This strongly resonates, but honestly I'm happier by myself. Relying on anyone else on an emotional level does nothing for me but seem like a threat and a risk, nor can I ever be my true self (have to constantly modify behaviour performatively), nor did it ever feel worth all the emotional exertion. I much prefer to indulge in hobbies, skills, and intellectualising/fantasy, I don't feel a need to maintain relationships, though I make some effort with old friends and family out of a sense of duty. I don't think I have ever once in my life felt lonely, only the perpetual and crushing need to escape everyone and isolate. What motivation could change my perspective?
Thank you Taryana, I love the way you explain the isolation situation, it is very enlightening. In my case, I was basically eaten alive when I was a child, I needed to build boundaries, feel safe and understanding what was healthy and what was abuse... without healing in isolation I think people would have kept bulldozing me. Its good to be very selective with people, I agree with you 100%
Another great video. Thank you Taryana. You are a godsend. This video really helped me understand what I need from relationships and why I run from them. The realization that we don't feel safe with people is a eureka moment for me. It makes so much sense. I have been on a trajectory towards isolation for the last 20 years since I was a preteen. I am trying to pull myself out before its too late.
Taryana, just wanted to say thanks for this discussion. I'm pretty sure that it has helped vastly to illuminate what is occurring in my own condition and perhaps how to do a bit better with things in life.
Late to the party but I appreciate this video. I made the list, but the overall theme is "Need/expect less from me." I was the parentified child of a pedophile and a martyred codependent and have never had a nourishing relationship in which I got as much out of it as was extracted from me. I have a partner who meets my "Need less of me" needs by being an adult, but I don't feel interdependent with him. I can't wrap my head around that notion because I can't identify needs others can meet for me by doing anything but being responsible for themselves so I don't have to.
You are wonderful. Liked and subscribed. Without getting too personal or giving too much detail, I experience all time rather than normal time. While sometimes my state is advantageous, I am unable to break out of it irregardless. I have a perfect understanding of what caused this state, however, the rational understanding is not necessarily an advantage. I will however listen to the video again.
What can someone in that situation do to improve their isolation? What is one first step if you have basically no one around? Volunteer? Find some roommates?
I love this sharing of little things throughout the day. It’s always been important to me but I let it go as a goal or possibly because I’ve connected to people whom were not a match to me. I also have felt that good/sensible relationships were for others and not me from a very young age responding to the exercise: relationships to me feels like fear terror lost invasion confusion pain hurt heavy weighty awkward unreal unnatural I just wanted to be heard, seems as if everything I said/thought/wanted (even now with my family and mom) was always wrong so I just stopped speaking really
Thank you for these sacred relationship guidelines and for this word of good nutrition in spirit/aura/energy of relationships I remember having to mentally convince myself that my mother did not hate me as a kid (full on debates in my mind). I still don’t know the answer to that but I am honest with myself abou that now and I believe you are right I should not have to feel that conflict/confusion or lack of clarity in a relationship with anyone.
i wonder how many of those super attractive women that come across as aloof and standoffish are not actually just shallow, arrogant and entitled, but actually beautiful avoidant schizoid type personalities trying desperately to adapt to the expectations, envy and lust imposed upon them by the hand god dealt them. maybe i should be asking them if they want to play dungeons and dragons instead of asking them out to bars!
Thank you for your videos. My question that i hope you will address in a future video is on the sense of responsibility you feel toward remaining siblings still trapped in the narcissistic family dynamic. I have escaped. Should I focus my energies on persuading him to leave before it is too late?
Thank you, Taryana! I would love to see you write a book. I definitely have trust and abandonment issues - I would love a relationship without moodiness or control, where I'm fully accepted as free to be myself, and to express myself. I have this with friends but no life partner.. yet!
This strongly resonates, but honestly I'm happier by myself. Relying on anyone else on an emotional level does nothing for me but seem like a threat and a risk, nor can I ever be my true self (have to constantly modify behaviour performatively), nor did it ever feel worth all the emotional exertion. I much prefer to indulge in hobbies, skills, and intellectualising/fantasy, I don't feel a need to maintain relationships, though I make some effort with old friends and family out of a sense of duty. I don't think I have ever once in my life felt lonely, only the perpetual and crushing need to escape everyone and isolate. What motivation could change my perspective?
