My why is to end the silent to do list. My mind feels so stuffed with things i should do, unfinished projects, messy spots that need to be cleaned, plus the things i actually want to spend my time on. Ending the silent to do list will allow me to focus my attention on what matters most to me. Thanks for this video to remind me (and everyone else to) of their goals! ❤
I'm not doing a low buy/no buy challenge but I did stop buying online courses to "fix me" and I've been able to pay off 8k of debt in 8 months. Those of you on a low buy/no buy challenge, you got this!! 🙂
My why is definitely inline with being disillusioned with capitalism, and wanting to reduce my contribution to environmental degradation due to overconsumption. I agree with other commenters too, my mental health will improve if I'm not distracting myself with frivolous purchases. I'll be able to keep my apartment cleaner when I'm not cluttering it up with random purchases that I don't know where to store. I appreciate your content so much to keep me in track and reflecting on my "whys". ❤
I bought for 3 versions of myself - my old self, my now self and my fantasy self 🙈. Once I realised that, my buying decisions became more purposeful and realistic xx
You are making sense, don’t worry! This was motivating - it felt like a solid talk with a friend. I’m doing a low buy year - my goal is to limit myself to one “frivolous” purchase per month. I keep a list of “wants” on my phone and add to it whenever I think of something I wish I could buy. Then I just let it sit there. Some times I go through and delete things I realize I no longer want. It’s amazing how your wants can fade or change if you just give them time. Anything that stays on the list for a long time is going to either become one of my twelve purchases, or go on a birthday or Christmas list!
i use a similar system with bookmarks on my pc/phone browser :) i started keeping a running wishlist before my low-buy and the amount of things i'd totally forgotten about after just a week or two is astounding! so many things i thought i needed at some point, i don't even think about anymore. helps SO much with reducing frivolous spending--or at least indulging in things we value more than fleeting impulses
My why is I got tired and overwhelmed of owning too many things, including groceries. I also learned what I do actually like so I won't keep buying food I won't eat. Also I'm working on panning my makeup and skincare products. Doing crafts with the things I have made me realize I have enough to have fun.
I love painting and crafts -- and I am determined this year to use what I have and to buy ONLY if I need something to complete what I already started! So I'm right there with you!
As an adult with my own home, I will say if it helps others that sometimes there are things that happen and it requires a purchase to fix. My husband sometimes has night sweats. It’s not often, but when it happens he sweats through sheets and sometimes into the mattress. I had to spend $140 for a mattress topper this weekend to solve that and prevent damage to our mattress(they’re more expensive to replace!) . I hesitated because I didn’t want to spend this money, but it was necessary in the long run to avoid needing a new mattress
those things will always crop up! it’s good to have yellow light rules to allow this. but also keeping track of those things can be helpful to look back on!
@@gracenevittthe biggest thing I’ve taken away from this challenge, thanks to you, is going over all my purchases and payments at the end of the month with my husband. We’re looking at subscriptions, house payments, and everything! I find it’s the most helpful way to really be aware of what you spend and budget smarter!! Especially for groceries…. 😅
I needed to hear this. Just closed all of my open tabs of quilted spring jackets. I don’t need a jacket and I don’t need to feel the shame I know it would bring me to buy a piece of clothes. I will keep saving.
I am enjoying this "no buy" year -- although I am spending more than ever! The thing is, I am buying what is important to me, what I've saved a long time for. I bought my first house -- I'm in my 70s -- and now that I've been in it for 6 months I know what I want. I have lived in tiny places for the last 25 years and I love to entertain. It's like when you'll fulfill your dream of moving to New Zealand. I am fulfilling my dream of having a place where friends can stay and where I can entertain my local friends. I feel so free because I'm NOT buying random, spur-of-the-moment things that I bought in the past -- and sometimes have gotten rid of without ever even using. I am focusing on just what you said in this video -- spending on ONLY what will truly bring me joy. Thank you for all your encouragement!
I did so good in January. I saved more money than I ever had before in my entire life. February 1st my grandfather died and I spent all of February eating my feelings and over spending. Thank you for making me feel confident that I can get back on track for March.
I definitely believe in the idea that when you get rid of the things you don't need, you make space for the things you /do/ want. For example, not mindlessly spending on stuff you don't need, now you have extra space in your budget for peace of mind (ie emergency savings) and/or for your hobbies. Another example, decluttering junk you own, now gives you the opportunity to appreciate more what you do have and love.
My why is get rid of the addiction of buying - unnecessary - things. I want to "deattach" from material things. I wanna a healthy financial life. I want to collect moments not things. That's why I'm doing the low buy year.
My why is because I’ve worked really hard to declutter and simplify. I have two little kids, and we have everything we need. We have two vehicle payments that are kind of a hardship for us right now, so if I overspend or I buy unnecessary things, it makes things difficult for us. I’m trying to build my credit, and it’s actually really good now, so I don’t want to jeopardize it.
"Will my life be harder without this item?" wow! That hit me hard. I typed it into my budget spreadsheet to help me in the future. Everything is so expensive lately and just getting worse, reigning in my optional spending is within my power and that quote is so helpful! Thanks!
As much as no buy is hard, I am also enjoying it. It’s nice to have a default of no, I don’t need to buy it. I want to pay off debt and save. I am hoping to buy a house with land to start my own homestead in the next few years. 💚
Totally agree with you! It’s been somewhat nice when going into stores to know that things are off limits, I don’t even give it my energy. It’s been nice.
I soooo relate to this!!!! the default "no" is so helpful for me and takes away so much of the mental anguish of deciding if it's "worth it" or not, which is why I did the full no buy and not the low buy personally.
I've been doing pretty good on my low buy which was somewhat expected because I naturally am not much of a shopper, but I was surprised by how many food treats I was prone to getting myself. a little coffee here and there (sometimes a sweet expensive coffee actually) and a pastry adds up a lot! doing low buy has really made me stop and think about my purchases, and I find it more gratifying when I do buy because it's something I really enjoy hehe
As someone who used to be a bit addicted to shopping when I was a teen, I promise the intense dopamine cravings for shopping do go away eventually!! I did a year of no buying clothes a while ago, and for a few months I would get really really strong urges to go to the mall when I was bored or lonely. I was miserable at first waiting it out, but it did eventually go away a few months in and now I hate the mall lol. Still not immune to the pull of shopping (I'm trying to put off buying Animal Crossing for my switch atm), and I know it's different for everyone, but I promise it does get easier!! 💚
totally second this. I feel like my cravings to shop have gone WAY down as well (since also being a totally shopping addicted teen), but it's definitely a constant battle to a certain degree!
