It's actually foreign men who call us, South African, women cheap. I'll just have to be honest and say I have never come across any South African man call women by this word or use that sort of language, in spite of the behaviour of a lady. Which is why I also don't like the "trash" label because it's polarizing and this then becomes unfair to those who are noble in society. Foreign men normally call SA women cheap because of many reasons, and that would take forever for me to explain because their perceptions are informed by different ideas rooted in misogyny. You'd surprised how many foreign men are more misogynistic and abusive than South African men, but many do not know that yet. South African men may complain about women generally, or a specific woman, but they rarely use such a word to describe that person. I'd be lying if I said they call us that. I don't think they even make 1%. It's normally Nigerians who hold those views, unfortunately. These foreign men (and sometimes also women) also tend to call South African men lazy. As for the #MenAreTrash...well it's a commonplace slander among many countries, but SA women weaponize this against SA men more especially when they compare them with other African men whom they tend to pedestalize. It's tiring at best. GBV, Femicide, Rape, etc is something that happens almost everywhere and it's not unique to SA so I don't know why SA guys are made to look like these extreme monsters out of everyone else. There is women abuse even in Nigeria - the same country whom people tend to believe its men are the gift to humanity. They recently killed a Christian female student at a college for "blasphemy". So yikes! Even so, that shouldn't overshadow the good Nigerian men because I believe there are. Hence I wish for SA men to be given the same grace of not being painted with the same brush and perhaps that would make things better. Imagine if a white person created a hashtag and said #BlackPeopleAreGangsters, wouldn't this upset us? Because we would know that it's generalizing and divisive. Same goes for when women call men trash, which makes the innocent males get caught in the crossfire. Just saying 🤷🏽♀️
SA women have followed the footsteps of FBA women, they did this 30 years ago and I think they living the consequences. This constant disrespect and degrading of SA men will yield negative results as it already started. SA men in top positions are starting to look outside. As much as we are not perfect as South African men we never disrespect our women especially using foreign women. it will be a lie to say we haven't built a nation that is better for women compared to the rest of the continent. I hope they remember this the day SA men start to retaliate, degrade them and pander to women of other countries. Today black American men at the top hardly desire to marry a black American woman, the same is happening this side
Thank you my sister for finally coming out and addressing this because South Africa has been facing hate on the African content for the longest time and sometimes it feels like they always wanna find a reason to put down South Africa and that fact that you are addressing this as a Congolese woman married to our South African brother it shows that you know what you are talking about and we are a living proof of what you are saying this video made my night I just wanna say thank you and I appreciate you looking forward to more content love you work my sister Africa needs to stand up and work together despite our deference in oder to realize our strength as the African giants we are we can do some much good oven more then the so called first world countries over all loved your video and stay blessed please keep the content coming because I am here for it
Thank you and you are right I have seen it first hand. People call me "the south african man wife" for no reason because they don't call each other based on their husband I have received hate for being married to a south african. Africa will concur one day we just need to learn to our power as individuals and then use it together. We are unique for a reason. Thanks bro and welcome to the family.
@@thethemakhele8450 well don't feel bad for them Hating you for being married to a South African man A wise man once said the Hate that other Africans have shown us it is not Hate but it is envy because other African countries don't have the same freedom and equal rights and opportunities that South African people have so the take the easy way out by Hating us
This is true, theirs GBV everywhere in the world its just rife in SA. Or maybe because we dont hear other reports from other countries we tend to think we're the only ones experiencing GBV
Thanks you you are on point,infact it shows how we as South Africans view our own society and our Souyh African men need love, and support too in this harsh world of unemployment and hatred
I'm that thick skinned South African who doesn't get emotional easily. I never care when a person takes nonsense things because I value myself. While staying in Cape Town and Durban I've been very much privileged that I spend a lot of time with brothers from different countries of Africa, my favorite country of DRC, Burundi, Rwanda, Kenya, Angola, Nigeria, Ghana, Cameroon and Gabon. We got along just fine and those that are uninformed I will inform them.
I think the issue here is that women in South Africa are more sexually open and openly drink and because decency is a social construct people from other countries who have an other idea of decency may consider that cheap.
