I have Asperger's syndrome (high functioning autism) and I already have enough difficulties with trying to take care of myself on all levels let alone a child. That said I definitely envision myself being happily married one day.
@@m_jay5 I'm also autistic and never knew if I wanted kids or not but always wanted to get married. I can tell you that marriage is a lot harder than I originally thought, just because of how much I have to take care of my husband. I honestly hate it and it makes me afraid of having kids. I have been infertile for seven years, so I don't even know if I'll happen. Still don't know what I want to begin with.
The only hard thing about choosing to be childfree as a Christian, is when other chruch people guilt trip you about it, and keep bringing the conversation up over and over again, it makes you not want to confide in anyone.
It’s great that you are so firm about it and not that I think you will change your mind but some have tied their tubes after a few kids and later regret. Mayyybe just not something drastic like that :) Unsolicited advice but just in case :)
I have never had that natural desire to have children and now that I’m a Christian (5 years into my faith) I’m wondering how off-putting it will be for a Christian man to one day be with me knowing that....but I wouldn’t have kids just because someone else wants them. 🤷🏻♀️
@@anthonynosike I've always known I'll never get married because I don't want children. Finding a Christian man who also doesn't want children is very rare.
@@rachelpaul9988 Well they do exist. I'm leaning towards that path myself. Im 50 50 on it. Just make sure that why you don't want kids isn't because of fear. There's lots of men who dont want kids. You may be in the same boat I was in where you find yourself only attracted to people who do want kids. You want the best of both worlds lol
@@anthonynosike It is because of fear lol. I have lots of fears. I'm even planning to fast and pray about it because it's troubling my heart so much. I wish you the best, Mr Nosike.
I'm also Catholic. I do want to fall in love and get married, but i dont want kids. I've never had the desire to have kids. So glad i found this video, it's very comforting
I've never felt called to motherhood, but I'm in my late 20s & am basically my parents only chance for a grandchild. I feel selfish for not having any yet even though no one is pressuring me. I pray about it a lot and try to remind myself God will answer my prayers and make whatever he wants happen happen. But it still feels like maybe I am a roadblock to what God wants. I still haven't found my answer, & I still almost feel negative torwards having kids which feels like at least the answer is "not right now". But it's so hard and it causes so much guilt.
Hi, I’m in the same boat (only child) and in my late 30s and feel pressured, I don’t feel economically ready to have kids. My husband is a non believer though.
When i was younger i was glamourizing all the marriage and having a family stuff. Since I am after 20s , I am not so sure and honestly, if i get married maybe i am not sure about having kids. Probably because if i get married it will be after 30s, and i dont want to do anything for feeling family and peers preassure
Yes, totally never do anything because it seems to be the norm. Always do it for yourself! These days it's not uncommon to marry past 30 and many still have first child at 40. I wish you peace and joy with whatever decision you make :)
I am in the exact same boat, 32 years old, Christian, my husband and I are not sure if we want kids. We started trying this month and for some reason i'm feeling anxious about the whole thing. I never had the desire to have kids but at the same time I don't want to have any regrets. Please pray for my husband and I, may God's Will be done.
@@dawnforlife Thank you for your prayers, that's very sweet. I'm actually pregnant in my second trimester :). God has definitely put it in my heart to have a child. God bless you :)
I'm really struggling with this and searching for wisdom. I'm almost 40, and until now, life has thrown my husband and me some massive blockades to having kids. However, now we're finally in a place where we can possibly have kids, although not naturally, as that door is forever closed. He really wants to be a dad, but I'm not sure if I actually want kids. I know most of the responsibility of raising them will be on me and I don't want to have to quit my job or lose all my personal time, which feels very selfish, but still true. I feel terrible denying my husband the possibility, but I'm also really unsure about if I even want kids and am very scared about how hard the process is for adoption, fostering, or IVF. I feel pressured to decide quickly, due to my age.
I understand the pressure you must be feeling. Not sure if you are Christian but try to let go and let hope instead of fear lead the way. If you are, just trust in the Lord's time. Many people here in Switzerland have natural biological first child at or after 40, so unlike in the past, it is actually still possible. That is if you want it. Motherhood is challenging but it is also very rewarding. One thing to note is that, what you want now, may very well change after having a child. I'm not being all "know it all" here but I just would like to share that it brings a lot of relieve to not let fear be the basis of your decisions 😊 Christian or not, I'll pray for trust, hope, patience and a lot of peace in your decision. And IF you are a Christian, husbands are leaders of the home, so if he really wants it, if he is a responsible man and you love him, perhaps following his lead and letting go of fear, may very well be blessings from the Lord. 💛
This is a good video. Like you, I am unsure if I want kids. Sometimes, I feel like I do and other times, I am sure I dont. Knowing the right way to pray does help to get clarity. Thank you for sharing your experience.
I'm 32 about to be 33 and married 3.5 years. My wife and I agreed to have 1 kid but I've noticed the conversation comes up less and less as our lives improve. She claims she still wants one but we don't discuss it. As time goes on, my desire to be a parent fades. I enjoy my freedom, I enjoy time alone with my wife, I like traveling. Is that selfish? No but there's also something about taking care of another human and stressing about its well being that scares me. My wife is not ready to have a kid now and right now I do not want one. Will that change in 3 years? Maybe but part of me thinks I'll be just fine without ever doing it. Thid is a conversation that needs to happen with my wife.
Hey Donovan, I totally feel you because we were also the same. Enjoying each other very much and loving our travels. To say we don't miss that with a young child is a lie BUT right now, we also cannot imagine we almost never had our sweet baby. It's a tough job, it's putting someone's need before our own, it's serving day in and out but it is also very purposeful, rewarding and a blessing. Whatever decision you come to, I wish both you and your wife peace and joy. If you are a Christian, some are called to serve as parents and others may be called in other ways 😊💛
@@dawnforlife thank you, I think a day after I posted this comment I decided to go ahead and talk to my wife. We decided not to have children and she was actually feeling the same way I did for a while. I'm very happy and it all worked out.
My husband and I battled with this same feeling for a long time and eventually settled on an agreement: every once in a while, we check in with each other. We pray about it again and we ask God to share his desires for us about children, and that he would change the desires of our hearts to what he wants every day. If at some point one of us has a change of heart or is convicted about how we are choosing to be child free, we have to first take it to the Lord and then to each other. We have many reasons not to have children at this time given our circumstances, but we are not closed to the idea entirely. We are also open to the idea of foster care or adoption if we should be swayed in that direction. Ultimately though, this time of being child free gives us more time to mature as individuals, be in ministry, and to raise or disciple spiritual “children” who are young in their faith. Until the time comes, we trust that the Lord will share the desires of his heart with us, and that includes if/when we decide to try for kids. Prayers are always welcome from another sister in Christ. 💕 I would ask for prayer that our desires change at the right time. Hope you’re doing well!
