Haaibooo guys give us some credit, if we were to go deeper ur eyeballs will be out of the socket…….so vele we are going to have u for lunch🤣🤣🤣….Saints🤣🤣🤣🤣weeeee
In MY opinion I think something we need to understand is that social currency is real. As people our wives/husbands can either put as high/low in the social rank. But this is especially true for men. In our society, especially African culture. The more women/ wives a man has, the more respected he is. (I don’t know why, this is what I have observed). So most men actively look into having more women (main/sidechick/sneaky link) because it has been instilled in them from an early age, that this is what makes a man. Even if they can’t deal with multiple women emotionally, physically or even financially. Unfortunately we can’t blame our culture, some men do change , and they decide to forsake the standard that was put on them by their forefathers. But this still does come with its own challenges Some men are even criticised/looked down upon when they say they are faithful to the women they are with. Again MY opinion
My cousin was in the same situation as you. He broke up with his baby mama and dated someone else. When he was ready to get married he went back to the baby mama. They broke up with the current gf only for him to go back and cheat with the gf after marrying the baby mama. He spoke ill of the baby mama and convince her he just married her for the sake of the baby and he doesn't love her and spoke all sorts of evil things about his wife just to get the girlfriend to take him back and be the side chick. So because the guy went to the side chick and spoke ill of the wife, the side chick disrespected the wife calling her, telling her the husband doesn't love her he loves the side chick. It became a huge issue families were involved when I asked my cousin privately why he spoke all those evil things about his wife he told me straight up that he cheated because of lust not because there's anything wrong with the wife or there's anything better with the sick chick in actual fact he is madly in love with his wife. He treats her like a queen and he says he finds it difficult to be faithful because there's a lot of beautiful women out there. So when the wife confronted the husband he denied everything and blamed the side chick for trying to ruin his marriage I tell you it was very embarrassing for the side chick. Guy broke up with the side chick and is still cheating with other women now he tells the women not to call or disturb his wife. He doesn't lie about the wife and trains side chicks to respect the wife. Men are just embarrassing and it's important for us women to love ourselves and not allow men to use us. The wife forgave him and they are happily married, she is a spoiled wife and has accepted that the husband is just a male whore. Anyway sorry for the long message also married people should stop involving us in their drama look at me airing their dirty laundry in a public platform 🙈
😂😂I don’t mind the long messages sis and trust me I read everything, to be honest I know my guy loves he’s wife I’m just not participating on being a side chick to a married bandla andizi cos it’s me who will get hurt at the end
@@Ongezwajiyane For all you know, he might be telling the wife you are after him🙈. But next time also try to go into detail so that we can investigate who you are talking about 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Married men cheat because adultery takes another person to participate,so the man and single lady who accepts knowing he is married are both wrong. Also entertaining/ communicating with a married man allows the opportunity because he has access...
Great subject. Because cheaters are the worst. Your ex is selfish and wants his wife and you too. You hurt his pride and ego because you lived your life and moved on from him .... now his scheme was to secure you as the side chick..... he's got plenty of audacity. He feels entitled to you. The nerve . Good you told him nope. 🤗 Luv your channel. Best wishes
Thank you for sharing this story. Currently going through the same situation. I met him married already. My beliefs are against dating a married man but inhliziyo kudala yamqoma😭. The sad part is uyabona that I like him. He comes to check me at my work station vele ngikhophoze kanti our colleagues can see it. I'm working from home until I'm stronger 😔
I feel the most logical person has to apply themselves. A side chick separating themselves from the situation as if they are not a participant is just an excuse. The married guy and the side chick have the same morals. The situation isn't about protecting the married men's wife. It's about personal morals. Do your morals allow you to be in a relationship with an individual who is lustful? Do your morals allow you to be in a relationship with a deceptive person. Then think about your emotional state after all this falls apart, because the truth is anything build on lies will eventually fall apart.