My why is similar to yours-- we're planning to purchase a home in the next 2-3 years, and I simply don't want to fritter away down payment money on stuff that I ultimately don't want to move (home furnishings, craft supplies, books, etc). If it's not precious or useful enough to move across town 2-3 years from now, I'm not buying it.
I had a really hard time this month. I am going through a low energy/motivation phase I think because I’ve been stuck in winter for several months now. About a week ago I was feeling really guilty about this and started feeling like if I just bought the right planner, the right workout plan, whatever, it would fix it and I’d feel better about myself. I managed to talk myself out of it and realized that wasn’t true and throwing money at something new wasn’t going to fix anything. Also, low energy makes me not want to prepare food at home and I ordered out a lot more than I wanted to. This actually ended up physically hurting me when I had fast food several days in a row and ended up with a day-long stomach ache. I’m still committed though, and I’m almost halfway there (my challenge is only going to the end of May not the whole year). We can do this! Also knowing the reasons why I am struggling helps me not feel as guilty about the struggle. It’s totally human the way I reacted, but I’m committed to doing better.
My why is my health, and having that so clear has helped me make decisions much easier. Not only within the no buy, but also my day to day life. Thank you for giving me the push to participate in this challenge❤
Congratulations on reaching the end of the 2nd month in the no-buy year. Hearing you talk today made me wish I had made a commitment to join in. When I was young I had two mortgages and lots of financial commitments including private school fees for two teenage daughters. My why was to become debt free to get rid of the stress in our lives. Two strategies kept me on the straight and narrow besides my why. The first was recording every cent we spent and the second was recording and noticing how much our debt was reducing at the end of each month. The great thing about either saving or reducing debt is that each month that you remain committed the bigger the results each month (unless there is some crisis which requires you to spend more money on necessities but that only happens occasionally). I'm looking forward to hearing you talk about consumerism and I wish you and your followers every success.
You just inspired me to cancel my Kindle Unlimited subscription. I got three months free and I didn't finish the books (not even one) that I downloaded and wanted to read while they were free so I thought to continue my subscription to be able to read them. You've made me realise that the reason why I didn't read them is because they're not that interesting and I already have a million books at home that I haven't read so I don't really need to pay 10 bucks to Amazon for something I'm not even enjoying. Thank you so much for inspiring me always. 💜
I don't really have a huge why completely figured out but I kinda have an idea brewing... but my current why is to stop buying stuff I don't need and to save money. I'm not a minimalist I'm not trying to have nothing. but I just don't want to have things that I don't need. I want only own things that will use in my life or need for some reason not just to have because its "cool" or something like that!
minimalism isn't having nothing! it's having just the things you need and not extraneous stuff. there's lots of different versions of it :) I'd consider you a minimalist based on your description!
You called me out on the concert merch/music items, that is my actual downfall for impulsive spending. This video was extremely helpful, thank you! Saving it to rewatch when I need to hear it ❤
it's all coming from a place of love!!! I just want us to remember that we really have the power to change our lives by being intentional with our purchases, and the number one step is figuring out our priorities + what matters most to us💗
I kind of just watched your no buy video, made a list and dove headfirst into this no buy/low buy year without sitting down or preparing or actually give it any real and rational thought, it was already January so I just went for it. January went great, but February not so much
I was so looking forward to a low buy year and then just think after thing feels like its come up so far. Just had a delightful car bill come through but am thankful I'd been putting money aside for a few months!
I’m doing a no buy year and it’s difficult sometimes but I’m proud of myself so far! I think the hardest thing is that I had a baby 10 months ago and my pre pregnancy pants don’t fit but neither do my pants I bought right after birth, but leggings and cycling shorts will get me through 😂. I really just don’t want to buy/don’t truly need any more clothes. And I’m doing consignment only for my baby’s wardrobe because she obviously needs clothes as she grows. But I’m really trying to stick to consigning clothes she’s grown out of and using just that money for the next clothes!
My why is to clear my debt and save for my future. Month two and I feel like Im doing well. Staying out of my overdraft and having money left over by payday is a huge thing that hasn’t happened in years. Amazing. Im definitely feel the scarcity urge to buy. Like if I have a skincare product that works so well so me, my brain gets scared that it will be discontinued and I have to stop up. So controlling and bad! I also always used to buy things that I would think would make part of my life better. Once the parcel arrived, I’d already be fixating on the next item. My Low Buy and My Declutter have been so good for me, even if it’s been challenging at times. So grateful. Thank you Grace! 💜
Great video! I'm going to rewatch this lots of times 🙂 My why is mainly that I've got everything I need, so I don't really need to buy stuff I already own. Also, to use up all the stationery I have before I buy anything new. It really makes me appreciate it more and I'm proud of myself when I use what I've got at home. Thank you for your videos! It's fantastic that we're all here doing this together 🥰
I love the comment you made about being grateful for what you already have. That helps me with my "why" because I have a lot to be thankful for and part of my "why" is to ditch the scarcity mindset. I so appreciate your encouragement; we got this!
I've been reaching out to my community more and more. Its SOOO comforting to know that there are many people looking out for me and that i can depend on / that can depend on me!
i've kept this video on an open tab since i first saw it because it has so many things that i feel like i need to remind myself of daily. the tough love portion was much needed!!
The reason for my low Buy yr is to not buy useless shit. I can buy experiences, for example, I did this past weekend, went to the aquarium and it was awesome! I was itching for a yr to go to one. And buy clothing staples becuz my wardrobe is lacking. All within a budget tho, no cc purchases
love love love this!! i've just done my first no-buy month and found it so liberating, so I'm going to be doing one month no-buy one month secondhand / rule of 5 only and alternate through the year - will be watching these vids to keep me going ❤
Love the importance of the "why" aspect. I think it really helps me stay focused during my no buy year! Also, off topic, but I would love to see an apartment tour! Your's looks so beautiful! ❤
I really like your videos! Something I’d love to see sometime is an updated version of your wardrobe. I’ve been trying to get serious about a 30ish item closet but my brain keeps telling me I need more than that! You’ve really helped me the past year and I appreciate the advice you give in each video❤
I made a list of everything I own, and it really helped! Not everything, but my weak spots: skincare (every facemask and samples), food in the freezer and cupboard, books and crafts. It made me aware of what I own and it is fun to erase it from the list when its used. Its also much easier to plan dinner etc when I dont have to go through everything while I make the list…. I have been failing on the emotional spending side lately, so I needed this reminder!