Thank you, I am doing well. Praying for you now and I don't know if you are praying together. I think it is important to pray together on this every single day as a couple, instead of every once in a while when you discuss it (maybe I misunderstood). Wishing you well 😊
Not similar, exactly. I felt like your story was a mirror to mine. I have been burned with this decision my whole marriage. Sadly I have come to feel the pressure to make a decision quite late at 38/ 39. Please pray for me. I so desire to come to a decision that will give me peace. God Bless you, thank you for this video
Hey Tabatha, I'm glad we can connect in that way. It still felt like yesterday how I felt like you and it can get real heavy on the heart. It can be so difficult but once we learn to let go (if you believe in God/universe), it can be SO liberating. I will pray for peace for whatever decision you come to and the outcome of it. Big hugs!
Wow! This whole video just completely speaks out what I feel and it is the same situation as you were in for us now...I will also start to pray with my partner for getting an urge, if HE wants us to get parents....so I thank you so much for helping me with this video and this great advice!
I am turning 35 in a few days and this has been a topic that I have been struggling with for a very long time. I feel as though it took me a long time to find a man like my boyfriend and a good guy is very hard to find however, my boyfriend is a 100% NO on not having children. This topic is preventing us from moving forward and getting married, My boyfriend is beyond amazing and will support me no matter what I decide but if I decide yes then that means our relationship will end because it wouldn’t be fair to him to change his mind with some thing that he is 100% sure on. I am at a crossroad to decide if I stay with him then it’s a definite no I’m not having children if I don’t stay with him there is no definite that I will find someone within five years (my personal cut off age would be 40) That I’m going to find someone that is going to be a good father and a good husband and I’m not one to rush into a relationship and I know that it will take time for me to heal from ending one relationship and to accept another. I have been watching video after video listening to others opinions trying to figure out what I want. One common theme that many people have said is that it is important to have a good support system and a tribe. Sadly I don’t feel as though I have that and I can’t rely on my future (maybe) babies daddy to have a good support system because there’s a possibility he may not either. This also weighs heavy on my heart but at the same time it makes me not want to base a decision on other people that have not been a support system in my life. It’s all really scary because I don’t want to have regrets of not having children but I also don’t want to have a child and regret having it either because I pushed it and didn’t make the right choice. So many what if’s in so many unknowns. Please pray for me to help me Follow the right path and make the best decision for me. Thank you 🙏
That's a tough one but I understand where you are coming from. Before I met my now husband, I didn't even know if I wanted to get married. Regarding the support system, I think it's a great thing to have but I don't think it's a must have to make things work. Like it's great if I am back in my culture where I have many hands to support me but here, it's different. I could understand that listening to people's opinions to find our own decision but end of the day, I think deep deep down, we may already know what we want, we just need confirmation that what we want is the "right" thing? Sending prayers right now for you to have courage to make the right decision for you even if it means walking away and for peace and assurance either way you end up choosing. 🧡
I'm baptized in the Christian Church, but I personally identify as Agnostic or Athiest. Currently 24, turning 25 later this year. When I was a child, you could say we all in some way idolized marriage and having a family. But ever since I got into my teen years, I've just grown to be not only unsure to have to kids, but also not willing to have kids. (bio kids, pre-school kids) My own fears relate more to mental health, being autistic (not an excuse, but there are reasons), and responsibility. Idk, I'm not secure enough on my own to do what I need to do in the first 5 years of a child's development, but I get more secure when the child is a bit older and school age. I'm not against being a parental figure, just not pre-school kids, because I feel like I'd be heavily neglectful to very young children.
It's great that you have such a clear idea on things. I think there is never right or wrong, we just have to find peace in our decisions.I wish that your path gets clearer as time goes by. 😊
I understand how you feel. My husband is also a Swiss and he doesn’t want kids and lucky I have one loving daughter already before I met my husband and I don’t want to have another child anymore, so it suits to me that he doesn’t want any kids at all.
Hehe, that's so good that you are on the same page! Otherwise it's always quite a sad thing for the person who wants and can't have and the one who doesn't want and has too! 😆
Dawn thanks for sharing your decision process. This was really insightful! My husband and I are exactly at this particular crossroad. We would like children, however there are certain financial and personal goals that we wish to achieve before this can happen. All in God’s timing, he always knows what is best for us! If you could pray for us, I’d really appreciate that! Xo ❤️🌻🥰
Wow Ingrid! It brings me joy to know that I can be part of your journey and that my video is useful to you! Certainly all in His time. It is always the best! =) Will definitely keep you both in my prayers! * on a side note, I think kids shouldn't stop us from achieving our goals (although maybe at a slower rate with them around), so if you want them, have them! heheh *
Thanks for sharing your journey. Although I’m not religious, I can relate to being undecided about having children. I’m 29 and married for three years. My husband 100% wants children and feels it’s vital to his happiness. I have epilepsy disorder and can’t decide if I want kids because preventing seizures is a big responsibility and burden to bear. We’re considering divorce and I’m very scared to loose him.
Hey Amanda, I am no relationship expert but if your husband does not see it as a problem, maybe he has a solution? Have you discussed it? Having a child is hard work and I totally understand your concern. Epilepsy aside, do you want children too?
Yes please keep me in prayers of having kids, its something the Lord has been constantly putting on my heart, and just feeling unsure about it. Thank you!! 🙏🏻🤗
I totally understand this! My husband and I are converts and we had to also come to the realization that openness to life is SO freeing! Abandonment to divine providence
Yes my dear Kacie! It can be hard like I said, I was actually disappointed when my period came! I will keep you both in prayers for sure! Meanwhile, take care of your body, eat well and ALL IN GOD'S TIME. It's ALWAYS perfect. His plans always are, whatever it may be. Big hugs! 🧡
Thank you for your video. My husband and I are at that decision making time as well. I was for sure that I should marry my husband and felt God's leading, and I have had zero regrets in our 4 years of marriage. I want to have that same surety for having children. I have been praying for the Lord to show one of us, and to give me strength if that is His will. Please pray for us. Thank you
I felt God's guidance when I met my husband, as well as in other situations in my life. I can tell that when God leads, you really feel it. But regarding having a child ... I don't really feel sure, i just feel the pressure of society, and not the "pressure or guidance from god" (jus a way to picture it) and not least, in the bible there are many great characters who did not have children. I know a lot of families that are children free that are happy and are a great example for us.