As a married woman I support you fully. The married man is wrong because he made vows, the lady isn’t responsible for protecting the wife, which is someone they don’t even know, make that make sense.
I think this guy thinks now that you have 3 kids you no longer have options and is maybe coming in with the mentality that you will settle for being a side chic - I honestly think he just wants a taste of polygamy and thinks you more likely to agree. Love though, i definitely don’t think it’s love
Ongezwa, he actually sounds dangerous. The situation has elements of emotional abuse. Please be safe. Protect yourself. This person will hold you back.
thank you sisi for reminding us that God will panish those who cheat with married man. bona abo married baphanishwa nini kodwa ngoba yibo laba abaluthanayo
I am married for 22 years with grown up kids with one at Varsity. I don't know if my husband has a side chick and honestly I don't care, I have never had to compete with anyone. All I know is our home is intact, he provides, he is home a lot, nothing short so if this is his entertainment which doesn't affect me, our kids and our plans, I could care less. I love to watch Netflix and Showmax and reading, if that's his hobby, and I hope not, I couldn't be bothered. Our plans out going ahead and we are a very happy family. Nothing is wrong is marriages, some men see cheating as a sport.
Married men be embarrassing their wives every opportunity they get, and they don't even hide the fact that they are married when they approach us single women which makes you wonder what's the point of getting married this days?
@@OngezwajiyaneOf course and they will continue the hunt until they find women who don't mind that they are married because that's how determined they are to cheat. You would swear someone was forced to get married.
'...The head of the family is not protecting that family...' ❤🔥❤🔥 Sisi maybe you should just block him to stop the communication between you guys for the sake of your peace..
@@Ongezwajiyane When the time is right, HE will find you... In the mean time, work on yourself so when you and your God ordained partner meet, you are the best version on yourself....
Ohh mntase we have a long way to go with this one and undikholwe ndikunye nawe kule. My ex-husband died engazange wayphendula leyo, when our kids were older and demanded his side of the story as to why we parted ways, he stuck by is excuse that "I cane back from work and your mother was gone", wade wabhubha ke sana eqin enyaleni
Don't fall for being used like rhst though,if u are not good enough for him to marry u & only good enough be the side & smash for fun,then dont do that yourselves guys. Guys always test the waters to see if they can go back to their exes when their bored or if things are not as easy as they expected ahead,cause they can just have fun n drop u anytime when it suits him n marital situation.Ladies please don't fall for this ,they don't come back cause they care ,they come back cause it's easy.Same reason why they have side chicks ,cause its easy and they get bored from time to time cause marraige is nie pap & vleis nie.Men like that are usually the weak men that can't face life's realities ,they cant handle a real relationship with u & they fail at handling their marraiges ,I never understand why ladies tolerate such men using them .We must break this pattern guys.
Abanye balwa amadabiwabo in this channel.Ladies we here to learn 🤔i wish babamamelise amadodabo .I wish bangavuya kubekho mntu okhulumayo an eye opener not cause chuku.Mntase im glad kuthi u on 50/50 ngomtshato.Im thinking of those things also as a mom of 3 with 3 baby daddies 😂 ngiyesaba for my kids.I think kujola nomntu okude will help us .For the sake of piece mntase.Otherwise baxokwenza kanje uhlanye u can end up killing without inhloso amadoda saba those creatures axinaqniso.Yiko ama2000 ebadlisa bsbashade after a year they divorce baphume nemali.Enkosi for sharing mntase continue talkinh to him u knew him before a shade awenzanganto wrong nomekuthengela anything uyithathe.Nomekuphimali thatha sikhathele as long ungazumvuma qha sikhathele.❤
Eish!! This is difficult question.Honestly uzozibuza ,uzphendule 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ This guy angeke alunge,I’m glad uphume kuye, he’ll forever be problematic and won’t change. Love sit downs so much❤️❤️
you eat KFC everyday and thats all you see, one day you see a juicy burger from McD you wana try it out but you still like KFC or its like going to a buffet and sampling everything in bits but theres pap at home doesnt mean you dont like the pap but today you wana try sushi or oysters.
