanks Wranglestar.
This is a great video. I'm blessed with a husband who makes sure to do most of these things. With 2 toddlers in tow, however, I'd rather him get one of them out of the van than worry about me getting out. I'd love to see a video by Mrs. W about things women should do. We also have a responsibility to respect our husbands and act accordingly.
I have had the honor of meeting you and Mrs W. In person and I can attest to the fact that your dynamics work very well. There's definitely a sense of teamwork. And I honestly believe that Women are a gift and should be treated as one. Not saying they cant fend for themselves. Just saying we should make sure we're doing our part to treat them with respect. Thank you for reminding the finer points. God Bless and have a great day!
I'm only 16 years old and my father has taught me most of these things, guess I was raised more right than I thought
Hello Cody! My name is Rick. I came upon one of your amazon tool review videos and something in your way of carrying yourself through the video, your honesty and sense of humour, made me want to watch more videos; I've been binge watching them for the past 24 days. It's fair to say I appreciate your content in it's full scope, your personality, the subjects you bring to the table, your traditional/conservative way of approaching life and most of all, your willingness to work as hard as you can to be as independent as possible, but still having in mind the duty of kindness towards others, apart from your immediate family.
I was brought up in a semi conservative family in which morals and values were deemed as of the utmost importance, to live life in harmony with others, and even though my parents avoided making it the centre piece of our family dynamics, christianity was always there (the reason for this, is because my mother didn't want to impose her beliefs upon me and my sister). Me and my sister ended up deciding to become christians, and embrace God and Jesus Christ in our lives. For the most part, the most important parental figure during my childhood all the way to my teenage years was my mother; she always worked full time and always took care of us at home, getting us our food, clothing and needs met. When both of us were little we had nannies up until we were old enough to go to school, but because my sister is 9 years and a half older then me, she would also look after me. We never had any housekeepers, my mother would do everything around the house and my sister would help; during that period of time, my father was travelling around the country installing software in banks, so I had little contact with him. Long story short, I was made into a Man by two Women! I always had the opportunity to have some insight on how a woman likes being treated in general, and I was taught to use my observation/analytical skills to get to know the people around me and be particular about the way I address and treat each individual.
Needless to say, I try my best to follow most of the items on your list, on a daily basis, however, there are a few I don't agree I should follow all the time and this is justified in part by the conclusions you arrived on your video titled: "I Was Disrespected today (What Happened)".
8:17 - I don't think the man should always pay the bill. In some instances, the bill should be either payed by the woman or split in half, or there should be some sort of agreement on what should happen. I have been in two serious relationships, where I lived along side a partner. In one of them, both me and my partner were working, and I was paying the bill whenever we went out for diner or ordered food in. When the relationship ended, I had £300 in my bank account and an apartment with a £750 rent to pay, apart from all the other bills. She went on to rent an apartment on her own, and even though she had more money on her bank account than me, she still asked for a loan.. I am currently in a relationship in which my partner wasn't working for a while, so I was/am more than happy to pay the bill on every occasion. What I notice is that after a while, your partner will develop a behaviour of entitlement and expect it to be your job to always pay the bill. I don't agree with that. In these two relationships I've mentioned the house bills were tendentially split in half, whenever both were earning an income, working full time. So why not split/pay for a bill on an outing as well? I used to think it would damage my reputation as a man, not getting all the bills sorted, but I don't anymore. It feels nice being treated to a meal every now and then, and as a man, I think I deserve it too! In my mind, if both are earning a similar amount of money, both should make an effort to treat the other in turn, so that neither gets to the end of the month without money on their bank account. As it is, and being that I'm at the moment the solo provider for my household (my wife is not having a consistent income at present) I pay all the bills.
9:20 - Partially agree with this one. I have had girlfriends or just girl friends who thought it was funny to abuse my kindness and made me hold their purse for hours. Not anymore. I'll briefly hold my wife's purse so she can do something she needs to use two hands for, but that purse is going back to her hands the minute she is free. It's not because I'm a man and I don't carry purses. It's because she willingly decided to carry that purse, so she should carry her own burdens, just as I do mine. Having said that, if we go shopping and she gets tired or her back hurts because of the weight of her backpack or carrier bag, I'll take those from her and carry them all the way home. I am stronger and have more stamina, so I will help her if she is struggling.