How did you do natural family planning? im getting married next month and im freaking out about having a child out of surprise we want kids later down the line but i want to prevent them without birth control pills id rather not have fear with this i want to be happy about it
HI, totally understand! We actually use the basal method. If you know your body well and have regular periods, I feel just a thermometer and the app is good enough. I did spend on a device but looking back, I know my body very well and could have done without it. Abstinence is also part of natural family planning :)
I'm 24 with a 1 year old and I'm sure I'm one and done I don't have the desire to have anymore children shes my first and last child I need healing in my life
I actually have not tried argan oil but if it is well sourced and organic, I'm pretty sure it's quite good. I love vitamin e (d alpha) oil for face though :)
I use to want kids and find people who don’t want kids weird but as I grow older I don’t want kids anymore. They take away all your free time and you will worry about them a lot. I will have kids if someone will take care of it for me
That's not what's best for them so I agree kids are not for you. It would be great if everyone can be as honest with themselves as you are. There are people suffering from childhood trauma due to having parents that don't want them. Every child deserves someone that love them beyond measure to the point that any foreseen "burden" isn't enough for their parents not to love or want them. Parenthood is a huge honor and a huge responsibility.
@@neiya8862 Also I don’t want to give my kids up for adoption. I feel like they are my possession so if I can’t afford to raise them I will never have them. Just try to avoid getting heartache and miss them everyday after give them up.
I think I like the idea of having kids due to my dad not being the best father out there. To prove i can be a better dad. I just can’t see myself bringing a child into this life with the issues I face. I was born with a cleft lip, I deal with depression and also few of my cousins and aunts as well, two of my cousins are transgender and struggle. It’s honestly a lot pressure thinking about it. I think I only want kids if my future wife gets pregnant
You have such a lovely way of sharing your thoughts! I'm also unsure of whether or not I want kids someday. However, I'm not married or in a relationship, so I suppose I still have time to figure it out. :) Wishing you all the best!!
@@KristineDeAnna Plenty of time! 😊 Wow your friends are pretty early! hehe. I didn't meet my husband till I was 28! Time to explore and live life to the fullest gurlll! 😎
For me, I love kids and I think they are precious and that parenting is the most important job. I also do not want kids because what I’ve been through and that I’ve seen. I just can’t bear the thought of bringing someone into this world with how evil it is.
I am so happy you are able to find someone to relate to. I was looking for a video like that when I was struggling but couldn’t find one. Thanks for your appreciation 😊
Really really love this topic, especially regarding Christians. Been super stressed about this lately. If anyone would like to talk about this, you’re welcome to message me☺️☺️
I’m glad because when I was a teen I thought about having kids but now I’m 25 and I don’t want kids because it’s a responsibility and I work at a day care and that made me not want kids
Thank you so much for this video. That is exactly the same for me... I will pray for your family. I am hesitant about marrying my fiancé and have kids with him. It has been very very difficult to admit this. Could you please pray for us to have a clear sign from God that he wants us together? Thank you, may God bless you
Hey so glad you resonated with this and I totally understand your questions now. They were also questions I was dying to ask and did ask some parents but I always question the answers. haha I think I will make an in depth video about it. Briefly, I am very happy or more joyful. Having another or not has nothing to do with me being happy or not but more that postpartum was difficult and I am not ready at this moment to have another.
God bless you and your family. May you pray for me to keep my desire to have children. I really need to know what God wants me to do with my life right now. Peace love and blessings💕
Thank you! Take your time, I found that being ready and actually wanting before having gives so much more pleasure but that's just my opinion. 💛 I had no clue if I wanted to get married at 23. So long way to go 😉
I´m proud of you talking about this sensitive topic. Church is manipulating us to have kiddos. Most selfish behavior and they will still keep gaslighting us. Jesus said that not every person will become parent during their lifetime. Have purpose in your life. Do good things to other living beings. God bless you
Are you Catholic? I've never heard of that in a wedding service about asking if you are willing to have kids and bring them up in the church. Im coc. But also ive only been to 2 weddings in my 23 years so what do i know.
Please pray for me. I really need direction in my life. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years now, hes a incredible human being and I am so blessed to have him in my life. I grew up in an abusive household and I always admired the relationship between my friends and thier fathers. I always wished I was a daddy's girl but my dad was sooo mean to me and my mom. So that just tells you that I'm very very blessed to have found Edward because he treats me with the most beautiful respect and love- so much so that I knew he just had to be gay when we first met! Haha!! Anyway no he is not gay lol. But even though he is so incredible I for some reason do not feel ready to get married. Maybe it has to do with trauma from my parents relationship or maybe I'm just scared of commitment? I dont really know. I just am scared of everything. I dont want to lose him but I do know hes ready to take the next step and I'm afraid that I'm holding him back from experiencing beautiful things like getting married and having children. Children is another thing that I'm not sure about. I just dont know if I have what it takes to raise a child since I had such a rough upbringing, I wouldnt want to ever become my father without meaning to. I have so much anxiety and I always tell myself that when I fix my anxiety then maybe I'll be ready to settle down or that then maybe I'll be ready to have children... but I'm afraid this will be a lifelong struggle. Can you give me some advice? And can you please pray for me. I'm 28 yrs old and I would love to have some form of direction. Thanks you this video really inspired me! 💗🙏
Hey Brenda! It must be so hard to open up entirely, even just me experiencing a cheating ex, took me a while to open up. I can only imagine how hard it is for you. Having said that, I think when it comes to being a wife/parenting, it all boils down to awareness. You are not bound and tied to your past, you have the power to change your future, the power to create a beautiful family life and be a great mom. Edward sounds like a great guy and you have to trust God/life and let go of too much control. You have a good support in him and as long as you can share this with him and he is willing to stick by you, I think you can definitely try to open to the idea of taking it a step further. I've not experienced your kind of trauma but if you believe in God, pray for the ability to let go, to feel joy and confidence. I'll keep you in mine for sure. Big hugs!