you just killed me at "please sit still i need to shoot"😂😂 maybr you should consider doinh your sit downs at night when hes sleeping bandla because ngeke phela athule bandla😂😂😂 or deal 😅😅 8:02 amadoda asile kodwa and they hate losing Unrelated,pink looks so good on you. 12:40 they always lie these agents of satan😂😂
The married women are going to have you for lunch, lol their husbands are saints. 😂
😂😂as long they don’t kill me nje it’s fine
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Those will be very stupid women and lack insight.
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Haaibooo guys give us some credit, if we were to go deeper ur eyeballs will be out of the socket…….so vele we are going to have u for lunch🤣🤣🤣….Saints🤣🤣🤣🤣weeeee
Men don't get married to stop cheating though. If a man was never disciplined before marriage, then don't expect discipline in marriage.
Very true sis
In MY opinion
I think something we need to understand is that social currency is real.
As people our wives/husbands can either put as high/low in the social rank.
But this is especially true for men. In our society, especially African culture. The more women/ wives a man has, the more respected he is. (I don’t know why, this is what I have observed).
So most men actively look into having more women (main/sidechick/sneaky link) because it has been instilled in them from an early age, that this is what makes a man. Even if they can’t deal with multiple women emotionally, physically or even financially.
Unfortunately we can’t blame our culture, some men do change , and they decide to forsake the standard that was put on them by their forefathers.
But this still does come with its own challenges
Some men are even criticised/looked down upon when they say they are faithful to the women they are with.
Again MY opinion
My cousin was in the same situation as you. He broke up with his baby mama and dated someone else. When he was ready to get married he went back to the baby mama. They broke up with the current gf only for him to go back and cheat with the gf after marrying the baby mama.
He spoke ill of the baby mama and convince her he just married her for the sake of the baby and he doesn't love her and spoke all sorts of evil things about his wife just to get the girlfriend to take him back and be the side chick. So because the guy went to the side chick and spoke ill of the wife, the side chick disrespected the wife calling her, telling her the husband doesn't love her he loves the side chick. It became a huge issue families were involved when I asked my cousin privately why he spoke all those evil things about his wife he told me straight up that he cheated because of lust not because there's anything wrong with the wife or there's anything better with the sick chick in actual fact he is madly in love with his wife. He treats her like a queen and he says he finds it difficult to be faithful because there's a lot of beautiful women out there. So when the wife confronted the husband he denied everything and blamed the side chick for trying to ruin his marriage I tell you it was very embarrassing for the side chick. Guy broke up with the side chick and is still cheating with other women now he tells the women not to call or disturb his wife. He doesn't lie about the wife and trains side chicks to respect the wife.
Men are just embarrassing and it's important for us women to love ourselves and not allow men to use us.
The wife forgave him and they are happily married, she is a spoiled wife and has accepted that the husband is just a male whore.
Anyway sorry for the long message also married people should stop involving us in their drama look at me airing their dirty laundry in a public platform 🙈
😂😂I don’t mind the long messages sis and trust me I read everything, to be honest I know my guy loves he’s wife I’m just not participating on being a side chick to a married bandla andizi cos it’s me who will get hurt at the end
@@Ongezwajiyane For all you know, he might be telling the wife you are after him🙈. But next time also try to go into detail so that we can investigate who you are talking about 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@PalesaMaphiri 😂😂Eyi nizomenzani
But jokes aside dating a married man is the worst thing a woman can do to her self
You painted this story very well. These are the facts of the matter that people must be aware of, to avoid being manipulated.
Married men cheat because adultery takes another person to participate,so the man and single lady who accepts knowing he is married are both wrong.
Also entertaining/ communicating with a married man allows the opportunity because he has access...
