I was at the store today with my 3 year old n there was another mother in line with a 4 maybe 5 year old & 1 probably almost 11 months n she was on the edge lol (mommy senses) everyone was looking at her in this judgmental way, so I whipped out the Arsenal of fruit snacks n juice boxes I carry on me at all times as hush bribes lol n asked her if they could have one & I don't think anyone has ever looked at me in such a loving way like she did hahaha not even my husband on our wedding day could top the look of love in her eyes at that moment... The kids automatically calmed down & she looked so relieved! We Mommas need to be here for one another n stop being so judgemental! Love & support eachother! Just the smallest acts of kindness can touch a person's heart for a lifetime n u don't even know it! Empathy, Compassion, & Love needs to find its way back into the world!
Come to Australia. I fly all the time the only looks you get are knowing looks from other people that say 'I feel you and it's ok' the only time I was confronted about my crying 10month old was when I was in the U.S. don't get me wrong , I love America, I just think there's a lot of stressed out people who need to chill just a bit.
been there and survived. my dad was army (in the 60's we flew to Germany a lot), my mom would talk to the pediatric doc and he said to give us cold or allergy meds 10min before the flight and only half the dose. we were mellow..... I truly thought of Benadryl when my 3year old started to flip out when he and I flew from Cali to Penn. but the flight attendant, a guy, came to the bathroom and told my son he would let him help give out sodas if he would be quiet, it worked and so my son was worked into tiredness and fell asleep for the remainder of the flight. come on moms stop the judgments and offer a shoulder or a glass of wine or chocolate for moms....
Louis C.K said it best people act like a crying child on an airplane is "happening to them." It's not. Kids cry and I guarantee that kids parent/s is waaaay more stressed about it than you. Just be kind. You are Mom goals.
why did I want to cry at the end? maybe because Im a mother of a toddler, and have been in similar silituation. its also important to point out, that most people wont say anything. but theyll stare, or shake their head in disapproval, and thats just as bad too
I don't have kids yet--and I'm not even out of undergrad--but when I hear a screaming child I just think, "That's going to be me one day, the poor mother with the screaming child."
I keep a bouncy ball in my purse for this reason. I remember wishing I'd stuffed something in my purse with which to help my kid out of a tantrum. Now I always carry a toy so that I can give it to a mom or dad who's kid just needs something to change their focus. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Support parents, don't make it harder!
Kristina you made my day 😍 every time I hear “she’s probably hungry” (cuz it’s always she-I have 3 girls) knife in my pocket opens up! Really? Do they really ask a 3 kid mom if she didn’t feed her child? That’s sooo annoying! I just love you girl! You always say it right! Mua😘
we just went to FL and back, and we had a baby and a toddler not happy. I can't blame them, ears popping and not knowing where you are. Well, one of the guys said "great!" in a sarcastic tone, so the old lady set him straight and he apologized. Although the best part of the flight is when we landed and a little girl behind me yells "It's a miracle!!!!!" Everyone started laughing. I don't mind a screaming kid at all, and anyone who doesn't like that... ... I would purchase a bag of ear plugs and say "don't like it, here..."
I could watch you all day! You could talk about plunging a toilet and find some way to make it hilarious. Thank you Kristina for making every day life more enjoyable and light hearted.
Man I hope that guy sees this video and recognizes you and your son and realizes what a difference he made with just a few words. Thanks for sharing this story and in such a hilarious way.
The worst are not always the judgmental moms, its the ones who don't have children yet. I don't have kids yet, but even I understand not to butt into another parents business. Unless they are abusing their children. I do have 2 younger brothers and one younger sister, I remember helping raise them... but that doesn't give me the right.
Shelley Perry that's exactly what I meant, not all people that don't have kids yet are having Judgemental. But most of the people that judge parents, don't have children yet.
Kristina, your videos are so true! I'm not a mom but I feel compassionate already! It's so important to make people aware how does a mom feel, when everyone is just selfish and they want the kid to shut up, and nobody cares about how the mom and the kid actually feel.
On a recent 14-hour flight, my nearly 2 y/o daughter daughter started coming down with the worst illness she has ever had or probably will for a long long time...only outward symptom was crying and screaming and only being comforted by nursing...I did give her some pain relievers as it slowly became clear she was in a lot of pain, but once we landed and consulted her pediatrician, she told us that pain mess would have only minimal effect with that particular virus... Sometimes kids have legitimate reasons for being inconsolable and it truly isn't the parent's fault.... It's almost I,possible to get her to sleep anywhere but home too and that's another reason for her sometimes crying on planes, even though we're so prepared with toys, snacks, songs, etc.
I had a very similar situation happen to me. I mean, lets face it, what mom hasn't? I had to carry a screaming child through the grocery store. Didn't have the option to just leave as we needed the groceries for dinner. As I was standing outside my car, nearly in tears, a gentleman walked up and said those same things to me. You're doing fine. You're doing a good job. Just hang in there. I was never more relieved in my life. It erased all those judgmental looks. It was validation and compassion. Yes. Be that guy. i never have forgotten him.
Amen! I flew with my 2 girls who were only 2 and not quite 4 at the time. And OMG! The stares and whispers I got. You know the ones I'm talking about, people turn and speak to a friend, spouse, who ever they're with, in a low but audible tone. Yes, let's all try to show some compassion for moms (and dads) out there when their kids go wild. I love this video!
Love it! When my son was about 4 or 5 he was having a horrible fit in Walmart. I was on line, calmly ignoring him after trying everything else, just trying to get out of there. Some old hag started screaming at him, taping him with her phone and telling him she was putting him on TH-cam. It was all I could do not to rip the phone out of her hand and smash it. She needs a lesson from your plane guy.
Can’t stand that kind of thing. Personally, I think it’s wrong to post other people’s children online without expressed permission from the parents. I don’t post pictures of my children online, (all my friends and family, know better too). I would have an absolute fit, if I found out someone else had.
i was in fear of being that mom while traveling to Disney world this past summer. my 4 year old has ASD and I thought he was going to have a hard time. yes he talked and sung songs. I had one last come up to me after our last plain landed and told me she enjoyed all his talking on the way home. I had owner look at us while he was having a fit like I was doing wrong for letting him cry out. I pay for many more like the last who enjoyed him and pity for those who can't understand him.