I don’t dislike kids but it’s the responsibility to lead them in the ways of God and especially if it’s a daughter man oh man, I can’t handle daughters, maybe sons and not only that, the times we’re in this day and age, it’s not children friendly at all, too much bad influence, temptation. But God knows
Personally, I think God does want us to have kids because “Be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth…” (Gen. 1: 28). So, it's a matter of whether it is our path and if yes, help us. 😊
@@dawnforlife the earth is already filled up - I believe that instruction was for Adam and Eve, Jesus didn't repeat that when he came to earth. You can chose to not have kids biologically but foster, adopt, own a daycare, teach in children's church Glad you ended up chosing to have a baby, you seem really happy
Hello there! I very much enjoyed your video and would like prayer for God to put the desire of having children, with my future spouse, on my heart if it be His will! Thank you so much for your prayers! 🙏
I’m feeling the same way you felt, I would be great full if you would say a prayer for my spouse and I to have the desire for children if it be god’s will. Thank you 💜
Yes I will Katerina. I can imagine the anxiety! I even feel it thinking how I felt then! I will pray for you that you find certainty and peace in your decision and if it is His will, that you will find desire to have children :)
@@dawnforlife thank you so much♥ i really appreciate it..I'm also happy for you..that you found peace and certainty in your decision! that's soo awesome :) i hope you are happy now♥
You were on the fence if you wanted kids or not at first. Than god gave you a desire to have children. Do what makes you happy. I’m 100 percent I want to be Childfree but finding a Christian guy on same page is tough at 26 years old. ☺️🙄
No..God didn't just give it to me. I asked for the right direction and to give me that desire if that's the right path..Perhaps you could also do that? :)
Although your presentation style is gracious, sweet and genuine, I respectfully take issue with certain facets of the subject matter. A forced, God-imposed desire is not genuine. It truly is programming which is demeaning to sentient beings. Deliberately having a child is tantamount to knowingly forcing someone into a sin-prone form of life. Such cannot be even civil let alone moral. I kindly share that I am 53. Have always been and still am single, relationship-free and child-free. No regrets at all.
Hey Lisa, thanks for your respectful sharing. I find joy in knowing you have no regrets at 53 with your decision. Although, I have to say, I don’t fully grasp your view but will ask my husband about it. Hehe he is a theologian and way more intellectual, hopefully he can explain to me.
I read somewhere that there is this therapist/counselor in california that specializes in helping undecided couples find what they really want as regards to having or not having children. Some of the testimonials of people who went to her say that first they write all their external fears as well as hopes about why they should/shouldn't have children in a piece of paper. Then they put that piece of paper away and say they will try not to think of those in the initial stage so they can find out what they truly want at an emotional level and not what society tells them. Then (I don't know if this is the consecutive step or even if everyone does it) they spend a few weeks telling themselves that they do want kids ('yes weeks') and a few telling themselves they don't ('no weeks'). Without being a doctor I can imagine that neurologically, the process of telling yourself you want children and the process of asking God to make you want children, is very similar. Not sure if there is something there to explore. I wonder if the people who first have 'yes' weeks and then 'no' weeks are able to precondition their brains into actually wanting children because then when you go into the 'no' week I guess you feel a kind of 'absence' of choice or unfairness for that right being stripped from you. I also wonder if anyone has ever started with the 'no' weeks and seen if it had preconditioned themselves to not have kids. What I see is that people who are undecided usually want to want to have kids and I'm not sure that that 'want' is entirely preconditioned by external opinions...
Mm..perhaps you commented before watching the video 😊 It's story time, on decision making and as you can tell from the age on the title, you are very right 😉
Hmm..I think it starts at home. There are many worldly things (beside people) that can sway someone and I think it is more important to focus on instilling good values in children rather than "hide" them from it. If that makes sense.
I thought I was the only Christian who wasn’t really into having kids, this comment section is very comforting because it shows I’m not alone
I was searching for someone to relate to myself prior to my decision. I’m happy you can relate with us all here ☺️ Sending prayers 💛
I have Asperger's syndrome (high functioning autism) and I already have enough difficulties with trying to take care of myself on all levels let alone a child. That said I definitely envision myself being happily married one day.
@@m_jay5 I'm also autistic and never knew if I wanted kids or not but always wanted to get married. I can tell you that marriage is a lot harder than I originally thought, just because of how much I have to take care of my husband. I honestly hate it and it makes me afraid of having kids. I have been infertile for seven years, so I don't even know if I'll happen. Still don't know what I want to begin with.
I cannot have kids but Im Christian and now childfree. Im glad I have you guys to feel less alone. I think there will be more of us in the future.
I also don’t want kids as a Christian woman and I’m sooo glad to find y’all.
The only hard thing about choosing to be childfree as a Christian, is when other chruch people guilt trip you about it, and keep bringing the conversation up over and over again, it makes you not want to confide in anyone.
That's annoying and sad.
@@dawnforlife well atleast Jesus christ cares
Remember youre not a Christian for the church, youre a Christian because of your relationship with Jesus
Agreed! God doesn’t want me to be guilted into being a mother!
This is me right now😨
I'll be 52 soon and my husband is almost 54. We are Christian and happily childfree.
How did you deal with the criticism?
Specifically as a woman - but did your husband catch any grief as well?
I am a 24 year old Christian woman and I made the life decision that I do not want to ever have kids. 💜
It’s great that you are so firm about it and not that I think you will change your mind but some have tied their tubes after a few kids and later regret. Mayyybe just not something drastic like that :) Unsolicited advice but just in case :)
Parenthood is not for everybody.
I have never had that natural desire to have children and now that I’m a Christian (5 years into my faith) I’m wondering how off-putting it will be for a Christian man to one day be with me knowing that....but I wouldn’t have kids just because someone else wants them. 🤷🏻♀️
I exist lol. I love kids but just dont want them like that. I just dont want that responsibility
@@anthonynosike I've always known I'll never get married because I don't want children. Finding a Christian man who also doesn't want children is very rare.
@@rachelpaul9988 Well they do exist. I'm leaning towards that path myself. Im 50 50 on it. Just make sure that why you don't want kids isn't because of fear. There's lots of men who dont want kids. You may be in the same boat I was in where you find yourself only attracted to people who do want kids. You want the best of both worlds lol
@@anthonynosike It is because of fear lol. I have lots of fears. I'm even planning to fast and pray about it because it's troubling my heart so much. I wish you the best, Mr Nosike.
@@rachelpaul9988 lol same here. Enjoy your day and you could always connect with me if you want. God bless!