Thank you so much Grace! Putting up reminders or pictures of "your why" is going to help me a lot!!! Seems so obvious, but hearing you say it really had an impact on me.
Wow this video is sooo good! I will rewatch this video for next 10 months :D Last year I did low buy to break spending habits on clothes to feel that I am enough, this year a low buy to save for house deposit.
Joining in to get myself to a financially secure and stable healthy place for myself. Thank you for making this video. I'm currently struggling and it's what I absolutely needed to hear at this time in my life.
Ugh I love your vids. Talking through these issues and analyzing why we over consume is so helpful. My issue is clothing. Everytime I see something I like , i feel like I NEED TO HAVE IT. I already have enough clothing that I struggle to maintain and I don’t need more. My why is that I plan on moving cross country next year and I don’t want to bring much with me as I plan on car camping to reach my (undetermined lol) destination.
I'm so thankful for coming across with your videos, right now I feel broke down cause I was thinking I am doing so bad cause I'm wasting in so much stuff, but I hate I call it "stuff" and "waste" when I'm living the dream of travelling to Japan!! I realized I always feel bad buying things for me, and because it's the first time I am my priority, my whole body and self is in an uncomfortable place. Hope I can be okay in the next months, thank you for help us change for the good!
I am just watching this video and honestly it is so so helpful!... Thank you for sharing... So grateful to be able to have this reminders that put the little 'gremlin' in my head to sleep...
I am doing quite well, didn't break my no buy rules yet am proud at myself but not really happy and have a bit of a problem. My mind goes obsessively over everything I am going to buy when the one year is up. I couldn't help myself and even curated a list of all the things I am going to buy... Know it is not healthy but these are like the darker moments of my addiction. I hope I lose or burn the list before next January comes around 😅
progress over perfection! the urges aren't going to go away overnight! having a list to fixate on is better than purchasing a bunch of new things. and like you said, by the end of the year, you might have the power to burn the list!
When I was standing in line at tjmaxx, I was watching the 3 people in front of me check out, one spend $416, one spent $200something, and the one in front of me spent $160. So it made me feel better about my $40 spent. I’m not as bad as the rest of them. But I was still treating myself, and the things I bought were upgrades but not really necessary
I think it's important not to use the words "bad" or "good" in terms of purchasing because it's not helpful to assign morality to morally neutral tasks (learned this from KC Davis' book How to Keep House While Drowning). purchasing things basically falls under a morally neutral task because we need to buy certain things for survival, but when overconsumption comes in and makes us think we have to buy more than we need, it just becomes a task that can cause damage to us. we also don't know what other people's experiences are and can never know the reason why people are buying certain amounts of things. comparison will get us nowhere with a challenge, which is why I'm just sharing my experiences, thoughts, + reflections and urging all of you to customize your "rules" to your own life + goals. just some things to think about!
I was literally going to comment that my friends took me to TJmaxx for the first time and i ended up buying a pair of jeans and flowy pants hahaha first clothing purchases of the year!! I really could use good fitting clothing though, especially pants, because lots don't fit me anymore. And this will give me more reason and motivation to get rid of a couple things so these better fitting pieces will replace them, staying positive!! :)
It’s so interesting to see that other countries have such a thing as marketing psychologists. I am a psychologist and here in Brazil our ethic law forbids us from using our knowledge to such things (of course some psychologist will do it, but they can’t name themselves “marketing psychologists”).
My why is to declutter & not bring any new in. I’ve done great since 01/01/24. You are so right on the entire consumerism ordeal we are in. I don’t need these things I can totally live without them. 😊❤😊
Thanks for this video!!! February was a fail for me lol. I'm doing this so that I will be mindful of my purchases and only buy things I actually value. My January was *perfect* but I struggled in February and bought several things that I regret. I'm back on track now though and this is just what I need to make it through to March.
My Why I want to stop using my Credit Cards to float a life I can't afford. I want to be able to save, pay off debt, and not live paycheck to paycheck. Living within my means is becoming very important to me.
i'm planning to start a low-buy within the next few weeks, and a full no-buy in 2025. my credit card balances have gotten too high for my liking, and i would rather travel & save for a house than buy more stuff i don't need! this and your other videos are so helpful as i embark on this journey!
Thank you for the video and check in point! I really needed this, the past 2 weeks have been rough and your words have reminded me of my why and to get back on track 👌
Recently I started a new job. I had been working from home for the last 4 years, but for this job I have an office. I had to purchase clothes for work and I still feel a little guilty about it because I wanted this year to be really really low buy. 😢
Did anyone fail and is retrying 😔 I bought some physical books when I already have kindle unlimited so I was trying to avoid that. I’m trying to tell my self just cause you fail doesn’t mean to completely end the challenge
My why is that I have so many things that could be used up before I buy more, I want to be more aware of my impact on the environment. Like, who even needs 12 bottles of body wash?? That’s how many I have! Why??! Because it was cheap? Because it smelled good? It doesn’t make sense to have so much, when I only use 1 at a time. So my goal is to use up all my excess items until I have 1 of each. Then afterwards I want to switch to sustainable options going forward. My no buy list is made up of all the things I have enough of. Chapstick, clothes, shoes, lotion, etc.
Good chat! Capitalism and consumerism are not the same thing. Capitalism is a means to having access to kinds of goods and services and giving everyone a chance to create a company that produces something for your life. Consumerism is the voracious devouring of those goods. The goods are not going to be produced in vast numbers unless they are being consumed in vast numbers. Taking control is the key. I love what you are doing here. We need to learn to be wiser than the marketers. That is a skill we can learn.
thank you for the distinction!! I think I was mostly meaning "capitalism" in the way of it been slightly negatively connoted on the internet recently. besides the definition you gave, when I say capitalism, it just includes the fact that our capitalistic society is greedy and therefore continues to grow unchecked and therefore fuel consumerism in ways never before seen (ads, marketing, etc)
So question - this month I have brought items that I've been sitting on for a few months now and my life is better with them 100%. But not all of them are essential, I mean I got on fine (sort of) before them 😂 - so are they red or green list I can't decide. Part of me feels guilty for the 'set back' but part of me is like well what's the alternative- you need them enjoy the slow dopamine idiot 😅
you don't necessarily have to get too caught up on whether they were red or green list items, but just continue to move on with your lists and maybe make them more specific if that's helpful for you?