Funny thing Is they cheat on their wives with the so called cheap girls or even make babies with them. I think the opens is a good thing instead of being hypocrites
Let's see people as people, these borders have created unnecessary hate among each other. I really enjoyed this video and agree with you. The Zulu at the end lol wow
If only borders have created unnecessary hate among each other, then what stop unity countries such as Congo n Nigerian. Both country still cling to tribal favoritism
That's how studies are always concluded. U do not hv to drink the whole ocean to conclude that ocean water is salty.They are good and bad ppl everywhere in the world however if the good ppl are more than the bad they will top and make that place a better place.SA hv good ppl but the country have a large number of bad folks.SA hv good men indeed but the bad are alot thats they make the good ones almost non existence.See the number of violence against women and children in this country
@@thethemakhele8450 My partner is South african.I will be very careful answering to that.What I hv observed is many of SA women tent to become serious and conscious at a later stage of they lives.Once they go over 30 or 35.At that point many have probably made children with different fathers.It is almost impossible to find one who would like to settle at they 20's.Thats the time for fun however many do get lost in the fun.Things such as deaseases and pregnancies.In opposite many women were we come from get strict and conscious at they early age.Many of them won't let u just to be sleeping with them without seeing her parents.Infact many order u to go see her parents even before u touch her.As said earlier,this does not apply to all however the conclusion of a study dependent on the greatest number
@@palesamogorosi8939 No need to know where I am from.U won't see the difference since u never live anywhere else.For u,the only way of life that u know is the south african way.Your mind is like those of Americans.Who always think that the only way ppl lives is the American's way.There is no other life than the American's one.They always think America is great than anywhere else.It make sense for u to react this way
@@michelkakeya3825 okay I think I agree to disagree lol. I think that in SA couples party and have fun together back home it the men who do that because it regard shameful to do such. South Africans I think don’t usually get married young because they want to make sure they can financially be prepared plus they traditional need for the wedding is expensive hence the vat and sit. You will be surprised how many other African girls have abortions just so they don’t become second hand goods or whatever. I think in the old times or maybe now in other African countries but I can speak for Congolese in SA it not like that
Mrs Makhele, if don't mind, according to u, why only now Africans need Unity to attain or gain their prosperity. During 14 century Mali, Ghana n Zimbabwe is reported where d wealthiest in d planet without seeking any type of Unity to any one......so why now......please don't feel offended.
definitely not offended uhm I never did history in school lol but all I know is that there the colonizers are the ones who wrote the history back then I stand to be corrected and maybe if they all worked together they would still be the wealthiest today. I am talking about unity where there is no master and slave. I know I failed to answer you lol but give me C for effort hahahah
It's actually foreign men who call us, South African, women cheap. I'll just have to be honest and say I have never come across any South African man call women by this word or use that sort of language, in spite of the behaviour of a lady. Which is why I also don't like the "trash" label because it's polarizing and this then becomes unfair to those who are noble in society. Foreign men normally call SA women cheap because of many reasons, and that would take forever for me to explain because their perceptions are informed by different ideas rooted in misogyny. You'd surprised how many foreign men are more misogynistic and abusive than South African men, but many do not know that yet.
South African men may complain about women generally, or a specific woman, but they rarely use such a word to describe that person. I'd be lying if I said they call us that. I don't think they even make 1%. It's normally Nigerians who hold those views, unfortunately. These foreign men (and sometimes also women) also tend to call South African men lazy.
As for the #MenAreTrash...well it's a commonplace slander among many countries, but SA women weaponize this against SA men more especially when they compare them with other African men whom they tend to pedestalize. It's tiring at best. GBV, Femicide, Rape, etc is something that happens almost everywhere and it's not unique to SA so I don't know why SA guys are made to look like these extreme monsters out of everyone else. There is women abuse even in Nigeria - the same country whom people tend to believe its men are the gift to humanity. They recently killed a Christian female student at a college for "blasphemy". So yikes! Even so, that shouldn't overshadow the good Nigerian men because I believe there are. Hence I wish for SA men to be given the same grace of not being painted with the same brush and perhaps that would make things better.
Imagine if a white person created a hashtag and said #BlackPeopleAreGangsters, wouldn't this upset us? Because we would know that it's generalizing and divisive. Same goes for when women call men trash, which makes the innocent males get caught in the crossfire.