I'm also Catholic. I do want to fall in love and get married, but i dont want kids. I've never had the desire to have kids. So glad i found this video, it's very comforting
Thank you for sharing, I'm glad it comforted you :)
I've never felt called to motherhood, but I'm in my late 20s & am basically my parents only chance for a grandchild. I feel selfish for not having any yet even though no one is pressuring me. I pray about it a lot and try to remind myself God will answer my prayers and make whatever he wants happen happen. But it still feels like maybe I am a roadblock to what God wants. I still haven't found my answer, & I still almost feel negative torwards having kids which feels like at least the answer is "not right now". But it's so hard and it causes so much guilt.
Hi, I’m in the same boat (only child) and in my late 30s and feel pressured, I don’t feel economically ready to have kids. My husband is a non believer though.
When i was younger i was glamourizing all the marriage and having a family stuff. Since I am after 20s , I am not so sure and honestly, if i get married maybe i am not sure about having kids. Probably because if i get married it will be after 30s, and i dont want to do anything for feeling family and peers preassure
Yes, totally never do anything because it seems to be the norm. Always do it for yourself!
These days it's not uncommon to marry past 30 and many still have first child at 40. I wish you peace and joy with whatever decision you make :)
I am in the exact same boat, 32 years old, Christian, my husband and I are not sure if we want kids. We started trying this month and for some reason i'm feeling anxious about the whole thing. I never had the desire to have kids but at the same time I don't want to have any regrets. Please pray for my husband and I, may God's Will be done.
Ever heard of "be fruitful and multiply"?
@@KripkeSaul Who was that directed at? Re-read that verse.
Hey, how are you doing? Sending you a prayer and I hope all is well!
@@dawnforlife Thank you for your prayers, that's very sweet. I'm actually pregnant in my second trimester :). God has definitely put it in my heart to have a child. God bless you :)
@@MissDa255 Awwww congratulations!!! I am SO happy for you. May you have a smooth, blessed pregnancy, birth and motherhood!
I'm really struggling with this and searching for wisdom. I'm almost 40, and until now, life has thrown my husband and me some massive blockades to having kids. However, now we're finally in a place where we can possibly have kids, although not naturally, as that door is forever closed. He really wants to be a dad, but I'm not sure if I actually want kids. I know most of the responsibility of raising them will be on me and I don't want to have to quit my job or lose all my personal time, which feels very selfish, but still true. I feel terrible denying my husband the possibility, but I'm also really unsure about if I even want kids and am very scared about how hard the process is for adoption, fostering, or IVF. I feel pressured to decide quickly, due to my age.
I understand the pressure you must be feeling. Not sure if you are Christian but try to let go and let hope instead of fear lead the way. If you are, just trust in the Lord's time. Many people here in Switzerland have natural biological first child at or after 40, so unlike in the past, it is actually still possible. That is if you want it.
Motherhood is challenging but it is also very rewarding. One thing to note is that, what you want now, may very well change after having a child. I'm not being all "know it all" here but I just would like to share that it brings a lot of relieve to not let fear be the basis of your decisions 😊 Christian or not, I'll pray for trust, hope, patience and a lot of peace in your decision.
And IF you are a Christian, husbands are leaders of the home, so if he really wants it, if he is a responsible man and you love him, perhaps following his lead and letting go of fear, may very well be blessings from the Lord. 💛
This is a good video. Like you, I am unsure if I want kids. Sometimes, I feel like I do and other times, I am sure I dont. Knowing the right way to pray does help to get clarity. Thank you for sharing your experience.
YES! Totally made a difference for me! Take it easy, keep praying and you will find your way soon! Big hugs!
I’m Christian and childfree!! Best life path for me 💞
Same!!!❤
I'm 32 about to be 33 and married 3.5 years. My wife and I agreed to have 1 kid but I've noticed the conversation comes up less and less as our lives improve. She claims she still wants one but we don't discuss it. As time goes on, my desire to be a parent fades. I enjoy my freedom, I enjoy time alone with my wife, I like traveling. Is that selfish? No but there's also something about taking care of another human and stressing about its well being that scares me. My wife is not ready to have a kid now and right now I do not want one. Will that change in 3 years? Maybe but part of me thinks I'll be just fine without ever doing it. Thid is a conversation that needs to happen with my wife.
Hey Donovan, I totally feel you because we were also the same. Enjoying each other very much and loving our travels. To say we don't miss that with a young child is a lie BUT right now, we also cannot imagine we almost never had our sweet baby. It's a tough job, it's putting someone's need before our own, it's serving day in and out but it is also very purposeful, rewarding and a blessing. Whatever decision you come to, I wish both you and your wife peace and joy.
If you are a Christian, some are called to serve as parents and others may be called in other ways 😊💛
@@dawnforlife thank you, I think a day after I posted this comment I decided to go ahead and talk to my wife. We decided not to have children and she was actually feeling the same way I did for a while. I'm very happy and it all worked out.
@@deebee8825 So happy for you both Donovan! Wishing you well!
@@dawnforlife Thank you! You too.
My husband and I battled with this same feeling for a long time and eventually settled on an agreement: every once in a while, we check in with each other. We pray about it again and we ask God to share his desires for us about children, and that he would change the desires of our hearts to what he wants every day. If at some point one of us has a change of heart or is convicted about how we are choosing to be child free, we have to first take it to the Lord and then to each other. We have many reasons not to have children at this time given our circumstances, but we are not closed to the idea entirely. We are also open to the idea of foster care or adoption if we should be swayed in that direction. Ultimately though, this time of being child free gives us more time to mature as individuals, be in ministry, and to raise or disciple spiritual “children” who are young in their faith. Until the time comes, we trust that the Lord will share the desires of his heart with us, and that includes if/when we decide to try for kids.
Prayers are always welcome from another sister in Christ. 💕 I would ask for prayer that our desires change at the right time. Hope you’re doing well!
Thank you, I am doing well. Praying for you now and I don't know if you are praying together. I think it is important to pray together on this every single day as a couple, instead of every once in a while when you discuss it (maybe I misunderstood). Wishing you well 😊
Not similar, exactly. I felt like your story was a mirror to mine. I have been burned with this decision my whole marriage. Sadly I have come to feel the pressure to make a decision quite late at 38/ 39. Please pray for me. I so desire to come to a decision that will give me peace. God Bless you, thank you for this video
Hey Tabatha, I'm glad we can connect in that way. It still felt like yesterday how I felt like you and it can get real heavy on the heart. It can be so difficult but once we learn to let go (if you believe in God/universe), it can be SO liberating. I will pray for peace for whatever decision you come to and the outcome of it. Big hugs!