Thank you Taryana, I love the way you explain the isolation situation, it is very enlightening. In my case, I was basically eaten alive when I was a child, I needed to build boundaries, feel safe and understanding what was healthy and what was abuse... without healing in isolation I think people would have kept bulldozing me. Its good to be very selective with people, I agree with you 100%
Another great video. Thank you Taryana. You are a godsend. This video really helped me understand what I need from relationships and why I run from them. The realization that we don't feel safe with people is a eureka moment for me. It makes so much sense. I have been on a trajectory towards isolation for the last 20 years since I was a preteen. I am trying to pull myself out before its too late.
Taryana, just wanted to say thanks for this discussion. I'm pretty sure that it has helped vastly to illuminate what is occurring in my own condition and perhaps how to do a bit better with things in life.
Late to the party but I appreciate this video. I made the list, but the overall theme is "Need/expect less from me." I was the parentified child of a pedophile and a martyred codependent and have never had a nourishing relationship in which I got as much out of it as was extracted from me. I have a partner who meets my "Need less of me" needs by being an adult, but I don't feel interdependent with him. I can't wrap my head around that notion because I can't identify needs others can meet for me by doing anything but being responsible for themselves so I don't have to.
You are wonderful. Liked and subscribed. Without getting too personal or giving too much detail, I experience all time rather than normal time. While sometimes my state is advantageous, I am unable to break out of it irregardless. I have a perfect understanding of what caused this state, however, the rational understanding is not necessarily an advantage. I will however listen to the video again.
What can someone in that situation do to improve their isolation? What is one first step if you have basically no one around? Volunteer? Find some roommates?
I love this sharing of little things throughout the day. It’s always been important to me but I let it go as a goal or possibly because I’ve connected to people whom were not a match to me.
I also have felt that good/sensible relationships were for others and not me from a very young age
responding to the exercise:
relationships to me feels like fear terror lost invasion confusion pain hurt heavy weighty awkward unreal unnatural
I just wanted to be heard, seems as if everything I said/thought/wanted (even now with my family and mom) was always wrong so I just stopped speaking really
That hits really close to home 😞
It seems like you are inside my mind. So relatable.
Nice way of practicing english. Tô treinando contigo, gratidão por disponibilizar seus conteúdos tb em inglês 🤩
Congratulations my dear!! God keep blessing your work!!!
Assistindo vc no programa entre família, parabéns
idk how to thank u for this video, it was so special for me
Lindaaa🥰Não compreendo inglês. Mais você é faz desse indioma o melhor. Parabéns tary! Você é admirável. Sucesso!🌻
Love this video.
Thank you for these sacred relationship guidelines and for this word of good nutrition in spirit/aura/energy of relationships
I remember having to mentally convince myself that my mother did not hate me as a kid (full on debates in my mind). I still don’t know the answer to that but I am honest with myself abou that now and I believe you are right I should not have to feel that conflict/confusion or lack of clarity in a relationship with anyone.
i wonder how many of those super attractive women that come across as aloof and standoffish are not actually just shallow, arrogant and entitled, but actually beautiful avoidant schizoid type personalities trying desperately to adapt to the expectations, envy and lust imposed upon them by the hand god dealt them. maybe i should be asking them if they want to play dungeons and dragons instead of asking them out to bars!
That's sounds amazing and I think you're into something.💓
Thank you for your videos. My question that i hope you will address in a future video is on the sense of responsibility you feel toward remaining siblings still trapped in the narcissistic family dynamic. I have escaped. Should I focus my energies on persuading him to leave before it is too late?
❤ ty for this
Yep, oxytocin is a thing!
Vi você hoje na TV
CaMe inTo my liFe at tHe peRfeCt tIme 🤗🤗
Thank you, Taryana! I would love to see you write a book. I definitely have trust and abandonment issues - I would love a relationship without moodiness or control, where I'm fully accepted as free to be myself, and to express myself. I have this with friends but no life partner.. yet!