Yes exactly you need the empathy- I always offer empathy. I was relieved my son was quiet on the flight as he was screaming most of the day due to reflux. So he has a medical condition. But still screaming toddlers make every parent anxious and stressed out. I would have offered to distract him so you could catch your breath for a minute .
My son was also THAT kid once in a 5 hour trip. He also had not had his nap and was soo cranky. Embarassment and frustration are not a good combination. No one offered any help. People just stared at us. I had to struggle with him for the better part of the trip. I just wanted to cry🙁
Your videos play in my head when i see parents trying their best. I used to judge and think "my kids will never..." and we ALL know how that goes. I now want to be a voice of compassion, being that example i want my kids to be. I want them to see that kindness wins. Thank you. And yes, I've been that mom with the screaming baby on an airplane. I had a flight attendant come over and talk soothingly to my baby and i was SO GRATEFUL. After that, i had a pretty rude guy comment about my screaming baby being cute. Backhanded at best. But kindness to a stressed parent is the most calming salve for the situation.
This message was so SPOT-ON! Several years ago, while bringing my adopted son home from Guatemala, I got stuck in a middle seat. Then, it was completely acceptable and fine to have a lap-riding baby. So the two of us...newly adoptive mom and baby from Guatemala who was totally freaked out by the fact that his entire life was changing...we were crammed into a middle seat. You see, once you get the international adoption approval, you have very few days to get to Guatemala, which means you get the WORST seats on the plane. Fast-forward 10 years. Now I know that this beautiful son of mine suffered from ADHD, anxiety, and sensory disorders. I didn't know it at the time. In fact, we had almost zero medical history. WOW! Can you imagine getting on a plane with a total stranger and finding out your life had completely turned upside-down? Nope...me either. I'd probably scream a little. Here's what I will never forget. As I sat in the middle seat, completely worried over the noise and commotion my new son was causing, the kind woman in the aisle seat patted me on the arm and told me things would calm down. After visiting with her for a while, she even offered to hold my little guy so that I could get a restroom break. I will never forget this small act of kindness on her part. Kindness costs nothing...but it will be remembered and passed on for a very long time.
Hard to Not knock those women out, huh? I find that my patience runs thin and I want to go ballistic on others that are rude. The guy made your day, yes? You seem to be a good mom and person. Keep it up! God bless
I tell pretty much any parents they're doing fine. I also have a story I tell them about how I had a "demon child" on my flight. True Story: this kid refused to put his seat belt on, intentionally stepped on my foot, threw garbage at me... yeah, crying baby is nothing.
Omg, I have been in that moment so many times when my boys were smaller. I have a bad memory on small details, yet I clearly remember a woman being compassionate to me during one of those moments and it meant the world to me. It was just what I needed and I felt relieved. I'm in the process of writing my memoir, and now I will make sure to include that detail of my memory from that day.
I feel you! I had that kid on a 12 hr travel day. You are awesome! I hope you make more videos. I know this is not a beauty channel, but I would love to see a hair tutorial. 🙂
My daughter is only 4 1/2 Mo old and already I've been accused of not thinking to feed her TWICE! One time was by a neighbor who knocked on my door to introduce herself and then remind me to feed her! The other a lady who came into the public restroom to inquire about the crying. I really love your videos!
Oh, girl. I feel ya. I flew for just a few hours with my kids, 2 & 4, by myself & I didn't talk to my family for like 24 hours afterward. It was better than it could have been & not even close to your experience. But whew, it was hard. Props mama, props.
been there - done that... We flew to Puerto Rico - it was only ONLY a 4.5 hour flight ... but my one year old (who is normally the "easy" child) decided to use that moment to be .... not easy.. but we were fortunate enough to be seated by people that were understanding and very helpful - strangers offered to hold her and entertain her (that seemed to be the ONLY thing that made her happy.... being held by a stranger - clearly she will need therapy when she is an adult...lol) The flight attendant was amazing as well - despite the fact that she was instructed to stop serving beverages because we were about to land... she served me an adult cocktail with an "I understand" glance... After we landed - you know that time - the 45 minutes where we all wait to exit the plane - the diaper had to be changed.... one of my new airplane best friends offered to take the dirty diaper off of my hands so I didn't have to search for a trash can. My faith in society was renewed after that ONE plane trip
As a passenger watching a mom struggle. Sit and try and calm yourselves down. Some of the tension you feel as a mom is that you feel you are an inconvenience to someone else, when people act chilled and have understanding smiles the tension
OMG, I'm blessed. Back in 1998 I had to take my three kids (stepdaughter, 6, son, 5, son 2,5) on a plane travel that lasted almost 10 hours - 6 aboard, 3 in the airport during connections. Somehow, for some miraculous reason, they behaved well ALL the time! What was great, cause it was the last flight - really, the very last - prior to the summer holidays beginning. If we were asked to leave the place, we'd probably have to live under some bridge for maybe a week (all hotels, hostels, every place were booked. Even the bridges were crowded). I love your channel, I'm now a subscriber. Havla, Kristina! :)
I've been there too! My daughter was one or maybe a little younger and if I wasn't rocking her continuously for the entire 5 hour flight across Australia she was super duper crying #facepalm Thankfully no one complained. Another time I saw a mum at the shops with her tantrumming daughter in a pram. The mum took the child's balloon and put it in the bin. She spoke calmly and clearly to the girl (roughly 4 yrs old) and reminded her that a tantrum means no balloon. Well, boy was that little girl spacking. But I marched right up to that mum and told her she was a very good parent and that was exactly what needed to happen. She was so grateful and relieved that I supported her decision. As I walked away, an elderly woman approached me. She stopped me and said, "That was a very kind thing you did just now. We've all been there and it's hard to do the right thing when everyone is staring and judging you." What a blessing that was to hear!