Wow! This whole video just completely speaks out what I feel and it is the same situation as you were in for us now...I will also start to pray with my partner for getting an urge, if HE wants us to get parents....so I thank you so much for helping me with this video and this great advice!
Hey, I'm so so happy that you could relate and find comfort in my experience! I wish you more clarity and comfort!
Christians are not obligated to have kids
The Bible does say we are to be fruitful and multiply but it never once says that thou shalt have children whether ye want them or not.
I am turning 35 in a few days and this has been a topic that I have been struggling with for a very long time. I feel as though it took me a long time to find a man like my boyfriend and a good guy is very hard to find however, my boyfriend is a 100% NO on not having children. This topic is preventing us from moving forward and getting married, My boyfriend is beyond amazing and will support me no matter what I decide but if I decide yes then that means our relationship will end because it wouldn’t be fair to him to change his mind with some thing that he is 100% sure on. I am at a crossroad to decide if I stay with him then it’s a definite no I’m not having children if I don’t stay with him there is no definite that I will find someone within five years (my personal cut off age would be 40) That I’m going to find someone that is going to be a good father and a good husband and I’m not one to rush into a relationship and I know that it will take time for me to heal from ending one relationship and to accept another. I have been watching video after video listening to others opinions trying to figure out what I want. One common theme that many people have said is that it is important to have a good support system and a tribe. Sadly I don’t feel as though I have that and I can’t rely on my future (maybe) babies daddy to have a good support system because there’s a possibility he may not either. This also weighs heavy on my heart but at the same time it makes me not want to base a decision on other people that have not been a support system in my life. It’s all really scary because I don’t want to have regrets of not having children but I also don’t want to have a child and regret having it either because I pushed it and didn’t make the right choice. So many what if’s in so many unknowns. Please pray for me to help me Follow the right path and make the best decision for me. Thank you 🙏
That's a tough one but I understand where you are coming from. Before I met my now husband, I didn't even know if I wanted to get married.
Regarding the support system, I think it's a great thing to have but I don't think it's a must have to make things work. Like it's great if I am back in my culture where I have many hands to support me but here, it's different.
I could understand that listening to people's opinions to find our own decision but end of the day, I think deep deep down, we may already know what we want, we just need confirmation that what we want is the "right" thing?
Sending prayers right now for you to have courage to make the right decision for you even if it means walking away and for peace and assurance either way you end up choosing. 🧡
I'm in exactly the same situation as you but I am nearly 38! Did you make a decision?
Hey ladies just seeing these powerful messages. If possible can you both please share an update?
I'm baptized in the Christian Church, but I personally identify as Agnostic or Athiest.
Currently 24, turning 25 later this year.
When I was a child, you could say we all in some way idolized marriage and having a family.
But ever since I got into my teen years, I've just grown to be not only unsure to have to kids, but also not willing to have kids. (bio kids, pre-school kids)
My own fears relate more to mental health, being autistic (not an excuse, but there are reasons), and responsibility.
Idk, I'm not secure enough on my own to do what I need to do in the first 5 years of a child's development, but I get more secure when the child is a bit older and school age.
I'm not against being a parental figure, just not pre-school kids, because I feel like I'd be heavily neglectful to very young children.
It's great that you have such a clear idea on things. I think there is never right or wrong, we just have to find peace in our decisions.I wish that your path gets clearer as time goes by. 😊
I understand how you feel. My husband is also a Swiss and he doesn’t want kids and lucky I have one loving daughter already before I met my husband and I don’t want to have another child anymore, so it suits to me that he doesn’t want any kids at all.
Hehe, that's so good that you are on the same page! Otherwise it's always quite a sad thing for the person who wants and can't have and the one who doesn't want and has too! 😆
Dawn thanks for sharing your decision process. This was really insightful! My husband and I are exactly at this particular crossroad. We would like children, however there are certain financial and personal goals that we wish to achieve before this can happen. All in God’s timing, he always knows what is best for us! If you could pray for us, I’d really appreciate that! Xo
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Wow Ingrid! It brings me joy to know that I can be part of your journey and that my video is useful to you! Certainly all in His time. It is always the best! =) Will definitely keep you both in my prayers!
* on a side note, I think kids shouldn't stop us from achieving our goals (although maybe at a slower rate with them around), so if you want them, have them! heheh *
Thanks for sharing your journey. Although I’m not religious, I can relate to being undecided about having children. I’m 29 and married for three years. My husband 100% wants children and feels it’s vital to his happiness. I have epilepsy disorder and can’t decide if I want kids because preventing seizures is a big responsibility and burden to bear. We’re considering divorce and I’m very scared to loose him.
Hey Amanda, I am no relationship expert but if your husband does not see it as a problem, maybe he has a solution? Have you discussed it? Having a child is hard work and I totally understand your concern. Epilepsy aside, do you want children too?
If it is a physical concern, could adoption be possible instead of pregnancy?
Yes please keep me in prayers of having kids, its something the Lord has been constantly putting on my heart, and just feeling unsure about it. Thank you!! 🙏🏻🤗
Hey sorry for the late response! I hope you've found a little more clarity. Sending you a prayer anyhow 😊💛
I totally understand this! My husband and I are converts and we had to also come to the realization that openness to life is SO freeing! Abandonment to divine providence
Yes my dear Kacie! It can be hard like I said, I was actually disappointed when my period came! I will keep you both in prayers for sure!
Meanwhile, take care of your body, eat well and ALL IN GOD'S TIME. It's ALWAYS perfect. His plans always are, whatever it may be. Big hugs! 🧡
Thank you for your video. My husband and I are at that decision making time as well. I was for sure that I should marry my husband and felt God's leading, and I have had zero regrets in our 4 years of marriage. I want to have that same surety for having children. I have been praying for the Lord to show one of us, and to give me strength if that is His will. Please pray for us. Thank you
Sending you both prayers. Try to pray for your hearts' desires to align too. In God's time. 💛
I felt God's guidance when I met my husband, as well as in other situations in my life. I can tell that when God leads, you really feel it. But regarding having a child ... I don't really feel sure, i just feel the pressure of society, and not the "pressure or guidance from god" (jus a way to picture it) and not least, in the bible there are many great characters who did not have children. I know a lot of families that are children free that are happy and are a great example for us.
