One Year Later ... How I’m Really Doing | Life After Uterus Rupture
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My baby was stillborn. I was 9 months pregnant. My uterus also ruptured during an attempted VBAC. I have heard ALL those possibilities (if I became pregnant again) from professional health care workers as well..
I'm scaring myself because I just do not care.... I will try again. I also have two living children to care for..
I had two extremely rare things happen to me on the SAME DAY so yes, I carefully listened and analyzed my doctor's opinion. I'm super lucky to have an OB doctor that is on board with me TTC again..But no one will understand.. why you are willing to take such risks, unless they have given birth to a sleeping baby at 9 months pregnant and had their uterus rupture. So therefore I will never listen to anyone else's opinion on this... UNLESS THEY'RE A WOMAN and know this struggle.
Thank you for your video and information on this topic.
Exactly right !! People are so opinionated on what they think you should do during pregnancy, birth and postpartum it’s ridiculous.
I personally am going to have a c-section in 2 weeks (my second one after an emergency c-section I had a decade ago) and people always ask me why I chose to do that over going for a natural birth.
My reason is because I have unresolved PTSD from my last experience and want my birth to be more controlled… but an actual fact, it’s none of their business. There’s risks something could go wrong either way but this is the way I’m choosing to go because it’s made me feel more at ease.
Whatever you choose to do is absolutely fine, people need to stop pressuring other mothers into doing something that may not be right for them.
The parenting world can be so gross and toxic especially the stigma around not having a natural birth.
I’m so sorry you lost your baby, that’s such a devastating thing to have to deal with and absolutely no one should make you feel like it was your fault. You done the best you could and you’re absolutely right, two rare things happened to you. ❤
I hope that you have a healthy uneventful birth and pregnancy! I’m praying for you!!!!
@@angiecats5298at the end of the day, you are the one who will deal with the consequences of your own decisions, so no one is allowed to have an opinion, unless you ask them for that opinion! It is COMPLETELY reasonable to have a repeat c section, especially following a traumatic birth. Why not just have your baby in a controlled environment, where you can plan around the surgery?
I’ve had 5 natural births, but with my 6th I developed severe, sudden onset preeclampsia. Let me tell you, all that natural birth nonsense went right out the window when I knew that my precious baby could die, and imminently. If they told me they’d have to pull her through my nose, I wouldn’t have cared. I was so scared for her health! In the end, the birth experience was LOVELY. Everyone was so kind and supportive and I was so incredibly grateful to have access to good medical care. The condition I had, severe preeclampsia with brain swelling, is responsible for half of the deaths of pre and peri natal women. I am SO grateful for those doctors and nurses.
I’m praying that you have a very safe, joyous delivery, and an uneventful recovery.
Hugs to you!! I feel you on the post hysterectomy stuff.. I had one in May. Prayers for continued healing all the way around!
You’re an inspiration, you’ve been through so much, and you’re still standing. Get some help, sometimes just sharing things with a professional can help. Take time to heal, love those babies.
Thank you so much 💕
Thank you so much for sharing your story, you are so brave. My heart goes out to you. After dealing with guilt over choosing a repeat C-section versus trying for a VBAC, your video has really helped put my mind at ease that I made the right choice. I think God is using your story to help so many people in many different ways. I pray you take comfort in that and would love to keep seeing updates on how you are doing. Prayers for many blessings in your future!
Thank you Marina, I really feel for you, Birth can be a terrifying and dangerous experience. You are so brave to share with us. Keep taking care of yourself.
Thank you for taking the time to film both the first video and this one. They’re so helpful! I’m currently 38 weeks pregnant and have decided not to go for a vbac. I’ve been having a lot of fear and anxiety even though my OB is quite famous in achieving successful vbacs. Your videos really helped me make a decision. Hugs to you having to go through this! And you’re so brave putting yourself out there and sharing your story!
Yep. I was recently refered to see a specialist in a big city around 3 hours from where i live despite a similar specialist being right where i live. If i didnt question that decision i would not have been able to see a specialist at all. Because i couldnt get to the 3 hour away appointment. That isnt the first time that my dr has failed to care for me as a whole person and in a way that is appropriate. Far too often i have got the "not my problem" attitude from her when i have had difficulties with accessing care. Thankfully a alied health service is stepping in to source a more appropriate dr and better suited to me care plan. I dont have any local family or close friendships so i often feel alone in accessing health care.
Yes! You really have to question drs and fight for the right care sometimes. Good for you for taking the initiative and finding a better dr!!
You're right about being your own advocate because they don't really care Sometimes.
Sadly this happens so often. I have seen so many people be brushed off by doctors that don’t actually care to go through all of the steps necessary to fix people’s health problems. It’s very frustrating!