01:51 That there is what I call my "murder face". I really, really hope that's literally what you said to her. Parents who wander up thrusting unsolicited and highly presumptive advice on other parents need to be put in their place. And I'm sure those lovely - judgey af mums weren't making your son's stress levels any better. You reacted like a damn Queen. If someone walked up to me and ordered me to put my own kid down while I was already struggling - I don't know that I would have reacted that gracefully. I might have come unhinged.
Once there was THAT kid sitting behind me on a plane. The problem was, his parents just popped some ear plugs and let him scream. Someone asked the father, whether he could try to calm down his child. You know what was his response? - 'This kid is uncalmable, one more hour and you'll stop noticing'. Now that's the attitude I hate. I rarely see parents like you, who actually make an effort. Nowadays more and more people let their kids make a playground out of every place they're in.
We have our own parenting styles. Probably the father gets what the child wants which is attention and The best intervention to tantrums is to ignore the child..
emeixac I think you’re completely wrong and you need to mind your own business. The “attention” was not for the child it was a pat on the back for the stressed out mother trying to calm him down. Obviously you’ve never flown on a plane with a small child. I don’t think I’d characterize what she is talking about as a “tantrum” and more or less sensory overload. What the man said was not meant for the child and it’s people like you who think they know best and what to share their opinion with everyone that make it so hard on parents that are simply just trying.
Some people just don't know how to keep their negative comments to themselves! I usually give an understanding smile or compliment the mom for not losing her mind too! #timeformommytantrums.
Once I was the mom with THAT kid on a transatlantic red-eye to Europe. My 2-year-old screamed and kicked and yelled the entire flight, until about two hours before we landed in the morning. At one point, around 2 a.m., a tall, imposing-looking German man got out of his seat to admonish me. "You need to walk the baby up and down the aisle! You need to walk her!" Somehow he had missed the 20 times I had already done that. Then as he reached for my daughter he demanded, "Give me the baby! I will walk the baby in the aisle! Just give me the baby!" Yes. A complete stranger was REACHING FOR MY CHILD. Needless to say, I became a mama bear and just shouted, "Woah! Back off! Just BACK OFF!" as I swatted his hands away. My husband, who was sitting across the aisle from us, pretended he didn't know me at that point because I was clearly losing it. I won't even get into the nasty comments I overheard as we got off the plane in Zurich, but I'll say this much: whenever I hear a screaming child on a plane, I feel nothing buy empathy for the poor parents. I know it is much harder on them than it is for the child!
I have heard that many small children have problems with inner ear pain when they are on airplanes. They do not know how to yawn and release the pressure. Warning ADVICE follows: Yawns are contagious, so maybe try yawning next time or if the child is old enough to follow directions tell him/her to yawn. Poor baby. If everyone survived the flight then you did great!
I think it's rude for those two women to come up to you and give their advice and act like that, I understand people don't want to hear a screaming but there is other ways around that. You can at least be compassionate to the person like that father was rather than tell you how to handle and parent your child. One of the worst things that can happen is being kicked off a plane because your child is crying or something. it's sad to see that happen especially if you're trying to handle it, and is probably not fun to experience. I don't have children but I would NEVER think to go up to someone and say the things they said to you, and when I do have children I hope I don't experience people acting like that.
I think they should bring out notices in public places "If a 2 year old kid is screaming its head off it is natural developmental behaviour for a 2 year old. First option is be patient, 2nd option be kind and compassionate towards the parent, 3rd option is, if you don't like it get off the bus./shop/plane as soon as possible. Life jackets/parachutes available on request "
I'm an older gal with no kids, but if I had lived through being on that plane with you and your upset kid, and HAD A REASON to go back where you wee, like to the restroom, the only comment I would make is "I wish I could help you. How can I help? Some water? Something from his diaper bag?" And if you joked and said you needed a drink, I know my husband would make that happen for you! We aren't fans of the crying child in public that is being ignored by parents, but when you are as trapped as everyone else, then yeah, let us try to help.
❤️I am so sorry that some people are so rude! I would have given you a hug if I could have. Thankfully my husband and I haven’t had to get on a plane with our kids...(3, 2 and 11 months). I can only imagine. But you did the best you could, and so did he from the sound of it. At least it was just the last couple hours and not the whole entire flight. Shit happens, and unfortunately so do shitty judgmental people and their opinions. At least there was one kind person who let you know that it’s ok, and that you’re a great mother.
I had an experience like this but not in a airplane, we were in France airport(Charles du Gaulle). My 2 years old daughter was so exhausted she was crying so much; me and my oldest daughter went to the bathroom and the small one stayed with my husband. After we got back, like 5 minutes or so, a couple of old people were so annoyed of her crying, started yelling at me and making hysterical gestures( i don't know what nationality they were). I was shocked, i told her ,, she's just a baby'' but she continued hystericaly imitating my child. WTH? I understand that people in airports are frustrated, tired for a lot of reasons, but it seems like they are transforming into heartless, deranged persons.
I'm obviously not a parent, but, why do kids scream? why doesn't telling them ''close your eyes or something" (sorry, yes i get you don't automatically sleep, but doesn't scream make you less likely to sleep?") again i'm not a parent, so i wanna know the logic of kids
When it comes to being on the plane there could be two reasons for why children may scream, or possibly many more.. The first could be due to restlessness, children are on a plane and can't move around as much and need to stay in one spot. This may cause them to be restless and annoyed and make them move around a lot, and they may start screaming. The other thing to could due to the pressure on the plane, when being on a plane you experience pressure especially to your ears when taking off. Your ears on a plane tend to pop right? So maybe the reason why children scream has to due with the pressure in their ears, and their ears are popping which can be pretty painful. As adults we know how to handle popping of the ears by chewing gum but sometimes you can't give that to children.
A child of around two is going through a developmental phase of wanting to think for themselves what they want and not just like an infant who cries more out of need ie hunger, thirst, comfort, boredom, nappy change etc. At two, a childs mind is a very complex mini 'computer' and the child is sifting new information and gets frustrated if the cannot reason the situation. Sees sweets and cannot have. Why not, they are there arent they - I want and I dont understand why I cannot have them for example. On transport may want to stretch their legs and walk along the aisle but cannot because of safety for example. They can only reason that they can walk and the space to do so is right in front of them. To smack a child would be absolutely cruel he/she is purely trying to grasp logic. This is why there is a saying "terrible twos, trusting threes" .