10:55 - This one brings a bad taste to my mouth. I was taught to be a gentleman. Opening the door for a lady is a must-do-at-all-times for me. What I have noticed over the years is that most women take offense when you do it, as if you are insulting their ability to be independent or they think you have secondary intentions and you are trying to force yourself upon them, by being kind. When it comes to my wife, I have no issues. She appreciates the gesture and me as a gentleman. For other woman, I'll do it once. If they start looking funny at me, that's the end of it. I'm not as strict as you and I won't feel the need to do things all over again, if my wife went ahead and got the door open for me though.
11:39 - Partially agree with this one. I am the situationally aware member of the relationship. I tend to always check the weather before we go outside. My wife is usually too distracted, even when I tell her to take a jacket because it's looking like it will rain or get windy towards the end of the day/later. She almost always fails to bring her jacket and because we don't own a car were we can leave one for her, most of the times she ends up taking mine. I don't mind, for the most part, but I too get cold, specially because I have bad peripheral circulation, and when exposed to cold wind my skin temperature drops rapidly. So it's not really fair that I get cold because she din't think to listen to me or forgot to look after herself. If we owned a car, I would probably do as you say and keep a jacket or a blanket there, so she could use it if needed.
I just felt like sharing my opinion. In no way am I against you or your views, I just don't necessarily agree with the previous points, at all times.
You have been an inspiration in my path to become a self sufficient and reliable man, and I applaud your guts and none apologetic, but respectful attitude towards your viewers. Thank you for everything that you do! God bless you and your family, Cody!
It’s sad to see that most men today don’t have traditional values and courtesies...
My girlfriend had ordered a unsweet tea and realized she wanted the tea with the flavor bubbles in it and she was so bashful to order it so I had ordered it for her she was so happy and appreciative for it.. also I thought about the holding a purse thing if she needs me to I'm gonna say no I can see the importance to such a simple thing always hold the door and let the lady through first for a stranger or your women 100%
Thank you for these tips I didn’t grow up with a dad ( I’m 19) and when I started watching this I thought to myself he can’t possibly say anything I don’t know already but these are things I often wouldn’t think of.
7:55 quick point on waiters and waitresses going to the woman first. I was a waiter for 3 years and there is a policy in some restaurants to take orders in a clockwise rotation from left to right from the position of the server. This is for ease of taking large orders. It becomes habit at tables of any size after a few days on the job. Men tend to position themselves in accordance to the orientation of the door so they face it. At first I thought this was a paranoia thing, but over time have come to see it as similar to your rule about walking on the sidewalk. Consequently, this may put the man on the far end of that clockwise rotation. Consider this when a server starts at your wife/girlfriend. There is usually no implicit bias
Lol. I’m getting most of these - BUT! - my Ma is 93 - you darn well better believe that I’ll hold her purse from time to time. I’m man enough to assist my Ma in anyway she needs. There is always an exception to every rule except this one.
And then there’s the Be Shaved. I’m no member of ZZ Top, but I ain’t shaving for no dang thing. I earned these long grays.
But generally, I’m in agreement.
This was about your significant other not your 93 year old mother.
J S Rocker - Lol.
With a wink I included the comment, because generally speaking - it was about manners and appearances. And since my spouse has passed away and I’m an empty-nester, Ma is the significant other. Basically, I was poking a bit of fun at Cody, not looking for a statement of the obvious. But thank you for all your insight. ;-)
Great advice. I do just about all of this on a regular basis (at least try to) and notice that it does work! When I slack off, things change slowly. That's dangerous territory in a relationship!
It was not taught by my parents or school when I was growing up but rather you saw other men doing it and learned that this is how it is done. It is such a good feeling to implement these steps and reap the rewards of a loving wife. For those who appose it, it's understandable why you do. You simply have not experienced the value it offers.
Mosy of these rules are classy and but a few are weird self image based barriers in everyday life. Very strange.
The problem is you, not the rules.
No, Kevin is right. Some of this is downright strange and/or outdated.
Ditch the conformity of your chronological snobbery. As with Kevin, the problem is you, not the rules. Man up and accept this hard reality.
@@JeremiahAlphonsus No, the problem is with this way of thinking. There's a reason that we as a society are slowly progressing away from it. Figure it out, bud.