Last month was good but I hit a wall this month. My car needs new brakes and wheel bearings. I had to dip into my savings. I just have to remember I can still pay extra on my debt, just not as much as I was hoping.
I slipped up yesterday. Pinterest got me.I found the exact type of dresses I was looking for in a sample sale from a sustainable brand at a price that was in my budget. I have been casually looking for literal years. I jumped before I could even question it. Completely forgot my Low Buy year rules. I haven't seen anything thrifting because I've been good at looking. Honestly I'm wondering if it was really slipping up or not since it was something I've been looking for and they were on my yes list but I didn't wait and think on it like I had told myself I would.
Grace I don’t know how else to get a hold of you! The discord won’t let me message in it anymore! the option to chat has just disappeared completely, and discord won’t let me PM you about it since we’re not friends and it says we don’t share a sever (even though?? I’m in the no buy server??). I don’t know what’s going on but I’d really like to be able to participate in the server again! I tried leaving and re-joining, but same thing, it lets me see everyones messages and read them but not send any or have a space to type them myself
you just have to react to the green checkmark in #server-rules and you'll be allowed to message again!! had to adjust the settings because we have over 1000 people on there now
I'm struggling right now because I found some vintage chairs that are way cheaper than new chairs and actually comfortable! I have almost no living room furniture right now and I know I won't find comfy chairs at that price for a while... but is it worth breaking my no buy!?
just remember your why!! if you've found yourself saying "ugh my living room has been less functional without chairs" then maybe it would be okay! but if you've fared this long without them and your goal is to save money... idk! just think about why you're doing the challenge. the whole point of it is to give us pause when thinking about a purchase and really consider it. are you just saying this now because they're a good price or are they your perfect idea dream chairs and a good price?
Coming on to make a confession... I freaked out and broke the 'replacement only' no-buy. my eyeshadow primer was discontinued, and I bought a few different ones to try out - all of them cool for different purposes, so I am confident I will use them. But. while out there I also bought some eyeshadow... all in olive green, a colour that looks fab on me... plus olive eyeliner and Mascara. Not going to lie, life has been stressful, I've been using this as a vent for stress. didn't apend too much, still less than mindless shopping, so I'll book it as learning. But a bit disappointed in myself still. Has anyone found stress to be a trigger for them and is one step ahead of me in the learning journey? Grateful for any tipps!
coming back after finishing the video: it wasn't so much the dopamine hit at buying for me. it was more the hyperfocus on finding eyeshadow primers, comparing prices across different stores etc that took my mind off the other shit that's going on in my life, and I do get dopamine out of wearing olive eye makeup. I also took this as a starter to re-arrange my eyeshadow storage, repress broken ones, re-do my custom palettes. and think about which palettes, that now all include my fave colour, I can leave at my desk in the office or my locker at the gym or at my boyfriend's place.
technically yes, but luckily I have no interest and I'm steadily paying it off and will be debt free by the end of the year! my biggest goal is savings but I also want to prioritize still having experiences (mindfully + not just willy nilly spending)
ended up failing after a month (it's my first no buy/low buy ever)... should i just continue or sort of start from scratch again? thank u for your constant motivation :)
the only way to "fail" this challenge is to completely give up. I thoroughly reject the idea that the whole this has to be "perfectly within the rules" to be valid or accepted!! just keep going! maybe do some reflecting and adjust or tweak your rules a bit so that it fits in. this is all just a learning experience!
all that matters is that the experience is beneficial to me + my goals! feel free to get upset at me loving nuance and rejecting black + white thinking, but it's not going to change what I'm doing :)
My why is to end the silent to do list. My mind feels so stuffed with things i should do, unfinished projects, messy spots that need to be cleaned, plus the things i actually want to spend my time on. Ending the silent to do list will allow me to focus my attention on what matters most to me. Thanks for this video to remind me (and everyone else to) of their goals! ❤
Just canceled an order for pick up at target thanks to this video. Thank you!!! I will be fine without those small items I had ordered 🙂
I love this why so much!
Super relatable! Love how you explained it
The “silent to do list” I love this term and totally relate
I'm not doing a low buy/no buy challenge but I did stop buying online courses to "fix me" and I've been able to pay off 8k of debt in 8 months. Those of you on a low buy/no buy challenge, you got this!! 🙂
My why is definitely inline with being disillusioned with capitalism, and wanting to reduce my contribution to environmental degradation due to overconsumption. I agree with other commenters too, my mental health will improve if I'm not distracting myself with frivolous purchases. I'll be able to keep my apartment cleaner when I'm not cluttering it up with random purchases that I don't know where to store. I appreciate your content so much to keep me in track and reflecting on my "whys". ❤
I bought for 3 versions of myself - my old self, my now self and my fantasy self 🙈. Once I realised that, my buying decisions became more purposeful and realistic xx
this is a huge turning point in intentional purchasing!!!
Amazing!
💯!! THIS!
You are making sense, don’t worry! This was motivating - it felt like a solid talk with a friend. I’m doing a low buy year - my goal is to limit myself to one “frivolous” purchase per month. I keep a list of “wants” on my phone and add to it whenever I think of something I wish I could buy. Then I just let it sit there. Some times I go through and delete things I realize I no longer want. It’s amazing how your wants can fade or change if you just give them time. Anything that stays on the list for a long time is going to either become one of my twelve purchases, or go on a birthday or Christmas list!
this is a great way to filter purchases!! love this so much! it really does make you think about what matters to you!
i use a similar system with bookmarks on my pc/phone browser :) i started keeping a running wishlist before my low-buy and the amount of things i'd totally forgotten about after just a week or two is astounding! so many things i thought i needed at some point, i don't even think about anymore. helps SO much with reducing frivolous spending--or at least indulging in things we value more than fleeting impulses
My why is I got tired and overwhelmed of owning too many things, including groceries. I also learned what I do actually like so I won't keep buying food I won't eat. Also I'm working on panning my makeup and skincare products. Doing crafts with the things I have made me realize I have enough to have fun.