Because 2 year olds are not logical, they feel extreme discomfort (whether physical or emotional) and they have no idea why and don't yet know how to self-regulate their emotions and behavior, don't know how to calm themselves down, and don't yet know how to communicate how they feel in words, so they communicate and "vent" out their emotions by screaming. Especially when they are over-tired and in a cramped, uncomfortable space where they are not able to move around--for 9 hours.
Omg I TOTALLY relate. I was laughing so hard watching this because I’ve 100% been there mama. Our last trip to Austria our daughter fell asleep 1 hour before landing and she was a major cranky bear. She walloped me in the head and had a fistful of my hair clenched in her hand as she’s screaming MAMA!!!! As I proceeded to hand her off to my hubs so I could remove her hand from pulling my hair out (I needed a little distance to stop her from grabbing another fistful and to uncurl her right fist from my hair) a woman turns around from the seat in front and says “can you just DEAL with your child, like why are you handing her off to your husband when clearly she wants you”. At least we can laugh about it now... some people, SHEESH 😆
The only time I get annoyed with the parents is at late night movies. Babies after 10pm in the theater is against the rules and a nuisance. On a plane is to be expected. I understand having to just sit, feel uneasy because of turbulence or the popping in my ears.
I was waiting for you to say someone came to you and offered to take him while you slipped into the bathroom for a breather (which yes would be fresh air at that point.) 😂 I’m glad that gentleman came up to you.
I watched this coz soon i am travelling with my my 3 kids. One is an infant. But my concern is my 3 yr old boy who throws tantrums easily and doesn't sit on his own plane chair.... Any tips? =)
I am not a fan of children. However i would never put down or say anything to a parent doing their job. I have only ever said something when parents are ignoring their children for running around a theatre. I have no idea why someone would even think to say something. And if u can bring kids on a plane as a carry on why cant i bring my dog as a carry on.
I could not have children but I have to say I am just like that man. I have done this a few times. I was on a bus with a screaming 2 year old and that poor mum. ........An old bag next to me on the bus (I too am over sixty) said to me "that child needs a good slap" I had to explain to her that it was NORMAL behaviour and that the child is going through a phase (music stops) Would also like to add to the person who accuses us childless beings of being the worst to judge these mums that another judgmental person on the planet is surplus to requirement thank you.
It's over 9000!! anyone getting the dbz reference? anyways love your videos and sense of humor. Glad you had some of the emotional support you needed in a time of stress.
I hate screaming kids in planes to be honest, but only, or mostly, because I live in a neighborhood where everybody's kids play till the late hours of the night outside and they're the loudest, the screamiest (and the parents do nothing). But I understand that we could all just try and be more compassionate and just hold that hate of unsettling screaming kid noise on a plane, because nobody is suffering more than the parents. By the way check out Louie CK skit about this, which is hilarious (and dark obviously)
Truth is, even parents hate it when their kids scream -- on a plane or anywhere else. But at certain ages, it's unavoidable. I'm different on the dog thing. My dog was a goddamn spazz and terribly stubborn and difficult to train. Never again am I ever getting a dog. My kids gave me less grief.
my husband took our son to his family to IOWA to MAUI!!!. Long crazy flight but baby was pretty good. the stewardess paid lots of pity attention to him. We visited iowa family at 2 and 4 and by 4 it was definitely easier. we tried the red eye and it worked....for the kid. I needed 2 days to recoup. i have a harder time with people who are insanely sick and coughing up lungs the whole flight. kids will be kids.
My husband is “that guy.” He always compliments struggling, harried moms.
It’s embarrassing at times, but also very heartwarming.
I was at the store today with my 3 year old n there was another mother in line with a 4 maybe 5 year old & 1 probably almost 11 months n she was on the edge lol (mommy senses) everyone was looking at her in this judgmental way, so I whipped out the Arsenal of fruit snacks n juice boxes I carry on me at all times as hush bribes lol n asked her if they could have one & I don't think anyone has ever looked at me in such a loving way like she did hahaha not even my husband on our wedding day could top the look of love in her eyes at that moment... The kids automatically calmed down & she looked so relieved! We Mommas need to be here for one another n stop being so judgemental! Love & support eachother! Just the smallest acts of kindness can touch a person's heart for a lifetime n u don't even know it! Empathy, Compassion, & Love needs to find its way back into the world!
What a wonderful act of kindness!
Next time I see a mom on a plane going through this, I am definitely offering to get her a drink. Then I'll tell her she's doing great. :)
I hate the humans that think they're "helping"
And the compassionate dad is awesome.
Come to Australia. I fly all the time the only looks you get are knowing looks from other people that say 'I feel you and it's ok' the only time I was confronted about my crying 10month old was when I was in the U.S. don't get me wrong , I love America, I just think there's a lot of stressed out people who need to chill just a bit.
You kinda look like Sandra bullock!!!!!😻
Agreed!
I'm only an uncle, so I may have missed something, but can't you just put it in the overhead locker?
only if they are 7kg or less and can squish into one of those steel bag measuring things.. thats my understanding.
Hope you are joking because that is funny. If you are not then it is not funny at all.
She is definitely joking.
That's not good advice and very disappointed if you do have kids.
Buahahaha! I wish! "Alright Alice, time for napsies up there!"
been there and survived. my dad was army (in the 60's we flew to Germany a lot), my mom would talk to the pediatric doc and he said to give us cold or allergy meds 10min before the flight and only half the dose. we were mellow..... I truly thought of Benadryl when my 3year old started to flip out when he and I flew from Cali to Penn. but the flight attendant, a guy, came to the bathroom and told my son he would let him help give out sodas if he would be quiet, it worked and so my son was worked into tiredness and fell asleep for the remainder of the flight. come on moms stop the judgments and offer a shoulder or a glass of wine or chocolate for moms....
Genius flight attendant!
I was that mom yesterday in public. Today, I'm crying. Because your videos are hitting me right where I need it. And they're so comforting. Thank you.
