You know I don't think people conceptualise this stuff in the same way that I do and I think they're missing out. This is beyond therapy, this process is fundamentally how you see people as they are. This is how you learn about who others are and who you are. This is what it looks like to actually pursue connection. This is how you mend what feels broken in society, this is how it heals. Why this takes up such a small corner of TH-cam I don't know but I really hope that changes.
Its really interesting to watch Rogers in an individual therapy session, especially one in which the client is bringing up some very profound experiences such as having a life threatening illness, and racial discrimination/bigotry.
I could only find the second part of this video online thanks for putting it up- I love the clients soft caring personality and the way Rogers deals with it all fantastic!
that's one thing i was reminded of watching this. i was a little boy in the 1980s, not so far back, but back. something that i once noticed in thinking of my memories of people of that time compared to people today, is how all the black men that were trusted to have jobs and exist within polite society, they had to be FULLY passive, all the time, NEVER show aggression, not ever. to a depth that they weren't just acting, they had to twist their minds all the way around into NOT being angry, or displacing that anger, or fully burying it. which would have been increasingly hard the further back you go in the past, especially starting from the basic position of seeing your mom and dad get it even worse, from a society that is unfair to them, that you know will also be unfair to you. the way he was describing being accepted in academia and business and whatever other circles, would have demanded he be this type of man. black men had to be, you know, always passive, defanged or whatever, or they'd be cast out. of course it's only with the benefit of time that we can even look back on this and see how odd and unnatural it all was
As a high achiever at a young age and an tiresome advocate for 'trans racial communication' as this man puts it, I then lost all control over my capacity for selflessness and actions for others. I got a chronic illness diagnosis 6 years ago and now after 'overcoming the symptons' mostly day to day, I feel where this man was at right in this moment. 'Conditioning yourself to die' and 'proceeding very meticulously to (ensure everything is in order)' You sit at an impasse, waiting for the next stage of life to come welcome you. And when it doesn't, you think 'what was the point of the years of hard work and conditioning to be a matyr'. 'Trying to wash things out' after going so deep into loneliness and desperation and begin again. This man just has the phraseology that I self talk with all day long. I feel his dissonance for being so actively present and communicative to 'the other', whether it be cultural, value systems etc and then feeling an existential angst when the world simply does not operate on that level. I wonder where this sensitive, pained, accountable and sad this man is. I truly hope he is somewhere peaceful.
36:30 mins in ... I think Carl was dancing inside. When this man talked about his (7-year-old) organismic itself and reconnecting with it in adulthood. His work is done 🫡🙌 Well, maybe he doesn't dance 💃 but defo celebrating 🍾 ..but maybe not, coz he has to stay with client affect.
You know I don't think people conceptualise this stuff in the same way that I do and I think they're missing out.
This is beyond therapy, this process is fundamentally how you see people as they are. This is how you learn about who others are and who you are. This is what it looks like to actually pursue connection. This is how you mend what feels broken in society, this is how it heals. Why this takes up such a small corner of TH-cam I don't know but I really hope that changes.
I hope you get the opportunity to read Carl Rogers' book "On Becoming a Person" if you haven't already. I absolutely agree with you on this Callum.
This is a beautiful exchange -
I really hope he kept being treated by Mr Rogers 🙏🏻❤️ i must admit. i cried a couple of times, watching this. They both seem like wonderful people ❤️
Thank you very much for this film ! It's very interesting for our students ant the whole rogerian community in France. We are grateful !
I'm glad to know that. Hopefully these videos will help many more generations of PCA.
Its really interesting to watch Rogers in an individual therapy session, especially one in which the client is bringing up some very profound experiences such as having a life threatening illness, and racial discrimination/bigotry.
I could only find the second part of this video online thanks for putting it up- I love the clients soft caring personality and the way Rogers deals with it all fantastic!
This dude is so calm when he's with Carl!🌷
that's one thing i was reminded of watching this. i was a little boy in the 1980s, not so far back, but back. something that i once noticed in thinking of my memories of people of that time compared to people today, is how all the black men that were trusted to have jobs and exist within polite society, they had to be FULLY passive, all the time, NEVER show aggression, not ever. to a depth that they weren't just acting, they had to twist their minds all the way around into NOT being angry, or displacing that anger, or fully burying it. which would have been increasingly hard the further back you go in the past, especially starting from the basic position of seeing your mom and dad get it even worse, from a society that is unfair to them, that you know will also be unfair to you.
the way he was describing being accepted in academia and business and whatever other circles, would have demanded he be this type of man. black men had to be, you know, always passive, defanged or whatever, or they'd be cast out. of course it's only with the benefit of time that we can even look back on this and see how odd and unnatural it all was
I wonder what ever happened to this man
As a high achiever at a young age and an tiresome advocate for 'trans racial communication' as this man puts it, I then lost all control over my capacity for selflessness and actions for others. I got a chronic illness diagnosis 6 years ago and now after 'overcoming the symptons' mostly day to day, I feel where this man was at right in this moment.
'Conditioning yourself to die' and 'proceeding very meticulously to (ensure everything is in order)'
You sit at an impasse, waiting for the next stage of life to come welcome you. And when it doesn't, you think 'what was the point of the years of hard work and conditioning to be a matyr'.
'Trying to wash things out' after going so deep into loneliness and desperation and begin again.
This man just has the phraseology that I self talk with all day long.
I feel his dissonance for being so actively present and communicative to 'the other', whether it be cultural, value systems etc and then feeling an existential angst when the world simply does not operate on that level.
I wonder where this sensitive, pained, accountable and sad this man is. I truly hope he is somewhere peaceful.
Cool
36:30 mins in ... I think Carl was dancing inside. When this man talked about his (7-year-old) organismic itself and reconnecting with it in adulthood. His work is done 🫡🙌
Well, maybe he doesn't dance 💃 but defo celebrating 🍾
..but maybe not, coz he has to stay with client affect.