‘I couldn’t do this unless I did love her’ - I felt that. My mother is bed bound through her own choice, she’s just given up. I’m 34 & disabled, I’ve cared for her for years but I’ve reached a point where I can no longer continue as I can’t give her the care she needs. My father struggles to look after himself, let alone my mother, it’s just one big mess. I felt this woman’s love, frustration & sheer exhaustion, all rolled into one. Bless her heart. X
Oh I'm so sorry. Are you able to reach out to anyone or any services for help?? You definitely should be able to have at least some help, you can't go on like that on your own :( I really feel for you, also I'm 33 and disabled so we have something vaguely in common! I really hope things improve for you and your mother
Wow!!! The first girl has such a great attitude!!! She has made the most of things despite her injuries. The lady with dementia looks fantastic for 100!!!
I cannot believe that lady is 100 years old! And praise to her daughter for caring for her so well, it must be so difficult and exhausting but she's so dedicated ❤️
I know I already commented.. but I hadn’t realised I did before leaving this one.. Those words meant so much to me. My mum had early onset dementia. She passed very suddenly on her 76th birthday last January, & I never forgave myself for sometimes being cross in her direction out of pure exhaustion & fatigue, I was 34/35 then & have 2 chronic genetic disabilities myself & I tried so hard to be the best carer she deserved but always felt like a failure. Her saying that a mother has a lot of forgiveness made me cry. I hope my mum forgives me for being cross sometimes. It was never because I didn’t love her. X
What an outstanding carer….I’m an RN who works in aged care, so I can understand exactly what this woman is going through. It really takes a very rare type of strength to be a carer for a loved one, whilst trying to look after yourself as well.
I can relate as I too am now in a wheelchair. I have severe M.E. I went through a grieving stage, I can no longer walk, I am typically bedridden and housebound. I do feel frustrated when people constantly ask if I need a carer. Why do I need a carer, when I manage to do things myself? Yes things don't get done all at once, and I have to pace myself and be very careful with my activity levels, but I am fiercely independent and live alone. I don't have any family. I like doing things myself my own way, things do get done eventually, just at a much slower pace than I once did them. I admit I get a bit touchy when people say these things. Deep down I fear losing my independence, I would not handle people coming in every day, or taking care of me. I know that's difficult for a lot of people to understand.
I relate to the lady who is a carer for her mum so much. I’m 22 and both my parents have seizures, my mum is quite mentally ill and my dad has had 3 strokes. When she said about living day-to-day and not the future, it hit so hard. Even if I choose to do something for myself on a certain day I feel so guilty because my parents can’t do things as and when they’d like to. I have lost friends and partners because I get told it shouldn’t be my job so I should put them in a home with carers. It’s just a horrible feeling overall because you do feel a bit proud of yourself that you’ve stepped up to make your parent comfortable but you’re caring for them with the understanding this is likely a life long thing for my parents so the only time it will ever really stop is when they’re dead and that’s not a day you want to face either.
I cared for my 400 pound brother from his diagnosis to 2 months before his death. I worked 12 hour and sometimes more, then came home to have to prepare meal, bathe, redress his weeping legs, cared for skin irritations, and he wanted me to sit up and talk when I’d be up from 4:30 and not going to bed until midnight sometimes. His last hospital admit I put my foot down because I had to stop work because of my own health. I totally empathize with how lonely it is.
The carer is lovely and the mom is amazing. 100 is pretty old. She looks better than most 70 year olds. I feel so sorry for folks who are dependent and for the carers as well. Selfless. Exhausting.
I’m a sci patient as well although mine wasn’t a”traumatic injury”(mine was from a autoimmune disease)and it’s so incredibly hard being a quadriplegic.I wish I had gone to a spinal cord injury rehab unit(I’m in the US and there wasn’t one within my state)that experience would have helped me so much.Definitely something I advocate for others to do! That woman is a badass tho☺️
My sci is from autoimmune as well! I have transverse myelitis. I’m in Canada and did go to a great inpatient rehab for 2 months. The did outpatient there, then got transferred to another outpatient PT/OT centre for another year..
I have anxiety and panic attacks panic disorder and flashbacks PTSD because of my past and I have four panic attacks or two everyday at school and thoughts of self harm
Please speak to someone, even if it's a stranger, a problem shared is a problem halfed, don't harm your self, maybe everytime you get intrusive thoughts, try to divert your thoughts to somthing like colouring, maybe start a new hobby? I was suicidal when I was in school, I cut my self and I regret it so much because if I'd of just spoken to someone, just getting my feelings off my chest could of prevented alot of scars. I hope you feel better soon, I'm sorry you're going through this. People would rather hear your story than be at your side in hospital, it's okay not to be okay ♡
@@prochoicenotantivax119 my parents chose to move country frequently and I ended up in a different country. I travel or I did travel to UK every 6 months over last 5 years. I will be going into a care home once I need it.