Louis C.K said it best people act like a crying child on an airplane is "happening to them." It's not. Kids cry and I guarantee that kids parent/s is waaaay more stressed about it than you. Just be kind. You are Mom goals.
Did you forget to feed him? Jesus! That woman must not have kids.
why did I want to cry at the end? maybe because Im a mother of a toddler, and have been in similar silituation. its also important to point out, that most people wont say anything. but theyll stare, or shake their head in disapproval, and thats just as bad too
I don't have kids yet--and I'm not even out of undergrad--but when I hear a screaming child I just think, "That's going to be me one day, the poor mother with the screaming child."
I keep a bouncy ball in my purse for this reason. I remember wishing I'd stuffed something in my purse with which to help my kid out of a tantrum. Now I always carry a toy so that I can give it to a mom or dad who's kid just needs something to change their focus. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Support parents, don't make it harder!
Kristina you made my day 😍 every time I hear “she’s probably hungry” (cuz it’s always she-I have 3 girls) knife in my pocket opens up! Really? Do they really ask a 3 kid mom if she didn’t feed her child? That’s sooo annoying! I just love you girl! You always say it right! Mua😘
we just went to FL and back, and we had a baby and a toddler not happy. I can't blame them, ears popping and not knowing where you are. Well, one of the guys said "great!" in a sarcastic tone, so the old lady set him straight and he apologized. Although the best part of the flight is when we landed and a little girl behind me yells "It's a miracle!!!!!" Everyone started laughing. I don't mind a screaming kid at all, and anyone who doesn't like that... ... I would purchase a bag of ear plugs and say "don't like it, here..."
I could watch you all day! You could talk about plunging a toilet and find some way to make it hilarious. Thank you Kristina for making every day life more enjoyable and light hearted.
Man I hope that guy sees this video and recognizes you and your son and realizes what a difference he made with just a few words. Thanks for sharing this story and in such a hilarious way.
Of course it was a dad being compassionate. So many moms today are so damn judgmental.
The worst are not always the judgmental moms, its the ones who don't have children yet. I don't have kids yet, but even I understand not to butt into another parents business. Unless they are abusing their children. I do have 2 younger brothers and one younger sister, I remember helping raise them... but that doesn't give me the right.
Heather Jones i dont have kids, i fly alot and meet alot of screaming kids i never judge the parents because of the screaming KID ;)
I don't think Heather Jones meant ALL people who don't have children yet. I think she meant that most often it is people who don't have children.
Shelley Perry that's exactly what I meant, not all people that don't have kids yet are having
Judgemental. But most of the people that judge parents, don't have children yet.
Sorry, that response was all over the place, I'm hold my 2month old and trying to type lol
The worst thing about going anywhere in public ever with a baby/toddler is meddlers... They'll point out and say anything.
You never disappoint! Seriously, I have yet to watch a video of yours and not either laugh or be moved or learn something. Love u!
Kristina, your videos are so true! I'm not a mom but I feel compassionate already! It's so important to make people aware how does a mom feel, when everyone is just selfish and they want the kid to shut up, and nobody cares about how the mom and the kid actually feel.
On a recent 14-hour flight, my nearly 2 y/o daughter daughter started coming down with the worst illness she has ever had or probably will for a long long time...only outward symptom was crying and screaming and only being comforted by nursing...I did give her some pain relievers as it slowly became clear she was in a lot of pain, but once we landed and consulted her pediatrician, she told us that pain mess would have only minimal effect with that particular virus... Sometimes kids have legitimate reasons for being inconsolable and it truly isn't the parent's fault.... It's almost I,possible to get her to sleep anywhere but home too and that's another reason for her sometimes crying on planes, even though we're so prepared with toys, snacks, songs, etc.
I had a very similar situation happen to me. I mean, lets face it, what mom hasn't? I had to carry a screaming child through the grocery store. Didn't have the option to just leave as we needed the groceries for dinner. As I was standing outside my car, nearly in tears, a gentleman walked up and said those same things to me. You're doing fine. You're doing a good job. Just hang in there. I was never more relieved in my life. It erased all those judgmental looks. It was validation and compassion. Yes. Be that guy. i never have forgotten him.
Amen! I flew with my 2 girls who were only 2 and not quite 4 at the time. And OMG! The stares and whispers I got. You know the ones I'm talking about, people turn and speak to a friend, spouse, who ever they're with, in a low but audible tone. Yes, let's all try to show some compassion for moms (and dads) out there when their kids go wild. I love this video!
Love it! When my son was about 4 or 5 he was having a horrible fit in Walmart. I was on line, calmly ignoring him after trying everything else, just trying to get out of there. Some old hag started screaming at him, taping him with her phone and telling him she was putting him on TH-cam. It was all I could do not to rip the phone out of her hand and smash it. She needs a lesson from your plane guy.
That's horrible!
Why are people so obnoxious?!
I would have been so mad. Sorry you had to deal with such an evil old woman.. :-(
Can’t stand that kind of thing. Personally, I think it’s wrong to post other people’s children online without expressed permission from the parents. I don’t post pictures of my children online, (all my friends and family, know better too). I would have an absolute fit, if I found out someone else had.
😳, im so sorry for how you were treated !
i was in fear of being that mom while traveling to Disney world this past summer. my 4 year old has ASD and I thought he was going to have a hard time. yes he talked and sung songs. I had one last come up to me after our last plain landed and told me she enjoyed all his talking on the way home. I had owner look at us while he was having a fit like I was doing wrong for letting him cry out. I pay for many more like the last who enjoyed him and pity for those who can't understand him.
im now in love with her!!!
Yes exactly you need the empathy- I always offer empathy. I was relieved my son was quiet on the flight as he was screaming most of the day due to reflux. So he has a medical condition. But still screaming toddlers make every parent anxious and stressed out. I would have offered to distract him so you could catch your breath for a minute .
My son was also THAT kid once in a 5 hour trip. He also had not had his nap and was soo cranky. Embarassment and frustration are not a good combination. No one offered any help. People just stared at us. I had to struggle with him for the better part of the trip. I just wanted to cry🙁
Your videos play in my head when i see parents trying their best. I used to judge and think "my kids will never..." and we ALL know how that goes.