Thank you for the insight, I hope you feel better soon.
i am a RN nurse, i always suggest a 2nd, 3rd, 4th opinion on complicated cases, if i was an ob/gyn and you were a vbac, i would have looked for uterine rupture as a possibility when you had problems urinating, i am not sure how they would diagnosis uterine rupture, ultra sound, cat scan, laparotomy ? I am so sorry that happened to you, alot of woman when they get older have to get bladder repairs from damage from child birth.
You have to be your biggest advocate. I am so glad that you are standing up for yourself.
I love you marina!! Your so strong and inspirational. Don’t let anybody tell you that you did or are doing wrong because like you said, only you know what’s best for yourself. I can’t say I know how you feel because I have never been in your situation but i can only imagine what are you are going through.
Thank you!! 💕
Girl yes. I do want to here your post hysterectomy info. I know that's weird but yes I wanna know what are the post side affects 😔
Thanks for sharing
I can get again prgnt after utreus reputre??
You can if they can repair your uterus, but it is extremely high risk and your chances of uterus rupture again are very high. I would never suggest it. In most cases after uterus rupture you would receive a hysterectomy, which means you could not get pregnant again.
@@lifewithmarina4668😭 I lost my baby 3 September 2020during delivery 😭😭
I’m so, so sorry for your loss 😔
Plz suggest me
Did you lose your baby from uterine rupture during attempted vbac? Why do OBs still recommend vbac if the risk is so high!
I'm so sorry you had to go thru such a terrible experience! I watched that video and I never once thought that you were being selfish or careless choosing a vbac. People can just be so rude and hurtful but thankyou for sharing such a personal experience! I am not sure why your doctors told you that the chances are 1 in 200. I myself have had c-sections and when I wanted to try for a vbac with my 2nd child, I was told 1 in 100. I read books and they all say about 1 in 100.
I'm not taking chances
My heart goes out to you Marina, not only because this happened to you but also that you are so hard on yourself for not being able to do everything normally. Your uterus rupturing was very much out of your hands and the way you handeled it, was the 100% you were able to give at that time. Please, never compare your 100% to what you see around you, never apologize for something you can't do physically because if you could, you would. So much love to you from one mother to another 💞
Watching your birth story video, I dont know if I can risk doing a vbac. Yes the risk is low, but if you do end up being the 1-12% it can really go wrong. Im so sorry you went through this, people need to see the reality of what can go wrong if it does go wrong. Thank you for being so transparent... I needed to see your videos.
I’m feeling the same. It’s so important to know the details of the risks
You have to remember hon, she pushed for over two hours. The epidural causing these long sessions of pushing could be the problem. I had a C-section, vbac, C-section, vbac, C-section. In my v-backs no epidural, baby born quickly through pushing, minutes not hours. Pitocin is dangerous for regular births because it overworks the uterus no difference between pushing for long periods of time. The uterus works harder during pushing, back to back contractions and more intense no different than pitocin. So that could have been the reason. Either way God is in control, whatever happens happens. He made her be okay whereas women doing vaginal births with no rupture have died, he made women with repeat c-sections die. You just don't know.
I'm not wiling to risk no vbaccc heek noòooooooo the baby can literally die and mother if this horrific event happens
@@ASmith-jn7kfdid they giver her pitocin?
It is unfortunate that this happened to her, but the risks involved with a repeat cesarean are far more. No matter what you choose, it can have a negative outcome. Also, if she was given an epidural, pitocin, or was forced to push, it could have increased her chances for rupture even more. It is always circumstantial. But when it comes down to it, vbac is absolutely safer. Things can happen either way though.
Hi Marina.
I came across your video when researching uterine rupture. Back in 2016 I too attempted a VBAC with my second son that resulted in uterine rupture. I was told I shouldn’t get pregnant again, but my husband and I accidentally conceived in September. I am terrified. I don’t want to share too much on a public forum, but I just want you to know that your story has helped me not to feel so alone. I’m truly struggling. I want to keep this baby (I discovered during genetic testing he is a little boy), but I am scared that my life is in danger as well as his. I am currently 14 weeks along. I had a sonogram today and everything appears to be healthy but the risks are still high. If you are up for it, I was hoping we may be able to talk more. If I continue this pregnancy, there is a chance I may need a hysterectomy after this. I’d like to give you my email, but I’m not sure how I can give it to you without providing it to the public. Overall, thank you for your bravery and openness in sharing your story. I hope I can talk to you more.
Yes, I’m open to talking anytime! I’m so sorry you’ve experience rupture too. Feel free to email me at lifewithmarinayt@gmail.com
Robin I hope you and your baby are doing well, and that in a year you can share that everything went well and you're both healthy and thriving 💞 much love!
Wow! I hope your pregnancy and yourself are still doing well!