I love painting and crafts -- and I am determined this year to use what I have and to buy ONLY if I need something to complete what I already started! So I'm right there with you!
@@suemiller3405 we got this 💪
Me too! Crafting something is my happiest place. Also trying to use what I have.
As an adult with my own home, I will say if it helps others that sometimes there are things that happen and it requires a purchase to fix. My husband sometimes has night sweats. It’s not often, but when it happens he sweats through sheets and sometimes into the mattress. I had to spend $140 for a mattress topper this weekend to solve that and prevent damage to our mattress(they’re more expensive to replace!) . I hesitated because I didn’t want to spend this money, but it was necessary in the long run to avoid needing a new mattress
those things will always crop up! it’s good to have yellow light rules to allow this. but also keeping track of those things can be helpful to look back on!
Don't feel guilty, if it's significantly improving health, it's worth investing in! ❤
@@gracenevittthe biggest thing I’ve taken away from this challenge, thanks to you, is going over all my purchases and payments at the end of the month with my husband. We’re looking at subscriptions, house payments, and everything! I find it’s the most helpful way to really be aware of what you spend and budget smarter!! Especially for groceries…. 😅
I needed to hear this. Just closed all of my open tabs of quilted spring jackets. I don’t need a jacket and I don’t need to feel the shame I know it would bring me to buy a piece of clothes. I will keep saving.
I am enjoying this "no buy" year -- although I am spending more than ever! The thing is, I am buying what is important to me, what I've saved a long time for. I bought my first house -- I'm in my 70s -- and now that I've been in it for 6 months I know what I want. I have lived in tiny places for the last 25 years and I love to entertain. It's like when you'll fulfill your dream of moving to New Zealand. I am fulfilling my dream of having a place where friends can stay and where I can entertain my local friends. I feel so free because I'm NOT buying random, spur-of-the-moment things that I bought in the past -- and sometimes have gotten rid of without ever even using. I am focusing on just what you said in this video -- spending on ONLY what will truly bring me joy. Thank you for all your encouragement!
and that's all that matters!!! I'm so happy for you!!💗
I did so good in January. I saved more money than I ever had before in my entire life. February 1st my grandfather died and I spent all of February eating my feelings and over spending. Thank you for making me feel confident that I can get back on track for March.
so sorry for your loss💗 sending you big hugs!! march will be better!
So far this challenge has taught me how much I really do have.
SO relatable!!
I definitely believe in the idea that when you get rid of the things you don't need, you make space for the things you /do/ want. For example, not mindlessly spending on stuff you don't need, now you have extra space in your budget for peace of mind (ie emergency savings) and/or for your hobbies. Another example, decluttering junk you own, now gives you the opportunity to appreciate more what you do have and love.
100000% yes!!!!
My why is get rid of the addiction of buying - unnecessary - things. I want to "deattach" from material things. I wanna a healthy financial life. I want to collect moments not things. That's why I'm doing the low buy year.
My why is because I’ve worked really hard to declutter and simplify. I have two little kids, and we have everything we need.
We have two vehicle payments that are kind of a hardship for us right now, so if I overspend or I buy unnecessary things, it makes things difficult for us. I’m trying to build my credit, and it’s actually really good now, so I don’t want to jeopardize it.
I’m doing so well I’m proud of myself.
I'm proud of you too!!!!
@@gracenevitt thank you 🙏🏾
"Will my life be harder without this item?" wow! That hit me hard. I typed it into my budget spreadsheet to help me in the future. Everything is so expensive lately and just getting worse, reigning in my optional spending is within my power and that quote is so helpful! Thanks!
so glad it helped💗
No new purchases - feeling happy about that.
As much as no buy is hard, I am also enjoying it. It’s nice to have a default of no, I don’t need to buy it. I want to pay off debt and save. I am hoping to buy a house with land to start my own homestead in the next few years. 💚
Totally agree with you! It’s been somewhat nice when going into stores to know that things are off limits, I don’t even give it my energy. It’s been nice.
I soooo relate to this!!!! the default "no" is so helpful for me and takes away so much of the mental anguish of deciding if it's "worth it" or not, which is why I did the full no buy and not the low buy personally.
I've been doing pretty good on my low buy which was somewhat expected because I naturally am not much of a shopper, but I was surprised by how many food treats I was prone to getting myself. a little coffee here and there (sometimes a sweet expensive coffee actually) and a pastry adds up a lot! doing low buy has really made me stop and think about my purchases, and I find it more gratifying when I do buy because it's something I really enjoy hehe
As someone who used to be a bit addicted to shopping when I was a teen, I promise the intense dopamine cravings for shopping do go away eventually!! I did a year of no buying clothes a while ago, and for a few months I would get really really strong urges to go to the mall when I was bored or lonely. I was miserable at first waiting it out, but it did eventually go away a few months in and now I hate the mall lol. Still not immune to the pull of shopping (I'm trying to put off buying Animal Crossing for my switch atm), and I know it's different for everyone, but I promise it does get easier!! 💚
totally second this. I feel like my cravings to shop have gone WAY down as well (since also being a totally shopping addicted teen), but it's definitely a constant battle to a certain degree!
My why is similar to yours-- we're planning to purchase a home in the next 2-3 years, and I simply don't want to fritter away down payment money on stuff that I ultimately don't want to move (home furnishings, craft supplies, books, etc). If it's not precious or useful enough to move across town 2-3 years from now, I'm not buying it.
1000%!!!
I had a really hard time this month. I am going through a low energy/motivation phase I think because I’ve been stuck in winter for several months now. About a week ago I was feeling really guilty about this and started feeling like if I just bought the right planner, the right workout plan, whatever, it would fix it and I’d feel better about myself. I managed to talk myself out of it and realized that wasn’t true and throwing money at something new wasn’t going to fix anything. Also, low energy makes me not want to prepare food at home and I ordered out a lot more than I wanted to. This actually ended up physically hurting me when I had fast food several days in a row and ended up with a day-long stomach ache. I’m still committed though, and I’m almost halfway there (my challenge is only going to the end of May not the whole year). We can do this!
Also knowing the reasons why I am struggling helps me not feel as guilty about the struggle. It’s totally human the way I reacted, but I’m committed to doing better.