I now want to be a voice of compassion, being that example i want my kids to be. I want them to see that kindness wins.
Thank you.
And yes, I've been that mom with the screaming baby on an airplane. I had a flight attendant come over and talk soothingly to my baby and i was SO GRATEFUL. After that, i had a pretty rude guy comment about my screaming baby being cute. Backhanded at best.
But kindness to a stressed parent is the most calming salve for the situation.
This message was so SPOT-ON! Several years ago, while bringing my adopted son home from Guatemala, I got stuck in a middle seat. Then, it was completely acceptable and fine to have a lap-riding baby. So the two of us...newly adoptive mom and baby from Guatemala who was totally freaked out by the fact that his entire life was changing...we were crammed into a middle seat. You see, once you get the international adoption approval, you have very few days to get to Guatemala, which means you get the WORST seats on the plane.
Fast-forward 10 years. Now I know that this beautiful son of mine suffered from ADHD, anxiety, and sensory disorders. I didn't know it at the time. In fact, we had almost zero medical history. WOW! Can you imagine getting on a plane with a total stranger and finding out your life had completely turned upside-down? Nope...me either. I'd probably scream a little.
Here's what I will never forget. As I sat in the middle seat, completely worried over the noise and commotion my new son was causing, the kind woman in the aisle seat patted me on the arm and told me things would calm down. After visiting with her for a while, she even offered to hold my little guy so that I could get a restroom break. I will never forget this small act of kindness on her part.
Kindness costs nothing...but it will be remembered and passed on for a very long time.
Yes! Let's all be THAT guy! Amen!
Hard to Not knock those women out, huh? I find that my patience runs thin and I want to go ballistic on others that are rude. The guy made your day, yes? You seem to be a good mom and person. Keep it up! God bless
I tell pretty much any parents they're doing fine. I also have a story I tell them about how I had a "demon child" on my flight. True Story: this kid refused to put his seat belt on, intentionally stepped on my foot, threw garbage at me... yeah, crying baby is nothing.
Omg, I have been in that moment so many times when my boys were smaller. I have a bad memory on small details, yet I clearly remember a woman being compassionate to me during one of those moments and it meant the world to me. It was just what I needed and I felt relieved. I'm in the process of writing my memoir, and now I will make sure to include that detail of my memory from that day.
"I only feed him on special days", ahahahahhhhh!!!!
I just binged watch a bunch of your videos 😍😍 !
I feel you! I had that kid on a 12 hr travel day. You are awesome! I hope you make more videos. I know this is not a beauty channel, but I would love to see a hair tutorial. 🙂
My daughter is only 4 1/2 Mo old and already I've been accused of not thinking to feed her TWICE! One time was by a neighbor who knocked on my door to introduce herself and then remind me to feed her! The other a lady who came into the public restroom to inquire about the crying. I really love your videos!
We are taking her on a 2-hr plane ride in just 2 weeks!
Oh, girl. I feel ya. I flew for just a few hours with my kids, 2 & 4, by myself & I didn't talk to my family for like 24 hours afterward. It was better than it could have been & not even close to your experience. But whew, it was hard. Props mama, props.
The exact thing happened to me and my 1.5 year old when we were traveling to London from India. I love watching your videos...
been there - done that... We flew to Puerto Rico - it was only ONLY a 4.5 hour flight ... but my one year old (who is normally the "easy" child) decided to use that moment to be .... not easy.. but we were fortunate enough to be seated by people that were understanding and very helpful - strangers offered to hold her and entertain her (that seemed to be the ONLY thing that made her happy.... being held by a stranger - clearly she will need therapy when she is an adult...lol) The flight attendant was amazing as well - despite the fact that she was instructed to stop serving beverages because we were about to land... she served me an adult cocktail with an "I understand" glance...
After we landed - you know that time - the 45 minutes where we all wait to exit the plane - the diaper had to be changed.... one of my new airplane best friends offered to take the dirty diaper off of my hands so I didn't have to search for a trash can.
My faith in society was renewed after that ONE plane trip
My mom also says that Benadryl is a traveling parent’s best friend
We need to be there for each other, and help ease the situation, by being kind and helpful.
You're such a good story teller. I was dying! So funny.
Awww! He's so cuuute... (When he's not screaming lol)
Thumbs up for THAT guy!!!
As a passenger watching a mom struggle. Sit and try and calm yourselves down. Some of the tension you feel as a mom is that you feel you are an inconvenience to someone else, when people act chilled and have understanding smiles the tension
Yaaaas of course she is Croatian ❤️❤️❤️ i love you girl!
OMG, I'm blessed. Back in 1998 I had to take my three kids (stepdaughter, 6, son, 5, son 2,5) on a plane travel that lasted almost 10 hours - 6 aboard, 3 in the airport during connections.
Somehow, for some miraculous reason, they behaved well ALL the time!
What was great, cause it was the last flight - really, the very last - prior to the summer holidays beginning. If we were asked to leave the place, we'd probably have to live under some bridge for maybe a week (all hotels, hostels, every place were booked. Even the bridges were crowded).
I love your channel, I'm now a subscriber.
Havla, Kristina! :)
I've been there too! My daughter was one or maybe a little younger and if I wasn't rocking her continuously for the entire 5 hour flight across Australia she was super duper crying #facepalm Thankfully no one complained. Another time I saw a mum at the shops with her tantrumming daughter in a pram. The mum took the child's balloon and put it in the bin. She spoke calmly and clearly to the girl (roughly 4 yrs old) and reminded her that a tantrum means no balloon. Well, boy was that little girl spacking. But I marched right up to that mum and told her she was a very good parent and that was exactly what needed to happen. She was so grateful and relieved that I supported her decision. As I walked away, an elderly woman approached me. She stopped me and said, "That was a very kind thing you did just now. We've all been there and it's hard to do the right thing when everyone is staring and judging you." What a blessing that was to hear!
OMG the feeding question. I just had that recently... 😂 I so feel your pain. Good we can laugh about it afterwards.