@@prochoicenotantivax119 .. It's easier said than done. Do it for 8 years and then let us know how you really feel. You get burnt out, your life is put on hold, you suppress feelings of anger, desperation and frustration, you can reach the end of your rope and feel you need some emotional help. If you have another person or two sharing equally in the care, you're ahead of the race. But when it's only you, it can actually defeat you.
I'm at that age where I'm caring for my parents as are my friends. I get so mad at my friends when they complain that they have been caring for two years. I remind them that their parents not only gave then life, they gave them 18-25 years of their best years so stop complaining!!
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Is that written in proper English in England? Usually, we'd say "How does this video make you feel?"
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@@FixItYerself 😂😂😂
This isn’t therapy
@@FixItYerself 🤢🤢🤡🤡🤮🤮
Rosanne the daughter who is the carer. what an inspirational woman
What an awesome carer! I do understand you saying your tired and please don’t feel guilt or shame for saying it. It’s a lot of work!
Aww the daughter of the 100yr old is so lovely. I love her advice about "have just a wee brandy" 🤭
I recognize the daughter from tv/actress but can’t place which show I know her from
‘I couldn’t do this unless I did love her’ - I felt that. My mother is bed bound through her own choice, she’s just given up. I’m 34 & disabled, I’ve cared for her for years but I’ve reached a point where I can no longer continue as I can’t give her the care she needs. My father struggles to look after himself, let alone my mother, it’s just one big mess. I felt this woman’s love, frustration & sheer exhaustion, all rolled into one. Bless her heart. X
Oh I'm so sorry. Are you able to reach out to anyone or any services for help?? You definitely should be able to have at least some help, you can't go on like that on your own :( I really feel for you, also I'm 33 and disabled so we have something vaguely in common! I really hope things improve for you and your mother
Bless both of you!! 🙏❤️❤️
Laura Williams , I really hope things are getting better for you and I want to wish you a better future . Love Deborah x
I hope your parents are doing well and I also hope your doing well 💗
Your situation mirrored my own.
Wow!!! The first girl has such a great attitude!!! She has made the most of things despite her injuries.
The lady with dementia looks fantastic for 100!!!
" I couldn't do this unless I did love her" . So very, very true. 💖.
The daughter caring for her mother is absolutely amazing.
I admire the lady taking care of her mother. I hope she gets help cos it's so difficult when it's just left to one person.
Amazing carer who gives herself 100% to looking after her mother. A lesson there for us all.
The second woman speaks beautifully
She looks amazing for 100years old
She sure does!!!!
I thought she fell off a balcony. she looks amazing, and she skis and sky dives. and water skis, and she,s 100 Wow.
@@whatshisname3304 that's the other woman
The fabulous lady looking after her mother what a inspiration you are 💜
I was a care-giver for my disabled husband for almost 15 years. It's both the most exhausting and the most awarding thing I've ever done. I miss him.
Dementia is a horrible condition my mum passed away from the same condition brave and strong daughter
I cannot believe that lady is 100 years old! And praise to her daughter for caring for her so well, it must be so difficult and exhausting but she's so dedicated ❤️
I know I already commented.. but I hadn’t realised I did before leaving this one..
Those words meant so much to me. My mum had early onset dementia. She passed very suddenly on her 76th birthday last January, & I never forgave myself for sometimes being cross in her direction out of pure exhaustion & fatigue, I was 34/35 then & have 2 chronic genetic disabilities myself & I tried so hard to be the best carer she deserved but always felt like a failure. Her saying that a mother has a lot of forgiveness made me cry. I hope my mum forgives me for being cross sometimes. It was never because I didn’t love her. X
When I grow up, I want to be just like her and love my family this well!!
What an outstanding carer….I’m an RN who works in aged care, so I can understand exactly what this woman is going through. It really takes a very rare type of strength to be a carer for a loved one, whilst trying to look after yourself as well.