This is very true they are very persistent I should actually block my ex cos he will never stop because he has excess to me
Yoh your stories are hot chocolate on a cold winters day ❤
😂😂glad u enjoying them
Great subject. Because cheaters are the worst. Your ex is selfish and wants his wife and you too. You hurt his pride and ego because you lived your life and moved on from him .... now his scheme was to secure you as the side chick..... he's got plenty of audacity. He feels entitled to you. The nerve . Good you told him nope. 🤗 Luv your channel. Best wishes
Thank you sis🥰🥰
You such a good story teller ke sana mama ka Luh love it here for us❤️🥰👌😍
Thank you sis❤️🥰
Thank you for sharing this story. Currently going through the same situation. I met him married already. My beliefs are against dating a married man but inhliziyo kudala yamqoma😭. The sad part is uyabona that I like him. He comes to check me at my work station vele ngikhophoze kanti our colleagues can see it. I'm working from home until I'm stronger 😔
😂😂inhliziyo kudala yamqima, eish bona bayadina bandla cos bayaqomeka but kumele sime siqine to our beliefs so God won’t block our blessings
I feel the most logical person has to apply themselves. A side chick separating themselves from the situation as if they are not a participant is just an excuse. The married guy and the side chick have the same morals. The situation isn't about protecting the married men's wife. It's about personal morals. Do your morals allow you to be in a relationship with an individual who is lustful? Do your morals allow you to be in a relationship with a deceptive person. Then think about your emotional state after all this falls apart, because the truth is anything build on lies will eventually fall apart.
As a married woman I support you fully. The married man is wrong because he made vows, the lady isn’t responsible for protecting the wife, which is someone they don’t even know, make that make sense.
We are inside. Acheat(a) because the sun is shining.
Thank you for tuning in 🥰
The person is tog cute,trying to laugh at your story as if we even understand 😂😂😂cute baby boy❤❤❤
Thank you sis🥰❤️🧚🏾♀️
I think this guy thinks now that you have 3 kids you no longer have options and is maybe coming in with the mentality that you will settle for being a side chic - I honestly think he just wants a taste of polygamy and thinks you more likely to agree. Love though, i definitely don’t think it’s love
It’s definitely not love and even if it is love I’ll never settle for side chick to a married man bandla
you were right😍being natural suits you better.Umuhle
Thank you baby🥰
Yoh I've been looking for your channel for so long, it finally showed up on my screen❤️ I just subscribed.
🥹thank you for joining the family
❤❤ayi this is a complex thing stay self aware and prioritise u always married man are selfserving
I’ll never be with a married man bandla basile labo
Ndimoyika oku kwam uThixo sisi soze undibone kwi married man, i reject them all the time uxolo 🏃🏽♀️
Sisi we can’t be blocking our own blessings bandla
Awufuni ukuba yi prayer point yomama 😆🤣🤣🤣 you made my day sisi❤️❤️ thank you
😂😂tuu sisi ngibasaba kabi
Out City mom we love you 😍 I’m enjoying your chit chat 💬,asile amadoda ashadile and he will want to own you
Imagine me being a permanent side chick baby😂😂😂never asoze
Ongezwa, he actually sounds dangerous. The situation has elements of emotional abuse. Please be safe. Protect yourself. This person will hold you back.
Worry not ma love I’ve even blocked him bandla
Men can be so tiring. Why did he bother getting married? 😔
My question cos u just got married but u already want to cheat
5:06 Lubanzi is the cutest honestly 🥺❤️..
Thank you sis🥰
Aaai when he makes sounds I just concentrate on Lubanzi…..he cutie pie💕💕
Nice chit chat sis
Thank you mommy 🥰
Ningangiphoxi angina baba☺️
😂😂Khululeka this is a safe space.
@@cathrinenomfundo8569 😂😂Eyi angikho sure
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🤣💦🤣💦🤣💦 we shall protect you ke sana.