Just saying 🤷🏽♀️
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽If I had an award to give it wiould be yours. Love it and well said. I definitely second this ❤️
SA women have followed the footsteps of FBA women, they did this 30 years ago and I think they living the consequences. This constant disrespect and degrading of SA men will yield negative results as it already started. SA men in top positions are starting to look outside. As much as we are not perfect as South African men we never disrespect our women especially using foreign women. it will be a lie to say we haven't built a nation that is better for women compared to the rest of the continent. I hope they remember this the day SA men start to retaliate, degrade them and pander to women of other countries. Today black American men at the top hardly desire to marry a black American woman, the same is happening this side
Totally agree
@palesa I like you. Still waiting for you to rate your looks
Damn you are obsessed with Nigerians.
Thankyou sis for challenging us and making us to see better.
Thank you for supporting 🙏🏽
Thank you my sister for finally coming out and addressing this because South Africa has been facing hate on the African content for the longest time and sometimes it feels like they always wanna find a reason to put down South Africa and that fact that you are addressing this as a Congolese woman married to our South African brother it shows that you know what you are talking about and we are a living proof of what you are saying this video made my night I just wanna say thank you and I appreciate you looking forward to more content love you work my sister Africa needs to stand up and work together despite our deference in oder to realize our strength as the African giants we are we can do some much good oven more then the so called first world countries over all loved your video and stay blessed please keep the content coming because I am here for it
Thank you and you are right I have seen it first hand. People call me "the south african man wife" for no reason because they don't call each other based on their husband I have received hate for being married to a south african. Africa will concur one day we just need to learn to our power as individuals and then use it together. We are unique for a reason. Thanks bro and welcome to the family.
@@thethemakhele8450 well don't feel bad for them Hating you for being married to a South African man
A wise man once said the Hate that other Africans have shown us it is not Hate but it is envy because other African countries don't have the same freedom and equal rights and opportunities that South African people have so the take the easy way out by Hating us
@@briannebutaro6391 yeah thank you 😊
What hurts me the most is that we lost Riky Rick because of such nonsense... I find it hard to forgive those bullies...
Forgive and protect your peace. I think it important you keep your circle clean.
This is true, theirs GBV everywhere in the world its just rife in SA. Or maybe because we dont hear other reports from other countries we tend to think we're the only ones experiencing GBV
Yeah even so not all south african men are trash
Hahaa the zulu at the end is on point ✊🏿
Hahaha thanks hun
Great one my beloved sister you are very intelligent I can tell even at school you where just smart thank for standing for us we are not all trash.
Thank you my brother you guys are special
Believe South African men love their women, few % of SA men who date or marry foreign women.
Thanks you you are on point,infact it shows how we as South Africans view our own society and our Souyh African men need love, and support too in this harsh world of unemployment and hatred
It rough out here and men need affection too
In 10:16 you said it all😮😮ongazwanga akabonanga stay blessed dadewethu 👏🔥🔥keep positive vibes coming
Ngiyabonga
Good and bad people can be of any nationality.
That true we should stop painting everyone with the same brush
I'm that thick skinned South African who doesn't get emotional easily. I never care when a person takes nonsense things because I value myself. While staying in Cape Town and Durban I've been very much privileged that I spend a lot of time with brothers from different countries of Africa, my favorite country of DRC, Burundi, Rwanda, Kenya, Angola, Nigeria, Ghana, Cameroon and Gabon. We got along just fine and those that are uninformed I will inform them.
Thank you sis glad you don't take nonsense
Thank you 🙏 Indeed there are bad people everywhere that’s why i don’t like generalising dear
Thank you so much 😊 for supporting and we should stop painting everyone with the same brush
I think the issue here is that women in South Africa are more sexually open and openly drink and because decency is a social construct people from other countries who have an other idea of decency may consider that cheap.
Funny thing Is they cheat on their wives with the so called cheap girls or even make babies with them. I think the opens is a good thing instead of being hypocrites
BUT WHY AR SOUTH AFRICA WOMAN ALWAYZ SAY THERE MEN AR TRASH N THERE MEN SAY THERE WOMAN AR CHEAP?
Beautiful content 👌
Merci 🙏🏽
You go straight to the point 👌
Knife in the heart lol 😂
Nice sharing have a blessed day
thank you and stay Blessed
You can say that again. I have sons .and my son is not any of those things
Definitely we need to stop the blanket terming
Its a choice you are right hun, that it too much disrespect for one another
Yeah it needs to stop
Sibonge nkosazane umyalezo uzwakele kahle kakhulu futh uyakha....nkosi ikubusise emshadwen wakho ngakho konke okufisayo....