I sooo relate to this!! sending love💗
My why is my health, and having that so clear has helped me make decisions much easier. Not only within the no buy, but also my day to day life. Thank you for giving me the push to participate in this challenge❤
Me too! My health-physical, emotional, financial, and spiritual!!
Congratulations on reaching the end of the 2nd month in the no-buy year. Hearing you talk today made me wish I had made a commitment to join in. When I was young I had two mortgages and lots of financial commitments including private school fees for two teenage daughters. My why was to become debt free to get rid of the stress in our lives. Two strategies kept me on the straight and narrow besides my why. The first was recording every cent we spent and the second was recording and noticing how much our debt was reducing at the end of each month. The great thing about either saving or reducing debt is that each month that you remain committed the bigger the results each month (unless there is some crisis which requires you to spend more money on necessities but that only happens occasionally). I'm looking forward to hearing you talk about consumerism and I wish you and your followers every success.
it’s never too late to join in! you can start with a single month or even just a week, all you have to do to make a change is start :)
You just inspired me to cancel my Kindle Unlimited subscription. I got three months free and I didn't finish the books (not even one) that I downloaded and wanted to read while they were free so I thought to continue my subscription to be able to read them. You've made me realise that the reason why I didn't read them is because they're not that interesting and I already have a million books at home that I haven't read so I don't really need to pay 10 bucks to Amazon for something I'm not even enjoying. Thank you so much for inspiring me always. 💜
it's hard to let go of that "fantasy self" but it's honestly one of the most freeing things about a journey like this! proud of you!!
Your local library should offer audiobooks and e books as well as physical books! Give it a Google and see what comes up :)
I don't really have a huge why completely figured out but I kinda have an idea brewing... but my current why is to stop buying stuff I don't need and to save money. I'm not a minimalist I'm not trying to have nothing. but I just don't want to have things that I don't need. I want only own things that will use in my life or need for some reason not just to have because its "cool" or something like that!
minimalism isn't having nothing! it's having just the things you need and not extraneous stuff. there's lots of different versions of it :) I'd consider you a minimalist based on your description!
Im halfway to the point halfway in my savings goal (also for an international move). Three dedicated years and my "why" is still going strong
I yes I do mean "a fourth of the way" but saying half of half gives me dopamine
so valid LOL proud of you for being halfway to halfway there!!!! you got this💗
You called me out on the concert merch/music items, that is my actual downfall for impulsive spending. This video was extremely helpful, thank you! Saving it to rewatch when I need to hear it ❤
it's all coming from a place of love!!! I just want us to remember that we really have the power to change our lives by being intentional with our purchases, and the number one step is figuring out our priorities + what matters most to us💗
Same 🥲 band t-shirts at concerts are my weakness, eek
I kind of just watched your no buy video, made a list and dove headfirst into this no buy/low buy year without sitting down or preparing or actually give it any real and rational thought, it was already January so I just went for it. January went great, but February not so much
take the time to reflect and adjust if needed so you can set yourself up for success!
Remember, it is not all or nothing. You are trending in the right direction. Even though February is a hard month, just continue on and jump back in.
I was so looking forward to a low buy year and then just think after thing feels like its come up so far.
Just had a delightful car bill come through but am thankful I'd been putting money aside for a few months!
things happen! the low buy year is a state of mind✨ just keep pushing through!!
I’m doing a no buy year and it’s difficult sometimes but I’m proud of myself so far! I think the hardest thing is that I had a baby 10 months ago and my pre pregnancy pants don’t fit but neither do my pants I bought right after birth, but leggings and cycling shorts will get me through 😂. I really just don’t want to buy/don’t truly need any more clothes. And I’m doing consignment only for my baby’s wardrobe because she obviously needs clothes as she grows. But I’m really trying to stick to consigning clothes she’s grown out of and using just that money for the next clothes!
My why is to clear my debt and save for my future.
Month two and I feel like Im doing well. Staying out of my overdraft and having money left over by payday is a huge thing that hasn’t happened in years. Amazing.
Im definitely feel the scarcity urge to buy. Like if I have a skincare product that works so well so me, my brain gets scared that it will be discontinued and I have to stop up. So controlling and bad!
I also always used to buy things that I would think would make part of my life better. Once the parcel arrived, I’d already be fixating on the next item. My Low Buy and My Declutter have been so good for me, even if it’s been challenging at times. So grateful. Thank you Grace! 💜
Great video! I'm going to rewatch this lots of times 🙂
My why is mainly that I've got everything I need, so I don't really need to buy stuff I already own. Also, to use up all the stationery I have before I buy anything new. It really makes me appreciate it more and I'm proud of myself when I use what I've got at home.
Thank you for your videos! It's fantastic that we're all here doing this together 🥰
isn't it so nice having all of us here for the same goal😭💗
I love the comment you made about being grateful for what you already have. That helps me with my "why" because I have a lot to be thankful for and part of my "why" is to ditch the scarcity mindset. I so appreciate your encouragement; we got this!
As someone who has experience with Dialectical Behavior Therapy, I'm hearing you describe lots of skills. You are definitely making sense😊
I've been reaching out to my community more and more. Its SOOO comforting to know that there are many people looking out for me and that i can depend on / that can depend on me!
doesn't it just feel so comforting!?!😭😭💗
i've kept this video on an open tab since i first saw it because it has so many things that i feel like i need to remind myself of daily. the tough love portion was much needed!!
The reason for my low Buy yr is to not buy useless shit. I can buy experiences, for example, I did this past weekend, went to the aquarium and it was awesome! I was itching for a yr to go to one. And buy clothing staples becuz my wardrobe is lacking. All within a budget tho, no cc purchases
love love love this!! i've just done my first no-buy month and found it so liberating, so I'm going to be doing one month no-buy one month secondhand / rule of 5 only and alternate through the year - will be watching these vids to keep me going ❤
Love the importance of the "why" aspect. I think it really helps me stay focused during my no buy year! Also, off topic, but I would love to see an apartment tour! Your's looks so beautiful! ❤
My why is to get rid of credit card debt, not live pay check to pay check, and still give my kids a great life.
I really like your videos! Something I’d love to see sometime is an updated version of your wardrobe. I’ve been trying to get serious about a 30ish item closet but my brain keeps telling me I need more than that! You’ve really helped me the past year and I appreciate the advice you give in each video❤
I've been meaning to do an updated wardrobe video and promise I will get to it as soon as I can!