Thanks for sharing, it was a inspiration!
01:51 That there is what I call my "murder face".
I really, really hope that's literally what you said to her. Parents who wander up thrusting unsolicited and highly presumptive advice on other parents need to be put in their place.
And I'm sure those lovely - judgey af mums weren't making your son's stress levels any better. You reacted like a damn Queen. If someone walked up to me and ordered me to put my own kid down while I was already struggling - I don't know that I would have reacted that gracefully. I might have come unhinged.
Once there was THAT kid sitting behind me on a plane. The problem was, his parents just popped some ear plugs and let him scream. Someone asked the father, whether he could try to calm down his child. You know what was his response? - 'This kid is uncalmable, one more hour and you'll stop noticing'. Now that's the attitude I hate. I rarely see parents like you, who actually make an effort. Nowadays more and more people let their kids make a playground out of every place they're in.
That's crazy. Most of the time I see a kid screaming, the parents are red like paprika and doing what they can to calm them.
Lol I think the poor bugger had had enough lol
We have our own parenting styles. Probably the father gets what the child wants which is attention and The best intervention to tantrums is to ignore the child..
emeixac I think you’re completely wrong and you need to mind your own business. The “attention” was not for the child it was a pat on the back for the stressed out mother trying to calm him down. Obviously you’ve never flown on a plane with a small child. I don’t think I’d characterize what she is talking about as a “tantrum” and more or less sensory overload. What the man said was not meant for the child and it’s people like you who think they know best and what to share their opinion with everyone that make it so hard on parents that are simply just trying.
He was TIRED
Yep I would have definitely bought you a beverage for the hard work you were doing x
we are flying to Germany ( from Australia) in a couple of days and i jhope my child ( 2 Years) will not be THAT child :-)
Some people just don't know how to keep their negative comments to themselves! I usually give an understanding smile or compliment the mom for not losing her mind too! #timeformommytantrums.
So deep and wise, thank you for sharing
Omg you make me laugh me so hard 😂😂😂😂 all your videos!!!
Once I was the mom with THAT kid on a transatlantic red-eye to Europe. My 2-year-old screamed and kicked and yelled the entire flight, until about two hours before we landed in the morning. At one point, around 2 a.m., a tall, imposing-looking German man got out of his seat to admonish me. "You need to walk the baby up and down the aisle! You need to walk her!" Somehow he had missed the 20 times I had already done that. Then as he reached for my daughter he demanded, "Give me the baby! I will walk the baby in the aisle! Just give me the baby!" Yes. A complete stranger was REACHING FOR MY CHILD. Needless to say, I became a mama bear and just shouted, "Woah! Back off! Just BACK OFF!" as I swatted his hands away. My husband, who was sitting across the aisle from us, pretended he didn't know me at that point because I was clearly losing it. I won't even get into the nasty comments I overheard as we got off the plane in Zurich, but I'll say this much: whenever I hear a screaming child on a plane, I feel nothing buy empathy for the poor parents. I know it is much harder on them than it is for the child!
You are an amazing mum
I have heard that many small children have problems with inner ear pain when they are on airplanes. They do not know how to yawn and release the pressure. Warning ADVICE follows: Yawns are contagious, so maybe try yawning next time or if the child is old enough to follow directions tell him/her to yawn. Poor baby. If everyone survived the flight then you did great!
he might have looked out the window too....and seen all that water! That would send me into a panic!
I don't understand why people are so judgemental
Because they have never walked in the same moccasins.
Love this shared to BFMT a couple of days ago.
Bravo to that guy.👏👏👏👏
I think it's rude for those two women to come up to you and give their advice and act like that, I understand people don't want to hear a screaming but there is other ways around that. You can at least be compassionate to the person like that father was rather than tell you how to handle and parent your child. One of the worst things that can happen is being kicked off a plane because your child is crying or something. it's sad to see that happen especially if you're trying to handle it, and is probably not fun to experience. I don't have children but I would NEVER think to go up to someone and say the things they said to you, and when I do have children I hope I don't experience people acting like that.
I think they should bring out notices in public places "If a 2 year old kid is screaming its head off it is natural developmental behaviour for a 2 year old. First option is be patient, 2nd option be kind and compassionate towards the parent, 3rd option is, if you don't like it get off the bus./shop/plane as soon as possible. Life jackets/parachutes available on request
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Or how about separate planes for families and for people without kids and those who don't want to endure a screaming kid on the plane`?
I would have looked the first woman straight in the eye and said, “Oh, shoot-you’re supposed to feed these?” Deadpan expression.
My child had the greatest tantrum in airplane (9month old)! I totaly understand you!!
When I've been that guy, I get weird looks
I'm an older gal with no kids, but if I had lived through being on that plane with you and your upset kid, and HAD A REASON to go back where you wee, like to the restroom, the only comment I would make is "I wish I could help you. How can I help? Some water? Something from his diaper bag?" And if you joked and said you needed a drink, I know my husband would make that happen for you!
We aren't fans of the crying child in public that is being ignored by parents, but when you are as trapped as everyone else, then yeah, let us try to help.
❤️I am so sorry that some people are so rude! I would have given you a hug if I could have. Thankfully my husband and I haven’t had to get on a plane with our kids...(3, 2 and 11 months). I can only imagine. But you did the best you could, and so did he from the sound of it. At least it was just the last couple hours and not the whole entire flight. Shit happens, and unfortunately so do shitty judgmental people and their opinions. At least there was one kind person who let you know that it’s ok, and that you’re a great mother.
I had an experience like this but not in a airplane, we were in France airport(Charles du Gaulle). My 2 years old daughter was so exhausted she was crying so much; me and my oldest daughter went to the bathroom and the small one stayed with my husband. After we got back, like 5 minutes or so, a couple of old people were so annoyed of her crying, started yelling at me and making hysterical gestures( i don't know what nationality they were). I was shocked, i told her ,, she's just a baby'' but she continued hystericaly imitating my child. WTH? I understand that people in airports are frustrated, tired for a lot of reasons, but it seems like they are transforming into heartless, deranged persons.