Ngiyabonga kakhulu. UNkulunkulu uzokuvikela
@@thethemakhele8450 thank you so much for honoring my suggestion....
Why do you look like Siyanda?
@@palesamogorosi8939 ngyaxolisa nkosazane....but that person I do not know him...
@@People_logic oh, cool. It's alright.
Thank you 💝
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Let's see people as people, these borders have created unnecessary hate among each other. I really enjoyed this video and agree with you. The Zulu at the end lol wow
If only borders have created unnecessary hate among each other, then what stop unity countries such as Congo n Nigerian. Both country still cling to tribal favoritism
Hahaha that zulu deserves an A+ honestly lol
@@siphokolanisi6186 Today my brain is working over time with all this history talk lol. I feel like it human nature to be territorial
@@siphokolanisi6186 90% of South Africans are for borders so such people who are delusional should not bother us
The pause you took 😂😂😂😂
This topic had me livid lol 😂
You hit the point
Thank you very much for supporting
New subbie here from South Africa. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you love and hope you enjoy your stay
Enkosi Sana, you are great with facts✊🏿
Ke a leboga 🙏🏽
I have not even watched yet but I can see you woke up and chose violence
😂🤣😂🤣 wow innocent angel like me never 😂
Hug me plz before others ,, much love to wena my sis ,, love you mkhaya
You will definitely get that hug and thank you for supporting. Hold your head up you are a king 👑
U are 1 of those fools
Thank you 🙏🏽
Your caption though
What about it?
Well said 👏 👌
Thank you 🙏🏽
That's how studies are always concluded. U do not hv to drink the whole ocean to conclude that ocean water is salty.They are good and bad ppl everywhere in the world however if the good ppl are more than the bad they will top and make that place a better place.SA hv good ppl but the country have a large number of bad folks.SA hv good men indeed but the bad are alot thats they make the good ones almost non existence.See the number of violence against women and children in this country
That is true but I just don’t like the idea of painting people with the same brush. Do you think this applies to the South African girls as well??
@@thethemakhele8450 My partner is South african.I will be very careful answering to that.What I hv observed is many of SA women tent to become serious and conscious at a later stage of they lives.Once they go over 30 or 35.At that point many have probably made children with different fathers.It is almost impossible to find one who would like to settle at they 20's.Thats the time for fun however many do get lost in the fun.Things such as deaseases and pregnancies.In opposite many women were we come from get strict and conscious at they early age.Many of them won't let u just to be sleeping with them without seeing her parents.Infact many order u to go see her parents even before u touch her.As said earlier,this does not apply to all however the conclusion of a study dependent on the greatest number
@@michelkakeya3825 what the hell are you even saying? Where are you from?
@@palesamogorosi8939 No need to know where I am from.U won't see the difference since u never live anywhere else.For u,the only way of life that u know is the south african way.Your mind is like those of Americans.Who always think that the only way ppl lives is the American's way.There is no other life than the American's one.They always think America is great than anywhere else.It make sense for u to react this way
@@michelkakeya3825 okay I think I agree to disagree lol. I think that in SA couples party and have fun together back home it the men who do that because it regard shameful to do such. South Africans I think don’t usually get married young because they want to make sure they can financially be prepared plus they traditional need for the wedding is expensive hence the vat and sit. You will be surprised how many other African girls have abortions just so they don’t become second hand goods or whatever. I think in the old times or maybe now in other African countries but I can speak for Congolese in SA it not like that
thank u for sharing !
You welcome
Mrs Makhele, if don't mind, according to u, why only now Africans need Unity to attain or gain their prosperity. During 14 century Mali, Ghana n Zimbabwe is reported where d wealthiest in d planet without seeking any type of Unity to any one......so why now......please don't feel offended.
definitely not offended uhm I never did history in school lol but all I know is that there the colonizers are the ones who wrote the history back then I stand to be corrected and maybe if they all worked together they would still be the wealthiest today. I am talking about unity where there is no master and slave. I know I failed to answer you lol but give me C for effort hahahah
There's almost something Bonang about the way you speak
Hunnnni I am screaming and rolling on the floor thank you
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