I have decreased then went a year without buying clothes then over bought again and I am back to not wearing most of it 😢
I made a list of everything I own, and it really helped! Not everything, but my weak spots: skincare (every facemask and samples), food in the freezer and cupboard, books and crafts. It made me aware of what I own and it is fun to erase it from the list when its used. Its also much easier to plan dinner etc when I dont have to go through everything while I make the list…. I have been failing on the emotional spending side lately, so I needed this reminder!
Thank you so much Grace! Putting up reminders or pictures of "your why" is going to help me a lot!!! Seems so obvious, but hearing you say it really had an impact on me.
Wow this video is sooo good! I will rewatch this video for next 10 months :D Last year I did low buy to break spending habits on clothes to feel that I am enough, this year a low buy to save for house deposit.
I'm so glad it was helpful!!
Joining in to get myself to a financially secure and stable healthy place for myself. Thank you for making this video. I'm currently struggling and it's what I absolutely needed to hear at this time in my life.
this channel has benefitted me to no end
i have made slipups in the year but ive done so well overall so far
I'm so glad!! 💗 and proud of you for continuing to keep going!
Thank you for these check in videos. I slipped up once and feel bad but I'm determined to keep strong!
notification gang ☺️ although i'm "only" doing low buy this was much needed
A low buy is just as important as a no buy ❤ We're all in this together ❤
thank you so much for this video. I have watched it so many times and because of it, you have convinced me not to buy so many things that I dont need
Ugh I love your vids. Talking through these issues and analyzing why we over consume is so helpful. My issue is clothing. Everytime I see something I like , i feel like I NEED TO HAVE IT. I already have enough clothing that I struggle to maintain and I don’t need more. My why is that I plan on moving cross country next year and I don’t want to bring much with me as I plan on car camping to reach my (undetermined lol) destination.
I'm so thankful for coming across with your videos, right now I feel broke down cause I was thinking I am doing so bad cause I'm wasting in so much stuff, but I hate I call it "stuff" and "waste" when I'm living the dream of travelling to Japan!! I realized I always feel bad buying things for me, and because it's the first time I am my priority, my whole body and self is in an uncomfortable place. Hope I can be okay in the next months, thank you for help us change for the good!
I am just watching this video and honestly it is so so helpful!... Thank you for sharing... So grateful to be able to have this reminders that put the little 'gremlin' in my head to sleep...
always so happy to see you posted! :)
this warms my heart😭💗 thank you
I am doing quite well, didn't break my no buy rules yet am proud at myself but not really happy and have a bit of a problem. My mind goes obsessively over everything I am going to buy when the one year is up. I couldn't help myself and even curated a list of all the things I am going to buy... Know it is not healthy but these are like the darker moments of my addiction. I hope I lose or burn the list before next January comes around 😅
progress over perfection! the urges aren't going to go away overnight! having a list to fixate on is better than purchasing a bunch of new things. and like you said, by the end of the year, you might have the power to burn the list!
When I was standing in line at tjmaxx, I was watching the 3 people in front of me check out, one spend $416, one spent $200something, and the one in front of me spent $160. So it made me feel better about my $40 spent. I’m not as bad as the rest of them. But I was still treating myself, and the things I bought were upgrades but not really necessary
I think it's important not to use the words "bad" or "good" in terms of purchasing because it's not helpful to assign morality to morally neutral tasks (learned this from KC Davis' book How to Keep House While Drowning). purchasing things basically falls under a morally neutral task because we need to buy certain things for survival, but when overconsumption comes in and makes us think we have to buy more than we need, it just becomes a task that can cause damage to us. we also don't know what other people's experiences are and can never know the reason why people are buying certain amounts of things. comparison will get us nowhere with a challenge, which is why I'm just sharing my experiences, thoughts, + reflections and urging all of you to customize your "rules" to your own life + goals. just some things to think about!
I was literally going to comment that my friends took me to TJmaxx for the first time and i ended up buying a pair of jeans and flowy pants hahaha first clothing purchases of the year!! I really could use good fitting clothing though, especially pants, because lots don't fit me anymore. And this will give me more reason and motivation to get rid of a couple things so these better fitting pieces will replace them, staying positive!! :)
It’s so interesting to see that other countries have such a thing as marketing psychologists. I am a psychologist and here in Brazil our ethic law forbids us from using our knowledge to such things (of course some psychologist will do it, but they can’t name themselves “marketing psychologists”).
My why is to declutter & not bring any new in. I’ve done great since 01/01/24. You are so right on the entire consumerism ordeal we are in. I don’t need these things I can totally live without them. 😊❤😊
This is the inspiration I needed today:) You are so genuine and helpful!
Thanks for this video!!! February was a fail for me lol. I'm doing this so that I will be mindful of my purchases and only buy things I actually value. My January was *perfect* but I struggled in February and bought several things that I regret. I'm back on track now though and this is just what I need to make it through to March.
My Why I want to stop using my Credit Cards to float a life I can't afford. I want to be able to save, pay off debt, and not live paycheck to paycheck. Living within my means is becoming very important to me.
Boom Grace lays it down like it is! Thanks so much, so very valuable!
💗 thank you!!
i'm planning to start a low-buy within the next few weeks, and a full no-buy in 2025. my credit card balances have gotten too high for my liking, and i would rather travel & save for a house than buy more stuff i don't need! this and your other videos are so helpful as i embark on this journey!
best of luck !!!
Thank you for the video and check in point! I really needed this, the past 2 weeks have been rough and your words have reminded me of my why and to get back on track 👌
Thank you, this video was really helpful. It was actually what I needed to hear right now.
More peace for me personally😊🌺💕🌻
Thank you 🙏🏼
Recently I started a new job. I had been working from home for the last 4 years, but for this job I have an office. I had to purchase clothes for work and I still feel a little guilty about it because I wanted this year to be really really low buy. 😢
Did anyone fail and is retrying 😔 I bought some physical books when I already have kindle unlimited so I was trying to avoid that. I’m trying to tell my self just cause you fail doesn’t mean to completely end the challenge
progress over perfection!!