How did you do natural family planning? im getting married next month and im freaking out about having a child out of surprise we want kids later down the line but i want to prevent them without birth control pills id rather not have fear with this i want to be happy about it
HI, totally understand! We actually use the basal method. If you know your body well and have regular periods, I feel just a thermometer and the app is good enough. I did spend on a device but looking back, I know my body very well and could have done without it. Abstinence is also part of natural family planning :)
I'm 24 with a 1 year old and I'm sure I'm one and done I don't have the desire to have anymore children shes my first and last child I need healing in my life
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I actually have not tried argan oil but if it is well sourced and organic, I'm pretty sure it's quite good. I love vitamin e (d alpha) oil for face though :)
I use to want kids and find people who don’t want kids weird but as I grow older I don’t want kids anymore. They take away all your free time and you will worry about them a lot. I will have kids if someone will take care of it for me
That's not what's best for them so I agree kids are not for you. It would be great if everyone can be as honest with themselves as you are. There are people suffering from childhood trauma due to having parents that don't want them. Every child deserves someone that love them beyond measure to the point that any foreseen "burden" isn't enough for their parents not to love or want them. Parenthood is a huge honor and a huge responsibility.
@@neiya8862 Also I don’t want to give my kids up for adoption. I feel like they are my possession so if I can’t afford to raise them I will never have them. Just try to avoid getting heartache and miss them everyday after give them up.
I think I like the idea of having kids due to my dad not being the best father out there. To prove i can be a better dad. I just can’t see myself bringing a child into this life with the issues I face. I was born with a cleft lip, I deal with depression and also few of my cousins and aunts as well, two of my cousins are transgender and struggle. It’s honestly a lot pressure thinking about it. I think I only want kids if my future wife gets pregnant
You have such a lovely way of sharing your thoughts! I'm also unsure of whether or not I want kids someday. However, I'm not married or in a relationship, so I suppose I still have time to figure it out. :) Wishing you all the best!!
Hey Kristine! Thank you! That's so sweet of you to say! Yea, it's a huge decision after all! If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?
@@dawnforlife You're welcome!! 😁 I am 25. But it seems like all my friends are married and having babies lol!
@@KristineDeAnna Plenty of time! 😊 Wow your friends are pretty early! hehe. I didn't meet my husband till I was 28!
Time to explore and live life to the fullest gurlll! 😎
@@dawnforlife My thoughts exactly!! :) Hehehe
@@KristineDeAnna Wishing you all the good fun stuff, Kristine! 😊
lm 19 single , l want to get married have a wife, live a happy life , follow Jesus and l don't want kids , this video really helped 😅
Being married is not a requirement for the Christian life, nor is parenthood.
For me, I love kids and I think they are precious and that parenting is the most important job. I also do not want kids because what I’ve been through and that I’ve seen. I just can’t bear the thought of bringing someone into this world with how evil it is.
This was incredibly helpful for me and I just wanted to say thank you
I am so happy you are able to find someone to relate to. I was looking for a video like that when I was struggling but couldn’t find one. Thanks for your appreciation 😊
Really really love this topic, especially regarding Christians. Been super stressed about this lately. If anyone would like to talk about this, you’re welcome to message me☺️☺️
Sending you prayers Meghan! May you trust in the Lord and find peace :)
OMG! i did not know you are a CHRISTIAN. GOD BLESS U!😄
Hahaha! Thank you dear! That enthusiasm! 😄
The Bible says to be fruitful and multiply but that doesn't translate to Thou shalt have children whether you want them or not!
I’m glad because when I was a teen I thought about having kids but now I’m 25 and I don’t want kids because it’s a responsibility and I work at a day care and that made me not want kids
It used to feel like kids were a necessity. But they’re an option!
Not having kids is not a sin. So we have freedom to choose. We are married 12 years and we both don’t desire to have our own children
Can you pray for me? I have the same issue where I am on the fence if we should have a baby! Thank you ❤️
I will Krista! May you be guided and find peace in whatever decision you end up making! :)
Thank you so much for this video. That is exactly the same for me... I will pray for your family.
I am hesitant about marrying my fiancé and have kids with him. It has been very very difficult to admit this.
Could you please pray for us to have a clear sign from God that he wants us together?
Thank you, may God bless you
We are in the same place. I would appreciate the prayers in knowing Gods will for our life!
Hey Brittany! I truly feel for you and sending you a prayer right this moment! 💛
thanks so much for this. are you happy you had kids now? will you have another?
Hey so glad you resonated with this and I totally understand your questions now. They were also questions I was dying to ask and did ask some parents but I always question the answers. haha I think I will make an in depth video about it. Briefly, I am very happy or more joyful. Having another or not has nothing to do with me being happy or not but more that postpartum was difficult and I am not ready at this moment to have another.
God bless you and your family. May you pray for me to keep my desire to have children. I really need to know what God wants me to do with my life right now. Peace love and blessings💕
Saying a prayer for you Kanisha. May you be given clarity and peace in your journey! 💛
There is no point to have kids
Wow beautiful prayer. Amazing. Thanks for the video. Gives me hope that i could want kids.
Thank you! Take your time, I found that being ready and actually wanting before having gives so much more pleasure but that's just my opinion. 💛 I had no clue if I wanted to get married at 23. So long way to go 😉
I´m proud of you talking about this sensitive topic. Church is manipulating us to have kiddos. Most selfish behavior and they will still keep gaslighting us. Jesus said that not every person will become parent during their lifetime. Have purpose in your life. Do good things to other living beings. God bless you
i dont want kids or matriage. i love my freedom.
I'm glad you are so sure about your decision 😊
Same I'm closer to 40 but I never wanted to get married or have kids since highschool.
Are you Catholic? I've never heard of that in a wedding service about asking if you are willing to have kids and bring them up in the church. Im coc. But also ive only been to 2 weddings in my 23 years so what do i know.
Hey Elizabeth, what's coc? Yes, I'm Catholic by religion and yes, I believe only the Catholic church ask that question. 😆
Pray for me the same prayer that if God's desire is for me to have kids he places it in my heart..your feelings is exactly how I feel.
Sending you a prayer right now. Big hugs!