@@victorioussisters3307 😂ngiyabonga mina
Hello City Mom. You are loved.❤️
Hello mommy 🥰thank you ❤️
thank you sisi for reminding us that God will panish those who cheat with married man. bona abo married baphanishwa nini kodwa ngoba yibo laba abaluthanayo
😂😂andazi when he punish them but thina we must fight for God not to block out blessings bandla
Lubanzi is even laughing at your story because Wow😂😂kuningi😂😂
😂kungingi and ngiyi one
Umuhle ke sana Ongezwa
Thank you sis🥰
Im the Biggest Fan of this channel
Thank you sir
Izindaba ezingaka phambi komtwana 🤣😂🤣
Even babby L knows just how married men like embarrassing their wives hence azihlekela uBoy 🤭
😂😂one thing about him he laugh at everything
Yhooo sana one thing about men ngiyabasaba bandla
lOVE U ONGEZWA 😍😍
Love you too 🧚🏾♀️
I am married for 22 years with grown up kids with one at Varsity. I don't know if my husband has a side chick and honestly I don't care, I have never had to compete with anyone. All I know is our home is intact, he provides, he is home a lot, nothing short so if this is his entertainment which doesn't affect me, our kids and our plans, I could care less. I love to watch Netflix and Showmax and reading, if that's his hobby, and I hope not, I couldn't be bothered. Our plans out going ahead and we are a very happy family.
Nothing is wrong is marriages, some men see cheating as a sport.
Enjoy your marriage mntasekhaya. No need to look for trouble ingekho. May God bless your union.
Married men be embarrassing their wives every opportunity they get, and they don't even hide the fact that they are married when they approach us single women which makes you wonder what's the point of getting married this days?
And we have to keep on saying no I can’t be with u because u married, it’s us who have to protect the wife’s but their husbands bandla dololo
@@OngezwajiyaneOf course and they will continue the hunt until they find women who don't mind that they are married because that's how determined they are to cheat.
You would swear someone was forced to get married.
@@matsobanesworld that’s why I’m scared of getting married even though I want it 😩
Good morning sis! I’m here I’m here!📍❤
Yoh sana!! and they'll come and shela you and say I'm married but not happy emshadweni.
'...The head of the family is not protecting that family...' ❤🔥❤🔥 Sisi maybe you should just block him to stop the communication between you guys for the sake of your peace..
True hey and I did bandla I’m still looking for my own husband 🫠I don’t want problems
@@Ongezwajiyane When the time is right, HE will find you... In the mean time, work on yourself so when you and your God ordained partner meet, you are the best version on yourself....
Mama we boiz❤❤❤❤❤❤
Good morning boo🥰
Ohh mntase we have a long way to go with this one and undikholwe ndikunye nawe kule. My ex-husband died engazange wayphendula leyo, when our kids were older and demanded his side of the story as to why we parted ways, he stuck by is excuse that "I cane back from work and your mother was gone", wade wabhubha ke sana eqin enyaleni
The painful part is that he’s no more 😢yhooo the kids must just heal and forget unless u You tell them the truth one day
Cc Ongezwa City Mom❤❤
Hey sis❤❤
0:23 are you okay mama you look so tired 😢
Yes babe I’m okay hey ❤
Right! The blame should be on both parties.
Exactly sis not women only
Don't fall for being used like rhst though,if u are not good enough for him to marry u & only good enough be the side & smash for fun,then dont do that yourselves guys.
Guys always test the waters to see if they can go back to their exes when their bored or if things are not as easy as they expected ahead,cause they can just have fun n drop u anytime when it suits him n marital situation.Ladies please don't fall for this ,they don't come back cause they care ,they come back cause it's easy.Same reason why they have side chicks ,cause its easy and they get bored from time to time cause marraige is nie pap & vleis nie.Men like that are usually the weak men that can't face life's realities ,they cant handle a real relationship with u & they fail at handling their marraiges ,I never understand why ladies tolerate such men using them .We must break this pattern guys.