@@weapongod30 Wrong again. We're not progressing; we're degenerating. Ditch your conformity. Start by deprogramming yourself of today's chronological snobbery. The true Dark Ages are upon us. Wake up.
Great advice sir. My father taught me some of this, and I taught myself the rest. For us Fathers of daughters, remember to also treat your daughter this way. Not only for respect and to show your love for her, but to show her and give her standards as a young woman. If she is with a sleezball she will know it fast by how he behaves because Daddy didnt so it that way and he respected her.
Glad I got a Midwestern wife and we are raising a Midwestern daughter.
I don’t normally comment on TH-cam videos, but have mercy this has got to be one of the most offensive, bizarre, misogynistic things I have ever seen. This dude is stuck in the 18th Century. How about we treat women like fellow human beings instead of objects to please men? Everything that came out of this guy’s mouth was horrible.
Finally someone who has a brain in the comments.
I am terrible at doing all these things. It’s funny how good of behavior you are on when you are dating, doing all the things we should do for women, and then now I’ve been married for 5 years and I’m lazy as can be at doing these “extra” things for my wife.
We don't need the "manly manners," we have the Wranglerstar code of conduct.
Carl Zirk shut up bonehead
@@moneyshift8919 please explain what that polite response means
I agree Carl, Swift Gamer go kick rocks.
As a 16 year old who does all these things when I’m with my girlfriend, it makes me proud of myself to know I was raised right
You werent.
Some of these are common courtesy, and some just outdated nonsense. Opening and closing the car door? She's a woman, not an infant. Ordering for her? It's her effing choice what she wants to eat. Again she's not an infant. Your woman will respect your order. Grow up dude you're about half a century behind the times. I like your work-related content. Don't pull this nonsense and make me not want to watch you
I was so happy to see the piece of paper! Way to write it down and not just do it on the phone. I totally agree with so many of these. However... I had someone tell me a while ago that in Texas it's more respectful to run ahead and crank the vehicle so the AC is running when she gets in. 😀
Always exceptions to every rule
Great video Cody! There are just a few things I didn't see on your list:
1) Go to the gas station and fill up your wife's car so she doesn't have to do that. Run her car through the carwash if it needs it. Top off any fluids. My wife should never have to wonder if she has enough washer fluid in her car.
2) If we're buying anything in the store, before we buy it or after we purchased it, I carry it. This frees up my wife's hands if she wants to look at other things to purchase. If we are going to other stores, or going back to the car, it makes it easier for her since I'm carrying all the packages to the car. My wife has come to expect this, and I enjoy doing it for her.
3) Figure out what your wife is worrying about or something she is planning to do that day, and fix the problem or get the task done for her and surprise her.
Example: you have guests coming over for dinner, before she comes home, you vacuum, get things ready for company. Do you have a big load of laundry that hasn't been done yet ? Your wife is thinking about it in the back of her mind ! Get it washed and folded before she gets home and you will be her hero !
4) If your wife is going to use your car for the day, you're switching cars for the day and she is driving your car, make sure you do the following:
- Make sure your car has plenty of gas
- Clean up your car. Throw away any trash in it. My wife's car is much cleaner than my car, so when we have to switch out cars I always clean mine out before she drives it. It's just a matter of respect. If she needs to use my car, I make sure it's clean. I throw away trash in the car, etc.
Another excellent video and just great for the young men of today to learn a little that will be of special help in their courtship and throughout their married life. I remember also that my grandmother taught me to always walk 'beside' a lady and not in front of her as it was disrespectful to have her following you. As someone who has been married for 57 years there are perhaps a couple of additions to consider. They are in surprising her, take a bunch of flowers at various times. Not particularly birthdays, but even mid week of a working day as you come home from work. Also try and have clean shoes and well cleaned hands and nails. Its not too difficult to make the effort when out with your lady. If the young men remember this video, you will have helped them learn the way of the 'gentleman' and the ladies will absolutely love it. Well done Cody.
Walking on the street side was, I think from the days streets had lots of holes and frequently splashed water and mud toward the sidewalk.
This is FANTASTIC information! These are ALL the things that I have been constantly commented on or complemented/praised for... and there shouldn't even be a need!!
1:50 “lady’s do like to carry a lot of stuff around”
You’ve seen all of the kit/pack list and edc videos that were all obsessed with right? Ha we’re just as guilty of carrying a ton of stuff too
We just tend to carry cooler stuff!