Please pray for me. I really need direction in my life. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years now, hes a incredible human being and I am so blessed to have him in my life. I grew up in an abusive household and I always admired the relationship between my friends and thier fathers. I always wished I was a daddy's girl but my dad was sooo mean to me and my mom. So that just tells you that I'm very very blessed to have found Edward because he treats me with the most beautiful respect and love- so much so that I knew he just had to be gay when we first met! Haha!! Anyway no he is not gay lol. But even though he is so incredible I for some reason do not feel ready to get married. Maybe it has to do with trauma from my parents relationship or maybe I'm just scared of commitment? I dont really know. I just am scared of everything. I dont want to lose him but I do know hes ready to take the next step and I'm afraid that I'm holding him back from experiencing beautiful things like getting married and having children. Children is another thing that I'm not sure about. I just dont know if I have what it takes to raise a child since I had such a rough upbringing, I wouldnt want to ever become my father without meaning to. I have so much anxiety and I always tell myself that when I fix my anxiety then maybe I'll be ready to settle down or that then maybe I'll be ready to have children... but I'm afraid this will be a lifelong struggle. Can you give me some advice? And can you please pray for me. I'm 28 yrs old and I would love to have some form of direction. Thanks you this video really inspired me! 💗🙏
Hey Brenda! It must be so hard to open up entirely, even just me experiencing a cheating ex, took me a while to open up. I can only imagine how hard it is for you. Having said that, I think when it comes to being a wife/parenting, it all boils down to awareness. You are not bound and tied to your past, you have the power to change your future, the power to create a beautiful family life and be a great mom.
Edward sounds like a great guy and you have to trust God/life and let go of too much control. You have a good support in him and as long as you can share this with him and he is willing to stick by you, I think you can definitely try to open to the idea of taking it a step further.
I've not experienced your kind of trauma but if you believe in God, pray for the ability to let go, to feel joy and confidence. I'll keep you in mine for sure. Big hugs!
@dawnforlife you've made me feel so much better, thank you for believing in me!
Brenda Sanchez you can do it girl ☺️😘
Nice video. Kindly include me in prayer for breakthrough
Thank you and I will! ♥
@@dawnforlife Amen. Thank you.
You’re very welcomed!
I feel 💯the same 😮
I don’t dislike kids but it’s the responsibility to lead them in the ways of God and especially if it’s a daughter man oh man, I can’t handle daughters, maybe sons and not only that, the times we’re in this day and age, it’s not children friendly at all, too much bad influence, temptation. But God knows
Notice how this entire video is about "if we want kids or if we dont want kids" its not about "does God want me to have kids".
Personally, I think God does want us to have kids because “Be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth…” (Gen. 1: 28). So, it's a matter of whether it is our path and if yes, help us. 😊
@dawnforlife I agree, God does want married couples to have children. So obedience to God is to do so.
@@dawnforlife the earth is already filled up - I believe that instruction was for Adam and Eve, Jesus didn't repeat that when he came to earth.
You can chose to not have kids biologically but foster, adopt, own a daycare, teach in children's church
Glad you ended up chosing to have a baby, you seem really happy
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why does God want married people to have children?
Hello there! I very much enjoyed your video and would like prayer for God to put the desire of having children, with my future spouse, on my heart if it be His will! Thank you so much for your prayers! 🙏
Hey Ashley, praying for you now 😊
I’m feeling the same way you felt, I would be great full if you would say a prayer for my spouse and I to have the desire for children if it be god’s will. Thank you 💜
Just sent a prayer your way! In His time, big hugs!💛
thank you for your message♥ i'm on a fence for a long time...it makes me really anxious..if you could pray for me, i would be really really thankful♥
Yes I will Katerina. I can imagine the anxiety! I even feel it thinking how I felt then! I will pray for you that you find certainty and peace in your decision and if it is His will, that you will find desire to have children :)
@@dawnforlife thank you so much♥ i really appreciate it..I'm also happy for you..that you found peace and certainty in your decision! that's soo awesome :) i hope you are happy now♥
You were on the fence if you wanted kids or not at first. Than god gave you a desire to have children. Do what makes you happy. I’m 100 percent I want to be Childfree but finding a Christian guy on same page is tough at 26 years old. ☺️🙄
No..God didn't just give it to me. I asked for the right direction and to give me that desire if that's the right path..Perhaps you could also do that? :)
Thank you
Welcome!
Bless you. Now you having a baby
Thank you! Yes, I have my baby now :)
@@dawnforlife so happy for you. Congratulations stay well and blessed. Great things are coming your way.
@@joeroot9142 HOw kind of you! Thanks again and stay well yourself! 😊💛
Although your presentation style is gracious, sweet and genuine, I respectfully take issue with certain facets of the subject matter.
A forced, God-imposed desire is not genuine. It truly is programming which is demeaning to sentient beings.
Deliberately having a child is tantamount to knowingly forcing someone into a sin-prone form of life. Such cannot be even civil let alone moral.
I kindly share that I am 53.
Have always been and still am single, relationship-free and child-free. No regrets at all.
Hey Lisa, thanks for your respectful sharing. I find joy in knowing you have no regrets at 53 with your decision.
Although, I have to say, I don’t fully grasp your view but will ask my husband about it. Hehe he is a theologian and way more intellectual, hopefully he can explain to me.
I read somewhere that there is this therapist/counselor in california that specializes in helping undecided couples find what they really want as regards to having or not having children. Some of the testimonials of people who went to her say that first they write all their external fears as well as hopes about why they should/shouldn't have children in a piece of paper. Then they put that piece of paper away and say they will try not to think of those in the initial stage so they can find out what they truly want at an emotional level and not what society tells them. Then (I don't know if this is the consecutive step or even if everyone does it) they spend a few weeks telling themselves that they do want kids ('yes weeks') and a few telling themselves they don't ('no weeks'). Without being a doctor I can imagine that neurologically, the process of telling yourself you want children and the process of asking God to make you want children, is very similar. Not sure if there is something there to explore. I wonder if the people who first have 'yes' weeks and then 'no' weeks are able to precondition their brains into actually wanting children because then when you go into the 'no' week I guess you feel a kind of 'absence' of choice or unfairness for that right being stripped from you. I also wonder if anyone has ever started with the 'no' weeks and seen if it had preconditioned themselves to not have kids.
What I see is that people who are undecided usually want to want to have kids and I'm not sure that that 'want' is entirely preconditioned by external opinions...
Christians are creating sin for God. Otherwise, he would be bored and have no one to torture in hell. See how intelligent they are 😂😂😂
Are you not pregnant according to the video two weeks ago ?
Mm..perhaps you commented before watching the video 😊 It's story time, on decision making and as you can tell from the age on the title, you are very right 😉
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That's probably because Indonesia has a lot of people with a Chinese descent too! :)
Schneller in Englisch antworten 😆
Wait until you know!
It can draw you to worldly people thats my biggest reason not to have them
But christian school is an option
Hmm..I think it starts at home. There are many worldly things (beside people) that can sway someone and I think it is more important to focus on instilling good values in children rather than "hide" them from it. If that makes sense.