Idk why but u r so sympathetic
I'm obviously not a parent, but, why do kids scream? why doesn't telling them ''close your eyes or something" (sorry, yes i get you don't automatically sleep, but doesn't scream make you less likely to sleep?") again i'm not a parent, so i wanna know the logic of kids
When it comes to being on the plane there could be two reasons for why children may scream, or possibly many more.. The first could be due to restlessness, children are on a plane and can't move around as much and need to stay in one spot. This may cause them to be restless and annoyed and make them move around a lot, and they may start screaming. The other thing to could due to the pressure on the plane, when being on a plane you experience pressure especially to your ears when taking off. Your ears on a plane tend to pop right? So maybe the reason why children scream has to due with the pressure in their ears, and their ears are popping which can be pretty painful. As adults we know how to handle popping of the ears by chewing gum but sometimes you can't give that to children.
A child of around two is going through a developmental phase of wanting to think for themselves what they want and not just like an infant who cries more out of need ie hunger, thirst, comfort, boredom, nappy change etc. At two, a childs mind is a very complex mini 'computer' and the child is sifting new information and gets frustrated if the cannot reason the situation. Sees sweets and cannot have. Why not, they are there arent they - I want and I dont understand why I cannot have them for example. On transport may want to stretch their legs and walk along the aisle but cannot because of safety for example. They can only reason that they can walk and the space to do so is right in front of them. To smack a child would be absolutely cruel he/she is purely trying to grasp logic. This is why there is a saying "terrible twos, trusting threes" .
Because 2 year olds are not logical, they feel extreme discomfort (whether physical or emotional) and they have no idea why and don't yet know how to self-regulate their emotions and behavior, don't know how to calm themselves down, and don't yet know how to communicate how they feel in words, so they communicate and "vent" out their emotions by screaming. Especially when they are over-tired and in a cramped, uncomfortable space where they are not able to move around--for 9 hours.
Omg I TOTALLY relate. I was laughing so hard watching this because I’ve 100% been there mama. Our last trip to Austria our daughter fell asleep 1 hour before landing and she was a major cranky bear. She walloped me in the head and had a fistful of my hair clenched in her hand as she’s screaming MAMA!!!! As I proceeded to hand her off to my hubs so I could remove her hand from pulling my hair out (I needed a little distance to stop her from grabbing another fistful and to uncurl her right fist from my hair) a woman turns around from the seat in front and says “can you just DEAL with your child, like why are you handing her off to your husband when clearly she wants you”. At least we can laugh about it now... some people, SHEESH 😆
I love you haha, you are A-MA-ZING!
Haha... You're good!
you have to think of people pet peeve.............that goes to EVERYONE
You right
I laughed so much at the you only feed him on special days lolololol. So how did he calm down in the end?
The audacity that people will tell other people what to do with their kids, are you serious????
People need less sympathy and more support .
Nothing 1/2 (or less) of a Dramamine tab won't fix. :)
The only time I get annoyed with the parents is at late night movies. Babies after 10pm in the theater is against the rules and a nuisance. On a plane is to be expected. I understand having to just sit, feel uneasy because of turbulence or the popping in my ears.
I was waiting for you to say someone came to you and offered to take him while you slipped into the bathroom for a breather (which yes would be fresh air at that point.) 😂 I’m glad that gentleman came up to you.
I've been there too! I am always amazed at the stupidity that some humans exhibit
Just give it a bit of jack daniels
would of offered you a drink :) and tried to help you did great mama I have a 3 year old been there too
I watched this coz soon i am travelling with my my 3 kids.
One is an infant.
But my concern is my 3 yr old boy who throws tantrums easily and doesn't sit on his own plane chair.... Any tips? =)
I am not a fan of children. However i would never put down or say anything to a parent doing their job. I have only ever said something when parents are ignoring their children for running around a theatre.
I have no idea why someone would even think to say something.
And if u can bring kids on a plane as a carry on why cant i bring my dog as a carry on.
Maybe because kids dont poop on the floor?
She was on German tv😂😂😂
I could not have children but I have to say I am just like that man. I have done this a few times. I was on a bus with a screaming 2 year old and that poor mum. ........An old bag next to me on the bus (I too am over sixty) said to me "that child needs a good slap" I had to explain to her that it was NORMAL behaviour and that the child is going through a phase (music stops) Would also like to add to the person who accuses us childless beings of being the worst to judge these mums that another judgmental person on the planet is surplus to requirement thank you.
It's over 9000!!
anyone getting the dbz reference?
anyways love your videos and sense of humor. Glad you had some of the emotional support you needed in a time of stress.
I can't believe no one asked if you needed anything. Good god people can be off. That guy though. That guy is walking awesomesauce
Love it!
you are looking like a teacher in g 1
Ahhh poor you!! :D
I hate screaming kids in planes to be honest, but only, or mostly, because I live in a neighborhood where everybody's kids play till the late hours of the night outside and they're the loudest, the screamiest (and the parents do nothing). But I understand that we could all just try and be more compassionate and just hold that hate of unsettling screaming kid noise on a plane, because nobody is suffering more than the parents. By the way check out Louie CK skit about this, which is hilarious (and dark obviously)
macpapi legit yeah most probably not gonna have kids. I love my dog. He doesn't talk and he's not a barker.
macpapi legit I am not that type. Dogs are just easier to handle than humans. So I prefer being the parent of a dog, who's really quite independent.
Jonida Sanço fair enough. I have a dog.
Truth is, even parents hate it when their kids scream -- on a plane or anywhere else. But at certain ages, it's unavoidable. I'm different on the dog thing. My dog was a goddamn spazz and terribly stubborn and difficult to train. Never again am I ever getting a dog. My kids gave me less grief.
my husband took our son to his family to IOWA to MAUI!!!. Long crazy flight but baby was pretty good. the stewardess paid lots of pity attention to him. We visited iowa family at 2 and 4 and by 4 it was definitely easier. we tried the red eye and it worked....for the kid. I needed 2 days to recoup. i have a harder time with people who are insanely sick and coughing up lungs the whole flight. kids will be kids.