@@gracenevitt thank you grace ☺️
Thanks Grace, love your videos and authenticity
👍🏻❤️ I didn't find my really "why" yet, but I'm on my way for it. Thanks for video 😊
This video arrived just when I needed it. Thank you 💖
My why is that I have so many things that could be used up before I buy more, I want to be more aware of my impact on the environment. Like, who even needs 12 bottles of body wash?? That’s how many I have! Why??! Because it was cheap? Because it smelled good? It doesn’t make sense to have so much, when I only use 1 at a time. So my goal is to use up all my excess items until I have 1 of each. Then afterwards I want to switch to sustainable options going forward. My no buy list is made up of all the things I have enough of. Chapstick, clothes, shoes, lotion, etc.
love this!!! very relatable!
Thank you for this reminder!
Good chat! Capitalism and consumerism are not the same thing. Capitalism is a means to having access to kinds of goods and services and giving everyone a chance to create a company that produces something for your life. Consumerism is the voracious devouring of those goods. The goods are not going to be produced in vast numbers unless they are being consumed in vast numbers. Taking control is the key. I love what you are doing here. We need to learn to be wiser than the marketers. That is a skill we can learn.
thank you for the distinction!! I think I was mostly meaning "capitalism" in the way of it been slightly negatively connoted on the internet recently. besides the definition you gave, when I say capitalism, it just includes the fact that our capitalistic society is greedy and therefore continues to grow unchecked and therefore fuel consumerism in ways never before seen (ads, marketing, etc)
Love this video! Thank you 🙏😊 totally needed this reminder.. we've got this.. let's go! 🥳 Greetings from Denmark
We like tough love. lol don’t backpedal, we need it. We wouldn’t be here if we didn’t.
So question - this month I have brought items that I've been sitting on for a few months now and my life is better with them 100%. But not all of them are essential, I mean I got on fine (sort of) before them 😂 - so are they red or green list I can't decide. Part of me feels guilty for the 'set back' but part of me is like well what's the alternative- you need them enjoy the slow dopamine idiot 😅
you don't necessarily have to get too caught up on whether they were red or green list items, but just continue to move on with your lists and maybe make them more specific if that's helpful for you?
Last month was good but I hit a wall this month. My car needs new brakes and wheel bearings. I had to dip into my savings. I just have to remember I can still pay extra on my debt, just not as much as I was hoping.
I slipped up yesterday. Pinterest got me.I found the exact type of dresses I was looking for in a sample sale from a sustainable brand at a price that was in my budget. I have been casually looking for literal years. I jumped before I could even question it. Completely forgot my Low Buy year rules. I haven't seen anything thrifting because I've been good at looking. Honestly I'm wondering if it was really slipping up or not since it was something I've been looking for and they were on my yes list but I didn't wait and think on it like I had told myself I would.
You’re a great help thanks. ❤
I want to pay off my car and build savings. And to break the consumption addiction. Overall I’m doing well with the challenge.
❤❤❤❤ Sending love from New Zealand. Such an amazing video, thank you. I really hope you achieve your dream of moving here. ❤❤❤❤
thank you!!! 💗
coucou d’une minimaliste de france qui adore ton travail merci pour l’inspiration ❤😊
Grace I don’t know how else to get a hold of you! The discord won’t let me message in it anymore! the option to chat has just disappeared completely, and discord won’t let me PM you about it since we’re not friends and it says we don’t share a sever (even though?? I’m in the no buy server??). I don’t know what’s going on but I’d really like to be able to participate in the server again! I tried leaving and re-joining, but same thing, it lets me see everyones messages and read them but not send any or have a space to type them myself
you just have to react to the green checkmark in #server-rules and you'll be allowed to message again!! had to adjust the settings because we have over 1000 people on there now
I'm struggling right now because I found some vintage chairs that are way cheaper than new chairs and actually comfortable! I have almost no living room furniture right now and I know I won't find comfy chairs at that price for a while... but is it worth breaking my no buy!?
just remember your why!! if you've found yourself saying "ugh my living room has been less functional without chairs" then maybe it would be okay! but if you've fared this long without them and your goal is to save money... idk! just think about why you're doing the challenge. the whole point of it is to give us pause when thinking about a purchase and really consider it. are you just saying this now because they're a good price or are they your perfect idea dream chairs and a good price?
Good pep talk
Coming on to make a confession... I freaked out and broke the 'replacement only' no-buy. my eyeshadow primer was discontinued, and I bought a few different ones to try out - all of them cool for different purposes, so I am confident I will use them. But. while out there I also bought some eyeshadow... all in olive green, a colour that looks fab on me... plus olive eyeliner and Mascara.
Not going to lie, life has been stressful, I've been using this as a vent for stress. didn't apend too much, still less than mindless shopping, so I'll book it as learning. But a bit disappointed in myself still.
Has anyone found stress to be a trigger for them and is one step ahead of me in the learning journey? Grateful for any tipps!
coming back after finishing the video: it wasn't so much the dopamine hit at buying for me.
it was more the hyperfocus on finding eyeshadow primers, comparing prices across different stores etc that took my mind off the other shit that's going on in my life, and I do get dopamine out of wearing olive eye makeup.
I also took this as a starter to re-arrange my eyeshadow storage, repress broken ones, re-do my custom palettes. and think about which palettes, that now all include my fave colour, I can leave at my desk in the office or my locker at the gym or at my boyfriend's place.
My weak spot is if something sparkles
Is it too late to start a no or low buy I want to start but we’re already on month 3 😢
it's never too late!!!
Respectfully- wouldn’t credit card debit be considered a form of financial hardship?
technically yes, but luckily I have no interest and I'm steadily paying it off and will be debt free by the end of the year! my biggest goal is savings but I also want to prioritize still having experiences (mindfully + not just willy nilly spending)
Awesome ❤
ended up failing after a month (it's my first no buy/low buy ever)... should i just continue or sort of start from scratch again? thank u for your constant motivation :)
the only way to "fail" this challenge is to completely give up. I thoroughly reject the idea that the whole this has to be "perfectly within the rules" to be valid or accepted!! just keep going! maybe do some reflecting and adjust or tweak your rules a bit so that it fits in. this is all just a learning experience!
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You have an excuse for every single damn thing. Just say you have no self control. Every video is you breaking the no buy. Let it go.
all that matters is that the experience is beneficial to me + my goals! feel free to get upset at me loving nuance and rejecting black + white thinking, but it's not going to change what I'm doing :)
"I couldn't do the thing perfectly, so I gave up!" That's not how you make progress, friend. We have to keep trying 💛
@@ollieb.9731 Point is, actually put in effort. She spends without debate and comes on here with excuses instead of taking ownership.