Very true. But a man like him wouldn't agree with that though. Because he keeps a buttload of things in his car. HIS car, that's his purse you see. Where he puts his woman too.
We don’t ask women to hold that stuff tho
I would add 1 more to your list that applies to dating a young lady living with her parents. When you go to the door be prepared to meet the parents. I taught my son to stand up straight and if the father answers the door proffer a firm handshake and look him in the eye. If he has instructions ie: time to be home etc. A respectful 'yes sir. My son stepped it up and always brought a small bouquet of flowers for the mother.
when I dated, or had a date. When I showed up, sometimes I was allowed to go in for a few min. But the point is, even tho i'm on time, when I met the parents, trying to break the ice if its the first time I said: "srry that i'm so early to my date" Maybe I can take/do a quick drink first with the mother. *in a playful way*
Just showed this to my fiancee, and she cringed more than I did lol.
I would say she's more "traditional" than a lot of people these days, in regards to manners and respect, but she would have me walking back out that door ALONE if I tried half of this.
This video is so out of touch its not even funny.
Yeah this video should be titled how to treat a woman like an inferior being/child.
@@tracematson385 how to drag us back into the dark ages. But I suppose I'm just a "triggered liberal" which is the typical response from people that think like wranglerstar.
Tim H
The dark ages were the brightest ages bro
My wife loves it when I order for her. She makes sure I do it when we go somewhere “nice”. I need to make sure I keep it up and follow your others more stringently.
I am so proud to say these were all common sense for me, Except the purse holding, I'll have to ponder that, I can see reason there.
Been married for over 40 years Wife has never washed, waxed or in any other way detailed a car, including fueling a car in that time. But being around me she knows the importance of preiodic maintenanceand servicing . So twice a week she does a walk around to check for low tire pressures and to make sure all lights are operable.
I love your homesteading content but damn this should be titled "10 things to do if you wished times didnt change since 1950 or have a fragile ego." I think some of these are good but some of them are for a small potion of people who live very religious lives who choose to live in a different time.
As a viewer i find i have to filter out a lot of codys advice, he has a very old mindset in regards to gender roles not only in a relationship but in the world in general.
Mi esposa is from El Salvador but has lived in Canada longer than her homeland. She is such a great mother to our four boys and companion to me and let me tell you; she’d give a lot of guys a run for their money when it comes to physical labour.
These are the only "dating" advices I trust in!
Thank you, I will follow them step by step.
More of this, please! It would be neat for you do do a roundtable about this with @WarriorPoet similar values and passion about such things.
Amen, i do most of those but a few need work. Glad to say the purse stays with her
I'm going to try to do these things more. I don't always open the door for her or walk on the "more dangerous" side of her but I will be making a better effort to do so. Thanks great video
Do or do not. Do not try.
I've had the biggest love hate relationship with this video more than any other. I can't decide to thumbs up or down this thing.
Good, keep thinking, it's good for your brain.
Me tooooo
it's like half of the things he says make total sense and have nothing wrong with them in the other half are something of far-right guy would say to his Aryan wife while they melt people darker than they
Dear Wranglerstar, First of all, I love you and your family. I loved it so much when you were doing the Bible Studies and also love the Manly Manners...But when you published this on August 20th, I had to write to you and express my heart.
All the things you mentioned are just icing on the cake. What women really want is to be talked to in a loving, kind fashion. To be treated like they are #1 in their husbands life. They wanted to be treated with respect, honor grace, kindness and most of all to feel loved and valued. I love my dear husband so much. He is a hard worker and a good provider. But frankly he can talk to me so irritably, gruffness, roll his eyes, talk down to me like I am a second class citizen and not a loved and honored wife. He can be gumpy, and sometimes act as if he doesn't want to talk to me. It is so hurtful. Forget about opening the doors...she show basic Christian kindness. He can be very kind, so I know he is able to do so. I want to be spoken to and treated in a loving, honoring respectful, kind way, even as Christ loves us. All the Manly Manners that you shared Aug 20th were very nice, but like I said, it is just icing on the cake. I will be happy to walk next to the street, or even buy dinners at times...but being talked disrespectfully is the cake...please tell guys just to be Christlike or Kind to their wives...All of God's richest blessings on you and your dear family. I love you all. Christian Love
What a dreamboat. 😍 Lucky Mrs. W. Way to go!