I can relate as I too am now in a wheelchair. I have severe M.E. I went through a grieving stage, I can no longer walk, I am typically bedridden and housebound. I do feel frustrated when people constantly ask if I need a carer. Why do I need a carer, when I manage to do things myself? Yes things don't get done all at once, and I have to pace myself and be very careful with my activity levels, but I am fiercely independent and live alone. I don't have any family. I like doing things myself my own way, things do get done eventually, just at a much slower pace than I once did them. I admit I get a bit touchy when people say these things. Deep down I fear losing my independence, I would not handle people coming in every day, or taking care of me. I know that's difficult for a lot of people to understand.
I relate to the lady who is a carer for her mum so much. I’m 22 and both my parents have seizures, my mum is quite mentally ill and my dad has had 3 strokes. When she said about living day-to-day and not the future, it hit so hard. Even if I choose to do something for myself on a certain day I feel so guilty because my parents can’t do things as and when they’d like to. I have lost friends and partners because I get told it shouldn’t be my job so I should put them in a home with carers. It’s just a horrible feeling overall because you do feel a bit proud of yourself that you’ve stepped up to make your parent comfortable but you’re caring for them with the understanding this is likely a life long thing for my parents so the only time it will ever really stop is when they’re dead and that’s not a day you want to face either.
Aww the second woman I love her idk why❤️❤️ really feel for her as well.
Beautiful & caring daughter.
I cared for my 400 pound brother from his diagnosis to 2 months before his death. I worked 12 hour and sometimes more, then came home to have to prepare meal, bathe, redress his weeping legs, cared for skin irritations, and he wanted me to sit up and talk when I’d be up from 4:30 and not going to bed until midnight sometimes. His last hospital admit I put my foot down because I had to stop work because of my own health. I totally empathize with how lonely it is.
The carer is lovely and the mom is amazing. 100 is pretty old. She looks better than most 70 year olds. I feel so sorry for folks who are dependent and for the carers as well. Selfless. Exhausting.
2nd story pure love
I’m a sci patient as well although mine wasn’t a”traumatic injury”(mine was from a autoimmune disease)and it’s so incredibly hard being a quadriplegic.I wish I had gone to a spinal cord injury rehab unit(I’m in the US and there wasn’t one within my state)that experience would have helped me so much.Definitely something I advocate for others to do! That woman is a badass tho☺️
My sci is from autoimmune as well! I have transverse myelitis. I’m in Canada and did go to a great inpatient rehab for 2 months. The did outpatient there, then got transferred to another outpatient PT/OT centre for another year..
I feel for the lady who cares for her mum 0/24 this must be awfully tiring
0/24?
Aww there is great love there. It's sad though because you can live too long.
I have anxiety and panic attacks panic disorder and flashbacks PTSD because of my past and I have four panic attacks or two everyday at school and thoughts of self harm
Please speak to someone, even if it's a stranger, a problem shared is a problem halfed, don't harm your self, maybe everytime you get intrusive thoughts, try to divert your thoughts to somthing like colouring, maybe start a new hobby? I was suicidal when I was in school, I cut my self and I regret it so much because if I'd of just spoken to someone, just getting my feelings off my chest could of prevented alot of scars. I hope you feel better soon, I'm sorry you're going through this. People would rather hear your story than be at your side in hospital, it's okay not to be okay ♡
It is huge expense being in a carehome, however its worth it. Some people can be a carer but you give up your life.
@@prochoicenotantivax119 my parents chose to move country frequently and I ended up in a different country. I travel or I did travel to UK every 6 months over last 5 years. I will be going into a care home once I need it.
@@prochoicenotantivax119 .. It's easier said than done. Do it for 8 years and then let us know how you really feel. You get burnt out, your life is put on hold, you suppress feelings of anger, desperation and frustration, you can reach the end of your rope and feel you need some emotional help. If you have another person or two sharing equally in the care, you're ahead of the race. But when it's only you, it can actually defeat you.
Rosanne, you are an amazing woman.
If someone offers help it comes from the soul. Say thank you but I can manage but thank you, much appreciated and go. Be gracious!
Some people are amazing.
It would be helpful is the “carer is Cared for as well.
I have a very different view as a Social worker but I won't air it as I realise I'll be destroyed.
Great video.stay safe
Might be a daft question but...how does she drive when shes paralyzed from the chest down?
You can get adapted cars with hand controls.
We use hand controls, and stash our chair in the seat next to us.. takes some getting used to but it’s freedom!
I'm at that age where I'm caring for my parents as are my friends. I get so mad at my friends when they complain that they have been caring for two years. I remind them that their parents not only gave then life, they gave them 18-25 years of their best years so stop complaining!!
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She is 100? She look 40!
awww
oh mummy
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