Hi everyone! Me and baby are doing well. Currently 34 weeks! I have a scheduled c-section at 36 weeks. It has been scary but it’s almost over. I’ll let you all know if the birth is safe and successful. Thank you again Marina for sharing your story. I’m sure it has helped many. I know it helped me ❤️
Will you be going for a c section with this baby? I am going back and forward about vbac but im scared of uterine rupture. Whats your advice
You're story is helping me come to a decision about my vbac. Being informed. I've seen several failed vbacs. And, while yours was not a fail, it sadly resulted in your current situation. BECAUSE I would like more children, I am choosing to try for a vbac. I am currently in a "scare" because of my c-section scar. I currently have a anterior placenta and it is low lying. Right next to my scar. I had an mfm tell me before they knew for sure to terminate my pregnancy. That if not I would have to get a hysterotomy because the placenta might be growing into my scar. That, too, is a 1 of 200 diagnosis. Then several weeks of ultrasounds and crying and being depressed, I still don't have a diagnosis, but a different mfm said it is looking like I might not have that placenta problem. That being said, the recovery for my c-section was not great. I could barely walk for more than 10 mins for a good 3 months. And I have a 1 year old who still likes to be picked up. So I am praying that I can have a successful vbac with no complications. And if I need a repeat c-section, I will cross that bridge for recovery when I get there. Thank you for telling your story.
Your children are so lucky to have a rockstar, strong and transparent mom! I do hope that you’ve started to see the therapist and that’s she’s working out for you also that you’ve followed up with your ultrasound for your pain! Blessings beautiful 🥰 God chose you to tell this story for a reason!
Thank you so much for the kind words! 💕
Thank you for sharing your experience. I had same experience of having a uterine rupture I couldn’t risk getting pregnant again, not fair to put the baby or myself in situation like that. Blessed to have my two babies now ❤
I am sad there is so much pressure to have a natural birth, how ever babies come into the world is beautiful and fabulous! You are the third person I have seen have this happen to, I had 3 c sections…the first one was an emergency c section ….I read the risks and chose them for the next two….people try to shame me for it…
Hey! This is part of what you need to do.Just keep talking it through. It's a journey to recovery you're on. Think how well you've done so far.....some things can't be changed... . It's .one step at a time.and you are doing it. Go Girl🥰You are amazing....you know yourself very well. Bless you. Sending you 💓. Thanks for the update. 💜
Thank you so much, your sweet words mean more than you know! 💕
Thank you for sharing, advocating for yourself is the only way to go, and I think you did amazing with it all with how informed your medical team made you. I can't imagine what all it was like but I think you have handle it so well. Thank you for being open and vulnerable to help others.
So many hugs to you. I just saw your initial video and surgery update videos this week. I’m glad to see you’re getting setup with a therapist. I hope you can begin the healing process for your mental health soon. It’s ok to grieve the loss of your fertility and to be sad about it. So many hugs to you ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks so much for sharing your story. I’m 2 weeks post partum from a failed
VBAC and it’s been so hard
You’re doomed if you do and doomed if you don’t when it comes to VBAC vs elective c-section.
I’m about to have a c-section in 2 weeks because of previous complications resulting in an emergency c-section and people always ask me why..
Why is mostly none of their business BUT I tell them the truth, it’s because I have trauma around having babies, unresolved ptsd and choosing what some might call “the easy route” (having a c-section isn’t the easy route but I’m sure you’ll get what I mean), has made me feel better and more at ease with this whole experience.
There’s risks to both sides…. Anything can go wrong VBAC or c-section and that’s not your fault. People telling you that it’s your fault for choosing a VBAC are the most stupidest people ever.
I don’t know if you covered this before but I don’t understand how your bladder ruptured and also how your uterus ruptured the way it did and not where your old scar was. I’m contemplating a VBAC after 2 sections but after your original video I’m really thinking another section is the way to go. Lol
Same here
Seasoanl Effective Disorder is what im told. I have it too.winter blues. I hate it. I live in Pa. Nasty winters too. Im so grateful that u are feeljng better. God is so Good❤
OMG I can't believe you got negative comments! But yes I can...assh#@+-s abound...please ignore! My heart went out to you. Your care was abominable! 😢 As happened with my granddaughter. Please watch more vids! Sooo many mishandled ob/gyn crisises. I'm a 44 yr retired RN who has worked all departments in large and small hospitals. I'm assuming you sued! I hope so!!
Your after care, post birth, was not good enough as far as I'm concerned. :(
I had a partial hysterectomy at 28,im understanding how you feel.please reach out if needed.
You are so strong! Hang in there! Merry Christmas to you and your family! ❤
Your delivery was perfectly fine. Whoever doesn’t understand that has no heart. Don’t have to explain yourself but I’m glad you shared this update
Thank you for sharing your story. Im glad you recovered and are ok now 🥰❤️ This story i hope saves someone from going through what you did or reminds ppl like you mentioned to advocate & research for their own medical care ..im so sorry 😞 you suffered through sooo much & have still so much to worry about. My heart goes out to you & your family.