Thank God for you, Cody. I'm no saint, but I do pride myself in consistently doing about half the things on your list. It's amazing how little you see these small courtesies. Appreciate the tips to step up my game and make the lady feel like the special woman she is! Also, firm believer in the "no purses" rule. Ha!
I can just hear all the negative comments already. Great list Cody. I agree with all of them.
Funny thing, I've yet to find a negative comment. I found a neutral one, but so far none negative. The search continues. :)
Because he probably deletes all the negative ones lol
Excellent video, all simple old school gentlemanly manners! One note, putting the woman on the inside of the sidewalk and man on the street side is not necessarily to save her from a runaway vehicle but rather to put her further away from splashing water, mud, etc from the gutters. It also hearkens back to the emptying of chamber pots out of the upper floor windows, it removes her from the "splash zone".
I wonder if this young guy should have his girlfriend watch this first? I could see him following this list only to find that his efforts are entirely misconstrued due to the societal conditioning she has been put under. Here you provide many times a genuine explanation for “why” he should behave a certain way. Maybe she needs to have the same edjumacation! How many times have I heard the lyrics from the Animals “I’m just a man whose intentions are good, Oh, Lord, please don’t let me be misunderstood!” after doing something that could trigger a wrong response? Good stuff Cody!
As a Son to a beloved single mother.. This is very helpful. Thank you very much sir!
If my wife comes out with a new pair of shoes on I firstly need to establish if she brought them in the sales and then acknowledge that I’m sure she didn’t need another pair. After that’s complete we agree that they look very nice and were defiantly needed! Love your vids and being serious I really like your list and thoughts.
I wouldn't want to do my parents wrong by saying they raised me half right, because the other half was my choice to be a dingus early in life. But spiritually I would say I got the other 40% and the remaining 10% for me is really shoring up and building masculinity. My favorite audiobook choice: Raising Men by Eric Davis, a former Navy Seal. I kind of wish my Dad bonded with me on that masculine level like a Navy Seal to teach me to be tough, and muscle through the hard times. He went through Basic, was an officer in the Army, etc. But I learned the roughness on my own. But I will help my boys understand it's easier growing up to not be a stranger to difficulty and to make the best of it. But I'm thankful for your channel. I feel like it fills the gap I didn't quite gave growing up in an extremely religious household. It helps me escape into projects, but everything including religion still fits in the puzzle of life.
Lol. Pockets on shirts, maybe they are being outlawed.
hi cody, my x was in a wheelchair and it was very inconvenient for her bag. i would be responsible for her bag. if she had not been in a wheel chair i totally agree that she needed to be responsible for her own stuff. any place we went i had control of her belongings. she was in a rehab joint and one of the people that worked there stole her wallet out of her purse. the rehab joint accused my friend of leaving her purse in the hospital or in a fast food joint. she did no such thing the purse was in my control. i was very mindful of the location of her purse at all times. the rehab joint made me feel like i had lost purse. which i did mo such thing. i very much agree about its her purse you brought it you secure it. dont ask me to secure it for you. as far as opening doors, i agree with that too. when i would be planning for a date and cleaning the car i would take special attention to the passenger side of the car. clean the door frame to make sure no dirt would get on my dates clothing. i have old cars and trucks. they take more effort to make them clean.
I was raised pretty much with this list. But in the old days, the stated reason for walking on the street side was because a driver might splash a puddle as you two pass by. So the man gets it first.
Of course, nowadays, if this happens, the woman, though protected, will probably yell obscenities at the now departing car, extendend a tattooed arm and flip him the bird.
Oh yes, modern romance...
Michael Dougfir I was always told you should walk on the outside so the woman can walk under the awning last she be covered by someone in the building above dumping the chamber pot. But I’ve also heard of man walking on the inside for the same reason
Your videos on men and women make me cry. I become a feminist because I saw women disrespected and I stopped being one because I didn't want to hate half the human race. I had my heart broken so many times and now the last time I turned to God to get me through the terrible hurt and I'm realizing that as God's child I have the right to be treated with love and respect and what I can only call a kind of Godly pride has come upon me. I've asked God to find me a husband if he wants one for me and I know that never again will I allow a disrespectful man into my life. Your video's help me know what I should expect.