Have you blocked him? If not, why not if you don't want him?
No I haven’t blocked him and I did say I like him I just don’t want to go back because he’s now married like I said he’s my ex
@@Ongezwajiyane Okay bubu
Akho bantu bafeba ngathi ngabantu abatshatileyo. Ngathi babophelelekile kule mitshato.
😂😂😂yhooooweee
Sila💃🏻📍
Thank you baby🥰
Ohhh interesting topic babe 😮😮
😊very interesting
Abanye balwa amadabiwabo in this channel.Ladies we here to learn 🤔i wish babamamelise amadodabo .I wish bangavuya kubekho mntu okhulumayo an eye opener not cause chuku.Mntase im glad kuthi u on 50/50 ngomtshato.Im thinking of those things also as a mom of 3 with 3 baby daddies 😂 ngiyesaba for my kids.I think kujola nomntu okude will help us .For the sake of piece mntase.Otherwise baxokwenza kanje uhlanye u can end up killing without inhloso amadoda saba those creatures axinaqniso.Yiko ama2000 ebadlisa bsbashade after a year they divorce baphume nemali.Enkosi for sharing mntase continue talkinh to him u knew him before a shade awenzanganto wrong nomekuthengela anything uyithathe.Nomekuphimali thatha sikhathele as long ungazumvuma qha sikhathele.❤
Nam I’m very scared of a relationship now even though I want it but Ayi I’m not ready bandla 😩
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Enkosi boo
The caption got my attention, I'm all 👂.
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Lowo ucinga ukuthi ukudlala ngengqondo yomtu wesifazizane kuyinto entle.
Akozulunga bandla apha kumb
For your own peace, please block this guy. Don’t entertain his shenanigans.
That’s the only way 🤞🏾cos he won’t stop bandla
We are just naughty not because our wives are doing something or we don't love them enough
But why be intimate with another woman 😩can’t ur naughty end on sbwl and it ends there
Sbwl is an addiction
Hey City Mom ❤
Hey sis❤
But the streets are empty though just saying😂😅
😩ayi God is a miracle worker 😂please I’m hopeful
@@Ongezwajiyane sure🙏🏾
Eish!! This is difficult question.Honestly uzozibuza ,uzphendule 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
This guy angeke alunge,I’m glad uphume kuye, he’ll forever be problematic and won’t change.
Love sit downs so much❤️❤️
Thank you sis for tuning in
Honestly I have no plans of being someone’s sidechick
Would you settle to being a second wife?
I don’t think so hey I’m not strong enough for it
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Yah neeee, bu stout bodwa yaz
One thing about men bahlolwa ke last smh
That’s the only thing they need to control
@@Ongezwajiyane This is why praying for a man who has self control should be a priority for all women
@@Naizabae exactly baby because wow siyazibona izinto bandla
you eat KFC everyday and thats all you see, one day you see a juicy burger from McD you wana try it out but you still like KFC or its like going to a buffet and sampling everything in bits but theres pap at home doesnt mean you dont like the pap but today you wana try sushi or oysters.
😂😂funniest explanation I’ve ever heard but I get you sir
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Not all married men cheat my dear .
I never said that dear
you just killed me at "please sit still i need to shoot"😂😂 maybr you should consider doinh your sit downs at night when hes sleeping bandla because ngeke phela athule bandla😂😂😂 or deal 😅😅
8:02 amadoda asile kodwa and they hate losing
Unrelated,pink looks so good on you.
12:40 they always lie these agents of satan😂😂
😂not agents of satan
Man don't know what they want
Very confused human beings bandla those ones
Men didn’t chose to be monogamous, society chose for him. They really can love more than one woman
Some men are silly shame!!!!
Very silly
Yoh sana!! and they'll come and shela you and say I'm married but not happy emshadweni.
And bexoka ke cos they are happy qha they want to cheat
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Hey City Mom ❤❤❤
Hey mommy ❤
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