I know how you feel I just went through it in February.. & I’m only 25 I want another baby so bad!!!
Hi
I also faced uterus rupture in 2020 september.... and lost my baby at 27 weeks ... can i pregnant again? How long should i wait?
U shuld ask ur doctor
Hey, did you get pregnant again? Would you be able to share how it went?
I dnt knw y thy say jus 1% risk fr vbac bcuz ive seen so many failed vbac videos… im 35 weeks almst nd so confused i was thnkin bout vbac but so terrified
The possibility of uterine rupture is one percent... other things can happen to make a failed vbac.
As a nurse, I feel that your care was grossly mismanaged from the moment the nurse saw the catheter bag full of blood and the doctor did nothing. IMO they should have immediately taken you to the OR and delivered your daughter by C-section followed by repair (or at least stabilization) of the ruptured organs. I know you can't discuss it, but I hope that you've filed a malpractice suit. And should you decide in the future that you want another child, a gestational carrier could be an option for you.
Hello, I recently had my 10th c-section. My uterus ruptured and they cut my bladder. They did not take out my uterus. Did you experience any symptoms months after your uterine rupture? If so what kind? TIA Blessings to you
10 ate u kidding me they tel u to stop at 3
@@letyourlightshine2727 my mother had 4 csections I think it depends on the doctor and individual and the amount of scar tissue and what not but yes the more you have the riskier it gets
@@Romans08.31 yea I'm done with 2 I'm scared
@@letyourlightshine2727 I’m just saying I’ve seen many people have more than 3 csections but I totally understand your concerns and fears
I really hope this doesnt offend you, however Praise the Lord that your baby girl is healthy and you also have a baby boy. God gave you two precious gifts! I guess what i am saying is you have a whole lot to be grateful for and I really hope you focus on the good & not the things you have no control over. I will be praying for you & your family!
I was especially concerned that there was not an immediate response to your symptoms. I realize I was not there but it s seems obvious that medical care was not addressed in a critical and timely manner. You could have had a very different outcome.
Just experiencing this in October with my daughter I have 3 sons I had one c section in 2018 than I push them all out
So glad youre not going to risk having another baby. Definitely seems too risky.
Thank u dear for sharing yr story may Allah make u more strong❤
Please let me know about the catheter. It blows my mind.
Hi Marina, thank you for sharing your story! I have no information or whatsoever about vbac and the risks until now. I’m currently 38 weeks and has my csection last year. I will be 15 months apart in attempting a VBAC. I would like to ask how far apart was yours? I’m really nervous as the days are coming closer to delivery and I can’t decide for a related c section or a VBAC since my previous c section delivery was traumatic. Please share your thoughts and how far apart was your c section to your VBAC.
Same here...25 weeks here and I am want to try for a vbac...thats my first choice...there are risks either way and other risks just from being pregnant...just stay positive and do the best you can. The odds are against you having a bad experience so...all the best to you!
This was a couple months ago so this isn’t really helpful now but maybe if someone else sees this and has the same question I wanted to recommend The VBAC Link podcast and Facebook group as a resource.
You're amazing 👏💖❤
Is uterus ruptured after one c-section or you had 2 ? So sorry to hear that. I have 3 c-section and I was thinking to try but this scares me.
My uterus ruptured after only 1 c-section
So sorry to hear that. are you in Canada? I am in Canada and they are against it. My last C-sections was 4 years ago. Was your uterus saved or it was not more possible?
@@najid6908 I am in the US! Unfortunately mine was torn so badly and was so damaged that there was no way to save it. I know it’s such a hard choice to make! Sending you peace over whatever decision you choose 💕
O wow don't even try sis don't risk it
@@lifewithmarina4668 omg I'm scared this happens to me while preagnant :[
You are a very strong person. I could never do what you do. I am so proud of you for sharing your birth story.
Maybe not share any lack of care..just incase it may affect your situation. Prayers for your wonderful family.
sorry marina,i feel you,makes me fear of trying vbac after 2 cs.confused,im tired of cs wana avoid cut through my stomach i hate sugeries
Me too I'm sacred but uterine rupture can be fatal I rather a c sec
Nooo vbacs EVER !!!! DOCS are trying to please these natural moms we are NOT in biblical times 🙄
That is not it at all. There are risks in any pregnancy, in any delivery. Yes there are risks in a VBAC delivery but there are also risks to having multiple c-sections. This comment is so ignorant. It’s not about being “natural” it’s about being able to make an informed decision about what happens to your own body.
Theres risks with multiple c sections too...
Common sense here on utube...amazing. I agree! I had twins when daughter was two. I said...I'm good. And mine were easy!
why are you talking to a camera?