The OP sounds like a seriously above-average mom to Mary, which is all the more impressive when you consider she was a high school freshman one day, and the primary caregiver for a newborn the next, going from having two parents of her own to no father and a mother who behaved as a toxic roommate. OPs mother grieved her marriage and not having the child and life she expected, but OP had to grieve the loss of her father, the loss of her mother as she knew her, the loss of her school and friend group there, cope with the worries about her sister’s health and her mother’s PPD, while adapting to a new school and intense parentification. OP’s mom had it EASY in comparison to what she put her children through
The young lady is already doing everything right. Just needs to find some ways to take a bit of time for herself so that she doesn't get worn out. But otherwise, this is a super human, and frankly it is insulting that her mom compares her to her cousins negatively (no offense to the cousins, I'm sure they're good people).
The OP sounds like a seriously above-average mom to Mary, which is all the more impressive when you consider she was a high school freshman one day, and the primary caregiver for a newborn the next, going from having two parents of her own to no father and a mother who behaved as a toxic roommate. OPs mother grieved her marriage and not having the child and life she expected, but OP had to grieve the loss of her father, the loss of her mother as she knew her, the loss of her school and friend group there, cope with the worries about her sister’s health and her mother’s PPD, while adapting to a new school and intense parentification. OP’s mom had it EASY in comparison to what she put her children through
The young lady is already doing everything right. Just needs to find some ways to take a bit of time for herself so that she doesn't get worn out. But otherwise, this is a super human, and frankly it is insulting that her mom compares her to her cousins negatively (no offense to the cousins, I'm sure they're good people).
Ill bring the sad ballons and confetti
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